12/5/21: Rebbetzin Yemima Mizrachi & Rebbetzin Amit Yaghoubi - The Chanukah Light

everyone to this very special women's night of inspiration with two tremendous speakers robertson yamin mizrafi from israel and robertson i'm miyagobi from new york we have a tremendous lineup tonight it's really for for this last night of chanukah zo's hanukkah we're really going to be inspired um everyone together he's being presented by khazak and mikvy usa as you know as we as we all know the great work of kazakh knows knows no bounds because i organized amazing sherman events in person and virtue was inspiring thousands of people tens of thousands of people and throughout the entire world because maine missionary jewish public school student transfers to yeshiva last four years along kazakhstan trades for one over one thousand one hundred children from public school in shiva which is a tremendous accomplishment so i'm watching right now i know someone who has children in public school knowing the street transfer yeshiva whether it may be a friend a neighbor a co-worker someone 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mikvah.org m-y-g-i-f-t-o-f-m-i-k-v-a-h.org my gift of mikvah.org and we want to um it's a great great honor to call upon our first speaker for tonight robertson and meet ya gobi hanukkah our menorahs are fully lit where do we go from here first of all to say thank you to the unbelievable organization hazak whatever you think you may know that hazak does it just does so much more khazakh with rabbi meirov and his brother rebec at the helm directing everything has gone into every area of jewish society and is interested in helping every single jew whether helping them or empowering others to be the helpers kazakh has huge goals and is slowly beginning to reach them and strive towards them and of course to mikva usa that is providing the framework for tahrara mishpacha the core of what a jewish family is with family purity across the country enabling people to keep this mitzvah to keep the mitzvah better hashem should grant these organizations continued hatslacha and more and more success in their avodah hashem so there's a story of a mr smith and he's coming home after a long shift from work and as he is walking it's a little bit chilly outside it's gotten colder and he bundles his jacket and he's walking in the dark and he feels like there's somebody behind him he doesn't want to look back he quickens his pace just a little bit but before you know it he can hear that of the switchblade and he hears a voice from behind him give me your wallet so he steps back and he says okay all right take it easy no problem and he he pulls out his wallet and he says it's a right man so right and he gives the guy his wallet the guy gives him a look and starts to run off into the darkness mr smith turns back to his mugger and says excuse me hold on a minute the guy turns back and says yeah and he says it's getting colder you're gonna be out all night during your doing your work you might catch a cold maybe you want to take my jacket so the mugger looks at him incredulously and starts inching back towards him again shows his knife and says give me your jacket so mr smith no problem starts taking off his coat take it easy no problem and hands it to this guy the guy again jets off into the darkness and again mr smith calls out to him hey hey hey wait a minute uh excuse me turns back what says i was just about to go eat you're going to be out all night working in the cold maybe you want to grab a bite of food with me before you finish your evening activities the guy looks at him and sees this gentleman seems like a genuine guy comes close and says okay where are you going and together they walk to the restaurant that mr smith always eats at on his way home from work before he goes home and as he walks in all the waiters and the waitress says hi how are you how's everything everyone is so glad to see him the manager comes over and says oh good to see you how was your day and this criminal sitting next to him says are these people always so nice to you and mr smith turns to him and says the world is filled with nice people the world is filled everywhere you go with nice people of course people are nice and this man is watching while mr smith tells him i gotta get a pastrami sandwich over here why don't you order yourself another soda and they're sitting and eating and slowly he begins to thaw and talks to him and tells him about his life and eventually they finish their meal and they're quite friendly now and mr smith turned to this guy and says to him you know i would really love to pay for your dinner but you have my wallet how about you say give me my wallet back i'll pay for your dinner and we'll see if we can work something out together and the criminal gives mr smith back his wallet they keep in touch he hires him and eventually rehabilitates this man who was about to mug him late at night in the streets you see we just are coming out of hanukkah where we had one light with pascan like bait hill one light two lights three lights where each light allows us to add a little more because the kaddish bar is telling us the more light you put in the world the more light will be reflected back at you the more i can shine out to others what i do choices i make can change the environment around me and that's exactly what the maccabees did you see they didn't think that they were going to do this worldwide kirov effort when they went out to fight the greeks all they wanted to do was shows the greeks that there are still jews who are willing to fight and possibly die for the honor of god's sake and they go out and they fight they don't expect to win the war they do they're so thrilled there's a miracle but then the unexpected happens as well jews who had abandoned their judaism who had become mitiavnim who had become hellenistic who were fighting in the armies of the greeks against their jewish brethren became inspired by the maccabeem became inspired by these jews who were not army trained who just wanted to fight for doing the right thing and slowly over the course of the battles many jews who had abandoned their judaism came back and helped the maccabee fight against the greeks reclaiming their portion in fighting for hashem because what i do affects not only me but also all of the people around me my menorah in my window my little window with my little menorah affects the street that's one of the messages that chanukah is here to tell us to take with us but where do we go now full menorah beautiful lights as we leave the holy festival of chanukah where do we take it maybe we become makabim what am i going to be macabee is the same letters as become what will i be what do i want to become after going through this holiday who is it that i want to be maccabee in this world chanukah is unique in that it is the only jewish holiday that actually spans two months uh kislev and tevet and in fact the meme say that the light of hanukkah is what gets us through the darkness of tevet that a jew wouldn't be able to manage without the light of hanukkah and that's why it has to span both what's the connection between the month of keith's life the month of david why does chanukah need to span them because my friends this holiday was a meeting of sisters sisters witch sisters hanukkah is a combining of each one of these two imahot of their spiritual powers rahel coming together holding hands combining their forces and giving each one of us a gift this hanukkah like no other gift that we have seen what is the gift that rahel and leia come together to give the jewish people every single month corresponds to a different chevette 12 months 12 tribes the first three months of the year tishrei and kislav are all children of rachel tishrei is ephraim and ki slave binyamin what who was rachel rachel was ashaki fat fatmar she was beautiful rachel represents that which we can see which is revealed good and in fact yaakov avinu comes seeking because what do we as human beings seek in this world we seek that which is revealed that we can see that is good who is leia leia say is she is the covered world she is hidden her world what she represents is difficult to discern difficult to understand yet we see that rachelle in her revealed beauty is subject to ups and downs of life she has positive things happen negative things happen her children when they sin sha ul hamelach is removed from the scene whereas leia in her hiddenness has consistency she remains consistent yehuda shalomo all of the sins of malchus based david don't remove the kingship from them there is a consistent that they have when we see rachel we understand she is the world of a reward and punishment and that's why she is from rosh hashanah when a jew is beginning her travels in this year tough shin pay bet beginning her travels a jew says okay how do i start okay there's reward and punishment it's the world of reveal you do good you get good you do bad khalil you get bad it's the world of rahel but my friends that's the beginning of because the true depth of avodah hashem is to go into the world of leia the world where i don't see exactly what's going on but i trudge ahead yaakov avinu comes seeking rafael but he marries leia first leia the depth of connection the hidden understanding of bringing two together rachel represents the times in our life where we feel connected to hashem things are going good i wake up in the morning and i can't wait to dab and i feel like my myths would have purpose i'm excited i'm inspired i'm doing i'm accomplishing i feel hashem i'm saying are those times in our life where we feel hashem we know he loves me we know what i'm doing has a point but that's not every moment of our life leia represents the takufa those time periods where we're not sure if what we're doing has a point we're not sure if hashem is happy with what i'm doing we don't feel connection i'm davening but i don't feel anything should i continue should i not i'm doing these mitzvoth but is it just because i'm socially involved in doing these meets vote do i still plunge ahead leia represents those moments where we don't feel god in our life and yet leia represents the coming of mashiach where it might be there's total chaos but hashem is creating the path to get to the goal where we see the story with yehuda and tamar what's going on it seems like not so bad the state of mashiach is being planted leia represents those times in our life where we don't feel like we're on spiritual fire where we don't feel like okay yeah things are going great we've got this and yet you believe that every part of what i'm doing is a path that hashem is paving towards mashiach 36 the 36 or haganuz the hidden light that was hidden within our candles the 36 candles which we lit mashiach the eight nights of chanukah where we start in hodesh kislev of rakhel and then we move into which is from the tribes of leia we move from this revealed connection to hashem and we partner for even in those times where it's not we're headed towards a goal we hold hands together on hanukkah and give us that koach to synthesize the two powers says that the strength of yosef his behorshoro was in his ability to interact with the outside world josefat sadiq is able to go out and rule over egypt we see that he is able to interact with all of the forces of and yet retain his spiritual integrity and even shine out his kedusha and influence the people around him he becomes second in command by the way so do esther and mordechai also children of rafael they're out there they're in the government they're holding these positions they're they're they're interacting with the nations of the world they have excelled in all kinds of external matters of asconus and all of those kinds of things while still retaining their spiritual integrity and so josef rashel is how a jew measures up to the nations around him how do i do my avodah hashem clapey the world that i am part of yehuda is entirely different the strength of yehuda is the power of ruling over himself to conquer within the kiddush hashem that yosef does is captured by public media posted all over look at what we are the kind of nation we are amongst nations the kids hashem of yehudah is a kid hashem that's done within the confines of claudius it's a kedish hashem between us and us with no public eye yehuda is the ability to be introspective to focus within to build up the strength of claude israel clapey israel within ourselves you understand we need both we need both powers to work together we don't need either to be an end in and of themselves their cohort that each jew has a little bit of both and some jews tend more to one or the other but they're cohort that need to be merged together not kept separate yavan represented murder but yavan they were so cultured they were so civilized they were so democratic how could they represent murder how could they represent shifu because yavan the way they killed was not physical death what they did was they sucked the life force out from within leaving an empty shell of what was once life taking out all of the depth taking out all of the inner substance and just leaving the external beauty when we have yoseph who is beautiful and he is fighting against the greeks yosef is gematria because yosef's beauty spiritual beauty is a force that fights against superficial beauty the milkhamma of yavan the milhamma of the greeks is the war against spiri superficiality spirituality against superficiality you understand the greeks appreciated beauty they came into our temple they didn't look to knock it down they loved the architecture it was beautiful all they wanted to do was make sure to destroy the wall that separates between the jews and the non-jews i'll appreciate your beauty you appreciate my beauty hey let's collab together let's get together let's share our beautiful ideas but what yavan which is the yud and then the valve and then the noon three lines that get progressively longer quicksand what yavin does is the minute you fall into superficial beauty it sucks you down until it removes all life force from within you and leaves you an empty case with nothing inside and no depth so as we begin to pack up our menorahs to put away our mahajan minha mahadrin to put away the beautiful decorations that are getting more extravagant as the years go on we have to ask ourselves now that i experienced the eight nights of chanukah the what am i doing with that power what am i going to be who do i look like is there depth to me am i focused on the external beauty we have in cloud israel the most beautiful challah covers gorgeous personalized to fill in bags custom-made benchers to match our dining rooms we have the most beautiful tashmishai kadusa that perhaps ever was and there's nothing wrong with that we have to ask ourselves though do we have the quality of leia within our beauty are the gorgeous things that we use the high quality sneeze clothing that we buy is it with the inner essence of leia as well or is it just the external only what i can see does my judaism does the judaism that i'm giving to my children to my students does it have token does it have depth inside of it am i able to give over that which is hidden there's a reason why our torah is torah what you can see and torah and torah's about that even though we have it written down we still call it because there is something as jews that we have to be able to give over that cannot be seen there's depth in who we are we are not what you see is what you get we have layers and layers our yiddishkeit our mitzvot our shoes our homes have to have layers and layers of depth can we fight the shallow beauty of greece can we take the yosef the children of and be able to go out into the world and establish ourselves as we have amongst nations lobbying and doing what we're doing but understanding that it's because we have to get to the alma deit kasya to the hidden world that we are not just jews out in the world to show that we have made it but we are making it in the outside world only to be a light onto the and to be able to then strengthen ourselves from within because you understand it's david it's leia that leads us consistently towards our goal of mashiach to continue to strive for the substance and the truth that we have the sisters rachel come together they cross over by the way they cross over again also on purim where because we see mordechai is called mordechai from leia this combination of the jew that's successful in the outside world while retaining spiritual integrity and the jew that stuck in the beta midrash building khali israel from within that we are not antithetical to one another but rather that we need to grow together and that each one of us needs to build homes that have a combination of both of these powers and that is the gift of chanukah that each one of us has been given this year as we are saying goodbye to the eight beautiful lights to understand that beauty is coming from but it needs to be infused with leia menu with depth with purpose and to check my life and make sure that i have both and so how do we do this i'll leave you with the story there's a yid his name is rabbi avraham grossman and he has a cola inherits israel and his cola is very unique because they pay an incredibly high stipend to the abraham of ten thousand shekel a month now they don't just get there's thirty avraham in this cola and they don't just get the ten thousand shekel a month they have they have things that they need to accomplish and one of the things they need to accomplish is that they have to take a bahina they have to take a test and in order to stay in the cola you have to get a hundred on every test and so you can understand that this cola that rebbe grossman has is serious tami de gacham that are taking their learning very very seriously retaining their learning in a very serious way and everybody asked me from where do you get your funding right all organs and organizations want to know where are you getting your funds how are you getting your funding and our big grossman always kept it a secret until one year it was purim and rabbi grossman is asked how do you fund your cola and the following story begins to flow out of his mouth and he talks about a time that he was traveling with his family and they were driving in arts israel going up north and the children are complaining they're hungry they want to stop rest stop okay they pull over to the side of the road everybody eats they take care of all of their needs a bunch of kids in the car they get back into the car everyone piles in turns on the car it's not going on turns on the car it's not going on goes on for a moment and then sputters and dies what's going on oh my goodness they realize they don't have gas okay it's all right don't worry we'll find someone to help us rabbi grossman gets out of the car he's trying to flag down anybody who will stop and finally a slick mercedes pulls up and the tinted window gets pulled down and there's a man behind the wheel and he says what's wrong remember grossman says oh thank you so much for stopping maybe you can help us we ran out of gas and this man whose name was ophir uh was not a religious jew and he looks at ray grossman and his family and he says only leave it to kharadim that they're gonna be in the middle of the street and forget to get gas i can't believe you people and he hits his foot on the gas and speeds away hashem his rahmanus his mercy overcomes him and he eventually makes a u-turn and he tells the rabbi all right rabbi get in the car i'll take you to get some gas gets into the car making small talk talking to him oh where are you from they finally get to a gas station and he says okay i'll wait for you and i'll take you back to your car rabbi grossman gets out of the car starts to go to the gas station to buy something to fill up the gas and he comes back to the car and he tells oak fear i'm so sorry but i cannot buy gas from over here and if you sense llama what's wrong what's wrong with the gas and the rabbi tells him oh there's nothing wrong with the gas but i cannot purchase anything from this gas station why it says we're open on shabbat open on shabbat would you ever go to a place that openly spits in your father's face and buy something from them i cannot buy from this place i love hashem i love my father my father says to keep shabbat this gas station wants to flaunt that they don't love my father i cannot purchase gas from over here now you understand ophir has been tolerant up until now but this is a bit much for him what are you meshuggah are you crazy i should just leave you over here and robert grossman says please i'm sure there's another gas station can we just go to the next gas station up here says i don't know why i'm even doing this for you you're crazy get in the car they get in the car they buy gas they come back to rabbi grossman's car and they exchange phone numbers okay very nice to have matthew alfiersham should send you so much brother so much blessing and hashem will get in touch someday they exchange numbers and they part ways okay so the trip uh continues to go on they have their little vacation and time moves one year two years everyone has forgotten about this incident and rabbi grossman years later gets a phone call hello is this rabbi grossman ken musee this is ophir do you remember me oh fear i i'm sure we've met before i just i can't remember and he says oh you don't remember with the gas you're on the side of the road i picked you up oh [Applause] how are you of course i remember you what's going on oh fear says listen rabbi i don't have too much time to talk i need to meet you in tel aviv come to this very special buildings come and i need to have a meeting with you i need to meet with you right away why is everything okay rabbi trust me we meet tomorrow come here do not be late okay everybody grossman says okay he goes and he sees oh fear ah how are you hug and a kiss and no fear sits down and he says i'm going to get right to business my father passed away two weeks ago and rabbi grossman says i'm so sorry to hear that and he says my father was a a religious man obviously i would i'm not a religious man but my father allowed for each one of us to go in our own ways my father became fabulously wealthy in israel he owns a tremendous amount of properties and his estate is worth millions of dollars when we read my father's will he left me a very good portion to be able to live the rest of my life and he said that he wants 30 of his estate to go to a man that loves hashem so we read this in the will and we said okay i guess i'm the executor i have to find someone who loves hashem who who who do i know that loves hashem and he goes on the street hi do you love hashem and you know how am i going to assess who loves hashem to give such a large amount of money to every grossman still doesn't know what 30 percent is and he says but then i remembered you i remembered you meshuga when i'm taking you to buy gas and you say i love my father i'm not shopping somewhere that doesn't love my father i remember you said i love hashem i said i gotta call this man and he takes a check 20 million dollars and he says use this to spread torah and that was rabbi grossman's funding that he had to build this cola because rabbi grossman was not afraid to say i love hashem he was not afraid to stand up amongst the secular world and say i'm a jew and i'm proud and i'll sing it out loud i love hashem i have the external beauty because it's my internal beauty that's propelling it forward maybe hashem's will that we take the warmth of our chanukah candles that we pass it into the world that we change those around us because from within we are overflowing with kedusha with ahava with love for hashem that we understand in our moments of connection we're in and in our moments of turmoil we're in leia mode but hashem is directing the scene he's directing us towards mashiach we should be able to greet mashiach this year please god and that khalifa should have a shalema thank you thank you haven't seen y'all go with your amazing remarks the next speaker is representing all the way from eric to straw away from israel my mother everyone is being presented by kazakh and mick for usa as you know the great work of kazakh um helps helps organize amazing sure events every single day in person and virtually everyone wants to organize the sheer a virtual shirt or share their community just reach out to events v e n t s at c h a c a q r g in the last four years cause i guess up trades for over one thousand one hundred fifteen children opposed to yeshiva someone watching right now i know someone who has chosen public school to transfer yeshiva should they should call our office at mikvy 718-285-9132-718-285-9132 for for for for for organizing this event together with kazakh nikki usa that's how big has helped bill bill mcvault all throughout the the the country and tens of thousands of people are participating in the mitzvah of mikveh because of mickey usa and they've also tremendous educational courses and classes at which to be part of that i want you to find out more information at my gift of mikvah.org m y g i f t o f m i k v a h dot org my gift of mikvah.org um it's our great eyes pop on robertson yep um i would seems rocky shalom america i miss you so so much and jonathan zacks the holy vacher used to say that the people we remember all our lives were those who gave us hope i'm so proud to be a part of this holy organization hazak this organization which gives us daily weekly monthly yearly hope hope for new education hope for zugiyut our marriage life hope for dusha it gives us again and again power to keep these holy values and thank you to mikveh usa mikveh is tikvah it's hope having this hope everywhere you go in the united states you find this holy place which gives you a totally new beginning in your family life so thank you hazak thank you mikva usa we remember you always because the ones we remember are the ones whoever gave us hope tikkuva and this evening i'm supposed to speak of sneot me i love beautiful outfits i love shopping black fridays i love zara is that avoid azter beauty and the jewish breaking news are enlightened there is nothing more beautiful than snee ut is not about being ugly giving up beauty it's all about beauty and if you look at the woman most beautifully dressed in the world the gorish world you will find this princess kate middleton the middle skirt the middle sleeve the middle tone everything sanua is the real real beauty and that's what we are going to talk about this evening hanukkah is the hug which speaks of beauty and ghazal tell us about this historic meeting between the greek warrior alexander mcdonne hanukkah is all about greece and yavan and he goes to conquer jerusalem but before he gets to jerusalem he sees a big group of people coming and ahead of them [Music] walking someone so beautiful when he sees him alexander mcdonne the greek warrior he falls on his face and everyone is asking him what happened brave alexander mcdonald and he says do you see this man every time i conquered a country or a city every time i won my wars i used to see the figure of this man walking before me this beautiful man was a akohen hagadol shim on hatsadiq yavan greece is all about beauty yaft elokim leifet they had the goddess of beauty they admired beauty and suddenly he sees the beauty of the kohenga doll and he says you won i won't conquer jerusalem because i am used to conquer and you shim onat sadiq hakohen hagadol you have conquering beauty i cannot fight this beauty there is a huge difference between the beauty and the light of the kohen gadol he goes inside kodesha kodashimli fnai velif nim this is the song of the eshethrill version every shabbos evening your husband sings to you you have the beauty of the kohenga doll where as alexander mcdonne conquers more and more this man has conquering beauty what does it mean it's beauty which stays no matter how old you are no matter how many wrinkles you have it's a beauty which stays forever it lingers who remembers these days alexander mokudon who remembers all the conquering of the evanim no one and the jewish beauty is still here and the gemara tells us alexander mcdonnell conquers more and more and more countries until he gets to a place called hanashim the women's city they greet him and they say to him do not conquer this city and he asks them llama why and they say if we win people will say women one defeated alexander mcdonald and if you win people will say he won a city of woman and he says to them i've never met such wise woman i am not conquering this city these wise women knew that the more conquering you have the more followers you have in your instagram in your facebook in your it has to stop somewhere it won't linger because the more exposed it is the more danger is there it cannot go on and on forever because it's all over the place and when your beauty is exposed all over the place there oh there will always be someone wiser than you beautiful than you having beautiful children and a beautiful family more than you have it causes depression so many young boys and young girls are depressed they feel unworthy why because all over the place people expose their pictures of their happy family lives of the last trip they made and suddenly you feel unworthy i just think of all those pictures in shidduchim time even though he could have met her and he could have thought she's beautiful but when he sees all these pictures around suddenly she is unworthy this shabbos we read such a pasuk yakov marries after he married leia rahel ah which means he loved also so why is it written just afterwards hashem is hated it was just written he loves also because when relations become relative to someone else even though he loves le a when she is near a hell she considers herself hated so many young girls are walking around feeling ugly and hated not because they are ugly or hated but because relationship is relative and when you have so many things to relate to in the website suddenly your wife is not as beautiful as you thought is not as smart as you thought suddenly you are not a happy family as you used to think because look at them sending their beautiful pictures from the dolomites in italia when things are exposed when people want to conquer with their beauty and wisdom it won't last there will always be someone more beautiful smarter the family life won't be satisfacted any longer once people divorced less but now they are exposed to so many beautiful and perfect pictures what can we do against it this is the generation following people looking at their picture sending our happy pictures with our husbands and children what can we do there is one woman khazal tells us she is a widow the wife of the prophet of vadiyah she has huge debts and the man she owes him money comes to her and says unless you pay me this huge amount of money i'm taking your two sons to be my slaves she doesn't know what to do she runs to elisha the prophet and he says to her um you need money now desperately ma do you have anything at home and she says law nothing i've got nothing maybe a small portion of oil wow he says to her now you go and you borrow kaleem jars from your neighbors you close the door you take the small amount of oil from the jar and you say to her children give me the jars and you start pouring and she does this and another jar is being full and another one and another one and all the neighbors are standing outside the house the clocked house thinking why did she have to use so many jars why did she borrow so many jobs she is poor this woman nes pacha chemin she sells the oil she pays her debt but she still has so much left no and elisha the prophet says to her take this you and your children are going to live with these leftovers what made this miracle come true how did she have parnassa after this corona horrible year she closed the door and when you close the door of your house you suddenly see how much you have when the door is open when the windows of your cellular are open you will feel all the time i've got nothing endless okay now close the door close the windows look at what you have the reflection of the light will be so huge the kohenga doll just like you walks into his kodesh kodashim it's very very small he closed the door and the light is all around why do we put the hanukiah inside the house instead of putting it outside hazal revealed to us that when you put light on the window your children if they look outside they won't see anything they will see darkness because the house is full of light but when the house is dark and obscure when the house is looking at what other people have the house is dark your children and husband and you are going to stick to the window to the screens and the screen will be their light it's a physical rule the house is dark you look outside and it looks like light the house is lit full of beautiful and holy candles full of songs and music full of hugging and good words no one will want to look outside it's being a worrier to have conquering beauty it's being a bigger worrier than alexander mcdonne but remember every time you want to make sinned on a beautiful picture of your private life every time you want to pick up and look at her pictures or his pictures be careful your family life is at stake because everything in your relation she becomes relative and unworthy suddenly but more than that it ruins your relations with him hazal tell us so many times you lose hope of tfila you do not devon any longer because he doesn't hear you i say to students not student from students from universities i tell them try this even for five minutes when you want to pray you don't know if there is god or not you put on yourself something tsanua modest and suddenly you will see how your tifila has power how your fila becomes why explains when you cover yourself you understand that under this cover exists gorgeous beauty which no one sees that's the way you speak to god because you do not see him he is covered behind the sky but you know that behind thick covers beauty can exist you know i always think that modesty is really not modest because modesty says i have such gorgeous beauty i cannot expose it i cannot endanger it i have to keep this gorgeous family my gorgeous beauty it's such an immodest idea being modest modesty is not thinking i'm unworthy modesty is knowing i'm so worthy i want this to linger when you cover a little bit with beauty your beauty you can look at this beautiful sky and believe someone is hidden behind there listening knowing so smart so beautiful conquering beauty i remember once when i spoke to um students in the haifa technion and one of them told me yemen do you know why i came to hear you and why i'm starting to believe in god she said i came from a really really secular house not affiliated and in the army i was accepted to this very special secret unit mista arvi the mistake are those soldiers who dwell in arab villages they are disguised to arabs they live an arab life soldiers of us are married to palestinian womans no one knows they are soldiers there are only a few women doing this and she was one of them and she said to me yanima i was in a house and i had a special hidden camera which could see what is happening in a terrorists house just in front of me one night awake no one around me knows i'm a jewish soldier israeli soldier i was watching and following what was going on in this terrorist house and then i said to myself rega if you can look at someone without him even guessing you are doing so maybe someone is looking at me right now without me guessing even it can happen the minute she was hidden the minute she was so tsunua and still having such an influence on the enemy she could believe there is someone so tzanua and hidden who has influence on all the world and on her as well when alexander mcdonald sees the shimon sadiq the big kohenga doll he says what this man from davening in yom kippur he really decides whether i can conquer a country or i lose the battle and shimona sadiq says to him i dress beautifully me meesh betsodza have levusha and it has to be beautiful i get into the kodesh kodashim i close the door and now i can influence all the world the rain pregnancies marriages wars i have influence on the world it's so hard i really tell you that being tsanua in our generation is being a warrior it's being a mista arrest it's being this brave soldier behind a disguise keeping this country alive keeping herself secure i want you to make hanukkah habit i want you to festive to to la gog your family life i want you once a day to close the door to close the windows of your internet and cellular to look at what you have and not only that what you have will be preserved and guarded it will produce more and more and more oil your parmesa your love life the education of your children all you need is two things to be mecca always hoping for the good thank you mikveh usa and to be so very much hazak thank you you