Achieving The Possible You - Rabbi Yom Tov Glaser

if you're saying to yourself I'm unsafe that vibrates out to the other and so I'm not going to be vulnerable with someone who's saying they're unsafe your deepest need is love and so as everyone else's the tip is to love anyway courageously put your heart out there and be the most loving person everywhere you go you go do that and what does it do it sends a subliminal message to everyone present that you're safe and watch what happens if you play this game then teaching right now you will become a magnet you will become a magnet you are the Sea of Love And everyone's going to come [Music] swim and welcome to Torah talks kazak Tuesday night program with special guest we have with us all the way from Eric's Isel our dear friend Rabbi y welcome how are you doing Rabbi thank you very much much I'm doing great yeah happy to be here thanks for having me of course thanks for uh joining us on Tor talks kazak's amazing podcast and we're going to be speaking about the possible you but before we uh do the topic we get a little bit background about uh Rabbi yonto Glazer and the great work you're involved with sure I grew up in Los Angeles I was raised in a unique environment a very very safe and uh affluent part of West Los Angeles and there were there was no crime there was no um really anything to worry about whatsoever and there was uh more money than we knew what to do with me and all my friends and so we were um I had the unique situation in my home that there were no rules either so um that having having no limit no border no no rules no um no Edge to life you know the it set me off in a very a very courageous way a very courageous path and um I I naturally wanted to break down anything I could find to see if it was real you know because if you're raised with no rules you just you're looking for something real you know like where is The Edge and uh you know it seemed like the only thing that was forbidden was that which you got caught doing but it itself was not necessarily wrong and uh we were not raised in a very Godly uh teaching it was more atheistic and style very kind of like the progressive left today but uh but you know in its infancy maybe and and that set me on an amazing trajectory of Adventure and so I was big into Sports and you could see me on any given day skateboarding downhills full speed six-pack of beer hanging from my fingers and uh on my way to meet the friends where we would go surfing and mountain biking and um and doing you know extreme sports and uh we taught ourselves how to drive when we were about 12 and we're driving our parents sports cars and I was racing by the time I was 14 I raced cars for seven years um I've been in crazy car accidents you know been in EV every kind of situation that you could ever imagine I was in it and um but what it did was it led to many amazing things and and and also my first piece of mind I think I ever had was when I got to Israel I came to ASA Torah and they were very busy proving that there's a God and very busy proving that Torah was not manre but rather Divine and um and I was just first of all I was really excited to find out that the Torah is actually true but more than anyone else see everyone else had had a serious sacrifice of Lifestyle to find out Torah was true all of a sudden that was a major lifestyle shift for me it was also a major lifestyle switch but there was a relief that there is an edge and the edge isn't man-given because I never bought into the man-given edges it was a god-given edge and when I found that edge I was like I'm home I'm safe finally safe and I didn't have to go ride some 30 foot wave or jump off a cliff with a either cliff diving or with a mountain bike I was I was finally at peace and there's actual there's a Divine Edge and but I'll just tell you something funny that if you mix my personality with you know so it makes for something very interesting which is a de is that the 365 negative Commandments which are the edge and the um and about 30,000 Halas which are um which are you know how to keep those 365 but but what's happening is we have a Divine system that tells us what not to do that's such a blessing because then you can be clean then you can be clean then you can be whole then you can be holy then you can be be at peace then you can you don't have second guess yourself you don't have to I mean if you're really OCD can Si and guess how you say Shama and stuff but long as you said shama with some kavana you're you're in good shape but here's my de with my personality my de is that not only um oh if the if God's saying what not to do with that list of 365 what's the DU everything else you should do go do it go do it and when you get upstairs hashem's gonna say why didn't you do this and why didn't you do that why didn't you do the other thing you know that wasn't on the list why are you being so afraid all the time and I think all of this LED and then you asked about the seminar all of this led to um to the creation of a seminar called the Poss you which really came about um from um it was kind of a mixture of things I think it wouldn't have come about it had not been that my digestion was uh meaning my my um that I was basically heading for surgery I could not digest food my colon had completely given up on digestion and it was all linked to like a stupid story from when I was 10 years old at My Brother's Bar mitz would go to the bathroom and a girl walked into the bathroom that was it and I locked the door and I cried and I missed the dancing and I missed the B missed the pictures with the family like they actually don't have pictures of me at My Brother's Bar Mitzvah because I was crying in the bathroom and it was like it was just such a weird thing you know it doesn't make any sense but something about that experience locked in a terrible terrible feeling inside my heart of being unacceptable and I went with that from from 10 years old you could literally like watch everything I chose to do for the next 23 years in other words it took me 23 years to get out of that bathroom and when I and it what what did it take it took um getting called from the hospital to to um to um schedule my surgery to remove my kishkas at that point I had to do some major soul searching and I got like bam that's it it's from there and next thing you know my digestion relaxed next thing you know I can like digest food and and now all of a sudden I'm not lactose intolerant anymore and now I can eat you know everything I want and and immediately I took my pavos class at aor you know I was teaching pavos I took the class I told them close your books you're now in a seminar and over time it became the possible use seminar yeah wow I ran it for free yeah I ran it for free for three years the first time I ever charged for it was I because a said who are all these guys it was all like Mir yiva guys who are all these guys at the in our building so I they said get this out of here so I I rented a hall it was the first time I charged I rented a hall and I divided up the price of the hall to the participants because I was in AA I learned full-time for eight years three star a day and I didn't need any money I was I like two kids and I just you know and then I had three maybe and I just I didn't need much is one to help people and that's how I live today I don't not counting the money any profit of the seminar goes right back into the seminar now there's like 75 people working for it and uh we're in we're in uh five cities uh we have five centers and then we do satellite ones like for example I was up in the country two weeks ago in Monroe which is a satellite not one of our centers but maybe it will be I don't know wow amazing okay so so that's we talking about the possible you yeah yeah wow very very interesting so Rabbi often one is stuck in their fixed mindset and can see beyond themselves to their true potential so how does one see their true inner potential Rabbi H um you know I don't think we can ever see it our our true potential um because the true what is in in life is you have the things you do like you and I are meeting right now in this podcast this Torah talk and but then you have your being and you know Rabbi you have a an Essence and I have an Essence and it's it's Way Beyond what we're doing so there's doing and there's being so there's what we're doing we're on the podcast together and now I'm now I'm drinking but who am I who who am I being and what happens is we get this barrier to who we're being from the development of Our Lives as children and of course our parents can't like fix it for us meaning if you have negative statements of being like I am no good or I am unloved or I'm unwanted or I'm invisible or I don't matter or I'm incapable or I'm lost or I'm small or I'm weak or I'm a nothing or I'm not good enough or I'm not as good as someone else all those things who's going to help us with that it's not like we're announcing it to our teacher in school we don't come home that day from school let's say kid got uh rejected from a game you know like they didn't pick them for the team or she didn't get picked for the show you know they don't go home to their parents and say oh Mom and Dad guess what I discovered I'm a loser no one does that you know guess what I just found out I'm I'm unwanted you know no one does that and and now that becomes the being now is that really the being no the being is the that's inside of every human and that being you can how can you ever know what that is we don't know what it is which is another reason why we got to be so careful with the negative Commandments because you aren't you you aren't you so oh you think you should be doing that who are you to say what you should be doing because you're you're you're enormous you're you're your your your soul is so beautiful that if we saw the potential of it we would all turn white we would all faint we would we would we'd fall on our faces in front of every single person if we could see who they actually are and and the difference between someone who has clean beautiful vibration is just how much they've uncovered of their truth and uh so someone someone who's not getting great results in their life is someone who's got a lot covering up in their on their being now I I just got to share this with you Rabbi that there's a second pleas there's a second there's two there's probably more but there's two we need two barriers yeah two Ma sorry two major barriers so barrier one we said was when there's um you know like a film on their being like a cover up a a um a barrier we'll call it and we have a term for it in the seminar it's called the inner negative belief inner in that you yourself aren't even aware it's going on negative is that generally we we think more of our negative experiences in our development sadly but you know think about it if you have 500 great days and on day 301 something goes wrong if I ask you a couple years later which day do you remember of those 500 days which one do you remember 301 yeah that's the day that was the defining moment and it's just the way humans are sad you know because it's crazy of 499 good days is like should outdo that one that one mishap but I myself was a victim of one mishap and more than one actually they you know you we we all have probably about 20 inner negative beliefs it's inner it points to the negative and the last is it's not even true it's just a belief there's no negative statement a human being can say about themselves that's true you know and someone always raises their hand in the seminar said what there's no such thing as a dumb person and I said yeah well I guess yeah there was one dumb person in my class they now make about a quarter million dollars a job I'm like they're like what I'm like yeah the guy was a absolute idiot he couldn't pass any of his classes um no matter what subject we gave him he failed um but when he was a little kid and his parents ever took him to you know a hotel or any type of place like that the kids in some hotels he would start screeching and grabbing his head and and like get me out of here and the parents would have to rush him out anyway he gets a quarter million dollars a year to to um design hotel lobbies a job quarter million dollars a job to do hotel lobbies he's like a World's genius an interior design on the high level stuff like lobbies are very expensive and the and you understand the guys's a genius and Albert Einstein who everyone thinks of when they think of a genius the guy couldn't ride a bike he couldn't even get himself dressed he had he had the same exact outfit seven of them and it just had a date on the hanger and he would take the clothes off the hanger and put it on he wouldn't be able to get himself dressed couldn't ride a bike um you have people who are spatially brilliant you have people who are numerically brilliant you have people who are spiritually brilliant you have people are socially brilliant which is probably my brilliance by the way I'm very good with people wow wow wow wow Glazer we didn't get to the second barrier though we should probably mention it yeah the second barrier is is personality um personality moves that we make that no one should know about the first barrier you understand so so for example if I saw myself as a loser I might create a personality of being cool if I saw myself as you know unacceptable I might show up as a as an osin as a uh you know a how do you call that the guy in charge of everything you know so every I don't know the Engish translation of asan is the doer the that makes things happen the guy who makes things happen in the Community that's the askan and so you know if I if my first barrier the inner negative belief was let's say unwanted so I become the asan which I'm sorry there's no English for that but it's the guy everyone turns to for whatever they need to happen but but here's the thing here's the amazing thing in the possib you is we don't take the asan and tell him you know what asosan stands for ask him just kidding but you would think that someone do the seminar they're going to find out hey wow I became this Asin or I became cool or I became the Joker I became Entertainer or whatever um and you might think we're going to take that away from them no he became a great askan that guy's amazing but what happened before is he was ignoring his wife and kids he was uh working crazy hours so he was ignoring his own health he was ignoring his diet and and he was uh and he was uh kind of like you know keep your hands and feet away from his mouth because he was a little rough with the community as he was busy with millions of requests so all of a sudden the Asam becomes the sweetest honey he's going home to his wife and kids he's taking care of himself he's eating well he's got a couple underlings now that can handle some of the other jobs that he doesn't have to do absolutely everything and you understand what the difference is and and the Joker The Joker get him up at a let him tell his jokes but it's but he know he doesn't have to be the Joker he chooses to joke he chooses to do that you get okay so you got the idea so the first barrier is called the inner negative belief it's just a belief it's not even true and the second barrier is we call in the seminar it's kind of rough to call it this but we call it the survival strategy and that's the personality that we use to to um to compensate for the inner negative belief but it is exhausting it exhausts us it exhausts their loved ones it's hard to work with such a person you know you're just waiting for the meeting to end to get away from him you know because his energy is all cluttered up wow but if you want to go deep this is a Torah talk is yeah let's do it there's a well there's a deep question is why did God set up that the development of a personality has to come this way because it comes this way for absolutely everybody no show me anyone who didn't develop their their skill sets their personality their show me anyone who didn't develop this way I've never met anyone what's sh what's what's the reason that God created it this way Ben it's a good question it's the million dooll question it's a good first of all it's nice as parents C your kids are going to develop this whether you like it or not and that's how they'll develop their their their personality and skill sets so um why did God set it up that way I don't know you see that God was creating the world and kind of weird ways you know like for example having people live up to a thousand years he saw he saw that they were really taking their time on their way to heaven and that wasn't good for them and he switched it around to 120 you know on the time of Noah so it could be that this was like part of that part of our experiment not that God's experimenting but you could it almost looks like he experimented with the the Thousand-Year lifespan versus the 120 lifespan so maybe experimented with this way of development of personality and he said you know what I don't have an alternative for these human beings what else are we going to do what's the alternative but I'll tell you this here's another amazing Torah perspective is that let's call my hand right here let's call this hand creation let's call this hand Revelation and let's call this hand completion so we got creation Revelation completion in other words creation that's like the doing shabas Knight that's the energy of shabas night Revelation that's when the we read the prayer in the middle of the synagogue we read the Torah which is the revelation of the Torah in the middle of the synagogue it's like that little beima in the center is Mount Si the Revelation what's it revealing it's revealing it's called the Torah what's Torah instructions it's the instructions for life T the instructions for living and then there's you know time of shabas the afternoon of chabas which is everything's one you are one your name is one and who's like your nation Israel one nation one one one11 meaning completion so think about it everyone who is born is eventually going to die right that's the one thing we knew having children is that they'll be born they will die so we have creation of the child we have completion of the child when they come to their death when is the Revelation at what point do you have revealed to you your essence because isn't the Torah the revelation of the essence of this creation it is the blueprint print of the whole universe and so it very well may be that that God set it up and so you ask the question I'm telling you what my thoughts have been over the years I I don't have the answer by the way but could it be that that yes that will be the Genesis of one's personality but there has to be a moment there has to be a moment of Revelation where someone finally gets to their soul and they they finally get to their soul and with a killer set of skills you know and a maybe a great personality and and they uh they can now use those skills and you and and enjoy that personality as a gift for the world for the rest of their life till they come to completion when if it first you're coming not with not for the sake of you know truth you can come to the sake of Truth meaning meaning if you do things for the wrong reason you can come to the right reason powerful powerful true 100% Rabbi y Glazer so so Rabbi one of the obstacles uh the possible use addressing is fear of Judgment of others fear of overcoming challenges how does one overcome these fears Rabbi so so the way we break it down in the seminar is with five fears okay there's five major fears and any other fear you could think of you can put in the categories of those five there's obviously more than five fears but but you can put them in there so the fear number one like you just mentioned judgment from others is the fear of rejection that and by the way I'm giving them an order popularity this is the most popular fear for people is rejection they say they say that um that that the fear of rejection sorry fear of public speaking is uh is is pulled to be greater than the fear of death which means if you ask someone if they'd like to speak they'd be like no you can just kill me so anyway the fear of rejections the number one fear what which is what others are thinking of you number two fear excuse me little itch number two fear is the fear of failure fear of failure is uh you know your personal performance you know like that's that's a huge fear just under fear rejection that and it can very much relate to rejection because are are you afraid to fail or are you afraid to fail because what is everyone going to think which is the rejection you get that you get that distinction so it's like if you're a failure can be very wrapped up with rejection especially someone who grew up in a family where like there was a very high bar for for um success and so they're going to have a fear of failure and rejection wrapped up fear number three is the fear of being controlled everybody answers to somebody you know some poor kid I don't mean poor financial but it could be poor finan but some poor chap watches you know a Range Rover drive by his high school and he's like you when I'll be a Range Rover driver I'm not gonna answer that nobody meanwhile that Range Rover driver he's on his way to his therapist why because because he can't sleep at night because he's all his investors are breathing down his throat wrote for you know the profit share and meanwhile you know the interest rates went up and he's answering to like this Range Rover driver is answering to more people than that teenager could ever dream to be answering to you get the point so that's that's the fear of being out of out of control which includes author fear number three yeah which includes Authority it includes God it includes rabbis asan um the fear of uh parents uh in-laws father-in-law you know mother-in-law especially if she's Hungarian and um anyway the I work with a lot of hungarians it seems and I'm also from there so is my wife but somehow God brought me to heal the hungarians although we get plenty of polishers in there too and sadim um anyway the the where are we holding oh fear number four sorry to fear number four yes yes so fear number four is very general it's called the fear of the unknown and that's um that's your general courage going towards the future and people don't like the unknown you know people people prefer many more giv um uh the unknown is like really an enemy to a lot of people and and you know it's obviously a very big industry with creating calendars and itineraries and like how much can I somehow move the unknown into the known without actually getting there you know my rebi uh the Hornish Styler rebi Shalom Shak fredman he's we're we're pin car the pin Reby but my Mor over the years is a great great great Torah scholar and real hidden sadic and he um holy man he he we used to speak to him you know it's like the day before the first night of Kaneka or it's like the day before rashash and we're meeting he's teaching the the the kabor it's a group of men and we'd say to him rebi can you teach us something about Kaneka that starts tomorrow and the rby would say come back tomorrow and what he meant by that is is that he so lives in the moment that he has no he has nothing to say about Kaneka because it is not Kaneka when it's Kaneka come back and sit in the dust of my feet and I will teach you about Kaneka and who you could sit there for five years if Kaneka was five years long he wouldn't stop talking Kaneka and and you understand like so he's the he's the epitome of living in the moment whereas the rest of us are doing everything we can to like let that future that unknown future to start to make that unknown future the known and however much it can't be known is a source of anxiety for so many people anyway that's fear number four and yeah and we just bust that we bust that one to Smither on the last day of the seminar and the um and the Fifth Fifth fear is the only kosher fear it's the only one that's kosher did you know we have a kosher fear it's the fear fear of Heaven that's definitely a kosher of fear um yeah the the one kosher fear that we have meaning of this world stuff is um is the fear of physical pain and suffering yeah which can include death or any phobia or anything but it's the fear of physical pain and suffering why is it the kosher fear because you better have a fear of physical pain and suffering or you're going to be burning your hand on everything you know you're gonna be you're not I'm not going to get in a car with you if you don't have a fear physical pain and suffering you know the way I like to say it is who would you prefer drive you from Brooklyn to Muny uh an 18y old or a 36- year old you know I'll take the 36y old please you know more experience many more stories close calls fender benders you know he's got a nice fear of pain and suffering whereas the 18-year-old thinks he's going to live forever when he crashes his car he thinks it's a video game and he's got four more ships so the um anyway the that's the that's the fifth fear so you ask the question how do we get rid of those fears so right the so here's the amazing answer you ready for this this is cool and and ready we're ready and I save people a lot of time with this one don't try to get rid of the fears don't try to get rid of the fears first of all how you deal with fear is courage courage is the answer to fear courage getting rid of a fear is it's just going to be there waiting for you even if you try to get rid of it it's there we play psychological games with it but there it is again the the answer to fear is courage so let's I'm afraid of getting up to speak publicly courage will be helpful now maybe I'll do it anyway because I will use this muscle called courage and if I'm afraid of failure and I'm going into a business meeting where I really think that I'm out of my league with these people and I don't know if they're going to really buy my proposal how about some courage I'll go in there with I'll be courageous I'm going to go in there with courage and when I'm dealing with authority I'm going to go with courage you see people make this terrible miscon they have a terrible misconception that when you see someone acting courageously you think while you're watching you're thinking how is he not afraid the answer is if he wasn't afraid he wouldn't need courage do you need courage if you're not afraid if you're not afraid you just do it no he's he is afraid he's been courageous he's overcoming his fears in a sense by being courageous yeah the fear is there but he's going for it anyway fear is be is feeling the fear and doing it I'm a surfer you know I've written waves like show you waves like you know off my phone right now you know a you want to see a 20 you want to see me on a 25-footer so so you know I I I grew up I grew up from the earliest ages that of everything in the world that you could be afraid of and it's just a matter of Courage it's a courage issue here I'll sh here's a twage here's a big one I don't know if it'll focus on it can you it's not that that's you on it Rabbi yeah that's me up there can you see it at on cool that's a really high wave yeah anyway the um so you were you had fear doing that yeah yeah it's like you're courage yeah you know where that I was on that wave I was I was um about 10 miles into the ocean off a off a big rock mountain I was dropped off by a bone it's not like I can get to the Rock Mountain or that would be even helpful to be on that Rock Mountain I have to get back out to get to back to the boat and uh and underneath the ocean wasn't sand it was gigantic Boulders meaning meaning if you fell the wrong way you could be under one of them you you'd be like or into one of them you know it was gigantic Boulders which means the and there were dark Boulders so so the sea was Pitch Black when you were underwater if you fell on a wave yeah pitch black and and now you're you just got in a washing machine like the worst washing machine you ever could be in and it finally releases you and you can't even open your eyes to check which way the bubbles are going because it's black under there you know just to know which direction to swim to try to get some air you know and the but you know are you get you get reflexes after enough years of it and do the right things when you're in it today I was in full body armor just like a couple hours ago I have some full body armor full face helmet and um my equipment's right behind the curtain here and um you know and going down terrist super steep mountains in Jerusalem that that you can't even walk down some of the things I was going down you'd need ropes to walk down and and so but again I'm I'm not crazy I just have years and years and years of experience so my muscle memory does it by itself I don't even think in fact if I'm thinking too much I'll take different Trails I won't do those Trails because I need to be in my instincts not in my head when I'm in my head I take some Trails when I'm in my body properly I'm truly embodied then I can do the radical Trails but listen what I want to share with you is is that there's another way to deal with fears that is so powerful ready let's hear it yeah so remember how earlier we spoke about the barrier on being called the negative belief that's the source of the fear so let's say I I have a fear let's say I have a fear of rejection and but the barrier that inner belief is that you're I'm a loser or I'm unacceptable or I'm I'm uh um unwanted or I'm unlovable if any of those are the inner negative belief well you bet I'm going to have a big fear of fear of rejection I'm going have a terrible fear of rejection you get that so yeah it's all connected right so that's the source so instead of so instead of being busy with trying to deal with fears you know like for example like uh there's an amazing seminar called Carnegie Dale Carnegie where they you get up and you break your fears with lots of public speaking in front of the group and you know and you're going to be right back a month later you're going to be back to all your stuff because if if the real issue was that you see yourself as unlovable or unliked so then who cares that you busted through your fear of public speaking during that week a month later it's going to mean nothing you know so so when you go and this is what the possib specializes in is you go when you go into the inner negative belief and you expose the survival strategy which is maybe to be shy for be shy or or be the over you know over the-top you know attention vampire Seeker attention seeker by going into that you're able to expose it I like it the good mush is like a card game you know you're holding your poker cards every card game you don't want people to see your cards that's the whole game no matter what game it is so here you're holding your card cards everyone keeps their cards close to the chest right except with inner negative beliefs our cards are so close to the chest we ourselves can't see it what's the OU what's the outside of the card what's the outside that's the part everyone gets to see right that's this is what I'm going to let you know about me that I'm shy and stay away or this is what I'm going to let you know about me that I am God's gift to social socializing yeah um this is who I am the overachiever work olic or this is who I am the procrastinator you know bum and that's the outside of the carts but in the in the possible you we have this moment where we do something called an emis talk it's called emis talk so I guess the sarim in the room have to play ashaz em emit so the EM talk is when you take your cards and you put them on the table and you're just like I'm calling my own Bluff here you don't have to have that with anyone you can just do it personally like privately and yourself it's a process and and this is what I've been saying about myself to myself this is what I've been telling everyone else about myself that's the outside cards I'm putting them on the table and guess what then you go wind up at some event and they say can you get up and say a few words and you're like you got it because hey why not you know I'm here to I'm here to express I'm here to you know we're called human beings in Torah called MERS we're called speakers expressors and so if someone asks you if you'd like to speak in the old days it used to be like oh I don't even know what I would say now you just get up there and do it you know or the other guy who always gets up to speak but he like sucks everyone's energy out and he's like you know he's exhausting to to in how he draws everyone's attention every second you see those guys when they're like uh you know doing their little YouTube short or Instagram they're like way over the top the whole time just in case you might stop paying attention you know and I've called some of those guys who are friends of mine influencers that are friends of mine I've said to them like you can use that voice maybe once every two minutes for one line but you know you don't need to do that like we we're listening you know but again they're not those aren't possu graduates most of those guys but you see when a possu graduate what possible you graduate wow they graduated the whole course yeah they're called graduates we're having our graduate shabbaton coming up I have a Jerusalem seminar soon and uh and I'll be in I'm I the five satellites are London um Jerusalem obviously and uh we have uh Lakewood where are you Rabbi where are you located Queens New York Queens yeah they they want to bring us to the five towns you know eventually and anyway we have Brooklyn yeah Brooklyn and Muny you know I I once did a one in the five towns in Long Island and uh guess what happened was really funny um what happened well number one what happened was we didn't Market it properly so people didn't really known the five towns so I show up there I come into this Mansion where we we were being hosted and and guess who's in there it's all like very very important rabbis from all over New York none of them from the five towns and you know what they were all doing there they all wanted to do the seminar somewhere where they wouldn't have to see everyone from their local town and when they got in that room and saw the other rabbis they were like oh no but we had we had such an amazing seminar it was great that the greater the tourah scholarship of the people in there and the more healthy normal they are the power more powerful the work is it's really for healthy how does one hear how do we hear about upcoming seminars RAB Yom Glazer people just go to people can just go to rabom of.com or or they can go to the Poss you.org just launching a new website on.org rab.com sounds so exciting RAB this is amazing so wait Rabbi what what is the greatest tip you could give to us to achieve the possible you if it would be one tip obviously there's a whole seminar but if will be reg they say on one foot on one foot I think it's I think it would be to know that your deepest need is love and and it's also everyone else's deepest need and because there's no way to know someone would reciprocate if you were to give your love the chances are you're really guarding yourself quite a bit from uh being exposed or vulnerable because you're not feeling safe enough to share your love and to have it with someone with others but because everything works vibrationally in the world if you're saying I'm unsafe like if you're saying to yourself I'm unsafe that vibrates out it it goes straight out to the other and so I'm not going to be vulnerable with someone who's saying they're unsafe imagine you see a big muscular guy looks like he just got out of jail big muscles and wearing a black tight t-shirt and he's it's written on his T-shirt it says I'm unsafe he's walking towards you on in you know Lower East Side what what what would you do you'd cross the street like get away from the guy you know what I would do I give him a big hug and I'd say to him oh brother I'm so sorry you're feeling unsafe you're safe with me we're all projecting unsafe we whatever it is whatever that inner thing is whatever that inner negative belief is that's what we're projecting vibrationally people pick it up and so that that's the one tip I'd like to give everyone is that to know that your deepest need is love and so is everyone else's and the more you hold back the more everyone else is going to say I'm not getting vulnerable with someone who who's who's radiating a vibration of that they're unsafe they they're Miss they're not getting it they you understand you get what happened here rabing this it's a very deep deepish it's a deep idea but when you're feeling like you're not going to risk vulnerability because you don't feel safe what you're putting out there is that you're not safe so what's the what's I didn't get the tip yet this this was all to get you to the tip the tip is the tip is to love anyway courageously put your heart out there and be the most loving person everywhere you go go to an event be the most loving person the event you go to business meeting be the most loving person at the business meeting don't act like an idiot you know be normal but but make sure that you did not leave any location without having put your heart into it with real feeling and care and love and connection maybe use the word connection if love sounds like too much but you come in there everyone felt your connection you go do that and what does it do it sends a subliminal message which is the fancy word of saying subconscious it sends a subliminal message to everyone present that you're safe and watch what happens if you play this game that I'm teaching right now you will become a magnet you will become a maget you are the Sea of Love And everyone's going to come swim I do this I walk into sh you know what I think I see so many people I think to myself I love every single person and I do this all the time and uh it in mamash it it gives you I don't even know what it is I guess uh it's the possible you it makes you uh possible I I agree with you 100% R Glazer and I feel through the screen so uh love this Torah talk it's amazing but we have a minog a custom a final message for our broad audience RAB Yom glaz there's so many gems we appreciate it okay final message all right um um you know this whole time we've been talking about my seminar and by the way I've have multiple leaders lead leading it in different cities I'm not the only leader of it and there's about as I said like 75 people working there now with all kinds of professional coaching and developing a coaching school as well um the final message you ready for this message this is the message the m is that we're all in a seminar always anyway who seminar life is a seminar it's God's seminar we're all in God's seminar and he's pushing but you you know what we're doing to the poor people at the seminar that's why you got to be a healthy normal to come you got to be a strong generally successful normal person to be in my seminar if someone even has like like remotely serious problems I send them for therapy come back when you're healthy you know because what we put you through is a simulated ordeal of personality and and identity so you got to be pretty strong to go in there to begin with to get the tear down in order to rebuild properly the um you know you got to be a strong person in there so what here's my the takeaway that I wanted to share with you is that we're all in God's seminar this is God's seminar and he's pushing and punching and poking and you know and we're developing and we're developing and we're developing we're developing and and we're becoming greater and greater but here's the issue life has sped up in the last years you know couple hundred years Industrial Revolution the enlightenment the secularization the all the technology we don't have time for his seminar anymore meaning by the time you would go through his seminar work through the things you had to work through your kids are already married but you mess them but you messed them up because by the time you got to the to the clean living that this that God's seminar is supposed to get you to before you graduate in other words before you die because the graduation of God's seminar means you died so the by the time you get cleaned up and we all know that we all everyone has like a grandparent or maybe a multiple grandparents that like became so sweet at the end all their fears and what anyone thinks are gone they've notice they all they call it losing their filters because they'll say crazy stuff you know they just say whatever they want why are they saying whatever they want because they don't care anymore what anyone thinks they've been through God's seminar so you understand so thing is we don't have time for that seminar anymore there's too much damage on the way relationships marriage business neighbors community members like we don't have time for your for God's seminar so God sent me and other seminar leaders out there we what we do is we take you for four days and create a simulation of life so we can speed up the process of the cleaning out of things that just don't belong there yes you don't need my seminar they're going to go away when you turn 70 but you don't have time for that people are counting on you and it's irresponsible and you want to know something if if someone could have 1% growth in this seminar 1% I'm off I want them to get 100% And I will spend every seminar and all my followup staff we're doing everything to create 100% but if you got 1% it's worth every penny it's worth every penny you're worth every penny and and the you know and the seminar is not cheap unless you're wealthy then it is cheap but if but it's not cheap for most people and whenever they tell me that it's hard for them I tell them you're worth it and I tell them also and don't think you need 100% success you get 1% of this if you got to bump up your game by 1% then you're obligated to be there and I'd gladly hand back anyone's money who felt like they didn't get bumped up in a significant way I'm not out there for money that's for sure out there to help people which is all I really do I don't have time to count the money I'm either I'm either uh you know I'm just basically on airplanes every two weeks so I sit on airplanes then I stand in front of people for two weeks then I get back in an airplane come to Israel I do get on my mountain bike and then uh I'm I'll only be here for like a week before I start a Jerusalem seminar next week then I'll have a week off and then I got Lakewood and then you know and then I got myy and then another week off it's like I been Bally take a week off sometimes Glazer so inspiring give you to continue helping doing for the Jewish people doing good things we should be we should marit that you don't come to America we come visit you with the with the complete Redemption take us home we want we want to thank raber for an amazing Torah talk we had the possible you once again we encourage everyone to check out the rabbis site Rabbi yov and the possible you right.org and the.com okay the.org okay and we want to thank everyone for joining us for yet another amazing episode of kazak's Tor talks with special guest rabto all the way from in Israel uh we are on 8:30 PM Eastern Standard Time Tuesday nights k.org as well as all the podcast players and a special shout out and thank you to our friends at Torah anytime for hosting our uh Torah talks a special thank you to daily giving a dollar day goes a very very very far away and of course all 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