After Hours with Rabbi Yaron Reuven (19)

[Music] any questions yeah um according to the Torah 613 M vot and recently signs revealed according to what says that the ligaments and the in the body amount to 6 63 some people have different opinions they say it's more or less but nonetheless 63 is a very common opinion if you will in a way that seems to allude that the the human body itself besides the fact that according to other research that have published on Torah and Science and anent wisdom name of is in the human DNA okay besides that fact it seems to to the fact that the amount of the Theos and ligaments and organs in the body um is is like saying the optimal human being is a Jew of course the I'll give you something I'll give you something more Shalom he said the following each time a Jew performs the mitv in essence he's keeping the world Alive by performing The Commandments of the Torah in essence a person in a very simplistic way is showing his honor of God someone that keep Shabbat he's not keeping Shabbat for any other reason if he's smart other than the fact that he's honoring God if he keeps Shabbat because it's convenient for him he's a fool if he keep Shabbat because he has nothing to do he's a fool the rambam says that a righteous noahide is one that fulfills the seven laws of Noah because God said so and that rightous noahide is considered among the wise people in the world but if a gentile keeps the very same SE seven laws not because God said so because his common said said so don't murder makes sense don't commit adultery makes sense don't worship some statue makes sense and so on and so forth he purely rationalized the seven laws he says I'm going to keep them because it makes sense the rambam said says not only is he considered now one of the fools among the people but he also does not have the reward he has no the reward is not fulfilled in the mitv the reward is knowing the reason why the reason is God said so so yes there are special tasty ways to know that there's different things different benefits of the mitzvah kosu food is healthier and Shabbat is healthy for your mentality to relax and learning to is good and all these different nice things but in reality the only reason you keep the MIT is because God said so so now by definition Rael says honor implies the recognition that not all things and not all people are of equal value because if all things were of equal worth it would be impossible for one to say that he should honor one thing over the other by definition honor means that there is different values for different things by definition honoring God is politically incorrect because the politically correct mentality warped mentality the liberal mentality the Lefty mentality that we live in today says no we're all equal we're all equal no we're not all equal someone's a sadik someone's a someone is poor someone is Rich someone is nice someone is not nice someone deserves this someone deserves that that difference is very important for a person to know because if a person understands the significance of diversity then he can use it as an underpinning reason to honor hasem because that's how the world functions this is in we live in a world where people think that fulfilling and following what the says is a good thing people are convinced they're convinced it's the right thing to do that's why there's such a big reward if you go against it because the Jews are not supposed to be the most populous the Jews are not supposed to be the most popular being a Jew is not supposed to be easy being righteous is not supposed to be easy but that's the RO so when someone understands the significance of being a Jew if they're really a Jew if they're a Jew already and they now finally realize the significance of being a Jew when they the next time they say I'm grateful AEM they shouldn't only be grateful to AEM that he put back the soul into their body even if they have pain even if they have Agony even if they're poor even if they're rich even if they're single even if they're whatever they shouldn't be only happy because they're alive they should be even extra happy that they're one of the very very special unique people in the world that Hashem created the world for which means that not a single person in the world that's a Jew should have a single moment wasted on some on unhappiness why you're a Jew that's already a reason for you to be happy now even more so for those that want to be Jews they want to convert unfortunately some of them suffer a disease it's called complaining they don't stop complaining yeah but it's hard yeah but it's expensive yeah but it's this yeah but it's that yeah but it's this yeah but it's that do you realize what it means to be a Jew if you understood what it means to be a Jew you wouldn't waste a second complaining why you realize that you're not only going to be able to inherit a huge reward but you'll actually be able to see it because becoming a Jew happens in this world you go into a mik you come out of the mik finished you're a Jew you are now a reason for Hashem to have the whole world do you know how significant that is so when you really understand the significance of being a Jew doing the mitvah becomes easy doing the mitv becomes a pleasure you want to put one bigger than your head why I want to show to I'm proud of being a Jew why would I hide being a Jew do you ever see a king hide himself you ever see a prince hide him no no I'm not a prince I'm a I'm a rapper no no I'm not a prince I'm a uh work at supermarket that's right I work for Bitcoin Incorporated I'm not Prince no no I'm not no no no I'm not I'm not I'm not a princess no no no I work for the shoe store you hav see such a thing is that even a thought is that a concept is that it's a joke someone that's a Jew someone that understands the significant of a Jew puts their crown on their head the man puts a keeper put diamonds on it if he could he put diamonds inside the that's enough of a reason for me to be happy a woman that puts thinking for a second what anyone else says she start laughing at them why are the peasants making fun of me why are the peasants making fun of the queen do you realize what I'm a Jew I'm a I'm a I'm a princess I'm God's daughter what do I care what you think of my on my head or my scarf or my hat on my head what do I care what you think you're not even part of the reason why hasm created the world you're making fun of me and even if you are you're a fool because you're not following what Hashem says you're not appreciating the fact that you're a Jew you're embarrassed of being a Jew you're so embarrassed you want to be a you want to look like them you want to act like them you want to spend money like them you want to do everything they do you look up to presidents of the United States you look up to baseball players and basketball players and all the instead of looking to up to raashi r r AKA mosu all the greatest people that ever lived what do you look up to Nobel Prize winners you have you have a vision that's backside what do I care what you think what do I care what you think of my what do I care what you think of whether modest or not modest who cares who cares what you think you see backwards you see backwards and this is how you know the difference between truth and lies when someone complains to me about one of the things that we said in a sh it's always God's opinion and will continue to be I immediately know that they know it's true when they complain they take the effort to write me a Milla of a email they take the effort to write me a text message that takes space in my phone they take the the effort to send me a letter in a mail they take the effort to send me a video they take the effort to call me 9,000 times until I finally answer and once I answer tell me tell me what's on their mind I know immediately they're full of it immediately immediately I know they're full of immediately I know they agree with me 100% immediately they can say any curse word they could find or create it from the vocabulary they could say whatever I know immediately they agree with me why because if it was so obvious that it's not true it wouldn't bother them if I told you guys you know what from now on I want you guys to look at the sky and agree with me that it's pink it's pink you're going to go outside you say hey think your color blind it's blue no no no it's pink it's pink no it's blue it's pink it's blue pink blue okay forget I'm not going to now even debate this I'm not going to continue debating him it's pink it's blue it's pink it's blue I see it with my own eyes it's pink it's blue you're not going to debate me there's no debate you see with your own eyes it's blue so it doesn't matter what I say it carries no significance cuz you know it's false when will you debate me if I say it's this shade of blue and you say it's a different shade of blue which means that in essence it all depends on where you stand it all depends of where this and we that we technically can both be right but you're not going to fight me tooth and nail and call me this and call me that cuz you yourself know it's possible that I'm right it's possible that I'm right so the only time you're going to Def fight me tooth and L is if my opinion bothers you because it's true and yours is wrong and the fact that my opinion is right because it's God's opinion it also obligates you because if it was simply my opinion who cares what I think who am I but once you realize oh he just he just said what God Said I have to do that then I don't like it I have to go fight him I have to go get him to change his opinion so I could use him as a listen guy I didn't listen to you because he said said the other thing that's the thing guys that's the that's the whole argument here people fight whether it's in lectures or emails and so on usually they're the ones that going to do Chua eventually usually they're the ones that going to do Chua it's actually good sign sometimes they fight if they're fighting for the truth if they're just fighting you know because they just have nothing to do in their life it's a different story but the point is is that when it comes down to significance of people significance of the creation yes when you're a Jew you have all the reasons to be proud or all the reasons to be ashamed depend depends if you're honoring AEM and you're looking every single day to serve him you should walk around with your with your crown you should walk around with your head high and proud not that you have this and this and this that hasem chose you and you're able to fight the you're able to overcome your desires you're able to be different you're supposed to be different you're proud that you have a you're proud that you have a you're proud that you you're proud that you have to learn to you're proud of the mitv the MIT become fun why that's what makes you you that's What Makes You Prince that's what makes you a princess no one wants to go back to working for the super Super Market once they told them listen you can be princess or work for the supermarket no one wants to go back to the supermarket even if they like their job so that's the thing when you actually understand that there's a significance here you're going to do everything you can to be a Jew whether you were born one you converted to it or whatever it is is irrelevant and that's why the rambam answered in a letter that he got from a convert named aadya the name of the convert was aadya um and he told him that you know you have all the reasons in the world to be proud to be happy to be this you chose God you're higher level than someone that was born without choosing in essence that was chosen by God you chose God you overcame a yet that's beyond the natural to Supernatural so that's the reason why converts are considered so high in the eyes of hem so once a person understands that being a Jew is something that it's the greatest thing in the world all the me will become easy and even the ones that are hard at the end of the day you know okay listen it's hard I got to do it why that's the role of a prince that's the role of a prince says it's only hard because I still don't understand how significant it is to be a Jew it's only hard because I still don't understand how significant it is to honor my Creator it's only hard because I don't understand how significant the punishment is for not doing my job that's the only reason it's hard so no one here is willing to risk their kids' lives for any friend no one here is willing to risk their own lives for any friend no one here is willing to risk their kids' lives for any parent for any brother for any boss for any partner for any amount of money no one's going to put their kid on little Coan here give me $10 million take the kid no normal person is going to say yeah go do what you want with my kid for 10 million bucks no one no normal person would do that so why you going do with your own eternity why are you so worried about what people think if what they think is what God thinks if God thinks that then obviously you were wrong to begin with but if what they think is just simply what they think and the only thing that's that's in the way is your because you kind of like it you're attracted to it but you know it's wrong anyway then obviously you have to overcome it that's what the reward is that's what the big priz is for next yeah go um um going to back a little bit to the talking about illness applying to this concept of today so what is the view beside of being natural right what is the view from the point of of the purpose of has to call our attention and illness can be uh seen first person to ever get sick mentioned in the Tora isob I'm sorry is um and um takino lost his vision and eventually died and the are saying the reason why is because they asked for it why he said listen before a before the generation of abam people didn't age people didn't age so a 20-year-old and a 100y old look the same they both looked like 20-y olds but then one day a person would do UPI would sneeze and die so no one knew it was time for him to die he was 100 years old he was 200 years old whatever the age was that they were dying at the time so said to hm hem we need some type of indication to prepare so says I agree with you you'll be the first one that ages so was the first one that looked like an old man you fast forward a couple of generations his son and grandson and they say well listen Okay the age but still abah lived 175 years lived 180 years yob I believe 147 years so not everyone's living an exact number we need something else as a sign we need something else says you're right sickness why sickness because sickness reminds a person that their time is limited sickness is a reminder of a person to finalize their things their will their who where their inheritance is going to go to what different Deals they have to finalize who to say goodbye to who to say this who to apologize to to do chuv and so on and so forth so much so so much so the say that every single time a man gets a new gray hair a new gray hair he should think about it and realize that in sh they're calling you oh how are you hey how are you gray hair how are you you're coming here soon you know you got a gray hair it's text message what before WhatsApp for WhatsApp they send gray hairs why you coming here soon how much soon 20 years 30 years 50 years 100 whatever it is soon so that's the point so sickness carries that weight other things that it talks about sickness is the fact that it's part of part of the CH of a person any type of suffering that a person has whether it comes from loss of money loss of health or anything else that causes him suffering it's a form of repentance uh for sins that they've made and the reason why is because any type of suffering in this world carries a magnitude of weight in the next World meaning that a person for example that loses money I don't know whatever a lot of money is considered these days let's say for example a person loses $100,000 okay they lose $100,000 usually a person lose $100,000 and that's all they had so let's say all their money or half their money half their money they lost that person depends how much he valued money if he is what's considered normal today which means that he valued money a lot he may want to commit suicide even though it's $100,000 or $10,000 I mean there's some people that lost ,000 want to commit suicide depends it's all relative but if a person loses half all of their money and they valued money as if money was their life they may literally want to lose their life because they think they just lost their life on the other hand if the person is somewhat stable and they realize that there's more to life than just money they still could be very very upset they could get depressed they could they uh you just be upset for a very long period of time and so on and so forth now to that second option the somewhat normal person not the suicidal person the somewhat normal person if you came to them and you said listen you have five minutes to Live 5 minutes before they lost the money before they lost the money they have the money they have 100,000 100 million 100 billion whatever they have richest guy in the world regular guy whatever it is you have five minutes to live I'm drct so and so I just looked at you I know for sure you have a disease you have a this you have a that you breath in five minutes oh you see oh it's four and a half minutes while I was telling you the sentence we already lost half a minute oh you have four minutes okay what can I do oh I happen to have this little medicine that I got from Bangladesh and I brought it to you and you could buy it from me how much everything you have I'll leave you 10 bucks you get coffee how much is everything how much we checked little lawyer comes out of the closet oh we checked your accounts you have uh 300 Bitcoins you have some stocks you have some a bond you have an IRA account you have a 401k you have a car you have a this you have a plane you have that you have total net worth of $150 billion we'll leave you 10 bucks for this little potion oh and by the way this little potion cost us 10 bucks also but we're going to make a lot of money off of it you're buying it or not yes of course yes every single person yes every single person on planet Earth will not think about it twice why you want to live you want to live so when a person understands that in the Tor money is considered damim it's called means Bloods meaning the Tora says knows the for money knows the for possessions for material he says people spend their lives chasing material but then when they want to get their lives back sometimes material can't save them before you spend the next $5,000 or $110,000 on a car you should think about wa I worked for this5 $10,000 for 3 months is this navigation system really worth three months of my life are these rims really worth three months of my life is this am I going to take this to G I take this to G what am I going to do with this so the point is is that when a person is told from sh they say listen you made a sin oh when when I did I came to lecture on Sunday I came to lecture on Tuesday I came to lecture on Wednesday I came to so many lectures I have time to sin no no no before the lectures before the Le before you did Chu you made a sin what' you do oh remember that day that you didn't made a sin with a girl you were with a guy you went to this you went to that you made a sin and hasem has ultimate amount of love for you he loves you so much he love you so so much he created the entire world for you but he can't be a liar he loves you so much the entire globe the entire universe the Sun the moon the stars the ones you know the ones you don't know the other worlds the ones you see the ones you don't see the ones under the ones over everything was created for you he loves you so much and he's been willing to wait for you to do Chua for this sin because he loves you but you must do Chua because if you don't he'll be called a liar and that cannot be because a stamp is AIT so you must do Chu now since you haven't done it times up you haven't done it we gave you to do until today till today you had to do CH came to sh says he didn't do CH he didn't do it AEM you must kill him that's that's that's the punishment for that specific sin you must kill him the Torah says hasem says but I love him I don't I don't want to kill him I don't want to kill her ah I got an idea it's something else that's worth just as much as life money okay how much money does he have give me all of it we're giving it to the other guy give me all the Bitcoins give me all the stocks give me all the bonds give me all $150 billion dollar give me I'm giving it to the other guy why so he can have life you have real life if a person knew that the money that they lost every time they lost money whether it's 150 billion or $150 in essence they just got life what would they still be upset would you still be unhappy would you say why why you take it why' you give it to me if you're going to take it anyway you know like you one of those like upset what is you doing hem don't even give it to me next time you have a debate with if talk to you back or we say it's the best thing that I have happened to me Shem gave me life how I saw it how I saw it how he took all my money that's says so sickness has a lot of weight sickness is a ton of weight good question good clip we're g make clip out of this now next next one in a situation like this if somebody knew that he was going to die and he had the option really and I speaking Yeah is any obligated to what spend every dollar he has to continue living of course of course he's obligated to spend every dollar he has to continue living but I but it's not it's not necessar it's not necessarily based on it's just human Logic No person in the world would re would consider it twice you know uh a um yeah I can't say that uh the uh the um Guy what's his name atheist imbecile but h no no that guy is just going again oh no there's the uh the other guy the um jobs jobs the guy Steve Jobs the guy Steve Jobs he was a uh known atheist known atheist and uh but at the end of his life he says that uh he believes that there's a Creator at least some people say he said that but anyway um I mean at the time he died and where the value of the stock was Apple stock was which is a fraction of where it is today I believe I mean either way it was where somewhere close to maybe between 6 And1 billion maybe more but how much is a um like a roast roast sometimes you go to a kosher store nice piece of roast could be like 50 60 bucks right roast like 50 60 bucks sometimes 70 80 tops 120 tops 120 depends how big depends how big right PS are big some you get for Less 20 30 bucks but in general it's 50 60 bucks usually at the ones I buy a few times that's bigger than your liver the roast is bigger than your liver normal size liver it's smaller than that $60 $70 roast it's probably half the size even meaning that a little piece of meat if it's not Kosher it's even cheaper obviously it's fraction of the price a piece of meat worth maybe 12 13 bucks in a non koser Market liver he couldn't afford you 10 billion doll but he couldn't afford 10 bucks worth of meat why Shem said no Shem SS whatever liver you're going to put there that you can buy with 12 billion it's not going to work why time to die problem for him is that he died not believing in a Creator it's serious problem to have so the point is that sometimes sometime huh he was Will to his and he was right sometimes a person has all the money in the world and he's willing to give every single penny 122 billion he would have been willing to give for that $10 piece of meat knowing that a $10 piece of meat to everyone else is worth 10 bucks to him it's worth anything why it gives him more life he can breathe one more day one more hour one more weak it's Priceless to him so it doesn't need a it's just every human being every animal even a horse a cat a lizard a fish a fly everyone wants to live no one just says oh I'm going to die no one says that people that commit suicide are mentally unstable so they're not considered like the rest of us they're not considered as there's someone that lost it it um for whatever reason or another the point is is that every normal person every person that's stable is going to want to live every animal that table is going to want to live even if the animal knows that it's going to have three legs instead of four it's still going to try to live even if the guy knows that every single minute that he's alive is going to be more pain he's still going to take another breath so it's not like the movies where they say oh goodbye and the gu it's not that it's not that not that like why and guy no nobody does that easy I mean it's finished because the hardest one is the one that burn it takes more time have to be more more the other way are easy that's why they Pi that it's fast fast it's one move and it's over point is is that all of us want to live because life is very precious it's more valuable than any amount of money it's more valuable than any amount of diamonds it's more valuable than any amount of anything but but there's also a price for it it's more valuable than everything else but there's a price for it what's the price you have a responsibility says I give you something that's priceless but eventually you are going to have to pay why how you treat this life that I gave you you treated this life you treated this life like you were supposed to where you used the gift that I give you and at the very least you honored me at the very least you respected me at the very least you followed what I said good deal you'll get that times a zillion better eternally you don't you're ungrateful you take what I give you and you use it against me I gave you hands in order for you to give you use those hands to go steal I gave you eyes to go read use those eyes to look at IM modesty I give you lips to say prayers you use those lips to curse me I gave you legs to go to shoe you use those legs to go to the strip club you use everything that I gave you against me use everything I gave you to dishonor me there's a price for that also how long same price also Eternal some things are temporary a year two years five years 10 years a thousand years whatever it is but some things are Eternal depends either way there's a price and that's why the verse in Psalms said these have you done and I kept silent meaning you lived your life you did what you wanted and I was quiet you thought that I was like you you thought just because I'm not punishing you or just because I'm not rewarding you like you think I should be rewarding you I'm like you I'm not I will now punish you and laid clearly before your eyes everything you did I didn't forget everything you did wasn't erased everything you did is accounted for I'm going to show you all of it it and you're going to sign off every single time yes hasm I agree and that's why they say inom in Gom each one of the people each one of the people that's there each one of the that's there that's suffering horrible horrendous horrendous pain is saying Hashem you're right as they're suffering pain hasem you're right what they know the truth you could lie to the rabbi you could lie to your wife you could lie to your husband you could lie to your kids you could lie to everyone in this world you can't lie to AEM so that's that's the thing so it's knowing that there's a price is the whole point of this mishna last night's price is one thing tonight is to last night's just to show you a different part of it tonight's is to show you that it's common sense it's common sense to know that there's a cost there's a price for everything and why yes many of us come to J and from MH we we heard that we we learn that we receive a new and we have now a BL slate okay if hasem is not punishing us for passings prior to crossing over then what happens about sometimes memories of past sins that we have not that we enjoy them but this memories remain what happens with you don't get punished for uh you know most thoughts unless you take especially if you don't take action um if those thoughts regardless of whether you're convert or your natural born Jew if those thoughts are something that happened after you've done Chu for it in essence this is a test so says a person needs to watch their eyes in the morning so they don't see problems meaning they end up having dreams uh you know sex dreams and things of that nature at night and end up wasting seed now if a person looks at a NE modest woman during a day on the internet at work in the streets whoever and he stares at the woman or he doesn't immediately look away if you immediately see and then you look away that's not going to be imprinted in your mind but if you continue looking at them that's going to be imprinted in your mind and it's very likely to come back at a later time that later time may be later on that day that later time may be six years later either way it's imprinted like I said the camera stores everything now if that person ends up thinking bad thoughts because he's stared it's his fault it's not anyone else's fault it's his fault he saw it now in order for him to do chat to eliminate many of these thoughts he has to give AEM a reason what's the reason for him to start protecting his eyes once a person starts working really really hard really really hard to protect his eyes eventually gets to a point where those those thoughts become less frequent those thoughts become more random those thoughts instead of being a yet in order to entice you to sin again it's just a simple test to get you to another level the same thing is the same tool is used in multiple ways now to correct a little bit of what you're saying as far as the new soul is concerned the rambam specifically says that the soul of a convert is like a brand new baby meaning that your birthday your conversion date the day that you actually officially dipped in the mik is your official birthday you no longer celebrate celebrate your natural birthday that you were born into the world you no longer celebrate that birthday because it's not connected to you in any way shape or form in fact the next the ra says that you're not even connected to your family anymore that's is your biological family even if that family is your own Sons or daughters once you converted your inessence became a different altogether now that doesn't necessarily mean that you go and disrespect anyone you're not allowed to disrespect your family or not your family so so a person needs to understand that on one end getting the new soul is significant but it's not a get out of jail free card it's not a get out of jail free card that just because they're not related to you therefore you could you know dishonor them or not carry out your responsibilities and the reason why is because if let's say for example someone as a non-jew had children and now they converted and technically according to Al according to Hashem himself they're not really his children anymore they're not really this new soul is not the father of this child he still has to pay for them he still has to take care of them financially why because the say that if he doesn't then all of the other non-jews are going to say look these Jews don't pay for their kids they're not going to think oh no now he's not a Jew he's not really their father not looking at the rambam they're not looking at the AL they're thinking he's their father he just chose another religion just like they choose a different religion every other day one day they're Protestant the other one they're Lutheran the other one is Satanist who know what else every day there's something else every day there's something else they think that Judaism is the same thing they switch from every Tuesday they think it's the same thing in Judaism it's not the same thing in Judaism it's something actually spiritually that happens but nonetheless in their eyes in their eyes we actually do have to care in this case why because that could turn into a that could turn into a desecration of hashem's name where as a result of this newborn Jew not taking care of the children that he brought into the world hashem's name could be desecrated so you must take care of the name same thing goes with theft if someone stole money if someone borrowed money as a non-jew and now they converted they still have to pay it back the reason why is because you don't want the non-jews to say oh look Jews are thieves wait what do you mean but he stole as a n they don't see it that way they don't see it that way so you also have to understand other people's perspective and not necessarily Always by the book oh if it's this it's this no you have to also use you know there's other parts of the there's other parts of the wisdom that has to be it's an applicable version so when it comes down to um the uh a person's previous sins some of them some of the sins you have to fix you have to do chuva for if you if you're able to if you're able to if you stole you have to pay back if you did certain things you could you could make up you could fix fix them some things you can't fix like for example you can't fix that you went to a church one day can't fix it can't fix it but that's you're not going to be judged for why you're not going to be judged for it because you thought you were doing right not going to be judged for it the same way but thear does say something scary thear does say something scary about converts that because it's a sh of Truth we can't really hide it it's a reality does say something about converts it's very scary and what do they say is says that there is going to be a case against converts what's the case against the convert why did it take you so long you know it was true when you were 18 why' you wait until you were 35 to convert oh I didn't have any money so oh I didn't so why don't you convert why don't you find a way like you found a way to make a million bucks why don't you find a way to be a Jew you know it was true already why'd you wait so much time that's the case against converts that knew the truth and delayed it if a person as soon as they found out the truth they did everything they possibly can to convert it's a different case they don't have a case against them but many people delay the process or they're very laxidasical about the process no take my time yeah it's next year next month next this next that when I have money when I have a house whenever this whenever that it's like when it's convenient to be a king I'll be king that means you don't really know what it means to be a king me you don't know and that therefore you don't deserve to be with and that's the thing the conver need to understand is that to be a Jew already by itself is the reward of all rewards that's also something that Jews need to understand that are natural born Jews not just the converts converts usually have an easier time understanding this the Natural Born Jews are a little bit more difficult and the reason why is because the Natural Born Jew already has a whereas the convert while he's converting doesn't have a and even when he converts initially it's a very very small little miniature yet because he's still a baby just like the convert is he's a newborn he's a newborn just like a little miniature yet can I borrow yet no anything else yeah yes women women should definitely not look at any immodesty also uh women also need to protect their eyes all also not to the same level as men simply because women's minds and the creation of woman doesn't work the same way uh but nonetheless it is considered an ugly act it is considered an ugly act so a a woman does need to be modest uh not only in regards to what she looks at uh but also how she behaves how she speaks um you mean it's theas and the laws of of of mod go even into the extent of how you behave in the bedroom with your husband or wife so modesty is extremely significant it's of extreme significant value in Judaism uh because Hashem himself is modest all of the leaders that were righteous were modest uh it's it's something extremely extremely valuable which is the reason why when I see these so-called Rabbi leaders uh you know have pictures on the internet hugging their wives you know or or their you know or doing all the types of or even hugging some of their congregants that are female I think to myself this guy ever read the Torah at all did he ever what did he read a garbage pale book what did he read uh you know what did he read Pokemon what did he read I don't understand it's all over it's all over the place so modesty is of extreme importance of extreme significance if obviously viously some men in general they like to show their their bodies they walk around you know or they run around naked or half naked or whatever it is this is not a place you should stare at even as a woman even though you're not necessarily going to have the same thoughts as a man it's still considered an ugly act in essence a woman and a man should be focused on AB Our Father in Heaven the more you think about Hashem the less time you have to think about all the other garbage in the world you know more you think about of the honor of hem there's no time to sin to be honest with you there's really no time to sin if you're really busy honoring hasem there's no time there's no time to sin what you have you you wake up you pray you do whatever it is that you need to do to survive for your living you you learn a little bit you there no you go to sleep what what there's no time to say there's no time to get yourself into trouble that's why hasm gave you so many mitv to keep you busy so you don't sin if you're sinning that means you're also not doing the mitvah either so you lose on both ends you understand so that's the thing keep yourself busy you learn you know don't waste time but modesty is of significance importance a woman that's married must cover her hair now if Shalom a woman gets divorced or if the husband dies um then and she cannot uncover her hair she's not allowed to uncover her hair and the reason why is because you're not allowed to go down in Kus once you've gotten used to it so if she was covering her hair as a married woman even though now she's not going she's not married anymore she's still not allowed to uncover her hair why because she's not allowed to lower herself in Holiness CU she's opening up now a huge huge and I'll actually give me a question and I'll tell you guys another story really good story if you guys want right today yeah related um I don't remember Al by no it's not no 10 otheres of 10 different verses in the Tor 10 different verses uh in the Torah uh of Hashem innocence creating 10 different instructions 10 different instructions of Hashem creating the world world I don't remember reading anything specific that connects the two them it could be I could be I don't know I just uh I don't know uh of anything I I have all the commentary that I have uh with these books about it and I don't remember reading it but if there is if you could find it when you say that means punishment and rewards you talk about you talk about right sure no I mean everything in essence is connected I mean you can connect the red cow to your daytoday life you can connect anything in a Tora to to to all of it because T is like a single body for example so if let's say for example if someone has a toothache toothache toothaches is one of the biggest why because even though a tooth really is not even 1% of your body a tooth the size of a tooth is not even 1% of your body and the part that's in the tooth that causes pain is not even 1% of the tooth usually so tiny the little hole that you have that causes all this pain but nonetheless when you have a too thick your whole body can function why it's all connected it's all connected your brain everything is connected so the Torah is the same same aspect as as that meaning that every single letter every single mitvah every single sentence with enough knowledge can be connected to any other place in the tah any other place but did any of the that I learned from uh specifically connect those specific things to this no not that I know but I'm sure if I learned the two and I could connect it uh nonetheless and I'm sure other people can as well but as far as the basic commentary that was made on it did not make the connection but as far as the red cow for example this is one of the that the wisest man that ever lived said he doesn't understand it it's beyond him but yet in the talks about it says this is the law of the entire Tora instead of saying the laws of the cow the red cow the red heer uh is the laws of the red cow it says these are the laws of the entire meaning in reality in reality there's one major lesson you learned from the red cow what is it the MIT are an obligation regardless of whether you understand them or not why because the real reason for all of the mitv all of them is because God said so God said so that's the reason there's other things there's other reasons there's other but in reality just like you're obligated to follow the red cow and do what it's says in regards to the red cow you have to follow everything in regards to shabbat modesty this that whatever all the other laws are nonetheless because God said so and give you guys a understanding is there other questions yeah yeah and in reference to to a new convert that receives a New Soul MH um how does he or she fulfill that Commandment that Pro commandment of honoring her parents or his parents a convert needs to honor their parents their biological parents um not for the sake of honoring their parents but for the sake of not having many of the mitah that they have to fulfill because of the issues of and not because of the issues of The Commandments they had as a non-jew to honor their parents or to eat certain foods or to to be honest and so on and so forth you don't want uh desecration of hashem's name so in general you're supposed to honor anyone regardless of whether they are parent or not you're supposed to give people respect we're not a uh a people that disrespects others uh but if they gave you life physical life at the very least you owe them gratitude uh and be grateful now this has a line what's the line this line applies whether the Jewish or not even if a natural born Jew has Natural Born Jew parents there's a line there's a thresold of where the honoring of the parents ends and that is if they tell you to go against theem to go against the Tora there's no more honoring why at that point they're considered you don't have to listen to regardless of whether they're Jewish or not Jewish so if the non-jewish parent tells you to go to a church or the Jewish parent tells you to go to a reformed sh sh or a church or conservative sh you're not allowed to listen to them forget about you shouldn't you're not allowed to listen to them as a matter of fact I had a woman sent me a question yesterday uh she said her uh father uh got remarried and he married a non-jew and now he celebrates uh the exmas holidays of AAR and so and he has this AAR in his house and he wants his daughter and her husband and their and his grandkid uh to come visit can he can she go she said they're religious I said you're not allowed to go there why in the place you're not allowed to go not allowed to go not allow to go not allowed to be next to that not allowed why cuz that tree is not for decoration that tree is for actual not allowed to go into that house yeah but he's my father okay he can be your father without the tree yeah but he's going to get mad okay so let him get mad let them get mad you give somebody cold water usually they get less mad they cool off a little bit if not give them you know some time that cools off too if not they can smashed their head against the wall a few times that cools off too a few cures there a few cures for for for being mad few C cold water pills or smash your head against the wall a few times usually one of them Works try try the first two cuz the last one is little painful but it works works next issue of memory of the Oh I thought you were talking about smashing that against the W yeah the same on the same topic of memory of the past okay are subscrib to this person after he conver if you're referring to bad thoughts that a person had in previous before he converted to now I mean in general no it's not if just history things he did in the in the past that were not good things no I mean listen if it's if it's it depends if this thought is leading a person to sin then there is a question based on action if it's just I don't know the person killed a cat or something when he was six years old which is a sin for Jews um it's not necessarily as much of a sin for for non-jews but nonetheless still not not not something to do um and he thinks about it and now he's already a Jew for 20 years no it's not a it's not a problem uh because not going to he's not going to go killing a cat or anything you so all it all usually depends on if it leads to action if he thinks it's okay if he thinks okay to k then he probably shouldn't have converted he should have stayed a you know should have stayed a njw because we already have enough problems in nam we don't need more psycho moved to Thailand should have moved to Thailand where they eat the cats next next question okay so I'll give you guys a story I I read the story today it's it's a true story I forgot who wrote it it's real story the person that wrote the story is a very famous uh writer in the religious World in Israel I it escapes my mind who wrote it uh but for anyone that has like friends I don't know some people have friends and uh you guys are laughing it's true some people are friends it's not like you guys know friend friends withm some people are friends some people have friends and everyone that has friends really has like one friend it's not like the best friend it's not like a good friend it's like a little rotten little Cel friend little Cel friend little troublemaker friend little friend that's not modest little friend that reminds him of their you know before Chua self little friend everybody keeps one of those little alcoholic drug addict friends somehow so let's let me let me give you guys a story a real story happened happening right now what happened with this a very nice religious girl born religious in a religious home very religious family got to the age of marriage and found the wonderful husband who's an and they had an extraordinary marriage she says she's telling the story extraordinary marriage the honor between them the respect the love he would learn tah and and it would be a teacher and they would learn together and he had four kids life was amazing not easy but amazing one day because of difficulty with finance a husband made a mistake of his life and he told the honey you need to get a job maybe you should go work and this company even though this company is run by secular people she wasn't really for it well the secular people maybe they're going to this maybe they that he says Let's go ask the rabbi so they go to the rabbi and the Rabbi says yeah no it looks fine listen as long as you just work with women even if the women are secular it's okay don't worry you're already religious your whole life no one should be able to influence you the only problem this company should have is maybe you're going to make everybody do chuva you have the leniency to go work among everyone but you are the only religious woman in the entire company you have lenient you have no problem good luck it's bring money to the house your husband can learn t a lot great right she goes and she says that there was a woman there that was the manager older than everyone she was in her 50s and this woman was not religious at all in fact she was very very opinionated about religious people and yet she was wonderful person very nice everyone looked up to her and almost treated her like she was a mother and she got connected to her and they became friends and little by little some of the things that she was telling her started you know attracting her little by little she started befriending her and they got closer and closer and she started agreeing with her on some things she started listening to the music she listened to she started wearing certain types of clothes that she wore saying certain words that she says they're friends you emulate your friends but still she kept us out of the house house go to go to learn T very good life but one day a husband goes into her car and he he turns on the car and he hears non kosher music that she was listening to and he's appalled what is this this is not this is not what listens to music he's not saying she's walking around half naked took nothing music the woman didn't like it the wife didn't like it she was all of a sudden all of the lessons she's been learning from this 50-year-old friend of hers boss manager supervisor Idol role model whatever you want to call it all of a sudden the months and months at that point almost two years of friendship came out who are you to tell me what to listen to who are you to tell me what to do I'm the one bringing in the money I'm a strong woman I'm an independent woman I'm a this and I'm a that and I'm a this and I'm a that and the husband was shocked his tadika wife never spoke to him this way but today she sound like a different woman he didn't know what to do with himself unfortunately things escalated and got worse and worse and in the coming months Unfortunately they have to get divorced she continued going off the D the went off the clothes got tighter the shabbats got shorter and eventually disappeared the religion went into the waste basket but her friend nonetheless is still there in the beginning when she would visit our kids she really didn't want to and she tells a story says I can't regret anything more than not visiting and not being with my own kids and then I saw that my husband after some time decided to move on and he found a wife sik covers our hair covers our body honors God and sanctifies his name and is a very nice person and I couldn't say a bad word about her and one day when I came to visit my son and I wanted to take him with me and he said no IMA I don't want to go to the movie no IMA I don't want to go to this and I don't want to go to that I miss my old IMA she said I started crying and I couldn't stop but I continued following what my friend that was secular was saying and time passed and my husband got remarried and eventually they started having kids but his wife was so wonderful that even though I dropped off my kids there on there and I gave them more than what they should have done she was always happy to accept my kids she was always happy to take care of them like as if they were hers she was always happy to cover for me even though I didn't deserve anything and I can never say a bad word about her because she always did good for me I started to realize that I made a mistake but I can't fix it anymore my family's gone my husband's gone where am I going to go and one day this woman it's my husband's new wife invites me she wants to talk to me and she tells me she's sick she says I'm sick I'm very sick and I'm not telling you this just because I'm sick I'm telling you this because every woman knows a husband now even though he never told me anything I know he feels it I know that my husband still loves you I know that my husband never recovered from his childhood love from his first love even though he moved on and even though he takes care of me and he takes care of the kids and the new kids and the old kids and everything is great I know you still have a place in his heart and when I die I want you to marry him that's my last wish and she said I cried Non-Stop and when you think about it you should cry because I cried and I'm thinking about crying now please cry I hav't I never seen you cry have some mercy and the woman says I couldn't believe it this was like an angel on Earth this like aem's gift to some person that doesn't deserve anything person has desecrated his name non-stop for years and he just doesn't stop giving me gifts and the woman died shortly later and the rabbi and a lawyer came to me and he said you're part of the will will and the will said that she wants you to marry the husband and the husband cried and said he couldn't believe it and I told him I know it's true because she told me when she was still alive and I've already messed up for a very long time so if you'd have me the answer is yes so my husband asked me only one question are you willing to go back to be the original wife that I married and she said yeah I'm not wasting any more time I've messed up for long enough I'm being given a chance I don't deserve this time I'll do it right she did full CH and she got a chance that no one in the world can even imagine for tell this is a real story there so many you learned from this story where on one end you understand that hasem loves you so much he'll give you things you really don't deserve you really just simply don't deserve you have a question whether God loves you just look in the mirror you've made enough sins where you don't even deserve that myself yourself everyone he loves you so much but at the same token it's a price to pay for everything being a being a ungrateful person is not a good character character trait as a matter of fact the says it's one of the people that hasem hates as an ungrateful person but nonetheless also know that the root of all evil the worst thing in the world the one thing that breaks everything could be a simple tiny little tick a simple tiny colleague at work a simple tiny MIT cut on your head that you don't want to wear something small can ruin your life something small that friend that dress that stake that meeting that contract that client big people are judged based on small things as a Jew you're already big you'll be judge on small things why because those small things are the yet trying to infiltrate your system to ruin everything he starts as your friend at work that you even think is like a second mother to you do you even think is like wow is entered yet is entered be careful because if he Parks you may not be given a second chance will all be given a second chance some to do CH some to convert some to do both this time will do right right amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]