After Hours with Rabbi Yaron Reuven (24)

[Music] question yes related to the scene for example I mean of money have to to some particular uh acts of Life what is the cure any particular cure sure there's I mean there's in general Chua is is is different things so what is what is what is Chua Chua different things have different CH SOA says that the cha is bigger than but sometimes is necessary for cha sometimes is necessary for cha meaning if someone for example took money that doesn't belong to them whether it's because they overcharged a client and they stole money that way or they just took money out of somebody else's account that didn't belong to them or they stole a deal there's many many ways to steal Unfortunately today in today's world a lot of a lot of businesses that look like honest businesses are outright legal ways to steal legal ways to steal many lawyers that are supposed to fight for the honesty of the law are the biggest thieves in the world themselves when you spend you'd say oh how do you know when you spend a half a million dollars on lawyers you get to know lawyers and most of them are thieves I think all of them but I'm going to give K to the ones I don't know the ones I know every single one of them without without an exception every single one of them is a thief every single one of them whether it's for IRS or it's for regulation or it's for business deals or it's for whatever it is whatever you want whatever you want one after another thiefs why they charge you for time you didn't use they talk to you about some some you know they talk to you about nonsense and they charge you as if they're talking to you about business and so on and so forth I'll spare you my complaints the point being is that there are many businesses that have a front that look like honest but they're outright highway robbery so someone that stole the Tora says that person cannot enter GED why even if they kept Shabbat and they L they learned tah and they did everything they stole 50 bucks from somebody $50 not a lot of money it's not even dinner today $50 they go up to G for their Shabbat for their for the Tora that they learn for the for the everything that they did to go up to ganed oh do not enter what do you mean do not enter I kept Shabbat I kept everything yeah you have blood on your hands the money you stole is considered blood on your hands you have to come back in a g in a reincarnation to pay back the $50 you stole to who the guy you stole it from meaning the if the guy you stole it from did not forgive you he has to also come back one of the stories of the Bal shim B shto one time comes to one of his students and he says to his student listen I want to buy this horse from you I want to buy a horse from you he says look for anything for you goes okay I want this specific horse right here the guy starts crying hysterical he says have I 500 horses you have to dka pick this one dka you have to pick this one pick anyone else anyone else for the I don't want to I don't want to I don't want to go against my Rob but please pick a different horse goes no no no I want this horse Hades I want this horse the guy is crying go please don't take this horse for me he's the best worker I have all the other horses I have to feed them I have to Bath them I have to clean them I have to do everything just to get them to work this one asks me for work he doesn't stop working I have to convince him to stop working such a good horse if I sell him to you he's not going to work for me anymore goes I want dka this horse says you're the r can I do you want the you want the horse okay here's the horse take the horse cuz you sell it to me sell it to you then the B says to him he goes did you have a uh friend that died recently somebody that uh maybe ow you some money he says uh yeah yeah the guy from uh down the uh Road 30 minutes down the road was a good friend of mine and we did some business together but uh he owed me uh 3 Z ow me $300 and he died he didn't pay me back but it's no big deal he goes but if the fact that he didn't pay you back I mean do you forgive him or you upset that you're upset that he didn't pay you back no I mean we're friends for 20 years no big deal he didn't pay me $300 it's no big deal we made money together we did good together whatever he died it's his fault he died in his skin I have to be mad at him on top of him dying you have to be mad at him no forgive him he goes no no for sure you forgive him of course I forgive him he says say you forgive him he says I forgive him I forgive him I forgive him if you forgive somebody say forgive him I forgive him I forgive him he said those three words the horse died the guy had a heart almost he says what just happened he says your friend I knew he's in his was inside the horse is had to come back in a g in the horse and pay you back the $300 he didn't pay you back and he couldn't fix his T until you say until either worked for you until he paid you back or until you said you forgive that's why I wanted this horse but I couldn't do this unless I bought the horse from you unless I bought the horse unless it became my horse so now when a person has theft on his hands sometimes the theft is things that he knows so he know he stole from somebody you know you did something wrong to somebody you have to pay him back you have to pay him back if you have the money to pay him back then pay him back right away why because you think that you're going to get away with stealing 50 60 $70,000 from somebody and he doesn't care because he's a millionaire you're going to show up to sh with all say stay outside do not enter why you're blood on your hands for $60 for $300 people come back imagine for $60,000 do not enter so if you have the money pay it back as soon as possible do not wait do not negotiate pay pay as soon as possible now if you took from somebody you don't know guy disappeared and you made honest effort to find out who and what and when you made honest effort you made some phone calls you wrote some letters you sent some emails the guy disappeared this the ground swallowed him like kak you don't know where this guy is you took him you don't know he was a customer he was somebody you don't know who he is it was some deal you did 15 years ago and you know that you took an extra thousand you shouldn't have taken the blood's still on your hands problem is you can't pay it back so what do you do you take the ,000 and you give it take the ,000 you give it the why and Sh number one they see that you honestly were looking for the person and but that doesn't pass go yet go is you still have to return it just not to the same party hashm is going to worry he's going to manage that that money is going to get to the destination but either way you give can be to to somebody that's a needy it could be for T it could be for could be for it could be for different things but give it to don't give it to your wife your wife is notak your wife is Nota unless you're poor unless you're poor it's different story but the point being is that you have to give the money back you have to give the money back so if you did something dishonest it's okay you could still do chva for it there's no no no problems that also relates to people that are converts now when someone converts the rambam the rambam says that the person that converts is considered a brand new baby meaning that their new birthday becomes the day they dipped in the mik day they dipped in mik the brand new baby that's their new birthday you don't celebrate your secular Christian birthday anymore you celebrate that day you dipped in a mik as your new birthday your old birthday is complet completely unrelated to you it's like for a different person and your life begins a new from that day your baby fixed zero sins except sins that you can fix why if you if you committed some type of crime in the past you worshiped an idol in the past you can't fix it but that's not connected to the new soul it's not connected to the new Soul if someone stole on the other hand stole even though the sin itself of stealing is not connected to the new Soul you still have to give it back why because a new sin may be formed out of it as as a where people will say oh look this guy stole $1,000 now he converts and he pretends he's not the same guy see these Jews are thieves now they're going to blame all of Judaism or you're stealing from when you were still not a Jew so now it goes from stealing to what you went from you went from one to the worst so if it's stealing you have you can fix it and you have to fix it even if after you converted even though it's technically still not the same sin but if it's a sin that you can't fix can't fix it it's not related to you anymore it's related to an old it's not connected to you anymore but nonetheless the point is that you can do true well for everything is different different things have different stealing you have to give it back to the person or to the company if you can't you have to give it as um if it's wasting seed there's a certain Chua for that as well you have to give 84 the um arel says you have to fast 84 times for each time that you actually committed a sin some say 84 times only once some some say do it 84 times pretty much for every time you committed the sin which means permanently what's 84 fast you going to fast 84 times I don't think so unless you're the Aral since you're not the arizal you're not going to fast 84 times so what do you do you give Stak that's worth 84 meals so if each meal for you I don't know it's $10 just number sake then you have to give $840 how often as often as you possibly can to fix that sin for each time so a lot of people that are really serious about the which is right now the the that we're reading is about the of the a lot of people like to do different things to fix the fix the uh wasting seed that they've done before so a lot of people do the easy tun what's the easy tun the easy T of of fixing your breit is reading took a certain set of te of Psalms he said you read these and you fix your breit but what they didn't read is the rest of what he wrote the rest of what it said what's the rest of what he said that's just a f certain part of it just the first part of chuva just like chuva has four parts this is part one this is part one what is the other parts of chuva the other parts of Chua is the fast that the Aral said the 84 fasts which means that a lot of money has to leave your bank account and enter someone else's bank account in order for you to fix that sin that's just a reality so get used to it and again it's not easy it's not easy but even that is not enough even that is not enough why is it not enough why is it not enough because that fixes a sin that you made to a certain extent but the reality is we all know that if you did it once you did it twice you did it twice you did it four times did it four times you did it eight nine 12 50 100 thousand who knows how many times the reality is that even if you give $840 a month it's still not going to be enough this is why the ultimate Way ultimate way to fix the big sins shabat G all of these major major big sins is to get other people to do Chua other people do Chua and the reason why is because when you fix you did one tun okay you did one t 840 bucks I don't know how rich you are are but how many times can you do that even if you're a millionaire it's probably still not enough to take care of your teenage years so how many times can you do it so now on the other hand on the other hand if you take one CD cost you a dollar you give it to somebody you don't have to talk about you just tell him listen listen to this he gets to lecture number five on the CD that we have cd number two he guess he realizes that he has himself a problem he's been wasting seat for 15 years he only realizes today it's a problem he stops every single time you have a person that stops wasting seed you have a person that stops wasting seed each time he would have done it it's as if you did Chua for one of the times you did it which means he actually stopped now for the next 20 years that's 20 years worth of chuva for you now you don't know who's going to do who's not going to do so you take that eight the few do take $100 take $2,000 take $2 million whatever you have you get people to do Chua you arange election you give CDs you do a give Le do it for free I don't care it's not some bias that I have trust me I don't have a monopoly on a wasting Seed Market you have a uh you have a uh links for free you give it to people here free link watch this lecture why it's really good why you probably have this problem why trust me you do if you're an adult male you have this problem he watches lecture he realizes that he has an atomic bomb inside his house there's an atomic bomb he just realized that right now he has an atomic bomb he does Chua he does chuva you fixed yourself for certain amount of time you don't know how long he's going to go you don't know how long if he's going to do so you keep going you keep sending you keep doing as much as you possibly can to get as many people as possible to do CH and that's a much more difficult than said but that's the real T that's the real T get other people to stop of course of course there are certain things that you can do you can go to there's certain cabalistic things that if you lived in you would go to the of the MIM there's few MIM still in the world that you go to theet and during certain parts of their they say certain kavanot and certain names and you listen to it and you have make sure that you tell them to have you in mind and that fixes part of the kipa since this is really not relevant to 99% of the world I'm telling the basic easiest version to do it get other people to do CH you want to go to to fix something good luck but it's much easier to give somebody a CD or a link much easier so that for all those people that are worried about fixing their bre you can do it you can do it it's not impossible but you can't sit on your hands and expect it to be fixed can't say you ain't expect it to be fixed so Chua for stealing is one thing chva for wasting seed is one thing CH for violating Shabbat same thing as wasting seed every time even though you keep Shabbat right now it's very good but it doesn't make up for the 5 10 20 30 years you viated shabbat with a deficit they say okay thank you very much for keeping Shabbat good for you but you still didn't keep Shabbat for 10 years somebody has to pay somebody has to pay you get somebody to keep Shabbat they kept Shabbat for 10 years boom he paid he paid your balance so doing kiru is the best way to do to get people to do cha this is one of the biggest motivators for very very difficult industry very difficult business so getting people to do chuva is a big thing and again there's other sins that you do depends on the sin you ask me the sin I'll tell you how to do Chua for it but in general the ultimate way that's like a oneid fits all is to get people to do cha next question question girls in the back question debating the question anybody so okay so we're going to have another sh on uh Tuesday night in the Avent Torah in uh the breast center we're going to talk more about and and a few other things and uh in the meantime take take everything that we said to heart uh chuva is not easy but it's not impossible either the fact that you have the ability to do chva the fact that you're actually here and you're listening to the sh means that you have some because 99% of the population will never hear such a sh most people can go to sh t for 20 years and never know the significance of chuva never even know that they have to do Chua most people can live their whole life going to going to RA reading books reading this reading that never realizing they're the problem they have to do obviously if you here you're listening to you're listening to you have some but having some is just a ticket you still have to use it you still have to use it there still something that you're doing that wants you to do chuva for whether it's into marriage or Shabbat or it's wasting seed or it's your eyes or it's your this or it's your that or it's your kids or it's your wife or it's your neighbor or it's your dog or it's your cat something you have to do chuv for something we learned a lot of things today CH a lot of different things conversions and so on you have to take some of this stuff take it to heart take it seriously and we do CH I have one question oh just f up guy talking he was talking about self conversion selfon conversion yeah what do you mean self-con conversion somebody would convert himself if he lives in a country and he discovers the truth J in his and he wants to come close to a but he's unable to do so and say this is an option it's not something that is popular but nonetheless it's an option is this a serious question it is uh so okay so tah says tah says that if someone declares himself a navi if someone declares himself a prophet and they're not a prophet you have to kill them okay someone declares thems a prophet and then not a prophet you have to kill them now Torah that we have comes from Hashem who gave us his words through prophets which means that if someone adds something someone adds something to the Torah adds a law to the Torah he's not only declaring himself Prophet but he's declaring that everyone else is is not a prophet he's above and beyond being a n he's worse than n he's worse than a false prophet he's someone is a false prophet that added something to the toah so there's no such thing as someone just declares themselves as Jewish there's no such thing that's just a new law that people that are spiritually lazy declared for themselves to fit their inconvenience in order to do conversion you have to follow Al is you have to go in front of a bed the bed has to be comprised of kosher Jews it cannot just be anyone like some people think it must be kosher Jews this is the reason why conversion to reform or conservative uh are not acceptable according to according to the T this is also why conversion to some people that no one knows and no one heard of and who knows if they're kosher or not is also not acceptable according to because you don't know whether to judge them as kosher people or not because you yourself can't judge them as a non-jew so conversion could only be done through a certified recognized bed because that way you know this bed according to common knowledge obviously no one's going to know the other than God but according to common knowledge this is a kosher these are Kosher people and they know the law they know the intricacies of the law now I'll give you an example of what it means to know the intricacies of the law cuz some people think no it's just about money no it's how difficult really is it I'll tell you what it is one time someone came to me and he says I want to get married there a student of mine former student of mine I want to get married and I helped them a little bit with different things whatever long story short he I want to get married I said okay you want to get married this is good we just have to make sure you get a good Rabbi to be the rabbi that does the and he says no no I have a rabbi I have a rabbi he's going to do who who's the rabbi and he says uh oh it's the rabbi so and so which I know from my own experience the guy rash now I'm not if I start screaming to everybody this everybody's a rash no one's going to leave they think I'm boy crying wolf so I'm trying to figure out how do I get this guy out of this hole that he's in in a nice way because the guy he says GNA be Rabbi for is a wicked person you don't want that to be the person that does so I say uh is he uh certified to do this is one of the things you actually have to have a certification to give you don't need a certification there's no certification to be a rabbi to teach but if you want to be a you want to be a slaughterer you have to have a certification retical certification you want to you have to have certification you want to do you have to have certification be a judge for for different uh business disputes you have to have certification for certain things to be uh to check a woman that's uh sees a uh different spots in her uh in her area when she's checking for clean days or or and so on and she has certain spot she doesn't know if it's blood from the uh uterus or it's blood from an injury she has to take it to an expert she has to take it to a rabbi it's an expert that can tell the difference in blood from that part of the body or blood from an injury now you can't just take it to the local uh Butcher and says what blood is this you can't take it to a dentist you have to think it to somebody that's an expert need a certification and and so on and so forth certain things you have certain things you don't happens to be one of the things that has to be a certification you have to be be meaning an expert in the issue and he tells the guys like you have a certification n you don't need it you don't need it I know I did weddings he says I did weddings I know how to do it what do you do what's the big deal you guys what's the big deal got read from book you say Amen finished is already made you could buy it online for $5 you put the names even for free you can print ITA for free you put the names you read from aido finished what's the big deal does anybody know the big deal what do you need a certification to just what to print something on if you were talking about 3 four 5 six 7 hundred years ago certification why wasn't there was no internet C maybe you didn't have a cido maybe there was one cido in the entire town and it wasn't yours who knows but today with the internet with Rabbi Google who needs it I learned something from the story that was lifechanging the guy says the Rabbi says I don't need you don't need it I know everything I know everything I give you a wedding and I uh just days before days before the uh the wedding he's going with this other guy I asked him I said uh this rabbi did you show him did you show him your get did you show him your get from your previous marriage the get cuz he was married before you have to have a a g because if you don't have a g you can't get married again so I said did you show him the G from your previous marriage he says oh no he didn't even ask he didn't ask me if I was married before he didn't ask me if I was married I said you know without have without him having to get seeing in his eyes that you're allowed to be married he can now cause for you to bring a Mel to the world because you're married maybe your wife was married and so it could bring a m to the world no no no I know everything I know everything I know everything the guy says the Rabbi says says the guy doesn't even know he has to ask for a get because you were married before he doesn't know anything he's putting he's going to put the wedding he tell you to put the wedding ring on a woman day you're not allowed to touch he's about you're about to commit adultery you're about to do things you're not allowed to but the guy no I know everything I did weddings before we did weddings for so there are certain things that you can do there are certain things you can't do you need to know you need to know now when it comes to conversion you must know there's a law there a there AED has to be kosher people not just by somebody says that you have to be kosher people people they have to know the law who what when and how and they ask you questions and as a procedure if you can't do it because you live in Zimbabwe or you live in uh in in Tahiti or you live in some place that's surrounded by idols and you can't convert and you can't convert I'm sorry what can I tell you get on a ship get on a plane get on a chopper get on I don't know a dinosaur or something and and come to America come go to Israel and go there if you can't do it then hasm doesn't want you to convert you can't blame the rabbis for something you can't do it has nothing to do with money it has to do with the law that was written in Mount Si 3,300 years ago you don't like it you don't want to be a Jew anyway so for all of those people that are trying to take the law into their own hands and they decide they have a Jewish Soul they decide they're going to convert themselves they decide themselves these people that hem is not allowing them to convert why because they would be a problem now I saw some people online and you see them taking pictures of each other and themselves and so on and you see their exterior with the beards and the hats and the tiot outside and and and and they're celebrating Shabbat and celebrating sukot and all this stuff and they're not even Jewish and they talk to you in lingo oh yeah the Aral said this and this one said this and that one said this and the kip they all into cabala by the way they don't know what Aral actually means but they say Aral like it's like uh like it's saying UHA people throw names and throw terms and throw different things like it's nothing like it's no big deal they don't even have the minimum requirement for minimum requirement for that's why is not allowing them convert anyone that even thinks to themselves in their own mind for a second that they're going to convert on their own without using a bed that they will never convert they'll never convert why there will be a problem a problem child we don't we have enough problems we have enough problems you want to convert you have to comply with the Torah you want to make a new Torah go make a new religion somewhere else in your own Island or something with the Dinosaurs don't uh don't make a new Tora for us we have one Tor that's it you don't like it go somewhere else there's no exceptions being made there's no new laws we can't add we can't subtract you don't like it too bad you don't like it too bad what can I tell you it's not listen people like to go against me oh you're saying that that uh non-jews can't keep Shabbat you're this and you're that I'm the number one advocate for converts nobody loves converts more than I do nobody helps converts more than I do and I do it all for free to say I'm against it is is like but I'm not going to distort the Torah for you not going to change the Torah for you there's a way to do it there's a way not to do it I'm not going to change the Torah for you so people you want to convert come we want you only if you're righteous not if you're looking to change the law if you're looking to change the law go change the law on your own it's going to go away anyway those people don't survive anyway they don't survive anyway they uh they pretend to be Jewish for a little while eventually realize that they can't be Jewish why they don't really like it they just like the looks it's like you know like a certain style like a certain jacket oh you know back in the day I was when I was a little kid there was this uh band called chriscross crisscross is this two two cute kids that they wee their pants backwards they wear their pants back where you guys are probably too young I don't even know who these people are but anyway there was like hip-hop when hip-hop started pretty much 30 years ago 20 something years ago they wear their pants backwards and everybody white black yellow green everybody started wearing their pants backwards do you see anybody wearing their pants backwards now no why style faded away same thing with a lot of styles with the hat sideways with the hat this way the hat that way the beers this everybody did styles that stuff goes away when your Judaism is an exterior based religion when it's just you looks the moment you have a test it's gone even if you're a natural born Jew even if you're this even if you fooled everyone you cannot fool God eventually he's going to give you a test it's going to demolish your building just like he demol a Tower of Babel so why put yourself in front of that either be real or go away do CH Chu is m key to success it's a cure for all ailments it's a cure for all ailments but not if it's based on a lie not if your entire Judaism is based on just you liking to way the T outside or you like to wear the hat or you like to grow facial hair that doesn't make you Jewish or you like to cover your hair with a doesn't make you Jewish Arabs also cover their hair with they also they also have facial hair those have official hair so if the Isis was coming to you and says hey you're Jewish with the facial and and the keeper you say you're Jewish no no I'm an Arab like you the minute Isis comes to you you're still going to say you're Jewish no no no I'm not Jewish I'm really Christian but I like the way they look I'm really this Jewish is inside Jewish is inside Jewish is based on your your acts are you learning Torah nonstop are you doing what the Torah says if you're creating new laws because you don't like this and you don't like that you don't like the way this you don't like the way that stay where you are be a righteous Noah hide good luck to you what's the problem what's the problem you know as a righteous noahide you have GED as a fake Jew you have eternal righteous no fake Jew Eternal G doesn't end why be a fake Jew because fake Jew like the one without a conversion or converted himself that's a person that created a new religion that's a person that created a new religion and a and a non-jew that sins there's no like uh chuva and after that's it finished whatever hasem gave him as piece of him gets uh gets taken out the rest of it gets destroyed so why why why be fake for what be a righteous nor I don't convert don't be in between don't be for what what are you doing what that's why it shows anybody still thinks that way hasn't learned a little bit of Torah instead of learning Five Books of Moses instead of learning the basics what they learn the mystical stuff that's far away from everyone they learn about kipot everybody knows about kipa no one knows what it actually means kipa but everyone knows the word kipa oh yeah I'm making all these sins because of my kipa what your how do you know what is you know you know a late you know you know koser you know make something koser you know how to do properly what do you know you know where did you learn K oh no I heard it from some cabalistic uh article or some lecture why are you learning that Kip in Psalms no they don't write it that way no they sing it oh they sink it skinny what could I tell you so the point is is that to go to the Far Far Away mystical aspects of the Torah is not helping you do Chua what's going to help you do Chua is learning M learning out to become a decent human being learning the basics learn the five books of Moses learn what Rashi says learn what rambam says learn learn the basics all the mystical stuff you LIF you leave it for the mystical people if you want to spend five minutes here and there on it fine enjoy five minutes but that's assuming you have eight hours worth of Basics if you have an hour to study and 20 minutes of it is spend on mystical stuff you're wasting your time it's not going to help you it's not going to help I'm telling you all right it's not going to help you you can go and waste your time if you want it's not going to help you learn what the Aral says it's not going to help you in any way it's not connected to your n right now you don't even know BAS Basics you don't know how to keep your Basics what shoe to put on yet you need to know basic basic level stuff how not to be angry does anybody here know and I'm not trying to make fun of him including myself does anybody here know how at the moment you have the biggest test in your life I don't know whatever your test is money your wife your husband your dog whatever at the minute the one big test in your life happened that is like the trigger point that would want to make you like jump off a bridge happens how instead of being angry you're actually happy can anyone do that here not only you're not angry you become happy can any can one person say yeah yeah I do that all the time can one person say the minute that I'm supposed to get angry I get really happy be happy not fake happy like haha but you're crazy you going to kill everybody five minutes later much much happy can anyone do that you want to kill everybody I'm going to kill all of you kill all of you yeah yeah I'm talk about that must happy we me happy inside can anybody do that we're still angry all the time right so until we control basic Mida of anger leave arza alone in his world with leave them alone let's study Basics let's learn how to control our mid let's show can learn the basics of how to survive as human beings control our ego control our pockets and so on and so forth do CH you do CH you have nothing to worry about [Music] [Applause] [Music] n 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