After Hours with Rabbi Yaron Reuven (25)

[Music] any questions I have a questions to says that his name to be known the his right Bak yeah okay wait how is connected to Bak oh I mean there are other the wicked people that their name is mentioned in the tah for different reasons not necessarily because a um of their righteousness like Po is wicked but he did CH uh the one good thing that balak did is that he gave many to hasem and thear says that hem paid him a specific reward for each one of the each one of the sacrifices he brought to God because even though he was wicked he still did something good and Hashem pays cash Hashem pays even the wicked he paid him in this world but nonetheless he still got paid so didn't just the the reward that he got wasn't necessarily just the fact that the Paras was called after his name or it started you know the the main Paras of us receiving the Ten Commandments is starts with his story and his descendants were good and so on he got the fact got his big reward was the fact that he became part of am I mean that's that's as great as it could be if somebody understands the magnitude of what it means uh so that's the biggest reward the other things were added benefits the other things were added benefits Bak on the other hand he got rewards but obviously he also got punished dearly for all the things that he did next also yeah ask question yeah NOS do not Rel Rel sure no it's not it's not t it's not the same yes of course being with your wife is a Mitzvah but there's also a uh a certain type of impurity that comes from it because of the act itself so in the in the old days uh the uh the time of Ezra the uh they actually made it a rabinal mitvah that each time you are with your wife you have to go to the mik after but then after they saw that the people the men were not able to keep it they were not able to do this uh they actually made they removed this uh rabinal law because you're not allowed to give a law uh that is uh you know a uh too much for the for the people to handle but nonetheless the reason why they did it is because there is an impurity that comes as a result of a person's seed leaving his body uh so need to imp purify so when uh when Hashem wanted to give us the Torah he said you have to clean yourselves all go to the mikve and not be with your wives for three days and the reason why is because every time you get with your wife you get a certain form of impurity which you would have to go to the mik again to but what if I decide to give you the toah in the middle what if I decide that you need to have decided they have to have three days of Purity in order for them to to receive the Torah so if someone is not listening if someone decides that they can't handle not being with their wives then that holds up the whole act so again this is a much I mean the deeper explanation of it is much bigger than the capacity of the but nonetheless there is an impurity that comes uh from the act of uh of of relations and as a matter of fact there's a high level of tum that comes from the seed uh as a result of sins so if somebody wasted seed or somebody is a zav it's called a zav uh that's when the seed leaves but today in today's world we don't really have zav anymore uh people obviously unfortunately make the SE the the sin of wasting seed and they make the sin of uh being with people that they're not allowed to but uh the issue of being a zav or Zava is uh is no longer at least to my knowledge is no longer existent um it's very different than uh what people think people think is that if you have a uh a dream and Seed leaves your body that's like a zav and it's not Z means it's coming out of the body uncontrollably like like urine or even more the night throughout the whole day throughout the night throughout the day the people that were Z and Z would have to actually wear special things around their uh their area their private parts to collect the uh the semen so both randomly happen yes yes but we don't we don't have that really in uh in in our um in our generation anymore we well we have Tuma we have but not that that specific Tuma next yeah you mean for for I mean well I mean there's 36 different sins that a person can get k for uh I mean obviously they have to do Chua do chuva if they do chuva then uh they're not going to lose that they're not going to get the uh you know the ultimate punishment if a uh but again chuva requires several different things it requires a person to stop sin it requires a person to regret that they sinned it requires a person to uh fix the sin and ultimately also suffer for it in this world uh there's a certain level of suffering for that sin that has to happen at some point in his life it may happen immediately may happen 30 years later but the point is is that Chua is is a very very necessary thing a person does not want to leave this world with a uh you know a a bank account of K sins on his account because then he's he's done yeah you're talking about cabala stuff as far as the strings that connect us from us to the it's not not relevant to this year this is one of the things that I try not to discuss because people delve too much into cabala and they forget about basic level human beings it's not connected to us we just have to worry about being a human being all the stuff about the strings that connect us the ropes that connect us to and there's one string and there's 60 strings and there's a thousand strings all that stuff is not relevant to 99.9999% of people and those people that is relevant to are anyway the people that watch those sh to talk about the strings to the other worlds and special things usually they don't even know how to be a basic human being so those things don't don't help them anyway we need to just do basic level chv we to keep basic level fix our be good and kind people worship hasem fear Him get to a point of loving him after we do all those things you don't have to worry about any strings and any any uh any uh demons or anything like that all those things in my opinion they hurt the people more than they help them as far as all those uh because in reality the people that learn them don't know what it means anyway the people that teach them don't actually help many people uh and ultimately even if the two you know even if people listen to them okay so let's say you ripped 50 strings 50 connecting Court from you to what are you going to do about it can you do anything about it what are you going to do you're going to get into depression oh I killed so how do you know you fixed it how you know you fix the 50 strings what they send you an email oh you got the 50 strings back don't worry about everything's okay okay no so the reality is right now all we need to worry about is becoming B cha even if you're religious from birth or even you became religious today or you become religious tomorrow B what's B bicha people that are working on their mote on their weak character traits on their bad character traits everyone here knows that there's something or two or three or a thousand things wrong with you some people it's because they have anger issues some people because they have have jealousy issues some people it's because they have lust issues some people it's because they have whatever ego issues and so on and so forth everyone has to work on those things you work on those things the rest of that stuff that is beyond this world is not going to be relevant to you it's just not because again this is not the generation of the Aral we're not the generation of ARA and even the generation of ARA wasn't worrying about it most people read the ARA like they're reading a novel like it's relevant to them it's not relevant to them it's nice it's entertaining but it's not what's going to get you to it's just not and it's it's not it's a in my opinion and it's also by Rob's opinion a few really really big dolim this should not be taught to the public at all at all not even for entertainment purposes at all now the question is why do they teach it because it creates a lot of dollars creates a big money sign it makes the person seem like he's holier than thou makes the person see wow this guy knows what happens in sh look he talks about strings and and and and different winds and spirits and this and that I I was in one Kila one time and some Rabbi came in from Israel and after the the rabbi goes to everybody in the Kil maybe there maybe like 30 people or so out of the 30 people I would say for sure there's two or three that keep Shabbat the rest of them saf some of them outright Kim but they just like to go to bed it uh and everything the rest of them don't know very much rest of them don't know very much two three of them know a little bit one guy was okay like he didn't he didn't follow suit with the rest of the people so this Rabbi comes to guys guys listen come with me we're going to go we're going to learn 45 minutes of pure Z cabala pure Z and cabala what Z and cabala they're basically they don't even know what Shabbat is they don't know what kosher is they don't know what kav is they don't know what nothing what Z what cabala what are you teaching them what are you talking about it's not going to help them teach them how to be human beings teach them how to stop shabat teach them to stop hitting their wives teach to stop stealing stop stealing do you know how hard it is for people to stop stealing I've done business with I don't even know how many people a lot of people a lot of people in my life business were when I was in business and so on honestly if you ask me can you recommend can you recommend a lawyer a doctor a uh an engineer a plumber or this I've dealt with all almost all professions literally I used them I had them as clients and so on I can't tell you with a clean heart that I can recommend maybe one or two people in my life maybe and even that's maybe people are thieves thieves it's almost to a point I know I talked about this with my wife and also uh somebody else recently honestly I think it's almost like to the point where everybody steals but not like uh accident on purpose like it's all it's become a normal thing to do just uh my my my parents came to visit me they want to rent a car want to rent a car now you make a deal online or you call or whatever you get the car you get to the guy pick up the car right you never get what you want why you sign on one thing they send you a picture you get to the place say no no oh yeah we actually don't actually have that car what do you mean you don't have it now or you're going to get in a few hours no we never actually had it but we have something for $20 more we have something $50 more it's pretty much cheating is an acceptable form of behavior today it's at the car lots it's at the gas stations it's at the dentist it's at the lawyer it's at the it's everywhere they're all Ste in it's almost literally everyone's a thief so if we are so worried about the Z and the cabala and the strings why don't we just stop stealing let's just start with that just stop stealing stop being a thief just stop being be a decent human being stop stealing honestly I'm betting anyone anyone check your business you're probably stealing any business I don't care what business you are check your business you're probably stealing sometimes intentional sometimes not many times intentional but it's become unintentional why it's become natural you advertise one thing even if you don't have it why to get the customers in bring them to the door but you don't have it get them in get them in we'll give him something better but it's stealing technically it's stealing oh how come you charge him $5 more he said oh yeah he didn't notice don't worry it's $5 only you're stealing oh how come you're not calling the client anymore you already you know he already paid us the retainer he doesn't need us so we don't have to call him if he needs us he'll call us yeah but he's paying you to call him yeah but he doesn't called us Hees need us but he's paying you to call him he's paying you to check on him he's paying him to come to his office every month $1,000 a month you to come to his off yeah but if he needed us maybe he's busy I'm not going to go it's okay it's okay don't worry listen go get another client go focus on other clients go focus on other clients I'm telling you it's literally a a a it's a disease it's a disease and I've seen it on Wall Street with multi-millionaires not talking about little chumps that are trying to make ends me $500 or that extra 50 bucks changes their life I'm talking about people that had zillions and I'm talking about people that have five bucks everyone's a thief why because it's become normal form of Behavior now obviously is expected to beim so we cannot be Kim if we're stealing we cannot stop stealing if we we worry about strings and Zar and and kabalas and and and and and spirits and all the things that are not going to help us fix the basics so all of those people that are talking to people about things like strings and and and and all all the world that's not connected to us you're just wasting your time you're not helping people you're completely not you're not helping people at all and in reality people continue to steal people continue to violate Shabbat people still continuing to become you know look and become as for the world that's why people hate Jews they hate them why look this guy's a Thief what a thief how steal look I'll prove it to you we'll prove it to you how he's a thief how he stole from here how he stole from there even though he stole also but the Jew stole makes it worse yeah but the also stole doesn't matter Go's expected to steal the Jew is not expected to steal why you guys have a Torah every going knows this so that's the thing that's the thing it's it's we have to teach people basic Basics Basics the same things we used to teach and still teach the five six seven eight and nine year olds we need to teach the 50 60 and 7 year olds same five books of Moses with some all the stuff above and beyond mystical worlds that doesn't belong today it's just not relevant to today learning any part of it is not going to help any tun at all all it is is a Satan wants you to learn that stuff so you don't fix your mid it's very easy to get depressed learning that stuff by the way because it makes the tah seem too far from you to fix it makes the sin seem too Grand it makes everything impossible and in reality you're struggling with the basics I'm struggling with the basics we're all struggling with the basics to start talking to the guy about Hey listen if you uh you know you did certain sins you have to go roll in the snow 80 times a thousand times it's not connected to us it's not connected to us we could do cha basic level by saying I'm sorry stop sinning give get other people do chuva finished finished don't worry about strings and and and and demons and spirits and Ouija boards and all that other stuff it's m gulim they all people love to talk about gulim people loved oh who do you think I was in the previous gig maybe that's a t for my Gil or the G before or the G after or it's not not connected it's not connected first of all maybe maybe there's a handful of people that really know the truth about that stuff in the world today maybe it's very very difficult to understand the the significance of gulim and what it means and the parts of the you can read it in books doesn't mean you understand it that's number one number two what difference do make who you were what difference if you were a dog or a cat or an Arab or a terrorist or a thief or made off or made off son what difference it make what difference it make who you were before you still got to keep Shabbat you still got to stop stealing you still got to stop cheating you still got to be modest you still got to stop worshiping Idols you which means stop worshiping money and so on and so forth that's it it's it's not in far away it's not in heaven the Torah it's basic basic basic basic as soon as you start to these different things all these people do that teach this stuff is confuse people and make them think oh this guy oh that's my rebi why is he a Reby oh he knows what happens in heaven okay great how's it helping you become a better human being you've been listening to him for five years you're still you're still a thief you're still a liar you're still an angry little Gremlin you listen to them for five years five years you listen you go to you go to this you go to the seminar five years you're still learning about strings and Gil and reincarnations and maybe this Theon of the foot and the hat and the yeah okay fine you're still stealing though like got please basic basic once you excelled the basics I'll sit with you and we'll both learn about G but let's just fix the basics once we fix the basics then we can talk about all the different mystical things it's not necessary listen there's a lot of beautiful things in the Torah that the mystical like some of the stories that I tell you guys about how um M these are to show you the significance of Torah it's not to go try this at home it's not to go uh think that you can do the same thing it's a different generation different person different so on as just stay a real Jew or become a real one whatever it is whatever you are if you're already good stay good if you're not be good that's it very basic and I'm telling you the the problems that we have in this generation are so basic so basic that Al Al that everyone keeps just 25% of the basics that's how problem that's how big our problem our problems are not significant we're not uh we don't have problems of of gilim and and and in tiuna specific Parts our problems are basic we worship money we can't watch our eyes we waste seed we have a uh constantly are comparing ourselves to the go and we act like them we don't keep Shabbat we're thieves we're cheap basic basic these are basic things the basic things that all of us myself included in all of it must fix if we fix the basics let let theem will come we be happy to see us we we'll bring the salvation and all of us will be happy and cheering and we'll have with celebration if we don't then the same generation that we were 3,000 years ago that suffered it will all happen again and even worse why cuz this time it's fin so we do basic level CH just keep the basics get to real get to real after that once we get to hasm say let me show you the strings come I'll show you the strings you used to have he show let me show you the strings let me show you the spirits and the demons and the ghosts and all that let me show you all that stuff I'll show it to you I'll show you all those things fine but that's already when you're for now we have to get there now we just have to get there and that's what we do in G that's what we do in we learn T we learn a Tora that we don't have access to right now A lot of people are trying to learn the Tora that we don't have access to why do we want to skip the Tora that we have access to we have access to it's so beautiful it's so wonderful it's so amazing so tasty so intellectually stimulating so fulfilling why do we want to skip what we have to go to something else this is exactly what we've been talking about for the last three hours we always want something we don't have you have the most amazing Tora in the world but we want a different Tora we want a Tora that's far away from us that no one understands that even the himself knew that most people can't connect to himself he's he knew not most people came to them he knew it that's why he only had a few students he didn't have uh yes with 26,000 students he didn't say hey my books are for everyone he didn't say that only once you master the basics you become B in the entire in the entire in the entire be and you're 40 years old and you're married and you understand what is because it's part of your blood and your DNA and you understand Whata is because it's your lifestyle and you understand the significance of what it means to be connected and glued to hasem then maybe according to him maybe maybe you could start learning his books maybe you can start learning the Z Kos and so on all of those that like to teach it to the general public are just simply wasting their time wasting other people's time and maybe getting a few extra dollars for it because people like to get things that are far far away from them and that also don't obligate them we are trying to fulfill the Torah so we can actually get saved from you know bad things I don't know what they're trying to do but it's not that so B tomorrow night we have another Shure I think it's down the street I think think and uh obviously we'll go to the next Mish more issues more things to work on more stuff about the more things from kazal maybe I'll read the special letter that I have I've been trying to maybe bring it up a few times that uh maybe we'll read it tomorrow so there lots of lots of new things lots of Tor endless Tor everyone is welcome hopefully this will help us get closer and closer to doing chv amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music]