After Hours with Rabbi Yaron Reuven (27)

now you could ask me more questions because we're going to have to continue the Mish tomorrow go ahead the of the Tor be a holocaust do do allw have the free to prevent the Holocaust okay what's your question maybe it's Conn yeah we that should save us or us from our enemy to save us from because the same one that punishes us also said I don't want the dead to die in The Book of Ezekiel we said it maybe before you came in in the book of Ezekiel 18 verse 32 and he also says it again beforehand actually now I think about it he says it also in the same one chapter 18 verse 21 it says it specifically talks about not somebody that just makes a few few sins here and there so wicked man if he does Chu if he repents from all of his sins that he committed and he observes my Torah he observes my decrees and my practices and practices righteousness and Justice he shall surely live he shall not die what does it mean he shall surely live and what does it mean he shall surely not die and what does it mean a wicked man what does all these things mean first and foremost he's starting the sentence here know this well chuv is available to all even a even someone that's the worst someone that murdered someone that raped someone that wasted seed for 90 years someone that violated Shabbat everyone can do chuva everyone can do chuva everyone can do chuva and hasem wants that chuva it doesn't matter what you did he specifically says doesn't say oh if you made some sins no I want your Chua I want your Chua and if you do Chua how do you do cha he says he follows my Torah don't follow your own logic what you like what you don't like this no no follow my rules you follow my rules then you're not going to die then you're going to live what do you mean you're not going to die then this world is not going to be your end but rather you will have no end you will live forever to Eternity with me and you'll enjoy my glory forever that's what hasem is telling you I want you you yeah you the one that murdered that raped that killed that stole all those things yeah yeah I want you to do Chua you you you I want you to do Chua I want you to do Chua the worst person Earth I want you to do chuva if you do chuva you live if you don't you'll die the chuva is available the chuva is available to all now it continues now in case you're thinking maybe if I do CH I'm going to be treated like some like little loser in the side says no all of his transgressions that he committed will not even be remembered against him doesn't matter what if you do real chat whatever you did won't even be shown it will be deleted as if it never happened he shall live because of the righteousness that he did all you'll have is that's all you'll have you have no no one will ever remember that you ever made a sin you're going to look the same way as all the no sins do I desire at all the death of the wicked men the word of hem elim is it not rather that he does Chu from his ways that he might live he goes what do you think I created you so you make so I kill you if I want the just put you I'll just create you put you and G off enjoy no I want you to do Chua I want you to do Chua Shem says please do chuva but if you don't there's a price to pay if you don't there's a price to pay that's what he says do chuva if everyone was okay like some imbecile calls himself a rabbi made a video he says that everyone's going to be okay and there's a everyone has a and everyone don't doesn't matter you keep you don't keep everything is great all this that people make up in their head there's no source for it in the Tor hasem is telling you exactly if you Wicked do Chua meaning if if if everyone was okay why would there be chuva why would chuva be one of the 6113 MIT it's not a concept it's not an idea it's one of the 63 mitv just like Shabbat just like kosher Chu is an obligation for all it's not just for people that viated chabbat everyone is obligated to do chuv the the the uh the yemenites the asazi the Safari that everyone is obligated by the same Tora 613 Commandments that you ones that are relevant to you chuva relevant to all you must do chuva so now we pray for hem the same hasem that said if you don't do chuva you'll die meaning no finished punishment all these different things so we pray for hem to help us meaning we pray forem to get us out of the trial that we're in right now get us out of this hole that we're in because we just feel it's over it's too much we can't handle it help us get out of the hole even though we know that maybe if I try a little harder I'm gonna climb out of this hole we just feel it's bigger than us I don't have enough energy we don't even know our own strength so we ask for some help we ask for a hand Hashem says no problem just do chuva so the same hand that hits us we ask that hand to instead of hitting us give us a hand we just need to give it a reason so now when it comes to free choice this is something that the rambam himself says in Mish T he doesn't want to discuss it but he has to discuss it he doesn't want to discuss it because it's beyond the capacity of mankind to truly understand it but he's discussing it to just cover the surface of the issue this is a very confusing thing for most people to understand in general in reality it's impossible for us to understand as human beings but a simplistic way to understand understand it the T says everything is from Heaven except the fear of Heaven meaning that the only free choice you truly have is whether you have or not that's it everything else is from Heaven meaning whether you're born or not from Heaven whether you die or not from Heaven including the guide of jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge that he thought that he was going to die hasem says no you're not going to die he jumped off the bridge and he didn't die and he told the story he told the story there's a recording on the internet of this guy that jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge where every single person except him and one other person that jumped off of it died he didn't die and he said he was very very suicidal and very depressed and so on and so forth right before he jumped but the second his feet left the bridge he was sorry for it the second his feet left the bridge he regretted jumping meaning he wanted to live again Hashem says okay you want to live I'll give you life he decided whether he's going to live or die the point is is that whether you live or die is up to Hashem whether you suffer or not up to Hashem whether you're rich or not up to hasem it doesn't matter how many days a week you work and it doesn't matter how many hours you work and it doesn't matter what job you have there are plenty of smart people that are broke there are plenty of stupid people that are rich I've met both there are many people that are rich in the garbage business and there are many people that are broke in the stock market business all of these stereotypes and different things that people think that oh if you're in this business then you'll make money if you're in this business you won't make money it's complete nonsense I know people that made millions and millions of dollars of the most ridiculous things in the world things that you don't even think people need they made Millions off it at the same time major Productions major projects that cost millions and millions of dollars hundreds of millions of dollars got people to lose everything they have Hashem decides who's going to be rich and who's going to be poor the question is do you know that so as far as everything in life Hashem decides what do you decide what role does Hashem play in your life that's what you decide are you going to fear him or not meaning are you going to serve him or not are you going to do everything he said in his Torah or not is he number one on the list or is he just on the list if he's just on the list you're failing your mission if you're job your money your bank account even your wife or your husband even your kids and your your school and your studies if anything comes before God you are failing God has to be number one so the most important thing that a person needs to know is that God decides what you're going to have anyway so if he decides all of this if he decides whether you're going to be a prophet whether you're going to be profitable or whether you're going to be a CEO a CEO of a company or just an employee and so on and so forth where's my choice really where's my choice really your choice is to decide how you want Hashem to respond to your actions now what is this like if you went to a job under normal circumstances of what people think we have these people that are monotheistic and believe in a in a god they believe that you have pretty much something that's you do and Hashem obeys in essence so Hashem complies you make certain things and if God likes those things you get good if God doesn't like those things then you get bad but it's a give and take it's varies among people you know some people say listen I can't do Chua yet I'm not at that level yet what at that level the Torah is United this just just one Torah no I can do cha for Shabbat and for kosher but I can't cover my hair why not why can't you cover your hair what was there you don't just they ran out of scarves to put on the head I can give you my wife asked some extra so give you a hat no no it's not that I'm not at that level yet there's no such thing as at that level there's a minimum requirement you must comply the fact that you're not doing it is a sin you have to deal with that but you can't say I'm not there's no such thing as a level there's a minimum requirement and there's a above a minimum we don't teach above the minimum we teach minimum this is the minimum you must comply with the minimum covering your hair as a woman with a hat or a scarf is the minimum requirement to such an extent that if you covered your hair like you're supposed to as a married woman and then your husband died or you got divorced you're not allowed to remove the cover of the hair according to R why you're not allowed to lower your KES not allowed to lower yourself in Kus so then you're going to ask they asked the well how's she going to get married everyone's going to think she's married cuz she's covering her hair he says hem makes marriages not you hasem makes marriages so now when someone says listen it's too hard for me to study Torah every day what do you mean it's too hard for what do you mean made a mistake in creation he made everyone else can study to except you so all of these things that you're limiting yourself it's complete nonsense and in reality it's it's heresy in hem so we have done understand that we don't have such a choice where you go to work you get paid you don't go to work you don't get paid that's not the choice we have the choice we have is as follows if we go to work meaning if we serve hem we get rewarded sometimes in this life but mostly in if we don't go to work meaning we don't serve AEM we don't keep Shabbat we don't keep kosher we don't keep modesty we don't learn toah then it's not that we don't get paid it's that we get punished there is a punishment it's one of the 13 principles of Faith which means if you don't believe it you're going against the Torah so now that means if someone goes to work and they get paid and they'll go to work they don't get paid that's the first example the second example is if they go to work they get paid if they don't go to work then the boss sends people to the house to break their legs that's the choice we have it's not that they don't get paid it's they get punished there is a very serious punishment for not doing the will of hem so yes we have free choice but it's not really free it's costly so as far as the next question in regarding to Hashem knowing the future how does it work if Hashem knows what I'm going to do how is it that I'm really choosing to do it right that's the question you probably have because it interferes with free choice if he knows what I'm going to do did I really exercise my free choice since he already knew what I what I KN what I was going to do because he does know what you're going to do so yes he does know everything you're going to do for for hasem the past the present and the future all the the same thing there is no there's nothing outside of him the concept of time is something he invented the concept of knowledge is part of him knowledge to us is outside of us it's separate from us it's something we gain or lose with Hashem his knowledge and himself are the same it's part of him they're not two different entities so now the knowledge of the past the present and the future are the same to him therefore what is it like to us in a simple way that you could understand and I could understand or explain is as follows if I took a little piece of paper and I wrote down on this piece of paper whatever I wanted and I told you open this piece of paper tomorrow don't open it today open it tomorrow and then you did exactly like we agreed and you open opened it the next day and you saw that on this piece of paper I described every single thing that you did that day meaning I wrote it before you did it in essence I knew what you're going to do before you did it and then you saw that I Knew by seeing the paper did that change your behavior no the fact that he knows does not change what you're going to do does not change your choice it's still independent from you and the reason why is because his knowledge and himself are one of the same they're not separate nothing is above him nothing is below him nothing is removed from him in reality he is the only thing that exists we are part of him we are not removed from him there's nothing removed from him this is really really deep cabala stuff and zor stuff it's not necessarily to the extent of the sh but nonetheless this is a very serious question people ask because it's difficult to understand the best you could uh understand is what I just said this is actually how the rambam explains it it's a very very simplistic way to explain the most complex question in all of existence how am I actually exercising my own free choice if Hashem knows it and like I said he knows it but it doesn't interfere with your choice you still what do what you do you're not none of us are getting at least not that I know of none of us are getting a but Cole in the morning saying hey you're going to do this this and this today and you say yeah I'm going to do it okay and you go no nobody gets this voice no one gets this voice in their head says go do this go do that you still do what you want you buy you sell you wear you don't wear you eat you don't eat you go to the bathroom you don't go to the you act independently of God the fact that he knew that you're going to do it doesn't change your choice so in essence your free choice nonetheless is quite the same because if it wasn't it would be unjust world if he interfered with your choice then he wouldn't be right for him to punish you or reward you there would be no purpose for your existence wasn't taken from the earth before he was taken from God wasable going as him he that's not removing his free choice just ending his life that he was no more right he died able to as right he he walked with God it says it walked with God and Hashem removed him from the world yes but that's not removing his free choice that's just ending his life on this Earth it's not removing his free choice removing free choice means that he makes you do stuff like instead of you want to go to the store but instead he makes you go to the bathroom for three hours instead or he makes you he forces you and he tells you you can't leave the bathroom for three hours or he tells you instead of you saying yes you start saying no BL you start making up words that's he's removing your free choice he's not removing a free choice you still speak whatever you speak you still do whatever you want to do and as far as him removing you from this world or not that's not removing your choice that's just ending this part of your life and transitioning it to a different part of life that different part of life is nonetheless a life uh that's Eternal the question is how is it going to be so now one of the questions somebody asked is about there's very little details abouta in the Torah because even though we use the source from the same Ezekiel that there Isa in the Torah and there's many places in the Tora talk about existing there's very few details about what's in it so the question is why and the second question is how do we know so as far as why is concerned and I've said it in other lectures we don't know the concept of good everything we want is based on some type of desire which in reality too much of that desire is bad for us so what do we want we want money we want fame we want fortune want more sex we want more food we want more all these different things in reality if Hashem gave us all we wanted we would self-destruct best example of it is celebrities you see all these celebrities Hashem gives them all of their desires money Fame Fortune sex and so on and so forth and what do they do commit suicide what do they do they get married 50 times what do they do they do all types of strange things none of them are normal worst thing you can do is make make your kid a celebrity a lot of these parents think that you know making putting their kid into modeling or into one of these celebrity type lives is a good thing for them they're ruining their life already at Birth so us serving all of our desires to be famous to be fortunate all these different things is bad for us which means that we have no concept of what good really is without Torah now Torah doesn't mean just reading or reading the the books here and there Torah means you're glued to hasem you're glued to the actions of what it requires to do it to learn it to fulfill it and so on and so forth now the concept OFA is as follows a lot of people say okay we don't have the details of course because we want to understand the details even if we had them now what's the Assurance what's the assurance that this is going to be I heard this originally from from Rabbi zir Cohen it's a very very good analogy and he says the following he says there's two babies in the mother's uterus and for nine months they're arguing nine months what are they arguing about is this or not is this the real world or not one guy says listen enjoy it look what you're doing all you're doing you're chilling out all day you have food coming to you you could sleep whenever you want you could do whatever you play whenever you want no one tells you what to do just relax this is gedin the other guy says no you fool all we got to do is get stronger over here to go before we go to the next World the real world we're going to go there that's enough with your imagination there's no other world this is it we're here we're in ganeden and the other one says no we're not yes we are no we're not no not nine months later the one that believe there is a next world gets out first so the one that in say ah mein poor guy look how he wasted his whole life on his imagination he thought it was a next World now he's dead he missed it he missed out his whole life now I'm here by myself enjoying ganeden what a poor guy he doesn't realize that the other guy is as happy as can be why he's got his IM and abap how are you how's everything we've been waiting for you for 30 years for a baby like you 9 months of in the stomach 30 years trying everybody's so happy so excited he's here so who's who's living the truth the one that's out there that he thought is dead he thought he's a loser he's the winner this world is no different there are two people in this world one says this is the real world enjoy it while it last and the other one says this world is only here for you to prepare for what the real world the real world the real world that leaves this world the real world after this now if you prepare and you gain spiritual muscles when you get there they're going say how are you how's everything a nice word in like Arabic in the Tripoli they say to like welcome people you guys don't know forget it anyway so the point is is that they excited to see when you how you're spiritually prepared you have MIT you have good things everything is great hasem is excited to see you come come my son come my daughter show you it's going to show you all these things why but if not if you just enjoy this world then the same God that gives reward also gives punishment and just like the reward does not have a limit neither does the punishment have a limit question is which one we're going to be now what's the argument to be the one that works for Hashem and that serves hem what's the argument it's a very easy argument it's a very very easy argument what's the argument if you're wrong if you're wrong what's the risk if you're wrong on your argument if you're wrong in your argument as a righteous person that serves hem and you're wrong let's say he doesn't care or let's say there's no Gan let's say this is the real world worst case scenario you ate some decent kosher food you went to beet you had a vacation once a week you connected to a god that gave you hope through difficult times if you're wrong shalom in reality it's not possible but the point is if you're wrong worst case scenario you live the life with God now if you're Wicked and you live this world as if it's the only world and you work on Shabbat and you go to casinos and you look at women and you steal and you do all these different things that Hashem does not want you to do and forbid you to do if you're wrong then the payment is much worse cuz at the best case scenario if you're right we both end in the same place if you're right if if the guy that's secular if the guy that's an atheist if the guy that's a fool if he actually be he ends up being the smart one he's right best case scenario we both turn into wood best case scenario both turn into the ground we turn into nothing there's nothing after this world best case scenario is right we turn into nothing but if he's wrong only I can win if he's wrong only I can enter Eternal happiness where he only goes to Eternal G that's the risk mathematically only a fool will pick the secular side has nothing to do with religion it has to do with math here now now it's pure logic if you're wrong you can only lose if you're right you still didn't gain as a secular person there's no way for you to win as someone that does the will of hem you can only win you can't lose you're either even or you win in reality you win either way because connecting to God in your life regardless of even if there wasn't a reward you still won which in reality by the way say in reality even if your own only pun only reward says even if your only reward for fulfilling the of the Tor would be to Simply avoid G that's it no no GED no G no G no no nothing no reward whatsoever you finish you die that's it nothing you disappear as if you never existed if he said your if your only reward was to avoid gay it still be worth it that's how bad Gom is so for all of those so-called teachers that say no Gom is just a washing machine no it's just temporary no it's just this just that this is completely against the tah in every way shape or form there even a very famous speaker that I just heard say stupid things it's either he's stupid or he's a liar I'm not really sure he should not say what he's saying I'm not saying names for a reason but the point being is that there's a lot of stupid people in in the world that are causing people to literally leave hem because they're telling them there's no Gom because if there's no Gom reality why am I doing it unless you fall in love with hem it's not possible to serve hem and unless you fear hem you can't fall in love with him meaning if you don't fear G there's no there's no way you can be a sadik it's impossible beginning of wisdom is the fear of hem any more questions while the battery is still alive first one died second one is still left where so it says let's let's create let's create man in our image for example Elohim is not plural singular is singular is a singular word it's not is is a singular it's not plural elim is not it's not plural it's singular when you're talking about plural is when hasem says let's create man in our image the says M came to hem he said why did you say our image is there are there any other gods there's no other gods so why you saying our image theim the Heretics are going to say listen uh there's more than one God cuz he said right here in the book in his own book he said let's create man in our image if it's our our is a plural world soem said I said it because each one of my Creations I love and I created the Angels before I created man and I wanted to show them that I care for them so I consulted with them if you will he doesn't need to consult with them but in essence it's like the boss that likes one of his new employees he says so what do you think about the uh company like he really cares if you don't like it leave but in reality you like the guy guy he's like so what do you think about what we do what do you think about what we do oh yeah I really like it ah see kid you're going to make it here in reality if he said no it would kicked him out but anyway point is that he asked their opinion he asked their opinion so that's what he said but let's create man in our image now when M says yes but people are going to make SS because of this because they're going to say that uh maybe they don't know this midash don't know this this what happened here hasem says write it write it anyway yeah but it's going to make people sin he said write it anyway why if they want to sin they're going to sin anyway they can use this as an excuse if they want meaning if you're looking for sinning hasem will help you find the sins why because you looked for sinning you weren't looking for the truth that's what I was telling you before is that sometimes people say they have times uh happen and as soon as tough times happen all of a sudden they tell you oh yeah I have these questions I have these questions why why don't you have the questions when you were married why did you only have these questions after your wife kicked you out like this one guy that uh became a c from what I hear he became a c after his wife divorced him I don't know the details of why she divorced him and why this or why that obviously it wasn't a good relationship but the point being is that how come you weren't a before you got married before you got divorced why did you all of a sudden have all these questions when you were married like why did that trigger it what does one thing have to do with the other that's maybe no it's not not yeah what happens the woman is not married why they get married how can a woman get married notri because I get marri through the oh Merit Merit I'm sorry okay sorry sorry okay uh no so woman that is not Mar married how does she get married of course through our own mitv she she must be mest she must fulfill all of the mitv uh regardless of whether whether she's married or not she has to fulfill the mitv but there's a very very big Merit that a wife gets as a result of her going her sending her husband to learn t uh and that's what we have to try to do our best even if someone is 50 or 60 or 70 years old they uh should try to get married and not be alone um you know there's a uh especially if they've never been married before they should try to be married uh because there's quite a few mitv that you need a husband or you need a wife to do and it's not just for p it's not just for the sake of bringing children to the world there's more things and in reality it completes your soul when you have one a soul in your body is a half a soul according to the sages the man completes the woman the woman completes the man so woman needs to do everything she can to get married and the age is irrelevant there's plenty of people that I know that are in their 50s 60s and even 70s that are looking for husbands and wives there's always somebody looking most people do not like to be alone and if you do change it's not healthy for you to be alone it's uh spiritually not healthy for you mentally not healthy for you financially it's not healthy for you uh and in general you should change you should not be alone you should try to find a husband or wife it's even more stringent for a man than it is for a woman but nonetheless you should not be alone it's not it's not a good thing to do it's a a very difficult life I mean you need some somebody to to lean on uh so again yes it's not easy to find a husband it's not easy to find a wife no one said it's easy I'm not telling you it's easy I'm just telling you to try Torah is not telling you anything is easy no one's telling you that to get to is easy no one's telling you that to be sadik or sadik is easy there's nothing to do it easy has do it do it do it because it's good for you sometimes now sometimes later but the point being is that just like you would not give up an opportunity to chase a billion dollars even if it's hard don't give up an opportunity to chase an eternal life of Good by doing next so if the worst person in the world decides he wants to do okay isn't he going to have to suffer a lot tremendously in this world to get that's part of yeah God was ases there's somebody that worse than some there's someone that's worse than Hitler chba there's a person by name of mas he was one of the Kings of Israel there was a wicked King and he was such a wicked King that he took his grandfather the prophet Isaiah there's a book in the tah called Isaiah he took the prophet Isaiah and he cut him up into little pieces little steaks and he sold the meat and if that wasn't enough he brought he brought into the bet mikdash not just into his house not just into into the bet mikdash he brought a and he got other people to worship idols you understand a kind of level of bad here and he killed prophets he killed sadim he was a murderer he raped I believe it was either his sister or his mother or both I mean there was no sin he didn't make there's no sin he didn't make one day the train showed up midnight train and uh Hashem tested him if you will theim caught him and they were cannibals they were going to cook him and eat him so they started cooking him they put him alive into a huge uh pot and they started cooking him and he started going on fire and he started uh praying to his idols and obviously they have eyes but they can't see they have ears but they can't hear they can't they have hands but they can't touch and they noses but they can't smell and so on and so forth and the idols don't answer why cuz Idols are Idols they're nothing the the the epitome of nothing and then he said something that changed his life what did he say he said God if you real and you save me I will do chuva he had merits we don't have he had Torah we don't have Hashem did save him how did he save him him he turned this little pot into a UFO he literally made the pot fly in the air get up from there get off get out of the roof and fly all the way to that's the miracle and he saved them and obviously he did chuva after that but they didn't write in his book that he did chuva until the book of Chronicles why because during his life his chuva was not complete there was still other people that were sinning as a result of actions some people that were still Idol worshippers because of him some people that made certain sins because of him so until all of the sin all of the remains of his sin was wiped out of the world his chuva was not complete so yes there was suffering and so on and so forth but nonetheless even he could do Chua if he could do Chua every Jew can do Chua but but the key is to understand is that don't rely on testing a like Mas did because you don't have the of having a father that was a prophet having a father that was a king having a enough Tor to pretty much more than the entire world today he knew an enormous amount of T how do we know in the times of thear almost a thousand years later Raa talked to his students and he says in the he says that one day he was talking to his students and he was telling the story about man and he started the story with our friend our dear friend Mas did such and such and such so later that night he says I had a dream and Masha came to me in a dream and he said how dare you call yourself my friend we're not even in the same league okay why do you say that he says you probably don't even know any T you proba don't even know which part of the bread you're supposed to take out for onat Raba says you're right I don't know I didn't even know there was supposed to be a special part of the bread to take out from I just know you take any bread you go see you don't know anything how can you call yourself my friend so says to him okay listen if you know so much Tor how did you how did you worship idols how did you bring Idols how did you do everything that you did he says if you lived in my time and you had the yet that we had in my time and you saw the things that we saw in my time you would take your gar Like You Take the Long Jacket you roll it up and start running after the idols faster than I did it wasn't some Idol that you buy in Chinatown for $15 these Idols were given Power by hem to make the test greater the for for the idol was greater than the we have for anything else other than money itself so the point being is that we see that he had an enormous amount of T and the story finishes when ra asks him okay so at least can you please tell me which part of the bread you actually supposed to take out of Mi so I can learn something he says you take the one that was burnt the most you have a piece of bread that you made usually there's one piece of the bread that's a little burnt more than anything else it was cooked most that's the first Mi that's the first Mi and he learned this man next question you don't do it I do it other people do it if they know if they don't know they don't do it yeah question we already fast forward into P I should have continued the Mish I would have already finished other half no go ahead good questions you holy jewi okay ended up having relations with leaders Ken and in's Cas was expains even give concerning the situation when it's allowed and when it's what's what's the question the question is how come ah okay the question is about p in regards to Esther some say that uh she well first of all she was righteous she was a prophet she was a descendant of sha according to the in and uh and the reason why she was descendant of sha is because sha was very modest according to the and the reward for mitvah is aah and his reward was to get descendants that were modest like he was and um uh EST was very very modest uh also page 14a says that she was greenish greenish what does it mean greenish she was not she was green complexion so how did he how did decide that she's going to be the wife she's the most pretty out of all the little green one cuz she also had she um used a special oil called opinon that is crushed uh olives but they're crushed at a specific size that uh makes the skin complexion very good and gives a specialen special Beauty if you will now so here you have several several different things showing that picked her she was his wife and they're you know they wife and husband so one opinion is they did commit the ACT how is this allowed another opinion is they didn't commit the ACT how could it be so the two opinions go as follows if they committed the act it was allowed anyway why it was allowed she was anusa meaning she was forced to do it how her life was in on the line if she didn't want to do it he was the King King has the power to decide who lives and who dies so she's not considered someone that is uh it's not like a man that's considered there's three sins that you must die and not do uh one is intimate relations two is idol worship and um three is murder a woman is not obligated to die if someone wants to rape her and the reason why is because unlike a man that will enjoy it regardless a woman does not enjoy it obviously so a woman is not obligated to die if there's such a thing Shalom but nonetheless in this case she was forced to do it it was against her will she didn't want to do it so on the argument the says that it was she did it then it was allowed she was Ana and an an is not considered someone that sins on the other side the other argument the says it wasn't her what does it mean it wasn't her was such a holy prophet that she literally created another being that went to anytime you wanted to be with her she would send a replica of herself she' send like a demon of some kind or some type of spirit that looks like her acts like her talks like her but it's not her so that's the site that says that she actually did not commit the act it wasn't her it was something else she remained loyal to her original husband m y next question should have saved this one for p uh adultery is an act that happens before wasting seed adultery is an additional sin wasting seed can happen in multiple ways wasting seed can happen during adultery because somebody that goes with a woman that's not his wife he goes with somebody else's wife then obviously he forbidden to be with her which means that the seed that comes out of him is also wasted so he is got two sins he's got adultery which anyone that commits adultery according to the T has no share of the world to come and he's wasting seed and it's almost it's impossible technically to to fix the sin of adultery completely without suffering uh a person must suffer but they can do chuva for it uh but wasting seed does not necessarily need to be as a result of adultery wasting seed could happen in multiple ways uh even a person by himself just as bad as committing adultery no if going adultery is being with somebody else's wife yeah so you're going with a married woman's uh uh you know you're going with a married woman uh married Jewish woman there's no concept of adultery with G uh but nonetheless going with a married woman is one of the biggest sins in all of Judaism going with a prostitute is also sin it's you're sinning in regards to wasting seed you're sinning in regards to uh being promiscuous says you have to be holy because I'm holy and the sages explain in this is referring to protecting your breit and to not being promiscuous not being a promiscuous woman not being promiscuous man uh also SCH teaches us that anyone that goes with a prostitute is guaranteed to lose his money um so there a lot of lot of interesting punishments for such people but nonetheless you can do chat for all of them Rel yes when someone is with a married Jewish woman he loses his unless he does huh yes when someone is with a non-jew then he has a very serious problem because a thear says in I think it's in that when a person goes with a uh with a non-jew she's going to stick to him like a dog she going to stick to him like a dog meaning she won't leave him and she's going to torture him in also unless what's the question answer you can do chuva for everything everything for murder you can do chuva again some chuva is partial chuva here partial chuva there some chuva is complete here nonetheless you can do chuva for everything AEM wants your chuat yeah but let's say a person does something with a prute you say she's stuck with him in the next World how does he do for that specif he just stops going prut all together obviously has to stop going proes he obviously has to stop I'm saying how does he remove that that sin that he already made yeah gets gets other people to stop that sin like we said with wasting seed how do you how do you undo the seed we've wasted for 20 years how do you undo the Shabbat we violated for 20 years you get other people to stop making that sin if you get other people to keep Shabbat you get the credit for it it wipes out the makes up for what you're doing what you've done in the past and so on and so forth same thing with Shabbat same thing with wasting seeds same thing with prostitutes same thing with gambling same thing with whatever it is that anyone did everything can be fixed do not lose hope that's the key of the Satan he wants you to lose hope he want you to say your sin is so big you should just give up don't give up don't listen to him Hashem told yeah I read it to you I read it to you in the prophet Ezekiel there's hundreds of other sources in that I can show you Chu is always available but so is punishment so is punishment you do you don't do start your starts with death until you die fully forgiven can't be fully forgiven until you die okay also what we learn see there's different ways yeah you're talking about not that's that's gatria uh yeah I mean there's different there's different a uh different things that we learned from gatria and from codes it's the mishna a which we read about four or five months ago uh says that uh the it's like seasonings it's like seasonings for wisdom it's not true wisdom it's seasonings for wisdom meaning we don't learn from gatria we don't learn from codes it's nice it's cool it's interesting it's mentally stimulating but don't spend too much time doing it all these people that are constantly trying to figure out the future based on codes and gimat and all that stuff all they become are just people that waste their lives away and forget to do MIT that's all that happens it's all happens it's not you don't what the only thing that's significant in the world is you fulfilling the will of hem the will of hem is do the learn Tora there's novah to learn gatria there's no Mitzvah to learn the uh uh codes it's not even a Mitzvah it's not there's nothing it's nice it's if it's mentally stimulating to you can spend five minutes a day on it 10 minutes a day if you're already spending five six hours learning toah but if your 10 minutes a day is only that's your whole toah for the day you're forbidden from learning it forbidden it won't help you and in fact it'll probably hurt you it's also the same thing with people that like to learn mystical aspects of Tora cabala and things of that nature unless you are first of all ready for it meaning you're an expert in everything else you're an expert in you're an expert in you're an expert in you're an expert in all of those basic level teachings you're forbidden from learning anything in regards to the cabala and the different angels and the different worlds none of that stuff is going to help you in fact most likely it will destroy you number one it'll make reality of what's your new reality very distant from your own world you'll distance yourself from reality second thing is if you're learning certain things it may actually create different uh K on you why because you say names of different angels that are not so nice and funny like me if you say names they're going to come and if you're not pure and you haven't literally fixed every single seed that you've ever wasted in your life if you haven't fixed every single little IM modest dress that you've ever worn in your your life if you say their names they're going to come and they're going to torture you okay so if you woke up in the morning and you have a flat tire it's not the next door neighbor it's them you're creating bad things for yourself it's not it's not some to deal with people are stupid when they say no no I want to learn cabala what do you learn in cabala do you even know how to spell it in Hebrew like it's it's not it's not a it's not a joke there's a lot of people that learn these things and they ruin their lives and a lot of them become Kim too by the way because it just makes Judaism into something very different and if you're not at a level to learn it then you could easily turn into a idol worshipper how about M how about mother thing yeah yeah is a uh this is a a prime example of someone that shouldn't learn anything yeah next go [Music] ahead yes yes yes the challenge of and and you're Sor you do it as long as you feel bad for it ET if that means forever that means forever how do not falling into depression okay so let's let's let's look at it this way we read today that Hashem wants your chuva right he says it multiple times in the he want he made it one of the and sometimes righteous women fall into the's Hands by saying listen I made a big sin and maybe uh maybe doesn't want my chuva anymore or maybe if uh you know I did something too big maybe I'm too bad maybe I'm too this now unless somehow you're worse than Mas you shouldn't even think in that level unless you've raped your husband your wife your sister you killed several people including a prophet you've put idol worship into the BET mdash unless you've done all of that you can do Chua okay so you're not worse than man therefore you can do CH that's the reason he's mentioning in the T and that's the reason why hasem accepted his cha to show us everyone can do chuv now so first and foremost the next time the yet comes to you and says no you've done something too big he's not going to accept your prayers tell him he accepted Mas he's going to accept me I'm not even as bad as man that's number one number two you have to understand every mother that has a baby if the baby told the mom little baby he's like aadya's age he's a year old he's a year old and my son aadya if you let's say tells tells my my myed wife he says IM I don't want to eat today he's one years old he doesn't even know how to talk you but he decides that the first time he's going to talk and say I don't want to eat today you tell him you have to eat no no I don't want to eat no I have no I don't deserve it IMA I was bad I I pooped in my diaper and and and and and and and I and I and I I didn't go to sleep right away I stayed up till 2:00 in the morning and and and also I I didn't eat the whole bottle last time and you wasted it and this I don't don't feed me she going to listen to him she's not right why it's completely ridiculous you're my son I'm going to feed you whether you want to or not I still love you God loves you even after you sinned it's not your right to decide whether he's going to listen to your prayer or not your only right is to pray your only thing your only thing is to worry about you pray don't worry about whether the of course he's going to accept it where do we learn it from where did we learn it from we learn it this was actually from my wife she says that every single day we have remembrances 10 remembrances 10 things that we remember one of them is that did not punish us when bam and balak had their idea had this is actually one of the uh things in the the mishna planed to curse AEM did not allow it to happen why because bam was a prophet that had a power that even mosu did not have he knew the moment the that is angry he spent there's AA there's a moment to day that AEM executes the punishment as AAA means you know a moment a moment is according to the 115,000 of a second and when he implements all of the punishment so bam knew that moment and because he knew it theem would do would fulfill his will even if that will is bad because he knew it that was the power that he gave him so that was the strategy of bam was to curse am during that moment moment and Hashem did not do it Hashem in essence was not angry during the moment that he's angry why because he loves is so ifem still accepted our CH when he's angry needless to say he's going to accept our chuv when he's not angry meaning when you come to him and you say Hashem I'm sorry for what I did did please accept meem says come to me I love you I've been waiting for you for 50 years waiting for for 60 years come I have a room for you the whole house is for you this is for you that's for you everything's for you it's been waiting here for 60 years just do CH just do CH just do CH that's it just do chuva that's all you have to do nothing else nothing more nothing less just do Chua we will all do CH hopefully you've been inspired hopefully I will have this inspiration that I have right now for the rest of my life because it was very inspiring for me we're gonna have a tomorrow night to continue this m amen amen [Music] [Applause] oh [Music] a [Music]