After Hours with Rabbi Yaron Reuven (29)

[Music] go ahead now you can ask your questions same price we thought I got a k you if this be clear they have a mitvah honoring their parents but for different reasons because their parents are not their parents like I just said their parents are not their parents anymore they're biological parents if they didn't convert they're not their parents if they did convert they are not their parents either way they're not their parents now if if they were didn't convert then obviously they have to honor their parents but that's because of of ethical laws if they uh like a non-jew is oblig excuse me a non-jew is obligated to honor their parents because it's an ethical law but a convert which used to be a non-jew and now he's a Jew he has no spiritual connection to his biological parents and therefore he's not obligated to honor them like a Jew honors their parents because they're not technically his parents but he's obligated to honor them because if he doesn't it would look bad it would look bad in front of the go and so on which is exactly what the rambam says I don't understand I'm telling you that it's not their parents even if it's their biological parents if it's a step parents you have not because they're your parents honoring your parent you should know honoring your parents maybe one day we'll do a sh or two about it honoring your parents most people do not really understand what it means if you truly understood what it means to honor our parents uh we would realize they were all to that extent if we understood the real alot the real laws of honoring our parents like the Torah says we're Jews they're Jews everything is good remove the convert issue that I just talked about until now you're a Jew your mom's a Jew your father's a Jew if you actually understood the laws of honoring your parents and what you're actually obligated to do most likely we're in trouble why because honoring parents today is almost a non-existent Mitzvah people think that because they they go and take their mom or dad to the store they're honoring their parents in reality we have to pretty much honor our parents as much as we're honoring God as long as they're following What God Says as long as they're following What God Says to such an extent that even if your mom even if your mom or dad gets so upset at you that she comes and she embarrasses you or he embarrassed you in public embarrass what do you do what do all of us do oh come on EMA relax no no what are you actually supposed to do you're right I'm sorry sorry you're right even if she's wrong even if he's wrong honoring your parents if we understood what it really means even if they're wrong in front of everybody else you have to tell them they're right in front of them you have to tell them they're right we don't know how to honor our parents have a lot of learning to do a lot of learning to do so but that's when it's our really our parents that's honoring parents when it's not our parents because it's either because of conversion like we talked about or it's because of a um stepparents you're adopted she's adopted who's adopted everybody's adopted and someone's a b that adopted a child which is a very very big Mitzvah uh then obviously regardless of whether they're Jews or not you don't have to honor them like parents because they're not your parents anyway but you still owe them an you still owe them you still owe them a gratitude and hasem takes this gratitude very seriously and we actually also also you guys to this that hasem shows that it's very very important to show and to show your understanding of even the things that are not living it says in this par in chapter 28 verse 42 says you shall make them meaning the Lin breaches to cover their the Flesh of their nakedness from the hips to the thighs shall they be they shall be on Aon and his sons when they enter the tent of meeting or when they approach the altar to serve in Holiness and they should not bear a sin and die so in essence what is he saying they should cover their private parts cover their private parts or they're going to die but the question is who they covering their private parts they already have a huge robe and another robe who are they covering that private parts from abai who are they covering their private parts who anybody know in repeat that I don't know might either have hard hearing or you guys don't speak clearly okay let's see let's see let's see if you guys are right in we move back we reversed a couple of weeks it says it says and when you make for me an alar of stones do not build them Hune for you will have raised your your sword over it and desecrated it you shall not Ascend my altar on steps so that your nakedness will not be uncovered upon it this teaches us modesty how Hashem says the altar don't get to the altar by steps why if you're Coen in the times of that time you're wearing a robe now if you step on steps that means that at some point there's going to be a separation between your legs it's going to be a separation between your legs which will show your meaning your private parts to who to the steps not to the crowd it's crowd is covered everybody sees you have a robe on the front's covered no one can see it who can see the the steps if the if the steps see the death penalty that's why don't make steps make a ramp that way when you go up a ramp there's never a large separation between your legs to show the who to show to who again to the steps meaning that hem is telling you as a man as a woman you're not allowed to show your private parts even to steps to the floor to the walls to nothing to rocks you don't think that he cares about you showing him to people walking around with tank tops walking around with tube tops walking around with short shorts walking on with your hair the steps the steps to rocks to rocks hm says if you show it to them death penalty death penalty not I'll punish you you go to jail for a week then you have probation for a month no death penalty why he's on the way to dovah he's bringing aan no don't make a sin on the way to the mitvah what what it's a step the step cares it's just Stones stones are no Stones nothing should see it why that's the way you're CES if you treat yourself like KES you're holy if you make yourself holy not by default not by default modesty is for men and women men and women but it's not just modesty outside when you walk around you're modest in front of the whole world but inside the house you're walking around naked a lot of guys like to walk around like they just they're Tarzan walking around with no shirt on they think that they uh they just came off a tree like the monkey who gave you the right other people like to walk around outside they want everybody to see their body men women and so on the rabbi yesterday told me listen I went to go visit one of my uh students in Miami the whole time I have to look on the floor he goes I don't know how he survives I don't know how survived he goes Nobody who has any clothes on nobody has any clothes on why they think that it's okay but according to Hashem according to God the almighty the one that was the it is that always will be even the walls the steps the Rocks should not see you naked without a necessity meaning if you're taking a shower and you're covered anyway you're covered anyway why no one's allowed to go see you what you are modesty is for men and women people think it's a joke no you're stringent it's in the Torah it's a verse in the Torah Hashem says if the steps see your means your private part death penalty death penalty not oh no I don't like you anymore we're not going to talk to you for a week so needless to say all the other things and that's why it also says in the the entire woman is considered nakedness except the things that have to be exposed like her face her hands and her feet other than that everything else must be covered our NE she's allowed to show her neck but no neck line so when you tell a woman yesen you have to cover your elbows you have to cover your chest line over here you have to cover your legs obviously you have to cover your hair with the and not with hair you don't cover hair with hair you have to cover Oh no you're too stringent no look the guy the guy that showed under his robe to the steps got a death penalty what do you think Hashem is going to give you when you're showing your body to people the guy the guy he's a man I don't think that the stone got a uh any attraction off of his private part but if he made a mistake and he showed his private part to the stone he got a death penalty so what do you think the woman that's walking around with a death with a uh death penalty with a uh it's death penalty too with a short shorts and short t-shirt and short everything what do you think she's going to get when she gets up to Sham and she meets her maker what she going to get she going to get a cookie what you going to get Pikachu what you going to get so this is not laws that rabis created these are laws of T it's in the T you just if you don't know it just means you haven't learned T yet we learn so we have this yeah why does AEM care about okay so the thing is though is that everything has some level of n everything has a neish everything has some level of Soul there's nothing that exists with nothing meaning that everything must have some level of a neish in it in order for it to exist so the walls also have something in it sometimes that something is actually a human being they used to be a human being but made so many sins that he had to come back as a wall or we have to come back as a cat we have to come back as a dog we have to come back as a plant and so on and so forth the issue of reincarnation the says people that talk about reincarnation often usually don't understand anything about reincarnation because they don't even understand the math of how a soul is divided up in how it is but the point is is that the issue of reincarnation is very very deep very extensive but I could tell you one thing the I believe it was the benishai went to jail one time and all the people asked them why did hasem allow the to go to jail I mean all the Kil is depending on you you huge huge I mean why would hem allow the rabbi the biggest Rabbi in the world to go to jail why and Ben is told them I asked the same question and on the first night that I was in jail I was in prison I got the answer what I saw from has they gave he had unlike us but he had where he said they gave me a message from sh he said you see this wall it's full of these did not go to they wanted to watch them on YouTube they could go to sh but decide not to go they could go to sh but they want to play sports instead they could go to sh but decided to go eat instead for the sixth meal of the day instead of going to sh decided to other things not like some of the sikim that watch every single Shield that we have and they live in Alabama in Arkansas and the end of the world they can't come me I'm talking about people that are local but I tell them come to the Sho and I say no no it's too late okay so if it was for one of your football parties or baseball parties or for work you'd come at 9:00 at night 10:00 at night but for to no right so there's a Dean for such people sometimes it's even worse people don't go to sh at all not only they don't go to sh T they watch it at all he says those people the only way they could do chuv is if they learn T but how they going to learn T if I brought them back as a human being again they still not go how I had to put them in the walls in the walls where they're forced to learn T where are those walls prison so I send a sadik to the prison because the only way they can learn Tora is if they listen to you all day so such things have happened such things have happened such things continue to happen sometimes the yes have many souls in them that are not students in front of us sometimes they're in the walls these issues maybe are above and beyond the spectrum of this year but nonetheless the this stuff exists The Souls of people that sin don't always come back as human beings they sometimes come back as plants sometimes as rocks sometimes as cats dogs and so on if somebody died a sinner where he went with a Goya he went with a non-jew his G has to come back as a dog and the reason why like a dog is because a dog is number one is not a uh is not a uh shy creature but the second reason is because the says in a person that dies without doing chv and and is with a non-jew gets the punishment with this non-jewish n is always tied to him always connect him how so what does it have to do with being a with a dog a dog does not leave the female until he's completely finished unlike other animals so he's tied to the female he's tied it's he loses control when he's when he's uh when he's uh making his uh thing with the with the female so in essence that's the same treatment that a Jew gets for being with another and obviously the nonu also gets punished but the point being into marriage into relations is a very very big deal and for all of those people that think oh big deal what's the big deal what hasem loves us all all his creation okay you'll see when you get there you'll see if that's what he thinks to says in the Torah it's not so the point is don't play with fire God's not your friend he's your God so it says it in the Tor all of these things that said in the Torah if you don't know it doesn't mean it doesn't exist just means you don't know you have to learn more yeah next yeah not always sometimes not every animal has a soul of of human being sometimes they do no you're not allowed to kill bugs because there's no benefit for you to kill them unless there is a benefit for you to kill them you're not allowed to kill on Shabbat period uh even if it was a cow or it was a dog or was anything not let to kill not let to trap even uh but if there's a danger for example if it's a spider or it's a snake or it's some type of bug that uh is causing you anguish you're allowed you're allowed to kill it um you know it's there's there's both the uh the honor of Shabbat is on Shabbat and also you have to protect your life so if it's a poisonous type of creature then you're obviously not only allowed you're obligated to kill it so because you're not to put your life in danger uh but if you could avoid it if it's just annoying like it's a fly excuse me if it's a fly or if it's a uh some type of I don't know whatever some type of annoying uh thing that you don't like then just avoid it that's it but you're not have to trap it you not have to put in a box or anything like that just try to avoid it shoe it away or something like that that what does the word anguish mean you mean yeah look for you're you're afraid that the bee is going to sting you or you have a uh or you have a you can't enjoy your uh you know your uh this thing is like sitting on your head and it's say it's causing you to lose your uh you know your your enjoyment of Shabbat your suffering as a result of it obviously Mo you know you know people people I think exaggerate a little bit when it comes to suffering so they immediately when they see something that's a uh causing them uh just a little bit of annoyance they immediately Define as suffering that's not quite that if it causes you anguish if let's say for example somebody has a uh you know a Arachnophobia Arachnophobia is a fear of spider it's not fear of spider like you're afraid of uh you know of getting I don't know hit byom the C things that are actual phobias phobias are psychological states of Mind where the person loses control when they see or they experience such thing some people have fear of heights because they just don't like height places some people actually have a phobia of heights meaning if you just mention a tall building they already become scared some people have claustrophobia they're M they're even thinking about being in an elevator gives them anxiety and some people just don't like small areas maybe they're a big guy or whatever it is so there's a there's a phobia and there's a fear phobia is a psychological state state of mind where the person pretty much loses their ability to function so if a person has such a phobia and they see such a creature they see a spider so even if the spider is not poisonous you still allowed to kill it on Shabbat because that spider is causing the person major suffering cuz he has phobia so even if the spider is not poisonous you're still allowed to kill it why because it's causing major suffering but Excuse me yes but there's there's there's a so I tell you exactly where it is inat page 81 it says that is a person allowed to carry rocks on Shabbat is a person allowed to carry rocks on Shabbat answer no you know allowed to carry rocks or no not allowed to carry rocks why it's we just talked about the significance of raban Ran's raban RAB said not allowed to touch rocks not only allowed to carry rocks not allowed to touch rocks why it's m m means it's not a necessary thing but thear says you are allowed to carry up to some say handful some say three rocks three to five rocks that are sharp rocks why you murdering somebody why are these rocks because in the days of thear these sharp rocks were used instead of what we call today toilet paper they didn't have toilet paper 2,000 years ago the way they would uh the way they would actually wipe themselves after they go to the bathroom would be with rocks specific type of rocks one was big one was medium siiz and one was small and they were all sharp to clean the rectal area so the asked how could it be that they could carry rocks but it's not allowed to carry rocks how can you go against the rabbis but you're fulfilling what the rabbis say it says you have human dignity human dignity takes precedent over such issues meaning the meaning that you're allowed to do certain things in order to maintain human dignity so even though you're not allowed to carry rocks if you're carrying the rocks for the purpose of using that as the toilet paper of that day 2,000 years ago then it's not only allowed it's a mitvah why it's dig human dignity why because if somebody is not allowed to carry the Rocks then they're going to be scared to go to the bathroom they're not going to go to the bathroom anymore and if they can't go to the bathroom they got to suffer the entire Shabbat or if they do go to the bathroom what's going to happen to them they're not going to be able to wipe themselves everybody has to suffer now no human dignity is very very significant in sh it's not just the tainted mind that we all think about right now oh the guy is walking around like not like that we're talking about human dignity human dignity in the eyes of hem is significant why he says you be holy because I am Holy meaning you're my children you're my children M you're my children wait I'm going to let you walk around with less less dignity your princes your princesses so of course if someone something caus you anguish you have human dignity it's no problem right dogs again you have a dog okay no no no we don't no we don't I I don't tell you these things that in regards to the cabalistic stuff as far as souls and and reincarnations uh because that's I'm telling you this really just for educational purposes now as far as pets you are allowed to have pets whether it's fish or it's parrots or even dogs and cats and so on according to Kabal not is the law according to cabala you should not have a do dog because it's impure animal it's an impure animal you should not have a dog now if you do have a dog then I'm you're not allowed to just throw him in the street because now you just learning the Shure that oh he's impure let me go throw him in the street why you're that is a you're not allowed to torture an animal you're not allowed to hurt an animal so first and foremost you what you need to do if you have an animal any type of animal is you need to learn the of animals first teaches us is you must feed the animal before yourself so if you're about to eat dinner you want to eat dinner you want to eat lunch you want to eat breakfast feed the dog first feed the dog first why but I'm hungry it doesn't make a difference hungry no hungry feed the dog first feed the cat first feed the fish first before you why they're depending on you they're depending on you every single minute you eat before you fed them is a sin not mitvah so you have to learn these things second thing is you need to learn that the uh when in America and many other places uh you know they require you to pick up the waste after they go out outside you're not allowed to do that on Shabbat it's considered M so you have to figure out a plan maybe send him to your back yard or something like that you're also not allowed to just have your dog go in the neighbor's yard just because he's not Jewish that's I have a neighbor that does that to us by the way I have a neighbor that thinks that his dog is public property so his dog goes on our yard and the neighbor's yard and everybody's yard and he leaves it there he doesn't clean it up he thinks it's like everybody should enjoy the dog so PE some people think that their dog is everybody's dog eventually they come back as a gig as a dog and they realize they shouldn't have done it but anyway the uh the thing is though is that you have to understand that there is a you're not you know not touch those things third thing is is that the dog itself the dog itself you're not allowed especially on Shabbat to pet it you're allowed to take it out for a walk with a leash but you're not alled to pet it because dog is considered M next thing is the dog is never allowed to sleep in your bed even if he's as adorable as the dog that I used to have before he died bully that was my dog for 16 years he was adorable he was great he was amazing not allowed not allowed why it's impure it's an impure animal they have to sleep somewhere else they can't sleep in your bed not even in your room in reality if you don't have one you shouldn't get one if you have one then you should do everything you can to treat them really really well because no one wants to go to G for mistreating an animal okay you have to feed them you have to take care of them and so on and so forth you can't just throw them out into the uh into the walls like oh go free Go free Willie Go Go free no you can't do that you you took ownership you have to take responsibility you took ownership you have to take responsibility and if you could find a you don't want your animal anymore and you can find a responsible owner then fine but to just kill animals because you don't want them anymore like many people do they kill almost 1.9 million pitbulls a year in America 1.9 million pitbulls a year are killed by people in America they euthanize them people decide they don't want them or they fight them all types of things it's it's it's awful awful thing human beings are much worse than animals sometimes we're the only species in the world that kills for fun all the other species kill for to survive we kill for fun sometimes many times most of the time so without Tora we are worse than animals so you have to know the the laws of animals as far as the reincarnations andot being inside your walls inside the dog inside the cat and so on and so forth this is just for entertainment purposes for educational purposes it's not for you to start looking for souls in your house don't start looking all here you here I saw face I saw face on the bathroom floor I know it's something I know it's something it's a face it's a maybe it don't start looking for souls in your house there's no souls there's no this this is for cabal stuff that we teach a little bit here and there just to give you a little of a taste of how significant the world is beyond the world you think it is the world is much more significant than what we know that's the point it's not for you to start changing your life and start looking for every single thing that looks like a face on your bathroom floor is a soul don't start because you'll drive yourself crazy it's not going to it's not going to end uh like fun you will see faces in million different places doesn't necessarily mean it's a soul just a lot of other things could be yeah back the purpose of reincarnation is to give the soul another chance to fix itself every single one of us is a reincarnation every single one of us have been here before most people do not remember who they were and what they were before this life uh that's part of the test to fix the things that if you knew that you were here and you were here specifically to fix something by default then it wouldn't be so much of a test but all of us were here before every single Jewish Soul was in Mount saai meaning that we've messed up quite a few times we've come back quite a few times um but nonetheless Hashem still wants us to do cha now how do you know what you here to fix by default the first things you have to fix are the things that are the most difficult for you that's how you know why you're here so some people are very very generous so if they're very generous and they have no problem giving for that's not their T they should obviously do it it's aah but that's not the reason they came back to the to the world because it's very easy for them to fulfill this mitvah and not fail for the sin but if someone for example is angry like he's a dynamite as soon as you look at him the wrong way he wants to rip your hair off okay then obviously that's part of the reason why he came to the World he's he has to work on his anger on his character trait of anger if someone for example is a uh you know I don't know he's Idol worshipper he's attracted to all types of Idols he's attracted to idolizing his Rabbi idolizing the cow idolizing money idolizing anything that moves or doesn't move as soon as he thinks that it's a quick fix for something he uh he he's the first one in line to do it so it could potentially be that he he has to come back and fix that issue most most of us have quite a bit more than just one issue to fix but if you want to know why you here initially the biggest thing is the things that are the most difficult for you things that are the most difficult for you uh as you'll notice most PE most men have similar issues and most women have similar issues meaning there's usually like a generational tun men usually have money issues and wasting seed and inappropriate uh eyes women have modesty issues modesty of speech modesty of wear so there's a lot of common denominators and also a little bit of idolatry as well so obviously there's more individual tun that people have but there's a generational tun that's very welln uh so if you find a uh person that doesn't have modesty issues meaning that this person is likes modest clothes then obviously the tun is something else but generally speaking the generational tun is seems to be relatively the same for many people at least on the big things small things each person has their own tun yeah know repeat that again I'm uh yes or no yes or no it's because of something he said to actually okay so could it be wouldn't be a coincidence there's no such thing wearn yeah that the rabbis that are being turned into idols and the people that are worshiping them could it be that they are themselves being PA measure for measure for a of the past that you'll have to ask God when you meet him but um I could tell you that there is a uh there is a that said once uh I'm not going to go into all of it because very very extensive it's a Shure of its own but the um Yeshua Bon Yeshua benon made a uh mistake made a mistake once in his life we make a mistake every two seconds and uh the mistake was connected to idolatry not him himself shalom but the point is is that he said maybe that's the reason why kind of sounds like it's much more extensive than what I'm telling you but the point is is that JC peny in Hebrew is Yeshua whereas Yeshua Ben is yosua there's an extra letter there but he said it kind of sounds like it the idol sounds like the sage why because one of the things that he did sounded like a sin but it really wasn't he tried to do something good ended up being bad so what you're saying you are in the right direction sometimes we mean good and it gets bad and hasem pays measure for measure now mosenu to correct what you said mosenu had some descendants that ended up becoming Idol worshippers had one specific descendant that became an idol worshipper actually Cohen for the idol worshippers meaning a priest Pope how could it be you also had I'm sorry hinos was his descendant to the rabbi R AKA so point is he had a lot of descendants one was bad why the Torah says that when he spoke the he agreed when he told told him listen I understand you have direction that you're going to but you have to agree to make your firstborn son G make Him worship my idol and mosenu passively said okay not because shalom was still an idol worshiper because we know that was looking for the truth and not because Shalom Moshe was willing to bring his son as a Shalom but rather because was looking for the truth in an indirect way and Moshe was convinced that his son was going to actually help it do chuva was going to make him do the right thing in the kind of way but still it looked it smelled like inappropriate and he said it smelled inappropriate something inappropriate will eventually come out of it but that's that's like the you know small hair that he you know measures theim obviously all of us are the same in in a sense that hashm also judges us but as far as explaining every single tiny thing that ever happens right now if a certain Rabbi has certain people me you know worshiping him or a certain sadik has this no you don't we don't know that we don't care to know it it's not our it's not our thing to to to care or to know that's aem's business really the big problem is with the students more than just the rabbi it's a problem with the students because the students if they would simply learn Tora they' learned they learned the Ten Commandments they were learned they not allowed to make their their Rabbi into an idol and they' stop but most of the people that idolize their rabbis usually don't know much else usually they don't know much else I mean it just uh was it today or yesterday I'm kind of losing the track of time but somebody sent me an email that they're making another very famous Rabbi into mashiah this time he's alive though this time he's alive and they decide oh m is with us he's going to announce himself in a couple of days with he's alive and they're already sending mass emails to different people I guess I was on the list say oh Mas mashia he's mashia what's the problem the the rabbi scile the rabbi is mkin he's old he's scile doesn't no right or left he's not there anymore but they're making it mashia for some reason these make all the uh holy when they can't respond and defend for themselves they make him into mashia why cuz there's money involved but listen hasm has to pay m to the wicked and to the righteous and that's it but listen as far as sometimes when there's a sadik that gets embarrassed it's not necessarily always a for what we think so for example mean you when M saw the future he saw akaa was KES to such an extent that he knew Tor thatu didn't know but then he saw the end of AKA and RAB aka's end was horrendous the evil Romans took him peeled his skin off and then they started selling his meat in the market for people to eat they sold his meat by weight like a cow so said this is Torah that's this reward how could such a horrible thing happen toes hasm said shut up that's what you said shut up it's not your business you're not going to be able to see my face and live meaning you're not going to be able to see things that I'm doing and understand them while you're in this world I have you're only going to understand things I've already done that's it so there's certain things we know there certain things we don't know the things we know are things that already happened and himself has literally told us why and who and what but things that are happening right now or things that Willen it's not for us to delve into it's not for us to wonder it's not for us to Care all we can care about and should care about is doing chuva doing chuva that's the only thing you should care about why whatever somebody else is dealing with and who and what and where is not going to help you anyway not going to help you anyway if this guy's or this guy's rash is not going to help you anyway all you got to worry about is doing CH and the sh will help us do cha we have another sh tomorrow night that will also help us do cha we actually have to start a new Mish tomorrow so after five we finish this m and tomorrow we'll continue the questions I have to also get some sleep sometime in between yes today and tomorrow so I'm sure you guys too as well unless you guys are all and you all have been just entertaining me but thank you very much for learning t with me amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music]