After Hours with Rabbi Yaron Reuven (30)

[Music] anything what if a person Ken there are certain things that we missing but how do you know what if a person know missing uh so he looks at the Torah and he looks what what it says to do in the Torah and he looks at himself so for example if the Torah says that you have to learn you know a lot a lot of Tora every day if the person doesn't learned and he already knows that he's lacking that Tora says not that to be angry being angry means that is is the equivalent of it's a horrible thing to do which all of us fail at but acting out our anger like throwing things breaking things and so on could you know get the say it's the level of if the person gets angry then obviously he needs he knows that he uh needs to work on his anger if he's stingy the T says don't be stingy be generous if you know so there's different character traits that a person needs to evaluate what does AEM want what do I do so that's the first thing second thing is also the mitv is he fulfilling every single Mitzvah obviously not there's a Mitzvah that he's not doing so whatever he's not doing he needs to do what if he doesn't know that's the point of learning tah once you learn tah you start learning of what you do and what you don't do you start learning of all the things that you're not doing a lot of people think that they're observing the mitv perfectly well but I can tell you from experience most people most people don't know half as much as they think they know and I'm not talking about people that are not religious or people that are bital I'm talking about people that are FR from birth talking about people that are religious from birth they ask questions that are the same questions as the B the the questions that are coming from people that have been religious their whole life I'm telling you from experience have dealt with thousands and thousands of questions it's helped me learn a lot but I could tell you also one of the things that I learned is that the uh the uh the problem the disease of ignorance is both in the religious and non-religious world the only difference is the religious world look like they're religious but as far as knowledge is concerned many of them have the same exact questions as the non-religious now obviously they know about basics of they know they have to have a Suka they know you have to you can't like to fire on Shabbat they know that uh you know you can't carry M they know some basic things like that it's more than a b chba but a lot of other foundational questions they do not know so first and foremost I could I could tell you never feel like your question is uh unique or uh makes you stupid or it's a bad question there's no such thing as a bad question we live in a generation of ignorant people no one knows myself included I didn't know anything before I knew no one knows before they know if you don't ask if you don't learn you're never going to know you're never going to know if you don't ask and you don't learn you're never going to know you don't ask you're not going to learn you don't learn you're never going to know you don't you're never going to know you're never going to know gin no one ignorant goes to gedin No One ignorant goes to Ganan you can't play the ignorant card so this obligates to learn once you learn you start realizing the more you learn the more you're lacking why because you start realizing how much is expected from you how many things you're supposed to do so when it comes to shabbat it's not just eat drink and go to sleep and pray in the middle there's a lot more to it when it comes to the it's not eat drink go to sleep pray in between and that's it there's a lot more to it when it comes to uh schom bite it's not just uh get married have kids and say hello and goodbye and give some money there's a lot more to it when it's having kids it's not just send the kids away to Yesa to a school somebody else's babysit them and you're finished there's a lot more to it when it comes to learning to it's not just open a book read some words and that's it and thank you very much see you next week there a lot more to it every single Mitzvah is a lot more to it and I'm not referring to theas the stringencies and the things that are that are above and beyond I'm talking about basic level requirement there's a lot more to it none of us are even remotely close to doing all of the basics which means all of us have a lot of work to do and if we don't know that simply means we haven't learned anything yet and we have to start learning so that's number one learn all the things that are expected from you which takes a lifetime that's number one you learn it you realize you have to do it start doing it that's number one number two work on your character traits how do you know what to work on Realize what's your problem how do you realize what your problem is ask your ask who's close to you what do you think my problem is trust me when I tell you if they ask you you really want me to tell you you really want me to tell you everybody's going to tell you really want me to tell you because everybody has already five things that they've been thinking about they didn't want to tell you because I don't want to offend you what's my problem you're anxious you're stingy you smell bad you're ER they're going to give you a list of things so you don't have to necessarily do that you can just look in the mirror and see okay am I anxious yes am I uh you know am I nervous person yes am I uh uh stingy yes am I a big spender on myself and not anything else yes am I uh Angry I get angry at every little ant yes am I you know all these things a problem you know what you are if you don't know what you are no one's going to know what you are everybody knows there at least something they have to work on so that's the first thing so you have to work on those character traits you have to work on a and usually the things that are the most difficult for you are one of the primary reasons why you in this world in the first place meaning if there's a specific one or two or three mitv that are extremely difficult for you to do for example wasting seed wasting seed is one of the uh it is the rambam says is the biggest addiction a human being can have even more than drugs if you have this addiction and you realize that it's wrong because you've watched the shoe that we've talked about it then you're still addicted to it you're still not willing to do Chua for it that obviously means that this your body uh is new but your soul isn't and that Soul was affected and infected by the sin from your previous Carnation and came to this world primarily to fix that uh that issue as one of the things so if you have an issue with wasting seed whether it's by yourself or with multiple women or whatever it is that you're doing then that's the reason if you're a woman and every every week you have a new boyfriend that's your problem you have to fix that if a uh you have to learn you have to learn about these things I don't mean learn oh oh listen learn okay watch you and don't do anything about it learn the consequences learn the punishment it's important to learn the punishment because the only thing that wakes us up sometimes is punishment so learn about the punishment before the punishment comes um so you have there's a character Trace that you have to work on if you're lazy if you're uh uh if you eat too much if you eat too little you know different things everyone has something everyone has something and usually much more than something some things as far as meets there's plenty of things that we all have to do but that's what we came to the world for you don't look at the books and say I'm lacking so much I have all these bad character traits I'm missing all of these mitv I'm So Far Away might as well do nothing that's the thought of the Satan himself that put into your head that's not what we're supposed to think what you're supposed to think is forget about everything forget about everything no one ask you to do everything right now hasem asked you to do one thing after you do one thing do another thing after do another thing do another thing and no one ask you to become rich overnight no one ask you to become rich overnight everyone ask you get a job get a job go make 500 bucks a week go make a living survive worry about being rich somewhere down the road this mentality that we have in this generation that we want you know they uh you know to be rich quick and want results quick and want things quick is the poison is the poison that's feeding the monster this this mentality that the world is an iPhone where everything needs to be uh the click of a button that's cancer that's spiritual cancer that's what's killing us we're expecting fast results if it's not easy we don't do it if it's not quick we don't want it that's the wrong mentality the right mentality the D is something that's good requires time meaning you need to work on it every day now requires time you're going to work on it once a month and then hopefully in 10 years from now I'll be finished no it's not a painting work on it meaning every day work on it every day work on it every day work on it every day work on it and eventually in seven years from now before you know it you finished you finished but it's already become part of you and that's what we have to realize these things are hard yes but don't look at the whole picture look at today and tomorrow look at tomorrow and then tomorrow and the next day look at the next day you failed get up do it again everyone's GNA fail that's what SCH says seven times a sadik falls and gets up what does it mean in order to be a sadik in order to get the level of being righteous you have to fall why because it means you tried it means you tried fixing yourself you're not going to be able to fix yourself without falling you're not going to be able to fix yourself without making the same sin again why you have desires like I have desires like everybody has desires but it's not okay it's not okay to fail it's just a reality it's a reality that we have to deal with because of our addictions because of our desires because of what we've gotten used to but that's what Hashem brought you to the world to do to fix yourself to remove this to remove this from within you but the only way you're going to do is if you work hard if you're trying to take it easy you're G to like be a laidback Jew I'm telling you I'm telling you from what based on everything that I've learned from my Rabbi from the books from everything else you have zero chance of getting to geden zero zero chance there is no laid-back Judaism there is no doing Judaism on the side and every unless it's a priority in your life you have a zero chance of surviving both as a Jew or as a gentile you want to be a righteous nohide you have to make God number one you want to you want to be a righteous Jew you have to make God number one unless God is number one in your life but not God like you tell everybody I love Hashem but you know in the meantime you're stealing robbing and everything else God is number one really unless you make God number one in your life you have a zero chance of making it why because there's too much there's too much desires and stimulations and all types of things that are going to go against you so this is the most important thing we got to sh number 100 I'm hoping that by now by now we're getting the point by now you're getting the point this is the message it took us 100 sh to get here 100 she to get here but that's the point if you're still doubting one word that I said throughout the last two hours you haven't learned anything from me and I prefer you don't come back why I can't teach you you need to to find a new Rabbi you need to find a new teacher if by now you've doubt one thing that I that I said which was not my opinion it's Tor if you doubt it for one 1% that means I I'm not the vessel that will teach you it doesn't mean you're a bad person doesn't mean that I'm a bad teacher necessarily it just means we're not a good match we're not a good partnership you got to find a teacher that you could actually learn from hopefully you can find one that tells the truth but if you understand that you need to do this you need to do chuva I need to do chuva everybody needs to do chuva is a lot of work to do we're moving forward but that's what you have to think about all this time during PES the holidays all of these things that's what you have to think about do I want to fix myself and have this world and the next or do I just want to enjoy now the joy now I can tell you from experience is an illusion it's an illusion because the reality is it doesn't matter how much money you have doesn't matter how many women you have and how many kids you have and how much material you have everyone has a tough life everyone life is tough for everyone there's no such person on planet Earth that does not have a tough life everyone has a tough life everyone you have eight billion people in the world approximately every single one of them has a difficult life why that's life if you're expecting a life that's not difficult you're expecting something that's not life that point of life is difficulty that's the point why difficulty build you difficulty makes you what you're supposed to be if you're not developing yourself to become a better person through your difficulty then all it's doing is ruining you it's making you worse than what you already were to begin with you're not even taking advantage of the gift hm has giving you but in reality is difficulty is everywhere if you're thinking that money is going to solve your problems wrong if you think that marriage is going to solve your problems wrong kids going to solve your problems wrong none of the only thing that's going to solve your problems is if you do Chua and understand the purpose of life purpose of life is connect to God connect to God do what he wants do what's good for you based on what he wants and that's a good life why because if you're happy if you're happy that means you're happy with your share regardless of what your share is whether it's a lot or a little whether it's a lot or a little only way you can get to that type of mindset is with God in your life but that type of mindset is only if you're glued to him not if he's there on the side like a old pair of jeans if he's primarily he is the house he is number one if he's number one your life will be number one if not you'll have a difficult life like everybody else but you'll constantly Chase your tail with the illusion that maybe one day it's going to be easy ask any old man ask any old woman 80 90 however old they get ask him do you have an easy life that's all laughing at you look at any book that was ever written by somebody old that lived for a while Rich poor indifferent show me one example both in the secular world or the religious world if somebody says life is easy doesn't exist the chase that we have for an easy life is an optical illusion it's the illusion of the so if you start realizing that and we face that reality that already repositions us okay stop expecting something that's impossible and start addressing life for what it is we came here to work we came here to work for who for for for Nike for Pepsi for for who work work for hem okay so I don't work for Hashem oh he said do this this this and this okay fine I'll do it and by doing it your life becomes better even the struggle has a purpose even the difficulty becomes okay not that you're enjoying the difficulty but you start realizing there's a meaning to the difficulty and that makes life good since you're already here might as well do it took us 100 she to get here you got the point I get the point and by the time we meet again hopefully in a couple of weeks before we leave we'll have some other questions some other things to talk about yeah you have other questions some sources say that a person should giveu to the point where it becomes there some that say get depends depends on the person's level depends on a person's level a person that truly is in a high level should literally look at anything above and beyond of what he needs is extra says if somebody ate today he ate food today on the bottom of the page it says if somebody ate today and asks what am I going to eat tomorrow will I have food tomorrow that person has no imuna me what do you mean it's a logical question to ask what am I going to eat tomorrow I had just enough to buy a sandwich today I spent all my money I don't have any more money zero money in the bank no Bitcoins no uh this coin no that coin nothing zero how am I going to eat tomorrow it's a logical question right theab says that person has no why if worried enough for you to eat today why you even asking about tomorrow obviously if you worried about today worri about tomorrow so somebody that's at a high level of and understands that literally every penny that they have every penny that they have above and beyond their needs should be going to should be going to something else why because you don't need it you don't need it and that's why the says person that sees that he doesn't even have enough I said in the beginning the person that sees he doesn't even have enough for for his bills he has $5,000 in bills but he only has $2500 the says in page seven says he should give yeah but that would make me even more of a deficit I'm already short 2500 now if I give a $100 I'm be short 2600 exactly what do you mean exactly that's opposite of what that's exactly the point logic does not belong does not belong in your relationship with hm logic does not belong in your relationship with hm you're obligated to give you're obligated to give you're obligated to fulfill logic does not belong there the point is of giving why K is saying give when you actually are even short is because by doing that you're admitting to AEM all the money that I had when I had a lot came from you all the money that I don't have now is because of you all the money that I will have in the future is because of you therefore is to you meaning you're admitting to hasem it's all coming from you anyway the deficit or the Surplus it's coming from you regardless I'm oblig to give is so a person understands that in a high level obviously should get to a point where literally have no savings whatsoever a person that's not could have savings but again you should not have such a surplus where the world around you is starving and you're uh rocking and roll rolling you're you're driving Bentleys you know so that's that's that's the thing that people need to understand um when it comes to when it comes to giving generosity is what wins because that's one of the major character traits that we learned from Hashem and a person that's not generous the gar says Hashem hates him person that's cheap is one of the few people that hem hates he hates that that character trait cuz it's literally the opposite of him so it's not necessarily a contradiction it's just it's just a matter of where the person stands where he stands obligation is to give how much you give depends on you I give you a story just uh now now happened someone I know well says uh listen you know I told people sometimes ask questions if there specific project you're working on or whatever so I listed a bunch of projects that we're working on and one of the things that we listed was to help we help scholars in in in uh in Jerusalem that learned T it's one of the many projects that we have on a month to month basis every month we do it we send money there but also sometimes we do so uh anyway conversation began where I said okay we have this uh that we send money to and we have this uh family this uh guy that uh I believe he was a rabbi or at least very religious lost his mind fell off the de and left his wife and eight kids left her left Hashem left everything and emptied out the bank account and pretty much left him for dead and uh so we try to help whatever we can uh so anyway this was one of the things that we tried raising some money for so long story short there's no end to the money that we need if we could help all the people that we want to help so there's four different stories there was one kid that needed there was one guy that uh lost all of his money through some medical issues and uh needed some help to get started again there was some some people that needed some money for the holidays and there was his family so this one guy said oh listen I have a he doesn't have much money uh he's like oh listen I have uh I have an extra $3,000 so what do you mean extra nobody has extra the millionaire doesn't have extra the millionaire Bill Gates you ask him how much money you have extra he says nothing why using all your money goes no but it's not extra all the money I have is my money it's not extra so this guy says I have extra $3,000 so we can divide it up to these $1,000 for the $1,000 for the uh for the family few hundred for this spread it out for all these before cleaning out the what's the the money it's extra we're supposed to get rid of the extra have extra I guess why is it extra why is it extra I don't need it that's why it's extra that's that's a clean mind that's a mind that understands money that you have in your bank is not yours p is not just about food chuva is not just about keeping uh Shabbat and sleeping all day there's a lot more to it that's a mind that's a mind that's trying to do chuva that's a mind that's trying to do chuva but Al we have more Minds like that do you understand so the person right you know he's willing to do it and hasm rewards him for it but the point is is that how many people want to do that I don't know I was I was sufff was I was going to tell you guys the story or not actually wasn't planning on because it's not a normal story I think I told you a story about him once before it's not a normal situation there are some people like this in the world that's what keeps the world going that's what gives hem a reason to keep this world going that some people don't uh pray to money next question yeah what if a Jew does everything but still suffering good ah so if somebody is doing everything he's doing all the mitvah he fixed his midot not only is he likely suffering but uh he welcomes the suffering he wants the suffering he want is suffering the uh happiness and suffering have nothing to do with each other happiness is a choice suffering is not happiness is a choice you make Okay so I'll give you several stories this is I don't know if this is for you guys but you're asking for the story I'll give you Stories the K Shalom discovered one of the 36 sadik that's in the in the world in every generation in every generation there has to be 36 that are usually hidden and that the world lives because of them the world continues because of them meaning if there's not 36 sikim hasem destroys the world there has to be 36 sikim obviously there's more than 36 righteous people in the world but there's 36 people that are sikim that are just KES and he found out who is this one person he was this person that was a Shoemaker called him a sandal sand so the s who K one of his students decided to follow him one day one of his students decided to follow him to learn from the Rabbi says don't just learn their Torah learn from their actions so decide to follow him but follow him in hiding and do what he did he learned I'm going to learn he learned five hours I'll learned five hours he learned 20 hours I'll learn 20 hours he thinking that the uh sadik is not noticing or caring or whatever he's following him and each time he does something he does it he sees that at some point during the uh after a while he's doing this at some point once in a while he comes to his front door which was very very thick metal huge door and he smash he takes the door he puts his hand in the door and he smashes the door in his hand causing an endless amount of pain now as soon as he saw this the students was like scared like okay you okay is everything okay don't quiet don't tell anybody sh so now he thought okay so I'll do if the rabbi could do it I'll do it he took the door he smashed on his hands and he lost all of his fingers so now he asked the rabbi Rabbi so why do you why do you do it he says every time I sense that is has more sins than MIT I take on more suffering on me I take more suffering on myself to even out the account why because there has to be a punishment from sh more sins than MIT requires punishment measure for measure measure for measure punishment comes for sins doesn't come for mitv so every time I see is as a nation has more more sins than than than MIT I take some of the suffering on myself okay then how come I couldn't do it not everyone can be the sufferer not everyone can take on the sins of the nation people say oh yeah listen I'm suffering I'm probably suffering for you know the guy did Chua last week like yeah yeah I'm suffering today I got a stomach ache I got this I'm probably suffering for the nation as a nation suffer for your own sins everybody's convinced they suffering for the nation they haven't even finished suffering for the sins they did in the last week but some people some people are KES and they understand that uh suffering is a NE necessity it's a necessity why just go excuse me why just go tell because they already made the sins the sins were already made by time even if they would do CH it would still take time punishment is decreed at that moment you want another story um it better to learn for the sake of teaching or to learn for the for the sake of itself page 16 says 16 maybe 17A I think it's the end of the 16 beginning 17A I believe says that a person that learns Tor without an intention of teaching it is like a person who does not have a god a person who learns Torah day and night 20 hours a day but he has no intention of teaching he wants to learn for himself he wants to be I don't know smarter than everybody else in the world says that person doesn't have a God why number one thing you learn from the Torah hasem gives hashem's character trait is giving if you're going to go learn it to that means you're going to learn about him if you learned about him and you still don't realize that you're supposed to give just like him then you haven't learned anything at all means you're not learning the Torah like the Torah is you're learning it like it's a book like it's a novel and that's like a person doesn't have a God so that doesn't necessarily mean that every single time you learn a page you go teach right away if you haven't even learned Al fet yet but your ultimate intention should be to teach what does it mean what does it mean to learn TMA learn TMA is you're doing it not because of the reward you're doing it because you're you're doing it because it makes it pleases hem it pleases hem now there is a reward and there's a punishment you know that every time you learn to you get rewarded every time that uh there's even a single word that you learn from a you get rewarded to for every letter now if a person only studies because of the reward that he's ultimately going to get that's Lish that's that's their they're learning for the reward but if you learn it simply because you know that's hashem's will not because you're going to get a reward but simply aem's will that pleases him that's lishma that's that's that's LMA I'm sorry that's LMA but as far as teaching teaching has nothing to do with it teaching is something completely different teaching is is an outcome of what you do with uh with your learning uh but ultimately you have to teach so now does that mean that every single person that learns to has to be a public lecturer no it means you have to teach sometimes if you have the ability you teach the public if you have the you teach the public if you don't have it you teach let's say a few friends if you don't have it even the ability to teach a few friends teach your kids if you don't have any kids teach your wife if you don't have a wife life teach yourself the point is you should always be teaching somebody you have to teach somebody and that's that's that's ultimately the key if a person understands that learning tah is not only about learning laws it's not just about learning and being a robot it's about developing your character traits it's about perfecting yourself through the Torah and one of the main things is to know that you have to share this beautiful knowledge you have to share this this Divine knowledge to share the the knowledge of God once you understand that sharing this knowledge is a is critical then you you understand already the the point of life what if a person learns and doesn't have the ability to teach I just said it you listen what' I say no I forgot okay first is if you have the ability in then you teach the world whoever would listen to you you teach them okay if you you don't have theay you can only teach five people then you teach five people if you don't have the you can only teach five people you only have one friend you teach the one friend if you don't have one friend then you teach your kids if you don't have any kids then you teach your wife if you also don't have a wife and no kids and no friends and no crowd teach yourself look in the mirror teach yourself the point is there's always somebody to teach will if you really want to teach will send you somebody to teach isn't teaching yourself the equivalent of just reading it on your own no no teaching teaching yourself is much deeper than that teaching yourself means you're learning it out loud means that you're going over it it's you're going back and forth even against your own logic yeah I heard a lot about um witing SE for men remember mentioned something almost equivalent for women but not quite the same however I was I wanted to know if there were any clear the Tor all selfing women yeah the r says that it's considered a disgusting act for women uh it's not the way of a woman it's considered immodest and the uh the Ben Shalom uh writes that a woman that Wast seed although the magnitude of the uh sin is not as great as a man that waste seed because har is not actually a seed seed it's just you know she has an egg and she's pleasuring herself and so on but it's considered so disgusting in the eyes of Hashem that even that action actually creates demons the same as the man's uh uh uh wasting seed creates demons so uh it's it's not only it's it's not the same level of punishment as far as Gom being endless but it's but it is a Gom it is a punishment it is horrible uh so let's say for example uh wasting seat for a man is level you know is the worst level this let's say from 1 to 10 it's 10 for woman it's six seven eight it's not that much less but it's definitely uh it's definitely a sin but it's definitely not as Grave it's not as Grave of a sin but the Ben specifically says that uh that uh action uh does create demons does create uh is act and several other things that also goes for the same thing for homosexuality to be a man a woman a woman right yes a woman is not allowed to be with a woman a man is not allowed to be with a man in the eyes of hem homosexuality is no different than beastiality same thing as a man being with an animal because simply what it is is that a person is not able to control their desires a person is simply not able to control their desires is no different than an animal if he works Works purely off of instinct purely off of his his desires he wants to be with a person he he takes on he's no different than a uh any an animal he's no different than uh you know people that are not very good people in the eyes of hem he may be a nice person he may be generous he may be a donator he may be very smart he may build buildings he may build iPhones and all those nice things but in the eyes of hem is's a rash he's a wicked person that must do chuva and if he cares about his relationship with hem even a even a small token then he would understand that he needs to do Chua and he can do Chua now what people don't understand is that they think that the uh only the big sins are the ones like homosexuality wasting seed Shabbat those are the big things that uh you know that that ruin your life but in reality there even things that we think are very simple or in some case don't even think are uh are are sins that create havoc in our life I learned from my that last week's is actually it's one of the longest commentary in about uh talks about it much more extensively and he says that there are two angels and it names the Angels by name but I'm not going to tell you the names you're not allowed to say them anyway there's two specific angels that have a test there's two angels there's millions of Angels in sh but there's two specific angels that will created simply to punish a person in this world and the next that's their only purpose there's some angels are in the middle of sham saying kados kados kados some angels are even created saying kados kados kados and then they they they they get destroyed they go on fire some honorem in different ways there's different purposes for different Angels these two angels there're specifically two angels that were created to punish a person in this world and the next so now question is why do they exist what do they what for what what's what are they punishing him for what did he do shabat wasting seed uh what he's stealing what did he do what is this person doing anybody I want to guess no close no no no no close very close but no it's something that most of us don't even think is a sin they're they're they're there these two angels were created to punish a person in this world and the next why for two things number one not honoring the Torah enough and two not giving enough respect to somebody that taught them even a single thing of t somebody said to you oh by the way you know you're not to drive on Shabbat that's it you never heard from him again never learned anything from him again and you didn't give him enough honor there's literally Angel created just to punish you for that we don't even think it's a sin we think okay big deal he told me don't if he didn't tell me somebody else would have told me I would have read it in the book I would have found it on my own that's because we don't understand what omad means that's we we don't understand what the depth of judgment is we you think it's like ah you live your life I live my life I do my thing you do your thing what's the big deal that's the problem that is the problem with the problem is that we think we're alone here so the more you learn the more scary reality is so I wouldn't necessarily worry about doing everything I would worry about what do what's in front of you what's in front of you you know what's in front of you if you're lacking on Shabbat keep Shabbat you're lacking on wasting seed stop wasting seed you're lacking on promiscuity stop being promiscuous you're lacking on modesty stop being you're lacking on certain things you're not allowed to do once you've already fixed a lot of things you're not allowed to do then start doing the things you're supposed to do you're lacking on going to be go to beet you're lacking on whatever it is you're supposed to do once you've already starting to do that you also start realizing oh I start have to reflect everybody hates me why because I'm a I don't know a little angry bird I'm always angry so I have to uh calm down okay so that's the next thing you work on or the guy's arrogant you know arrogant person says even his own family hate him someone that's arrogant even his family gets to a point where they hate him meaning that a person a person could always expect to get love from one place where his family his mom his dad his kids his wife an arrogant person can get to a level where literally everyone hates him including his family including the only place in the world that he can get love why that's how detestable the the character trait of arrogance is and you know who's the Arrogant person's biggest enemy another arrogant person they hate each other they hate each other that's why by the way you know a lot of the people that hate Donald Trump tend to be very arrogant not that I like the guy but they tend to be very arrogant people because one arrogant person by Nature hates another arrogant person cuz he thinks he should have everything and the other guy thinks he should have everything so they their ego are battling it's not even their opinions I don't know r or sadik I'm not God all I know is you know we have a Tor we have certain things we have to do if he does him good if he doesn't do him then no good a just because he's a doesn't mean he's a rash job was also a go I'm say abl no but he does have the obligation to keep the seven Noah laws and all of the uh uh uh things that are common sense all of the obligations in the tah that are common sense such as honor his parents that's not one of the seven Noah laws but it is an obligation for non-jews as well he also has an obligation to uh you know learn musar develop his character trait there's no permission whatsoever to be arrogant there's no permission whatsoever to be stingy there's no permission whatsoever to have flawed character traits both the Jews and the non-jews have to learn M and have to develop their character trait so in reality even for Noah it's not really seven MIT the seven Noah laws are similar to The Ten Commandments we all know there's not only 10 rules in the Torah there 613 but the Ten Commandments break off into the 613 the seven laws of Noah break off into about 50 laws it's not seven in reality anyone that really wants to be righteous ultimately would want to be a Jew if they can be because it's much more difficult to be a righteous noahide than to be a righteous Jew why because each punishment for being a righteous uh uh uh for being a if you're a noahide if you mess up everything is death penalty everything even stealing stealing is death penalty whereas in Judaism stealing you have to pay double so the punishment is much more severe for a nohide so someone that wants to be righteous would want to be a Jew and that's why we try to help anyone that can't that we we can become a Jew the problem is that we we're limited number one we're limited with resources we can't give anybody any money to convert and that's usually a big problem for people they can't afford to convert they can't afford to move they can't afford to re uh to to to pay for the bedine and so on we're limited we can't we can't help with that the second thing is is that uh you know we're limited with staff you know there's endless amount of people that contact me every day ask me to help them with conversions and questions and so on but it's impossible for me to answer all the questions uh and even if I had another 50 people helping me it's still impossible there more you ask the more you answer the more you get so it's very very difficult but you try you try the best you can but usually people that are chasing the truth people that are chasing hasem eventually get there even if it takes them 14 years you know eventually they get there it's but you have to chase it and all of those people that complain against am and complain against the Torah and complain against things and how conversion is difficult and how this is difficult that difficult those people is better off they don't convert because eventually what they end up being as wicked Jews it's better off they don't convert if they're G if they have that kind of attitude anyone that wants to convert to Judaism must realize that sacrifice and and difficulty is not only a reality it's a necessity has suffered for 3,300 years to be am you can suffer for 10 10 20 30 50 70 years to be part of them it's not a big deal there's no extra extra reward you get for it what a Jew Steals and he doesn't he has no clue how much exactly how much he stols because you have to pay double but what if a jewel let's say has gone too things and he doesn't really know how much no he only has to be paid Jew only has to pay double if he gets caught if he's just ad if he's just uh turning himself in meaning he stole let's say $1,000 worth of something from someone or something uh and uh if they catch him he has to pay 2,000 but if is is turning himself in then he has to pay back the Thousand uh to them exactly what he stole if he doesn't know how much he stole he has to do an estimate he knows about he knows about what he stole no one can say I don't know about you know it wasn't a million dollars if it was a million dollars then obviously it's a it's a different situation but you would know it's a million dollars you wouldn't forget a million dollar what you usually forget you usually forget small amounts so you know about what it is it's not maybe it's not a dollar but it's not a million dollars Okay so we've already narrowed down it's not 500,000 either it's not $2 okay we narrow it that again it's not $100,000 and it's not $3 okay we narrow it down again it's not uh$ 10,000 and it's not $4 we nrow it again and you keep going going going and eventually you arrive probably at 1002 200 300 $500,000 whatever it is and that's it you have to give it back you have to give it back that's that's as simple as it gets but usually with situation like that if if it's a public company then usually you want to you want to uh contact the company and not necessarily go to a store contact the company send it to them uh if you don't know who you stole from or you can't reach the person that you stole from he died or he moved away and you tried reaching him and you can't reach him then you have to take that money and you have to give it as Saka either for for some type of Torah purpose uh if you can't reach that person but if you know who it is uh then you have to give it back to them and usually if if it's a company like a Walgreens or something like that then you have to just send a letter to the company with a check hey deposit this this is the company I'm sorry I stole 25 years ago and I did chuva and uh my God uh the god of Israel does not allow us to steal so I'm trying to do repentance he could turn that sin into a k he could turn that sin into the biggest Mitzvah in the entire Tora which is sanctifying hasem by letting the world know that he's only returning it not because he feels bad but because God said so we don't keep kosher because we feel bad for for for Animals we keep it because God said so we don't keep Shabbat because we want to take a vacation we do because God said so we don't fix our midot because we're we care about what people think we do because God said so that's the reason for every single mitvah and if you publicize to the world that you're doing what you're doing because God said so it's k too so it's not only it's if you're doing it if you tell people that you're only keeping Shabbat because it's a vacation for you or it makes sense or you like it that could potentially even remove the Mitzvah aspect from it meaning you're doing it purely because of your logic not because God said so which is a problem it's a problem is it the same thing Dage somebody's somebody's exactly what that cost yeah I mean you have to you have to pay you have to pay them back you have to depends depends if it was a accident if it was on purpose accidents and accidents if it was on purpose then obviously it's on purpose it's different story accidents happen uh you know if a uh but if it was on purpose if you just if a person just decided to just go smashing cars for for fun because he thought it was a cool thing to do then he has to pay back all the money that he destroyed people's property but if he just accidentally uh broke somebody's bike then he doesn't have to pay back says I'm sorry that's it but the point is is that it's a uh there's laws for this there's there's D for all of these things it's not also it depends on how old he was if he was a minor at the time then he doesn't have to pay anything if he was a if he was a adult you have to know all these laws you have to go to a Dan and tell them listen I did this this this and this what do I have to pay it judge judge that way but the point is is that it's important to know that chuva is a necessary part of life character development is a necessary part of chuva and doing the will of hem is the ultimate purpose of life soem this sh will wake us up make us realize that we have a lot of work to do this PES we're not only going to be cleaning out P bread from the from the closets but also the that's inside our hearts hopefully I'll see you guys uh in a week from now week and a half from now on that Sunday the last year in Florida but otherwise we got to the sh and completed the sh number 100 amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]