Are We Failing to Teach Honesty in Business?

the yeshiva dotnet and now without further we were honored to have our next speaker I remember when I was trying not trying out I was a guest room and a shul in Los Angeles they told me they went to this very fine town welcome to me the road happened to be a visiting atomic ark from tremendous time problem but they said he doesn't have to speak I said it's much easier to find the time I cuff them and teach them how to speak and to find someone who knows how to speak to me atomic clock in our case Martha shim we have both and it's a great honor to have I texted and flew down to honors with a physic and Tyrone without further ado thank you very much thank you so much good morning everybody bruised it up on him that died young in Russia Shiva's and all of you who are here today at this event I'm reminded of an old anecdote they tell about a very poor man who was starving say comes to the home of an extremely wealthy Jew who was also quite stingy knocks on the door and he begs him for some food the man says I don't feed snorers and losers like you you can go to the steeple you can go to what they used to call the hectic people you can go to show go to a simcha I don't do these things the man says I can't go anyway I haven't eaten in two days I'm going to collapse give me anything give me from your garbage leftovers from Shabbos he says then I can do he takes out a piece of fish I won't describe to you because of cover debris is the smell the texture and the color of the fish and he gives it to the man the poor man was so hungry within nine seconds it was down his esophagus but the piece of fish was so horrible salty and despicable he fainted no but he's taken to the hospital the wealthy man comes home at night and he tells his wife I have to go do a big missile he says what's the pradhan says you know we had a guest today I gave him a piece of fish NABBA he didn't take well to it he's in the hospital there's a big midst of a bigger coil and I'm gonna go visit him give all that the next day he comes home he tells his wife it's a busy day today our guest who I went to visit yesterday unfortunately he passed away there's gonna be a Lafayette on how many people are gonna go but I have to go be McCain the mitzvah boy is a nice beautiful next day he tells his wife I'm not coming home tonight the guy left the awesome sitting Shiva I have to go do the midst of nickim available okay he comes home from the shipper core and he's smiling from ear to ear his wife never saw him in such a good mood in 25 years of marriage so she says yeah Nicole was sub tomorrow so what are you so excited about I mean you're coming from a neighbor from a sugar house what's this joy and he responds and I have you forgive me I have to say this in addition they're not translate into English he says how can I not be the Scimitar give a cook before mitzvah of up Gotama advice tokenistic official how can I not be excited see how many mitzvahs I observed I committed through one smelly decadent salty piece of fish four of the greatest mitzvahs - Oh Cesare at him bicker caelum Hal vias amazed and Nick home available weirdoes one in life get a better deal than this for a salty horrific piece of fish I think this is maybe a dramatic illustration of what their Ambon famously says in the beginning of partial condition that the commandment of conditioned tu is a commandment against concerning the person who is religious very religious but vulgar or in the RAM bands inimitable expression that you all know novel beer eschew satire a degenerate with the permission of Tyler a person once asked me we had a cable and barter park and he asked me a question what do you want to know you know it's very hard unlike this Como usually when you go into a coil in Borough Park or similar neighborhood it's very far hard to find the combination of everything if this core feed there's no milk if there's milk there's no cups of this cup there's no sugar if this sugar there's no hot water if this hot water there's no coffee it's very hard to find all of the pieces of chess coming together at least in Brooklyn and this Schuyler would give a shear till two o'clock and then he needed his coffee for him the coffee was mom her survival because nephesh but it was never milk by two o'clock there was no milk so he brought a bottle of milk from his house and he puts it there for his coffee of course he finishes this year he comes to the bottle of milk and it's empty so what does he do the next day he puts on the bottle of milk a little settle a little note wash em Horace employer back books a Shia appointee almani this battle belongs to so-and-so he finishes this year the bottle is empty they used it what's next he gets a little more aggressive yeah he puts a big note Loy sig knife then the milk is empty it's been used the next day he already puts on a home aha well he's sitting there as one of the Saracen libris okay actually that's let's go in even a fascist have to be my signal evil but whatever he wrote there it's an Easter comer he's not Michael this is a a crime against Tyra along Mossad he comes two o'clock there's no milk there's no milk so somebody gave him a piece of advice the next day put a note call of stung the milk was untouched so he wanted to understand what's the luck what's the logic of this what's the logic why you seeking my evil eye signal didn't work but cull of Sam wearing it it's quite telling in contrast I was a little while ago in Pittsburgh I was vomiting in shul one of the trolls there and I drew an outlet a it his name is your mayor goldwasser comes over to me so I want to share with you an experience he was learning in tells as a Bakr and Hanna Shia and halakha and then from tells and he would ask sometimes you would ask your moisture Feinstein's out solid stylist he moved here to stir all tell stolen artists wrong and he had ups a Shila one day and Ramona was very accessible he could call the answer there's an apartment in the Lower East Side of Manhattan close to miss if that diversity or shall I miss you Shiva and he called some registrar of moisture to ask his shine Liholiho after rip moyes chances he picks up the call you the hello and he realizes that a night sister all who was in the morning he forgot about the change of time between cuts law between New York and Israel and in New York in New York it was the middle of the night he heard from replenishes hello that he woke him up in middle of the sleep I think he said it was 2:00 in the morning or 3:00 in the morning so he apologized this is oh I'm so sorry if I'm sure there's no no no no you called it's fine but I need a few minutes give me a few minutes and then I'll take the call and he waited on the call and then he understood but to wash his hands and say bristle Tyrel etc and he comes back he apologizes for the delay was like six seven minutes he takes his Shila he listens to it and he spots when he finishes responding that moisture tells this Baca this tells about her the mayor he says what is your address so he was wondering why he would need his address but he thought that maybe if my shot had a mimic to write down his sugars he often wrote his tremors as we know and perhaps he mails it to the question there for him to have a hectic a copy of the tremor that was his his harsh arias estimation so you give it a moistures actors if my should taste on the address he thanks him he hangs up the phone he feels bad for waking up there's a shiva middle of the night but I guess he got over that at some point a few weeks later he tells me he gets a letter from layer of moisture Wednesday he opens up the envelope is a check inside and he writes them a little note he said I made you wait on a telephone call for married sister all to America I couldn't answer right away because I had to say some price and wash my face before because I was sleeping but you waited I found that from the telephone company what the charge for that was and since it's my responsibility so therefore I'm sending you the money for that and when I heard that I remembered something that I think is not just applicable today but it's applicable for all of life the Gemara tells a story the Messiah Shabbos stuff from noon hey Amidala it's a fascinating and incredible story but it's one of those stories that leaves you hanging because there's no resolution to the story the gomorrah says that rib you hooda was sitting in front of his reba small Shmuel of course was considered one of the greatest of the Casal one of the greatest ha munich sages of his day not just a great sage and leader and died in and on the column of course but also a great physician and a great the hearing leash really did herky occasionally then I heard or he said and small was sitting in his best and of you who that his student was sitting in his presence Oscar said uh sarissa sir a woman came in and started to scream heard the scream which happens in many Jewish communities somebody comes in and starts screaming at the rabbi she screaming some curse she's screaming she's hollering about this about that you can imagine what it was but Loy I forgive all and Schmuel ignored her he didn't respond so w-who did turns to small and he says why sovereign Lamar did the master you all forget the pasok you tame oz Noah's Ark as Dow Gham Hui Kuruvilla Yana Floyd mom Allah says initially in Proverbs somebody who definite becomes death he plugs his ear to the cry of a poor person when he calls out he also won't be listened to did you forget this posit what do you think is smores response his Talmud confronts his River and says I don't understand there's a woman screaming she's in pain she's anxious she's poor whether physically financially or emotionally and you just not saying anything and she's screaming so schools responses these words race car be creamy race car the race car bhajami me your leader your head your teacher me I'm gonna be I'm going to be penalised with cold water but your teachers teacher my teacher my boss he's gonna be scolded in hot water my book Vern is the othe best in here go to him small sirs I'm not the boss I'm your teacher but I also have a boss my ruler was one of the most respect leaders and teachers of the time also extremely wealthy and successful person the famous Gemara about his soval what he left foot stuck at the end of his life says my room is the house best and he's the leader of the beddin he's here what he was opposed to for mayor I don't set policy here I may be punished with cold water but the hot water is race - the race is your teachers teacher end of story and that said the camera moves on and I asked you today know what what is this Shmuel is confronted by w hood there he says what do you want for me go to marula very often people say that this is a question that is a very common question you working maja still but you're working in a company or a corporation you see certain things I'm not the boss somebody is screaming there's injustice I'm not the boss there's another boss was small right was small not right we don't know what we do know the famous expression you're a Xiaomi deviator uranium by malcolm f curve are shared by makamaka tire is a mosaic a tapestry and myself is Bob a bastard our feud on the base there's another story about a man named Yosef the son of Robin is schewe who fell ill and he came to what we call today a near death or a clinical death experience and when he emerged from his illness he tells his father nabiyev tells his father in Europe about his vision of the higher world of allama amis and he uses the famous expression i lung puffle drew easy I saw a upside-down world Eliana mamata dr.nirmala those who down here with the big markers they were the fine smackers over there they Epis weren't so prominent those who were downtrodden here over there they will raise the great prominence his father says loyola Moffat Raisa I'm a boy you saw a clear world here here it's a meshuggeneh Velde it's a sane world was once a yeshiva bocher will told it hats go a brown skeezites out who was the author of hezonia Casco on place after and tae seop's is one of the things that are not learned so much the prices at the end of the Gemara they're printed usually in the back of the gamora's so he tells the cops kelly says Dada how far were fanatics after how do we say for important in English I don't know where obscure there's an obscure place after his response is gonna work any image he said many many the taste is nice for our friend do this for orphan your laws that they said there's not lost your loss and a lumbar array so you saw a good world we see I'm a sugar in the world what you saw was real come stai service and this is an unusual tasteless and tasteless right some of about Peter is rabbinic on Anna Robin a phenomenal explained the story and he heard it but shame haggarium Shekar Bala be your dumb Rav me P Ralph this is verbatim what Allah says they got him said they have a tradition rebirth from rapper from rapper all the way back that what Rebbe us have saw in heaven when he had the near-death experience was small sitting in the presence of rebel Hooda you who did the teacher and smile the disciple the pupil why because small learned one thing from Ramudu that when an old lady comes in screaming about injustice you don't ignore it you have to respond you have to embrace the situation so in that world smoogle was the rapper and he would say in there sharp one keen one as he said there too that was the expression and shouts cinema but here was the other way around him he hood is there ever and school is the student that's the oiler muffle this is what the received ravney pyrrha choiceless course of an economy but i want to ask you a question is that the island murder how much did I be able to learn from you both some shafts and you know w-who to learn most of history from small most of his tiny look from small we is justice this is another murder he sent one common to school quoting a passage from this leg know he knows him he didn't even give a delay in Mishler he didn't even talk about it today yeah talking about you know what a today is you have today is in Miami where I come from the water today is today it means uh how do you say it nicely a swindler and you dish was called the today so I once asked the person I met him once and I said why are you involved in all these things you should know better he tells me I follow the pasta compassion is potable the woods Department says in slush a Loyola the yachts of Hinnom Inc awesome he came from a Hungarian and garyun of ecology an origin so was a different type of unit so slush the hideous that I come from Lithuania and Russian you dish we say did I did I they also say did I did I yeah means three but at certain pronunciations of Yiddish did I maintain that I means dishonesty a swindler says we're in slush a the Loyola a McGinnis can derive a yachts at Sydenham I know so you go out broke without any money does that's what I have learned in my life yeah this was his policy this was his philosophy and he had no capacity yet knock upon set and patches were spotted about an amariah how you have to deny situations okay this was his policy no so now I ask you small heard of passing she won't move miss Lee but abuser said yeah but is a prosecute miss many quotes deposit no admissions no explanations doesn't bring on the first ship and because of that small now becomes a students how do you explain this this is over borrow this is the clear world and one of the answers for this is based on another Gomorrah the shoppers that everybody knows that when the nonda flama Dolloff that when the non-jew comes to hillo and says teach me the whole tire standing on one foot on one leg which is basically 40 seconds I want to know all of Judaism Shama has no patience duck led by my opinion and Hillel says my deluxe Sonny look how beautifully savage do we call a tire Kula be the solutions LLL Des Moines the whole plate is don't do this somebody else what you don't like to be done to you that's the story everything else is commentary on this now go learn the before what is Hillel say hello says that if I'm learning dossier we miss actors of okay if I'm trying to figure out the difference of an awesome and a hot dose I'm trying to figure out the difference of B Lang commits ax if I'm learning about Marvel FeO Qaeda or if I'm learning but become about Mitzi above a Bosphorus Church and another who is your sadness I'm alone really what I'm learning about is sensitivity to another person it's all theis miss and Rashi on obviously saw the Hindu see her in asks a question why couldn't Hillel just say the positive the Marshall asks the question just say the hostile Erica microcell Calipari Akula different answers Manisha areum says this person was not Jewish yet that their head over half dollar Erica mouth is very deep love somebody else like yourself Duran Bond himself struggles with this how could it be says he wasn't capable of understanding rafter Larry Africa Martha what he was capable of understanding is don't treat somebody differently then you would like to be treated you don't want to be lied to you don't want to be deceived you know how to be cheated you don't want it back backstab you don't want to dagger in your back or your chest don't do it to somebody else physically or psychologically so color theory Kula ah if that's the case small towards them you live for years for decades the commentary of Tyra but rebel you who the Kiva Yahoo communicated to his rubbish more the core of tighter call a Tyra cooler so I could be a London and nobody in your cell me enough showing them enough uranium in Rambam but I just know the commentary it's like okay somebody who learns a suger and it happens sometimes in your Shiva's they know the tysonis but they don't know the Gemara which of course you can't notice if you don't of the Gemara but there are such situations we sit by seorim I'm sure my about chefs mices sauces British malls Rock AIIMS British Kirov's but some people don't know how to read the mission in the gomorrah sometimes in a more dramatic sense we sometimes know the whole commentary of theta we know every petal we know hundreds of vent lock ideas sugie's howl office but I know know the Toyota itself Hilma says so who call hot air cooler this is the tailor the ego purushu still good my you know there's a interesting question that twice miss asks the Gemara says also in Shabbos Lama Dolloff oh my rava everybody knows when a person comes to the best-in-show milah they asked a few questions what's the first question [Music] musasa been acceptable muna did you engage in business interactions faithfully with trust honestly and then cavity - Latoya sac to the payer Bolivia CP Celia sure Phil AHA see here such a might serene Eloi Eloi asks tasteless in two places kaduche enough men and sanhedrin down Zion yeah BAM Nunez said ain't he loves dinner shall Odom allow the retire Robin imam luna contradict each other Robin says the first question is about what's going on in business if I'm notice says the first Dean is tired the validated question what does twice force answer the first payment the first penalty comes for Toyota but the first question is business it doesn't explain why huh good focaccia if they first take account of what's happening with Tyler so why is that not the first question so the for some struggle with this there's a marsh omit a bath other pollution but I once saw the author of kids who shot america blame the gun street wrote a safe from purchase a shabu it's called a period and passions vests cannon he explains toys versus follows he says no Savannah Santa Bam Munna is a question as a happy domestic avati Ottumwa Tyra it's a ding in the question of trade of course it starts with Tyra they want to know traitor but the first question is gonna be in a sus terminus October Munna why because when a person is dishonest or when a person is not fully scrupulous and ethical when it comes to Koshien miscrits the motto of this morning here then this person disgraces the trailer so they're learning of Tyler becomes instead of a source of pride it becomes a source of disgrace as the famous round mum and Hilton see say the Italia peyrac a when he describes kiddush Hashem in a free society from the Gemara from the hazael somebody that you must saw you might own mmm muna and you say wow I want to learn from this person I want to be like this person so then a source of an assaulted by Mona is the first question cuz without that the trade is this container Nasus lawyer as the camera says at Numa sometimes the trade itself could be massively saw my mother's because it didn't touch the person it didn't refine my character it didn't turn me into an ethical person so no successor should hike a kiddush Alabama come sooner we all know Shabbos we have to do kiddush in the place of the meal so if I do kiddush in show and then I want to continue the meal at home unless I started the meal and shoulder I do kiddush again there's a problem knish has to be unwelcome suitor so Sahib this the reasons they were shining the Gemara and they were showing them explain the reason for this but there's also a remiz a spiritual metaphor spiritual hint there aint kiddush Alabama console in Yiddish guide there's no kedusha if it doesn't permeate the place of the meal sometimes people ensure they close their eyes and they speak colors colors colors nikhat days and simcha the Bilaam Bharath 27k my my kiddush is stupendous my learning my dominic when I come into the office suddenly I become an undomesticated wild beast I come home I insult my wife I scream at my kids I go to business I sometimes lie she'd deceive backstab Russian harder if he lies I suckers will I come to minute that God eyes ain't he - I love that Malcolm Sudha yeah those doesn't recognize a kedusha that doesn't inform enlighten permeate penetrates the mahkum Sudha the physical dynamics of a person's life the way I treat people the way I deal with people the way I talk to people the way I work on myself and I challenge my egos might my ego my insecurities my need to often follow a winding crooked path rather than a straight path that creates all the difference that's the only kedusha that Judaism acknowledges embraces but muffling Sudha which of course includes my workplace My partner is my colleagues my employers my employees some time ago I was in Detroit for a Chaba tone for partners in Torah and I was having lunch and my table was sitting somebody who's a friend and a great philanthropist and a special Jew his name is Garry turgeau and we were smoothing over lunch and he shares with me the following experience Gary who's a either bateria about Hesed special man is the chairman of chemical Bank in Midland Michigan and he's sitting in his office on the 11th floor of the bank and a call comes in to the Chairman mr. turbo on the other line on the other side of the under he picks up the phone and a june of man is speaking to me says is your name Gary Kerr go are you the chairman of the bank he says yes he says well let me introduce myself I am a Jew I live in Dublin Ohio and I tell you that I am embarrassed with you as a Jew the Jewish people are embarrassed to have you as one of our people and I know previously you were chairman of the previous bank its predecessor Kalmar which you named after your grandfather your grandfather is turning over in the grave from saying that you are his grandson Gary Kozma he didn't expect such a salam alayka and a burro car bomb and such kampala such beautiful compliments on a nice morning in Michigan I say before you go on could you tell me what happened what the problem is maybe I can help does help help disgusting despicable and it's your bank this is please relax and tell me what happened maybe I can help I'll tell you what happened I'm 91 years old my wife died not long ago we have no children there's nothing left after us but 40 years ago we built the home together I needed 40 thousand dollar loan to build our home in Dublin Ohio and I took out a loan I took out a mortgage for our home today the home is worth close to a million dollars I never defaulted paying a mortgage for even one month for 40 years every month I sent in my check royally and faithfully eight nine months ago my wife died and I got disoriented I lost my balance my my rationality a little bit and for a few months I was just not taking care of basic needs I didn't have the capability and the mental space to take care of my mail but a few weeks ago I opened my mail from all these months and I saw that for the last few months I wasn't making my payments for the mortgage and I owed seven payments for seven months so what did I do I took a cheque book and I wrote out the full payment for all the seven months I explained what happened I was disoriented I'm sorry for delaying the payment here is my payment I get a letter back from your bank we're sorry the home is up for foreclosure I write back I don't understand I paid up these seven months too late it's up for foreclosure cuz this is your bank this is what you do to a 91 year old Jewish widower who has nothing but his home Gary says please give me your address your name your number let me see what I can do he hangs up he goes down to the fourth floor where they deal with foreclosure he asks the person there to put in the name person puts in the name it comes up and he says yeah it's all for foreclosure Gary says listen could you tell me how much he owes on this entire home with all the penalties with all the fines how much is owed on this home person looks up and says $5,200 okay just do me a favor forget this foreclosure leave it alone cancel it out it's done he says we can't the mortgage was bought by a servicer it's out of our hands not ours there's nothing we can do Gary says here here's a check $5,200 he writes on a check overnight it to the service or bought this mortgage I'm taking it you make sure it goes back a message goes back to this Jew it's 91 year old Jew in Dublin and send him the news and all the stay Kevin Gary wrote a note your home was paid off for completely forget this seven months take back your check it's fine we're not depositing that fines penalties all covered you owe not a penny on this home may you enjoy this home for many long happy prosperous and healthy years Gary Turgot and its overnight the servicer all a settled Gary says make sure you confirm with me when it's done make sure that Jew gets my note and the message that the home is his great dong wife moves on he tells me around a year later he gets a call one day a man introduces himself as a lawyer who practices in Dublin Ohio is your name mr. Tuerck oh yes do you remember a Jew Dublin by this in this name he says you have to remind me so this is a man who almost lost his home 5200 Moses yeah yeah of course was it settled that the man get the note that everything was taken care of he says yes and I'm here to tell you that this person died yesterday and he has no family he has no children he says I'm so sorry to hear is there anything I can do is everything fine he says yeah there's not much you can do but I want to tell you a few I want to tell you a few days after he got that note he called me and he said we have to change the will and he changed his will his final will and testament and what he put in is that this home should go to Gary tur go to distribute to any charity of his liking so now you have a home and tell me what you want it's your house how much is the house worth on the market eight hundred and fifty thousand dollars Gary tells me says Jacobs is my bad $5,200 I got an eight hundred fifty thousand dollar home not such a bad investment deal and the lawyer says what do you want me to do so Gary says put it up let's get the money and I'll distribute it to charity the man says great but Gary said I need to ask you one thing what was his passion if he would give it to charity what was his passion and he says the charities he used to give went to Israel so Gary said okay take the eight hundred fifty thousand dollars he split it up between ten poisonous holy monsters in Israel of Tyra and sadaqa including his Shiva's and Caleb and as he told me before paisa they each got their check and the eight hundred and fifty thousand dollars were distributed before he gets off the phone the lawyer says mr. turgot can I share a personal feeling show I'm a Catholic man a faithful Catholic man all my life I read the Bible attentively and I know it well I never understood why did God make the Jews is chosen people why then what did they do why then as far as the Bible is concerned they don't stop sinning they're revolting they're always complaining they're chronic complainers they appreciate nothing and I didn't know why did God make to the chosen people he says now I know when I saw your behavior towards this man now I know while you were the chosen people that my friends I think represents a little bit of our calling at such a moment in history when the Jewish people have a tremendous power wherever they live to influence not only within our own circle but literally the world I'm gonna tell you something I always wondered I grew up in the home of a journalist a pretty seasoned journalist so journalism was part of my upbringing and I wondered about something the greatest community of Muslims in the United States is where you know Michigan in Detroit you know which newspaper for decades would never demonize Israel which in America with newspaper is the demonization of Israel is unique and it's a Makela Syria could slaughter three four hundred thousand people including through chemical wear or warfare but the condom nations of the United Nations and the media with Israel is uniquely biased but the Detroit Free News which is read by millions of Muslims was always supportive of Israel and there was a fella by me because usually you service your clientele your advertisement base you want your readers to be happy with you and certainly in such a community I thought the first thing would be the demonization of Israel or at least nice bias towards Israel there was a federal Supreme Court judge by a dinner of base you hood of the school in Detroit and he heard her buy barrel wine speak at the dinner and he was impressed and he asked if he could come to a private dinner in his home and they cashed in the home and rabbi wine came and the Supreme Court judge brought there the Irish editor of the Detroit Free News and a middle of dinner he turns to rabbi one he says you're a rabbi says yeah are you Orthodox reform conservative reconstructionist renewal he says I'm Arthur he says let me tell you about the one Orthodox rabbi I know where everyone wants to bury himself from shame you know when people tell you let me tell you a story about the one rabbi I know and you're like oh my god you're putting my mom had am I gonna defend this one you know the feeling and he says I want to tell you a story my mother was an immigrant from Ireland she had no husband she had one son she came to America without a penny and she got herself a job as a cleaning lady in the home of a rabbi in Oak Park Michigan in the 40s they liked her she liked them they treated her with dignity and they were going on vacation one winter at the end of December 1947 and they asked her if she wants to stay in the house he had no home she said yes she'll stay in the house to look after the home and they went on vacation they came back from their vacation December 25th 1947 the rabbi was driving with his wife and children and they'd come by their home and in front of their home they see decorations galore Santa's and trees and lights ulema dick and frailer call me sir where are those decorations in front of their home they raw decorations Miyama and the rabbi innocently says this is funny it looks like our house but it's not our house the only drove here you know 900,000 tons it's not our house she goes looking for the real house and Adelaide such a great system grates at the rights of hundreds of hundreds and there's no home high-yellow they men know how by Hussein I know his wife says what are you doing let's go home he said I went home but it's our home they go back no it's not our home and he they're looking you know what let me check out this oh maybe it is Earl and he parks and he gets out and he goes to the door it's my home they walk into the home and it's decorated from inside from outside may buy you some the hoods yeah it was once a big girl who came to a reformed Temple in Germany and the Robina was showing him off the temple and he said Mama's retailer snarf confirming bias or neighborhood this is what do you mean he says the kefir is innovating it could hasten Vanek Sammamish this was clay firmly by his semi buckles and he walks in and the cleaning lady the Irish cleaning lady goes over to his rabbi rabbi I'm so sorry let me tell you what happened and I feel so bad I realize you're coming back December 25th and you're the only home that's not decorated and I felt so horrible that you and your children will not be able to experience the spirit and the sweetness of the holiday but I only had ten dollars so I ran to the store and I bought everything I can get for $10 I think I didn't do such a bad job but I know you'll give me more money and we'll get much more stuff and tomorrow we'll decorate it even more but at least I wanted you should come home to this beautiful feeling of the holiday and the rabbi looks at this woman his children was there says could we go to another room for a moment they go to another room and he says listen I can't thank you enough for your kindness your sensitivity your empathy your thinking about us but let me just explain to you something if my community walks by this house and sees this they will think one of three things I went senile I'm absolutely crazy or I converted to Christianity whatever they think I lose my job besides I'm a Jew and this doesn't really work for us I really need your help we gotta take this down a.s.a.p she says when like in a week he says no now as an N Oh W tonight I need your help we got to take down everything but I will never forget your thoughtfulness towards my family and he puts his hand in his pocket and he takes out a $100 bill which in 1947 was something like five thousand dollars and he gives it to her and he says this is just a small token of gratitude and appreciation for your kindness to my family you spend ten dollars but I wanted to show you our love and our appreciation here is a hundred the editor of the Detroit Free Press turns to the rabbi in the home of the Supreme Court judge of Michigan and says that lady was my mother never ever did we forget how this rabbi behaved and I want you to know 70 years later once a year our family and the rabbi's family joined Friday night dinner my mother continued this tradition all her life I continued the tradition all my life my children continue it with the children of the grandchildren of the rabbi he says it's true the Shabbat dinners changed somewhat and character those grandchildren are a little bit on a different level of Yiddish kite but I want you to know that's where we go once a year to commemorate the friendship and I want you to know one more thing as a result of that I made a decision that nobody is going to demonize Israel on the pages of my paper because what's Israel Israel is the place where Jews live and I know how Jews live and since I know how Jews live I kept a certain editorial standard in the newspaper and I thought to myself six decades later millions and millions of people were affected positively towards Israel towards the Jewish people were spared the rhetoric of hatred bias and pie semitism bigotry racism and discrimination for a little small country trying to defend it seven million Jews seventy years after Hitler but how did it happen it happened because one rabbi treated one cleaning lady an Irish woman with extraordinary empathy sensitivity honesty and respect inspired by the ethical morality that every seaman and say--the in - misfit all the way from the onion all the way to the end of my sermon hyoma hovater all the whole culture movement every 'cimmanon every safe its spouses and displays and manifests in one form or another or in the words of Hello model locks Omni will have release avid Z who called hot Toya Kula I'm gonna conclude my dear friends with one final story that I personally love I come from New York I grew up in New York in New York there are some how do I say it took my lotion I'm not gonna start speaking about flesh and hire about my hometown New York but you know this some people are not always relaxed in New York let's put it that way they're not always relaxed right Florida is a little more relaxed maybe it's because global warming has arrived to Florida not to New York whatever the reason is but somebody once asked me why people in New York are uptight and depressed and nervous and I said you would also be if the light at the end of your tunnel was New Jersey there is a a very prominent New York lawyer whose name is Ben Bronfman and he has or who maintains a high profile he's an interesting character if every man speaks his heart speaks his truth and one day he was phoned by a renowned celebrity a rap star who's known as Puff Daddy it was involved in some my simple in which I won't elaborate upon some years ago and he was being tried and it was a serious case for him and he calls Bronfman he says I want you Ben to represent me money is not an issue of course you're the man here my lawyer Ben said ok he says but there's two conditions everyone who works for me there's two condition condition number one I need every telephone number of yours even the telephone numbers only your wife has I get number one number two you work for me 24/7 2:00 in the morning 3:00 in the morning for know when you're a world-renowned celebrity also entitled to be on the show 24/7 whenever our I call you're available Ben looks at him and says the first condition is fine I can give you all my numbers the second condition we have to mitigate its 24 six which is why says I observe the Sabbath I'm an observant Jew Sabbath there's no work it's 24 6 he says no for me it's 24/7 he says I'm sorry but this is God's day that he gave the Jewish people there's no exceptions it's nothing personal I don't do this for anybody ever I don't take them cell phones and look at the phone I don't do faxes no emails no texting no what's up Gerdes you didn't use the word garnish nada Bradford says you got to make an exception I can't work with somebody if it's not 24/7 he says get another lawyer he said I want you he says if you want me it's 24-6 he says no I want you 24/7 called Hudspeth he says it's either me or somebody else but if it's me 24 six soap or puff daddy says okay 24 six or what if it's an emergency so he says no problem I have a fax machine at home send the fax I'll read it if it's a real emergency I'll make sure they get back to you he says but hiding up no it's an emergency you look you have to pick up your phone he says explain it in the fax he says no no okay I want you I'm taking you this was the middle of the week Friday night then sits down to make kiddush but stands up to make kiddush shallow my life him asus kayo picks up this cup Yo Ma she see my coolers of mine his wife his children as ain't o'clock around the table and suddenly the phone rings he has a hunch it's Puff Daddy Friday night calling it rings twice rings three times okay you can or Zee's middle of kiddush finishes kid there's their wash it's ringing it rings ten times it rings 20 times one of his children counts it rings a thousand times now you understand the patience that it takes right to ring today in today's day to have a phone ring I mean you could just put it down and let it ring or have one of your nine hundred servants hold the phone for you a thousand times it rang needless to say Ben did not pick up the phone but at this point he knew it was Puff Daddy it was not a hunch anymore and you are hakoda schwoz unnecessary but sorry Shabbos after my event Abdullah he calls up Puff Daddy it's hi it's Ben Brafman he says ya how you do it I have a question did you call me Friday night just absolutely yes he says you don't think that after five rings when somebody doesn't answer you just hang up he says I have to call you he says a thousand times it's just absolutely Ben says listen I'm so sorry but I told you I work 24 six I cannot answer a phone on Sabbath was it an emergency this is absolutely not so why'd you call me a thousand times that's what I did this is why I apologize but I can't do it now I can't do it in the future Saturday night I can call you just remember that and I'm so sorry because I know you call the that he said why are you sorry I just made money because of you says what are you talking about he said I made a bet with my guys that I'm gonna call and you're not gonna pick up and they said for sure he's gonna pick up a thousand calls the money he's getting for you in a week could support him his children his grandchildren he's gonna pick up the phone and I said no no no no you don't know these Jews you don't know these Jews he's Magadan and we made a bet for 10,000 bucks and he said you didn't pick up the phone and I got a fast ten thousand bucks no complaining the impact that a Jew who has real principles who lives with the reboiler shillelagh who knows that leah cacif villi azov no Omar shams vaca it's a different life and a different impact on a different influence and today's one of the first generations in history where we have that ability Lusaka oil on the mouth wilson dollar dude i have to tell you as Kotori i know as a knee mask yo yo him something happened I needed a ticket to go somewhere and it was a very expensive tickets I called a friend who deals with tickets and I asked him if it there was an organization bringing me and they couldn't get a ticket it was heart so I called a friend and he tells me I'll get you the tickets I'll get you the tickets for $1,400 business class ticket all goods I say okay wonderful is is who's pay they'll pay for the ticket he says no no no let's not be stupid such a ticket is $2,500 I got it for 1,400 because of my connections you charge then $2,500 I say if you can get it for 1,400 what are we after this is no no it's for you I'm not taking the money this is how you make fast money rabbi Jacobsen in America it's nothing they wouldn't they want you they want you I said yeah they're paying the ticket yeah will they pay I said perhaps he said so they'll pay 2500 don't because you have a friend and you're getting a tree it's not your problem and you don't have to lose money and this is how you make a fast what is it $1,100 I'm like this doesn't feel right and doesn't normally feel right it's not right what am I gonna lie and say I paid 2,500 Oz when I paid $1,400 he says you're not made for money I'm like don't write me off like this but if I'm giving you an opportunity to make a nice couple of dollars with Yosha with Johnny you're not stealing you're not lying I said really I'm not lying we would not you telling them the price of the ticket you have connections and he starts preaching to me how this is the normal way and this is how you should do it and this is and you know what they have to tell you he was such a good salesman yeah he almost persuaded me he almost convinced me he's like just tell them they don't why tell him the regular price you have a favor I said you know what I just don't feel this is the way to make money so I called I called them and they said how much was the ticket I said fourteen hundred bucks they said okay great and at that moment not even though I had it that I didn't have a real doubt before but there was a certain with Newcastle nefesh that I experienced that I couldn't have experienced otherwise besides it being the right thing not the wrong thing besides all of the cautious and the tsardom connected the fresh Amish but I'm talking from a psychological point of view the serenity and the clarity that a person who follows shows an aura without the deadline has is something you can't buy today not even in the office of the therapist it's the Jew who lives by what God wants and conveys the mirror every moment and say I am accountable for how I live today for how I live yesterday I did apply I don't exaggerate I don't deceive I don't cheat I don't backstab I don't front staff I don't today I don't maneuver things I don't manipulate situations to get my way at the expense of other people I am scrupulous I am authentic and I am real and remember at the end of the day nobody knows the truth besides you and the mirror the person in the mirror who looks back at you there was once a Sabich who said in Yiddish he said you can't fool God you can't fool world all the time all the purse only person you could fool is yourself versus the as an iron are tapenade what's the bigger doula for fool fool - fool but sometimes we think we fool everybody but the person in the mirror really knows and when you could look in the mirror and have that inner core and inner serenity it changes a person's life it changes a person's home and it changes a person's children how they respect their father and mother when you have a child you know about your father and mother you could look up to your parents and you never hear it from them a second you never heard from them Ally Lincoln once said if you're gonna lie after have a good memory because if you lie you have to cover up tomorrow yesterday's lie and then today's line and the next day you have to cover up with yeah for those of us who don't have good memories you don't lie you don't need a good memory you're honest you're real you're authentic and thus I say to you in conclusion what a privilege it is what a moving experience it is to be part of this extraordinary enterprise of the business halakha Institute the Florida the Coalition misfits which is dedicated to that one cause the Kadesh shame hashem and to inculcate them to the psyche the brain and the soul of Claudius all of God's children that I require Murad a ever nasrin hermitian padawan and that the second five commandments of the serosa deborah's were given by the same God as the first five commandments it was taka to stones but the person who separates and says another similar character yeah la heal the car yeah you hurted by a ver Sophia semi sharpest Lacock surely seasick ah babe when it comes to the other five suddenly he finds every Hector every fact the Hector in the world and suddenly that's not God that has no room in the Jewish world and it creates tremendous we see tremendous damage and I want to know how many youth are turned off when they see people who are supposedly extremely religious when it comes to interpersonal relationships it becomes very very hypocritical and it turns turns a person turns a person off why is it I asked somebody I don't know if I'm right or wrong but it's a funny thing it comes to shidduchim right or any other question there's a Jew davin shock has been tamiya with a minion learns da fearing me put some fillin never misses a minion never misses a shear gavel dick comes to his office and every day says 300 lives I don't know if any of us ever made a list how many white lies we say a day not a bad thing to do even before Ella yeah including evaders that the gomorian erican says i chuckle like a ghillie i use for the double of it as i like watch mario but this jew is called a threw me through of no question another person you don't see him always in Sheol maybe miss a few myths of us rock monoliths lon never ever will hurt somebody ever he's not called a fragile what happened half of South America's divine and half of South America's not divine how was that discrepancy created I don't know but I don't think it's real Judaism and this movement to reverse that in people's minds and psyches is incredibly powerful that exactly add a semi you go from strength to strength de Russia Coelho shalita all the dhyanam and the poisk him the best in all the talmidim and all of the supporters Bataille Dubrow Janet Slocum Aruba by Rakosi luckam Baraka audibly die thank you very much [Applause] this class is brought to you by the achieve Annette please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at triple w dot they ueshiba net / donate