Are we late, or is Elul Early? - Rabbi Yosef Viener

his brother and sister-in-law from flatbush please should have the great schools of sponsoring or to help ignorance you retire with her what's this title throughout the year by putting ad in the journal for next week's uh annual dinner wednesday august 18th the youngest of having uk for men only please call ignore attire at 718-851-8655 was the hills are we late where's ello early my carpet to coaliner of weiner for tonight's joshua continues this tremendous kid and it's always a physique for me to come back i'm three weeks later than i normally am and let's give me the opportunity to talk about elle and truva which is often what we try to touch upon three weeks earlier it was nageya all year round i'd like to say that i don't make up these titles so don't blame me but i made up the title so i have to remember when we spoke a month or two ago it was scheduled to be right after brexit here we are a day into el and everybody spent the last three four months complaining that ello is very early the same people who talk about pesach being early and late even though pesach can be early but again to making it also against an engine when you push it off but in reality nothing is really early or late it's a deep psychological indian that people are really expressing that they don't feel they're ready too early in the summer which is very human very easy to understand and we all sort of suffer from it what we really mean is we just started enjoying vacation and why is it that we have to do chuva already which okay it's uh all normal uh the question is part of what we're gonna try to discuss tonight did what we focus on in the short time we had even though i'm here to be the title of good news you have the same four weeks till rosh hashanah the same 10 days to yom kippur and nothing changes hashem i try to tell the bachram it's the same band as mine in three weeks this year they gave me a rough time trying to convince me it wasn't so it's got a calendar or tisha buff it doesn't uh for the americans here which is everybody it doesn't feel like it so we're gonna have to overcome that and maybe some of the things that i'm going to say to myself tonight and they're gonna be overhearing will uh ignite something and i'd like to begin with an interesting conversation i saw that was recorded from amazon where hassan walked in in slovakian right to throw walked into the yeshiva and he was a hassan and he went over to our house lebronski and he asked him for a broker responsibilities and i really enjoyed my learning which was uninterrupted and now i have all the responsibilities as well it was going into the cuddle but he wanted a bracha that he should continue to bring up the level of his learning and continue learning with us so of course haskell said my bro is not gonna help you learn which one could argue but he said i am an older person i have some life experience so i can share with you one idea and i think this really speaks to the problem we all want to learn we all want to grow we all want to prove our mead this work on a year of shaman it's just the timing and it's the middle of the summer so rob haskell told him this was his whole bracha you should continue to learn the rest of your life without making any hachanes which is quite a sound bite if you think about it you should learn without hakanes now we discuss in many different aspects can play a role and often play a role in a channel for a mitzvah and want to make sure you're doing hakhanas to do it right you want to make sure you're not missing which is always a benezemann focus in terms of how to have a slightly lighter schedule and still all the things he's supposed to do it's not bannon's mind anymore we're not going to focus on that and for many people here bro hashem your saddam were the same because some of you might have been continuing to work so you could pay for your children's ban as madam and that's wonderful and often the schedule is tight with good things around the year and there's no big time out but there is a vacation so whether it's vacation whether it's when you're coming off in the office whether it's saddam and yeshiva haskell says when it comes to learning the mode should be as soon as you have the opportunity to start learning sit down and open the gemara if you make too many hondas that's yet zahara's way of getting you to push it off so he can take the enthusiasm that you have and try to put it down a few notches and then delay it and delay it date sahara wants to delay it and cancel it even if it doesn't manage to do that but delay it enough that won't be the same as lavas so haskell says that your main thing should be to learn without hakanes harness in terms of general planning of life in terms of vashtatlus so we have ze zapercha and we have all sorts of issues and clothes that we have to fulfill la maisa and this is not the place blaming it it's very human and we all went through this and we still go through this but i try to at least tell the bahrain it's always good when you become an adult so we do this with our children as well we always try to prevent them from making the same silly mistakes so we give mussar and we try to talk to them and have been there done that and you don't have to waste time on this and they'll do that how much of it works you try and why not give an asa to the younger generation la mais uh when i tell the ballroom in seventh grade is gonna be a lot of hack and some hysteria about the decision of which mississippi you go to you don't have to start three days into seventh grade you don't even have to start three days and eighth grade and the decision has to be made but the izahara wants to confound confuse and waste a lot of our time and therefore he keeps us in a mode in life where we're always thinking of the next stage without the ability to save at the moment enjoy i say enjoy and brooklyn is which is also a gosh mystic enjoyment as well and to live in the moment and make a decision when you're pressed to make a decision with the proper information and we looking back at life no matter how old you might be a ninth grader can look back and say you know i didn't need a year and a half for that i didn't even need a half a year for that you do you do diligence and you make the right decision and then i warned them in ninth grade knew now you're settled but then tenth grade is sometimes maybe i can go to a better place maybe i should swish and then you can waste a lot of time on that sometimes that's necessary but often the aids of her has an arsenal limited because he can't go up to a front person ben terry somebody or a bachelor shiva and camp one morning hey you want to do another that's not going to work so he has to just make a video for tumult that you're doing very well now however you should really start planning or maybe you can switch or maybe you can improve you're saying improving is good for our working years yes we work on that all the time but not if it always comes to our mind the middle of learning or schweinsteig that's the litmus test by the way when did you think of this brilliant idea first thing i asked people and sometimes they you know start hamming it ahoy and it can happen says the only regret he had about the stipel is that the idea popped into his head in the military that's the only regret the rest was history so khaznich thinks very quickly so popped into that for one minute out of a long sray so that means no one is amalah but often as soon as you sit down to learn whether yeshiva whether you're now getting to saddam no doubt this happens to most people on a daily basis you remember a thousand things you have to do a lot of them are even mitzvahs and mitzvahs okay so try to get the office out of the out of your head and all the other things pressing and all the crevices all the other things that are going on but mitzvahs mr biskarov once made a comment said that if it's a midfish of a goofy that only you can do then if that's the sock in the situation you have to close the gemara and you have to take care of it if you have any suffix and there are a lot of cases with seikus where you don't know what to do is the fallback position is the muslik is the event here he says that's why tommy connected coulomb is there it outweighs any other mitzvah unless you're sure that you have to go do what you think you have to do and if you can't prove it then it's probably the it's a whispering on your ear why learn gemara you're gonna get much too muscular for that go do something else i'm used to say it's how i would rather say the hilum which is govaldik and davin which is also a wonderful thing and run around do all sorts of things as long as that safer is closed for the men here and for the women who mushrooms and countries want their husbands to learn what the children to learn and a lot lots to do at home and lots of mixes to do this has to be front and center and knowing your enemy so jos garbonsky says the first thing is no hakanes just sit down and he would go on to say whatever pops to your head is probably a suffolk at best and your music that now you have a here to learn it can apply in other areas of rookies as well whenever you're doing something if every time you do something they sahara says why do this anybody could do this do something better if it's not learning versus something else you have to question where that's coming from the focus and the planning in life the ninth grader who left in 10th grade thinking of switches he didn't and then 11th grade i think a first-year based magician you know the pattern because you all went through it and second year based magician then 80 swirl and then shidduchim i had people telling me amazon that they hashem just had their first annika and right after this simcha they're really going to sit down and start with but it's been very busy for the past 42 years sounds funny but if you fast forward the first baby the second baby and i have people who are almost sworn to say for terra they were getting rid of certain devices before they were married and then um i was at the bris i said i'm so happy to be here but not for the reason you think i'm happy that i'm always happy to be out of breath happy to be a brisk because that's a raya the baby was born and i say remember our conversation says yeah yeah see you know but until they're three they're really not a guillermo and then i show up at the bar mitzvah make it point to bar mitzvah says you know kids today says that's already but he's on his own already so it's not the the other ones are very young so gate sahara has us making plans we shouldn't make plans and then sticking to the plans we should be making it has all sorts of excuses there's a apostate by yeshua bennun that talks about his burial place and it uh and it's the same place with the letters out of order and there's no misprint so ghazal darshan that was they put a piece of pottery in the shape of the sun the shadow i can make a picture of a sun shadow of an instant theresa but that's not the sookie tonight they put on his matseivo a a son why would they put on the mate as you all know yeshua stop the sun move a battle near the daylight and they were just about winning and they needed more time and yes the coachball would stop the sun and they put the sun on the mat why they put them i'd save it to show that he was so great that he was able to stop the sun so the ghazal's comment is to show rashi quotes this a few times while she says people would visit the cavern and they would learn some tremendous moosa that even a person could accomplish so much sure but the second of the messiah from moshe albano conquered his israel stopped the sun and he's lying under this mater and that's supposed to be a sobering thought one of the reasons you visit a caver of sadiq you want to dive in but you also can see yeshua banun is the classic example of this is here's a man who is so strong in his rook he is responsible for claudius throws commentates israel the homoseria and he stopped the sun and we're putting a symbol to remind everyone and he died so is that a critique what kind is is that a complaint and he died well he died he said no sure ben also died the answer is is that there's not a whole lot of time it's not going to be that pessimistic this russia this is the first part first two parts of the only sobering parts but it is beginning of evil and the theme is are we on time is that a lot of time is that early the reaction which we all have is we're not ready quite yet and we're working on it and we mean well which we do hashem and we're growing sort of but it's our house is convinced we're growing fast enough and you didn't go any faster and kaiser understood they should put on your show bernoulli's cover that this sadik buried here was able to do anything and when his time came he couldn't do anything which is an incredibles you say well he accomplished so much but that's not why they put the sun there it wasn't to remind you of the greatness that took place it was to make sure everybody understands there isn't unlimited time and i think i can see the mafirsham say this i think yeshua bennun about the fact he was the most accomplished person as much he was supposed to live 120 years and he was 110. is he a freshman that if he goes a little slower claytra will need him more not for his own longevity and they won't slip and he knows after he's no longer here there's going to be some slippage so he decides to conquer more slowly because he's supposed to take care of everything and because of that he meant well because who said you can't play around with the clock when it comes to mitzvos and he lived 10 years shorter because there's no contract and with his great plan fantastic plan the shame shamayam to bring the mashiach and bring all the kings and prince's new muslim to and it was a great plan a perfect plan had he lived as long as he thought he would live he probably would have been able to do it the way he did it is he married every princess he could find to bring the share and the shrugger to shalom so that they can all witness yad hashem it's a great plan everybody would be duly impressed the only small issue was is that he died consultant relatively young because who said that you're going to be the example you can't tamper with mitzvahs and you can't assume you have x amount of time to carry out all your plans and the last sobering fact before we get to the tactics on the ground the villanova guinea says there's a lot of discussion this farming addiction about the various levels of din the seven types of dining that the shrama goes through so if you ever read the shah ragamul which is not for the faint of heart so we got the impression gehennam if the description of laban is that one minute of gehenom is worse than all these syria e of down here on earth rahman islam so you think that's the schpitz that's the pinnacle the vilna gain says that actually the worst one is pretty immediate i'm gonna press lifter they put him on the floor and he's got to wait for the levia which is why we try to do it relatively quickly and malachim come you would say we don't know much about malachi how long we try to stay away from them hope we will come and they show him based on his shireshan ashama what he could have accomplished and that's in the first few hours and the gun says that's the worst part of it so it's an interesting thing to focus on you would think they should talk about our favorites didn't match anything about vigorous didn't do anything wrong just what he assumed he would get to if he had more time and what the plan was and how he was planning and planning and planning and planning and rascal didn't give the bracha or it wasn't taken that you just gotta stop making kahanas and sit down and learn to sit down and execute the plans and other areas of mitzvos and the first thing that ashama sees is i had this much potential and the good news is still nice amount of aloha which everybody would say okay that's good enough for me but apparently the way i heard this without the gun is that the whole gahannam is like that you're watching what you could have done but the gist of all this and then we're gonna go on to the tactics which are more upbeat and less scary the sum title of this is that we're i'm talking to great people who spend their life focusing on their bookness why else would you come out in the pouring rain to a cheer especially in the middle of summer when you could still maybe be on vacation and we're talking about people who are trying to make plans and what we're trying to learn is that number one with all humility aside we're a lot greater than we think we are and you could do a lot more and that takes some planning and you have to ask it says and give an honest appraisal not fool yourself which we'll get to soon and you have to not let life get in the way otherwise you get distracted and distractions upon distractions which we spoke a little bit about last year we were coming out of a big distraction and people are still getting distracted by i i promise people i'm a big makel you could be yatzy the mitzvah of reading the news if there is such a mitzvah in a few minutes you don't need hazara and you don't need commentary you don't need everybody's opinion and you can find out what's going on in the world and i assure you if the machia comes they will let you know and it becomes only a waste of time by sheikh husham it becomes a mindset of very dreary things often people say well you have to know what's going on and that's just the way it is it's dreary no it's not israel by nature is very upbeat if we weren't we wouldn't be here a long time leaving atera is the most thrilling thing you could do mitzvot said smear salation is the absolute pinnacle in terms of sriracha i mean this when you want to say something you're biting your tongue your tongue might hurt a little bit but you will have the nicest feeling the most kashmaka feeling you could have in terms of look what i just did i wanted to dish it out i wanted to say something i want to listen to something and i didn't that's more fun than anything you did this summer after the share i'll hear some commentary on what you did this summer and i'll prove that but whatever you're trying to do in terms of a thrill there's nothing more thrilling in a positive way than working on your rookiness and the problem is is that we create more distractions there are enough in life built in and then even if we're not looking at everything that's going around more than we should we have what we feel are built in distractions that give us some sort of a tour so let me begin with that very interesting gemara in psalm and when i talk about tamatera it's connected cool on the national county is listening this is just as much nageya to you you have people around you who need help whatever position they might be so if i were to give you a multiple choice of the greatest on my rhyme usually two and three in every dir it's one particular amira who was an eloy hamas mid is really responsible those two or three mrm responsible for the messier it's the next generation and he was uh a ballet's rebbe was nice name but that's not why i brought it up hello chef if you would think okay if you eat it like that then you have to meet them like that yeah must be like that so of course of course you're going to become an american so mark zuckerberg the three people who are so distracted they're distracted distracted with distractions as they worry about what's distracting them and a few more and each one of these is a problem and three of them together should be a huge issue is a wonderful medium over here means that too much they they can't function a lot to be said for that we have no time to go into each one they're too emotional also they get very by nature get very angry get very very hot very quickly and everything's got to be just so and they see dust that's it they're the ice match the kumar then says commented about himself that i have all three not one not two but three so it's a very powerful gemara i'd say a lot of people just thought to themselves i am just um too emotional too excitable to this i'm just not i can't do as well as other people because i have these medias everybody has these inborn things various degrees it's called uh yurinoshama your job your set of circumstances you're a mazel abby said that the time he was born and as he was developing he had all three no favorite holidays that could have been a joe on the street and he recognized that he didn't give himself credit for knowing what he knew he was born with a very good head he didn't give himself credit even for the asmada which he could have the only comment we have is that i have three handicaps i basically getting bent out of shape and yet he became abusive we're not looking to get to rabiese's ankle we're looking to understand that with all do any of us we give ourselves a pass because we get very humble money me any and i can't do it because i have this handicap and that hang up and this and we go through life like this and we think we're putter everybody has certain handicaps that they were created with in order to overcome them that's the whole saccharine the client says your whole thing in life is to overcome it and the fact that ello comes exactly when el was supposed to come a month before shoshone so people want to know yesterday what he says to do during l what does this do for a month the answer is number one so far learn how to live within the moment and not make too many plans for the next year two three but for the next month the plan is to raise the bar in your self-esteem if you'll call it and believe the malachim who come ahmed esrim to tell you you're a lot greater than you gave yourself credit for and you could do a lot more so instead of hearing it from them hear it from makaris and fazal and understand that the time is limited and you could do a lot more ah you can't concentrate and you're getting nervous about this that and the other thing everybody gets nervous about a lot of things the key in life and the avoid devel is first how to cut out the peripheral static that we seem to have and it's just growing and growing and you will still find out about the major events in life aren't too many things like that going on it's all the same hazara and limit your accessibility to those uh devices and those people who have nothing to do but shoot the breeze about everything that's going on even though there's no consequence to their of its hashem it's here to distract us more but hashem and then understand that there are many great people not even to the madrigal pervasive who understood that if i keep feeling sorry for myself and just say this is the way i am you'll do mitzvahs you'll be firm you've got all them hot bomb but the bleachers lehav de la fav dallas is not where you want to be and people get very humble about that said yeah i've always been a bleacher type of guy and i'm not too fussy about my seat it's easier to say that when you're an alum so step number one is to recognize the things that are distracting and recognize the things in the personality that get on your nerves i can't tell you how many people i've said this in various forms over the years and they say no i was told by certain people i won't mention who who told me that i have to work it out and have to talk about it and there's room for that but not for 42 years it just ain't the devil said talking talking and they're a lot of these traits doesn't make anybody evil everybody has this and they're waiting for the day that they're finally going to be clear and it's not going to be on their head and everything's going to be smooth sailing if that were the case there wouldn't be much higher private hashem so the 30 days in l tonight tomorrow morning is to write down what's distracting me what can i ignore just for the next 30 days first try it for 30 minutes and then for a day for 30 days and then for seven weeks yamnaram is sakhakol seven weeks give or take and the shemaya you're going to get from the increased clarity in your mind and davening and i'm learning and in the chassid you're doing without the hang-ups and without what are they going to think and why they say thank you and why can't these people say please and they spend most of their life worrying about all the things that are being said about them and all the people that are not expressing our character if they really should and a lot of people are not so nice and they should be nicer i'm not condoning it but in a real world archive is to do what hashem is and not worry about what everybody else is thinking or saying because an hashem squirt card kavya hold doesn't make a difference if anything you get more in order to do this you have to be incredibly honest which is um difficult to do one of the great challenges in life is being honest with other people and i think the great uh unknown undiscovered aspect of honesty is that it's probably harder to be honest with yourself because if you're honest and i people complain to me they think like they're working on what i said but they're becoming a bald guy but what can i do about it i said the guy was on me just keep growing before he keeps coming back he's worried about the guy the fact that you you realize you could do a lot more doesn't mean you're a bad guy it means you're being practical and you want to use the time properly and the question is who do you listen to so we've had navia checker for a long long time we had in the vm it's barak hashem plenty of them the umass had the via sheker and a couple of times where arnold veeam would tell them what's going on very rare but every society had people saying all sorts of things and they were often paid for it and if you were a false prophet these would navi sheker because let's have a loom as hell walk around in rome what would you say well you would say if you were really uh not normal uh ridiculous crazy things and sometimes the voice by a cotton or by shayta maybe it would happen to be true maybe not the navi israel we're here to give mussar and to speak the anus one particular gemara comes to mind that just says there are many examples of this but this one's pretty powerful the kamarasa hedgehog tests where it describes what was going on with akhov if you remember akhov was probably one of the most powerful kings we ever had he was very confused person he was around big time he married his evil which was part of the problem maybe most of the problem he himself had julius he was very powerful very wealthy conquered come out the entire middle east and he gave money to londy taylor it's unclear to me whether he gave to yeshivas or he gave out a lot of government money and mama helped one day terror i i would guess the latter because he wasn't that nice but and in shamayim there were but he's also supporting a lot of terror that's the worst thing and the best thing you could do by the way so it was kind of deadlocked and they were looking for a tiebreaker and the tie breaker unfortunately was the murderer that he had on his hands even though personally but he's evil got rid of novus if you remember because ah wanted the vineyard wasn't going to kill anybody about it izabel was brought up in a very different environment than akhov foreign princesses as you uh went probably called them something like that and said well i grew up my father would uh not take that and the guy would be no longer among the living and acha of like shrugged his shoulders and then she took that as not a no so she took care of it herself had him framed and unfortunately he was killed ah was blamed for not making him because he should have known what his death was up to so the rule of novice is in chameleon now nervous is a good person and the ruach wanted nakamura by a murderer he's gonna get the shemaine but he wanted to come it wasn't just enjoyable but that's not a tainan when it comes to the victim there's a gull of dumb there's a lot going on with the sun it's a big problem and he wants in the comments so coach barclays for a volunteer so to speak who's going to be the rua who's going to be a spirit the mouthpiece in the mouth of the navy shecker to convince the achov to go to war and get killed the sack was he loses 51-49 and now we just want to set him up so there was only one place one battle he lost and rama's gillard against haram and ahab didn't like losing and he had a big desire for power and he said i'm going to fight we're going to get back when was good i'm sure he dressed it up and also it's a nationalistic thing it's not right they have a city united stroll and jewish pride when i should let them get away with it even though with personal pride nothing to do with the agenda for its rob and the day he was discussing it yashafa tiz mahutan who was uh hey look at saddik came and he was trying to be makai from all the years yeah started doing chuva you know shuffle agreed to give marcus commission giving him a good marcus smile to his credit let him do it every day he'd come and get marcus and he was doing chuva and then his wife his devil got a hold of him and talked him out of it and he went up and down and up and down yoshafa was there and ah said i'm glad you came to visit i'm thinking of a campaign uh what do you what do you say see how shuffle is trying to be in the kyrgyz gets killed doing this he said whatever you need i'm with you my army's with you great idea let's go however before i officially agree we've got to ask another and let's see what he says get back a city united strong might be a good idea so ah said that's all you need just navi i got plenty in the vm they're all on staff pay good salaries and he calls uh titki ben kanana and all the vm and they say what they're paid to say which is what they always say your highness great idea that i didn't even hear what he said yet but behind this is a great idea it's always the answer and uh why don't you go and joshua is looking at this and he says my dear mother do you have anybody tell the truth here so he said what's wrong with all these now there's something you all know the story something's wrong wasn't born yesterday you know there's a big sad dick you know it's different there's a whisper to tell them what's wrong with these these guys are paid employees says rashi the first young and the radak who were these clowns so the radak and most of china say they were going to be a sheker who were on payroll and they always agreed whether they agreed or not and rashi says no they over here at least were actually the ms they themselves probably were surprised if i shouldn't say all this but all of a sudden they felt something coming out of their mouth that really sounded like the truth and this confused ah because ah thought it sounded real and yeah shafat also was a bit thrown off so the gemara records the conversation of well why don't you get real one said what's wrong with these sounds like they're telling the truth maybe only this time it sounds like the truth and yo chavez said i'm putting this into the gemara but i think that's what was going on in the background because they're talking about both of them knew what was going on in the world yoshafa was a million times as great but ah is insisting he's hiding the factor on payroll who's he trying to to fool so yoshofa told them i have father's father's father going back to uh david that ain't schneiderlin they can't be saying the same thing they're all talking the same exact language and that's not the way naval comes and therefore there's something something wrong i'd like to know why don't you just say something's wrong these guys are on your payroll they always lie in the navy a sheker but you have to come on to a masseria to prove it the answer is because ah also knew that i believe he wouldn't have the husband to say that but he said you know this one sounds real and the reason it sounded real is because there's a real spiritman of shamayim who was in the mouth of sikhi because saying you should go and yo shafat said i'm a little confused but i have this messiah it sounds the same and i don't think it's true let's ask the one navi and of course he said your highness very dangerous he's gonna get killed don't go and he flew into a rage kadaka betuma and he said you're always out to get me and i'm coming back when i come back you're going to get killed he's not coming back he never came back and he thinks he's coming back they're going to battle and the last strange piece in this is ben add who's the opposing king tells his men going to battle unusual instructions he always just told them go fight and fight well he said don't shoot at anybody just shoot at the melody's role what brought that on so they start shooting and he had gone incognito because he was deep down worried about the naval and your shuffle was in the world carriage and started shooting at him yeah almost got killed there's an inish for hanging around too much and can have a negative ashbab is he was that bad he dive into the last moment he was saved and then one stray bullet arrow in this case killed ajo why did i give that strange instruction the answer is he had spies in the jewish camp and he heard the whole back and forth with the navy sheker and the one of the emmis and guess what surprise surprise ben ah dad as from as he was he wasn't from rural russia he believed the navi emis so he got the situation over here the malachi israel believes the navy shecker the opposing general believes the navier miss and yoshafat is a little bit confused but he said i haven't met sarah and i think they're not telling the truth just why did bernard believe his his own spies came and said they had a very interesting conversation he said the guy's right and acha is going to kill don't waste any ammunition just shoot hako how did he know what's the deep dark secret it's a very simple thing you hear what you want to hear in life so you had a very confusing matzo if you had the strength and numbers look hira that could be a problem for your rookies if you look around the world and i got a few hundred and they're saying go to battle and you're gonna win and i got one lone guy saying you're gonna get killed so how do benad believe the one guy the answer is he wanted to believe it because if he's going to get killed that means i'm going to win and akhov wanted to win so he believed the other ones and yoshafat was confused because he felt this was a ruach in their mouth and it sounded like it was minus my but it was but it was minister mayan but not as an avowa to get achav killed and it was nervous that's a very esoteric confusing massive the reason i picked this example is because people are always looking for signs from the heaven and door is looking for simone and they're looking for a hasher's temple basically on their lifestyle and what they're doing and they're bringing me i've heard some very fascinating writers i had a guy once he was on his way with a certain project which it was really not possibly and otherwise and uh he saw in the sky a blimp went by with a message which he told me afterwards he was so excited i said i don't know how you made the touchdown from that blimp of that message to the project you worked on but he took it as a sign from the heavens literally and had some adverse advertising uh but he uh he was thrilled i don't know if we're on the madriga to be able to do that so we're looking for some money and we're looking for raya's that are derek is fine or that we should switch and really it's it's a her worried we're gonna strike too much and therefore we should get distracted or yatahara is very happy with what we're doing is we never ask the shailah and he's trying to bring israeli is that there's no shia life to ask ukahino kahina and you can have a massive where in this case the bad guys believe the truth because it happened to align with their hashkaf hashgraph and we don't have naveem today but we don't have an um so the only guidepost we have is shasam pacekim and the people who are trying to hopefully interpret it and give some hadroko but the last person who's gonna get it right is the person who's in the monsters this is the introduction and i see we're already um three quarters of the way through so let me go to the many many optimistic things that we could do with our vedic hashem and we'll even address the people who are still nervous about the general matzah i wasn't born in europe i didn't live in europe i did in my younger years like ending four years ago um so how old could i have been my uh grandmother shaolin was terrorist at 99 and a half my grandfather at 100 or something like that give or take and i often quote them because just realized over the years you can ask a lot of things about what was really going on like when my grandmother got visibly upset and i started asking her about all the herbs and things growing she had a green thumb too and she had all sorts of things growing and i started looking at the stuff and asking her about bugs he said wait we didn't have bugs in europe because there's certain things we didn't eat for entire seasons people think this homer was born in america just for the record that's a pretty priceless piece of information the reason the americans think was born america is because for 40 years in between they use ddt enough to kill all the mice and humans and everything else and all the critters who are feeding and then all of a sudden they stop because they realize the protein's healthier than the stuff they were using so it's not like she said of course we had things and we uh glued the stuff over the summer and there's certain things we couldn't eat we had to check and that's not a new humor just for the record so she did tell me in many different ways that of all the things that go on in life and all the trouble around the world she spent the latter part of her years in america like the last 70 or 75 born in vienna and married in vienna after crystal now with the curtains drawn with 10 people there one picture say who bought the flower arrangements because actually one person came with flowers and they almost uh had her committed because uh they said it's not a harvard to walk through the streets but nazis around with flowers they could stop you so once you have a class like that boxing got married they would less people out given passports by their parents who never made it out and they said forget the holocaust it's just growing up in europe whatever's going on times combined it for a year or two's worth it wasn't a day or two in europe just you didn't there was a different mahalakana different now it wasn't like that in every part of europe all the time for the last five six centuries but we're not mitigating the issues we're trying to recognize that bark hashem was so spoiled we should remain spoiled and we shouldn't have problems knocking on our doors they did for over a thousand years where every day was a struggle for sustenance and life and death we shouldn't go back there because we can't handle it but the spauldness and it should continue the tranquility relative tranquility and everything else we have our beer's gold zeddick but la mysa as soon as we have the slightest there we go back to that same mode we started with is as soon as everything is over and as soon as it gets calm again we're going to be fine and we're really going to get back to all the things we're working on in our rookies and our plans in life and what we don't realize is there are many many ghazals will say this one of my favorite is the description of the defeat of sanchez came with 108 000 troops and they were just the officers there were millions when you finish the calculation and the gemara says we all know the friskie looked out the window and it was like an impossible situation wasn't even nageya and he said i'm going to loan my dragon to my forefathers and the other great sadiq and i can't even do any ishtadlis uh and i'm going to sleep i'm saying a good krishna lumita hashem please help us out this is gone tomorrow morning and he woke up the next morning and 180 000 troops are dead so what won that battle so people mistakenly think it's friskier's last feeling before he went to sleep and his ammunition that all helped he had run a program already for years because he knew sanchez was coming and he put his famous sword about a sword feature best magicish the back of every best magish and he made it dino magusa that's a nice catch phrase he made the law of the land that anybody who doesn't learn all the time every moment they have when they're not trying to grow their tomatoes is going to be killed by this sword so all of a sudden the best magician was quite full and everybody wanted to leave cedar early look turned around saw a big guy with a sword or saw the sword and decide you know it's kadeir wait till the end of this year and so there's a guy out there in case anybody wants to leave uh that way i can go to 10 30 11. uh and there's um a king says something he was king and i had to listen so the first you may ask is that a strange place to put a sword if you had the hamanam and you felt that the only protection against sanchez is limitless and mitsubishi was constantly military they said they gave them afterwards and every man who was in the best manager but every lady and every child knew two missing tires backwards and he done valve besheva so it wasn't just the men learning the best majors they got home the hazard it was a smashing success he wasn't just trying to reinforce the torah he was trying to put the tamatera on a pedestal for the obvious result that'll help them in addictive bamitzvahs but the primary result was that there was a lot more learning so the question everybody asked is wouldn't it be smarter to put the sword in the shook in the stadium outside the midfield for the guys who are schmoozing the best magicians were the people learning already why put the sword there it's the last place you needed these guys already came to the basement you ever think about that so the answer is and this uh makes everybody feel uncomfortable but it just puts more than a harass on us is that we can't in any matzah say we need some we need protection therefore we got to be making everybody we should be in my car as many people as we can it's every single year that comes uh is a yid that's saved the manachrius is on the people who are already going to the best measure the man of christ is the people who understand the value of the learning and the value of the growth and sanchez was done in gemara says with this particular skus that people increased the level of what they thought they could do in the first place how'd he do it he forced the issue and we can't do this today it's a democracy both here and and i see stroke if you had that is not going to go over very well don't use a sword use incentives use incentives for yourself use them for your friends work on it with your friends one of the things that i highlighted in perm in the most unlikely place the airfield kippers didn't plus staffordshire yamakee perm and there were nauseam citronias who were sudkanius in other ways for some reason to the seventh yamakeeper and they were busy cleaning up and never went over well they didn't know the dins so it says try to tell them and if i'm not gonna listen muthushi shaygin so the mishapura and the bearlock will go into a whole discussion of when do you apply giving muslim people don't like to hear harvest i heard because i'll say we don't know how to get muslim today that thing is overquoted and misquoted you have to know how to do it so instead of giving guy muscle he's not going to listen to and screaming at him never screaming him don't embarrass him more than necessary go over them and say i struggle with this also help me i'll help you you help me the biggest twist coming into the email then is look around you with the people in the best measure look around people who are interested in doing the right thing and know what your faults are i assume that he's struggling with the same thing go over them and say i need help can we work on this together let's make some sort of deal we're going to check in with each other in this year in a rhyme start with a few small things as the king as the melee swirl he understood the buck stops here even though that's not a jewish expression and if there's an enemy coming and there's matsuva sakana leilano i have to raise the bar and i have to push this agenda hashem we don't have 180 000 troops waiting to annihilate anybody rashford islam but all the things that people are worried about and i'm not saying there's no room for the status the political action and and the safety measures that's all govaldig hazal tell us a hundred different ways it depends on our own what we're generating our ruchnius and our hassagas and it's well within our reach so that is very good news people are perturbed to hear it because it puts in acharyas the acharyas should be daunting but more importantly should be thrilling should be a challenge should give tremendous seepak the happiest people we know are the people that are working on the beta working on the rocnius are not satisfied with where they are now because they know these khazals that there's so much more they can do yes i wrote some assignment gosh me is like the going compares like drinking salt water it's never satisfying you just get more thirsty why did i shine create a music like that the answer is everything we haven't got me it's the zulu hashem created humans to not be satisfied that's great if you use it the right way you have a daft you want to you have two you want four that's the reason this media was created and the question is where we're going to use it the establish area it's a very fascinating uncles uncles usually touches the words here he gives a phrase which is very telling we just had him passionate who says don't get hoary on your accomplishments and your gash mias and your panasonic your money remember hashem gave you the kaiklas so we think it's bizarre we did a restaurant listen we asked from people you know i'm not saying we should stop using the expression if it's a little misleading because bisiyat ishmael means i'm a kanaka and i i'm from i'm from kanakos i know that i need help so bisi at the shemaya takamonkolus says not so listen to this targum who yav lacha to buy something we all know real estate is a great example there are some people walking around who will be happy to share with you how wealthy they could have been for about 10 15 20 million dollars already had they just bought that building at that time and that as the whole story how they would have and they didn't but they can't understand what happened like they had all the plans the buildings whatever profession you happen to be and say their people make money the people who don't make money and no one's told ahead of time which is why hashem keep said the secrets everybody would go and teach industries the world could have a king the uncle has just said which means that it has nothing to do with your brains you have to do your due diligence has nothing to do with your establish the final decision what to buy when to buy your house clinching your children the real estate whatever you're doing has nothing to do with you he's tai chi nothing he gave you the strength and the intelligence to do it he bypasses the whole thing gave you the eights uh pop it to your head what to do why is that a kiddish so i saw a very nice sushi style and save for a vital libenum he points out everybody every chevy brookers has this i've heard amazing josh's about this gemara some of them are boarded on three most of them are good it's a very dangerous gamer to talk about but everybody talks about the sheriff brokers everybody knows basement you got to know what you're talking about most of them come out good if you mess it up you could say some things that are pretty outlandish uh sometimes insulting i was once at a shepherd bro because i i never had to stop somebody from speaking once i was just listening and the guy started talking about the zaya and the resale they really have five bus shirts and he started talking about the whole orbit and everything and she's sitting there the color i started whispering i don't know if the good idea they're married now he's talking about all the other options i said not a shepherd broncos that's not always a great idea he says but it's true i said not everything is true a lot of things are true i thought about a sharp i just wanted to do with the other so you got to be careful with this gemara but the gemara has a lot of basic hushes it says kashika kris yamsuf yes why is it good nothing's hard for hashem why is boss playing the plenty question kris yamsev why is panache cushing crazy why use expression over here see tina's i think it's the push-up shot he says what's crazy creativity it was vibrations that it would later split he says the palla is the material followed them in were they crazy that's not only counter-intuitive it's suicidal they saw every time something happened for the hidden over the last year every marker that got clobbered and the eden was saved why is this not going to be different so they talk a hesitative no the measures power said i don't know this looks like a setup i don't know if we should go in and he hesitated and he hasn't had it before he even left me trying him hesitated again and he went straight in it should get destroyed the comparison to kriyasyamsev is that every time we make the decision about the prana and about the hashem against his own rules of running the world kavyakov takes away most of the not all of it you have to again do basic establish but much of life again is wasted on planning these major moves and then afterwards thinking was that a dumb thing to do life is not that long you spend years and years planning for something it could have been planned in a few weeks and then you spend years and years regarding it so this is all good news it's not on us it's not on our shoulders akash barclay came out suspended 99 percent of the it's not our problem people unnecessary suffering he says not necessarily a guy told me he says i have a big problem usually after he tells me he probably tells you it is i tell him it's a big problem here i didn't say that i have to be honest it's not a big problem is that what's the problem it doesn't tell me something pinpointed he said every single thing he does in life he has buyer's remorse he said every single thing he said every single thing he gave me a whole long laundry list that's pretty bad i said well did you make the decision with the old information he had he said he said did you try your best in davonda and try to do the right thing he said yeah so what's the problem he said i don't know if i have zakhalika i said that froomkite that sounds like a very romantic no he doesn't know if he's like i said that's straight from the aids of her can write the script akash bro who tells us just do the nominal hashtag list and do the right thing in between the various establish and don't spend too much time preparing because you'll spend your whole life preparing for the next stage and you'll waste an incredible amount of time and then afterwards when you finally finally take the jump you'll regret it and then you'll look around and now kenner is human but the people spend their life to make a career out of this and there was looking if i would have done this i'd have what he has and if i would have done that i'd have that family and this family everybody's always somewhere else so ello is about it's all good news this makes for a happier existence it's letting go because it wasn't your domain in the first place you don't need that much restaurant you're here to do the right thing instead of worrying about carrying the world and worrying about coach barco's world and this was something spoke about last year with corona and many other things that are going on and they after they read the news even in their quick version which is not quick enough their shoulders are way down i can't function all these problems they're they're coming together says who's coming against you he gives me a whole list of the this germ and that he says even my antibodies are coming to get me now i don't know what he said he had also why they had too many now he says there was a plot and now he has too many and then in the middle east then they did the iranians and now they're coming out with things they can blow up the world in even less time and if you want to think about this as a whole long as none of it is any of our business it's the first thing they got to do for evel is just clear our mind how can you learn how can you dive in how can you be besembra which is the key component of all this we were talking about within 45 minutes the ending of this year now uh we're talking about syndra i started off with uh the five hours after a person's nifty that's quite a dichotomy the answer is no if you realize that life is short and you realize how exciting the possibilities are you'll jump on them and you'll stop getting distracted and the eight sahara for front people is not working with an agenda of suggesting availability available it's not going to work like a good general he has to know what's going to work my favorite marshall is the fellow who was invited to the king's palace for one hour because he saved the prince and he gets to go to the king's treasury and take whatever he wants and then the king realizes you know i got a lot of very valuable stuff in there diamonds and movies and an hour was a long time and sure enough the peasants showed up on time not going to blow this opportunity with a big sack and the king told his chief of staff that's a big sack and an hour is a long time so now what so he got the um symphony together and he got the orchestra and got the finest uh players and he told them play like you've never played before like something breathtaking is kind of going to mesmerize him just do something he's got an hour he's got a big sack so that gate to her every time walking the basement has that panic attack like oh no he's coming to a shear and i first i had thunder and lightning and i rained down the whole flatbush and they still came and then i try to blow up all the connections and they're still watching and i tried everything else now what they're actually gonna learn something and grow we don't want that so what is he going to do so this the rest of the story didn't happen to anybody here these are all pretty attentive but the peasant walks in with a sack and they start playing and he and his village they didn't even have a broken drum set he never even saw such instruments he starts listening it was beyond gorgeous and he was mesmerized and he's sitting listening and uh and then like 38 minutes into it he snaps out of his wait a second this is nice but not worth 100 million dollars and then the king is now became a conductor stealth guy just keep keep it going because as soon as you let this peasant focus he's going to walk away with god that's the only muscle you need for all of yom naram all of all is as from people the good news is we know what the right thing is and we want to do it and the aids of her really doesn't like us actually he loves us he's here to give us a challenge so we can overcome the challenge and gets tired he's really on our side all working for coach berhu but right now he's public enemy number one and he doesn't like and he especially doesn't like this time of year his time of year is really really not happy with the general matzah because the ergon starts inviting people to talk about focusing and ignoring what's going on it's not not that great but everybody's working for santa claus so we have people want to listen and people want to know and his main weapon is distracting us that's what's going on so call it an orchestra call it bad news call it uh fear hype hysteria and again the pushback when you tell this over to your friends how happy and calm you are now i hope for the next seven weeks they're gonna say no you gotta be realistic they gotta know what's going on in the world they can ask him what's going on in the world he said tell you the world's coming to an end okay that's one way to live or you could say if the world is coming to an end not coming to an end i have no idea if it's not really my problem because running everything and the puzzling reminds us whatever you think you accomplished hashem gave that idea into your head and beyond that it's not only not our problem it's counterproductive to dwell on it famous maison it's all over and brisk they had a fire ahmad the towns in europe there the house is made of wood they were close together it was dangerous and the fire started spreading and they had a businessman there and he had a whole warehouse of uh of goods and the fire was coming down the block and uh guy jumped in and said uh him i'll give you fifty percent of your warehouse he had all his goods in there a lot of valuable stuff the fires coming down the block he said absolutely not and then it got closer and it was two doors away and he said i'll give you 25 he said absolutely not and then it was right next door so i'll give you 10 percent that might be oh no already it might be overpaying at that point he said no and then the fire stopped at the doorstep of his warehouse and he came to the basement the next day and he was telling some of the people around there that was like the center of town of haim study was next door and overheard this guy talking very loud very animated about his godless that he almost lost all his hair for 10 cents on the dollar overheard it and saw there was a need to set this hashkafa straight because we would feel like this it's good thing they made that smart decision so heim came out and he told them i'm very happy your square was saved but the way you're telling it over not only wasn't this any regardless of your illusion of what not to sell and when not to sell it but it was actually a pretty dumb thing to do only a teepish wouldn't give your thing is worthless i don't i don't know why the guy was offering you 10 percent it was at your doorstep so he said rebbe really i was i thought that was momish's he said it's a great story i'm happy your stuff was saved but it teaches us something very different it teaches us that when hashem passed on rosh hashanah that you're going to have x amount of money you could do the dumbest things in the world and still retain that money that doesn't mean you should go to work and close your eyes that means that you could take away 90 of the aggravation i speak to people who learn a lot and they're trying to make a living in between and it's pressurized and their main concern is not when they're in their office the problem is they can't leave the office in the office especially today where they're not even in an office they're not going to an office so they come upstairs and they go to the best measures this is a very human problem these are great people i can't leave it behind the reason you can't leave it behind you break it down is really because you feel that the eight nine hours of a shot list you just did is not enough you need to help akash burj who worry about it overnight and if you worry about it overnight then if ahmad signs a fire you'll be able to make decisions on when to sell and what to sell and subheim says all this proves i understand why you don't want to sell it you don't want to see a whole warehouse go up and get 10 cents on the dollar so you would say it to uh looks like they stopped in that spot but that just shows that that was an example and even if you don't make the right decision on paper mathematically that was not the right decision subheim says it's a did you see that gives up soccer and come what that's going to be the suck but it has a lot less to do with us than we think it does and that is a very very optimistic way to approach ello which is going to help us decide what the thing's going to be and that is you don't have to carry it around the whole time you still don't have to carry it on your sleeve and put everybody else in a bad mood well end off it's a lot more to say on this we all know year to year we've been doing this many years the last three minutes i spent as i skip over all the pages i wanted to discuss so i'll mention one last item about the cavero aspect the khiv to help people the muslims not to be direct with the zucchini of iris to get people already involved more involved to help them drop a lot of the baggage to help them worry a lot less and get less distracted if you look at the very end of schweinster i spoke a little bit about this on uh tishabov when i was in flatbush we make it's unusual i'm not going to explain the whole thing now after my dim we had already by kashus the miles manesse and now it's maiden and we finish our day and then we go back to bakashas again and we henchman esre why that is and then after you leave russian we enchanted esray with moba koshers i think it's very very fascinating to take note of howie enschmann esre and we're signing off now and there's an audience in the coach barracuda so the ending is very important the beginning is the schwach rightfully so we're coming to the middle of malcolm welcome but now we're ending off we want to put in a few words like nila so what are we going to put in what's highlighted here we do this three times a day but after a while hopefully we start noticing these things and we asked that question who the parting requests nato is shiny mero can you imagine how important this is we put this on a pedestal this is what we want to leave shimon straight with it's at the end of the day which i am tells us all safer on it and the volume volunteering says and everybody says all through shas and that is everything is in the power of your tongue and you can use your tongue to encourage people and to help them worry less and to help them learn more and do more reset and it starts with it's all the shiny mera that i have to start ignoring not only all the distractions but the people around me who don't always say things the nicest way and don't always do the nicest thing and don't always react properly because they're human and i'm human and the quicker i can forget that the better off we are because if i remember their comments and i remember everything they say and i hold grudges and i carry it around with me some again i'm helping our coach borrow remember kavyako that he did me an avla so he should do what with it not punish him we don't want that no you don't want anybody to get punished in your god so why are you remembering it why are you still carrying it around he owes me an apology okay so comes out of yom kippur if that doesn't happen if you're i'm careful how many years do you this takes up bandwidth there's only x amount in the head so if you don't drop and lighten the load you can't stay afloat that's the way that's the theme of everything we discussed tonight so the first ingredient is nitsar the shiny mehra i should stay out of the lush and horror business and stop criticizing others or timing on others is i shouldn't tell an untruth to somebody else and i shouldn't be not truthful with myself which is the first part of this schmooze be honest with yourself and give yourself a lot more credit what you can really accomplish it's easier to be humble in that department carla now she see them i should be able to ignore the comments even if i'm not talking about snobbish it shouldn't weigh on me and the only way to do this is by having this anivus that doesn't make difference what he thinks of me what she thinks of me makes the difference what i could borrow who thinks okay imagine the final line response it starts with everything we discussed now is in that one line with that if you get good at that or better at that then then you'll have the bandwidth and you'll have the ability to concentrate and you'll be able to be mad slayer more in your learning and in your hashballs and other people mitsubishi and all the other mitzvahs you do everything will be so much easier you have to worry about the peripheral one guy told me that he's very happy in the last year and a half he just stays home with his computer i said why is that a mail he said i'd love to deal with people that was just finality i don't deal with people i said with people it's all people i felt bad says you don't like dealing with people i'm out of sight i have to like people i'm usually i it doesn't mean i don't hear things that sometimes i uh don't like but you know what you can have selective hearing and you don't have to answer back that's what it's talking about over here nashika follow josiah this is just a ticket to happiness but you need ishmael to be able to do it as a champion after the first line then you could say at the very end i think this is significant if you really have somebody who's really dangerous and out to get you and you never said a word about them and you can't get rid then you have a right to ask for hell from a lightroom a hero of uh sausage has anybody else left there after i finish ignoring all the bad comments and trying to be friendly and they're still bothering me hashem please just sideline this i don't have to deal with it you have a right to ask that but only after you work on your own needs so ms hashem this hello this young narayan i'm going to try to give it all distractions the more all the people hush of people listening do it it'll spread to our families it'll spread to our children our co-workers it might even spread to government although i don't have such high aspirations can you imagine a world where everybody would just focus on every situation what does hashem want me to do does hashem want me to worry does the sham want me to act out i want me to be bent out of shape the answer nine times that time is no and that frees up a million hours and a million bites in your head to be able to concentrate and do all the terror misses you want to simply with us mr should be a year everybody should reach their potential i can already reach a silver cinematic that's why i picked one day into rosh have a good night [Music] by sponsoring a share of ignition tyra putting an ad in the journal for the upcoming annual dinner next week august 18th 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