Are you judged for sins you did not know you can't do?

Aigal is asking a question. uh she's actually asking a few questions and she basically saying that she heard that a person is not accountable for their sins till the age of 20 and also that the a person's wedding day is like a yum keeper that all their sins are being forgiven and take into consideration these two uh details A if one sees all the sins, if one sees the sins from you know the the birth till that age and B if those sins are being judged and if the person is going to be judged for those sins and three uh if the person is being judged by himself. So first of all regarding the third question when the soul is being judged then everybody's there. So everybody sees it. That's part of the the the judgment or part of I mean part of the trial that everybody's there. That's why in my experience when I'm saying that that I was judged like it was it was so embarrassing because everybody was there and everybody saw it. So everybody saw my all my things, all my personal things, my private things, everybody saw it and it was just extremely embarrassing. So in my case, everybody was there. And when I'm saying everybody, all the souls of the Jews were there. From what I know from looking it up and reading from different sources, then when a soul is being judged, then everybody's there being a part of that trial. So that's regarding that. Regarding that a person is not accountable for his sins till the age of 20. Uh it's not correct. Uh it's more correct that a man is not accountable for his sins till the age of mitzvah from the age of 13. All the sins that a boy does till he reaches the age of baritzvah the boy the sin basically is not his. It actually goes the father is accountable for that sin his father and once the boy turns 13 he's be he becomes a mitzvah meaning that he's obligated in doing mitzvah and from that day on he is accountable for his sins same thing with a girl till the age of 12 till the age of mitzvah then the girl is not accountable for that her sins are you know her father is accountable for her sins is once the girl becomes 12, she becomes a but mitzvah. Meaning that she has to follow the mitzvah and anything that she does from that age and on then she's accountable for uh with a woman is a little bit different. Uh up until that age her father is basically responsible for her. from that age till she gets marriage till she gets ma marriage then her father is still accountable for uh her sins not exactly all the sins it's more like vows and once she gets married she becomes she goes to the domain of her husband and from that point on her husband is responsible for her for good and for bad. Uh it is true that the day of the wedding is like a yum keeper. Uh you know there's there's a you know a person has once a year a day a special day a yum keeper that he can you know pray for hashm to forgive his sins. The yumke keeper once a year is forgiving sins between man and god does not forgive on on sins between man and man. So if somebody comes to a yum keeper and he's asking for forgiveness from God and he still has some all sorts of open issues with other people, he first needs to appease those people and close those those matters before he can come and ask forgiveness to from Hashem. And if somebody's angry about a certain individual and they don't forgive him because he did something or he said something, then he has a problem on Yumkeeper because his sins will not be forgiven as long as there's another person out there that is angry at him and expecting an apology or something. And this has nothing to do just with Jews. It's any person. If a Jew hurts a non-Jew and that non-Jew has a certain, you know, feelings towards him, he's upset, he's angry, he's expecting an apology or whatever, that Jew has to go and appease that non-Jew before he can stand in front of Hashem and ask for forgiveness. So, the day of the wedding is like a yum kipper. We see it that uh you know the the the bride is dressed with a white dress and the groom is dressed with a white kit like a robe which represents uh you know that the sins are being washed off as it says in the book of in the Psalms of King David. It says your sins will be will get whitened like snow. That's f one of the reasons why the bride wears white and the groom wears white uh on the day of the wedding. But yes, the day of the wedding is like a yum keeper and you start a a clean slate. Now going back to the questions, everything that the soul did, whether it's accountable for it or whether it's not accountable for it, the soul sees everything. So the soul sees things and acts and sins that it did when it was 8 years old. uh it doesn't get judged for that. It doesn't get accountable for that but it sees it. So the soul sees from the day it was born till the day he died. Uh I saw like my whole life now sins that that person did when he was young and and was not accountable for he still sees it but he doesn't get judged for that. But here comes a different thing. First of all, another major thing is that a person a soul does does not get accountable for a sin for something he didn't know. So if a person was born for example in a in in a place that he wasn't brought up as a Jew and he wasn't taught anything and he didn't know that he has to keep Shabbat and he didn't know that he is not allowed to eat certain things and he's not getting accountable for those sins. He doesn't get judged for what he didn't know. But at the same time, he did he still did a certain blemish. And what I mean by that is take for example a kid, a child that by mistake he spills something on the floor. So the parent doesn't get upset. He doesn't start screaming or or punishing him. He says, "Don't worry, nothing happened. It just spilled. But since you did it, please go take a rag and clean your mess. So the parent is not angry and the parent is not punishing the kid, but it he still tells the kid, please go clean the mess. So when a soul is in this body and the body committed a sin and it that sin was committed because he didn't know, the person just didn't know. So he doesn't get accountable for that and he doesn't get judged for that and he doesn't get punished for that. But he still created the sin. He still created that spiritual blemish. So it's still kind of under the the the responsibility of that sin of that soul. So the soul will not get punished for that but it's kind of asked to be you made you made a problem. Can you clean it please? So it's kind of on the same weight. So the soul does not get punished for that. But that's why in in in some cases either a soul has to come down back to this world what's called a gilgul a reincarnation not because it was bad or anything because he had it had to fix something. He did something wrong even not knowingly and it he created that spiritual blemish and the soul is being requested to go down and fix it. Sometimes a person can do something unknowingly and his offspring, his child or his grandchild or his greatgrandchild can come down to this world and fix it for him. So there's many different ways how how the how Hashem works. But the fact is that when a person does the opposite of Hashem's will, when a person does a sin, if he knew what he's doing, then the person the soul gets judged for that. And if it needs to, it might get punished for that. But the person didn't know nothing. He doesn't get judged for what he didn't know. But the spiritual blemish that he created as a result of doing that sin is still under that soul's responsibility to fix it. Exactly like the example I gave with a child. The child spills something on the floor. He didn't do it on purpose and he does. the parent doesn't punish him but the parent tells him nicely please go and fix your mess. So to kind of you know sum it up then first of all up until the age of but and bar mitzvah the kid has no responsibility after that the the person has responsibility for his sins. Uh there's also a concept that is taught in the oral Torah saying that the fact that you don't don't know something, you know, you can't come and say, "Hey, I didn't know." Because you do have an obligation to go and study and research in order for you to know. And there's a Mishna that's saying that one needs to study in order to know that what he's supposed to do. So, a Jew has an obligation to go and research and study. Hey, I'm a Jew. What am I supposed to do? Am I supposed to do this? Am I am I not supposed to do that? And we have a lot of books compiled by different sages that basically give us a manual script about this world, what we're allowed to do, what we're not allowed to do. And we do as Jews have an obligation to research what we're allowed to do, what we're supposed to do, and what we're not supposed to do. So but what a person doesn't know even religious people who you know they practice practice every day some things they don't know because they just don't know. So a what they don't know they don't get judged for that but they will get judged for the fact that you hey you had an obligation to go and study you had an obligation to go and research what you're allowed to do and what you're not allowed to do. So there's a thin line between I didn't know and I I please don't judge me until I didn't know but you know I was supposed to go and find out. It's almost like you know getting hired for a certain job and the boss tells you you know part of your job is that you have to kind of train yourself. You have to figure out what's going on in in this trade and you have to know what to do and what not to do. So, you know, when we're sent down to this world, the the the the soul while it's in the womb, while it's in the stomach of the mother, it studies the whole Torah. So, the soul knows everything and it knows what it's obligated to do. And even in the book of Tanya, it says the soul, right? Before it comes down to this world, they make him take an oath that you must be a sadic, a righteous person, and not be a wicked person. So the soul knows what it has to do and what it's obligating in doing. And you know when a when a when a Jew is completely not surrounded by Torah and he's born into an environment that has no uh teaching whatsoever of Judaism, then a the person will not get judged and accounted for anything. uh but the from heaven they will assist him to go and and and and look for it at some point. The person who is very far away from Judaism you know sometime and at some point of his life he feels like this need to search for something he feels a certain emptiness he feels something something is drawing him and he's looking for what so you know each person is getting his signs to to get closer to Hashem and and and for the for the religious people who know about Torin mitzvah we have a great obligation and opportunity to teach those other Jews about to mitzvot. But in general to kind of sum it up and answer the question, one does not get judged for things he didn't know. And to correct the age of 20, it's a person is obligated in mitzvot from the age that he becomes uh bat mitzvah for a girl or bitzvah for a boy. And one should not, you know, count on the the fact that, oh, I didn't know. I'm not going to get judged for that. Because the thing is that we're not supposed to live our life in fear. Oh, I'm going to do a sin. I'm going to get judged for that. I'm going to get punished for that. That's not how we're supposed to conduct our life. We're not supposed to walk around all day long in fear that, hey, I might do something and I'm going to get judged for that. That's not the point where we're supposed to do. But we're supposed to to to live our life by saying I'm here to serve Hashem. Let me learn how I'm supposed to do it so I can minimize my m minimize my mistakes. But uh when a person doesn't know something, he doesn't get judged for that. But as I said before, which is extremely important, he still when a person does a sin, he still creates a spiritual blemish. Like for example, when a person keeps Shabbat, a Jew is obligated in keeping Shabbat. If by mistake he broke Shabbat, he he he did it by mistake. He by mistake he leaned on the wall and he turned the light off by completely not planned. It was completely by mistake. So he's not going to get punished like oh that he he broke Shabbat. But according to according to the Jewish code of law, if a person broke Shabbat by mistake, he's still obligated to bring an offering, a kban. That's obviously at the time of the beta mikdash. So if a person by mistake desecrated shabas shabbat, he broke shabas, he still obligated bringing a cobban all the time. And even though he didn't do it on purpose. Why? Cuz that person by that act created that blemish. So he's still kind of responsible for that. So he's not getting punished for that. He just has to do a certain act to fix it. So even though we do a lot of things that we know we we you know we didn't know we still have that responsibility to of of that spiritual blemish and one wants to to fix that spiritual blemish so much more so when they're still in this world. the person can do chuva. And it even says right before yum kipur that when a person has to do chuva, when a person has to do what's called vidi like a uh uh I forgot the word in in English like I I'll remember in a second but a person has to do vidi which is a confess confession sorry person has to do a confession right before yam kipu. So it's it it says to us that one needs to do chuva first of the things that he knows. That's the easy thing. But one should do chu of the things that he doesn't know because these are the things that are more severe. And how does a person does a chuva repent for something he doesn't know? One needs to think to go through his mind and be like even every day one should be like maybe I did something today that I'm not supposed to do and I don't even know about it. which is even worse because it means that person is not learned enough to know what he's not supposed to do. And there comes that obligation we have by the Torah that we have to we have an obligation to study and research what we're obligating obligated in doing. So not to scare anyone. We're not, you know, supposed to walk in the all day long with a fear that maybe I'm going to do something and and I'm going to be punished for that. That's not how Hashem works. Hashem is very merciful and very and very and very forgiving. One just needs to to to strive to do his best to learn what he's supposed to do and what he's not supposed to do. And things that were done by mistake and by not really knowing, one doesn't really get accountable for that. And just to touch one thing from the question in the beginning, yes, the soul sees everything. Whether it's accountable for that or whether it's not accountable for that, the soul sees everything from the day it was born till the day it left this world. And and not only the soul sees it, everybody sees it. The whole all the souls of the Jews from all generations, they see everything. They they have they have access to the information. When I was there, it felt like I felt that all the souls from all generations of all the Jews are there. That's why it was so embarrassing. This whole process was like embarrassing cuz everybody saw everything that I did. Everything that I ever thought everything that everything that I ever did in in in all the levels of thought, speech and did every everything was obvious and everybody saw it. So one should really strive to to to be true to be honest not only not only to be good on the outside one needs to be good in the inside because everything on the inside is going to be is is is vis is obvious to all the souls. So one needs to be very pure from the inside and and by nature when some somebody is very pure and clean from the inside on the outside everything will will just uh follow will be pure and Hey.