Balak: Talking Donkey, Power of 1 Hebrew Letter, A Frightening Jewish Face, Unjustified Curse & More

Good morning. Welcome and welcome to our viewers on Torah anytime. Want to dedicate this for him and his family should see apparent and revealed and everything they do the once said to his you should know in every para there's a to every para in the came time to parasal. So theim asked the rebel in parasal where exactly do you see a rem that says what do you mean the name of the para beginning of the para balak himself is the says something you have to internalize it didn't go outside and they ask each other did you understand what the said how does that work they won't understand so So they go and say with all due respect we don't understand what it means is balak is so the says is b if it's not with a point inside so it's a vase vase involve no the switch off and the SAID BUT IT DOESN'T So the Reb looked at him and said, "Did you think it's only when things are working out? You think only when the friend is so nice to you, then you can love him." Is even when it's a and it's even when it's a B and a even when things don't work out, you're still obligated. And then he added and he said something, "If you're so strict with the letters, you'll never find aay." What does it mean? Chief rabbi of 100 years ago. He was once invited to aim. It's customary to have if you don't have I don't think you're so theim gives Albus to one of the guys chickpeas. And the guy says, "No, no, no, no. I don't need Albus outside my home." Yeah, I have to check for worms. you know, it's it's not so simple and not so not everybody is careful. I only eat at home and everybody heard this. The guy was very embarrassed. He's implying that he doesn't do such a good job checking for bugs. Was sitting at the other edge, the other side of the table, and he said to the issue on to give, "How come you didn't offer me some?" So he goes over and he gives him some abbis and he starts eating. And once he started eating, everybody else eats. Raan is about to leave. He goes over to this guy who didn't want to eat the Albus before and he says to him, "You should know something. I'm also very mocked and I never eat Albus outside my house for the same reason you are cautious reasons, but I'm also midi that not my are not going to come on the account of someone else." And you know who taught me to eat heard someone else says told you to eat. Yeah. a human being. But he wrote it a little differently. Asks you asking me, I'd rather eat a worm, not to devour another human being. Make sure yours are great, but not when they come on the account of someone else. I was very scared of but why exactly the says but grammatically it really should say I'm sorry the puzzle says because there are many but it should say there are many not one there are a lot of them so I'm afraid but the says in the singular when we are united when we are all together. No one can stand in front of us. Rashi says in so when it's singular it's so the singular singular always denotes unity and when that we are standing together he was afraid make a comparison mashall to a read if you have one read you can break it very easily but when it's in a group when they're together it's in a bundle you can't even break one when we are united did that's when we have strength and that's why they were afraid but le you can be a very very large group but you're not doing anything to anyone so why would we be afraid so what was he really afraid of when he saw once he realized there's a lot of people he realized if they're going to go to war it's going to be dangerous but why would we go to war we're kind of nice so what was he afraid of I'm reading to you apostle tell me if I maybe forgot one or two words. Any any problem the way I read it? >> What do you need that for? The clearly says, "Why can't you say make it shorter because the anti the face of says I ate them and it didn't start with him because in back in the says they saw the Jewish faith ah And the more things change, the more they stay the same. Nothing's changed. 2,000 years, 3,000 years, they don't like us. And it's so important to the to tell us this repeats twice in this when grammatically it's not needed. Can make the much shorter. So the says twice from the Jewish face, they don't like us. They never did. It's Hashem soon. Maybe they will say the donkey speaks to why'd you hit me three times but it doesn't say shal it says shalimal says donkey is hinting to bam you're trying to approot to destroy a nation that celebrates three regalim we have 612 other mitzvah so why is the donkey saying to bum You're going to touch those people who celebrate three times a year. THEY GO UP TO AND WHAT ABOUT CHESS? And what about just sitting in the in the suka and shaking? Why single out specifically this mitzvah from everything else comes a remarkable calculation. Anyone who disgraces it's as if he serves a what's the connection to and Rashi over there says this includes and who told Rashi who told Rashi says very clearly Who says it has to do with who told Rashi and what's the connection between disrespecting and why did give us the he gave us a lot of throughout the year. Why did he do that? are here to rectify the sin of the golden calf. What's the connection? Moshe was delaying. The sixth hour came on the 40th day. Moshe is still not here. I guess he's never coming back. And they ran and they did the so they only started on the sixth hour of the day. The day is made out of 12 hours. So they served the for 6 hours from the sixth hour till the end of the day that's only six hours wants to rectify that. How is he going to help us help help us do that? Nullify it. So what do you do? You take those six hours and you need to nullify them in times 60. What is that? >> 360. Let's see how many seven days of sukus 7 days of pes one day of that's 15 days 15 times 24 hours a day 360 if you if you disrespect it's as if you have a part in the because you're not allowing to rectify it and that's how knows it has to do with because is also included with those 360 hours that are needed for nullifying So that's the connection between that's how you know it that's the connection between and not giving enough respect for now if you look at when the says he's looking towards the desert thean doesn't touch it literally he was looking towards in other words in his envisioning that he did in the desert. In other words, he wanted to be the prosecuting agent in order for his curses to apply and he was looking towards the sin of that's why Rashi says what he says. What does he say? You're trying to approot a nation that celebrates three times a year. Don't you know when they go up to three times a year they already nullified the there's no room for your to apply on cloudy soil that's why they single out specifically this all the other in the plain why are you hitting your donkey three times says look at this unbelievable the malik comes to rebuke for what he's What's the real problem here? You're going to curse my beloved people. But what is the first thing he's rebuking about? Why are YOU HITTING YOUR DUNKEY THREE TIMES? INSTEAD OF WHERE ARE YOU GOING? YOU'RE GOING TO CURSE my people. Yeah, it's important. But says you see from here is don't take it lightly in the blessings curses of asks the what's the word doing here who can count the dust of superfluous and what does it Why can't you count them? Why can't you count? Many countries have a census. It's very common. The country is big and a lot of people maybe it's a little more difficult. It can be done. No big deal. So why can't you count and why do you have to say the word dust? You could just say who can count what'd you get with the word alpha says because right you cannot count you can count those people who are here no problem maybe we're scattered all over it take you a little time but you can but in say after he leaves this world he is still all he's alive mele it's impossible to count us and that's why the word afa appears here because reminds us of those people who are no longer here but they continue to live somewhere else so you can count the people are here says bam but it's impossible to count as opposed to all other nations because we continue to live just in a different place here is a very temporary existence and then we move to eternal one you can never count all those millions upon millions go count them impossible and therefore bam at least one He was right. So the dunkey opens its mouth and starts talking to him. In what language? Japanese, Arabic, Arabic, lash kiddesh, Italian, Spanish, >> Hebrew. Not kish. You're saying Hebrew. >> Hebrew that wasn't existed. Didn't exist yet. He's saying Hebrew, not kesh. Interesting. That's a bigish documentation to back yourself up. What language is it speaking? Moi. >> You assume the local language. >> Any proof? >> I think that the other people they heard the discussion at least they heard Bill talking back to the donkey and they saw how embarrassed that he couldn't control. You're thinking that and he says when the person says opened up the the mouth of the he says that's not talking about the donkey. There's a malik in charge of the dunkey. The name of the malik is pur dunkey's mouth and who opened his mouth. is he also has another name. His name is Kim. So what's if it's the dunkey's mouth or the angel that's in charge of represents that donkey? If it's the angel it must be kesh because angels don't use any other language. Not Hebrew, not Hebrew. Not Aramaic. >> Not Japanese. What's the what's the >> the mouth of the dunkey or the angel that's responsible for the mouth of dunkey. So if it's the angel it must be speaking but if it's the dunkey it must be speaking a local language because if you look at it's clear that is doing this to embarrass Bam in front of the ministers of Moy that he sent him. So how is it embarrassing if the dunkey is speaking a language they don't understand? They just think the donkey is a very strange donkey, but they don't understand what it's saying. Maybe it's not even a language. We don't know what they're saying. So, it must be says that it spoke a local language. Says no disagrees. So, we have different opinions. >> Is it is it was a special way of communicating? Not just everybody else heard. Most donkeys send SMS, WhatsApp, email. This donkey was unique. Very very special way of communicating. They actually spoke. >> So we see different ways of communicating. >> Different ways of communications. >> But if he spokees, how do we say that they understood all the people >> says it spoke in Kesh? Maybe they didn't understand, but it saw but they saw that the dunkey is speaking. >> It's not for them to understand, but they see something very special going on here. A man, he has a change of heart. He doesn't go back on what he says. He doesn't go back on his word. What is this word? Why can't you say who? What is hahoo seems like an extra hey wuven sends shim to kill ley is for sending the sh to kill ley you're saying no only shim who killed ley isuven is 1% you sure it's not so depends who you And says like you the one who sent him is Shami says Shama says it in the name of the who sent Shim is how does Sham know this he brings a from David Navi says to David, you killed. Did killyah? No, he didn't. What did he do? He sent him to war. I'm just the sender. I didn't do anything. So why is the charging David? You killed him. You killed him. No, I didn't. You see from here it says sh in the name of there is a and the will be tanakama doesn't agree what is tanakama going to answer shama which has a very strong proof a person from the tanakama is not so impressed and says you have brought me ap from the I'll bring a from the toya outside. What does it say? H who you spilled blood who dam who says from the fact that writes hoo with an extra hey the tanakama learns in case a sender auven sends his friend he's the m he sends his friend to sheh outside is exempt only who only that person who did is in charge and not that is what holds according when you see this letter hey when it's superfluous we learn from that shama holds we don't dion it and therefore according to yes according to if we're going to dashion the letter hey like will be exempt says the Benishai sweet. Maybe this is what David meant in when he wrote please. Do me a favor. Do me a favor. That's not what it says. Please that letter that hey do IT LIKE and if you're GOING TO DO THAT you know what's going to happen all those people who hate me and they charge me for killing they'll see that I'm exempt there is no sender is exempt only the person who killed him I have nothing to do with this similarly O HEY REQUEST OF YOU DON'T DODGE IN THE LETTER HEY I'M SORRY DODGE IN THE LETTER HEY BECAUSE IF YOU do I'm exempt >> WHERE'S THE CONNECTION TO SAYS THE I this continues in is not a man. He doesn't lie. Something is superfluous here. He said no the letter here it doesn't have to be wanted to say to Balak. Listen since already said to Jacob anyone who curses you is cursed. Anyone who blesses you is blessed. Whatever I say because we're switching around it's not going to work. So says to but maybe you'll say look I am your messenger. So the will be a new I DON'T HAVE TO WORRY about him. No we learn from the word THAT IN THE curses are not going to work to curse but they will work on me. I'M GOING TO BE CHARGED AND I DON'T WANT TO. Balak doesn't give in. He's insisting and he says, "So, so what? You know what? You're right. Claros will fall on your head. But you also hate them. SO YOU WILL FULFILL THE IMPED. So fine, if it doesn't work, something will happen to you." But you also you also hate them. So what do you care? Therefore said doesn't work even if I die will never allow his people to be cursed because he already blessed them already says whoever curses whoever blesses the stays I will never change says it this doesn't work my curses are not going to work and the only thing that can work is for me at the end to stay with all the curses and therefore switching going to plan B and starting to bless Claris. We said that whoever said that David was toy was was he was toy. So if according to this we're taking part of the proet the >> so we don't know we know the halak is not like sham even though it's the name of course we take part we know except for so in the he says takes this and he breaks it apart. Says the the duties, the jobs, the description of the Mashiach, what is he supposed to do? And the talks about the significance of believing in the coming of Mashiach. And we said many times it's not just believing in the coming. It's anticipating his arrival every single day. But the Rambam learns all this from this from Bam. And the says and he continues to break these. So the says these sukim are talking about two mim and the one who coming soon to a place near you. Why is it that we have to learn foundation the pillars of of our faith coming from bam? Why not fromu or all other from I think maybe it's a mid bam wanted to uproot from the maz. So davi he's not even aware of what he's saying but dkahi is speaking about their continuity in eternity in the world to come. He wanted to destroy clalis's existence. He is going to be the one prophesizing for the nits use of clalis soil that they will last forever. Since we're talking about the clalos of bilah listen to this ma terrible mess that happened has to do with claus woven builds his suka every single year in his porch small porch. The family grew and grew and grew. It's just very uncomfortable. Some of his kids are already married. They have kids. tiny little porch. So he decided this year he's going to go to the roof. He's going to build a suka over there. Shim, his neighbor, build a suka there for many, many years. Everybody has access to the roof. It's shared. Uh it's not owned by Shim, but Shim has a suka there. This year, Huven decides I'm going to build my suka there. That mean a lot of room for all of us. Shim says to him, you can't build there. Listen, you're going to come with all the little kids. You're going to make so much noise. My wife and I are here every single year. It's so pleasant and it's so quiet. Many, many years. You're going to come with you're going to destroy. I sleep in the suka. I won't be able to sleep there. Oh, your kids. Oh, there's so many people. It's not. Don't build a suka here. Alpine. Of course, is allowed to. It's his property just like it's Shivans. It's a shared roof. Batu knows his neighbor Shim and he knows that if he will build the suka there, his neighbor will hate him. He will speak lot about him and he will curse him. So Ruven asks, can he should he build the suka on the roof or is it considered that he is putting a big gigantic stone rock in front of this blind person? He's he is causing him to stumble on three majors. He's going to hate him. He's going to curse him big time. He knows his neighbor. Should he build a suka there or not? He's going to destroy his neighbors sukus. He's done 15 years I've been building a suka. So nice. You're coming with your whole tribe. All the little kids and they're loud and they're yelling and they're running back and forth. You're destroying my should I build it there or not? officially >> you're saying no >> officially I mean the roof is it's really >> shared property >> it's shared >> shared to officially he >> I said you're allowed to but he's asking if I do I'm causing him to go over these I know him I know his personality he's going to curse me he's going to speak he's going to hate me three major aos am I considered that I'm causing him to stumble on these aos Where's the midst of him to hab over and make all that noise? >> Accommodate your neighbors. 15 years in the same place. >> I'm saying the other way. I'm saying his neighbor if he's going to he's going to be over these neighbors. He's going to cause a stumbling block where the alternative is he just wants to have. >> So go back to your tiny little porch and try to uh put 45 people there in a place which is about the size of this table. You have no problem with that? No, it's not. There's no leaf here at all. >> Why not? >> There's no bids. >> The guy's doing the guy's doing a mitzvah. There's going to >> What about mitzvah? When I somebody else while I'm doing a mitzvah, >> but the the shalam comes from the guy's lack of uh he doesn't I know doesn't he doesn't know, >> but I know the guy. That's what's going to happen inevitably. That is not going to happen. >> But that's him. That's his >> I don't have to worry about it. >> His mid. I don't have to worry about it. >> I don't think so. >> What's that? >> Switching. >> You're switching now. Shh. You have You're so convinced. >> I'm just wondering, you know, causing a putting a stumbling block in front of a blind person, you know, is that also relevant to someone that has a certain mid where it's almost certainly going to happen all the time. I'm asking the question, is it >> can you cause a person to get angry? I think we once talked about this maybe last year. What happens if they they naturally have a very very strong angry >> to the fact that they would get angry over something that no one else >> so you don't have to be extra careful >> I don't know >> I think we spoke about this a year ago if there's regarding midos I think >> no it's interesting you do give him the porch if there >> what's give him the porch >> give him the porch yeah he really wants to go through your house uh to go six floors down to go to don't think it's a you're giving a great but I'm trying to deal with question. >> You say it's not practical. >> Not practical. >> Maybe from the suka. >> Reven is pu from the suka. Why? That's a too big of a hish to accept unless you have some kind of a documentation. What would be pu from suka? >> If you don't want him to go to the roof, so let him go back to his porch. He can't be pu because of this. >> What's that? I went from >> so the neighbor maybe shim will be pum when there's so much noise maybe shim will be shim wants to fulfill the mitzvah he's been doing it for 15 years there and he wants to continue he doesn't want to look for to get out of the mitzvah he wants to fulfill the mitzvah and you GO BACK TO YOUR portion that you do the mitzvah the same way you did it for those 15 years >> also the curse the other way so does the is the curse and aid of his neighbor We don't find that because I know somebody speaking about mehara now that's a mit that allows me to be exempt too big of saying here today could be he shouldn't go up >> he shouldn't go up >> because of the >> so you persuaded him and now YOU'RE GOING BACK >> THIS guy has to go he doesn't want to get cursed out >> right that's what I'm asking >> no but that either that's the that's because as if I care that he's the >> right so I don't care about that I just scare I don't want to be cursed. >> Right. That that sounds like you should maybe take caution there. You don't want to deal with those people. >> What? So let my say should he build on the roof or not? >> For the sake of >> for the sake of shalom. No. This sh went to a very one of the leading and he and he told Ruven aled you're allowed to build on the porch. Don't build there on I'm sorry on the roof. Don't build there. If you will, it will be considered that your causing him to curse you, to hate you, to speak. And he said to him something you should know. If you do build on the roof is not coming as to your oal of shalom. is not coming to your suka. I saw this I don't understand this and in my humble opinion it's not a little wrong. It's 100% wrong. Why wuven has a right to the roof exactly like Shiv? So you can't say in the same sentence you have the right but you're someone else. If I'm someone else that means I don't have the right and if I do have the right so I'm not m anyone. Imagine I want to walk in the street and it upsets my neighbor that's sitting in his porch and he's looking at me. I don't want you to walk in the street. I have the right to walk in the street just like you. So I have to find a different street to walk because you would like it. You can't take away somebody else's rights. The rights to to use this roof are all the residents. There is a concept called the one who's being damaged should distance himself. You don't like it. So you go somewhere else and find a different place to build your writes. is an issue. To get angry at your friend for no good reason is an issue. You decided that I'm not allowed to be here and if I'm going to make noise because I have a lot of kids and I'm involved in a mitzvah. So you're going to be upset at me and it's such a suven and Shim. What about family? Why deny them the sim of Yontiff? Because of Shim's upstairs that he doesn't like the noise. So the whole Wven family, I don't know how many people there are, they have to cramp up into a tiny little porch. What about his wife? What about his his family, his sons, his sons-in-laws, his grandchild? They all want to come into the suka. Why in the world would you want to take somebody else's rights? And that's considered the don't understand it. Before we continue, let me ask you Ruven and Leia were married, got divorced. Ruven remarried shortly after. Moashem has a very nice life. Leia never got married. Their son is with the mother, but he stays in touch with the father. Good, very good relationship. He gives him money sometimes. Now their son is going to get married. should know this is a very common sh so his son is sending an invitation to the father and the father says to him listen I don't come by myself I'm married I'm coming with your stepmother leia the mother says to her son listen you don't invite your stepmother if you do I'm going to become sick you are my only nas now to take you to the kupa yeah I was waiting for this for so many years. You're going to bring your father's wife. I'm going to see her. I'm going to explode. How much explode? Blood pressure. I'm going to be sick. You're not allowed to bring her. Should he listen to his mother? No. He has to bring his father. He has to bring his mother. Does he have to bring his stepmother? The father says you have to bring I'm married to this lady. You have to bring her. Should he listen to his mother? The same idea as with the >> ah that's why I'm bringing this and the answer is and the answer is that she can't prevent the wife from coming this went to said just that you want to take away a right of someone else said in his he was allowed to get married to this lady right so you want to take away and deprive him his rights oh you're saying YOU'RE GOING TO GET SICK no problem go to the doctor and let him prescribe you the pills to calm down. You can't take somebody else's rights away. You're not ming by anything. HOW AM I GOING TO BECOME SICK? So don't go or go with a big stock of whatever pills are going to work for you. Similarly, and it's interesting because this I saw in the same PO who bought this sh but the suka he brings this that he asked him and he asked another shah similar by the way these speaks about this speaks about this says that a person must honor his wife's new father or his father's new wife even if his mother protests. It's a three years obligation to honor your stepmother, your stepfather. It's a two years obligation. But the other biological mother or father said, "No, you can't." It's like when a father says, "I can't stand this guy. You should not stand him. Don't talk to him." Can't they do that? Says, it's like saying, "Go and violate both you and I are supposed to honor this person to love him. You have a problem, right? Work on it. But you can't tell me to do something which is against the similarly there was a father-in-law who was very upset with his son-in-law and Yoshiv wrote the anger of this father-in-law is not correct and you can't conduct yourself because of the craziness of people. You should continue doing the right thing and people go crazy and they get angry. It doesn't change because of that. Back to our case, Shim can get angry and say whatever he wants. We hope that Hashem is going to learn some ma he's going to come down and if he needs he can take some pills, sleeping pill, whatever he needs in order to be able to sit in the suka and enjoy the suka. But if he doesn't, that's his problem. You can't take away somebody else's rights. But I didn't want to go against this uh leading po one of the leading po. So I went to I asked what do you say should be afraid of the curses of says doesn't have to worry about it. I asked on is a woman who cursed her sister. You should have cancer. The sister didn't do anything. For whatever reason, her sister cursed her, you should have cancer. The sister is trembling. Who wants to hear this type of curse? So, should she try to appease her sister and take away take back this curse? Says to me, the one who cursed has to ask forgiveness. If you curse when you're not supposed to, the clava goes right back 180°. IT COMES BACK ON YOUR HEAD. The one who was cursed doesn't have to appease the one who cursed. The one who cursed has to appease her. It's a says it goes back on the head of the person who cursed. So I said to she tried TO APPEASE SAYS NO THE OPPOSITE. The sister who cursed she is the one who needs to appease the cur the sister whom she cursed. So that's how it works with curses and that's it with BA's curses about causing noise in a in a area that if there's a certain level of quietness you're not allowed. >> Sure. There's also a law and if you're not allowed between 2 and 4 to make noise your neighbors or after 11 p.m. or before 6:00 a.m. whatever the law is, you're not allowed to. But we all go to a temporary dwelling that we call suka and we live there for a week and we're supposed to it's a and when we do we go with our family and we can't shut their mouth for a week all the kids who wants you to live exactly the same way you live in your house. So of course try to accommodate and it's 1:00 in the morning maybe you shouldn't be so noisy but just to be there in a place which is mine just like yours when you go to and you make noise to others it's against the law it's against it's against everything but there's another it's my issues just like it's yours he has no right to tell me where to build and in fact I can tell him why don't you get out of here and find somewhere else it's my property just like yours Immediately he's trying to take away somebody else's rights. He has no right to do that. >> This my son told me on the bus and the Arab life is Mashia. >> What happened? What happened? >> My son's mashia happened to the story, >> right? that they were not on the bus and the full bus but the Arab driver wasn't mashk embarrassed he was his the caus him to ask him the anyways you have to honor him give him a seat not because the Arab said Not because said the truth is we all have a right for the seat when we pay money and when we pay money I don't have to get up for you because you paid the same ticket and if you want to have that seat get on the bus before me go to the stop before me I don't have an obligation to but since he is my he's the of all of us here I should honor him in my do I have my obligation the obligation is to stand up when he passes by don't obligation to lose money because of that. I paid the same value of ticket that he did and that entitled me whoever comes into the bus first to get that seat. I don't have to. But it's going to be it's going to look kind of awkward especially if this mash is uh 85 years old and this young baku is 19 and a half and this mash is almost collapsing and he says it's my seat. So forget about the driver. It's just wrong. But technically speaking, we all have the same rights that the ticket entitles us when we get on get on the bus. >> Was built. >> Sure. You're right. The suka can be built there. It's our shared property and we all can stay there. >> The story though about the story about Israel was trapping the railway and he opened the window, closed the window. Has to have heard this story. He went found his way to >> I don't know which story you're talking about. There's many stories with with windows >> sitting there. He opened a window. Maybe something was smoking. The person asked him to close it. There's too much draft. And he closed it again. Then the person said, "No, there's no air in here." And he opened it. He lied went to >> not familiar. I think I said a different story about once with the window. Let's get to say a few years already since we said it. The was once on the train and he saw this Gisha lady with her daughter and the Gisha lady was kind of uh cold. So she gets up, she closes the window. Her daughter gets up right after 2 seconds later she goes to the window and opens it. So the mother gets up and closes the window. 2 seconds later the daughter gets up and opens the window. The mother is cold. She gets up. She closes the window. The daughter couldn't care less. She gets up, opens the window. She sits there. The mother looks at her and says, "You're going to get it when we get home. You're going to get it when we get back home." Says, "You just now explain to me something that I never understood. We have six remembrances. Many printed to say it. One of them is When when superfluous words what you want to remember right period no why do you need these words has always bothered me until I saw that encounter with that lady and her daughter then I understood Why does it say bad? Cuz normally when you're traveling, you don't punish. You don't punish the kid in front of everybody. You're on the train. What did the lady do? She didn't hit her daughter. Wait, I'm going to hit you when we get back home. We're traveling now. It's embarrassing. Says, "I'm not willing to forgive." When did I punish Miriam? WHEN? WHEN WERE WE TRAVELING? WE STOPPED EVERYBODY. ALL THE NATION seek is not willing to forgive. What's a time of when a kid annoys his father? But it's at the when he's marrying off another sibling, another kid wedding. You don't punish the kids. It's a time of he's just playing around. But says, "You're right. Is the greatest in the world. We're traveling, receiving the in the middle of THE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE WEDDING. I'm going to hit my kid when when we're traveling. Islam is the ultimate. Yes. That's why we remember it every single day because what do we do to Bikdash? What do you take us out to gallos for 2,000 years because of in front of everybody? That's where it stops. Doesn't like it. Which goes back to what we said before about being united. And that goes back to a window story. Don't go with him. Don't curse them. You know why? So brings a very strange exchange. Don't go with him. Says, "Okay, fine. I won't I won't travel. So I'll curse him from here." So says, "No, don't curse him." So he says, "Okay, if I can't curse him, I'll bless him. If you can't curse, so then you'll bless." So says, "They don't need your blessing." They're already blessed. Mash brings a mash. What do you say to the bee? I don't want not your honey and not your sting. >> Wasp. What does this mean? If you can't curse, you know, I CAN'T CURSE THEM. So bless him. If you can't curse, why do you want to bless? So just be passive brings a medish and the says why is it that was barren for so many years, 20 years? What went wrong? love cursed her. Multitudes of people should come from you. If she goes back and gets married to you, it's like 9 months later there's a baby boy. What will everybody say? You have the to give blessings and instead of going to people will start going out to give me says it's better that will be barren for 20 years. So the people won't say that this to give what do you see FROM HERE THAT THE of is actually is very damaging but that from is as devastating because is going to make sure it doesn't come true cuz other people are going to say you have the to give so I can't curse him so let me give if I give THOSE WILL BE DENIED IT'S JUST LIKE THE curses the same thing as far as I'm concerned because doesn't listen not to thee and not to the of so people won't think that the have the this works very well with what and the ing that Bam is. So he's consistent. He already blessed once upon a time. So he wants to continue and bless and it worked last time. Last time he blessed her, she didn't have ch children for 20 years. So says, "I'm going to do the same. And I want to bless him. That's why if you can't let me cursed him, I'd like to bless him." But says, "That's also not going to work." Wasn't blessed before that. So it's your blessing and nothing else. And if it's going to go through people going to say wow gives even to give blessings but is all already blessed already blessed them before. So even if you say some blessings and it's going to as if work nobody's going to say it's because of blessings in this CASE EVERYBODY KNOWS HIMSELF blessed him. If you want to say blessings go ahead do whatever you want doesn't make a difference. So by the time by we had to worry about the blessings of we don't need to because this nation is already blessed by me says and therefore if you want to give blessings you can it's not a problem. So why do you have a mean that father is supposed to say that to his daughter who's who's coming to the >> say what >> to say >> does it say this in where does it say that the father has to say this >> I heard that that's what the father says to this >> we also say every single day wanted to instituted to to say it like the ten commandment >> it's not so >> no no it's not a problem once you use it and You have your kavanos, no problem. When the says something, we want to avoid that when his name is. But once it's established, it's a you can take that ple and can do whatever you want with it. And you have good intentions. You're aided and you have good intentions for your daughter, for everyone else. What's up? Only whenasha blesses that we want to avoid. >> You saying that Hashem said that Bum should go and bless the Jewish people. We're asking why is it that bam had a change over I can't curse fine give some blessings so you want to bless no problem but don't think it's going to help you like it helped lavan that because of your blessing I had to deny children from for 20 years but you it's not going to help because because this nation is already blessed so nobody's going to think it's your blessings that are doing that are making uh things happen in this world because I blessed them says it's like he doesn't We don't need your blessings. We don't need your curses. If you want to bless, fine. We're not going to deny. It's not a problem. It's not going to hurt them like the blessings of Lavan did. >> Is the lesson to the nation that >> that stay away from us. Some Gabim met recently a convention of Gabim and they were discussing the new plague. There's a plague all over the world. many many shs and they are the para sheets plague those pamphlets some shs receive misha dozens unbelievable how many and there's seven major issues that are bothering the gabay and rightfully so and because of that they came up with two questions what are the main issues the one who distributes the uh these sheets They put them in the sh and many shs nobody takes them and it goes directly into Giza. So not only do the are responsible for everything that moves in the sh and takes so much time now they have something else that they have to deal they have to take mot cost money. So now you're causing the sh to spend money that it doesn't need to spend. So the gabime called the distributor said please don't send this over totally ignored them and they continue to send week after week also this is a major problem many people take these pamphlets and read them in the middle of ding it's so disrespectful to instead of being concentrating oh we're we came here to d no no we we came Uh look at some budget sheets. It's m disgrace. Many of those sheets have advertisements for your next vacation, for your car, for a house, whatever moves. You can't read that on shabas. You're not allowed to read the shabas. One of the gab said shabus morning he has to come 15 minutes before dabing just to collect all the pamphletes and to organize the sh. They spread all over from last night. Many of those pamphlets have a low level of uh spiritual content and it's not appropriate. It's supposed to give it's supposed to elevate you. And the gab say they called the distributors. They called those who write this and they said listen this is meant for. So they asked him so why do you send them to? They don't have an answer. What's the answer? You know what the answer is? The distributors receive big donations because they say to the people who donate money we distribute this 10,000 this pamphlet 25,000. It's all over Israel. The bigger the numbers, the bigger the donation. Why do I care where it goes and what you do with it? It's a terrible thing. Many times, especially in small towns, the gab receive it and it goes directly into some people report Sunday morning they see all these pamplets in the garbage. I told you in the garbage. So the questions are a person who wants to donate money sedaka can he consider this when in sometimes it doesn't cause a spiritual elevation the opposite it causes a spiritual and it causes disrespectful to also somebody used money and at the end the gabime as a result had to take this and spend money their own money the money of the shul is it consider considered that he uses money correctly or does he have to again take more money because he just it's as if he took money and threw it to the garbage. He's trying to do an illu for whatever relative and this pamphlet is going directly to the to the garbage. Does he have to spend money again for these are all the negatives but they're also plenty. I mean, I know one guy who beat Chuba because he he saw the fruit thing and >> right >> the Chuba and China. >> But what about these questions that we're raising? There's some great things in these pamphlets. Great things, >> but we have seven issues that we're dealing with. >> So, if there is three people who can be helped by this, but then there are all these issues, what do we do? There's >> can you cause the sh to spend money when the sh says I don't want this? You can for you a balabos. You you own the shoe. They told you in this shoe we don't want it and you're forcing it. You're bringing some content which is not for our kids. >> Who asked you to bring it here? Bring it to those people who are interested. What's that? >> Yeah. Once the says not to. But before the says not to. >> Before the says not to. No problem. If it's accepted >> and if it's not accepted, >> so then no officers shouldn't do it. >> You can't you can't control what what you have that possibility of doing that. It's not up to you to control somebody else's uh >> even when you call the distributors and say please don't send it here. I can't control it. to give it, right? You talking about the one who gives to >> he's talking about both people who make these pamphlets, they send them and the person who's gave money thinking some of it at least will be used for a good cause. >> One person I can't if I can you give money to a vendor who smokes meaning I can't control when I give it to I can't control the poor people what they do with money some will be used for good maybe some will not be used for good what did what did What a punishment. Make sure that these people give to inappropriate people as if they never gave to if you give money to a person who's going to buy it for drugs. You didn't give you didn't give after in many at least in my sudu but many too there's a special feel to say it's not an obligation it's a good idea for and for different things one of the you finish with over there is that I want to be to give to those people who are worthy of and to do I don't discriminate Doesn't make a difference who the person is but sadded only to the person who was if I'm mistakenly giving saddaka to Gil Bates. Remember the converted Bill Gates becomes Gil Bates. Did I give sudaka? No. But he looked like he needs the money. It's not sudaka. It's a waste of money. So I want to be able to give up to those people who are worthy of my saddaka. So if you give it to something which is inappropriate and the whole thing goes to the garbage or goes to Giza and nobody used it, what did you do? You thought you're doing something good, but you really didn't. >> Can I ask question in a tangential way? In this area, in this area, many of areas, there's a newspaper that's calls itself a radio newspaper and it's delivered free and it's put in the entrance of the building. I've seen very few people seem to take it into the house. I'm sure it contains liquid and things and it either ends up thrown into the garbage or just flowing around on the street. I mean, you seem to think that the end, the message they want to get across justifies the means. Is that also >> that that's the question you have to ask the person who puts out this newspaper, if he's interested in knowing that very few people are reading it. >> No, I'm contain. >> If you know for a fact that it contains and you see in the street, you should take it bring take it up and uh cut those deta and put in the rest to the garbage. But if you don't know for sure, you don't have an obligation to go searching whether there's dator inside as well. And that also applies to a newspaper you buy and you bring it to the house. If you know for a fact it's you should look for those cut up and put in the Gniza. The rest doesn't have to go to but you don't know for a fact you don't have to look to see if there are in fact some. So let me say there's a lot of different pamphlets and many of them are fantastic and they have and they have and there people and people go home and have what to share thoughtsto thoughts about the para kind of stories of stuff that they share it with their family it's galdic but in order to make sure that this continue to be great and khalila the gain should not be offset by the loss So one has to make sure that certain things are met. And the main problem here is this goes against that before you start dvening you have to make sure that you remove all things that may take away your kavana. And this you're bringing in something that for sure will take away your kavana. Yeah, we're still not angels that can have perfectana on two things at once. We don't do that. And by the way, from here, from this, you see talked about cell phones. How can a person come into sh with his cell phone on not only is going to deter his everybody around? So for whatever reason, a person needs his cell phone with him because he's a doctor, fine. His wife is pregnant, fine. She's the ninth month, not pregnant, fourth month. So keep it on silent, right? only you should know and then you go outside and answer it. But how can a person come with something in his hand or in his pocket that will stare his and it's clear it's going to happen. It happens all the time. This speaks about cell phones. That's clear. In many of those pamphlets there are advertisements and they don't write don't read on Shabas. A little disclaimer. And many people think, look, this is a shoe. It looks like a type of pamphlet. It's got to be a mitzvah to read the whole thing. If I'm not reading it from cover to cover, maybe I wasn't even y doesn't say anything. You can't read on chabas. I think it's wrong. I think the ones who put out a thing like this that have advertisement should write, please don't read on shabas or one is not allowed to read on shabas. Also you have to make sure that you don't cause a burden to the gab regarding the putting in is burning. Any ads on that allowed? Only things >> any ads except for the ads that propel you to start and they're trying to sell you something is called you're not allowed to read >> even for kesh except if you tell me the sum will take place on Monday at 4 p.m. that you're allowed to see. Also there has to be some kind of a supervision over the spiritual content of the pamphlet every shul according to what they accept and what they want. So they might say in order to receive money for saddaka you need three conditions to be met. First of all, the publisher or the distributor has to make sure with a gabay that in fact they're interested in receiving this para sheet and that the sheets are not going directly into Giza and it doesn't cause them extra work unless they want to and doesn't cause them extra spending money unless again they're interested in it. Fine. It's a zil in the money of saddaka that it's a it's a donation for sedaka purpose that the parish goes directly into they should also make sure that there's somebody who's in charge to make sure people don't read this during ding. So some smart shoes they only put them outside when you leave Friday night after you leave sh then you see it then you can take it take it home or you put it Friday morning in so people can take it home and most people will take it home hopefully they're not going to come back with it for dav it's the most terrible thing that you come you you see some people do come to shu with a a packet of these para sheets as if is boring so you have to have something entertaining so I brought some uh some materials some of them actually has jokes. So you're reading jokes in middle governing. Do you have a greater zul than that? >> Should they write the do not? >> Sure. >> Sure. Definitely should write that. There's got to be some kind of a overseeing comm somebody somebody to in that to see that this is material that's fitting for us and if it's not fitting for us we shouldn't have it. So they claim it's for K. K is great but we don't drop down the level of to for K. We have to bring people up not to bring people down. And of course you can write it in a different style of writing when you're talking in K. Of course we write in a different manner in a very lighter ways. But if it's not something that's fitting our community we have the right to say I don't want this in my community. We try to supervise what our kids read and what they don't. And if it causes a to the gab and you give me money, I'm not so sure there's an ill for the it could be that they say of the if it causes s and expenses that nobody wants. So say three conditions have to be met without three conditions I think you have an issue. The gab agree that this pamphlet will be in the sh and it doesn't go direct. It doesn't cause a zil in daving the people are reading it in the middle of dav and there's some kind of a spiritual uh supervision supervision over the spiritual content of of the parit whatever it is to make sure to ensure that everybody in sh is on the same page with reading whatever they want and the parents don't get upset that this is brought to their which you want to ask there's >> a stat let's say you see that nobody read it they say it's not allowed to that it doesn't almost like nobody ever read that doesn't >> there is such a concept personally I'm a little more m on that so if you want ask someone else I'm more on that especially when it's inesh and I don't think the person who wrote it had that in mind he had asana he published it in order for you to read it immediately it could be that when it came off the the press they already started reading it he wants it to be used which are printed I think it's to be and to put it in the Giza. There is such an opinion I think to be in this matter.