Being There For Ourselves, Our Children & Others - Rabbi Fishel Schachter Shlita

shetired like to welcome everyone to tonight's share all the men here in the main everyone joining in to the phone or the streams like to remind about annual dinner i' like to invite all the men to participate tomorrow night young is Avenue K East 29 Street doors open 700 p.m. have a worldwide throughout the year come and join us rich program is scheduled is scheduled there'll be signs up more detailed information like to to the family for sponsoring tonight theard tonight and like to thank the Kim family for the sponsoring tonight great sponsoring a she call 718 851 8651 email.com tonight we have the cover us once again official and on being there for ourselves our children children and others my cover for tonight used to have a ho over here for the cup still in there okay so I was just thinking who feels bad for President Biden tonight speaking by the convention I mean think about this he has to get up there by a convention that could be the most watched listened to convention in the entire kadra in the entire planet Earth and he's going through busy busy and he's thinking to himself just a couple of weeks ago I was the incumbent President right taking the Reigns for another four years and he's getting up there and he knows that I don't know the 10 million people that are watching and saying oh there he is the old one that they popped out like and he has to smile and say no he's so happy that things took this inside his stomach is turning with bu I can I feel bad for him and I have to wonder was it worth it it was it worth it for him wouldn't he have been better off uh not being president at all I don't know I always wonder when we have an opportunity we can make it big and it doesn't work out we're soet we're like so depressed about it and thean says you know you know how much B I saved you from there think about it for a moment anyway that was just Food For Thought So now on LL flights they have this thing that you could see the manim you there's an app and you could see the manim as a matter of fact you can sit there for nine hours and watch when the is when the is on the plane which is definitely much more conducive to than watching other things it's just so I was sitting there trying not to watch anything so I had this manum open the person to the left of me had a not such a open and the person to the right of me had ra Beerman on the screen like for like two three hours in a row and I'm saying to myself the never was in the history of the world such a b such a confusing mil FL trer all mixed up and the knows right he knows which world he put us in knows good and well which world he put us in the chov said that he came to the ch ch once and the CH set of Art and he was he said the V stayed with him the entire life there are I know if you were watching on the camera you panic for a second and I'm running away there there are three that we say unless of course you don't say then we don't say these three but there's not such a big uh tummel about it because we're okay saying it somebody told me that he walked to eight 10 blocks minion I said why he wants to get his revenge when they don't say like I said we're very confused yes so shabas so we say three is also which what the what the order of the but at least says whether you say the first you say the last we say so the chab said like this we think when we grow up that our AO are these big monsters now I don't want to under you know ays or Aus this they have to be dealt with but we think when we grow up that a are these big big monsters as opposed to mitv that are these petty little dots as if to say mitzvah it's expected for us to do now again there's a price to pay no question about but think about it along these lines this how the Ted doesn't look at it that way says MIT a does voice you're just sitting over there and he has a choice some movie I don't want to say what and on the other side like and for nine hours he's he decides to move his head to the right as opposed to the left now whatever we all have it's the same mishmash in our lives the re m when it comes to M you on your a a are a we're responsible for them knows that I put you into a I put you into a world such caving in at all sides and you should know s the person that does the MIT inside the person that is into just want to do Chua just try is passive meaning to say the Yeshua is already in place the is waiting is looking down at us here we have like a very unique thing here in the bust medish that the camera is high up see Wherever I Go sh usually anytime camera is is on level which means other people walk by and you get to see their profile you get to see their they were concerned people will see they're not in a do it's the worst possible thing when you walk profile past the camera or you have someone that doesn't quite doesn't mean it but stops pink there to take out tissues and it was say new new and he okay I'm just taking out the tissues right or some people come by and they dock NE and you only see the top of their hat coming by and here the camera is high up the sh's camera is high up not blocked by anything he sees into our very essence he sees into our very mitus more than we could possibly imagine so me I'm watching this man it's fascinating it says you know it's not so figure out it's not just telling you when you could go any calendar will tell you when the is I mean there but okay you know when the N is but this computer has to figure out where the airplane is and where the N is at that given point where the is at that given point as you're flying across the Atlantic Ocean over over whatever you're Fly you're a moving Target and if you want to know when to Dak and you want to know whatever else is it's a service right I'm not saying you should look at screens even I'm just letting you know so there was a person not sitting it wasn't one of these three but it was a person in the next aisle and it was getting close to the time of the I noticed it says when theak will be on the plane let's say quarter after I don't know when it was a quarter after 4 New York time and it was at 4:00 and they were serving breakfast and he was saying quickly quickly quickly quickly they like what happened no the breakfast the breakfast the breakfast like what so I asked them what okay I don't know maybe he take some medicine that he has to eat right away I don't know he says no he doesn't eat after theay and he was scared if they're going to get to his breakfast after the he won't be able to eat and I'm thinking to myself I wonder if whoever offered this service that's what he had in mind it's like the breakfast you get on a plane anyway you know the big breakfast especially the mahadin that's it's good it's good same granola and yogurt it's it's good like he knows that granola and yogurt that you mix together and those eggs I think they're eggs um not sure that you know you have to eat up at 4:05 they're going to have their Tik okay so the EMS is thatan knows every single meal that we eat whether it's breakfast lunch or supper exactly when we're eating it and knows everything else about our lives exactly when it's happening including the things you're worried about including the frustrations including your challenges relationship challenges ma that we battle with worldo tapsi Turvy yeah yeah BM has your number he knows exactly who you are the says so we all know he quotes the mishna right this world is D it's the big hallway coming into you cannot get into your unless you follow the map of your life the map of shim's life is not going to get ruen into and the map of ruven's life is not going to get shim into unless Ru saves shim or helps him so much he takes over some of but listen to the words of the you can't get to your unless every event in your life that takes place every up every down every parking place that someone CS out every time you're blocked in a parking place every frustration in your life it's all perfect when you eat breakfast or when you don't eat breakfast yes that machine knows where you are over the Atlantic Ocean knows what time it is and the knows in our lives where we are who we are how we are and exactly what time it is and only the map of Our Lives is our key to and our license to exist you can't believe what my husband you can't believe what my wife is doing to me she's so he is so what if I told you the only reason you're alive is because of that in sight could be your spouse has the same the I right we don't know what if I told you that you would say oh barem I have this wife barash I have this husband obviously within normal range why me why does this always happen to me because that's me if it didn't always happen to you then you wouldn't be you again the words of the they're all serving you to get to your purpose having said that R say how have you all been how was your year Styler said you should be careful when you come to something which is once a year because MIT so something you do once a year if you're to the then you automatically another year of life or else how else do you have MIT Mitzvah so all the people who are here said oh no not that boring Shear again okay I come every year I don't want to embarrass him I'll come you have more mitz right DAV says he did the now I'll give you the mitah next year it even be more boring because usually it's gets intensified but you you understand what I'm saying Styler has had a uh even when he was in his old age it was hard to him to move he was said once a year thing because that's the Mitzvah mitzah so thank you all for coming back and uh I want to talk a little bit about ah some of you are saying maybe you need that screen in front of your face it's not of anymore it is 16 days in the month of of tonight is it not no means from and on meaning of the brings it a many others that yes from and on you already give yourselves a and everyone knows is the day of I think I want to understand that and elaborate on it wonderful organization they have a beautiful uh catchy uh thing think of something say something think of a move on it right that means from test of and on now I'm not much of a sh I'll tell you the truth many many attempts I'm like batting 00001 one I did and that was when both sides asked me to read the and even then I almost blew it so a lot of times I say I try you know it's not my thing I Tried reading someone AED once and the person got very angry he said that's the sh you read me that's the sh you're suggesting you don't know who we are you can suggest such a so embarrassed so I stopped I said it to a said why did you stop he says those are the that work telling you most of the that go through the first reaction is what okay we'll soon see if there's or not the same is true not just for same is true for every experience in life cuz the arel says that every experience in life is you all know the famous story that Raa right it could be as busy as the is and the old lady came from downstairs every single Friday knocked on the door and knocked on the door and knocked on the door to ask an emergency Shila she came to ask the when Isha was always ready with an answer could have said to her tell me you don't get calendars in the mail I'll give you some of mine there's a whole box because this rabson waited a whole week to ask when Raa maybe the busiest person in Cloud Israel at that time never gave you the a of buying a calendar because at that moment is the I always wondered I wonder if you've had this issue you know the valet parking guys or mechanics why do they have to move the seat out of the way to position for them make themselves comfortable for the two seconds that they're moving the car then it takes you 20 minutes to get it straight again you know what I mean like you get into your car I can't even reach the steering wheel and you see the parking attend you understand why but like come on you're just getting into the car for two seconds like why do you have to move the seat and I was thinking to myself maybe it's to teach us all we're so busy making ourselves comfortable in life it's also just a little ride take it easy keeps adjusting our seats think of something say something applies to everything that goes on in our life you see someone looking a little bit down and you go over to him you say has everything extend him a sh or sometimes you want to say something to him and you feel he needs his privacy that's a you were ma he was a and sometimes it's the other way around somebody once came to asked it says that we're compared to the do to the fish in the sea and why are we compared to the fish in the sea cu the fish is in the sea is all the water in the world yet a drop of water comes down the fish goes running up with the drop of water and that's how when it comes to a new word of TI we go up so this went he didn't experiment he has a fish tank and he took a dropper and he dropped some water the fish aren't interested yeah drop of food they all come running water so he came to ask so said you don't understand fish in the fish tank they feel like they own the world the world is mine if you ever look carefully into a fish tank there's like a fish that becomes boss the shle mafia thing that goes down I don't if you notice they have their Corners don't come into I think as balus he owns the world he thinks the world is his he's not interested in the new drop of water the fish in the ocean knows he's py in a wo in an ocean he says he he's not Mo he runs after every drop of water the says dog not dog him in your fish tank in order for us to have a for Life a for we have to realize we are position Us in this big yes in the Atlantic Ocean that knows which fish is next to which fish there's a whole cycle of who eats who that's the existence of fish hopefully in our lives it's not who eats who but who's there of God Eisner was was mik hi during the war off the charts and he said once during the death marches he gave up he just he can't he can't anymore and someone who never said a word to him he was laying on the floor waiting to be shot because that was the punishment for taring and he said to him God Life Run way he said it just picked himself up and started running and he heard the shock behind him it saved his life he says to this day he doesn't know who that person is somebody yelled run doesn't mean to go over to someone and give them a word of just say I'm here for you but let's go back to so you have the and the mishna says of course you would think I would turn to the page beforehand right usually the last time I did this B okay here says the Mish white clothes everyone wears white borrowed clothing why borrowed clothing says the not to embarrass those that don't have that's why borrowed clothing you understand what this means got thousands of girls coming out all in borrow clothing and you couldn't come in your own clothes that's your own clothes no no no entrance can you imagine a Sign by a entrance only for those that got their grounds by a Gak and that's what that's what it was right imagine this Rich lady comes she bought her gown for $35,000 30 you know ta tailor you know working on it do he get it from a gah no I'm not a Gak person can't come in right only G clothing so is think about that througho come up to sh after 120 years they're going to say only those that consider this world of gak can come in right those that own their clothing and their world we we'll deal with you later right now stay outside here from R wne he said he wants that wants that a similar experience but he came to a parking lot in Manhattan not in a very good section and he parked his car whatever his car was his Dodge Dart or whatever it was in those days and this uh person pulled up in this very very fancy sports car I don't remember the names the last time I said it I mispronounced it whatever you know real fancy sports car and his car is worth I don't know those years 5,000 and the fancy sports car is $150,000 and the parking attendant says we can't take that car our insurance company said we're not allowed to take those cars lodini am I saying it right not allowed to take those cars and the guy said I can't park on the street we're not taking those I can't take the car he's screaming and crying and he pulls up in his jalap and he goes that car you can take and my car you can't sir ban said to me want to trade want to could trade solve the problem right but that's what's going to going to happen after 120 years 120 years we get up there and that's going to be the mat when I I can't come in with my clothes no you can't and now I'll tell you a secret the says borrow close close is a reference to the Goof the Goof is the close of the Nish life is borrowed it's borrowed but we have to take care of it who sh sh sh has the one of the custodians four custodians right one who guards something for nothing one who rents something one who one who is paid to guard something and then there's someone who borrows something the one who borrows something we're the most strict with him even on even on something that happens that is not in his control so we're responsible for our body the as big time as us you got to take care of it h went to the mer every morning right to the bath house he said my it's my guest least I can do for it is to make sure it's clean and nice take care of it stay over in someone's house before you leave you make the bed right clean the floor want to leave with a good impression that's how Hill looked at his body so we very is very it's an extremely heavy responsibility where we're a sh over our B it's an amazing lease you lease a car after 3 years okay you got a new car here's the same car that keeps changing right we don't have the same body as a baby we don't have the same body as a kid we don't have the same body as a teenager we don't have the same body as we're middle-aged unless you're going through a middle-aged crisis you tribal I say it's not the same body you don't have the same body as a Zen Elta Zen the golden years same body keeps changing it's amazing but it's still a lease but there's certain even for a for example if you borrow something in the are there with you the is your Potter if something happens and there's correct so the ream says y believes hem is with him every single moment he's Tak there's less of an you're right means normal wear and tear if you use it but if you don't use it in a normal way so when they came out over here with their borrowed clothes the reference is also reference is also to life our bodies are borrowed now the gamarra says that the Bas the princess borrowed from the daughter of the K and the daughter of the K borrowed from the daughter of the scan the daughter of the scan borrowed from the daughter of the M the daughter of the M borrowed from the so the says each one a step down step there and then the mishna goes on to say like bring lower your pedestal a little bit lower your you're not that great okay and then the mishna goes on to say that they were dancing in The Vineyards by Nature draws only from its source and it'll follow the source right a grape vne will will go up a tree it'll follow follow you anywhere just it's connected to its source we each have our own source gave us each a purpose in our lives this is Who We Are and they danced in A Perfect Circle what is the point of the circle the many more less say the same thing different different twist to it but if you're m to the center of the circle then you in the center are at an exact distance to the circumference of the circle no one is closer to the wall of the circle to the outer ring of the circle and someone else if says you're in the middle you're in the epicenter the says why do we say to the by the answer is they're the only ones that can get people away from the M wall you know some people they come up to the m and some people have to leave there's no M there's no there's no there's noish there's no Shish there's no there's no there's no in a circle it's perfect everyone is who they are and as they were dancing in their Circle the says everyone showed with their finger and they said what does that mean they here you have a bunch of people in a circle bunch of people in a circle and everyone is different one person is the one person is the president one person's becoming president one person is on the way out one person is a sh and one person is an accountant one person is a movie actor and the other person is a he cleans this in between the seats after the movie is over and everyone is in this circle and everyone says I accept my lot I am who I am supposed to be looks around to every single person and says you are they say Lift Your Eyes lift your eyes the says that the girls all dressed in white and they came in this circle right I think I said this joke one too many times that the little boy comes to a wedding and says why is the kala dressed in white white is white the moral says is the natural color of the world white is Sim and the kid asks why is the dressed in black then okay they say Lift Your Eyes I don't understand something the says very clearly doesn't have a wife should come there and look for a wife so what do mean b pick up your eyes if he's not picking up his eyes he that's what he came for to look for a wife like what why do they have to tell him so once her a good v no the B has to come to hear what the girls are saying and if he feels that there's then he lifts his eyes the that comes to look H which one we're not talking to you you don't belong here it's only the B son so the says this is a repeat yes but the says that is the because is you know you speak to the you speak to the you call him you call him nothing is happening you start begging please answer my calls a finally you get an answer a we'll see I don't know what about we have to judge we heard in third grade kid was outside in the hall and I'm not sure this is for me you know that's go and finally finally finally the couple leaves they come together if each one is like firm in their position they can go home it's not going to last if which one is listening to the other one then right see your purpose in life so there's an old mus say that a ram not the truck a ram isn't a ram and a frog and a mouse and a crow all got together and they formed uh r instead of NATO R they said we're all going to stick with each other and if anything happens to anyone we're all going to defend each other seems like a strange uh you know combination but a ram a frog a mouse and a the ram is the most powerful majestic animal charging through the fields and suddenly he realizes he is caught in a trap and the see that see that the ram is not coming home so the crow goes up and does a surveillance flight a natural drone and the crow comes back and says I'm telling you the ram is caught in someone's trap the ram is is caught in someone's trap what's going to be and the mouse goes and starts chewing away at the Trap until snap the ram breaks free so the Trapper is really angry he says oh it's those guys again now they have it packed between each other so he grabs the Frog wants to take n on the Frog so the Ram comes charging toward him he says oh this is my second chance to grab the ram forget the Frog but the RAM knew what he was doing was just a diversion turns around and run runs and races back into thing that's the musall so I want to ask you something if I were to tell you there's a sh but you a ram a frog a mouse and a crow what and let's say someone says me and my wife you Shas to each other it was a mistake it was a mistake me and my boss me and my friend me and my no Shas Ram a frog a mouse a crow but put you together that's the sh and if I told you that in this particular Story Only the mouse could have saved the ram only the crow could have found them and only the ram could have saved the frog in your life maybe I feel like oh no was such a mistake why did I marry her why did I marry him why why why why why is this my lot to be a worker over I tried to invest in my own business and didn't go my kids are so difficult my neighbors could sh sh you know the says why because you hear what's going on by someone else you say oh okay was just in my house right outside you hear what's going on by someone else's table you say the dealing with a shom issue so he told her a school shom in those days there was something called a lution bra a loction bra was a piece of wood and they made a loction on it they made made their own Lu believe it or not but it was tough to clean so he told the woman you want Shalom Bas clean three Lu three of these loction boards noodle boards three Thursday nights in a row or three Friday afternoons in a row so they were sure this is an is the same of loctions the same as the M it must be some so in cab but the lady did it she banged on the door she's crying she's desperate this is the last chance to save her marriage and they come out and they say what do you want he says the rebit told me I should wash your Lux board okay you want to wash my Lu board no problem and she does it for three nights in a row and they have such perfect Shas afterwards they say what what what is the sight of the Lu board he says the sight is you see what's going on in someone else's house Thursday night and Friday night and you see by us it's not so bad that's the site that's the S so the of why why so the there's no such other thing used to say there's no such other thing where there are so many reasons why it's so he gave a mush the kid comes to the Reb says why are you late father had a flat tire and also had a stomach ache and also the elevator got stuck and also there was a traffic blockage and also there was a oil spill and also there was go to the principal okay too many excuses but they're good excuses but too many good excuses if the gamar has so many reasons there must be something else behind it something else behind it as the story go this Israeli reservist shows up late the commander says where were you he said I I have no way of getting here it's waiting for a I hired a donkey and the middle of the donkey stopped and couldn't get it to a mule and down I couldn't get it to move looks at him like liar with you okay get get in next day why are you late I could no way I'm getting here and I was on a camel and in the middle the camel tripped I couldn't get I couldn't get off I couldn't get on he's a liar get in okay next person why are you late so I had no choice I came on this scooter one of the wheels came off and I was just going around in circles and circles get in and the next person came and he said I'm warning you I don't want to hear about D I don't want to hear about mules I don't want to hear about scooters I don't want to hear about he goes no no I was in a jeep so why are you so late you know what it's like being stuck behind a camel and a donkey and a scooter like you know I get so the gamar says that there's a bunch of different reasons for and and and the pendulum swings very very wide what is the Sim of there's one she in the G it's the day says it's the day that the were allowed they can only marry inter shave int shave it and now one shaved was let marry another shaved another she says there was a time they answer taking wives from shav and now they could take Wise from sh another says it's the day that the M midbar stopped dying every Tish they dug they dug a hole they went in and they waited to see if they're going to wake up in the morning when they woke up in the morning and so didn't wake up in the morning but this day everyone woke up they said maybe it's not maybe there's a mistake in the calendar they waited for they saw the full moon they knew the Gaz become botle another she says it's the day that HOSA the King was that put up so no one can go be wasn't this big sadic but he was better than he gave you a choice you want to be early Regal or you want to come to thear I don't want I Don't Force It want watch and you want to watch the movie they gave you a choice another the of RA is theug BET was this huge Revolt a three-year Revolt backed by RAB AA against the Romans which almost won the plans were there to rebuild the third B mikdash then the Romans whatever the says baraz and so on so it was a terrible tragedy hund a gzm of people were murdered and the Romans ordered their bodies to be left laying on the ground and for many many years that's the way it was and then they were given permission above to be buried and a nest happen none of the bodies decayed that's how we make the they were given permission and indeed many make a it's a question if you can plan because if you're sitting mus by a table and someone brings in a better wine than you had unexpected then you can make a if you know that the wine is coming different sheas about that I once saw a sign we're getting together tonight 9:00 there's going to be a suda at 10:00 there's going to be spontaneous dancing we're going to break into a dance some people know what's going to happen all they wrong said something happens in the Bri the Bria is recreated there's another she in thear that that's when the sun isn't as strong it's not mamish as hat you're not Mish smelting you can't fry eggs anymore on the city streets starts getting a little bit cooler a drop and that's the day they could they no longer were able to go out and chop wood for the so they had more time to learn says that's in day so all these reasons is because that's not the real reason of from inherently something changes in the Bria and because something changes in the therefore all these things happen everyone interpreted according to their way remember a couple a while ago there was an earthquake in New York remember that that's when we thought we had problems right so I was in my car I know some of you heard this a lot but I was in my car when my an was a Friday afternoon Al the car is Boing Boing jumping up and down I I turned around I gave my in would everyone please stop jumping then I got a desperate call from my wife she told me the washing machine is going crazy the whole house is shaking somebody else called me that he said he just called hatah he thinks he's fainting the whole house is shaking I said wait a second I met someone in the mik he told me you know I told my wife the raccoons came back in the roof the whole house I said wait a second I said there was an earthquake cu the city then gave you this blitz that there's an earthquake like six days after it happened a couple of hours after it happened you know Ah that's what it is right so it was true all these people then I took my in again later on and again the car was jumping so I realized I was right it was the it wasn't the Earth but anyway but the point is that everyone is right there was an earthquake which is which felt it each one felt it according to his madrea something happens on what happens on and the answer is that for all practical purposes Tish is the end of the year from we try so hard that this this is the year of gula comes TSH and we come to the Stark reality that the Gula has not come yet and what does that mean it means that we still have a mission and the mission wasn't accomplished so we reset and we start again and that's the connection from Kipper the two are inherently connected of is connected to a a famous Story by it was by the he called in his said I just had a flash about a certain go talk to them so the Gabby said sure go talk to them now so he went and said the re reads the I'm game but how am I going to live I can't be Mas came back to says I'm going to start putting together money get me a list of I need to talk to them he says we got to go to kidre then the girl had her fake is some says he wants to speak to her anyway they agreed that they're going to become and came in late forid and believe it or not the Gaba you would think ultimate he's talking to right and he points to the clock I doubt that it was digital but he pointed to the clock and said no like why are you late so here's two things on the way coming to shul the gab was like why says I needed this to come into yipper I needed this to come into yipper and when the gab in Ultimate with a Capital C my manal used to say pointed to the clock that it's late for kid said he's the and until he starts saying kid doesn't start you didn't miss anything wait a second two seconds ago you said that you needed this if you did do this you couldn't have come into Yer and then you're saying what that you're the doesn't St till you come isn't that a s and the answer is no what teaches us is exactly what we're saying I have a role the tailor has a role the garbage man has a role the executive director has a role the principal has a role the rebi has a role the housewife has a role everyone has a role the roles change I felt I didn't do enough I wanted one more I want to be part of saying to the I know the world is going to move on and I thank you for making me a to be part of it that's what said yeah it's not a Ste if I wouldn't have done that I felt like I can't come into he know he's the padar but he didn't believe being the padar makes me any more the on the water carrier cuz we're each doing what we're supposed to do we are all in the middle of the circle that's who we areer himself tried to be a tailor he did not want to be a RV again it's a long story but was the great M and Mum where is Ching them in the most horrible way and nler pulled out a Scher and opened KES and there was a there was some kind of a bachelor party and the fell out the window and they attributed it to the nler of Caba nius that he used the father of the ran to the police he said Adler killed my son with a Sher and the police said the chief of police said he hit him on the head with it and he said no he blew the shifer and my son fell out of the window so policeman said well I'm scared to arrest him what if he blows the Sher and I flow fly out of the window right but the people knew better had to re leave town because of the controversy I heard the story said he heard it had to left town and he dispersed his and was so hurt he said no your job is not to be on your own and he was off on his own and he decided the soldier of n Adler went through and he said I don't want to be a r I just want to sit and learn I want have a yes with that said when they started reading him he said somebody wants to support me I don't plan on being a r just telling you I wouldn't be able to sit and learn maybe maybe I'll be a re that's it and there was a person that came along and said sure sure sure no problem and he was going to agree to the sh and he came to this future possible potential father-in-law's he heard him Whispering the future R of our town I thought he said once he gets married he's in my net you know he'll need a mouse to open the net soer heard that he ran off into the woods in the middle of shabas disappeared was pretty embarrassing they said to me your son will not even marry ran away from you so afterwards said I'm not listening to anything CU I was almost fooled and there was aitz had a sister was a tremendous B tremendous big he was known for his he was a is everyone knew that his handshake is worth than a thousand signatures came to he said Mary my sister I promise you everyone knew he was a trusted person he was a is so he agreed and he became he didn't mention a few things like his sister was once married that she had a heart condition it was side and uh some didn't even know about it and he came back to his rebi for said what' you do do such a sh he said you know she's a lot older than you do you know that she was once married do you know that he said no so said break the sh you were fooled he said re if she has a heart condition I can't do it to her what if she dies I can't take a chance soer said he's going ahead withler finally agreed and then they were going to send theer out of Germany because he was a he came from he came from Germany they to send him out of Austria it was a whole story and they he said that she couldn't leave so they would he couldn't stay she couldn't leave so they would forced to be separated then at the end they got permission for her to leave with him they said that I can't I can't come home with her and no one's going to support me that was like the but he still wasn't sure if he should break the sh he wrote a letter to Adler and the letter didn't come back not yes not no the reason the letter didn't come back because Adler wrote break the and he was so scared to send it with the mail because he wanted to make sure it's going to get it he sent it with a where do it go when it comes to shows us that he runs the world and that was so excited that nler trusted him I don't know exactly what happened but he stopped to have a or two or three or four or five and he wound up showing up right after the right after the and they came running and stop I have the letter you know Pony Express boom into theole with the horse photographers had a hard time they weren't ready for it read the letter right after the the re said don't marry here he just put the letter in his pocket he said if and she said in the room what did it say in that letter knew he couldn't lik her he said the Abisha said we should get married and that's why the letter came a second after the okay so now re Adler and the letter came from the King that he could stay he's married her was the best years of's life he had a Yesa no no is true to his word supports him had different plans are constantly happening is an ongoing process every day you need new had a re spinner once came into the room before he opened the door now a re what he says ding for sh re you're married 70 years because every day that's why every day you need new so he uh appar AR started losing his money but he was he don't want to teller about it it got to the point he was selling his personal items just to be able to support in hisa then the day came that he's he says to his wife by kdes what happened to your shabas she had like a special uh like a special ornament where is it she started to cry then he said uh-oh bunch of things fell into place Parish didn't have a silver stick he had a wooden stick he said he lost it he gave it to the silver smith so he said to her don't worry he said how we going to live said have to become a r but you only married me not to become a r I had to do I thought I want to do and my job is to say that says okay I want you to marry her now I'm going to tell you what I want from you and he said he was going to take the next position of Rob and there was a whole TR that they came from a distant City while the people in this town wanted to give him the job that he was and he also tried to become a tailor in the middle but he wasn't very successful in his tailoring efforts as that would be the and he became the and he became the greatest pisc he became the one that kid doesn't start but guess what this is my role in life I went through the ups and downs she eventually died they never had children he remarried her M's daughter the life they had together it was a life that was meant for them to have together when you're in the center of the circle it doesn't make a difference who you are no one is any closer than anyone else didn't consider himself more than anyone if he doesn't do this what is he going to I want to I want to conclude with this story I heard it today from it's a tough story The kamarov Lost the Child and he had a hard time a very very hard time very hard time to have really tough lost I think 18 children and he called him want be so you know that doesn't work I had it worse than you right and I'm good so it doesn't work didn't tell him that he said I want to tell you where I got my from my rebi remel of ROV had a was in his 50s and he had no children then once was a story before PES in rem of R's house there was zil there was nothing but really nothing and he came before pesak and he brought food and eggs and wine and Matas and also a nice little pouch of money said you brought to me you're going to have a child this year and he had a girl imagine the S this girl was born after all those years she was the cutest thing and her parents loved her like the apple of their eye she came a little older they did a with her they started the and the parents said they'd like to finish the the actual teller should be by remel of remov and they traveled and right outside of of she said ROI ROI my head hurts my head hurts they called the doctor whether she had an anism or something and she died she died when they came to ROV everyone said we're here for this T and she took out the she took out the cake as she said standing at the door of the V medish I want to tell you all a story hello lady we don't this is Ral you know you don't come here and give dresses like what they let her speak she said I came here to finish a I thought it was a good and on the way here a different sh came to me and the other sh said what are you doing I have so much of a better for you you want to do a with with a mortal it's going to cost you so much money there are ups and downs won't cost you anything just the Shroud a they give you a free can't believe what is going to be a you can't imagine the I said the second just have to accept what he says she said so it's a Tali just a different kind of a Tali she said it was a sud in the middle of men of remov said he never saw someone in aad as this woman a men remov told them they promises that they should please do what she said but wants us to how does that work says he needs coming into what are we to say tell me was there any other time that we needed more than we need now we started the Democratic Convention to think that in front of the democr democratic convention right now in Chicago there are people holding Hamas Flags what does that mean at least the Holocaust they deny that they're not denying it they're saying yeah and politicians are pandering is there any time that we need so what's our and the answer is our isn't to conquer the world our is to be where we are in the middle of the circle our is to what reading have to do with anything because reading means I know we're going to get through this I know there's going to be a next Generation I know there're going to be Generations till Messiah comes you can make the sh on your own has to be it's going to be you're letting me be part of it so we have the of a forward thrust so we have the of moving on so I beg of you say try to read try to understand also that whatever goes on in our life is a and iFish our to for will give us the opportunity to marry of our children to is and that big big sh that she was talking about that will leave for the time [Music] of want to mention also the talk about what T what does just to Echo the words that tomorrow night is the dinner one of the beautiful things about is that it's it's a t for everybody every kind of a in all different places and if there's any a time that we need this being one person to another through the site also like to thank the Kim family for sponsoring tonight sh like to REM and invite the men to the annual dinner tomorrow nighten 7.m come worldwide throughout the Year by taking part in the dinner for coming for [Music]