Chanukah Why a Jew Says Thank You Even in the Dark

Thank you so much for being part of the sharimum. There there is so much that go [music] just that everyone knows besides bar hashem the incredible growth that [music] we're all doing together there is a behind the scenes crew who brings these messages to you and I just want to ask each and every one of you if you could please click the link below to help us continue our efforts [music] and our ability to communicate together with you. Thank you so much, Tiskitz. We start off our day. Thank you. That's what a Jew is always saying thank you. A Jew is thanking. A Jew is is Kaneka. When's the other other time that we have eight days full eight days to praise Hashem? A full full halal. When's the other time? >> Sukus, which is for Mashem. Maybe tomorrow or maybe tomorrow night I'll talk a little bit about that how Kaneka really is kaged sukus. Kanek and sukus um are are eight days. Kaneka are one of the one of the is here. I'll read it right here. One of the I don't want to go off so much on this but it's brought down. This this is incredible that what happened was the yanim sorry one second let me just get the the exact quote I don't know if anybody knows this sorry one second yeah here we go zut on the bashamean It says that the Ivanim and everyone knows what the Ivanim wanted to be in Mavat. They want to be Mavatal. Shabas bras and so it's brought down that there's one other thing they wanted to be. What was that? Besides why? because they that year they weren't able to celebrate sukus. So instead they celebrated Kaneka instead of sukus. So they made kaneka was eight days. That's why they said full halal. There are many connections between kanaka and sukus. Um and a yid a Jew. So you're welcome. This is what I want to talk about from from yesterday a little bit. Why? Because because one of the questions you asked did today, you were being facitious about it. Um about like were they did they also protest then, right? Meaning fighting the war because we we foros. Um so I do want to say um I did look again I I do want to say as we're we're here again in sheer and I don't like to uh talk about sad things but we cannot not mention what happened uh yesterday we have to mention it. I I feel that it's very important to mention it when when a surah happens to the Jewish people even if it's in Australia even if it's in China even wherever it is it's it's it's me and you. It's us. It's us over here. Part of, and this is what I just want to reference to you that I'm going to say it publicly, and that is that part of the reason that the Jewish people are still suffering in exile is because we need to strengthen our akas. And we need to not point fingers anywhere. There's one person to point a finger at if there's any finger pointing to be done at all. Exactly. Do it. And that's inward. And I and I want to and I know I say that a lot and but I don't say it enough and I'm justing that over. If there's one thing that we talk about over here and and I'm not I'm not saying this in a negative mammish at all. I'm just I'm just I'm just I think it's very important to emphasize that is that is that every every yumptive for the Jewish people every holiday every time we are trying to connect to because what because ultimately what's what's every yumptive and every mitzvah and everything it connects us it connects us to two things all the time connects us to Hashem and connects us to each other everyumptive you go through any yumptive and it connects us to two things. It makes me closer to the Jewish people and it makes me closer to Hashem which is one and the same. Yeah. Go ahead. >> Okay. Yeah. Good. The reason I didn't say is because that's the same thing. You're not connected to yourself. You're not connected to your friend. You're not connected to Hashemmo is obvious. It's not obvious, but I'm saying of course ultimately that's the only way to connect to your friend. It's the only way you can connect to Hashem. But but the avod of a yumptive is always to bring us closer to each other and to bring us closer to Hashem. That's what a mitzvah in general does. A mitzvah, the Arizal, you could ask Ruvena. says, "Before you do a mitzvah, what you're supposed to do, what you're supposed to do is you're supposed to have in mind the Jewish people to bring in the Jewish people. I want to welcome because I think you're I don't know right that Ellie, you're officially here now. Yes, Ellie, you're here." Ellie Blue. Yeah, I think so. I hope so, too. It's great to have you, Ellie. Welcome. >> [applause] >> Welcome, welcome. It's great to have you here. And and and one of the and one of the the missions of this yeshiva of Judaism because this yeshiva is a Jewish yeshiva. Um, and we try and follow the ways of the sadikim and follow Judaism. And Judaism is always bringing us closer to each other and closer to Hashem. That's that's the theme. That's the theme. If you ever think that you're that you're better than someone, if you ever think that you're um that you're doing um better than someone, it's a natural thing. It's very natural to think that you're better than someone. It's very natural to think that my way is the way and his way or their way isn't. But as a Jew, we know that all that that there are many many many ways many many ways, right? Whether you're Svarti, whether you're Ashkanazi, whether you're connected to uh this uh group or you're connected to that group, a Jew is always bringing is always bringing uh people closer and bringing my brother closer. If you ever find yourself feeling far, it's very normal to feel far away. It's very normal to put down other groups of people. It's a very normal thing to do. But in wake of what happened uh the other day, I don't know how many people how many of our brothers and sisters were murdered for one reason because they're our brothers and sisters. Because we're because we're Jews. It's the only reason that it happened because because we're because we're a Jew because we're and that what that needs to do to us is bring us closer to each other, not further from each other. Um, Aka asked me and he asked yesterday and we had a I I uh I thought of you Aka Kea Saffron. Um, I thought Kea I I didn't follow up. I'm following up now. I'm following up now a little bit. Aka was asking me, we were talking a little bit about about uh and I respected his sensitivity. We were talking a little bit about what was, you know, the the difficulty, the pain. Um, and I'm I'm going to say something interesting that I that that uh just being open with everybody here last night when I when I lit the monora could be the first time I had this experience where like I I uh it's funny I then saw in my house the story of the blujba. I saw I saw that story. So, it was a hug and a kiss from Hashem because I sent it over yesterday [snorts] and it was the first time Aka it was the first time and everyone I just want to share when I lit the manora when I lit the monora last night I I I really really didn't try and like uh push myself to to be all like, you know, okay, um you know, let's let's let's not think about the the people in Sydney. Let's not think about, you know, like, okay, let's focus on letting them know we're not. And I couldn't do it. For some reason, I couldn't do it. And I didn't do it. And I meaning and I was like I was like I was like, I'm not Bishamus. I'm not such a big sadic over here. Bishamus lighting the monora and saying Shakanu. I I was like I was like sad for for I I don't know if I felt sad but I felt ace part of me feeling for the Jewish people feeling for someone who's uh who for for Kalis and I I think it's important I want to say I'm going to bring this up because I don't like big >> I'm a big sadic. Thank you. Takes one takes one to no one. Takes one to no one. I wasn't It's funny. Thank you. I wasn't planning. I said to myself, you know what's funny? I'm just sharing with everybody here. I was like, yoni, don't talk about it. Let's move forward. Let's talk about the lights of Kaneka and how this But for some reason, I don't know. I'm just trusting my my my thought to think about to think about our brothers and sisters in in in who who who who go through things. You can never lose. You can only gain when we get when we think about you. You'll never lose. And I'm saying this even within codependence even within co it is Monday so I could talk a little bit about that it's it's you won't lose even codependence obviously codependence is a real problem I'm saying if you do for someone you never lose they say that's why nan natan is a palendrome a palendrome is you spell it backwards and forwards you can never do for somebody else and lose never never now oh there's codependence So you're you're you're hurting yourself. You're hurting the other person. Okay. It's a good kasha. It's for a no mic Monday to get into it, right? It's it's to have you. Huda Mattel is here. Welcome to Yuno. Mattel has been sitting in the shar for 10 years already. You know that yudo is from the founders of the yeshiva. Okay, let's get back to toodo salahal. We I'm waiting for this to lo just to just to mention. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Salahal. A Jew is saying thank you. A Jew is saying thank you. A Jew is saying thank you. Let's say I have trouble saying thank you. What's the shot? Yeah. Anybody want to say what's the shot? If someone has uh Oh, Usher. I'm happy. I don't know if you heard the beginning. You heard he just full fil what? Let me hear what was the you just filled them in because I wanted to mention to you also >> that what >> get the full uh explanation. >> The full explanation is that we're all we're all we're all we're all together. We're all all the Jewish people are all together and that and that we always live in the in the mindset and the heart set if that's a word but I just made it up that the the the just coined it. The the heart the heart of that is that there are no divisions. There are no divisions. There's no them versus me. We're all we're all in this together. Oh, here's the kasha probably that yam's thinking because it could be Asha. You're also thinking, oh, but them but they're making divisions, right? Oh, they're judging. So, what am I going to say to that? The second I say that someone's judging, what am I doing? >> Judging. The second I say that they're making divisions. What am I doing? >> Made a divi. Made a division. Now that's very hard. So someone might be upset about that. Say that's not fair. BUT IT'S THEM. BUT IT'S THEM. But it's them. You know what? You know what? I want to tell you guys something. You're right. You're right. It's very hard to be the guy who's bringing together. Yes, it is. It is very hard when someone spits in your face or someone puts you down and you go and you say, "I love you and I'm not judging you." It is very hard when someone judges you and you don't judge them for judging you. Yes, 100% I agree. Therefore, what does it have to do with anything? So, it's hard. You're right. >> What does it look like to not actually judge? Even if you're judging the faith, you're still judging. >> Good. So, so very good. Okay. Oh, you're just being good. Good. No. No. Very good. Very good. Very good. The first step is 100%. You're 100% right. The first step is you got no business looking over there to begin with. That's number one. It's not your business. Not my business. Number two, once I'm looking over there, see what's good. That's number two on the list. The second thing is to only see the good in others and Ruvena, like you said before, and in myself, which is one and the same. Which is one and the same. So, yes, you're 100%. I don't even want to be in the zone of judging. But the truth is we live in a world where you look up for one second and suddenly you see someone doing something strange. So you look and you focus on that. So the there Torah tells us see the good. Doesn't say see the good. But you are 100% right. >> I heard yesterday when I was reading something once said that labels are for t-shirts not for humans. >> Labels are for >> shirts not for humans. >> Right. Right. Right. Right. Yes. >> Yes. >> Okay. So, how what what I don't know what the count is over here. Um but uh we we have in mind that I just want to say this that I that I um that I say this as well. The only reason I'm looking at this here's a 10-year-old girl murdered. 10-year-old girl murdered. The only reason I'm doing this right here is that when you look at the news, this is like olive phase in learning in late Sonus. Oh, we did it in late Sonus already. But olive phase of being a sensitive person is when you're scroll, right? If I'm looking at the news and I'm just going to say, oh, ah, this one was killed. By the way, this is late right here. Let me just show you guys if anybody wants to know what late is. This is late right here. See this screen? This is Leonis. It's it's a picture of a woman who was murdered with a memorial uh candle and right under it is an advertisement. Why is that late sonis? The reason that's late sonis is because it messes with your emotions and it makes it that oh um oh did you hear how many people were killed? Uh, could you pass the catchup? Right? That's called messing with your emotions. So, when you look through your news, when you look through news and you see, the only reason I'm doing it right now is because we're all here together and we're dedicating this shir. We're having in mind the Torah that we're learning together, the aus that we're talking about. And it's hard. Akus is hard. It's very easy to point the finger at them. Very easy to point it at them. And trust me, if you would have a conversation with me about the stuff inside of me, of my criticism and the things that I have opinions, you guys know me a little bit. Boy oh boy, do I have opinions about things. But what do I need to do? I need to take a deep breath. And we all need to take a deep breath. And we need to learn to judge favorably and learn to see the good and learn as Moshe was saying. Moshe, have us in mind to learn to to to to really to really not judge at all. I don't want to judge at all. If there's one person who I want to judge, and I'm not even going to judge him so much, that would be myself. You get into your room with your therapist. You get into a room with a good friend of yours. you talk to a rebby who you know cares about you and you could be um be a little bit judgmental on that. I'll get to you in a second, Chip Gi. Um but I want to say that when when we read the news and we're talking about what's going on, we're having in mind the families, we're having in mind the Jewish people who are suffering because we always have we always want to bring each other closer. That's what we want to do. I want to be closer to the Jewish people. I don't want to ever sometimes I do this myself. I will not look at the news. I try in general not to look at the news, but once in a while I I I I give into my uh my desires a little bit and I'll open up my my thing over here. I'm not going to mention which news it is and I'll open it up and I'll be very careful. I'll be very careful that when I read that someone passed away not to move on to the next thing. I stop. I stop and I'll try and process whether I'll say a shir amalos to process someone was killed, someone was murdered, someone died. I don't want it just to be like, okay, and then you know, you know, there's a book sale. That for sure not. That for sure not. But that's what happens. That's what happens. Okay. Yes. Shimshi. Yeah. [snorts] Shimshi path. Everybody come on. to have a Jew to have a like that in our yeshiva to have a really agrees >> to likely read and read look at the pictures and read the name. >> It's not it's not >> up to me. I'd rather >> I so exact >> guy was someone and started telling me the other was exactly I'm like don't tell me >> yes the concept of like you just want to live in like a >> 100% beautiful love it love it love it love it great question yes to everything you're saying but Shimi's saying he's saying oh but I I got to live in the world that I that I have to know >> you got to live in the world is that you're going to live and just pretend like I don't want to just show me pictures as a 10-year-old girl I don't want to know that >> I don't either you're right >> do is it is there like great question. I love it. What a great question. I don't The truth is I I don't even want to answer so fast because the question is is is such a deep question. It's such a deep question. I can tell you one thing. I know this is a little bit weird to say. My My daughter and son-in-law I don't know if it's weird, but I don't I don't I I'll just say it. My daughter and son-in-law are big Sadikim. That's why it's hard to say it. My son My daughter My daughter and son-in-law are big and I mean that for real. if you know them, they they they have a special needs child besides that they're sadik even without that. I'm saying they're just people who are who are totally disconnected from all the these things. And I told them last night they came over for for the Kaneka afterwards. They were there and we had a great time and it was great. I didn't say a word because I'm I hate to be the bearer of of bad news, but I said to myself, we mish had the grandkids were over and it was Gishma Kaneka blah blah blah blah blah. But I said to my daughter and my son-in-law, you know, mamish very special people and they're there at the end and I was like I said to myself just sharing my same dilemma because I'm like enjoy what do I have to what do I have to say anything? And I'm like, it's the Jewish people. Like, at the end of the day, how could I not tell them, right? They don't have phones, smartphone, nothing. They live like like in a little like athle type of thing, >> mom. Yeah. And when I told them, I they almost both like broke down. They they were like [gasps] like their face was like, "What?" I said, "Did you hear about the the the attack?" They were like, it was at the end because I was like, how do I I don't want to tell them, but mamish is what you're asking, Chimchi. I don't want to tell them, but how can I not tell them? And I like said it and their reaction was so heavy and it was like and it was like it changed the whole thing and I was like I was like that is the way it's supposed to be. Meaning what happens is in what you're saying what happens is is that is that we want to be I want to be sensitive. I want to be sensitive. We don't want to hear bad news. We don't want to hear it. Uh so maybe ask your question stronger so we can maybe we could get go get some. What were we talking about? It's mamish this. It's like Kaneka. It's Kaneka. It's great but it's dark. It's nissim. It's light but it's dark. I told someone this last night. I actually had this. It was a gift from Hashem. This guy is is uh this very special person. And we were smoozing about about he's getting he's getting engaged. He's getting whatever. He's nobody here knows him. Someone from another yeshiva and and he came to me to speak to me. Whatever. Great guy. Incredible. Incredible guy. And he's and he's honest with himself and he works on himself and he goes through his stuff and he's like he's like I have trouble being makerto. We're talking about loahal. So some people will say what's the line like you know the the Bnee Brown um sympathy versus empathy where it's like um how does it go um what's her line where she says in that where it says like um what's the catch you say um at least the at least right at least right at least we have uh you know I don't know how someone help me out with that like uh it's cold, but at least uh you have a sweatshirt. Uh it's uh you're having a bad day, but at least I have a day to have a bad day. Right. That's very like gaslighting a little bit, but it's a kasha. The kasha is is it also what? >> Finding the good. >> Oh, that's that's the vert. Oh, David's asking, but it's also seeing the good. So, how does that work? On one hand, on one hand, everything's great. On the other hand, I suffer from anxiety. So, so is everything great? I suffer from anxiety. Oh, so what I said, what I said, what I said was like this. What I said was like this. This was my kesh last night. It's like having a guy have a big bowl, a big long big gulp, right? They still have big gulps. I love big gulps, right? Super big gulp of of of ice and Dr. Pepper. Diet Dr. Pepper. I don't know what you guys like. Ginger ale. Ginger ale. >> Dr. Pepper. >> Ginger ale. Okay. Ginger ale. Whatever you like. Ginger. I mean, I like ginger ale. I don't know if I'd put a big old a ginger ale big old, but okay. I respect the ginger ale. Dr. Pepper, you're here. Right. You fill it up. You fill it up. Diet cherry. Diet cherry. Dr. Pepper. Half gallon. Right. Only in America. Only in America. Barakashem. And you fill it up. You fill it up. You fill it up. So, you have to have a car to Thank God. I live in a country. I don't know if it's 79 cents. A buck 20 is not >> no. >> Oh my god. >> What? 79. >> 89 cents. Okay. Motion remembers it being 89 cents. So you fill it up. So you fill it up. So you fill it up. You fill it up. But then someone dumps in there. Someone dumps in there. This was my kadesh. Somebody dumps in there. A lot of lemons. A lot. A lot. a lot of lemons. Not to make it like not to put a lemon on the on the rim, but dumps a lot of lemons. Lot a lot of lemons. Yeah. What do you say, Jacob? You guys know Yakov Baker, Muhammad, what about to know him? Yakov Baker is holding up. He's besides he could be holding up the holy yes. He's holding up half half this planet from his greatness. So take this big gulp, this super big gulp, and you put a lot a lot of lemons and you just load it up and you you obviously you cut the lemons and you load it up. What will happen to your to your ginger ale to your Dr. Pepper? What what will happen to it? >> Become sour. So someone's going to say, "Oh, you hear this? Oh, but focus on the Dr. pepper that you have. Focus on the drink that you have. It's a bitter drink. It's a bitter drink. It's a bitter drink. >> What if there's components inside the cup? >> Oh, so now you're getting into now you're already getting l Okay. So within yourself if I'm able to if I'm able to compartmentalize my feelings and I could separate and say meaning is and I'm going to say I'm going to say the word right you should be thankful you should be thankful but I'm not thankful but I don't realize all the blessings that Hashem does for me but it's hard for me to realize all the blessings that I have. Right? What does it say? You're alive. So, how could anybody complain? You're alive. You're alive. mission's message is what what's the difference between purim and one what's one of the difference the one of the major differences between kanak and purim you guys remember >> very good is what purim was to destroy our bodies >> yavan the Greeks wanted to kill >> the Jew want to kill the Jew. Part of being a Jew, part of being a Yid is not about it's not about how you look and how you dress. That's also part of being a Jew. Says in Mitzim that they they dressed differently. There is something to that. Not a conversation for now, but there is something to dressing as a Jew. There is there there is something called dressing as a Jew. >> It's not for now. What? >> Jewel. >> Good. That's a good question. It's a good question. But there is a concept of dressing like a Jew. There's a concept of wearing tits, of wearing the garment on the outside. On the outside, that's one of the reasons people keep their titus out. They put titsus on the outside. There's there's an aspect having pis wearing a yamaka. That's not for now. [clears throat] But that's not the essence of a Jew. The essence of a Jew is to be thankful. The essence of a Jew is called a Yehudi is to be thankful. It's to learn somehow to be thankful. Whatever that means. It's one of the things that I wrote on the things is that when a person it doesn't say that happy people are grateful. Happy people say thank you. They say it's the opposite. When you're thankful, when you're grateful, it it helps you to be happy. When a personal has a lot to do with with saying thank you. It's a lot, right? It's the it's the time for a person to thank your your your your your whoever you can thank whoever you can thank to say thank you. And that's what a Jew is. You know what's funny? That's what they wanted to take away from us. They want to take away from us. The the Goya are always trying to take away from us the depth of who we are. The Goya is always trying to take away that's why they took away Shabas. Why take away Shabas? Why do they care if we keep Shabas? Why do they care if we do? That's a different different schmoo for another time. Irish kesh brisma, right? Mashulum spoke beautifully about it um Friday night about about being about being, you know, not so perfect. Not so perfect is is is is part of being perfect. Imperfectly perfect. That's at least a little bit what I got out of it. like accepting my imperfections and that that is what a Jew that is what we do. Hashem should help us all as we we could talk a little bit together. We'll do a few more minutes. Um if anybody wants to share themselves, but what I just want to end off with is that maybe those are the theodos. Number one, we could think about we could think about Sydney, Australia and the Jews and and it's only we only benefit when we think about another Jew. When we think about our brother and sister, we can we only benefit. You never lose by thinking about somebody else. Number two is that we don't judge. We don't judge. We don't judge. We try not to judge. And if I'm judging, I want to I'll judge myself or judge favorably. And and it brings mitzvah are there to bring us closer to each other and to Hashem. And as Ruvena said, obviously to ourselves, it brings us closer to ourselves. But every yumptive brings us closer to each other. brings us closer. There is no yumptive that pushes somebody away. There is no yumptive that pushes anybody away. the the the concept of Judaism, Yiddish kite is always bringing people together. Judaism is always if you find yourself pushing groups of people away or you find yourself pushing somebody away that that's that's that's not what we do. We bring we bring everyone closer. We bring people closer in inside of us and and that brings the that brings Hashem closer. And the last thing is Yanu for us. Hashem, help me. You know, we can ask Hashem to help us see all the beautiful gifts that we have. Sometimes it's hard to see all the gifts because we have too many lemons in the in the super big gulp. >> It's not a tina new new at least this. How do you not see? Sometimes you have so many lemons you got to maybe like like Momo was saying, maybe you have to compartment. Maybe you got to do a new bigulp. Maybe you got to pour out the lemons. I don't know what you got to do, but it's hard. You can't t on yourself if you have difficulty being thankful for the things that you have. Okay, question, comments, and then we'll wrap up for the second night. I was almost going to say like, oh, last night was one. You guys know that joke, right? You know that joke, right? Last night was chicken. Yeah, they said what the about what? You know that joke? That's the joke. >> Is it record you recording? >> No, it's recording. Oh, it's recorded here. I don't know if I would record this joke. It's a cute joke. >> Okay, it's fine. It's fine. Go ahead. It's fine. It's fine. I'll tell you the joke afterwards. >> Question. Yeah. >> About what you said today. But um you said that there were three things that they tried to stop them. >> Yes. >> Shabish. >> Shabas. Brasmila and Rokesh. >> Why Rokesh? Beautiful. So random. So, so one of the reasons that's brought down why roesh great question chai is because ro kodesh is the power of renewal. We follow the moon the goam follow the sun. The moon represents renewal starting over starting fresh. One of the things that that that the Greeks wanted to take away from the Jewish people is that you can't renew yourself. You are who you are. You're stuck in your past. Rashuresh is not just about it represents the power to renew oneself. So if they took away the power of a Jew to renew himself, he's taking away one of the essences of what a Jew is. Is is that I could always renew myself. I could a they say is malashian aar. I'm stuck in my past. What holds us back is our past. when I'm able to renew myself, I could I could live a different life that I want to live and they wanted to take that away from us. >> Yeah. >> Thank you. Great question. Thank you, Shai. Thank you. Thank you. >> Okay. Anybody else where we could wrap up? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We're going to Dar. Yeah. In 510. Yeah. Everybody good? >> Yeah. Yeah. We'll do that afterwards. Yeah. We good? >> Anybody else? >> No. >> Can we say? >> No. Shakiano. Unless you didn't say last night. >> But today is a new day. I make you >> good. Good. That's a good right. Say every day. Hashem should help through our lighting. The candles, the holy, holy, holy candles. It will bring us closer. It will bring us closer to Hashem. Ultimately, it will bring us closer to ourselves and to the to Yeshua. Thank you so much for listening. I hope it was helpful. If it was helpful, [music] please, if you could click the link below and help us continue to try and be more helpful by donating, by helping us continue bringing out all of this shirum to all of you. Thank you so much. [music] Just take care.