Charlie Harary Special-Tisha B'Av message 2021

live streams so we're very very very happy and everyone in the community should take a very very big pride in the sense that we're able to quote quote uh create invent innovate this uh type of an idea to have tishibab as a meaningful day and not just a day that we want to just go ahead and go on and just you know sleep through it and just have it finished we we have it as a day that we grow we become better people and you really think about it and fifty three i 1953 is the number of years since i bet that mcdonald's was destroyed let's wake up guys what are we doing wrong for all these years we're obviously doing something wrong that the bentham exactly is not here the fact that the battery dash is not rebuilt this year the rabbis tell us it's as if we destroyed it that means all that we've done in all the key room and all the all the shows and all the synagogues everything is not enough we're still suffering diet it's hard to know enough with all the suffering that's going on you know last year charlie we had to do this in the office you remember we get to see people but think about how many we lost due to kovid and it's not even over i'm hearing that there's a whole new uptick in the whole thing delta all over and robert with thai we all know in this community the amount of drug overdoses hashemishmore the ones that we know everyone goes crazy but you know how many we don't know and how much are kept under the rug that community activists hear about it's mama scary and then what happened in merone unlocked by omar it's not normal for such a thing to happen oh but there was too many people there every year there's a lot of people there and what happened to at javawat and carleen stalin all the bleachers it wasn't safe every single casino so many places have this stuff this never happens and then surfside in miami tell me is this normal god is talking to us he's saying wake up smell the coffee it's the birth things of mashiach just like when i think he's about to give birth it's getting more complicated more everybody our history we've been through a lot we have to say enough is enough we want mashiach we want to get ula and we have to take it upon ourselves right now while we're getting all the technicality all the difficult uh the details god bless tara anytime our friends are there working on all these details this is a message from the heart i didn't plan to say any of this this is like charlie you say this is god speaking this is this is not for me i just want to encourage everyone please let's back up god almighty to bring the good to bring the redemption die the tarantino let's take the heart don't let it go in one ear not the other leg change let's end with this with this basis hatred how much could we go on with this how much can we go on with the fact that there's thousands of our kids over here in the local community going to public schools public schools not for a jewish kid there's no jewish education over there they don't learn what they're supposed to be learning they're not around the people they're supposed to be around we have to take this message to heart has been screaming thank god over a thousand have already been transferred but we can't be satisfied we need to spread the word we have to tell our family our friends our neighbors that there is organizations like hazak working day and night transferring kids to issue but free of charge we don't charge a penny we'll do everything in anything for you from from a to z and for whatever reason there's a kid that needs to be in public school he can't find it the right issue if there's after school for sunday school programs they need to attend to we need to make sure that we stop the assimilation as well let's take these messages to art and vegeta this will be the the last dish above charlie i i love you but i can't invite you ever you know we want to do it in in the basement is is the audio working yes it's working so very quickly the thank yous of course all those involved hazak robbie god bless him is the one behind the scenes making all this happy really appreciate it the the shule the better community center the host thank you very much there's also torah anytime that comes streaming this live thank you very much and we wanted to dedicate the entire in memory of esther of yaakov i mean there's a lot more i wanted to say i don't remember what it was so without further ado charlie i remember one other thing is that tomorrow's program again over eighteen by putting one after the other every half hour there are still dedications available anyone that wants to vision be part of this inspiring life-changing program feel free to see myself robbie or others i would say it's great to be back but like any said i thought last year would be the last one to be honest i really did i thought last year was the last one my kids were saying to me today as we were talking about last year and a half i thought hashem sent us home for the last time and when we left our houses we wouldn't go back to where we were three years ago we'd be going right to you shalom there's work still more work to be done what we're doing right now i think is exactly what we should be doing you all could be sleeping right now it's 10 45 11 o'clock at night eastern time everyone could be home relaxing you here if you're watching on life it's because you care it's because we want to figure out what to do better and i think that's giving hashem a lot of us just that we're here and i hope with hashem's help we'll put the right words in and i hope by the end of this tisha b'av hashem says you know what enough another one let's hope this is the last one there's a great israeli scientist named daniel kahneman you may have heard of him he won a nobel prize i love it when israelis upend an entire industry they do it like all the time he up ended an industry called economics him and his partner amos tversky changed the whole landscape they basically were the fathers of what's called behavioral economics they showed the people that there are people involved so you can't just make projections without people it was unbelievable one of the things that he gave us is a concept called mental bias what that means is that we think we're objective we think we are looking at the world the way the world is we're not we have all of these biases all of these blocks that stop us from being able to view the world and if you really want to make good decisions in life if you really want to be successful he argues just recognize that when you see something it's not exactly the way it is and just realizing that you're biased will help you start to correct it one of the great biases is a bias called resulting resulting is when we take the result of something and then we look at the previous decision and decide if it's a good decision i want to give you an example it's from sports if you don't follow sports just stick with me it'll make sense if you follow sports welcome to my life that's how i see the world a couple of years ago there was a super bowl in which the patriots played the seahawks the seahawks had a coach named pete carroll they were down by four points on the one yard line and pete carroll called what was the most brilliant play call in super bowl history on the one yard line he called for a certain formation that was going to lead to a pass now usually if you're on the one-yard line you run it but there is this unique play that no one ever uses that in the past 15 seasons 98 of these plays was successful either they caught it or they dropped it which means you get another play he had 26 seconds left everybody thought he was gonna run it to have the ability to fake out a team and to run a play with a basically 100 success rate is unheard of in football he made the play call the seahawks threw the ball the problem was is that they were going up against a team named the patriots who had a coach who's the greatest coach of all time a guy named bill belichick bill belichick hires a guy named ernie who spends all day behind the computer looking at plays that nobody knows about he happened to find that play they happened to practice it three days before and when they practiced they couldn't even stop it so they gave it to the guy who was the last on the bench a guy named malcolm butler who was the bench warmer that's how little they thought of this play in the super bowl 26 seconds left he calls this play 99 percent of the time he's a hero this billion belichick sees it calls butler off the bench he doesn't know how to defend it so he jumps ahead he happens to intercept the ball and the and the seahawks lose the next day everybody says that was the dumbest play call ever as i leave tonight someone's going to follow me out and go yeah but he had marshall on lynch if someone's going to get upset with me right now on this side of the aisle and be upset that i even thought it was a good play call i'm gonna tell you they'll walk me to the car and go i i can ask you a question i'm gonna think it's gonna be about the rest of the speech but listen what you said about that whole play call but it was a bad play people are crazy about this they said it was the dumbest call ever why because the result was an interception it was a failed result and the minute it was a bad result it biases our ability to look at the decision we can't see the decision for a good decision because we know what happens at the end and the minute you know what happens at the end it takes the whole decision and biases it this is by the way a lot of the reasons why we don't make great decisions in life you're driving the car you turn on the van wyck there's traffic you know you got to get off the van we can take the side streets but the one time you do it there happens to be an accident on the side of the road and you go ah the next time you're on the van wyck you feel should i shouldn't i should you don't know how to value a decision all you're thinking was the last result you're dating a person you made the right decision to go out with them he was the wrong person but you did everything right the minute it breaks up you question your own self's ability to date results bias our decisions and what happens is it takes away our ability to learn because we can't separate the action and the result this is called the bias of resulting try this in your life you'll see so many things in your life if you separate the decision the result you'll see you're pretty good at making decisions sometimes it doesn't go your way that's called life tonight is governed by one story that's tonight as much as i try every year to find something else there's nothing else to talk about there's only one thing to talk about tonight the one story that we are sitting here for and the rabbis teach us if you want to understand anything in life all you need to do is find the first time it was mentioned in the torah and just look at that and study it like you would delve into an ocean because whatever you need to know about 2020 is already imprinted in the book just go to the first time it happened study it and study it and study it and it'll tell you what's going to happen for the rest of time so we're sitting here and not in meshiach because of that one story nothing has changed and as i looked at the story this year it dawned on me that i couldn't even understand the story do you know why because i was resulting i already know what happens i'm biased the story that we know of is the story of the spies and what's amazing about the story of the spies is that you know we're the bad guys in the story the spies we know the result hashem's mad at the spies so the minute you know the result the whole story is biased because the whole thing you're like yeah terrible if we were there you know who side we would be on we'd be on the good side no we wouldn't be behind carla's we want to be with the spies and because you know the result you can't even understand the story if we can separate the results for a second and put it pretend as if you don't know what happens at the end pretend as if that part of the homage that part of the story was taken out let's just look at the story and ask ourselves if we were in the room what would we choose before we know the result let's just look at the story at the decision of the spies and ask ourselves did they make the right or wrong call they're about to walk into canaan and moshe and the nation decide to send in spies god says okay the problem is that they're not military guys they don't know what to do so you know what moshe does he gathers the spies together he picks basically he doesn't go to the military he doesn't find a bunch of young kids not 20 year old guys that are super strong that could climb he goes try by try but he picks the rabbis of each tribe he basically has a commission of rabbis the rabbis don't know anything about spying so he has like an orientation for them here's how to do it and it says he the pasuk says here's what i want you to do go into israel um here's what i want you to do motion goes and they turned emotions if they're going what do we look for like i don't know we never did this before we just came out of egypt and marshall goes okay i'll give you i'll give you the primer i'll give you the crash courts on spying walk in and i want you to look at cities he says you know what i want you to look for go see if there are cities that are open cities or go see that there are cities that are walled cities back in the old days they didn't have planes they had sticks and stones they had swords well if you're going up against a walled city no shot if we have a sword and we go up against the hotel and there's someone on top of the coat though we got no shot those days they had cities like that so moshe says go see how many cities like that because if we're taking on these cities and we can't walk in because of a wall it's going to be a problem the spies go in the spies come out and you know what they say fs yoshi betsuros we saw the big walls the sephorano says this was the cornerstone of their report well ef we saw it we can't conquer this nation you know why because they got these walled cities everybody cries and it's the spy's fault does that sound like the spy's fault sounds like moshe set him up no moshe could have said by the way when you go in and you see these big cities don't worry about it we got this thing covered you don't know about this but we have like this orango dish you know we'll walk around seven times and blow some chauffeurs it'll fall down we're cool you know if your kid's like daddy i'm scared to go on the roller coaster you're not gonna be like watch out for the drop listen there's gonna be a drop it'll get scary it's gonna go don't worry we all get scared it's normal in a second it's over motion's gonna do that for them marshall isn't like i know it's gonna get scary for a second those are big holes don't worry we got this shiva don's got a special israeli unit on drones we got this we're covered don't worry about it i know it's scary we got this he could have done that they would have came back and be like we saw other cities where we're cool you know what he did he said look to see if their city through their big huge walls they came out and said there's big huge walls and goes i can't believe the spies seems like a setup to me there's another concept that bothers me there's a principle in judaism called the ibraheem what it means is god says i need a nation to survive which means with the exception of very few sins basically everything is off the table if someone's going to die if this is going to risk your life we're cool if shabbos will risk your life don't worry about it if fasting will risk your life we're cool don't fast if going to shul will risk your life we're cool we lived through this a minute ago last march forget may july forget that march march everybody the rabbis got together a group of rabbis like the same story they went to some place they met with doctors and hospital people they came back and said we have a mitzvah called talmud torah forget it we have a missile called filabitsy bore forget it kid's learning forget it forget the whole thing but what about how am i going to his show well how am i going to plain forget it why rabbis we have rules i'm not we're not risking your life anybody god forbid call them spice they made the right call stay home we'll figure it out later right now a couple months ago gaza would have another garbage in gaza they throw missiles over let me ask you a question if one guy and god in one of the southern towns in israel would have been like listen enough is enough with this let's go conquer these dudes let's just go take over the gaza although now lebanese would have got up in the south of israel be like let's go gaza we'd be like good idea everybody listen we appreciate it that's awesome stay home tell me which side of the aisle would you be on right now if someone said oh right now someone up and goes we're going missiles have fallen we're going to gaza who's with me would we get up and go where with you we'd be like that's been amazing we got guys that have uniforms let them handle it we'll we'll dive in from the back end is that isn't this exactly the story the spies are like let's go in there who's with me colleagues like who's with me what would we be all doing right now all the tough guys we would be on the spot we would be on the color side we'd be like listen we're gonna die i just forgot for a second for the report of dubra mir mil bhas vegas name who's which side would we be on i don't understand why the spies get such a bad rap i gotta tell you it seems like they were set up and they made the right call and yet god got really god got so upset at them that god basically put us on the floor because of them you know what's even crazier we just had a sin we served an idol at the mount sinai i want to explain how crazy that is we just saw god at mount sinai 40 days later they were serving an idol it was so shocking that the talmud the gemara says i don't even want to translate those words they're so shocking it's as if a woman was unfaithful under her own hoopa that's what it was like and for that god's like we're cool okay we're cool we're good we're good this daddy i'm scared to go on the roller coaster for this everybody stay home god's like you know what i can't forgive this sit on the floor i don't know seems like a big deal or nothing it seems like we're missing something i think all of us between me and you if we were there to be fair i think we would have baited on the spy side of this i'm just saying so what in the world do they do wrong and what in the world do we need to fix because we gotta fix something and we gotta fix it soon my friends because i gotta tell you i do not want to be sitting here with you in a decade like if we're still doing this in a decade oh my gosh like oh my gosh we cannot be doing first of all i don't know how many more rabbis that can fit into time in a decade if every day if every year another speech gets put in we don't have enough people for a decade of amount of speech we'll have to make tissue about like a week for everyone to speak we cannot be sitting here in a decade so we got to figure this out what is hashem so upset about that it seems like the story really wasn't that big of a deal and it seems like the people that were involved really didn't do such a bad thing so i want to tell you about some very interesting research by a man named marshall duke marshall duke is an is a researcher in emory university marshall duke's expertise is in families how come some families go through challenges and stay together how can other families have basically a great life and fall apart how come some families go through such pain and they stick it together and some families are living the lap of luxury green lights green light green lights and they don't even talk to each other and he was fascinating by what is the difference in how families work and he's talking to his wife sarah one night and she loves this research and she goes you know what's interesting i she is an expert in learning disabilities she goes you know i noticed that in my kids that she works with that are learning disabled some kids seem to be more resilient than other kids some kids get stuck at a problem and at the problem they seem to fight through it other kids when they stuck it up it gets like a problem they give up and i notice something interesting that the kids that make it through they seem to know about their families like it's interesting the kids that make it through they know about their grandmother they know where their grandfather they know every detail but they know their family history the kids that seem to not really make it don't have the same knowledge of their families and they're sitting at the table if you can imagine going what is a kid sitting in a school working on a test have to do with whether they know that their grandmother came from wherever country so they decided to do research together and they were going to start in the new fall the fall of the next year in 2001. well september 2001 brought what 9 11. and now whatever they're going to do just ratchet it up 100 degrees because now the whole new york was crazy and they went to these kids and they gave them tests called do you know and they had to fill out about their families and then they saw which kids were the most resilient and they found something shocking listen to this that there were three types of family narratives a narrative is like a story line a history you don't know your family's history like the way you study a textbook you know the story like i know about my fam i know the story of syria because my family comes from syria so i know the story from syria they stopped off in lebanon from lebanon they came to america ocean parkway i know the story of moonkoch i know the story of romania i have in my life histories i don't know exactly what they let but there's a when you think about your own family you know the narrative you know the story they found that there were three types of stories listen to this this is fascinating there's something called an ascending narrative here's how it goes some of us some of you may be going through it we came from nothing and then we worked hard and then we got better and now you're the one that and some people feel this pressure because if they drop out of medical school like the whole family the whole reason for the family is all gone like if i leave my you know my law practice that my the the fact that my father ended up it's gone it's called an ascending narrative and it creates a lot of pressure for some kids some of you may be nodding for another time the other story is called the descending narrative that is we had everything and then this happened and we lost it if those who are listening to the country a couple of months ago when you saw these riots listen closely to what happens when they stick a mic in someone's face you're gonna hear the exact same narrative this was our country and then they came and then this is where we are that's a descending narrative that somebody told a lot of people who are really mad and they'll do some bad stuff that's a narrative because but there's one narrative that beats them all it's called the oscillating narrative here's how it goes we were up we were down we were up we were down we had a great home hitler came we survived here we did okay we moved here we had a tough time and this happened and that we came from up and down up and down we had ups and downs ups and downs when a kid had that narrative the kid was able to be resilient why listen to this because the way our minds work is that our minds cannot take in the world in front of us all of us deal with things every day and when you go into your day usually what's in front of you is new when you have a challenge usually the reason why it's a challenge is because it never came to you before you went to school and this was your challenge and when you first got to high school you're like i can never do high school you get through high school then you get to the next level the reason why it's a challenge is because you never did it before your first day of high school you could have the same amount of work as your last day of high school but you don't see it as a challenge because you've been doing it four years but then you get out to the workforce or then you get into a relationship or then you do whatever you do and every time you do anything that comes at you that's challenging and new your brain goes oh my gosh are we gonna make this is this going to work we have inside us a piece of hashem which means we have all the power in the world that we need we don't need any more power the question is will our mind say i can use my power for this or am i going to lose our brain is looking always for something to show us am i safe or am i at risk am i going to win or am i going to lose friend or foe how did your brain know if the thing you've never seen is gonna help you or hurt you you know how it knows it goes into your mind and says have we seen anything like this before have we seen this before and if you've done anything that's sort of something like it your brain goes oh well we won we did this before let's do this again your family history is a narrative a a kid sitting in a classroom hits a challenge how does he know if he's gonna get through it or not how does that ninth grader who can't read no if he's gonna learn how to read he doesn't realize that it's subconscious but you know how many times he heard a story about his grandmother that came to this country that couldn't read a word of english and she ended up pulling through without even realizing he goes i have a story like this somewhere i have a narrative of i can't and then i work hard and i can and without even realizing it he pushes forth and he does it when you look into the future the way you predict your future is what's in your past you don't know it because it's a different circumstance but it's the same narrative if your history is ups and downs and you hit an up you're not too guy vedic when you hit it down you say i can do it again you don't even realize it's happening but the stories that are in our minds actually are what's governing our next move someone grows up in a family where they're always not enough they're gonna hit a wall in life and say i knew it i'm not enough i had a friend of mine who lost his entire business in 08 his whole business in 08 two partners one guy is still dealing with the addiction that happened post 08. the other guy started two new companies they're partners they hit a a wall a tsunami in 08 one partner is still struggling network with an addiction forget it he started doing x and y it doesn't matter but he's still fighting this other guy started how you know how because this guy comes from a world where when you see challenge it means i knew you weren't enough his narratives were you're not enough you're a failure you failed you failed you failed you saw this oh wait until i knew i was a failure i'm a failure this guy comes from a house where his own grandfather started multiple businesses when he came to this country he comes home he tells his wife he calls his mom's mom because you failed big deal your grandfather failed every day he just picked himself up they're both looking at the same thing there's two different stories going on the stories we tell ourselves it's what's that's what's governing the future of our lives i remember one time i met a guy in israel i love these guys there are some people on my list of people that i love at the top of my list are sparty felony guys in israel i don't know what it is i love these guys they i was talking to my rabbi and israeli says to me what is it with you and the side of hilo and i'm like these are my brothers there's something about it because i don't believe they're hiloni they say i had a friend of mine who moved to israel and he was having a hard time and he left his family moved to israel he told me there was one story i loved this story so much he said that they they were outside there's a minion outside because they were all diving outside and he lived on a very busy street and on shabbat and listen i don't think anyone should drive on shabbat i'm pro shabbat like what i'm saying just for the record i think shimoirachibot is very important he'll catch about like i'm all in shabbos all the way he said that there were these cars that would drive up the street on shabbos he said he noticed that when he when he took out the torah because outdoors they took out the torah and they walked it the cars would slow down and he goes closer when he sees these cab drivers these sorry cab drivers as they were driving on shabbos as they saw the torah come out they lowered the window like this i'm sorry is that the greatest thing ever i think they should keep shabbos but still you don't say it like that oh so i need to heart like that all right and i don't want to do a whole thing once far away i so i met this guy i was on a trip it's a whole story how i got to him he had a it was it's a story in itself how i ended up spending 10 minutes with this guy it that it didn't just happen but i end up spending 10 minutes with this 65 year old svaradi he calls himself a hiloni i don't believe it for the record and he introduced himself that way you know she's in my house he goes i need felony i'm like stop it with the whole only business do me a favor kilo me guy's been in the army for 40 years you're an army 40 years defending jews forget the whole hillary stuff okay you defend jews 40 years i'm not i'm not god you're okay in my book he said he was like a regular dude he fought in this swarmfort and that war was an officer then he ended up becoming a commando one of these you know israelis that never leave the army every second they're on another unit you know these guys now they're like 65 white hair a belly but still he'll kill you with his eyes you know that guy the guy could be the guy could be 100 pounds heavier than you you go anywhere near him you can just touch your your your neck and you're dead you know that guy you never mess with those guys so we're talking a little bit and this and this guy and all them i got to tell you i met a whole bunch of these guys they're so humble what do i do i only was done in debbie and then i went here well i'm sure you do things too i'm like i don't think so so i i'm talking with him about his career it's awesome it's forget about awesome he's every cool raid i ever heard of the guy was a part of so i was sitting with him and i asked him the following question i said what was the scariest moment in your career he says the yom kippur war he goes and yom kippur he goes that was the scariest thing he was up nor it was said there were moments where i said did you think you'd ever lose did you ever have a moment where you thought that you would we would lose like israel would be over whichever moment that like armies are coming in that's it they killed us in auschwitz they're gonna kill us in israel and we're gonna be wiped out like the way they said they're gonna wipe us out and then did you ever have a moment like that in your career you're sitting on the front lines of the golan or wherever 73. he says never said how come she says to me goes i'm calling emily can you stop this hawaiian business because i'm like he goes to my grandfather he goes my grandfather's from morocco i'm like oh i can't just if you if you would have said siri i would have just totally kissed him because my grandfather's from morocco i'm like oh as a wild kid growing up like i can't love you anymore he says to me my grandfather gave me a rule he goes two days you give me yom kippur and lael haseda i don't care what you do you give me two days yom kippur you don't drive you sit next to me in knees i said there you don't miss my table i don't care if you're jumping out of a plane in the mediterranean you get home and i say there ha got that so at the haggadah i'm like losing it you know how long a haggadah is it's my grandfather right before the hagadah is over when they get to the shamda part my grandfather says to me remember they're always going to try to kill us but hakadosh baruch will always save us every year they're always going to try to kill us here's them sitting in the bunkers and it looks like we're going to die and i thought to myself you think hashem brought us back to israel to lose now there's no way we're going to die now what gave him the strength to fight that war did he know he would win what gave him the strength the narrative you see that he didn't know about the future you know what he went to he went to his mind that's why we have a ha gada because god knows exactly what he god knows how to work the brain before the psychologist he made the brain he sat in that bunker and said what's going to be with the future how do i know i'm going into my past there's a story that i know about here's how the story goes the jews do things people try to kill us i don't know how this is going to work fight on and that narrative gives him the ability to reach into his soul and fight to something he never we never saw before the jewish people never saw the yom kippur war before but didn't matter because we saw another story like that a hundred times beforehand and because of the narrative of the jewish people when you look at a new circumstance you act differently you have a friend of mine who is becoming a much more interested in judaism and his kids are older ready they have no interest him and his wife are a little bit older they've got kids that are in their college years they're getting more interested in judaism their kids have no interest he said something so fascinating to me everyone's beautiful god bless everybody everyone is who everyone is god should bless everybody he says to me that he's sitting in his house last and april in his house is two groups of people his kids god bless him are watching fox cnn whatever every day msnbc they just go on he goes and his wife is living on torah anytime you've got cnn fights on one side of my house and you've got torah anytime all day i'm just like he goes and i one day i walk in and i hear on one side of my house this guy did it and they're the worst and they're evil and other than i hear someone going we can do this we're gonna get through this we did this once before believe in god and he goes i have to say what's going on who told these guys to basically kill everybody and don't talk about the rabbis and tell people we're gonna do this like did you have a meeting where all the speakers got together and huddled and like listen i know it's scary but like can we all be positive and like hip hip hooray like how did you all know that every single week on every single day of every single class for the whole four months every speech and every story is some proof to how we're gonna make it so you know how we knew it because we had the holocaust generation because we had the people that came out of the middle east we looked over to my grandparents and i'm like what are we suffering because we're in our house we have a narrative we don't jewish people we know how this works we've been to this movie before god throws us a challenge we encourage each other we hold hands and we make it weird this is the first go-around for us so this whole virus is new but when we look at a new circumstance when we look at a new challenge there's something playing in our heads there's a narrative and we go okay it's not exactly the same but it's similar enough let's go with that that's how we get through stuff that's how great people become great that's how you overcome challenge nobody knows how to do challenge it's the narrative it's playing in your head what's the stories in our head tish above is not about whether we went in or out of israel tishb is something about much deeper that i want to tell you right now tisho is about a narrative the fight of tisha was the fight of two different plots two different stories that between me and you are going on right now in our minds we may be in sitting here in queens the narratives are still playing out as if we were literally there this isn't about whether they went in or where they went out this is about two different narratives when moshe told the jews to go in to eat to israel and to look out for cities he wasn't setting them up he was looking for something moshe understood that for us to win the war all we needed was for them to have heard about hashem once they heard about hashem they would never fight us when joshua 40 years later sends in spies that he doesn't send in spies to check out the paths he doesn't send in spies to check out where we're going to penetrate the walls he sends spies to a lady named rakov they ask her one question and they leave remember the story what do they ask her what's the mood around here what does she say we're still scared of you when the jews came out of egypt god did something unique he didn't just pull them out of the middle of the night he went up against the strongest man in antiquity paro ten rounds and then when we walked out god's like we're not even done yet he didn't wait for night activity he walked us in front of a sea which we didn't have to go in front of we walked through a seat and we walked through the sea every day at asia should we say a dome the kings of edom were worried everyone living in kanaan was trembling once the people in canaan started to tremble that god runs the world it's gonna be cake we're not gonna have to worry if we walk in and the people go these are the jews that walked out of the sea they're gonna crumble marshall didn't care about military strategy moshe wanted to know one thing did they hurt have they heard about yamsuf because because unfortunately the the the live feed may not have been working i don't know if we were if we were instant living it so i don't know if they got it so but if they understood that we are the people that came out of yamsev if their hearts are melted we own the place we got them moshe goes how do i know if they're weak or strong here's what i'm going to do i'm going to look to see how they're living if they're living in open cities it means that they're confident you walk down the street and you see a bunch of guys in the corner hanging out on the corner at one in the morning thousands aren't the guys you want to cross the street to but when you see a guy that's walking quickly goes into his house and he locks the door 40 times you can mess with that guy you shouldn't but you could if they're sitting in open cities you know what they're saying i'm not scared of you but if they're going every day and they're behind walled cities you know what that says they're scared listen to what it says here what does it mean are they sitting outside like they're not worried about it when she was talking about how we live in these cities because we're scared moshe moshe is looking for cities you know why because if you see a city moshe is going oh they're behind world cities we won the spies walk in and they see us here they go over behind the city we lost two people looking at the same thing the same wall and one person's narrative is we have a city behind us we won and their narrative is oh they're behind the walled city we lost motion didn't set them up they just have different narratives moshe's narrative is once they know that god exists god's taking us right in their narrative is oh no no if it's gonna be hard we're dead you know why because they had a narrative what was their narrative watch this watch this you know what's great about today's parasha you know the today's parasha is devarum we always read divarum by tisha buff every year we work out all the parshas so that this week's parsha always falls out today you know what's great about the var divarum is moshe's commentary so the worm is like the you know field now you're in the booth commercial says the night of tishbov you grumbled in your tents listen to these words listen to these words you can't believe them for tomorrow when you said us you know why god took us out of misrain because he hates us the jews said god took us listen to these words god took us out of it's ryan because he hates us you know what they said in their tents that night you know why god took us out of egypt for to kill us they walked in they saw a challenge and said god hates me i knew it i've been waiting for this moment he's going to kill me now can you believe that why would they think that god hates them ten rounds a split sea a revelation and har sinai by the way as they're saying it they're eating mun you know that right the ac is 67 degrees in the desert you understand that right there's a heir miriam going around there's a lagoon everywhere as they're eating heaven from the sky they're going god hates me here's why the swarno says something that blew me away when i saw it you want to know the narrative of the jewish people and what they did wrong here's what they think this whole story of the of egypt and taking us out and sending us in front of israel you know why we saw that walt city because he's trying to kill us you know what god would want to kill us for bisinas hashem hosanna do you know why amash avadhnu a vodas mitzrayim you know what he hates us for because we were in egypt we served idols what what god brings you out of egypt walks you through the desert and he's trying to kill you because you served idols so this is moshe says who are you god loved you of allah but you hated him what's in your heart about somebody else is what you think they think of you if you feel someone doesn't like if you don't like somebody you think they don't like you you're insecure when you're insecure you think people actually think you're not as good as you are you know what the jews had they had three words that we still have today you know the three words that govern a lot of our judaism is i'm not enough i'm not holy enough i'm not a good enough jew why does every time someone come up to me they would say but they're saying i want to let you know right away before we start the conversation i'm not religious enough when you cut us into our core you know what we think in our core i'm not enough i'm not knowledgeable enough i'm not connected enough you see him he's enough you see her she's enough you don't know me if you knew me you would know i'm not enough if you knew me charlie you would know that when it comes to god if god looks at me he will see i'm not enough that's why yom kippur makes perfect sense to us because we know we're not enough and when someone tells us if you don't step in front of me and scream you're going to die we get that but purim we'd have no idea simplest torah were lost you tell me that we're not enough i got it you put me in the room and tell me all things i do wrong makes sense you tell me the reason why that the virus happens because of our sins i got it will i change what i don't change i don't know but i got it the one thing i know for sure is that i'm not enough and when i'm not enough i hold it in when a jew knows he's not enough we try unless till you drop out the reason why lots of jews are not practicing judaism to be honest with you is because they feel at the end of it i'm not enough so what's the point there's a lot of wonderful kids that grow up in great yeshivas nobody's fault no blame this is how it works a lot of great people are not walking into these rooms for no reason except for the fact that they think they're not enough and at some point it's exhausting to always think you're not enough so you do what you got to do but at the end of the day you try to figure out how to live life and if god doesn't zap you you're good i'm me god's god and if we just have like a relationship we're like we're good at my not enoughness we're good but the minute i hit a challenge you know what comes into my mind you know why i hit that challenge for because you know what god's doing he's getting me back because i'm not enough i could be going my own merry way god throws me a challenge and in my god you know why that challenge came to me because i'm not holy enough i didn't pray enough i didn't do enough we got to do a lot we're not enough we should always be better we should always be praying we should always be growing but this insecurity of what it means to be not enough hangs over us and it plays like a narrative in our minds i'm not enough and when we hit a challenge all of a sudden we look at it and go aha i'm not worthy of a miracle and if somebody who we think is enough gets hurt in a challenge our whole life collapses someone who we thought was enough got hurt in something that's it the whole thing falls apart because there's a narrative that plays in our minds that started where heart that started here the jews are eating mon from heaven god revealed himself to him how much more could god do for these people they're standing at their first major challenge and the story that plays in their minds the narrative that has them figure out what to do what the future is you're not enough he's gonna kill you you served idols tough guy you think you're so religious that you're eating mun we know we know where you come from do me a favor you think you're so perfect we know you're so perfect just two years ago you were doing what you were doing do me a favor you know what god's doing you know what god's doing and knew it he's whacking us again god as the guy with the bat we all know we all picture hashem walk tish above god with the bat we got it makes sense we all know the guy with the bat because we core have a narrative that's been going on since this night that when i see challenge it's proof that i'm being punished if i don't get what i need in my relationship i'm being punished if i get hurt somewhere i'm being punished if i hit a wall i'm being punished i'm not holy enough i'm not worthy enough this is the only way we grow so we don't know any other way so we live in this weird world of like i get myself pumped up for yom kippur and then i'm back to myself after circus i get pumped up on tisha but like after tishrev was over two bagels in i don't remember tissue review existed because i don't want to feel like i'm not enough but i know i'm bound enough so i gotta like suffer through this so here i go again could somebody tell me how we're the reason for the whole thing that's wrong and i'll sit through it and after i'm done with it i'll say you're right i'm not enough i should be better i really should be better i'm really going to be better and then once i can get to nachma i'm like you know what hasta luego see you the next time i got to be in the room because you know what i'm not enough doesn't motivate enough you can grow and feel like you're enough you don't have to feel like you're not enough to become great there was another narrative that night the narrative came from mayonnaise khalif when you hear kali's words i want you to don't think of it the way he said it i want you to think of it through a concept of a narrative now i want you to listen to kalib's words but listen to it from what he is trying to put into the minds of the jewish people khalif stands up and khaled says the famous words of olo nale vinirush nuoso ki yachal nuchalo let's go do it why because we can he doesn't say anything about the cities he doesn't say we're going to figure out how to get through the walls all he says is yes we can how do you know you can carleave here's what the gemara says the gemara in sota he says omarlano listen now listen for the words of a narrative now listen for the story khalif says umar khalif who hosts yanu mitsrayam he took us out of egypt the quran was hayam and he split us the sea that he led us and he gave us god says i want you to make ladders and climb to the sky lo nishma lo he's saying you're enough are you crazy are you paying attention stop focusing on what you are and what you're not do you know what you're a part of stop thinking about yourself watch the story god picked you out of every nation in the world took you 10 rounds walked you through a yamsev gave you mon what is he gonna do walk you here to kill you are you paying attention you're still holding that i'm not enough this watch the story play out this is basically what the guy told me in 1973 it's the same story do you know what you're a part of you're not enough can you get better we can all get better can you get stronger we can all get stronger you're not enough you got chosen part of a nation that got hand-picked to be in this moment do you know what's coming your way it's right here the battle of tishbo is the battle of two stories it's not about israel or not israel that's the surface the depth of tish above is two narratives that we live our lives with or not the one narrative is about me and not being a good enough jew and let me tell you something we'll never be a good enough jew we gotta strive we gotta get better we gotta try every day to learn you think we're ever gonna be enough in judaism you think you're ever gonna touch god do you think he's ever gonna be as holy as the people that already died you gotta grow every single day but you think we're ever gonna wake up in the morning it'll be enough and we live our lives and every challenge that comes our way we're seeing god punishing us if we live our lives and we know for sure that we can't possibly be a nation a generation of miracles because we're so low how in the world are we going to bring miracles into this world how in the world are we going to do big things if our whole lives is about me and what i am not so we end up being the people that are like hopefully hashem will give me enough money and hopefully hashem will get us all married and hopefully hashem will not let anybody kill us and if we just have people to be healthy and safe if people won't march into our nations if they'll just not kill us and we don't need guards if there just won't be a virus we settle for just being alive because we think so low of ourselves that we're okay if god doesn't hurt us if we could just be alive and let everything work out if my bills get paid and my kids get married mr hashem and we don't get hurt and no one gets killed with a virus but i just have to wear a mask all i ask you god is i don't want to put that thing on again if i could just never wear a mask like oh god if i could just get into israel not wear a mask like are we good we live our lives and our vision is so myopic because we think so little of ourselves why can't i be happy for the guy next to me because every time he wins i think i lose i'm so insecure that his winning means i'm losing she gets mad and i can't walk into the room because i feel so insecure around her he hits this beautiful big deal and i feel like i can't make it work because he's wealthy enough we live a life we're so insecure because we're so focused on this narrative how many years can we hear that we're not enough we're not enough or not enough it's the same narrative they got then it's the same story a bunch of jews with a bit of challenge and they go he's gonna kill me that's why he brought corona that's right that this is happening for that's why we can't go into israel because god remembers three two and a half years ago we were in egypt we were serving idols and he took us at it can you imagine the story he took us out of egypt and what god played the whole world brought you right he couldn't kill you like a hundred times in the desert easily he couldn't get a better hit on you that would have been cheaper how about not giving you money one day no that that that doesn't work he brings you up can you hear such a thing well guess what we're sitting around here today how are people here think for one second that tonight machiavelli's gonna come nobody how many people think that then any earphone is gonna come nobody we're talking about a nation we went through everything we went through everything is there anything less to left for us to go through everything we went through we went through two biases mishna gemara the middle ages all the whole world we split up we came back vilmigo and the basham tov the babasali and now we're back in israel and now we're barak hashem we have fighter jets with mogan david and now every single guy moves to israel to intel's in israel and everything the whole world is changing around those gods like listen are you kidding me do you see what's going on what i'm doing with the world you don't think shiak is coming you don't feel it we're like i hope nobody kills us i just gotta make a couple dollars and i'd love to buy another car and i really need a bigger house who's thinking out of your mind get the wrong guy ask the kabbalists there's a reference that i met in israel she knows goola i just gotta figure out how to get this and i gotta get that and i gotta figure out how to get unemployment and i gotta get my workers back and it's complicated with the masks and the whole thing and now we get a delta and a sigma and the whole thing and the virus never going to end there's something else coming in and it's like a pocket it's like a town in india with a virus now and everyone's going crazy that there's like a place in indonesia that's got the virus now and i was like oh my god google it oh yeah and god's like you guys paying attention what's with your narrative you paying attention stand up do you know what life's going to look like if goola comes do you have any idea what's in store for us i don't know what happens when google comes but i know that every single russian kipper i say the following line you guys do too i know that i don't have fashion do i haven't i haven't had a i don't know maybe they do but i know this rhythm though you know what happens if google comes can you imagine walking the streets and in the super bowl and in every single stadium they begin with hashem can you imagine can you imagine the entire europe bowing tashem can you imagine walking the streets and everybody everybody believes there's a god can you imagine walking the streets and not even thinking like could somebody get sick can you imagine if me and you lived in a time where when someone wanted to give a shear they couldn't hold it in anything under a baseball stadium you don't think that's possible you don't think that's possible can you imagine living just forget all the other stuff that's going to happen i don't know it's amazing it all happened it all happened let's not get there it gets complicated with who's going to come back forget all that stuff just that's all good that's all for a second for tonight make a gravy just for a second picture me and you living at a time but all that changes that the entire world the entire world says is can you imagine you walk the streets there's nobody like killing each other in israel they put the guns down just that think about your life and think about living at that moment is there anything in our lives that's worth giving up for that moment we get pumped when a bunch of israelis leave surf side and we watch them clap and we're going out of our minds we get pumped when like one soldier does a miracle we go crazy we send it around the whole world just tonight for one moment let's see if we can adopt a new narrative a narrative that says we are the nation that has gone through everything and if we believe that we can see a day forget the complications the easy stuff imagine me and you waking up and we see the super bowl beginning with shma israel just picture what that's going to be like when you go to israel and you don't see just the koto you see the most beautiful building and fire from the heavens just for a second now think about all the little things we want in life the money the relationships and say how does that compare to being alive at that time you don't think we can get it you don't think we can get it okay let's go to someone bigger than charlie harrari then it's siva shalom you can't go through yo you can't go through this without tenacity of michelle if you don't have one of these in your house you must okay you can't go through life without the necessary what does ancient michelin say about narratives give me two seconds and then i'm done we have 24 hours left anyways to the fast don't worry about it we're good listen to what he says they prepared all of these yani was saying all these things that are happening these these tragedies that are happening now that we've gone through all of this we have to believe that he's coming any moment listen to these words after these pangs of meshiach you know the whole birth thing guess what she's done with contractions the rabbi not charlie the rabbi kavar listen to these i'm saying them slowly because i want you to adopt this narrative tonight and i thought if you can just hold this narrative on this will be this is it yeshua he says we're done with all the stuff no more the rabbi we're done we've already had all the things we got went through all the terrible things we had to go through before mashiach we went through them we paid the bill rock borough yahoo claudius yakayam to peaceably yeshua you know what's left you know why everything is shaking in the world according to the rabbi because you know what god is saying we're done you paid your bill you just didn't pick up the food you could you the credit card went it's over the credit card went through it you just need to wait online to get the food what are you kidding me you you're ready ready for mashiach we're ready for gala all i need you to do is wait for it is to believe in it yeshua the way it comes yeshua do you know why because you know how it comes now i just need a couple of jews to not get lost in their narratives of i'm not enoughness just a couple of jews that say no no no god i'm not settling for just a couple of stuff here i want i want to i want to go into canaan we're enough i'll get better i'm watching the story here the story ends like this we didn't go through the fire no no we're ready watch what he says here miss gabe hayes you know what the atahara does you know what he does during our period of time he you know with the heat he works on he focuses on live babel to confuse orla treed and to burden es hala vavos our hearts kedela etc yeshua ulla cave you know what's going on right now we can have gullah but the atahara knows it so he has us focus on the little stuff so when we dive in we care more about the little things and we don't think big and if we don't think big we don't have we don't want it and because we don't want it god doesn't bring it you know what the story of tishbo is how badly do we want it do we see ourselves as we can't get it so why am i even asking for it you think that some guy or woman in queens is gonna like bring gaula can you stop it i'll tell you a rule along with this last quote parents know this rule here's the rule every parent knows this rule a parent is as happy as his least happy child think about this you can have a hundred kids it'd be very complicated but you can have 100 kids and they're all doing great and one kid's having a tough time in camp the parent can't sleep but you go you do it you're batting great you're 99 you're killing it and what do the parents say i know but my kid in camp they're picking on him am i right the parent is happy as their least happiest child know what that means all it takes is one unhappy child here to say i'm unhappy until you bring hashem i'm not settling i'm not settling and i'm not buying i'm not enough stuff i'm not enough i'm not enough they weren't enough either i don't need to be enough for us to bring goula my storyline is we're getting it we came this far not to ever be turned away our generation didn't come this far our grandparents didn't survive what they survived for us to do another 30 years of the same stuff in america there's no way my narrative now is gaoula the story that i tell myself every day is i i'm thinking i need to be big i can't be small anymore i am part of the jewish people in the fourth quarter of jewish history i can't be the one who's small i can't be the reason why i didn't come because my brain only cares about what i'm not i can't be the weak link in this nation anymore the spies made sense but they had the wrong narrative i have to look over and have colleagues eyes and say i don't care if i'm not enough it's time to go in i have to be big i'll end with this retsumero to save her that's unbelievable another must-have here's what he writes and what this all ends hashem you want to know what the evolution of tishbo is listen to this have you ever heard this before you have to work on you know what you have to work on not that you love hashem you should love hashem you know what you have to work on listen to these words you know we don't believe we believe we love hashem you know we don't believe enough that hashem loves us we don't believe hashem loves us we have to fix the sin of the miragum said that god hated us this according to the baal shem tov and the told us and all the other siddique him say you know what's going to bring the base on migdash when we tell ourselves that god loves us a lot the yeash listen to these words yes you know what's going to bring gaula according to maya and the baal shem for a bunch of jews to adopt a new narrative our narrative is we're the generation not because we're special you know why we're the generation because it's time because of everything you've done until now because we believe it even though i don't think we're worthy of it it don't matter we believe it it's coming we want it i'm not going to settle for anything less god when we get to shamayim they ask us did you really believe it so i want to end with a bit of advice year for those who remember we spoke about the bracha over beneath there's a bracha that god puts every day in our shimon ashrae i want to challenge everyone in this room and everybody who's watching last year we did a vinay with tiffany but we're going to do something new every day we say it's everyone prays at least once a day you pray three two however many times you pray it don't matter at least once i hope you say every day you say those words here's what i want to ask of you just until rosh hashanah from now till rosh hashanah once a day when you say he the usual you stop and pause and you tell hashem i want to go ula i believe it's going to come you we expand our minds to become the people that could think like kalaev at that blessing change our narratives we turn and if you don't feel it at that blessing turn to god and go god please make me feel it i don't want to be a small minded godless jew my whole life i don't want to be the person that was built and put into the generation of meshiach and i blew it when the goula comes i don't want to be the one that he looks at me looks me and goes you didn't believe in me i know it i want when melham comes for him to see every jew when he looks at me he looks at me and goes thank you for believing in me i want to be that person i'm not enough but i'm part of the nation that's enough and i'm part of a story that's enough and if i believe in it strongly enough i know you're going to bring it and i don't want to die until i see it i don't want my generation to pass i don't want to be sitting in this shul god have mercy if we sit in the shrole in a decade from now telling the same stories god have mercy on us i don't want to be 10 years older telling the same stuff pretending like i care but really i'm just hungry i'm done with being small once a day change our narratives be big people have big visions demand that hashem finishes the final story and at the very least even if it doesn't let hashem look down and go look at these guys look at these ladies at least they think like calif and if we do that each and every one of us piece by piece is fixing the sin of the spies and one by one do you ever play othello you play othello you know like it's all white they're gonna play othello it's all white and then like you move black once and the whole board's black and then you lose to your kid you ever have that moment one by one we turn the pieces over jew by jew piece by piece until our generation says we turn to hashem and says we're the ones that are called jews our narrative is strong and hashem says you finally got it here it comes we should be zoha with god's help not only to see gaulah we should be zohair to be the ones that bring gu'ullah then amen guys just one more minute you should charlie okay guys just uh very quickly on behalf of kazakh we want to thank everyone for coming tomorrow once again a whole day program right over here the betgairai community center starting at 10 a.m till 7 30 p.m straight through don't miss out and we want to thank our the the sponsors and and dedications are still available there's quite a few openings choose a speaker we'll mention the loonie shmatter give kazak.com be a part of it let's change the world like charlie said think big and musician will bring the gula one more moment guys one quick moment the the shireen were dedicated esther but we have our friend from tourney time shimon kolyakov with an important message to you all please give him one more monitor of your time please okay i'd like to have please if you could give me your attention i don't come here too often so i'm here now and i just have a very important announcement to make guys is quiet for a moment thank you first of all charlie thank you very much wherever you are god bless you uh three things i want to mention number one barak hashem everyone has been very patient with the torah anytime app and we finally have a release date that i just want to announce to everyone so we could continue um spreading torah all over the world and you guys could continue using it it's going to be on august 22nd was that the shem august 22nd please look out for the new torah anytime app that's number one number two tomorrow uh all day there's going to be a massive uh tissue event there's going to be over 20 different locations kazakh is one of them in my opinion this is one of the best ones you guys should check out but we're also going to have a special one for ladies only a special program for beginners a special program for those that under speak 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