Daf Yomi Bava Basra Daf 52 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] good [Music] [Applause] morning Los Angeles is in the house unbelievable very impressive wow nacho that was so good I got to do it again ra I want to do something that I've never done before instead of doing emails instead of going into the share directly I want to talk to you guys and also I'll tell you something I was we had a little meeting today 10 guys locally and before I even go there let me first say like this thank you very much to the link BR for us to be here Lear how do you pronounce it Lear I want to say toar for putting this all together for sponsoring for sponsoring all the food moving all the cheers around thank you to the col for allowing us to move the tables out of here very very nice I want to say thank you to Yosi k he's there no new CEO he flew in from New York he was here he was he came to Chicago last week with Mark ashkanazi moli and who's the fourth one oh Morty Morty but he's here again he flew in he's he has a job he doesn't get paid from mdy he works eight hours a day to increase Ty CL rooll whatever it takes so he runs a company he has a plumbing company look at him with the payis with everything his English is a second language but he said I'm going to take this and I'm going to go with it so I really appreciate the fact that you're here we have a superstar in mdy and it takes people like him people that just took things in their own hands weren't asked to do anything they said let me let me be part of this it's a it's such a movement there's 30,000 people a day that are watching let me be part of it repair K Lin who's a vice president Morgan Stanley in Golden Sachs sorry golden Sachs you're right golden Sachs sorry sorry cut that he flew in today and you know where you you find him you find him in front of glart I think it was called one of the supermarkets two supermarkets stood outside with a sign you think the guy's in sugar no he's a successful businessman a normal guy but he'll do anything to bring another person to Tyra and with that attitude he brought over 1,500 people to the shear you hear what I'm telling 1500 people I don't know where he is maybe he's still outside maybe he's in the front trying to recruit when you came in he probably the one that gave you that thing oh here he is rep he's all way in the back repair stand up stand up there you go I have a son here in Los Angeles his name is AKA and I came to visit him but that was just an excuse I told Yosi a few months ago I said I'm going to be in Los Angeles a bunch of times this year I want to make it my duty I want to make Los Angeles the greatest m city there is in the world and seriously I know I know there's a lot of potential [Applause] here let me let me ask ask you something how many people in this room learn that with anybody doesn't have to be with me anybody how many people learn that raise your hand now keep your hands up how many people here do with mdy more hands went up than before that's interesting wow we've never done this before and before the year I want to tell you what happened we we had a little Mee meeting schom lazarian and uh Yosi and a few guys Misha kinsbury you're missed I don't know where he's here but you were missed at the meeting the people came to the meeting Addison and hi MOS I saw him before thanks for the suits and we were we're talking brainstorming what could we do there's something missing in La there's a bunch of people that do this year but they're not like connected they're like laish you know like standoffish how are we bring them together like in other cities it's a like a you know people don't even know each other and they're this guy that had cancer he still does he's going through radiation came to my house and he was telling me you know because of mdy I'm here now I I feel like it was only MD that came to the hospital and picked me up and took me and and gave me food and this whole story that he told me true story and he said it in front of Y so there's a there's a certain aspect of M you could watch a Shear online and you can be part of a family it's it's not you don't have to just watch it online in your house once in a while once a month get together as a as a group as a as a because it makes it that much more interesting and better and it's a m you know you're talking about he probably goes to 10 weddings a month and month that he doesn't just guys from mdy you know this guy that guy you see him on zoom and I I can tell you stories Hower went to be RAB Gordon from and AAC from Lakewood because it's just mdy they know each other from Zoom from this so my goal is to a get most of the guys that are on that are here in La that do the da with us to get on the WhatsApp group to get together be be Mish here let me show you the QR code this is the WhatsApp group or La so if you're doing the da please take out your phone scan this get on the group now is a great time to do it if you haven't done it already and my other my other big thing is remind me your name again Moshe Lawrence I met him in the walr just a few weeks ago I was walking by and I decided not to mind my own business I walked over and said no you learned some Tyra yeah this that you know the usual so what about the yeah I know about you he just came over to me now he came over to me now he said I want to tell you I hope I could cheer this he says right before I met you just a few days how many days before he met me a week before he met me he got rid of his gamar got rid of his gamar but that night he came to see my shear and he's with us since I don't know how long is it three weeks so here's a guy if I hav't walked over to him he would have not learned gamar anymore CU he just got rid of his gamar he thought it was extra in his house who gets rid of a gamarra someone has trauma from gamarra and and doesn't no seriously I understand it completely my point is that I think each and every one of us is capable of going to the guy next to them and being that weirdo like I was he thought I was strange but I hope one day he thanks me and he says hey you know it really did change my life you know and I've done it a number of times many times I shouldn't say a number many many times I think I could say I'm happy there's 30,000 guys 5,000 guys join the year just for Hebrew just in Hebrew 5,000 so why would I go over to mosha Lawrence in the waldor I'll tell you why because to me every single yid is a world every single yid I'm looking at M I said he has family has children B is gonna have a wife and he's going to he's going to build a family and it's going to change his life how can I let this guy just sit in the WF over there not my how can I mind my business I'm saying to you guys also reach out to that other guy it might be a little you might think that you're a little weird you've never done it I'm shy do it you'll change a guy's life by changing a guy's life you get all the every learns every word he learns goes to you so if you're in this room and you're not doing the da get yourself get yourself I'm telling you and it's easy to recruit people Paris recruited 1500 people you could recruit one or two trust me everybody's capable so there's a very famous rist salanter he says a famous quote he said when I was young I used to think I'm going to change the world when I got older I realized that's not going to happen so I thought I was going to change my city and when I I realized that's too difficult I said okay I'm going to change my block then he said I'm going to change my family and he he said you know at then they said let me change myself I'll change myself and by changing yourself you change your family you change your block you change your city you can change the world so I'm telling you the I don't know of a better program than that than DFI and the reason is because DFI is the most consistent Torah program out there and this is what I love asking people this when I fight with them about doing the da and not doing the da I say hey do you wear filling every day and most of the time people say of course of course so when I asked you about you were insulted of course I wear but when I ask you if you learn every day you said no no I learn four times a week do you realize that learning Torah is much more important than wearing Fillin the guy says who told you what are you you're Novi I said I said every day tah if you put all the mitzvas including on a scale outweighs it so what's your excuse of not learning every single day you got to learn the best program out there the best and I tried all of them or most of them is learning a a day now some people say well what abouton well if you can learn ion great but Ian is not as consistent and if you're talking about a balabas a guy working it's not very consistent because if you doesn't show up and how many people have AER seven times a week and on vacation on this there's nothing like the that forces you to learn we just learn how many people out there well yeah BMG had a say the Bas was packed but how many people that have others D they learn a it's not a time to learn it's a time to sleep it's time to take care of the stomach and everything else that's going on you go to and learn who learns on Yer who learns on P who has time for that when you do the da you find time all of a sudden you find yourself at a wedding instead of making fun of that guy that had the safer at the wedding you're guy and you're not even you know cuz you got to do the da you got you got you got to make it it's going to be 12:00 so you open up you're embarrass you make sure nobody's looking on the plane you know how many times I see guys learning on the plane and it's usually the D because the most consistent program and by changing yourself by changing yourself all of a sudden your wife takes notice all of a sudden your children see what's important to you they see you open putting up a gar at the table you're not a bum you know how to learn with them you know how to talk and learning with them they come home from school you you're not embarrassed your children's lives change and when your children's life change your whole block changes your whole city changes the whole world changes it starts with you you got to start with you we're sitting at this meeting and different guys started talking and I found myself crying literally crying and I said wait a minute what does he call himself Nash calls himself Nash said Nash you got to you got to tell the is your story he said no it's not it's not for the it's not for the is I said listen share your story I think you'll Inspire one or two people minimum you might Inspire the whole room come tell your story and then we all know Joel and his story with his wife in the accident and he spoke and I was crying Mish I couldn't and then yov said you guys got to speak so I don't know if we're going to do three speeches but I think we do two small short five minute seven minute I think it's very inspirational I'll take something I've never done let's try it out no what do you say instead of a boring Shar from stefans let's hear what these guys no I'll give the share also here Nash get over here please get over here thank you you thank you here come here I'll move [Music] over you could if you if you feel you here try without the mic I think I think the room is small enough you could uh do without the mic okay here we go be about minutes um okay hi everybody um I really tried to turn down speaking tonight right but rebell really pushed me and explained it to me that I need to and then I need to go out of my comfort zone reell said if you can get one guy from this to do the dock which I know you will and it's worth it the bank up there can always use another Mitzvah this is rebell convincing me to speak tonight I wasn't a big gar let me let me let me start about my life and long story short I wasn't a big gamar learner I don't know some of you could relate to this I couldn't sit through it I was Restless add Etc I was in yiva where the reim told me let just say I'm too big of a learner for them and I need to find a better yiva I was the kid in class who was counting down the minutes till recess fast forward living in La working guy my friend MO k b kin bki called me up and was telling me about mdy and rebell and I told him I don't know I'm traveling to this week to Palm Springs let's talk about it after it's about two and a half hour drive she tells me perfect time to listen to it get the whole car right I said to him you don't know me c because I'm not a gamar guy so it's hard for me to focus on anywhere especially nakar and you think me listening to while I'm driving is going to make it easier know your audience motion didn't give up he pushed me to come to see him in Pico about two years later I'm sorry about two years ago um in my head I was like I'm random guy I don't know who this person is like I feel you're coming you're coming let's go he said don't worry about it after listening to people speak about gar and at the and important is to them and how excited they were about it how life-changing it was I was sold what's the worst that could happen you don't know until you try you know kusas are also a hard thing with me personally because it's hard to commit if I miss here and I and I miss there whether because of work travel family Etc so I have the best kusas mdy reell the perfect Kusa and when your Kusa asks you I don't know if you had this do you want to read a little and I say no you read I'll just listen I get to be part of mdy family with my Kelli that's the reading um I love the akas and MD all the people from all walks of life I can't believe I'm doing Dai before my Netflix before basketball my night wasn't complete unless I finished the do that day yes M shabus and Friday I find are the hardest times to do the do I don't know about you try speed it up a little I know you got this I was with some friends on a trip long story short during the I was sitting in a hotel room doing doomi with my little phone strander and my gamar and I said and my friends looked at me in shock like I was doing gamar some my friends didn't believe me they're like you're doing doomi so good when I finished my first masaka I was in tears I called my wife and said to her mazeltov we did it I couldn't have done it without you all the times you were watching the kids so I can do the do and focus all the sacrifices she made so I can do the do that's teamwork that's partnership I was in tears not from from an emotional sad movie Something Real in my life I finished my first M I know that everyone has sorrows and no one has it easy or perfect everyone is busy when people say they don't have the time I understand but make the time time is valuable you can't you can do it and it's worth it when I tell people about the dot I would I would get excited about it automatically not even purposely trying to sell them on it because it was genuine it was real that's rebelli rebelli is real and says it the way it is one of the many things I love about rebelli personally my what I love is that he makes the gamar relatable to us in our everyday lives which was something I had a hard time with in gamar back in the day I felt gamar didn't relate to us so much nowadays I didn't find it interesting and I couldn't understand a lot of it either I would give up these are things that Reb Ellie relates to and brings up during the CH it's not about do it's about the yomi you may not understand it all but do it anyways we all need to push one another to get involved in gumar and mdy try and push a friend family member don't miss out on this amazing gar learning experience mdy as a family I wanted to wrap up with two points about the Adar and how it ties into doing the do when my brother passed away I wasn't able to learn while sitting sh us so I fell off the do I fell off the do and wanted to wait for the next M why because thear says to me you didn't complete it you're never going to catch up so why start the next MAA why could I just continue after I was done sitting shiva that's the Sahara fast forward I had finished another M with her belly and mdy and I'm on the phone with one of my brothers and I was telling him that I finished another another mea he says to me that's huge wow you got to make a big CM I said he said one accomplishment I said yeah I I wasn't excited this time i' brother says to me something's bothering you why aren't you excited I said to be honest I am but I feel weird making a CM because I didn't understand everything I learned and maybe I shouldn't make a see him my brother screams at me hello Min do you not see the yahar attacking you and trying to take away such a huge accomplishment how much time you committed whether you understood it or not you made it part of your life he's a th% right the atahar was trying to downplay this massive accomplishment the do changed my life if you know someone who you can think benefit from the do tell them about it don't assume they won't do it it's not easy to just tell someone to do the do it takes time you have to go about and explain it all about why MD is amazing whether you need to skip announcements and email sorry or whether you need tolit split it up and do it in different times of the day do it while you're working out cleaning the house you kill two birds with one stone you in Tor and your wife is Happy start small and finish big don't ever give up don't let the Sahara win bringing someone to the do you'll be surprised to know the Sara you get I don't know about you but I can use more in the bank up there thank you rebelli for all that you do for all of cherol thank you for giving us so much of your time and life for cherol thank you to all the people behind the scenes you know who you are let's have aav continue or begin to be part of something huge and lifechanging and together bring [Applause] you beautiful beautiful I got tears you had tears in there tears so I was right no was it worth it all right short and sharp here here's the point I think the one of the big things is another let me just get this back if mosa kinsbury didn't pick up the phone I don't know how many times he called them but it was more than two times three times kept them pushing hey do it do it then you wouldn't have the speech here today you'd have another guy that remembers learning Yeshiva it wasn't the greatest and he's learning Torah because he went to a speech from a rabbi on Friday night and you know that's his Torah for the for the for the for the week one guy one y MAA changed this guy's life and I think we all could do it and we all know that person that really needs that little push so don't delay as soon as you leave here or even right now take out your phone text message put it on your status you guys can make a huge huge difference I want to say thank you there's over 20 people people that did the QR code and part of the part of the group so now we have about 150 people on the group we got to go we can't we got to get to 200 tonight you know bem so one more gal speech oh this is a little crooked I'll leave it you all know the story and uh I guess we'll hear it here and how it relates to the DA but um I Heard it and I was crying more than one once then I spoke to Joel afterwards and I cried again and it's not easy to cry but you know it happens and uh I'm an emotional guy and occasionally it happens um I'd love to call up Jolie Zuri right is that how you pronounce the name Joel come come up [Applause] and oh that's much better cuz he had like three pages this looks shorter even but those are even more dangerous sometimes and he's going to go off the cuff Joel thank you very much here let me just stand right over there perfect go don't don't worry about this should I put this on here let me this okay go good evening everyone um my name is Joel eori it's uh great to be here with um family and friends um all over we have Israel Pico laa even the valley you know and it's great to be with like the MD family and it's a privilege to met reab stefansky in person I feel like I've known him for so long but I had to give him like seven hugs like each one day of the week each day of the week you know just you've been a part of my life seeing you on the screen each day but seeing you in person that's it's the real thing and uh Rabbi sany always says that MD is like one big family and as we can see in this crowd and on the sh it's you know he stresses that how beautiful it is we have in Israel bring the garas with them into the battle and like it's Theus is it's special that's what we need now more than ever you know especially in this crazy world we have to stick together and be together and have unconditional love for each other so um what's amazing about sansky is he's one of the first rabbis that's came to La that's not here to fundraise everyone's here want that I'm sure you won't say no I'm sure sponsorships are you know appreciated but it's really here the goal is to get to gather people okay spiritual currency so that's appreciative appreciative and uh as reans has mentioned multiple times what we have to do is we have to be Like Ur we have to be bold not be shy like mentioned today they're out there in Hollywood and places um doing to fill on people sure they get turned down a lot and they're just they keep doing it so um having that approach gather people like par 1500 people that's unbelievable at least at least and you know as Jewish people we what do we like we like you know free sushi free pizza so we have free goras here you know MD he signed someone up you knowen I got a gamor for you I'm like that's a pretty good selling point people like you know we like free things you know nothing better than a fre gamar is amazing so um you know you knowem I was married to um my best friend leova for 12 years I thank God every day that I was married to her and I knew when we were married that she was so special um I think a sham for that privilege every day and everything about my life I owe to her my job be have five beautiful kids um my spirituality and spiritual growth she always encouraged me umanski that she went to a seminary called bosava and I told her that was must be a good Seminary because I never heard of it so you know if you if you know if you know have VI the ones who know you know if you know you know you know so uh I was in I was in Nero n Jake so umem and she was from Los Angeles so we started in Atlanta Georgia for four years and we came out here and um we had 12 years together and um so I I keep her in mind and everything I do and I try to make her proud and you know I had during those years I had ausa thank God every day of the week uh I would learn gor and Chon Sunday and Ben in the week I'm sorry I know you know and I'm proud of Iraqi and but in the last two years it's been a little bit difficult to have keep up a learning schedule in person I have twice a week and um I was in introduced to MD by Steve SAA in Baltimore and it's changed my life having the accessibility to be able to learn you know some days I can get in the full 4 minutes some days it's 10 minutes here 15 minutes there but I know that I'm still doing it and at the end of the day it's it's one of my you know Nash was saying it's knowing that you finished the do it's an accomplishment it's something that it's a special thing you know regardless what helps Happ in the day you get that learning in and um you know as the rabbi discuss um in my opinion there's three reasons people are not learning doomi one is trauma um number two is people don't enjoy it and three is that people say we don't have the time but once you learn this year and um you realize that you actually do have a time for we all have time for you know ESPN or N Movies other things in life once you find this time you realize it doesn't take away from whatever else you had you know it actually your rest of your day is enhanced and I would like to add one more thing I learned from was always mentioning you know he said like so I feel like we can take another from I want to the alter re I learned this said asked him I know under Li but you know a say this here all good the asked him what's more important to love hasem or it's love and he he said really it's the same thing to love a Jew and love AEM but on a deeper level to love a fellow because when you love a fellow Jew you love who Hashem loves so if we can bring more people into this kabor together this worldwide um learning Shear it's it's the highest form of love because we're allness together and continue to grow and have um so we show have all theas everybody thank you so much wow thank you beautiful than [Applause] all right beautiful big for me at least and um I know it's getting old a little bit and we're we're it's getting late the shear is supposed to be over by now but I think we should do like just like 90 second song and we got to do a because we have lers in the room and we have and we have we have a few ashaz also we're in Pico right we have some we have modern Orthodox Orthodox we have everything so let's just sing a but almost like the like like the way you did it like the ah one of the best a let's do one of the best a so even if you have a terrible voice help out a little bit and last time time I sing a a guy wrote me an email with his name and everything WR Rabbi please don't sing anymore get a professional to sing so I want you to drown me out [Music] is [Music] soon [Laughter] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] you [Applause] [Music] the is my glory beautiful I know there are a few people that came late they missed the beginning so we got to do this one more time but like never before you ready good morning that the best it's not it's a smaller crowd a giant ey gal okay you're all going to ganen for 25 years just from the ah okay whatever I have a bunch of garas here if you're new and you want to join the Sher we bribe you we give you one of these it's the new volume coming up in about a week I think so if you want one of these or you know somebody that needs one of these let me know anybody want one anybody want to join right now here we go here anybody else wow wow go go to Paris tell me your name wow beautiful sh what's your name I want to give it to you here gift from me to you you're gonna finish it what's your name you're GNA do the da you're gonna try try hard what try your hard right yeah you try you try for a few days you want one also good boy said come up here let's go let's go we got to start here [Applause] it's for guys sh guys that are want are new to this year and want to start this year you ready here here's one for you oh they're replaying the song already sh what's your name f Nathan we got two left that's it no we got a bunch more here we go you got it okay great you want one we're gon to finish together we also have a little bit of a DA to do we are holding B five lines from the bottom oh I think I have to do sponsors oh my it's never ending okay the co of the month sponsored by B Rosenfeld for in business the M sponsor for the safe and Speedy return of all the hostages the sorry it's the wrong name and I say it every day for the last seven months but it's backwards here I don't know please for p incarcerated Deni ba in Ireland the that did a bris there and they put him in jail with gratitude to Reb Beerman Reb Elli Gali fer for his podcast and Michael Sav for complete josua Herber this is all messed up his mother his mother Y forell and the whole staff to continue to make T So enjoyable for many that's the art of the month danani in honor of Jacob gan's 16th birthday mazov and one more which is messed up I don't know Le I don't know no one can replace a mother I don't know what happened to the that's I think Mar asazi trying to write in Hebrew uh we are going to be in the Valley tomorrow I have no idea where I'm giving cheers it's going to be somewhere but it's probably very small and great here we go five lines to the bottom B you're actually starting today and this is your very first day don't worry about it mdy started in the middle of it doesn't matter if there's a not a mishna you will finish when we get to it you don't have to start in bras there's no such thing bras just happens to be the that's number one the probably didn't even have it as number one it's just a thing it's a ferris wheel it's a it just goes in a circle you start over here you'll finish says the and the great great thing about there's always a new topic always a new and here we go brand new if a woman a married woman comes to you and she says can you watch this car you can't do it from slaves why because there is a concept in called you're helping a sinner and we suppose we understand that she didn't come to this on her own she probably took her somewhere the slave where does he have money from where does he have anything from he stole it and a child same thing where's have money from if you receive something against the you decide okay you're going to be a nice guy you're G to watch this for her and then you realize that's the and then she comes back to pick it up well the rabbi told me don't take it from her she she must have stolen it well it's not your business now now you give it back to her and if she dies her husband inherits her so he gives it back to the husband it and if you take something from a slave when you shouldn't you give it back to the slave and if the slave dies so you give back to the master now what happens if the slave was freed and then died and he he might even have children as a Jew because once a slave is free he becomes Jewish full Jew he's a semi Jewish beforeand has a bris he does mites like a woman but what happens if he was freed and then he dies the object goes back to the master as well because theban brings here that slaves kak they like to steal and it's most likely came from the master I'll show you this concept also there's a concept called Mas a slave doesn't have any money everything he acquires becomes the Masters now if he received he a child comes to him here we have a picture what might have happened kid shows up at a Ferrari could you can you please watch my car so what's going through the guy's head where did you get this from okay and here here's I have a video I thought this was pretty cool here's a $25 million for check this out I hope you can hear it oh my God you young what do you do for a living your car no it's not mine bro how do you are you driving a lot Ferrari what do you do um it's my dad's car dude this is your dad's yeah how old are you 14 you're 14 you're driving this is there three of you stop recording bro oh my God okay wa are you serious his father never found out about about this one okay so there's a 14-year-old we all know the Mya I think we're all guilty of it you know there's a a fan of the shear and B he couldn't come tonight he's here from from La his name is Yol gold I don't know if any of you heard of him so he he's a big part of the shear and um he's going to be be he said he's going to come mavas so I saw Tish I watched his video and I'm a big fan of his and he he brought down a a very interesting story um I no he did but that I'm going to say the story later there's another I'll say a different story that I saw this one was a very moving story that has to do with this the story went there was a I forgot the guy's name but it was in Adelphia the famous isiv in Adelphia and I read a book about Rabbi trink you saw the book about Rabbi Tren I love the book I really it really moved me he was a very interesting fellow and he was rashba and he love these boys and these were you know boys that struggled in yish kite and one day the dormatory in Delphia burnt down so a balabas from the community I forgot his name he's the one that said the story he said okay nine boys could stay in my house nine boys he takes the nine boys in the house and one night you know what boys do when they're in somebody else's house sometimes they find the keys to the car and one of the boys took the car and you know Joy what they the joy ride and he returned it smashed up the smithin this individual was understandingly so very very upset he was Furious here I am I'm letting these boys in my house I'm getting him room and board and this is that car you take my car without permission and you smash it up and he was Furious and he comes to ding next morning and the whole yes is looking at him what is he going to do and he's thinking himself he he didn't really say it but that's what I understood from him he's gonna I'm gonna pop this guy in the head I'm gonna like really give him a real zets in front of the HOA and he's thinking and all of a sudden he looks at RAB Tren and he's very close to rabit Tren and he's like saw RAB Tren looking at him he's looking back and um he goes over to the boy says we need to talk and the boy is shaking and when he said this he just said this I I was crying I guess it was T and I was emotional he's like and he walked away that's what he because he thought to himself what would rabie Tren say how how does rabie Tren you know how does he have such a relationship with the boys okay not everybody could do that but it moved me the fits right in this is the this youngster comes with a he says do me a favor watch this for a few minutes before my father finds out what do you do y g by the way they say like there's a there's a line like this in AR when a kid comes home with something and he says you know where do you get it from you know what he says I found it I found it is you know code for I stole it I found it so like the mother she the father is like oh very nice you found it cool nice gold watch very nice the mother's like where did you find it you find it in the street or did you find it by zman in zman's Pocket like what do you mean you found it okay so it's not finding what do you do you do a Gula okay SP him Joel told me today he has Gula this iy said I'm not into Gula but zoulas what's aula if the the child dies then you give the Ferrari to his inheritors second line from to when a person is dying on his deathbed what does a person do on his death bed usually he does chuva he starts thinking like like the guy yeah the famous Mya the guy what does he do on his deathbed he he calls he says H is mha here yeah yeah mha is here what about my wife my she's here also here they're all here yeah so why are the lights on in the bathroom so some sometimes that's what a person has has on his mind other times he wants to do chuva he wants to you know he wants to take care of business he lived his life and now he has he has two minutes left what is he going to do so he says you know I stole the Ferrari it's not mine it's so and so so if that's what he says we should do exactly what he says what's and if you don't trust him that's you don't trust him he doesn't know what he's talking about he's making stuff up you make your own you take your and try to figure it out yourself where did he get this Ferrari from says the the wife of the the wife of the sometimes it happens to the best of us the wife of the when she was dying on her deathbed she says H keeping these earrings they're not mine I stole them I borrowed them she says the mar now if you didn't look in the ram who's Marta Marta is a man or a woman Marta Martha Martha what's Mara so the says it's a man because how because you say like earrings a man yeah they belong to and his grandchildren so this question came to R she's on the death bed she says these earrings belong to so and so if you trust her then you could do exactly what she says you don't trust her that's all thing that the dead person he's embarrass never wants people to know that he's a god what you after he dies people should talk about by the funeral oh he stole so maybe covering up she's covering up she I borrowed it from so and so but really she meant you know so try to figure it out which really means you could keep it for yourself some people say this is what R said if Mar is a wealthy person any he seems to have extra jewelry laying around and it makes sense that he gave it to her he lend it to her I say they you can trust her so in other words this is saying a little different than the first first is trust her if you don't trust her then take it for yourself the second sh is you never trust her you have to evaluate the situation every single time never trust her if it makes sense that she borrowed from that okay fine then we'll listen next Gula if you borrow if a if a small child comes a child under bit it gives you something to watch a watch a a car whatever it is a car is a little exaggerated because you know you know it's not but let's say a pen whatever it is take take it do something special aula what does Zula mean you know the try to pretend that they you know what I'm saying that it comes from this gamar I think you gota you have money what are you going to do with the money buy why why I sa because let's try to improve his here give him a gar free gar today we have garas in those days the actually say no don't get him other stuff don't get himra get him a Tyra a we're going to improve his riness with his money and that's why I told Joel I said people are looking for Zulus they buy these red bands from the women by uh you know the K Wow if I wear this red band that you don't you didn't you didn't invest anything you didn't do anything you put this R oh it's going to be a big zul and if I say Paras this it's going to do that you know what the biggest Gula in the world is RAB say what everybody say together what's the biggest G in the world Tyra is the biggest Gul a forget going to this grave and this thing and then this B I'm telling you forget it it's right here A D gar there's nothing in the world like a d gar no you're not masin he he doesn't he doesn't like it he's like little is it true and okay he's masing good thank you I could be wrong I'm just a lfuck I don't know about these things say this 10 times and jump run go around in Circle 22 times and he'll do this no learn gamar learn Tyra any Tyra but learn Tyra that's this Gul oh I got to tell you this is on Riel Gold's video it moved me also another great story I don't want to use up all my stories I saw Tish in one day but last year he there's a this fascinating you know about this uh this priest that became a g with his whole community that was last year's video so this year was like a followup plus other stuff and he goes and interviews this guy and the guy said I think this was one of the most powerful things I saw in tiab the guy says the rabbi the new the priest that became a rabbi the Rabbi says the community needs a sa Tyra we don't have money for we got to get together and do a sa Tyra so you wouldn't understand this I'll tell you in a second not everybody in the room is going to understand the power of the story I was like to understand it the he looks around and he has nothing nothing what could he give for a sa nothing and all of a sudden he looks and he says maybe I could sell the dog and if anybody has a pet if anybody knows what a dog not a lot of people I was to have a dog in my house and I was to see him here some people call him my anle my son AKA he has a dog and he we got him a dog in and the dog was in our house for at least two years or so when I brought him to La we saw him and the dog remembered us and he's jumping with joy literally for 10 minutes I I'm not exaggerating the dog didn't stop barking and jumping and licking that the the the the love that they have for a human being imagine you have a dog and they showed pictures of this dog says sell the dog so we could buy a sa I could participate in the SAA it's and the wife tells what are you crazy that's our child they don't have children these people didn't have children and they went ahead and they sold the dog and he says you know like I'm I'm writing a book by the way it's called N9 months later n he writes in in the story n months later they had a baby boy and they called him bar but a person can you imagine selling your dog selling your almost child okay you guys don't if you have a dog you know what I'm talking about says gar RAB goes in a different direction RAB is saying it's it's goas you need this something some sustenance you got to buy him some real estate you buy him a palm tree and I'll have dates and I'll have something to live on so it's basically they give him they give him all right we're running late I'll just say this real quickly because I like to throw in the interesting stuff Gaza they want to do and one guy pulls out a little saferra but they're middle of you know the battle and they're like where do we put it there's no table no beima what are you going to do so the guy says we just hold it so the other guy says no I'm going to bend down on the ground you're going to put it on my back what do you do so was asked the question he said no it's too much of a b to do it like that he says if there's a minut says that by some SP him they would do it like that on they would read the on a guy's back but typically speaking it's a little bit of a b he says of course if there's no other then you can do it like that but it's better to to hold it up and read it without AA thought it was interesting so a father cannot we're talking about this means that if you sit in somebody's property for 3 years and nobody protested nobody said a word then it's obvious it's yours you have to claim that you bought it you bought it legitimately just you lost the documents three years but a father and a son how could they do that they love each other if if I'm in my father's house for three years and doesn't say anything it's because I'm his son not because I own it so if a son has the for one they say hey I own this house it doesn't mean or maybe he tells his brothers one day the father's LIF oh I was here three years T didn't say anything okay Dad didn't say anything because you're a son and the same thing the father does to the son okay so even if they separate ways they go different ways this is a very interesting shw what about a Yesa guy because the ram says what does it mean separate ways says you're not you're not you're not benefiting from your father anymore you know a lot of times a kid gets 20 22 years old the house I'll see you later T he gets gets an apartment at that point you think oh if he came back and try to grab a vacation home his father would say something to him no even in that case even when you're out of the house so there's a Shila a real Shila and it's more important for SP a boy that goes to Yeshiva you know old yes he's 18 years old he's in Yeshiva 95% of the time and he comes on once in a while does his father light the Mina for him or not is okay we'll talk about it by but it's interesting questions that a father splits ways with the son not not because they're in a fight because they went on different direction what's the so says says no that if they split up they he moved out of the house l what does l mean it's little it's counterintuitive l means yes why Li means not what the mishna said the mishna says that when your father and son you cannot do aaka in this case you could yes you could do a kazaka means noish yes okay it's not that complicated but it's just a little counterintuitive no no no it's Lo means no l means no but no to the mishna not the mishna says that a father and a son cannot perform aaka one on the other Li that's not true they could because he moved out of the house there was a story the story that he left the house and then he tried to grab his father's thing because he said he was there for three years and we Saida it works the Kaka works from this place oh I love this this like a freebie it's just GNA you know long names two lines and we're saying the same thing and what they said like there is even have a a son that moved out of the house he's not anymore and a wife who got divorced they're like regular individuals a wife theor says a wife that ex-wife so a lot of times especially in our communities unfortunately the biggest enemy in the world so of course if she's sitting in in a in a in a piece of real estate for three years of course the husband would have said something if it's his he hates her but even a son who they don't hate each other they just move he just moved out it's also Kaka why because the father would say a father would put his foot down and say something who asked the question you if you had a piece of real estate and your son was in there for three years wouldn't you say something to them love you love him but you're going to say something hey that's mine don't you know you got to ask before you go there with all your friends and throw parties there you know you got you know he said there boundaries you're going to say something in the three years three years just let him take over that's a little exaggerated we have an our family we have uh my father-in-law has a uh vacation home and one of the kids really loves it and they keep on going there every three my father he not that no that's a little bit now you push the limits this also happens a lot you know we know people like that not in my family but there's always you know that that son that takes care of the father at the end of his life and he's the goody Goodie and the other Sons never come visit and all of a sudden Mr Goody Goody he taking over stuff before you know it he owns everything and everything's on his name what just happened I don't know didn't Happ I know a lot of people like that my father's is still alive and he doesn't have anything anyways it doesn't matter one of the brothers he was he's he's taking care of business yeah it's it's usually the daughter but okay in this case it's the brother one of the brothers and all of a sudden means here it's just a it's another word you know once I'm here let me just show you I'll entertain you because this is why not I got to show you this last year shabat was one of the most amazing shab of my life we C70 people together we heard incredible speeches the camaraderie was just so Gish and so fun the past few months people come to me and said wow I cannot believe I missed that chabas don't be that guy this year save the date it's a shabas you're going to want to be there and not miss it was unbelievable really unbelievable Aran from Los Angeles came with his whole family all right Bo say here we are that had nothing to do with anything I just saw it in my slides I might as well show it why not okay so it says the gamor you have this guy you have this guy that's writing uh documents and everything signed on his name all of a sudden the house has become his everything is his and we know he you know that guy right he doesn't have a job that guy he never had a job his whole plan was he's going to take care of the properties and inherit stuff he asking where do you get the money to buy all this stuff no no no I have money I had money IMA check this out here's the story in a in a slide here's a old man he married this woman and they have a son he's the guy that we're talking about he's the guy and he has two little kids that woman she goes to the cemetery and he marries another wife and he has three sons okay so you have one son they both all the four boys here all the four men adults they share one father but they have different mothers so the guy on the right who takes care of his father he the let's say so he says look all the documentation says my name I bought it with my with my own money the other brother say no no no no no no it doesn't make sense what's going on how do you have money well all of a sudden you're able to purchase houses in La $16 million 20 you never had a job in your life what's he it's interesting his name is not all the documentation he has to prove it this is a very unique case usually if you have documentation and you have a and everything you don't have to prove it in this case you have to prove it's not true the brothers have to prove that he's not the owner take a look over here in this case where the brother you see the guy on the right look what happens to him oh sorry RAV says the guy on the right has to bring a Rah sh says the guys on the left at the bring the brothers say but if this guy goes bye-bye to the cemetery then we don't start up with the the the orphans they don't have to bring a let the brothers bring a who's ABA RAV that was his real name RAV is just you know Rabbi but his real name is Aba that if the brother on the right the original brother he dies then his don't have to bring what's going on here if the father was alive let's go back for a second this guy on the right all the way on the right if he's alive he has to prove it because he died his his children are better than him if this real concern that he stole and nothing is his so let the children prove it there is a concept we go out of her way and we we try to help out orphans they don't know how to they don't know how to make a claim in court they're too young so we'll do it but why should they be stronger and better than their own father their own father is not beli so why should they be believed he the father can't claim that so they have a better claim than the father says is um let me see if I have it this guy it's just a scissor that uh drying scissors that you know the tailor uses is like today we have it's a saer full of stories me took it out you see that without a he took things away from the assignments says the this is referring to unique things things that people tend to lend to other people oh if the yam is holding on to something that usually you borrow so it's not the aams what's a good example of these things let me show you what we came up with here we go could I borrow some eggs you drill a baby bottle your Corvette okay um yes one [Music] second some eggs drill chicken a crying baby even you oh okay so these are people like to give away their children when they're not behaving Etc so in that case now we turn to if a person says wait a minute I recognize that car I recognize that drill it's isn't that Yankees drill you say no no I bought it from him any in that case you're not believed so we have a there's always a discussion in in in ch when the says that means there's a bomb question why are you the only guy eating here bring the food to the is hungry no I don't want the all to get up at one time we're done we're done hold yeah sponsors that's right so this what does means a bomb question rash usually says is not as strong the says in this case I guess he argues on his on his grandfather Kash and are the same which would mean he kick out it's a okay oh sponsored sponsored by the Turning of the D is sponsored by is share construction management supervision and life and the Life share Community today one of the people was Ari Rosen Rosen Rosenstein Rosenstein AR Rosenstein from risen from that's his thing protecting families today before tomorrow's unexpected loss and by kov in my uncle Pressman and FAL and who's my son here in Chicago and what I mean La yeah sorry I'm in La now I know he lives in LA I wasn't confused where I am and I wasn't confused where he lives this whole thing that we just discussed is when the brothers this whole case let's go back to the brother case I'll just throw it on the screen so you remember what we're talking about is when they're not divided with the amount of money they get they're not on a trust fund you know you get $10,000 a month you get 10,000 if each brother gets a certain amount we could assume that this brother on the right you know he bought all this real estate he bought it because he saved up and he purchased that piece of real estate I'll just share with you because I'm a real estate guy I haven't done real estate in a long time since uh you know maybe three four years my I let my partner do everything I have no idea what's going on I think I still have some real estate um but I was doing I used to do a lot of Renovations and and this truck driver who's bringing a a dumpster he says listen I I you know this is not the first time I see you I see you on this property that property what's going on here how do you make money man how do you make money so I said you want to know how he's said he takes out his notebook prob he's like taking out of his thing so yeah go I said you got to save you got to save because I noticed in my properties there's a lot of people that you know they buy the the 100 inch TVs and they have rims that spin and they have all these cars but they can't pay the rent they're like you got to save if you save up then you could buy another property and he's writing he's writing down no this is simple this is like missar in 101 I'm saying that every everybody knows this stuff but sometimes you got to say it in order to make money you need money usually huh you got to write it down maybe this guy wrote it down and he saved money and that's why he he had real estate but if everybody's in a group and everything's coming out of the state then where do he get money from then he must must be stealing something says gamar we said again going back to these brothers one brother has to prove the other brother how how you proving exactly he has to bringar there something called does anybody remember how you sayar in gar language it's a fancy word anybody going to teach it to you right now if you don't know oh very good you said it what's your name B what b b b not related to the is his name something BR okayer said that it's a called a hemp hemp in fact he's right when the Bez looks at AAR and they interviewed everybody and they say that thear is legit they write a hemp on the bottom of thear say hemp this is a legit star so if the guy comes with a HCK great he authenticates thear R of very interesting we have we have ra going back who do we believe you remember here let's let's show you the thing why not RAV says the guy on the right has to bring a he's probably lying SCH says the brothers have to bring so we have but if the brother has to bring a r the guy on the right has to bring a r if is like R what kind of R we had two Shas either it's the hemp authentication or it's ADM so it's like a double question which one is it so says the gar by the way I I I got to stop here for a second I want to say la la la la la to to larian I just thought I I didn't it just came out because he told me that there's only going to be 50 people here tonight so I said listen take out all the tables put in all the chairs he says no I said just take it out now who is right look around the room is it good thing that we took out the chairs I'm serious that we took out the tables you see what we more than 50 you're okay by was no those guys want to get chomped says the gar he won't give in we have a has to bring a but even if we say he has to bring a r what kind of R what do we do know our case one of the brothers was taking care of business what's is different different documents out everything's on his name all of a sudden he says look it's my name I got it from my mother's side yes we share the same father I got it from my mother's side all of he's the one that's like RAV so it says is like R the only problem is it doesn't tell us now that we know that is like RAV what kind of R is it with or is it with h and also the same thing would apply to a woman who takes care of her father or father-in-law and all of a sudden everything is on her name you know nobody steals but everybody is Mo everybody says oh look I took care of daddy for so long what I don't deserve the Mansion of course I deser you know you know how it goes so has to prove it that's like what does it mean and also what's a woman gets a lot of Honor people are going to say in the street look what a special person she is which reminds me of what Joel told me today in private he said and I'm going to give a the whole Community because what he told me he said the community was unbelievable he said now one time maybe once did he spend the shabas by himself since his wife was killed in that accident two and a half years ago so the community to you for being like that to him for taking his care of his kids when needed he for making your meals I'm I'm saying thank you for him that's what it says over here this woman she's walking around look I take care of you Simon she doesn't want to steal from the doesn't make sense to that ask maybe she's not stealing from that we have to be concerned and just a few more lines and we're done so if you go back to the mishna wow it was a long time ago where was that mishna I think in the early Ms maybe even me let's see wow I should know this no here we go these are the people that don't can't make a then it says at the end of the Mish that that if you make a on a on a somebody that doesn't have anybody to inherit him or or somebody gift how do you do so says all these people what they can't make a regular they could only doat pirat means like I'll show you real quickly I know you guys want to go home already starving this is n we're going to have to Su what exactly how do you when you want to acquire a field that let's say a convert who died without children is teer how do you acquire it you have to know the there only very specific things you have to do something in the field such as locking it building up the wall is going to describe how much and breaking down the wall but just living in there is not enough so says when do you have to do this no go pirates business when you're doing that somebody is protesting it's different than what we learned before usually means that you're doing k for three years and you claim to have bought it legitimately this is very different means literally somebody has AA against you somebody's protesting such as in a case where the seller says I never sold it and he says I bought it I'm saying this word I just one more story you guys want more story should we finish here story okay story it's based on a true story very wealthy guy had a contractor that worked for him for many years 30 plus years and after 30 something years the contractor comes to the wealthy guy says rid I'm sorry but I must retire I'm getting old I have to retire I'm done the wealthy guy he wasn't he wasn't very happy he said listen do me a favor one more house just one more house this is I know you're the best you're the best you did such good work for me just one more no yes he can V them one more house the guy goes ahead and he wasn't in the mood of building he wanted to retire the guy pressured him I call it y you know you do mitzah like you give you give a dollar get out of my face okay kind mitz I know somebody he wants to eat fish on on shabas he hates fish he takes a piece of tuna okay that's not doing the it's a different TR so he built that house y you went to Home Depot got a few tiles instead of getting the class the the lines weren't the straightest the gr lines were a little off no he was a professional he would never let this happen he always took out his laser and everything was perfect top quality Walnut everywhere granates this house you know he's done with the house done he goes to the to the rich guy to the wealthy individual he says listen I'm sorry done I'm done and that's you're not going to ask me for another house he says no he says here's your keys the wealthy guy looks at him he says you know you were so good to me for 35 years I want to give you a gift I want to give you this house he just built and he gives him back the keys and he's thinking to himself what a fool what a fool all those tiles all that what was I thinking if I just would have put a little bit more effort just a little bit more I would have had the house of my dreams everybody else has the house of Dreams because of me and now I'm the only loser here without the house we're here we have a purpose hasem gives us the ability to build our house we're all building our house and our job is let's not be foolish we could build it like in LA on the the nicest blocks in LA or we could do it like in Chicago no I'm just kidding they they have nice houses there we could do y but we're building it for us who we're doing somebody a favor when we learn the da we go we're doing ourselves a favor we're doing it for us we're doing it for us so another trick if you want to get the really like the Mansion up there because we all have that's how that's how the the they live in manions that's what it says mansions on the river you want to have the ition the easiest way is to get another guy to join the D because his his will be so immense you get to share those your Mansion will be that much bigger and greater let's just finish up one more line here sorry but if nobody's protesting a guy that gives a gift gives him that house for free and brothers that are splitting the The Inheritance they're not there's nobody complaining you go and you try to do in what do you do the is just a we're not talking about the of three years no you lock it God you build the fence parats you break the fence even a small amount have a wonderful day w