Daf Yomi Nazir Daf 48 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] you'll do the good morning [Applause] wow so the other day I spoke about movies and the fact that I felt it has on our children so you got a little bit of a pushback what a pile of nonsense [Music] and even if movies were to blame he managed to make it about socialist Hollywood but many children who never watched the movie go off to their too maybe it's those watered-down learning and give this guy to the eight minute Daft bites who are the blame the birds you'll see Goldstein I grew I grew up in a household where we didn't watch secular films at all and two of my siblings are not religious anymore the message then this year felt like you were talking to me thank you I really needed a Muslims bark J Erry belly as I was thinking today about your comments about The Purge and the connection between children and after dark and Hollywood movies a third a thought occurred to me and I wanted to share I know that the world frequently uses but I'm not sure what the makara's favorite thing that Tara has one single Derek familiar with Michelin that says he simply imply there's more than one there I'm also familiar with the great safer Macias Sharon which again seems rather clear that there's not one masila whereas it's not the parents fault at all for showing movies and a child or even adult is simply at a stage where he needs to explore in order to find his own way forward not back to Toyo and avadat Hashem grateful as always for the community of Terry have built and the wonderful shooting the liver Adam singer you've raised the issue a number of times and each time I was surprised at the off base explanations provided I found a simple yet very profound comment on why someone throws it all away from her you saw her friend in his book an offer you can't refuse page 215 which it sums up accurately when someone feels worthless he loses control of himself and all the standards collapse I can assure you on the accuracy of this having bounced around the number of yeshivas and made to feel as a worthless teenager and Throwing It All Away Etc and in my case there's no TV in the house I felt worthless I lost control I went and hung out with lower class elements who gave me a positive self-image based on Checker it is correct that TV is harmful but it's more important that a child who's struggling finds daily successes and gets positive feedback from parents and teachers and emotionally unhealthy peers Kovacs whoo anyway so just to be clear I didn't come to explain why kids go off to there because there's a thousand reasons why they go over there I was explaining that there's something that I never really heard people talk about and I think it's a very big component now if you go to cash United they'll tell you the reason why kids go up to there because one reason only trauma every single kid had some sort of trauma in their life this type of trauma that sometimes is physical sometimes it's emotional travel I'm just saying that before you throw that device down in your kid's lap because you're too sick and tired of taking care of that kid and you want somebody else to babysit your kid think a thousand times before you put the device on his lap there's a family that's related to me that every kid by their bris and they have like 10 boys gets a device and they put it right in front like during the brist they're already watching and their entire life they're watching and these kids grew up to be mamish diamonds each one is a diamond you'd think you'd see them and the father put in their rooms I'm not joking they have TV stands and they go right they're all sitting there whatever it's a way I'm not saying that it's this or that and there's a lot of and people went off to there 200 years ago without TV I get it and these kids today that never thought even they go after there by the way check those kids that don't have TVs in their house and they go after their chat see how many things they they watch before but anyway I'm just saying it it's not even we're not even talking about Gila rice and that stuff I'm talking about hash kafa think about that they stick in all this the nonsense that goes on today put it in over and over and this is what you want your kids to watch think a thousand times before that's all I'm saying you don't like it but say it I won't say it again next oh here's another thing that people don't like when do you not say things that people don't like it I'm making that up I'm just trying to calm that guy down I don't have to think you want to water down the reason why people go off the dirt is because of my watered down learning that's why they go over there so check this out I like this one this is nakami seltzer himself uh we need to do this I guess here all right so here goes you ready here we go that brings people down that's good let's go here we go I'm giving you this 20 bill on SNY they won't be talking during kaddish okay there you go one kid at a time one kid the time you sells 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talking about the word others of it comes to teach us that he shouldn't be matama to his relatives even to his own father but he should be matama too or mace mitzvah so what do we do with the word ulimoy top word of Memphis it's interesting just to point out that in the possible the Torah says and by Congo it says the ramban says very interesting that a mother dies more frequently than a father during childbirth so the the Sun has more of a reason to be without his mother first is okay he's like he's not a bartumo but as a result so then what about because a kind God though only becomes a kind God oh when his father dies he gets to be original from his father so if his mother dies not a kind daughter yet but it will come over there thank you okay when his father dies not when his mother dies okay so we need this Remy later on he's gonna bring this ready so it might be could I just remember it even though we'll repeat the base rashem what does Ravi say this is awesome that a Cayenne of another first of all another he's not allowed that we know we discussed this also but he's allowed to go and touch azov and he's allowed to go and touch him with soira and become Tommy so this is not for him to be not to become Thomas this is for him to become Tommy or Tommy mace what's super fascinating to me is Tysons Tyson says that the natural should be Kiddush when it comes okay the tire says you should become Tommy to amaze so obviously because of yes you hear the jump the places makes so I would think that this tumor is on a level of Amaze in fact that's what we said the other day I'm thinking now that he also has the ability to become a bio like a mace let's talk a very strong Tomah I didn't personally I had trouble understanding the prices because he's amazed but doesn't mean he could go over them and kill him and it doesn't mean you know he's a mate Kim maze you pretend he's amazed no so he just takes it to the next level he's amazed of of a very very high Toma maybe maybe it's such a high tumor it's like Thomas maze where you're not gonna go and touch him come Ash Milan you let it touch mainly because now how do they make that connection between another I'm wrestling why do you even say the word IMO like we have here in the Apostle Imo now let me show you this real quickly this is the Apostle by another if you look by a coin goggle it says two things first don't be my time with anybody and then it says don't be talking to your father and mother doesn't talk about a brother and a sister by a by uh by uh Nazir it says much more this is okay we'll get back to that in a second now going back to your vomis a little bit so over here we have a father and a mother had two children one of them is not paying attention now another one is a brother what he's super busy with his as long as everyone else he's very very soccer will have to wait a little bit so we get this this is very simple a father a mother had two children two brothers they actually look very like and then never the father bye bye so the mother goes ahead and she marries another guy and from another guy she has another kid so no Avi in the middle he has two brothers one is from a father and one is from a mother shiman Dan call him whatever you want so it goes like this if the two brothers go bye-bye avi's mother to be matamata's brother from his father but he cannot be matama from his his brother from a mother so what does this teach us what's that what kind of Spar does this teach us again if he has a brother from a father the paternal brother he's so he's so related to him that he could be madame the maternal brother it was weaker so teaches us that relationship through a father is a very strong relationship okay so now let's take a tower is so good foreign in this exact case had Avi been okay he wouldn't be matama to his father his own father there's no you shouldn't be mutamo mukham where the relationship is weaker in other words through the mother the relationship is weaker he's not even even a simple client is not mitama it's his own brother who's only a brother from the mother because the mother creates less of a curva less of a relationship foreign says that a father has a strong relationship with the son than no mother because the mother cannot produce a son that this that a coin had to give him a time of two but the father could produce a son that a coin had the community so therefore it could be in the commented it should but he's not according with his own father so certainly shouldn't be Tama to his own mother it's interesting that a little bit later on I just want to point it out here because nowhere else really for me to point it out okay taiser just says a very interesting spot right here that there's a there's a reason think about it for a second there's a reason to believe logically that a son should be even talking about his own mother over his own father what's Elijah you don't know oh very good that a mother is and a father we don't know 100 so Mayla you should go ahead and be matama too the mother may be and that's why you need what I don't know she came home from the hospital with him she was there from the first moment and people saw his Witnesses he's right it's not a million percent because we had stories even bismarazette where kids get mixed up in DNA the whole thing but there was a a goddal I don't remember who the story was about he asked a certain godo why is it if a father and a mother ask a child let's say bring me a cup of water so what do you listen to who this is the son listen to the father why because she the the wife is also in the Covenant of the husband so they asked this kid who later turned out to be a girl I remember if somebody remembers ask him about wait a minute the mother is a vadai and the father is a Suffolk so the huh so so he said I don't know if that's what you mean exactly but he said that if it's true that the father is a Suffolk that's the biggest design for the mother no mother who is brisker no she doesn't want it in other words she'd rather bring that cup of water quick she rather you bring the cup of water to the father and of you saying it's a cover for the mother so that you don't bring up a Suffolk over here sesame okay see I have a little bit of a mirror a lot of bit of a Cavachon so I have a claimer that the coin godo should not be metamata's mother so then why does it say I can't go to the word in mind so going back to foreign that a conglodo is but it could be material yes but if he feels like it they become Tommy what's gonna happen Israel don't bring this Garden whatever I think it's a big footage okay so that's what we do with the word emot ions we learned yesterday you started to share the word Aviv you know we should go back for it you know this way sorry the word teaches us that God is matama for mace mitzvah not how do we know that another as we said yesterday in the mission was walking in a path which one should become by himself of course how do we know that means a body a dead body zero one is another fish on the body maze he shouldn't touch a dead body it doesn't say what kind of body it says a dead body so perhaps a dead body means a dead a dead horse why would I have such a heaven you know because it says you you hit physically hit a body of an animal so you see the word nephesh could apply it to an animal nepheus okay I'll Netflix talking about a human being if you look at this possible over here it says we're talking about tomasio coming into oil a roof go together what's what yesterday 's part of hookah it's very good you see what happens if you pay attention I know so long and it wasn't paying attention like Oh I thought the patch is over really there's another one I just I didn't even realize it's like 107 or more 76 plus the whole part I didn't even ended the plus 136 that's it it has to be like the longest yeah yeah very long foreign so by the way once I'm here nobody's listening that oh no that has a moonachary did you read it with that one word did you no way if you could oh okay aquapon just the tumor of oil what's tomorrow real quickly if there's a dead person in a room and there's a roof and you go into that room you become Tommy but there's more to that what if the dead person is in an open place but it's hanging and you're underneath the dead person is that oil you're over here and there's a dead person over here you're in the middle of a desert tell me you're not Tommy Tommy of oil your tummy oil and what if you're on top of the dead person and you're in a desert also too much oil like if you go to the basic conversing lean over a grave too much oil fine those are the dialogues foreign so we're talking about people beneficial summertime is and animals you put a horse in a room and you go into the room you don't become Tommy Thomas it's only when a human being is in there somebody were talking about Tomas Auto beloved the mace mitzvah okay so now we have the possum because it teaches us that your metabolism but maybe you don't need a possible maybe I could learn it logically these are sports that we already said yesterday both of them um is forever so certainly a Nazir who is not forever certainly he is lighter and therefore he could be my time himself that makes mitzvah so no I'm not asking anybody else no you were here last night Mandy I'm gonna ask the two of you because you weren't here last night but you listened probably but you didn't but what if the Nazir was Tommy tum Asylum he's another so why is he different than a kind God those whose College loyalum if he says it you too you could also answer what it wasn't but he is in the case in the case average nose is 30 average very good very good very good but there's other two routine that uh another could get out of it you get out of it don't be so proud of yourself these are better these are better it is a good answer I said six times in cheer it doesn't matter no what he's trying to say is that since another the stamina series is 30 days you see the essence of nazirus is a weaker thing it's not a lawyer yeah you could prolong but here's a really good one another when did he start when he's 35 years old they decided to become another so from this point to the end of his life but he wasn't born another how about this one a client gives it over to his kids it's law illum it goes from generation to generation unless it's just them no you like yours better okay they're all good they're all good so you're lucky that the camera brings it again these are the things you couldn't miss out by not coming with the shops and also Republic we got it this morning I got the turrets nice you don't have the you don't have the mice of the hotel I'm sure you told me I probably did this one they said it never was never heard he said it was never heard to you guys so what's the the reverse fire then we said this also she can animate maybe carbon ultimately listen if a coin dollar gets becomes Tommy all he has to do is the process of tahara sprinkle on him Thursday seventh day go to Mexico he loses all 25 years he has to pay all those expensive core buttons he has to shave his ear it's a big deal so you see the very macaron he comes upon a dead person maybe he shouldn't touch him calling to help I don't know what let somebody else do let the kind God will deal with it but the noise in that book if he has to deal with him 25 years of hard work goes down the tubes plus it's going to cost him two thousand dollars worth of Kirk bonus plus he's going to look weird they have to shave his head what are you gonna do maybe not that's why all your savaras and logic is not going to work here that's why I need a positive time Allah here's a good one for all you guys if a person needs to be Michael shops because his wife is going to the hospital but he he doesn't have to be my college because his neighbor has the device that he needs a light a phone whatever should he knock on their door at three o'clock in the morning and wake them up so he doesn't have to be without shops like you said there's coilover versus yesterday but here's a beautiful one the big child it was no he should be in the house because that's because you don't have to go out of your way and you learned it from our sugya that when God finds a dead person he doesn't have to go out of his way and hire somebody to take care of the dead person you can get out of it for 500 you get rid of it too he has it that's typically what would he do he'd bury him typically what would his husband do and his wife is in the would he go knocking on people's doors at three o'clock in the morning wake up the whole building no he's going to turn on the light to wake people up that's what I'm sorry not everybody agrees to it yeah okay what yeah okay listen to this right boy he said this is mama's gonna wake you up Maybe this The Ether the extra words come to teach you that this Cayenne shouldn't be matamata's father mother to other people but mama's reverse of logic right what's the smarter why would you say something like this for that you need Titus says Tyson listen to tices here you can look inside Ella and he says again I would have a havamina don't bury your own father and mother but bury your your sister why why would I say such a thing says not even not even a sister a neighbor here I think that the Torah says Nazir don't bury your own relatives because of the Tsar that he gives the Nazir we don't want nothing to be retired why listen to this they record this don't forget he's a kaddish mentioned that yesterday also that when you have to give Docker there's some she comes before a lady in the hierarchy of Zucker average person he works is unbelievable well at least it gives us a little bit of a swirl didn't make any sense before Tysons foreign who can be metamatists seven relatives but he's not metama you shouldn't go to anybody else's funeral cannot be my time with his relatives and eventually okay foreign mitzvah we just turned to my friends HPA group and their families are made uh uh 348 15 more evolving actually okay you might get the 350 maybe into 400. um we think about these numbers they're mashugana numbers all these people are part of our doing this thing together it's unbelievable okay fighter and this is the beginning right boys we have other plans once pencil is over we're gonna do the next peric the next step the next thing we're gonna do it start I'm gonna go through shots like that huh yeah think about those 30 people in the room now we have 300 and 48 people do Hazara says before we have anything says the gamara why can't we just do a regular clock name real clothes because we have rules that we have better cargo and we have these rules by notes my clothes become god of love we say that should not even be matama to his own father yet he should be my time at uh Zoo maybe not never close because see what it say here oh this is okay I forgot to show this why not Sunday morning okay if you don't know what Tom soil is by now is Tama well we said it ready oh this is my regular coin is so we have rules by regular coins oh if you're going to start learning rules from one thing to another from another from might as well learned so how would I finish this off says again uh the way I would finish it off is the no he he shouldn't be matama no I I do a little bit of a jump here I'm trying to prove that another should not be my time with his relatives they shouldn't hold on it doesn't there's a little bit of a jump here we went out of order ly what do you mean we're here trying to prove that another should not be Madame his own father so you're telling me Oh there's a person that says he should be time at the mace mitzvah hello huh time out forget about what we learned before you are saying we have clawless we have a rule we have a rule that a coin got all his father Thomas's father we have a rule that coordinated is father so we have another what's another do should we learn that from a congoose from you know what you should do you should learn that that another that wasn't the question question is should another should you learn that from ahead that he is his own father or she'll learn that from a kind of it's not a time with his own father yes or no father or not not you can't you can't so you're answering me like this not only the father not woman tomato yes I hear say something more like this it's gonna be like this here check this out from the word love this is the bottom line love is you should not be Madame to your father or anybody else especially anybody else even your own father so what do you learn from each word here's the bottom line then the soya from the word to any one of his close relatives teaches us that that that that limo that we had from revi that it could be even though he's like here's where we learn from the word lock I'm not from love him he could be foreign anybody in the world who's on his way to his own son's brismila and if he doesn't do Bismillah chorus and if you don't bring your carbon face out of chorus teaches us not to do another unbelievable jumping Miss Mitchell comes before even Mitzvahs that have cars let's see inside okay meaning all Craven even his father the closest thing is so from here we can infer isai I looked in the art scroll and I couldn't believe it he says like the example of like hey isn't this a safer that's supposed to explain people how to do so I went to the Hebrew one and over there they say it that's why I like the Hebrew one better in a way no it's a it's a safer for easy learning okay anyways what do we learn from imoi you might learn that if a person is a nausea he's permitted himself on purpose by touching himself I don't know if this is true but maybe you can make it up now what that today we don't have a current peso and if a person eats any type of food it could be an Amanda Drago I don't know I don't know if I want exagger and say like a girl like a carbon basil absolutely okay but I'm saying anything if you take a piece of steak today and say I'm eating this because I want kayak to learn Torah or to be good to my children whatever you eat it it's like a garbage foreign a fork in the road go take care of a dead person on the way or go do a breast meat with his own son which is the key of cars go bring once a year you have a current place that you slept all the way to your slime and on the way now back somebody dropped dead from the the hard way you leave your current pesach you'll do it a different month and you take care of the maintenance says we learn it from here Cuba has five words here enough choice teaches us that doesn't another doesn't take care of people are not related to him mace teaches us the Craven he shouldn't nothing shouldn't be time with him now here's what's interesting he takes the two words uses both of them and he says from here we learn mace mitzvah and he's another together is all these things this limit that we just learned that even if you're on the way to do a Bismillah for your son stop into the basement inside the two words together foreign how do you know this whole idea of when a person has a sugar yeah you're Avi you should be biting why you want to see or he was checked let's bring David it's David a good boy or not mdy kid yeah he's not even going to give up I'm support that's about it so yeah because it says foreign so he asked is that he should marry this girl because he got the puzzle that says he should be check the brothers and the brothers like a great guy so as he said if the brother's a great guy what are you even thinking about it you don't need a cement the rosary guy should marry immediately okay fine [Music] um um so let's stop right over here why not but boys I have a wonderful day foreign