Daily Chidush: Getting MIXED Messages From Different Rabbis

how are you hope you had an amazing week it's been a while since we did a daily K I got a very um disturbing call today uh from a student telling me that um the situation in the religious Jewish world is deteriorating uh to such an extent that um even religious people are confused at what is the truth what is not the truth we both we had a this week Care number eight talking about how to uncover the truth but nonetheless as they always say there's always a way to find the answers in chab and then I'll get to you explain to you why this call was so disturbing so this week's we learn a few interesting things the whole story of saru comes to an end where she goes to the next World andu Shalom cries for her for a period of time and then immediately gets up and moves on to bury her body in accordance with hashem's law now without wasting a moment he goes to find a a grave site for her that's respectable that's honorable and that's at her level and he spares no uh no expense by going to ephon the wicked and uh the people that were around him saying find me you know find me Aon the son of Z let him grant me the cave of M which is his on the edge of his field let him Grant it to me for its full price and it's Smith as an estate for a burial site and then if fron responds after he meets him is no my Lord heed me I have given you the field FR says no I'm giving it to you you don't have to you're a man of God you're the uh priest of God you are the president and the prince of of Hashem I don't you don't have to buy anything for me I'm giving it to you and he does this in the you of the children of and his people but then shortly later Eon comes to AB and it says in verse 14 chapter 23:14 and a replied to abam saying to him my Lord heed me land worth 400 silver shekels between you and me what is it bury your dead wait a minute didn't you just say that you're giving it to me didn't you just say I'm the Prince of God didn't you just say in front of everyone that this is all for free all of a sudden you're saying not only you're saying I have to pay for it but I have to pay 400 Cil 400 shekels silver shekels which according to the math that kazal did if we look at it today it's talking about millions and millions of dollars much more than what it was worth and he's saying not only that if for is saying between you and me what's 400 like it's nothing for you you're a billionaire ofam everybody knows you're what's 400 shekel Ste you so here we see something very interesting we see that Aon changes his mind just like people do today when a politician goes on stage and tells everybody I promise you for a change I promise a change I promise a change to the public he promises a change and then when it comes to private and it's time to sign the document sign a dotted lines there's no change there's no nign there nothing same thing when you have a contractor a contractor comes to you he says listen look at my portfolio I did this job and I did that job and I did this job in reality all of this this entire portfolio that he has is just stuff that he stole from a magazine he didn't do any of those jobs because the jobs if he actually showed you his real jobs You' see that they're all 75% complete because as soon as he got the money he didn't come anymore so you see the times haven't really changed as as says nothing new is Under the Sun if F said one thing in front of people and something different when he was private and then you see the same thing happened later on with abu's top student at the time elel goes and looks for aid for son and after seeing the signs and getting the signs that he was asking hasem to show him elzar finds RKA and he gives her a gift right away and he says who's your father and he meets with her family and they make a whole Feast come and join us and Ela doesn't waste any time just like a didn't waste any time with Eon or the sons of when he was looking for the Cave of the student of his Rabbi he doesn't uh he doesn't waste a time and he goes in verse 49 chapter 24 verse 49 it says says and now if you intend to do kindness and Truth with my master tell me and if not tell me and I will turn to the right or to the left he's saying to laan to betel and to the family if you're going to do kindness to my master abah and give me your daughter R to marry a son then tell me right now I don't want to eat waste time whine dine I'm not a politician I'm not a contractor I'm not a businessman I'm here to find a wife for my master son if you're going to do it tell me right now if you're going to do it I'll eat with you I'll D with you whatever you want but let's get to business let's cut to the chase in the beginning it says and then La answered and said the matter stemmed from Hashem we can say to you neither bad or good saying to him listen you're saying that you got all these signs from Hashem we can't say if it's good or bad it's hem we have am we believe we do we go to betet at least a few times a year we doine at least a few times a year we eat kosher when you're here you know we believe we believe in our heart whatever you say you got a sign from Hashem whatever you want just eat just eat my friend but then midash tells us the reason why they wanted him to eat is because they saw how much money elzar came with he had 10 camels with employees full of gold and silver and diamonds and all types of wonderful things and he's coming in before he even knew if RKA was going to be accepted as a as as as the wife of his master you already gave her gold he already gave her presents they said this guy has so much money let's just take him out let's be nice to him wine and dine him throw a couple bits of poison in the soup and that's it finished Halas we're done we're done we take everything he has and we that's it so in reality in the beginning they were just tell lesson We believe We believe We Believe not because they believe they believed in killing him and kazal tells us that in this moment they put poison and this is why after they finished eating and they went in the in the morning in verse in verse um 54 they ate and they drank he and the man who were with him and they spent the night when they arose next the next morning he said send me to my master so the next morning says okay send me to my master but then we find out something very interesting her brother and mother said let the maiden remain with us a year or 10 months wait a minute why is what's happening here first of all we see on a plain verse that there's a major change here number one they changed their mind said let Rebecca stay here for 10 months or a year what happened to sending her away but even more interestingly is in the previous verses it says that Lavan and betwell the father Lavan the brother of Rebecca and Vell her father were the ones that responded but here it says the brother and the mother where is the father kazal explains to us that the father betel died because hem sent a Mal an angel from sham to switch the bows and make sure that betel the wicked drank the poison that he was planning on giving elazar so now that he died Lan has a problem because he really didn't mean to send his sister all he wanted was the gold all he wanted was the diamonds but now he says listen let us stay with us for 10 months or a year more than her father and alza says don't delay me do not delay me now that Hashem had made my journey successful send me and I will go to my master let's stop wasting time and then all of a sudden Lavan says let us call the maiden let us call RKA and ask her decision said listen I really don't have much of a choice I already said yes now you're saying you know you want to go right now I don't have much so maybe since I didn't really ask Rebecca if she wanted to go in the first place let me ask her maybe she hopefully she's going to say no hopefully she's going to say no give him some money he's he's got he's got to back against the wall they asked Rebecca in verse 58 they called Rebecca and said to her will you go with this man and she said I will go so here leavon is has no option but to let her go but now we have a few questions we have a few very interesting questions first and foremost anyone that knows or has ever met a Jew knows the number one trait that the entire nations know about Jews is we know how to do business we know how to do business so what kind of businessman is a and let alone what kind of businessman is his student elel where they show all of their cards on day one a comes and says to the sons of he says listen I'm looking for and I'm willing to pay a full price for it El Lea says I'm looking for this girl and I'm want to pay every price for it the teacher and the student do the same thing where's the negotiations where's the wisdom what's happening here so first and foremost we have to understand that just like he did everything in the previous par with full nothing has changed when Hashem told him listen I want you to bring your son your only son the one you love e as an offering abam didn't ask any questions oh hey AEM you know listen he's the one he's the only one he's the one he said my descendants are going to come from they're going to be like the stars of the heaven they're going to be great they're going to be amazing what happened you change your mind AEM didn't you say that you don't change your mind what happened didn't you tell me not to start telling everybody else to stop killing their kids for offerings to their false gods no abah didn't do any of that as soon as hem said it it actually said that abah woke up extra early in the morning to go do the mitvah that hasem commanded him to do it didn't matter that he didn't understand the same concept goes here knows that he has a mitvah to do he has to bury his wife and as I heard is a from rabah which was a very nice the reason why he did not negotiating is the very same reason of why elzo is not negotiating when you want the world to know that what you're doing is extremely valuable you don't look at price you don't look at the opinions of others oh he paid too much oh he did this oh he should do that you don't care about any of that you go for the top as a matter of fact elza wanted to make sure he pays extra just to make sure thatan knows that she's important needs to know that she's going to the most important person on Earth if one needs to know and all of the people need to know that there's no price that's too expensive for s menu our matriarch our sadik the one that taught us that beauty does not necessarily have to come at a price that beauty doesn't necessarily need to be shared with the world where we need to expose our skin and make sure that everybody knows what we look like naked menu is known for her modesty despite being and noted as the most beautiful woman that ever lived this is why the Angels when they came to abah ain's house they said where is your wife what the Angels don't know where his wife is of course they know but she's so modest that she knew I can't even hang out with the guys I as my husband is with these men I have to go to my place over here because it's not modest for a woman to just go hang out with the guys with these strangers it's not my father it's not my brother it's just some strangers it's not like today where the girls having a football party with the guys because they're friends so we see modesty is not just clothing but also behavior and is telling us for someone like that for for for something like that there's no price that's too much there's no negotiations there's no negotiation that's needed and he's going into it with complete amuna because he knows that no person has ever and will ever lose by havinga inem and working accordingly not being one of those people saying yeah yeah I have am I havea but they can't sleep at night because they're not sure where the rent's coming next week or one of these people that says yeah yeah I havea I havea but they have to work overtime because Hey listen you got to pay the uh the bills and the vacation and sometimes you have to skip sh t no my friends there's no such thing as skipping sh T there's no such thing as over either why because you have to prioritize in your life if you have you know that you don't need to work over time your p is already dictated from as it says in in a couple of different places your is dictated from sh on until sh so nonetheless you have hereu working and doing and living with 100% am and his student is doing the same and this is why they don't need to negotiate but then you see that after elel leaves with Rifka we see towards the end of the par the sees from far away this man it says in verse 64 chapter 24: 64 it says Rebecca raises her eyes and saw itak she inclined while upon the camel and she said to the servant to elazar who is that man walking in the field towards us and the servant said he is my master and she then took the veil and covered herself why did we cover herself what did she need to cover herself for he just is going to meet our future husband if anything she go dancing like they do today in the clubs no no my friends if God need knew this is an important man this is a man that she's going to spend the rest of her life with this is a man that's holy and his eyes cannot be tainted by anything that's not holy and she knew that immediately she has to cover herself which leads me to the point of this entire shoe my student called me today and told me something heartbreaking she said she just came back from a convention with all of these big rabbis and I were telling people listen you should do this you should do that you should do this you do that but when the issue of modesty came up very lightweight saying listen don't tell people that they should be modest because the women that are not modest at causing other people to sin absolutely not never tell them that tell them that they're nice tell them that they're holy tell them that it's good for them and all of this lightweight stuff that as we all know and anyone that's already been listening to me for the last 19 minutes knows doesn't work no one starts doing chuva because you tell them listen it's nice for you to do chuva it's nice for you to start putting clothes on if they agreed with you they would have already done it so the question this holy woman is asking me is what happened to the rabbis why aren't they telling people the consequences that it says in the Torah about lack of modesty why is anybody talk about parat Bak verse 1 chapter 25 Israel settled in the shim and the people began to commit harlotry with the daughters of moav here we learn something extraordinary we see that Hashem put us in a wonderful situation of giving us the Torah giving us a second chance after we Idol worshiped giving us a chance after we've complained countless times in the desert giving us a chance to be the chosen people and yet when it came to the sin of immodesty he didn't warn us he didn't say stop it hey don't do that no immediately it says that he punished and killed 24,000 of us in an instant and it was only stopped because of the zealousness of pinhas when he took the spear and killed the leader of all the people of Shimon that were leading the sin him and the woman that he was with Cosby Zim and Cosby the zealousness of Pinas saved the nation but there was no warning here there was no warning whatsoever why aren't the rabbis mentioning that why aren't the rabbis mentioning that hey your immodesty is not only bad for you it's bad for everyone around you because when a man looks at a woman that's not modest he's sinning and even if he doesn't fulfill the sin with you he's going to go home and even if he has a wife he's going to be thinking about you and there's AAR about it that talks about of how of a significant sin it is to such an extent that there's a meaning there's a debate of whether a man that's thinking about another woman while he's intimate with his own wife whether the son is considered his son or not or her son or not whether it's considered a m whether it's considered a legitimate child one way or another we know it's a problematic child why aren't the rabbis mentioning this why aren't the rabbi is mentioning that in the beginning of M it says that a man is given a Woman based on his actions if he's righteous he gets a modest woman and if he's wicked he gets an immodest woman why isn't if he's righteous he gets a righteous woman if he's wicked he gets a Wicked Woman why is it modest and immodest because Rashi explains to us if he's righteous he's going to get a woman that's modest because she's much more likely to be righteous but if he's wicked he's going to get someone that's not modest why because if she's not modest it's impossible for her to ever be righteous in the eyes of Hashem in the eyes of people is meaningless my friends meaningless what people think is good or bad is meaningless in heaven it's what God decreed what God Said and if AEM is AEM of the Torah he's AEM all the time the same rules he gave us 3,300 years ago that did not allow IM modesty apply today so to answer to the question of why aren't rabbis especially some notable rabbis mentioning that modesty is a really big problem and generally it's a very lightweight issue it's a very be nice it's for the same reason of why they don't tell you that someone that violat Shabbat by driving to sh is not only not considered someone that's making a mitvah by praying in the but also is not even considered a part of the Manan because he's considered according to according to the ram according to the according to the according to the in seven different places according to the five books of Moses and several other places pretty much in every single book that's ever written about Shabbat he's considered 100% Idol worshipper that's what he's considered someone that drives to Sho on Shabbat is considered 100% Idol worshipper so the fact that he's driving to shul is meaningless he's not making aah because his prayers are not answered as a matter of fact if he says kadish you're not allowed to say Amen so why aren't the rabbi saying that why is this guy that just did chuva a few years ago telling people this finally joining Rabbi mrai and a couple of other rabbis that have been saying it for years why because my friends the same thing that I saw in the business world is what I see in the religious World unfortunately money is a very big motivator for people's actions and lack of amuna makes money an even bigger motivator if someone has no amuna then they're going to do ex exactly what Aon did if fron thought that listen this guy he's my Pala even though I promised everyone that I'm going to give it to him for free because he's a man of God because he's a tadik because of this because it's the right thing to do listen he also already told me ahead of time he's W to pay any price he's W to pay any think so what so he said it I'm going to take advantage of it he said he's driving to SCH I'm going to jump in the car so that's what Aon did he had no so he said listen not only am I going to charge you when I said I didn't I'm not going to charge you but I'm going to charge you full price I'm going to charge you 400 silver shekels signing my name forever to not having AA which is the reason why there's a letter in his name missing forever if one was written several letters five letters but then after that if you notice it there's one letter missing for his lack of for his lack of trust of hem for being a wicked person for going against the rules of Hashem and going against one of hashem's soldiers Abu somebody doesn't havea that's what they do but when somebody does havea they say what they know is true and unfortunately when people are constantly struggling against money they have to meet their bills and they have to meet their obligations and the kids going to Yesa is $1,000 a month these days and then know if it's a better Yesa it's even more and if it's a bigger house because you have to fit in it's a nice community so you have to get yourself a million doll house because the $400,000 house is not good enough anymore and the car that's only $30,000 is not good enough you have to get a Lexus or Mercedes or whatever because you have to fit the profile and you have to do all of these things that I'm myself used to do in the business world because that's the world I lived in but the difference is I had no Torah the difference between Aon and and and and the rabbis is that he has no Torah he has nothing he has an excuse to be an idiot an imbecile a lack of a Mah person I had an excuse also I had nothing what do the rabbis have unfortunately I have no answer to that the only answer I have is that they have a very big so although we're not supposed to bring bring a on chabbat page 54 calls it as it is when asked when Hashem was asked why did you punish the rabbis in the destruction of the BET mikdash before you punish the wicked people the answers because they didn't rebuke the people they didn't tell him the truth they didn't tell him to stop driving on Shabbat they didn't tell the women to start putting clothes on they didn't tell the people to stop making new rules because it's convenient they didn't tell people the truth so I punish them first because they're not considered fully righteous if they're not telling people the truth and according to re r that put the mishna together the mishna that from there we have the as says in in several other places in the a person that does not rebuke when he has an opportunity does not tell somebody the truth when he has an opportunity takes on the entire sin himself a rabbi that knows is Ki is driving on Shabbat a rabbi that knows that his K is full of emodest women a rabbi that knows that his seminar is full of people that have no idea what the truth is and does not take the opportunity to tell them is going to take all of their sins this doesn't mean that they're skyfree and they continue doing what they're doing they also get punished for it but nonetheless the rabbis that are not telling the truth will see them in the same cell and G unfortunately it's time for us to tell people the truth because it's not fair the fact that people people have no that Hashem runs the world and that you you can still people tell people the truth and they'll still give you donations you can tell people the truth and your bills will still be paid you can tell people the truth and you'll still be able to sell some books and just in case you're wondering those books that tell the truth they sell too it's called some of the books about M all of them from the previous generations tell the truth you look at the books of R Pinas they tell the truth he sold big sellers all the softy ones that tell people oh be nice to people be polite Love Is Love love AEM all this love love love stuff yes it's all wonderful but it's only after you have it's only after you have fear without fear you have nothing so everything that it says in the Torah is real and I'll finalize it with one point when people ask me why is it that your teaching is always on the head tell people it's tough stuff you know guy that violat shabat is not Jewish and the IM modest woman is going to be punished severely and getn and all this horrible horrible things that are destroying ears why do you say these things when the vast majority of rabbis telling people they're wonderful and they're trying to help them with their day-to-day life and schlom and they try and tell you how amazing mosenu was what what kind of Torah are you teaching versus theirs and there's a very simple answer the rabbis that are telling you only wonderful things are teaching parts of the Torah no questions asked they're not teaching the Quran they're not teaching New Testament they're teaching the Torah but nonetheless parts of the Torah what we try to do is what our teachers taught us which is to teach the whole thing teach the entire Torah not just parts of it not just the stuff you like not just the stuff that sounds good not just the stuff that's polite and politically correct you teach everything that God wrote why because if he didn't want you to know it he wouldn't write it he wouldn't put it in a book he wouldn't put it in the he wouldn't put it in a z he wouldn't put it in the five books of Moses or the tanak he wouldn't put it in existence it would still be a secret but if he put it there that means it's for you to know and it's time for us to listen to Abu and ALU lived his life with fulla because he knew that hasem runs the world El lived accordingly not because he had the same connection with hem but because he listened to his teacher because he listened to his master these rabbis have amazing teachers whether it's the laich rebi or it's the teachers they read about in the books or teachers from even just one or two generations ago and if you read any of these teachers books if you listen to any of these teachers work that's actually been recorded you'd see that they taught the entire Tora so what I suggest today is it's time for us to start listening to our teacher to our teachers like El and teach people the entire T because if we don't that entire sin they're making is going to go on us maym continue to bless you and we all do ch