Ensuring this Unprecedented Achdus Doesn’t Fade Away, Rabbi Shmuel Reichman # 177

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talk about tonight and why we here welcome everyone to another let's get real with Coach here we are number 177 talking about with a lot of and it's a big to have you on again we're going to be discussing a very interesting topic talking about before were they had to have that's the only way they could be is if they had but we know that it wasn't only that they had the akos it was also they were all healed physically and emotionally spiritually I think that helps to get the AK if a person himself is broken if a person himself is missing it's hard to connect to others so for to get the to and to have the they first had to be healed on on all levels and we know um there's the famous bov that says if you see something if you see something from um something happening to others something that you don't like doesn't work for you it's hard for you to connect to it it's something that you need to look inside see what comes up for yourself and why did Hashem show it to you and that takes us to that inner work that inner world that many of us here you know coming every Sunday night and listening to these different ideas hopefully we realize that a lot of the work is to close our eyes and see go inside and understand what's bothering me what's coming up what are my thoughts how do I take it what could I do so before before they came to the of the they had to be okay with themselves and uh K Isel now many years in Galos after so many years we're we're broken we're so far from where we need to be and there's so much sorus going on and many times it's hard it's hard to connect because of the Brokenness that every individual is you know and then to connect to others but when we go through AAR when when when when they push us to the wall the yish guide comes out and the truth comes out and then unfortunately the the the enemy shows it to us you know by by screaming Jew you know some people try to hide it but eventually yes I am Jewish and I'm proud to be a Jew and then we get together and we try to do whatever we can to hold us to you know hold on tight so here we are after October 7th there was a big change there's nothing to talk about and it's really really unbelievable to see what happened and many people say this it's easier to see it's easier to see it they feel it they live it how every type they're all together and and on one Mission but I think you you could see it also around the world you see you know yes you do see a lot of negativity and hate but when the Jews come together like every type the Jews all Jewish and they come out and they support which is amazing it brings it out and RAB I believe you were you know the past few week traveling the world doing some K in a professional way with all of the you know the places that you go meet all different types of Jews or non-jews and making KES talking to everybody you know if you can sit down and talk hopefully you can you know share and reasonable in a reasonable way so that people understand no one is we're not here to kill people and uh it's it's hard you know the youngsters over there they're all protesting how could Israel do this but what do they understand so I'm sure you've done a lot of K and here you are thank you so much for coming and being part of Coach manahan tonight and let's have that discussion beautiful okay let's get into it tonight's Che was titled Whispers of unity safeguarding the unfathomable ensuring this unprecedent doesn't Fade Away Mish is bestelling author International speaker and founder of the CEO of self-mastery Academy he's also a business executive leadership coach consultant and a very unique approach based on tah values and principles he has studied at Harvard you Chicago reads and Yu University his bestselling book to Journey to the ultimate self serves as an inspiring gateway to deeper Jewish thought to enjoy more of's contact to contact him or to learn more about his Services go to his website.com thank you for coming back again the floor is yours first a huge to what you both do it's it's unbelievable this itself is what brings this Unity to CL now I'm gonna take the Tony Robin's hat partially off tonight and put a little bit of head on I I start 99.9999 at infm of my percent of my sharum and lectures and presentations with the story I'm G to make an exception this one time because I think the greatest story in recent history is a story that we're all experiencing right now the past past four or five months has been a combination of the most tragic and the most inspiring in about every way and I've you know I spent my life teaching all parts of krong the world is a whole as well but really all parts of K and what we've been experiencing we've been witnessing ever since the greatest tragedy in race and Jewish history is the greatest kind of bluring of boundaries of classic hhos and World Views ideology political perspectives Etc within clell and it's just one question that everyone's basically had from the beginning is how do I put everything else on hold and how do I help the Jewish people and you know the I the most inspiring for a lot of people is the religious and non-religious where a lot of a lot of the the non-religious Jews kind of felt connected but I I'll tell you a much deeper layer a much deeper layer I've spent probably the past decade teaching all different areas of kille whether it's the right-wing Community the Ki Community the more Hamish open-minded rightwing Community then you have the Yu oou type of community where I have my Wu background got from Wu got a bunch of degrees from Wu I speak in the elite intellectual world with my Harvard University of Chicago background I speak in kir of world all the time I do a lot of work in the Jewish business world political commentary world what we've experienced since October 7th is something I've never seen in my life and it's something that I think a lot of people never saw which is an I would say reflection of a much deeper topic and a much deeper problem that lies at the very heart and core of what it means to be alive but also for everyone listening right now what it means to be a Je and what you realize from this is that the problem is reflected because of the partial solution that we've been experiencing because for the past four or five months everyone's felt United we've had a common enemy the enemy is external everyone's been on the same team everyone's come together and it's basically the world against the Jewish people it's inspiring it's powerful what's happened for the past 50 100 a thousand years is basically moments of inspiration right a day an hour a week where something like this happens and then you revert back to normal right so the classic formula of the the the psyche of a human being is you have your normal identity you have your family your community your ideology your world view your way of life how you live your life what you're doing could be your profession could be your metaphysical outlook on life it could uh the relationships in the Reb you have you went to the Seminary you went to Etc and then there's a terrorist attack then there's a a something you know whether it's meon whether it's a a boss bombing whether something happens and all of a sudden clol wakes up right it's kind of like momentary Awakening from our hypnosis of the normal state of existence and there's this uncons ious unable sense ofr is one needs me K needs us just put everything on hold for a minute everyone doin everyone says to hel him everyone gets the not the notice of what's going on and there's this like inspiring sensation of like something's happening something's different something kind of like the the norm has been ruptured but then whether it's an hour 24 hours or week it becomes a memory as in we remember when there was a moment of this and I would say that for those who've had their pulse their finger on the pulse for the past four or five months the first week was the most insane thing you've experienced if you were kind of aware of everything going on social media WhatsApp groups whether you involved whether you're hearing about it whether you were going to things in your sh in your community what whatever was you felt that this time was different and the reason why it was different is because unlike every other time in recent history the tragedy didn't let up right so normally there's a momentary tragedy everyone wakes up the tragedy is gone the damage has been done and we kind of feel the damage for a day a week maybe somewhat for a month when it comes to what just happened it got worse and worse and worse the got more intense more intense more intense we needed more help from everyone not less things were getting more exponentially potent and impactful and tragic and uncertain and crazy and people were doing more heroic things all of Cl was coming together on the Battlefront in Artis everyone's trying to fund it financially everyone's doing everyone's learning to H him everyone's trying to make a see him everyone's taking on extra learning everyone's doing everyone's just questioning whether Mia's here is coming happened already everything's crazy and you kind of wait for things to get back to normal and they don't and now the new normal is this abnormal which is strange because it's this kind of constant uncertainty but for the 99% this has become normal enough that you can numb out the craziness of the initial stage and now it's become the new abnormal normal and for people had their finger on the post from the beginning you can kind of feel the intensity of the slowly simmer slowly retract and slowly go back to normal boundaries even though it's not the same as it was before October 7th it just gets you wondering about the the same fundamental questions which is basically why has Aus always been a struggle with incl and it's very easy to say like extreme like I believe in Torah they don't believe in Torah religious versus non- religious that's not true right it's every strand of Judaism there are people who focus more on there are people who focus more on most self-development there are people who focus more on learning gamar in depth there are people who focus more on philosophy and cabalistic type of worldviews and then there are people who focus more on the importance of then there are people who focus on their Strand ofas and their strand of this and their strand of this and there's a million different variations of krael and if you have your Abby and your community and you're kahila and you're this and you're that there's this kind of self-identified hagara and Boundary that creates a fundamental level of disunity where the question becomes like what is the ideal like what would the ideal client ra look like like how is how how can one argue this is the ideal and then the more fundamental question is what is the idea and how do we get this way and then the question is always why why what is the mechanics of what always happens as in if you take a 100 tragedies that K's experienced in the past couple decades it's always the same formula and this is just a hyperexpanded more potent version of the same formula so it's not that this is so fundamentally different as much as this is on a different skill of quality and quantity and it's kind of just scaled to the greatest degree that we've experienced in recent history so what I want to open up and this is this is a vulnerable conversation because this is you know coach we're going to get real um but this is not an easy conversation because this is this gets at the very Cornerstone of how people build their lives how people build their identities how if you want to go into aanus this is how you get a job if you want to lead a community this is how it works like this is how kly is structured and you want to ask a lot of questions number number one is how do we improve number two is how to get this way number three is what is the ideal is it just one blob of Cl kol it's never really been that way so why not and is there a deeper reason behind that and I want to frame this you know not getting back to I don't I usually introduce with a story we'll have a story now so I want to show one of my favorite stories a story of a person who had a dream of a giant treasure that was buried somewhere in France so he thought nothing of it went through his day went back to sleep and night he had the same dream and he's getting a little suspicious never had the same dream twice in a row and then he has the dream a third time so he says you know what I'm GNA go and I'm gonna book a ticket I'm gonna figure out what's going on so in his dream he was always under the same drawbridge finds out where the bridge is flies out across the world goes to France goes to the drawbridge starts digging and the guard of the draw Bridge comes and says excuse me what are you doing you're trespassing you're damaging public property you know I'm going to have to arrest you if you don't stop and he figured you know I came all the way here I might as well just be vulnerable and open and he says you know what I'll tell you the truth the truth is I've had a dream for the past couple nights that there's a treasure buried underneath this bridge and I just came here to try to figure out if it's actually buried here so the guard starts laughing and he says if I listen to every single dream I've had you know what for the past three nights I've had dream then New Jersey on 2793 West Chase Avenue there's a giant treasure buried in the backyard you know I I don't go flying across the world to pursue every single dream I have so this guy's thinking to himself wait a second that's my address gets the first flight back flies back to his house goes to his backyard starts digging find the treasure and it's it's a famous story that told in a hundred different ways but the idea is that very often what you spend your whole life looking for is actually what you already had when you set off to find that what you're looking for and very often the journey in life is not so much going out there but going deep within there's a famous idea that the first Russian astronaut when he came back down people ask him did you did you find God as if God was some gray bearded man in the sky that was waiting for us to come here and you started laughing said no of course I didn't find God because a lot of people think that you know the truth is out there that God is out there somewhere in the sky when you know the deeper idea is that the deeper you go into yourself the deeper you go inside of yourself into the world of ideas and then deeper beyond the world of ideas that's where you start finding Hashem that's where you start finding the truth that's not a thing out there so much as the source of things and the access point that you have to that is going deeper within yourself that's why the essence of wisdom is self awareness it's going deeper inside yourself and that's really the essence of life is that we're all earners we're all searching and we're not searching for something out there we're searching for something deeper within ourselves when it comes toas it's the same thing you know there's two types of AAS there's akas where people don't fight so it's the absence of conflict and then there's the of of Oneness Oneness not where there's two parts that are connected but where there's real Synergy where there's real synthesis where you get to the root that is beyond the sum of its parts and the question is what is this this deep what is this deep inspiring kind of hej inang that seems so inaccessible and why do it seem so difficult as in why why is it fleeing why do we always tap into it for a moment during these tragedies but we never maintain it so I want to do it I want to frame this discussion because this is not this is the year to answer that question because that's I wouldn't say the unanswerable question as much as it takes a lifetime to delve into the world of Truth to try to really take it seriously because what I love about everyone who's here right now and in these types of conversations that there's different types of sheer there's shearim where you go to the shear with the answer that you already have looking for the speaker to reinforce what you already think and then there's the people who go in with a real open mind trying to learn trying to think is and if you got a better Paradigm or idea would you replace one you currently have if the truth required you to reshape your life around it would you reshape your life around the truth or would you only condense and finze the truth to fit into the life you already have because that's why I love you know I'm someone who's you call F from birth but the beauty of people who are balich Chua who are who are seeking to return so to speak is they don't pretend like they have the answers they know that they don't know so they seek to learn and grow whereas people who think they have the answers there's no greater disservice you can do to yourself because then you can't grow you can't learn so what I'm about to open up is probably something that would take thousands and thousands of Sheeran but I would say that this is a good introduction into the story of the greatest story of all time and that's the story of the Jewish people and to frame that I want to basically frame the essence of a great inspirational story a great inspirational story is one that we all love right person starts from the bottom the underdog it's hard no one really gives them a chance but they start to rise and grow and they have a dream they have a vision they have a goal and as they start to pursue their goal whether it's to achieve their purpose in life to get married to arrive at the ultimate truth to connect to Hashem to change the world wherever the journey whatever the story is there's always the same step that follows that first stage of inspiration which is everything seems to fall apart right you face a challenge you face a struggle things get difficult and somehow you find a way to persever and you find someone to help you and Mentor you and you start learning and you start growing you start achieving you start building yourself you start over overcoming struggles and you realize the struggles are building you not breaking you apart and every time you ripped or get ripped apart you put yourself back together even stronger than before and you're almost there and you you see yourself getting closer and the main character of the story is so close and you can literally see it and all of a sudden everything falls apart everything you lose everything and you wonder what was the purpose of even starting in the first place it's all worthless it's all pointless and there's no there's no point of even getting back up because there's nothing to build upon everything's lost but somehow you find that willpower that amuna that Faith you find the ability to go deeper within yourself and you muster up the courage and the and you somehow are able to start getting back going and you realize that everything seemed to Fallen apart but it was really just waiting for you to make that last decision to get back up and somehow you're able to win save the day arrive at the destination etc etc now that is the Jewish story and what I want to do now is I want to frame the story of aus with the story of the Jewish story and I want to frame it there's a million different starting points that you can go by um you can start with Adam Harish you can start with Noah but we take a sh to explain why we should start with Abraham but we're going to start with abrah Abraham's Journey begins in the middle right we hear Abraham's Journey starting with is actually according to the middle of Abraham's Journey the whole backdrop the whole Foundation the whole kind of background story Prelude is a whole different story which is not Abraham's Journey that we read in the Torah but it's abah's Journey what we'd call the spiritual journey of trying to find out the truth say that saw a beer AB saw a building that was on fire and he talk about him smashing the idols of his father's house all these different stories but essentially the background story of Abraham's story is not the tenis Yos that we see Abraham overcoming the story that we don't hear about is Abraham's story towards the infinite meaning that when you wake up in your life 15 16 17 18 years old you start to get a heightened sense of intellect you start to get heightened sense of selfawareness and abstractness you start to realize that you're self-aware and that you're aware of your own existence you have no idea why you're here you have no idea why you exist you have no idea what the truth is and Abraham's journey is basically a journey of someone who says what in the world is going on in the world why am I here what's my purpose what is truth what's the nature of reality and Aram goes from a finite world and a finite existence as the rabam explains he uprooted every single attempted Foundation of Truth and went deeper and deeper to the ultimate root until he said that this finite limited corporeal World stems from an infinite all perfect foundational root and he went to the ultimate source of existence and the midra says that once he realized that the world didn't essentially have its own independent existence but it actually had a Creator that's when Hashem appeared to abam and basically said so this the whole stage of the Torah version of abam is stage two the first stage is the journey from the finite to the infinite for someone who is so trapped in this limited world who says I don't care about being social aced I about the truth I about answering the fundal question of where am I why am I who am I what's the nature of existence what is going on and I'm going to give up everything to answer those questions and he realized upon taking that philosophical Journey that everything finite comes from the infinite everything limited comes from the Limitless everything that will die and Fade Away comes from something Immortal and ever existent and he rooted himself back to the ultimate root of existence but here's where it comes fascinating Abraham's challenge in terms of the Torah version of Abraham was Hashem basically saying can you reverse the process it's easy to be a Buddhist it's easy to say that the ultimate truth is in the Capal the truth is on the hierarchy of truths is that the infinite is more true than the finite the spiritual is more true than the physical but can you reinus the infinite within the finite can you live a Transcendent life in this physical world that's the essence as the mar explains of Mitzvah which is s to connect can you live an infinitely meaningful life in a physical world or can you only live a fragment of Life by saying I have to choose one over the other because if you have to choose one over the other you're going to choose the infinite you're going to choose the spiritual unless you're going to be an atheist by saying I'm going to choose a physical over the spiritual and reject the spiritual I'm going to choose the limited over the Limitless and reject the Limitless I'm going to enjoy my finite existence and I'm going to remove the potentiality of something Limitless by either justifying it to myself that doesn't exist or saying I prefer the limited the physical the finite existence I have so Abraham's real journey journey and the tenos were all about Abraham going from Ab to Abraham which is going from someone who understands the truth to someone who can live out the truth in this world that's why every single thing that Abraham does is expressing the infinite into a finite World which is the mitah Brasa taking the most physical organ in the human being the most potentially animalistic and uplifting to something transcendently spiritual it's why Abraham's mitzvah when it comes to um uh when it came to host and guests was to help them not do Mitzvah but specifically to say braas because as the Mah explains say AB is recognizing that everything physical that is giving you sustenance is coming from a spiritual Source it's recognizing that it comes from hasem so Abraham's Journey was essentially becoming abam and that's why when Hashem tells him to become the nation of the Jewish people abam says wait a second I can't because if you remember how rash explains it Abraham told Hashem you're telling me that I'm going to become the father of the Jewish people but I see within the DNA of reality within the mazos that I'm not going to have any children explains as rash explains he took him outside the system of Nature and said the person who lives an infinite life outside this world is not going to have children but your job is to become Abraham your job is to become someone who can bring that truth into this world and this is where it becomes fascinating because Abraham's journey is doing the impossible which is becoming a person capable of doing the impossible which is someone who achieved the heightened level of transcendent truth to come back down to this world and that's the spiritual concept of laughter without getting into the the depth of that why y's name is laughter because he's an impossibility right you laugh when a sentence doesn't end the way you elant right you laugh when things are unexpected things go in an unexpected Direction so AB became Abraham by doing that he was able to bring in the impossible into reality he brought Y into existence and then we get the climax of Abraham and y's Journey which is the a in the AA there's really two parts of the AA one part is for Abraham the other part is for for Abraham Hashem tells Abraham something fascinating before the a journey which is right it's the second why is it the second because for Abraham this was the most fascinating and fundamental challenge one could ever imagine Abraham's Journey was to take the truth that he had basically G on a journey of connecting to at the deepest possible level and now came back and through challenge after challenge was able to embody that and transform himself is someone who can live a life ifs in this world and Hashem then tells him as in everything you just did on your journey you have one final challenge are you willing to give it all up meaning what meaning if Abraham carries through with the a what happens you lose is which means you lose your continuity you lose your future you lose the ability to continue the legacy of everything you've built on a fundamental level as in your child your progeny your continuation will cease to exist and when you die you will cease to exist number two everything you embodied will also see ceas to exist as in the amass a life of synthesis of living life of Truth in this world if you kill your son you will fundamentally oppose everything you've developed your entire life as an embodying me of living out the truth of living out of living out someone who expresses truth through how they express themselves physically and again we can give 25 sh on the but the fundamental challenge was this if willing to give it up you can keep it right because Abraham was willing to give it up he was willing to do the AA that was the only challenge are you willing to do it within the that's why retroactively say that within the words that Hashem told Abraham was never an actual requirement to fulfill the AA and that was how Hashem never told him do the don't do the a the entire point was to see if was willing to give up what he thought was the truth whatever Hashem said was the truth because here's the real distinction if AB is not willing to do the AA it means that he would rather hold on to the truth that he had obtained than to live out the truth has told him to express which really means that Aon would be serving himself but if you're willing to give up your entire life's work and everything you've devoted yourself to for the sake of the truth it shows that you're not doing this for yourself you're doing it for Hashem and if you're willing to give it all up then you get to keep it it's most powerful thing and this is something which almost every leader needs to really think about is are you doing this for your ego for yourself for your own sense of self-esteem for your sense of legacy and how people perceive you or are you doing this because you actually want to live a life of truth if you actually want to live life of Truth you'll do whatever that is if you want to do it for yourself you'll make sure to structure everything and contain it into a way that works best for you so when a is willing to give up the truth that he had lived his life for for the sake of what Hashem told him to do which by definition means the truth that's when he got to keep the truth that he lived his life for and survived but here's the other side of it for the question is not are you willing to give up your life's work for the truth the questions are you willing to die for the truth and that's a very question because what's the purpose of life the purpose of life is to live a life of purpose a life of Truth the highest value on on the hierarchy of values is truth so if you would rather live than live a life of truth that means that you you value life more than truth which means that you've essentially deconstructed the hierarchy of values and you value your own existence rather than truth existence because you would rather live outside the realm of Truth than live a life of truth that's the whole principle of isem tells it's brought down in sanedrin y and that for all the mitos in the Torah hasem says that you should live by them not die for that meaning you're allowed to violate any Mitzvah any commandment to save your life except for the big three idolatry adultery and murder why the concept is something along the lines of violating those Aus are such an egregious violation of the fundamentals of truth that it's better to die and not walk outside the world of Truth than to violate those in live so the question essentially that Hashem is asking is is are you willing to give up your life for the truth now we can give I give a three- hour share on this in terms of where Hamas corrupts us to the ultimate extreme where they fundamentally value death and they fundamentally pursue death to the point of hating life so that the purpose is to die and leave this world is supposed to live a life of truth but the question is not do you want to leave this world do you want to die for the truth as the ra says is a is then you have to live by the truth the purpose of life is not to die for the truth it's to live by the truth but the only way you can live by the truth is to Value the truth so much that you'd rather die than live outside the realm of Truth so what does say says yes I'm willing to die for the truth he tells that's why it's called it's not Abraham's challenge that's the real Foundation of's willing to bind himself knowing that fundamentally he won't be able to resist the temptation to want to live and asking AB to tie him down because what happens when he gets tied down he'll be able to follow through with his commitment to live a life of Truth which in this case means to give up your life for the truth and kazal actually saying a very deep sense that this was the first example that thear says that when they came back they found the ashes of by of the because in a deep sense the AA did happen to accept we're not going to go now again you know all these things require sh upon sh because these are all very very deep topics we're going to really just go through a little bit of the the brief Cliff Notes now but the idea the real essence of this idea is that once was willing to give up his life for the truth Hashem said now you can live in this world by the truth so you have Abraham who's fundamentally rooted in this world who tries to ascend and leave this world in terms of trying to connect the infinite once he does that hasem says now go back down into this world then you have y who wants to live but is willing to transcend this world is willing to ascend and give up his life for the truth and once he does that Hashem says now you can stay in this world so you have two polarities right you have one who which is the infinite being expressed into the finite you have which is a finite that's ascending towards the infinite and the ideal was then basically filtered down into Yakov and ASV so Yakov and asov the ideal relationship between them was supposed to be that Dynamic right you have you know polarities in every sense of life you have male female you have spiritual and physical you have uh the world of you know intellect and emotion you have the world of religion and science you have all of these different players you have Torah versus business and commerce so the polarity of was supposed to be the ideal marriage where yakob was supposed to represent the spiritual the e as an something infinite that's being expressed into this physical world and ASA was supposed to be the finite the more physical partner in that relationship which you know if you have any Business Partnership you're always going to have different people one person is going to be the idealist who comes up with the ideas the other person is going to be the marketer who practically enforces it when it comes to a community you're going people who are you practically taking care of things and you be have have Visionaries who are going to understand the big picture and the Big Ideas when it comes to a you're going to have the r who is giving sh you're going to have the people who you know kind of are building the community around it and supporting it so the ideal relationship was supposed to be where Yakov represents that spiritual Foundation asov is the physical foundation and together they harmonize into the ideal but asov rejected his role because the biggest struggle is thinking of yourself as Tel thinking of yourself a secondary is unimportant so in every relationship there's always going to be a struggle of am I actually equal am I important or am I just enabling and helping you and you're basically the main character in the story and everything's really about you and I'm basically just an insignificant supporting character it's the fundamental human story it's all history it's the current political war um in terms of uh that getting too political around in terms of the postmodernists and the radical left it's every fundamental battle on every fundamental level is how to justify being Superior and how to tear down those who you think are taking away your opportunity to achieve what you want to achieve so in asa's eyes it wasn't inequal partnership so much as asov was getting the the raw end of the deal and he was going to be the one who basically was there to be the nobody to help yako be the somebody and what he did did is he rejected the story he said I'd rather create my own my own hierarchy and become the king of My Universe then buy into the story so instead of helping Yakov Express the infinite into the finite Express the spiritual into the physical I'm going to reject the infinite reject the spiritual and become the new leader in my own hierarchy it's kind of in kaz's eyes that's the birth of atheism where where you become the highest ranking member in your worldview you become the god of your own universe and it's the ultimate rise of what led to Christianity which is a more religious atheism it's essentially religion without religion it's truth without law which fundamentally is truth without truth because without being able to implement and live out Truth uh it's not really truth so it's a fluffy version of Truth so what ends up happening now is and this was by the way at the moment that Abraham died right when Yak saw the fleeting nature of existence he chose to basically become the god of his own finite Universe rather than to devote himself to an infinite where he would be the subcategory of Yakov and Yakov would be the ideal so what ends up happening now is that Abraham has is a whole another sheer uh fascinating topic especially for everything that's going in the world requires a much longer discussion but is basically the successful filter get filtered out becomes the the next stage then yov and asov asov gets filtered out you have yob yob then splinters into K clro you now have want to get the Live question so let's yeah I'm getting there I'm getting this is this is I'm trying to condense a 45,000 hour here into in just the 30 40 minutes we're going to get there so what ends up happening now is that now you have clell clell is now expressed into and if you want to think of it this way you think of yoseph as paralleling Yakov Yakov is the foundation that becomes expressed in the CL Ro yose is the role of yose is to connect the pieces back together it's to be the fundamental connector right so to connect the pieces back into that original Oneness so yov is one split into 12 y as say reflects yov and is supposed to reconnect the Jewish people back together and the ideal is for everyone to play the role so you have the 12 everyone's different you have leaders you have people who are you know great spiritually in you have people who go into business you have people who are have these skill sets and those skill sets you start to get the diversity the expansion the expression the the different types of flavors where you have white light it gets refracted through a prison you get seven colors you have music that gets expressed into the seven notes of the musical scale uh you know time gets expressed into the seven days of the week and you have clol that gets expressed into 12 the problem is is is multifaceted but in in essence the real problem that is the the entire essence of the Jewish story is what happens with Yosef Yosef has this dream and the dream is that the brothers are going to bow down to him and again say that YF looked like yob the yaka spent time learning with Yosef Yosef had a special multicolored jacket you know multicolored you kind of see the idea of all the different colors of the spectrum kind of synthesized into one but yose the young yose expresses this and what ends up happening is the fundamental root of every interpersonal struggle Sense on Asic level personal level which is on the one hand there's this sense of them K basically said the ideal version and the realistic version the ideal version is they thought that y was the next level of filtration right you have is is gets filtered out you have yov and as gets filtered out you have Ys was very physical he physically beautiful combing his hair you already have as of attributes so there's this idea of maybe ysep is the next person needs to get filtered out but the real depth of it is the opposite it's that Yosef looks exactly like Yakov Yosef is exactly like Yakov cazel have many many different associations where they were fundamentally parallel so maybe Yosef is actually the successor and we're the ones that are going to get filtered out maybe ysf is the ideal maybe yose is the next Yakov and we're the next is we're the next asov so what did they do because of that jealousy that inferiority complex of maybe you know we're going to pretend like we're doing the MS but really we're trying to reverse it because we're afraid of getting filtered out we're going to knock Yosef down and what was USA's role to connect the brothers together what did he do he created conflict he created jealousy what ended up happening through the whole tsha story of yud and Tamar and going down to MIM and the story of bam is basically yose recreated the opportunity for Kos to come back together and he fulfilled the original idea in the dream which is not yose getting bowed down to as in being the best but Yos being the synthesizer the integrator of connecting all the pieces together where then K all becomes one again and that is the fundamental component and that's why you have mhia because once Yehuda who was the leader that sold y ended up recognizing mistake and then kind of submitted himself to ysf inim that's when Yuda can become a real leader that's when ysf can become a real leader and that's when yosef's leadership doesn't make everyone else feel bad about themselves but actually brings everyone together so you know to bring it into a lot of questions here's basically the fundamental idea the fundamental idea is I would say I would say twofold in terms of the co of CLI Ro there's the external role that we've always known in terms of throughout history has been a question of Oram in terms of what's our impact on the world as a whole the root of anti-Semitism has always been the same it's always been because of jealousy because leadership that makes people feel bad about themselves will definiely defini make people hate you so if someone's great there are people who are great that you just love them you admire them you look up them but then there are people that are great that make you feel horrible about yourself it make you it makes you remind yourself about how insignificant you are about how how much you are nowhere near what you're supposed to be it doesn't make you want to be better it makes you feel worse so the only response that you could have to such a person is to want to get rid of them that's the Yos complex if someone makes you feel bad about yourself you will try to destroy them because as opposed to becoming great to make yourself no longer feel bad about yourself the much easier thing to do is to get rid of them but if you can become a leader that inspires greatness out of others you become someone that makes people feel good about becoming better as opposed to feeling bad that they're not where you are and that in the deepest sense is the root of K after this problem right so before going into the open Q&A like this is the most difficult thing to contemplate on any level which is that clel has many different parts right within the F Community there's different focuses there people as we talked about people focus strictly on on Jewish law then there's mus self-development then there's gar there's rash there's Ian brisker style going into all the different and really becoming a and then there's the world of Jewish thought Jewish philosophy then there's Jewish thought Maka the deeper more interconnected harmonistic deeper realm of Torah and then there's different strands of and different strands of cabala and different variations different formulations there's people going into business there are people who become experts in Manda and Science and psychology and philosophy mathematics and then there are people who try to synergize that with Tor and then there are people who really value Artis Ro and you know whether their or they really just value the K and then you have all these different various and throughout history there's been people who go too far outside the fold right so you have um you know if you go through Jewish history let's go on to question okay is that okay sorry for cutting you off but okay I'm just gonna end off with this which is that the biggest struggle and the biggest kak you can have is the same thing which is the root of a fundamentally trying to solve theas problem is to see number one the truth within every person that you don't necessarily live life in alignment with and to recognize that you're not where you should be as well but not to feel the need to lower other down in order to put yourself into a place where you feel like you own the truth but to recognize that you're still on the Journey of trying to live a life of ever greater Ms as well and if you then recognize that all the parts of clus are part of one family not just in a mushy gushy emotional way but in a fundamental metaphysical spiritual way and that instead of what you originally has a 12 now we have different hashas that build the full spectrum of clus you start to appreciate the fundamental importance of all of clus and in times of tragedy and in these moments where we kind of have this ripple effect where something external awakens the Synergy and Oneness of the entire Jewish people we're feeling that we're tapping into that and the goal now is not to be inspired by it and then go back to normal but to recognize the Deep truth that lies at the center of that and you know after the after the q& and the polls I'll share one more deep idea but again this this is a lot right this is not inspiring this is not we can be the best we can be this is not you know work on your MOS this is an opening into the fundamental Gateway of taking the greatest Adventure which is the journey to the truth and it's impossible to do this in a lifetime let alone 45 minutes but the purpose of giving this type of tre the first time I was on we spoke about self-development and working on becoming myself Sak time talked about t business this is a whole different ballpark this is this is the infinite game which is something almost impossible to express and very difficult to do so without getting slightly vulnerable uncomfortable and borderline on that which is impossible to express but there is probably no time in our lifetime that it's probably better to do it now just because we're experiencing the most interesting clima I transition where we're now far enough removed from October 7th to realize the fleeting nature of it and yet close enough to recognize the importance so with that we will now transition okay thank you okay let's take a poll through questions then we'll get into live questions one second uh relaunch okay here we go you see the questions okay here we go first question is how long do you think Theus will last three options four options but it shows five but it's four as long as the has are not returned then we'll still have Aus option one option two till the war is over option three until mhia comes or option four will it's starting to fade away already that's the first question second question why do you think there's a real connection why do you think there is a real connection between old Jews so three options when people are get us it brings out that we are one number two we are a nation that wants to help each other in crisis number three under all the noise we truly love all all Jews they're all similar answers but they're all saying a different point really um and the third question is in general why do you think Jews who have different levels of observance aren't getting long so there's four answers to this answer what you think first answer some some have no observance and do not look at as others as part of them both ways whether you're religious you don't look at the other ones as part of you or whether you're not religious you don't look at the religious as part of you second answer is many Jews don't want any connection with Hashem and religious Jews that's talken from their point of view people that are not religious that's from the religious point of view we need boundaries not to get influence so we so we so we stay away from not from so because we're religious if we start dealing with not religious people maybe will become that from or option four even very firm communities have a hard time accepting the other from ones that are not like them so like trying to say like even if you're you like to stay within your crowd or yourish like we have a hard time just even going out of that zone so those are the three questions ibody answer it to the best of the ability your opinion and then we'll get into the live questions will go first okay five more seconds okay let's share the poll here we go first question how long do you think theas will last so 70% of people feel as long as the hostages are not returned 21 27% of people till the war is over 28% of people feel mhia comes and 36% of people already feel that it's starting to fade away second question why do you think there is a real connection between between all Jews 49% of people when people are against us it brings out that we are one 24% of people we are a nation that likes to help each other in crisis and 28% of people under all the noise we truly love all everybody all the Jews and the third question is in general why do you think Jews who are different levels of observant don't get along 12% of people feel some have no observance they don't look at the the religious look at they're not religious they don't look at the religious so like they don't like see I ey 11% of people many Jews don't want any connection with Hashem or religious Jews 10% of people who need boundaries not get influence so we stay from and a whopping 67% of people say that even very from communities have a hard time accepting the other from ones not like them so we in general like to stay within our very small little box and that's what we consider comfortable R what do you say to the polls what do you say to the answers it's very interesting actually the last one I think I think it's fascinating so I I think there's there's the first two I think there's a very powerful idea which I think is a is a paradigm shift that can change the way people think about lot of things which is when it comes to any goal that's trying to be achieved are you trying to achieve it or Surface something that already exists right so for example when it comes to marriage are you trying to build a new relationship or are you trying to uncover the relationship that already exists when it comes to learning something are you trying to what John L would say tape things onto a blank slate or are you trying to unsurfaced and knowledge that you already have embedded within your soul within your consciousness so when it comes to Aus it's the same thing it's not necessarily something that you're trying to create as much as something that you're tapping into right so if you have white light and get your facted through a prism you get colors right but which one of those colors is the white light so you can say all of them you can say you know you add them all together but when you refract Oneness into tuness you actually get the expression it's like a seed that grows into a tree that you have millions of leaves they're all stemming from that one seed so if you're part of something infinitely bigger than yourself then every time you feel like you're part of something bigger than yourself you're tapping into that and when you have things like this like you're tapping into something that already exists so that's what would talk about it as you're not creating Aus as much as tapping into anus that already exists on a root level it's not cre it's already there but you're making it real you're making it real in terms of manifesting so it's there in a spiritual like ethereal infinite Sense on an Express level it's not yet real and when you tap into and you feel it you're tapping into something that exists in a spiritual like root sense but you're trying to manifest and the make it real and that's the the connection that exists between all Jews right you don't have to create the connection as much as express it so that's also like when you get married there's the idea that your Soul's already connected because I'll explain that you get kind of broken into two different souls two different consciousnesses when you're born and you're recreating the relationship that already exists so it's the same thing it's like when it comes to when it comes to relationship with when it comes to relationship with yourself when it comes to really all of these levels of consciousness and existence it's not a practical creation that just desp Spirit finite things are walking around trying to connect together so much as something that's already fundamentally real that you're both trying to tap into on a root level and an Express an Express level what do you think of the last poll the last question so very small uh I don't use the word small-minded but very they like to stay comfortable in our very small pound so the third one I think is fascinating because you I was I was just on Fox News talking about what's going on political Arena the the polarity in terms of personality type right you can say men are different than women you can say Liberals are different than conservatives you can say right-wing is different than the more of the modern types um you can say theim are different than those who are more you know dumi there are many different ways of creating the spectrum of how you are ideologically or Hally Etc um so part of it is that people like Comfort they like stability but that's not true right there are lots of people who like Adventure and creativity and like to get outside of the norm so what's really I would say fascinating is that all of Jewish history has been that Dynamic right you have Tav which is unchanging right it's never has changed never will change no one ever comes up with a new P right then you have t b t b is fundamentally the reason why it wasn't supposed to be written is was never supposed to be fzed it was never supposed to be canonized we were never supposed to end it it was supposed to always always be flowing and always evolving because it supposed to be the growing process of expanding Tav into if you look at you know but I mean this is kind of if you look at human history it's one of evolution right in terms of technological Evolution medical Evolution evolution of values in terms of the judeo-christian values becoming more popular ized by you know kind of a global setting well Tor B pet has also evolved in terms of you know if you're one of the I'm working on right now is dealing with a lot of [Music] medical so answering whether or not you can do an organ transplant or in terms of brain death and in terms of a lot of fundamental like these Trias weren't asked in times of K but the fundamental principles were and the extrapolation in applying principles and dealing with the back and forth of the growing expression and expansion of living a tour life in the world as the world grows is the fundamental expansion of creativity and expressed H expression of Truth in ever evolving world but you'll always have and this always has and this always will be is two polarities of the main population within the Jewish Community within the world which is the conservative minded people and the liberal minded people right the conservative minded people are people who want to contain maintain and retain everything that was so it's built on the premise that the best is behind us you know here we just hos everything's kind of getting worse we got to keep hold of everything that's good and make sure that we stop the downwards fall and those who are creative and liberal and see the incredible opport and potential and where things are going say if the best is ahead of us and we got to keep on growing expanding getting better we can't we have to get away from the past and there are people who go too far right there are people who reject the expansion completely right that's what we call the tkim right they reject T they say that the only thing that we have Tav and then you have people who reject Tav right who reject the past so you have the original version which is Christianity then you have uh you know Islam then you have the reform movement the conservative movement there's always going to be a question of what's going too far and the fascinating thing is that you never know what's going too far like when the r wrote the mission of Torah was one of the most controversial things in Jewish history he didn't he didn't quote his sources they were rest him at the time that thought that was that was way too far nowadays the r is equivalent with Tor itself like you can't learnia and without quing the r but at the time it was controversial so there's always going to be writing down the the T inos mean said that we had to do it that was one of the most controversial things in Jewish history Hally it was user to write down the gamarra writing down the gamarra the Brilliance of how they did it was writing it down in a way that's not really written so you can't understand it unless you learn it in AIO understanding how to tap into the m and the tradition having aabi to teach you that but the the the back and forth of of liberalism and conservatism is the fundamental back and forth of T tet is the whole story of Jewish history it's the whole story of human history it's why you always have Republicans and Democrats even though right now it's not really liberals and conservatives that's a whole another story but the idea is that there are people who always want stability and to keep things the way they are and then there are people who always want to make things better the people that want to make things better they usually reject the way things are the people who want to keep things the way they are they usually reject the direction that people who want to make things better especially because people who want to make things better are usually idealists and they live in this kind of utopian ideal of what things could be without really having it being practical whereas people who are practical it's boring right there's no real Vision or exciting um Mission when you want to stay in place so if you want to inspire people you need to be a Visionary but if you want to achieve something need to be practical the goal has always been synthesizing both that's why you don't have t or t you have both the ideal people who understand you that's why politics is complicated because the ideal would be for politics to be the expression of Truth which it no longer is but the ideal would be someone who is a synthesis of both ideals but you always have you know Party politics where it's basically a different religion of basically choosing one so in Israel we had the same thing until the war which is the versus the and it's the same thing going on in America it's the same thing that always happens but it's not choosing one value over the other as much as building a Channel of communication to understand where each other are coming from and that's the same thing when it comes to you want to start simple you have two communities both are from both have a similar enough hashkafa that there's real dialogue those communities in many times will'll never talk each other right and then you have extreme differences that is more explainable why they won't talk to each other but the first step is communication and recognizing the value within that which you are not and most people won't want to do that because it makes them question their identity and their existence and if you have to question your identity you have to be willing to give it up and most people are willing to do that so most people stabilize and once you stabilize you have to reject the other because that's the only way you can justify who you are so the third one actually is probably the most interesting um of all the questions go to you first hi thanks I was worried they might kick me out soon so thank you for letting me go first I'm just wondering though uh I Ian I haven't been to Israel during this time you know I yeah i' heard about you know all the certainly the the morale Theus but but I'm wondering how much of it's being motivated right now just simply being in a survival mode they realize these people are out to kill us it doesn't matter what our level Yiddish kite or affiliation and I'm sure they people that you know were just sharing you know certainly traumatized so would that probably even aren't we get what we would have to sort of deal with that first before getting to you know this higher level of you know of you know of you know spirituality machine I mean I see this as a precursor to Mish and I think people definitely are more aware this has made them more aware of you our place in the world never the less it is traumatizing and I'm just wondering if they're going to um if that's if that's something that's going to you know be sort of an immediate issue uh you know just just staying alive and uh you know and you know I guess you you we still worried about the hostages of of course but you know you know the immediate things of the war and even seems to have spread even to you know to Iran so do you see that maybe as I don't want to say an obstacle but just but it's sort of a first step I mean you know something that a priority in a sense you know people just overcoming just uh you know just the whole shock and outrage of what happened in uh you know reminds you of Pearl Harbor you know 1941 one where people were you know it shook them up it affected the nation uh so you know so do you do you just see do you see that really as an immediate thing before um 100% 100% I mean we're talking in retrospect because it's been happening for four and a half months yeah yeah without a question without a question with there's there's many different levels of analysis when you're talking about global global systems and Global Concepts so with in Israel itself the unquestionable motivation from a political perspective that's why the political parties all synthesized and basically put all put the differences aside getting to a lot of relating factors as to you know the situation before and why that happened but the moment that there is an existential threat that's the biggest advantage of an external existential threat there's levels of ideals so if we're talking about which political party should be the ideal party of Israel that's a conceptual idealistic conversation if we're talking about everyone is trying to kill us there all of a sudden becomes an us against that the US solidifies interconnects and reinforces the Synergy momentarily to overcome the external enemy and within the the debate between the the right wing and left wing and the non-religious and the religious and people joining the Army Etc so first of all that was completely put on hold momentarily and a lot the reserves you know hundreds of thousands of reserves came back even from you know 100 thousands from outside of Israel and a lot ofan started joining the Army which you know sparked a lot of kasham a lot of yeah I see a lot of sociological changes that'll come about from the you know yeah the willingness to be more involved in life well it's interesting because let me ask you this let me ask you this you know how long ago did to did Co happen um over four years ago but I was one of the first by the way I caught it late 2019 before it was even known but it wasn't yeah was it was we yeah four years ago ear as of March 2020 it the whole world you know went kaboo whatever yeah sense it feels like Co happened forever ago right it feels like like 100 thousand years in certain sense also feels like Co never happened right because there was this at the time there was this conception like life is never goingon to go back to normal like the whole everything's GNA change the whole university system school system people actually going to their work going to their people just and everything went back to normal so have things evolved and has there been like a seed stage of the next stage of saying what did we learn learn from Co how can we that yes but there's always the the seed stage disappears and then the implementation of some of the ideals that we tapped into we'll see how it unfolds yeah just kind of accelerated things that were already happening but that's a you know just won't know it's so later well thank you thank you yeah pleasure beautiful okay so so the question now is how to take it a little bit to the practicality uh this is a question that we always get you know when we have a Sor we have something that's happening then it puts us together we try to do whatever we can the comes out but the question is how long it last like we discussed and what are some practical things that we should do that we could do like you're saying what's our um the mission now to make sure it doesn't Fade Away keep it the way you know keep it the right mindset so it's it's the classic question it's the classic question and there's a reason why cliches are cliched it's it's important but the usual answer is also cliched right which is uh you know build relationships try to see the best in people try to get outside your comfort zone Etc etcc here's what I think is the actual real practical work it's it's like a real deep dive into self-awareness which is one of the biggest struggles individuals have is selfworth right A lot of people get their selfworth by either viewing themselves as better than other people and so you walk into a room you look around you say am I better than people in B andc because that's what I value most to gain myself worth if I'm better than other people then I can value myself if you really start getting yourself worth by trying to actualize your unique potential and trying to be the best you then you start to become unfaced by other people and you realize that like if you're on a team you don't want to be better than everyone else you want the team to win right so you want people to be as good as they can be as well and it's not that you want people to be better than you because we're not racing against each other like no one else is supposed to be you so you're not supposed to be anyone else so then if you're being the best you and they're being the best them and together you're becoming the best Collective whole it's like a cell in a human body isn't trying to outrace or compete with another cell in the human body you're all on the same team so once you view that and an individual sense in a familial sense in a communal sense in a clal sense those are hierarchies in your identity of s then you start to realize I'm not trying to be the best in my family I'm not trying to be the best in my team I'm not TR trying to be the best in my company I'm trying not trying to be the best in my community I'm not trying to be the best in CRA I want to live out a life of Truth and I want everyone else to do that as well and it's not the same as much as the Blended synergies of individualistic distinction that harmonizes into something greater a great song doesn't have a million of the same notes being played a great picture doesn't have just the color blue a great idea doesn't just have one letter repeated its ideas are comprised of letters and words and paragraphs and building up the communication of Truth so it's the same thing when it comes to CLI R you don't have to lower those who are different than you down to raise yourself up and you can start on a very simple level but between just building that within your own individual life of I don't need to lower anyone else down to gain my own selfworth I gain my self worth by actualizing my potential by becoming the person hasm created me to become once you express that idea to its fullest there's no difference between individual selfworth versus one other person and communal selfworth to another Community or to a related hashkafa you start easy with you know a similar hashkafa and then if you take it to its real logical extreme you can see the value within people that actually see things very differently than you right so for example I just give you example in a business let's say a person is an idea oriented person comes up with business ideas those people make no money because they don't know how to implement they don't know how to build the infrastructure they don't know how to Market they don't know how to sell let's say a person only knows how to do the infrastructure and market and sell they don't have any ideas they also can't make money you need each other to build the ideal partnership to scale it properly let's say you have Amazing Ideas you're going to become a great speaker you just have no audience and you don't know how to write a book and you don't know how to impact anyone so there's no way of actually you need both there's always a dynamic there's always a relationship so the first step is to gain yourself worth from being the best to you not by being better than other people the second step is to expand that idea communally the third step is to see the value in those that you don't necess necessarily agree with in terms of the direction you're going in but you see something good in that that's the the basic concept of the missos of you know who is wise one who learns from everyone it's not just being able to learn from everyone as an indivi on an individual level it's being able to always expand your own Horizons of your own ideal of what you could become by recognizing that there are people who are doing things in a very different way but they have a certain k a certain ability that would actually balance you out even more if you can get outside the ego of competition and actually try to just go on the Journey of trying to live out a life of anus just uh just to talk about that for a second for some for a beginner somebody was never de into self introspection how would one know if he strling with selfworth just like a basic idea I think the best barometer is the way that you talk to yourself as in you've never been inside anyone else's head so you don't know what the norm is but the conversation that's happening inside of you is literally you talking to yourself right so the the question is who are you talking to who's talking right are you talking or are you listening are you the voice that's knocking you down are you the voice that's knocking you up are you all those voices right are you an intellect are you emotions are you a body are you a Consciousness are you will so there's a whole world inside of each of us and the starting point is to take ownership over that story as in to utilize the starting point of your conscious existence which is R which is Will to direct everything else and that's you know in essence the whole purpose of my first saer is to understand the essence of Torah is to live a life of expressing your true potential and actualizing your unique cost by going on the journey to your true self and living life of Ms and Torah but to understand your self worth you want to think about how you talk to yourself so a lot of people they talk to themselves really like you never want to ever hear anyone talk to anyone the way that most people talk to themselves right they look in the mirror and they say can't believe you did that again like you're such an idiot you're a fool like what's wrong with you why you keep on doing that you're never gonna do that you have an idea I'm gonna take on I'm gonna build something I'm G create something I you something the voice in the back of your head says no you're not what makes you think you can do anything good you've never done anything good you every single time there's an opportunity to knock yourself down most people don't need someone else to knock them down they knock themselves down then there are people who are out of touch with reality right they're overly confident they basically think of themselves as infinitely greater than they actually are now is there a Mot to that does it help in some situations yes but if you're out of touch with reality then that's just becoming a Bala an egotistical maniac right you become a narcissist so building that healthy selft talk that reinforces the part of you that wants to become the best version of you is a good sense of self-worth and the best another great parameter is whether you identify your existence relative and in comparison to other people so if you only identify as smart because you're smarter than other people or you're only you know aalos or B MOS working on yourself because you see other people and you're doing it more than them or you're good-looking because you walk into room and you think you're better looking than everyone else or you're you know the most humble person you know because you think you're the you're more humble than everyone else like there's a lot of ways to build an unhealthy existence so a dependency existence where your entire life is dependent on someone else is unhealthy unless you have a unique dependency on yourself in hash because the struggle of trying to live a life of Truth is balancing between am andos where on the one hand what we're talking about bu building self-worth building confidence trying to really take ownership over your story in your life it's very difficult to communicate how many people struggle with at least in the initial stage taking complete dependence Independence and ownership and blocking Hashem out as well right so you can start out by being completely dependent on other people right you only love yourself if you're spous you you only love yourself if you have people that you think like you for being the person that you think they they want you to become so most people live as a reflection of what they think other people think they should be which is ironic because you'll never know what people think of you or what they want you to be but to build it healthfully you want to take complete ownership and become independent of what other people think not to gain yourself forth from other people to become someone who becomes a Chooser so you choose what you think about what you focus on what you're doing with your time what you're learning what you're building what you're creating what you're achieving you start to build a vision for yourself you build a direction for your life you start to utilize your time you start to value your time you don't give out your time for free because you actually want to do something with your time and everything that you do with your life is a choice and then you start to actually become someone who is choosing their life but you do that as a reflection of trying to connect to hasem as opposed to kind of blocking out everything which includes a right so that's kind of the next stage is once you take ownership over your mindset and your time and your decisions and your life you don't take complete ownership you recognize the source of everything that you're able to do so comes from a so most people make one of those mistakes they either live in Eternal dependency on other people or they break away from dependency but then become completely independent from everybody including has the key is to basically do both independent from people dependency on Hashem but a sense of Independence to still completely depend on myself to make the decisions to build the life that I think I'm supposed to live which is really going on the Journey of trying to figure out what you're supposed to do with your life so the short answer to your question is that there is no short answer to that question it's one of the most powerful questions one can ask but the real simple answer is to just pay attention to like self-awareness is an endless journey of trying to literally just step outside and be aware of what is so the first thing is like go through your day how do you talk to yourself how do you use your time what are you doing with your time um what kind of people you have in your life are they positive are they people that are going to help you move in a better direction do you have a vision for your life are you heading in a good direction with your life and the more that you build a healthy internal environment the easier it becomes to see the value in other people because you don't need to knock them down in order to justify your own existence okay let's go to the next Live question you're on um yeah hi um so I don't know if uh this is a question that you would want to answer it's um I need to formulate it like as I ask it um so uh you mentioned before about there are people who are holding you know they want to hold on to the past and then there are people who are you know ready and willing to embrace the present and the future right MH um I'll give the example like during covid um I I I wasn't like you know into the news I didn't know who was sick and who was dying you know I was in my house with my kids we were like in a little cocoon and we were having a great time you know but when I didn't because I didn't know what was going on out there like I can't say I was I I dobin so much because you know I only heard about it if I spoke to somebody and told me oh did you hear so many people are dying so people are sick and then I heard about it right so um I feel like there are a lot of there are a lot of people that they they don't have access they don't have iPhones they don't have I mean you know smartphones they don't they don't watch the news they don't they aren't aware so much about what's going on in the world what's going on in Israel um like I just had a friend you know friends will ask me so what's going on right these are people who are choosing not to um have the technology in their home right and they don't even I I feel like and I don't me I don't mean to be judgmental I'm just I'm curious about it you know like they don't end up feeling this AAS because they aren't really affected by what's going on they're really really unaware about what's happening in Israel or what's i i a lot of people are you know because they just they don't have access to it 100% so it's a fascinating question and it doesn't really stop there because it's always mahel talks about how everything is potential right so when it comes to your particular question there are levels of analysis in terms of each stage so for example you can be flooded with infinite data right you can watch the news all day every day you can be in every WhatsApp group you can be on Twitter and x and you know every social media platform and you can expose yourself to every data point possible and because you have all the data now you can be justly and uniquely able to tap into the ultimate possible form of feeling what's going on or you can completely remove yourself you can be someone who not only isn't doesn't have access to the live stream you don't have access to anyone who has access to live stream right so you have three friends you make sure that those three friends are like you that they also don't talk to anyone who stepped in so those are two polarities then you can start building some Nuance which is making a choice of do I value being connected to what's going on in the world yes or no right if yes why if the answer to yes is because I feel like part of my responsibility is not to be an isolated individual but I'm part of a family a community I'm part of C I'm part of the world and I feel a sense of responsibility to be you know let's not start from adish let's start from you today right so you know that there's a situation going on in the world and let's assume that you can now start from scratch so you can choose do I have any social media platforms yes or no do I have any news outlets yes or no do I go on any news Outlet websites yes or no if yes how often when and how much and what's the point and which ones and you start making educate decisions on how to craft the reception of data to reinforce an articulated goal most people do not live that way most people live as a result of whatever impetus enters into their world they don't choose they don't choose the starting point of what's entering in so they have whatever's on their phone or if they have internet whatever's on the internet if they have social media whatever on social media if they have the news outlets whatever they don't craft it and most people also not new ones so it's yes or but if you go with a goal as then I want to attain certain information so I can achieve a calculated goal because I feel like that's what Hashem wants me to do then there's a way to do that so within the current framework of what you already know there's plenty to be connected with there's plenty to do for there's plenty to work on for yourself and I always say the best way to help other people is to work on yourself right you want to inspire others Inspire yourself you want to teach others educate yourself you want to you know help people in need work on yourself because that will help you help a lot of people the the best way to feel connected is to become someone capable of helping those who you can help when you're connecting with them so just getting data information is not necessarily helpful doing is amazing but again the two levels are basically number one choosing an infrastructure of how to tap into a framework that you want to tap into as opposed to it controlling you most people who have social media WhatsApp news news outlets whatever it is most of those people are controlled by the medium they're not using the medium the medium is using them right that itself it's a topic we can spend hours talking about because that's the the fundamental struggle of every person living in the world right now is that most people are not expressing out their goals onto the world as much as the world expressing itself onto them so people don't have ownership over their time their thoughts their emotions their goals they're not building something they're just basically being used by the systems that use them but the the real answer for that question is to do it a priority which is to really first think about the goal at hand what do you want to build and Achieve and then build habits and systems around your goals to help you achieve them as opposed to most people who don't have the goals to start with and if they do they can't achieve them because they're overloaded with all the things that are holding them back from achieving their goals so the simplest way to live a brilliant life is to build a life that allows you to have the ability to live out the life that you think you're supposed to live so that's building good systems good habits creating the right goals having amazing Rel teachers and then building your life in alignment with that so I I appreciate what you're saying I'm just wondering like you know in the in the broader sense like this unity in order like in order for it to last do we need that more people should be aware of what's going on like there are people who are choosing not to like they're not exposing themselves they like so then what happens I think it's a fair it's a fair question but here's what I would say there's levels of knowing what's going on right so I've let's say you know my my platforms have reached you know probably over a 100 million people uh in the past four or five months right part of that is because I you know took on responsibility of being very on top of the narrative things were going on and trying to inspire people as everything broken chaos but there's no need to know everything that's going on so there's the existential struggle that client's facing and then there's the day byday detail by detail minor breaking story major breaking story M minor updates major updates so everyone at this point knows the general the general struggle CL was going through the to the extent that each person wants to personalize how much they know to improve their level of sensitivity and emotional connectivity so they can improve their sense of that's a person by person right in terms of you again that's what we just went through in terms of feeling responsibility to inform everyone so then you'd have to again realize that no two people are the same and no two people need the same amount of data which is really the personalized empowerment perspective of each person needs to have mentors and people that can help them help themselves build the type of personal type of way of answering that question there's no answer that would fit everyone just as there's no kind of you know single generic type of way to answer any fundamentally individual question but the real answer is that the more that you know what you're trying to achieve the more you can build a system around yourself to help you achieve that and the way that you framed it is the simple answer is that I think everyone knows enough to be able to start the Journey of increasing my level of it's it's really in every area in in any area life that you that you feel that they don't get it the way you do so you feel that there's a difference so then you have to stop and think um how can I have AAS with all of those people out there that we don't see things the same way whether it's the question that we just heard or talk about everything else in in yish kite or beliefs whatever it is that what do I how am I supposed to relate to those people if they don't take it the way I do right so that's really the yeah that's the question I right that's a deep question and this is really what we discussing tonight and it's something to think about of how do we have AK in a bigger in a general way if they don't see this the same way I do that's it even like have respect for it you know like exactly so you have people that always going to be different they're not going to see the same level as you now the question is how do we you know relate to each other with ak's understanding no they chose not to I CH I choose yes they choose this is this is where we are you're always going to have it no matter where you are thing I've also found it's also interesting if you have a certain View [Music] it's very rare to change someone else's view to align with yours and the reason is is because very few people are willing to give it up right so you can combat it by saying you're wrong I'm right that's not going to work you can be in a unique position where people don't yet have a view and you're educated right so you you you're a MOA or you're Rabbi teaching an yiva Seminary and people don't yet have a perspective in you're building that's why J explains the most powerful and the grace responsibility anyone ever has is to be the first person to share a perspective on a topic when someone hasn't yet had exposure to a perspective on a topic because that will usually become their perspective on the topic right the first impressions the deepest but another perspective is that if you have a perspective you have an idea sharing it sharing it with your friends not in a way that here's what I'm doing you should do this as well but the love that you have for that which you believe in is much more impactful than sharing why your approach is better than someone else's approach and then that approach allows people to listen to what you're saying even if they have a different approach without feeling that you're attacking them and then allows them to consider it and once you do it from a frame of sharing as opposed to preaching and teaching it allows it for be for it to be a dialogue as opposed to a transformational experience where because they know you're not trying to change their life and make you make them give up their life to align themselves with your will and the way you see the world you can have a conversation and then they'll say wow I never thought of it this way and maybe they'll share something that enlightens you and you say wow I never thought of it that way and all of a sudden you have a conversation and that's where you basically now help each other expand beyond your horizons so it's not easy and again because the moment that you share if you're doing it face to face they'll immediately you know first say is this person trying to change me feel attacked yeah they'll feel attacked they feel judged they'll feel unappreciated feel like oh you know best you know what makes you think you're so great that's why the gamar says that no one can give to anymore because anyone who gives to everyone will look at them and say who are you to give who are you to judge me you think you're perfect so the best way to give to is not to share why what people are doing is wrong and why what you're doing is right but to actually just share what you believe is the truth in a way that comes from a place of sharing as opposed to judgmental preaching it's not easy to do it's a very rare skill set and it takes lots of practice but the best Educators I've ever seen mastered that skill set and it's needed in any relationship talk about spouse your kids anytime you want to influence anything and that's that's why it's tricky because you want to influence and they feel it 100% but but the real question is when it's a situation that actually somebody sent in the question I've been through struggles in life and people out there have ruined my life do you think hasem wants me to have and Sh it takes us to that question of making peace with people that really you know you don't feel that right thing is to make peace with them or how to it's not it's very hard because they you know whatever whatever happens yes so this is probably a 40 hour conversation because it really gets into every level ofh analysis because you you want to ask number one is this the same person that did this to me number two is does Hashem want me to have a relationship with everyone as then I don't need to be friends with everyone right I can and again we talked about root level Express level like what they did was wrong does that mean that they are a bad person and maybe they did sh the right maybe they're no longer the same person also do I is there a value of me wanting to fix a relationship with someone who ruined my life as it may be the real struggle is for me to forgive them realize it came from Hashem and move on right do I have to go back as then there's the emotional damage so there's the trauma that's going to be re awoken every time right what if they haven't improved and they don't want to be better am I supposed to have a relationship with someone who's still broken breaking me broke me and so the these are very complicated questions and there's it's not that there's a right answer it's not that there's one level of like here's the real question it's like layers and layers there's the question of when someone ruined my life did they ruin my life do I know the whole story um was my life supposed to be ruined it happened through them um did they intend to ruin my life maybe I also wasn't the the person I am today back then maybe you know I kind of let them ruin my life or maybe I was part of that ruining my own life and they were kind of just the the impetus that kind of had it all toppled down these things are psychoanalysis is fascinating because it allows you to recognize you know Carl Young had the the arel on his desk and that he learned everything on the arel and Freud is you know self-hating as he was as a Jew um you there's you know in terms of how kazal discussed the the r and the nees and how Freud kind of talked about the inner structure of our psyche um these are these are really fascinating questions because you don't have time to have a relationship with everyone in the world right so you're not supposed to be friends with everyone but the people that you are friends with why are you friends with them right there's different types of friends there's friends that you don't even know why you're friends with them you grew up with them you sit in class next to them your neighbors then there are friends you had good experiences with there are friends that you have the same you know you you only talk about one topic because that's the one thing you have in common and every single time you see them you just have the same conversation nothing new happens and then there's friends that you share values with that you grow with together you go on a mission life with together that you do things with an meanful level together and the greatest form of that is marriage so you want to choose the people in your life there's no Mitzvah to have a deep relationship with everyone in the world to not hate someone is a different thing so to forgive to allow yourself to overcome the trauma that someone inflicted upon you and all the layers that go into that and the difficulty that goes into that to revisit it to open it up and to recognize that maybe it actually helps build you into the person you are today and it actually destroyed you to allow you to birth yourself into a new version of you which is a much more genuine real version of you and then that's how all growth works and sometimes you don't even have to talk to the person you can literally just forgive them and sometimes they don't even know the damage they did to you as in you were going through something and something they did the way they did it how they did the timing how they said it what they didn't say like you were just a passing person in their story but in your life they're one of the main characters in your story they don't even no so it's not really about them anymore it's about you and once it's about you that's where you say two things number one is the result was good even if the event was horrible and you have to find the good in the result which takes a lot of time and patience and self-awareness and number two is you say that I don't love what they did but I know that even if they are out of touch with their potential and they messed up I'm able to tap into that root component which is the famous gar of the the ideal way to view a bad person is that I hate what they did I don't hate them right so and the real depth of that is that at root that's why you know we're coming up the PES soon we say at the SED we say he right you're supposed to knock out the teeth of the Russia so I don't do a lot of gatri but one of my favorite gat I've been sharing at my seder since I was like 10 years old is that if you take um the word Russ and you knock out shav you subtract sh from Russia you get the gatri ofad right and when we're in the womb when the we say we make an oath that we're gonna become a so our ideal true root self is perfect and sometimes we mess up in life but the root doesn't change and you have to knock out shav you have to knock out that surface layer to get people back to their root and sometimes you get that from Hashem hasem kind of knocks you up a little bit and and pushes you around but just wakes you up that's a wakeup call for you to really go on the Journey of life but sometimes someone does that to you and when that person does that to you they might be acting out the story of Rasha but when you get to the point where you are able to consider forgiving us also by the way very often you forgive them not to forgive them but to heal yourself right so one of my favorite lines is that anger is like drinking I think there's anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die all you're doing is hurting yourself so really you're thinking do I have permission to forgive them should I forgive them but really the question is are you willing to allow yourself to move on and not to move on as in pretend it didn't happen but to move on as in to grow from it not to just kind of move away from it so it would it would be convenient if if no one had this type of question but I think you anyone who's lived life even a little bit has gone through uh some of these types of situations where people have really done things to you and you kind of feel like they're holding you back if you can give yourself permission to forgive them you'll actually give yourself permission to allow your life to become everything could be beautiful let's go to the last Live question then we'll go to closing okay I'm mute hi yes hi um I wanted to say I'm asking with everything you said I've been really trying to live my life I'll pee the suggestions that you've done but now I'm having a hard time with with this whole war that the Hamas took the videos themselves of what they did to people and then people are denying that they did it to me I have a hard very hard time um like with that and even like politically sometimes with certain things where they prove something beyond a shadow of a doubt but then people deny it I live very realistically and I have a hard time to associate it's easier for me not to deal with these people because I I somehow I can't have a respect for somebody who doesn't see the TR truth and it's not an opinion that is it a truth we have pictures we have we have verification if it was an opinion I could go along and I do go along all the time but where there is actual data and and physical proof of something and people deny it how do you deal with that how do you how do you have a respect for somebody who could just lie about something that they could see so that is it's a fascinating question it's a brilliant question and there's many different layers of analysis in terms of how to approach it one is to actually go to the starting point of number one why people are being fed a narrative that would make them believe this is and there's always been deniers of every thing in life right there are people who deny God there are people who deny the Holocaust happen there are people who deny um morality there are people who deny that October 7th happened and you have pictures and videos they'll either refuse to watch the picture and videos or they'll say that they're made up right you I just saw an AI ad that pretended to be you know someone saying something and I knew it didn't happen that you know basically what was a fake but anything can be anything so the question becomes twofold number one is how do you know anything right so do you know you know how do you know that you're not sleeping right now and this is a dream right hopefully it's a good dream how do you know that you have purpose how do you know that you exist right maybe this is all simulation how do you know that I have Consciousness right maybe you're aware of your own existence but you don't know if everyone else in the world is actually AI robot and you're the only real person that ever existed right how do you know the Sun is going to rise tomorrow that's a causation question you actually don't there's nothing that's you know right definitively so then you get into how you know anything's real so you know things are real because you trust right how do you know that when the next step you're going to take you're not going to fall to the Center of the Earth how do you know you get an airplane you know everything's going to be okay so there's statistics there's data there's ways of building a sense of trust and part of that is just how you can function the world so then how do you know God exists how do you know that Judaism is correct how do you know that anything is at this so there are stages in life there ways of building answers to questions their way of Defending premises and Truth their way of building answers but then in today's day and age there's infinite data always all the time and we live in a data War which is a narrative War and then you have people who control what data people are being fed controls the Swarm so the people who believe that October s happened are not the blame they've been fed all the data necessary for them to digest a narrative that reinforces that whether some people are culpable and responsible for believing it because they want to believe it that's a whole another question the real question is why are people at the top feeding that narrative why like the professors the colle professors in the colleges Hollywood the elite left the the the you know liberal media CNN BBC why do they do that so that's a whole different question right that's something which you know I've been working on a different project um I wear you know 100 different hats you know we took off the 20 Robins hat tonight we did more of the balaka there's the garan there's politics there's philosophy there's psychology there's business this is more of a fundamental existential truth oriented postmodern question so let's kind of build the spectrum of you know this is this might be a good thing to end off with can I'll maybe share one more idea after this but if clausell is is Ultimate synthesis which is the synthesis and marriage between the infinite and finite the spiritual and the physical you have different variants of people who take different sides of that equation right so you have what we'd call Islam which again there's a hundred different variants of Islam but especially the Hamas terrorists extreme version of Islam which is really built off of of isal which is a whole sh that we didn't get to give tonight it's a hatred of this world it's a love of spirituality it's a love of the world to come it's an obsession with the world to come it's an obsession with spirituality and the truth but a hatred of the physical world so they hate everything physical limited corporeal they're much more extreme in their being M against connecting to the physical world there's no synthesis there's no Harmony there's no Oneness there's an obsession with death because that means you get to leave this world and go to the world to come there's an obsession with death of killing other people because this world is meaningless and fleeting and there's an obsession with the reward you're going to get by leaving this world it's not a fundamental expression of becoming a manifestation for tellima living a life of Truth as much as a hatred of everything that's not absolute truth which is not infinite which is not spiritual so it's a ha of this world and then you have Buddhism sad Buddhism is very sad truth to it there's a truth to it is and they're tapping into the truth of a spiritual and ior being more important than the t but then rejecting everything else and then you have Buddhism which is a softer version of that which is a rejection of the physical but also rejection of any goal or destination so it's rejecting everything in this world but also not really striving to anything in another world and then you have atheism which is a rejection of anything infinite anything spiritual any any destination any purpose and then you have Christianity which is kind of in between atheism and Judaism where it kind of is a soft acceptance of God but no real consequential nature to living out that truth in this world because there's no there's no system of living out truth right there's no law there's no Torah it's just basically be a good person but it lacks the structure of expressing truth in this world so it's basically you get to live in this world you get to believe in God the only thing you need to do to get another world is to believe but there's no action oriented and there's no real becoming perfect because there's no way to become perfect because there's no system of living out truth so the postmodernists are those who are so you know evolved intellectually that they believe that there no there is no truth there's no purpose to the world we're Advanced monkeys there's no real source to life and there's no purpose to life there's no truth there's no morality there's no existence there's no met existence it's the essence behind the transgender movement because if there's no truth and there's no God there's also no truth in terms of con Concepts so there's no concept of male and female and basically the reason why it's being pushed is because if we can break down the concept of male and female we can break down the concept of Truth and then people can embrace the truth that they believe which is that there is no truth which means that you're going to live a couple years in this world and as opposed to devoting your whole life to get some fairy tale on the other side of doesn't exist just enjoy whatever life you have while you're here and kind of live in the whatever utopian world that you want to live in with no consequences so Israel is the biggest the biggest enemy to that ideology because Israel represents the worst of what they fear America might become right America was founded on a conflict right are we going to be better than Europe and be more of a open religious community or are we going to be enlightened atheists that reject the monarchy Christianity and everything that came before was right in God we trust but you know half of the founding fathers were atheists Israel is the only religious democracy in the world right so Israel represents the worst nightmare of the left which is a democracy that Embraces religion where they wanted to basically move further in their evolutionary Theory which is away from religion Donald Trump you know is bringing back the religious founding Foundation of America and reinforcing that structure and they are trying to push this transgender LBGTQ anti-religion science open everything no truth no meaning no purpose and Israel is a religious democracy that if allowed to exist is a Beacon of Hope to America could become which is their worst nightmare so they from the very beginning literally first two days everyone was kind of supportive of Israel when Kamas was you know just basically committing the worst terrorist attack in the recent history and the second that they got an excuse to fight back I mean the second Israel retaliated they went full out into anti-israel because if they can destroy Israel they can break down the concept of religious democracy if they can break down the the structure of religious democracy they can make sure America doesn't revert to becoming a religious democracy you know the abortion law that was passed was a huge um I mean it wasn't truth as in within to abortion is a very complex so yeah but it was a religious win um for the kind of you know Republican side and you know they've been going crazy to break down religion tradition break down American history rewrite American history and basically just how do you rewrite history that's the same thing but you're just rewriting it this gets back to T if you believe worst is behind you and that racism and American history is founded on racism and everything's bad just clean the Slate arase the past and just start new there's no importance of the past because there's no importance of tradition because there's no importance of religion because there's nothing good behind us we're just moving to something better and that's the whole philosophy of postmodernism is that nothing matters there is no truth so live whatever life you want and that's why they hate Israel because Israel is the only country that is openly explicitly religious that also is founded on the principles of modern Western society and Israel cannot exist if America is to become what the left the radical left wants America to become so they're trying to tear down Israel from the bottom which is you know basically the funding behind all these Ries and why from literally day two of this war everything that the left could do they've done to make sure that they equip everyone in the world with all the data they need to be anti-israel so your War isn't really with the people they're just sheep right they're just basically following whatever they're being told on TV you're kind of really dealing with like why are the people who are feeding all this like why are they doing it and that's why it's because it's really just an ideological Battle of they are trying to get the world away from truth and religion they believe it's dogmatic and close-minded and of the past and they're not they're brilliant implementers of their ideology because they don't openly say what they believe they just basically make it happen so they just Implement their ideology on the Practical kind of sheep front level where they're not actually sharing their ideology and most conservatives are not philosophers right they're just kind of you know simple people trying to keep their way of life so they don't even understand why this is happening like you know talk about problems like Ben doesn't talk about why the left does what he does he just fights back he's a brilliant data analyst even Jordan peerson doesn't really you know have a Torah understanding of life so he's just dealing it from His Brilliant perspective but there's no one on the political Arena who's actually dealing with the all left on the fundamental Phil opical plan no one's talking about this it's just you know we hate Israel we love Israel we want transgenders we don't want transgender no one talks about the ideas no one talks about the why no one goes to the roote so you just have basically front battles and that's you know how a political Arena has always worked like there's no been there's no open dialogue it's just crazy so all the millions and really at this point billions of sheep who are have been so openly against Israel just because they're being fed in narrative and the real question is why are they being fed in narrative and the answer is because this is a fundamental ideological battle about the future of Western society and the people who do not want religion in that discussion really want Israel out of the world okay gal okay let's go to closing now coming on tonight M kazik was a beautiful Shear very very deep got to listen to it a few times again if anybody wants to join the WhatsApp groups just WhatsApp 732 314710 we'll send you the group number or we'll send it to you in the email also you can go to.com and sign up to get his emails every week the speakers M next week we're gonna have R do Pinson GNA have a very deep topic he's very into deep spirituality so we'll see what the topic will be exactly hope M will be deep and meaningful please join us everything will be recorded be m.com if anybody has any questions please email Coachman gma.com tonight share is 177 if you want to listen to it on the phones will'll be at 73235 9011 and wants to be in touch withman his website 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do I believe and I would love if everybody would think the same way as me but when they don't how do we we sit and talk how do we discuss and know listen to their point of view and talk about you know you're you're a teenager they have so much to say and you're thinking to yourself no it's not the way it's supposed first listen what are you feeling when they say certain things that you don't like to understand their point of view discuss it and the challenges you know when you say it you know you want to impose but they feel it they're not going to take it you know they want somebody to listen if you can listen then eventually they can hear themselves and get to a place a safe place where they can hear it and then make choices so yeah it is deep so thank you so much and met we should be able to take the concepts more practical you know a lot of it is not so easy for practicality to see where we can put it in our day the the sh and to forgive others even though sometimes they did it looks like they did something wrong so thank you very much and uh hopefully it'll be a lot of with a lot of we should be able to take what everybody needs in wrap it up as Ash will say nice and quick so I I wanna I want to end off by basically saying that even though there's a certain sadness to the fundamental realization that it does seem like Theus is fading I think there's a very inspiring idea here which is at the root basically all of Tor life and it's one of the most powerful ideas that you can have here as the and many others explain everything Hashem does every aspect of Torah always has three stages the first stage is is a gift it's a reflection of what things could be it's a recognition of the ultimate goal the destiny of the truth but then you lose that and the reason why it's taken away and why you lose it is because that's not real that's just given to you as a gift the goal then is to rebuild it yourself and once you rebuild it yourself then you get to make it real because then becomes an expression of choice of Free Will of effort of actually creating it and then you get to that third stage where it's the same thing as that first stage but this times it's real because this time you actually earned it you built it as R explains that's the essence of of life it's why you're not born perfect you're born as a reflection of what you could be but then you're born into this world imperfect so the says you learn everything you're supposed to achieve in life in the womb and then the M hits you on the mouth the angel hits you and you lose it so going ask why like why why teach it in the first place why lose it it says the same idea because what you were taught in the womb your purpose in life everything you're supposed to become that was just showing you the gift of what you're supposed to become you lose it so you into this world and build it yourself the same with marriage why say built as one the goal of marriage is not to be perfect and be one it's to build that Oneness so originally one and drous being as rash explains and then they're broken into two so they can come into this world and rebuild that oness and it's the same thing for everything for it's we experience this incredible in a certain sense it was a gift it was incredible but we didn't build it we experience it and it's fading away but not because we're losing it but because we were showing what we're supposed to be creating and achieving and and molding but again we talked about this the exists we're already one people one nation one family we is but to build it to experience it to understand it to make it manifest to actually build the paradigmatic structure so that when we walk through the world we actually experience life that way that takes a lifetime of nuance and development and it's really it's the same thing we talk about we have the same thing coming up with p p p say was the time of open Miracles time of mos the plagues and sping on the sea M Torah gave us the Torah and it was a miraculous time where there was no there's prophecy we don't have that time anymore no more miracles no more open prophecy no more open revelation of where it go so the V it's the same principle explain that that was the the first stage was the gift but now we live in a second stage a stage of P there's no longer open Miracles but we have to find the open miracles of they reveal that everything in life is the of everything is miraculous you find within everything and that's pardon there's no open Miracle but when you see how you put all the pieces together you start seeing the Y within everything that's why reaccept the because as K saying in chabas that the initial Torah except the Torah was forced why was it forced there was no free will because how can you not accept the Torah when hashem's openly performing Miracles but by por where there's no open Miracles we have to choose to see they chose to accept the that was real and we live in a time where that's really our choice it's not easy to live a life of truth it's not easy to see Hashem it's not easy to strive but it's the greatest life imaginable and that's what we talked about you know giving up this life for another life we talked about choosing only this life over another life the greatest truth is that you don't choose one over the other it's by living a life of Ms and devoting your life to something infinite and building your In This World by recognizing that the world to come is nothing other than an expression of everything you became in this life that you live the ultimate life in this world and the next world it's not one or the other it's not even both it's that they're so fundamentally one as say when you're really living that life you live a life ofh in this world and the goal is to recognize that this stage of inspiration is really just building a path to what we now get to build together and living a life of Ms is is not easy but it's so worth it and I would say that the two most important principles to recognize Is that real is not samess it's Oneness and Oneness is all those different colors you know all those different colors built into a synthesized Oneness and you play music it's not the same notes all those notes splended and synthesized together it's all the parts of clal synthesize together it's synthesis it's marriage it's not sness it's Oneness and the real way to build Oneness between two people like the best way to do it if you want to really know the Deep truth is to First build AAS within yourself which means synthesizing all the different aspects of your character spiritual intellectual emotional physical all the different aspects of your personality and emotion creativity imagination all the different parts of you and build real synthesis within yourself really start building that internal world and then you can expand outwards and the first amazing opportunity to build ideal is with the spouse then you expand afterwards you build an amazing then you realize you're part of a community and then you realize you're part of a larger Community you're part of Cl and you just keep on expanding and you recognize that that hierarchical structure of synthesis it starts and ends with Hashem hasem is the foundation of it all he's the root of yourself but he's also the ultimate Oneness that everything leads towards and there's no greater journey in life than going on that Journey it's one of self-development of self-actualization of living life of purpose of expanding past your boundaries of embracing every struggle is building you not breaking you and breaking you in order to build you is how you build muscle you break the fibers down you build them stronger than before and that every aspect of Torah is there to enable you to live a life of meaning and purpose and truth and then if you can do it on an individual level you can do it on a communal level you can do it on a clly level you can keep on expanding and B will continue to grow and to expand state by stage and to really build the ulate thank you thank you all for joining usbody next week um March 3rd with r Sho P Pinson thank you again for coming on appreciate it pleasure is on mine as always keep doing all the amazing work you're doing thank you thank you good night