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it is very normal to feel super nervous
before going on a date for sure on a
first date and even once you've gotten
to know them a little it's still normal
for you to feel nervous especially if
you like the person you're dating and
you want them to like you then you'll
feel Under Pressure to make sure that
you don't do anything to turn them off
and unfortunately often the very fact
that you are so nervous will make you
unable to act
like your true self which will just make
you even more nervous that it's not
going to go the way you want but luckily
there is a mental exercise which you can
do to be able to get rid of any feelings
of nervousness so that you will always
be able to have a clear and natural mind
to be able to do your best you see the
reason that you feel nervous is not
because you are curious about what will
end up happening the reason you feel
nervous is is because you are worried
that the outcome will be the one that
you don't want you're scared of being
rejected or you're scared of being in
the uncomfortable position of having to
reject them see if someone told you that
they were deciding between giving you a
red Ferrari or a white Ferrari you you
would definitely be curious but you
wouldn't feel stressed out because you
know that both of the possible outcomes
are good for
you it's only when you are waiting to
find out if they will buy you a Ferrari
or if you have to buy them a Ferrari
that's when it switches from Curiosity
to
nervousness so if you don't want to feel
nervous in any situation then all you
need to do is stop and remember that
even if the outcome that you are worried
about happens and you get rejected still
that is really just as good for you as
if you'd gotten the outcome that you
wanted because you know that Hashem who
loves you is the only one who decides
every single thing that should happen to
you and he is the one who can make them
like you or not and he only does what is
the absolute best for you and even if
you cannot understand why getting
rejected is good for you but you trust
that if you could see things the way
Hashem does then you would be overjoyed
at getting whatever Hashem sends your
way if you could live with this belief
then you will turn all your nervousness
into simp simple curiosity because you
will now know that all of the possible
outcomes are really just as good for
you so really every single intelligent
person should realize how lifechanging
this mindset is but especially if you
are dating then you should make sure to
start working on your and put a strong
system in place to remind you at least
once a day that every single thing that
happens to you is directly decided by
Hashem who loves you who's doing it for
your best because the more you can
remind yourself then the more you'll be
able to remain calm and relaxed even
when it seems like your fate depends on
another person
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