Esav Says You’re Done Yaakov Says You Haven’t Even Begun

Yeah, this song is called Settle. >> SETTLE. >> OKAY. >> Hope you like it. >> Settle down. >> [music] [singing] >> by hill in a foreign [singing] place. [music] It's been 40 days. Where are [singing] you? [music] by a hill in a form [singing] place. It's where I wait cuz you [music] said you'll come [singing] soon. Oh god, I'll need you right now. Cuz I'm scared that I'll settle [singing] for something less. [singing] Oh god, I want you so bad. Sometimes I settle [singing] for something else. And [music and singing] it breaks my heart that I went so far when you're still right here with me in the dark. And I wish that I could wait [singing] here still [music] by him. It's by him. M [music] by [singing] a hill in a form place. [music] It's where I wake cuz you said you'll come soon [singing] by hell in a foreign [singing] place. It's where I'll wake cuz [music] you said you'll come [singing] soon. Oh God, I need you right now cuz I'm scared that I'll settle for some less. Oh [singing] God, I want you so bad. Sometimes I'll settle for something [singing] else. And it breaks my heart that I went so far. [singing and music] And he's still right here with me in the dark. And I wish that I could wait [music and singing] still by him [music] [music] by him. M [clears throat] >> [applause] >> When did that happen? >> Sometime yesterday. Whatever. >> Sometime this summer. It's gorgeous. >> That's original. [snorts] >> Avi Freedler. Wow. Wow. Wow. >> Yeah. I like that song too. >> Ready? >> That was awesome. >> You are awesome. Whatever. >> Yeah. Yeah. Go for it. >> The This song's called God, Are You There? Got a question. >> [music] >> God, [music] are you there in the silence when life feels [music] cold and I don't feel warm? >> [singing] >> King [singing] Modus. [singing] [music] God, [music] are you there in the silence when life feels [music and singing] cold and I don't feel cold? [music] God, are you there [music and singing] in the shadows when I feel [music and singing] alone with nowhere to go? He [singing] Morning. [music and singing] [music] [singing] He [singing] >> [singing] [music] >> Nah. [singing] [music] [singing] [music] [singing] [music] N. [singing] [singing] Oh, I know there's a reason that [singing] I can't deny. [music] I know there's a reason up there in the sky. I know there's a reason why I'm right [singing and music] here talking to you. Oh, I know there's [singing and music] a reason that I can't describe. I know there's a reason [music] in my life. I know there's [singing] a reason why I'm [music] right here talking to you. [singing] [music] Oh [music and singing] my [singing] god. [singing and music] >> [music] [applause] >> Thank you. >> Okay. Beautiful. Thank you. Wow. >> Beautiful. >> Okay. I think I need uh beyammen principal. Ari, we haven't spoken about it. Beyamin principal. I need the beyammen. Thank you, mayor. I need the beyammen's here. So, the beyammen principal. I don't think we even spoke about it a little bit. Beyammen principal is needed over here a little bit. Beyammen and Ahri. The Beyamin Ahri principal. Uh you guys please keep me. It's good. You're on the right, left, left, right, depending which side. So, I need you guys to keep me in check. Very good. And it goes like this. There's a very clear distinction. And Hashem, please help me speak this out this morning at the Bris Rabbi Kaf's son's Brism. Uh it was a to be there and uh it was a to talk a little bit with Rabbi Gesler Schlita who was there and we were talking about Asa and Yakov and I want to try and expound a little bit of what we were talking about. Um the Tory is given to us. Part of part of of one of the reasons the Tory was given to us is malashian mo which is we look into the tora is stuckle alma when I want to learn how to live my life I look in the tora and it teaches me about myself that the tora is there for us to teach us and to enlighten us as we're getting ready for kisslave for Kaneka for the lights of Kaneka. And one of the [snorts] is that this world is compared to darkness. As the Ram says to the anal which means my intellect and my brain can be darkened. And sometimes I need a little light to give me like when someone says oh like oh I see. When a person says oh I see oh I hear I hear what you're saying or oh I see. You get clarity. You have clarity. The light bulb goes on in your head. What does that do? It gives you clarity. So I just want to share a little bit to differentiate for us to understand Yakov and Asov and maybe we can learn to our life to my life what how that manifests within myself. How does that manifest? What can I learn from my great great-grandfather? We're all called Ben Israel after Yakov. Base Yakov after Yakov. We are the house of Jacob, the house of Yakov. The Shvatim is the continuation of Yakov. Yakov's lesson, and I'm going to say it, it might be brought out a little bit through Asov. Yakov's lesson is a very beautiful lesson. And that lesson is I am able to change. I am able to grow. I am able to heal. I am able to change my past. The way I change my past is by living today and creating a future. You cannot go like we said the other day, a minute ago is further away from a million years from now. And a million years from now is a long time from now. But a minute ago is further from that. As of Asov teaches and wanted to teach and wanted and and and and we're not judging Asov, but we're learning from Asov. And what we're learning from Asov is that Asov, as we said the other day is me and me and uh we were driving back uh from the Brit and I was smooing with and Aram. We were smoozing together. Aram's here. We're smooing. I said if we would call Asov's name in English, you know what his name would be? His name would be Yeah. Esau. His name would be ready for this. His name would be done. I'm done. Done means done. You're done. Like we said about Araminu, Arainu's mother's name is what? Amasla. Excuses. What did Araminu, our grandfather, Yitzkak, Yakov, what did they teach us? Excuses. Excuses. Excuses. You're 100% validated. This is why I need the binyaminari principle. You're 100% validated in every reason you are in pain. You are 100% validated in every reason that you struggle with what you struggle. We talk about it enough, maybe not enough about gaslighting yourself and invalidating yourself. You are valid for all of your reasons that you are where you are right now. Struggling in the darkness of where you are right now. The very fine difference and the hair's breath of difference between Yakov and Asov who are twins. They're twins. Why did Hashem have to make it that they're twins? Make Asov just be three years older than Yakov. Why do they have to be twins? And I think one of the reasons is is because they're so close to each other. To validate your pain, to validate your history, to validate that I was a victim and I am a victim. The question is now what? The question is what do I do with that information now? What do I do with that? the depressed person. And I'm not talking about someone who suffers from real clinical depression and someone I'm not talking about a person who has real real I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about the mentality of I cannot change and I cannot be who I want to be. That's how done talks. That's how d o n e that's how Asov talks. He says they say Asov used to sit outside the base medish. So med says this to sit outside the base medish after an inspiring day in the yeshiva an inspiring day to say you know what you're not who you used to be. You know what I can make a decision to change and to be happy. I can make a decision to heal myself. I don't have to be like my parents. I don't have to be a victim of circumstance. I could rise above. That's Yakov. Yakovu takes his circumstance. He takes the lemons and he makes lemonade. Ace of the man who's done complains about the lemons day in day out. And I'm not principal. I'm not at all saying there isn't a place for complaints. There's a beautiful place to complain and to vent and to share and to say, "I'm a victim and I was hurt and my parents did this and my parents did this and my rebum did this and I have religious trauma and I can't even say the gamarra the word gamarra. I can't even say the word shabas. I can't and I there's zero zero zero big big zero judgment. Anyone who knows me, anyone who knows Judaism, you know why? Because where does Judaism come from? Jacobu. There is zero judgment in that. I still can choose to change. I can still choose to have a different relationship with Shabas. I could choose to have a different relationship with life. Asov is depressed. The done guy. And I don't mean shalom real depressed shalom. Again, I'm I'm reiterating that shalom. There are people who suffer from real I'm not talking about that. I'm talking when we get in our head and we get stuck as I've said many times from your holy brother from uh Rabbi Dich from your brother made up the line. It's a that Rabbi Dich is here with us. Get to know him. Get [applause] to know him. That's all I could say. with YaKob, your brother. We made up the line on Russash Shana. It's harder to get out of your head than it is to get out of your bed. That is the influence of and I'll say that again. Why is it harder to get out of your head than it is to get out of your bed? Because you're stuck. When you get stuck in your head, that's the influence of Asov. I'm stuck. I'm done. I'm done. I'm done. I am who I am and I'll never be able to dream to be that person that I want to be. Jacobu is au which means what? Even though I messed up even though I did it's this the twin. They both do the same exact aa they both do the same exact aa they're twins. They both had the same childhood. They both had the same trauma. They both had the same rebby. So how come this guy was able to move forward and this guy was not? And again there's no judgment of why someone you can only know yourself within yourself what decisions you make but to realize that you can change is called yeamelik had these beautiful eyes you think the tyra needs to describe how beautiful and goodlooking the the the king David was to say he was a gingi a red head with beautiful blue eyes. Oh, there you go. >> Maybe he looks like a hobby. Maybe he looked like a hobby. >> Maybe he looks like >> And he has beautiful eyes. >> Beautiful. There you go. So, you know what the shot is? You know what the shot they say? You know what the shot is? >> You know what? You know what they say is right now for sure. Now, for sure. We don't need it. We don't need it. >> Uh, someone just say, do we need the binamari principle? You guys want to say it? Say, just say it. Say the bom. Just cuz for those who don't know. No, no, you say it better. It's your principle. Am I doing okay? If I'm doing okay, you don't need it. >> Keep saying real depression. I think you mean like chemical versus >> whatever. Yeah. I don't want to get into that. Yeah. Yeah. I'm saying like who's the guy is stuck in his bed cuz he's depressed and he has >> Yeah. Yeah. So he has real so someone >> he could change like >> No, no, he can't. No, no, no. I'm not talking about that person. He can't be he can't. Could be he can't. I'm not talking about that guy. >> I'm not talking about that guy. I'm not talking about that guy. I'm talking about someone who doesn't have that. I'm not talking about that. >> I'm saying me. Me. >> I don't I'm saying people People who get in their head. People who get in their head. All of us. Yeah. Is there a difference for me? >> Yes. Yes. Okay. Can Can we I don't want to I I don't Thank you, Ruvenona and Shalom. And I And I thank you. I don't I don't We could discuss a little bit. I'm I'm not talking about there are there are people who suffer from real real clinical depression. I'm not talk I'm not talking about I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about that. >> I'm not talking about that. >> No, no, no. There's there's a there's I don't know. I don't know the actual technical [applause] >> between like >> right just not clinical >> um >> like someone's something terrible happens to someone. >> No no no no nothing to do with that. Nothing to do with that. No bio biochemistry. >> Uh yeah. So So can we can we >> do what does that mean? >> Let let let me let me explain. Let me explain. Let me explain. Let me explain. Let me explain. Take take the word I'm I'm I'm uh sustained. Objection. Sustained. Right. There's objection overruled. Obje. It is an objection. You are challenging. The challenge is sustained. Double check. Blue check. Message received. And I'm going to do a Yakov right now. I'd like to do Chuva and go back. And I'm I'm switching that. Okay. Let's Let's [clears throat] not talk about depression, clinical depression, or quote unquote depression. That's a different conversation for another time. Let's talk about someone feeling like I am done. D O N E. I don't mean emotionally that I'm done, but that I'm stuck. I'm stuck. Go. >> I have I have right now. All of us now all of us all of us all of us have parts of us. All of us have parts of us that feel that we are done. Which means I will I'll just give three examples. I'll give three examples. I'll never ever ever be able to live the life that I want to live. I'll never ever be able to make the money that I need to make to live the life that I want to live. There's a part of that that's like you're done. Oh, I'm 19 years old. Oh, I'm 20 years old. Oh, I'm 18 years old. I'm even 25, 30 years old. That's a nuda of Asov. You're done. Oh, I've done aos. Number two, I've done a veros. Uh, Karaba is here. I've done aosaba. I've done aos. And by the way, we have karaba. Rabbi shik. Get to know Rabbi Shik as well. I love Rabbi Shik. Rabbi Shik. Thank you. I'm done. I'm done. Many of us, including myself, now it's a little bit harder as you get older and older, but Asov creeps in to the little child. As of creeps in to each and every one of us. I'm not going to be able to be the sadic that I want to be. I'm not going to be able to know shas. I'm not going to be able to be shy. I've been exposed to too much impurity with my eyes, with my brain, with my emotions. I'll never ever be able to be pure ever again. That is the world of Asov. The world of Yakov is the world of Yakov is you can create a a new you. And even though you've come from where you've come from and even though maybe even psychologically your family makeup, your genes, your brothers and sisters, it's a legacy. Anyone who knows Ripsum Karaba, explain a little bit how powerful that is of legacy. Could you give a little >> legacy >> legacy? I don't know. I don't know. But they say legacy, which means your father's like that, your grandfather's like that, his father was like that. Holocaust. Holocaust. There's hol. Anyone here, those who who've had conversations with me about that, if your grandparents were Holocaust survivors, greatgrandparents, there are certain legacy trauma people. I don't know how it's going to play out. October 7th simra last year's missiles sirens for little kids my own grandson. He's traumatized. That is something that's in the system. As of says you're done. You're locked in. You hurt somebody. You hurt one of your siblings. The shame that a person might feel from certain things that they've done. As of pounces on that as of says you are locked up, locked in. You'll never ever ever get out. And not only did he feel that way within himself and in this week's para they say what did Yitzk see in Asov Yitzk saw that if he would go ahead and actually believe that I can change he could become greater than Yakov. >> Was he able to >> the about Yes. Because if he wasn't able to, we wouldn't be talking about it. If he was incapable of changing, we would have nothing to learn from him. >> He had the ability to change. That's also why his head is in the mara >> because there's a part of that he knew bes he knew in his head and that's what saw in him. [clears throat] He says, "You have it. You have it in your rabiaka comes from do you know that rabaka raor they say tora it's the craziest thing comes from it says that loved as kay because he had to there he used to fool his father through what did as say he says says, "Ah, I'm I'm a fool. I'm a liar." He looked at himself as a liar. He looked at himself that I'm done. Yakov is busy, as we're going to see more and more. What is Yakov busy with? He's working. He's falling in love. He's moving forward. He is He's moving forward. He's, as I said the other day, things roll off roll off of Yakov. very very smooth. Let's move. Let's build. I got a lot to do. As of is depressed. That's why I said it. By the way, I'm not judging someone who suffers from depression, but I'm saying that mentality that I can't change. The mentality that I'm stuck is a very, very, very powerful powerful powerful mentality. And it's given over through the entire world. Ayid. Ayid. A Jew. Ayid. Ayid. You know how much they pounced on us? Do you know how much pain the Jewish people have been through? You know how much trauma we all collectively have as a nation, as individuals? And what do we do? We build a country. We build one of the greatest countries. I'm not talking about Eritus, a country that just shines. We build innovation. We build medical facilities. We build armies. We build We build people. We build yeshivas. We build kibbuten. We build everything in spite. There's no other country in the world. No other country in the world that every second every second is under attack is under attack from all sides. And what do we do as we're going to learn when we come to what's the lion? The more more the more you beat us down the greater I'm going to be. The lower you've gone, the higher you'll go. As of stops at how low you've sunken. As of wants you to focus on all the bad. I'm bad. I've done bad. I'm [clears throat] tame. I'm contaminated. I'm stuck. Yakovu is having a party. Yakovu is moving forward. He's getting married. He's building a home. He's working. He's learning. And I think for each and every one of us, I think for each and every one of us, each and every one of us, it's so so important. It's so so important. It's so so important. And there's zero judgment if if things are difficult for you. It's the opposite. Of course, things are difficult for you. They're twins. Oh, David, we got See, we got distracted by your good looks, AI. >> David, I'm wrapping. >> Oh, yeah. David, thank you. David Melik. David. David. King David. David is yeim. What does that mean? It means he had the same mazle as who do you guys know this? He had the same mazle. Who else is the redhead in the Torah? >> Okay. One second. Ruven. One second. One second. One second. That's the wrong I love you. I love you. One second. No. No. No. No song for this one. Ruben, I love you. No. I'll tell you why. I'll tell you why. Because what that does what that does is is it makes it that that they that they were off in their bik. The difference between David and Asov. The same exact horoscope. It's not meal. Say it. The same exact twin. Do and as ye. What's the difference? Do was called what? Anybody know David was called a mamzer? David Aamelik was not invited to the party. Could you imagine this? With all of his siblings, the prophet didn't even invite him to the party to anoint the king because he was sure that he's not going to become the king. David Aamelik is the one who is the sinner. He's the baluva. What did he take with all of his pain and with all of his suffering and with all of his rejection and with everything that he was given? He took the lemonade. He took the lemons and made it into lemonade. He took his pain and he took his struggles and he says, "I'm going to become the king." David, melam, that's Messiach. As of tells us, it's never going to come. Messiah will never come. It's been too long. We've suffered too much. You guys are done. I'm done. At 19 years old, you're done. At 20 years old, Binyamin principal principal. Zero criticism. At 19 years old, you're done. At 25 years old, you're done. At 30 years old, who said that? >> It's true. You're just getting started. You haven't even gotten started. Not in a bad way. As will tell you cuz when they used to walk out of the base medish, Asov was sitting there and he'd say, "Eh, for you it's not true. It's not true. He doesn't know me. This rabbi doesn't know me. You don't know how bad I've been. You don't know my parents. You don't know what I've been through. You don't know how dirty I am." So Asov would say, "Come with me. Come with me. Life stinks anyway. You're messed up already. Let's party." Meanwhile, he's the depressed one. Yakov is, "Let's go. Let's go. Let's move forward. Let's build. Let's move ahead. I'm going to change my name. I'm going to have two names. Not only am I one person, I'm two people. I'm going to be powerful. I'm going to be beyond powerful. Hashem should help us all. Let's learn a quick hilar sitting out there like show guys. >> That is that's what he said. That's what that that's what the measure says that he would sit outside and he would convince everyone not Yeah. Yeah. I'm putting that into it. Quick. Can we do a quick Somebody have on the on the chat please >> almost 700 almost have 700 people. >> We're good. We didn't need >> goes yesterday. [clears throat] >> That's fine. >> Wait, I don't think we said it. Go, go, go, go. >> Okay. Uh, day 46. Regarding family, talking about one's parents in a negative light is lash and har. It is also forbidden to talk negatively about one's siblings, even if it's to other siblings or to parents. >> This is forbidden even if the information is well known in the family. It is also forbidden to talk negatively about one's own children. >> Okay, but I just want to say very important. One second, don't leave on that note. I I'm going to tell them to post they have to post a PS to that. If if it's in regards to venting and the right people and the right way, it's 100%. Well, you can't just say because it's more complex than that. But Yasavi, you're right. You there are there is a time and a place to talk and people to talk to about your parents, about your siblings, with your siblings. There definitely it's not just black and white. You can't you can't you can't. There's a forum to do it. There's a way to do it. So don't just hear the halaka that you got to just, you know, keep it all in and gaslight bottle bottle it in and gaslight yourself about all that stuff. to be continued. Light up tomorrow with today.