FORBIDDEN DESIRES - Bitachon B’HaShem (15)

[Music] everybody that you com to learn on a Sunday night we here in Sunny Isles continuing our series uh the uh series continues to get popularity have a few people from Nigeria that are watching the sh and obviously a few people from all over the place um Sho tonight will be for a for bani anyone that heard the story of the two-year-old girl very strange story of how a uh tests people to the limits on their where little girl is sick you would think that she would get the insurance company to do their job but apparently the insurance companies don't want to pay the insurance and the family is trying to raise over $2 million uh for the sake of finding medicine uh to pay for the medicine there's only one uh possibility of a cure I don't know the family personally but uh the story has been uh spread around everywhere across my desk as well that they they not only succeed getting whatever they need but also getting the Cure once and for all so this girl can become a is uh that's healthy and sanctifies A's name for the rest of her life uh so for her also for a for also forid and all of have so our series continues we have the Shalom guiding Us by the hand for anyone that's been paying attention over the last couple of months how to gain one of the most important Tools in uh any generation really but uh in this generation no less how to gain one of the most important tools to survive life and I don't mean life as far as just physically I mean life as far as your religiosity your ideology there's a very big problem in today's yes where uh you know you would think that the problem with secularism and uh just in general heresy you would think that that kind of problem is only in the uh Public Schools you would think that that kind of problem is only in America you think that that kind of problem is only in the uh let's say Tel Aviv and other uh places like that but the reality is that even the yes today are having some severe problems where they're calling it nut nut means it's similar to how uh you know when a leaf falls off of a tree you know they uh in essence a uh it says that aad is like an theim the tree of life is the tadik So when you say that there is a uh leaf that fell off meaning that sadik he had right you know he had sons that went to ISA he had sons that kept Shabbat growing up but somewhere along the line at 15 16 17 18 years old they went off the D as they call it question is how do people go off the why do you go off the D why what's what's so what's so nice about the secular life that religious people want to be there you know you would think if you up nonreligious like me then you don't know any better you don't know that the uh religion is fun you don't know that Judaism is beautiful you don't know any of that stuff you grew up secular you think that secularism is the best and religious people are like in a uh in jail but when you grew up religious why would you be jealous of a guy that you know is a Shabbat and after you know what Torah says about it now as my said in a today he says that unfortunately in today's there's a very common problem with the secular schools the public schools and that common problem is that they do not teach hash they don't teach a way of life they don't teach how you're supposed to look at life and how we call it ideology what's the right ideology that you're supposed to have as a Jew how are you supposed to look at life how are you supposed to look at a problem you see that there is an advertisement for a 2-year-old girl that got sick in a religious family and the only cure that exists only one company has and this company is I know has some M they want to charge 2 million $2 million for the medicine because they know they're the only ones that have the Cure and somehow this is legal and insurance company doesn't want to pay for it so you would think wait a minute if she's religious she shouldn't even be sick if you're a nor regular person a secular person with think wait a minute if you're religious doesn't that solve all your problems how could a religious person be sick that's the first question that the Satan will put in your head wait a minute she's religious and she's sick and she's two years old what kind of sins did a two-year-old do what sheab what did she do what did she do she's two years old so the Satan is in go to put a question in your head and say wait a minute how does a 2-year-old get sick if she's religious and the parents are religious and how does she get sick and the only cure belongs to some company that's amalik and wants to charge $2 million for it and on top of that the insurance company doesn't want to pay and the family doesn't have any money and the family has less than a week to get the money why because if they don't get it within a week Insurance the uh the hospital will not allow the medicine because you have to be under two years old much the most obnoxious equation you could ever come up with anyone does have the right has the right ideology of how you're supposed to look at the Tor and Torah life can easily become a heretic overnight over such a story now I told you I don't know these people personally but the story is as strange as can be the good news is that we have the Torah and the Tor tells us someone that has confidence in only kindness will surround him meaning that sometimes tests us beyond what we think is our own limitations in order to get us to a level that we don't even think we belong in in order to bring us kindness that's beyond something that we could ever imagine what is it like anybody ever heard of a rabbi named R AA you heard RAB AA famous enough right he was was on YouTube though RAB AKA Al Shalom was married to a woman by name of Rael now Rael grew up in a Billionaire's house kalba SAA now kalba SAA he knew a little tah he had a lot of money and he had thoughts in his mind of who his daughter is going to marry he's a multi-billionaire one of the three richest people in all of is and he said minimum my 18-year-old beautiful little Rael she going to marry an Ado she's going to marry a she's going to marry someone special someone from a good you know someone good family religious this that he had in mind who are all the bachelors in the world the best of the best easy she's not only beautiful she's Rich too one day his daughter his little ra that was a cute little 18-year-old girl comes up to Aba listen I want to marry the guy that cleans your horses his name is Akiva and he's the son of a cond no more no less he thought that his whole life just became dark go yeah your mind out of all the people in the world you marry the homeless guy that's cleaning my horses for $5 a week he doesn't even know how to Al bet there's no doesn't keep nothing what are you talking about you can marry the richest guy in the world you can marry the biggest sadik in the world you can marry anything you want Rael says no I want him he has good midot he has good character tra I saw how he treats the the animals if he can treat the toah like this if he can treat mankind like this he could be a sad all he needs to learn a little bit yeah but you realize he's double your age he's 40 years old Divorced with a kid meaning the this bachelor doesn't get any worse divorced kid son of converts we're not even sure what you a b de or not you know who knows these days she went forth with it she married RAB aka before he became RAB AKA now it wasn't so easy because our father didn't like it so he cut her out of the will he cut her out of the bank account he took her credit cards he cut them all up and the reality is she became as poor as dirt you know today poor means you're only eating two meals a day back then poor means you're eating two meals a week so she told RAB AKA honey promises you said we're going to get married to go to yes go to yes he went to Yesa for 20 years but it wasn't so easy to get to that point of the end where everybody knows the end of the story he comes back with 24,000 students he's the most famous Rabbi in the world kab gives him a bunch of money without even realizing this is him and this is that before all of that happened they had to deal with some serious serious poverty so much so that the only possession they had was the barn they lived in Barn Barn is where horses live in they lived in a barn and the straw they slept on now one day they have a little girl little baby girl and where you going to put the little girl you has to lay on something where she going to lay on same thing as ABA what lay on a straw imagine you carry this baby for nine months you want the best for this baby but the best you could offer is straw straw disgusting smelly straw that's what the little baby's laying on for the first time had a little bit of saf had a little bit of a doubt she had a little bit of a doubt why she started crying started crying I grew up in a house that's the floor was full of diamonds the floor was diamonds now I have my daughter my own daughter that I did all this all this sacrifice for the sake of Tora for for you for this for that my daughter is on a straw answered our prayer by sending heri El AI knocks on the door of the barn obviously not telling them that he's Eli telling them that he is their next door neighbor and he says to her please please can you help me we just had a baby and we don't have anything to lay her on can you give me some straw maybe you have some straw the AKA is so happy goes honey we have a lot of straw straw we have anything else we don't have straw we have ra is so happy she starts Gathering some straw straw for the guy for the poor she gives him the straw they're as happy as can be now shom asked this question he said wait a minute if is already sent from sh he went a long way from sent him all the way from there we talking about thousands of light years all the way to this world bring a check for like two3 million no what it's so big deal for you nice check no make it payable to cash so we don't have to pay taxes no come on why didn't he bring a check anybody have an answer for me he brought a what a request for straw the reason is because wanted to solve the problem once and for all if he would have given her $2 million like all of us think is the right idea then it's all already a matter of time it's only a matter of time before Rael before AKA who later on becomes RAB AKA have the same suff again same doubt again same problem again that maybe we don't have enough the straw we have is not enough we want more the $2 million eventually turns into straw it's viewed the same way yes it's a maybe it's marble floors and ceilings and so on but eventually your house becomes like stra you get used to it if I give you the $2 million eventually it's going to turn into straw but if I show you someone that has less than you then it reminds you that you actually have much more than you could imagine who is Rich someone that's rich with his own share what you have perfect that's what customes for you that's what makes you rich if you're happy with what you have now it doesn't mean that you're not allowed to be ambitious you're allowed to be ambitious but ambition does not mean misery a lot of people are ambitious to the point of misery where they're ambitious they want to get more but along the road they're miserable they're in depression until until they get the money they have problem is with those people is not only do they never actually attain their goals but on top of it even if they do they're still miserable why because thear says someone that does not learn M does not learn to like you're supposed to you give him a 100 he wants 200 you give him 200 he wants 400 you give him 400 he wants 800 meaning he's never going to have enough no matter what you give him he's always going to want more but that's what wanted to solve for AKA and his dear wife ra be happy with what you have so sometimes a is going to give us major tests that are beyond what we think Inc is he something that we can handle in order to elevate us to a level that we never even thought we belong in but the only way that any one of us can pass our own tests each one of us has different tests is by first looking at things from the right perspective by having the right ashfa the right ideology of what is the Torah really supposed to do first and foremost anyone that tells you if you follow Tora you will not have problems is simply a liar if you are alive religious or not if you're alive if you're of a pulse you have problems if you don't have problems that means you're already in a different world you have to have problems problems equals life the Torah is there to show you a guide of how to solve those problems how to view those problems but problems exist in everybody's life life everybody's life everybody has problems rich people have problems poor people have problems fat people have problems skinny people have problems girls have problems boys have problems everybody has problems Jews have problems non-jews have everybody has problems anyone that tells you if you follow to you're not going to be problems they simply a liar or just never actually studied to themselves so they're living in an imaginary life you have to have problems if you're going to be alive the Torah is there to actually guide you of how to view those problems and how how to solve them how to solve those problems it's very important for a person to have the right ideology because if you're going to think that the Torah is going to solve all of your problems and one day you arrive at your problems and the Torah surprises you disappoints you because you thought you're not supposed to have this problem then it's very easy for you to just abandon way which is unfortunately what happens today in many places as soon as a person has problems they abandon a Tor they blame hasem for it they blame the Tor for it they blame the religious life for it yeah well listen I'm having financial problems so I can't afford kosher food what does one thing have to do with the other who told you to buy uh a 15 ounce steak for lunch buy simpler kosher food you don't have to eat a 15 oce steak for lunch get something else cheaper it could still be kosher who said you even have to have meat maybe you could have something else the point being AB is that people that blame the religion for their problems simply never had the right ideology to start with now what's the right ideology the right ideology is the Tor is going to teach you how to have confidence in a regardless of what your problem is because the reason why you have a problem is because aosh is trying to talk to you and give you different types of messages gives seven different reasons where it's really eight but the eighth one just simply says that we don't really know but it gives seven different reasons of why a person will have difficulties in their life why would AEM give difficulties to a person now we're not talking about him giving difficulties to a person that's aat or someone that uh you know is with a woman without being married or someone that's violates Kash we're not talking about that we're talking about people religious people meaning people that are doing everything the book says they still have problems toah says and T gives us seven different reasons of why they have problems one of the reasons that gives people different struggles is to elevate them Elevate their one reason is because they made a few sins in their life and Hashem wants that when they get to him after 120 they get there he doesn't want them to go to Gom at all he wants to clean the from all the sins here so he gives them a few difficulties to clean them up pay for those sins a small little price for a month here a month there a week there week here but then when they get up to him they go straight to ganeden another reason is because he wants to raise them here in a different way meaning he wants to make you more righteous than you even think you're capable of doing now you'll notice that people that had a lot of problems in their life tend to be a lot more patient and a lot more wise that's that's not a coincidence young kids typically do not have patience or wisdom no offense to anybody it's a young kid it's just a reality and the reason is is because most young kids didn't have any problems yet the things that give you wisdom are usually problems because you learn how to overcome those problems you learn how to overcome these problems that's wisdom that's part of wisdom patience is something that you attain after you realize that the first 15 Solutions didn't work only solution number 16 that you knew all along but didn't want to use that ended up working after you do that a few times after you do that a few times you're like you know what let me just have patience why should I get mad the whole way until something works out let me have enough patience eventually think something's going to CI something's going to work patience you attain over time after dealing with a lot of problems but the point being is that with age comes wisdom but also with s comes wisdom the to can save you save you a lot of time and a lot of problems by giving you the solution on day one you just simply need to apply what it says so one of the reasons that a gives us these different problems is in order to elevate Us in order to give us the experience we need in order to get to a higher level of wisdom to soften our character to make us into better better quality people now the BET says that a person who trusts in hem will feel that whatever Hashem gave him is the best and he won't desire or even feel bad for for having a different situation as we learned from the story of RA Anda is that a was trying to give them a customade sh he said listen you want to have in me you have to learn that whatever I gave you is the best of the best even though it looks disgusting now even though it looks horrible now even though it looks like homeless right now it's the best if you look at it the right way you'll have a valuable lesson that's worth knowing for the rest of your life that even if you have a lot or you have a little you always feel the same on the other hand if you don't learn this lesson I'll have to give it to you again I'll have to give you the sh again I have to give you the test again so the BET says that the highest form of trust in includes not only doing less work for the things that we want because we know that will give us whatever we need anyway but also by removing the desires that we have in our heart for things that we think are better meaning that most of the time people that have anxiety and all types of negative feelings in their heart most of the the time it's self-inflicted they caused it TOS there's a famous statement that people like to say was the grass is not always greener on the other side there's actually wisdom to this statement people look for example in the old days grass actually mattered today the grass doesn't really matter but in the old days grass was like one of the things people you know took pride in how your lawn looked but the guy that look you know mow his lawn and you know gave it certain grains and certain things and fed it and so on and so forth he was proud that his lawn was as green as you know he thought it could be until he looked at his neighbor's lawn and his neighbor's lawn always looked Greener but in reality his neighbor looking at his lawn and says wow I wish I had lawn like him they're both wishing they had each other's lawn that's where the statement came the grass is not always green on the other side meaning that you're only from your perspective his looks better but in reality from his perspective yours looks better most of the problems that we have is because we look at other people's lawn we look at other people's cars we look at other people's wives we look at other people's husbands and jobs and whatever it is and we think wow I wish I had that I should have that and if you don't stop there I'm going to take that and that's why unfortunately sometimes there are predators that specifically go after married people people there are different types of wicked women that only like people that have a wife and they're also Wicked type of men that only like married women this started originally by not being happy with what they have looking at somebody else's wife eventually Crossing that line once he crossed that line and enjoyed that desire he wants to do it again and again and he gets a rush out of it and she gets a rush out of it these are sick people they have a very special Villa in Gom but the point is is that this all stems with something that doesn't seem like such a bad what's the big deal of being jealous what's the big deal of being jealous if you let that jealousy materialize it can get you to a place there's no coming out of someone that goes with a married woman unfortunately I has no share of the world to come says this is a very very serious crime in theah not a fun thing to do obviously everybody's can do chuva you have to do serious chuva this is one of those sins that it's extremely difficult to do chuva because you can't undo what you did but everything is subject to chuva as long as you're alive once you leave this world I'm sorry my friend my shim cannot help you at that point shim can help you while you're alive now as you've noticed many times I mentioned to you the things that cause people to lose and the reason why is because I want to embellish upon you that it's very easy to lose everything it's very easy to lose everything just like that a person can lose Thea you embarrass another Jew in public you don't do chuva for it bye bye violate chabbat don't do cha for bye bye go with a married woman don't do cha for it bye bye finished you could keep Shabbat you keep you can do all the other things right but you did that one thing wrong without fixing it you have a very serious problem why is the Torah so critical because it wants to tell you that the Torah is not just there for whenever you feel like it t is a way of life is to teach you the right ideology the right mentality at all times especially during times where you have a very strong desire to do something to is not just there to be a history book Shalom to give you some nice stories a few a few laps here and there maybe some chint maybe some uh some macaroni and you're having a good time no no my friends this is not what Tora for T is there to guide you during the most difficult times of your life difficulty in a sense of having a big desire that you know is forbidden difficulty in a sense will you have a difficulty in your life like Shalom these these young parents that have a 2-year-old that's now struggling for our life and only have a few days to get money now if you have the right ideology you know you know for sure no matter what whether we raise the money we don't raise the money whether the medicine works doesn't work whether the insurance company does this or does that doesn't make a difference everything comes from a whatever he gave us that's what he wanted even if what he wanted is very difficult for us to accept if you have the right ideology never for a moment are you going to have doubts of who runs the world and why he runs the world that way you're simply going to acknowledge this is God there's nothing else other than him this is what he wants this is what he will that's it my job here is to learn how to deal with this at some point I'm going to see the benefit in all of this difficulty the BET continues and he says that if a person's heart is full of desires for other people's stuff for other situations where he has a difficulty he has a person in his family that's sick he has loneliness in his heart cuz he can't find a Zug she has uh lack of money she has lack of confidence she looks at another girl and feels like wow I wish I was in her life I wish I had her husband I wish I heard her house she looks at somebody else and the picture looks perfect someone that has these desires is not trusting with a full heart that Hashem is doing what is best for that person the main the main part of depends on what you have in your heart not just simply what you say not just simply what books you read and what you have on the shelves but what do you feel inside the stuff that nobody else could hear no one else can see do you have anxiety that you're not going to be able to pay the rent this month do you have anxiety that you're going to die lonely and you're not going to find a wife do you have anxiety that maybe just maybe something's wrong but you don't really know how and who and when when do you have that problem that means you have a lack of you have a lack of confidence in if you're looking at other people's stuff at other people's things and say ah I wish I had that that means that you have no idea what the relationship between you and hm is supposed to be you're thinking I'm supposed to desire more so therefore I saw that he has more I should desire what he has by Desiring what he or she has it's actually it's actually going against your relationship with because in essence what you're saying is that Hashem doesn't know what he's doing he gave you the wrong package and in fact maybe he gave him the wrong package too cuz I deserve what he has and maybe he deserves what I have what's in your heart when no one else can see is what is all about now of times you're going to go to different people's houses and you're going to see books lots of books like we have books you're going to see five times more books different places houses and automatically you're going to get the impression wow this is a this is this this is that wow but as soon as you have dinner with these people you start hearing things that if you know a little bit one two three four of our you already know whatever they're saying is not tah has nothing to do with T so you look wait a minute the books the mouth they don't match they don't match the books say you have to have no matter what this guy is complaining the whole time we're having dinner this guy is complaining the whole time we're having dinner how could it be he's complaining about not having this he's complaining about not having that how could it be that he read all those books well the solution is is that just because somebody has books doesn't mean they read them many times you see that people have books because today is a very unique generation you can buy books for nothing for a couple of thousand you could have an entire Library the key is to read the books and even bigger key is to apply what the book says that's what the that's what the key is read the book and apply what it says sometimes you'll see people have the book but they don't apply it that's the point of our sh is not only to read the books but also to remind ourselves of what we're supposed to apply it's better to have one book and read it than 500 books but they're all brand new and you read one page of each so now the main part of the main battle is going to be an inner battle just like the books that no one knows if you read them or you didn't read them same thing would be no one's going to know what you really feel inside no one's going to know you can say no all the key words everybody has key words start singing people songs to people we love you you know people have songs y Goan became a rabbi these days with all the songs that he has the songs songs they have but as soon as they have a problem biggest Heretics you could possibly find all the garbage comes out of their mouth how could you do this to me I can't believe it I think a made a mistake this that this how how do you m how do you do because again like I said is something that's an inner battle and the only one that knows aside from yourself is a which means that the test that you're being handed is a custom made test based on your that only knows you have no one else your wife doesn't know what kind of you have you could tell her all day all night oh yeah no everything going be fine in reality inside you're scared to death you're scared to death like I I can't believe I just told everything's going to be fine we're going to get evicted in two days how we going to tell her in two days I can't believe you're like scared you don't can't sleep the whole night but you told everything going to be fine but you don't really believe it you just you don't have the confidence to tell her honey uh do me a favor pack everything we have in two suitcases cuz that's all we can fit in the car when the Marshall comes in two days that's what we can fit you don't have the heart to do it she doesn't know a you have you don't know what kind of she has she's been praying all day all night she knows is going to send a solution the test that gave is both custom made for both of you which means that if you have a problem problem don't complain to Hashem Hashem why did you do this to me you should be saying how does this test match my current status of bet how does it match oh so ifm gave it to me and I believe in I believe that customizes the whole world including my own life that means that my current level of is good for this test it matches this test I can overcome this test don't believe I can but apparently hasm knows I can now DAV says in 28 verse 7 in him my heart trust in he says I trust him meaning thatav says even he himself had to constantly remind himself of who to trust he's not writing in him and Trust to publicize it to you of course we're reading it 3,000 years later but in essence when he's writing something he's also reminding himself who do you trust why are you writing to trust AEM why you you have such a wonderful life you're the king of is you have a big Council you have 18 wives you have money you have kids you what's the problem theid is telling you I have a lot of problems so much problems that kazal says that he never slept slept more than 15 minutes in a row in his whole life seven years in the world he never slept for more than 15 consecutive minutes they said he used to sleep like a horse 15 minutes that's it that's how many problems he had and that's he's reminding us despite these problems I trust in him I trust in him therefore if you have says your heart and desires also have to be peaceful and at rest you should be strong in your trust that you believe in hem and that Hashem will provide for you everything that you need and that's good for you you should feel this strongly to the extent that you no longer have any desire he says that not only how do you measure yourself of what kind of bet do you have first and foremost how do you feel now do you have anxiety okay Bet level not so high you're worried about stuff your is not so high we have to work on it why because you need to know that whatever hasem gave you that's for you no one else can give you a better equation no one else can give you a better situation this is what you have because this is what hashm wants you to have you can want more but this is what you have and you have to find a way to be happy with whatever situ situation you have you have pain in the back be happy with with the pain in the back you have a lot of money be happy with a lot of money you have no money be happy with a little no money you're single be happy being single you're married with six kids and you don't know how how to fix the house cuz they keep breaking it be happy with that too how how can you be how can you be happy if the kids are breaking the house how can you be happy having no money how can you be happy having a lot of how can you be happy with all these weird circumstances instead of looking at the other side and being jealous of it look at what you have first and compare it to the other side what we do naturally is we look at their good stuff and we say I want that oh I want that too or I want him also I want what he has also and I want her also and and they start like a shopping list you walk down the street on Shabbat you look at all the houses yeah yeah that's a nice car I want that car oh that house you know the windows they're tinted I want that too oh you know that door knob wow that door knob is at least $5,000 I want that door knob oh look how big their numberers you start shopping by looking at people's houses that's killing us you want to build your start looking at your stuff first and then compare it to everybody else oh look I have three kids you know some people don't have kids some people are willing to pay millions millions of dollars just for one kid not three one right now there's parents are willing to pay $2.2 million to heal their kid you have three kids healthy you still complain yeah but they're breaking my house let them break the house what do you think you think these parents that have to pay $2 million for their kid they're not excited for the kid to break their house they'll pay5 million for her to break the house but we don't look at that we look at oh we have three maybe we should add four maybe we should add two we look at what's missing instead of looking at what we have oh yeah but look at his car once you look at your car you know how many people don't have a car you know how people don't have a car or they have a car it doesn't work like yeah but look they have a lot of money well I know a guy he has a hall like a wedding hall the guy's worth millions Filthy Rich he doesn't even know what to do with the money one time he had a party and you saw that the best chefs in the world came to this party best chefs in the world all types of food sman me the the the mountains of food you look at the guy say it's your place eat something no I can't no it's your place no one's going to say goes no no I can't I have diabetes yeah but look at the the meat it's delicious goes yeah I know it looks delicious have some no you'll kill me okay not the meat have some chicken no no you'll kill me okay have some some rice no kill me now have some chocolate no kill everything will kill him yeah but what's the point of having all the stuff you can't eat anything you you have all the stuff you can't eat anything yeah but have he's Rich what's the point of being rich if you can't eat anything you know how many people are rich but they can't eat anything but yet people don't look at the fact that they can't eat anything they look at the fact that they're good they're rich a lot of people are rich but then they commit suicide they call them Hollywood stars a lot of them commit suicide strangely the point is is that the biggest reason of why we live in misery is because we look at other people's stuff and only the good stuff they have and then they We compare it to the things we're missing instead of looking at all the presents that aadh gave us and then comparing it to all the things other people lack we're not saying to be proud over other people oh I have it hahaha and you don't have it but be happy that you have something that other people don't have this is how you could arrive at a situation where not only are you not unhappy with what you have whatever circumstance that may be but also how the BET tells you you eliminate all of the desires that you have in your heart what desires The Forbidden ones what's a forbidden desire something that doesn't belong to you somebody else's wife somebody else's money somebody else's husband somebody else's kid somebody else's chair somebody else's Bas whatever it is it's somebody else's for a reason if hasem wanted it to be yours he'll call it your buas it's his let him eat it don't ask him have a bite you know sometimes people they they don't understand they don't understand that you know other people have stuff to do so listen I'm in town can I come over why you putting me on the spot why you putting me on the spot you're in town why didn't you tell me before you came to town no I just landed I'm I'm three blocks away from your house can I come over stay by you for the weekend now you're putting the guy on the spot he's not comfortable why on one hand you're three blocks away you're already in town he's thinking wait a minute what I'm going to do with this guy he's going to be homeless he's going to be in the streets you start thinking all the worst equations in the world because you think this guy doesn't have any place to go that's what he called you but on the other hand you have your own uh stuff to deal with maybe you can't afford to have him over maybe you don't have room maybe you don't want him to see the stuff that goes on in your personal life whatever it is whatever it is don't put people on the spot always understand that you have to look at your situation a certain way their C situation a certain way don't put your problems on other people don't expect them to understand your problems you have your own book to deal with they have theirs as well if it's something belongs to you good for you if it belongs to somebody else good for them don't look at their equations now the BET continues and he says you should be pleased whatever does for you this is as it says in 131 verse number two did I not equate myself meaning my neish with the weaning infant a baby who stops nursing and is is hand fed by his mother the nees in this PUK means desire and David is trying to explain that his was so strong that he quieted and silenced all of his desires as an infant who's with his mother when an infant is being fed by his mother he has no desire to eat because he's accustomed to eat he's not accustomed to eating his mother puts the food into his mouth the same as the way David conducted himself he removed from himself all the personal desires to the extent where he only desired what Hashem want would do for him because there is no one who knows better of what's good for a person more than his creator further further it's not within a person's ability to help himself besides uh beside his creator meaning you can't help yourself beyond what a wants for you therefore it's fitting to give over your desires into the hands of the one who knows and has the ability one should accept with happiness everything that Hashem does trusting that everything he does was surely in his best interest this was the quality possessed by theim who used to say all that hasem does is for the best now there's a couple of people that we learned about in last week's parasa that had an enormous amount of no matter what hasem dealt them they had no problem you have two people that passed away no matter what gave them even though at times it was very difficult to accept they accepted it without a doubt when Aon found out that his two sons died says was quiet didn't say a word didn't complain to how they kept shabat they did this he didn't say nothing didn't say a single word in the situation of if you remember situation of punished her gave a because she said now throughout all the time that you see this story you see that is praying for her is praying for heru prayed for her but you never see that is saying a how can you do this to me how could you do he didn't say that why cuz she knew okay this is what happened I did it I'm guilty finished but now we have this week's Paras bak bak starts off with two people that not only they don't have but their lack of leads to their own demise their own destruction who are these two people Bak andam bam were the two main characters of the parasa who had everything in their hand gifted to them by God but still wasn't enough so the starts that balak son of T saw that all of Israel had done to the Amorite balak was the king of moav and uh he had everything in his power he had money he had Fame Fortune anything and everything that you want but he saw that am is beat the amorites and he says wait a minute if they beat them maybe they're going to come to me maybe this maybe that now B believed in God even though he was not Jewish he believed in God why because he went he says he knew what AM is was doing he knew that the only reason why am is they used to be slaves not too long ago is beating all of these Giants is because of their Kusha because of the Tor so he believed in the Torah so where did he go he went to a person that also knows T named that was the prophet of the so he believed in theor but he did not believe in what we call in Divine Providence that will give you exactly what you need to be given and he deals with every single little thing and he monitors every single little thing there are many people in the world today that believe in AEM even if they're religious Jews or non-jews a lot of people believe in hm a lot of believe that that there's a God the problem is that they believe that God went on vacation God created the world to them but he doesn't care whether they wash their hands before they eat he doesn't care where they do before they eat he doesn't care if they watch their eyes he doesn't care if uh they eat kosher or not Kosher he doesn't care if they do business kosher he doesn't care what kind of business they handle sometimes you're going to see certain people they looku they start talking they're like whoa M will be we're not really sure how could it be the looks One Way words different how could it be you see a woman she wears a k she has a she looks just came from Mount saai she starts talking it's like the sewer came out curses yells screams oo o how could it be it doesn't the looks don't match these are people that believe that created the world that's why they do what they do as far as their appearance perhaps they go to besset perhaps they give someaka perhaps they eat kosher they do what they do because they believe in hem but they simply do not believe in that hem is monitoring their specific behavior he's not monitoring how they are acting what they are doing what words they choose they believe yeah he judges everybody else but me no not so much this is bak bak believed in but he didn't think that Hashem is really monitoring everything so precisely so he said listen yeah he picked this nation but he's probably not overseeing everything they do so let me find a way to like undo his plan so he gets bam he gets bam and he tells him listen I'll pay you as much money as you want a billion dollars cash no problem he was in L bam had the same opinion bam had prophecy meaning he talked to says he knew the moment that judges the uh the world every day says that has one one moment per day that he judges the entire world meaning punishments all the different things that are happening in the world all decided in a single moment how much is a how much is a moment kazal says it's 115,000 of a second that's how long it takes AEM to judge everything in the world there's obviously no concept of time frame but that's what AA is now during that time of judgment thear says if somebody were to know this moment they could manipulate aem's judgment if you will how bam says if if that that's the moment that hasem is judging already he's judging them anyway then I can mention a few extra things as if you're going to influence hasem like hasem is a puppet or something I'm going to influence him by saying a few extra bad words saying no they no they're bad no look at no they're this no that say a lot of bad things about them so I'll curse them so that moment of judgment he's going to judge them even worse so even though bam was given the power to know this moment which is a power that even mosenu didn't have even mosu didn't have this prophecy even though he knew it he forgot that Hashem is not a puppet he forgot that Hashem doesn't have to judge anyone at that moment he chooses to so he believed in hem but not not in hem monitoring every single little thing not in Hashem being a superior power not in Hashem for what hasm really is a lot of times you see people like this in your day-to-day life where they'll say all of the right words and and they'll act as if hem is a key part of their life but when it comes when push comes to shove and there's a major issue there's a lot of money on the line all of a sudden they forget AEM just this morning I got a call from somebody said listen got into a car accident last night he was a passenger in a uh passenger in a car somebody reared them smashed into the car they says I'm okay my head hurts a little bit but I'm okay but the driver of the car that was driving him called him listen go to the hospital he goes I don't need to go to the hospital my head hurts a little bit but I'm okay CU yeah just go to the hospital tell them your legs hurt your back hurt you this hurt you that tell them everything hurts why that way the government without asking any questions they're going to send you to $12,000 we're asking question before the investigation before anything they send you 12,000 Cash He says yeah but that's lying no it's not really lying he starts giving them all the different reasons and excuses for Mal no but not really and they don't really know and anyway the money goes anyway to a certain it this and they have insurance and they have this and they have that all of the different ways of how you could lie this person sadik says thank you very much if hasm wants to send me $122,000 and send to me in the kosha away but how many people going to say that how many people are not going to fall for that trap and say you know what you know what my back really does hurt neither you mention it my back really does hurt you wrot you know what ow I can't believe I survive what I got to you know 911 honey call 911 911 honey my back hurts all of a sudden his back hurts once a year $112,000 all of a sudden ey you know what I can't see from one eye who are you you sure are you here I can't see you honey how many fingers am I holding no no it's four see see I'm blind all of a sudden he doesn't can't see can't this can't that why money's on the line money's on the line how many people throw AEM in the garbage when money's on the line unfortunately a lot a lot that's why you're going to see sometimes people do the most awful things as if Hashem does not exist whether it's the way they conduct themselves in business or even the business they own or even the stuff that they say to customers or how they just simply conduct their money and not paying their employees you know that anally speaking you have to pay your your employees on time and if you delay payment to your employees you have a very serious with we're not talking about you know listen a uh I'll pay you at 2:00 instead of 1:00 no you're paying the same day it's no problem but sometimes the guy says listen it's Friday I like having the money in my pocket for an extra couple days I'll pay you on Monday you're not going to spend the money anyway Shabbat you're not spending the money in the weekend right I'll pay you on Monday you're very serious with why you own the money now you have to pay now not on Monday on Monday already you took money that doesn't belong to you you're already a thief by Monday yeah but I'll pay him on Monday I'm not I promise I promise them I'll pay him on Monday I promise them I'll pay him on Monday doesn't matter you promised he already took it into account you're going to pay him on Friday you have to pay him on Friday oh what if I don't have you should have worried about that on Thursday go borrow go sell go do something give him stuff don't get the guy to come home with nothing now if you have nothing literally that's a different story but the reality is most people they have something they have something to give and they choose to delay the payment I have one student in uh in Los Angeles worked for a technology company the rotten people why they knew that they had something going for them their their product could be something special so they had a bunch of Tech Guys develop some apps some technology I don't all the details but they had a team of geniuses built this app for them and said listen you guys we going to give you paychecks but main thing is want to give you stock options why as soon as this thing goes up soon as this thing goes live we're going to go take the company public every's going to become rich so the guys they're really focused on his dream so they're working and yeah once in a while they get a paycheck to pay their bills but if there's a little bit of a delay a week a day it's not a big deal why because they they're getting these fake stock options CU they're hoping that after we finish this big work that we're doing in three four five six months eventually it's going to go out people are going to love it they're going to buy into it we're millionaires well guess what this company took advantage of these poor little kids young kids and one week delay became a two- we delay and a twoe delay became a 3-we delay and a 3we delay became a two-month delay three months they didn't pay anybody the guys had to start a borrow money from family just to survive to go to work in hopes that maybe just maybe when they finish working eventually they're going to get paid by stock options by this by that long story short the the company never paid them they all eventually left the company and uh I believe the company went belly up but point being it didn't go belly up because the idea was bad the idea was great ideal is still great the management was bad the people were bad a lot of times when businesses fail it's not because the business itself is bad it's because the people behind it are bad I remember years ago we invested into a company that was one of the innovators between behind the thing called myi you guys ever heard of the myi it's a hotspot little credit card looking device that creates internet hotspots there was a company named Novatel was one of The Originators of this idea fantastic idea especially at the time this is 10 years ago maybe more and we invested a few million dollars in this company thinking this is going to be a big deal product is good the uh price is right for the company what could go wrong until we started realizing that the management is the wrong Port CEO is corrupt CFO is even worse the one below it is a criminal one after another they're all on the same team one guy is worse than the other little by little they destroy the company till this day they haven't recovered the idea itself is fantastic you go buy myi device from Verizon or some one of these other companies but they had to go private why cuz in the public eye no they get arrested all all of them sometimes the ideas are fantastic but the people behind it are rotten so when it comes to wants us to have this regardless of what we have in our life regardless of what experience we have in our life I'll tell you a story and then I'll open it up for questions because I know you guys have some questions I'll give you a story abouta in the most difficult time in a person's life there's aad by name of abrah aronovich recently died at the age of 96 R abrah aronovich was a survivor of the Holocaust and he tells a story of what he experienced during the Holocaust now I know personally I failed the test already before even just starting the story I failed the test that he had why there's no way in the world that I could survive now there was in the Holocaust there was all types of tortures that the evil Nazis did to the Jews all types of experiments all types of killings all types of torture mental physical everything and anything possible these people were the most vicious people on the planet now before the Holocaust everyone looked at the Germans the Nazis as the the the most uh kind and polite people in the world because they would always say thank you thank you thank you people think that if you say thank you that makes you kind that makes you polite no it just you know how to speak doesn't mean anything what's in your heart is what matters so now during Holocaust everything came out and they started becoming what they really were the whole time one of the evil Nazi generals decided for for for himself to calm himself down every day he had to kill at least one person a day he had to kill somebody that's you know some people they watch sports for for fun some people they eat a lot for fun some people they go out with you know new wives every day some people people have different crazy things that they do this guy his fun was he had to kill somebody a day every day he had to kill somebody now how do he pick you go into one of the uh places one of the barracks look at the group of guys look at there people there you come kill them on the spot in front of everybody everybody knew as soon as he point at somebody start saying kadish because he not only kill him he kill him in front of everybody imagine being that person aronovich says one day he comes in everyone's scared to death because even though we're living under the worst conditions there is known to man the desire to live is something every normal human being has desire to live every normal human being has it the people that commit suicide they've crossed that line they're no longer normal once they jump off the cliff they become normal because they reality checks in but before that they're chemically imbalanced something happens they lose their will to live something happens to them literally I know this from somebody that actually tried committing suicide jumped off of the Golden Gate Bridge he's only one of two people that ever survived and he said I want to kill myself cuz my life was XYZ the worst blah blah blah all the worst descriptions in the world you can say I wanted to kill myself and I was right for doing it until I jumped he said he says himself in a video he says the second I jumped off the Golden the second my feet left the pavement from the Golden Gate Bridge I regretted everything especially jumping cuz I knew I could have done this better I could have done that better if I had more time if I had another chance all of a sudden the problem wasn't really that bad why cuz death was staring at me in the face I know I was going to die the fact that he lived obviously is a Miracle of Miracles to tell us the story today but the people in the Holocaust if this General pointed at them they knew for sure they're going to die and unfortunately everyone else was there to watch because they still wanted to live and one day this General comes in and he points at a y and he says look looking for y such and such and Y couldn't stand it he couldn't handle the test and he broke and he points at RAB aronovich goes y go go y go as if it's him y go go it's your turn no it's your turn go Yan now everybody knows he's not Yan that's RAB rovic but they're not saying anything rovic says in that moment I decided to take on myself not to be a m what's a m taking somebody and sending him to the gim calling the IRS on him calling the cops on him calling the authorities on him putting him in trouble why you're not allowed to do that as a Jew you have to be very very careful before you call the cops on another Jew you have to be very very careful before you call the IRS or the authorities on another Jew why because de if somebody's a they do such a thing without doing chuva guess what no that's how easy it is to lose how many people are jealous of their neighbor and they end up calling the authorities yeah I don't think his balcony is legal I don't think his driveway is legal they call the authorities anonymously anonymously they call the authorities to tell them I don't think that his balcony is legal and his roof is legal and the second floor he build is legal because they're jealous it's blocking my view if he steals from you steals from you is a different story you take him to a bedin take him to a bedin you have rabbis over there they're going to decide is it true did he steal did he not you you bring your evidence he brings it evidence you go to a bedin now the bedin invites him if he rejects it three times they first of all put them on and then you're allowed you get the permission from the bed to go to a regular court but you cannot simply call the cops or the IRS or the authorities by default and rabbi which said I knew if I said I'm not y on the spot he's he's killing him so I decided that moment I'm going to be un I'm not going to say nothing but you're going to die he goes in he joins the general and the general says today I decided to do the opposite you live everybody else dies and he killed the everybody else now and you ask yourself a question at the moment of truth at the moment of truth how many of us just not even imaginary just even in your small little bit of an imagination how many of us would do the same thing me I can already told you before the story started I failed before the story I'll start giving y social security number why I want to live I want to live but that's why we tell the story about him and not me you see when he died his say he lived the says in Proverbs 21:23 one who guards his mouth and his tongue guards his soul from trouble if a person knows how to watch their mouth what they say what they should say what they shouldn't say when to say what to say under difficult conditions not easy under difficult conditions you watch your mouth you're going watching your soul you're protecting your soul which means that if you have that high level of at that PO moment that means that regardless of what happens even if somebody points at you and says yes you're the one that's Y when you know very well you're definitely not Y and you don't even know who Y is you're gonna say I'm yif for now why if my Dean in sh is to die doesn't matter if I'm y or not hasem decid for me to die makes no difference if I'm y or not if Hashem decid for me not to die hasm what difference does it make if I'm y or not that'sa in under difficult conditions that's the point of what we're supposed to learn from the T it's not having under easy conditions it's under difficult conditions when you're sweating when you don't have any money when all of the problems that we have in life that's what the Torah is for that's what we're supposed to have now you guys have some questions I have some more information but I know that you guys have some questions so please who wants to go first yes morees he it's not that it's not that he didn't sleep because of the uh he didn't have he didn't sleep because he had to deal with the problems he had a son that tried to kill him he had a uh certain people that literally his own people that prayed for him to die because they knew that is not going to allow the BET mikdash to be built until he dies and goes into you know becomes alive becomes the king and so on and so forth he had so many problems that he never literally had any peace and quiet to sleep the other thing is also theim say that him along with many of the for example the G never slept more than two hours and the reason why is because many of theim were very very scared of the fact that they would lose control of their body when they would sleep now this might not seem like much to most people like yeah of course you go to sleep that's the point lose control of your body they were scared of losing control of their body because when you lose control of your body that means that the can get control of it and it can influence you to do things you don't want to specifically waste seed they were so scared of the sin that they got to a point where they literally were scared to go to sleep because even though the sin would not be an intentional sin nonetheless they knew what a sin really meant in heaven and therefore they didn't even want to do it unintentionally so many of theim never really slept much and it's not because they were just so ambitious it was also because they didn't want to lose control over their body up good question the reason he didn't sleep not because that didn't because he to yeah that's the the wasting seed part that's the worst of the things getting all the time how about so didn't sleep you know sleep like a can few secondate from so having is having a happiness with whatever it is that you have whatever you have good or bad but also aspiring to do better to do better and giving everything that you do a meaning like you don't want to just have more money because you want to buy more stuff you want to have more money because you want to be able to do more of what hem wants you to do yes of course you could buy more stuff you could buy a different car you could buy a different house but for what what purpose that every does everything serve in essence the goal of of of the Torah is to attach Kusa to everything material so even if you're going to do business do business with AEM in mind first of all conduct your business honestly second of all do be an honest business person in general third of all have a kosher business don't go in like I had one guy came to me one time and he said listen I want to donate I said goes listen what do you do we started asking some questions I said okay you know it was after a sh I had in my house before four years ago said sure whatever you want to donate we have a lot of different things we're doing because I like your sh he came to another Shi after that and he was he brought his partner with him and one of my students told me he goes you know who he is said you know he came to my Shi and he says he wants to donate that's all I know goes this guy's worth $100 million I said I don't really care how much he's worth but so so maybe I'll donate after that he disappeared month two months three months five six months disappeared so then I just got I don't know somehow he came up and asked that student by the way that guy that you said it's worth $100 million how did he make the $100 million do you know goes oh yeah he owns nightclub I'm like now I know why he didn't donate now I know why there's no way that a is going to allow someone that has a business that's a that causes other people to sin and take that money to call people to cause people to do mitv doesn't match your whole business is to cause people to sin and you think that hasm is going to allow you to use the money that you cause people to sin in order to cause other people to make MIT impossible why it's not it's the opposite of measure of a measure you have to have they give the Merit to someone that has a merit so is not going to give someone that's a murderer the the benefit of let's say saving a life doesn't work it's the opposite so now it made sense even though the money wasn't the problem the Merit was the problem so if a person has he's going to Aspire to do more but always have AEM in mind that regardless of what he has he has to conduct his business the right way he has to be an honest person and so on and so forth but also know that whatever he's aspiring to have whatever he's aspiring to have has to have a in mind so yes you could aspire to have let's say grow your business from this way from from a million dollars to $10 million no problem you want more you're going to do your is your effort to get to that but whether you get to it or not that's only in hm's it's only inm's hands so you're going to do your effort without canceling the T or putting the Tor on hold You're simply going to have that I'm going to put my and if hasem desires for me to succeed he'll succeed which means if you succeed it's only because of if you failed it's also only because of which means that one way or the other whether you succeed or fail you're still happy you're still happy why because both are the will of hem that's why they say the b Shalom said if he goes up to sh and after theed sh says you know B you know all the things you did were wrong you're going to go to Gom the B says to his students I'm happily going to jump inside G student said wait a minute your whole life you learned T did good why why would you jump the G no why would you be happy about it because because that's also the will of hem if hasem wants me to go to Gom my whole life is to do the will of hem if he wants me to go to G I'll happily go to Gom meaning obviously he's not going to G he didn't even see point being is that when somebody Tunes their mind Tunes their heart to the extent where all they want is what hasem wants all they want is what Hashem wants all they see is what Hashem sees in essence meaning they want what hhm wants good and bad become the same to them because of that beat the that you have that you know that okay this bad that's from hasem this good that's from Hashem so this current situation everything is from Hashem I'm happy with it whatever it is you're never going to get into a depressed state of mind you're never going to get to a uh you know uh stressed out anxiety or misery of some kind a lot of people are miserable because they feel like they don't have enough somebody that has never has that why because they know that whatever they have perfect that's what hasm wants I'm going to try and do whatever I can to get more but I'm always going to have AEM in mind which means number one I'm going to do whatever I do as far as in the business two I'm also going to do whatever I need to do spiritually I'm going to check myself if I'm praying enough I'm going to check myself if I'm keeping Shabbat good enough I'm going to take check myself to see whatever what am I doing spiritually to Merit more do I have plans to make more money because I want to buy a bigger house so I could show off or so I could actually fulfill the mitvah of have guests for most people have a big house just to show off most big houses they don't have in them they have a big house the missing so the question is yes hasem will give some people that big house anduk enjoy it problem is that if you use that big house just to show off the people when you go up to Sham it won't look good it won't be such a nice fancy house over there you'll get punished for for it why Hashem says I gave you a perfect tool to sanctify my name I gave you 87 rooms in the house you use one for you one for your wife one for the dog and the other rooms were left empty how come you didn't invite any to your house something to your house how what the whole house was just to show off to people so I gave you a gift and you misused it so means that it's not just having confidence that runs the world but it's also managing your life that way managing your life you're allowed to want more you're allowed to be ambitious and you should be ambitious that ambition is for you to want more in life more spirituality mainly and the way you do it is by attaching the materialism and is to to the spirituality that's one of the difficulties a lot of people have is that as soon as they have a uh material in front of them they have money in front of them they forget about God a lot of times that's why a lot of times you'll see bad stories on the news of I don't know somebody stealing from the government or all types of horrible stories with religious people behind it it's not that they were not religious they were religious they just didn't believe in which is that hm is watching everything there's a lot of people that do good that you don't see in the news yourself did something bad in the past and you know it's going to come come back to you yes well I mean it's it's a uh knowing that it's going to come back to you is is is good but you can do something about it if somebody did something bad they they could do chuva the key the key of all of this sh is to do chuva is to fix whatever you did wrong so if let's say I have a guy that asked me a question last week he said he had a business that was really not a kosher business he sold some product that the product was let's just call it fake and he said I made some money and um in reality they got something it's just that it wasn't legit let's call it that without giving away anything so what do I do he tells me now I'm doing CH I keep Shabbat I keep this I keep that but I still have an issue why it took money it didn't belong to me I said okay give it back to the people he goes I don't know who the people are it was a business 10 years ago you know I shut down the business already I don't have the customer's name to find the customer's name will be very difficult and near impossible where they are who they are what they are how much should you take how much did you goes well totally let's say it's $50,000 it's okay so now you took from people you want to do chuva you can't return it to the people that you took it from so you have to use that money for you have to take this money and you have to use it to benefit the public something that's going to benefit the public now if you have all of the money you have to use all the money now you don't have the money you have to start making payments let's say if it's $50,000 you don't have $50,000 you have $500 do $500 a month $500 this month5 $0000 next month and so on and so forth until you pay the whole thing goes okay what's going to benefit the public so there's many many causes that benefit the public you could have let's say a local Shool you could have a uh a uh let's say k k of organization that does helps the public you could do many many things but it has to have some connection to Dua some connection to something good but also at the same time some connection to benefiting the public in general not just something that benefits one person like you can't just go and give this $50,000 to uh to one uh one sadik or to uh you know one one homeless guy and make yourself feel better about it no you have to benefit the public just like you hurt the public you have to benefit the public meaning that you have to do chuva for these things if you took money asn't belong to you you can do chuva for it in general if you're alive you can do chuva for practically for everything there are certain things that require different things as far as chuva but nonetheless if you're alive you could do chuva for everything the key is whether you have as much desire to do chuva as you did to make the sin usually we have it's much easier to make the sin to make chuva you know why because to make the sin usually it's to take something that doesn't belong to us to do chuva people have a hard time because it requires stain power you have to stick with it you know that's one of the things that's very difficult for people like for example they'll start with a payment plan they stole 50,000 they start paying $500 a month one month two months three months six month months a year they're paying but then a year and a half into it Hashem sends him a test all of a sudden the Pala goes down oh yeah this money I can't pay the back I'm like yeah but you stole money yeah yeah but uh this money I can't do it yeah but you this is this is a deal you have with Hashem not with me you have a deal with hm you have to pay the money to whatever it is whatever cause you have yeah I'll just do it next month and all of a sudden you see the guy's not paying anymore he doesn't feel like doing it why cuz he's not seeing the benefit he's not seeing the benefit of paying back the money that he stole as much as he saw stealing and that's a problem that a lot of people have with with chuva in general is staying power sticking with the solution sticking with the medicine but if a person has the stain power they'll be able to complete Chu and go up to Sham completely clean without any problems it just requires requires a lot of effort and constant learning anything else yes yeah yeah I question encourages structure judism is full Visions different live in different places the co coin is entitled certain gifts L entit other gifts women have certain mitos so we supposed to be all together but full of Divisions KS have certain rules don't have those rules what's the what's theat well the Torah Torah told us to have Unity but not necessarily to be the same like man has a man role a woman has a woman role the problem that we have in today's world is that many men want to be women and many women want to be men so you see the women of the wall all of a sudden they don't want to fulfill any mitvah in they don't want to take on modesty they don't want to take on anything but they want to put onine at the cotel with their tank tops on they want to be men for A Day Men on the other hand they want to be women why they want you to treat them sensitive and talk to me in a certain way and why are you so aggressive Rabbi and why you talk to me this way like what's wrong with you buddy let's talk to a man no what's they start wearing these tight pants all of a sudden how you going to reproduce you're killing your CS I don't know men started dressing clothes like women women are dressing clothes like men people are confused Torah when a Torah says Unity it doesn't mean the same doesn't mean the same it simply means have the same goal the same ideology the same purpose that's the unity the unity is the purpose should be United sanctify K's name that's the purpose so you're going to sanctify Who's name as ofad you're going to sanctify K's name as a from breast you're going to be a from ghou you're going to be AED of you're GNA be a woman you're gonna be a man you're GNA be a 16y old you know and so everybody is going to sanctify the common purpose that's Unity not having the same role because we cannot have the same role like you just said the K has his rule theim have their own rules the the m has his own thing everybody has their own role so it cannot be that everybody has the same role it's just having a same purpose so how can you use whatever Talent whatever gift gave you in order to meet that common role in order to meet that United role that all of us should have which is to sanctify K's name to bring more Torah to the world unfortunately as I always tell people is in Judaism today we have a very serious problem and that instead of building the nation we're building buildings so you'll see every organization at least once or twice a year has a fundraiser and every organization if they want to get a lot of money they want to do the new new uh ingredients are this one put pressure on people by telling them you have 24 hours or 36 hours or All Is Lost either give us all the money in 36 hours or we all going to be homeless we're all going to die pressure why because they know that people work better under pressure if you tell people listen donate whenever you can if you can please da da okay next month next month next month never happens the guy doesn't donate so they apply pressure like a sales tactic Judaism became like a big business now so first and foremost rule number one put pressure on people by telling them 36 hours to meet demands like it's the collector it's the IRS second the money is not going to people it's going to build buildings every organization has a building Jews not so much every other day there's a new sh every other day there's a new every other day there's a new BET mid every other day there's a new extension to a building that's already empty as it is why that's the only way to get a million two million3 million dollars we don't really need few days ago fundraiser uh meet us 24 hours we're raising $100,000 for some place that has 10 people in it 10 people that's in the place one of them actually runs the place $100,000 that will meet and D they got the money they got the money you tell people listen we need half that money just to meet DeMent for the next couple of months to make Jews to make Jews come to the okay I'll send you $5 who do I make the check payable to do I get a notice at the end of the year for the deduction do I get a no at the end of the year for the $5 deduction I want it for my taxes why because if Judaism is a business there's no Unity there's individualism I need a building I need to tell people I own building XYZ and my organization owns building ABC and I have buildings under my name like Trump just with a keep on that's individualism that's not Unity Unity is caring about the nation how I don't care where you came from yes secular different religion as long as we have a common goal to sanctify name you're welcome to the Sho and you get a $15 gift certificate at the end why because we have a common goal unfortunately there's not that much people like to talk about unity and all of these this nice lingo and they make nice videos about it but in reality you start telling them what the Torah actually says all of us said no you're creating by telling people I said I didn't say it no I heard in a sh I said I didn't say it though goes what do you mean I heard you say it I said no no I repeated it it says it in the T I repeated what T says you have a problem you have a problem with t yeah but maybe maybe you shouldn't say it then tell that to Hashem why because I know how to read and hhm says I have to read that's what I'm doing in a maybe you should say it also and that's the thing no but it's creating but it's creating this no no no you know what it is it's bad for business if you say you don't get a million dollars in 24 hours to build a business but if you say everybody and everybody's good and like the GS like the Christians guess what you're going to build a building every three months because it's easy to write a check to somebody that makes you feel good so that's it so if you want Unity unity means you have to take Tora is number one and every single person has to sanctify K's name in a United goal that we don't have today that we don't have why because most people are just too selfish to see beyond their own their own what they you know their own Vision their own perspective their own desires they see listen I need a building and uh doesn't matter if I lie a little bit like this one guy that calls himself a I think I told you guys the story he gives sh I never mentioned his name and I'm still not going to mention his name but a lot of people ask me questions about him almost every day I get questions about him because he's very popular he gives lectures on the internet he's one of the more popular people and anyone that knows Tor doesn't listen to him anybody that knows a little bit of toah meaning you went to you studied the Kash beginning to end immediately you stopped listening to this person you have to why he violates every par say listen to I'll show you every how he violates it horrible but if you don't know Tor he sounds fantastic he looks fantastic looks like he just came from Mount saai the beard grew nicely by itself everything is good wow looks like mamash unbelievable stuff that comes out of his mouth makes you feel good about yourself even if you're a sinner it's like wow Gom such a fun place to go to I want to go there you want to go to Gom that so much fun to listen to this guy but that means you don't know Tor though now I said something about him one time after one of his and his son called me and his son also is a rabbi he says listen how could you say this I said because your father's a liar that's why he said it and he's lucky that I'm not publicly making a whole big thing out of it tell him to stop he said what did he lie about I said well he lied about the entire to you want me to tell you all the points he lied or just tell you about one point CU what so I started giving him I off the top of my head I think give me 50 sources of the things he Li about which is pretty much always has to do with reward and Punishment he's pretty much saying that there's no reward and Punishment everybody gets rewarded everybody everybody's sadik Gom is is a place that doesn't really exist it's just that your your soul doesn't feel good because it doesn't know how to be a soul it's just confused like complete nonsense I said to his son I said listen tell your father I said stop lying that's it I don't have any problem with him I don't know him I don't care I know he talks bad about me but I'm not saying it's not a personal just stop lying to the public why cuz he is ruining people tell him to stop lying you know you don't want to talk about Gom don't talk about Gom no one tells you I have to talk about gome but don't lie about it and the answer that his son gave me I'm never going to forget for the rest of my life in wherever I make it I'm going to remember it his son's response was as follows so what if he lies a little bit look at the results a rabbi told me this so what if my father the rabbi lies a little bit about G about punishment about the Torah look at the results what's results sells books almost every Jewish library has a book of his videos one of the most popular ones on the internet offerings even the go ask him to come speak at their uh at their and he goes he speaks the go also look at the results business is good business is good millions of dollars now why didn't I say I say a lot of people's names how come him I'm not saying because I know it's no I know it won't help anyway no one's going to listen to me anyway so what's the point well I'm going to get more hate mailes than I get already now for what for what it's not going to help anyway the people that love him are stupid anyway they're going to stay stupid and the people that realize that he's saying something wrong they're going to come to me anyway way and I'll tell them privately point is that you if you going to mention a name it has to be for a tolet it's something that no one else can see him you listen to a Sho then you listen to a normal Shi whether mine or anybody else that's normal immediately you see there's something wrong here immed this do not enter there something wrong somebody here is lying somebody here has to be lying and you see one person doesn't me mention any sources the other person does and you see who's lying so unfortunately today there is no unity and the reason why is because the last generation has the god of money the god of gold people want to do business they want to build big buildings and they don't want to build a big nation so that's why we have what we have that's why you have fundraisers that raise a million dollars in 24 hours for absolutely no reason whatsoever and fundraisers that raise $188,000 in a month that in reality if you if you have if you have a million of these if you have five of these organizations you could uh you could save the whole nation but what can you do but that's that's what he wants that's what we deal with but Unity it's a it's nice in the books it's nice in the books it looks great in the books we don't have it unfortunately that's why the bet mikdash is not here Theos says if we have unity in one sh one Manan mashia comes on the spot you have 10 people 10 kosher Jews 10 kosher Jews all have the same ideology under the same roof mhia comes on a spot M comes on a spot meaning on one hand it should be so easy to bring mashiah you won't have to walk around with the flags imagining who's the rebi and who's who's the mashiah and who's this allomatic you know MH why he arrived comes three days later mashia comes we find out who and what and when all you need 10 kosher Jews 10 kosher Jews to have the same ideology same United opinion same United goal 10 unfortunately it's been 2,000 years we don't have amen amen yes sad it's a sad reality that's how that's how lack of unity we have the shab is coming and everybody has the same every year oh should honestly I think in hat why I think most people sin onab more than the rest of the year we lie the whole day the whole day people are lying yeah oh yeah rabbi did you accept him into your because he's he's he's and did you accept him to did you accept into your did you accept her into this and that oh no okay so why you giving him lecture on on you're the biggest there isn't a generation all of this around what do you think it is where it disappears every day there's people calling me crying that their daughter wasn't accepted in the bet yakob the girl is perfect perfect human being perfect human being they don't want to accept her why oh she came from a yemenite background she came from a this background or that background she's not our type ofid she's not our type of this our that's that's here that's in is that's in Europe that's everywhere so honestly doesn't help us why it's a lie it's one big lie people don't believe in unity they believe in business they do whatever is popular and that's why it's important to know that if you want to have Unity you have to look at what to is follow it and then find similar people the believe the same thing they do the same thing if you can find similar people put them all under the same roof why 10 of you comes but but that means that the rest are rest are in trouble but if we do it we keep having the this will create Unity why because you to listen to same same together one two 10 20 shes people do CH you create Unity real Unity but uh again Unity is a uh the ideology not uh the backgrounds and all that stuff that's just uh how you practice Your Role how you perform Your Role next anything yes what's the overall test the Bal says that balak and Bam have a similar their test that we failed at they tested us with imy says is an acronym for and is both of them enticed the to come and influence so one of the major tests that we learned from this par is that we have to watch our eyes because if we watch our eyes the sin will not come upon us as the says in but also in watch what your eyes see during the day so the ra doesn't come to you at night so the evil doesn't come to you at night so the says what is RA what's evil evil is when you lose control of your body when you go to sleep you end up wasting seed and even though you didn't mean to you didn't do it with yourself you didn't do it with a woman you did came out by itself says it's still considered it's still considered evil it's still considered a sin just not the same level of sin why cuz it's still your fault it's as a result of the things that you looked at now as I brought a letter with me that I didn't know whether I was going to read it or not but a lot of people when they talk about the Unfortunately today they make the seem like a puppy seem like a little you know little that's been 13 years old doesn't know yet so I actually have a letter written by the that he wrote about 15 years before the Holocaust and here what he says today because of our great sins bitterness and and bitterness surrounds us and when a person looks around him at the state of his life there's not a day that is not cursed more than yesterday and when he examines this situation regarding he sees that there is also no absolutely no success meaning that even if somebody is trying to follow T at the time of the he's still not succeeding meaning everybody whether you're secular religious doesn't make a difference everybody's failing everybody's seeing that our life is just cursed it was a disasterous of a time so the point of the letter is to answer why and even though every Jew beseeches the Holy One blessed is he to answer his pleadings and Grant him respite no one hears this is a true situation he says even right now 1927 all Jews secular religious kidish Lish whatever you are everybody prays to hasem and everyone had that H's going to help him but hm's not answering anybody's prayers meaning your day is cursed regardless of what your background is what yes Shiva you went to everybody's day is cursed I've said that the main reason is that we ourselves distance the Holy One blessed the see from us says the reason for all this is because we are far away from ASM because of what we did what do we do Behold our sages stated in m page 24a a hand breath exposed in a woman in a place that is usually covered constitutes sexual unchastity and today D due to our many sins this matter has very greatly spread and the evil inclination seduces women to walk around without covering their hair and to go out with their arms exposed in sleeveless dresses and many of their garments exposed their chest everything is exposed so that in whatever place a man should look he's confronted with unchastity this is almost a 100 years ago 1927 back then in comparison today the most immodest woman there was modest in comparison to today and he said look at what they're doing they're not covering their hair they're not covering their arms they're not covering their chest properly look at all the disasters bring into the whole generation don't blame me in summary this terrible fashion of the times brings a man to have evil imaginations and sometimes also the emission of Sean in vain God forbid and in doing so he endangers his own small children as the brilliant Torah scholar the yavitz wrote in his prayer book The yavitz Shalom actually wrote even in his own Sid about how to be careful about not wasting seed that's how the from previous generations were careful about this sin that no one wants to talk about in this generation and almost because of this terrible fashion alone we ourselves negate the admonishment of the Holy One blessed is he as it says Therefore your Camp shall be holy and he not seeing you the unch thing meaning that a simply runs away from immodesty if you have immodesty you simply cannot have a in that place to such an extent that the his was shalom shalom one time was a guest in America and a religious family's house religious family's house and he's reading the real is that somebody reads it for everybody that's the says that one person is supposed to read it for everybody that's the way it's supposed to be today most people read it for themselves even if you have 10 people it's not supposed to be that way it's supposed to be one person for everybody else problem is that it's supposed to be somebody that loves people so when he say says the blessings he doesn't want it just for himself he wants it for everybody today it's hard to find people that love other people other than themselves anyway was sitting at dinner at the religious family's house because in the middle he stops stops in the middle and everyone's waiting one minute two minutes three minutes stops trying to get the rabbi's attention for everything okay does an answer everything okay nothing nothing nothing almost 50 15 minutes pass nothing then a little six-year-old girl that was wearing short sleeves six years old gets up from the chair and leaves he continues why not allowed to say not talk to hasem in front of IM modesty in held six years old six years old she has no sleaves can't talk to hm right now can't talk to hasm why hm's not here who I'm going to talk to myself I'm going to talk to hm when hm's here six-year-old with the short sleeves I can't talk to hm so what's the point I'm pray to myself that's if you think that's crazy that means you're crazy you don't know what Tor is now continues and he says and due to our many sins a great Blaze has erupted in his Vineyard in several places because of this terrible fashion for the power of impurity has considerably strengthened because of this as our sages have said on the verse and you shall guard yourselves from Evil thing in book of Deuteronomy chapter 23:10 that a man should not have a sexual thoughts during a day and end up polluting himself at night for if this should occur all the blessings and a Divine flow to this man's deeds will be cut off and because of this will be surrounded by evil tribulations as is written in the Holy wisdom books of wisdom meaning that a person that ends up wasting seed all the all the blessings all the good that hm wants to give him as a result of his all of it goes to the all of it go to the Satan and his employees yeah but I kept Shabbat okay so the will go to someone else yeah but I did me good so this it's going to go somewhere else everything why once the person weighs seed that's his p wasting his the therefore every man has an obligation the letter ends saying to extinguish this terrible fire and to rectify the situation in his own home so that everything will be according to the law and not to allow L sensuousness God forbid and in doing so he will have the Merit to have upright and exalted holy children these words are written in the honor of God and his tah out of Anguish over the tribulations of his Nation is with the longing for redemption speedily in our time amen signed is May the son of this is the and who he really was not the puppy that sometimes you hear about and they tell you oh no he loved everybody and everybody's aad and was only about and you should watch your mouth no no and he talked about all the same things we talk about alv we talk about what he talks about this is just a small token of who the really was meaning that if the came to today no one would let him in to speak right he's not politically correct he can't build buildings with this but until this day because of his you have buildings being built you have entire organizations being built the organizations sometimes themselves say what he says sometimes don't say what he says but they like having his pictures on it the picture everybody every every every company wants to have his picture on there every book wants to have his picture on you know how many books have the picture on them right now I don't even think there's a number honestly but to say and do what he said in this letter and the rest of his toah you're not going to find many you're not going to find many why because like I said it's not politically correct so your the question that you asked match the letter you want to learn something from this learn something from which is you have to watch your eyes why if you watch your eyes you're not going to make sins at night night even more so if you is if you're is make sure you realize if he doesn't watch his eyes he looks at you your partners to the sin your partners to the sin he he loses Allah you lose Allah you he makes sins you make sins yeah but I I just walked around innocently no my friend there's no such thing as I walked around innocently everybody's responsible for each other you walk around immodestly somebody sins because of you you're partner to the crime so excuse me the way you to we do CH that's the point of the sh the point of the is to do CH if people listen to the sh and do what it says then yes then people do Chua if people don't do Chua then yes it says the says actually ra thear says that GOM continues to increase in size says how big is how big how big is ganen says how big is ganeden says the ganeden is 60 60 times the size of Earth 60 times Earth 60 times that's G so they say okay so how big is gay Gom and and there's no size why you mean it doesn't have size because it continues growing more people coming in why less people doing CH listen my health for my bank account for what what is he for is to help people do CH if a person listens he does CH he goes to GED his kids go to ganeden his wife goes to ganeden the husband goes to goes to ganeden they don't want to listen it's not listening to me it's listen then can't be that a person goes up to Sham and says I didn't know no such thing as I didn't know everybody lives in this life for 50 60 70 80 90 years they go up to Sham they say wait you knew why that Rabbi from New York came to sh he told you you didn't listen that's your problem but you know yes they try to do of them everything told them I don't want you bless my children okay children have a blessing I bless them they are good they everything so I don't believe we're going to go g if if people do don't people don't do the way you say you try to do something to behave to be United to tell the truth all what you say is TR they need to protect and they need to God if you love God really TR like need to listen to yeah I mean it's if if people do chuva absolutely alv you're right Al does cha the problem is that even in the a lot of people didn't do CH young I wish I was in your age I know what you people you know because I'm also B doesn't mean the big small show this it depends how you grow out with you is also do because he does he want you people you young you can run after amen amen that's the key the uh this this this par also ends in a very uh uh a very serious uh listen we see that some people hasm doesn't let them do chuva who 24,000 people 24,000 people at the end of the par didn't let them do Chua why killed them meaning hm doesn't want to kill anybody which means that if you're already alive and you listen to the sh you already have an enormous Merit and enormous opportunity to chva why because that Chua is not actually automatically given to everybody my cousin that died two weeks ago 50 years old he had he was given opportunity to do chuva several times he didn't want to do it eventually his time ran out my other cousin from a year and a half ago 23 26 years old his time ran out at 26 he didn't think so but it ran out he died point is that as long as a person is alive he has an enormous amount of opportunities to do chuva and if he takes advantage of that opportunity the rambam writes there's nobody in the world that a kadh who loves more than him yesterday he hated him he was his enemy he was a rash he was this he was that today he did chuva today she did Chu hasm loves him Hashem adors him hasem hugs him why he did Chua yeah but yesterday I was yeah but today you did CH I love you everything is good but that's not to think that hm is a fool shom and think no no I'll do it tomorrow someone says you know what yeah it's nice this CH stuff is good I'll just do it next week I'll do it next year I'll do it when I get married I'll do it when I get old I'll do it when I have time somebody says something like that can lose their opportunity to do Chua how that's what we learn also from the par some people hm doesn't let them do Chua those 24,000 people that sinned with the Goot hasem killed all of them which means they did not have an opportunity to do Chua they have to come back in a g as the and so on and so forth for another topic for another today but the point being is that the fact that you're hearing the truth and you're able to do chuva that already puts you in a fantastic position but that also puts the case puts the uh the the case against you if you don't do Chua it's like somebody giving you yeah yeah I'm giving you a $10 million Grant giving you a $10 million Grant you have to use it to build a building they come back to you A year later and they see it's still land nothing it's like ask wait a minute we gave you $10 million what what' you do oh no I'm not ready yet okay listen 5 years you have to build a building here because we gave you $10 million hard work M we give it to somebody else yeah yeah no problem no problem five years they come back to you nothing still mud no what's going we gave you $10 million we could give it to somebody else yeah yeah I was not I'm still doing the plan and then okay fine 10 years 10 years we're going to give you so five more years they come back to you five more years not even a parking lot nothing still mud it got worse over the last 10 years because you abandoned the land how many times do you want them to give you five more years eventually it gets to a point where they say you know what not only I'm going to take away the $10 million but we're going to put your name on a list that no one is ever going to be allowed no one's even going to look at you no one's ever going to give you a grant why because you're an idiot you were giving so many opportunities to do the right thing we give you the money we give you the time we give you the opportunity and another opportunity and another opportunity and you still didn't do nothing no who are you going to complain to us you can't complain to us anymore that's sh says look I gave you an opportunity I brought you to the world and then I introduced you to Torah and then I sent you to a certain school and then you met a certain person and then you met a certain Rabbi and then you saw a certain Shu and then you all types of opportunities that a person sees through his life which means that by the time they leave this world and they arrive in shamim they don't come there with no I didn't know because in sh they knew exactly what you knew because they're going to show you all of the opportunities and the deadlines that we missed and then you say you know what like says I send you're right you're right I missed the deadline time and time and time and time again I'm sorry I'm sorry it's too late now so that's why these sh are to encourage every single person that's watching to do something nobody's going to turn intoa overnight but something you can do there's books of alabat I brought here for free anybody wants to learn about how to keep Shabbat take a book learn how to keep Shabbat why if you don't know how if you don't learn how to shabbat you're definitely not keeping Shabbat you could imagine that you're keeping Shabbat because you eat chent and you light candles but if you don't know Shabbat you're not keeping Shabbat men women everybody needs to Le Shabbat you have books here for free now now you can't I didn't have any money for you have money it's for free there's hundreds of them point being is that everybody could do something something you can do if you do it you have a uh you have taken advantage of the opportunity you don't do it they're going to come to you and Sh and says yeah listen you lived in the world for all this time and um you missed every single deadline we gave you instead of uh coming to the shoe and listening you came to the shoe and you fell asleep it was just a place for you to take a nap you missed that opportunity now you have to deal with a different uh judgment and that's not fun B on Tuesday we'll continue we are in uh aventur on Tuesday continue our series of um and then we're back here on Wednesday for questions and answers amen amen [Music] I [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]