Good Jealousy And Bad Jealousy

dear how to not get jealous of someone it's hard because people are more successful in living in nice fancy houses and drive nice cars okay so why why would I don't I listen I mean I know that some people have this tun of being jealous of other people I don't have that tun I've never really I've never been jealous of anybody uh except one person which is RA frim and I'm jealous of his Torah if I had his Torah I would certainly think I'm mashiah it's just amazing but that's a that's a permissible jealousy uh to be jealous of Torah that's a uh created jealousy for that every other jealousy is forbidden why uh why should someone not have it and in fact why is jealousy forbidden first and foremost you should know teach us in the in multiple places a person that has jealousy is not going to be resurrected with the with the uh with the dead even if they're righteous even if they keep Shabbat and they keep kosher they keep everything when there's the resurrection of the dead after mashia comes people that are jealous will not be resurrected why jealousy teaches us jealousy rots the bones jealousy rots the bones person does not get resurrected why is it rot the bones because jealousy is K it's heresy it's it's a form of heresy it's not heresy like uh Madness and those people that say God needs you or or things like that but it's a form of heresy why because when a person is jealous of somebody else what are they in essence doing they're saying to Hashem that he made a mistake that's in essence what they're saying they don't mean to but that's actually what they're saying oh look Hashem look at his car how come you didn't give me his car how come you didn't give me his car well as if you deserve that car as if it's as if he's driving your car you're jealous of his car how come I don't have that car so in essence what you're saying is that Hashem gave him and not you even though you believe and you decreed you but you don't because if you did deserve it hasm would have given it to you if you did need it hm would have given it to you if hasem wanted to give it to you he give it to you but he didn't give it to you why because he chose not to so when a person is jealous of somebody else's wife or somebody else's husband or somebody else's car or somebody else is anything else but tah it is a form of heresy because you're saying that hem made a mistake by giving other people what you deserve and to say that hasem makes a mistake is a very stupid thing to do so that in itself is a reason to never be jealous of anybody secondly or third you have to also understand that looks are often deceiving someone looks like they are successful because they have an expensive car they have an expensive house they have expensive jewelry so it looks like they're living life but what you don't know is number one how is it life freely is his car going to be repossessed is his uh house in the process of foreclosure and he has no way of ever paying it back which means that he's simply counting the days before the bank takes the the the house back uh is his wife cheating on him is our husband cheating on her are they drug addicts are they degenerates uh are they sick even if they're uh not degenerous they're just simply sick and they literally all the money in the world who's meaningless to them is a person that has a chain of restaurants but has diabetes so he can't eat anything so that's not a person you would be jealous of if you knew if you know but that's the thing people are jealous of looks they look look at something and they assume everything is what it is they look at Facebook pictures and they assume that's the real life they look at wedding pictures and they assume that's how the party went everyone that's had a wedding knows that's not how the party went the pictures is in essence an illusion and in most cases was nothing like the real party and in fact nothing absolutely nothing like what happened after the party and the next day and a week later and the Facebook pictures that people put are literally an illusion no one no one takes the pictures of them slapping their kids because he doesn't want to stand in the picture or the husband insulting his wife uh you know 5 minutes before he took the picture and he told her to smile and uh the the wife told the husband that she wants a divorce H you know no one no one sees that in the picture no one sees that in the picture all they see is a bunch of people smiling sometimes they happen to be good-looking sometimes they're ugly but either way hasm blessed everybody and uh it looks like they're having a good life why cuz they're standing in front of a mansion they're standing in front of some beautiful part of nature that Hashem created they're standing uh you know they look like they're eating a tasty meal no one tells you about how they got sick right after they ate that meal that they took a picture of and they couldn't get out of bed for three days you don't see that in the picture so when you look at a picture or look at something where it gives you the uh you know the idea that this means good know that is from that's from a Satan that's from a Satan other people's stuff that become your desire comes from the Satan you should never ever desire what somebody else has never not their house not their car not their money not nothing you should never desire anybody else why because if you desire somebody else's stuff what you're not realizing is what problems they have what problems come with that package that they have and I could assure you if you knew their problems you wouldn't want what they have if no no but life is good sure sure sure life is good but once you knew what problems come with all of that now again I'm not saying that everybody that's rich is also a drug addict or everybody that's rich is also a uh I don't know a uh something else this obviously uh everybody has their own package but I can assure you everyone has the perfect package that hasem gave them some people Hashem decided to give them an exorbitant amount of money and fancy things because that's what they need to have to be in this world that's what hasm decreed for them that's what they need to have some people literally hashm decrees they're going to be wealthy some people Hashem decreed they're going to be poor some people Hashem decrees that they're going to go from poverty to wealth and some people the opposite either way the appearance is always deceiving because you don't know what's going on behind so to be jealous of somebody I would say at the very least first find out about all their real problems and then decide whether you're jealous or not but really when it comes uh push comes to shove a person that understands that jealousy is a form of heresy will never be jealous of anyone for anything except we are meant to be a light unto the Nations not to follow their misguided practices remember every Jew has to remember that he's a Jew and she's a Jew we don't celebrate non-jewish holidays even if they seem harmless it's a zul disrespect to the Tora and could lead to Chul Hashem desecration of God's name stick to our holy tah and our own holidays that's the path of a true Jew