Growing through the Challenges of Life - Rabbi Meyer Yedid

[Music] today I'd like to go over with you what I think is one of the most important discussions that a person needs to understand in his life I think this should be mandated learning for every boy or girl as soon as they mature and have a mind of their own perhaps this should be their number one lesson so if you pass that age where you've matured maybe last year or two years or ten years ago so you're a few years late but it's not a shame life is ahead of us so it's extremely worthwhile to pay clear attention to this most important life principle we read in mizmor sheerly Amish about we say this every week a few times may I give Baba care has data to speak of Hashem's kindness in the morning the immunity hobble a lot and to have faith emunah in the night so it's simple understanding the pursuit is quite difficult because it sounds like you're supposed to have appreciation in the morning and emunah at night which doesn't make sense because you're supposed to have appreciation even in the night and he's supposed to have a muna even in the morning so what does the pursuit mean so obviously the pizookie is referring to a different type of morning and a different type of night it's not the morning of sun and the night of darkness it's room it's referring to the moments and days of life that are like the Bukit shining with the Sun shines in your life when everything is going great we've had those days or those moments where everything was going just perfect exactly the way we would want it from the minute we woke up we felt great jumped out of bed we loved what we were wearing we looked in the mirror we said wow great you look good and the entire day just things are going come to school you're in the street your friend sees you good morning great that you look great Wow good people are noticing you if you're in school you you go to a class and you're had a great day you were successful you understood what was going on you even participated you went for lunch and the food was ready right there for you and on lines you play ball and you couldn't miss a shot we just on fire all of us have had days in our lives that we can call them the days of book in the days where everything seems to be easy everything is going great and feels so good and then we have other kind of days call them they looked Lima dark darkness from the morning sometimes they stop right away you get up and you're like so not in the mood to be and that's just the beginning you get out of your bed you stop you're doing something you hate what you're wearing looks horrible yeah it looks terrible you go through the bus stop waiting for the bus no buses today freezing cold you get to school nobody notices you not one person it's as if you're invisible and the rest of the day just gets worse I believe everybody in this room has had many Lillet many difficulties especially young men of your age I had to guess and I don't expect you to admit it but if I had to guess you're a Lilith or more than your book maybe not outwardly but inside your emotions you have a lot of little you have a lot of dark days where in your mind you're constantly concerned do people like me did only am i somebody I don't think I am oh they invited me but but over there in every 10 minutes you could change your age every 10 minutes could be a new poker or new Lila so let me tell you some important fact in your life that these Lillet these nights are here to stay do not think that life is going to be a life of bouken you're in the wrong planet if that's what you think life is not a trip where things are always going to go well expect that you're going to have many many many difficult days in your life this is just the beginning you haven't even started you get older the pressures get bigger family pressures dealing with a wife children pernessa putting food on the table for your family big decisions big pressures today I look at you and say I wish I was your age I know you have a lot of things that you deal with but from my perspective I think your age is so easy so simple you have nothing to worry about now paying rent you're not paying for you food you're not expected to bring money home nobody really tells you what to do you have your own room you have your own life so comfortable son is all pressure if you want to just one day just to go for 24 hours and sit down and learn and or go visit someone or whatever you want to do you can do it as long as it's safe and nobody's bothering no problem I can't do that okay tomorrow chuckles anyone I'm thinking about think of Shaban I'm gonna go for a few hours about ten hours of a stench about somewhere in downtown Brooklyn go for a long walk I can't do that I have responsibilities I have family I have a wife I have children have jobs just check out not in the mood this is wrong like that you guys can do it so just expect number one expect that your life is going to have plenty of Lilith plenty of difficult days and difficult Alice in fact it's such a reality this cycle that many of our great rabbis gave them a term they gave they coined a name for them by the way these difficulties could be in earning a living it could be in health lalla no health issues family issues children issues your children may give you a run for your money that will keep you going for 20 years dealing with their problems difficulties could be spiritual there are some days where learning is great love you love the learning you love to get my god you love the homage praying you feel like you connect it a sham you feel like you're growing you feel like you're getting somewhere and there's some days where it's like wow Lila this I don't understand anything I'm learning I don't connect to feel I like what am i doing just doing words no connection I feel by myself what am i doing boom down spiritually a little time and others they say these days they are called the MA Ahava and you miss Tina in life you have days of love love where you feel loved loved by Hashem loved by the world where everything is flying and as you miss Tina when you feel hatred you feel like the world hates you you feel like concert alone God hate you not coming your rabbi hates you you teach hu maybe your parents don't like you they're not happy with you your friends don't like you yeah miss ena these are called Li lot these are the nights of life it's important to know that success in your life and my life is very much dependent on how we deal with the lilt the book will not break anyone the Booker is there to enjoy those good days but your success in life is going to depend how do you deal with the difficult days how do you deal with the difficult weeks what do you do what happens to you because if you don't deal with it properly Lillith could destroy your entire life a bad day will become a bad week and I pay the week will become a bad month and a bad month will become a bed here and I bathe you become a bed entire life let lot have a power they get missing I have a power that if they're not being used utilized properly they will destroy the entire life and then they're not moments they become the life get ready for it I'm giving you a lesson now maybe you look at me and say what does this guy know what does he want from us so I don't want anything from you you guys could choose to listen or not but I'm telling you and if you don't succeed in this area in your life if you're having bad days in your life right now and you're not handling it very well it's making you down you better listen good because it's not getting easier when you're having a down day a down week there's something called the Yosh it which means you give up despair and when you give up at the beginning of the end some rabbis say that the lowest to the 50th level of Tamar what happens in the 50th level of Tamar what is a person doing on the 50th level who is he they say the 50th level of Tamar is huge is when you give up on yourself when you say you know what learning is not for me thank you mom you know what friendships I'm not for me I give up works not for me I give up success is not for me happiness is not for me I give up I'm not even trying anymore it's over I'm just destined for this miserable life I don't have good friends I'm never gonna have good friends my friends don't like me they're never gonna like me I'm not successful I'm never gonna succeed I'm never gonna connect a sham I'm never gonna learn I'm never gonna do anything good you all know that what I'm saying is a hundred percent truth because you know that you felt this way some days in your life which is the worst when you give up on a lost object you know what the Holohan says you have lost ownership of that lost object if someone finds it they can keep it well that's not just a law in lost objects that's a long life so long as you have hope you own the item so long as you have hope you can still do it you can become the greatest person from motion up in you can become the biggest been Torah you can become the greatest Torah scholar you can become the best friend you can become the happiest person as long as you think it's within your reach and the moment you give up and the moment you think no I can't do it I can't be anyone I see this great guy sometimes you see these 12th graders when you see these kinds of graduated she what a beautiful guy what an amazing guy you know if I had a daughter I want that guy to marry my daughter if I have a sister and I like my sister I want that guy to marry my sister I would love that goodness you know who those guys are you know who's good in life you know who's important in life you know it very well so why say what about you why don't you become that person it's not me I can't thank you I gave up a long time when I started praying and I didn't understand I was saying and I just lost it done hey I can't connect that shephelah but look that guy connects and that guy connects you can connect that with you lot but that's not me I gave up on that a long time ago learning I gave up on them good friendships not happening and you could write the less the rest under the notes beyond self when you give up it's over it's done you gave up on being the top person in your class you gave up and being the top person in your grade you don't want to walk out of this school when you're 17 and 18 and say I was the best in my grade you don't want that you thinking this now you think there's a person in this school that doesn't want to be successful you think is the person that didn't care about being the best you telling me that when you graduate you don't want to be the Baal Shem Tov the guy who everybody votes is the best guy so what you do it why don't you do it you want to graduate a good dip you want to graduate with zero to zero accomplishments you don't see the difference so why don't you do it cuz you gave up because of me me the best me and the best don't go best what the best dip baby that I could do but baby the best and what I do I gave up not happening it's no different than I got working in the White House and giving up on becoming one day the CEO of the company why don't you become the CEO why don't you become a person that's gonna run this company me running the company that happening you're right it's never happening with that attitude is never happening giving up is the beginning to the end there are so many things that you and I both want and would love to have and would love to be and you know it but it's not even relevant not that we tried and failed it's not relevant because we gave up we had huge we said we can never be the best guy it's not gonna happen yeah I'm not smart enough I'm not good-looking enough yeah I try it's been there done that the worst state of a human being Irish gave up since that bitter melon I love a shallow I have advice for you since the vid Lillet are a part of life you're never going to escape them don't try your success in life will be think what's the reason why I stopped dreaming about being great why why because of my Lilith they broke me those bad days broke me I got broken says that without Miller you're no different than anyone in mankind because everyone's got Lilith and everyone could be broken through a lot but if you want to succeed in life you better know how to do it says that with a Mela I have the solution for you you want the solution I'm gonna give you the solution all great people hide the solution says that vvm will not have a limit when the Lord come you better have em and now what does that mean omona I trust her shell of course I know I shouldn't created the world I know what runs the world I don't you made me what's it we're not done oh yeah I have anymore no no no no you have to live your Munna how does every not help me by the look what does that mean I'm having a hot day so anyone else gonna make me better what I mean so let me give you some examples Amina if you have a muna so right away you know that Bodhi Allah is involved in your life the same way he puts you on the planet it put me on the planet he chose your house for you and my house for me he chose that country for you in that country for him he made you tall he made you short he made you this kind of IQ and that kind of IQ for him you didn't issues that I didn't choose that he gave me eyes to some people I didn't so the same way he put me on the planet he is running what I go through in life and just like a good general would never put his soldiers in a war that they can't fight because they have no ammunition with the creator of the world put you in a Lyla that you can't succeed in when he put you in a war that you can't win when he put you in a in a circumstance that there is no way out of it not every Munna if you have a Mona you understand if you're in this situation then it must be because God believes in you and he knows that you can do it maybe somebody else can do it but you can do it because if you couldn't handle it God wouldn't give it you that's why the pursuit says maybe not the simple explanation of the pursuit but beautiful equation pursue now we say every day and no tension lake at summer Hashem gives the snow to the world like he gives wool the amendment explained doesn't mean like it gives wall he says according to the amount of wool there is in the world that keep people warm that's how much colder how much snow Hashem will send and no 10 share like one before he sends the snow can salmon he makes sure is enough wool out there that people can handle the cold and they'll be put on does that they their sweaters can for frost a FLE fazil ever means the ashes that burn from the would that make fire and heat before God sends frost into the world he makes sure there's a way to keep warm nobody will get any situation in life that they can't handle as difficult as what you're going through in life as difficult as your family might be as difficult as your parents might be as difficult as your personality might be it would never come your way unless you could handle it maybe I can't handle it maybe I'm not built for that but if you're going through it you're built for it you're exactly where you can succeed and if you don't think that then yarosh has begun your despair is here and you're going to be miserable the biggest list of a person is when he realizes I could do it you have to believe in yourself you know what happens believe in yourself because God believes in you because he put you in that situation why did he put you in that situation I'll tell you why because this world is a world of accomplishment this world is not the goal is not like the American dream where you just make a lot of money and retire you retire after 120 this world is about doing it's about becoming someone it's about doing for your family it's about bringing children it's about doing great things in your life it's about accomplishing it's about learning it's about meets fault it's about hesed we're here to do we're not here to sleep we need to sleep so we can do we need to relax sometimes so we can do but we here to do we're here to accomplish we're not here just to sit back and do nothing after 120 you're gonna sleep for a long time and they'll all wake you up you know why you're going to what you're going through because you're here to accomplish every person that you ever heard about that accomplished in their life is because they worked they worked hard they had to go through challenges nobody here that you ever heard about that accomplished something when everything was going smooth life was perfect when life is perfect and smooth people sleep still become arrogant people could come lazy but when things get difficult all of a sudden people wake up people have emunah wake up you're going through a hard time wake up the community had a hard week wake up the difficulty of the week is not to fall asleep it's the wake up you have what to do in life learn from others and from their mistakes but you need and will now you gotta believe in yourself you have to believe that you could do it and you're gonna fall again late look I here to stay but every time a lilah comes every time a challenge comes rise to it there was a student that sent the letter through whitner's it hurted Nick LaRocca Joshua Chamberlain down here Coney Island and the student was venting in his letter to the rabbi about how difficult life is for him I bet a lot of us could write that same letter and the rabbi told him to tell you something because you know how the mother has a baby she has a warm inside and this moon the baby develops in the columns that helps and finally the baby comes out he says in life the difficulties are the womb of greatness in Hebrew he says Rahim likened look if you find yourself in difficulty no you are in the womb to greatness as long as you react we heated this world to accomplish we hit the Wonder Olympics we're not here to sit back could you imagine could you imagine a guy in the Olympics they have in one of the Olympics they have this this competition is called the hurdle race you see the relevance whether people run and they have hurdles and they jump someone lower somehow I am somehow close someone father could you imagine a guy gets to the Olympics he's representing his country for the hurdle run he just stopped I have a problem what's your problem he says you know what I'm running what do they have to put those hurdles then why can't you try straight the time you did to run straight we don't need you here you're in the Olympics because you hit a jump hurdles that's the purpose of life the purpose of life is to go through hurdles and to jump over them hurdles aren't wolves they're not dead ends when you fail in life it's not a dead end when you fail in life it's only a hurdle to jump sheva you pulled Sadiq maqam and Sadiq falls seven times and he gets up ravu this says in a different letter he says the fools explained this by Suk's very strong language is the fool's explain the pursuit to mean that a great person even though he falls he gets up even though that's foolish she's that much pursuit means the pursuit is telling you Shiva you Paul Sandeep become to be as I think you gotta fall because when you fall in life you get better as long as you have a Munna it's like a trampoline how much can I jump right now how much did you jump could you jump one foot two foot of the ground if you're very good maybe you could jump two feet off the ground but what if he wanted a trampoline how much off the ground could you go maybe six feet eight feet ten feet why because when you go down you go up high in life when you have difficulties and when even when you have failures that actually lifts you higher if you're in the Olympics if you view life like a place to jump hurdles you're gonna be ready every morning I would have my video I stamped all the sacrifice your son kill your son the one that you love I want him you love him come on it's a hard day that's a Lila that's a very hard day for Avraham Avinu imagine you've so many other how's it going tough day but he went and he did it and the rest of history has changed because of that day however happy that you know that we don't we say on Rosh Hashanah I in been murdered baka his eyes with hearing they left somewhere but he's very happy are you happy yeah it don't look pleased a very happy but they have to work hard they have to jump they have to struggle yeah it's hot but it's happy when you have a muna and they look come in your life you have a hard day you have a hard week you had a hard year you know what you do if you have living with a muna you're excited yeah maybe you gonna cry maybe it's hard for you but you're ready to jump and guess what as you get greater the hurdles get higher get ready that's great it's like lifting weights you start with one pound you go to they don't give you weights that you can handle God doesn't say ok here's a 500 watt pal one let me see how you do no no you start with two pounds your age you're young you have young little you get older your lives become heavier and then they become heavier but it's great because it's great to keep jumping it's great to keep flying because as you jump you get better and as you get better you become more successful and that's the greatness of life that's the happiness of life I'll end offer an unbelievable unbelievable letter that I saw now a letter actually it's a quote of a rabbi who gave a speech this community in Europe listen to this speech the rabbi gathers his entire city it doesn't want to speak to all of you they don't know what's happening what happened there I gathers them he says to them every one of you is going through challenges in life and I can see that to you to every one of you is going through challenges in life the rabbi says I know probably in your heart you wanted otherwise probably in your heart you want everything to be perfect but this is reality especially sometimes looking at your neighbor and you think your neighbor is doing perfectly your neighbors nothing wrong it's not true everyone has challenges this is what he says he says and if one day one of you here wakes up and says you know what I got no challenges everything is perfect my life is perfect I know there is the one thing everything perfect I'm doing great there's no issues he says I love Latin roots libertà Knesset he says run to show quick if you have this issue run to shoot quickly open the heck aisle and say the following reborn OSHA alham creator of the world medulla and ha not ten be a moon god you don't trust me kostik the you lose faith in me why don't you give me anything to deal with him ops attic that clammy many did you lose hope in me it's like that guy sitting on the bench a great basketball player and he's sitting on the bench for one day two games three games four games finally goes to the coach coach did you lose faith in me I messed up the first game the jewel is hoping me you don't give me a challenge everything's going perfect something's wrong something's very wrong it will not have a little look you want to succeed in life you're gonna have to learn how to deal with these difficult days and you better start learning now because right now as heavy as you think the weights are they one pound they have two pounds in a few years and that'll be ten pounds and then they'll be 30 pounds and if you don't know how to deal with it today you're in deep trouble and you have a little know that I should put you in it because you could do it know that you are gonna succeed in a great way if you just that hurdle be excited that's what you're here for all the great people Avraham Avinu Soraya Meno that we that matter all of them went through difficulties and all of them were great because of them and when I travel a lot is a secret to succeed in life you never forget it never give up always no but the next challenge in your life it could be a small one or a big one is there to raise you to make you a great person you'll be I envy Mariposa you might be difficult you might be crying from it you might be hurting from it they live somewhere but your heart will be happy knowing that I'm ready for the next Bachelor [Music] [Applause]