"Holiday Gifts": Yarchei Kalla - Yeshiva Ketana of Long Island

this Tower class is brought to you by torahanytime.com but to take it a morning when uh when you're really off and to spend time with your children that's even speaks much louder so please give your undivided attention and enjoy the shiver Abigail [Music] foreign this morning somebody came over to me and they said you know since last year on New Year's I've been making out my checks January 1st and at 1-1 so that's I'm very I'm very happy to hear that very honored to hear that but now the question is who do you make out your checks to that's the question that we're going to address today who you should be giving your checks to so wish everybody a gutierre as they say we're going to examine today a very important Indian in halacha something that's very relevant and something that we sort of take for granted we don't think much about and we we we always do things but we're in a road we're in a certain habit and maybe it's kadai maybe it's worthwhile to pay more careful attention to a certain practice which is a standard practice many people have bus drivers mailmen employees employers bosses people who work for them garbage men Barbers and you want to give them a tip you want to give them a gift especially this time of the year for the holidays and the question is is this permitted is one allowed to give a holiday gift a New Year's gift a Kratz gift so you'll ask what could possibly be the issue be the problem uh with a New Year's gift with a Kratz muck gift so let's examine uh the maramakai mice um I'll tell you the truth I'm very touched that the Yeshiva is hosting this type of share you know we live in the day of Ed day and age where they want Rob Bonham to be entertainers you know to say a good joke a good story uh inspiration but really that's not that's not the job of a rough job of arabic's Torah so to have an event like this to get together not for his soyrus that's the uh the meat and potatoes the bread and butter of yadish kite and to have uh father son grandfather okay so let's take a look at number one the posix says this is talking about when Claudius entering erits Israel the hiki some Tara says you're gonna Smite them you should utterly uh destroy them do not seal a covenant with them that's what the subject of today's show is going to be about name what does that mean and this is where the the source of today's subject comes from what does it mean says the gemara name you cannot allow goyan to have residents encampment in our system you cannot sell real estate to go in minority Israel you know today they reported that somebody sold land to a Jew you know an Arab sold land to a Jew in the old city and he was arrested and he's being imprisoned you know life imprisonment so we have the same uh we we hold dear erit Israel if somebody sells land to a gentile and erit Israel it's a lav in the Torah what's the secret name you cannot give them encampment that's not what we learned at from laissez says but you're now to praise the guy you're now to say you know that six foot ten individual like who could take a round circular rubber object and jump like a kangaroo and put it in a string and a round circle with strings coming down he's so talented he's so incredible I wish I wish my son should grow up to be like him I wish to praise a gentile is alive in the Torah of Leicester so how could you say we learn out from that you're now to give goyam land in arts is that you're not allowed to praise a guy so we're gonna have to discuss that also we'll see if we have time what if you know you're reading a medical journal we're going to see a treatment that says they're reading a medical journal and you see that a scientist made a great advancement a great discovery and you want to say wow what a great Innovation what a great contribution to society that this Gentile made is one allowed to praise the achievements the discoveries the contributions of agenda is that permitted so right now the gemara is saying that there are two things we learn out from Sigma says how can we learn out two things them Kane if it was just teaching that you can't give a guy a land and I would say so it should be vocalized vandalized name the fact that it's vocalized teaches me two items and then the gamar continues the gamara says but there's a third thing we need to learn out from Life what else do we need to learn out from but we need for a third item that you're now to give a gentile a free gift you can't give them money you can't give them a bottle of wine you can't give them alcohol you can't give them chocolate the gemara says we learn out from Lisa you're now to give a gentile a gift no you can learn out three things I'm Kane lame if it was just saying don't give them a gift it should have been vowelized so the gemara concludes that we learn how from Leicester name three halachays number one you can't give a gentile land an artist Israel number two you can praise the Gentile number three you can't give a gentile a gift how could we learn now three things so the gamara says from the waves of alcohol vowelize from the way it's vocalized the way we pronounce it we can learn our three halachas so it's seemed right off the bat the simple way of learning the gemara if you wanted to give a gentile a gift it would not only be slightly problematic it would seem to be an Assad that the Torah says the gemara darshins you cannot give a gentile a gift so the question is is there any wiggle room is there any way to navigate this very relevant issue how perhaps it would be permitted to be able to give a gift to a gentile okay so let's start with the first approach the first approach is like this we have to know the context of the pasok where is this possible written where does it says so we go back to the public before if you look at number three it says Hashem is going to bring you to the land that you're coming to inherited I'm going to remove many nations from before you the gergashi the Amari the Kanani The Prezi Shiva so the context of the Apostle is not speaking about all the nations of the world all the Gentiles it's specifically referring to the Shiva mice and in that context the Torah says don't give the Seven Nations a gift but it doesn't talk about Italians or North Koreans if you have a nice friendly North Korean the Torah doesn't say specifically you can't give the guy a gift in fact let's look at the other 11 written in the context of these shivaumas it says do not make a covenant with them which nations are you now to make a covenant with are you know how to make a covenant with any nation in the world tysus says that if you remember from who built the first base on mcdosh the nation of Sur Tire t-y-r-e just as a historical point you know today's uh first day of January many United States presidents were members of a social society called the Freemasons you know about the Freemasons the Freemasons were spiritual Heirs of Tire of tour of uh their whole society is based on the building of the first base of by the king of Sur okay be resume the possible that made a bris with Hiram how would allow to make a brith with a clear Melody says name the answer is clearly the answer of excuse me is specifically referring to the Shiva um it's not referring to all the nations of the world is referring dafka to the shivaumas what's the next person the Torah gives a love of lysis what's the love of lysis there's certain nations of the world that even if they convert you can't marry them and if you do the kadushan is not typeface there's a lavender aside from marrying a guy in their state of being a gentile that there are certain nations of the world that even if they convert you can't marry them and if you do the conditions not toy face that's the lava voice is specifically referring to the zionumis so perhaps you can make the following case if the love of specifically referring to the zionomice and the love of voices referring to the zionumice so the two end pieces the two enlarvin are daftar designomas is so the middle lab may be the love of giving a gift to the guy is only you're now to give a gift to one of the zionumis if he's a Prezi if your mailman is a Prezi if you ask him I want to see your social security card I want to see your ID and he says I'm a proud member of the Parisi then maybe you can't give him a tip if he's a yuvusi maybe you can't give him a tip if he's a garagashi you know your Barber on the front of a store he says I'm a gurga shite Barber then Taco you can't give him a tip but we know from the rambam that nowadays we don't really know what ethnicity anybody is there's a there's a concept um today if somebody comes to you and says you know I'm an ammonia you're allowed to marry them I'm a mystery you're allowed to marry them if they convert then the reason is because we don't assume anybody is from the ethnicity that they claim they are because mixed everybody up so maybe we'll make the case and in fact the Tara tamima Epstein you know the classic commentary on Hamish every good library has to have a tarte Mima the tartamima suggests that the same ways that you can't make a covenant with a guy is he can't make a covenant with a member of the Zion UMAS and the same way the love of is you can't marry one of the Zion um even when they convert so perhaps you can't give a gift to one of the Zion UMAS who converts or even if they don't if they don't convert but if it's an Italian a French man a North Korean an American you could give them a gift that's the case that the tartanima makes however this is not a valuable possibility why is this not a viable possibility because Texas and command all the reshinem disagree with this assertion if you look at number five tysus writes that even though hambris is only the zionumais and lysis only the zionuma is nevertheless the love of my name is talking about all the you my Salam take a look in my sheet it's number five it's about two-thirds of the way down the first word on the line is umayavi see that um says when it comes to giving gifts when it comes to praising when it comes to selling hours Israel there's no difference between one of the Zion um and another guy you cannot give a gift praise or give Earth Israel to a guy from any nation of the world when it comes to making a covenant says that's only the zionumice when it comes to lysis but when it comes to that refers to all the um and tysus's conclusion and the conclusion of almost all three name and it's kadai to point out what would you do if you have a Torah tamima against all the reshinam the Tata was a great man but he wrote his commentary in the 20th century so we would not take the tarte meme into account versus all the reshinam in general it's worthwhile to know that there are many things in the tartamima which at the very least are Highly Questionable we don't pass in like the tartamima so it's like you know somebody sometimes people come over to the rabbi Rabbi how do you say this but I saw in my parachute sheets you know I saw in a power Shashi that says something so you don't pass in from a parachute sheet you could read a parachute sheet Bengal lagavra obviously not during khazarusky says this is just a free advertisement says you cannot learn during khazar shots you know people say they want to be marvelous says it could be you have to do it again it's so parachute sheets are beautiful they're wonderful you're not going to pass skin from a parachute sheet you're not gonna pass skin from a payroll certainly not against all the reshine him and therefore the Israel applies to all the um so right now we're up the creek without a paddle it's see we it would seem like there's no way to wiggle out of this the isser of giving a gift applies to all the nations of the world let's move forward her name can we make the case perhaps that maybe it doesn't apply to all maybe it only applies to specific types what are the specific types of going that it applies to so if you take a look at number six there's the gemara says you know there's always a concern not to leave the gidhanasha lying around you never want to leave again lying around because a yid might not be familiar that the giranosha has not been extracted and yet so yet the mishnah says you're allowed to give a guy a gift of the hind leg even if you don't take out the git hanosha why because since the beginning I know she's very recognizable we're not afraid he's going to give it to her yet even if he gives it to a year the ID will know where the giranosha is the mishna says if you look at number six you're allowed to send the hind legs to a Guyana because the place of the giranash is recognizable and we're not afraid that a yet is going to be niksha by eating how could you give the guy the hind leg but you can't give a guy a gift the Tyra says voice to her name so very nice is knicker but you can't give him the gift in the first place says the Raj but it's not a problem the only time it's Usher to give a guy a gift is if the guy is if the guy is an idolater if the guy is not an idolater he doesn't worship avoid doesn't bite bow down to statues and icons you could give him a gift says the guy says the rashbon the fourth line you're allowed to give a guy a gift if he's not annoyed of a desara by the way the Miri and avoid says the same thing if you look on the bottom of number eight um says any guy that does not worship avoidazara you may give them a gift so now this is a major opening this is a tremendous this is a tremendous Ray of Hope because if you're a mailman doesn't go home and bow down to a statue doesn't bow down to how they deserve doesn't bow down to icons then you could give him a gift so let's spend a few minutes if uh with the permission of the hanhala to discuss what is the status of Gentiles today and the religions of the world are they considered or if they have a desara so right off the bat Muslims are not available that's for sure they believe in one God they believe in the creator of Heaven and Earth we don't quite Agree to Agree to them on most issues but they're still not if they have aidazara a mask is not considered a base avoidazara and because Muslims so if let's say your mailman Muhammad or your Barber whatever his name is is a Muslim then give him a gift no problem he's not an even according to the rashva according to the rajbah that you're allowed to give a gift to a nano even if a Muslim would not be you know so you have already a billion people in the world to give holiday gifts to but now the big question is you know the United States of America foreign is predominantly a Christian country and the question is is Christianity can I speak about this for two minutes yeah two minutes is Christianity are as a Christian Anova level so there's Patrick says not okay so so there's a very big misconception when it comes to Christianity there are two types of sin in chess this is that seems to say Christianity is what is called sheet of is where they believe in one God but the God has different parts shilash it's called the trinity so that we shine him say that for a guy to believe in sheet of meaning one God with different components a father a son the Hulu tices seems to say in two places in Shahs that Christianity is not avoidazara poskins that way that Christianity Is Now by The Zara and the binance however we do not pass in that way we do not pass in that way first of Allah that she took is only not a problem sheet of is only not a problem if you believe there's a hierarchy if you believe there's not the meaning there's a supreme god and there are people under him but if you believe that he has different everybody would agree that's available this is not as well known the rambam writes explicitly that christianities are say what not in my rambam that's true not in your round because you got the homogenized water down rambam you have the censored rambam in the censored rambam the rambam says the wine of the ishmaeli is but those who serve avoidazara their wine is the ins so take a look at number 12. sounds good I don't know okay look at number 12 the rambam says the rambam says that the wine of Zara is why doesn't the rambam hit the nail on the head why does the rambam say the wine of the ishmaeli is the ramam should say the wine of a Christian is is the answer is the ramam did say that but it was censored from the rambam in the shopsy Frankel edition of the rambam and in all the original editions of the rambam in the the first Amsterdam if you look at number 13 you have it on the sheet the rambam writes black and white the rambam writes Christians are available if you look in the China it says this was the Edition this was the text in every single rambam before the sensors so the question is do we pass skin like the rambam they know you'd be who the rights in achuva Christianity and the final word on the subject if you look at number 15 is because I'm sorry for passing Christianity so we've just we've now limited your ability to give gifts according to the rajwa only to one million Muslims Christian now the truth is Christianity runs the gamut from unitarians to Catholics but I think for for more on this subject we'll be um for a different next year a different audience thank you for the reinvite appreciate it okay so so right now the Raj bashita is that if the guy is Zara you're allowed to give them a gift so at least at least if you know that your guy is not enough though you should be allowed to give them a gift but even this possibility is not viable and that is because we don't seem to pass in like the rajba the rambam the tour the Chicago right that the only time it's mother to give a guy a gift is if they're a gear toy shop now what's a garato chef you say I know I know a Noah I know a Jew who I know a guy who keeps the seven messages the truth is there is no such thing as the garage shift today was only applicable in the times of joyville if there's no yovel you can't be Macabre agartaishov agar toy shop is a guy who formally accepts the seven Noah laws not because they're moral not because they're ethical but because Hashem gave them to the Jewish people on harsinai otherwise if fagoya is a moral person but has not accepted the shepherdin because the rebanishum told Claudius they are not considered a garitage so it'll come out then to give a gift to a guy who keeps the Chevy or who's not an over the Zara can you give a gift to a regular guy who's not an either against the ramam the tour and the the Raja would say as long as the the guy is not in heaven of a desire you could give them a gift the tour you could take a look in the tour number 19. the tour says you're now to give a gift to another Zara but who could you give a gift to Elite you could give it to a garitage of the ramam also writes this in a number of places look at number 16. the ramam says repeats himself and number 17 is so somebody's showing him say as long as the guy is not enough Zara you're allowed to give them a gift others shine them say no the guy has to have the status of a geritoshov so how do we pass get on this issue so we have an incredible chuva here the number 23 from the lady okay what would you say name is it alive or is it Allah what I didn't hear you foreign so to say to use the possibility that the guy is not from the Shiva ummah is we don't pass in that way we pass can like toy Swiss it applies to olgaim to say the God is not even up with the Zara that's also not viable it's a Suffolk die riser maybe we'll speak for two minutes about the love of what about praising a guy are you allowed to say this guy he's so tall he could jump so high he's my hero he could take that rubber circular object and slam it so hard down into a round hole you know they asked if Heim kaneevsky are you allowed to play basketball on Shabbos so replying said what's basketball so they explained you take a round rubber object and you put it in a hole so just put in the hole before Shabbos so that's the question the question is can you can you praise a guy can you be Michelle so it's a very interesting Heather that the titsoleezza brings down and that Sicily azer says well according to the Tara tamima you could praise a guy if he's not from the Shiva home ice but wait I'm passing like the tartarima according to the rajbah you could praise the guy if he's not an over the Zara but we don't pass him like the rajma so that sitsalyzer says that it could be if this is your kavana if you take a look at number 25 . you're now to speak about the praise of a guy you want to say this guy I know he's a low life I know he's not somebody you respect but he's a good looking guy allowed to say he's a good looking guy you can't say that I feel alone certainly she is to say he's charitable he's gracious he's kind-hearted but if your kavana is to praise him not that I'm praising this seven foot guy I'm saying that my team won the first overall pick that we were zoja to draft this large individual who injects himself with steroids so that my team could win I have in mind that he was such a barrier hadasha then you're allowed to do it because my intention is not to praise the God my intention is to praise that college so that's really your deep-seated kavana it's a form of that's the way you're connecting then Taco could be a Hector but everybody has to know really what's deep down in their own heart if their cavanas really to be mishabayak Hashem okay coming back to the ranch back to the subject at hand and that is can you give a gift to a guy so the bottom line is that in most cases you are allowed to why are you allowed to even probably if he's from the Shiva umais even if he's annoyed avoidazara and that's because there's a Texas you take a look all the way at the end of number 27 tices in the South the question says the mishna says you're allowed to send a hind leg to a guy even if the get hanosh is in it fructose this but you can't give a gift to a guy satosha says the following lambdas says Titus on the third line but tyrates revi here we're talking about a guy that you recognize it's mutter with nation because if you know who the guy is you're not it's not considered giving him a gift it's like you're selling it to him what does Texas mean does anybody say you're now to do business with a guy does any is there any sheeta that you can't do business with agenda of course you'll have to do business with a gentile why are you allowed to do business with a gentile and you're now to give a gentile a gift what's the sorrow what's the the difference is we have to try to understand why does the Torah tell us not to give a gift to a gentile giving a gift creates a certain friendship closeness and that will lead to bad influence the Torah doesn't want us to give a gift because when you give a gift to somebody you start to feel close to them and it's an important that ayid maintains a certain separation from the influences of the nations of the world see if you give a guy a gift you're going to feel close with them and we're trying to stay away we're trying to keep ourselves pure but you'll have to do business with a guy because when you do business with them you don't feel closeness with them it's just a business relationship it's just a professional relationship you don't have that feeling of Corva you don't have that feeling of friendship you're not doing it for the girl you're doing it for yourself you're allowed to do business with a guy because you're doing it for yourself you can't give a gift to a guy because then you're creating a relationship says touch this if you're giving a gift to a guy that you know why would you give your Barber a tip you're giving your Barber a tip because you want to feel close to him or are you giving your Barber a tip because the next time you get a haircut you want your payus to be there you're giving your mailman a tip because you want to have a close relationship with your mailman or you're giving him your mailman a tip because you realize for last month all you get in the mail are bills and meetings for this um Social Security and advertisements and you haven't gotten your paycheck in the mail for a few weeks you know why because you didn't give your mailman a tip last year so you're not giving the mailman a tip because you want to have a relationship with him you're giving him a tip you're giving it to yourself it's for your own benefit it's like doing business with the why would you give the cab driver or your driver a tip because you want him to come next time says touch this if you recognize the guy if you know the guy then we're not going to construe the gift as a Matana we're going to construe the gift as business you anticipate something in return you want something out of it you want to ensure better service you want to ensure that he's going to take care of you next time to give your Banker you know the teller a gift you want them to deposit your money you don't want them to keep your money so that's not called a gift that's called a business transaction in fact the way the Ron explains it and we'll end with this you know there's a love in the Torah of it's actually a Mitzvah says that if you have an avid Kanani you're not allowed to free in evidence so the Gomorrah asks come on get an ass will be a lazer had an avid Kanani and Robbie Lazar freed as Avid Kanani with nine people and he needed a minion and he freed the Avid Kanani first center to make a tenth reflect Iran very good he needed a minion you can't do an Avera to make a minion if you're on your way to minion you can't stop off in a trafe restaurant because you need a minion so how could rebeles are free as evid can I even make a minion freeing an avid Kanani is an average says the Ron what's the average Kanani you have to enslave them forever why do you have to enslave an avid Kanani forever says Iran the source of enslaving in other canadi is because you can't give a gentile a gift and if you're going to free in Evan Kanani you're gifting to to a guy but says the the run if your purpose in freeing the evid Canadian is because you want a bar who you want to nomination you want to know man you want a minion so you're not giving them a freebie you're giving a gift to yourself you're not giving something to a gentile you're taking something for yourself the Ron learns that the rest of him and the ran is magdiran defines that is Guided by the qualifications of if you look at number 30 you cannot give a gift to a gentile who you don't know but if you do know them they're your Barber they're your taxi driver they're your banker they're your mailman you could give them a tip but if it's let's say a taxi driver the chances are you're never going to see them again what are the chances you're going to get this Taxi Driver again so you give 15 percent Avada because that's standard but now you're thinking you know it's the holiday season and let's spread the holiday cheer and I want to be a good guy now not because Hashem I just want to show generosity you don't know the guy from a hole in the wall then it reverts back to the love of that if you don't know who the individual is you can't just give in indiscriminately to a gentle if you know who it is and you have a clear cavana to be getting something back you have a clear reasoning that you're going to benefit from it's but if it's just out of the generosity of your heart then there is certainly something to take into consideration and that is the love of thank you so much for listening have a wonderful day yeah you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by torahanytime.com