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How Do We Do Teshuva Out of Love? - Zoom Lecture to Panama Jewish Community
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thank you very very much
thank you everybody who has gathered
here from the entire community of panama
let me make sure all of our stuff are
working
so first of all yashikam
wonderful thank you to the entire
community of panama
joining us here live for those who will
join us later
i want to thank all of the members of
both communities the bettel community
and the chevit akhim community
for joining together and being here this
evening
for this special night of learning
and personal growth and unity
thank you so much rabbi lane for the
invitation
and thank you to all of you who made
this evening happen
it's a great privilege and a great
school and i begin by wishing each and
every one of you
a kittiva hasimatova a chanatova o
metuka
a beautiful year a good year a blessed
year a prosperous year
a year of health happiness and abundance
a year in which hashem fulfills all of
your heart's desires materially and
spiritually
for you and your loved ones but claudius
a year of great health and a year of
great abundance and a year of tremendous
brachan
and a year of yeshua and goula
to you and to all of claudia israel and
to the entire
jewish world as we say in the dharvaning
tahil shanna
tiklas
let the year and its curses end and a
new year
herald uh blessings and good tidings for
all of
god's people in the whole world of all
of god's children and for the all of
civilization
and for the whole world and for the
entire panama community
and so forth our main kenya road sign
so the wonderful theme that was allotted
to me this evening is
how do we do truva out of love
and i'm going to begin with a
very powerful insight that was once
shared
by hagon rabbi yosef dave halevi
salavetrik
who was of course the very well known
rasheshiva of yeshiva
chief rabbi of boston and
a grandson a son of rabbisha silaveczyk
a grandson
of rebecca malevi salavechuk brisker
a great grandson who is named after the
basalevi
rabbis of dave halevy salavaitchik
ultimately all the way back to
him of valarjan the great student of the
villenegon
and rabbi sullivan sheared
the following which i think very
powerful and potent insight
when it comes to truva and i think it's
one of the
great answers to this question of
how do we do truva out of love
and he said as follows you know
in judaism we all know there's a famous
expression it's called vidui
vidue means confession
we say vidu every day after schweinsteig
especially on yom kippur the whole day
is dedicated to vidui
as the rambam says in its
kate's makila slick of a capara it's the
pinnacle
and the highlight of chuva of repentance
and part of the mitzvah of chuva
is confession
articulating our sins our mistakes our
errors
apologizing it's basically saying i'm
sorry expressing remorse for the past
and a resolution for the future
this is what's called vidu
but there is one video in judaism
that is very very unique and it's always
read in the weeks right before rosh
hashanah in kipper
in the upcoming parsha next week
parashat ki savoy
in the beginning of the parish and it's
called vidu meisser
what is viduemiser it's a very
interesting mitzvah
and it's not a known mitzvah and it's
worthwhile to mention it
and explain it vidumeiser was a mitzvah
that was applicable every few years
the jewish cycle of agriculture
narrative style is divided by seven
years
the seventh year is shemitah the
sabbatical year
then you have the first year and the
second year you have to give
tithing to the kyanim and to the levia
and then 10 percent you bring to your
shallow year
three and six
you uh so you have like this you have
one years one two
four and five and then you have years
three and six
some years you give tithing to the
kyanim and levium and you bring to
jerusalem
and some years you bring it to the poor
people
it alternates after every few years
the torah says the fourth year of the
cycle
pesach time there was something called
vidumaiser
i had to make a special confession to
hashem
that i gave all the taxes so to speak
all the charity that i had to give for
my grain i gave
to the kohanim to the livium to the
widows to the poor people to the
destitute
to those who need it and if i didn't
give it i have to make sure to empty my
house
of all the grain and fruits and
vegetables that had to be given for
charity
and then you make a special declaration
called vidui maiser
which was done on araf pesach
on the fourth year of the cycle and you
testified you made a confession
that you evacuated and you gave all the
charity that you had to give the past
few years
this is called in halacha vide the
confession of mice
and what do you say at this confession i
want to read to you
i want to read to you the words that you
say during this confession
in the beginning of parshas kisaway and
i quote
you say these words for martin luther
i removed all the holy food from the
house
i gave it to the lady to the convert
to the orphan to the widowmaker
i did not forget anything i did not eat
from it when i was in mourning
i did not remove it when i was in pure i
did not use it for the wrong purposes
i listened to the voice of god i did
everything you commanded me and now god
look down from heaven
bless your nation and then mephirsham
asks a simple question
why is this called vidui did you hear
any confession here
listen to the words the words are i did
everything right
i removed all the food from the house i
gave it to the lady to the convert to
the poor person
to the orphan to the widow i did not
transgress any of your mitzvahs i did
not forget anything
i did everything you commanded me where
is the video
where's the confession here here's a
scenario i'm going to ask you to
think about for a moment you come home
one evening
after dinner you tell your wife let's go
out to the porch let's take a walk i
want to speak to you for a few minutes
and you go out together and it's very
quiet
and you have a cup of wine and you turn
to your wife and you say i have a
confession to make
i have a confession to make
and she gets very tense and emotional
what is he gonna say
what is my husband gonna reveal that i
don't know
that's very hard to hide things from
your wife
but maybe something i don't know what is
it
she turns to you and says go ahead go
ahead
and he says i want to make a confession
and the confession is
i have been the best
husband in the world
in fact i have never did anything wrong
in fact i'm perfect i'm impeccable
i'm flawless i am a wonderful person
i am a stupendous father and i am an
extraordinary human being and husband
i want to tell you that during all these
years i have done
everything right accurate to the t
i have not made any mistakes i didn't
even forget
to do something that you wanted me to do
and now i ask you
please reciprocate now
you might call this guy normal you might
call this guy crazy i'm not going to
give the verdict you'll ask your
therapist
but one thing i know this is no
confession
this is not a confession with the
confession
they tell an old joke that there was a
jewish kid
who unfortunately was not in the jewish
school and he was coming home with his
classmate the catholic kid
the catholic kid turns to the jewish kid
and he says you know
our priests are much greater than your
rabbis jewish kid says why do you think
so
he says it's a fact your rabbis don't
know
all the sins of the congregants our
priests they know
everything that's happening my priest
knows everything my father did wrong
the jewish kid looks at him and says of
course because you tell them
you tell them where is the confession
here there's no confession
why is this called the video you're
telling god that you did everything
right
the words are astounding it's not like
you say i did almost everything right
no i did everything right
i did everything like you said master of
the world now bless you
bless us why did the ghazal call this
vide confession
and the answer to this my dearest
friends
is very very simple but it's also very
very profound
because essentially all
confession must have an introduction
must have a prerequisite and the
prerequisite of confession is
the deep deep knowledge of how good you
are
how pure you are how innocent you are
and how amazing your potential is
when somebody feels if i feel that i'm a
loser
i'm a smarter i'm a no good nick
i can't really achieve anything i'm full
of
negativity and toxicity i'm the worst
sinner in the world or close to the
worst thing in the world
then i can't really confess you know why
in order to confess your mistakes you
need a few conditions number one
i have to really believe that i have
choices
i have to believe that i'm not a victim
i have to believe
that i made the wrong choice and i could
have made a different choice
i have to believe that the buck stops
here i have to believe that i can't
blame the whole world if i'm a real
loser and a smarter and incapable and
incompetent
i have no reason to confess i was a
victim i was a victim of my mother my
father my brother my sister my rabbi my
community my wife my mother-in-law
my husband my father-in-law my
environment my yeshiva my teacher my
this one my that's what i'm a nobody i'm
just a victim i just follow
in order for me to really be able to say
i'm sorry
i have to realize that i'm capable of
more
i have to realize that i'm great that i
have strength that have potential
that i could write the biography of my
life and therefore i'm sorry
that's number one number two in order to
really make confession i have to believe
that i can change for the future
even more important that tomorrow i can
be different in other words i have
choices
i'm not trapped i'm an emancipated
person i'm a free person
if i believe that i am essentially
flawed and distorted
and i'm just a bad guy i'm just a loser
i'm just
incapable i am a victim of circumstances
i am a victim of nature i'm a victim of
nurture how can i change tomorrow
i can't do truva who i was yesterday is
who i'll be today i'll be tomorrow
there's no choices in me my brain my
neural pathways are confined and limited
the way i was yesterday i'll be forever
i have to believe that i'm a free person
i have to believe that i'm not a
traumatized victim of my past
that i can reinvent myself i can
recreate myself
is more for me to be able to feel
remorse
i have to feel that i'm capable of such
a greater life
imagine if i'm wearing dirty clothes
i'm full of dirt and somebody throws
some more dirt on me
doesn't make a difference i'm dirty
already i'm a little more dirty
but if i'm wearing a beautiful beautiful
suit or a beautiful coat or a beautiful
outfit or a beautiful gown a beautiful
shirt
and then somebody comes and pours ice
cream on me or chocolate milk or orange
juice
then it's like it's a pasta it's a pasta
it's not befitting why such a beautiful
outfit
such a beautiful beckish such a
beautiful suit
it's it's not the coming of me the only
way you could feel
remorse for your sins is if you feel
that you're a beautiful person these
sins are not becoming
i'm capable of more i
am more this is not who i am if i feel
that i'm
dark and evil and negative and dirty and
filthy and just a piece of junk
and hashem hates me and the world hates
me and i'm just going to be punished and
i'm going to burn and get
him in purgatory okay so a little more
chocolate cake on your shirt
a little more ice cream in your shirt a
little more wine on your shirt what kid
my shirt is so dirty make it more dirty
only when you feel that you're a
beautiful person
now there's something wrong i want to
get rid of this this is not for me
you understand my friends the only way
i could do truva as if i first do vidu
my sir
that's why before rosh hashanah kipper
in the month of ello the season of
trivia we read parshas kisaway where we
talk about the ability of a judah sata
shem
says i got it right i got it amazingly
right
now that you realize how good you were
now you could do trouble
now he could do people think that shruva
is based on guilt no
if there's real guilt there's no truth
guilt comes from the aids of her
we say in davening at night including
tonight
remove the sutton from before us and
from behind us
i know there's something ahead of me
he's like a tour guide here come he says
come come come come this way
let's go here let's look here let's eat
this let's go there let's do that
why is the sutton behind me i know that
he's
in front of me he's trying to lead the
way why is he behind me
of baghdad and some of the other good
oily israel
explain a beautiful idea there's the
satan ahead of me he says come come come
come
there's also the sutton behind me after
i do a sin
he follows me behind behind not
he leads me after after i led the way
and i did a sin he's behind me and he
says ah
oh yeah yeah look how bad you are look
how
horrible you are look at what a terrible
terrible person you are
it sounds very jewish right we call it
jewish guilt
it comes from the eight sahara because
the moment you define yourself
as a loser as a sinner you actually
can't do truth
true is based on vidui meister it's
based on a person realizing how
beautiful i
am how holy i am how much potential
there is in me
how much hashem loves me i don't want
chocolate cake on my shirt it's a
beautiful shirt
the gemara is very upset about it who
has
a stain it's not becoming for you now
that's a physical garment when you talk
about my soul my mind
my body deserves to be in optimal health
my soul deserves to be an optimal health
it's a beautiful soul it's a helical
your body is sacred your soul is sacred
your mind is sacred
your system is sacred your physiological
self
your emotional system your spiritual
system all the nine systems of your body
these are sacred divine systems
from my flesh i perceive god from my
flesh i could perceive god
because hashem is manifested in your
body and your soul
this doesn't deserve to be dirty and
filthy and morally blemished
i could do much better because i am much
better
and only then can i take accountability
for what happened yesterday and more
importantly
i can take accountability for what will
happen tomorrow
because i realize that i'm a free agent
in life i am an emancipated human being
being carved out in hashem's image i am
not confined repressed inhibited i'm not
in shackles
i'm not in chains i am a human being who
can make choices why can i make choices
because there's a broadness in me
because my consciousness can see
largeness
somebody who can only has a tunnel
vision my neural pathways only act in
one way there's no choice
that's why we read about video before we
read about shuffle
my dearest friends the month of ello in
the month of tishrei for many jews is a
very hard
season there's a heaviness in the air
there's a lot of guilt
but it's important to remember that it's
actually the other way around
these days are days of awe but there are
days of so much love
there are days that call out to you and
say do you realize how beautiful you
are do you realize how awesome do you
are
do you realize how much potential there
is in you do you realize that you can
rewrite the script of your life
and you can write your biography and
recreate your trajectory and your
destiny
the holy bell zero of the tsar shalom of
bells who say yoga and elena once said
we say in the confessions of yom kippur
many times
some people say it every night
i stand before you like a vessel filled
with
shame and you know this makes people
feel a person asked me we were in
trouble the other a few years ago yom
kippur somebody came over to me and said
you know i feel like a smart on a good
day why don't is this really helpful for
people
to say i'm like a vessel filled with
shame
so i told them the shalom of bell says
you know in halacha for a kaylee to be a
kaley it has to be complete wholesome
if you break a vessel it's not achilles
anymore
for example in hill his tumma tired the
laws of purity
achille a vessel for it to be
susceptible to ritual impurity it has to
be wholesome
if it's made let's say you have a
pitcher of water you know let's say a
wooden pitcher of water
or a metal pitcher of water gold silver
and there's a hole in it that there's a
leak it's not a kaley anymore unless you
use it for
for pomegranates but if there's a big
hole you can't even use it for that it's
broken
once it's broken it's not achilles
anymore
i'm like a vessel the vessel has to be
wholesome if the vessel is broken
you're not a vessel anymore once the
vessel is whole
now you could realize that there's shame
people don't get the prayer
they think the prayer is saying oh i'm
full of shame i'm just full of
dirt i'm a nobody i'm a horrible
horrible
smelly human being god must hate me no
your kaylee has to be wholesome if you
don't feel your wholesomeness
you can't do truva people who look in
the mirror and say i'm just a
broken devastated smashed
crushed meaningless valueless
inconsequential person
my whole life is just one exercise
after another one in failure and
disappointment
god has certainly given up on me and i
am i gonna burn
you cannot do trivia you're too broken
you don't you can't take responsibility
for yourself you can't see a different
future you're not capable of truth
truth must be based on your
wholesomeness realize how holy you are
how s full of sacredness you are how
pure you are you're a piece of gold
kikili you're a wholesome vessel because
your divine soul
is never broken and never tarnished and
never destroyed it's invincible it's a
piece of god
how can it be dirty and filthy god
forbid when you say about yourself that
you're dirty and filthy you're not only
saying allah about yourself
said
don't say you're filthy you're duty
you're a piece of hashem you're saying
also your soul is a piece of hashem it
says
have a beautiful soul once you realize
that your container is infinite
now you could look inside and say you
know what but there's a lot of shame
over there
malay but there's a lot of shame and i
want to get rid of the shame
i'm a beautiful person i want to get rid
of the dirt it doesn't belong to me it
doesn't fit
it doesn't work for me they say a story
the bashamtv once came to a town
and he was talking to the people of the
town and they said you know
there's this drew there's this drew in
shul and yum kipper
when they start confessing yeah he
starts singing a beautiful beautiful
song
and they told him to stop it's not a
happy time
it's not a time to sing nice songs so
the basham said i want to see this jew
and he asked this drew why is it that
when you do the confessions you start
singing a happy melody
and the jew said to him these words he
says my holy rabbi i want to ask you a
question
if you're working in the king's palace
you're given a job to work for the king
in his palace now there's different
people of different jobs
you have the chef the one who prepares
the food
but then you also have the janitor the
janitor's job is when he sees dirt on
the floor
he right away goes and he sweeps it up
and he takes a dust pen
and he throws it into the garbage that
the palace should be beautiful and clean
so i want to ask you a question when
this person is sweeping up the king's
palace
does he sing or does he cry
the vashem smiles as the jew says of
course he sings
he's so happy he feels so privileged
that he could clean up the king's palace
so the jew says when i confess my sins
i'm cleaning up hashem's palace
i don't know if you saw there was a clip
very funny clip somebody sent me
i'm not going to tell you why they sent
it to me but you'll understand it
this holy african-american brother who
says on the clip he says you know he's a
big guy can i in her
he says you know they say i'm overweight
and he's yeah
it's quite true he says you know i know
and i know i'm overweight but you know
what they taught me
that the body of a human being is god's
temple
it's god's temple god dwells in a
person's body
so i decided why should i build for god
a home
i want to build for him a mansion
so it's very funny it's very cute but
the point is
this jew tells the baashamtif when i
confess i'm cleaning up the king's
palace this is the king's palace
versace
i will dwell among them every jewish
heart there's a palace
that's where hashem dwells i'm cleaning
up the palace if you cannot look at your
body and your soul
and see the divine palace says rabbi
sullivan how could you do truva
that's not real truth it's gilchu real
truva comes from
appreciating your greatness your
grandness
you your spouse your children it's also
true with all of your children
don't criticize your child or you
student if you don't first see their
greatness
because it's a different types of type
of criticism if i criticize you and i
only see how bad you are how negative
you are
it's going to crush them even more you
don't do that
you have to look at your child even if
he's doing something wrong and even if
it's painful and it's difficult and i
know it's hard sometimes
and you have to always see the light the
beauty
the potential the glory and from there
you criticize it's a different type of
criticism
you empower you stimulate you energize
and even if sometimes
the words may be intense and there's
room for discipline you have to be
careful when and how and when but
discipline is a good thing if it's done
out of
a sense of connection and a sense of
love and a sense of
inner relationship of understanding what
a beautiful beautiful person you are
if i cannot see that then i have to go
back into myself
and figure out what type of trauma i'm
dealing with i always have to be able to
see that
somebody sent me now a beautiful story
there was a junior
his name was arya levine was the sadiq
of yerushalayim
he was an extraordinary person they
called him to tell your time he would go
visit the prisoners
and he was a heart full of love full of
love
and if arya levine
he was rabbi eliasev satsaw's
father-in-law i believe
the bias of shalom alayash of the famous
ghana of yoshlam passed away a few years
ago
i believe he's married rabbi arya
levine's daughter
and if i'm not mistaking raf cook or
ramitaka and cook was the masada
condition by their wedding
in any case survival levine
was a was a short fellow
and he was once walking in yerushalayim
one of the streets
and there was a student of his who was
coming from the other direction
now this student used to learn by living
but then he left yiddish
he left the path of torah unfortunately
and he felt awkward to bump into his
rebbe so what did he do
you know you don't want to meet somebody
he crossed the street
he crosses the street mario levine
notices it and he wanted to meet him so
he crossed the street and he chases
after him
and he meets me says shalom why'd you
run away from me
what are you scared of me what am i
going to do to you so he says the truth
he says reb
i was embarrassed i'm not wearing i'm
not wearing a keeper i'm not wearing a
yamaka
and i'm walking here and it would be
very uncomfortable for me to meet you
what do i say how do i explain it i just
thought
it'll be better to avoid you barry
levine looked at him and said
let me tell you something i am a short
man
i am a short man i only see up to your
heart
i see up the heart i don't see above
that
and this was his way of saying
i will never ever just disregard you or
discount you
i may have pain i may disagree with some
of the choices you made but i will never
forget your heart i will never forget
you have a lave tauf
levyhudi two weeks ago rabbi yadin evan
yisrael
rabbi yadin steinseltz passed away he
was one of the luminaries of the
generation
translated to hogemart the first one
translated the whole gemara in hebrew
started in the 1960s and he was a great
man
and he once shared something he said
that he was once speaking to a jew
in in israel and his jew tells him as
follows he says
i'm much more religious than my father
his father was from the founders of
israel you know they were very stormed
zionists but very secular left-wing
socialist jews
so he says um he became about truth he
says i'm much more religious than my
father
he says but my father was much more
jewish than i'll ever be
i'm more religious than my father but
i'm never going to be as
jewish as my father what did he mean
with that
what he meant you have to take it with a
grain of salt of course what he meant
with that is
what where are you living was telling
him i'm never going to forget your heart
when you want to build up somebody you
always have to be able to see
the positivity that's there and it
begins with yourself
the eight sahara loves to tell jews
before rosh hashanah
kipper oh are you bad you are so bad
and if you have that message you can't
begin
to appreciate what elo is what rosh
hashanah is what is
what circuses the passage says many of
you say it every friday evening
i am black and i'm beautiful this is the
expression
black is beautiful i'm dark
and i'm beautiful and there's different
interpretations in this passage but one
interpretation is
even when you look at yourself and you
say there's darkness in me
there's bleakness in me there's
negativity in me
i made mistakes maybe i made terrible
mistakes
i have to apologize yes i have to do but
for nava
you have to remember that i'm also
beautiful
because if i don't remember the vinav i
only have
i'll never be able to do real truth
once said you have two pockets the two
pockets you need two pieces of paper
on one piece of paper it has to say
of autumn
and one piece of paper the world was
created for me another package you have
another piece of paper of our nike off
of
i am dustin ashes of roma venus says in
parishes valley of vanity over babies
you have to have two pockets
two pieces of paper one piece of paper
for me the world was created
i'm dustin ashes they're not a
contradiction in judaism they actually
work together
when you understand that for me the
world was created then
i deserve much better i owe it to myself
i owe it to the world i owe it to hashem
to do better
i'm not trapped i'm not a robot
not a zombie and even if i went through
a lot of things and even if i made
mistakes okay
i made mistakes i have to cry
i have to feel regret i have to make
amends i have to say i'm sorry i have to
apologize
but the reason i have to is because i'm
capable of much better
i don't want to live like this this time
of the year
people have to look at their lives and
say
i can do much better it's one of the my
my little anecdotes that i like they say
a story
there was a baby camel who turned to her
mother
and said in hebrew it's called
baby camel turns to her mother and says
mommy
i want to ask you a question why do we
have
three-toed ugly feet why can't we have
nice feet like other animals
and mommy says because we're not lazy
animals who sit in one place
we trek thousands of miles so we need
good sturdy feet to carry us
and carry our weight mommy
why do we have these ugly weird
grotesque eyelashes
because we don't sit in one place like
the other lazy mammals
we can trek through the sahara desert
and other deserts
hundreds and hundreds of miles and
they're sandstorms
so mother nature created these eyelashes
to protect our eyes from these storms so
we're not
our vision is not harmed mommy and why
do we have these weird humps on our back
why can't we just have nice flat backs
why these
bumpy humps ooh my dearest child
we don't sit in one place like the lazy
animals we contract
thousands of miles we're the only mammal
that can go for weeks sometimes for
months without water
without food how it's because those
humps those humps carry all of our fat
and when we need
the nutrients the humps dissolve and we
get all the nutrients we need to survive
because we go for so long without water
ah the baby turns to her mother and says
mommy i get it
so we have three ugly toed feet could
trek hundreds and thousands of miles
disgusting repulsive eyelashes to
protect us from sandstorms as we trek
thousands of miles
grotesque humps to give us food and
water when we trek
thousands of miles i get it mommy so now
i have one fourth question
what in the world are we doing locked up
in this cage in the zoo
that's what she asks your mother and
that's really
the question of truva the question of
truva is
why am i in a cage why do i think i'm
incapable
why do i think i can't have an amazing
marriage
i can't have an amazing relationship
with my children i can't have an amazing
relationship with hashem
why am i looking at myself as such a
small
person when i'm really such a big person
why do i feel that ambitions i look at
other people and i say
i'm not capable of this i cannot learn
serious terror every day
i cannot finish one massachusetts
another mistake of sha's another
massachusetts till i finish sas
i every person according to their
capacity i cannot finish mishnays
i cannot i cannot really really learn i
cannot have an amazing davening
i cannot really be there for people
i cannot have an incredible incredible
relationship with my family with my
community
i must remain powerless i can't be
successful why are you in a cage
why do i put myself in a cage that's the
question of truva
without video my sir there's no
vidutrova
without appreciating the power of what a
person is
there's no viduca my dearest friends
i'm going to share with you a very
powerful
mishna that you all know but i want to
share with you tonight
an insight on this mishna that has
touched me very deeply
the mishnah says at the end of yuma
chapter eight
look before whom you're purified and who
purifies you
your father in heaven and he brings
tupesco
then apostate from yerma mikhwa israel
hashem
which means the hope of israel is hashem
and ibrahimovic says
just as the mikvah purifies those who
are impure
hashem purifies the jewish people and
this became
a famous song people sing especially
like boimer
but i want to ask you what's the meaning
of these words of rabbi quebec if he
says you're so lucky
look who cleanses you your father in
heaven and he brings two sukkah for me
why do we need to be akiva to tell this
to us this is the basis of the whole
torah
it says so many times in tanakh entire
naveem and that hashem wants to purify
the jewish people
you have to wait till lived at the end
of the
second base amiktas he lived through the
destruction and he lived a century
afterwards
until he was murdered by the romans in
the year approximately 135 after the
common era a few decades after corbin
barry cheney
so you know how many years after marsha
navenu that is you're dealing with more
than a millennium almost 1500 years
since maisha
fifteen hundred years we didn't know
that jews are lucky because hashem
cleanses us
and he brings aposic from yeshusko from
here it says impressions
is
so i want to share beautiful and some
amazing insight
we once heard from the laboratory of
blessed memory
he said as follows he made us
the art site of his mother and during
the theme of masaka
he said this inside at the end of the
seal he said the mishna is
very precise there's an extra two words
in this mission
why does he say the words he could have
said
we know that the mikveh is mattered to
me if you're not taught me enough to go
to the mikveh the whole purpose of the
mikveh is to be matar to maine why did
baker have to say it's up to me
the truth is if you wouldn't say it's at
mayhem the song wouldn't do all so well
ma make them attire but if i'm not
mistaking the mishnah was written before
the song
right rabbi lane i think the mission was
written before this song the words
superfluous
of israel just like a mikveh purifies
hashem purifies israel what does it have
to say
listen to this he said there's a mission
in brachas
what happens if somebody has what's
called tumascari
two must carry is the impurity that
comes when somebody emits the seed of
life
and thrillas ezra in the olden days
until they nullified it before i davened
in the morning and said krishma i had to
go to the mix
later they nullified it even though the
minigun was kept up by many
but talagically it was nullified because
it was just impossible for people
so let's say somebody is a balkeri they
emitted seed and they go to the mikveh
you go to the mikvah you come out you're
pure
what happens if somebody also touched a
corpse
or they're azov or azova so their is for
seven days
at least for seven days does it pay to
go to the mikveh for two must carry if
you're anyway tommy with a bigger tumor
so the mishna says in brachas
then you go to the mikvah anyway even
though you have a bigger tumor to get
rid of
in seven days that's right but now you
get rid of too muscari
this is the meaning of the mishna
mamikvamathira satmaya means
the mikveh is matthias those who are
tame and they remained tame
after the mikveh not mamikramatharis at
man they make for purifies those who
were tame
that would be extra that would be
superfluous for matara satmayim those
who remain tommy after mikveh but the
mikveh still retire them from the
smaller tomah
afrika desvarachamataris israel this is
the great novel idea of rabbi akiva and
i'll give you an example
let's say i borrowed fifty thousand
dollars from you i needed a down payment
for the house i took fifty thousand
dollars comes before you kipper i didn't
pay you
you call me up and you say rabbi i need
my fifty thousand dollars
you say okay let's meet so we meet for
coffee
i take out five thousand dollars i say
listen i don't owe you fifty thousand
dollars forget about it
stop it five thousand dollars i owe you
here's five thousand dollars what are
you gonna tell me
let me get out of here take your five
thousand dollars i'll meet you by the
rabbi
you schlep them to an entire what type
of hoots is it i lent you fifty thousand
dollars
now you have a chutzpa you come back you
say here's five thousand dollars i don't
owe you anything else
either you're a mensch and make a
payment plan or get out of my life
will go the hard way don't start playing
games with me
says sometimes comes the month of ello
comes with hashem that comes in kipper
jew comes to hashem and says
enlistment
i don't have power i don't have mental
space i don't have energy i don't have
time i don't have strength
to do a complete trivial overhaul on my
whole life
i can't but there's one average
one sin that's bothering me i want to do
trivia for that you might think hashem
will say
stop playing games either we make a
payment plan either you pay up
everything or get out of my life
says rebecca ashley mr
cleanses even somebody who remains
impure after the mikra
but it doesn't take away the fact that
for a smaller impurity the mikvah
cleansed me right now
it's israel comes to hashem and says i
want to do triva on this one
thing that's bothering me even though
other things i'm not ready to do truth
hashem embraces it with so much love why
because it's a vinul
if a father and a son are estranged your
son doesn't talk to you
you have a child doesn't talk to you for
a few years five years
away you can't calls you up says tati
abba let's meet for coffee go out for
coffee
he looks at you and says father
i think you were a terrible terrible
father you're horrible
but one thing i did wrong and i want to
apologize
now in your mind you're thinking of this
boy
what i did for him what i did femme how
many times i saved him he has a hootsuit
so you're going to scream and either you
say i'm sorry for everything
or get out we're not talking again if
you're a healthy father you don't do
that
you take the one apology you grab it
and you cherish it because that's the
foundation from this you'll build a
relationship
does it mean he has to grow of course
doesn't mean he doesn't have to grow of
course he has to grow
he has to come to terms with other
things but you will cherish
this moment you know why because you're
not
a stranger you're a father
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is
she's not a stranger says your mother
says your father
says hashem love is a drew more than
parents love and only child who was born
in a time that they didn't think they
can have a child so a drew comes and
says listen i know there's a lot of
stuff going on but there's one thing
i don't feel good about i want to do
truth you might think hashem will say
no no no either be real or out mom says
rebecca
even if i'm going to remain impure after
that and i have to continue to grow
that's fine
but don't underestimate the power of the
mikveh
what does this mean in our life
sometimes people look at their lives
and they say either i completely change
or it's worthless i'm not going to be a
hypocrite
it's one of the greatest mistakes people
make
i look for the perfect solution that
will solve all the problems no
take one thing in your life and
transform it
take one habit and get rid of it
try to cultivate one positive thing
whether it's in your marriage
your relationship with your children
your relationship with your family
relationship with your community your
relationship with hashem and your
relationship with yourself
in terror one
thing one thing and say this is
really eating up on me this does not
belong in my life
and embrace it and do it and from there
you create a tremendous foundation of
growth
there's a legendary story i don't know
if it's a legend or a story but it's a
great lesson
but a man his name was henry watson
he was the boss of ibm the story goes
that he had a
employee or manager a senior manager who
made a terrible mistake of the business
decision
and it cost the company it cost ibm 10
million dollar loss
and when they discovered the loss the
next day this manager the senior manager
who made
this horrible decision came into the
boss to henry watson
and as he walks into the office he had
tears in his eyes
and he tells mr watson he says i'm
resigning
no claims no tightness no severance pay
i'm resigning on my own because i know
what i did
and how much damage i cost you it was a
mistake but it's my fault i did it
and therefore the least i can do is just
leave
and leave on good terms leave with grace
and not demand anything
no salary no severance nothing
the least i can do after causing you so
much damage
and he was a good guy he had tears in
his eyes and henry watson said what are
you doing
he said i'm resigning he said are you
crazy he says well instead of you firing
me i'm resigning
he says firing you why would i fire you
i just spent
10 million dollars on your education
you're not going anywhere you're staying
right here
he stayed of course
his loyalty quadrupled his dedication
quadrupled you can't buy such loyalty
watson was a wise man he could have
thrown him out
but he realized this person was good and
he was sincere
and this moment of loss could become
such a great opportunity for education
he said
i spent 10 million dollars on your
education
you see friends a mistake
is only a mistake if it doesn't become
an education
when a mistake becomes an education it's
not a mistake anymore
it may be your most beautiful and
powerful moment we all make mistakes in
life
that's part of the human condition
that's why it says in the madrid truva
before hashem created the world he
created truth for why
because the world was created as a place
in which
chuva is a major component it's not a
bad thing
it's essential to the human condition
the difference between one person
another person is not if they make
mistakes or not everybody makes mistakes
you make mistakes i make mistakes maybe
my wife doesn't make mistakes
every person makes mistakes that's not
the problem
probably what i do with my mistake for
one person
the mistake becomes an education
it teaches me where i went wrong
and how i can create a new trajectory
for my life
a new destiny a new road and another
person makes a mistake
and they dig deeper the deeper hole
they put their claws into the mistake
they justify it
they rationalize it they build excuses
and justification
so the mistake now evolves into another
mistake
another mistake another mistake and at
some point i'm just
living in this little tiny bubble of
mistakes
that's why chuva should always be out of
love
because truva is love truva equals love
true doesn't mean repentance that's
really
the christian translation of the king
james version of the bible
the real translation of truevis return
return to what return to who i always
was to who i always will be
to who i always really am
thank you very much
maybe you could text the questions
because i don't know why i don't hear
you there's something
something let me try to make the voice
so rabbi led you could you could text me
the questions and i'll answer everything
unless you want me to read it directly
from okay
you can text it you text it you'll
choose what
okay first question
rabbi lane i'm looking in shots you
always have a question and answer
thing where would that be
because i only see chats on my screen i
only see chat
oh okay
how do we know that hashem will receive
and accept our chuva ah
that's a beautiful question
that's a great great question so i want
to point something out very interesting
to you
and the source of this comes from iguara
tachuva
which is the letter the essay the
treatise the epistle on truva that was
written by the bala tanya
and tanya igerus chapter 11.
he says something beautiful he says
every day
three times a day we have a blessing
forgive us our father because we have
sinned we have transgressed
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blessed are you hashem the gracious one
who always forgives in an abundant
fashion
ask the balla tanya one second i said
this in the morning
i set it in the afternoon and now i say
it again in the evening
i do this day after day week after week
month after month
what happens if after a hundred times
doing the same sin hashem says you know
what i'm fed up
i'm not going to forgive let's say i sin
to you
i insult you once i apologize twice i
apologize
30 times you say get out already stop
making fun of me
what happens if the same thing happens
with hashem maybe he doesn't forgive
at least it's a question so how do we
say baruch
it could be you're mentioning hashem's
name
you're saying that he continuously
forgives maybe he doesn't
maybe he's fed up with you and he
decided that's it it's over
and if yes we have a principal suffix
if you're not sure if you should make a
bracha what do you do you don't make it
because you don't say hashem's name in
vain even if it's a doubt
says the balatanya if we would even have
a little bit of a doubt that hashem
doesn't forgive us
we wouldn't be allowed to say every
single shmona israel
what does this show that from a terror
perspective we know
that it's never a question the moment
somebody says i'm sorry and they're
sincere
hashem forgives and it's over and the
sin is cleansed and it's gone and it's
finished and it's
obliterated and never ever doubt it
the moment i apologize and i say i'm
sorry
if i mean it hashem forgives why doesn't
he get fed up with me
because his love is infinite when
somebody's love is finite
so after a certain time they're like
okay we had enough
it's over when the love is infinite
there's no end
and therefore the moment you show up and
you want to be back in the relationship
hashem is there never doubt
that if you did shruva according to
torah
you were forgiven never ever doubt that
that doubt is one of the great
obstacles that the yates sir horror
wants to impose on me
it wants to tell me i'm going to tell
you an amazing insight from
representatives
he said it's a great great great great
insight
you know what do we do after the ilanium
kippur you blow the chauffeur
they finished the prayers in the illa
everybody's starving getting ready to
eat but before that we dive in my
reef what do we say how do we start off
my riff
i don't understand you just finished jim
kipper
all your sins were taken away and then
with avenged monastery mairev the night
of him kipper and we say what
okay
you were just a whole day in shul
begging for forgiveness making good
resolutions
asking for saying i'm sorry you don't
have any sins anymore
you didn't even have time to go and
overeat or to gossip during the meal
you're still in schulich yum kippy you
just finished
ilamar why are you apologizing good
question
you know what he said you know what we
do true in my room of a vim kippur the
night after young kipper
he says we do trivia for the fact that
we don't really believe that god forgave
us
he says that's the sin of after him
kippur sin of after him
i don't believe god forgave me not me
i'm too i'm i'm i'm too dirty he says
that's the sin
that you have to ask forgiveness that
you don't believe that god forgave you
you have to believe that hashem forgave
you it's over
you're clean you're beautiful you're
amazing you know why because you're
always beautiful this is just a stain an
external stain you
asked forgiveness what's truva remorse
for the past
resolution for the future and you're
forgiven
i say i'm sorry for the past i make a
good resolution for the future
i verbalize and i articulate my mistake
and i ask forgiveness and it's all
cleansed
next question
thank you everybody for your very kind
feedback
if i misbehaved won't god punish me
where is the love
excellent question excellent question
and the answer my friends
or my friend is i think it's so
important for you to understand
what the word punishment means let me
ask you a question
if your child did something wrong
do you punish them just to punish them
because you want to get even
because you want to take revenge because
you're angry
a loving healthy functional parent
doesn't punish
their children what do they do
they want to help their children they
want the best for their children
whenever the torah speaks about
punishment
never ever understand it as god
is angry at you and he's going to get
back at you
he's going to get even with you he's
going to take vengeance again on you
he's going to show you who's boss he's
going to destroy you
he's going to teach you a lesson you
don't start up with me
that doesn't even make sense because god
creates me
he gives me a sahara he gives me the
ability to sin
trust that he should be able to take
revenge what type of god is that
it's such a strange way to understand
judaism you have to understand it
completely different
the basis of all yiddish kite is
a hafti as the prophet malachy says the
last prophecy that the jewish people
heard
from the prophet malachy god says i love
you
every morning and every night we say
avas
in the blessing before shema we
mentioned the verb love
seven times the first word
and the last word is
god doesn't want to punish god doesn't
punish you did something bad i'm going
to punish you
no god wants every person to be able to
live the most successful and happy
life possible in this world and in the
next world
physically psychologically emotionally
spiritually
just think of your own parent a normal
healthy parent who
loves a daughter loves a son and this
son misbehaves the
parent doesn't want to punish i should
be able to punish you no
why would i want to punish you i want
you to be happy i want you to be
successful i want you to be good i want
you to have an
awesome life i may discipline you
i may put a challenge in front of you to
bring out your power
i may want to teach you the lessons of
life but it's never in order to crush
you and get you down
it's only for one reason and one reason
only because i
absolutely love you now we may not
always understand everything that's
happening in life
there are very painful experiences in
life
that are not exactly
stories and experiences that we ask for
and that we can understand
because life is mysterious and a lot of
experiences online in life
are beyond human finite comprehension
especially in our generation one cannot
just say oh
you did this that's why this happened
it's a very very narrow
and cruel way of looking at the world
there are calculations that are
completely beyond human comprehension
but what we have to remember is that the
love of hashem to every single person
and to every single jew is unconditional
and it's unbreakable
unbreakable there's nothing you can do
to destroy that love because at your
core
you're divine the talmud says in
conduction page 36
the mayor says whatever happens you're
my child forever
and a child you never stop loving you
never ever disown a child
i have been studying that there are
unforgivable sins
such as idolatry forbidden relationships
cursing the name of hashem and some
others that i don't remember
if a person does sincere truva according
to the torah a hundred percent
are his sins forgiven the rambam says in
hillstrom
chapter three the rambam says in his
trouble chapter three
and by the way in the month of ello
it's very good to learn rambam the laws
of repentance
it's ten chapters and they're beautiful
they're stunning
it's a very good thing to learn the
rambam
and in fact those who follow the cycle
of rambam
of one chapter a day we start learning
the laws of truth this thursday and i
give a class
you can tune into the class on the
yeshiva.net you could learn every day a
chapter of rambam
khushtruva we finish in 10 days so the
rambam says
in hilkish triva chapter 3.
even somebody who denied god his whole
life
and he does true he's forgiven hafiz
he's forgiven because i'll say the
rambam
quotes there's
nothing in the world that stands before
truth even the most cardinal sins
the rambam says menasha the king of the
jewish people he was a king for 55 years
and he was the worst of the worst he's
one of the most heinous jewish leaders
in history one of the most heinous kings
even he was forgiven so yes there are
some very
serious mistakes and sins that people
make but truva helps for everything but
now i want you to know something
who was the quintessential lithuanian
jew he was a jew
what you would call a real real litvak
it's right you could look it up in
eurodaia
i believe simon bay's oyster zion if i'm
not mistaken
he says that today in our generation and
this he wrote
already in the 1930s or maybe the 1940s
but he wrote this almost a century ago
70 80 90 years ago
that today most jews who deny judaism
and deny god and deny the torah do not
equate them with the api cursing with
the heretics that the talmud discusses
that the rambam discusses
because they are tiny
let's say you have a jew who grows up in
a secular home he never had a jewish
education
you can't blame him you can't blame her
this person didn't have a real education
a real taste in what judaism is abu
the beauty of it and then threw it away
no this person never knew anything
and these people you always have to draw
in with love and with affection
and that's most juice today in fact some
jews who even grew up in religious
communities
but if you never really tasted the
beauty of judaism
and the meaningfulness of torah mitzvos
you're not throwing it away you don't
even know what it is to throw it away
in order to be able to sin you have to
have a relationship
imagine you sinned against your father
but you never met him you never met him
in your whole life you don't even know
he's your father how could you sin
against them
you could sin against your spouse if
you're married to them if you have a
connection to them
so if you don't know anything about
yudhisthira you're not of a deep
connection to dream it's very hard to
sin so in today's generation you have to
understand
most jews did not grow up with judaism
and even those who had a little taste of
judaism or a big taste of judith often
was communicated in a very dysfunctional
dysfunctional way
so that's why the khazanesh teaches us
and this is the khazanesh
it says that today most jews are tiny
christians would have to be seen as
children
who were abducted and raised in an alien
culture and therefore you have to be
kind and loving
and draw them in with love as the rambam
says in hil
imperial base so in such a case
when a jew engaged in all of these types
of things of course he'll be forgiven or
she will be forgiven
and you have absolutely nothing to worry
about rahman alibaba
the point is the main thing is the
sincerity of it
next question regarding shruva
can he explain a little more about shiva
i understand it's not repentance
it's going back to hashem doesn't mean
repentance truth means returning
returning to whom returning to hashem
but even more than that returning to
your own core self which is a piece of
asha
you're a helical kamehameha returning to
means returning to your
core self the rambam writes in chapter 2
that every jew essentially
wants to be connected to hashem that's
who i am i am part of godliness
alphapi israel who the gemara says in
sanhedrin duffman dalit about
was quite a criminal the gemara goes
through all the sins he did i'm not
going to get graphic now
even about him it says a jew he remains
even the rambam writes in zara
there are certain jews that they are
treated in terms of mitzvahs they're
treated like not jewish but even them
if they betrot the jewish woman she
needs to get you don't say they're not
jewish it's a
it's a good condition so every jew
remains connected
on some level and therefore truva means
to come back
to that place that was never tarnished
as a part of you that's
always innocent always pure and that's
why you do trevor that's why you feel
bad you feel bad because you feel
that it's not who you really are next
question
there are days when it's so difficult
for our children to connect to hashem
should we pressure them to have their
time
and discipline them to davin or just
let the spark
get it at some point by themselves
let them find their spark by themselves
so i don't know that there's one answer
i think every parent has to figure out
what's the best and most important thing
in your home and what will be the most
effective but here is the rule for
everybody
and that is never with anger and never
with negativity
but you could tell your child and also
everything depends on the age you could
say okay now it's the morning
we watch nagalvasir we thank hashem we
say brachus
and for a few minutes we dive in and
then we go play
that's very fine to make a structure a
time for davening a time to
say bracha time to say shem again age
appropriate maybe the diaveline is
sometimes too long
you can make it shorter you do certain
pieces
so it's very good to have a structure to
have discipline but it shouldn't be done
with negativity and anger
you know sometimes children need to let
them
need to uh you know they need some
oxygen a little bit and they need to run
around they need to play that's very
good
so i wouldn't use the word pressure i
don't know if the word is pressure but
it is very good
to have rules in the house to have a
structure in the house to have
discipline in the house
to educate your children to daven every
day to learn torah every day again
age appropriate and time appropriate but
not with a sense of negativity and
pressure and
anger and warnings and threats more as
part of the beautiful structure in the
home and to try to infuse it with a
a positive positive energy you want that
yiddish kite should always be bequeathed
with a positive energy
but there's nothing wrong with creating
structure and discipline in a house a
healthy home is a home that has
discipline again
you have to know each child and where
they are and what their needs are and
what their shortcomings are what their
challenges are
and what their age is so think about it
from the perspective of the child
but it is very very good as ghazal tell
us when our son
starts talking the father starts
teaching him tara tivolano
before we eat we make a brach and you
can explain you're eating a peach
tell them about how a peach is created
the amazing qualities of a peach or a
grape
or a blueberry or a piece of bread
you know explain to them how what nature
is how nature works the mechanism of
nature
the miracle of a piece of bread the
miracle of a banana the miracle of a
plum
you know it's amazing things and when we
take a plum we say barak dash
this type of education is precious but
this is an education that comes
with clarity with awareness and with so
much beauty
and with so much appreciation of life
next question what about teenagers
stavening
okay teenagers davening
i missed i missed a question before i'll
get to teenagers in a moment
isn't it easy to say the bad we can't
understand
and on the other hand take credit when
good happens i don't think you should
take
credit when good happens and i don't
think you should always take credit when
bad happens
the mission says
we do not have a grasp on why wicket
prosper
and sometimes the righteous suffer yeah
of course when something challenging
happens in my life as the rambam says in
his tiny is i always want to be
introspective and try to become a better
person
and try to do truva in any way possible
and try to bring positivity into my life
of course
but to pinpoint and say this is why it
happened i'm to blame because i did so
and so
i don't always know the value of it
maybe if you know exactly the reason
fine but very often we don't know the
reason
very often we don't know the reason we
can't know the reason hashem doesn't
tell us the reason
we should always try to learn from every
event and become better but i don't
think you should take the credit for the
good and take the credit for the bad
what about teenagers should we force
them to darwin okay the mitzvah of
genocide
bar mitzvah okay after bar mitzvah
they're independent we want to try to
motivate them
but to start forcing teenagers to dive
in is usually very very difficult
and it usually will not be successful
you want to
try to have a good relationship with
your teenager
a relationship of trust of bonding you
can try to motivate
try to inspire maybe sometimes try to
bribe
create a structure you don't want to do
it in a way that's going to create
only anger and negative energy
if that's going to be the end of it it's
not going to be good
it's important to discipline our
children it's important to discipline
our teenage children also
but the discipline has to come from a
place of connection
from a place of understanding look where
they are
and try to build them from there don't
just try to get them to do what you're
saying
with anger and threats and screaming so
maybe right now they'll do what you want
but the moment you're gone they won't
follow so we have to remember this
before mitzvah
it's a different type of they're still i
always have to be there for my child
but it's different don't try to start
butt
start butting heads with your teenager
and screaming matches and getting angry
and getting into a fight it's it's
usually counterproductive
yeah if you can create a structure in
the house for the teenagers
that's going to work that's ultimately
going to produce happy kids
excellent excellent discipline is good
for everybody
and schedule is good for everybody but
it has to be in a way that's going to
build them
not in a way that's going to break the
relationship so just be very mindful of
that
what to do if a child is making the same
mistake
more than five times do you propose
consequences
or how do you manage that
well you have to really understand
what's happening
the key in education is that the child
should know that you understand them
that's the key if they don't feel
understood
ultimately there is going to be very
little growth
and it's going to damage the
relationship so you have to sometimes
bend down on the floor look the child in
the eyes
and make sure that your eyes meet and
that you repeat to the child
what he or she is going through this
must be very difficult for you
it's very hard for you not to have this
candy it's very hard for you to get
dressed
or it's very hard for you not to have
this toy make sure that he or she any
age any age
four years old or 12 years old or 18
years old
they should know that you really
understand them you understand their
struggle
you understand their temptation you
understand what they're going through
and then from there create a plan
try to do it together with them or
sometimes you can't do it together with
them but make sure
the first thing is that they know you
understand them now if they're doing it
again and again and again
they may have a limitation there may be
something that's scaring them
that may be something that's very
bothersome and her mother was saying
that her son refused to get dressed in
the morning
and she used to get so upset and then
one day she took time and patience and
she spoke to him
and she realized that he's scared up to
go upstairs to his room he's alone
he was a little kid he was scared to get
dressed he didn't want to not get
dressed he was just scared
to be alone in the room now if he was
older he could say i'm scared but he
wasn't comfortable of saying that
i remember i once went on a trip with my
children we were in florida and was
khalamayat
and we went to a safari and
in the safari the animals come on the
car birds and monkeys
you know those safaris it's very
exciting the monkeys come on your car
it's the whole thing
okay we left the house and one of my
children
started to throw a tantrum that this
child refused to sit near the window
it became and i thought this child was
being stubborn
only later two hours later that i
realized
that they knew we're going to a safari
and they're frightened of the animal
coming close to them
and if you're by the window the animal
comes right near you you understand
so that child wasn't being stubborn the
child was just having a fear
so you want to address all these issues
to be able to make sure
that you really understand what the
child is going through the fact that
he's not doing
doing the mistake five times could mean
that there's a real limitation there
or a real fear over there so you want to
make sure and try the best to understand
it
don't just try to force things from the
outside you want to be able to connect
to the child
and help them become the person that
they're capable of becoming
now that takes serenity you need
calmness
don't take it personal
you have to be healthy inside you have
to be wholesome you have to be happy you
have to be optimistic
next question
thank you for your words kind of
protest for me how to fight the thoughts
of previous sins that come to mind
after a long time and they affect my
chiva
don't fight it but you have to believe
the truth if you believe there's a god
and you believe that there's something
called a mitzvah and a sin you have to
believe one more thing
and that is god said i forgive
i forgive i forgive you do truth
and the sin is wiped away we have to be
able to trust that
don't doubt it if you follow the laws of
truth
in sure what we do
and you follow it and you do it
sincerely it's over
hashem says trust me i forgave you
we see it in the darwining as i
mentioned before every single day
so when the thoughts come in no you're
still bad you're still guilty
remember those thoughts are coming from
the eight sahara now they're there
you can't always get rid of them but
don't take them seriously don't worship
them
don't let them define your life they're
there okay
i may not be able to get rid of them but
do not
allow them to take over your life look
at them
give them space you don't have to fight
them but just move on
because they're not thoughts that are
rooted
in the essential truth of life there are
thoughts that are here to distract you
and maybe those thoughts can
trigger you and arousing you a curiosity
to figure out
what is it that's bothering you so much
and maybe you could learn a lot of
things about yourself
every thought has a spark inside every
thought has something to teach us
but the thought itself may be a clipper
maybe a shell that's hiding a deep truth
so you can't take every thought at face
value seriously
and start worshiping it and go oh my god
i'm a horrible person
no if you ditch over your dick true it's
over
you apologized you expressed remorse
you confessed you made a resolution for
the future
that's it you're pure you're clean
you got to trust that and if i can't
believe truva
and truva why do i believe in mitzvahs
why do i believe in javaris
the same god who gave me mitzvahs and
told me these things you do and these
things don't do the same god says
there's concept and a mitzvah called
truva and it always works
under all circumstances in all
conditions even if you did the same
thing
50 times and 100 times the answers
knew about and they made the same
brachios
that every jew says for 80 years 90
years 100 years 120 years three times a
day
you said it yesterday you said it last
week you said it last year it's a joke
imagine every night every day by
breakfast you tell your wife
i'm sorry i insulted you by lunch same
thing
by dinner the same thing throw you out
of the house
but with hashem pajala
because the love is infinite and the
compassion is limitless
i love you and i wish you a beautiful
beautiful evening
thank you again to the community of
bethel thank you again to the community
of shavit
thank you to all my dear brothers and
sisters in panama
and wherever you're tuning in from thank
you for joining us
and may hashem be with you with this
very special
powerful month when the famous metaphor
we know that the king is in the field
and hashem wants a personal and
intimate relationship with each and
every one of us may you and i and all of
us
seize the moment during this difficult
season
of corona which comes from the word
crown because the
virus if you look under a microscope it
looks like a crown it has all these
spikes
like a spiked spiked virus so it's
called corona
so may we during this era of corona
get rid of the corona as we coronate
and we prepare for a new year a new year
of renewal and transformation and depth
and love
and connection and a year filled with
happiness
and good news for you and your families
and all of the jewish people thank you