How Starbucks Is Secretly Ruining Marriages

Small coffee, medium coffee cup. Look, look, look, look, look, look. Yeah. So now, medium, large, wash. No way. So this is to do with the circumference on the bottom of the cup. So, interestingly, whenever you buy yourself a large coffee, you're actually just getting a small weird. This is a powerful lesson in marriage because there is a gap, a dissonance between reality and how we perceive reality, between what the cup looks like and what actually fills that cup. I meet so many couples who feel that they're suffering in their marriage. And they are. I'm not trying to doubt their emotional experience at all. But what they do walk away noticing is that as bad as their marriage is, as difficult as their marriage is, there's also parts of their marriage that they enjoy, that they appreciate, or that they have appreciated, and that they've done things to contribute to those positive experiences, and they're empowered to continue those positive behaviors to make the marriage even greater. That's difficult. Yeah. It is difficult. Having a difficult marriage is difficult. And doing what you need to do to make your marriage better is difficult. What seems bad on the surface isn't always only bad. I'm not going to say it's not that bad. That's not for me to say. It's not only bad. It can also be good. When we focus on those positive parts, and I don't mean at the expense or at the dismissal of the problem, but at the recognition that there is a problem, but somehow we're showing up and we channel that. We channel what is working. We do more of that. That creates hope. That creates space for healing. That's my story and I'm sticking to