How To Build A Jewish Home

[Music] Bim um good to see some new faces um if all the new faces kept showing up every week we wouldn't have any room to sit so you just guys has should just keep showing up um so uh we're starting off a new week and I was thinking about what to really talk about um but I'll talk about I guess something that it's a common question but before that this will be for for David Doris B Le es [Music] Bora leev Ben Rifka and to gab and give so I was thinking about what to uh what to talk about um and um you know we talk about chuv as regularly as possible and really the point of every sh is to do chuva um but what happens once a person starts doing chuva and they want to build a Jewish Home how do you build a Jewish Home you know the uh is really the big question where do you go what do you do you live in the uh you know middle of uh non-jewish land and uh your next door neighbor is uh Catholic minister or something and your other next door neighbor is uh some voodoo priest and uh the other guy is an atheist and uh the the fourth guy is a reform he go he drives to Sho 45 minutes every Shabbat so what do you do how do you build a Jewish Home can you still can you be Jewish by yourself in the middle of nowhere I mean you spend so much time and money in your house that uh you really don't want to leave you know you have the nice you know window treatment and the backyard is just right you know you know exactly the season of when the grass grows and when it doesn't grow and you know the deli is right down the street the guy knows you by name and the tool shop is over there and you know your job is over there you know you only are solid 15 minutes to your job driving every day you don't want to leave all this stuff can you be a Jew by yourself this is is not only a question that uh Bal cha ask but it's also a very very common hurdle uh for uh converts people that want to convert to Judaism and the reason why is because anyone that wants to convert to Judaism must know rule number one you cannot be a Jew by yourself especially in the beginning if you are going to say yeah but the worst some Jews in the past that uh you know big sages that went to the middle of nowhere and started a community yes once you become big Sage you can do the same thing but until then you cannot be a Jew by yourself you have to be part of a community yeah but you keep saying that all of these communities have problems yes you have to join the problems join the problems and help fix them help fix the problem do not think that uh you being by yourself is going to uh be better than being part of the problem the problem is that all of the people that shouldn't be part of the community they want to move in all the people that should be part of the community don't want to move in key is you have to move in you have to move to the Jewish Community but the key is how do you do it say oh it's a lot more money okay gave you money to live before I'll give you money to live after but what about uh the fact that okay but you have a house you have to sell it so sell it what about I want you know buying a new house you can't afford so don't buy don't buy who says you have to buy to be a Jew I don't own a house I don't know car I don't own anything I barely own my iPhone I had to pay $10 a month for like 500 years already the iPhone went expired already Apple send me stop using the iPhone I said I'm still paying for it what do you mean stop using it I don't know anything what people think that you have to own stuff in order to be a Jew you could live on rent you could live live on temporary the decisions you make today do not necessarily mean it's going to be the same decision next week or next year you live in this house today and down the road when you have more money you buy a different house as you've noticed these big questions that people have I'm making it seem like it's not a big deal you like your house move you could buy a house go buy one you can't buy a house don't buy one meaning these are big decisions that people usually have and they harp over it and they delve over it and they think about it and they cry about it then they argue about it and sometimes get divorce over it but the truth is when it comes to a life of Tora none of these things hold any water none of these things should be valued in any way shape or form when it comes to working on your eternity which means that if you're are allowing a house a neighborhood uh a seat in a Shool certain amount of cavod respect that you want from a if you're allowing these measly little things get in the way of you serving a like you're supposed to then you my friend have forgotten the purpose of why you are in this world now someone asked me today a uh question now sadly this is coming from someone that's supposed to know better supposed to uh a guy that went to ISA his whole life claims to know a few things write a few articles he was surprised I didn't read an article a few times anyway this is someone that compared to the average he's uh knows a few things but he asked me a basic Al ifb question of Judaism and he says listen I'm in my 20s and I haven't gotten married so if a doesn't want me to waste seed why didn't he just give me a Kala meaning I'm only wasting seed because it's aem's fault cuz if he doesn't want me to make this sin then he would give me a life what's the what's the question here I'm only sitting because because of him not because of me me if it give me a c marry right now I wouldn't [Music] sin why is this said because it means that the entire Torah that this young boy has learned the Tor is not from sham why the ideology of a Jew must be 100% if your ideology is 98% already you're going in the wrong direction 95 oh 90 may be a different religion already you guys are laughing the truth is most of the shoes that you go to here New York other places they consider themselves modern Orthodox now if you look at history and you see today's modern Orthodox and you put that in a side memory bank rewind about 70 years go look at conservative Jews the conservative movement you go look at them 70 years ago 80 years ago you're going to say oh these are these are modern Orthodox right oh we started along oh these a conservative Jews what changed 70 years ago 60 years ago what changed the conservative movement decided back then really what what was the what was what was the uh issues with them then what was the difference between the the Orthodox versus the conservative they both kept Shabbat they both kept kosher they both had a lulav they both had sua they both had matah they had the same thing what was the difference modesty modesty wasn't so much in the conservative wasn't uh wasn't the most important thing for them aside from modesty Torah learning wasn't so much like the so important come learn if you feel like it you know if you get a and there's 10 people you can say kades that's enough already Rabbi you got 10 people in a I'll be happy about it like this one Rabbi I see in a store a few maybe a few months ago and he sees me make don't say me just what's how can I help you what's forget the show what's the problem what's the how can I help I hate cavod all this stuff especially with a show and I know it's not real k no no you should come to the Kil I said listen you invited me a few times I told you if you can get a 100 200 people I'll come I don't have a problem coming no charge nothing he goes Rabbi listen even if we get five people it's okay it's okay like I have nothing to do with my life get five people for you it's okay for five people okay Jo of course it's okay you live there you get paid by them me I'm not getting paid I'm going there to do to helpim means many I'm not going to go and Trek myself all the way to your for five people I get more people by myself yeah but you know it's not a big deal what does that mean really why am I reluctant to go to a place that's not that far from my house to just give a sh to five people because that already shows me that if the rabbi of the K cannot get his own people to come to off for a guest needless to say himself can I get the people then the it's too weak it's too weak to resurrect myself it's too weak a synagogue that does not have Li T unfortunately is not a synagogue it's a place of prayer you could pray there but in the religious World they call it a instead of a betet they call it a betas you knowas like the terrorist organization why notom because those Jewish people that areas noas means stands for it's three letters the uh is a you have those for sure is for the holidays they come for the holidays and that's what you have in that b you have the you have the for because that's the you know everybody reads along with the you have the for everybody comes in the holidays but you find you find nothing that's a betas place that does not have it's a this is a critical thing if a rabbi cannot get his own people to come to learn there's something wrong that's the whole point of the synagogue the whole point of the synagogue is to get people to come learn needless to say for a guest and so on but unfortunately sometimes those Learners are like this young boy that asked me a question today and said listen AEM is at fault for my sins that means that he either learned this by himself most likely learned this nonsense that he has in his head by himself or he learned it from uh somebody else that learned by himself like his Rabbi learned this by himself why because none of theim none of the commentaries none of the P none of the none of the big gids in history have ever said such never so how could it be that such a mentality could be born of somebody that went to Yesa for 20 years it's no different than what happened in the conservative movement 7080 years ago they were keeping everything but they weren't learning anything further they weren't developing anything further when you do not learn Tora your desire to do the mitv becomes weaker and weaker your appreciation for the Torah becomes less and less and it becomes more of a cultural more of a cultural thing that you're doing you're doing because your friends are doing it you're doing because you're doing it for 20 years already now you're doing it because you're commanded to do it because the King of Kings said to do it no you're doing it because you're doing it it's a getting dressed if you didn't have to you wouldn't if you could just walk around with your pajamas all day to work to everywhere else you do and guess what many people do that many people especially the people that think of themselves of who they are celebrity world they walk around in pajamas all day we just started you already wor about going and finish we just started so the key is that the key is is to know that if you're going in a if you're going into a syn you're going to join one you have to find out first you got to find out how many sh do we have is what do we learn learn we learn we learn we learn what do we learn here if there's something like this here it's good if there's no learning what's the difference between this place and any other place the conservative didn't think that much about this they figured that they could survive without learning eventually what happened RAB their rabbis agreed with them they figured that they could survive because they already got the job as rabbis they could survive without learning they could survive without they could survive without working on themselves and before you know it they decided that they wanted for to build a besset for the betterment of Am by increasing the membership count like it's a gym membership so how do we increase membership we have just so many people that live in a neighborhood why tell them have more kids that's up to them oh why don't we go and get people from other neighborhoods yeah but the other neighborhoods they're not just going to move here it's expensive here cheap here they live there no no just tell them to come anyway Rabbi they would have to drive on Shabbat okay so let them drive on Shabbat why cuz they're driving to messet so 70 880 years ago that's what happened the conservative officially became reform how they still call themselves conservative but they allowed driving on Shabbat now you fast forward 70 years what do you think it just ends with one thing no 70 years later the head Rabbi of the conservative movement in yush is openly homosexual they now marry men with men women with women they haven't graduated to the level of the uh the Toma of the reform which marry men with dogs that not yet that's probably next year advaned but men with men women with women all types of uh upside down world now you're saying ah unbelievable this is happening right now it's happening again it's happening again in the Orthodox how many rabbis do you know that actually speak the it in public how many rabbis do you know that speak that you have a bunch of them you have I know why know I know everybody has one why because unfortunately instead of listening to a instead of listening to his sages instead of mentioning what it says in the books many people mention their opinions so when you have a clown like Manis fredman come to town here in Florida just a week or two ago and tell the entire Kila tell everybody and everybody you saw in a picture I saw in a picture somebody sent me a little short video I don't know maybe 30 seconds a minute long they knew how much I could my stomach was very weak so they already knew they sent me a minute long and he says this to the people they're all wearing keep he's not in the reformed shoe he's not not he's not in a conservative he's in an orthodox shoe everybody's wearing a keeper like you and he says to them Shalom that we would say that God would punish us it's not our fault that he doesn't want to talk to us for 3,000 years so we forgot a bunch of his rules and everybody's like this yeah yeah yeah yeah that's what I'm talking about God forbid God forbid that God should be punishing us for our sin cuz you know when you don't talk to your children for 3,000 years they forget some of the things you tell them this is Mendon 200 years ago said the same thing like he read his book like he wrote his book to say that it's his fault that we're sinning it's his fault why he doesn't want to talk to us we're not prophets since we're not all prophets he doesn't want to talk to us so since we don't know the entire to we make a bunch of sins it's his fault not our fault so Shalom that you would think that the rabbi here with the long beard that looks like Santa Claus he is going to tell you that God punishes Shalom oh the Torah says otherwise though the Torah says that there's Punishment No No Torah didn't mean it the Torah meant for uh 3,000 years ago but the Torah said that it's not for 3,000 years ago the Torah says for do forever for every generation yeah every generation except the generation I'm living in so you see now it's not a surprise that a 20 nothing year old has a wrong mentality and says listen I'm only sinning because God didn't send me a wife that's why I'm sinning meaning it's God's fault now if that wasn't enough he sends me a follow-up I responded to this he sends me a followup he says I don't understand God says that you're not allowed to hurt another person so how is he allowed to hurt us isn't that making him a hypocrite a with such mentality of yes I have have better mentality than this on their first day of Desiring to be a Jew they discovered that Christianity is falsehood they want to be a Jew they still don't know anything they just know this is falsehood I want the truth they don't know very much but they already have a better mentality they didn't go to Yesa for 20 years but they already have a better [Music] mentality a Yesa says such a thing a Rabbi says such a thing how could it be it all starts with how we value Torah if T is something to do when you have free time this is a perfect attitude to matches it it's a perfect attitude to match it if T is something you do whenever you get a chance yeah it's like a hobby you have a chance you go to the gym you have a chance you play tennis you have a chance you go out to eat with with a few friends get a chance you make yourself fancy coffee well you know not the regular one that's n Cafe you make one with the grinder and you the whole thing and you're 25 minutes just to make the bean he you got a chance you got 25 minutes to wa you make that kind of coffee get a chance you get a chance you learn the Tor that kind of Tor get a chance you keep it but if T is your life is your eternity is the only purpose you're alive it's the only purpose you will continue to live it comes from it comes from the King of Kings as a commandment and not as a suggestion as it take it or leave it or nothing then this is not this mentality is unfounded this mentality is the wrongest thing you could possibly have this is why theim if you read you see sometimes whether it's or you read the he hear how they respond to each other when there's a or when there's a debate of some kind they respond to each other with zealousness and harsh language theim did not speak softly didn't speak like this cordial sophisticated way that people speak this philosophical language that people have where they hold things back always appropriate as far as the language they use Shalom never any cuss words or anything like that but to tell somebody that listen you wrote this Al you made a sin what was the sin you wasted the ink you're not allowed to be wasteful and you wrote this five 10 20 Pages your conclusion of what you thought you made a sin not not only is your conclusion wrong but you wasted all the ink they would write this to each other [Music] why you're playing with people's lives there's no room for error somebody could go to Gom because of you in he writes in is he writes that there's a question that's asked Are you allowed to send your kids to these new types of schools they had 80 90 years ago 100 years ago where the MIM the enlighteners the reformers started telling people listen you cannot continue sending your kids to these they need to learn mik they need to learn how to work how to do this you have to send them to un ities so Shalom was a big and he told his KLA listen I'm going to start a new school it's going to be a Shiva but it's also going to teach you some other things some common stuff secular studies none of the other did such a thing but he was a Pioneer in his day and he said this is what I want to do so they asked in they asked is this the right thing he's you cannot just say listen he's not just anybody he's not your own big oh he's wrong doesn't know what he's talking about you have to be careful so he says that's a whole CH and many pages I'll give you the couple of points he says what he did what this this sadik he says the sadik did for his K was only because he knew that his own K is so weak that if he doesn't start such a school that's going to teach them both the Torah and a little bit of secular studies in order to show them that the secular studies is nonsense so they come back and want more Torah they would just abandon everything and they would go to the reform he knew he knew this for his own Kila but he says but he says never ever think that this is this is not what the Torah wants this is not what you're supposed to do he did it for his K on a specific issue that he's a g and they listen to his Rabbi they listen to their rabbi by that's a select issue it's like you know when they say medicine you know one out of a million this happens too that's the one out of a million but never ever teach this as this is this is what you're supposed to Doom this is not what the Torah says he says never think that this is what Torah says Tor says you're not supposed to do that stuff why he says because what they teach these philosophers is a lie and the only way you could ever fall in love with the Torah and claim I love the Torah is if you hate the lie you cannot love the lie and the Torah at the same time not possible you cannot love philosophy baseball football uh UFC stock market you know Bingo whatever it is you cannot love that and the toat not possible why that's a lie that's AIT the two contradict each other so you may enjoy the Torah you enjoy the mental stimulation of the Torah you like to hear stories about ab and and you like how they did this and they did that and you enjoy it but don't say you love it why because to love it means you need to hate the lie to love it means you have to fulfill every part of it as if it's your life as if it's your last breath and as if you cannot live without more Torah so you enjoy it you don't love it a lot of people I love T I love T you love T but how come you watch movies still how come you still go to clubs how come you still openly sin not accidental sin openly sin like as if it's allowed that's why we ourselves have to know where we stand if we just discovered that we like tah but we don't love it yet that's okay doesn't make you a bad person makes you honest honest with yourself first but that also means we have something to Aspire to so even a giant made a mistake Giants make mistakes but the point being that his mistake was only a mistake if he would have taught it to everyone he didn't teach it to everyone he didn't say everyone should do this his own KLA did it and that's why the says no no no he did it for his K because he knows his K if you're thinking that what he's doing is what you're supposed to learn for for the rest of no that's a mistake it's not it's not the opinion of the T he didn't try to tell everybody this is what you're supposed to do that everybody's GNA start transferring transforming their yeshivot into universities Shalom never for a moment think that that's same thing you either have or you have yeah but how are you going to make a living if you learn to you'll find out how you make a living if you learn T real T you'll find out how you make a living how you make a living makes a living how to 100,000 200,000 of survive on $400 a month what do you think they actually survive on $400 a month more money than $400 a month comes it's just $400 a month comes from the so what about the rest of the money rest of the money also brings just like he brings the $400 he brings the $4,000 they need also yeah but they don't work how does it work I don't know ask give you an answer maybe I'll send you a text message when you learn you get to know this stuff the problem is sometimes we forget we live partial limit partial sh we're not even sure where we stand we lie to ourselves telling us oh you're such aad you're so great look you kept this you really want to sin but you did it himself should give you a pat on the back because we still in our mind think that you'll have a life without toah you'll have something even remotely close to a life now when a person understands their own obligation their own obligation to they're never going to accuse a of anything they're never going to request anything from but rather from themsel meaning you request things from but you demand of yourself meaning that you know that if you need something you pray for it if a gave it to you that means that it's good for you if he didn't give it to you then it's not good for you it may be good for you tomorrow it may be good for you in a week from now it may be good for you in a year from now but today is not good for you if it was good for you you would get it meaning you want to get married you want to find a wife you think you're ready so you pray to give me a wife says no he doesn't even tell you about it he just says no how do you know there's no wife shows up you want a she called you wrong name she thought you were a different guy you leave the date with your tail between your leg I'm all alone skin AEM why are you doing this to me guess what he says you're not ready you're not ready why cuz he didn't give it to you so are you going to cry to him about what did you do anything to be ready did you become a better person if you had the wife would you be the ideal husband do you know how to be a husband have you learned how to be a husband have you learned how to be a decent human being how many people do you know become husbands but don't know how become husbands but 2 minutes later they don't want to be a husband become a father but they regret the day that the woman gets pregnant what did you do to to deserve this blessing what' you do a person needs to understand is going to give you exactly what you need when you need it at a time that it's best for you you want to force his hand you're in essence punishing yourself you want to have make claims against him it's not such a good idea it means that you've forgotten who you are you forgot that he is the Creator and you are the creation he is the king of kings and you are the servant whether you like it doesn't really make a difference whether you agree that you're a servant a slave a nothing a a putrid seed that's going to end up becoming a food for maggots whether you agree with all this stuff or not it doesn't make a difference you'll see it I promise you we're all going to be lunch for maggots at one point all of us now when a person understands his nothingness and who's everything this you you get the point of where your role is you get the point where we have to come to like the Clen closenberg reab used to come every day when he prayed his prayer to was like a homeless person begging for food was like a baby crying for his mother to feed him every day but if you think that Hashem owes you something your whole life is upside down your ideology is upside down even your learning of Torah is not helping you and that's why theat says that the Torah can be some or some it the potion for Life the potion for death how could the same exact thing be potion for Life potion for death if you say learning Torah is potion for life I understand if you say not learning Tor is potion for death I also understand secular people they're like dead people they have no idea why they're alive they're alive to get the next lease for the next car they're alive to get the next house that doesn't even belong to them for 30 years because of the mortgage they're alive to get married so they can get divorced in three or four years they're alive to get a job so they get fired on the next layoffs what are they alive for they have no idea so if you say someone doesn't learn Tor secular life okay that's like death that's potion for death no no but the Torah here says in thear wait a minute this Torah that you're learning it's either or the same Torah that you're learning could be portion for Life a portion for death how could the same thing he says if you're learning the Tor with with sacrifice to take everything you possibly can on to do everything you possibly can to fulfill it you learn it with you learn it with an understanding that commanded you to learn it commanded you to fulfill it he didn't ask you to do it it's not a request it's not please keep Shabbat he said keep Shabbat I'm gonna kill you that's what he said at says took Mount put it on top of literally he says this is our wedding if you accept the ring you accept the Torah this is like the canopy for that's what we have kah now he put the mountain on top of us he says if you don't accept the Torah I'm just going to drop the mountain on top of you and this will be your burial ground why if you don't fulfill the Torah there's no point for you to be alive page 886a he didn't asked us to keep the tah he commanded there's a difference so long as we think that learning tah is a request from B then we'll do whenever we feel like it we'll fulfill it however we feel like it we'll say whatever we feel like it even if it contradicts with the why because that's his suggestion this is my suggestion as if we're equal Shalom as if me the same thing he has his opinion I have my opinion the IDE ideology of a Jew must be 100% clear that you're learning Torah is simply for survival for prosperity and everything in between so long as we think that learning toah is a bonus only but not for survival then we'll learn it and use it and follow it to our own liking if you think oh if I want to be aad then I'll learn tah if I want to be aik then I'll follow the tah so long as you only do it for the reward you have a problem that's why chapter one I believe it's the third uh the third mishna he says don't learn the Torah for the reward don't serve your master like you're going to get something serve him even if you're not going to get something why if you only serve aadh to get stuff from him guess what once in a while you're not going to want anything the is going to tell you listen you already have everything you want you got the girl you got the guy you got the kids you got the house you got everything who needs a you got it already and you're going to put yourself in a situation where you yourself have put a trap for yourself why because you only served hm because you wanted something if I don't want something I don't pray to hm I don't learn learning toah only for reward is one of the Fatal flaws fatal flaws of Jewish people throughout all of the generations that's why it's in the first chapter of M it's one of the foundations the first m is meaning the first m is how we got the Tor third one oh don't serve the master just because you're going to get a reward serve him regardless meaning this is big deal the ideology of a Jew is a big deal now if a person has a good foundation a good ideology then surely everything that he adds to it will build a beautiful tower for himself that will last for eternity but if the foundation is rotten then he can be 70 75 years old like this man is to Menace and he can tell people he can tell people you could do whatever you want Shalom that hm would punish you yeah but what about the half the tor talks about punishment you have entire that talk about punishment you have entire that talk about punishment you have enti talking about punishment what about everybody's an idiot except [Music] you nobody else knows anything except you you give it the all the the ones that are alive the ones that passed none of them said what you said you're bigger than than everybody else that came before you you canceled out the sin on everyone and all the people like hey yay what yay he just told you something and negated the entire tah how are you sitting there not throwing your chairs at him forget tomatoes that would be too soft how are you not taking your chairs throwing at the guy how how is this possible how is it possible that our synagogues are inviting such people clapping for them saying a it's a holy person why because he has a beard the the sheep have beards also the par found them holy also the Sheep the goat whatever it is Osama Bin Laden had a beard also does that make him holy what happened what happened to a it how could this be this could be because he obviously hasn't learned and God only knows how long If Ever I don't think he even knows he finished the Kash to be honest with you you cannot be that foolish and and say such things if you actually know Rashi now what about the crowd that invites him same thing same thing why if anyone in the crowd I'm not talking about no no just just know remember every year we read every year we read every year we read off the before the second destroyed the whole world anyone that knows with commentary by Rashi knows that this is a we have to throw chairs at him put him on how could this be and guess what he's not the only one he's just one of the most popular one that's why I keep mentioning him I'm not going to mention every clown in the world cuz that's going to make them more popular I mentioned the one par that's leading them and that's it there's many of them though how could this be how could we keep inviting these people to synagogues it means that we ourselves don't know the does not know does not learn how come we don't learn how come you see people go to synagogue every day put on come for come for Shabbat but still 20 years I'm doesn't know nothing still his daughter is getting wedding is getting married mixed wedding mix dancing you tell them listen it's not allowed to have mixed dancing for Jewish people really not allowed for non-jewish people also but that's a different story not allowed it's like what are you talking about not allowed why would it not be allowed to have party how are we supposed to have a party if we're not dancing together and making all the sins in the world it's like it's the first time in his life he's ever heard such a thing he's like listen I'm not I just keep Shabbat so you don't have to be to do this this is every Jew and he argues with you say yeah but goes n that's I said no it's not he goes n the rabbis wrote it so what how you go to synagogue 20 years how could you allow yourself to do this or you see sometimes people that look really religious call themselves sometimes and they're in illegal businesses like this cash Advance which by the way as a side note for all of you that like that topic I'm preparing a beautiful shield for you already working on it for the last week once I'm finished anyone that stays in the cash advance business guaranteed G why cuz after that sh is finished you're not going to want to walk walk next to somebody that's in that business how could it be that many people consider themselves religious and there in that business or businesses like it how could it be means they haven't learned or the ideology already to start with was wrong so when you're picking a Sho the first thing is understand that that's how you base where you're going to live now how do we know this how come I shouldn't pick the house first then the Shool pick the the nicest Community nicest houses best deals we learn this from yov ainu yov sends Yuda to GNA he says go build me a bite so the mid says oh yeah he asked him to build him a house the other is no no theit is is that he went to send him a build him a bet mid a place to learn Tora to teach T says yeah that's what I said he said no he said bite he goes yeah that's what a is a b is a house where's yov s sitting on a couch watching TV all day is all day in bet learning T all day that's his bite care about the house with a tent what does he care about the tent go build him a place where there's going to be Torah so you determine where you're going to live based on where is the Torah you base it on the sh you base it on that community on that part of the community that's the most critical part is there any you have to live inside Anu why life is simply impossible outside of Anu you can't leave the house pretty much especially if you got kids becomes very difficult you have to live inside ofu now don't worry the go know that too the know about U why because the real estate prices drop by 40% right outside of theu you go to the you see prow says 500,000 a plus 5et 5 feet outside of the you see a a house 300,000 why nobody wants to live there why cuz they know if I live there I can't take my kids outside with a carriage I can't carry my talit I can't do nothing you have to live inside you just tell yourself all you want no no what if I don't carry anything you still live outside of theu technically yes but you'll regret it you'll make a lot of sins and go to Gom accidentally on [Music] purpose that's the way it is yeah but I can't afford it okay so pray harder pray harder you have to why it's very tough to live outside and the very difficult now a person needs to know this and needs to do everything possible to get it done as soon as possible now after three he picks the Sho there's a community house nice not nice all that stuff that's secondary obviously let the wife pick the stuff if you're married let the wife pick the stuff guys do not pick Furniture do not pick houses do not pick Windows treatment no one cares about your taste let your wife do this stuff that's her job not your job if you spend too much time picking windows treatment when are you a man who's going to do your job instead of picking Windows treatment go learn or go make money guys that spend an enormous amount of time looking for furniture usually end up getting divorced by the time they picked everything why because they disagree with everything that the wife wants to pick everything she wants to pick is pink or blue or some other color that he doesn't like and he wants to build himself some caveman type of house and guess what he's never there anyway works all day what do you want to pick houses for let her pick let her pick let her she's a going to enjoy the house you go work do your thing your whole life your whole bite is your wife and your tah that's your bite you should be very focused on where can I put my where can I put my books that's the only part you should care about everything else is doesn't make a difference big bed small bed Windows no window doesn't make a difference where can I put my books thank you everything else is extra let her be happy let your wife be happy and you could pick it you could not you can ignore my advice you could take 16 years worth of marriage and throw it in the garbage and say you know better and you're gonna pick the furniture and you're gonna have nice furniture and you going have a nice room you can to be modern you going be alone too modern alone modern modern alone that's a new thing it's very modern to be alone guys that have nice apartments that are very very nice and Kashi and uh you know very uh pristine they usually don't have wives and they definitely don't have kids why you have kids all the niess goes to hell why that's what kids do and you come home you got a few kids don't start complaining to your wife about the toys being on the floor and there's drawings on the wall that's what's supposed to be that's what the house is for the house is not a museum if they draw on a wall they know what to do with the wall a Jewish house is not supposed to look like a museum it's supposed to look like a house with his kids and there's a wife and there's a husband and there's a family and his life and it's a mess I'm not saying make makeing a mess on purpose obviously you keep cleaning but the more kids you have the more impossible it is that's hilarious the point is is you have to understand your in the world as a man is to learn Tor make a living if your wife is the one that's working you're an it's different story you learn T she makes the living no problem you have even less to complain about but if you're working and learning that's it the the the neatness of the house the toys being on the floor the windows treatment and all that other stuff and what the food tastes like or doesn't taste like that's that's not your concern you eat food to survive not to be one of these uh uh people that's on TV tasting yeah yeah I taste the sugar on this one she made you food say thank you I'm teaching you this because these are the complaints I get every day people complain to me about their wife's cooking people complain to me about their wife making a mess people complain about the kid screaming and I said Al I had these comp Al this was the real problem you know what the real problem is they're not learning Tor if you were learning to you wouldn't have time to notice that the toys are on the floor and the food taste a certain way and the windows are not a certain way if you were learning to you don't have time you don't care about that stuff why do you care about that stuff because you have in your head there's a couple of cockroaches running inside your head and they're breing is he going to yell today is he not going to yell today there's a m between the Cockroaches so now that we've found the house found a wife found a synagogue maybe one day we'll find an air condition or too what are we supposed to do no you already did it don't worries it's the air condition is on break today he already did it sadik did it put at 65 wanted to freeze us but says no the is you're going to melt so what should my mentality be now that I have a house now that I have a wife what should my mentality be I got to make a living fine you got to make a living who makes you living so I don't have that much time to learn I have a lot of time to learn all this mentalities and excuses that people make what should my mindset be about learning tah I got a guy nice guy B Chua only a few years B Chua still doesn't know very much not because he's only about you up for a few years that's not a problem within a few years you can know a ton he doesn't know very much because he doesn't allow anyone to be his Rabbi he wants to be his own Rabbi so he doesn't know very much so he makes a lot of mistakes and I ask him some basic things did you do this did you do that he doesn't know how to do it he doesn't know because no one's directing him so one of the principal rules of the Torah you have to have a rabbi you have have to have somebody that influences you you have to have somebody that guides you they don't necessarily need to be the same person you could be influenced by let's say me for examplei or someone else that's very good that's going to influence you to do better but to someone a direct you and tells you right wrong do this don't do this could be your local Rabbi could be somebody else you have to have a rabbi though a Jew without a rabbi is simply a Jew with that doesn't have a God why well how could the two be the same God is God Rabbi is Rabbi no no if you don't know what God said it's like not having God how are you going to know what God said if you don't have a rabbi no I read myself who says you're right about knowing how to read who says you're right no why I can read he can read no no my friend you can put words together he knows how to learn sometimes you could read the same paragraph three four five six times and still not understand it or understand it wrong one day the Rabbi says yeah but you missed that one word the whole that one word changes the context of the entire paragraph you need to have a rabbi to tell you right wrong yes no you have to have one but this Rabbi has to have some this Rabbi has to love tor now all of this does not come for free why because the rabbi has to eat so you have to be supportive why Torah shouldn't cost any money no it shouldn't and whatever you do for a living shouldn't cost any money either if we're living in communism but since he has to eat and you have to eat you have to be supportive you have to be supportive that money is not just for you to buy window treatments and more bambba the money you make is also to help these people that are helping you this is a given this is why and are two separate they're not the same mitvah is 10% of your income has to go for the sake of TOA is other things given to poor people buying an Aliyah in a sponsoring certain amount of things whatever it is that you want to do has to go to giving to publicizing to has to whether it's kiru or it's helping somebody learn t or helping your own teacher whatever it is you have to has to be why you have to remind yourself the only reason why K is giving you a living is because you're fulfilling the Torah is because he's a so long as you don't give myel you're not admitting to it yeah but if I gave my that I wouldn't have enough oh that means you haven't learned anything yet you still think you're making the money staka is above and beyond this is a very very important thing for people to know because it's not about the money it's about your treatment of money your understanding of money in the world so long as you think that when you give the rabbi by $500 you're helping him you haven't gotten the point the tree of life is for those that grasp it but those that are uh meritorious those that are happiest are the ones that invest in it not the ones that receive it when you give the rabbi $500 or $5,000 or $5 or whatever you give you're getting the help not the opposite it's not like when you go to Walmart you give them $500 they give you a computer no it's not it's the opposite when you give for the sake of Tor you're taking you now have bought yourself a piece of Torah you are now entitled to a little T so long as you understand that good keep giving you don't understand it got to learn a little more now the K says the biggest nightmare that a person should have in their mind something that they should be scared of worse than Gom is to die in to die an ignorant person that should be the worst nightmare of every person to Simply live a whole life of 70 years 80 years 9 years whatever it is and you die without really knowing very much you're not really sure what shab really are every year you're not really sure how big the Suka should be can you still use those things that fly around or do you have to use something else you know you're not really sure what to do how to do is your matah can you just buy it from anyone or do you have to buy from this one you're not really sure about a lot of stuff you don't really know much you're hoping somebody's going to invite you for every holiday cuz that way you can pretty much rely on them says that should be the biggest nightmare of a person because that way a person has lived 7080 years and he simply has no chance of expecting anything good to happen after no chance why if you didn't know how to keep the Torah under what pretense is a kadosh gonna let you enter ganeden with mosu with r AKA with the Kish with the with how are you going to enter the same place as them they knew T they sacrifice for T how are you going to be allowed to enter the same place as them if you didn't toil for T you didn't learn T you weren't even sure you were following it now for a person to know toah it's not just about learning it's also about praying now when you have kids one of the most important things for you to do aside from teach them send them to good schools is pray for them a lot to what extent one day someone gave the his mother's his his past mother's and it was blackened and really really old and as soon as they gave it to the he started hysterical crying he held a SE and he just started crying crying uncontrollably crying you know and his mom was passed on already for many years it wasn't like it just happened but they gave him the SE and they started he started crying old man is crying it's dangerous they tried to stop him and why why you crying so much he says look at this look at this book of T you know why it's black because of all the tears that my mother shed crying over me praying to please please please make my son a please help him learn to please help him understand the MIT and she would cry and cry every single day and you know where she learned it from on her wedding day on her wedding day her grandmother her grandmother which means his great grandmother her grandmother came to on a wedding day she's B my daughter you listen to me you going to have children and you take this seph and you cry every day every chance you get over your kids to learn T to be not just to fulfill the you cry every chance you get and my mother took it to heart she would put on the water to boil and while the water's waiting for it to boil she start learn and start crying after the word of boil she had to make pasta she put the pasta in it's more time just to wait till the pasta she read more cry some more then after that you make the sauce take the sauce another 20 minutes cry some more how much you cry as much as she possibly could so you see this it's not just the this is the this is the this is everything this is this is me this is everything that I became is because of this tears of of my mother that's why I cry everything because my mom cried I always tell people as part of my personal story how much my mother God bless her cried how much my wife cried at the times that I wanted to kill myself because life didn't have much of a meaning you never understand the value of those tears until you get something until the Gates of Heaven are opened for you and you think it's just because God feels bad for you no he feels bad for the poor women that are crying for you he says stop crying okay I'll open the gate for this loser let them in let's see what happens how much did they cry how much did they cry I could live a thousand lives and I won't ever know how much much I owe them the amount of tears that my mother shed over me just because she wanted me to live how much did they cry if you're already going to have kids get ready to cry or else don't have kids because if you're not going to cry for your kids to become what are you bringing them for what to be a Karate Kid there's plenty of them 85 bucks a month you can make any Ox a Karate Kid to make a soccer player there's already plenty of them to be a football player there's a bunch of mooses 900 feet tall and ,000 PBS each there's a bunch of those a businessman wall Street's full of them there's so many of them they already went to Silicon Valley too what are you going to do what are you going to have kids for for what is 8 billion of them what are you going to have a kid for if you're not going to cry for your kids to be a for your daughter to be a what are you gonna have them for for what go get a puppy instead we have to cry for our kids we have to do everything possible for our kids to be or else there's no purpose not for them or our marriage you have to do everything possible to cry constantly please soften his heart and make him love the T please soften our heart and make us see the and never even think about being in the bad side with all these Wicked people we have to cry because those tears one day say okay now I'm going to pay for it he collects it he collects the tears from this prayer he collects the tears from that prayer he doesn't pray right away why you don't even have a kid yet or your kid's too small to to to do anything with but he takes this prayer she cried here she cried there he cried here he cried there and he puts it in his reserves he puts it in his reserves he puts it in his reserves one day he pays how does this work recently there was a Monumental Torah event where they was a worldwide SAS where over a 100,000 people worldwide got together almost 990,000 or so just in New York alone got together where over 20% of them over 20,000 of them completed the sh completed the entire by learning One D day a of is really two pages because the has back and forth and if you learn one dff per day you will complete the entire as far as learning it basic you will complete it after about seven and a half years it's an enormous commitment it's a huge undertaking it's not easy by any stretch of the imagination but nonetheless many people have done it over the last almost 100 years or so now where this concept of daart there was a young boy named May and may was learning under a RAV named Shalom moskovitz and may had a dream as a boy mayor saw that in his Yeshiva the boys would learn learn learn and they were very serious and it would have all types of things to deal with but every so often they get happy every so often you got every so everybody every kid a notice when is that point when they completed a Duff you finish the duff you have the of achievement why I just completed a I have a piece of the Tora in me no one in the world can take it for me you feel a sense of achievement I came to the world for a reason so he saw this joy that every Jew gets by learning a is a joy that every Jew should enjoy now the problem is most people don't understand the value of T so do you tell them learn the it's almost 2,700 Pages like ah it's too much give me a little uh a little cute book with a commentary on it 30 pages Max give me the point tell me yes or no people are scared by it so as a little boy he had an idea he says if every Jew learns one Duff per day one Duff it's not a lot takes let's say an hour if you learn it superficially not through the omic through the depth of it just superficially it takes about an hour just covers the basics of the duff an hour a day you do one Duff per day you finish the entire sh in seven and a half years every Jew with such an accomplishment this is amazing once a Jew finishes the sh he feels like he has a piece of the tah it's going to keep him going it's much more difficult to give in to the and leave the you have a sh under your belt but most people are not even want to start it because it seems so big it's like my lectures my lectures people say ah it's three hours you have anything shorter if you want it to be over don't even watch if something is interesting you know you never want it to end how come you never say oh this movie is two hours you have anything shorter why because the doesn't give you the same thought a three-hour lecture says you have something shorter why if it's good why do you want it to end Let It Be 300 hours you watch as much as you can whenever you can so as a little boy Little M had this idea if every Jew would learn AAR once a day for an hour he learns the Duff and then you do this a different every bit it ra would teach it every bit it then everybody would finish thear at the same time here in in in in Germany in in Poland in America everybody would finish and then everybody would celebrate the together with a big for the Tor but he was a little boy who am I going to tell this idea to he says let me tell it to the rabbi's daughter rabbi's daughter is five six seven years old little girl she'll listen to me and he tells us to the rabbi's daughter and the rabbi's daughter says you know my father movitz he says you're a very talented boy but why should you waste his talent on fantasies and fairy tales she tells them why should you fa she says the my my father and all of the biggest rabbis in the world and others they didn't have this idea so why are you going to live this fairy tale thinking you can make the whole world learn years passed and this this little May became started a bet mid or before that actually became an and he never let go of this idea and one day he gets to the is already in his older and later years and he says I have an idea and maybe you could help me with it I've had it since I was a little boy and he tells him I have an idea that every Jew will learn a Duff Yi we learn one Duff and after seven and a half years they'll finish the entire sh and says to him it's a great idea but you have to tell this idea to everyone so you come we're GNA there's a big Torah event that they have that they invited me I'm going to invite you you come to the event and you tell this to all the rabbis the biggest rabbis in the world are going to be there but make sure to come a half hour late don't come on time just as the king says the servant does says says to come a half hour later this Torah event I'm coming a half hour late big event big personalities there big there almost a hundred years old speaks everyone is excited just to see Himes was on his face suddenly this young boy his 20s walks in a half hour late people look immediately who has the audacity to come a half hour late to such a event but suddenly they see the almost 100 years old get up off of this chair for this young a you know who you get up to the chair from who do you get up up who do you get up when you see you comes in you get up the king of T of his generation he gets up for this young boy this must be a prodigy this must be a this maybe it's mashia himself everybody gets up everybody wants to hear who this little boy is who this young guy is they all get up nods to him tells him to come speak now of course who doesn't want to hear this kid who doesn't want to hear what this kid has to say got up for him he gets up on the podium and he tells everyone about his legendary idea called dumi everyone buys into it everyone loves it especially since the whole thing that happened how much of a genius you have to be to set the whole thing up the way the set it up how much of a genius you have to be to say things the way you had to to have such an idea and guess what over a hundred years later you got yourself over a 100,000 people doing this what such a person has now May became a legend he died young but became a legend open and the people that learned by him became but one boy one boy started learning and he came to his to his Rabbi shap and the Rabbi says to him he looks at the boy and he says you too will finish the Shas one day you too will complete the sh and the boy said yes yes yes I'll finish it I'll do it the rabbi said I'll do it I'll do it the rabbi G the boy didn't know right or left but the Rabbi says I can do it then I can do it but as would have it shortly later the war broke out the Holocaust began and 6 million of our brothers and sisters were murdered in Cold Blood during the war and during the Holocaust when you seeing dead bodies in every direction you start to lose yourself and the little boy is seeing his friends die and he knows his turn is next he prays to he prays to in the Merit of his rebi and the Merit of Rabin he says RAB may you promised me you promised me that I'm going to complete the sh you said I was going to complete the Shas talk to hem for me tell him to keep me alive so I can complete the sh almost everyone he knows died but he [Music] survived but he got out of the war he got out of the Holocaust he came to America and he forgot about the sh he forgot about toah he learned about America and all of the desires that come with it all of the addiction that come with it the addictions of America didn't start just now it's always been this way even at the time of World War II the sadim were scared from Coming to America the closenberg rebi writes in his own and in his own history he says to people we have to be when we go to America we have to be secluded we cannot be part of the Americans we have to be like an Island by ourself why because who knows if we could overcome the desires of the Americans we live there because they're allowing us to live in peace but that's it that's what you see to this day theim generally speaking the really strong ones the satmar the Bobo of all of those they generally tried their best to stay to themselves they try not to be part of the rest of the nation everything they possibly can to stay by themselves why it's the only protection you have here you look at the rest of the Jews the rest of them that become you know like everybody else guess what they have a lot more in marriage a lot more problems so this young boy forgot about the promises forgot about the survival forgot forgot about the miracle and forgot about the Shas years passed and the boy tells the story himself he becomes an old man and he goes to sleep one night and he has a dream about who else other than coming in his dream and rebuking him scaring him to death says you you are only alive because of me you prayed so I could go to to keep you alive so you can finish the shot because I promised you that you're going to complete the shot so why are you not doing it if you're not going to do it there's no point for you to be alive I owe you you owe me this he woke up he couldn't go back to sleep and he came to his family the next morning and he said tells him to dream and he says from now on we're changing everything we're taking on everything we're taking on the entire Tor we're taking out all of the MIT we're all doing chuv we're changing everything no exceptions we're moving we're changing everything and on his 90th birthday on his 90th birthday he shows up at theas on his 90th birthday he shows up at and he stands next to RAB Shimon Alo from Mexico and he says this is my this is whole thing is my this is my Mexico says I'm also my he goes no this is Myas because why is it your he tells him the whole story he says my rebi my Reb beIN whole thing happened Holocaust this that I get off the death I got back he in my J this is my sh he says you're right your just why a few tears a few prayers and a Moment of Truth where a person understood this is my purpose in the world it's my purpose in the world without learning T we are no different than without learning T we're no different than Idol worshippers kazal says that really the first go is the last go the first mashia is the last mashia people keep saying no no it's this one he's the mashia he's the mashia it's mhu whether it's going to be M it's going to be a part of his doesn't really make a difference what's the point it says mosu is the ultimate T he's he knows the entire T more than anybody else in the world was and he's not coming to save a generation of people who do not want to learn tah that's what the mid says it's not coming until we start understanding the tah is not a suggestion it's an obligation it's survival it's like breathing so long as we do it purely to enjoy ourselves when we get time when it's convenient when it's not mixing up with our schedule then we're confused at what our purpose is in this world now when a person does know Torah when a person does understand their purpose in the world they start seeing that there is a difference between their mentality and everybody else's they start seeing that their reality is very different than everybody else's and writes in that a person that knows Tor not just knows the and he reads a little bit I'm talking about understands understands understands why yes right ideology he says such a person may look like a man May Walk Like a Man May breed like a man may eat like a man but he's not a man he's an angel among them a person that has real T is an angel among men but sometimes a person can learn a lot but have a faulty ideology that could ruin all of it meaning they have all of the prerequisite knowledge but they don't apply this knowledge everywhere so just one screw ruins the whole thing there was a rocket with the first Israeli astronaut that was supposed to go to outer space some years ago and although I don't believe this Israeli uh astronaut was religious he thought it was a good idea to bring a seph t with him to outer space so he brought a seph t with him into the rocket and everyone in the world were watching not only because it's exciting you have a rocket go to outer space place we know nothing about not that we know much about what we live but nonetheless you go to outer space Everyone's Watching needless to say all of the Jews are watching they're excited and they see this rocket go up in the air really fast and there fire everywhere and everyone's excited and they're counting down the seconds of how much longer it's going to take for this rocket to leave the atmosphere and how amazing it is that there's a Jew about to enter what an achievement for such a small people and everyone's counting and then they're counting up the defeat of how high it is and shortly later it blows up and kills everyone now unfortunately unfortunately when they were as disappointed as you were listening to this horrific story when they analyzed this explosion they analyzed it to the best of their abilities because they invested billions of dollars to make this dream a reality and instead of a reality it turned into a nightmare so NASA investigated every little thing to see what happened how could such a thing go wrong a rocket has over a million Parts a Million Parts go into it just counting one two three four five all the way to a million is difficult needless to say put a Million Parts together a million screws a million pieces metal this plastic all types of things a million pieces they had to analyze every single piece what went wrong how could this rocket that we invested billions of dollars into explode and kill everyone and disappoint everyone and end such amazing lives and such amazing dreams when they analyzed it they officially made a public statement that the reason why the rocket exploded was because one screw one screw wasn't screwed the whole way and the pressure from the rocket and the fire and the air and the atmosphere and everything else was too much for that piece to hold on and as soon as it fell apart everything else domino effect destroyed the entire rocket as fast as it was flying that's how fast the explosion was one screw out of a Million Parts now we cannot bring those poor lives back to this world but we can learn from them some for ourself if a rocket with a million parts and billions and billions of dollars invested into it some of the brightest Minds in the world invested into it could simply explode and become a nightmare because of one tiny little piece going wrong not screwed the whole way needless to say is a Jewish life is a human life if we learn T from the books but do not apply it like a says do not use it like a says do not value it and respect it like a expects it then that's not one screw that's the whole ship [Music] when you learn tah you have to treat it as if it's this rocket one screw missing the whole ship is gone everything is worthless once you think that hasem owes you anything that you are doing him a favor by learning that he owes you something because you learned he owes you something because you did he owes you something for whatever crazy reason you have in your head or Manis fredman Told You So or some other Told You So You Think hasem owes you something you might as well not learn why your ship's going to blow up anyway what's the point the key is to first know introduces himself in last week's Paras several times several times why does he keep saying his name you see thatu meets a in an unusual way after he runs away from Egypt he spends 40 years in Kush as the king then gets kicked out of there goes to midan and miraculously speaks to mosenu for the first time out of a burning bush and he tells Moshe I am the father I am I'm God the Father your father and the father of the god of abrah and yob that's me okay fine I get it Moshe is scared to death hides his face then after they have the discussion he ask him what's your name he says I shall be as I shall be God answered to him okay fine then later on he says to M Go free arm is go speak to Paro and make sure to tell them that I'm God okay you already told me twice already I get it to you God I'm speaking here for an hour and a half you guys get the point that even if you don't know my name you get the point I'm some guy if God was speaking to you wouldn't ask who it is already tells us okay tell them I'm God Moshe by the way I'm God okay I get it you're God later on says again I'm God and again and again and again half a dozen times if that's not enough he starts off this m complains to hasem why did you take me to this job that I'm is suffering because of me now now the punishment on them from is even worse first verse he says God speaks to Moshe says to him I'm God what you think I was speaking to I know it's you I was if I want to speak to I'd say Aron why' you do this to me I'm I'm talking to youm why is hm's respond the First Response he gives Moshe is by the way Moshe I'm God and if that's not enough he says it again you should know that I am God and again and again and again and he just keeps mentioning it over and over and over and over again if he thought we were stupid he would fix it and just give us a brain so obviously stupidity is not the reason why he keeps mentioning that he's God if we had a bad memory that he would insert a better memory so obviously he's not putting his name in here over and over again because of a memory deficiency so why does he keep mentioning over and over again to mhu needless to say to us 3,000 years later that he's God because that's rule number one no who you're dealing with know that is plain and simple he's the king of kings you aspire to be a servant Moshe AI who is the ultimate servant mosenu he was called Moshe my servant Moshe my slave we aspired to hopefully hopefully one day be a real servant surely we're not more if a person understands that rule number one first commandment and the Ten Commandments first introduction second introduction 10th introduction a 100th introduction of a is I'm God that's what he says I'm God I'm God I'm God that's it God that's all you need to know nothing else once you know I'm God there's no worries there's no problems no nothing why cuz you know that everything comes from me your problems your joy your successes your failures your house your kids your wife your husband your boss your cat your employees your pain in your leg your stomach pain your financial problems the lotto whatever it is everything is because I'm God he says if a person understood this point fully then he would start start to understand his responsibility in the world but so long as we think that we live a life that's in essence for us to live however we feel like it with no consequences with no responsibility then we really have not even discovered God yet as long as we think that we have a free choice then we haven't even discovered that God is God we have choice but not free choice free choice means you could do whatever you want and nothing happens Choice means everything you do will have a consequence a good or a bad when God is God we have choice we don't have free choice and that's why even when you learn to if there's a small little screw missing in your ideology it could create a truckload of pain there an that we know fantastic human being Al there was a million of him one of his sons recently came to him and says ABA I'm going to leave Yeshiva I'm going to go work make some money and the ABA that learns Tora day and night shocked this is like the worst news you can possibly get my son wants to leave theiva and go work instead dead doesn't want to be religious anymore wants to put his keeper down first you put thear down then the keeper then Shabbat then everything this is what his son wants to do now so he comes and he cries toim and rim is not surprised why is he not surprised because although this a is aad it's a fantastic human being he does the MIT in the best way his learning is dedicated aleno to be so dedicated but there was one screw missing what is that screw he has a lot of financial problems like most most people that learn T they don't make much money so they have a lot of financial problems they're constantly struggling for money living on debt borrowed money gifts Miracles and they're constantly struggling I know some that they literally barely have any food to eat but that's their test and we try to help as much as we can but the reality is it's not going to fix the test not going to okay so you help this one guy out there's a thousand more like him 100 thousand more like him Al we can help every one of them but when everybody else that's actually working making a living thinks that the money is to go by houses and not to go buy more how could we do it but this a was one of the good ones learning dedicating and struggling with financial problems and he would complain about it about how he doesn't have money his son would say listen ABA I want to go to the trip I'm sorry son I don't have the money I'm only an A and the son would want a bicycle I'm sorry son I can't give it to you I'm only an and a son would want something and I'm sorry son I can't give it to you I'm only an A and he would constantly blame his poverty on being an so one day the boy got his own idea he says if being an causes all of these financial problems why should I want to be an let me go make some money and that way I don't have these problems meaning despite the fact that he learned T day and night he never noticed the mistake in himself yes you can say the reality is I do not have money I'm struggling but the added few words of saying I don't have any money because I'm an that was extra it's not true you don't have any money because doesn't want you to have any money has nothing to do with being an you added that you think you don't have any money because you're an and therefore your son now doesn't want to be an in fact he doesn't even want to be Jewish and none of the daughters wanted to marry when you start saying things like I'm having these problems since I did Chua guess what you could put your chuva in the garbage that's what it's worth your chuva oh since I did chuva I have all these problems take your chuva and throw it in the dumpster that's not chuva my friend your ideology is is Warped you think you have problems because of chuva you're only alive because of chuva who said you would be alive if you didn't have chuva if you didn't have Tah you would have had problems anyway what secular people don't have problems show me one in all of the world show me one person doesn't have any problems the difference between someone that has tah and someone that doesn't is that the one that has tah has a reason an explanation and a purpose for his or her problems whereas the person who does not have Torah is simply a victim of himself he has no idea why this is happening to him he has no idea why he has any problems he has no idea what's the purpose of these problems because he doesn't have Torah he has no explanation it have no purpose so that means that if you already adapted into the Torah world but you still have the mentality of a secular heretic that you think that you have problems because of the Torah because you did chv because converted because you're now living the will the way Hashem says you think that's the reason you have a problem then you haven't even begun to be a Jew the problems is it's has nothing to do has nothing to do with your CH in fact you should think that if you didn't have these problems and you were still secular you probably be dead that's the real truth I spoke to a today and he told me this this is a person that learns probably no less than 15 20 hours a day how he speaks to me is a miracle he says to me I had a real M two weeks ago I had a real dilemma two weeks ago my learning was tragic he tells me my learning was horrible I said everything let me go he goes no you don't understand I'm doing CH for it I don't understand how hm is keeping me alive my goes up to sh and I know it's telling hasem hasem there's really no point for this guy to come back he hasn't studied like a normal person in two weeks what you know what not studying like a normal person means he only studied five hours only all of us to to start learning five hours like he learns five hours but he learns and he says hem I don't really know there's probably no purpose for me to be in the world I only learned 5 hours the ideology of a person is critical it's critical it's critical that we know that a person needs to Value Torah like it's his life one of the greatest that we've had in recent Generations was Shalom and someone came to and asked him when did you decide exactly that you're G to be that something happened something motivate you and he says yes in fact there was says when I was a kid my ABA was a bigach and he learned to day and night he didn't have time or ability to make a decent living so there was a lot of financial problems and at one point the debt collectors started coming to the house and start taking stuff from the house so they could sell it and make their money back so first they came they took the couch then they would come in without even an announcement come in you open the door couple of guys already come in without nothing without saying who they are show you a piece of paper take the couch next you know take the table then take the chairs then take the closet then start taking clothes and little by little me me and my family were emptied out we had nothing left in the house they started taking the spoons and the cups there's no food there's no chairs there's no table there's no bed and then one day they come in they see there's nothing left other than my father's other than my father's books his Torah books that he learns from so the guy says okay you know what maybe we could take two of these sell them make some money so they take two of theim and the moment they put their hands on theim I saw my mother scream out to no and she starts his sterical crying to hasem no Hashem no no I'll give him the closets and the tables and the chairs and the beds and the clothes and the spoons and the cups and the food and everything else just don't take my husband's this is our eternity this is how he's teaching my kids to have eternity when I saw that my mom didn't care about the spoons and the cups and the tables and the chairs and the closets and the house and everything else but she could not deal with them taking even two two books that my father was teaching us from at that moment I said I'm going to be a if that's so valuable to you it's more valuable than all the tables and the chairs and the houses and everything else just these two more valuable to you than all of that stuff then I want to be a that knows all of these because that's an oar that's a treasure that's a treasure and that's when I decided to become you see if we influence ourself with the right ideology and mentality to view Torah as simply the potion for life that we survive because of it we survive due to it without it there's really no point for us to live we're no different than cows quite frankly the cow has more of a purpose you could at least get milk from it that's why the says that a person that does not learn T should not be allowed to eat meat why because the cow is more valuable than him it's fulfilling its purpose if you're not learning to you're not fulfilling your purpose when we fix our own ideology to start looking at learning to and fixing our own warped mentality and ideology we look at it as survival then not only does that help us not only does it help us start learning tah and fulfilling the tah as if our life depends on it but suddenly we become the greatest kiru machine known to man without doing anything just by people looking at you they want to do it just by people seeing that the only place they can find you is in a that makes them want to do it just because people see that that's the only thing you talk about they want to talk to you about business they want to talk to you about sports they want to talk to you about girls they want to talk to you about dogs they want to talk to you about everything except to and you take no action whatsoever you don't let a minute pass without T you have no interest whatsoever in these conversations you have no interest whatsoever in the secular life you have no interest whatsoever in everything and they see that time and time again you're the same you're the same you're the same you're the same guess what they want to be like you they want to be be like you that doesn't happen overnight sometimes it takes with certain people years sometimes a few minutes depends who they are depends how many sins they made the more kipa they have on their soul the more it takes but nonetheless you will see and I promise you this this is a promise of the Tor Not Me That by you gluing yourself to a you will see that you attract people simply by existing but since we are in the end of days we don't have that kind of time you have to chase people too learning to is not enough you have to get up you have to do K you have to help other people you have to bring him to the you have to try harder to help others you cannot just help yourself and that's actually a person is not allowed to simply just worry about himself put himself into a room and just worry about his own issues he has to help if you're learning and you know a lot start teaching you don't know enough to teach you're not a good speaker you don't have the ability you don't have a crowd no problem you could help people with other ways bring them to the sh share the Shu sponsor a sh donate for a sh there's a million and a half different ways that you can do K in order to fulfill the Mitzvah of not only learning tah but teaching tah but needless to say you have to have this attitude in your own house if your wife sees that the more Torah you learn the better you become as a human being she is going to be the biggest supporter of you learning tah but if your wife sees that it doesn't matter how much tah you learn you're still the same o she met nothing changes then guess what you're going to create a wife that hates toah you're going to create a wife that doesn't like to her why because she doesn't see the effect she doesn't see anything good out of it she just sees that she sees you less two hours a day and you become a knock seems like you're just hanging out with your friend she says you know what why don't you go buy groceries instead why don't you do the laundry why don't you change some diapers go do something useful so your Torah is obviously not useful because not changing you you're still the same that I met you sell the same ax still not modest still looking everywhere still cursing still yelling still nothing's changed so what's the point of this Torah what so you have fun with your friends I want to have fun with my friends she'll tell you you watch the kids let me go all my friends to go learn Dai that means that if your wife is not a fan of your learning it's your fault that means you're not showing her the goods you're not showing her the results of this Torah you're not changing enough for her to say I like this go for four hours next week you only wa for two hours this week go for four hours next week why every time I send you for two hours I get a better you so go for more I want to want go go for 25 years likea 24 years I'll get a diamond and return if we're not becoming that diamond they're going to hate it and guess what if they hate it the kids are going to hate it the kids are going to want to become uh baseball players basketball players multi-millionaires that's what they're going to want why they don't see the benefit of this Torah it all starts with us starts with you if you're seeing that people aspire to become like you they want what you have they want to learn with you they don't want to learn from you that's a good uh good indication you're going in the right direction doesn't mean you're there yet just means a good good indication your wife is happy with you another positive indication because the best mirror when do you know you did good when you start seeing your kids develop into they're already older they're already married and their heads are straight and they're already teaching their kids what you taught them that's when you can say ah I did good I did good but so long as you don't have any of that that means we have a lot of work to do this will give us a little bit more of a idea of what kind of work is ahead but also what's our responsibility what's the point of living another day in this world without knowing what our responsibility is it's just a waste of day let's continue learning continue doing continue understanding what our responsibility is from a that he's our King of Kings he's our Master he's our everything he's our purpose we serve him and nothing else once a person understands that lives by that everything becomes easier so long as we understand that like life turns into a something that you want it's worth living but if we don't understand it then why life is simply not worth living because you confuse all the time this week's please each one of you when you read it count how many times and I want the next time I see you I want you guys to give me the answer how many times does God say I'm God count it how many times is God don't just read the places look for the place I'm God read the whole par For Heaven's Sake how many times does God say I'm God look at it why does he say so many times one reason we learned today CU that's rule number one he's God there's many many other reasons we'll learn that next time amen amen [Music]