How To Pick Your Rabbi? - MUSSAR Iggeret HaRAMBAN (20)

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driving I'm sure they're going to work or to something important and just a couple of cars are driving and literally both of them are right next to each other and less than a half a second half a second after they just pass they just continued past a certain point two missiles hit that spot you see a huge explosion right exactly where they were literally a half a second ago less than a half a second M miracle beyond your imagination you see this in stupid people that are blind spiritually will say ah they got lucky but anyone that understands how runs his world at least to the extent that he explained to us in his Torah we'll see that uh no matter what the Arabs want to do there is a uh time for every single person no one could ever take a person's life if Hashem did not decree it no one could ever take a penny out of your pocket unless ashem decreed it unless hasem is the one that signed off said take his money take his life take this no one is ever going to take anything from you unless authorized it now there is a very important principle that we'll learn a little bit more about today we talked about during uh um which is the page 32 says that that in heaven it's decided to give the Merit to someone that has Merit and the obligation to someone that has an obligation what does it really mean means that in sh decides that if Shalom somebody deserves to die then he's only going to allow that person to be killed by somebody that wants to kill meaning the guy that killed them he wanted to kill somebody and the guy that died deserve to die that's how it works he deserved the bad he deserved to do the bad that's because that's what he wanted on the other hand if somebody wants to do a really big mitvah he wants to write a $10 million check to so we could open some here to help Florida do CH there many other places not just any rich person can do this just because somebody has money doesn't mean anything they also have to have the Merit money they have Merit questionable hm knows who has who doesn't have Merit meaning that whoever is the one that sends goes on a PayPal and sends $120 sends $200 sends $2,000 whatever they're sending it also has to accompany Merit that they have before they press the Go Button because had they not had the Merit but they still wanted to give they would just give to a reform jeo they would give they have they want to give they have money they have give so they have the money gave the money and they want to give but they don't have the Merit to actually help people do chba so what goingon to do he's going to have them donate to this uh this year's Hanukah Feast feed the entire Community with s get fatter so they'll donate $115,000 for that party are they going to go to Al for that no no maybe a few people can say thank you for the donut but that's it meaning that the guy that donates has to have Merit the guy that kills also has to have the obligation now the people that today were videotaped for us to see that Hashem saved their life obviously had a a merit not only to to live but also for other people to benefit from seeing this powerful miracle in open daylight but there's a bigger question how come CL is how come is right now has an obligation in essence because What's Happening Now technically according to Sham we deserve to get 50 missiles shot at us 100 missiles shot at us by these evil terrorist they want to shoot but doesn't mean that hm is going to allow them if Hashem simply allowed them to do whatever they want they would shoot missiles every single day they have a never-ending Supply but he doesn't allow him to do it every day how come he allowed it them to do today now we don't know but I could just give you some things or one thing really that seems to my little mind logical a day before the missiles were shot Tel Aviv the uh government in Tel Aviv the officials in Tel Aviv passed the law you are now from now on allowed to have public transportation on Shabbat until now since they uh they they uh founded the modern Israel 1948 no public transportation anywhere in is but a couple of days ago tele says no no no this is not for us we're modern we're liberal we're homosexual we're a lot of things we want to drive on Shabbat and we're not going to tell us what to do okay you're not going to tell us what to do they allowed public transportation this Shabbat this Shabbat first time a day later missiles comes to you didn't want to give people a break from working on Shabbat now today people were forced to not work why because they're scared of the missiles they're scared of missiles now although we don't know for sure what why Hashem does what he does thear does tell us in a few different places that we learn even from David that you are supposed to use your mind to see what's happening in the creation and do some what did I do in order to deserve this what did we do in order to get this we saw it in the sh this week you know went into a town they saw that the town is suffering because the rats were eating all the food says okay it's because you guys are asking why you're you're suffering I'll find out for you oh it's because you're not giving my you're not giving my your money is not protected if your money is not protected the rats are being given the permission to eat all of your P but why did they have the Merit to have such a come to them and tell them listen this is the reason of why you're losing all your money the rats are eating all your money how come this doesn't come to uh to uh you know to aventor over here tell people why they lost money in the stock market it's not because he's not alive it's because we don't have the Merit why because we didn't ask why did we lose the money that town although they lost money they asked why meaning they have a little bit of in them they had some in them they're trying to find out why is hm doing this to us ah you do will send you the answer this is critical for every single Jew whether you're a civilian or a rabbi or whatever you are to do to do self accounting is critical for each and every single one of us because as we see right now there's a lot of problems in the world but we're seeing that the problems are unlike anything we've seen for a long time right now the education department of the Jewish people is under attack we thought we had religious freedom in America until last year in New York they're now trying to pass a law which is going back and forth in court the government in New York is trying to force all of the yes all of them to teach the kids seven hours of secular studies that's actually more secular studies than public school they're forcing the to teach the kids seven hours of secular studies and maybe you'll have an hour left in a day okay you can teach him t for an hour meaning you're going to learn more secular in a yes than public school in California new curriculum includes in the educations in public school private school all these different places new curriculum includes anti-semitic material meaning your kid goes innocent 9 10 11 years old Goes to School innocent he loves everybody the same he's you know little kids like everybody unless they're taught to not like everybody but he comes to school 10 years old innocent he loves everybody he comes back Nazi this is California and unfortunately if people don't understand why this is happening from Heaven it's only a matter of time before these things will be Nationwide in England new rule what's the rule rule is you must teach your kids about homosexuality same-sex marriage LGBT must or whoever doesn't teach it gets Goes to Jail teachers are going to go to jail for not teaching same thing in New York that's what the government said in England if you don't teach the kids about that it's okay and it's good it's everything to uh LGBT go to prison one of the former came out a couple of days ago says this is It's better all of the rabbis kill themselves all the parents kill themselves all of the Jews in England killed themselves then allow the kids to be taught about LGBT and homosexuality and all that garbage better they die it's but nonetheless that he said it he's the only one that's actually is that actually stood up and said something publicly but unfortunately it's not enough why the community has to follow if the community doesn't follow one guy can't do anything even if he's a big Rabbi can't do nothing but we see again what do the English people care about the ISA what do the New Yorkers care about the Yeshiva what do they care so there's 19 million people that live in New York okay so let's say a million two million of them are Jews that's nothing it's 10% go worry about the other uh 90% it's private school anyway you don't want to give them any money don't give them any money but don't force for their education we see everybody that's trying to fight this the legal battles hiring a bunch of lawyers you know doing all types of campaigns you know Sign Here sign here to support to support that's all good and great and wonderful but it's not going to help why because we see that this is a from this is happening from shamay because it's happening in the UK it's happening in California it's happening in New York it's happening in it's happening where in the places where you have the most amount of Jews the most amount of yes meaning this is a against the Yesa system anyone is say oh yeah it's just like the times of the bet mikdash you know the Greeks didn't want to allow us no no my friend it's not the same you know why it's not the same in those days they didn't kick anybody out of Yeshiva just because he didn't have money in those days didn't reject you just because you were orazi or or this one or that one you weren't wearing the same hat in those days they didn't kick anybody out today they do this is an epidemic that saw that we failed that miserably in addressing so he's addressing it says you're going to send all of these young Jewish boys to public school I'll bring the public school to you I had a little 13-year-old kid came to the program two three months ago four months ago came to every single Sho unfortunately you don't see him anymore but he was coming to every shoe before me he wanted to stay later than me he would ask questions amazing kid I told him wherea you go to he goes no I go to public school said we got to get you out he goes yeah that's what I want to talk you about can you help me go to Yeshiva I said absolutely I hope you go to Yeshiva where you want to go he tells me to school I said no problem I'll call the teacher go apply there go why not study smart kid this that they go apply rejected why rejected the kid is in public school he's in a place where they're going to turn him into a why oh you know he's not up to speed he's not up to level you know he's already 13 years old he doesn't know as much as our boys over here maybe you should send him to a different School say but you're the school that he wants to go to the whole point of having a teacher is that the teacher brings them up to speed if you're not going to bring the kids up to speed why are you a teacher go be a janitor go sell cookies door too you can't reject a kid for wanting to go to Yesa you have no permission to do this I talked to the guy goes ah listen you know what I get you I understand you I said you know this kid is going to go to public school he's going to marry Goya you realize this on you goes okay okay listen let's wait for the rabbi that deals with that grade to come back and then he'll deal with it I said oh he's going to come back tomorrow he goes no no he's coming back in a month I say waste you're expecting this kid this poor little 13-year-old kid to just sit on Ice sit on nothing wait for you for a month why can't you you're the principal why can't you just say yes now you're the principal you're the b what difference do it make what this other guy says yes or no you're a teacher no let's just wait don't it's going to be guess what not only did the kid not get accepted anyway not only they didn't call but when they call they get got rejected anyway but unfortunately the kid went back and unfortunately as you can see he doesn't come to the shim anymore why he was so disgusted by the so-called rabbis that are running the system he says if this is the religious leaders I don't want to be part of this religion and I don't blame this kid unfortunately I don't know where he lives if I did I'd go to his house and beg him to come back but that's what happens so now what happens is is when these people send these young boys and girls to public school is now sending the public school to us you don't care that they're going to be learning a bunch of things that are against the Torah okay so I'm going to also make them learn against Judaism too which means you I'm going teach him a bunch of anti-Semitism I teach him to hate Jews why because you hate them by rejecting them I'm going teach them that you came from a monkey because that's what you're saying that monkey and you are the same level why if a monkey came and applied to Yesa who's going to accept him nobody Jewish kid came to Yeshiva they accepted him no okay so same thing you treated the kid the Jewish precious n precious n you treat him like a monkey okay so I'm going to teach Monkey Business in your school seven hours a day when the when we made the sh about M the head Rabbi from the UK about how he made a book saying that we should be more accepting and tolerating and loving of homosexuals people said ah come on another War you're on no every day you have another War everybody's rash except you you're sadik people thought it was H just picking fights for no reason what do you care let him write a book promoting homosexuality yeah but he's the head Rabbi he's not supposed to promote homosexuality it's against the tah okay so now what happens shortly later the government of England agrees with the Rabbi says Ah you know what what we like your book about promoting homosexuality we like it so much now you have to teach about homosexuality in it's better go to public school now better go home better go to Desert go learn math from a scorpion but this is what we have this is what we have now if you think the situation is going to get better by itself because you're going to vote a certain way or because you are going to uh you know say ah wow too bad and make a few comments on the on on the internet that you're upset if you think that's going to change anything I'm sorry to break your heart but it's not going to do anything the only thing that's going to beat this T that we have infesting the Jewish world is K we have to spread AIT we have to make sure that we sacrifice every single bit of ourselves whether it's time skill money effort everything to literally start saving because we're running out of time and the situation is getting much much worse faster than we can imagine if these laws any one of the things that I just told you if any single one of them gets passed even a single one forget all of them if any one of them gets passed the New York law gets approved Shalom California is approved Shalom UK is approved Shalom stuff that's going on in Israel gets approved Shalom that's the end of freedom of religion for the Jews because if it's okay in New York it's coming to Florida if it's coming to Florida it's coming to Ohio it's coming to everywhere else it's not just the people in New York are GNA suffer and then it okay so let's send everybody else to a different community no no my friends once it's okay one place it's like a virus if they're going to allow anti-semitic teachings in California it's definitely coming to the rest of the world California is the eighth largest economy in the world it's bigger than countries if they're permitting anti-semitic material and Educational Systems you seriously have a problem so now that means that we have to do something now Whoever has money I always tell them You' better stop investing into stocks stop investing into real estate stop investing into a bunch of things that you can't do really very much with start investing into start doing something about it start helping people do chuva person doesn't have money has other skills start using those skills but needless to say start at least doing Chua Yourself by fixing the upside down ideology that you have and allowing yourself to be partnered to the sin sometimes by saying wow this is not such a bad idea to bring a missionary to a like uh Goldberg our friend or and not saying anything like pretty much none of the keine Baton said anything I had people that I was friends with that said listen we agree with everything you're doing to stop this missionary KS from coming to the uh synagogue I said okay so why don't you say something no no you know our kids go to school here and you know we live here it's not going to be comfortable go to school anymore nah so I said so wait so a thousand families are being put in danger because this guy wants to bring a Catholic missionary to the synagogue thousand families are in danger but you're just going to stay quiet he goes yeah I'm just not going to go so okay you're smart enough not to go what about the other families oh hopefully they don't go oh hopefully they don't go I how you hopefully don't go Okay the reason why communities get bad evil rabbis is because those communities want them they want the bad Rabbi the buar Ron community that we used to live in they want Goldberg they like Goldberg because Goldberg brings them all types of interesting Heretics to their Sho like and some guy that the entire uh SLO of put on Steinman all the biggest about maybe 10 years ago put one guy on because he wrote a book that's against the Torah in the name of the Torah Torah against the Torah put him on they put him on a pedestal invited him to the Sho Dr Ruth a woman that made more Jewish men sin than probably anybody else in the last 2,000 years they put on a pedestal the guy that started open Orthodoxy another version of Reform another version of Reform pedestal he comes almost annually all types of Heretics come there all the time meaning who's funding all this stuff the K when when the guy Matthew the Christian Missionary when he was coming what you guys think he's coming for free $40,000 he got $440,000 fee $40,000 fee to come for shabbaton to teach you about the purpose of life from the Jesus's perspective from G who paid for that the K paid for it if this wasn't true it would be funny this is every week you go on the website over there every week week you see new group of uh clowns coming to give shabbatones every week there's another set of clowns every week who's paying for it the Kila now some people in the Kila are decent people they're decent people they're nice people I met them I I had lunch with them I had dinner with them nice people but no one wants to speak up so even though those few are good people unfortunately if is a decree everybody gets judged the same even though there a bunch of decent people were in the world 2000 years ago the page 54 55 and 56 gives several different examples says that even though there was some good people learned T fulfill the T from when he punished he punished everybody the same why so what's the point of keeping mitv I'm going to be punished with the say no no no keeping means you have to keep keep all of the and one of those is you must rebuke your brother you must speak up if you see fire you must speak up if you see that your Rabbi is a heretic rash you have to do something about it you can't continue supporting such a community the stories that I'm getting from different communities around the world are just simply getting worse and rabai it's because we deserve it because we want it and for those of us that are saying no I don't want it I didn't sign up for this well if you don't want it so bad do something do something about it fire the rabbi hire a good one tell the rabbi you're ready to step up as a community shut off the parking lot in in on Shabbat if anyone in the community has saf in a restaurant shut down the place take away the K do something about it yeah but that's a lot of headache can somebody else do it yes somebody else is doing it his name is God and he's doing it right now with different tools though anti-semitism ISM and the like so many people ask this question so how do I know who is a good Rabbi how do I know who's a bad Rabbi how do I know how to pick a rabbi what do I do okay so the community is part of the problem the rabbi is part of the problem no one's innocent here okay so if I wanna get myself out of the trouble that I'm in how do I do something about how what do I do and that's what we're gonna learn a little bit today the ran Shalom almost 800 years ago wrote us the and each every single week he tells us something very very interesting last week he talked about how you literally have nothing to be proud of even if you know a lot of Tor meaning even if you technically are following all of the instructions you're reading all of these wonderful books on the wall and more you still have nothing to be proud of why that's what you were created for you were created to read and follow all of these wonderful Torah books you should be happy that you're following the instructions because you're fulfilling your purpose in life but you should never look at yourself as better than anybody else why you're following your instructions they're or not you should be feel bad for them not that you're better feel bad for them help them buy them a book maybe invite him to a shi maybe give him a CD do something about it now that you possess the knowledge don't just hold it to yourself and say oh I know and you don't hahaa what do you think hasm is going to be happy with you it's the opposite says someone that learns T but does not plan on teaching it to anybody not his friends not his colleagues not his family not his kids he just wants to keep the Tora to himself says he's like somebody who doesn't have a God yeah but he learns about God all day he learns to all day said no no no he's learning philosophy no no it's all these no no no my friend if you're learning T that means that you're learning the character traits of a and the biggest most amazing character trait that we're aware of is how hasem gives not nonstop and never receives so the whole point of the Torah is for us to learn these character traits of Hashem and emulate him be like him if you're learning about Hashem but you're choosing not to be like him then either you don't believe in him or you disagree with him which is even crazier or you simply are just not even paying attention it's like reading a philosophy book you could skip a few sentences here and there no big deal thisai is a problem and that's why the says someone that learns tah without an intention to teach and influence the public is like someone who does not have a God and not everybody has a speaking ability but everybody has a teaching ability meaning that sometimes you don't need to teach with your mouth you could simply teach with your behavior that's why I always tell people one of the greatest things that you can do to help other people do Chua is tell them your story tell them how you did chuva tell them how you're doing chuva the struggle that you're dealing with we have a section on our website called chuva stories where different wonderful people from around the world that have been influenced by our work over the years wrote a letter wrote a different story about how they did chuva where we came into the picture and once a week we uh we publicize it and these stories motivate people much more than the shim sometimes and the the reason why is because in a you're going to hear what I'm saying now you're going to hear what I'm say tomorrow you're going to hear different sh different things that sage just said and some seemed like they're impossible for you to do something seem like they're you know so unreachable some seem like they're unimaginable it's too big for me but when you hear somebody else do chuva that had a life just like you he also came from a different religion he also believed in yoski at one point he also was married to a non-jew he also was eating he also went to public school she also had this she also had that and she did chuv that means I could do it CU I'm just like her I'm just like him he's a person he's not a rabbi his his father is not shim sometimes these stories are worth a million times more than a lecture that's why till this day the most popular and influenceable lecture that we've ever had has been the personal story now technically if you listen to the personal story the original version two and a half hours it's a little bit of but it's tiny comparison percentage wise versus the amount of the personal story that's nonah it's just my life but and you compare it to the other shim that we had let's say for example the series series average year was 3 hours out of the 3 hours 2 hours and 59 minutes and 40 seconds to 20 seconds the intro I'm horrible at joke so none of the sh have any jokes the joke is there's no jokes that's the joke three hours year the whole thing is still up that three hours year helped a lot of people but in comparison to the personal story can't compare the amount of people that have done CH from the personal story is unimaginable it was worth suffering just for that it was worth all the surgeries the money loss the enemies the headaches all the things that happened and continue to happen all that stuff was worth it just for one single B cha but there's been tens of thousands of people that have changed their life so now we did the movie even more people that's why I tell people do your a favor tell people your story how you did chuva why because sometimes that story could save another n that's not going to watch a shoe with this guy with a beard and and the hat and the whole thing but they'll watch some regular Average Joe that has a little keeper on it tells him that he used to uh believe that he came from a monkey but today only believes in this woman that she looked she used to look like a rock star but today she has she came from how could it be I'll listen to her why she's like me just there's a before and after she's already on the after part I'm still on the before I want the after though this Rai is simply putting yourself in a situation where you become a K Machine by yourself you could send us your story please make sure to add how you're connected to in our teachings at all if you've never learned anything from us then there's other organizations that you should send it to that helped you so they could benefit out of it also like if you let's say for example benefited from ra mrai then send ra mrai the lecture that uh so he can publicize it if you benefited from my sh send it to me so I can send it to people so people could make the connection you could still send me anyway even if you didn't benefit that much but the point being is that you want other people to follow the same path as you so we so far we've done a bunch of different a uh letters then we did a few small videos with the uh the wigs but we'll also do some other videos with other people but the point is is that this shows us that can allow every single one of us to help other people do kiru simply by our Behavior our Behavior how you act if the way Act is admirable is nice is polite is generous is is is just something that I want to be like guess what if I want to be like you I want to be like all of you so if Judaism is what's causing you to be this nice wonderful amazing person if Judaism is what's causing your marriage to be so happy if Judaism is what's causing you to be so generous if Judaism is causing you to be so classy and modest if Judaism is causing you to be so smart and studious I want to be a Jew I want to be a religious Jew just like you so that's why behavior is critical if you want to help people do chuva you could help them with money you could help them with your skill set you could help them with your time but most of all you could help him by simply being the example yourself one of the greatest things that I heard in all the years that we've been doing this is some stranger gets in touch with me um I breast the water but I didn't know I have tea had tea I didn't know it was going to have tea one of the greatest things I didn't know it was going to have tea I didn't bless the tea one of the greatest things that I experiened myself as a as a privilege sco when uh some stranger got in touch with me or actually no I ran it to him I ran it to him in a uh store supermarket I always have these interesting meetings in supermarkets and uh like yeah I saw you're you're on the internet I said yeah sometimes and uh and I said oh yeah I listen to a few yeah and he says where do you live where do you live and I said oh I actually have a uh couple of students that live by you says you do said yeah I have a couple of guys live by you they're Brothers and uh he goes wait like yeah there's couple of guys live by you they live they go to some something he that's your students goes I'm G to watch all your sh said those guys are the biggest in the sh I said I didn't tell you guys the story it's one of my personal favorites best story in the world why some says I want to watch now why because those guys I see TRS they're like the that's the best thing in the world that's it that's the result that's the result of the work if that's the result that's what I want to do someone told me that uh they uh were at some uh shabbaton and um with several rabbis and although they heard of R Ys m in the past they never actually watched his work and it happened to be that the uh this shabbaton was speaking in it so the guy tells another guy that told me the story he says that guy became a fan of RA misis before the lectures ever started I said why he said he told me he says you know honestly I heard so many things about r m I never actually bothered to listen to any of his stuff but I said you know whatever let him do his thing I'm going to you know keep my distance not it's not my business no problem I don't have a problem with him but uh the stuff that you hear is not so good all the time you know CU usually the stuff that's bad is publicized stuff that's good a secret good stuff secret bad stuff publicized all over the news first uh you know headline but the guy became a fan why did he become a fan he saw that m brought a few of his kids to the shabbaton and the guy was looking at the kids he says that's his kid goes yeah that one and that one those are his kids that's his kids yeah that's his kids and he just started looking at's kids I don't even know if RI knows the story he started looking just following ra M's kids he goes if that's his kids that's what comes out of him he's an amazing Rabbi he must be amazing if that's what comes out cuz there's a lot of rabbis that you know that that that teach but you only get to see the results from the students sometimes the students is the kids that you have your own kids sometimes the students that are not your kids point being if you see that the students are something to look up to that's that's that's greatest thing in the world now the ramban says that even if you are a wonderful student you still have nothing to be proud of because that means you're fulfilling Your Role you're doing your job you should be happy about it but also that means that you were giving the responsibility now that you were given the clarity to see the truth you now have a responsibility that comes with it now what happens when you see somebody that's technically more like your before picture than your after picture so the ran continues and he says the following the ran writes thus all men stand as equals before their creator in his Fury he casts down the lofty the Arrogant in his Goodwill he elevates the downtrodden therefore humble yourself for Hashem will lift you so again we see that the ramban embellishes the point repeatedly about how being arrogant being conceited thinking you're better than everybody else is the wrong direction if you want a relationship with AEM why because in his eyes all men stand as equals but between us how could that be one guy is half the other guy is a genius one guy looks like he came out of some cave the other guy oh the woman is beautiful how could they how could hasem see both of them as equals his IQ is 160 his IQ is 1 six how could they be as equals now of course the ran is not making this up this is aim in the Tora this actually comes from the song of Kan in the book of Samuel 1 chapter 2: 7 this is a source in the and you'll notice that all the time when say something they have what to rely on they're not giving you any new concept or new idea they're just elaborating on a pre-existing idea that's found in the Torah that perhaps you missed so who can tell me how could Hashem look at a genius and a as equals if I was next year I'd give you a kiss saved me so much time you just gave the whole shoe away who is the one that made the smart guy smart he's the one that instilled 160 IQ he also is the one that instilled the 1.6 IQ on the other guy but he says both of them I view them equal why the rambam writes Al Al means mount Al means obligation Al means forever it doesn't change people always ask me is this still relevant today yes if you can do it then the answer is yes by default if you can't do it then it's relevant you just can't do it you can't bring a Corban because we don't have a bet mikdash not because the mitah is not relevant is relevant if we had a bet mikdash tomorrow all of us have to go to bring some cows all of us you should start saving some money for cows says that the the should save money used to have used to have an obligation the used to have an obligation to save money on the side forban for when the going be built why because they have to bring one more Corban the average Jew why why is the convert have to bring an extra what was it Prejudice hm loves the converts why do the convert have to bring an extra Corban that a natural born Jew doesn't have to bring because to convert what is converting you're doing what we did in Mount sa right you're doing what we did in Mount sa you know you going to the mik right but what else do we do in Mount sa everyone Froman everyone Froman now since you cannot bring a Corban today because there's no bet mikdash it used to be a law that you have to save money on the side so as soon as B mdash is built you b a c you bring it the mikdash no questions asked no delay why to complete your conversion if you will conversion is already complete but in essence to complete something that you couldn't have done until now so all converts start saving like 105,000 for cows no but B seriously all Jews if we had bet mdash tomorrow have to Bean so that's not an that's not a obligation that we can fulfill today so it's a relevant Mitzvah it's just that we cannot fulfill it if there's a Mitzvah that you can fulfilled then of course it's relevant now the rambam writes that it's it's from the Torah that every Jew can be righteous like mosu not Nai like mosu not a prophet like mosu because that's not possible hasem himself says no one's going to be like mhu as far as prophecy is concerned but you can be as righteous as M what does that really meanu what was his what was his significant why was such a big deal because mhu reached his full potential whatever hem gave him whatever tools hasem gave him he fulfilled his will with his full potential if he had strength he used all of his strength if he had money he used all of his money if he had speech he used all of his speech every that he had he used to get closer to Hashem to sanctify hm's name to do what Hashem said this is something all of us can do if hasem says that you have to be modest then guess what you have to be modest yeah but it's hard for me it may be hard for you but if you're alive you can do it if you're alive you can do it yeah but I don't have that much money you don't need that much money to be modest you don't need the don't necessarily cause as much as people think you may want to be modest with style that could be expensive but to be modest by default you can be modest without necessarily having a lot of money same thing with food say oh yeah kosher life is very expensive the steak is uh you know $15 or $20 for steak instead of uh $3 yeah you're right but who says you have to eat steak every day who eats steak every day what are you a lion who says you have to eat steak every day there's other things you can eat you have to eat steak every day the point is is not asking you to do something more than what you can do what he's asking you to do is do the best you can with what you have reach your full potential and since he gave the genius that has 160 IQ that IQ and the idiot 16 IQ you he gave them that he says I look at them as equals meaning they both have the ability to get to 100% by fulfilling my will with the best of what they can do which means if the guy that's a fool that doesn't know anything gets to 100% he tries his best and he gets there but the guy that's a genius he only gets to 50% of his potential 60% of his potential but because he's such a genius his 60% is still higher than the Fool's 100% who's Hashem happier with no the guy that reaches full potential gets much more reward and the guy that only reachs 60% of his potential gets punished even though his 60% is higher he was given a gift to reach much higher levels that's why the ran says AEM looks at everybody as equals now when a person wants to be proud he wants to show off something that he has the ran is telling him just think for one minute before you take action on this Pride that you have what you just finish a and you want to show off to everybody you had the answer to the question you want to show off to everybody you have something clever to say you want to show off to everybody you want to show before you do that think for a minute think for a minute because hem hates it and in his Fury he cast down the lofty meaning that the fact that you are proud of something and you're going to show off that alone is giving Hashem a reason to bring you down forget about all of your other sins and problems that you've caused in your life forget about all that stuff just the fact that somebody wants to be a showoff is enough of a reason for hem to take him down what is it like the says in uh page five says that when a farmer looks at his field what are the first things that he cuts off when he sees his Fields full of different plants different crops first things he notices is the one that grew the highest good I'm going to harvest all of these chop down all the high ones the other ones are not big enough yet I let them grow for a little longer hasem says Ah you got really high you're really proud of something chop you off first I'll punish you first why you're too proud if you notice the opposite is true as well when you plant a seed if we're going to use the analogy of farming and and all types of plants and so on if a seed was like a proud human being he would die why because if a seed is like a proud human being he'd never want to go under the ground he'd want to stay above ground why ah we going to put dirt on me I'm a seed you know how much stuff I have inside I got all types of stuff inside don't put me under the ground you go under the ground you never want to go under the ground he wants to stay high he wants to roll around with the wind and fly around and eventually he's going to die but the one that allows himself to go deep in the ground get himself dirty that's the one that grows into a beautiful plant that's the one that grows into a beautiful tree that's the one that becomes useful to society the one that brings himself down why to serve his creator now when a person is proud there's really nothing sillier than that because nothing that he does really belongs to him it's like somebody didn't have a suit a lot of young guys don't have suits in the old days that's that the previous generation that's all they were you see old pictures in different parts of the world young kids six seven 8 9 10 11 12 all types of Ages little kids all they walk around in suits all week it's the same suit they don't have a whole wardrobe like the average kid today does they don't have 87 different pairs of sneakers but they have a suit and they always look respectable even if they still a little shim sometimes they're a little troublemakers sometimes but they look respectable look a good kid he's got a suit on today 18 19 20 year old guys grown men ask him how come you still come to M with a shorts and a t-shirt because it's what I have you don't have an actual suit you're a grown man you don't have a suit no why should I have a suit I don't know you're a man men have suits you ever going to go to I don't know something respectable other than the beach have to have a suit go to beet with with t-shirts but that's the way it is today no one has Suits so imagine one time guy 20 years old he has a party and he knows he has to wear a suit too as an interview he knows he wears a suit too and he borrows his father's $2,000 suit you know one of those suits where the tailor comes to your house does the measurements all thing it's got different colors inside nice suit and he walks around cuz he's the same size as his father he walks around with the suit like he owns the thing walks around oh you see his friend ah how you doing he how you doing he's got glasses on sunglasses for 99 cents but it looks like it's 5,000 because the suit's 2,000 hey how you doing hey hey he's happy about it when is the happiness when do the bubble explode one of his brothers says Ah you borrowed ABA suit in front of all of his friends all of a sudden his ego that he was wearing a $2,000 suit like he bought it drops to nothing he's embarrassed he wants to be the seed that went under the ground but just five minutes ago that's somebody that's proud somebody that's proud is like someone that borrowed a suit and he's proud of something that doesn't belong to him your talent doesn't belong to you your intellect doesn't belong to you your money doesn't belong to you that's what the ramban is trying to tell us here now he says that a person that's going to continue going in this direction is going against his purpose but there are signs that theim gave us to remind us of this critical point there are certain things that unless somebody's a or somebody is careful at about what comes out of their mouth and what they see and pay attention to the creation and to the world around them they're not going to see some of this stuff but I remember when we learn when we learned one of the where it says someone that takes honor in his friend's downfall loses his share of the world to come I remember when I you know when I were learning it I was amazed that this rule is literally all over the Torah talked about it talked about it the talked about it it's actually in the beginning of every single gar every single gar usually has a blessing on the cover that you say you say this blessing and you say to Hashem please hem let me not take pride over my friends and my friends take pride over me why because if I take pride over my friends or they take pride over me for my failure or their failure we both losea this is literally all over the this lesson but most people don't even know it now this other thing I'm about to teach you is also all over the Tor in fact the average Jew that goes to sh and prays three times a day says it no less than three times a day the danger of ego is so dear and the right ideology is so important that kazal instilled it in our prayer three times a day at the end of amida at the end of amida after you say sim Shalom doesn't matter if you we all have that part you know Grant peace goodness you've gone to the end of the prayer now so far what have you really said in almost every single prayer you're asking for something physical something material you're asking for you're asking for you're asking to for the mashia to come you're asking for for for you know the right State of Mind for knowledge and so on and so forth blessing you're asking for a lot of things but then at the end of the you're saying to Hashem one more last request one last thing AEM please guard my tongue from evil and my lips from speaking deceitfully to those who curse me let my soul be silent meaning Hashem I'm prone to say bad stuff about people why cuz they annoy me they curse me they make fun of me they call me fanatic they call me uh blue black green yellow sarus Kaz yite they call me all types of names ofs so I'm prone to react to these people but please AEM if you're going to do anything most important thing is the last request help me not react how can Hashem help me not react cuz these people are cursing me you're saying but you're telling hem please hasm help me not react by making my soul silent why because in reality hasem I am like dust to all in reality Hashem me getting upset that she called me a name and he called me a name and he didn't kiss my hand and he didn't open the door and he didn't say cavod and he didn't say hi and she didn't say this and he didn't say thank you and all these people didn't give me the honor that I'm entitled to in reality I'm wrong I'm not entitled to anything I'm dust so in essence what are we asking hem three times a day hem please do me a favor remind I'm dust remind me I'm nothing because that's the only way that I'm going to get myself out of trouble of having an ego that could destroy Mya now the ramban says that if a person really takes this prayer seriously it's mentioned in the takes this seriously and he humbles himself that'll give Hashem a reason to do the opposite effect raise him higher but if he doesn't and he wants to feel like he's better than everybody else act like he's better than everybody else she wants to act like she's better than everybody else she knows more than everyone else she does this she does that everybody wants the credit it's the opposite effect now this is not just in our daytoday Behavior it's also in our MIT because sometimes the Satan can actually use a mitvah to bring somebody down because when you do a Mitzvah naturally it makes you feel good you feel like you're righteous you feel like you did something good every person after they finish praying they feel like ACH they achieved something just finished I'm closer to hem nowm enjoyed this prayer what a prayer I had wow today is good day oh you had a bad okay I'll make it in you had a good even though it took me only six minutes okay fine feel great about it you gave somebody you saw it you saw G oh they didn't see it ah hasem saw it saw my you feel good about the that you gave sometimes people give it and then they they they send letters to let you know I give okay thank you it's good some sometimes it's good to to let the person know that you Senda people send a check in the mail said listen I sent if in essence what you're doing is you're sending the notice to let them know to expect it in in the mail that's a good thing that's a good thing why cuz you're letting them know that I sent a check in the mail says that says told go tell I have a present I have a precious precious thing that I'm giving them that's coming from my treasure chest it's called Shabbat go tell is that I'm going to give it to them as a gift so say from there we learn that if you're G to give somebody a gift you should let them know no surprise party you should let them know ahead of time you're going to give him a gift let them know so if you're going to go give somebody something you let them know if you're letting them know that you're going to give them a gift because that's what the says to let them know listen I got a check it's on the way to you I got a book it's on the way to you I got a house it's on the way to you something's on the way to you you're say you're doing it because the says to do it because you want to let them know to expect it so they're already happy now you're fulfilling a mitvah if you're doing it to make them happy now fulfilling but if you're doing it because you want them to say ah thanks a lot you're the best you're greatest you're amaz what would I do without you you're I'm only going to pay my mortgage because of you my kids haven't eaten in six days until you came for you you you you want to thank you it was better off you didn't do the mitvah why imagine how hard it is to build a house you ask anybody that builts houses it's hard work imagine how hard it is to build a building you ask anybody that worked in a building for example buildings in New York each one is bigger than the next I used to go to school in the uh Old World Trade Center the towers that were destroyed I was going to school on the 88th floor and uh I went there I was taking some course and uh one of the times I you know you go to the elevator the elevator Is Amazing by itself and you get in this elevator you get to this thing you're on the 88th floor and you look in the wind out the window and you're not really sure if the whole thing's stable you feel like you're going to fall so you're like you know me I'm scared of heights so I'm looking like you know maybe eight feet away from the from the from the thing like if I get too close to the window I'm gonna fall out so I'm looking out and everything down there looks like ants everything looks like ants the car look like ants the people look like ants some of the houses in the build everything looks like ants everything looks tiny so that made me very curious to actually see how they built this World Trade Center was so big so I watched some videos on the internet you know years ago and how they built the World Trade Center and it was very very extraordinary architecture the first of its kind in the time of how they built the shell and was amazing you look at this work it's truly unbelievable some time ago I looked at a video of how they build Bridges it always interested me how do they build a a bridge like how do they connect a thing how does it hang by itself the whole time especially when there's water under it how do they get the towers what somebody dive in there and stay down there in the water for 3 weeks and you see the technology that they have is unbel believable so now imagine somebody that came up with all of this thought the Architects that came up with this then all of the employees that worked on it everybody woke up 5 4:00 in the morning so they start off the day early and they not be you know they're they're beating the sun already they're already by the time 12:00 comes they've already done half the job guys are working for a long time four five six seven years everyday manual labor it's a lot of stuff now imagine you did all of that you build not only a house not only a building but you also build a bridge too in fact you build an entire city imagine you build an entire city that's what a Mitzvah is a Mitzvah is an entire city in fact it could be an entire world you could a reward for one Mitzvah could be literally equivalent to an entire world but here the problem the difference is those construction workers those Architects they're getting paid every week they get a paycheck before they buy the material they get money up front us our main pay Isa we don't get much here what you get here is just to enable you to do more mitv to build more stuff so the say the problem is that if somebody does a mitvah and he goes and asks the person to say thank you he puts the person in a situation to say hey by the way that's for you that's for you that's for you I did all this for you not because he's reminding them not because he's trying to make sure they pay no because he wants to get the honor what happens is the entire reward that he has that's waiting for him Ina gets paid at that second when you put that guy or that woman in a situation where she has to say thank you that's your reward that's 99% of what you're going to get for that mitvah so that's like building not a house not a building not a bridge but an entire city and never getting paid every day you work you woke up at 4:00 in the morning you're lifted the bricks you uh beat the sun you got sick but you still worked you did everything you broke a few bones you broke a few fingers you had a headache you did whatever you got to do why to build this wonderful thing for what so you get paid at the end doing a mitvah and getting all of the Cav here you're getting paid but with what simple thank you a simple instead of getting paid a city or a world you got a couple of words that you could live without where is this from one of the sources that we have this in uh the eth per number six is an extraordinary story about rarar shim razar was the son of r shimai and he had some workers in his house so he left the house and later on the day he came back and he asked the people so what I miss I said well uh some people came here uh some visitors from out of town came here to see you so just like we know is your uh yag is to host guests so we hosted them we fed them g whatever they needed and uh after they finished they had a good time and they uh said please tell RAB Lazar he's sadik he's amazing thank you very much wow unbelievable they gave you all these compliments so R laar says oh o to me o to me that I just wasted all of my reward in this world I did the mitvah but I wasted all of my reward o to me some time passes and he leaves the house again and he comes back at the end of the day and he says to uh his employees also so what did I miss oh well today a bunch of people came from a different city and we hosted them them in your name and they caused a mess after they ate and drank like their heads they started messing up all house they broke stuff they made everything dirty uncivilized people and if that's not enough right before they left they started cursing you out what a stingy host who likes your food anyway who's this Rabbi anyway and never coming back here again ah that I'll have some reward in for this Mah why I did theah I didn't get any honor I did get any honor perfect perfect such is the behavior of people who understand the value of getting cavod in this world now the has some interesting stories of a uh very uh rich woman that was in the uh I believe a non-jewish uh Kingdom came to one of the and uh she says to him God since he created the world okay created what does he do now now what does he do what does he do so ever since created the world since then all he does is bring people up and bring people down the ones that are humble he brings them up the ones that are arrogant he takes them down now you'll see every single person that was taken down that lost everything he had or all types of things you'll see how these people their pride was in the sky they thought they're going to rule the world one day one of the famous stories that I saw was a famous of a Brazilian I believe he's a Jew AI Batista that uh during the uh boom in the uh steel and different industrial part of the world industrial Industries in the world he literally skyrocketed his net worth and in a matter of just a few years he went from being a millionaire to being worth almost $40 billion and being listed on Forbes as one of the top I believe five or six richest people in the world he had I think three or four different companies and it was unbelievable how rich he got so quickly everything he touched literally turned to gold literally it was unbelievable all types of finding oil and and and different types of uh precious metals and so on and so forth they interviewed him one time and unlike most billionaires in the world most billionaires that are old money already like you know usually they don't make such a big deal of the money but this guy was special they don't make a big deal usually out of the list on the Forbes 500 of who's the richest or Forbes the top richest people no one usually makes a big deal out of it at least not publicly but he did what did he say what am I number five six now within a couple years Bill Gates is no longer going to be number one and Warren's not going to be number one nobody I'm gonna take all the places I want to be number one this is something that's unusual but what's more unusual is what a was planning in that second within 11 months now imagine I don't know how long he worked to get into at least a position to make $40 billion that's a lot of money you could literally take $100 bills fill them up from the floor to the ceiling and you can fill up several bill buildings like this several buildings like this to get to $40 billion that's how much money it is talk about an obscene amount of money so I don't know how long he worked to put himself in a position to make that kind of money but within 11 months he lost 99.8% of his money to the extent that the government came to his house and tow his cars away that's a that's what he does makes the lowly higher and the higher lower all depends of whose time is when and whose reason is what and so on and so forth now the mid says that when it comes to money which is one of the primary things that usually people spend a lot of time being arrogant about or depressed about if you notice there's several different names about a handful of different names for money Ines in the one of it when you uh talk about property property in the Torah is called is property it comes from the word which means vanish because just like the person that acquired it acquired this property somebody sold it person that made money in the market that means somebody lost it one day a person has this property he thinks he has a whole lot and one day it just simply disappears CU hasm decided to take that pound and give it to somebody else another name for money or form of money for for coins is zuim Zim comes from the word Zim same spelling zazi means moving away because money moves from one man to another as depending on who hasem wants to give it to another name for it is Mamon Mamon is comes from the word Mon Mon means count where hasem is asking you why do you spend so much time counting your money who says you're going to have it tomorrow it's a bad idea to count your money another name for currency is comes for Mal Mal means what's the uh uh what's the time meaning what is the value of something which only lasts a short period of time this money no matter how much you have it maximum it's going to last you is your lifetime after that you can't take it anywhere lastly another name for money is damim deim means Bloods because people spend their entire life their entire blood chasing money what are you going to get for it in the end what are you going to be able to take with you that's actually your possession the answer is only your that you do with that money now interestingly many people spend a lot of time being proud of something that's temporary and many kot are built because somebody that had a little bit of money wanted to be the dominating opinion now today there is no shortage of most Jewish communities have more than they need the same thing goes with most have multiple and some like I know there's at least a couple in Brooklyn that have so many they literally have an entire basement with over 150 or 200 that they lend out to different places but most of it they just simply sit there collect colting dust why because somebody wanted to donate money and they figure look let me uh get a because usually when you donate the community has a party and everybody knows oh that's your the fact that no one's actually going to use it because the community already has 87 of them or three of them or five of them and they don't really need another one CU maximum you can use three a week on Monday one on Thursday one on on Shabbat one that's it even if you read a different and it's not really comfortable usually the the usually wants to use one doesn't want to use a different one every day you get used to a certain writing a certain style certain role and so on so the point is that if your besset already has five of them it's already too much you're buying another one for what so you have a party same thing with betet guy wants to build a betet why because the didn't want to allow him to drink during the like one guy over here one guy over here he want to drink during during the during the F want to drink him and his friends the rabbi said no no no no drinking in SHO while we're praying he go h no drinking in SHO while we're praying I'm G to open another Sho he opened the Sho why because he wants to drink while he prays the fact that it says that who killed because potentially they had a little drink but they were though andm killed them them no that that part of the missed so people building in every corner we have we have what don't we have that every Community is lacking every Community has lacking if you compare the amount of to the every Community has issues with this why because in a non-religious communities people only come to on Shabbat in a religious communities it depends on the rabbi if a rabbi is a strong Rabbi they come throughout the whole week not so strong little you know then he's got a of skin the guys that have nothing to do they're already tired they're 75 years old they have nothing else to do so they go to beet the guys that are working hustling bustling Wall Street bis Street that that they go to work they don't go to on Shabbat he has a of 500 people during the week 15 barely why what happened something's wrong with with with with what's going on this is an issue everywhere religious community not religious communities meaning that we have a lot of material but the N part we're missing something now so this shows us that money is not exactly something that we're lacking as a people today we are the richest generation that we've ever had aside from the time of SCH time of says that because of his wisdom he knew where all the different type there seven different types of gold in the world and he knew where all of these Golds were and he knew there's a gold tree it's something is a really a gold tree is a tree a real tree not like a tree you made out of gold it's just statue no like a real tree that has a green you put the Grain in the ground grows a tree and the tree brings gold fruits says he had the BET mikdash had a bunch of these trees and when the wind would come and the trees would fall the would take the fruits and they would sell them that's how they made the P selling gold fruit but gold that's how rich he was he had Cities of Gold we don't have that today but nonetheless Jewish people are very rich today materially Rich spiritually we're lacking a little bit one of the reasons is is because of what we're going to talk about now the title we chose today is or the topic that we start off today is how to pick a rabbi with all of the problems that we're facing today in communities out of communities in different countries different cities how do we know what is the RV that I want to pick that I know he is a kosher so I learned some of the attributes that a is supposed to have for him to qualify as a rabbi that you would say this is my Rabbi and you should be proud that he's your Rabbi first of all it should be he Rabbi is a he that's a prerequisite if it already is a she failed forget about the rest of the attributes second it's a human human listen this generation you got to say everything third he has to be born a he he has to be born a he and remain a he if he's born a she and he's a he it's a it next but sometimes rabbis delve into the secular World sometimes for professional reasons sometimes for uh academic reasons let's call it if the rabbi is also a doctor and he actually practices medicine no problem Ram was a doctor no problem but if he attained his certain decree degrees in school and he's proud of those degrees some didn't like that so much one of those is RAB Isa RAB is Shalom says that if you see a that has a doctor title like Dr Rabbi such and such that should tell you that the r is sick if if he has a doctor title next to the that means the the is sick why if you're practicing medicine it's a different story but if you're simply I don't know you're a PhD if you're so proud of your PhD more than your Rabbi that means that the rabbi part is sick because no one in their right mind that has that knows the value of real Torah would ever compare secular knowledge to Tor that's why it bothers me to no end when I hear people that call themselves rabbis and Jewish speakers that put different sadik's names in the same sentence or paragraph or even lecture as secular teachers like uh uh Tony Robbins and Zig Ziggler and all of these so-called motivational speakers when someone says the bmov yes it's just like Tony Robins or or yeah yes it's just like such and such Rich Dad Poor Dad or something like when I put these people in the same sentence it bothers me to no end because it simply shows me they literally have no idea what Torah is if you think these two people the sadik that became is in the same Level Playing Field as some guy that made a bunch of money selling books that you could write in six pages you think they're in the same level you should never ever speak to the public as a teacher again at least not a teacher as Tora go teach Tony Robbins but that's the problem today people want Tony Robbins but with a keep on so you have people that try to you know uh do the same thing as Tony Robbins they look like him they act like him there's some guy in New York extremely popular you literally see this guy in every flyer $5,000 a lecture and he's booked every day booked every day why he's uh he's just like the green but he mentions M once in a while this abai is part of the confusion it shows us that the rabbi is sick sometimes shows us that when we think that the secular knowledge is in the same world as the Torah we simply do not understand the Tor that means we're a little bit spiritually sick now there's something that you repeat in your betet every single day that it says this comes from the page 28 B but it's a uh comes from the verse in a from chapter 3 verse number six says anyone who learns alot each day is Promised a share in a world to come where do we know this from and it [Applause] says it says the uh in says that the ways of the world are his meaning who's running the world Hashem Hashem is running the world the uh behavior of the world managing of the world that's all AEM but don't say Al say meaning you're in essence playing a little bit of literal literal um language over here or game here where Al and sound the same is only difference of the Nik or really one letter UD tiny little UD you remove theud it spells and means laws Jewish laws that in essence if you uh the ways of the world are managed by his but ask wait a minute what does it mean don't say say it's like saying don't say say don't say say David what do you mean if it says Al say Al why say really part of the oral T is that this is really what there's certain words that spell one way but it's supposed to be very a different way many times you see in in something is spelled one way but it's supposed to be read a different way but is a further either shom he said a fantastic I learned from rim and he says in today's world the the behavior the if you will the way people judge how you behave is very very important in the world much more important than the people are much more obsessed and concerned with if you went to a certain concert if you went to a certain Museum if you have a certain degree if you went to a certain school or you live in a certain neighborhood if you believe in a certain you know political uh issue or not if you're against it or for it who you voted for those things are critical political correctness is critical today he says and that political correctness unfortunately sometimes causes people that know a few to kiss up to them the guys that know sometimes kiss up to the people that care too much about Al the guys that know sometimes kiss up to the people that care too much about the museum and the paintings and who designed the house but in truth ra Shalom Coen says the only one that should determine how we're supposed to behave what is the right thing to do how to build the betet how to build the Yesa how to build the community where to put the who's going to be the rabbi who's going to be the board who's gonna do this and who's going to do that who's going to be kosher who's not going to be kosher the one that's going to decide the ways the Behavior the everything should only be the people that know the the ones that choose the AL should be the ones that know the unfortunately it's the opposite many places that we have today are going down the tubes not because of the people that know the but rather because of who's hiring them the boards of directors I had a lecture at one place funny story they invited me to a lecture and some woman in that Community she wanted to return me a favor why because I saved her marriage by convincing her husband not to throw it to the dirt her husband called me and he told me listen I'm getting a divorce I spent the next few hours with him on the phone convincing him not to throw his wife to the garbage because God only knows who's going to pick this woman up she's one of those people that I'm not even sure how someone even married her in the first place nasty human being he had it with her and he wants to get rid of her I told him listen says if somebody has a bad woman he has doesn't go to gay so at least live for that reason at least live for that reason but no right I convinced him listen do this do this do this do this marriage was good they had some more kids everything was great so she wanted to return the favor when she found out that I was going to give a lecture in her Sho what did she do she went to the board and complained no he's fanatic he's crazy don't bring him here huh H she did come on we have to return the favor right she went and complain to them two days before the lecture I get a phone call from who one of the guys in the board of directors he says listen um you're being a you know someone is saying here that you said certain things and did certain things and I just have to ask you some questions about it said sure why not everything I do is public my personal life is public pretty much public property everything you guys want to know it's it's public whatever you want to know no oh did you ever say that Jews are worse than Nazis I said well I you could watch all of my lectures not a single time that I ever say that I said to says certain things but that's one thing I know for sure I didn't say did you ever say this no did you ever say this no okay what about yeah yeah so then the uh issue of uh SM came up said you have I said yeah have and uh told him from I said but you know it doesn't really make a difference right he says what do you mean said you know what a is right he goes no not really I said well yeah I mean you go study on a certain person and you know they give you a but in reality according to the Tora there is no such thing as SM anymore there's no such thing as SM anymore SM is something that came up recently in the last 10000 years again but many of they didn't have they didn't go to school and you know pass a test they no one would even dare give them a test these G but the point is make certain things more formal to make sure people know certain things but according to the Tor page I believe is 33 says who is a rabbi someone teaches to that's a rabbi Rabbi someone teaches Torah that's a rabbi mean you don't need a certificate to teach Torah so he says to me wow I didn't know I I didn't know that I said oh yeah but you also asked me about this Shabbat thing if you know you also know that someone violate Shabbat you can't count theman right says no no I I didn't know I said you know someone nothing he didn't know every question I had nothing he didn't know he was he was coming to question me but nothing he didn't know that's who's running the Sho him and a bunch of people like him that don't know in many many communities a bunch of people don't know anything it's the one that have the Al Al this sometimes it's a little money sometimes somebody voted for them because they have the nicest suit in in the Kila biggest house in the Kila but they don't know anything this is one of the poisons we have already for the last few hundred years the said it already many years ago that Judaism declared bankruptcy when Rabbi started accepting money from rich people not necessarily that we don't want money from rich people because you need to build a Torah world you need money but meaning take money from rich people as if they sold themselves like if you give me money I'll say whatever you want you put the Torah up for sale that's the problem that's when it becomes a very serious problem so sh Coen says that when a person is going to decide how to build a community make sure he knows not Al because if he knows if he knows the laws he could also tell you the proper way of how to behave too and what to do and how to do it but if he doesn't know everything he says to you is wrong it's the opposite of Torah naturally now to give you a little bit of an understanding of where Shalom is coming from his father was also one of the shom wases was one of the of the Ben Tall long white beard had these big bushy white eyebrows and he' wear a tush like from B from Iraq like if anybody ever saw a picture of the Ben had a big that's also had one of those and he had a uh like a a GMA like a almost like a cape I guess if you will or some type of uh I don't know what it's called Uh in Black I watch Like a scary figure and he was likees one day find coin you got to pay attention to this story this story million dollars we take payments PayPal too one day high flame coin sees young boy in his father in the street in the middle of the day says what are you doing here why why are you outside in the in the middle of the day why aren't you in school go no we just came back from patf and uh they uh kicked me out little boy they kicked out a little boy from P he goes why why why why my son why they kick you out and the father tells the story he says listen you know my son he learns Torah at night and he learns to night and he um falls asleep in class because he's tired so the rabi over there when he falls asleep he doesn't like it rightly so he doesn't like it but he pinches him he pinches the boy to wake him up now yesterday my son comes home and my wife sees his hands full of black and blues says what happened to you you shy no no nothing no what happened to you wife starts screaming and yelling what happened to you who did this to you oh it's the rabbi why the rabbi do this to you oh because I fall asleep in class my wife started yelling and screaming at me go you go to the Yesa you talk to the rabbi tell not to touch our son my son is sadik so I came to the I came to the Yesa today talk to the rabbi you know tell him you know take it easy a little bit they said listen you're not allowed to sleep in class your son sleeps get out there they were very hard with me so I said okay you don't want my son okay so we leave they kicked us out probably Hades because he saw the boy and he heard the same story you're hearing right now and he didn't just sit there and look pretty like you guys what did he do he got up he said come on he took him by the hand said come with me took him back to Thea P now came to the Head Rabbi over there he says you see this boy from now on he's my he can do anything he wants here if he wants to Le he's going to learn if he wants to sleep he's going to sleep if he wants to play in the middle day let him play from now on no one say a single word to this boy you have a problem with him you come to me now when comes to you powerful like this thank you for the thank you thank you for coming visiting us we're sorry you listen and the boy came back into life T he was one second away from leaving the world of Torah maybe becoming some scientist or something but instead he became the story is about that little boy was he was one second away from I don't know being uh the next Einstein he was genius but he became why somebody took him by the hand and went and fixed the situation there is a where the ofos come to the ra and they ask him a question so far we know that Rabbi is supposed to be impressed by the Torah and pretty much everything else is secondary so for we know that a rabbi should take things by the hand and worry about every little n like it's his own son but now we're going to see that a rabbi has to behave a certain way that's unfortunately the opposite of many things we see today so this says a story of RAR and his students and the students comes to rabar and they tell him if there's a katuna there's a wedding can someone take a cup from the kala and say you know the kala gives him a cup and he takes he's one of the guests not oneon-one there's other people there other people and you know to to get some Cabo to say you know after all he came to the wedding says no the kalad gives him a cup and he takes the cup can he do that hul the rabbi of says anyone who drinks withal is like someone who drinks with a z anyone that does with the is like he's with a prostitute so was shocked no he's not oneon-one not oneon-one is other people this is this is right a in Brooklyn in Queens in uh fort laale in ban he's got K in Los Angeles no he's he just went to a wedding they invited him to the wedding you know as that the rabbi came at someone came the says here you go and she gives him no it's it's you know it's good behavior says shalom Shalom anyone who doesn't have Torah on his lips does not have meaning if he doesn't know how to implement the Torah and know that he should never ever take the cup from the kala because taking the cup from the kala is going to lead him to think about the kala oh this kala she's gonna be with thean tonight lucky him oh he's not all that I'm probably better than him no anyone that feels that comfortable with the kala naturally he's going to do something stupid which means he has Torah is worthless so one of the other one of the other benar made a law 300 came out law what's the law anyone that takes from the forget about dancing with like some stupid people do they they give the kala to dance with a bunch of strange men or in front of a bunch of strange men not talking about that not talking about oh all these K the kisses pretty much half the society in in in the city no I'm not talking about that gives says anyone that does such a thing has no share of the world to come loses his he had it was good was good while it lasted like in theory okay it's garbage now it's gone you have to earn it again why this is why one of the greatest moments that I've had in the last few years is seeing the wedding of some of my students seeing the wedding from Sunny seeing the wedding from M andan seeing some of these weddings where they're so careful that they simply make the place like a mini bet mikdash in a community and only people that know are the people that attend everybody else on the outside I think it's a normal place they're careful in regards to the dancing but how careful no dancing that's how careful why because we know that if we're going to have dancing in in his place people are not going to follow the M why because some of the guests are secular completely some of the guests may not even be Jewish some of the guests don't really care some of the guests are upside down some of the guests are inside out who knows what you know what let's solve the problem no dancing what we going to have instead wedding sh it doesn't get better than that oh you have a nice you have kosher people as as as as Witnesses you don't mess around with hem and that's why same thing I saw in my own wedding I saw in the weddings here people came nothing happened in the wedding you didn't have you know sunny and buta come out with a Harley-Davidson you didn't have that remember I have a good memory was not Harley-Davidson in that wedding and M no harleydavidson didn't come out into the hall with a parachute smoke everywhere none of that stuff happened just came like normal people B everybody looked but average regular people came up to the K kala in both places like they came up to us my wife and I said it's the best wedding I've ever seen in my life I loved it nothing happened no one knows why it was so great average wedding you spent 50 100 $300,000 everybody leaves ah food's terrible he doesn't look so good I think he's sick Thea I think he could do better everybody leaves the wedding complaining to no end these weddings respectable weddings but they didn't cost hundreds of thousands of dollars or even tens of thousands of dollars respectable weddings pretty but people coming up wow this is the greatest thing I've ever seen in my life wow I want to get married wow like they don't know what's happened you know why the is there the is there of course you're going to be happy but you don't know why because you've never seen the before you never touched the until today that's what happen when the is there you become happy you become happy you have no idea what's going on the says when is and they have the right connection they have SCH they have they have all the good tools the comes when there's a koser wedding Kos kosher kosher Witnesses kosher people kosher Arrangements you're not planning on having the kosher but what happens after like a lot of people do the is koser but after it it's going to be S and gor with all the dancing no the whole thing is kosher comes to that wedding comes to that wedding and everyone becomes happy but they have no idea why except the people that learn a little bit of to oh that's what the feels like isn't that amazing she do it every day this is one of the greatest things that you could literally witness witness a time where you could see the I wish more people would listen to it but instead you have people doing withot losing their and they don't even realize it the guy just got AIDS cancer and syphilis all at once he doesn't even know it yet now we'll finalize with couple of major points you could take home so far we know that the rav is supposed to admire the Torah more than anything else the r is supposed to care about every single even if it's a little random boy he doesn't know the r is supposed to make sure that he's careful with how he behaves make sure that he doesn't become a public desecration of hem like it says in a page 8 a that must be careful with his actions in public to the extent that he should never talk to a woman in the shook in the market even his wife why because if he's talking to some woman and the public doesn't know who this woman is like you see this no you see this wicked Rabbi he's talking to married women you see that you see that guy he's talking to to to to David's wife he's talking talking to Steve's wife you see that guy unfortunately there's a right there's a reason to worry it was a danan in England danan for many years well-known speaker was a speaker for a uh a major Jewish organization last year keynote speaker in one of the biggest Jewish organizations in the American world today was one of the keynote speakers was a famous Dian from England was found and caught being with a married woman from his K the husband was very wealthy and he found it very strange that the rabbi keeps coming to his house to talk to his wife so he hired a private detective and he saw on all the cameras and everything that the RAB is with his wife so say that a rabbi should be careful of who he even talks to in public because the public will never give you the benefit of the doubt because there's no nobody that's above the immorality crime everybody's subject to fall for that so you have to be careful yeah what about if she's my daughter they probably don't know she's your daughter so even be careful talking to her well talk go find a certain you know don't do things in the public be careful now if you have to be careful with who you talk to including your own wife in public is it do you need to use too much of the of the fuel called you know from your common sense to understand the from the that says that a Jew needless to say a rabbi is never allowed to show any any type of affection physical affection to his wife in public is that hard for anybody to understand here the writes you're not allowed to show affection to your wife in public no hugging no kissing not even holding hands now this is for the average Jew needless to say a rabbi so if you see Goldberg in company and all of these other yo-yo rabbis have Facebook pictures where they're hugging and kissing their wives or better yet just completely strange women that alone is enough of a sign for you to take this Rabbi put him in the garbage replacing him with a real one this is not he's publicizing the pictures himself these people publicize the pictures themselves do you know how many Jewish people that think they're religious have profile pictures on YouTube and and Facebook and all of these social websites where they're hugging and kissing their wives or vice versa She's kissing her husband it's almost like they deleted this from the you're never going to see M Feinstein kissing his wife you're never going to see holding his wife's hand you're never going to see any pictures of the BTO that they drew over the years you know giving a nice hug to his wife you're never going to see that why it's not allowed but today's rabbis not only do they hug and kiss their wives and teach their students to kiss and hug their wives in public but worse they completely disregard all morality laws by hugging and sometimes kissing strange women you go to their Facebook profiles right now go back deep enough and you'll find exactly what I'm saying at some apack meeting Goldberg is two strange women different ape wom different women some other guy here from Florida every sh he has every lecture you every lecture he has he starts hugging the crowd no one says anything why they don't know themselves so a rabbi has to be careful with how he behaves even walking into a non- kosher restaurant to go to the bathroom is forbidden for Rabbi for why because the public sees you walking into McDonald's they're not going to think oh he's going to the bathroom they're thinking either the food in this McDonald's is kosher or the rabbi is not Kosher they're never going to calculate in their mind that uh he's going to the bathroom once you put the title Rabbi once you put the title leader once you put you put yourself in a position where you are the influencer of the Jewish people whether you have Rabbi title or not is irrelevant once you become an influence of the public you now have a different class of laws that are in addition to all other Jews now someone came to the bmov and was having a difficulty the bmov sent his students to different places around the world to go give to people one of his students he sent him to the tower to the town of cfim the tower the town of all types of a uh cfim but these people were completely ignorant all they knew cows farming More Cows and some more farming so the rabbi came tell me the B try to teach him but he sees these people like uh pumpkin not listening nothing the pumpkin maybe learned a little bit more it's like how do I get these people to right UPS what are they interested about oh they interested in cows so she made them a whole she about cows whole she about cows and then at the end like the last couple of minutes he tried to add a little bit of T in there they all fell asleep keeps trying keeps trying maybe to teach him about crops maybe teach him about maybe teach him about this nothing nothing's working two years he goes back to the bmov he says I can't do it I'm starting to I'm starting to worry about myself I'm not sure these people these people are terrible these people don't listen they they don't understand they they're stupid so the B had a uh to say the least but uh he uh he had a very unusual way of how he would teach his students sometimes just by sending them somewhere and M having them experience something to teach him a lesson and he told the student okay okay before I say it's okay for you to quit I want you to go to the train Center and go and touch every one of the when the train comes to the stop I want you to touch every one of the carts in the train and analyze it tell me what you could learn from touching it what do you feel how do you feel student didn't know what the bmov is wants from him but he follows instructions okay B sending me to the train okay so he went to the train Center waited waited it was very very cold outside and the train eventually arrives and it has 30 different cars 30 cars on it and he starts from the back of the train and he touches it and it's freezing cuz it's metal it's cold outside touch it's freezing touch the next one freezing next one freezing but he's not learning anything else other than the fact that it's freezing he doesn't learn anything else next one next one next one next one next one his hand was so cold he started losing feeling in his hand and started just completely not paying attention that he got to the front cart and he touched it and he burned his hand why cuz that one's full of cold on fire that's actually moving the whole train so he comes back to the bmov with an injured hand he says I don't know I don't I didn't learn anything all I know is the Whole 30 cars are are freezing except the first one that I kind of burned my hand a little bit you learned says you learned everything you need to learn he says the train has the head one the head one is full of fire what does it show you it shows you that if if the rub has fire of of of of he could even carry with him 30 freezing people to get them to where he needs it all depends on the R not on the KLA if the r has the fire that's necessary even if they're freezing he can still get them to where they need to be so another one of the attributes of a rabbi that we need to know is that Rabbi needs to have some fire behind him if he is boring everyone to death because he himself doesn't care and he can't wait to go home and sleep cuz because he's tired or all he cares about is his own learning and not everybody else's then obviously we have to change says that Kan Sanctified himself so much that he literally turned into spiritual fire his body turned into spiritual fire as the says in say what does it mean that he took him says that Sanctified his body so much he turned into fire he turned into an angel which angel angel me we're not even allowed to say his name one of the most powerful angels and the only one that's allowed to sit down he sits down and writes all of the merits of talks about it very interesting job that he has confused he saw an angel sitting he didn't know what's going on here but the point being is that Sanctified himself turned himself into an angel but the same says thatu had the potential to do even more than Kan if abrah a would have put himself into a cave into a room and just learned T himself that said leave me alone I want to learn T he would have actually got to a higher level than Kan higher level butu didn't do it and the reason why is because Abraham ainu knew that he has to sacrifice his own spiritual growth for the sake of the public one of the most important critical jobs of a of a rabbi of a is to sacrifice his spiritual of growth by focusing on bringing everybody else up not going down to their level bringing them higher meaning I'm not going to go play basketball with my students because that's going down to their level I'm going to learn Alf bet with them even though I already know Al but they don't know so I learn Al with them and I learn with them and I'll learn with them and I'll learn all the stuff that I already learned years ago because they don't know it now that may not help me grow but it'll help them and that's a good job that's like AB that's one of the critical parts of a now many times the people tell me listen but you know rebuking people it's not nice it's not this it's not that the one time called a bunch of rabbis to his area and he they had a big meeting and he tells all of the rabbis because there was a big fight among the community in those days and he told him listen I'm an old man I don't know how long I'm going to live but I also know all of you are going to die too one day I'm just asking you to not mention my name when you go up to shamim and they want to punish you for not making peace with each other don't mention my name name no we knew the is was really his name and he never told us no no no I'm telling you right now if you don't fix this you're losing all of your you're losing all of your you're losing all of your Tor so don't say I didn't tell you CU I'm telling you now was an old man he is two steps away from going to to ganeden what is he bothering with this he's fulfilling an obligation that every average Jew has place there's no leader you be the leader you see somebody driving on Shabbat tell the rabbi Rabbi please say something to him or I'll say something to him somebody say something to this guy is driving on Shabbat no I don't want to turn him off okay but he's driving on Shabbat for 20 years there's no more off than that he's married to a Goya there's no more off than that she she she's married to a non-jewish guy and she's got three kids with him she comes to the Bessa with a minis skirt there's no more off than that you have to say something I understand maybe you don't want to attack people first time they come to Sho I get it but you got to say something at some point can't allow people to go to Sho 5 years to still driving on Shabbat 5 years they're still not even doing anything to improve their spiritual status at some point you got to say something now we'll finalize with this ainu did a lot of good but in the par it says that Abino after doing the he was suffering dearly but he saw that there's three Arabs far away and he's suffering it was the hottest day in history but he saw that there's three Arabs that are not from around here and he runs to them and he begs them please be my guests now then when you look at the Tor it says what did feed these people it says that he fed them with nine of D nine is anywhere between 70 to 135 kilos of dough three people ask one of the ladies that makes Kal what's the 13 35 kilos of Kala you pretty much have enough food for a small civilization 135 kilos of Kala if that's not enough he slaughtered three cows for three people three cows three cows three people even if you're really hungry three cows no come on stake and a half already the biggest biggest guy is already full three cows to tells us that rewarded him handsomely for what he did he paid him a huge reward by feeding his children his descendants for the milk and butter that he gave these angels that really can't digest the food cuz they're Angels but they ate just for his cavod for the milk and butter that he gave him fed millions and millions and millions of abrah ain's grandkids man in the desert for 40 years the whole man the whole man that we got was why because AB ainu gave some milk and butter to three Arabs that really were angels the he gave them a little bit of water too you know to wash it down so said Ah that's enough Merit to have an entire River of fresh water that could turn into any flavor you want you want Coca-Cola it's Coca-Cola you want it to be milk it's milk you want it to be wine it's wine you want it to be whiskey it's whiskey that's the river of Miram the river of was like the man any flavor you want and it followed am for 40 years why cuzu gave a few cups of water to these uh Arabs that were really angels and if that's not enough because he served the angels that look like Arabs himself gave seven Clouds Of Glory One Cloud under their feet so they don't touch the ground and they don't get tired so they floating for 40 years also it kills all the Scorpions and snakes clouds on the right on the left that protect them from any enemies when the Egyptians want to throw their Spears doesn't even get close Cloud on top protects them from the Rays of the sun gets hot in the desert at night it gets cold so you're looking a little fluffy all the time you're inside a pillow then there's one in front of you what it paves the way makes the mountains straight makes the road straight you have like a construction company in front of you but you don't hear any noise why because Abu served the malim himself Hashem says I'm gonna send some clouds they're gonna serve your grandkids so they don't get tired and they don't get exhausted and they don't have any pain and no scorpion touches anybody and no snake nothing yeah they're going to be pretty much literally on cloud n Cloud 7 Cloud n why why all this reward I mean is this the first time Abu hosted guests no now most likely the other guests that came before and the guests that came after most likely they were more hungry than these three guests why the other guests weren't Angels they probably needed the food these didn't need the food the Angels better yet Abu did a bunch of other stuff too how come these are the things that aadh decided to feed and his descendants his grandkids and give them an enormous award enormous reward something that's hard to understand Steinman Shalom says it's because unlike all of the other times that AB ainu hosted guests before this or hosted guests after this this was the most difficult time because it was uncomfortable for him not only physically that he was in pain and Agony but it was also an uncomfortable time because of the part of the body that it was because of the situation that he was in so he had to lower himself he had to Humble himself in public on a much greater level than ever before and Hashem says that's the most valuable to me you're going to humble yourself and do my will when it's the most inconvenient for you that means you get the point that means you get the point sometimes is not looking for the that's easy for you to give for the she that's easy for you to give for the meeting that's easy for you to get to for the guest that's easy for you to invite sometimes is actually da looking for the opposite he's looking for the stuff that's the most difficult for you to do because that not only shows him that you love him and that you're going to do his mitv but it also forces you to humble yourself in front of your creator by simply submitting and saying to whether I like it or not is irrelevant whether I understand it or not is irrelevant whether it's hard or easy is irrelevant I'm here to serve you when a person simply understands and acts accordingly when he serves a under all conditions no questions asked Hashem says you get the point the reward begins already here this if each one of us simply took this into our life we can be the leader that wants us to be in our community in our house in our marriage in our work in everything in our life you make AEM number one but at the same token you go and try to help other people as well if you have the time you do it yourself you don't have the time then use money you don't have money and you don't have time then use some type of talent either way do something but at the very very least be the example yourself so at least your behavior is an example of what happens when the Torah influences your life this applies to every Jew but even more so to the ones that you would want to call your rabbis if your Rabbi acts like this if he follows this set of instructions to the best of his ability that's a good Rabbi to have if he doesn't then you have to start asking yourself how far is he away from this how far is he away from this is he making things that are simply sins from the toah or he's just accidentally you know doing things by mistake how far is he from this if he's hugging women in public you have to hire a real Rabbi but if he is just I don't know forgetful or not careful enough with I don't know certain things or not caring enough with certain things it's a different story it all depends on all the things no one is perfect Ali we were able to meet all of these conditions but the point being is that you can now use your common sense to see can this Rabbi help me because he is at least at a much better place than I am not that he's a much better speaker than I am or he looks better than I am or he's taller or shorter or whatever he meets these conditions these are the conditions that he has if he meets these conditions good he doesn't meet these conditions he cannot be a rabbi not yours not anybody else's if we started doing this we started analyzing everything according to this we could start little by little rebuilding our Jewish communities and taking our nation out of the trouble that we've got ourselves into but if we continue moving in this direction then unfortunately things will Shalom get worse the laws in New York in California in the UK in Israel in different places around the world that Hashem is simply putting on top of our heads are going to pass and it's much much more difficult to uh undo something that's already passed into law than to uh you know never let it happen in the first place as I said we are right now in a much greater danger than we've probably been in most likely since the Holocaust if not uh you know the same exact thing people don't realize it everybody's very very comfortable situation is horrible and uh if we just start taking things seriously I think there's a lot of things that we can do uh to improve the situation but uh everyone has to do something about it if if whatever you're doing do more this gives everybody a little bit of to be an influence in their community in their family in their life in their job and this helps all of am do a little bit more and get closer to thank you again for having us the amen [Music] n [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music]