I heard The Most Incredible Story

During this time period of the three weeks and right before tishab when we were discussing the idea of and I've sure we've heard many shirim about the subject I want to say over an absolutely incredible story which gave me a tremendous amount of but realiz to be able to learn from it I heard from Aron Levy Rvy reports that when he was a child already he grew up with a person by the name of Yonyi another friend of his and he says that everybody already knew from a young age that this Yonyi wouldn't turn out to be, as they say, something special. Unfortunately, his talents were a little bit bleak. His intelligence was not always on the top on the top of the roster and more on the bottom. His emotional intelligence in terms of his relationship with his friends was just non-existent. He was nothing, as you say, special. All he was more or less all over the place. He didn't have much of an interest in learning obviously because of his difficulties. and they saw that his future wasn't exactly something to uh hold your breath about. As some people uh would have guessed, slowly but surely, this yani started falling between the clocks. He started dissipating and disappearing from class and slowly but surely got kicked out from one school to another school, from one place to another place until eventually he got to places which even they didn't believe he would get to. He went lower than they uh would have ever expected and in every sense of the word he reached what we call rock bottom to the to the depths. After a while, a couple decades actually when you know two 20 30 years have already passed. Someone came into Revl's office. Uh his name was Yankee and uh he came in to say I heard that you could help me. I am a yeshiva bakr that didn't do so well. I'm already you know uh needs a little bit. I have a number of questions that I want to ask you about God and Judaism and all of all of the likes. He said, "No problem. Sit down. Let me hear a little bit about your life. Who sent you here, etc." He told him, "I'll tell you the truth. I had a very difficult past and went through a tremendous amount of what he went through." And he said, "I had tremend through all the undesirable places that I met. I was reached such a spot that I was about to completely break. I think life was reaching me to a place where of point of no return. I was very much suffering. I didn't know where I was going to go next. So I went to the hotel. I went to the wall. I went to the hotel and over there I sat down and pushed cried just like just like tishabove. I went down there and I went and I cried and I cried about my situation. I cried about my loneliness. I cried about the fact that I have no house. I cried the fact that I have no friends. I cried about the fact that I'm absolutely crushed and I have nowhere to turn. I don't see a future in myself and I was on the verge of just putting an end to all of it. Let's log. I didn't know what to do. Suddenly through my tears I noticed in between my tears I noticed there was a another man that came up next to me and he sat down next to me. I was sitting on a chair next to the hotel and another man came and sat down next to me. I wasn't a very elderly gentleman, someone in his mid30s or whatever. And he started uh sitting and watching me. I wasn't interested in talking to him, but he came and he opened up a conversation and he said, "I noticed that you're feeling a little bit emotionally drained. Is there anything I can do?" I, like I said, I wasn't really interesting, but his smile and his interest looked so authentic. It looked so real. It was so dominating that smile that I felt I've got to do something. I maybe maybe I should speak to him. I don't know. The person told me, this person that I was sitting next to basically told me, "If you're worried about the fact that you're crying in front of me, don't worry. I have a degree in depression. I have a PhD in crying. I'm very good at it. I've gone through all of it. I can't imagine you've done better than me. And therefore maybe if you can be mashi if you can fill me in a little bit of the details maybe I can help and maybe I can speak to you a few words. So I even though again I wasn't interested but I saw the person was so real and so really wanted to. So I went ahead and gave over my story. I gave over my past. This person is telling this Yankee is telling uh speaking this out. After I was finished, he gave me a tremendous amount of he really strengthened me. This guy I was sitting next to at the Kotel, he really helped me out. But I had a number of questions on God, on religion, on Judaism, and everything, everything in between. He told me, "Look, I'm not such an expert in these things. I can't say I'm someone who is a very studious person, but I'm going to send you to Raar Levy. He's a big person in he's the one that I heard this story from." and um and he said I'm going to send you to him to be able to answer these questions. When you go to Raar and Levy tell him the person who's sending you his name is Yonyi. It's the same person that Raar and Levy grew up with in school. You understand? The person that this RaI grew up with in school who himself was torn to pieces went up to this guy at the cot who was crying and he was able to go ahead and pick him up and help him and send him to the rov. Now when Revar and Levy heard this whole story, he was very happy to see that first of all he was alive. I see that this Yani is still is still alive and kicking. It's been some 25 years since I saw him last. He a wanted to see him you know a nice connection but B he said even more than that I was very misakran very curious. I was so curious to know how is he the one who's going out helping other people. Now I understand he went through a tremendous amount but at the end of the day we all remember that he wasn't the one with the cing with the utensils with the capabilities with the talents. He was the person who didn't have these capabilities. He wasn't a person who understood people and he's going around the cot trying to help people who are sitting and crying. He's going around trying to help other people that are in despair despair. How do you pull it off? I don't remember like him from that from my youth. He went to meet him and he says it was a very emotional get together. I haven't seen him in many years. Again, I didn't even know if he was around. And he said a speech this person told him this. Yani explained to Rebel Ay something that by me it was a it was a knockout punch. Something that I felt was very emotionally uh un understanding. And listen to this. He said, "You know what made me collapse? You know what made me fall? You know what made me this Yoni is explaining to Levy, you know what made me reach a point of no return? It wasn't the fact that I was kicked out of schools. It wasn't the punishments and it wasn't even the slaps that I got here and there from from people. It was words. It was nothing less than one word. More words and words and downgrading words and people putting me down and saying this and saying that about me. He said, "I I I was I being a very feeling of not being valuable, being worthless, a feeling of being just replaceable. That feeling that I felt over and over again, it absolutely broke me. It turned me into shreds and I was not able to get myself up. I went ahead and thought about it over and over again. How, if I could say replaceable, how non-useful I am, how what what's my purpose in in the world here? I didn't realize that I have any need to be existent in this world. And as a result of that, I thought about it over and over again. And you know what I came to realize? Listen to this point of genius, which is not so genius. It's just so simple, but it's so true. The reason I feel the way I feel is because of words. It's because of what people are saying, what my friends might have said to me, what my parents were saying to me, what my siblings were saying to me, what what uh what my unfortunately my rabbim or my teachers might have been saying to me, the blame, the belittling, the insults, the rebuke, everything that they said to me made me feel that I'm like that. But who says that I have to feel like that because they said that? Just because word said it doesn't automatically mean that I on purpose I have to go ahead and feel that way. On the contrary as we say fight fire with fire or we say in Hebrew meda he said I decided to pose war. I said I'm going to face a war. If I was destroyed and battered and tumulted by words then I'm going to go ahead and fight back with words also. So then and there I stopped. I got up, wiped myself out, and decided that I'm going to go ahead and every person that I see is in a little bit of trouble in the middle of the stair, I'm going to go ahead and build them up. I'm going to encourage them. I'm going to pick them up from the place that they are, and I'm going to show them that they're worth much more than they think they are. And as much as we know that words destroy, words can create, right? We all know the expression. So, if words can recover someone from the place that he is, I'm going to be that one that's going to do it. Many people hear Shirim, this is him speaking. This is still Yani speaking to the Levy. Many people hear Shirim on not embarrassing someone on being appropriate, giving too much criticism. But in the end of the day, we don't realize that it's just the simple words. It's the straight feeling down, speaking down on someone else or giving him just that feeling that he's just, as I say, worthless or replaceable or how much you're really not needed to be here. that just shoots a person down in his tracks that he's not able to build himself up. But when a person realizes that it's as they say only words sticks and stone may break my bones but words may ever hurt me as they say. If a person realizes that it's just from there he can use that to go ahead and return it to other people. Give them a compliment. Give a praise. Give be supportive of that person. If you had a machine, if you had a machine that could print money and it was completely legal to print as much money as you are, Lusel, if you were the president of the United States, Obama, Trump, whatever, you go and print as much money as you want and it's all legal. If you had a printer of money to be able to print as much money as you want. So, and it didn't affect your financial situation cuz after all, you could print as much as you want. What would you do? Wouldn't you go to your relatives? Wouldn't you go to your friends? Wouldn't you go to those people around you? All those people that you know could use a little bit of money, those people that really are looking for a new car, a new house, or looking to be able to build up their financials, and would you go ahead and print up a few hundreds and hand it over to them? Wouldn't you do it? Why not? You're not hurting yourself anyways. What's the problem? So why do I have to be so stingy? I have that printing machine. Yani said to the Svar and Ley, I have that machine. I went through a tremendous turmoil. I went through a very difficult childhood. I went through words that Kabio put me down. I'm going to use that same instrument, that printing machine, which is the most technologically advanced machine that I have to go ahead and build up other people. I have the machine that's going to be able to go ahead and build as many people money. Money comes, money goes. I can go ahead and give people money. But to give words to build someone up, that's endless. You can't do anything bad. you can't do anything better to get their self-esteem back in place to replace their their their me is is something that is irreplaceable that can only be given by sometimes someone who went through what I went through and therefore as you know he said to his old friend he said to him I'm not a person that understands psychology my emotional intelligence was kind of at zero I understand that I wasn't one for understanding other people but I have this one weapon that I use and it works like a charm and I do it all the time. I tell people a how much they have and b make the same realization that I came through. The same realization that what that it's just words. The reason you feel the way you feel is just a matter of a manifestation of difficult words that were thrown at you. Why you making it a manifestation? Why you making it real? It's words. Leave it alone. Don't go take the same thing and utilize it in a positive sense. Go ahead and help someone else. Empower yourself by going a home and not just being quiet, by giving someone a compliment. Don't be a kapan. Don't be stingy. You have a machine that can dish out a lot. Why you have to be stingy? You're only stingy when you're limited, but you're not limited. You can go ahead and give that positive, supportive praise, that compliment. Go ahead, give it to someone else. Make him feel good. And when you feel make him feel good, you'll feel good about yourself. You don't realize what the gumar says when this all finish. But the Gumar says that we all know that when we're in the emo when a person is in his mother's stomach, you can't talk. Your mouth is closed. It's sealed. You're fed through the station to as we're familiar with. And the right before he's about to come out into the real world and his mouth is about immediately about to be open gives him a slap right on the lips and says, "Be careful. Watch out what comes out of this mouth because this path is much more powerful than you think it is. You have a walking revolver that's sitting on top of your tongue and you're able to destroy people and you're able to create people and you're able to use these capabilities to make yourself realize that wow when we're sitting during these times of tishab we're sitting and sitting on the floor we're sitting in our difficult days whether it's fasting or whether it's not eating meat and going through all the process now listening to music and all the things that we don't want to do and we're going to talk about and it's very But take it in a very practical place. Let's take it and see what I can do for Yana, for the other guy. Let's take it a little bit more beyond than just keeping our mouth from not eating and what we put into our mouth, but a little bit about what comes out of it also. Okay. Yeah.