If You’re Crying Then There’s Hope | Rabbi Daniel Kalish | Parshas Vaera - Blue Ridge Mishmar

a few a few years ago I see it a few years ago and I was to go to so it was number of years ago Danielle and I went to and the B was reading the par and the term Civ like struck me that and it bother me this word we have all different names for it's a it's a what's the the word like struck me so I was looking during the laning I was looking in the I like looking in looking what the what's what's being expressed that took us out of after there he came and I asked to maybe share with and all over you see say so he says I want to say and he said over that I like a lot my M this year P we were we were eating m and and and somehow breaks out amongst the kids this is M every home in the world Roma lettuce this is M and everybody every everybody likes the the other the mar that's Mar Mish the Romain lettuce M bitter it doesn't and then in Every Family there's like shus how bitter do you leave out I always get nervous that you can't make a on the on the wor radish is it even Roy so I've made it on my own a number of years I leave it out much to the shagrin of my kids because you leave it out for a while and then it's the same like Roma lettuce it's just kak and you could chew it but I get worried if maybe that's just me I'm a softy if it's if it's very very bitter it's Kat not edible you're making a so it's very not P to um to make on that said there was like in the family on on making the M on the rain lettuce the the horse radish m is broke out and my son yob said that when the M's very he said that I like the I bka like the Roma lettuce and they said it's not bitter so he said when things are and you like move to tears about your maive it's Ackle you know things are going to change if you're crying from your pain if you're in acute s from your pain see you're daving it's a big things are going to get better he said the worst type of mirus the worst type of bitterness is it just you just accept it and you're like stuck hopelessly in it he said Roma letest to him is like the worst m in the world cuz like at least it's bitter it hurts it's getting your angry he said to him the of L us much more and he's to the r because the r says that means we were that we just got used to it there was a certain type of Y that CL was like a civil they were CIT and it was a certain type after decades and decades that it like it it almost there was like a plainness to it a Yos a hopelessness people just like Shrugged it is what it is that's big said that he brought that it says that he said said the same thing said M came and caused cl to cry he said this Z thing he said that CL so many decades of they stopped crying about it it was just like by and it says the same is they were going to S they weren't even crying it was just like this is just what happens after 86 years of sh torture was like expected pain and this is ridiculous it's not the way it's supposed to be and that caused clel to cry to feel their pain it's interesting when I went there that's thead of Civ years ago I went there it's so four years ago a guy gave me a letter beautiful person gave a letter and he said you're Yeshiva is hurting people the letter said that perhaps I think Yesa is hurting people you're acknowledging people's struggles you're you're creating the struggle if you'd ignore it so people push forward and he wrote that the sh is causing tremendous Problems by acknowledging somebody struggles you you're being he wrote a letter a very scathing letter so this year the guy comes to me he comes to me say sh you recognize me so I said yeah you're the guy you I I read the letter on the plane four years ago said you're the guy you gave me a letter he said are you mad at me said no I like you but I'm a very sensitive guy for some reason in I get too much covered there are a lot of our guys so I always expect on the plane ride back for the last many many many many year something funny always happens so that year this was a skating letter it was like good I wasn't so sensitive it was a good so I read this so I told him you're the guy who gave me a letter I told him I liked your letter B it was intelligent you wrote it very nicely so he said I have a new letter for you this I didn't wait to the plane I read it that night I didn't wait to the plane there going to be gack he he he asked M he said I owe you an apology and a thank you I apologize I attacked and I thank you that I had stuff I had to speak about and it hurt me that other people were speaking about their stuff I have since felt my pain and feel my pain and I'm getting help and through guys that you have with I'm working on my suas and he wrote a whole letter he wrote he wrote a beautiful letter about his successes today but this ver describing the C when a person just accepts he was like he was M feeling doesn't say what he tells wasn't a specific thing he said what did he say what did he respond he understood it and was there and presence to the plan of the response is they cry out and feel the pain and process and work through their suas and cry to hem and of course theam answers the prayers but that's the taking out of Civ that a certain place a person can get to that they're just and they're like ignore their the Roman lettuce to the to the pain it's an interesting M to that they just ignore and accept and pretend like it's not so my son loves it that's I think everybody will eat Roma lettuce of more Gusto now the Roman lettuce the in the the Civ that it's not so bitter just that's in a way the the pain of the the pain which you which a person feels and presses it's so difficult but the person's handling their SOA is busy with their sua from that space they but in the space where the yid is pretending and ignoring and it's dominating him but he's he's ignoring it to me always when a b says about difficulties I'm past it I'm always like oh no I'm past it I'm I'm past that's a dangerous word that's a when a person's there's a whole SCH told us this summer stickle from the balem beautiful beautiful stickle from the bem and he described in the balem he describes he describes bases it on a that I'm feeling I'm in the that I'm not has a I don't run away I don't ignore I don't pretend like it's not I'm in the mat you gave me and feeling and processing it of a person feeling what they're supposed to feel going through what they're going through not ignoring I find it in the I find it very very Stark it's so interesting to me I I want to listen to some music often and I don't turn on music I I'm driving in a car I could I always would put on something a little music a little and it's so interesting that in music should be for an who needs music more than everybody else should be us in musican music is so interesting is so such aish who needs to dance more than an no what's that is saying feel what you need to feel that's like from the days of to the everything points a person that that are we're not a people who ignore what we're supposed to feel it's very the very set up that you feel what you're supposed to feel and's not shaving maybe he's the one who should sh no live and be present and and and do what you feel you feel be present to what you're What's Happening by you don't ignore it well the are set up that way and what points is a people who feels what they feel we're not into Civ we're not into like that's a that's a negative of the G is called civil when people are Cil and ignore and just that's not what we're into we're into feel what we need to feel I wanted to I wanted to share with my friends there's much to share but coming back from I wanted to share a specific a specific has that like just amazes me there's a said said medu said he's worried he said to hasem when you promised adish that you'll never destroy the world again when you made promises to that you'll never bring a mble again you'll never destroy Abu then sees different Kings their country is getting destroyed and now you could have said the promises the whole world shouldn't be destroyed Abino didn't learn that way and he sees countries destroyed when the Four Kings defeated the five Kings and then ultimately the Four Kings are defeated he sees cities destroyed what happened to the promise of the mble that you wouldn't bring destruction again so Abu says I understand that the promise made to n came true in countries ofus that were worthy of This Promise made to n and countries that weren't worthy got wiped out says I'm nervous you made promises to me that I'll have descendants that are big sadim and the promise will only be to them but AB says I'm not willing to for to to to leave out one I'm not willing to forget about one yid I'm not willing every yid counts and says hasem he got nervous and he says I saw you made promises to n but it's not true in all his descendants it became true in only the kusher ones the best ones some worried promises you made to me will only be true in some of my descendants swears the that I'll send sh it's the the armies Protectors of for every I'm not letting go of one yet swears it's what we say the shield of protects and guards every and every counts sends armies ofik to make sure every year a chance to serve hasem there's a special for every special value of every and this what hasem swears I've been thinking we just had three come back home I asked myself I'm curious if if what the holds did you have kidnapping you know in no war there's no such thing as kidnapping if if someone wants to argue with me I'm not like a big Bucky and I know there po W's that's up prisoners of wars in the Russian Ukrainian Wars anybody like a great plan of War why don't the ukrainians kidnap a couple of Russians why don't the Russians kidnap a couple of ukrainians cuz there's no Shas to the war you kidnapped very and by the way if they have a prisoner they're holding isak it's not a tactic of War to kidnap a couple what does have to do with the war it's no different than the the Army's fighting you can't now I don't say say your country likes when we've had Americans kidnapped by Russia America's not happy and there'll be a lot of posturing and yelling and SC it's not kmak it's an indignity but it's not a tactic of War because who cares cuz people aren't losing sleep American was kid it's not a g people will run around the media will scream but it's not it's not a it's not a thing there's only one people you capture a whole country if you take a those so I never heard of so you know a country could attack AR you don't need an army if you capture one yid and they all know it then then it's big trouble for us Kat don't need to fight you need to take aid there's only one people in the world like this and and I'm aware that it creates problems does H likes him the hostages family do we there different day they going to kidnap others it's only because of a people that's not willing to be M on one somebody's taken from us it's a huge you can you can Mish like handicap a whole country we're the only people in the history of the world it's true matters we care about every individual they no extras there's nobody by us that we're willing to say there's no such thing in our world there's no such thing in our world we care about so this is this is the sua this is mish the sua we're in middle of the the value of every this is the celebrating whatever anybody's we're not called for the celebrating a few people coming home coming home that's the of our nation not willing to forgo one I watched in a we have a yes here in Durham Connecticut in Connecticut we have Yesa and we send guys we look that after guys should Contin that journey and literally like 10 years ago we we were stuck we didn't have places the exact fit for guys to go and I've watched send it's like you're talking about stuff shows up from shows up he describes to me a certain type of yes he wants to build described to me it was a beautiful idea I asked him is it possible you could just take all our guys and he says yeah you I'll take you he showed up he ends up he's taken hundreds of guys it's a miraculous place a gorgeous guys becoming B I saw a k this year that came from is new K starting aella then he decides he wants to start teaching Americans who learned here 25 years ago makes the and I just watched like so many and each guy goes I watch kept his promise armies of I meet one more beautiful than the next this one's learning with I watch my own son has a second this this this Mal I don't know where he came like made my son should have first second different Army ofik to watch people's Journeys and the right people come along at the right time the right place who puts people where they're supposed to go but specifically that hasem sends armies of sikim that each year should have opportunity the right people the right place the right the right people to guide the to experience it to see that he that to every year I'll send in the right time in the right place I once told the a story that I was in Pennsylvania once told the during Co that I was in Pennsylvania and I went to DAV with the minion it was during Co and and somebody asked me I was the first guy at the minion that doesn't usually happen I was there early I was I was in my fill in and the guy said do you have the co vaccination like oh so so so at the time I didn't the no political I'm not saying what I have now and not no de but I said I said no he said leave the minion like I felt very M I drove back in my I felt very like just frustrated embarrassed it's not so you get kicked out of a minion you it's not like the best feeling ever so okay I I got kicked out Jo I go back to the hotel was staying and I was like fresh has one why I still like in Pennsylvania I'm safe the guy tossed me out of the minion I don't have my vaccination so I go back to the hotel was very early in the morning for me that means like 7:30 no it's I think I got to think it was very early mom isly but the K I find a spot to D about 6 6:30 I don't remember what time I find a nice place to D that's it okay I was kicked out of the minion I start Ding and a man sits near me and just staring at me for a long time watching me down so I finished diving I'm like like hello like he want something the guy was Mish staring turned out he was a yid beautiful yid he he he was a little slow wasn't you know beautiful beautiful mid and he he he has a little job he has aella at that hotel we were staying at he dries the dishes a few days a week that's what he could do the Cups the glasses even the dishw he explain to me why they can't put them in the dishwasher and they have too many of them it wouldn't even be say he dries the dishes when they come out of the wash he dries them that's his and they pay him some money he said pun came early today and he sees a year another year I'm also a fler weor he tells me we spoke about and it made me appreciate and I have a lot of history with myin and this meeting this year was a kindness hasem I was clar hasem kicked me out of a minions I would have this year and we banded very deeply and he told me he puts on and he said comes to the hotel once a week they meet here and he puts film on him I was moved here's a guy his washing he's not the is not expecting like a lot of money in return I promise this guy is not he's drying the dishes that's his stellar and some comes to put on he feels excited byin he was staring at me wearing my he wanted to tell me he's also Ain wearer this that that sends to give you chances to learn to learn's you meet you see people's journey and you to see the howad show up all different types of sadik show up the right sadik for the right you see that this promise that told that I'll send and I'm not you see a we're watching the we're excited some more should turn back only and to to see the to see more come home the excitement of Y belonging home safe by us wanted by us were unique people we're unique people even to watch negotiations it's like V to to watch this what one gets exchanged for is only because we're the only people there's no such thing in any other um if you have one so give us one back swap back one for one but yes you could like you hold our whole country it's a deal the crazy extortion by us because if you take our child our son our daughter you could extort the world from us cuz it's our daughter it's our son and it's the of the value of were excited I couldn't believe I I heard a recording from one of the three had a recording to her friends I consider myself one of her friends so I listened to the recording she sent the recording to her friends Emily she said I'm home I couldn't believe that's what she's saying she's she thanked Bez with the help of God I'm home that was the first recording she said to her friends she wanted to put out there with the help of God I'm back home that's a y such har experience the first thing first thing she wants I'm home so I say to us I say to all of us are learning the value of and for us to be recognizing the value not not being no parent in a family if a family has seven kids they don't say at least six are doing well they're worried about each child there's no extras in the Mish there's no normal same person they're that all their kids are doing well if one is struggling so it's a big b that's our people that's our that's we're not the type so at least we're worri we're unique people in the world the of our nation is the value of we're celebrating the return of K and we want to make sure that is welcomed by us if we could sing together people experiencing [Laughter] perfect for [Music] [Laughter] [Music] y girl y be [Music] [Applause] [Music] Bab [Laughter] [Music] y [Music] y girl y girl [Music] baby show I want to shareat with the my friends it's on I want to share an idea that occurred to me in learning par I'd like to share this yank if I want to share this with you an idea that occurred to me yet you'll tell me what you think about this sees two fighting he sees two fighting and he says to the Russ he says to the guy hitting what are you hitting your friend the yid yells back at you g to kill me are you going to say to kill me you're going to kill me with your Deber Like You Killed the MIT M gets afraid the threatens to tell Rashi brings a a that is afraid because of since that and maybe there maybe we won't get the the Gul because of won't get afraid now I know rash's first the thing going to get recorded back to the m rash means a rash say for a long time why is CL SW but now I know now I know that stand there bothers me a Cas what bothers I have a few Cashers I'll ask the simplest Casher my is afraid that because so what is he obviously if he's worried that we're going to stay in Gus it means because of it's worthy to be in Gus what's he saying big you like excited about such a terret you know sometimes you have a cash on a it's there's not a good like for years a while oh I'm so relieved I have a good ter like what's happening what's he if he's just trying to say that lar puts us in Gus it says v he's afraid that because of L not what was he like yet to what's happening the when he was here I offered him some some cake I offered him some I asked I want to give the Shiva some food some lunch he had he had cake in front of him he said no no no I want to bring the lunch no no no after a few times he said you're right bring me lunch you're right bring lunch he like he was Mas so then he asked me a funny question he said what are you bringing me like the question I like caught me off going am I bringing you like we're going to start discussing the menu I said my wife has cogle I remember she had a noodle cogle at home his wife has noodle I thought this is like a really awkward he's a pish at so my wife is noodle cogle so then he says what are you a he points to the cake on the table he says what are you adding things got really awkward like my wife noodle Co real I started telling about my rice noodle Co like I it's a lot better than the cake I don't know how to like it's a really Delight FL like this kind like the conversation got very awkward where I'm describing how delicious it is you a lot of the bom like it I like it was just very like uncomfortably where that discussion about my wife's noodle Coke like where he said a few times what are you adding I'm trying to describe how delicious it is he's getting freshman what I think R Fishman was in the room I have to ask him if he remembers I think he was in the room he's what are you adding I'm describing the the noodle Co how good it is it was getting awkward finally he said like five times and I what he meant and I figured there's a gar that says bread with bread pza noodles all the time like what's the foolish Babylonians they're foolish because they don't see the food as an ends for itself you should enjoy food we should understand it's giv starch starch they don't see food as a way to get he was saying what are you eing I have starch already I need a protein oh there sh need like you got it like I'm not talking about you guys noodle coule I don't want to handle how good the cake is I'm not handling all that I just need a starch I said I'll bring tuna lucky I knew what a what would be a protein I'll bring some tunin oh I like it he wasn't talking the quality of the tuna he just wanted he has a starch he needs a protein that's how he sees food so there's like you taught me it's exciting like I had a cash for years was in but now I'm excited they deserve it very I I'm very troubled by Fu in the dress but I'll tell you what it looks like to me here I want to say what I read in these years sees that clell is not royy you see T he sees our beautiful people you think he wants a terrce to that Casher the only terrce to such a cash is G itself sees a beautiful people beautiful people if somebody sees a Tata beating up his kids and you have a cash you see a precious cute kid says oh he's a troublemaker yet do you understand your it's the stupid is he's a cute kid you're right the only answer I don't know that the only answer is the should be on the kid there's no answer I promise this if you see a father beating up his kid he says if you see a cute kid you're seeing right say up what a kid there's no answer no no no you don't understand he's really hard he has C say I it's not easy a cute kid you're seeing right for years all of a sudden he's afraid says why am I afraid all of a sudden for years he wasn't afraid and all of a sudden he says I'm afraid about he says now I think because of makes us see on and it makes us say we want a cash we don't want a ter to this Casher we want to see beautiful yid and we should see beautiful yiden the danger of lash is that it gives you a teret to the Casher you say R we don't want the only terrets we want is Gul and the task is to see a Precious and Beautiful People don't accept any and don't say you say makes us all think that's not a good ter the ter we want is ghoul and no other terets we want we want yiden coming home and we want good for yid there's a famous with the with the with with the at the man they came time to ask the four cashes he started crying like crazy wouldn't stop the whole say they waited after 20 minutes 25 man he gets up he said four cashes he starts balling he said you see the lady down the block and Al Mish go do so much you not have P you see a person needs a children he starts crying about suffer he said I have many cashes think he wanted like a ter no no you don't he was very smart but he knew that but he saw beautiful people the only TS he wanted was yesu so I want to give us all we should see good and we should have if we see difficulty with not it's a should answer our with and yes but our task is have the cash to see good to see a beautiful people that wants the T wants us to see good in his that's for sure no father wants no father wants say I see your kids are bad he wants to have a cash as beautiful bam you have so the we'll do that by avoiding by avoiding negative talk in our people we should see good in our people should be to the yesu that come from that good us