Inspiring Your Yom Kippur With Charlie Harary and the Project Inspire Staff

[Music] and hello everybody and welcome to the T the the Yom Kipper event from Project Inspire the radio show that we're going to have today I hope everyone's doing well hope everyone's having a great time in your preparations for yum Haner hope everyone had a wonderful Rana and this should be a time that everybody is really ready to go and they're right here 48 hours before Yom Kipper the holiest day of the year and here at project Inspire we thought you know what people are running around today there's a lot to do and sometimes we don't have another night to go out and we're sitting here at home and what do we can do tonight watch the debates I mean I think we should spend more time and yum Kipper especially seeing who's at the debates but like what else is really going on why not have an opportunity to hear from different people to hear from different r on him to have a chance to get a little bit more closer as we get closer closer and closer to Yom Kipper so hopefully you'll join with us the whole show we've got an incredible show for you tonight we have every Yosef Eisen here who's going to be with us right now we've got clips of various runam and chabis and and Chua drers that we've been able to cut out we've got yessie Freeman from AR T we've got guests here we've got an entire packed show we've got Dr abitan coming in at the end of the show that's going to give us tips on how to prepare properly from a person who's a gastro not from you know what I heard from my grandmother before the for before the fast we've got uh Isaac gross coming there we've got an entire lineup here so I hope that you stick with us for the two hours I hope that you're with us and hopefully over these next two hours there'll be something that that you take that'll get you a little bit closer that'll give you a little bit of inspiration something that'll bring us a little bit closer to the bonusem that you'll take in and yet you'll have and hopefully we'll be able to accomplish that goal here I want to begin right away by going to my co-host out in Israel yassi Freedman are you there yassi good evening Charlie can you guys hear me okay we can hear you wonderful we got yussi Freeman live from Israel yusi what time is it in Israel right now it's uh 3:35 over here and as I sit here I turn around here to the cotel and uh I see about 500 Jews um saying you might hear the uh the singing behind me um and it's a pretty inspirational time to be here at the cotel just a few hours ago there were thousands and thousand thousand of people I'll show you later on I was able to take over here Charlie that you you'll get an idea of what it like here really overall you know if is is a time to be thinking about um chuva and what it means to really become serious to watch these Jews many of them not religious at all come together to sing SAS together as a group um has really been uh very inspirational not to mention that my office opens up to the cotel UN what an amazing office I can't I can hear the chauffeur are they blowing chauffeur right now at 3:00 a.m. at the cotel they blowing chauffeur you know those long Twisted chers that it's unbelievable so what's it like I mean just give a sense to all of us here in the diaspora in America give a sense of what it's like we're all doing our own Parts we're all going to shiur and going to slas and doing whatever we can be doing here in America but what is it like just give us a taste of looking outside and seeing 500 Jews from all over at the at the base hdda right as close as we can get moments before y well I let me not describe the 500 people behind me now but I'm actually on the rooftop of asor as you know and uh up here there were a group of about 25 Sim who were up here saying as you know Charlie all too well that the here fromes already SP here saying it too I've been I've been doing it for a long time I feel like I'm saying SAS forever so we we got it all covered over here and yet and yet tonight some of them here you know put on yamakas just moments before they started really seriously you know singing out the at the end and uh it's truly it's truly an amazing feeling to be here at the co harab at a time like this you know what I always think about when I think about right before Yom Kipper and tell me if this is the feeling over there you're by the coastel you see the different types of Jews and what what always gets me is this deep understanding that a yid has that no matter where you are in life you can always at a moment come back there's no distance there's no Road it's just what's going on inside and when every time I come and I see people coming in that may not have been to Sho before people that are getting to Connected that may not have been as connected before I get so excited because they are the proof that we should know growing up we should all know even if you've been doing it for 40 days even though if you've been doing it forever the idea that you can be in a situation where you are uh moments away and someone can just come back at any moment to their bonm is just so inspiring right and then you know Charli I'm s here like I mentioned on the roof of Asa Torah under a B on top of a b medish of guys of hundreds of guys who have found their way back and it's really we'll talk about this more by meeting people who have been involved in the chuva process throughout but it's really inspirational to spend this time together with people who have spent a good portion of their adult life finding their way back to re uh it's really it's part of that inspiration of being here at this part of the world at this time amazing one of the things we're going to be doing today for people for those who watching us we're going to give you clips of different um Chua dras that we've been finding that you've you've been looking at y I know that you've been spending a lot of your day today trying to find the clips and cut them so let's do the first one right now I want to go to so your first clip that you have that we can play for people at home to get a little bit of um of of a little bit of chuva right you know in in um in going through these clips um we found the first clip was really the uh from Rabbi schaer from the Schmo who's all all too well known and um he has an amazing clip of we change we Chang kades and uh I I pulled this clip for I pulled this clip for all of our viewers to see tonight of uh of RAB schaer amazing we're gonna go to R schaer right now and RAB schaer is an incredible individual I know I've had the opportunity to really um to really hear him and to be with him he's unbelievable so let's go right into our B shaer Kipper during the days between dur we changed the language in we no longer say we say when we refer to hem we refer to Hashem as the king the holy king and the Mish explains why it is that we change the language because during these days fromer is demonstrates shows his Mal shows his monarchy and his rulership that he alone rules over everything you see during the course of the year it's very difficult to feel hashem's presence during the busyness and the activity that we call life it's very very difficult to feel Hashem here but during a CH it's much easier and Hashem demonstrates himself if it could be Hashem reveals himself and a person can experience AEM in in a way that they can't experience Hashem any other day of the year the pelites gives a mush he says imagine you're standing there with your eyes closed and a man brings a candle now obviously you can't see the flame because your eyelids are closed but you sense it you're aware of the light he explains that's AA I could sense Hashem right here and I could experience Hashem to an extent that I can't the rest of the year these are magnificent days they're tremendous days in which a person can accomplish worlds in which a person can get closer to Hashem in which a person can experience Hashem but you have to open your heart to the days you have to prepare for them and you have to use them as Hashem intended us to use them very true and the idea that we have these opportunities right now that we don't have throughout the rest of the year is something that all of us I think could take really to Heart these are the mo these are the moments this happens sometimes in life there are moments where you can do things that you can do in other moments right now we have the big we have yosf Eisen here with us Eisen is the r of K Torah here in flush he also the head of the B of in the five towns and he's an individual who has been inspiring people and watching people and taking care of people and thinking about clausell his entire life it's an honor to her eyes and thank you so much for joining us in the show thank you very much for this tremendous opportunity Charlie it's great to have you on and I know that this is you know right before yum Kipper this is the moment where this is the moment where so many people are interested in what's going on and how to get connected and what we can do to get closer um in order to um right now before we get to Y Kipper so what are some of ideas that you may have for people that want to get close especially now or right beforehand what if somebody wasn't you know doing anything until now what what are some things that you can tell them well you know that type of a question of what do we do with these days these counted days hours back in Yeshiva those very special days I remember remember every year of pal would Ascend to the podium and the first thing what he would say is that he doesn't call them y days of awe you know that sort of could be a little bit daunting he calls it y wondrous days Days of as you said of tremendous opportunity these days are days where we literally should be grabbing on to every Mitzvah cuz every Mitzvah in the these days are just so great in essence they become exponentially so much greater there's a great story that I think that the audience would really benefit from theer an AR yum Kipper in preber he turns to his daughter and he tells her I need you to follow through with an Mission there's a yum and he is here in prur that I want to have them engaged to one another so she says tati I'll take care of it right it's AR of yum Kipper right the first thing after yum Kipper we're going to go there he says no no no he says now now is the time that I want you to go go right now she takes the be line right to the yim's house and she says I'm on to hear a mission for my father we'd like to present to you this is he says you know he says amim you know that I would like to continue a path of learning he says I have no money I can't marry a pennil that's just not going to work she rushes back to her father because he's seeing something which is sensible he can't live on ear the holyer hears what his daughter has to say and says go back and tell this yam that I guarantee him that he will be missing nothing for the rest of his life she goes back to the Yim the Yum hears this guarantee from the holyer and he immediately acques the postcript of the person that writes the story says that he said towards the end of his life this he never became a rich man but he was never lacking anything wow because of the BR of the now they go back she goes back to the girl and she says I have a great for you this is a sh that my father thought of immediately she Embraces the and there they are and kala she comes back to the is ecstatic he now has fulfilled his thought of what is a perfect by that time time already the Sun is setting in walks in the to quite late the entired cber waiting with baited breath where is theer the first thing that the Gabi does as a trustworthy gab he shows theam for the clock he says you're late and listen to what theam says to the Gabi he says you're worrying that we're late to call nidre he says in shim they do not begin col Nidra prur until I say col Nidra wow and he said it so as a matter of fact not to worry the Gabi he says the Judgment did not commence we have to say now then it will commence so listen to this Char the holyer that was able to say with a matteress that shamayim is not beginning anything until he says those words of K nidre he was seeking Aus in these days wow so I ask you we have an opportunity of a of a favor to a person that we could do for a person a St check that we could write wow an extra for we got to grab it we got to learn you know what's so amazing about what you said and it's so I hope and pray that if you if you're watching this or you heard it if you do nothing else we just started if you do nothing else but you tell over this Mya it's a total blowa away and here's why I'm so moved by it and I want to delve with you a few minutes into it because I always thought and I think this is what you meant by pal that the the the the feeling that I have is this overwhelming fear this Yom Kipper for so many years from me is this you're just not good at enough and Charlie like please like don't no one's faking in in shmay you know what I'm saying like we know and yum Kipper's coming and you better be ready because when it comes it ain't going to be pretty and it's almost like you're paralyzed because you're so worried and what you just said was the exact opposite you said paralyzed unbelievable and even the the my isn't just in you should be in obviously but you're saying any M that's T unbelievable I want to tell you unbelievable I was went to the Mikvah of shabas and here is a guy showering and he switched the Dove shampoo his flavor dove with my regular Dove and I had happened to have the guy cell number I call him up and he said listen you know you took my he says I'm returning to right away is I said but I'll bring go back he says no no he says leave it there I said there's not a chance it's I'm going back to the Mikvah Charly and I'm under my under my breath I'm saying unbelievable unbelievable I said I saw the story before then I said this is this is incredible it's an opportunity today it's it's wondrous and I think that that's what we have to really internalize during these days unbelievable I saw something I want to ask you about because you just brought up an idea that I saw recently I saw somewhere I don't remember where that it was written that if you're lucky during a maybe you have a source for it that the K is going to put you in situation or someone's going to offend you and you have a chance to be MAV on your mid so that he could see if if you're going to be MAV so that he can be M so what you're saying is in this period of time even if people are hurting you just being just not getting upset just holding back anything that you do in connection to being a better person is magnified well the sources are the gar at the end of yur talk about the different that actually fac facilitate this opportunity for others to be but one of the things would always get up he would quote the in the first and he would say that the sh is presenting us with the I believe that's the language of the of the what's this exactly what you said if there's somebody that you need to bury the hatchet with Now's the Time that would be his yearly appeal to the entire seore no great thought provoking right messages so but it's it's more than that you know what we're talking about how wondrous these days are these days are are a days that with one small cabala and maybe we'll talk about some practical things yeah one small cabala could literally change your life think of the picture you ever have a picture in your house a heavy picture and you figure out what are you going to do you go to Home Depot and you buy the different hooks 25 50 lb 100 PB you take that 100 PB hook you drive it right into the wall and now you take two or three people to hang up the picture that's a cabola the nail wow and what does it hold up it holds up the picture and what's in this picture there's the sea there's the horizons there's the birds there's the flowers there's the animals just roaming free everything could be held up by that one little one little Caba and the remage that the sadik give for that Isam says I ask from you one thing one small cabala and really it's said in the following language of that's how small the cabal has to be but there's one provision in that you know did you ever did you ever so Charlie ever so anything come on admit to us did you ever not successfully my son just got married that's we had that uh ma and he actually called on Arab shabas ecstatic that he actually sewed on a snap wow wow but to his amazement at the end he called my wife and he said there was one problem it was perfect but it was the opposite way that sounds about what I would do so the how do he how do you thread a needle says our vidda Miller R vidda Miller it has to be through and through the Caba could be a but it has to be through and through has to be real it has to be real yeah it has to be real yeah so it could be two minutes early for daving it could be calling up the person that you have a grudge with and forgiving him it could be deciding that you're not going to talk dispar Mar ragingly about any family member imagine that you know what's amazing with what you're saying here and this is so and that's all that that should be the ca but it's so great what you're saying and I hope that people are really taking it in as much as I'm because I what you're saying something is you know what happens sometimes in life whenever we get to Yum Kipper back to the way yum Kipper is I think in the way you're saying not for it to be is you know deep down what your cabala should be right you get to Y Kipper and you know Hashem loves people that know Shas by hard so my this year is Shas and you tell Hashem listen Hashem you don't know it cuz you're getting into it right you have to it's marah and then it's Shak and you and you're getting all worked up and you're getting through the the singing and you're getting into the of and you're like and then you think yourself okay Hashem it's gonna I'm never going to get upset with anyone that I'm related to and I'm finishing shots and I'm going to be the best person ever and all my money's going to stuck because it's j Kipper you're don't going to do anything and you go and you go and El comes and you're perfect and then you get there the next day and you go I can't do any of this and what I'm hearing you say is that's all a distraction You Can Be Inspired but if you really want to make a cabala you got to take that moment of inspiration and don't be something that you're not to your point of the needle find something that really is going to move you and that will be your nail right right so let me share with you what you just said what I heard actually in the Young ear of Redwood oh wow the young Redwood youngest of Redwood just just for knowledge young of Redwood is the good old canari sh where I grew up that's right I even remember where you sat Charlie oh when you were sitting right right when I was sitting which was okay so anyway I heard from the rabbi there that said that RAB salant actually echoed and he said if you have cabis to make take the one that you could tackle don't tackle don't put the list in such so high on the shelf that you can't reach it wow write the list of things that he could grab and Tackle wow and that is the real way that a person could improve wow I know we're running at a time can you give us some practical what you have in terms of practical tips and ideas so let let me let me share with you a some a thought or two of what I said by the shabash V please you know one of the things that we become frightened what you you said we we become AED yeah but there's a a secret that Rish actually tells us in the gar on at the end of and he tells us that there is a key in taking all the times that we have faltered all those moments that we were challenged all those moments that we were distanced through the things that we did and we could take those things and actually use them as a catalyst to come closer how Chu May Chu May the gar says takes all those shortcomings that we were really vulnerable to and it turns them into actual MH through what through AA then I added that's it's a very beautiful formula right brass AXS how does that happen how does that PR how could I grab it great Rish has saved the day right but how does that happen so I said you know how that happens that happens with a small little paragraph that we say six times on rashash right B it's all about the relationship Rish is telling us really something incredible Chu Maya means I'm saying Hashem I'm here I'm making an announcement your son has returned wow to just have a relationship with you there's an incredible story and perhaps where we could you know get to the conclusion with this that there was a yid his name was he was an old Russian immigrant that came to and became one of the in and he's sitting around during this time of the year talking about the famous RAM and peric Bay CH about the r talks about CH and the ram really doesn't State what type of a Chu are we talking about but in peric Zion the ramam does talk about about it he says what does chuva do Chua takes a person he uses language that was he was distanced and in one moment today you said this earlier in your introduction that's what you love about that that vision of the Kil of people coming just coming back in the drop of a drop of a dime right and the ram says and today you become a an A and those are the four adjectives that the ra uses you become beloved you become a best friend how does that happen so the people were sitting around and talking to this Y and he says they don't understand this how practically could there be a transition that we could actually fathom that we could actually relate to that the rambam is telling us that yesterday you were distanced yesterday you were you were Cast Away you were so far you were so unconnected and today you become an A A A so he said I will tell you the r says he says you know that I grew up in Russia he said I came back with all my children except one one of the boys just did not follow me and my wife for the last 20 years every night we go to sleep our pillow is never dry the amount of pain hurt and anxiety that we experience because of that one child is unbearable but he said may it a li Al let the heavens and earth bear testimony if he would come through the door right to second is we're speaking and say tati I'm here I'm coming back he said immediately he wouldn't have to say nothing more than tati I'm back I'm here your son is with you again all those 20 years of pain all those tears that are immeasurable would be disappeared and dissipate and never exist never nothing he said now you understand the ramb my friends yeah you got to come and say tati I'm here that's all you that's the best wow RAB so that's what we're that's what I think we're at I think on Kipper we have to say and you know what the two BR how do we remember this how do we do a you know what is I said at the Dr yesterday n doesn't only mean closing it means to lock up Nim the foot fits firmly into the shape of the shoe mhm you know you lock up the the young Kipper of what we've been talking about you just got to take it with you in a way where you just got to practice every day in you got to look and say the two bras that are dedicated to chuva ish that's there's no one tati I am here and the rest will fall into place Rabbi that was incredible thank you so much Rabbi Eisen for those that are paying those are listening to here I I mean I think this is it you can go in like now and this is only we're only starting this is how we opening up the show the idea that someone can come back at any point and know that there's a father with his arms open is unconditionally yeah that's the difference between Y and right that idea Rabbi thank you so much for being here good thank you so much we're gonna go right now to yessi fredman he's in Israel right now uh we're going to go to him he's going to show us he's with Rabbi Steven Berg and they're going to show us what talk to us a little bit about what they did last night in this incredible SAS program take it away AI earlier and I'm here with ber the manal director general of as Torah I mentioned that we say good evening and good morning good evening and good morning is right um but last night actually uh we we actually spent uh time at an amazing program here in the h building it's it's actually amazing time in the h building yeah I mean the program that we have just have to about the old city of there is last night I would say there about 70 or 80,000 people at the cotel every night it's been about and uh tonight tonight tomorrow night for you tonight for us uh there be over 10000 people so many people City they thought it was important people that may not know about understand SOS and we have something called SOS in the old city and we do a couple shows tonight we have well over a thousand uh Israelis that come through many secular Israelis that uh don't necessarily understand or know anything about it's uh part play part part music part blowing chauffeur led by and the the folks from a Israel it's absolute blow away I would say in the last week we'll probably have a good 10,000 people uh coming through our building to see the you know you know what was amazing about also is that the groups keep coming just you thought you like service the Israeli crowd there other groups that come in and people are just blown away uh I was sitting in the crowd and you just watched to different types of people and different types of head coverings or lack of head coverings and the men and the women just really connected this time of year really the harab spectum and the truth is I think people Israel come to the old city it's a little bit like going to Washington in America although a much more spiritual area here it's kind of like the people come and uh this year we had a very tough year a lot of Terror attacks here in The Old City we had a terror attack today I just drove by there earlier uh and a lot of Israelis did not get the chance to come to the old city this year it's really been been terrible and now to see hundreds of people back here and strong you know right now strong they'll be going strong the most uplifting right and I mean just to share with our with our with the folks back in in in the states um we we I put together a little clip I was so I was so taken by the program today being there with you know watching over TL gold U speak and and sing together with the crowd Group after Group after group um I want to show the the folks in New York um just a little clip Charlie um we just put together special for you so you can see you know what SAS looks like at is Torah thank you very much I appreciate you making me feel jealous waiting for the clip here I think we're going to cluee the clip right now um we're going to play uh the clip that yussi's been talking about with regards to the SOS that they're playing right now at the cotel of course he's sitting there with Rabbi Berg um and they are right now still at I think it's like 3:30 in the morning over there and the two of them are I can hear in the backdrop um so people there let's go to the clip [Music] [Applause] sh [Music] wow that looked amazing Yi what was it like in that and Rabbi Berg what was it like in that environment over there was it electric in terms of the people that were there from what what we saw it looked like you guys had hundreds of people there and they were really enjoying themselves what what was the the feeling like from Israel you know it was just you know there were people that were crying in the audience there were people at certain points they kind of jumped up started dancing it was electric like I said the entire Old City right now Jerusalem is on fire just waiting for you know that Bas Mish to to drop down on on the mountain right behind us um and and you I got to tell you last night for me it was unbelievable I look down and I hear chauffers and I heard something different and I saw kotas I mean they literally had kotas blowing them the the horns it was just all inspiring yeah I actually um I was sitting at my window in my office actually and I looked out the window to see this massive CR of people that were that were uh just you know say um I actually put together Charlie I actually I actually put together Charlie I actually put together for you uh I I was at my I was at my uh window actually looking out the window and watching hundreds of people just saying together I couldn't help you know it's like one of those camera moments so again this one's special for you appreciate it we're going to go right now to that clip uh that you've been talking about let's go to the clip right now wow that was unbelievable gosh I am joined right here Russy Berg it's been an honor to have you on thank you so much for all that you do we're going to come back to you in a little bit um but that was an incredible incredible vision of so many people at toot I hope everyone here in America has got a chance to see that continued incredible work stick with us um throughout the show but thanks so much for all that you do and for your correspondence from the holiest place in the world before the holiest place of the year for us you bet we're here joined right now with an incredible individual Josh Brody is with us in the studio right now um Josh is an individual who is um Regular ffb from from birth background is that about right yeah no that's right okay and in many many for many years you've been involved but in particular with project Inspire with jwrp with Asia Torah you've had the opportunity to go to Israel um and be really active in terms of showing Judaism and and really reaching out to people from um different backgrounds Give us a little bit about your involvement in Project Inspire and your involvement in JP aor in the past few years yeah sure so I guess it was about three years ago uh Rim Barnett who I met a couple of times you know called me up and asked me if I wanted to go to lunch so we went out and he told me about this trip that they were doing to terrol and asking me if I wanted to be a city leader and I had absolutely no clue what I was getting myself into um just thought it'll be a small trip with you know five 10 guys um wasn't until we actually got there I realized there about 140 guys on this trip um and it was sort of an opportunity for me to take a group of a small group of guys from Long Island about Five Guys was the group for Long Island group that year um guys in their 40s 50s with married with kids um and it was sort of the beginning of an opportunity where you know you take on this amazing trip with these guys which you may know a little bit about um and you start to forge a connection with and you really start to you know come very close friends and when you come then when you come back to the States it's um you know sort of more of the same you start you know learning with them and the like and I went again the following year um took another deck last year we took 10 guys um and it was just been an amazing experience sort of like start to really connect with guys who were you know not had the same opportunities I've had to uh you experience yish guys W and and you know sometimes in life when you are you know a lot of times I think there are people watching that is they watching it right now now there are people that are um less Affiliated getting more active getting more involved incredible in that way some people are watching right now that have sort of been um their whole lives been Affiliated right they grew up in certain yeshivas they've this is you know yum Kipper number 50 right this is they never know they've never known a life without yum Kipper and someone like yourself um who's come from that world what does the involvement what does the exposure what does the connection with so many other Jews bring to you as you now go through your own chuva process this year you know it's funny when when I spoke to to Yakov ginar on Friday asked me if I wanted to come by tonight um so he kind of mentioned this to me I thinking myself I I didn't really know really what it was that I would sort of mention that giving it some more thought over shabas like something really profound kind of dawned upon me you know I guess a regular sort of you know ffb Yeshiva guy so you know Yung Kipper y NY were always a little bit you know a little bit of trepidation a little a little bit of um you know you you're worried about it because you know it's hard to get through and it's the kind of thing that you don't necessarily feel connected to you a little bit of scared fear just like it's you Kipper you know Kipper you two words or less is you know tired and hungry right right um and almost dying right spiritually and physically and the one thing that's been amazing to me is over as I've involved the last couple of years is you know when you're sort of trying to introduce Yiddish kite to somebody for the first time so you naturally focus on the positive things things that you you know really connect to that make you feel good and what's happened over time is that sort of you know enthusiasm has just sort of gotten to me and it's been the same thing for rashan yipper too where you're thinking about chuva but you're focusing so much on the positive and so many wonderful experiences that you have that when it comes time to come closer to to Hashem because it's you know it's you own Kipper you're not focused so much on the oh my gosh I've done so many things wrong it's more wow what can I do better for Hashem because he's doing so much for me right right and that's I think that's you know we had R Eisen on a couple minutes ago who was I a total incredible knockout I thought he delivered such an incredible message that really resonated with me as he was sitting here and I think that's something that we people need to hear a lot more of I think the idea that yum Kipper should not be a day of scary yum Kipper should not be a day of Hashem is upset with me and I'm not good enough so if I can just tell him that I'm going to be better even though deep down I'm not going to be better somehow he'll buy it and then by the time he'll realize it we'll be through sucus and it's too late cuz the the gates are closed versus what I think you're experiencing and what you're seeing especially anytime I have the chance to meet a Jew who's interested in Judaism who's I mean this is all I get from them right I get this incredible positive vibe of this is positive I love this I'm interested in it and many times I think we have to take a step back and I think and tell me if you have the same experience from the background and you know you're not a rabbi you know you're well- learned you know you're successful you're an attorney you're a partner in a firm so you you have sort of a little bit of a different experience so you get the people that are both the balab botam out there and at the same time you understand what's going on in terms of the RM especially when you talk to regular people who may be listening right now and I find and I I'd love to e your thoughts I find this almost this like we don't allow ourselves the um the pleasure if that can use that word to just go in positively because we have so much guilt and Hangups for not being more so when we go and and it's almost it feels guilty to say hey I'm going to go into yum Kipper positively it's almost like really like stop being so panish like do me a favor do you know what you got you're either abandon you're a russer you're getting a d or an F you know what I'm saying like do me a favor you're not sitting behind the podium right you're not giving the jush like you're you're just a guy so tell me in in a way how you grapple with that and and and what you're thinking of as you're walking in so that people that are listening can say hey wait a second maybe I could give myself the ability to not go in with the guilt and allow myself to to focusing on what you're focusing on yeah you know it's funny I think that a lot of and some of my friends the thought of going into y Kipper like on on a positive note they feel like I can't do that it's not fair who am I like you said it's guil like I have no right to do that and and I'm not you know it's not something I should be doing um you know I think a lot of it is just and this is again I got from you um in terms of just overall positive thinking and how that type of approach is going to make you better than negativity right like you know I always say at work right the the the best way to get somebody out of get the most out of people who are working for you is to make them feel like you'll do anything for them and instead of scaring them right because when they feel like you'll do a lot for them they're going to want to do a lot for you me know things positive energy I think it's the same thing when you're approaching chuva you're approaching him Kipper that hey you know look I haven't done it right but I I just I want to do it better and whatever whatever that is but I want to do it better and when you focus on positive it just it makes it easy you don't feel have the guilt with you um when you're trying to make yourself into a better person yeah R Eisen I know that we have we have to go soon R Eisen told over the story about the dad I don't if you heard this from him I I was I know the story about this the dad who he knows whose son had left the family for 20 years and he said that if my son would just come through the door it'd be all good and I think that if we would have that perspective if we would have the perspective that we are so beloved in God's eyes and if we would just come through the door meaning in in in our own Hearts right like not just go in there and do whatever the job is to get it done but to actually have those moments like you're saying I think it it would be all the difference if we would just let ourselves have them right and the funny thing is like if you really keep your eyes open you have them all the time I say today I took my 17-year-old son suit shopping for yff um so we drove him to the garage in Brooklyn and uh garage I haven't had suit wow I got my wedding suits from the not my wding I got my o suit from the garage yeah by the way they have the same suits really um so you know it's it's like a 45 minute drive from from farak and as we get there right as I'm driving down there I know I have a limited amount of time I see some guy pull out right in front and I get a spot literally right in front and so my immediate reaction this is just the way I've sort of train myself is wow does God love us my son looks at me he's just like yeah he does like yeah he does so like when I come to Brooklyn like when I you know we're we're taping live out of Brooklyn for those that are watching so when I pulled in there's no spots it's Brooklyn so I'm going Hashem please just give me a spot and God's like please Charlie like there's only so much I can do like relax you know what I'm saying like I can handle a c there's no problem but get to a spot on Brooklyn so I circled and park like you know close to my house in wood and I walked so it was okay Josh it's always great to have you on thanks for what you're doing really um for those that are watching us from home and and and listening to this on the radio you know one of the reasons why we wanted Josh to come on is because of the role model he is and M going to embarrass him a little bit because I can because the mic is on my mic um you know it's really important when individuals like Josh who's a partner in a big Law Firm takes the time out to come with us to Israel to inspire people to give his kishkas to give his feelings about Judaism and and a lot of times in life we think that the people that should be doing the inspiring are the rabbis are the people that were sort of in in the they're professionally cure of people and we forget that some of the greatest impacts that we can have is when everybody gets involved and people like Josh where he sits in the business world and the legal world is is in a place where where I think he would have the excuse to not come and get and get involved in help but you do it anyways and we really appreciate it thanks so much that's my Kar for yeah okay right exactly I embarrassed you so it's all good thanks so much really appreciate we're going to go back to Isel right now um yusi is still in Isel right now yusi had been preparing clips for us um and he's there with Rabbi Berg and he has an incredible clip that I want him to to introduce back to you yasi in Israel right as we sit here it's now almost 4:30 in the morning jolly and SAS is still going on at the coast so you should hear a chauffeur blowing very soon um regardless I in going through the um some of the clips I came across a clip from left we know from M he brings up an interesting point you know we do chuva and it's cabal you know you're supposed to you're supposed to accept upon yourself never to do the a again but then kind of end up doing it again so he wanted to know in this clip do we did we not do Chu on it just because we did it again I wanted to share this clip Charlie with you guys because I felt it was a very um it was a very interesting clip in terms of the rambam and doing CH with with regard to Kabal okay we're going to go to our by left right now uh we're going to play that clip for you that uh that that Yi had um cut through so let's play that clip after you regret the sin you stop doing it you have to commit yourself not to do it again and uh the RAB says that that commitment has to be so strong most until the Reish who knows all hidden things will testify that you'll never do that sin again that seems to be very frightening because it seems to imply that if you ever do the sin again then you haven't done Chu so ra explain that it doesn't mean that if you ever do the a again you haven't done true it definitely I don't want to give the impression that's it's okay to do the a definitely is ideal if you don't do the a that is the ideal but if you do the a again it's possible you've done TR how so if it would just be that you never did that a again and that's when the chva is complete right then why does the Reon have to testify anything just wait till you leave this world and then see if you ever did the a again if you didn't you know you did you and if you don't want to wait you want to know it on the spot then what does it help with the Reon is going to be made doesn't tell you so what is it what is the difference what God testifies either you did you didn't do and you can't know ahead of time even if the testifies it doesn't testify to you so no say what it means is the follow that if when you finished off the CH with this component of and you made that commitment that you'll never do it again you really and at that moment you were so committed that if you freeze that moment in time you CH never would do that a again you come to El y Kipper and you're really really uh involved in children you really feel it and you decide that this year you're never going to speak wasar again and you really mean it and you Rec on yourself you you regret the lanar you spoke last year and you uh uh commit yourself you're never going to do it again and you say right I'm never going to speak lushan har again if at that moment your neighbor would Pat tap Pat you on the shoulder and say uh you got to hear this juicy gossip that I hear you punch him in the mouth I then do CH for that but in any case pun what are we talking about I'm never going to speak L again I'm committed and finished then at that moment if the Reon contest can know how strong your commitment is if you can freeze that moment in time never do the a again then that's an incredible um is Yi with Yi still with me in Israel um so that was that's an incredible concept that Rabbi LEF just spoke about um I don't know if we got we have him in Israel if we do start talking to me over here um I just want you good you here um and is with you what an incredible first of I want to just say thank you to Torah anytime I know I know you were cutting clips and Torah anytime had given you some of those footages so I just want to give a shout out to T anytime and thank him I want to just take a second because you cut an incredible clip that I don't want to get lost on our audience here her was saying that if at a moment that you're doing TR but tell me if I heard this correctly when you get those moments where you really feel like you've changed it's at that moment that you really have changed is that how you took it he's what he's saying is that if you could freeze the moment that Hashem could say Aid this on you that you really meant to change and that at that moment you would never speak lashara again you would punch a guy in the mouth if he wanted to tell you know you juicy then then Hashem is made that you made not to listen to again wow and and that's whatab means and therefore we do an a again it doesn't mean that we didn't do Chuan it the first time that's incredible that's that's that's an incredible concept and an Incredible video and thank you guys so much for over there I know we're going to get back to you soon um for some more updates as to what's going on in Israel we have back in the studio here in Brooklyn we've got Roni zakutinsky is in the room over here um we spoke earlier about um Josh Brody was here and we spoke about the trips that we take to Israel um the opportunities we have even there I know Berg is in Israel right now he's there as well and and and as the as the head of H the CEO the mon whatever the proper term is we we spend a lot of time at the building we spend a lot of time with as it's a real partnership you got project Inspire ASA toor everyone comes together a jwp to come together to to inspire people what I want to turn to and ask you now for the audience here is you know as someone who's involved in kir is someone who spent his life uh helping people what do you see in people that as they go through the TRU a process that inspires you as you go through the TRU a process you know you see people change their lives right I'm always I got to tell you the most inspiring people of the world people that I meet on these trips are people they they're incredible they're incredible people they change their lives they they they they make real changes they go back home they they they change how they treat their children they it's all a total chuva process what are you seeing that inspires you and what you what do you take with you when you're going keer you know I first of all Charlie it's a pleasure to be here with you and to bring home the message of chuva before the Y the Y hadin before y Kipper I just want to say the following that you know it's only by the grace of Hashem that we're born into the families that we're born into and we're born into the families that have educated us and it's a challenge for us perhaps even more than the people who are returning to Chua because when it becomes routine and it when it becomes and it becomes that you're doing the same Mitzvah you're doing the same daving you're doing it regularly every single day every single chabas is the same chabas every single daving every single time we put Onin it's the same time we're putting Onan however when you see a new person who is a new Bala who's trying trying to make changes in their lives whether it be shabas whether it be kasis whether it be Fillin whether it be putting on a yamaka for the first time keeping cous for the first time to them it's something momentous right it's something that something is special to them and it gives us that means I always say that more than it does for my family to give over to somebody else the beauty of yish kite it does more for my family more more than it does for their family it does more for for my family and gives us it's mik us if I think a message to the community to give the message to the people who are out there is that when you reach out to someone else you think that you're being marari of them they're really big Mar VI yeah I think I think it's an incredible point I think people are um we sometimes forget just how much our actions really impact ourselves right just how much it it it it changes us as a person right I think that my life has been I I just want to say one thing that you know I go back uh many years I was raised in New Haven Connecticut and uh in a small little town and I remember my father on Russia Shana going to blow chauffeur uh in Yale New Haven Hospital after daving he didn't make Kish he didn't start eating a sauda but he went to the hospital and used to shlep up and climb the stairs 10 St 10 stories you know is a very tall building in y New Haven Hospital going blow blow shower for the you know the people who were sick there was no chaplain there Etc he just took it did it on his own I think that made a fundamental uh impact upon my life with regards to how I want to care about other Jews and ultimately when we see them coming back and Charlie you know the stories of the the people that we've affected the people in I have to say in Brooklyn that are changing their lives sending their children to yeshivas changing their homes to become kosher now keeping chabas etc etc it has had an indelible mark on the community here on the people that are now partnering with them to being their Torah learning Partners inviting to their homes for shopice ETC that there's a real somewhat of a revolution going on in the community that is really making a a a real difference in the Outlook of Kyu today within the I would say the Flatbush Community Etc yeah oh that's definitely true I think what's happening today um here in this community and here in the from Community from around has totally changed and that a lot of it was the vision of no um and you know speaking of Noah I'd like to go back to Israel I know that Ro Berg and and yasi are back in Israel and R BG is the um some someone who's really got the vision from both his his days in ncsy and then all that he has done now at at ASA Torah and rberg and and yasi give us a little sense of what you guys have in mind for next year what you guys are thinking about what are some of the things that uh we're we we can expect from Asia we should be looking forward to as you guys tackle and in uh um this incredible opportunity to bring more and more Jews closer to Hashem you know we always we always talk about H but the truth is our full name is Yeshiva asor and I have to tell you Yeshiva is literally on fire that's not just a pun we just started this SP and we have over 20 young men that are in our SM program and I would say at least half of those young men uh probably did not grow up knowing an Olive from a bay and to see people with such a limited background that have made a commitment not only learn Torah but to one rabbis and if you walk in our basement M right now you're going to hear Spanish You're Going to Hear French you're hear English you're we're literally we're a global uh institution and it's just it's been incredible to watch and I think also what's what's amazing is some of these people that are in the SMA program are people who grew up from all their lives and they get to watch people who made a commitment you know uh just to worldwide and um he was a professional baseball player and he made a sh brother for Shane a boy here in as who got married it was a special B plan to watch people who kind of like had it all they had their careers they gave it up to something that we sometimes take for granted especially for PE people who are in the speaking program people who you know like ourselves who get to watch this it's really it's quite inspiration yeah it's outstanding I have to tell you we had the other day we have a program called mothers with meaning which is imot IM and it's isra and I sat there and we were talking to them and I said I just want you understand the context of being in AA Torah you're talking about Shimon Perez who just passed away was a chairman of H fellowships I told them the room that they were standing in at the time was where prime minister Nano helped grandson at his brisk and on the roof where we're sitting right now we just had the speaker of the conet Julie Edelstein uh his his uh this a place speaks to everyone and one of the things I said to them was I said you're in this place place we have always reached out to the highest levels of government I said but right now we are focused on the Grassroots and that's what this these programs have been about the Grassroots Israelis turning them on to Torah turning them on to Judaism and really lighting the fire across this country I mean also I mean the concept was for so many years that like you know Israelis it just they're so difficult they're so politically disconnected they don't want to be connected and to watch Israelis come into the building and be this inspired asan isra one woman's tonight my life she said I'm Israeli I've been here my entire life I needed the Americans to show me how to be Jewish and because of that approach that c of approach that flows out of North America it is really taking hold here in Israel um they appreciate laidback approach that that that Simka that joyousness of of Judaism and um thank God we're being very successful here and across the country right and um the truth is as as we we sit here as an organization sitting here in your there are so many um partners of ours that are that are in the states and you know even back at the studio I know that Charlie is uh you know has uh been so many trips through this building but now Charlie has the opportunity to uh uh to introduce to somebody who's been a partner V Tor friend of yours long time friend of V with all right Charlie back to you guys in in New York thanks so much Jesse thanks so much R Burg it's an honor to hear you guys talking to get it back from his joining me right now in the studio is Mr Isaac Ross and Rabbi Kim Samson um two individuals who are at the helm of project inspireing a lot of what's going on in particular for those of you who are anywhere you're seeing tons of advertisements and excitement for a project that's going to take place right after y Kipper called the shabas project it's a project that has United communities from all over the country all over the world and has really brought thousands of people throughout the entire United States to an exciting uh observance of shabus and understanding of shabus between all the stuff that goes on and it really was um powered by these two people that are in front of us um Isaac thanks so much for joining us and Rob Samson thanks so much for joining us as well so give us a little bit as to why the shabas project I know that you're an individual who has been um a leader in the community there are hundreds of people that are getting you for your time and asking you to get involved in projects so you have there's no shortage of things that you could have got involved in but yeah you picked this how come well you you know uh my involvement with r and my uh uh love for ASA Torah has been many many years no used to spend shabam at my house whenever he was in New York and um he basically changed my life and he changed my attitude um and he brought out something very important uh the point is that um not to just pass by somebody that doesn't have the same uh feelings for yish kite that we do and to understand and deal with them with a compassion and a sense of it's our responsibility to God's children uh used to use a great example and said can you imagine if you had your neighbor and his son got lost and how you would help your neighbor find his son and I recall many years ago if you remember there was a case where a bunch of girls from school went to a certain Forest out in Rhode Island or Massachusetts by the tipte by the border and this girl Suri Feldman got lost and I remember I got a call from one of my uh banking Associates from Chase Manhattan B Bank who called me up and he says he lives across the street and all of a sudden he couldn't understand it because every week there was a school kid got lost and all of a sudden this Jewish girl gets lost and a thousand people in 24 Hours come searching for this girl incredible and he never saw a sight like they says sometimes we have and not even a parent shows up and here in one day in 24 hours you have tents being put up cooks and ATA and everybody across from all over the country coming to look for this Lost Child and it got me thinking and it got me thinking could you imagine your neighbor and could you imagine especially now that we're talking we're in a s made cha which is the closest point we can get to the r and we can bring his children home we can find his children help him bring his children home that's what it's all about why do we see it as Su Feldman and we can't see it that these are God's children right and we don't bring those children home and when I read about the chief Rabbi from South Africa Rabbi Warren Goldstein who on his own valtion decides to do a chabas in South Africa and has 25,000 people celebrating a shabas and then I remembered something else R Noah said R Noah said quoted I think it was Rak that if one person was created like Adolf Hitler that was created that can do so much evil could you imagine how much good God created into a person and when I read about Rabbi Goldstein that one person was able to bring 25,000 people to experience a shabas and I said to myself this is R Noah's dream about waking the sleeping giant right let's take this shabas project and take it throughout the world right and I contacted Rabbi Goldstein and others and we got the shabas project and this is going to be our third year and last year we hit over a million people celebrated chabas in one form of another and they never forgot it I know my own experiences from people in my office and from people that I meet and people that I know it changed their whole perception of shabas once people used to say Mr gross when are you going into your cun I got to know how long do I got and now they've experienced it there's a respect for they understand this is you know they they understand when I say to them you think you're free I'm free right it's not a burden I'm free for 25 hours is I don't have no cell phone no distractions I spend $225,000 on 25 hours on spirituality on myself my family my children my grandchildren what can you do right you know it's interesting you say that and I love to get Rabbi Samson's opinion is it's interesting to say what you're saying that I think a lot of the reason why especially before you Kip or people get nervous is because all of us have a comfort zone and we all know Hey listen this is what I do and I can't do more I got it I'm okay God hasn't Zapped me he hasn't killed anybody I'm okay i' I've been living in my like you said almost like my cocoon for so long and I do what I do I don't do what I don't do and to come out of that comfort zone and do something new do something better that seems a little bit too much hearing you speak you in the business world I have I'm in the business World well I I know your reputation and how people look up to you in the business world I can only imagine somebody who's next to you going hey wait a second if he can go out and he can go in and nothing's happening to him right he's not losing his job he hasn't he has his career hasn't cratered because he stopped becoming available for 25 hours so a lot of times I think in our own chuva process and I'd love to get WRA by your position on this it's really just us saying hey wait a second I know I do what I do but maybe if I just tried something maybe if I just pushed it a drop maybe I could be a little more in your experience you've been doing k for so long I always say I remember the story when you when project just started I was one of the few people in the beginning and your vision and how people you've seen do you find that when people can get over that hump do the the doors open up yeah I mean for sure I think it's true of all of Odis Hashem that k b who just wants us to try and and everything starts with that and uh as we've spoken about many times with no always used to say when you think you can't succeed so he would put his arm around our shoulder and say if Hashem was on your side if he could help you do you think you could succeed and we were we felt caught of course if God would help us then there's nothing that you can't do right so that when you have that awareness and that's really the the high holidays the days of a all about realizing that a bar is close and he's with us and even though that's the ior of all of our vs Hashem is that awareness that there is a a KES somehow through our lives we sort of tend to forget about that a little bit and we need that rash that power these powerful that bring that back but what comes with that awareness is realizing that you really can't do there's nothing you can't do so so so those things which are most uncomfortable whether it's Chua in our own Chua our own the difficult things that we're struggling with yeah you can do it but the the ier Even in our V is to try try to do something that makes sense but you got to at least try and I think during this period of time they need us and and there's a beautiful thing if if I could share with you Charlie I said a beautiful thing I know you're a fan of the Sham but he talks how during this time period that we we've you know we've all done it's part of a little bit of Being Human but our attitude towards our is really what's being tested during this time period he said imagine you were mean to the king lack of cover to the king you really blew it with him you made a fool of him and then you see him again he's right in front of you and you act like nothing happened the sh points out that's worse than the itself if if it's as if you did nothing right how can it be when the king's right in front of you when we do a that's often because there was things pushing us there was a little bit of onus but after the fact after the tyer is gone after the G is gone whatever it is yeah then what how do you feel about it and when Hashem is close during the cha and you don't regret it that's that's why the is Regret it's the most and hasem sees that we regret it and we want to try to change that's the most important thing the trying to change right that's the most and the regret so likewise right yeah if the king is in front of you our father of and his children are lost like Isaac was saying the K boro's children are lost and we're in front of the king what are we going to respond are we going to react to that when he's right in front of us and his children are gone are you going to say something are you going to respond you can say I want to Almighty my father I know my brothers and sisters are lost now is the time that I'm going to say make a commitment to you to try to reach out surely now is that's the time a try yeah and before we go to Israel I want to turn to you yeah you're going to say something I was going to say two things and in addition number one there's a great letter that was written Toba when somebody wrote him he was a m a teacher in school he taught Russian children this goes back in the 1970s and he writes the letter uh the rebba letter and he says he'd like to ask the Reb's permission he wants to leave because he's totally not successful that he hasn't had an effect on one Russian person and the rebba and it it was great language to see the Reb says what is success who decides what success is you think successes that the boy put on a kapot and a black hat and a garle that's who decides what success is your job is not to decide what success is your job is to to teach them two things teach them there's a God and teach them they're Jews that's it the rest is up to him it's his problem that's great you've planted the seed that's one the second part and uh we you alluded to it previously this is not about Yoni said that as well this is not about us as much as what it does to us right could you imagine sitting around the shabas table and I'm sitting there with my two daughter and my son and this 14-year-old Russian girl who's spending chabas with us and she's telling us how she can never eat a whole week anything kosher in her house because her mother will not allow any koser food in the house and she lives all week on vegetables and the only hot meal that she has all week is when her mother allows her to go away for shabas wow and my daughters are listening to this 14 year old girl and my daughter looks at it and says well what do you mean can't you put no my mother doesn't allow anything kosher in the house she doesn't believe in it the sacrifices that a child like this makes you know what kind of Ro what kind of impression this is on other girls It's amazing And when you're and seeing that I have one of the boys that I was very proud this week called me up to set to me Mr gross and his name is mendle Berlin and I'm mentioning him because he sends out a block to 6,000 people every shabas every Friday he sends out his div to this is a boy that didn't even know he was Jewish W I think that's what it's about I mean it's these small little things that and he five CH four children and you look at that and this is not you changed one person you changed Generations yeah and there's a tremendous great feeling that these are your kids these are my grandchildren you know looking at in that sense and this is what we have the ability of doing and it's a small thing because they're hungry for it yeah absolutely I know that we've got uh Yi Freeman and Rabbi Steve Berg in Israel right now I know they've got questions for you as well let's go to Israel for some questions for Mr gross and Rabbi Samson so first I just want to start by apologizing to Mr gross I hung up the phone with him two hours ago and I told him I was going to sleep and I never actually made it there so uh I'm sorry about that but I I do want to mention one thing and I think this is this is really important given project is far nature Torah um you not be aware that Mr gross uh really helped fund the pro the shabas project here in Israel and I spoke to Rabbi Goldstein who is an amazing person and a good friend uh Chief Rabbi Goldstein came to Israel and was not sure how to get the shabas project going here in Israel uh and he told me that he connected uh with h Israel and our secular Israeli women that are part of a group called mothers of meaning and they were actually the Catalyst last year uh these women and you talk about anyone being able to get up and Inspire and to grow and to build and the fact that you know Mr gross from Brooklyn to our Israeli women uh here in Israel through the rabbi in South Africa that is really what the Jewish people are all about we had 130 shabas projects last year in Israel amazing wow amazing it's incredible so let me ask you this and and and if you guys have a question great if not I have got a lot of questions we don't have a lot of time but I wanted to get this from you before uh we move on um a lot of people may be watching this seeing you seeing you going okay these guys are the heads of you know always the heads make the biggest difference maybe I don't have the resources I don't have the time I don't have the expertise I don't have the Charisma I don't have the knowledge I'm a regular guy I'm going to go to to him Kipper Hashem hopefully will forgive me and I'm going to go back to my life now it's a s me Chua I'm getting excited I want to make a difference this year what do you tell a guy who doesn't Fe or a woman who doesn't feel like they are the influencer to make sure they know how important they are to our effort the first thing that I think we have to ask ourselves why doesn't it bother us why doesn't it bother us that when we see our Brethren and these are people that grew up it's not their fault this was Generations whatever happened whether it was a holocaust whether it was somebody going off or whatever the reasons were I mean if you live through a Shamus project like we did last year we had the boy that was holding the Abdullah who had 39 tattoos and when I asked him why do you have 39 tattoos and he said he served in Iraq and each one of the tattoos represented one of his friends that got killed in Iraq that's what and we had him hold abdolah and we find out subsequent the shabas we found that we connected him with his grandfather who he never knew because his parents were divorc so he never met his father's father who in unbeliev I mean this is unbelievable the satisfaction that you get and you have to you know just try it you know it's like somebody telling you try something that's will be so fulfilling to you so great um all the things that we do on it one of the questions you ask why shabas it's interesting because everything came to place when I read this article about Rabbi Goldstein why shabas and actually I was learning at that time safer yo and there's a passage in Yo which says basically that God says to Y you know everything I can live with they're doing aora I'm not jealous but one thing I can't understand is why they forsake shabas and I was thinking to myself 613 Mitzvah and why is God picking shabas so I started looking at the ma the say it I don't remember exactly who said it but it's very simple you see shabas was there before the was chabas was created before the Torah was given it was there and the essence is if somebody keeps shabas or somebody sees shabas that will change it in everything in every sense that's the key get somebody to buy off on Chavis you got them amazing well on behalf of all of C I want to thank both of you really thanks for coming us on the show and thanks for continuously giving people the opportunity to get involved and I'm sure people will be inspired and I hope and if you're around and you're listening to this get involved in the chavas project and make the commitment before y Kipper we're here we're inspired we're hearing it whatever it is whether it's a Halal or a shabas meal there's a lot of opportunity to be involved but the time is now to commit to right after after you Kipper the shabas project it would be a great feeling if people can invite somebody for that chabas topend chabas if we can help you please contact project Inspire we're here to help you don't worry even if they're going to ask you a question that you don't know just say we'll get back to you we'll find out there's nothing embarrassing with it to the contrary it's great you're human yeah and yeah I'll tell you one story because then we got to go you know people get so nervous about not knowing answers so Lori patnik who is you know a legend into her own tells a story that she would go to rabis and ask questions and they would come up with answers that never really sat with her and she went to one Rabbi in Israel Rabbi it wasn't RAB no it was somebody before him cuz he knew every answer and he said she asked him a question he said I don't know she's like what he goes that's a great question and she said that at the moment where they see the rabbi at the shopin said I don't know she's like hey wait a second like I don't got to be perfect I can also be on the road and that understanding that this person in front of them was just being genuine opening up the home letting them in without having every single answer actually was an inspiration to her so just to just to say just to put it together young Kipper just thought that you know we know that uh that you know when we say the we say it in plural right and certainly we understand that like the said to when we connected to then surely the on us is lesson the it's it's we see ourselves as part and connected to the rest of Claus Ro and we make a commitment to our brothers and sisters is so far gone not only we should be doing TR for ourselves but if we can help others do truver we can make that commitment surely the dinner on us will be so much greater and I think that's what the um they say that isem he's like his shadow what do you mean he's like his shadow you know so the term ver explains that if you you know have ra on people if you let things go during this time then Hashem will let things go but so all the more so if you make a commitment to try to bring back K B's children during this time how much more so has going to help you with your ch ch and your children with your TR so certainly in answer to your question is this the time to make a little bit of a commitment even if it's hard for us even it's just a matter of like like Isaac is saying it's just a matter of caring yeah if we can choose to care enough yeah then but but realization this is not about kir this is not about kir this is more about saving the Jewish people we're losing a million people every year a million children are assimilating every year understand that if you put those numbers together Hitler wasn't so bad right look what we are losing y abut that's what we have to remember we're saving the Jewish Nation yep and what we're going to do now is we're going to go back to head Jewish Saving Nations headquarter back to Israel yes R berer there um we're going to we have a new clip to play for people so those are sitting around we're going to actually play a clip from ra Shore um so uh y you found the clip y give us a little bit as to what you had in mind in the clip that the people can expect yeah I mean first firstly I just wanted to uh thank Mr Isaac Ross r Samson uh Mr gross's company GFI has been a sponsor of the shabas project and uh been a partner of project Inspire uh Roy broke when I was going through some of the clips you know one of the things that jumped down at me is that um we say to ourselves like okay look I do so many good things I do so many mitzah I do so many but do I really have to do all 63 mitah like like isn't it enough that I do and by the way people that are coming back to tr school all the time like isn't it enough that I did this or did that and I found a beautiful clip for R it's a little old you guys have to forgive the quality a little bit but the message is uh the message is uh is is quite amazing and Charlie uh has another clip that I think will inspire you so here we are about to get the clip right now I'm Robert mure and I want to thank again yassi for your hard work in getting these clips and getting it to people so we are going to um just just we're going to clue we're going to cue that clip right now so those that are sitting around uh is ready to go here we go let me tell you over from the and I want everybody to listen very clearly to this m because it's every single person needs to hear it there was a family that lived says the AL with children outside of a town in a hot freezing cold in the winter no fire no wood one night the cold was so bad they started to look for wood and they found the train tracks and they decided there's no many tracks what'll happen if we pull out one piece piece of wood nothing so he took out one piece of wood went back home made a fire slipped the first night in a long time in middle of the night the train came and the Train derailed everybody got killed here we are we're back right now and Hope everybody enjoyed such an inspirational clip we're here joined with Dr Kim abitan what we try to do on the show is not only give you some R some spirituality we try to give you a little bit of the physical as well here we're a full service operation organization lots of times when we prepare for Yom Kipper it becomes a Food Fest I know that I have been starting to eat the week before non-stop because God forbid should I have one day off from eating and we get into this p IC mode of what do we eat the suda beforehand becomes just like you know the sud just so much food and we assume that the more we eat the better it's going to be so we did here is figured let's bring in a doctor right who is an expert in this particular area who's also so we get it all in once so Dr abitan thanks so much for joining us on the show thank you for having me it's great to have you on so talk to us a little bit about how do we prep what would be the ideal way for a Jew it's now Sunday so you got 48 Hours you got Monday you got Tuesday what what should we be doing Monday and Tuesday to ensure that we're preparing ourselves physically properly for the fast so first think about a marathon this is a marathon we have to pace ourselves and you have to take yourself slowly if you push yourself too quickly in the beginning of the marathon you collapse right along the way so it's the same thing with fasting um you have to prepare yourself tomorrow already which is uh I guess like 48 hours before less than 48 hours before you have to start already trying to increase some of the fluids that's in your in your system normally we recommend that PE people should a normal person should drink approximately half of their weight in ounces so if you weigh 160 lbs you should be drinking 80 ounces a day now that doesn't mean that you wake up in the morning and power down 80 o that doesn't work hold on a I got to take notes as you speak okay so it's half the weight an ounces okay go on half the weight an ounces um so normally what's recommended is to is to drink um about 150% of your needs the day prior so tomorrow wow I didn't know that let's say I'm not going to ask how much you weigh but let's say someone weighs 160 lb sort of an average so 80 o so you have to drink 120 ounces tomorrow so tomorrow you you it's it's 150 % of your of whatever the ounces is that you're going to need okay so in that case it's 120 ounces okay so again you don't just power it down in the morning you do that gradually through the day you pace yourself as you go through the day um the way to do that they've actually looked at marathoners there's a a marathon in South Africa where they run it's 50 something miles that they run people actually die during the marathon because they become hyponic their sodium drops because they over drink or they under drink so so they've actually studied these these extreme athletes and they can absorb approximately 1 liter of fluid per hour but now they've looked at normal people like us wow and we can absorb somewhere between 12 and 16 ounces per hour you can absorb so you should not drink more than my fluids they already brought they already brought me fluids just let right so the problem the problem with these is this is 23 23 ounces okay so don't drink that in an hour that you drink over two hours okay so you can't your your body can't absorb more than how much the cells in the body which means your storage cells cannot absorb more than 12 to 16 ounces per hour and the average person we're not talking about Runners and endurance people like that and that's why you'll notice that if you over drink and you power down this in a short time period you're going to run to the bathroom wa wait a second I I don't know about you at home but every person I know sits at the suda and just just guzzles I mean power raids and water and then when you're done you drink more and more and you're saying that is not a good idea that is absolutely the wrong thing to do and when you get to col nidre what happens I'm in the bathroom stomach is killing you you're running running outside it doesn't work you have to pace yourself through the day because the cells have to absor it because remember you're drinking so you can maintain yourself for 26 hours okay so you're you so you you you double your your pay or your 150% the day before and and then do 100% so it's about 12 to 16 ounces per hour per hour all day correct cuz then your body the math about 10 hours correct uhhuh wow and so then by the time you get to the fast your body is has absorbed enough so you don't feel like you're bloated but at the same time your cells have enough okay that that's a game Cher for me cuz I had no idea so so so do you drink water or Power Aid or gra juice or if you're exercising water is the best when you're exercising we worry about changes in electrolytes from sweat so when I heard so when I heard like 10 years ago from somebody that the best way to prep for a fast is electrolytes that wasn't true no that's because Power Aid and and Gatorade became kosher oh is that what it was we had to we had to drink it they were Repro they were representatives of power a what did they do before what did your grandmother tell you to do right well they were they were in my grandmother was you know they she was able to survive on whatever correct you know I had a patient who's actually uh a woman who runs real marathons and she came to me because around mile 15 she would actually have to stop run to the bathroom and she actually had some bleeding from the rectum and it's called Runner esema colitis and it's secondary to dehydration so I sat with her 2 days before a marathon when she met me and I told her exactly this and I told her how to drink and she called me up after the weekend and she said it's the first time in 2 years that I did not have to stop and I didn't have any bleeding and everything was perfect so when you go through your own Kipper you're not you don't feel dehydrated at the end you don't feel wow unbelievable okay I hope everyone and just just for everyone who's at home that's missing this prescription just email Pro Radio Pro inspire.com we'll send it to you we'll send you the the doctor's prescription exactly what you need so you can hear from him live and then if you say hey I don't have a pen and and you how do I figure out my weight and whatever it is it's less of course than than anyone here think so you're fine and then if you need um we have it for you here but let's let's let's move into uh food what do you do with regards to food so the most important thing is don't eat this massive don't just don't pile it pile it eat a very large breakfast on wait now we're on Tuesday we're on Tuesday AR of yum is there anything we should be eating tomorrow Monday you can increase some pastas if you want carbs and complex carbs are the best thing so rice pastas uh potatoes things like that are very good okay so and now okay so that those absorb also hold on to water more long term got it so so these okay okay these don't don't only make you fat right they also absorb water correct okay so it's all good the day before you correct so now we got you won't get fat a day before you worri it's impossible so now so now we're at Tuesday we're at arav yum Kipper what do you eat so for breakfast yeah try to eat eggs some protein things like that for breakfast and eat a large breakfast if you can mhm um then for lunch have like a moderate sized lunch with a lot of carbs lots of carbs also okay and then for sud similar so so tell me about the sudas the suda because in the suda you get no salty foods no salty foods no salty foods salt makes you crave more and more water so stay away from Salt so so when you see these pudas mapas with tons of food like a shabas meal you're you're cringing that's absolutely the wrong thing to do so absolutely wrong thing try to eat what do you have what do you have at your suda before we have we have soup but no salt my wife does not put salt in the soup anything no because then you're going to Crave you're going to want to drink a lot more and that's going to hurt right you're going to overdo it you can have plain chicken so you can eat a real suit I'm a second we sweet sweet uh no sweets you shouldn't have sweet or saled so Bland yeah I'll tell you the best thing to think about the gorra says that an Aram Kipper the kohin Gad was not supposed to have sh and uh I think it was Bim that he couldn't have so those are things Bim you can have but fattier things you shouldn't have cheeses you shouldn't have why not cheeses cuz it's halav again and that's no dairy products dairy products again make you crave and also and okay so there's no salt you're trying to stay away from Salt Dairy um anything that that tastes good you want basically a bland day high fiber is great cuz that also is going to allow you to hold on to water carbs complex fibers Etc okay caffeine oh let's oh wow okay let's let's do caffeine so we're a little late for caffeine so should have started like two weeks ago um but two weeks you have to slowly reduce the caffeine caffeine headache and then how do you deal with it so what you should be doing we reducing the coffee already tomorrow so I don't know how many cups a day you drink I drink one cup in the morning one very large Cup tomorrow I'm going to have maybe 3/4 to a half of my normal cup and then I AR yumore I'll cut it down to half of that okay so I heard differently I heard that if you're a coffee drinker you can just go to sud mapas power up and get a huge thing of coffee and that'll last right so that's the emergency that's your that's your SOS save me just before drink a cup of coffee okay that should push you through but remember coffee also is a diuretic that means it makes you pee yeah so there's something called anti-diuretic hormone that we have in our body that doesn't make us run to the bathroom when we drink C we drink alcohol it suppresses this anti-diuretic hormone you have to run to the bathroom I got it so when you drink a cup of coffee that's that's I got it so but but otherwise what if someone's experiencing a caffeine headache on your care what should they do that's uh there's nothing you can do all I say is you can you can sniff on Cinnamon you know snuff people do yeah it's been shown to actually suppress the appetite a little bit and give you energy interesting this this mental energy it just strengthens you and that's why you see in the you remember probably from the party shes also I remember this they have a little snuff yeah of course and then walk around and it gives you all this this extreme energy that you get during daving right and so what else give us give us sort of um stuff that I'm not thinking about asking you what are the things that we could think about now I know that on the T on the fast itself there what I find works is people have this tendency to concentrate on I'm fasting I'm starving I'm thirsty right those that's the worst thing to think about uh take your mind off of the food and how do you do that do think about the doing think about theila that you're doing think about doing chuba everything you've been speaking about tonight yeah think about the words OFA and what you're saying is it's not just a good idea spiritually it's actually going to help you physically because as your mind obsesses over the food it only sends signals to your brain that makes you even hungrier right there's a 20 minute delay when people have a craving Studies have shown let's say you you love chocolate and you have a chocolate craving and you don't want to eat chocolate cuz you're on a diet MH somehow take your mind off the chocolate for about 20 minutes and that craving will disappear it's the same thing with food the food craving will just disappear um on a itself if you get sick this is actually very important anyone who is a taking medications or a hola or anything like that it's extremely important to ask a RV the RV may ask you to ask a doctor and then the RV and the doctor can speak but it's extremely important that you speak to you speak to a don't be mmir on yourself there's you know you should conent conate on we have so on brings down on you're supposed to eat right so also that's another way to increase your your your your your positives your positive mitzvot is while you're eating and preparing and doing this drinking and everything else I'm doing a Mitzvah to prepare myself for yum kipur right if you get sick on yum kipur it's very important remember if if LA or somebody has to eat and they have to eat the shur based on what the r tell them they shouldn't get depressed remember the you know Rin has a uh has a safer that's several hundred pages long what to do with Aur right what do you do what do you do with um vegetables do you avoid them the day before like no no no you can eat vegetables day before 100% you shouldn't stay away from them they're vegetables Health don't put dressing on it and salt and everything else and also watermelon is good other melons cuz those are high high in high in water excellent wow okay and and I think what what I'm getting for which is really important which is for those of who getting at home I hope which is you can be doing things tomorrow if you're using your mind and now that I have you on the show you tell us what because everything you told me right now meanwhile we've done this three times and everything you told me feels like it's brand new cuz as soon as you I'm like what do you mean I'll just drink coffee all day cuz I'm up to seven cups and I'll just power up you know eight power raids before the meal and it'll all be good but I think what you're getting at we need to understand is if you want to have a great yum Kipper you got to make sure the horse right your body is in its optimal state there's no Mitzvah to make yourself sick because you're just so scared to go 24 hours at I think that's the biggest thing do you find it in your practice I know we got to go I know this the segment's ending but do you find in your practice that people or or forget even your practice you're you're in SHO I see you around people I'm sure asking you this question a million times it's the fear of not being able to eat that drives a Jew crazy you know what I'm saying and that's why you have to take your mind off of that don't don't be fearful we we all think about last yur we got through it we made it we made it to the finish line and you can so much harder right 100% it's in the summer it's boiling hot here you're in sh you can make it also if you're older and you have difficulty standing standing burns more calories makes you more thirsty sit you don't you can sit you're allowed to sit sit more ask your local rub but obviously you can sit also breaking your fast it's very important that you don't just go and don't go and eat sugar so start with either water or a fruit drink to start yeah and then you can eat lightly afterwards but don't eat sugar or anything like that got it okay well doctor thanks so much for joining us what an honor thank you for the opportunity and for those that are that are paying attention this this is great this is some real practical advice what we're going to do now is we have one other clip to play for you um I know that Jess's at in Israel but I'm going to just sort of I'm going to cue the clip uh myself I'll tell you why because this person who is our next clip is my rebi this is an individual who I've gotten so much from and uh am really grateful too and now that Dr abitan I know davin's with me in the same sh um and I just want to say thank thank you Jess for finding this clip let's go to a clip for of mosha Weinberger he's going to tell over a story that I think May uh that may really inspire you let's turn to the clip right now Lodge 1939 not a good place to be for juice there was a was a 17y old a 17year old with a 16year old girl they didn't know each other at all they were allowed to see each other for a moment and that's it and as it was then and even now in some circles it was just with the family they came together also for a split second and the next thing they know they're under the 17-year-old boy 16-year-old girl after the they go home to the de to the apartment that was prepared for them a they don't know each other and the and the kala together they're very awkward and uncomfortable and the Carla turns to the and says this was not my choice it's a true story this is not my choice I don't want this and I can't live with you and before anything took place this is right when they came home she turned around and she left you can't imagine the of the the humiliation 3 days after that 3 days after the C disappeared the Nazis appeared and the hman was taken away to concentration camp and during those long years the Jews from Lodge felt the hand of Hitler for a long time those who were able to make it to the end those years and the was in concentration camp and the whole time he was there he was even though he was so wounded by his wife his wife of of an hour or two he was so wounded he didn't stop thinking about him and he believed with all of his heart that there would be a second chance that if somehow she was alive she would survive that perhaps perhaps they'd be able to resume and to continue where they left or and that she would come back to him and he'd be able to build a life after the ruins and the survived and he finally made his way back to the misery of LGE and he went every day to the office that they had the highest the Americans had looking for the lists and the names hoping to find the name of his of his bride of his C and one day when he came there she was standing there looking at the list herself and she turned around she saw him they both began to cry and at the same time they began to say I never stopped thinking of you and this is what she said she said that I was supposed to die a thousand times but I begged the baron to keep me alive so that I would be able to see you again and to beg for forgiveness to ask for and then she was crying and she said I beg you to forgive me I was a little girl I didn't know I didn't give you a chance I was only angry because my parents forced me into the marriage but I know that you're good and I want to make this work if you'll given me a chance and forgive me and he said to her you should know that even though I was so hurt I didn't stop thinking about you all of those years and I didn't stop worrying about you when ding you that you're alive and the one who told the story wasal because this couple spent their first shabas in America in the home of his father the great and met them on that first shabas when they came to America and he said he was subsequently invited to theid of their grandson so we're also we also have run away we also feel that we were forced into something that hasm held the mountain over our heads the never ever sto thinking about us and the truth is that b you know that we've never ever stopped thinking about you and here we are thousands of years later knocking on your door and begging you to take us back and to remember when we began in the desert and to bring us back to the beginning because we know that since we left you it hasn't been good that was motion Weinberger um an incredible story and we're about to end the show here right now thanks so much for those of that were that were tuning in we got a couple minutes left I want to end by going to my co-host yusy Freeman out in Israel for some final thoughts Jessie hi Charlie it's h it's 5:20 in the morning actually over here and behind me it's actually hard for me to tell if people actually left from last night and they came back for vasin or they basically been here all night and I kid you not um there's hundreds of people are still here at the kot both men and women um and just I think that's uh that's the the inspiration of uh you know before we go into Yer that people um you know one of the messages going back to uh the the program that we had for the Israelis today here in na as I mentioned before gold gold asked the the uh audience he said like you know when we come before Yumer we do things that we don't normally do during the year and he said I'll bring you a proof he said you guys are sitting here it's 11:30 at night what are you normally doing at 11:30 at night sleeping here you are saying and singing and um to be here course in in Tor a place that's focused on cha really all year long and to be across from a place uh where people are standing here at 5 :00 in the morning many of them having not left all night those were even just the people outside let Al them the people inside uh in itself is a message and of itself you know before you Kipper that it's time to really um think about think about the year and uh connect by by way of doing CH yeah I want to thank you so much for all that you do for cl Isel and for another great show and another another day I mean it's 5:20 in the morning you're still up so yeah that's just a little bit of your dedication go sing right after I hope you're going to sleep after that um but thanks again for everything you do andara to you uh to R Berg and to all the entire staff for all your incredible efforts for K see thank you so you know we got a couple minutes left just a couple of thoughts that I want to sort of share with you um just maybe just wrap up the show a little bit uh we had an incredible opportunity to hear from some great people and I think there was a message that at least stuck home with me and I hope stuck home with you a little bit as well and it really started rizen I think he really set the tone in a way that we need to each and every one of us sort of totally digest which is this idea that y Kipper is not the culmination of the Yum as much as it's the culmination of the Yum the F the idea that days of awe really are days of awesome and sometimes when you're in awe it's overwhelming right it feels like I'm not enough what awe a does to us if it's not correct there's some awe that inspires us and there's some a that disempowers us and the a that inspires us is really the awe that makes us feel like we could be more but the or the awe that that disempowers us is this a of I'm not enough and sometimes we go into y Kipper and what we feel is that I'm just not enough I'm not enough of a Jew I'm not I'm not good enough as uh what I did last year I came last year in front of God and I had an incred y Kipper and look at me now not not a lot has happened since last y Kipper or truth is I didn't have a great Kipper last year or whatever it is that brings us to where we are right now 48 hours before the holiest day of the year and the feeling of that if I felt amazing right now I'd feel guilty for feeling amazing right it's like it's like a catch 22 you can't feel that amazing because that means you're not going to do Chua but if you don't feel amazing and you come in doing chuva from a state of disempowerment you miss the whole point and this is I think the the challenge of real Chua of real repentance of real um relationship the challenge of a relationship is the recognition that the person on the other side loves you more than your actions any kid who's smart enough to know that his parents love him or her more than their actions and them them just them is so much more beloved than whatever they did and the balance of knowing that and knowing that mommy and daddy love you no matter what while at the same time knowing that you want to do the best that you can for them that's the challenge the excitement of seeing of connecting to your dad the excitement of knowing you're coming home that where Isen told that story of that boy and I'm thinking to myself you know the story of the dad for 20 years his son wasn't home and he said to himself if my son would just walk in the door and I'm thinking like what must it feel like for that son if he does come home to like knock on that door I'm sure in his heart of hearts he knows when it opens there's going to be two outstretched hands so you have that excitement to come home but that anxiety that fear of oh my God I I should have been better and if you go into y Kipper with just the coldness of judgment with just the guilt of I'm not enough which just the anxiety of I hope I don't end up with a bad year you miss more than you can ever gain you miss the whole thing because the whole thing according to the ramom is about deas it's about connection so if you show up and it's in God's boss he'll give you a good year maybe not give you a great year and you come into him like a listen I don't really want to be here but I'm sorry I did bad things and I know that you're on the world so hook me up you'll get a certain type of connection of course you say that all in Hebrew so it'll sound much better but that's what you're saying but if you come in with a sense of I wasn't great or I was great I was as great as I could be but it doesn't really matter because what really matters is that I can now take a minute out of my life and focus on you and in this moment of focus like R said a few Clips ago there's a part of my heart that says I don't think I ever want to sin again I don't I mean I'm standing here on your own Kipper and now I'm not here and I'm not there and I'm it's just clear it's just clear for a minute and and in this Clarity I don't know this this thing that we have this feeling of being so close to you is so much better than all the stuff that I did if you can get a moment of that coming home it's that moment that is so much more powerful for your relationship to Hashem and your year than any other I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry and it's in that moment like Isaac Ross was saying you get this sense of hey what's going on around me are people not getting this that I could be giving the to like did I even look around and see who needs me that I could be helpful in and it all stems from this one moment of real relationship and that's what yum Kiper really is all about it's about getting to it's like walking the mountain and going from Tisha to El to to toos to Chua to rashash shab you're just climbing climbing climbing I was telling this to my son and you're getting all the way up and then you get into y Kipper and then y Kipper you're climbing you're climbing and at the end of Y Kipper you get and all that's left is you and Hashem all that's left is Hashem who Alim there's nothing else and if you can get to that moment of truth once throughout your own ker of the warm embrace of hasm saying I just want you home I think that's really what it's all about the warmth of the love of Hashem and the desire that we have to want to be closer to him and if we can get there then we're better for it it is my Braha my blessing to you thank you for tuning in being part of this family throughout the entire year my BR is that this is the year that we get connected to him in a real way and if we do May The Connection be the source of all the Braha and the blessing and the success all the things that we want everything that we want should come a good however you take it we'll see we'll see you on the other side may this be the year that we see come in our days [Music] amen [Music] for