Joey haber on Chanukah another MUST WATCH !!!!#inspiration #1stnight

[music] You're a woman. You're a girl. What role do you [music] have on Kaneka? You know, most women know their roles, where they fit. It's it's whether it's it's so many different areas. That's a it's specific for women. And then there is specific for men and talis whatever they're specific for men. Where does a woman fit into because yes it's an obligation on the home which means her too. But in most homes where the man is available the man is lighting the man. So where does the woman fit in? The answer is a very very clear role. When Hashem appeared to want you to teach the claw, right as was about to happen, he says, "Go tell everybody knows that means the woman on that par explains why the woman first." He says, "Here's why the woman first." He says, "Because the woman, if she's good, she creates an excitement for She's the reason for Tyra. Again, you heard those words. She is the reason why happens because she could draw her son in to the Bish because she's home and she knows how to create excitement. She knows how to create incredible excitement. That's what a mother does. That's what a woman does because of that says when the candles are lit, whether it's Friday night that he's referring to or the candles of Kaneka, when the candles are lit, a woman should dab in for Tyra in her home. A woman should dab for Tyra for her children because of these words. Because Tyra is hea, she's the reason that Tyra happens. If she could create excitement in home, she's the reason. So says, "Right, when you're doing a mitzvah around when a mitzvah is happening, a mitzvah that has light in it, which refers to Torah, that's the right time to dab." So you want to know the role a woman has in Kaneka? When the candles are lit, the mitzvah is performed, you have to dab in that you can make sure that that light stays in your home forever. Let me share with you an incredible story. The great kner the late Russa of of Berlin when he was a bach he was learning yeshiva and during that period in the early 1900s there were many people that were being pulled to the hcala being pulled to enlightenment which would lead them completely out of Judaism. One night, one day, the Haskella came to him and they said, "Tomorrow morning there's going to be a train at 7 a.m. You're incredibly intelligent." Those kids were pulled much more. You're incredibly intelligent. You could do unbelievably well in university. Be on the train at 7:00 a.m. and we will lead you to the life of enlightenment, the life of everything you dream. If you don't make the train, your chance is gone. Hudnner would say later that all night he stood he stood in his bed. Should I go on the train? Should I stay in yeshiva? Should I go on the train? Should I stay in yeshiva? It's hard to understand the temptation that was it's a different time in a different era and you don't have that temptation now. Might be someone's temptation to see something or pull out a phone for him. Should I go on the train? Should I maybe that life is exciting and great? And then in the middle of the night he made a decision. I am not going on the train. I'm staying in Slabatka yeshiva. And they asked him why. He said, I'll tell you why. When I was a little boy, I came home from one day and I told my mother. I said, ma, um, we have a CM tomorrow on a peric in Babakama. The next day I wake up in the morning and my mother is dressed in her shabas clothing and so are my sisters. I asked my mother, "Why are you dressed in shabas clothing?" She says, "You said you have a see him today." He says, "I understand, but what does it have to do with you? If you ever see him today, you're on the road to becoming a that's a celebration for our family." He says, "But how about my sisters?" Mother His mother said, "If you were getting married tonight, your sisters would be dressed in chabas clothing. You're making a sem. You don't think they should be dressed in shabas clothing? He went to school. He went to they made a little sem. He came home and the table was set and he comes into the house. He says, "Why is the table set?" It's like a Yv you finished a perk in Babakama. You're on the road to greatness. He said that night tossing and turning in his bed debating should I go on the train or should I not? Should I stay in Slabatka? Should I stay in yeshiva? Or should I follow what seems like the excitement on the other side? He said, "My mother's enthusiasm, my mother's excitement for my Tyra kept me in yeshiva." You have a role on Kaneka. Your role on Kaneka is that the Tyra that's going to happen in your home is because of you. Whether you're married, you don't have children yet, or you're married and you have children. Whether you're a girl and not yet married and hope to have children, hope to be married. Your home is going to be full of is going to be determined by you. That's why when happened, Hashem came to you first before he came to all of the men. And the night and the time to dab in for that result is when the candles are lit because says when you perform a mitzvah, that's when your are heard the most. When a mitzvah right around the mitzvah is when your are the most. And the mitzvah that is lighting light and bringing light into your home is the mitzvah that when you dive in at next to it will bring light into your home forever. So yes, there are some mitzvah that men have a clear role and some that women have a clear role. In this both do. In most homes, the man is the one that's lighting. But when his lighting is complete, right as the mitzvah is done, a woman stands there and dos that this Tyra, [music] this light should never ever extinguish [music] in my home.