KLM Baseless Hatred which is Misplaced and Finding Freedom from Negativity with Rabbi Wegbreit

[Music] welcome again back to klm in the yibbani base amig uh now i almost said basement mcdosh that's about a bigger compliment as you can give to face midrash what i want to talk about is i mean i think it's pretty famous that the reason we're lacking a base of mgdosh is primarily because we haven't tackled the thing that destroyed the second base of mikdash and that is and i hate to even bring it up baseless hatred and i never forget i was sitting on the floor one tish above and a very insightful rabbi just he said it's always he goes this trait of us hating you know like feeling negativity and nailing the other guy the other jew and criticizing this one and that one he says it's such a stubborn trait it's just not willing to leave right it's hard it's really hard for us to let go of this negativity towards our fellow jew it's and it's so sad and we kind of know it and you know we hope each time hashem keeps trying to wake us up we're gonna say we're gonna get rid of this thing right so hashem i think gave me an angle that i think can really help and i tried it and it's working so far so i really want to suggest that you go down this path with me and i just want to introduce the idea see what does everyone say you should have instead of sent a centum baseless love meaning you don't have to have a justification you just love them unconditionally love your jews right so you're telling people stop negativity towards them and love them great halawai but anyone who knows how you break bad habits there's a famous principle right which is it you know you were getting something rewarding from that negative thing and you need to replace it right now you need to replace it with a healthy now now i want to be great to replace with love but maybe love at first will not satisfy that kind of part of us that likes to be negative about others okay so i actually have a little trick here where we can take that negativity we feel right towards others and direct it to the right location in other words with towards towards your fellow jews it's baseless hatred for but towards someone else you can have baseball hatred all right base form baseball hatred there's a place where you can really feel hater now it you'll tell me you know about amalek there was this tribe okay it's a mitzvah to hate them so it's a little hard to do and we don't know who they are and they're a long time ago or it says you can hate a russia wicked person but the truth of the matter is you don't really know that they're how many are wicked and there's all sorts of things against that one but i have found somebody you can really hate and you ought to hate okay good you're in suspense right okay good so let's go to the gemara broncos i apologize i didn't get that beforehand i think it's tough there's something there's a tahilam that we say when we go to sleep at night and there's a basic meaning of the talent and then the gemara brings a drosh it brings another insight into what it means okay what do we say when we go to sleep rigsu now the way the commentaries explain that in the tehillim is rigsum means like tremble tremble and don't sin okay so they're saying like in other words if you tremble about the idea of going against hashem's will you won't sin right so that's instruction number one it's important we'll talk in l okay but listen to what the gemara says what's rogez rogueis rogueis really or also means anger at get agitated so it says reexu against the yates or hara the yetzer hara get your yatzer tove to hate and be agitated about the yates or hara the evil inclination in ourselves okay i want to drive this home this is what i have to share my own little story this was probably the most profound thing that made me embrace judaism with all my heart and you know what that was i realized that i am not my yates or harar okay i'll let me let me kind of set that up take a moment again i'm asking you to imagine something okay imagine uh just imagine somebody pick someone you love okay you really have affection for you care for and make them someone who's like a little more vulnerable than you are okay so just pick somebody right now i want you to imagine that you walk in the room and you see someone verbally abusing this person you love and you know they're putting up a face like it doesn't bother them you know but you can tell they they feel terrible right the asahara does that to us you know that there's a voice in us that's very critical and harsh and discouraging right so the thing is this is that when i realized that's not me hashem to help me grow as a person put in a force in me that's always trying to get me to feel negative about myself and others right the yate sahara is trying to do this to us all the time it it's so liberating when you realize that you know the the the sadness the depression you know when it's not a mitzvah those things are all coming from you thinking you're buying in you either or just like what he's saying but um and realize maybe it's not you but most likely you just identify with this voice and it's not you so this is going to be i think a way to to to really have an impact on uh getting rid of sinistenum and let's take a look okay i have a hop uh for those who uh who don't know yiddish a hop is when you hop something is you you picked up something you got a point right so based on what we just said that you have a place where you should be filled with hatred with baseball hatred uh this leads to a hop how to to get rid of cena's kingdom okay hop c-h-a-p hop all right so here's the process c catch the negative feelings towards the jew okay in other words it unfortunately happens a lot it could be our our wife our friends our you know or other people that irritate us etc right catch that feeling of negativity okay let me just run you through the process then we'll do we'll actually do it okay when you catch that negative feeling right okay actually let's kind of do this for a second think of some think of an instance where you got upset at someone recently okay maybe for some people take a few weeks back or whatever but just think of being upset with some fellow jew all right right so you're you you think you're upset you are not upset okay you are listening to the yet sahara who is telling you you it is baseless if it is not a mitzvah to hate someone to feel negative then it is not appropriate it doesn't apply it's not what you and your soul would want to do right so when you catch yourself feeling negatively first thing is oh i'm feeling not it's not me it's the yetzer hara the me to identify to accept what he's saying and feel negative hate the eight sahara phil this is baseball hatred you have to realize that the yate sahara is constantly undermining you what happens when you feel negatively about another jew you're filled you're brewing you're stewing you're doing nothing good for yourself it's not good for your soul it's not good for your emotion emotional health there's nothing good about it okay and so you should be really upset re-zoo be agitated tall and don't feel negative towards other feel some hate towards the yatzahara right you hear this when you realize you catch it ah he did it again i hate you you hear this get agitated because this hatred will get you looking at him as not you not identifying not accepting what he's trying to sell you you hear this so catch the negative feelings and then hate the real enemy the yatzahara and then you better pray let me explain it says that the yates r is not a joke okay he is not a simple foe all right it says every day the unfortunately the guards that the editor gets stronger and he's trying to figure out different ways to knock us it says if it weren't for hashem he would defeat us make an inference with hashem we can defeat him okay but you better pray you know he knows that you're listening to this class and getting exposing him right so if you think he's not going to come up with some other so right you have to have the humility and you realize i cannot match this bow step one the the gemara tells me get agitated at him so we know it's the right approach but we know we need help all right we're powerless without a kadashboroku's help right so i want let's just do we're going to do a quick run through this we're going to practice having a base baseful hatred okay in order to go to the next step of having unconditional love towards our juice okay so again let's let's just practice this right now have in mind the mitzvah uh derisa of allah by working on ridding ourselves of our character defects we're coming more like hashem we're walking in his way so having mine at mitzvah as we try to all immediately eliminate some negativity and hatred towards rahman as our fellow jews okay so first thing catch negative feelings so again i want you to do an exercise right now trace back to it doesn't even have to be recently just take one moment right now everybody those are listening take a moment and think of when you got really upset with someone it could be years ago whatever really upset with a jew okay by the way disqualification and maybe someone did act uh unjustly or do some harm uh and i'm not saying that you don't protect yourself you don't take action if you need to etc but ultimately unless you are told by rabbi you should hate this person you know then you're not supposed to hate them okay and you have to realize hashem set that situation in your um dollar to amos in your realm because he wants to help you okay and grow et cetera so right but just so just so find somebody right now find somebody i'm going to find someone or someone right now okay so you caught yourself having negative feelings when it's not a mitzvah okay so in a certain sense that's baseless hatred right all right now realize that it was the yetzahara that you identified with that got you to do that okay and feel so upset with him think of how much stress and agony and going against the the will of hashem that occurred when you're brewing and stewing over this person and feel hatred towards hashem i mean i feel hatred towards the atahara and now ready dive into hashem and here's i'll just suggest a prayer hashem please heal me from those feelings help me divorce myself from the atahara's ploys and protect me protect me help it that i realize that jews are not to be hated the ea to heart is to be hated and i need your help to succeed in this [Music] is