KLM: Don't Let the Omer Pass You by Without Kavanah with Rabbi Asher Baruch Wegbreit

your Museum [Music] members to our live uh presentation and uh looking forward to our the question and answers at the End Business session okay here's the title for this year maybe you saw it don't let the Omer pass you by no one would like that to happen I assume so the question is what do I mean by that how can the Omer pass you by I'm gonna explain to you three ways in which the Omer can pass you by and of course the goal is that Homer doesn't pass this fine okay so first of all the Omer involves practices that are passive okay they're low if you will they're sit and don't do's and whenever uh practice is passive it can completely Escape your Consciousness and it can also make you forget to have the basic KLM Cabana or the Mitzvah okay so number one is the Omer involves passive observances and that's why it could pass Us by number two the the Omer involves minhage Israel that are based like off of the gemara so that means there is a rabbinic origin here that these observances are rabbinic and the significance of that is is as follows it's not a hoax you're not supposed to just uh obediently observe it there's a purpose the observances are supposed to lead you somewhere so if you're not cognizant of the purpose of the observances or you're not practicing the purpose the Homer will pass you by God forbid Third Way in which the owner can pass you by the and and this last thing I plan to discuss is spirosa Omer which involves making a bracha and Counting the way in which that can lead you is one you may not be having the initial KLM cavana Mitzvah and number two there's a treasure chest of Mitzvahs attached to it there's the main Mitzvah and these Branch missiles that can enrich the whole short short easy Mitzvah of scariso Omer okay those are the three again passive observance can pass you by don't forget the purpose the purpose can pass you by and thirdly there's more to the mitzospherus Omer that may meet your eyes okay let's go into them right first thing if you're in a Torah observant person if you're not and you're listening that's fantastic welcome but if you're Torah observant you accept to observe the Torah then I'm sure that no no one is flicking on music right now music with instrumentation you're not going to concerts Etc you're not going to weddings men are not shaving Etc right I'm sure everyone I'm speaking to who's tore observant is observing the Omer okay however like I said it can slip under the radar because you know the fact that you're not listening to music you're not consciously doing that sometimes you may go into a situation where you say turn that off it's the Omer but normally so I I suspect that everybody here is not shaving okay unless they are permitted to for work um they're not shaving and they're not listening to music so if you're not listening to music and you're not shaving Etc in weddings then first of all I just want to make sure that you remembered to have Havana for those Mitzvahs what are these Mitzvahs so this Omer period it seems like they are what is called accepted minhagen of a valus of mourning so minhagen we thought on kln there's no such thing as oh it's just a Min hug in some ways it is just a Min hug if it's facing a rebutton or Doris it but there's no such thing really because minhagi Israel are Torah right and they're actually derived from a initially which means it's amidst the midibre kabola so in case that right now you realize that you did not have in mind officially to have in mind these observances uh repeat after me either verbally or mentally you know repeating verbally is great is better but mentally is fine okay so um I have in mind to observe all the minhage Israel regarding the morning practices of the owner like not listening to music Etc weddings shaving Etc as Hashem is commandment me okay so I if you had not if you forgot to have that in mind you owe me big time you will see I'm answering you will see clearly you will be so thank thankful because as we it's been a while since we've been on you know amitsa with that intention to fill hashem's command beforehand is huge in the eyes of a cottage Sparkle okay so we covered the first one all right no music no oh no wait just one more point until if you did not have kavana officially um for these morning practices of the Omer then um what was enabling you to not do it it's yuris Hashem meaning I know you if you're Torah observant most people have a basic fear of Hashem to violate his transgressions and we know that this is halatha so I just want to point out there's one more midst of profoundly important it's called Urus Hashem right Euros Hashem so also have in mind one more thing to attach to these passive uh morning observances have in mind the midst of yuris Hashem as Hashem commands and like I said the practices okay number one will no longer pass Us by let's go to number two number two we said is since this is not a gazarus accustomed right a decree of the pussic like um the paraduma right it's not it's rabbinic in origin um then there must be a purpose to these morning observances we're not Mourning for no reason and here's something really important to realize about mourning we shouldn't have to experience it okay but mourning is about tikkun and chuva that's an important point I want to bring you a proof from Arya he's he points out I hope this bothered you you know if someone is a matsura he has to Ross in the Torah last week's Parsha he has to um if he's a moof lot meaning he's been confirmed as having Saras so he has to um he has to tear his clothes and he also has to um not cut his hair now doesn't that sound familiar those are the practices of a mourner so you might ask yourself no one died right with the matsura he got Saras he spoke Lush in her uh he got Saras right no one died here why is he looking like a mourner the answer is that morning is morning practices are meant to evoke chuva repentance and and and and and fixing things all right so with that in mind now we can understand what we need to do and this is my key Focus tonight and that is the per what is the purpose of the morning observances the purpose of the morning observances is because rabi Akiva is 24 000 Tom Needham um they passed away in a tragic um b-day shamayam Calamity right and they understood that the reason this terrible tragedy happened as everyone knows they weren't no hay covered zealous at they did not um practice honor to each other sufficiently and that's why we're mourning okay you hear it's not just oh that was a terrible tragedy but this type of uh this type of mourning is for sure involving tikun and we would the morning would be over if we were properly no hay covered zenza practicing honor to each other okay so given that that's the case let's not let this pass Us by in other words you're not shaving you're not listening to music so besides having Cabana how about let's use it as a reminder to do what the purpose is which is to increase the way our covered that we give zelazan okay now that's this week's Parsha the Mitzvah by way we're going to discuss how to upgrade your coverage and I just want to open up with which is this week's parcha it's the Mitzvah record that is what color is about and let me explain that the rambam says under the Mitzvah of carefa uh he says um the covered of your friend should be as dear to you as your aunt you hear that high level commode covered respect self-respect okay so um I I I I I'm I found this like in this Rabbi of aryab he's written like 17 books 17 volumes called lay Ray atha kamoka uh you're uh like your neighbor like yourself it's all about Ben Adam clavero he's just amazing and so I told him I'm giving this year and I I say to any any um Aces he has some advice for us how we could upgrade our code and he gave the following in the uh analogy so if you're married Pratt you can practice this with your spouse but the idea is applicable to everybody you know okay so he said like this listen to this example I think this is great he says you know he's the man so he gives he's a a man to a wife he says your wife says can you come here dear and help me Okay so number one we'll call them uh ploney number one plony One D um uh okay and it takes him well he doesn't come right away so she says you know dear I I asked you please help seven minutes later he comes okay he helps okay now we're gonna go a little higher okay plony number two this is dear can you help me sure sure honey two minutes I just need to finish something he finishes it and at the end of two minutes he's right there to help his wife now articun of the Omer polony listen to what he does the wife says Dear can you please come help me and he comes immediately right he goes sure and he comes right there okay so you see he's giving he's giving more respect to her and more hashiva's more significance to her request so that's uh I think a great model for us is if someone asks be responsive be immediately responsive you're giving them Cabo you're giving them weight and honor from that okay and also I just want to point out um and and and for sure let's do it the KLM way have in mind and then Zoom to the request okay so that's uh that's a practical suggestion another pla another thing you can do that's that one you have to kind of um look for the opportunity but here's something you can be proactive about and that's being Magnum is to greet um a degree another we talk about this a lot at kln I'll just focus on this is the bigger the smile the warmer the Boker Tove the more it's a blessing right when you say good morning it can be a blessing if you have that intention okay so what I'm saying is up up your up your um up your greetings right be very conscious now just arising you could be ending the morning period by being Village uh Vigilant to be greeting everybody warmly with big smiles this up it up it now let's show more cover than normal let's show we're paying attention to these men hogging that Hashem wanted the rabbis to develop okay so that's number two so number one again is if you haven't been um if you've been observing the Omer practices of no music no shaving but without intention to fill that Mitzvah have that Mitzvah in mind immediately or right now second thing is the purpose the let's observe the purpose of those morning practices by um acting with greater honor to our friends and family okay the third one the third one is about spirits Omar so I said spheris Omer could pass you by uh in the following way um let's say you make the bracha and then you count accurately wonderful okay now the only thing is we have the classic of mitsu srika's kavana now I don't I imagine most people that are listening to this year and are observant probably have in mind serious Omer because there's a little passage that is in the sitter that says Omer it says it but maybe you know ashkenazym go immediately to the bracha um for good reason but anyhow so you might not be uh cognizant to have that main Mitzvah kavana and the main mitsukavana is like this the mesospherosa Omer okay but what capacity by is the multi-mitzes the treasures the antique increasing involved in in value in other words there are three zechers attached to this Mitzvah okay could be more but I identified three what do I mean by zachar you know uh there's a general thing that robino Yona says in every Green my revi should uh live and be well uh he said it to us you know he says when you remember Hashem you're succeeding and make the inference right remember you shouldn't succeeding there's also things we're supposed to Hashem wants us to remember okay so there are three zeckers and I call it three the three three M okay just so you'll remember that 3M this is not a Post-It so here's the three the three m that you can add to your main mitzvospherusalemer first one sorry I'll just tell you as as 3M mon K Dash yeah wait man Martin Torah and migdash that's the 3M these are three Zephyrs Zephyr lamon Zephyr limitantore and Zachary mcdosh so that's how you can I you'll have to write it down but that's the 3M and I'll just explain it briefly okay and then we'll uh go to our inner our Workshop okay so let's start with um zecker uh tomatan Torah because that's the uh one of the easiest right so in the pursue before it mentions that you're counting 15 50 days so you're counting up to what is because I'll teach us is matantara and the safer and it says you're feeling anticipation for uh uh matantara right so Martin Torre is an essential thing to remember you you are succeeding whenever you think about Martin Torah and that the Torah came from a cottageboro it was the most incredible relation uh Revelation okay good so that's Martin Torah the other one is migdash I'm going from most well known to least well known uh spherisa Omer is also Zachary that should be clear you're bringing a um the reason that the there are opinions that the Omer is only durabundant is because we don't have a base on migdash and we can't bring it it's not just counting it's bringing it to be to be considered the midst of the owner so that just points out that what are we doing we're doing what's called a zecher limit you know how you have an unfinished part in your house where you break a glass at a wedding those are remembered we have to remember we don't have a big question we have to yearn to have it that yearn to have it built okay so that so the Omer you're bringing and and there's a Memphis you want to be able to we want to bring the Shea 11 please God uh before Sugarloaf okay so the matantora Zeppelin and the the less known one is Zachary lamond this is based on a uh wonderful Parish very well um uh appreciated Parish called the bear Joseph salant and he says a beautiful thing you know we we count the Omer uh on the starting on the the day after pass like the 16th of Nissan so he points out that the 16th of Nisan was very significant right before we're going into Erich Israel in other words the man ran out on the 16th at that point all the leftovers everything ran out and now we're planting the barley and he explains that the word Omer a serious apha that language you'll only find it in two places the minha of the Homer and the man because it's a zekroman he explains and why is that so important it's so important because when bread falls from the heaven it is crystal clear the source of your food the source of your parnassa right but when you have to start planting barley seeds in the ground it's not as clear you can think I did it right and so the that juxtaposition is don't ever forget where your bread comes from okay as you start making barley bread or whatever you hear so that's that kind of mine all right so uh again I'm gonna review one more time this turned into a bona fide cheer the the let's remember we don't want the Omer to pass Us by so we have to tackle three things number one we had to tackle the fact that the observances that we do of not listening music and letting your hair grow are passive and you could forget that you're you're doing it anyhow so you should have in mind the Mitzvah of observing the practices of mourning of the Omer and also the midst of yours Hashem because you wouldn't think twice of violating them no that's number two that's number one number two we said is we have to remember that these observances are not a Hoak they have a purpose the purpose is to recognize that this incredible Chow a tragedy of 24 000 Tommy day are were in speakingly great passed away because the Gomorrah says they didn't have is sufficient respect for each other so our job mourning is about chuva right so our job is to upgrade upgrade the honor we give to each other and we said there's different ways we can be responsive and we can greet like a champ okay thirdly finally Cirrus Omer has the main Mitzvah have in mind the Mitzvah to count days and weeks the series Homer the midst of making a bracha those are the main Mitzvahs and then we have the 3M those are all separate Mitzvahs that you can reap during this time okay that's it so we we completed the share part now we'll go to questions [Music] foreign