Laws of the Fast of the 9th of Av - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] so in two days uh we're going to go into tab actually tomorrow night and usually before tab we learn a little bit about the laws I mean not only TSH we always learn the laws the before holiday what we need to do so we got to know what to do tomorrow a lot of people asking what can I do this can I do that my daughter keeps keeps asking me can I work can I do this can I do that and everything she asked me until no you can't do that so of course her repli like what I'm just going to sit all day long and do nothing yeah you have to mourn the destruction of the bet bet mdash she was like by how by boredom like just not doing anything so it is a very very uh sad day that one needs to commemorate the destruction of the Holy Temple and we're therefore we're not allowed to do a lot of things so we're just going to go through a few of the laws that we have an idea what not to do the reason why we not doing a lot of things because there's a very strong judgment on the day of tshav for many different reasons and one of them is because the the spies came back from Israel onab we mentioned in the previous class before I left that's when mosu came down from the mountain and the tablets broke so I mean we're commemorating the destruction of the of the walls of the beta mikdash but even if you go before that originally on the 17th of the mo that's when mosu came down and the tablets broke when he found a golden calf so the spies the merim they came back from Israel if they would come back and say that the land is very easy to conquer and that it's a good land then the next day which means yud they will go on a journey into Israel and on the 13th of a they would reach Israel they would build the beta mikdash and on the 15th of a they would have already the BET midash and the whole story would be over that's why many of our sages and Prophets say that these days when mashiah is going to come are going to turn into days of Celebration that's why the 15th day of a which we're going to learn about it in the next class about the parha which is like the Jewish Valentine's Day of course it's the the day of love it's a very powerful day it's going to end up you know thear says that the best two days of the year for the Jews is Yip the 15 of love so this period of the 3 weeks is a very very powerful time which we spoke about it yesterday most people look at it is a very negative time rather it's a very positive time it's a very powerful time just said because bad things happen then the Mida the attribute of judgment is very very strong that time therefore when the sun is out and it's very hot you don't go out because you're going to get burned so on that day the judgment is very very severe then we have to be careful have to be keep keep it low as they say so we're not allowed to do a lot of things besides the fact that besides the the sin of the spies up until today we're paying for that sin but after that of course came the destructions of the both temples and many other bad things that happened onti shab in the history so this is not a day for fun it's not a day for for celebration yet will come tonight shom he will decide to come not not tonight and tomorrow but then we can go to and celebrate in once mashia comes we're not going to celebrate the shab anymore you know we spoke about it yesterday is that in the first destruction of the temple as they were leaving y the sages decided that this will will be a day of morning and that they're going to be fasting so the next after the destruction of the temple they were already fasting now since they only went to Exile for 70 years they only F celebrated or commemorated the shabab for 70 years that's then when they came back to Israel they built the second temple that stood for 420 years and for 420 years they didn't commemorate or one can still celebrate they hadash what's to C what's to commemorate so for 4 120 years when the second temple was up there wasn't a was just a fine day that's it we got our mdash back will come today and then tomorrow will not need to be to celebrate it with a fast rather rather we will celebrate with a barbecue know we'll go to the bet mikdash there's going to be some barbecues there so so we'll go just a little bit about the for the next day and should not be using them so if a person needs to do uh Brit have a born a CH a first born and they should do also a p both these events they have to come with a meal if somebody has to do a Brit meal tomorrow they have to do it in the morning and the meal has to be done before before the the half of the day it's not not midnight rather the middle of the day also for tomorrow in order to go through it I might usually we read through the Hebrew but you know we'll read some of it in the Hebrew tomorrow in the afternoon we ready starting to get ready for the fast so it's very important not to do anything festive tomorrow in the afternoon not to do not to initiate any trips not to do any uh big things and also we already from the afternoon starting to reduce what we learn in regards to learning Torah because you will see soon that we do not learn Torah most of the day of the because Tora is a positive thing and a happy thing which makes me happy and joy and there's only a few things that we can learn Tora about but already from the afternoon we're already starting to tune it down so one should already start being at home uh getting ready for the for the fast now of course we have to to do a meal tomorrow in the evening that is called exactly like we do and there's a few few laws when it comes to better to do the before then we go and pray which tomorrow we do not say the reason why we don't say on the eve of because is considered a moed a festival and like I said is going to come it is going to be a festival and and close to the evening very close to the evening we sit on the ground you don't have to take your shoes off yet and also we do not sit three together so we're not going to be obligated to do what's called the zimon we only eat a piece of bread and a hard hardboiled egg that is cold as you have to make it in the afternoon it will cool down this is not the sud of so D of you would eat let's say around 6:30 and then you eat whatever you want and of course it's good not to eat too much so you're not going to be too full it's not good to eat all sorts of types of food like onions and and garlic and all sorts of food that will make you a heartburn that you will need to drink a lot after that better to eat a very simple meal fish and potatoes but after we pray M and if you don't have the habit of praying M then tomorrow you should make yourself the pray and right after that we sit on the floor we have a custom that we sit on the floor because people that are mourning they sit on the floor and we eat uh hardboiled egg a little bit of bread we wash for bread we eat a little bit of bread and a hardboiled egg some people what they do is they burn a little bit of uh ashes burn a little bit of paper so we can have ashes and you dip the egg in the ashes and you eat it and it's important to to eat before the sun goes down so you'll be ready for the fast depends where you live I mean if you live in spat but we have thousands of people the camera that Lon live in spat so every person has to look in their area where they live and according to where you live that's where your fast starts and here in spat I didn't look at the exact time but probably at 7:10 with lit candles we lit candles on Shabbat in 7:15 so probably the fast will will start again don't take my word exactly I didn't look yet but probably here inat since we lit candles in Shabbat in 710 there's a good chance the fast starts at 710 now some people have accustom to fast every Monday and Thursday I told you a few times that when I became a b cha for two years I used to fast every Monday and Thursday uh for many different reasons so a person who fasts on Monday and Thursday many many people do it since tomorrow is Monday you can't fast before a fast then you you if a person does it as a NE as a vow has to go to bin to so to say pause that n and and and not to fast that day since it's not so applicable to most of you then we're not going to go through the entire some people they have a yard site they fast on the yard when somebody died their parent their spouse if a person takes on themselves to fast on the yard side then also that has to be delayed to another day now benot is Twilight Zone that's how I say the Twilight Zone we are prohibited on doing everything that we are prohibited on doing on meaning that already in the Twilight Z you take your shoes off already and you start getting ready for the for the fast now a lot of the things that we're going to say might be less applicable to some of you but it is still important to know and some of you that you might not be doing it you might want to uh promote and to to get your husband to do it so when our V starts it's H highly recommended to go to a shoe we take our shoes we don't wear any shoes that are done are made out of leather we may we can wear shoes that are are made out of fabric and or rubber in the shoe we take the curtain off and it's good for a person any person even at home to light a candle a candle that lights for 25 hours what's called a naron and which later on can be used at the end of on the end of The Fast and we read the Psalms of in the sh if you can go to the sh then read it by yourself at home uh but if you can and if you have either you don't have B kids or the kids are in an age that they can be taken to sh and take them with you but it's highly recommended to go go to the sh and read the Psalms out of the M the The Scroll of we do have a custom that we we make ourselves not so comfortable while while we sleep some people have the custom they sleep on the floor but if you don't want to go to such an extent then you want to make it a little bit less comfortable when you sleep so if you're used to sleeping on two pillows then sleep on one pillow if you sleep on a comfortable bed maybe sleep on a less comfortable bed but we want to since we want to commemorate the day as a morning day then we want to take on ourselves all the Customs that a mourner does and one of the things is not to be comfortable at all so we don't sit on chairs on T you can take like a milk crate or something small that we sit very this is done till the middle of the next day we're going to go through it but one of the things is you want to make sure that you're not so comfortable throughout the the Sleep uh some people have a custom that they put a rock under their pillow and the reason why we do that is when if you remember when Yakov left his family and he went to Khan and the story says how he laid down on the floor and he took a stone and put it under his head that the midash says how the stones Stones were fighting and then hasem made a miracle and the stones merged but yobu he saw in his rues is in Divine aspiration he saw the destruction of the temple so he put the stone under his head as to commemorate it so we also do such a thing we take a little Stone and we put it under the pillow now the next few things I'm going to skip because it all has to do with men and how we do not put F in in the morning and how we pray in the morning I do highly recommend even for women to read the M of the the kot and uh it's long can take a few hours but we're able to read it till the middle of the day till so even if you don't have the the opportunity to go to sh and read it then even at home you should read it there's a special book that you can buy in almost all the stores the Juda stores that has all these megot what we read on the night tomorrow night which is a and the next day we read what's called kinot kot for and it's it's kind of equivalent to reading toim so same way that on a very bad time we read then this has I mean some say has the same effect when you read these kotes I know a lot of people don't like reading it they're tired they're hungry and it's very hard Hebrew it's hard to to read it and uh most people say okay I'm fasting it as it is but the same way that on y Kip it's very Rec highly recommended to read a little of things we read these these Psalms uh now a very important thing when we learn it's making me happy it's quoting a verse that it says that whether I feel the happiness or not but when I learn T it makes my happy we're not allowed to learn the only thing that we're allowed to learn on is things that unfortunately will bring sadness to our hearts I know I know many people what they do is they they watch all sorts of documentaries about the Holocaust they watch shinder list and all these things I mean many bad things happen in the Holocaust in but when it comes to Tora there are a few mid and a few places in that we do read because the the story is very very very sad one of them is we read in the book of The Prophet Jah Jeremiah because there's a lot of bad stories that happened to to our nation at the time uh some people what they read they read about the book of aob of job which again very sad things and there's a few places in thear in thep that we read like the end of the tract of T that is describing all the The Siege and the best sad story that happened on yush unfortunately and all these things are not uh not making me happy to hear there's a whole place in thear in the tra that it's describing all these horror stories what happened at the time of The Siege and after that of course the destruction so this is the stuff that we're allowed to to learn during tab next and very important even women who are pregnant or breastfeeding even though it's extremely hard for them to fast because they have to feed the child or if they're pregnant they're carrying a child they still have to fast and the day after tab my older son has a birthday dor went into the fast fasting and the fast instead of taking an inducement or whatever the doctors always like to induce she just started the fast and that brought the labor so and she she also she was like what I have to that was a while ago she was like I have to fast I said yeah even if you're pregnant 9 months and you overdue you still fast so she had an easy fast cuz after a couple hours she started getting into labor and she had to already break the fast but a woman that is pregnant and a woman that is breastfeeding even though it's extremely hard for her she still has to fast this is one of the fasts like y that a woman is not exempt but she has to finish the fast unless there's a sign of danger if a pregnant woman or a breastfeeding woman feels that she's already going into danger for whatever reason then then then the fast she has to stop the fast right away a sick person even though there's not a lifethreatening situation he's just very sick then he's allowed to stop the fast and again a headache is not very sick and having a stomach ache that's not considered sick but a person that Shalom has a sickness then that person is is a allowed to stop the fast but it's important to know that you're not getting a a full fully discount you have to continue the fast another time so even if you break the fast it's not that that's it you you got your way out you have to continue the fast in a different time now again if the person is sick and they stop the fast then they have to continue the fast they don't have to do it fully 24 hours they can do segments in the fast if a woman just gave birth and she's still in this between the seven days to even 30 days after their birth she's considered a person that is sick that that has no danger therefore she can also be exempt from that fast and again this is not a uh an exemption this is just a delay for the different time to continue the fast some people what they do is they will pay for the fast with segments 5 hours 5 hours 5 hours and so forth and some people will just redeem the fast with money and will valuate how much will cost the food for the 24 hours and that money will give for donation one time we learned in the book of Tanya in the section of that the balat is bringing all the quantities of fasts that theal came and taught for all sorts of different sins and for this sin you have to have such and such time for that sin you have to pass such and such time the has in the book of the Shan was for what f for what sin how much how many times you need to fast so for one of the sins that particular to men then the fast theel says you have to fast 84 times times three so that's and for every time for doing the sin this is a pretty common sin that you man an average man probably sins a thousand times minimum throughout his life so of course that becomes very very hard so I gave the exact same option and that some people they redeem the fast with money and they evaluate how much money they would spend a day on food and times that 84 times three times so of course everybody was like oh I I only eat a bagel throughout the day a120 and so ex so we don't eat for a dollar a day we eat for 10 15 $20 a day but in that class all the man ah might might nothing maybe an apple throughout the day um um can redeem the fast for $2 so the point is that we don't want to look for ways out we want to do it the right way but if Shalom a person is sick uh or like it's applicable for a woman that is H very close to the time of Labor then they can delay the fast but it's important to know that you're still obligated to pay it back and uh and the way to pay it back like I said you can fast again fully or do it in segment or you redeem the fast with money if Shalom a person is not fasting on Tish for whatever of these reasons then you can't start drinking coffee and cookies and cakes and chocolates and you keep it to the minimum so even if you have kid kids that you feed the kids also have to be a semi fast no choco no chocolate milk no cookies no things like that the minimum of the minimum they eat a little bit of bread and some vegetables and you have to make sure that they also understand that it's not a day to eat whatever you want you keep it to the minimum next we're not allowed to have any water touching our body this is called means that comes from the word you're not allowed to take a shower doesn't matter if it's hot or cold or what type of a shower not even going into a into a pool you're not even allowed to put your finger into water or to put your finger under running water so we're not all to to do anything to get into any contact with water this is also this is only talking about taking a shower for the sake of pleasure but when it comes to something that is not pleasurable ifom I have dirt on my hand that is is very uncomfortable I'm allowed to wash it off but I'm not allowed to wash myself when it comes to for pleasure so when I wash my hands for I don't go start washing everything with I just wash a little bit with water my fingers and not more than that after I wiped my hands but they're still a little bit wet then I can wipe my eyes a little bit but I cannot wash my face in the morning this is considered for my own pleasure because I wanted freshen up when your hands are a little bit damp you can still wipe your face a little bit the now what happens if my face is extremely dirty in the morning then I can take a little bit of water and still wipe it off and again like I said when you're a little bit dirty you got dirty for something this is not washing yourself your yourself for pleasure like a shower then you're allowed to wash it a little bit off but other than that we try to avoid any contact that we can with water now what happens when a woman is cooking she has to wash the vegetables she has to wash the the her hands also they they get dirty so when a woman is wash is cooking for the sud if you're cooking just for the birthday the next day you're not allowed to do that but you're allowed to to cook for the meal after the fast the right way to do it is you cook on Monday food for the meal that you eat before the fast and for the food that you eat after the fast but if for whatever reason you have to cook and your hands get dirty or you have to wash the vegetables or whatever it is that you're washing you're allowed to do that but keep it to the minimum why because it's not for the sake of me taking a bath it's just for the sake of washing the food now what happens if I have to go to do a Mitzvah and I have to get into contact in water for however whatever that means I mean in the olden days when the was written if it was talking we it's had things to do that has nothing to do with us here you go to do a Mitzvah you get into a car in the olden days you have to walk in the field and maybe get into contact with a river or a little Pond that you had to cross then for going for a Mitzvah we're allowed to get wet meaning that even in our days if you come across a situation that you have to do a certain Mitzvah and that will cause you to get wet then you're allowed to do that but other than that we try we need to avoid getting any type of contact with water excuse me why because water we don't even realize that but in the olden days water was a very rare thing now I want to take a shower I can take three showers a day few hundred years ago to take a shower was a big deal you had to pump the water and then and boil it so it will be warm so water is considered a pleasure something that is spoiling me even today I mean even though it's very very accessible you know a person who's mourning and sits Shiva is not allowed to shower for the whole week because showering makes me comfortable makes me clean so we we therefore while we mourn we don't pleasure ourselves with showers and we don't spoil ourselves with washing myself and cleaning myself and therefore both on and many times like a person is mourning we don't come into contact in with water the the spiritual the cabalistic explanation from that everything that we do in the spiritual in the physical world is also a very mystical spiritual explanation so the water comes from the mid of of kindness and on these specific days the mid of of empowered and we don't have the ability like an angel or big sadik to create the unity between the gor and the therefore when there's too much gor I can't come with a little bit of that will cause a negative reaction therefore I have to separate them the one that causes peace between the and the is the do we say a certain blessing say shalom say shalom making peace in the heavens it's only Hashem why Who's Making Peace and why because Gabriel the angel of fire that comes from the side of gor is against the angel of Mikel who comes from the side ofz who's the minister the angel of water and water and fire cannot coexist so when hasem puts them together he makes peace in the heavens he takes the angel of fire and the angel of water Mel and Gabriel one comes from the side of gah one comes from the side of and he makes peace between them peace meaning that the water and the fire can coexist that's why we see in the plague of the hail in Egypt it was a miracle cuz the hail came down from the heavens and it was a a fiery hell was fire in the hell so since in these days this attribute of is very very powerful you bring a little bit of it's not going to balance it rather it's going to create a damage so therefore we try to avoid any contact with water on that day to not to arouse even more judgment against us Shalom so everything has a more deeper meaning why we do that uh where were we okay now what happens uh what happens for a woman that her night of her mik is falls on she has to wash herself of course if it falls on the night of tomorrow night then the day has to be pushed for the next day so the yav if the day of the M falls on yav she can prepare herself before then she has to push everything for after the fast and then of course like on Shabbat if the day of the mik falls on Shabbat then the the V the dipping is going in the in the already into Shabbat same thing here then the entire preparation for the mikah has to be done after next we're don't allow to wear shoes that are made out of leather we're allowed to wear anything that is made out of rubber or Fabric or many other things that are not leather if it's fake leather we're still allow to wear it some people don't wear it because it looks like leather and then it makes them look like they're still still wearing the leather shoes some people go out of their way to wear slippers or flipflops or whatever you call it to show that yeah I'm not wearing leather shoes this is another sign of mourning and uh and uh even though in some places it might be embarrassing in Israel or in religious communities throughout the world it's not a big deal that everybody's wearing a slippers when I lived in New York and comes to shab you see people walking with suits and with slippers so I can't even imagine what the Gentiles think when they look at us they're like what's going on with these guys you look at they're going with suits and they're wearing slippers so I I lived in New York next to many many non-jews and they always had these interesting questions so one of the funny questions was if you ever notice how the bag of theine looks like and old the man is going with his bag and it's like a puffy bag so one time I met a non Jew and he asked me what are you doing in that big place of worship like meaning the synagogue I told him we pray he's like is I thought you rest there and I was like why do you think we rest he's like because you're all carrying pillows so it's just funny sometimes to see how people look at what we do and why so a lot of people used to ask me why why why on this day you wearing slippers so some people find it pretty embarrassing to walk with slippers or with flip-flops so there are many shoes that are made out of fabric that are not so embarrassing to wear in the streets uh in our days of course it's much much easier in the olden days would be very hard old the shoes were from leather now most of the shoes that we wear are not from leather so there shouldn't be a problem to wear that uh for any married couple all the laws that we follow at the time when the woman is through her cycle we use we follow the exact same laws of the day of theab this is called all the laws of Separation meaning that they sleep separately not touching each other needless to say not having marital relations so all the laws we follow in the night of the the nights of when the woman is impure through her cycle we do the exact and throughout the time of TSH next we have a custom that we don't greet each other on Tab meaning that when you meet somebody on the street you don't say hey how are you I didn't see you for 3 days we don't greet each other with good morning good evening and good evening and good afternoon and all that stuff rather it's enough a little ND with the head and to continue moving now if you meet somebody that is not observant or a non Jew or somebody that will not understand why you're ignoring him it's fine to say in a soft way uh something and you can also explain that person it's a tab today so I'm Excuse me for not asking you how are you and how you're doing needless to say it's not the right day to send presents to people and greetings and blessings and stuff like that even if it falls on their birthday then you can do that the day before another important thing this is not a day for traveling it's a day that we stay at home if you don't go to the synagogue then stay around the house if you do have the option you go to the synagogue but it's not a day for traveling and definitely not a day for watching movies and reading happy things and newspapers it's the the day that like my daughter told me can I do this no can I do this no it's her first year that she's fasting she had was but Mitzvah a few months ago so now she has too fast that's it no more games so she she asked me can I do this and everything she asked me if I she can do it I told her no so she was like I'm going to be very bored I told her what do you think this is uh your birthday it's a day of morning says not a day to walk around not a day to go shopping not a day to to do anything that is fun for us so I told my da yes it's not the day to do fun so sit at home and be bored and and and think about the bet mikdash so it's important that we don't do that some people even have the custom that they don't smoke on TSH because again they get some type of pleasure from smoking the reality is that anything that causes for us pleasure that we do it arouses judgments against us unfortunately it's a very very bad day there the mid attribute of judgment is very powerful so we don't want to arouse any more judgment also many people they have the the the custom of not even to work that day they'll take a day off and in the evening there's not much of a of an issue but during the day then a lot of people they take a custom not to work that day not to do anything that day and even things that are simple and it sounds maybe you know ridiculous to mention but it's not a day also to to hang out on Facebook andbook and all these spes that it's you you you might stumble across all sorts of funny posts and funny videos and start all sorts of conversations really it's a day that you want to sit and and and mourn the destruction of the temple now a lot of people find it hard to do mourn the destruction of a building they say it's piece of it's a piece of real estate which so it's not a piece of real estate it's our our our Holy Temple but really the mour is not only for the destruction of the building rather of the destruction of the temple that's in me I'm also suffering some type of a spiritual destruction I'm not in in the state of of redemption I'm in the state of Exile I have a terrible yet I have a lot of and forbidden desires I'm going through a lot of hardship every person now is going through some type of hardship and that's the day to reflect and say wait a minute I'm in Exile myself what what am I doing what what what can I do to to better myself so we're going to talk with in the next class what do I need to focus on this day but again this is a day that I need to reflect very deep inside my my soul why am I still in Exile and not necessarily the destruction of a building rather of the destruction of my structure inside my uh my my my body and my soul more some people have the custom not to sit on chairs onsh because MERS in the time of the Shiva they don't sit on chairs they sit on either on a very low bench or something that is very low to signify every morning and you don't sit on anything comfortable on a regular chair some people turn the chairs upside down and they sit on the bottom of the chair but either way we try to avoid being comfortable throughout the night and the beginning of the day but after means the middle of the day it's not calls midnight but it's midday it's usually after 12:00 it's it's not exactly 12:00 depending when the Sun goes down it's usually will be 12:30 or1 all these things that we're very strict with that we go till midday tomorrow so not sitting on chairs uh and not sitting in a comfortable way that can be uh stopped sometime tomorrow in the afternoon uh if you have to prepare food for the sud better not to do it in the morning rather to do it as close as possible to the end of The Fast and better like I said to prepare it on Monday and that way you don't have to prepare anything during Tab and just the smells sometimes people start preparing in the afternoon of tab you can go crazy from from from just the smell next even though neither one of you puts F in on but we do have a lot of followers and viewers that are men we only put F in M we don't put F in in the morning morning we pray shakar the shakar that we pray is a little bit different we say we pray shakar early and then we read the kot as much as we can till after you can't read the kot anymore only in the afternoon when we pray we already put atalis on we put filin on and only at that time we starting we we continuing what we didn't do during sharit excuse me me the end no we do not have meat uh till the afternoon of the yav uh I was about to get to that very soon but everything that we're prohibited in doing in the beginning of the shab after we're already more lenient meaning also with learning Torah and many other things better to keep it to the late afternoon that's when we put F in on we cover ourselves with AIT that's when we're allowed to already start learning Tor so if when people have a certain order that they do every day by learning a portion of the weekly paraa reading a portion of whatever you have a custom to do then tomorrow you want to do it make sure that you're doing it early before the fast and on the day of the fast then you do do in the morning then you push it and you do it already towards the evening whatever daily s that you have some people have a SED that they read many things they do a portion of rambam portion of B whatever it is that they learn better that to push that to the end of the day now since the beginning of the destruction was onsh but if the end of the destruction was be the 10th of we still keep some of the laws of morning to the next day so you asked about meat about in the in the meal that we eat after the shab we do not eat meat till the next day in the afternoon meaning till in the afternoon we still don't eat meat we don't drink wine we don't take haircuts till the next day so you got to keep a few of the laws of the morning still till the midday of the 10th of a which for your question is no we don't eat meat till the next day and same with one wine and same with many other things TR excuse me TR traveling you can already do but the things we particular not doing is eating meat drinking wine taking haircuts and also uh excuse me Showers showers no showers you can take right away uh another thing that we try not to do the night is also uh for man and woman to have marital relations also on that night unless it's the night of the mik other than that better better not to and if you can avoid still traveling that night then better to do the traveling the next day if you can't you have to drive for a job or something important then okay but other than that we still want to keep it to the minimum doesn't mean that the fast ends and we start opening champagne bottles and and dancing music you can still hear again some people have the custom that till midday on the next day of the 10th of you don't do anything they keep it to the minimum they'll take a shower but still not listen to music and and really H celebrate like I mentioned my my son's birthday is the 10th of love so he's always you know he wants to celebrate right away and he he go upset that he can't open his presents yet I came now from the trip with a suitcase full of presents and he's like a shark going around the the suitcase you know he goes next to the suitcase like so it's funny to see him walking around the suitcase sniffing what did you bring so he can't open his presents on do the same so I mean we were really really lening with him we gave him one present because his yet would drive him nuts so we gave him one thing so he would be happy but yeah we only celebrate the next day on the 10th of of after the after midday so we still can't celebrate so we want to keep it to the minimum and really really we want to just focus on the fact that this is not a day to do anything fun happy and for ourselves it's a day to really reflect and to commemorate the destruction and to think where I can get better and and to focus on something else but me that's why a lot of the laws that I'm not allowed to do it's things that have to do with me when I don't take a shower it's not comfortable I'm sticky I smell I don't smell so good I want to take a shower before going to bed this is not to torture me is rather for me to take 24 hours a day throughout the year to stop thinking of myself and to think of somebody else and usually we are very H selfish we only think about ourselves and the BET mikdash was destroyed the second bet mikdash was destroyed from from hate for no reason because when will I hate somebody for no reason when I think about myself too much so once a year AEM says stop thinking about yourself for 24 hours think about somebody else so you'll be uncomfortable for 24 hours it's not the end of the world so I want to follow anything that will cause me to be comfortable so you can use your own imagination and to take for one day so I'm not going to be so comfortable one day I'm not going to think about myself this will arouse in me the energy and the power that throughout the year I'll have a little bit of more sensitivity to think less about myself and more to think about somebody else which ultimately would bring me to have an unconditional love to any human being that that is what's going to bring us the Redemption back so you use your own imagination where can I less think of myself to make my day a little bit less comfortable which will arouse in me the the motion of okay it's time to think about somebody else and this is what's going to bring to us the Redemption so I wish you a very easy fast needless to say we're not going to have classes here on Tuesday classes will uh return on Thursday we should pray hard mashiah will come tonight and we don't have to fast and we can take showers and we can travel to and see the BET mikdash have a very very easy [Music] fast