Learning But Not Changing - Jewish HaShkafa (18)

[Music] we're back uh we're doing our series on the Jewish Jewish ideology based on the by the today sh will be for Rafael also for a uh for andz y Ben ra Stefan Ben Karina Talia m s sarana ran Leana saram ran s an Raima raim Ben Doris Bora David Bena and also for a for Shen faran Isa but Mara Marsha but Julie and uh also foren uh abah and also for Jonas Ben Sher Sher Haley oh and also aoov and Shon bat Abraham adelon and Rafael and also do the of this and many others help all of is especially the ones that are partners with us whether it's by their resources of money time skills whatever way people are looking uh to to help us mayem bless them thousandfold in this world and the next it's uh truly amazing how many people are looking to volunteer help do good things uh just a small example of some of the things that uh just recently came out cuz there's constantly new projects but rarely do you see them in actual hard copy but uh you know part of Team Hashem they uh they do different 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I'll print some more B of the sh so different things different tools when the fights you you have to come with wisdom you have to have some creative ideas to fight especially now we have you know less than a month away before before Judgment Day you know it's a um easy to uh forget what's coming because we're so busy with our life we're so busy with learning different things we're so busy with chasing our own tail trying to make money trying to move trying to this trying to that it's tough to get your head together and actually come to the realization that the biggest trial of your life is less than a month away you know usually people if they have a uh trial for a parking ticket or a speeding ticket that could potentially cost them a bunch of money or even their license they already become nervous a month in advance they hire lawyers they call their friends ask for advices if anybody knows anything or it matters and everybody's nervous if you have Shalom ever a uh a trial with The Regulators whether it be the IRS or some self-regulatory system you have in your country you get nervous months in advance months in advance you can't sleep months in advance you can't eat months in advance you can't think about anything else until this trial is over and even after you have the trial you still have to wait for a decision many times but very few very few Among Us actually think about our trial that's needless to say everyone very few of us think about the trial that we have every day and also in says that everything is decided including your on from until but then the Mish says every date's decided every day or every year so the bmov came and gave a k that he learned from a Milkman that was a one time a guy came and the B said how you doing oh tough tough what's tough oh you know I'm doing this already for 20 years it's heavy it's hot outside not the best job maybe I could have been something else help us next day he sees the same guy how you doing all the blessings in theah what happened no everything is good they got to have a job you know my friend he got fired of his job he doesn't have a job I just take a that I have something thank you thank you thank you so the B says Ah you gave me a what the says that our is De but the M that preceded thear says it's decided every day so who's right they're both right how is it the says every year decides how much you going to get but the mishna went into more specific details says yes although it's decided how much you're going to make every year on every day your name shows up at the ballot in sh at the and say how is he going to get it tomorrow is he going to get at the hot way where it's 900° outside and he has to work outside or is get in the air conditioner is the air conditioner going to work or it's not going to work is the people going to show up or they're not going to show up is it going to be a lot or is going to be a little hard work easy work says they're both right you're going to get the one way or the other how you're going to get it is a different story and you see it many times many times people worry every single day about how they're going to get p but not necessarily how they're going to convince hm to give it to them in the first place or to give it to them in an easier way why we're not worried about Yad we're not worried about Yad we're not worried about he would say listen to be worried every single day you have to be a tadik to be worried every day about Judgment Day you have to be big sadik although that's not necessarily true but yeah okay let's say but what about worrying about it once a year at least on even that is hard why is it hard because the is very smart and he keeps us busy just like am was in the Egypt slaves being tortured kids being killed is all types of horrible things M the the mashia shows up tell I'm G to free you guys oh M we're busy we're busy go go somewhere else we're busy working hard that's what the PUK says we're working hard can't listen to you right now meaning that the just keeps us working hard working hard at what anything anything but doing Chua anything but doing Chua so although we really should be worried every single day at the very least says worry now you got less than a month away before Judgment Day and you're still worried about girls you're still worried about the stock market you're still worried about your diet you're still worried everything but you're whether you're going to live we're not worried enough now Shalom he was a Mal simple Mal but we don't take my word for it we take the word of his wife who said it at his funeral because tell us only two know who you are and your wife everybody else you could fool them your friends you can fool them to think that you're a really nice guy cuz you're nice to them but they don't know you be your wife you see your friends ah I love you what's up man how you doing how's your kids oh that little one's so cute yeah yeah I love seeing him yeah yeah he finish yeah yeah yeah he doesn't know that your kid doesn't want to read now he doesn't know how to read doesn't want to read why every time he read something you gave him a slap so hard he never want to read again but his kid oh I like look look he likes kids honey he likes kids yeah likes kids his own kids he beats he beats them senses they don't want to be religious they don't want to be Jewish they don't want to be alive because of him so your friends you can fool friends you can fool your boss for sure you can fool them for sure you can fo so you're doing you finish the project almost boss you haven't even started I'm almost done boss I'm almost done you haven't started yet the guy leave what the hell is he talking about what project what's due today what like he's in high school what this a test today you I love those kids you're in school what there's a test today what' you do all week where'd you go what do you mean is there a test today did you come to class no of course you're not going to know there a test today can I copy off for you yeah what do you think is going to happen in real life you think you're going to copy off of somebody to pay your rent but you could cheat you could lie tell the teacher yeah yeah yeah I study all night I studyed all night to write everything on my hand Ted all night to copy the homework from him I studied you could fool the teacher you can fool your friends you could fool the boss you can fool your customer yeah it's brand new lady it's brand new refurbished I mean brand new brand new it's the best worst thing in the world best thing in the world I'm giving you I'm losing money on this I love those people I'm losing money on giving this to you cuz I like you made yuck on you doubled his money on you losing money on you you're such a he such a g such a such a pure Nish how are you still in business you're losing money and every customer you you can lie to the customers you could lie to your boss you could lie to the customer but you cannot lie to a but also even your wife knows the truth your spouse knows the truth they may not say it they may not want to say it because they're scared they may not want to say because they just simply don't want to deal with it but one day it's all going to come out lein Shalom at his funeral his wife says I simply lived with a Mal I lived with an angel now many times somebody can be a big Rabbi help a lot of people it's very hard to pay the same type of attention at home why you got 500 people complaining to you nonstop maybe one out of 500 saying thank you okay just to you know one z n one for 500 by the time you get to your wife and kids you can't handle anything anything but good you can't handle why tough already you're already dealing with so much craziness so it's hard to maintain his wife the ran says Le angel on all the smallest things he cared about and all the little Minor Details he took care of everything Mal but this very same Mal one time the B and his Yesa wanted to protest because there wasn't enough food not like today the air condition is not working so we're protesting we're not coming to the sh for a year yeah but it didn't work only for one day yeah but we're going to use this excuse not to come for a year they want to protest how they protest no signs like the crazy people of today what they do something more creative all their underwear their t-shirts and everything they hung them on ropes in the Yesa now the showed up and they see Thea turned into a laundromat this guy's underwear t-shirts this tank tops sh what are they going to do Rabbi 500 boys what are you going to do kill everybody what are you going to do fire everybody what are you going to do I mean and they're not even protesting against something bad I mean they want more food of lein walks in he sees it he says whoever doesn't take off his stuff from the lines I promise him he will not finish this year and he started learning within 5 Seconds every single thing hung disappeared like the ground swallowed like k Why lein doesn't say much nonsense let's just say that if he told you not going to finish the year it's better to listen to him why because he loves you so how come he has to be so harsh why can say guys please I understand you come on why can't you just give another sh one of his famous give listen it's not the right place to do it I understand you have to work on yourself why because he knew that when it comes to the issues of desire desire there is no easy route why when someone has a strong desire even if it's a desire that's necessary like eating it's nonetheless a desire you cannot talk somebody out of it in a soft approach if I don't destroy this right away nothing's going to happen I can give them a 100 he says 100 and it won't affect them why right now they're in the middle of a desire and if I don't kill it right away with something strong something lethal nothing will help the whole place will collapse this is why sometimes the hard is the only thing that works for certain people but sometimes it doesn't the same lein same mov one time comes to his Yesa and he sees all the boys are there he tells them go go play go do whatever you want I'm not teaching you today 500 boys th000 boys what are they going to do we go play in the sand go play in the sand go do something I want teach you not interested why we're here you're here go I don't want to I don't want to teach you why not what do we do says because you don't want to learn but we show up it's not a sign it's not an indication we came to the shield 10:00 at is that an indication that I want to learn Le says you see sometimes there are certain people I think you call sadistic where they like pain they like pain some are masochistic one likes to give pain one likes to receive pain some people like to receive pain it's a form of pleasure for them strange people need help but they exist in the world some people like to ex you know receive pain physically and some people like to receive pain emotionally psychologically they like it if you insult them they like it if you bash them they like it some people like to receive pain spiritually they want to tell you oh Rabbi I'm rash right ah yeah kak Rabbi yeah you're right you called me another one yeah I did that last week wow this Rabbi is the best this Rabbi is the best he knows I'm a criminal I can't wait to come back here next week some people like to receive it physically they go to these message parlor so the so the person could stomp on their back oh why because they want the pain at the end it feels better at the end it feels better why but the pain it's it's Agony Agony is jumping on your back oh yeah yeah it's going to feel good for you yeah it's going to feel good they like it lein says I'm not a massage par and I'm not a person that's going to give you pain for your joy I'm here to change people and if you're not looking to change I don't want to teach you one of the most disappointing things that a leader whether it being kiru or otherwise has to deal with is when people continuously show up listen to what they say tell them I like that I like that lecture it's the best but the next day same animal as there was the day before nothing changed nothing same person same everything week after week year after year they show up they listen they like it but they don't change this is unfortunately a recurring problem you cannot avoid because it's not up to the speaker it's not up to the rabbi the rabbi is simply the spark the spark to get you ignited in order to wake you up in order for you to desire to want to change but if you do not want to change nothing will help even if you come to every shoe and you watch every sh online live and you watch it again the next day on YouTube and just to get out of the obligation make sure you watch it on the app also on the app and just in case you miss something you're going to watch the clipse from that shield and just to make sure you make a mitvah you share it too but you still walk around half naked still walk around with n Curse coming out of your mouth every two seconds still waste your life with all types of nonsensical hobbies and habits still stingy still arrogant still angry still same animal they started two years before the Sha did how do I know unfortunately I see it I see it every day in people I see it every day people where they tell me yes and I love the shim they're great and I look at the profile picture because unfortunately it's part of the automatic situation today everybody has a profile picture that you have to see and you see this person says I love the shim it changed my life why don't they change your wardrobe how about it doesn't change your life how about you just change change your wardrobe instead don't give me the compliment just just buy clothes how about that but that's the problem sometimes a person does not understand that the lecture is talking to him the says says if I'm not for myself who is for me come and on that BYU 800 years ago he says if I don't rebuke myself then who will do it for me because the rebuke of others is only good for an hour but the constant rebuke of myself to wake myself up would last day after day and not be forgotten the one who wrote the SE about CH says it clearly you're going to come to sh it's a good sh at best case scenario for an hour to change your life you have to want it you have to want it so what's the point of the shield to ignite you to ignite you as we see from the whole with was the king of of is was rash married to Aya worshiped Idols did every sin Under the Sun one dayi comes to him and starts rebuking him and tells him the worst possible thing says you're going to die and your wife is going to die in unusual death and on top of it the dogs are going to to eat her body parts and lick her blood and all of your descendants are going to die andem what type of rebuke he gave him but not rebuke like you're a bad guy rebuke like I'm promising you the end is near and it's horrible at that moment at that moment the tanak says the killed people did all types of evil in the world took it seriously put a sack on himself and started doing chuva and as a among the whether he did CH he didn't do CH he started do CH but then he went back or he did CH and says to look at he's doing look he say do yeah but did it last or no how did he start doing start so you need a spark but that Spark's not enough in order for it to continue you have to overcome your desires but you cannot overcome your desires just tiptoeing around yeah I'm going to stop on Tuesdays and Wednesdays but the rest of the week game's on no I'm G to stop doing it every day I'll just do once a month no such thing it's either allowed or not allowed to me you're going to do it you're not going to do it why as long as you're playing both sides of the field it's not it's like people they're going to show up on with white clothes on drive to sh on drive to drive to sh on Shabbat they have white clothes on they'll sing with everybody sing with everybody but they're already planning a barbecue or go to a beach or something on Shabbat why they're confused they don't understand CH is not just for young people it's every day and if we don't do CH every day it won't last it's either allowed or it's not allowed it's either says yes says no when he says yes that means you're going to get reward for it he says no that means you're going to get punished for it you don't believe reading the books now every one of us needs a spark today yesterday we read the book of Lamentations in chapter 4 verse 15 says away unclean people shouted at them calling the people like a impure and interpreted this referring to but not is saying it's written Hashem says because of the daughters of Zion are So Vain and walk with heads thrown back as it says in Isaiah 3 verse 16 because the daughters of Zion are so vain they walked about with presumptuous of spirit presumptuousness of spirit and walk with heads thrown back as was the case when one of them dressed up in ornaments she stretched her neck here and there in her Pride to show off her jewelry we're not even talking about showing off body talking about your oh you see a new necklace my husband got me you see oh did you see oh you saw it already you want to see it again want to see it again you see it you like it $5,000 you you can't go on right with ring eyes says they deceptively painted their eyes with red paint put enough makeup on their face you could see like a traffic light rabish Shimon son of L says with red cerium and and with mincing gate if one of them was tall she went with two short women on either side so that she might seem taller because of her height and if one of them was short she wore platform shoes so she might appear tall making tinkling with their feet says she was decorated by the form of a dragon on her sandals 2,000 plus years ago the Prophet Jeremiah tells us in the book of give us commentary says you see the problems you have today girls walking with high heels girls walking around to get attention in those days it was the same thing some use similar tools some use different tools one tall girl would walk around with two short girls why because if she's tall she stands out one short girl would wears platform shoes big heels big things why she wants you to think she's called why cuz she wants you to look at her if that's not enough they put bells on their shoes put bells on their shoes today they don't need to put bells why cu the heels make enough noise you can hear from down the street and the rabbi said she brought the crop of a rooster and it was filled with balsom oil and she placed it in between our heel and our sandal and when she saw a group of guys she smashed it and the scent spread among them and this was like a Venom of a snake today's world lots of perfume she walked into the room the whole office knows everybody knows oh she's here how do you know you're 5,000 ft away I could smell it call like the Venom of a snake Venom of a snake is not a good thing unless you need it for medicine but that's only if it works otherwise it simply kills you if it's meaning what if it's your wife smells good it's medicine if it's not your wife it's venom it happened that Jeremiah said to them do chuva make repentance so that the enemies will not come and they said to them if the enemies come upon us us what are they going to be able to do to us see it's written let him speed let him hasten his purpose if we are to give thought let the plans of the Holy One of Israel be quickly fulfilled if we have if we have to give if we have to give heed in so many words the prophet of the day Jeremiah tells the women do chuva stop walking around around immodestly stop looking for attention he's not talking about mini skirts and uh and tank tops You're simply a center of attention why look at the way you dress look at the way you talk look at the way you laugh look at your attitude every single guy knows your name how come they're not all your husband how come everybody knows you oh I'm friendly I'm a friendly I'm a friendly woman you're a friendly woman you're g mean Gom friendly a lot of friends over there why there's no reason for you to have male friends no they're my colleagues they all work in your department you built airplane Parts this guy cleans the the garbage what does he have to do with you I'm just being nice no need to be nice Hello Goodbye finished to know his personal life about his wife and how many kids and where they're going the G just too much information you're looking for attention why you like it that's the truth why'd you put extra perfume today you're not going to be next to your husband oh so stepen the office can smell so Joe can smell so Jose can smell so everybody else can enjoy somebody else's wife how come you laughing so loud what everybody down the street can hear you too that it's funny maybe they're going to come over and say oh what's so funny what's so funny how come you speak so loud why does everybody have to hear your conversation what you did this weekend and what your mother made for food why why are you so out there why you want attention right Jeremiah says no good where did Jeremiah hear from he says do before this brings enemies what enemies destruction of the bet and what did the women say ah no come on you're exaggerating if hasem wants us to send these enemies we'll just marry these enemies he wants to send the Romans he wants to send this one he wants to send that one we'll just marry them what we're pretty we're good-looking ladies why not what's the problem what can they do to us nothing maybe they'll matter at our husbands okay so we'll have no husbands [Applause] the midash continues says horrible things about what kind of punishment these people got but the long story short is that sometimes sometimes a person has to stop fooling themselves and think that they're listen to rebuke and that rebuke has to do with somebody else if you are listening to this even if you're the speaker of this it has to do with you why created the world put a Torah in it put people in it billions and billions and billions of people with all types of problems and all types of desires and all types of dinners lunch and and and and all types of meals and all types of hobbies and all types of cars and planes and gadgets and financial situations lots and lots of stuff and flowers and bells and whistles and stars and sunny days and rainy days and a maul that destroyed the world and a uh h a rainbow that showed us a sign that he's not going to do the same destruction but not necessarily not a different destruction and fires and Waters and all types of wonderful things guess what you're here to hear this for a reason why he could have put you somewhere else he could have let you hear something else if you're hearing this right now or a five years from now you're hearing it it's you don't look behind you oh yeah I know some no no it's you something has to do with you why you've been watching and nothing changed no I long you been watching for 15 minutes exactly it's too long already you haven't already committed to change within the first 15 minutes you should have already said I got to change something what I got to do I got to change something 15 minutes into you should have already said what it's aul it's a the people in the previous generation would have collapsed on the floor on the moment they heard the Judgment days is coming in a month and I haven't even committed to do chat today it's a nothing nothing changed this has to do with you this has to do with me has to do with all of us why designed the whole world and let us hear this now many of us listening to the Kish give us a picture perfect system and thought process how to become a Mal how to become an angel and he continues this week in 11th section of the first chapter he says there are people who want to do good to others for a person who enjoys doing good to others meeting a good friend is a source of Joy he greets and pleasant presently he may be afraid that perhaps he has not hit exactly the right note with him perhaps he has said something wrong what pains him most is the pain of having offended someone or of having withheld the kindness right off the bat K tells us about what a Mal thinks like why regular people don't think like this there are kind people that exist in the world many some of them even help us do all the things that we do they give they help but he's not really describing kindness he's describing a step further he's saying there are certain people that they want to do this good for other people and they actually get joy out of this so so much so that this becomes their primary part of their brain primary part of their thought process to the point where they're constantly worried about bringing joy to others because that's what brings them Joy so if they see you they make sure to say hello they make sure that you have food in your fridge they make sure that you have a job and you're able to pay the bills they make sure that you know they care they make sure to hear you out if you have something to say they're constantly worried about you even though they don't have to be you're a grown man you're a grown woman they're not even family there are some people like this in the world but not many one time K was invited to a wedding of a couple of students and he said yeah I'll come so to have the come to a wedding is a big deal you wait for him more than you wait for the Bri for the bride and groom just asked listen if you could just have somebody come pick me up at the house and tell me where to go I'd happily come so a couple of T showed up at the kish's house and they see that the r is talking to an older couple so one of the ways that people learn from big is they just listen into their conversations how they deal with other people without saying their two cents so today you could know if you're or not or at least what your view as why if you're nobody interrupts if you're not a everybody interrupts no no no but RAB I don't agree with that who are you who ask you to be in a conversation who ask you to be in a conversation who ask your opinion where did you come from no no I just overhearing oh you're overhearing so anyway these couple of people over hearing the conversation the is having too old a couple and they hear a conversation that's uh very unusual for to have what so how many buttons should we get Rabbi buttons oh I think you should get 500 buttons but which buttons should we get should we get the plastic ones or should we get the ones that are made out of something that looks like plastic or the buttons that are you should get that one what about what what color should should we get the light brown or or the dark brown or maybe the blue what does the rough think he gives him a choice get the blue is nice what about the string the string for the buttons the string for the buttons should we get it that's made out of hair or should we get it for me he tells him this listening to this either the r has lost his mind or he has some type of clothing business on his side like what is this and then what about kind of fabric should we get okay and what kind of socks should we get how long should you know had about how long your sock should be what kind of socks should we get what kind of material we should get how long they should be all types of details about clothes and how many pieces and how many this and how many that now the every few minutes the you know they have people are waiting at the wedding hall 200 people are waiting so they you know clearing their throat to make sure the r knows they're there but nothing he's not paying attention to them an hour an hour they're waiting eventually he finishes with this older couple he see tell me okay y let's go we got to hurry we have to go to a wedding so says for L teach us we know the r was doing some type of we know that the r was doing some type of Good Deed but the question is how come the bride and groom and 200 guests have to suffer for the says did you see that couple they're both holocost survivors and the entire nation of Israel is indebted to them indebted to them to help them in any way everyone is obligated to help them in any way now since the bill came to me I had to pay it on behalf of Cl and them waiting is the way that they are paying along with me what when a person thinks about doing good for others this can become a normal thought process I'm here I'm going to waste in your eyes an hour of my life talking about buttons and strings even though I could talk about I could talk about m i could talk about the most difficult sug in the world I could even tell you different things about your brain that your brain surgeon doesn't know you may view it as a waste of time to talk about buttons but K says no why this is tor and this is tor this is helping people this is helping people I can't talk to them about M right now I got to talk to about buttons why because the buttons is what fits the bill today that's what fits to Bild today when you think about others and you constantly want to help them you're not always going to have the same message if you have the same message you have to check yourself to see is it because it's your message and you care less about what the recipient is and who the recipient is because you should care if you want to help them unless you want to help yourself so now K tells us that there are certain types of people that are already on their way to be coming Angels where perhaps their thought process is very unusual to compared to the average person because they're constantly thinking about if they've done something wrong that made the other person unhappy even if they didn't even interact yet now many people have this feeling but not because of right the right reasons oh she doesn't want to talk to me why why do you assume she doesn't want to talk to you no I'm not assuming she just hasn't answered my calls she hasn't answered my calls so she doesn't want to talk to me she probably hates me because I didn't invite her to the wedding of my uncle's cousin nephew's dog his brother the next door neighbor I didn't invite her so she's probably mad at me and also because I have the same dress as hers and also because when I walked by in the mall on the right on the left she passed by with her car and I didn't wave but I'm not even sure she saw me you have all this to in your head of what you ever think maybe she's just busy she's not answering your calls cuz she's busy why is it have to be all the other stuff why does it have to be that you didn't invite you didn't do this you didn't do that it's all about you why is it always about you maybe she didn't call you because there's something wrong maybe she's busy maybe you're not you know the world and she has other parts of the world and that's why she didn't call you maybe she didn't see you maybe her phone got disconnected maybe it broke maybe it got lost like did you ever think that maybe the issue is with her and not you maybe the world doesn't revolve around you lady maybe they didn't hire you because you're not the right fit and not because you're not white or you're not green or you're not burgundy or you're not Jewish or you're not Chinese maybe they didn't give you the role because they found something better maybe it's not because of all the other things you have in your head why does it always have to be the things that are in your head this if a person simply just stop here and did you up of this half your problems are gone why most of our problems are in our mind ah he doesn't like me why he doesn't like you how do you know he told you he doesn't like you no no I just I saw the way he looked at me what do you mean the way he looked at you no he looked you gave me an attitude by looking at you could already tell what you a prophet no I just see his face his face was like I he wasn't happy oh maybe he had Gess maybe he saw somebody behind you he doesn't like maybe his face Twitches maybe a million and a half why does it have to be about you why why is the whole world revolve around you we're so upset with the world but in reality has nothing to do with the world it's us says if we just turn it turn the switch a little bit forget about you for a moment start thinking about other people he's upset what could I do to make him happy he looks up he looks upset maybe I upset him and I could do something better I don't know what I did but it doesn't matter but I could do something to fix it or to do to do but if we're constantly looking as we're the victims and and everybody doesn't like her that's a problem why because it's not coming from humility it's coming from selfishness it's coming from ego thinking that the world revolves around you so first and foremost person has to start thinking differently because the K says what pains such a good person what pains him most is the pain of having offended someone or of having withheld a kindness meaning he sees he has food and he sees his colleague is not eating and he ate his sandwich already without asking his colleague whether he wants a piece he ate it already and now he's going to feel bad about it why maybe he didn't have any money to eat and me pigac that I am I ate the whole sandwich without asking my colleague that I sit next to for eight hours a day five days a week I didn't ask him if he wants a piece kind of selfish person am I I can't deal with it I'm going to the rest hello yeah yeah um give me a burger and this $50 meal what shows up to the listen why' you give me this I don't know I figured you're hungry I figured you're hungry but I have food oh okay I didn't know whatever you want it sure why not thanks for thinking of me why are you thinking of him because you know they should not think of him and only think about yourself he's constantly thinking of with is holding kindness from other people he himself is never hurt by others because his love-filled heart covers up any offense and he's prepared in advance to accept barbs and reproaches from others with true love knowing that most people do not possess Noble qualities and do not have good midot and that one cannot demand much from them if a person can understand what the k wrote just now the other half of your problems will simply disappear and will never come back the K here is saying that the person that's doing kindness for others what is constantly stopping us from helping other people what's number one reason people are ungrateful number one reason let's say you start off on a good you know I'm going to I'm going to be babaali today I'm going to be the I'm going to be the uh B today anybody El look at me I'm smile with tooth without tooth I'm GNA talk to everybody hi how are you how's you care all of a sudden you're right she start helping people hey how are you how are you how's everything hey give T to everybody until you run out of money everything's good right you start helping helping helping helping helping what do you figure naturally you figured they'd appreciate it he'd figured they'd say next day they'll say hi to you next day say you want to call for dinner next they going to say how you doing next day they're going to say Hey listen he's a good guy something somebody's going to acknowledge instead what do you get that guy was stingy yeah he only gave me one slice of pizza yeah that guy he only donate $100 better you didn't give anything this guy that guy terrible why that's people so what do you do okay that's it I'm not helping anybody anymore I'm taking care of everybody all this time no one's grateful I'm going in my cave the heck with you I'm gonna be take care of myself right I tried I tried helping you guys you didn't say thank you you didn't appreciate nothing I'm gone I'm out of here cuz he says now you became worse than them why you missed the whole point what's the point of helping them is the point of helping them so you get something in return then that's not help that's business if you're helping so they give you something back that's not help that's business that's a transaction I give you money you give me stuff I give you stuff you give me money if you're expecting something in turn that is not help that's business if you're going to [Applause] help says expect nothing in return and in fact expect a negative return not only nothing a negative return and remain happy because of it why how at somebody go help a bunch of people get received back ungratefulness of all kinds you name it he got it you name it she got it invites everyone to the weddings of our kids but doesn't get invited invites everybody to their house for shabas but doesn't get invited sends everybody flowers on their birthday birthday but not even a chocolate arrives at our house on her birthday no one even remembers it calls everyone to say hello and how you doing no one calls back in fact the only time they call is to say how come you didn't call ungratefulness and she wants to be a says she has to be happy about this why because she hasn't understand ing that most people have bad mid have bad character [Applause] traits to such an extent that you cannot expect anything from them what is the Kaz telling us he's telling us that having bad character traits is a deformity it's an illness it's something that you cannot be upset about he didn't say thank you you should feel bad that he didn't say thank you why he is deformed he has an illness he doesn't know how to say thank you the poor guy you should cry to for him the poor guy never said Thank you in his life poor guy you should cry pour tears on him more than your more than this more than that you should cry the guy doesn't know how to say thank you that's a horrible disease mein and you're upset that she didn't say thank you what's the matter with you I'll give you a parable says one time big guy [Applause] standing at the bus stop waiting for the bus as you would have it other people show up and a little scrawny guy shows up next to him big guy stands tall waiting for the bus doesn't want to be bothered and suddenly out of nowhere the scrawny guy takes his left elbow right in his ribs the big guy like is this guy out of his mind I could just make him into potato chips right now he says to the guy what's the matter with you the scorny guy doesn't even look at him nothing which makes it even worse the big guy knows that if I touch this guy police are gonna show up stay cool man stay cool it happens stays cool continues waits for the bus another few minutes pass the big guy's there just thinking about what happened wait till I tell my wife what happened with a strange bus ride I had today and as he thinking about what he's going to tell his wife all of a sudden he goes what what is what's the matter with you man he starts yelling at the guy hey the guy the SC doesn't even look at him just sits there like this like nothing happened the big guy wants to make him now into bambba not even potato chips he thinks to himself I'm going to take this guy take him into potato chips then some bambba what's going to come out of it I'm going to get arrested CU going to blame me there's no cameras here stay cool man stay cool you just got out of prison just stay cool man stays cool he sits up there he's like wait till I tell my wife how they're trying to get me man they're trying to get me and he stays cool another few minutes pass and all of a sudden as he's thinking about his wife and I can't wait to get home this time that's it I got I've had it I'm going back to prison man I'm going to take and as he's about to grab this guy's head who's not even looking at him all of a sudden another guy show in his ear and all of a sudden he I was like oh wou feels bad it feels feels awful he feels terrible I can't believe I almost did that wow and he's just nodding the whole time when the bus comes he like yeah yeah go ahead man he tells us scon go ahead man go oh thank you thank you go ahead man what do he say to him you see when a situation looked like it looked looked like the skinny guy was looking for a early death penalty but his friend whispered in his ear the big guy's ear says listen the guy you're yelling at he's deaf and not only is he deaf he has muscle spasms and he doesn't have control over his body he's not hitting you on purpose he doesn't even know he's hitting you all of a sudden in a matter of a second all of that Ang disappeared and was replaced with sorrow now that you understand the real circumstance what the is trying to teach us here when someone takes something that you gave them and doesn't say thank you you are not supposed to get upset why they have a sickness when some someone instead of showing you gratitude shows you ungratefulness you shouldn't be upset you should feel sad for them they're sick they don't even have control over themselves the poor people what are you so upset over the reality is now that you realize what the k says is 100% emit the vast majority of people have bad character traits why they weren't taught good character traits and even if they were taught good character traits they simply thought you're either born with good or you're not you're either born a kind person or you're not born a kind person you're either born a calm person or you're born a angry person I can tell you for myself I was born an angry person when someone told me I.E ra FR told me anger is no good I said yeah what do you want for me I was born angry I didn't think for a second that that is something I'm supposed to work on I was born angry what's the problem it's not my fault I was born this way I didn't create me if you have a problem go call AEM he says no no no that's the point of you you're born angry you have to fix it you're born stingy you have to fix it you're born arrogant you have to fix it or else there's no point of view when someone has an understanding that not only are these bad character traits there but it's there by choice yes you were born with bad character traits all of us were but to keep them that way is a choice it's a choice why because we know it's wrong it's wrong to be angry it's wrong to be stingy it's wrong to be arrogant it's wrong to be all types of other bad things so we have to change it okay so what about everybody else everybody else is not your business you worry about you okay so how do I deal with them if I'm working on myself and I'm working on not being angry and I'm working on not being stingy and I'm working on not being arrogant and I'm working and not being this and not being that and I'm working and working and working and they're not working yes that's the point you work on you in order to make you realize you have even more of a reason to feel bad for them for staying the same way they are now that you know that you can work on yourself and no longer be angry no longer be bad no longer be a cheater no longer be a liar now that you know that you can't do it yet they're still there that's even more of a reason for you to feel bad for them and not be upset with them why they're sick the poor people are sick what are you going to beat him up because he's crippled go pick on somebody own side that's the Mak of a Jew that's the thought process of a Jew that has the right Ideology Now of course this is definitely not easy no one says it is but what good in life is easy the K says such a person he himself is never hurt by others why he has prepared in advance to accept the barbs and reproaches meaning already before he met them already before he gave them he prepared himself mentally I'm going to give them candy and they're going to throw it in my face I'm going to help save them and they're going to spit on me I'm going to help them in such ways and they're not going to help me already is prepared for the worse not because he thinks they're bad people and they're just going to because he sees the poor people don't know anything good yet hopefully something good comes out of it hopefully they say thank you hopefully they become supportive hopefully hopefully but I'm not doing it for that I'm doing it because it's the right thing to do you do good because it's good to do it's the right thing to do it's what a wants you to do not because you're going to get anything in return you want something in return go to Wall Street go to some Market go do business but if you're going to do good for the sake of good then you got something then you got something but this requires mental and spiritual preparation and a clear understanding in that you have nothing to ask from other people why if they are where you used to be that's even more of a reason for you to help them and not be upset with them so in spite of all of it he values and respects them and has no bad feelings of the type that cause people to scorn others feelings of great delicacy cause such a person to use for the greatest good two opposites of the same Realm on one hand he blames himself every step of the way for lack of perfection of his own character traits and on the other he excuses his fellow man completely even if the latter is Laden with many sins this is mid in a single sentence but real real D is not just thank you know giving people a smile but in reality expecting them to return one or at least a check even without a smile here he's saying you're going to go help others with all types of things you're going to help him move and you're going to help him get a job and you're going to help him eat and you're going to help her this and you're going to help her that you're going to help without expecting anything in return and in fact if they show a nasty attitude you feel bad for them because you realize this nasty attitude is simply an illness a lack of understanding of what their point in the world is a lack of understanding that Hashem runs the world and Hashem is the reason of why the world is the way it is of why it rains of why the economy is upward down of why evil is allowed to succeed and so on and so so forth we choose our actions but a chooses the outcomes and there's no complaints that you can give to hem and even though they're saying they're complaining about Hashem non-stop you simply understand that they are misinformed but when you see them unhappy first thing is you blame yourself I didn't say the right thing to them I didn't bring them closer I didn't have patience with them you start checking yourself how could I have done a better job you know people say in America the customer is always right that's the policy it's really wrong customer is not always right they're many times they're wrong but if you want to stay in business you have to pretend like the customer is always right but we're not in business we're simply trying to bring good to the world and do good ourself and K says it starts off with checking your own imperfections yeah but he was angry okay I understand he was angry he's sick but was there something you could have done better like not react to his anger you know an argument is a two-way street if he's yelling but you don't respond it's not an argument he just looks cra crazy so if you don't yell back guess what there's no argument sometimes you could win the argument by killing them with love wow I love the way your eyes look when you're upset yeah they might want to punch you in the face but after they see that you're actually seeing a compliment about them they're not why you're going to see that they're yelling and you're not sometimes that's the way sometimes there different ways point being is instead of analyzing all of their errors and how they're doing something wrong understand they're sick and you have an understanding of that illness and therefore you should self diagnose first how can I fix me how could I have reacted different how could I have done something different maybe I triggered them maybe I did something wrong not coming from a self-conscious loser personality but rather a person that's looking to improve themsel a confident person a knowledgeable person not a person that feels bad for themselves no matter what they do you know some people always think that they're wrong because they have no confidence whatsoever I'm not talking about that I'm talking about a person that is is self-aware and simply understands that other people have flaws but I can't fix them I can fix me so on one hand he has to look at the lack of perfection of his own traits and on the other he has to find excuses for his fellow man even if the letter is with many sinense meaning you see that she is showing you what a truck driver's mouth sounds like and instead of turning her into a monster you start analyzing yourself and then you start giving reasons of why she has such a mouth oh her father was that's what he taught her so imagine for 20 years she's in her father's house that's all she heard if I heard something for 20 years I'd probably do the same thing oh and our classmates and our best friends and our first marriage and our this and our brothers and our work and you start realizing wait she didn't just become like this by herself she was influenced to think that this is good so it's really not completely her fault yes it's her choice to choose but she doesn't know that yet yes she's a sinner but she doesn't know she's a sinner why she doesn't know to sin to curse she doesn't know it's a sin to be modest she thought since everybody's walking around with no clothes on I should do or else I'm going to lose my husband she doesn't know it's wrong so you start thinking how could I get her to see it what am I doing wrong here that I'm not getting her to see it and you start anal Iz ing yourself and finding benefit doubt for others not justifying their sense to leave them that way but rather looking at it analyzing it and finding a creative way to number one not make them look bad in your eye where you start hating them and two find a way to actually help them become healthy now such a person of ref of fine qualities does not require excessive restraint and much effort in the battle against Natural anger and against the pain of being insulted because his spirit is already refined and Polished to the point that it cannot be B smirked and he enjoys great happiness here the Kish gives us a conclusion of such hard work to say everything I said is easy to do it is much more difficult so what's the goal why should we do it other than that would be good and the world around us would turn into good K says simply such a person that has worked in of these things has realigned his or her mind to think this way to act this way is not only going to have an easy time overcoming things like anger which plague all of us by simply not being angry anymore but on top of it even if somebody gives you a reason to be angry by insulting you it won't affect you as if it's a another fly in the air and you're walking around another mosquito nothing dogs barking who cares let him bark what's it going to do well you think if you tell him quiet he's going to stop you think you going tell the mosquito to stop flying into your face it's going to stop no it's going to continue so you can either stay upset or you can simply realize this is a reality and there's no reason for me to be upset hasem runs the world such a person will not feel any pain when they're insulted why because their Spirit has become refined and Polished to the point where it cannot be B smirked it can't be touched no no one can affect it in a negative way and now he enjoys great happiness what's happiness it's a state of mind at all times you wake up happy you exist happy you go to sleep happy you're just happy you don't need anything to stimulate your happiness like people think people think if I get this money I'll be happy if I get this girl I'll be happy if I marry this guy I'll be happy if I get this job I'll be happy meaning they believe that they need some type of stimuli some type of something to make them happy wrong happiness is a spiritual state of being it is not something physical tangible it's spiritual meaning you cannot feed spiritual with material with the physical you can't just give somebody a bag of money and make them happy why they could be on their deathbed that money is not going to do anything for them you cannot make somebody happy just by giving them stuff you can give give him the most beautiful woman in the world he's blind it's not going to help him buddy he's not going to help him or he's brokenhearted from his first wife or whatever it is that's not going to help him but happiness is not something that's physical that's tangible happiness is simply a state of being as a result of your spirituality getting to a certain level when a person does these steps he can get the happiness now to be such a person to be such a Mal we can say this is hard this may be a job for theim this may be a job for the maybe maybe mosenu was like this maybe the Kish was like this but us little us we can't do it but when you think you can't you're right you can't but not because you can't because you think you can't whatever you think you're right if you think you can you can if you think you can't you can't meaning it's Choice whether you can or you can't but to stimulate your selection to the right choice after to inform you it's not exactly a free choice it's a choice with a price the Torah tells us in the Book of Numbers sidb in chapter 11 I'm sorry chapter 15 chapter 15 verse number 40 we have a very common PUK that we read every day for theit and it says [Applause] so that you may remember and perform all my Commandments and be holy to your God so this is a Torah obligation to remember and perform all of the mitv so we become holy to hem nowan over 2500 years ago says on this PUK that because you will remember and fulfill my MIT you will be like the Angels before Hashem your God meaning as a result of you perfecting the mitzvot serving hasem watching your eyes watching your bleed watching your mouth make sure that whatever comes in is kosher whatever comes out is kosher watching your ears that whatever comes in is kosher and if it's not you put your ears and you run away watching your pockets to make sure that there's kosher money coming in and kosher money coming out making sure that everything you do is in accordance with the Commandments that Hashem gave us if you're going to tell her that make sure you thought about it before you say it why that's hashem's daughter if you're going to say something to him make sure you thought about it twice why he's aem's son when a person starts analyzing every single one of his actions and starts comparing them Tov and a okay I want to do this but it's on the a section okay so deleted okay I want to do this other thing but oh no it's not allowed deleted oh I want to do this oh allow ding ding ding okay I'm going to do it then I'm going to do it I W what it's a I can do it we don't look at things that based on whether I want to do it or don't want to do it we see I want to do this but which one is it is aah mitvah or sin oh sin okay delete it I don't do it I don't do sins why it's not the Commandments it's not a Mitzvah to make a sin it's not a mitah to make a sin to to make aah so when I want to do something I'm going to check is it allow not allowed allowed okay so that's mitah then when a person starts serving hasem by looking at his life based on the Commandments remembers to fulfills them that person becomes a that person becomes an angel serving AEM that's what gave a commentary in the T I believe says that when he wrote his commentary on the Torah when he wrote the commentary on the Torah A call came from shim and said who who is the person that disclosed the secrets of Heaven to Flesh and Blood that's the commentary we have here he says you don't have to pretend to be Angel anymore you could become one how follow the Torah but not just the Torah that you like or the Torah you agree with everything everything no exceptions whether it be modesty or it be honest business or be ethics and so on and so forth everything now the biggest problem that we have in becoming is not that the mitv are difficult because they're not told us it's in your mouth it's in your heart to do it meaning that you are created to fulfill the MIT it's not so hard just like your coffee maker was created to make coffee it's not hard for the coffee maker to make 10 cups of coffee that's what it was made for you were created to make me so it should not be hard for you to make MIT so why you do you struggle it's not because the MIT hard but rather because the desires are in the way there are desires that you have that are against the MIT and these desires are what's killing us says in on verse in chapter 11 in The Book of Leviticus verse 44 he says on the P that says to you meaning that you be holy he says to be holy on is is a higher responsibility in the Holiness of the Nations and will be made through Torah and MIT why to the Tora because this tor and these MIT will strengthen the mind of the person fulfilling them in order to overcome his desires and it's known that the desire is strong enough to defeat the mind and takes priority over the mind because a person is born with them a person when he's first born he's born just with desires no mind no no wisdom nothing gooo Gaga that's all he could say barely and he doesn't have a mind doesn't have wisdom nothing for a while when does he start getting it once he gets to 12 13 years old 14 little by little which means that you live in this world for 12 13 14 some of us 30 40 years with no mind whatsoever we just pretty much reflexes all we live on is purely based on desire so the desire pretty much running the show so now you want this mind this wisdom to beat this desire desire is an old man already he's running the show for so long says you're right your desire is running the show it has control and in fact it has helpers you got a sandwich that's a desire you ate the sandwich it gave you a good feeling what does that do gives the desire even more to do it again next time you have a desire it's something inappropriate it's something that's immodest it's something that's not allowed you get it you get joy out of it what does that do it gives your desire like a drug so now you want to do it again so your desire not only is already older already a veteran in you for much longer than wisdom but it has helpers too and what about the wisdom says it's alone in the world no helpers no helpers except the meaning the only way to overcome our desires is through and why there is no other way and that's what the ramb writes in chapter 22 number 21 after he discusses different sins of immorality of how they're forbidden it's forbidden to do all types of different immoral things whether a person is by himself or even with his own wife he has to know what's allowed what's not allowed then he says a person should distance himself from levity intoxication and flirtation for they are great precipitators and steps leading to forbidden relations a man should not live without a wife for having a wife leads to Great Purity and our sages gave even greater advice saying a person should always turn himself and his thoughts to the words of the Torah and expand his knowledge and wisdom for the thoughts of forbidden relations grow strong solely in the heart which is empty of wisdom and in schar's words of wisdom in Proverbs 5:19 it is a beloved hind arousing favor her breast will satisfy you at all times you shall be obsessed with her love here theim explained to us that you have a situation where you are constantly exposed to immorality you're constantly exposed to sin you're constantly exposed to desire which means that already we have all of this junk in here which means that we are predisposed to act on the junk that's here so the rambam writes you want to overcome these desires you have to replace those thoughts why because only a mind that's empty of wisdom it's not empty it's empty of wisdom what does it have it has the immorality it has the filth it's like the b b of yadik it says the the ball was not empty why it was empty of water it was empty of people but it had snakes and scorpions in it our minds they never empty completely either they have wisdom or they have filth in them and the ram gives clear advice he says first and foremost you should stay away from things that trigger it intoxication flirtation uh making fun of things all types of just hanging out and just laughing at the world that that stuff is not going to be good why it leads you to make sins specifically that particular sins by yourself with somebody else and so on and so forth furthermore you should get married as soon as possible don't stay single oh no I'm only 20 Rabbi yeah you're already old according to the Torah get married yeah but I don't have any money yet who says you need money to get married people think you're supposed to be rich before you get married if you wait until you're rich nobody's going to watch you you're going to be 80 years old so enough with the mentality you're supposed to be rich before or you're supposed to be financially settled before all you're supposed to be is I want to get married that's it that's all you're supposed to be everything else takes care of anyway so a person should not live without a wife because living with a wife leads to Purity but even more so he says a person should always turn his himself and his thoughts to the words of tah not only he should do the mitv he should go to he should go to no but his thoughts his thoughts should always go to the Torah why because your mind has to be somewhere it's either in good or in bad either you're thinking of Tor and and a and a different act you're going to do that's kind kindness all types of things or you thinking about stuff that's not allowed now the only way that a person will consistently do what's allowed what's good what's a mitvah is if they're constantly toiling in why because if you just dabble in it here and there whenever you get a chance guess what you're going to run out of stuff to think you're going to run out of stuff to think even more so if you don't want to do it then you're not going to want to think about it either if all you want to do is go make money but I'll pretend to be religious by going to sh on Shabbat and put it on and maybe giv some s that's not going to save you from your desires why because the desires are the only reason why you're not enjoying the Torah that's what's getting in the way that's the reason why we have a tough time because the Torah itself the they're easy they're easy but it's impossible for it to be easy if you don't want to do it sometimes you hire people and the worst question a person or comment that a person can make is wow looks like hard work person like that you should find a way not to hire them why they're not looking to work they're looking to sleep so you should help them out say listen you want to sleep about this we have a giveaway it's a pillow for all the people that want to sleep like you you go to sleep good luck to you why it's hard work it's hot outside what you think it was Camp want us to give you a Canen with some juice in it with a little bit of potato chips maybe some Bamba it's hard work yeah it's hard work what do you want you want a vacation go somewhere else that's the problem people want a vacation at work and they want a vacation at life too a person was created to toil for hard work hard work at work hard work on yourish hard work on your own personal character traits your own servitude of hasem this means that if you don't want to do it by default you are making it hard it's not Hashem that made it hard he programmed you to do it you are rejecting the manufacturer's instructions and therefore it's difficult for you because if you are doing what you were supposed to like you're supposed to it would come naturally because you're rejecting it the system doesn't know what to do the n says to do it but the body says no so they're constantly fighting with each other so you're doing putting on one two three whatever five okay I'm finished guys see you laterad already what do you mean we didn't even say we say whatever I did already you came to the like you're doing somebody in favor somebody like that of course it's going to be hard to it's hard to be religious Rabbi only for people don't want to be religious only if you don't want to be religious only if you don't want to serve AEM only if you don't want to do what says because you think you have a better plan but the reality is is trying to give us a secret a person that lived a long life full of T full of full of people full of a lot of different things he saw life not only from the perspective of toah but from the perspective of somebody that lived a life he saying to you listen I've seen them I was young I was old and I've never seen any righteous person begging begging for their kids no why CU those people for everybody the ones that are crying they're not connected to hasem they're not connected to hem because they're crying even if they have a lot the ones that are not crying maybe they don't have also but you know what they're connected to Hashem and they understand who to cry to they're not crying to people they're crying to hm he's telling you I've seen it I've done it I followed it and even has a name name after it is was obviously not his name is means man but is really an acronym for a person that has he says with this says you're going to want to connect to AEM at the highest level what's connecting to him the highest level work on yourself start fixing yourself start realizing that there's different things that you can do better start looking at everybody else's deficiencies as if they are sick and you're here to help them or at the very least encourage them to get help and not to make fun of them not to hate them due to it not to insult them but rather you are healthy already because you know where the Cure is help them in any way you can do everywhere you can and most importantly know this is the way to happiness this is the way to serve hem this is the way to G if a person takes the instructions of the K they're not only going to arrive ATA with something to wait for with something to look forward to but they're already going to start living it here they're already going to start living it here now I can tell you that everything that we said is not easy for anybody but it is an obligation which was a ises many say had one time one of his came to him and told him Rabbi I'm sorry for speaking against you I wanted to apologize spoke behind your back I said such and such soan said what did you say says does it matter says if you want me to forgive you I need to know what you said and to who where and he tells him what he says then listen I said the rabbi's extremist a little bit maybe he's just an angry person so he's taking it out on us that's what I said said okay come back in a week okay the young man comes back a week later says yes Rabbi says I forgive you so the student says bye-by two questions one why do you care what I said two what's with the weak you already knew what I said right away says listen you may look at the rabbi like he's already doing everything and he's perfect and he doesn't have a heart and he takes everything lightly and he has no no no still Flesh and Blood I wanted to hear what you said to know the damage that was made why because you're not just hurting a person you're hurting everything he's worked his whole life for I wanted you to understand you did something wrong but not just hurting me you're hurting potentially a life's worth of work so I needed to know what's with the week after I heard what you said I couldn't forgive you and I had to work on myself the whole week to convince myself to forgive you if the had to wait a week of working on himself day and night surely it's going to take us a little time also says I just finally got to forgiving you moment before you arrived that means it is hard work that means it is not difficult diffult so there's no reason for us to feel bad about not being but it doesn't mean that we don't do it it doesn't mean that we have a get out of jail free card we just don't you know don't have to do it because it's hard everything in life that's of any value is hard anything that's free is usually not good it's usually not good now you're gonna say no the Torah is free Torah is not free Torah is nothing about it is free you want to earn Torah you have to be willing to sacrifice the most valuable possession you have your life otherwise it's not Torah it's just some book that you heard or read says the only people that inherit or acquire T are people that are willing to sacrifice their life for it it's much more than money it's much more than anything else it's your actual life if you're not willing to invest your life you're never going to get toah how do you know how do you see it I see with people all the time many times people say oh I watch your I watch your sh I love them all great no what's the problem okay they give me a problem and we give them a solution keep watching this series it's going to help you keep watching this series it's going to help you 3 months past no did you watch the series yeah some of it are you still having the same problem yeah okay of course of course you have the same problem you know why cuz you're not taking it seriously you like the way the words come out of my mouth you like the T on your head once in a while to call you out but it's not because you're looking to work on yourself it's because you're spiritually sadistic you just like to get spiritually smashed over your head you like to hear about G you like to hear about you like to hear about because you don't think you're one of them you like to hear about people that are wrong even though you are one of them but you're like yeah yeah but it's you know yeah yeah you got them yeah great sheld stop it stop being sadistic you have to change you cannot continue watching all of these sh and not be willing to change you cannot be a woman watching my sh and continue to walk around with no sleeves on with no nothing onemo put some clothes on cover yourself and respect yourself you are a daughter of aad not the garbage pale treat yourself like a princess not like public property you cannot continue learning the words of aad but treat yourself as if you're one of the peasants that cannot afford clothes the guys stop making excuses oh it's hard it's only hard because you keep going back to the bad websites that's why it's hard you idiot don't go back to the bad websites and you won't sin simple no but is there any other way yes you could smash your head against the wall 500 times I just think not going to the website's much easier but if you continue making the same mistakes over and over again no she is going to help you and you continue watching a because you're sadistic just like to hear about G just like to hear about punishment why why you have in front of you giving it to you on a silver platter it's not even my words it's my R's words it's A's words you have it given to you on a silver platter use them use them apply them to your life because if you don't you're missing out on life you think that you're getting better by actually meeting your desires and feeding your desires you're not it's the opposite the fact that you're feeding your desires is what's causing you the suffering that you have the bad marriages and the bad problems of business and the bad problems with kids and the bad problems psychologically and physically all of that is because because of our own actions if we start taking a kad's words seriously like he took them guess what all of a sudden your words your world changes your suffering is in your hands your problems are in your hands the instructions are right here you have them please take these instructions seriously we have so many lectures short ones long ones a series oneoff holiday one sad ones angry ones happy ones all types of ones study them when people tell me they watch one of the shoe and they're excited about it I feel bad why because they think they understood the sh after listening to it one time I'm telling you I've been studying with RAB fry for nearly a decade for nearly a decade I listen to hisim at least two to three times every one of his sh and guess what when he's making them I'm online with him he's making it with me why you cannot learn to like you're learning Harry Potter there's a million and a half things that you're going to learn the second third fourth time fifth time you have to apply it and you have to work on it you have to toil over it but if you think it's going to come to you you smooth and easy you're never going to acquire it and you're just going to continue watching yeah I'm watching Rabbi such and such for five years and uh yeah I don't know life's the same though life's the same you have an opportunity of a lifetime this is a month to do Chua in reality every day is to do Chua but today you have an opportunity because during this month tells us that there's a little bit more there's more help from Heaven to reach higher spiritual Realms than you can during the rest of the year one small suggestion I would suggest for everybody is throughout this entire month only pray for spirituality only pray for greater success in in Torah in stop praying for money stop praying for materialism stop praying for for for Stuff pray to succeed in serving hasem better by learning more of his tah by understanding it by enjoying the MIT more by doing more MIT by learning more about pray for that try that try that little trick you'll see how not only some of those prayers will be answered but many of your other ones too the ones you didn't pray for when you pray for spirituality the Gates of Heaven are always open Pray for materialism not so much but when you get higher spirituality higher closeness to hasem and you become like one of his servants guess what the servant can come in and out whenever he feels like it let's try to be servants at least for this month let's try to do whatever he says even if we don't feel like it even if we don't want to even if it makes us upset even this and even that why it's good for us it's good for us these lectures are simply to wake us up myself first you guys happen to be here try it there's it gives us enough because to be honest with you everybody ask me the same question all the time about happiness happiness happiness you have it already and we haven't even gone half the series he already mentioned happiness to us several times and this is as clear as day you follow this pattern you arrive at happiness it's not easy but every single one of us can do it amen we're very excited to offer you the new app 3.0 it's a newer faster app full of Torah lots of Kus by the shim that we do myself Rim ra uh where you'll have also newer features where you're able to use the app uh while you're using other applications on your phone you'll be able to share the uh the lectures directly from the app you'll be able to donate online and support our cuve and our Torah work that we're doing and the most exciting feature is that you'll be able to actually ask questions directly on the app and get answers from the rabbis directly from the app this is something unprecedented and B will be able to offer it thank you again 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