Let's Talk About Sex Q@A Part 10

[Music] oh cheers [Music] welcome to Let's Talk About Sex we have got the wonderful kids and robs from 2000 here to answer all your questions and also we have our fabulous Ambassador Natalie and we also have a fantastic member Jamie also is an extremely safe space and it's also an adult conversation as well how well do you need to know someone before you have sex it's a hard one because it does it really does depend s what what is important when you're having sex with somebody or multiple other people is that you are the safest you can be and you're providing a safe environment for your partner or partners that are people that enjoy having sex with people that they don't really know that well in the sense of they might have not met their friends or know their favorite color but that doesn't stop the conversation of consent happening so even if you don't really know a person when you're having sex with them or when you're being intimate with them in any way you want to ensure that you're still asking key phrases like is this okay is this good for you are you sure this is okay can we do this can we do that and following their cues listening to their body language listening to any noises that they're making but making sure that you're maintaining that safety of consent and making sure that it's all going fine people will sleep with people once and never see them again and then other people really don't enjoy that and just want to have sex with one person and they only want to have sex with one person that is also completely fine um they might have known this one person for a really long time and know absolutely everything about them but that conversation of consent is still important and no matter how long or how well you know a person you still need to ask and you need to ask every time and you need to make sure that consent is continued throughout sex however long that is and whatever that looks like for for you as an individual consent is an ongoing factor and like we kind of spoke about earlier it can be taken away at any point as well so or Midway through any sexual act any intimate act any conversation you can withdraw your consent and it ends um but yeah so how well do you need to know someone it depends as long as we're keeping ourselves safe if you are planning to go out and sleep with people that you maybe don't know that well and make sure that you're keeping yourself safe by checking in with your friends let them know where you're going if you do end up maybe going back to Flat going back to someone's house text the address to somebody make sure that you've got Uber downloaded on your phone you know how you're getting home got keys got money make sure that you're doing all of these things as well as making sure that your things like contraception condoms all of that is already covered [Music]