Light to Unite EP3 | Rabbi Ari Berkowitz & Tuvia Sablosky | CHAZAQ

[Music] good evening everyone welcome to tonight's very special program we're actually G to start tonight by saying um m m moroda to um to begin tonight's um event and is of course that that's going to be connect to all the amazing messages that we're going to give over um tonight so okay we'll start with chapter thank you thank you so much that um um so for so for tonight we have a very special program part of of course this light to unite um series that that that this amazing Initiative Program that that that that that we're already on that that we've been doing week over week and um we we thank of course tovia sablowski uh to my right over here for for initiating this amazing series thank you so much tovia of course um toia is um is um he's doing so much for the Jewish people uniting um the Jewish people for to connect um closer to our to our Jewish Heritage to the Torah and everyone should unite Bas together and um and we have RAB Ari Barz No Stranger toak of course you've been here before and we partnered together and of course it's um I think it was very apropo that had started with uh with the m think we have to thank the borol Hashem God Almighty himself for for for everything that that happen and of course we started tonight um about this topic and that's what we're going to be discussing um um tonight we're going to be having a conversation between and and Rabbi Rabbi burtz about light to unite this series about about how we have to all unite as as CL as a Jewish people and of course um as as well as bringing the ideas of of of thanking Hashem that that that uh is um is is is bring is bring a whole revolution of people through through through the different various platforms of of social media and WhatsApp and all the amazing platforms to reach to reach literally light to you night that's what you're doing every day you're uniting the people through through through thanking Hashem and through these amazing initiatives and um we want to thank toia again for helping to coordinate we're have a tremendous evening tonight this this is all a buildup to this to to The Grand Event which is going to be on Sunday September 29th um and of course you'll hear more details about it but it's going to be a great event to unite all the of the Jewish people and further Ado we hand it over to tiia good evening everybody Welcome to our light to your night program this is our podcast series that we launched back in August 4th this is our third of five podcasts leading up to our major event which will be held on Sunday September 29th which you'll hear a bit a little bit more but the goal of light to you night is to unite all Jews in America Israel and the world observant Jews non-observant Jews to do one thing light a yards side candle and we're laying the yard side candle for all the people who have perished and unfortunately continue to perish in Israel because of Hamas and Iran we want to acknowledge them but also all the people who have pursed in the Holocaust and really during the 3,000 years of the Jews existence we've been persecuted people have killed us they tried to distinguish us but we're here right now we're proud and we're proud Jews and we're proud to share it so we hope that at least 1 million Jews join us on September 9th to light a yards side candle and in memory and to really light up the world so it's interesting because I've been thinking over the last five or six days since six of our hostages six of our Jewish brothers and sisters were killed they were murdered by Hamas in Iran so in my opinion there's five to six million Jews in America that's not my opinion it's Wikipedia and in my opinion my guess is at least 50% of the Jews in America probably many more have heard what happened in the past week so our objective is to have these same Jews instead of looking at television looking at media and becoming depressed upset angered anxiety all negative emotions are being formed and taking you into deep Darkness our objective is to bring light not Darkness there's a better alternative and we learned that as OB observant Jews that we don't focus on those things we to focus on the good things that Hashem gives us so by lighting one light can ignite thousands of other lights that's our objective and to bring happiness and joy and really appreciate who we are as Jewish people so when we light toite we have many different areas that we light as Jews we light for Hanukkah coming up soon we light at the end of chabas abdala we light at the beginning of chabas ladies light and we light for you know for yard site so it's very important and my wife and I like every day for different sadum for different things that we want to have so lighting is very important for the Jewish people brings light most people are focused on Darkness so it's really the separation of Good and Evil the good lights and the evil does all kind of destructive things so my name is tuvia Sosi I grew up in Philadelphia as a non-observant Jew very secular I grew up my parents sent me to a Christian School and so I it wasn't until as 50 years old that I was introduced by rabbitson Young rice to what it means to be a Jew so I've actually shifted from being a American Jew to a proud Jewish American and there are many people like me that I grew up with that that unfortunately haven't exposed to this our objective is to really bring light to these people show them there's a better way and to move forward uh it gives me great pleasure to introduce my dear friend uh rabbi Ari burwitz thank you thank you th you thank you thank you and I really met him because my wife kept sending me links you gota look at this thank you Hashem thank you Hashem my wife has massive impact on on my spiritual growth and hopefully I do with her uh back in I believe it was in 2018 uh Rabbi Ari created the thank you Hashem movement it's not a corporation it's not a business it's a movement because what's he do he moves people to thank Hashem so we thought it was really important in our process that anything that happens it is determined by Hashem so we like to thank Hashem my wife and I thank Hashem in advance before things you know constantly saying we like to thank you in advance Hashem that this is going to work out this way and afterwards we're going to thank you and we're going to donate money so the thank you hasem movement is something that everybody can join observant non OB because we're basically thanking our creator because without him we're not here so please Thank You by thank you so much I think you just said everything not at all the the light unite uh is definitely something that I wanted to be part of and uh even though we have a lot of things going on now uh when you called me last week and you said Ari I want you to be part of it and I become very like when someone says I'm part of the thank you a movement then I say how and I say no so I said I'm going to be here and um thank you for Robbie for introducing us um the light unite initiative if I understand correctly is like tovia you said before is instead of looking you know at the darkness I mean I always tell people how can you look at Darkness it's dark right um in just not knowing what to do or what kind of messages or when when someone is in the dark they basically like frozen you know it says for three days people whatever position they were if someone was standing they kept on standing if someone was sitting they they were just uh I always tell people uh Hashem gave us two eyes uh the right eye is to look at the positive and the left eye is you know because everything needs a balance but if person will just close the right eye completely and just look around with the left eye um instead of seeing what there is and just thinking the whole time there is nothing and it's dark and they will be depressed uh the idea of light unite and the idea of thanking Hashem they work very well together basically takes out a person instead of looking the whole time what I don't have is to look I do have Hashem is giving me so many good stuff in my life and let me just thank Hashem for it I want to share with you an interesting story I had two weeks ago and when you called me last week it was still so fresh and uh someone calls me up and he tells me his name is hsh something uh Ari how are you doing and I said I don't remember the name herge give me give me more he said maybe you don't know me because you have thousands of people on the WhatsApp groups and all um but I'm on the group and I want you to know that for the last um five years this gives me the oxygen andic to whenever I have a hard time in life so you start the conversation and you say you know what what hardships do you have and what made me what made you call me so he he tells me a story that literally I mean I hear so many stories every day but this one was like wow you know there's always one story that stands out it it goes back almost uh 18 or 20 years he was a regular single guy a b and he was in the ISA and then he got engaged and um someone told him you know before you get married maybe it's a good idea you take um uh how do you call it like an AIA right a ride to Europe and you go to kikim and you go you know to all this places the you know they have the B all the m and all the places so he went there and he had a great time and he felt like he's now he's ready you know he asked Hashem for everything and okay he comes back home and he came home and he actually it was late in the middle of the night he went to sleep and all of a sudden his phone rings and he's like who's calling me in the middle of the night so what he did as a side job he did a little bit of car service taking people to airports airports back home and someone calls him that he just arrived either from Israel from or from one of these places and he wants a ride home and he tells him you know I just arrived a few hours back from from a trip to Europe I'm still jet lagged and and and I'm so I have no K and he kept on begging him please I pay you whatever you want just come and pick me up so he went in into his old Minivan and he told me later why he mentioned the word old Minivan and he went to the airport he picked up the person and he started driving back to Brooklyn or two queens one of the two places and um the so he what he mentions the word old minivan is sometimes you know an older car one of the gauges don't work correctly so by him the most important gauge the fuel was not working properly so he if he had a full tank can show empty and if he had an empty tank it show full so while he was going I think he mentioned either the Long Island Expressway or Cross Island Expressway one of these two um all of a sudden he hears that the engine starts spattering and it feels like he's out of fuel and even though it shows full he knew right away what the problem is so he puts on the blinkers the emergency lights he stops by the side of the road and he goes out and he had already a a fuel tank in his car to fill it back up and while he goes to the back of the car and over there he just doesn't remember anymore what happened but what happened was someone that was driving drunk came flying and he didn't realize that a car and there was the last second and while he was standing in back of his car he just hit him to a point where he knocked him come out and the from was that see I always tell people open your eyes look you will see the the problem is a lot of times a person they close their eye and they don't look you know last week what what para was last week par you know it's it starts with one word ra open your eyes see I'm giving the good stuff you have just to Open the Eyes the next word that says ULU now some people say that's a bad thing but we know from hasem no bad comes out from hem there's no such thing as bad and if in your eyes it looks bad there is something you can do to Simply switch it around from bad to good in an instant if you look at the word hakula if you just turn around switch the other way it stands Hal thank hasem and when you do so from the bed it will become good and um going back to his story story passed by right away and he saw him laying there on the floor and it it really looked bad and he called in ATA they came they took him in while he was in the ambulance they called his parents I think they found his driver license they got his number number they told him to come quickly to the hospital because they didn't believe that he's going to make it through the next 24 hours and when he basically literally took off both his legs and it was the blood was so much they had they took him in and they had to give him one infusion after the other and they and they were assured that um he's not going to make it hasem Hashem knew that by saving him he's G to make hashem's name big and guess what he woke up after I don't know if it was a few days or a few weeks he woke up one day and he's like where am I and his father tells him what do you want to hear you know the good news or the said the good news is that it looks like your head is good your your brain the bad news is that Unfortunately they couldn't save your legs and have no legs and he right away said if that's what Hashem did I'm sure it's for my best does the kala know is she still on he was supposed to get married literally a month later and they said yes it's still on for now they didn't mention anything okay so he said you know what he he was always a a person that was positive and he in his darkest moment he said so I can thank Hashem maybe I don't have legs but I have aala she has legs amazing it's I mean I was amazed by by by him sharing with me the story I said H I need to stop you by the way I mean I love this story but why did you call me now he said I tell you the truth I'm about to have surgery um where the doctors they came up with an amazing um new thing the same way as someone a tooth comes out right where they can built in like a metal it has a name I forgot the name of it and then eventually they put in a a too right and right so this the same idea they're using now this where he goes through a surgery they building in like a a metal into his leg and eventually the Prosthetics even though it's not relax but he's going to feel it like he's walking on so he went so he's going to have surgery there's only one doctor in the United States that does it and they don't take insurance and he has to come up with a $200,000 and he's decided he's going to go through his list now my name is Ari Burt so it's AB my name was the first so that's why he's calling me I said H I'm I'm it's unbelievable you're calling me because Hashem wanted you to call me so I tell him tomorrow that was on Wednesday tomorrow Thursday two weeks ago I'm scheduled to go to speak to singles there are you know older uh males bam there are anywhere from 25 to 35 and in the world 2535 is really like you know you walk in and they depressed it it's like crazy you know and I'm I keep on thinking to myself what can I bring to the table to to you know to to make him a little bit more positive I said Hashem sent you to call me up I I hear your story now and I just want to continue his story and then I'm going to come back so he tells me that um he woke up and and they told him that it's still on the the week before the wedding the wedding was supposed to be let's say Sunday the Thursday before the kala called up and she apologized she thought she's going to be able to go on with this but I don't know you know if she or someone told her or whatever that it doesn't make sense such a young CA to to take someone that is going to sit in a wheelchair all his life and she feels bad she wants to ask him for forgiveness she's not going to be able to go on and he told her I totally understand you it's not you it's all from Hashem and if Hashem wants I'm going to be able to to marry even though I don't have le and guess what for the next year or two he learned learned himself how to drive a car with handbrakes and and and pedals and everything and he was driving around and doing everything on his own and then he met someone that has also a slight medical condition uh the only thing the doctors told her that they should not expect to have children and he said it's okay the same Hashem that made that I should find my he can make this miracle also and guess what he tells me I'm married for or I don't remember if he said 13 or 15 years he has five healthy children the doctors cannot believe it they said even one is a miracle two is a miracle he tells me Ari but I'm on the group I'm thanking hasem first I thanked hem that I found my kala then I thanked hem for the wedding and bar that he went through and then we had the first one and I thanked Hashem and like you said before I said Hashem I'm thanking you already for the second one and the second one happened and then he said I'm thanking you for the third one and the third one happened he has a family I said I appreciate you called me you coming with me tomorrow to Monroe to this people and I want you to you know I said I will give you the money that you need and yet I will ask my friends also but you didn't call me for this you called me because I asked Hashem Hashem I need something I need someone to to give me something to make this and so I told for the bam that what they write on the paper you know every Thursday night someone a guest speaker is Gonna Come should also write that besides Ari bur someone else a surprise guest speaker is GNA come also so I come in and I start talking and I'm talking to the BAM about thanking AEM and everything in someone over there I see by the corner he's going like this and I said and everybody's like please and I said no no no the idea is if you have a question ask because if something is bothering you and he he turns around and he said you know Ari canar you're married you have a business you have a car you have a wife you have children things but look at me I'm an older B older single 35 I have already my friends that married 15 years ago they have already children there are Mitzvah already you're coming here talking to me about thanking AEM it's easy for you to say but but but look at me I said you know what you're right I think it's time to bring in the guest speaker but but let me give him a call I call him R you ready to come in he said of course I'm always I was born ready like what oh I said guys please I'm asking everybody just sit back he asked a very good question this B I think the guest speaker is going to come in the surprise guest and he's going to answer everything and he he rolls out his uh out of the car and he he doesn't need help he he says Hashem gave me I don't have legs but I have two healthy uh hands and he comes in with a wheelchair just like this and everybody's like and he comes in with a smile and he goes straight to the to the to the front and he says where's your smiles guys and he turns around to the and he and and and I see that this guy is looking over there and he's like ah how can he smile he doesn't have legs and this and that and then he start sharing his story and then what I heard from him was amazing that his first the whole sh was more about money and he himself said it that hasem made this whole thing happen that he should get to his real bash and K she's such an amazing wife and and she cooks and she does every everything that the doctor said that she's not going to be able she can do and he has a whole family with children and he and he turns around to the B and he says is there anybody that is depress here and of course everybody was quiet and one guy was like I don't have this I said okay let me see what don't you have I see you have a nice suit I see you have glasses so that means your eyes probably was a little weaker but you have glasses so you can see now I see you can stand up when I told you to stand up I see you have hands you have all 10 fingers on the hand on the feet what is your issue that you didn't find your bash yet what are you worried hasem created the world he's running it for almost 6,000 years everything is wor what do you think that only your and he says Ari do you have a story about and I said yes I want to share with you something three years ago someone called me up also it was a single guy um he was if I'm not mistaken he was 20 and his friends got married already by the 18 so by him by 20 he was already and he tells me AR I hear about thank you Hashem I hear that people thanking hasem they see Miracles we always you know we say thank Hashem and see Miracles what can I do I say every day what I want you to do is you said give me something simple easy and I want to say this to the orians also you know sometimes you tell for someone to do something like go learn a blood gamor day or go say the the whole to Hill you know stuff that tell me something that is easy I say tell me one thing what do you have he said I have I have a job I have a car um I said can you eat I said yeah he said yes you have money he said you know the basics the buy food so I said every day and it's something that do the more people I say it the more they say that they see open Miracles I say how many times that day do he said three times a day so the only thing that I'm asking you to do is when you say the three words when you thank I want you to stop and think of three things that you're grateful to Hashem he said uh oh I have so many I said I know start with three so when he start the day by shakas the the the morning prayer you can anything that happened from last night till today so let's say you woke up today you had a good night's sleep you thank for a good night's sleep um you had a good coffee thank AEM for a good coffee you know all the ingredients um uh it was a bad weather let's say outside but you have four-wheel drive on your car and and and you drive and thank you hashm for the fourwh anything that comes to your mind and the same thing by the men prayer again three things that happened from Shak to and then by anything that happened from to he said that's it that you're asking me to do I said that's it nine so so it's 3 three three it's a total of nine nine is the EMS em is nine right of one four and four is a total of nine and he said nothing else I said nothing else this is more than enough and guess what he started doing it he started with three and then it went to four to five it came to a point where he told me Ari I'm writing down every day 50 things I can't go to sleep before this and guess what the 50th thing was I'm thanking Hashem that I'm still single few months later I don't know if it was I can't say if it was 40 Days Later 60 days or 90 but literally in a short period of time he became engaged with a girl that was 17 years old if you think about it I told them so look by the by the Imagine when you were 18 how old was she she was like 13 14 you see you didn't know that your Basher is still too young to get so Hashem said you know what let your friends go first you you do your part and then once you start thanking me like we said before and chapter 100 it says sometimes you want to go get in into the door but it's closed you know how you can get into the door through thanking so this re told for the this and he he he told him the his story you know that he woke up and he was without legs and know a few weeks later he was without a Gala without legs without he was by a point where there was really no reason for him to continue but he chose the light he said thank you Hashem I still have a a a clear head I I still have my memory my my head is working I still have two hands and you know what's funny is one of the BAM stood up over there and he said that a few weeks ago he was really depressed and he went into the grocery and he saw something that he never saw in his life he saw rabes going into one of the big supermarkets either Bingo or Evergreen he was with one hand pushing his wheelchair and with the other hand pushing the cart and every time he looked up he was smiling to everybody he walked in this B and he saw it and he was like what I'm walking around so I'm waiting for my Basher guess what it will happen look at him so the idea is every single person that is alive and is walking around and you're not connected to machines and everything is working you have so much to be grateful and thankful and when you do so and you start looking at all the goods of hm is giving you and you're grateful and you're thankful um you're basically just going to bring more good things to you you know like it says in the the more you're gonna say thank you the more I'm gonna do more good with you and and that's and that's the idea the light to unite yep so we're asking we're not asking people to read a hamura we're not asking people to keep shabas it's challenging right stop everything for 20 we're asking people to do one thing to light one yards side candle and to share that with other people and that will ignite the world and I'm thanking Hashem in advance that every day we keep building up this it's a movement also light to unite it's not a corporation it's a movement just like thank you Hashem right these movements are what move people to come back to Hashem to unify as American and it's essential because America is fragmented the the observant Jews different sex of were're not coordinated and we need to coordinate there AUM with other types of lfish and Russian all the different Observer need to come together in light I'm asking a Shem in advance let the different major rabbis light and have their communities light and by doing that it will show the secular Jews wow this is really what's happening so right now we're maybe 15 to 20% are observant 80% are not observing but they can be but when we left Egypt only 20% left 80% died in darkness I don't want that to happen to my fellow Americans because that's where you're sitting we want to light you up we want to bring you with us doesn't have to be 100% 5% 20 we get up to 30 40% Who start to thank Hashem observe something do something just by starting to light right now that's how we can do it wow you just said something that that you reminded me of something uh you said that in Egypt in the darkness um how do you say Darkness Ines what Mak was it Mak right the opposite of if you turn it around is is right the word of thank you say so sometimes if someone is in the darkness and they want to get out of it I'm sure no one likes to sit in the darkness no one wants to be there they just need something to pull them out so by doing this little thing of lighting a candle in you're basically going to do the opposite of that's going to be light um darkness is negativity or ingrate in light is positivity in showing that you're grateful and thankful um you know and the gamor says that if someone has only a certain amount of money to either buy Kal bread or a candle for shabas they should rather buy the candle because the candle is what's going to light up the room and when they lights up the room don't you don't have to worry you will find the bread already so the idea is like tovia just said instead of sitting in the darkness you know we live now in a world in 2024 where you know people originally said only in this place is scary to live only in this place oh this place the can you find a place in the world where you really feel secure I mean without Hashem there is no place in the world that you can say I feel secure I feel that the government and everything is taking care of me it's only one thing that is going to make you feel good and secure and that is if you are connected with Hashem and the whole idea of thank you Hashem is connect to hasem through thanking Hashem a lot of people say I want to connect to Hashem I don't know how what you should do is is simply in any situation and and ores we say in any mat you are just find a reason to thank Hashem and slowly but surely it's going to connect you to Hashem and I love this initiative with the light unite because anybody can afford to buy a candle I mean what is a candle 10 cents 20 cents and inflation could be $5 today but even that'll be the best $5 exactly you you light a candle and while you light the candle if you don't even know what bro to make when you light the candle either for Hava or a shabas or anything or even just say Hashem I'm lighting a candle for you I want to you know you created the whole world and I'm just a little piece in the puzzle and I just want to bring out more light and by doing so hasem is is going to open your eyes it's going to actually shine into a shine upon yourself and you're going to be able to find more reasons and the more Hashem is going to give you the more you're going to say you know what I feel like wow I feel like such an angry you know what let me d a little to Hashem or let me observe shabas only five minutes out of the 26 or 27 hours and then a week later you say wow Hashem gave me more let me do it for 10 minutes let me do it for 15 minutes a lot of people the mistake that I realize in life is uh especially when it comes with you know with with being observant that a person thinks in order to be a Jew and observant Jew you have to do the whole and you have to do everything at one time and if not you're not you know it says the the the inside life hem knows what you know if a person comes from nothing and you start with a little thing like like lighting a candle and then you go to the next step I I remember I heard fromi said that if someone is doing shabas it's it's it's amazing words um while he's eating and he just says I'm eating because it's shabas and even it's not Kosher he's still gonna get for it so I'm gonna pick up on so because of this work there's a a lady who I'm very close to who helped me have my father buried instead of being cremated named Robin meerson and uh she's project Inspire Arizona who's one of our first collaborators and uh she's involved with the shabas project of which she's asked me to join them she runs the whole North America for the shabas project they will be doing their big event on November 15th November 15th important date um but that is to to get people to participate in chabas so this is an announcement that after our September 29th it doesn't stop there you have another date to move forward by participating in the shabas project you can do whatever you want to do they're they're talking to thousands hundreds of thousands of people you can do whatever you want but shabas is the Cornerstone to our y kite and just doing it a little bit you'll do a little bit more I never heard shabas I never had shabas until I was 50 years old and I have the most amazing shabas now it's the best it's the best part of the week to I want to come to aab I I want you to come I want to come to Youk every day I like to I think in my mind that I want to be thankful joyful and grateful to Hashem wow I do that every day and I do that for two rabbis i d them for them every day that they have good parasa and brooken their money yeah but more importantly that they're happy joyful and grateful at that day so you had two options you either said you know 50 and it's really like okay I will just continue the way it is I was continue I was already at the 48th or 49th level of Schmutz wow I was living in Manhattan I was living in Harlem wow and and like the the Jewish nation was in Egypt Hashem had to pull him out the last minute I was literally pulled out of it by rebit and young rice and the young R family to take me out of the left right being a lefty a liberal Democrat going to University Pennsylvania which is a disaster now wow taken there to be on the right wow to become an observant Jew right and to see the light right and see the light wow wow and and that's why I do what I do and now I can see in your eyes that you enjoy every day I love it wow wow and Hashem brought me amazing wife I thank her every day and that's who introduced me to you wow and when you did your campaigns she was one of the top F she was right there boom boom boom and and I was behind the scen you remember when we did she got yeah yeah she was here I wanted her to be one of the top three she got up there yeah we did it in Co while there was so in Co there was so much such darkness and and um I was sitting I remember I was sitting on my porch and wow I I remember I said you know we say by the daving shabas you know there was no minion then and you were sitting everybody was isolated and sitting with a mask let me just contrived Thing by by the governments of the world put us in darkness yeah and I was saying all you know and all of a sudden it hit me right here caser is Crown there was Corona they say I think in one language either in Latin or in Spanish Corona is crown and then covid-19 is covered and I say one second everybody in 2020 if you remember I think we had done a pretty good economy um everything was booming and it came to a point where people were everybody was busy with their own things and everything and and and and Hashem said hey think about me also you know I always say it's the three T's think about me trust me and thank me and when you do this so think trust and thank yes think trust and thank think trust and thank so going to be you should have life so I said you know what wow it's very nice later I was daving um Mis so by the of it's very it's right here you see it says and what are the three next words wow so if you give me a crown which is the to it will be so that's when I came up with this initiative let's do this um C PR and I and I wanted everybody to do just a little you know it shouldn't be expensive like $2 a word or people can take a par there were people that were in the ICU there was one person that was on an ECMO machine respirators really bad and and I and I kept on telling for the family no just take on a little thing thank you have a lot of Miracles from we kept hearing Miracle after Miracle afterward Hashem gave me this if you think the word is Corona to that the the to of Corona is is g to be the so many people came back and um the only thing I kept on saying is thank Hashem that you came out from the hospital thank AEM you don't have to breath through you know until 2020 till Co we took in a way advantage of you know we can breath on our own that's how it comes you're born and you can breathe and all of a sudden no you can breathe only through a nasal canula or through a mask and so that's when uh yeah we did this in in in this also the the idea is instead of Falling Into Darkness always take out a message you know someone said in the word message you know what the first word is mess if you are in a mess try to take out a message out of the mess what does Hashem want from me there are Darkness going on like toia mentioned before six really beautiful souls were taken away by by by this terrorist organization Hamas in Iran or whoever it was what is the message that we should take out of it that we should really while we have our loved ones and we have our lives that we should really appreciate life we should appreciate our loved ones and we should also on top of everything show appreciation to the to the man above that created us which is Hashem and how can you show appreciation everybody on their own level if you are non-observant at all do something even a little thing light a candle before shabas light a candle after shabas is there's a story of a person that was also born like ovia in a nonreligious um household and um he went out with his friends and they did some kind of contest I mean youngsters what I mean I'm amazed that he didn't that he even did it one of this um places a non koser restaurant is where they have like very spicy buffalo wings or chicken wings or whatever and one of the the contest was like who can eat like aund times this and he did this contest and it came into him a a bog or virus and he literally got poisoned to a point where they took him in in the hospital they called his parents they said they give him only a certain amount of hours be because I forgot the name of this disease or whatever it is that literally it's a fatal thing once you get it you can't moms I can't remember but it's something really bad and he recounts that he went up to to upstairs and he saw he he felt like light you're talking about light and he saw you know the goods that he did and the bad and he saw one of the very interesting things because we're talking about chabas that he got a lot ofar how do you sayar in English he got a lot of of reward for shabas he's like is this the oila moas one second I never kept shabas but guess what in this let's say if chabas is 26 hours long every second or minute that you did not play on your phone or you were not on your computer or you were not driving your car you get credit you get credit for it so let's say for shabas he was sleeping let's say 12 hours from Friday night night the shabas morning he gotar credit for it and so he said that people don't know that even if you're not observant you just said you know what instead of being on my phone which I'm I remember not long ago someone came to my house a non-observant i i someone had to turn on the light so he sat down by our shabas table right not a non 613 and he sat down and he ate and he said wow this is good food I mean how can someone not eat and enjoy the kala and the fish and the grape juice and the wine and all this good stuff um and then he said you guys are sitting here there is no phones there is not even a light you have to call so I said yeah because God created the world in six days and the seventh day he said I the only thing I want you to do is just sit back relax don't do anything if you want you can thank than me you can D you can eat food for sh and and and and he said wow it's such a blessing that you don't use your phone I wish we non-observant people or or non-jews have such a day in the week that we are completely you know it's like you pull out the plug and you said just just relax and just enjoy the sh for for the opening so this is an invitation for everybody to light to unite so the process starts on Friday evening and we're going to be sending out invitation and making it known that all women observant non-observant young and old they light shabas candles observant women do it make sure you find non-observant women non-observant women look fine we're out there we want to help you do it but critical that all the women this is one of the big three mitzvah for a lady to do is light shabas candles wow anybody can do it and we can help people to do that um that's the beginning and then on Sunday the 29th the first piece will be given the issues that we're dealing with the universities and the colleges which has gotten totally out of control we will be having our first panel of approximately eight representatives from the college and university side both the students and the executives that coordinate into this space the second will be the ladies there'll be a program this is these are all pre-recorded podcast leading into the main event and that will be the ladies about eight ladies very prominent ladies talking about the Mitzvah of lighting wow why they light wow and and women are much better than men at networking and doing multiple things at one time multitasking so it's critical that we have powerful women join us because they push the men a lot just like my wife pushes me wow and this leads into the main event 2:00 New York time 9:00 is Real Time 7:00 in uman in Europe that everybody goes ahead and lights one candle and also thank AEM that you're given the opportunity to do this today that you can light a candle you can light a candle and do it yeah you can do it you're doing it not just for your you're doing for all these Souls they can't do anything once we're here we can do Torah we can learn Torah we can do Mitzvah once we're gone we can't do anything up there we see what's going on but it's for us children parents we've lost people that we light it's for their souls wow it elevates everybody at the same time and this is why we win this is why we're still here this is why the the the people are not taking we're not going anywhere we're going to strengthen ourselves in America we're going to strengthen Israel and we're can living past every other Dynasty wow we're here and we're not going anywhere else but we must be unified to do it right it needs to beus right it says that uh one of the bikes that was destroyed was because of people where everybody was like living for themselves in not being I think the word is Unified unified yeah in the second you do the unification you're unified then you show Hashem you know um one one brother has a mind other brother one sister has a mind the other sister and we tell for other people to do the same thing to you know you have a candle and you can light you see a person you say would you like a c would you like to light a candle and if they say they don't have say you know what come into my house light a candle here you showas in and Hashem does everything mid mid so whatever we do Hashem does with us as well so the second hasem says that we are unified and we are Adas and we really care for each other Hashem is our father and we are his children and Hashem says you know what I see you also want so badly I should come back to you and build up the the Third Temple the you knowes and and yeah through this will definitely come so I I really like this initiative in in and like you said when a person lights the candle just have in mind something anything thank AEM for your parents if you have them thank AEM for your spouse thank AEM for your job for your car for for your house thank AEM for any little thing and and and the more you're going to thank Hashem the more Hashem is going to give you more reason so you can thank him even more and the other important part when I moved to Brooklyn I met Rabbi holtzberg from habad he has one of the bigab operations out here he's constantly talking about how important it is for Jews to love other Jews to love your fellow Jew so that's what we must do we must love our fellow Jew and that's what Unity is what I thing and this is my own interpretation is we're told we have to love our fellows it doesn't mean you have to like them you don't have to agree with them but you have to love them that's your brother and your sister you may not agree with them so every time I walk into room okay I look for one thing I can like about that person instead of one thing I don't like about them I don't like what they're forget the negative stuff focus on that POS and say one positive thing to someone all of a sudden you have a connection you have a friend true so the unification is that we have to stop thinking bad things and there's a whole other area that I've been concentrating on the last three years is called onir Sol not speaking Lush andar we have to speak good so the more we shut our mouth if we didn't say 50% of things we say we'd probably much better off for our lives all of our Lives me too think of positive things and stop cursing four lay words stop saying negative things say and that's the light that brings light that and that's what Hashem wants to see and just say thank you advance Hashem that I don't have to speak bad stuff anymore I don't curse anymore I don't look at bad stuff true true it's it's what you just said uh a lot of people tell me that they had this thing of lanara and once they started thanking Hashem slowly but surely it fell away and the reason is because sometimes when a person is in darkness everybody wants to feel like he is something but if he's in darkness he has nothing so in in it says meaning that if he see something bad by someone this gives them a little uh you know gives them a little gratification or something so that's why they speak Luan har because they feel so bad about themselves and they want to like give it out but really it's because it comes from a bad place now if they are starting to like you said uh thinking positive automatic thinking positive is going to make you talking positive so it's another thinking positive is talking positive I have uh on my phone it says always when I open it up it says positive thinking equals positive results and when you do so you know all the good things will come out great so Rabbi Ari we're GNA wrap up now um before I want to thank Robbie and the huzak organization for Natan Rabbi yanov uh Anna L who've been helping this entire process and our other partners from project Inspire Arizona and from uh the auth orthodo Jewish uh Orthodox Jewish Chamber of Commerce and for all the other organizations we're reaching out to because this is about all organizations joining observant non observant we can't do it by ourselves and the real unification is breaking down and doing things with other people W you don't have to be in silos you'll get much more done when we do it together so give us one more wrap up and and then we'll let her everybody go tonight thank you I'm looking here it says so a lot of people interpret this that it's it's two separate um you know pum where basically who want who's the person that wants life and they want to enjoy life that's top speak English right so this is what I always thought when I started with the thank you Hashem organization in one day I was looking at it and I I'm like no no no it says the question and the answer in the same paragraph who is the person that wants life who doesn't everybody wants life they really want to enjoy their days is the answer learn to look at everything with a positive eye if you're going to do the L then you will have a good life yes it's a bonus on top of this and everything but really you want to enjoy your life L to learn to to see the good and everything and I'm thinking now we doing this initiative light toite lto starts with a l it finishes with a t l Right light is the same thing it starts with a l and it finishes with a t so little how can you see if it's dark so you got to you got to light up so what do you do you simply take a little tea candle just light it up and just say thank you hasem and the rest will come you will tell for your friends and eventually I can see a million people lighting candles and this will be I I I'm really proud to be part of it so thank you to you for giving me the honor to and my wife are looking forward to having you and your family join us for shs in Brooklyn and we want to come to you in M oh M oh my thank you thank you thank you everybody thank you so much