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for 20 minutes waiting like good kids.
Dove,
the live is on, right? Give me some
thumbs up that I see that everything's
fine. No, no, I'm
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talking to the ones in the camera.
>> Uh, okay.
Good evening everybody. Shv. I hope you
are all doing amazing and I hope you had
a wonderful Shabbat. We had an amazing
amazing Shabbat
over to Bav was bet. We had a beautiful
Shabbaton in Long Beach was great. Very
very powerful. And uh thank you all for
the local ones for for coming and short
such short notice. I appreciate and I
also apologize that for the last minute
the tour got interrupted and some of the
the lectures got cancelled but uh
unfortunately last week my brother
passed away
and uh mad we're going to dedicate this
lecture to his elevation of his soul bin
Abraham and so unfortunately I had to
cancel a few a few of the lectures. This
one happened to be that uh was holding.
So it must be that the message is
important enough that everybody needs to
hear. But uh
you know we're going to talk a little
bit about single people.
Uh
unfortunately my brother he died very
young. He was only 40
and he never got married. So, and he
never had he doesn't have kids. So,
maybe each and every one of you can take
on yourself a mitzvah, read some, give
some charity and that will be
his name is Ben Abraham.
Uh yesterday we celebrated a very very
powerful day the 15th day of Av that
that our sages say that
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our sages compare
the day of atonement to the day of of
the 15th of A.
They're very easy to understand from
that that if our sages connect to then
the 15th day of a has a very powerful
significance
and I know many people and know and
familiar that the 15th day of a is the I
don't like calling it like that but the
Jewish Valentine's Day the day of love
it's much more greater than that it's
not only about love marriages
have has the significance of breaking
through barriers
and tonight I'm actually not going to
explain about that. I want to talk about
other things but if that interesting to
you to know then go to my website there
is a few lectures that I explain the
significance of what does it mean that
tab has the power of breaking something
in open so to say or the really the
biblical term to that is called
is the splitting of the sea
and uh
it's true that it's a very powerful day
but is known for and for praying praying
and for meeting your other half and many
many people take advantage of that which
is not it's correct it's it's true but
is also known a forim b for parasa and
more than that the nature of the 15th
day of a
is switching something from dark to
light from evil to good because the
first part of the month of Av the energy
of the month is considered not a good
good not a good energy. If we if you
want to be exact then we know that every
month there's a certain a certain shine
in the world that is dependent on the
combination of the letters of name yud
of kabala explains that the master of
the universe shines his beautiful light
towards the universe the light that is
called the infinite light or he just
shines it Now unfortunately
there's not one creation or creature
angel soul that can sustain this light.
Therefore who created all these
partitions what's called
contractions of the light that the
creature can accept the light and of
course each one in his level and the
more the level is higher of the creature
and I'm saying creature because it's not
only human beings it can be souls and it
can be any living being that that will
get a a shine from that. So our purpose
in life is to grow higher and higher and
higher that I can receive much more from
this godly light which means that I need
much less timid
that cannot sustain the light. It can be
up to what's called an a nullification.
If there wouldn't be this filter system
then we wouldn't sustain this godly
light. we would actually expire on the
spot. Therefore, the koshul sets up a
system that he contracts this light in
many different ways. Now, the
contractions is depending on the person
or the creature. The the reason I'm
saying creature because in Hebrew it's
called nra something that is created
and the level of the creature will
determine how much light it can absorb.
And needless to say that when we observe
the mitzvot, the mitzvot are called
levushim garments that are covering our
soul. And with that I can reach to
different levels and heights in
spiritual to receive this godly light
and not to and to benefit from it not to
the other way around. One of the many
reasons why we have so many mitzvot our
sages say
the master of the universe wanted to
give merit to the nation of Israel. So
he gave them a lot of Torah and a lot of
mitzvot and not to keep you busy or to
make your life hard rather
wanted to give you merit. So he gave you
a lot of Torah and a lot of mitzvot. Now
what does it mean a lot of a lot of
mitzvot? means that in any situation you
will be you can fulfill the Torah and
there shouldn't be a situation that
you're saying oh right now I'm in this
location in the world I cannot do or
right now it's a time of the day or I
have some restriction that I cannot do
to mitzvot so when it says
wanted to give merit to Israel
he gave us a lot of and a lot of so you
can do mitzvot in the morning and you
can do mitzvot in the afternoon you can
mitzvot all day long 24/7 365 days of
the year you can do mitzvot at any given
moment learn to there's not one time of
the day that anyone can say oh I wanted
to do a mitzvah and I couldn't that's
the idea of
he gave them a lot of but why
then beginning of the sentence
is he wanted to give them a lot of merit
the says don't read it zakot Israel
rather read it is means to purify to
elevate to cleanse them to clean them.
Therefore we have a lot of Torah and a
lot of mitzvot. So when I apply the
Torah and the mitzvot not only that I'm
receiving some type of a reward or merit
in the world to come and it shouldn't
really interest you if you're receiving
anything. Our sages in the attracted
avot in essics of the of the fathers
says don't don't serve hashem for the
purpose of getting a reward. Serve
hashem for the purpose of ser serving
him. If you have in your back of your
mind some uh some ulterior motive. Oh,
I'm going to do this mitzvah so in the
world to come I can get a reward. Then
you're not really fulfilling the mitzvah
the right way. Our sages say very very
clearly serve hem shim. Do do it for the
sake of serving hashem. Not because you
want to get some reward. So I'm not even
talking about a reward in the world to
come. If Hashem wants to give us a
reward, let him give. He doesn't want to
give a reward that's also fine.
You know there's a story withto on on
that topic with the reward. I shared
that story many times. But the story
goes that one time he used to travel a
lot.
Now you can get the idea where I get the
idea of the concept of traveling all the
time. So, and no offense, I don't like
the traveling. It's not fun for me to
live on suitcases for two months and to
shle my entire family and one day I'm
sleeping here and the next day I'm
sleeping here and flights all day long
and it's a not easy. But Malto used to
go with one daughter. I'm going with
seven kids. So, it's a little bit
different. But he had a horse and buggy.
I'm flying with Delta. So, you know, you
win some, you lose some. But
nevertheless, the the Bahamto used to
travel all the time. In one of his
travels, he reached to Turkey to
Istanbul and it was the eve of Pesak.
And he arrived there full of amuna. Full
of amuna. Amuna means belief in God.
His amuna was such a high level that he
arrived to the city. He has no wine, no
mats. He doesn't know even where he's
staying.
Not that I'm shalom comparing myself to
the balto, but kind of like me. I also
land in places I don't even know where
I'm staying today. I don't know where
I'm eating tomorrow. It's all Hashem. I
a lot of people you don't plan. I try to
plan but
a lot of thoughts in the and in the in
the mind of a person
decides what happens. So Hashem keeps me
very alert on my my toes. I don't know
where I'm sleeping tomorrow, where I'm
doing this or that.
So nevertheless, the Mento comes to the
to his and he went about to do his
business and he and his daughter went to
the market to find some stuff. It's of
Pesak.
A certain individual recognized her.
Happened to be that that was like the
gir of the city, the rich man of the
city. He approached her and told her,
"You're the daughter of the Benta,
right?" He told she told him, "Yes." So
he said, "If you're here, must be your
father's here, right?" And she's like,
"Yeah." And he told and she told him,
"Yeah, we came from PES, but we still
don't know where we are." He's like,
"You don't know where to where you
going? What you coming to me?" So,
problem solved. They have where to
sleep. They have mats. They have wine.
They have the whole thing. Okay. But it
came with a little condition. He told
her, "I want to speak to your father
before the holiday for a few minutes."
So, they arrived to the place. The BMT
had a mag.
It means an angel that would talk to him
in his ear all the time. Of course,
nobody saw the angel, many great many
great sages and and they have a muggi, a
little angel that walks around with them
and whispers in the air, don't do this,
don't do that, look at this, look at
that. So the magi told the balto that
this man doesn't have a boy, he doesn't
have a child. So the balm walks into the
room and the person doesn't even talk.
He just right away blesses him and tells
him by the end of the year you have a
benzah. You have a male boy and you're
going to bring him into the covenant of
Abrauat.
Of course, the man was very happy.
But Hashem wasn't so happy and right
away came a heavenly voice and announced
to the
you know the rule is that the sadik says
something the kadosh has to do it. The
heavenly voice came out and said to the
bentov, "You just lost your entire lama.
Who told you to bless this man? He's not
supposed to have children. That's that's
his mazal and you now changed the mazal
and now we have to giving a a boy.
Therefore, you lost your entire lama."
Now imagine you would get such a message
that you lost your break down and cry.
The balmto started dancing, jumping up
and down from joy, dancing. When he was
asked, "Why are you dancing?" He's like,
"I don't have now. I can actually serve
Shamim 100% cuz I'm not getting
anything. I don't have."
So right away a heavenly voice came out
and said, "Just because of that
attitude, you get your back double."
So,
so going back to what I was saying, we
don't want to serve Hashem for motive
for something for that. I want to get
something and remember what I'm saying
right now because at the end I'm going
to conclude about that
and I'm going to give you just a little
nugget before the end that you're not
going to sit on the edge of the seat.
Most people when they pray or when they
do a certain act of kindness, they do it
cuz they want something to happen.
And that's what most people do,
especially when they're looking to get
married or peace in the house and
of the kids. They're like, "Oh, I'll do
this and this." Of course, it's not said
publicly, but Hashem,
Hashem knows what's going on in your
heart, and he knows all your thoughts.
And when you do something and you're
saying, "I'm going to do a to receive
this."
Then that doesn't work so well. It
doesn't mean you're not going to get it,
but that's not the right way to do it.
And it could be that you're not going to
get it because Hashem says, "No, I don't
want you to do it. You're not doing me
any favors." Don't now pretend you're so
pious cuz you want to get something. You
know, I have a shul. We pray there every
day. And there's the same men that come
every day. Once a year comes a man, it
happens in all the jewels by the way,
goes after the prayer to the Aron
Kodesh, starts kissing the Aron Kodesh,
starts making love to the Kesh. What are
you doing here? I didn't see you for a
whole year. Oh no, I have a trial today
and I need some uh good prayers from
Shamine. And now you remember to come
the whole year. Where were you? Now you
suddenly have to go to some trial. you
come and start kissing the ownesh and
start waving donations into the jeul why
didn't you do that on a regular base
maybe you wouldn't get to the trial to
start with but Hashem doesn't like it
when you're in a jam and you go and do
something cuz you want to get out of
that problem I mean it's natural when
you think about it you have a problem
then you do some acts the reason why we
have problems by the way the only
reasons why we have difficulties and
problems is for you to wake up and do
chuva. That's it. Of course, it's much
more than that is, you know, can be the
effect of your behavior.
But nevertheless, the concept why Hashem
is bringing on to you challenges and
situations that are difficult is only
for you to wake up from it and to do
cha. That's it. Like even now, you know,
last week I had to sit cha. I had to go
through all the laws the of
it's not something that it's actually
something that is not recommended to
learn. I remember when I came to the
section of the the laws of autout when I
was learning my rabbi told me that don't
learn it when you'll need to do it now
skip it.
It doesn't matter that I had to learn it
many many times already before but now I
had to review it again.
And one of the first things that it says
in the laws of aut when you mourn is why
do you say chiva why do you do count the
30 days I mean I'm not talking about
kabalana what happens mystically
I'm talking then it says very clearly
for the reason why you're sitting in
mourning is for you to do chuv that you
will sit and be like oh my god one day
I'm going to be in the ground one day
I'm going to have to go up to shamim and
you know it's that day can be very quick
Yeah, a person doesn't know how long
they have. So when you when you bury a
loved one, the concept of the burial and
the Shiva and all around the first thing
that our sages teach us is you should do
chuva. You should see what's going on.
Now you're in a very weak point. Your
heart is is in pain.
You know like in many of the sit many
scenarios in the Torah that we learn
that somebody like Abra who comes to
bury his wife it says mash like he was
sitting in pain.
So now that's when Hashem says now you
have to do of course the the the things
that we do during the the the Shiva and
the kadish and all that's also the
benefit of the naba but nevertheless the
idea is for you to do cha. So the same
thing, Hashem brings all sorts of
challenges in our life and difficulties
and situations that I feel nothing's
working out. A lot of it I would say now
just to to ease our mind 50% of it of of
when I'm saying challenges and
situations don't work out because Hashem
is telling you in his words it has not
nothing to do with you. Stop trying.
Stop putting so much effort. A lot of
the times you opportunities close in
your face and you don't understand why.
Half the time it's Hashem telling you in
his words, don't go there. Don't move to
there. Don't start that job. Don't date
that person. Hashem is saving you from a
headache. Unfortunately, we are so
stubborn that we don't see that Hashem
is really trying to save us from a
headache. But in many many of the
situations when you fail when things
don't work out how you want when you
want to do something and you can't find
all any way how to achieve it just know
that in many of the cases it's Hashem
telling you let it go move on it's not
your path it's not your shiduk it's not
your business it's not your it's not
where you need to live and Hashem is
saving you from a huge headache I
learned that a long long time ago not to
push something something doesn't work
out too much. You do your you do your
prayers. You do a little bit of what you
need to do and that's it. And if it
doesn't work out, thank you Hashem that
you saved me from a headache. How many
bad deals I was saved from going into
because Hashem diverted my way. Now, the
more connected you are to Hashem, the
more these messages are are are clear.
That is a different topic. We're not
going to even talk about it tonight. But
the more you refine yourself and the
more you connect it to Hashem, those
messages are clear as daylight that you
approach a certain situation, you get a
very clear divine message not to do,
don't touch, not has nothing to do with
you. And this is I'm talking about when
you're trying to meet your other half,
when you're dating, it can be in a
school that you want to put your child,
a business deal that you want to to to
go into, a job, a a new location,
everything.
So now just to ease our ear and don't
take the number but I would say 50% of
the situations when things don't work in
your life that's Hashem telling you move
on move on
stop wasting your time on that and
that's what most people do they waste
their time on nonsense
the other 50% just for the sake of the
example and again don't catch me on the
numbers I'm just assuming that we will
have in our mind some picture the other
50% I will divide it into 25% is your
behavior that you bringing on yourself.
Whatever challenge or difficulty that
you're dealing with with your pathetic
behavior, whether you sin, whether you
treat other people bad, whether you
judgmental, it doesn't matter. Your
behavior will invite a certain energy.
You can call it measure for measure. You
can call it kamanim
and many other terms that the Torah
caters. But the reality is that you I
like to call it when you do a certain
action there will be a reaction. That's
how it works. You do a positive action
it will bounce back at you a very
positive reaction. And if you do a
action that is not so positive don't
think that positive reactions will come.
Many of the situations there complete
opposite. So 25% your behavior, but the
other 25% that's Hashem trying to make
you come closer to him and he wakes you
up. Now if you initiate it then you
don't have to worry. You're not going to
have too many challenges and problems in
your life. When you initiate the
closeness to Hashem, not you're not
required to put yourself in a in a
challenge.
Don't bring me to a place of a of a
challenge. But when you go the step
forward by yourself without Hashem
forcing you, then Hashem doesn't need to
give you any challenges. He says he does
it by himself.
Therefore, you want not to deal with
Hashem's headaches, then you initiate
actions, positive actions in your life
and
you know monitor yourself that you're
constantly growing. If you have a very
very very good rabbi that you're very
very close to, then you're very very
lucky cuz that rabbi will constantly
pull you and tell you what to do. And I
know many people tell me, "You my rabbi.
I'm not your rabbi. If you live 5,000
miles from me, you might be learning
from me on the internet, but I cannot be
your rabbi. I can be a rabbi when you
come and I see you every day and I see
how you pray and if you come every day
and if you come three times a day and
how you behave while you're in the
Besset if you talk or you don't are you
on the phone or you don't are you late
or you come early and do you help clean
or do you I can see the person and I
know a lot of people consider themselves
my students but it's the same thing. How
can I know who? I don't even know who
you are. The students that sit in front
of me, then I see who comes to the
class, who listens, who falls asleep,
who texts on their phone. So, it's much
easier to be a rabbi to somebody that
I'm next to, and I can tell them,
"Uh-uh, no, no, no, not like that." I
can correct them. I see their behavior.
I can tell them right away, you have is
great, but how you treat your wife is
disgusting. and how you treat other
people or how you treat the kadusha of
the
so it's very hard to have a rabbi 5,000
miles away from you try to get a hold of
me let's see you what kind of a rabbi is
that so I'm glad to share Torah online
and I'm glad to answer questions but you
need somebody close to you that can look
at you and tell you as you are wrong
where to fix and when you are good he
gives you a he strengthens
But a person needs to constantly monitor
themselves. If you can do it by them by
yourself,
I go to my rabbi every four months if I
need. I don't usually I don't even need
I come every you know before the to wish
or something. I only very very big
difficult questions I will go and bother
my rabbi cuz he's if I'm busy he's 5,000
times more busy than me but they need me
to come and me driving him nuts. I
learned from a very early stage in my ja
you have an issue open the book don't
start calling the rabbi for every little
question you have but not everybody
could do that so you want a guide now if
you don't have a guide then you need to
be to you need to be your own mentor if
you can reach to this level go ahead I
know how to look at myself every day and
to be a critic of myself and to write
down to myself my plan and that's why I
tell you for the last 20 years you have
to say
the schma not nec necessarily for the
spiritual part to take five minutes out
of your busy day to introspect on on
what you did that day. Very few people
do it. Very few people actually do it.
They might very few people say their
bedtime. Let's start with that. Uh the
little that do say they say it very fast
with not much.
And the ones who are really smart, they
they say the whole thing. But I know
that most people don't say it's late at
night, you're tired, you have all the
excuses in the world, but if you would
know how powerful that prayer is, you
wouldn't miss that at all. And beyond
the actual prayer, it's time to sit down
for a few minutes and do some uh
introspection. How was my day? Was I
nice today to my wife or my husband? Did
I treat my kids nice today? Do I owe
anybody anything? that I promised
something to someone and I didn't
fulfill it. You know many times I see
people in front of my face failing just
with that saying something which is
called a nether and they don't do that
and they don't understand why things
don't work out in their life because you
promise things and you don't do them and
that's called the nether and if you
think that once a year you'll go and do
and you finish with it. No, the the
nullification of the vow that you do
is it's a backup of a backup of a backup
of a backup for all the chuva you were
supposed to do on
in two weeks is alul starting the chuva
they have the whole month to do chuva to
make amends with things and then after
that go and do the notification of the
vows but I see every day people they
just promise you things and it's not
even in a form of a promise they just
tell you something now you know it's a
little bit annoying to say but a person
has to add to to say I don't promise
I will try my best
so when you sit on
you want to go over all every part of
your day so you can do chuva because the
next day you don't remember what you did
that day you will remember who you
insulted who you owe money who you
borrowed something and didn't give back
on that day you remember the next day
50% you don't remember already so how
you going to do chuva how you going to
repent for what you did and then you
think on you going to do chuva going
back a whole year
so the reason why I'm saying that with
malamita is when you introspect you you
monitor yourself and you give yourself
points I was okay I was less good I need
to work more harder the concept is that
you constantly want to grow grow grow
every day you want to grow if you didn't
grow every day, then you're missing out.
And that's another big problem that most
people don't understand, don't take to
consideration. But I'm not going to talk
about that, the the waste of time. And
the reason why I'm not going to talk
about that because in two weeks is I'm
going to have a big event in Florida.
You're not going to be there, but it's
going to be broadcast live like this.
And then I'm going to explain the whole
concept and how we going to attack the
month of alul that bzantem each and
every one of you including me will have
an amazing alul that eventually we'll
have an amazing sh so bzandem stay tuned
in two weeks we're starting we're going
to start there's going to be a lot of
important and valuable information but I
can already tell you that the failure of
most people is they waste their time
they just most people waste their time
all day long especially on
And you all giggle and laugh because you
are all guilty. And maybe one out of
this crowd doesn't even know what I'm
talking about. And the rest of you are
like,
so when you waste your time, don't
expect too many things good good things
happening in your life.
And not that I'm trying to break your
spirit. But I'm just telling you how to
to shape your day that it will be
successful that you will bring success
on yourself because at the end of the
day the kalu wants from you one thing he
wants you to grow spiritually and when
you're not doing it yourself then he's
going to start bothering you in many
different ways. Because if you don't put
yourself to the to the workout, he will
make you work out with all these
difficulties and all these challenges
that you don't understand where they're
coming from. And certain things that you
dream of and nope, doesn't work out. And
I'm not going to go to the extreme
things that bother you, but you all
understand exactly what I'm talking
about.
So when Hashem is demanding growth, you
can either do it yourself or not or let
Hashem bend your hand and force you to
grow. With that said,
I started this is by the way the
introduction. The lecture is going to
have to be five minutes because the
introduction is already half an hour.
We're not going to have a 4-hour
lecture. Don't worry.
We're not going to talk about how the
world is going to explode and that's
leave once a month. I'll give you that.
Now we're going to talk words of and how
to achieve what you need to to do.
So I was talking about before what
explained that the kadosh projects his
godly light to the world in order to
shine on us his greatness, his love, his
kindness, everything. But if it would
not be filtered, we would all be expired
on the spot. If you need to relate with
what I'm talking about expired right on
the spot, take now a candle and in a
very dark room and light the candle.
Then the light of the candle basically
took over the darkness. It diminished
the darkness and you see the light of
the candle. Now take that candle as it
is lit. Take it outside to the street in
midday. Would you see the light of the
candle? No. Would the light of the
candle affect anything? No. The light of
the candle is completely anolified to
the light of the sun.
That's what I'm talking about. That when
a person, a creature, a soul, a human
being is close to Hashem with no
contractions,
the person doesn't exist. In theory, of
course.
So kadu created a system that everything
has leushim garments and the garments
allow you to sustain the light according
to your level. How do you create these
garments? Through as I explained in the
beginning
wanted to give us a lot of merit. He
gave us a lot of and these
they
serve as garments to the and eventually
when Hashem shines his godly light you
can sustain it. one way or another and
even in this world right now you can see
the differences between a person who's
extremely observant and I'm not talking
about the fake ones talking about a real
one a real observant individual then you
see that the godly light affects that
person much more how do you see that
it's affecting first of all the person
is is you see if you can you see the
light on the face you seek ducha on the
face and only that you can see that the
person is in a different place and
usually it will be a great rabbi or a
great scholar, a great sadic. Why?
Because the person is much closer to
Hashem. So the behavior of this
individual is different than most people
in many different ways.
Being said that the Hashem projects his
light in that way, then there are many
forms of timsum, many forms of these
contractions, many forms of the the the
screens that I'm referring to. But the
way Hashem enlightens the world through
his name Yud Vav, the power of Havaya of
of creation, then Hashem takes the
letters Yudke Vav and every month the
letter combination changes. The order of
the letters change. That means that how
the light is shining to the world
changes too. And the explanation for
that if you need to have a visual in
your mind 40 years ago when I used to go
to watch movies in a movie house there
would be a big screen on the wall and a
projector from behind us beaming a beam
of light onto the wall. Now assuming
there's nothing there the light that is
reflected on the wall is yellow or
whitish something like that. Now if you
will put any obstacle between the beam
of light like a gel with a color and the
gel is the color red then the light on
the screen will be red and if you do it
blue then the screen will be blue. When
we used to go to the movie houses we
used to put our hands like this in the
in the in the light and then the shadow
would be on the wall and everybody would
go like that and you know bunnies and
ducks and and it was all on the screen.
That's the concept. the beam of light is
projecting on a surface. And when
there's an object stopping that light,
then there's a different reflection on
the surface. That's the concept. So,
Hashem projects his godly light into the
universe through the letters yud and the
letter hey and the letter vav and the
letter hey. Now, just imagine in your
mind how it looks on the wall. If you
would actually do it, then on the wall
will be written.
Since it's not the same, this is just an
analogy for me to explain to you how it
works. We don't see that. But for you to
understand, when the letters are
organized in the order of you, the n and
then that's the perfect order. That is
the shine in the month of Nissan. Now,
in the month of the order of the letters
change and then in the month of Sivan,
the or the letters change. The rule is
that when it starts, it always will
switch in pairs. The yud and the h and
the vav and the hey. Where the r is when
the yud is coming in the beginning and
the vav is in the beginning. This is
coming from a motion of of kindness. The
ru is when the hey is in the beginning
and the other letter is next. That
coming from from severity and judgments.
In the month of tamuz the both of them
are the other way around. Instead of
aud.
So the month of Tamuz is considered like
the worst type of energy because it's
completely the other way around a
on a beginning of the month is a hey and
a yud the the other way around very
negative but from two it changes and the
ud comes first. So the second part of
the month of a is changing completely.
So you can feel that from everything
changes new beginning you have two weeks
now till that are very powerful. A lot
of people don't talk about that which I
don't understand why people talk about
and then they talk about and then the
whole month of but you have now two
weeks of unbelievable growth two weeks
of an opportunity to grab that change
that motion that you switch from bad to
good from evil to good from darkness to
light. Therefore, it's not only to
yesterday on two that we were
celebrating. We have now two weeks that
we're celebrating. And what are we
celebrating? The opportunity for me to
tap into the option
to switch something from negative to
positive in my life. It all depends on
the individual. Now, I'm already telling
you don't now start searching for, you
know, meaningless things. This is done
for things with a lot of a lot of
meaning.
With that said,
talking about the concept of shidim of
meeting your other half and I'm I'm
going to add on that the concept that is
called schlomite peace in the home
because that's something that one a lot
of people don't understand and I had to
clarify it very very clear la yesterday
in the shabbaton that I did. We had a
beautiful shabbaton in Long Island. a
lot a lot of amazing amazing people and
there was a group of people that we sat
between the hours and I was trying to
explain to them something that I don't
think most of them got
for a year two three five shalom 10 or
20 you're constantly looking for your
other half
and you're praying to meet the other
half and you're going on dates and
disappointments and I'm not talking
about somebody who's 19 chick finds
their other half and everything's fine
I'm talking about unfortunately many
many people that it's not in their 20s
already. It's in their 30s and 40s that
they can't seem to find their other
half, their mate, their shiduk, their
ziv.
And of course, what do they do? Oh, you
turn the whole world around. You know,
every possible grave in the world,
they've been there.
Did all this gulot, all the remedies,
all everything. Listen, I've been there.
I've been everywhere. I know how things
work. And I can tell you already that
all the the the nonsense that most
people do doesn't work. It's nice. It's
good, but it doesn't work cuz a lot of
people are missing the point, which
that's why you came tonight.
But one thing that I don't understand
and I'm I'm trying to always explain to
people and yesterday I sat with a group
of people and they couldn't
they couldn't go down to the depth of my
what I'm trying to say which is very
simple by the way you look for your
other half for a year two 10 years 20
years you searching for her for him you
praying everything finally
when you find this person and marry them
3 months into the wedding Oh,
suddenly she's like the biggest enemy.
He is like the most annoying person in
the world. Now you have a whole new saga
starting. We don't get along. What a
mistake. I should have married him. What
a lazy bum. And she and her
mother-in-law and all.
Where were you two minutes ago when you
were praying and crying all day long
looking for her? Now you finally found
her. And all day long you complain.
I don't get that. What did you think is
going to happen when you find that
special one for you? You think you're
going to walk into the sunset holding
hands and hearts in the background
and confettes?
[Music]
Yeah, I know you're all nodding. That
doesn't happen.
>> It doesn't happen.
It happens in Hollywood. That's it. In
real life, there's no
hearts in the background.
>> Wait, wait, wait, wait.
Comments don't get you anywhere because
I don't hear anything. So, I just see
hands moving and uh
I was taught when I was young, listen
till the end, then then then say your
comments. But nevertheless, why am I
saying that?
Because the reality is that that's what
most most people do.
You are right. It shouldn't be like
that. And you're also right. There
should be hearts in the background. I
don't know who will do the hearts in the
background, but it doesn't matter.
But the fact is there shouldn't be a
situation where there's no romance
between a couple 20 years later. But the
reality, let's cut to the chase. While
you're dating, oh, you're madly in love.
Madly in love. Oh, I sometimes I see men
they go after her like honey
and the textes they send. Oh, oh, I miss
you. And
a whole different person two years into
the marriage.
And where was all the hearts that you
were texting two years ago?
So the reality, I'm sorry to break uh
your big hopes and dreams.
Once you get married, the job starts.
There's no hearts in the backgrounds and
walking into sunsets. And that's the
fake people do these fake pictures to
put on Instagram that all their friends
will think that their love is that
great, but after they faked the picture,
then it's back to square one. And
so that's the problem with social media.
Everybody needs to show that life is
great around people. You know, not too
long ago, I was also in one in
Shabbaton. I saw the couple. You would
think that's the couple from Instagram
with all the hearts and they looked like
this perfect couple. He was looking at
her and she was looking at him and he
was pouring wine for her and wow. I was
like, "Wow, that's amazing. They're
probably married for like 20 years at
one big show.
The joke was that he came to me quietly
towards the end of the Shabbaton. I need
to talk to your rabbi. Then he grabbed
me for an hour and a half telling me how
how all how bad she is. And ironically,
she went to my wife quietly and held her
for two hours and it happened to be that
Shabbat, my wife and me and talking and
she we didn't know how to kind of like
break the news to each other cuz my wife
and we barely talk and definitely not
and I was I was about to tell her you
know that the girl that you talk to her
husband they look in love but he's not
happy. No.
So, so I didn't know how to break the
news. And my wife was the one that did
that. She came into the car and she was
like, "You know that couple that sat in
front of us?
She doesn't like him." And I was like,
"Really? That's shocking."
So, the bottom line was that it was all
one big show for the community wherever
we were. And they were holding hands,
the whole thing. And with the reality,
he came with a list. He even go to
Costco with such a list with a list of
complaints
and hero
every second day planning the divorce.
So why am I saying that? Because you're
right. A certain amount of the couples,
it's not the right. They go into the
marriage forced by the parents or forced
by whatever it is or they're pressured
by their age or shalom. They look at the
other half and she's beautiful and he's
rich and there's no connection. He likes
how she looks and she likes his bank
account and that's it. And then uh a
year or two into the marriage there's a
divorce. But the majority of the
marriages they don't work well. It is
the right shid. They just don't know how
to work the schlomite.
So my advice to you when you're praying
for your other half, be careful for what
you wish. Okay? So wish for don't wish
for her to look a certain way. Wish for
her to be respectful and quiet and for
him to be A, B, and C. I'm going to tell
you what your wishes should be.
But the fact is that
marriage is not a simple thing. Marriage
is not like you what you think in the
dating period. In the dating period, you
head over heels and before the dating,
you have all these plans and this and
that. But when that's it, when the
marriage is done and you're starting the
wedding and the life starts,
if you're lucky or I would say more, if
you're smart, then you keep that romance
and the love from from the first day and
it will stay the whole the whole time.
Very difficult. It requires two
amazingly humble individuals.
It won't work otherwise. And that's why
most people have schlumb issues. They
have schlumbai means that the couples
are not getting along. It's not that
he's annoying and that he's lazy and
she's that. That's not the case. It's
the problem is that most people don't
know how to look at themselves and to be
a critic of themselves.
In schlomite issues in problems between
the husband and wife, it's because
everybody's looking at themselves and
not looking at the other person. It's
very simple. You can solve schlomite
issues within one second.
But most people are too stubborn to do
that. And the reason why I'm saying that
because we're first we're talking about
finding your other half. Just know where
you're going into. Don't don't don't
think you're walking into the love boat.
Okay? And uh well only the old people
understand what I just said. I don't the
younger the young people are like who
Captain Stubing who
Loveboat was a show way before Netflix
way
and it was a cruise ship that all the
couples would come there everybody would
be in love there and it was the love
boat okay so there's no love boats
there's Kosha Kosha America kosherica
all that no love boats no captain
stubing and no other whatever the other
guys were
so and I'm connecting especially the
shidim and the the finding the other
half and and marriage wait we didn't get
to paranasai parasa making your
livelihood that comes as the third
element that causes problems these are
the main three things that uh people
deal with either than health everybody
has that department
But 90% of it is your blood fault
because what you eat and what you drink
and the radiation you are exposed to and
the junk that is sprayed on you all day
long and many other things, it's your
fault. Take care of your health, you're
not going to deal with health issues.
The other day we looked, we were in a
certain sit certain place and there were
two older individuals and it was very
hard to see them how they're aging. And
both my wife and me looked at it and we
agreed that shouldn't be the end of
somebody's life. A person should not end
their life in sickness. If that's what
Hashem wants me, but the majority of the
diseases and sicknesses that people go
through isund well 90% their problem,
their fault that you don't take care of
your body, you don't eat right, you
don't sleep well, you don't do anything
right. Let's put it this way. And I see
how people treat themselves.
And the reason why I'm a good indication
cuz just in the last month, every day I
was in a different location, different
city, and every Shabbat I'm in a
different place. So I see a lot a lot of
people how they behave. And I see all
the Coca-Cola on the tables. So I I I I
don't see water. I see Coca-Cola, Zero,
Sprite, and then all the rest of the
junk. And then then don't don't whine,
okay? Don't don't complain. If all day
long you're eating and drinking junk and
consuming junk such as white sugar,
white flour, GMO, MSG, all the chemicals
that you're eating. I go here into the
supermarkets.
I don't know how you I don't know how
you do that. I actually don't know how
you do it. And then people tell me, "Oh,
go to Whole Foods and go same junk. Same
junk. Just looks a little bit nicer."
And they and they lie to you and it says
organic.
Or Yeah. Really organic.
So organic, you you grow it yourself.
That will be organic, not coming from
some field that you don't even know
where it's coming from. H So the health
department, I'm not going to even talk
tonight. I can already tell you, take
care of your body. Your body will take
care of you. Very simple. Not that I'm
trying to put anybody down, but I
guarantee to you, I even challenge you.
Let's go all go out and let's run two
blocks down.
Who's coming with me?
Three people raise their hands. The
other ones will be with their tongue
out.
Listen, everybody's good in pretending.
Okay, let's drop on the floor. See how
many push-ups you can do. I'm 51 years
old. I'll put you to any challenge.
And not that I'm trying to show off or
anything. I keep myself in good shape.
It's nothing against the Torah. I work
out every day. I run. I work out. Why?
Not not for anything, but for my health.
I don't need to be 70 years old and and
come like that. No, no, no, no, no, no.
Sorry. I'm not going to fall for that.
I'm not going to die old
and sick. Whatever I can do in my
ability, I will do. And it's an
obligation. By the way,
a healthy soul is in a healthy body
says.
And not only that, the Torah tells you
you have to guard your
very that means your body. You're not
allowed to put yourself in dangerous
situations. You're not allowed to to to
expose your body to something that might
harm the body. You have to may take that
to consideration. One day you might
stand in front of God and you will be
like why did you treat that body bad?
That body is not yours. But the reality
is when you treat it the right way, you
will benefit from that. Who needs to be
breathing heavy and walking with a back
like this and can't carry nothing?
It's uh
so that's why I'm saying the department
of health a lot of it is you the rest is
of course the blessing of Hashem but I
can tell you already that if you take
care of your health completely 90% of
your sicknesses you won't have and
you'll age and mature healthy.
So I'm not going to talk about the
problems of health. You know when I meet
people
it's not only for the last month for the
last 20 years but the last month I'm
traveling in the United States every
every day I'm somewhere else and
systematically
everybody comes up to me and everybody
has a one little question little
question it's
three and a half hours I'm not going to
take much of your time
I have failed in my last 20 years to to
listen to a short question.
Ah, actually, you know what? I take it
back. There was one guy who called me
like uh like as if the world is about to
explode if he doesn't get an answer.
Driving my entire system nuts. I have to
talk to the rabbi. It's urgent. Finally,
he got me on the phone. He's like,
"Rabbi, I know you're busy. I'm not
going to take much of your time. I only
have one question. I just need a yes or
a no."
Okay, he asks me the questions and I
tell him the answer is no. Now, that's
how short the conversation was. The
irony, the joke in this call was has
nothing to do with our topic, but he
told me, "Are you sure?" And I'm like,
"Uh, yeah, you don't need to check or
something." I said, "No, no, I know."
The answer is no. Are you sure 100% that
it's no? I told him, "Yes, it's no."
So he tells me, "You're the seventh
rabbi who's telling me that."
So regardless to the stupidity of that
call, but it lasted 17 seconds. Most of
the questions
I hear a migila and my grandmother and
then my daughter and my sa and my notil.
I'm not trying to hurt anybody. In many
of the cases, I I wish I could tell the
person, "Spe it up. I'm not stupid. Give
me the question. I don't need the whole
background. I don't need to hear every
little element in the story. Give me the
question. Something is not clear, I will
ask you. We don't need to sit for two
and a half hours you telling me every
story."
But why am I saying that? Because I get
it everywhere. And everybody comes to me
and asking me for a moment to get a
question through. And I can tell you
that if I do a a poll,
the four top problems are health,
parasa, money, schlumbite, and finding
the other half. These are the four major
things that people come to me. Ah, once
in a blue moon, some sadic comes and
tells me, you know, I have all sorts of
these foreign thoughts while I'm
praying. Do you have something that I
can stop these thoughts while I'm
praying because I want to pray from my
heart? That's like one out of 500,000
that comes and asks a question like
that. Usually it's what I told you.
Money is issue slumber bite health and
and and how do I find my other half
and how to raise the kids? That's like
number five, but it's way low beyond the
rest.
Which really the questions that you need
to ask a rabbi who comes to your town is
how can you become closer to God? What
can you do that your mitzvot will be in
a different level?
What do you need to do to make sure that
your chuva is done right? How can I know
that I my spiritual growth is going in
the right way? That's what you need to
ask the rabbi when you meet him. Not you
know some nonsense question. I had a
business deal and then my partner and
then we invested in crypto and lost all
the money and uh
some of you are laughing. I'm sorry for
your loss.
Should have asked me before I would tell
you which coins to buy
or which coins not to buy. But
nevertheless, let's get to the point. I
told you preparation for the lecture is
an hour. The lecture is 5 minutes.
So, we're dealing with a few big issues
and that's why you're all here. The one,
like I told you, everybody wants to meet
their other half, their true soulmate,
and they're fed up already with all the
searches. Number two, you found already
that soulmate. Now you're fed up with
the soulmate.
How do I deal now with that and the
mother-in-law?
Number three is I have a lot of issues
with the soulmate because we don't have
money and that causes a lot of
schlumbite issues. Right? So we have
three situations in our life that are
difficult.
Very interestingly these three
situations
are compared compared by our sages to
splitting of the sea.
Now
it says excuse me
it says about finding your other half
and making money. your parasa
is as hard as splitting the sea. So
there is a commentary on that that says
you saying in other words that something
is hard for Hashem.
Hashem shouldn't have an issue with
doing anything. Why would it be hard for
Hashem?
Hashem did the splitting of the sea.
You're not required to do the splitting
of the sea. Right? Last I checked, we
are not required to split seas. Hashem
does such stuff. So when you're saying
like when a person to find his his other
half of or of money is hard as splitting
the sea. So if it's not required for me,
so you're saying it's hard for Hashem to
do that. So we have to understand a few
things. First of all, let's go to the
midrash the to be exact.
And uh you know before that sorry let
let me go before that to the Talmud. It
says in tracked
says in the name of
this is can retract found in tracked
page two a and he says there that
finding your other half is as hard as
splitting the sea.
So it says in the midrash in midrash
chapter
verse4
and it says that there was a certain
rabbi
and he quoted a verse from chapter
68 verse 7 and he says he quotes the
verse
translation god settles the solitary in
a house
comes a different rabbi
who had a contra uh an argument with a
certain woman and the woman told him in
how many days did Hashem create the
world. So he told her in six days. So
she tells him and what does Hashem does
from then he created the world right?
What does he do after that? So he told
her
he sits and he match matchmakes. He puts
souls together.
So she tells him what the what's what's
the big problem. This is something that
uh is such a big deal. I can do that. So
he told her
I don't think you can really do that.
She says what are you talking about?
I'll put it to the test. So the story
says that she went and took a thousand
men and a thousand women and made him
and the next day a thousand Matt
weddings. Woof
her rating in Google just went up. It
was five star. One day a thousand.
The story says that a few days later, oh
boy, what started happening? One guy
came with a broken arm. Another guy came
his head was swollen. And the other guy
came, a black eye. Another guy came, no
teeth.
>> So she understood
it's not so easy to do. She shid him.
She just to put two people together and
the next day they'll kill each other. I
can do that too. You go to her, her, you
go to him and
not taking any responsibility. I hope
you all have health insurance.
So she very quickly says uh okay I give
up I see how hard it is to do the
matching and she said you're right only
only the koshu can do such a thing
so comes now the continuation of the
verse and if you need to read it
yourself and learn I told you
verse 7 the continuation of the verse go
says He takes the prisoners out at the
most opportune time in Hebrew. It
doesn't translate like that and I don't
like the Hebrew anyways. I told you that
many times in Hebrew the word that it's
used in timos
and the the the translation is the most
opportune time.
If you break the word you can read it
is
bey.
When does Hashem take the prisoners out
of out? Who's the prisoner? A person
who's stuck in their own mit in their
own limitation state of limitation. If
you are now not spiritually free, then
you are obviously a prisoner. Most
people are prisoners. Either they're
prisoners through their desires or
they're prisoners through their thoughts
or they're prisoner to the
mother-in-law. No offense to the
mother-in-law. And one one lady found it
amusing.
The rest of them women are like, "Excuse
me, you're talking about the
mother-in-law.
I love my mother-in-law by the way and
she have a long long life.
>> Uh so when you are stuck in your mit
when you are stuck in any state of
limitation mitime is not a country to
the south of Israel. Mitim is a
consciousness
it's called mitar a a place of
limitation. In our generation they call
it addictions.
But nevertheless, when you are in a
place of which means that you're not
spiritually free, you need to go out of
your
sages say
in every generation a person has to see
himself like as if he left Egypt. The
Balata says
every day a person has to see himself
like he went out of Egypt. Which means
that today I have to go out of my mit,
out of my Egypt, out of my state of
limitation. And tomorrow I'll have to do
that again.
How? I'll tell you in 2 minutes exactly
how. Very easy to say, extremely hard to
do.
But first, let's understand what needs
to be done. If I don't go out of my mit,
I am a prisoner to my own limitation.
Some people their limitations is very
very severe uh
uh addictions can be alcohol, drugs and
many others. But the sad reality is that
most people are addicted to something
and the most sad reality is most of you
is addicted to this.
There's always excuses. Yeah, I'm
learning Torah. No, no, no, no, no, not
you. I know. I know. I see the notes.
I'm just I have to make listen I have to
make jokes.
It's a tough time. Everybody's sad. I
have to lighten it up. But every time
when I tell people when they hold the
phone, you're addicted to the phone. I'm
I'm I'm learning Torah. I'm listening to
you.
I know you listen to me. I know you're
front line.
No need to apologize. Let Let me have
fun with the phones a little bit.
You're taking notes. Other people watch
junk.
But be the sad reality is when I tell
people you are addicted to your phone.
Usually they answer me but I watch your
videos. Yeah, good answer. You watch my
videos and then another 3 hours of
Instagram. So listen,
you can watch my videos not not on on
your phone. Uh you can come to classes.
It's much more convenient. Somebody told
me today why there's not enough chairs
but you're not expecting so many people.
I said no it's broadcast live. Nobody
will come. Everybody sits in their home.
worrying about their health
and why should I come? It's going to be
live now. It's going to be recorded. I
need to now go in the heat, find
parking, dress nice, look nice to for
everybody, and then at home here, I
can't do
I never I never teach when there's food
around. The rule is when the the the
mouth is busy, the ear doesn't work.
you're busy with the
so
so what I'm saying with the addiction
there's many different addictions but a
lot of the things is small things that
you don't even consider that you are
addicted to it or limited by it
the way to know is just put it to the
challenge take away the phone for three
days let's see how you react you know I
deal with a lot of drug addicts I have a
lot of experience
but I deal with a lot of drug addicts So
you know many times especially youth I
have a lot of youth that I mentor that I
guide we have a whole organization just
for youth and uh amazing kids very very
special kids and the majority of them
are from families like religious
families but they're all all on drugs
and all uh in trouble every second day
I'm in the police station. The police
station knows me very well every time I
come. Okay, ma'am I'm bailing one out.
Yeah yeah yeah it's fine. and they bring
him bring him over.
But why am I saying that? Cuz sometimes
I know how it is when somebody doesn't
get their little their little fix. They
go completely wacko. Now let's see how
you going to react if I take your phone
for 3 days. Let's see. In the first
three hours, you'll be like
after like 3 hours you're going to look
already. What?
You're all laughing cuz I'm 105% right.
And if you don't believe me, give me a
phone for two days. Let's see how I I'll
leave you a number where you can call
for help. 1 800 I'm going crazy.
So that that this is I'm all going this
is all an hour of introduction. My
punchline will take one minute.
Let it go.
You got to be free. Go out of your
limitation. Figure out what's your
limitation. What's the yummit that is
holding you down? And then you'll be on
the path of going out of mit. And where
did the nation of Israel went when they
left mit? They went to Israel to a state
of perfection.
If you're not doing it physically, at
least do it spiritually.
I'm talking about physically going to
Israel. Everybody has their issues with
Israel. I don't know why. I don't This
country is not that great. I've been
here for the last month.
I don't know what you're so excited
about this country.
But uh that will keep to another
lecture. But nevertheless the idea the
spiritual part of going out of mit is to
walk towards Israel and Israel
symbolizes perfection that you reach to
your top ultimate purpose in life you
reach to and that's what you want to get
to. So the idea is h
>> yeah yeah that listen you don't have to
convince me. I'm I'm go to Israel. If
you take suitcases, go right now. Don't
wait for anything. It's now the time to
go to Israel.
Uh it's not only the air, it's
everything. But unfortunately, people
are educated in a very uh
twisted way that Israel is hard. It's
very hard there. Look how hard. Look at
me. You see how it's very hard in
Israel. Extremely hard.
So, but everybody knows how to trash
Israel. But nevertheless,
when it comes to some terror attack, we
love Israel. We support Israel. Yeah.
So, back to Mitim where everybody is
a person needs to go out of their state
of limitation which is called mitime.
And that's why if you ever thought why
we continuing all the time in almost
every prayer in every situation that we
are we are mentioning the leaving of
Egypt
and while we pray in the morning and
rest of the prayer
remembering going out of everything that
we do
to remember that we left Egypt. Why do
we con constantly commemorate that?
Because of course going out of Mim is a
huge miracle in our in our
history.
But isn't it a greater miracle the
creation of the world? Why are we not
commemorating the creation of the world?
The six days of creation. That's I think
a much greater miracle to create a
world. And if you don't want to go that
far, why aren't we mentioning the giving
of the Torah?
The reason why we mention it all the
time because that's my daily job every
day to go out of my mit to introspect
and you do that at night
and you see where you didn't go out of
your mit and the next day you work on it
and I'm talking about mitim as
addictions mitime can be how you treat
your spouse how you talk to the kid.
It's a state of limitation cuz nobody
needs to deal with your nonsense
like your kids or your spouse or any
other other person. And by the way, when
you're single, when you're saying, "I
don't have a spouse and kid," start
working that muscle on other people that
when you get to the marriage, you
already know how to handle it. Most
people don't know how to handle it.
And I'm talking about the fact that most
people are self-centered. is first my
needs and then I worry about everybody
else's needs and what they care and what
they think and first me.
So with the concept of going out of
mitim
which is really what everybody needs to
focus on, if you need to take at least
one thing out of the lecture tonight is
the idea that at the end of the day like
a business owner, if you own a business
and assuming that the nature of the
business that money comes in every day,
not a business that you make a deal once
a month,
a store owner or something like that, at
the end of the day he counts what's the
how much was the in the register.
How much came in cash? How much came in
with credit card? You make some
accounts, you look at the papers. If you
don't do that, how do you run your
business? So why wouldn't you do the
same thing for your spiritual life? At
the end of the day, you have to start
looking. Okay, did I show up three times
a day to pray? Check. Did I turn the
phone off when I went to pray? Check.
Did I talk while I was in sh? No. You
know what I mean? You you you want to
work with the system. I told you before,
if you have an amazing rabbi that sits
on your head 247, you're very lucky. But
you don't have that. So, you need to be
your own rabbi, your own personal
trainer that keeps you in check. And I
know what I'm saying might sound to you
like nonsense, but it's not at all. I
can tell you these are the steps of
growing spiritually. And what I tell
you, it's not because I read it in some
book or heard it on some YouTube video
and I'm coming and selling this product
to you. I'm telling you because that's
what I do. And when I see that it works,
then I can come and safely tell you it
works.
It works when you constantly look at
yourself. Most people don't do that. And
you don't have to do it in an OCD way,
by the way, that all day long you're
critic of yourself. No.
At the end of the day, sit with yourself
5 minutes, 10 minutes. I make notes of
everything. You see, everything I do is
notes. I write down. I see what's going
on. I write down what did I do? What did
I do? So I can apologize right on the
spot. That I can correct the situation
right on the spot. That if I miss
something today, today I was late to the
minan. Okay, I ride myself. Today I was
late to the minan. Tomorrow come 15
minutes earlier cuz you're going to be
late anyways. So at least come 15
minutes earlier. When you're doing that,
you are constantly growing, growing,
growing. You're going out of your mit.
And when you go out of your mit in the
small things, you know how to do it with
the big things eventually. And if you
don't practice that m in the small
things, you'll never do it going out of
your m and you might seem to you like
irrelevant. That's a hashem.
That's service of God. Not only praying
and eating culture and observing Shabbat
and dress modest. These are all great
serving Hashemat. My service to Hashem
is that I want every day to come to
Hashem better, cleaner,
more spiritual, more close to Hashem. If
you don't have this in your life as your
first priority,
a it means you're like this all day long
cuz you're busy with the next uh episode
that comes on your favorite series or
whatever nonsense that your mind is
being projected all day long from the
screens.
I also have phones, but I don't touch my
phones. Not in the morning and not at
night. First two hours of the day, no
phone.
Why do you need to go to the to the sh
with your phone? Or maybe there's going
to be an emergency. 30 years ago, nobody
had phones and everything worked fine. I
grew up without a phone and I came out
kind of normal.
My wife thinks not. But but but
nevertheless, I came out normal without
a phone. There's an emergency. I pray
over there. Send somebody to knock on
the door. Why do you need the phone with
you? Because if the phone is there,
you're going to look at it.
And if you're going to look at it, then
you're not praying Moshik like you
should. So why you bring the phone?
There's no emergencies. And listen, if
you are a medic, okay?
If you're unemployed, you don't need to
take the phone with you. No president is
going to call you at 5:00 in the morning
asking for your advice.
So, first hour of the day, no phone, two
hours if you can. Same thing with at
night. Why do you need to check your
emails at night? I check my emails twice
a day. That's it. People get very angry.
I sent you an email 22 minutes ago. You
didn't answer.
I'm so sorry. I was in traffic. I check
in the morning and I check in the
evening. Nothing is that urgent. And if
something is urgent, then people know
how to get me. That's it. I don't need
to be a slave to anything. Not to a
phone, not to a TV series, not to
anything. Not to some new product that
you're waiting to come, some version
that you're waiting 30 days.
The point is that if everything that I'm
telling you now, you don't apply in your
life, I'm going to take you now to the
beginning of the lecture and tell you
stop complaining.
Don't complain.
It's almost as equivalent if of the
same. If you can't do the time, don't do
the crime. If you don't know how to stop
complaining, then don't do nonsense.
It's very simple.
And and listen what what I'm telling
you, I do it and I don't lack anything
in my life.
I'm not hooked to any Netflix series
because it's only junk. It doesn't
enrich my life in any type of a way. And
if I need to relax in some way or
another, then I have many other ways of
relaxing
or unwinding.
So, if everything that I'm saying
doesn't resonate, there's going to be a
problem because the point that you want
to do is when you go out of this door
tonight like that smart girl who's
taking notes on the phone, maybe you can
share the notes later for $1.99 per
line.
I'm not joking. You send the notes.
But what I'm saying is you want to go
out of this room with something tonight,
with some souvenir. Why did you come
here? You think I came to you with a
woman that you're going to marry tonight
or a man? You think I have a caravan
outside with some men? Hey, ladies,
come. Here's first contendant. He's 24
years old, 6'2, 180 lb. Makes 140,000 a
year.
Sold
>> when we sold. Yeah.
180 lb. 62 140 a year. Sold. Of course.
Sold. Yeah. But the personality of a of
a watermelon
See, you were quick to say sold for the
6'2, the 180 and the 140k a year and the
Mercedes and the personality of a
brought an avocado. So,
people thought we wrote about singles.
Oh, maybe he's going to come with a
catalog here. This is what I have to
show you. I have brunettes, blondes.
What? What? What's your favorite? I'm
not coming here with any shim to you.
I'm coming to tell you how to fix your
life that you can open up the
opportunity not only to find your other
half to have a successful peaceful happy
life with good parasa with good lumbai
with good relationships with your family
members
with some goals on in line with a lot of
hope and lot of aspiration a lot of why
wouldn't a person want to live like that
that's what I don't understand Most
people that I talk to, I see there's
like it's like it's like a daily
struggle just to get out of the the the
the bed in the morning. It shouldn't be
like that. And yesterday when I told it
to a nice lady, she told me, "Oh, you
know, cuz I told her, I don't touch the
phone two hours in the day." She was
like, "Yeah, but in the morning the I
have to call this and I have to this and
that." And I told her, "I have the same
thing like you. What do you think? I
don't have principles. I have seven
kids. I have seven principles calling me
all day long.
And I also, by the way, I also have to
pay my mortgage. I asked my bank
manager. I told him, you know, I'm Rabbi
Nava. Maybe you can wave the mortgage.
He said, "No, you have to pay like
everybody else."
And then, by the way, I have to also
have to pay my electricity bill, my
water bill, all my bills I have to pay.
I'm not different than you. I also have
a wife. I also have kids. I also have
all sorts of worldly matters to take
care of, but I don't see that as a
challenge. It's not a challenge. It's
not even part of my daily task. My daily
task is serving Hashem. Everything else
is just Hashem keeping me on my toes.
So, I'm no different than you. Don't
think that I'm some babasali that I
hover over the ground at home. I'm a
human as you and probably worse than
you. By the way, fact that I'm wearing a
suit, you think that I'm No, I don't
wear a suit at home. I just wear a suit
now. I would look nice to you. You want
me to come with a t-shirt?
But what I'm saying is I'm no different
than you in any way. And I work as hard
as I say to my own spiritual growth, but
I see results. So I can come and tell
you this works.
So, you need to go out of this door
tonight understanding that you need to
split the sea in your life. When
something doesn't work in your life and
you have a dead end, like I told you
before, 50% of it is Hashem telling you,
"Move on. Move on. It's not Shia to you.
It doesn't even belong to you. Why are
you dwelling on that?"
Yesterday, I spoke with some young man.
I'm going to say the the a little bit
what he said for you to to understand
and relate. He told me that he went on a
date, everything was great. Of course,
an older man who's desperately seeking
to find his other half. And finally, he
met this woman. He said everything was
great and they were dating for two
months. And finally, when they went to
come a little bit closer and more
serious, she I don't know, cold feet or
whatever it is. And she that's it. She
broke up the the the connection, the
relationship, and and he's devastated.
Finally, I found somebody that I like.
And I
So he told me, "Should I forget about
it? Should I delete the number?" And I
was like, "Yes."
What didn't you get here? Hashem closed
that door a long time ago telling you,
"She's not for you."
But he couldn't understand. He kept
saying, "But we had such chemistry and
such this." I said, "Hashem saved you
from a horrible divorce. Why are you
complaining?
So what if she you liked her? You liked
her cuz you in your 40s and you sorry to
tell you a little bit desperate. So of
course
you rounded corners. So Hashem had to
slam the door in your face to tell you
she's not yours.
What do you you forcely want to get into
a relationship with this woman? Why? to
suffer a horrible divorce in a year or
two. So I told you that many of the
closed opportunities in your life is
Hashem telling you in his words, "Move
on. It's not yours."
And in many of the cases this move on,
it's not that it's not yours. It's not
the right time.
And one on one something is not the
right time, don't focus on it. Move on.
focus on other things and I wanted to
get married and I couldn't find my other
half. At some point, you know what I
did? I understood it's not time. So, I
went to learn in yeshiva
very simple
cuz I understood now it's not the time
to get married. So, it means it's time
to get to to get on your and start
learning
there's a time for everything says King
Solomon.
There's a time to die, a time to give
birth, time for war, time for peace.
There's time for everything. When you
try to push something way before it's
time,
it's not going to work well. It's going
to be a disaster and you might blow up
the only opportunity you have for that
specific thing.
So to summarize what I told you before,
many of the situations that Hashem is
hinting to you that it's not your part,
it won't work. But a lot of it is your
behavior, which means that you need to
kind of introspect and see where what am
I doing wrong? Maybe I'm doing something
wrong. And the rest of the time, like I
told you, Hashem is just trying to get
your attention. He wants you to be a
little bit more active. So when he takes
away your lollipop, then you start uh
cleaning the room. That's how it is.
Like a father that comes home at the
after a whole day of work, he just wants
some attention from his kids. Imagine
the father comes home, he works for 12
hours to support the family. He comes
into the house. Hey honey, I'm home.
Did you hear that echo? Home. Home.
Home. You know where Honey is.
So he tells the kids, Abba, dad is home.
So one of the kids also is like
so Hashem comes and he knocks on your
door and you
so you know what Hashem does he takes
your lollipop away. He takes your toy
away so you will start behaving the
right way. That's what I do with my
kids. They don't listen. They don't
comply with the orders. Then I take
something that they like away to get
their attention. Not because I'm a mean
dad. And once I get their attention,
suddenly they clean the room. Suddenly
they do the homework. Suddenly
everything works well. Why? Why? Why did
you Why couldn't you do that without the
exchange of me taking something?
>> But the idea here is the same thing is
what Hashem is telling you. You're not
going to give me my attention. I will
take something for you till you give me
the attention that I want you to give
me.
So going back to what we were saying so
we can conclude
in the verse in the book of Tim that I
told you what is the commentary says
that you can break the word and read it
as
means crying means praising
the commentary says if you praise Hashem
then everything's great that's when
Hashem takes the prisoners out. But if
you don't praise, you know what's going
to happen? You'll cry. You either praise
or you cry. You choose. That's when
Hashem takes you out of your misery.
Either with praising or either with
crying. You choose.
And needless to say that what one wants
to choose is the praising and the sh. So
it says in the midrash in the mahila for
the book of
chapter 14:e 13
that is exactly the time that the nation
of Israel get got out of Egypt and were
standing in front of the ocean
and the situation was as follows. The
nation of Israel is slaves in the in the
in the country of Egypt under the
rulership of Pero. Comes Mosher Rabenu.
A whole year there's negotiation between
Mosher Rabenu and Pero. Throughout this
year, every month there's one plague.
One plague lasts one month. After 12
months of miracles of unbelievable
miracles, Moshe takes out 20% of the
nation from it. 80% stays in the in
Mitim.
You know why they stayed there?
Because they asked Mosher Rabeno, u is
there Wi-Fi in the desert?
Mosher Rabenu says, "No, I'm sorry.
There's no Wi-Fi. No Wi-Fi. I'm not
coming."
So 80% stayed in the desert.
They didn't believe. They didn't
believe. How can you not believe after a
whole year? Nevertheless, 80% stays in
the desert. 20% go out of Mit with
Mosher Rabenu. A week after they go out
of Mit because they had to run away and
leave, they come to the sea to the
opening of the sea. Yamsuf
now they have a serious problem. They
ran away for a whole week. Po is
catching up with the army behind and
they're like at the beginning of the
sea. What do we do?
The Midash says that they got split into
four groups.
One group said, "That's it. All hope is
done. Let's just jump in the water and
commit suicide."
Second group said, "Oh, no, no, no.
Suicide is not an option. Let's just
surrender and go back to Egypt."
Third group said, "Are you out of your
mind?
We fight
anyways. They're going to kill us, so
might as well fight. Let's fight them
till the end." And the last group said,
"Let's just pray to Hashem. Stand here
and pray to Hashem."
All four sounds very familiar to you
guys, right?
The group, of course, they wanted to
jump in the water and commit suicide.
That's the group that gives up. I'm I'm
I'm fed up. I'm I'm I'm done.
The group that wanted to go back to
Egypt is to surrender to their tavot, to
their desires. go back to my my to my
mit every day. Wake up in the morning
depressed, sad, no inspiration, no sad,
no, no life force, nothing. And every
day, same thing.
The ones who wanted to fight a little
bit better. But who are you going to
fight? You're going to fight. You think
you can fight that?
And the fourth group that says we'll
pray to Hashem. That's very nice that
you want to pray, but not always it's
time to pray.
So Mosha Rabenu turns to the master of
the universe and tells him what should I
do? What should I do? Hashem tells Mosha
Rabenu, you call all the nation of
Israel and tell them
stand firm and see the salvation, the
miracle that I'm going to do. That is
the answer for the ones who wanted to
jump in the water and kill themselves.
The verse continues verse 13 and it says
the ones who wanted to go back to Egypt
and give up says oh no no no
you're never going to see mit ever again
the third group verse 14
the ones who wanted to fight Hashem says
Hashem will fight to you and you will
stand silent
and the ones who just said, "Let's
scream to Hashem. Let's just pray."
Hashem answers in verse 14 15.
Why are you screaming to me?
Spoke to speak to the nation of Israel
and just go.
Now they're looking at each other. Go
where? It's water.
So Hashem says, "Go in the water."
Nobody believed.
Nobody had the amuna
to go in the water besides one
individual Non Ben Amminadav who went
into the water.
He went into the water and he walks into
the water. Water comes to his waist.
Then the water comes to his chest.
Eventually the water is already here.
He's walking. He's Hashem. Don't make me
look bad.
Finally the water is already here. He's
like hashem I can't breathe
the interacted says that he said
the water came till my till where the
soul comes in and out from water will
pass it the soul can't go out or in
that's it I'm dead and the second that
the water reach to that point the sea
starts splitting and only then after one
person 3 million people believe and they
go
This is called
the test in your
how much amuna you have.
I can tell you already that most people
don't have amuna.
It says in a different place in the
same thing. Finding your livelihood,
making money is as difficult as
splitting the sea.
And he quotes a verse from Tim verse 135
uh sorry chapter 135. 36 verse 25 not
that's where he gives bread to any flesh
that's where he explains that the meote
the bread you you need to to make money
it's even in America that's how they
call the one who makes money right bread
winner right you
but why do our sages compare finding
your other half and making money to
splitting the sea
because it's difficult can you split the
sea. No, only Hashem can split the sea.
So, we're talking here about a very
severe and unique difficulty. It's not a
regular difficulty that I have
difficulty with that. No, no, no. That's
something way beyond what we are
familiar with.
The difficulty is on the person, not on
Hashem.
When I told you in the beginning the
argument, is it hard for Hashem to do?
No, the difficulty is not for Hashem.
The difficulty is on the person. And you
know why? Because that specific
difficulty is what causes you to go out
from slavery to freedom. That's this
difficulty.
And I'm telling you already with no
shalom trying to hurt anyone. Most
people that I meet are stuck in their
mit. I do meet a lot of people that
they're like a rising stock.
in spirituality of course they're on the
right path and they're growing and
they're growing and they don't complain
much and life is not always is easy and
know it doesn't say anywhere that life
should be easy when life is easy start
worrying life shouldn't be easy life
should be hard that's your workout
life is your spiritual workout for the
world to come so if life is easy
something's wrong be very worried if
life is easy. If things come too easy
for you, be worried. Why is it too easy?
I can tell you in my life, nothing comes
easy. Everything is with challenges.
Every little thing that I have in my
life is challenges. Especially when it
comes to you would think that when I
come on these tours, everything should
work out perfectly. Everything that can
go wrong goes wrong. Everything.
That's my indication that I'm doing the
right thing and I'm going to the right
place. And the more difficulties I have
to reach to a certain city or a certain
congregation, the more I know that
there's a some at least one soul in the
crowd that that's it. That night is
going to change their life.
When I have serious difficulties, I'm
talking about missing flights and many
other things. You know, I have stories.
I can write three books just of
everything. My adventures, Rabbi Nava's
adventures on his travels
will be a bestseller. It will be in the
science fiction section because nobody
will believe a human being goes through
that.
You know many times I miss flights, my
luggage went to one city, other luggage
went to a different city. Happened to me
last year. I land in Los Angeles, no
luggage. Of course, I missed the flight,
came on a different flight, my kids on a
whole mess, no luggage.
Part of the luggage went to Atlanta. I
don't know what's the connection. and
the other luggage. No clothes for
Shabbat, no no equipment to suit,
nothing. Now do a lecture.
A normal individual will be like, I
quit. Thank you.
When life comes with a lot of
difficulties, welcome it because it
means you're doing the right thing.
Nobody promises you an easy right.
The thing is that the difficulty that
our sages are talking about in splitting
of the sea is the difficulty of you
going out of slavery to freedom.
And no offense, don't take my word as
insulting words ever. Always take my
words as constructive criticism and good
guidance work.
I never heard one nice word from my
rabbi towards me. Never you're doing
great. Never kakavo nothing. It's always
like that's it.
You are only this. You couldn't do more.
Never have I got a good a good word. But
he knows what he's doing because it
makes me work harder. I don't need
somebody to tell me you're doing great.
You don't need anybody to tell you
you're doing great. Your difficulties is
Hashem telling you you're doing great.
That's it. Don't don't look for that uh
approval from anyone that you're doing
amazing. You're going through
difficulties in your life. That's Hashem
signing a postcard saying you doing
amazing.
What do you mean amazing? I'm about to
collapse any second. You're doing great.
Small breaths.
It's almost over. 20 years. Your
suffering is over.
So again, the difficulties that we need
to focus on is the fact that I'm going I
need to go out of slavery into freedom.
My slavery can be severe addictions and
it can be small things that I don't even
relate to them as difficulties as mit
and many others. You need to do that
with yourself that I can't help you. You
need to see with yourself what are the
little things in life that hold you
back. And I'm not stumb saying this all
day long because that's what I see
people all day long and that takes you
away from your focus. Even if you're
saying, "No, no, no. I'm just
unwinding." In the meantime, your brain
is being washed with all the junk that
you're watching. And then you dream on
the junk that you're watching. And then
the next day, you want what you
watching. And then you don't understand
where all these desires are coming from
because all day long you're watching
stuff that is junk.
Now I know a lot of people tell me but I
learned Torah.
Don't learn Torah on a phone. Torah you
learn from a book. We are called the
nation of the book.
Can you learn to Shabbat from a phone?
No. So why learn all week with a phone?
There's no in the phone. In the book
when you open it the letters have kusha
have holiness. Why you want to learn
from a from a phone? So even when you
learn Torah, don't learn it from a
phone.
>> Listen, once in a blue moon comes a very
special person that uses the phone for
good things.
>> No, no, I don't use the phone. I use the
phone to No. When I'm talking about when
you're learning Torah, some once in a
blue moon, there's a person that really
uses the phone only to learn Torah.
You're not in my example. Okay. I'm
looking I'm talking to the rest of the
99.9% of the people in the world. There
are some smart people that they learn to
run on the phone because they don't have
any other option. Good. But that's a
unique situation.
If we want to embarrass people now, pull
up your phones and let's see which apps
you have on your phone. That's it. And
I'll show you your Instagram and your
Tik Tok and your Tik Tok and Tik Tok and
all the rest of the junk. And I won't
see apps like what you said. That's it.
on your phone. Maybe I will see it.
Listen, I'm talking here now to
thousands of people. I can't, you know,
cut the cake exactly the size of the
slice you want. You're going to eat the
slice that I give you. However, I cut it
for you.
But pay attention.
If you if you listen to the words and
they just leave, then you just sat here
for nothing. Listen to the words so you
can take it out of the room and apply
it.
And the problem like I told you this
concept of or going out of your
limitation
going out of your limitation is not
something you take for granted. It's not
something like, oh, what's the big deal?
No, no, no, no, no. You're going to have
to work very hard for that. You're going
to have to earn it. You're going to have
to sweat for that. Nobody's going to
cater it to you. Nobody's going to give
it to you.
It's a miracle. When you go out of your
mit, it's an actual miracle. It's beyond
nature.
22 years ago, I quit all my habits.
Drugs, alcohol, smoking, it each thing
that I quit was it's a miracle. I didn't
see it as anything but a miracle. I
thanked Hashem for the miracle that I
was able to get rid of this and get rid
of that and get rid of all these little
habits. And by the way, habits, they
grow like mushrooms. You get rid of
these habits, these habits come.
You want to be in a place that you're
not in mitim.
The indication to that is how you wake
up in the morning. If you wake up in the
morning in a very good mood, you're not
so much in mit. You're you're in
probably halfway out.
If you wake up not in a good mood and
you wake up tired and upset because of
things that happened yesterday and right
away you jump out of bed to deal with
situations in life, sorry to tell you.
Welcome to Mit. I'll issue you a
passport, an Egyptian passport.
But you have to understand that this
doesn't come out, this doesn't come so
easy. What I said before, it's all a
test of Hashem that he's testing your
amuna. That's it. All that I just told
you now in the last hour and a half, a
test of amuna. Hem is testing your
amuna.
How much you believe. Are you willing to
jump in the water or not? Are you
willing to leave mit your place of
comfort? The places is familiar to you
where your little habits where you
comfortable. How much are you willing to
suffer? How much are you willing to let
go? Now when you do it yourself, Hashem
doesn't need to do it for you.
You don't do it yourself, Hashem will do
it for you.
And now of course comes the big
question. How do I have amuna?
Because most people say amuna means to
believe
and 7 8 billion people on this world
believe in the existence of God.
Each one calls him in a different name
and some believe in other things that
they think it's a god but it's not
really a god. But the fact is that most
people in this world will tell you, I
believe in a higher power, in a creator,
in a god, including the Jews.
But very few people actually believe in
his ability to do things.
Yesterday when I was in this Shabbaton
for single people there was a group of a
few people that I spoke in in between
the hours and they were all
unfortunately 40s 50s and they all had
the same common denominator and I told
it to them very simple all of you have
in the back of your mind subconsciously
you lost hope you don't believe it can
happen anymore you're saying to yourself
I'm too old it will never it didn't
happen till now. So you already
subconsciously that's what you're
thinking. So by the way that's also the
energy you're inviting. Now you might
not think that but subconsciously that's
what's in your mind because you already
feel it's past my time. I'm older I
can't find every day I go it doesn't
work
and that can be also withan and
everything else when you convince
yourself you already gave up. You are
category number one. You gave up a long
time. You on the external part you
didn't give up. You're trying to do
things but it's like you know trying to
grasp some error. So you read another 40
tim or you go to another ke and you pray
or something but that's trying to grab
something.
The reality is that you lost already you
hope a long long time ago. You gave up a
long time ago
and some things you're not allowed to
give up. Some things you have to
you have to hold on to them. Now, how do
you reach to a level of amuna that you
really believe in the ability of Hashem?
Because like I told you, most people
believe in his existence but don't
believe in his ability.
Not visibility, his ability,
the ability of Hashem to do whatever he
wants.
So the Torah comes and tells you many
stories. Abrain and Sah had a child when
they were 90 and 100. But is coming to
tell you, you think Hashem has a problem
making a woman pregnant? He'll make a
woman pregnant when she's 90.
Hashem can do whatever he wants,
whenever he wants, to whoever he wants,
as much as he wants. The question is if
you believe that he can do it. And the
reality is that I believe and I see that
most people don't believe that. And when
you don't believe that, then you are
already blocking the blessing from
Hashem. The blessing would not come.
That's it. Very simple.
So the million-dollar question is how do
you get amuna? How do you build this
amuna?
There's only one way of doing it. I mean
there's many ways of course many little
things
but ultimately there's one way of doing
it and that
is called anava.
Not me.
My name is Alon happened to be my last
name is Anava. But you want amuna, you
need to have anava. But true anava and
anava means humility
to be humble. You can be the most
successful person in the world. Doesn't
mean that you have to be arrogant about
it.
And very few people unfortunately I can
tell you that have true anava
true humility. And anava doesn't mean
that you degrade yourself. That's not
anava. Anavano means that you know
exactly who you are, what you are worth,
good or bad, and you give all the credit
to the master of the universe and you
strive to become better. And there are
many aspects of anava. But anava means
that you you lower yourself in front of
others.
Doesn't matter who you are. Now when you
learn how to apply that a you remember I
told you with the couples that the
hearts in the back and the confetti
and all the if you have ana you'll have
that by the way but it has to work with
both with both the couple not one. If
two of the couple have true anava and
they look at each other as you are more
important then they'll have the hearts
in the background for 40 years also
very few people know how to do it and
that's in a marriage now take the anava
to when you treat your kids most people
think that I'm the mature I'm the adult
I have to look down at the kid a smart
parent looks up at the kids and say they
came to educate me. I'm here just to buy
them food and clothes and take them to
shul and register in them yes in yeshiva
but how they behave and what they do
it's to educate me
that's a smart individual that's a smart
father or smart mother that they learn
from the kids they don't get angry at
the kids they take a lot of m and a lot
of information from the kids that's
anava
that you look at somebody that on the
surface
is less than you, less smarter, less
successful, less money, less everything.
And you in your eyes you say, "No, that
person has something more than me." And
now, not that I'm some angel or
something, but my approach when I meet
every person is that I look at every
person and I say that person has
something that I don't have. And by the
way, no, not that I'm saying anything in
an arrogant way. I know what I'm worth.
I know who I am. I know what my
abilities are. I know what I know what I
can do.
So, it's very easy for me to come and be
arrogant in many different things. To
look at another person say, "Oh, I know
more to than you.
I have more money than you." So, what if
you have that? How I look at people is
that every individual has something
better than me. That's it. I might be
good in these things but you have a
quality that I don't have and you have a
quality that I know I will never have
and you have a talent that I will never
reach to that level and therefore I
respect that individual and I'm
receptive to what can you teach me
and I learned that from King David from
David who says
I have learned from every person every
teacher I've learned something
that's the beginning You're starting to
scrape Anava that you don't look at
other people as you better than them.
You're much more successful. Look at
Mosher Rabenu has all the credentials to
mock and to look down at anyone. And his
approach was, of course, I'm successful.
I know a Mosher Rabenu, but if the job
would be given to you, it would be done
better.
And don't you think Mosher Rabenu looked
in the mirror, he knew who he was?
Butisha Mik he was the most humble
person in the world. That's why he's
also called Rabeno.
All our great sages get a title. Jacob
Aino
Aon
Hanavi David Hame.
All the great sages and great leaders
got a title. Only one got the title
Rabenu
Moshe.
I'm not talking now that I walk in the
street and people like Rabenu. No, no,
that's not Rabenu.
Only Mosha Rabenu got the title Rabenu
which means our teacher. Technically to
be exact, Mosha Rabenu should have been
called Moshe.
It says in the Torah,
there will never be a prophet like Mosha
Rabenu. In prophecy, Moshe Rabenu will
be greater than Mashiach
in prophecy.
In wisdom, Mashiach is greater than
Moshe. But in prophecy,
Israel, which means that Moshabenu in
levels of prophecy higher than Mashiach.
So why don't we call him Moshe
or you know Mosha Rabenu was our king.
Why don't we call him Mosha Melik or any
other title? We call him Mosher Rabenu.
And not because he brought us the Torah
because he's teaching us the quality
that I need to have to fly in an
altitude that you're not realizing that
you can fly. And that quality is called
ana. That's what Mosher Rabenu is
teaching us. And when you have an Nava,
that's when you start ascending to the
levels that you are not familiar with.
I told you that many times and I will
elaborate that in length in our roles
lecture and in the entire month of
whatever we're going to learn. I'm going
to talk about it a lot. But I said that
many times that when I became observant
my friend brought me a very special
gift. He brought me in a nice leather
case the letter of
the
eeran.
Best advice you have, you want to have a
good successful life, go and get the and
read it every day. For the first two
years of my ja, I would read it and
memorize it every day. I would say it
off by heart and then started applying.
And one of the ma so many gems in there.
One of them sells a very simple thing.
Humble yourself and the place means
hashem will start raising you higher.
The more you humble yourself, the more
hashem makes you great. That's how it
works. And that's one of the first
things that that ever I learned in the
world of the Torah.
Every word of advice there is worth
eternity.
>> Everybody.
>> Everybody. Hashem is the God for all the
world.
>> I'm talking to humble yourself.
>> Yeah. Yeah.
>> Ah to humble you in front of the
nations.
>> Yes.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You want humble
yourself in front of everyone. I'm not
talking about wicked people,
you know, the the the enemies of Israel.
I'm not talking about these individuals
and definitely not and so forth. I'm
talking about normal people. Yeah, you
humble yourself in front of anyone and
especially in front of the nations
because then you also grab there the
kushem
here. I'm, you know, I'm enjoying the
last month that I'm here because I don't
have it in Israel. Here I can do kushem
on the nations
and trust me that's something that you
want to grab as much as you can and you
want to do it a lot because many Jews do
they desecrate the name of hashem
because they behave in a certain way and
of course what is the reaction the Jew
look at the Jew
you know I'm going to tell you a story
that happened to me geographically very
close to where I am right now about I
don't know 15 years ago and I was very
angry when I saw that in a very very uh
Orthodox community
close by. I was once walking in one of
the streets and one of the store owners
was mopping the floor and when the water
was all the way out to the door, he was
he went like this and he spritzed it all
over some guy
and the guy was like, "What are you
doing?"
And I'm standing there. The one who
splashed the water
Jew. The one who got the water splashed
on a gentile.
When the person told him, "What are you
doing?" You instead of saying, "I'm
sorry." Or, "Oo, I didn't notice. I'm so
sorry." Even if you're not sorry,
pretend you're sorry. He didn't even say
anything. He He went like this. And then
when I intervene,
you know what he answered me? It's a
I ran out to this guy, the the
gentile, and I begged for his apology. I
told him, "Please, please forgive this
man. And please don't think that I look
like him, that I'm like him. Don't tag
now all the Jews as this poor individual
that doesn't have the basic manners. You
know what he did? The
even if you hate the person say
you need now this guy going now and
you want to humble yourself in front of
everyone.
It's not just oh I'm going to humble
myself in front of the giant rabbi that
I'm standing in front of. Now that's
easy to humble yourself in front of a
great individual.
Stand now in front of a big president, a
king, a very famous individual, a
scholar. Of course, you'll humble
yourself. Let's see you humbling
yourself in front somebody who's 10
times less than you.
Let's now see how you humble yourself
or in any situation. Listen, in all
situations, you need to have an I can
tell you after 22 years of trying to
become close to Hashem, the only key
that opens the door of coming closer to
Hashem is when you humble yourself.
That's it. And not for nothing, Moshe
Rabenu is our leader and our teacher. He
knew how. He figured it out. He figured
it out how to do it. That he reached to
a point that he spoke to Hashem face to
face. Now you won't reach to that level
but you want to reach to some level that
you are humble in front of God in a way
that Hashem raises you to a level that
you don't even know that you can reach
yourself.
So we want to conclude and I want you to
leave the door tonight or whoever's on
the screen. You don't have to leave your
door, but uh I mean you can leave the
room and then come back, but with their
phone.
Smart people take good advice and apply
it and into actions.
Our sages say
the action is what counts. To nod and
nod and nod. I said that not once and
not twice. 20 years ago, I had a dog, a
little Chihuahua. I had him on the
dashboard of my car and every time that
I stopped,
he nodded.
Don't nod. You'll get a neckache or
you're going to look like a Chihuahua.
Don't nod. Just do.
That's what I was taught when I was 15
years old. My father told me don't don't
talk don't do
what to do just do. So when you go out
of this door tonight you have a few
options. Option number one is to go in
the same way you came in. And I'm
already telling you that you have a
friend waiting outside. His name is
Amalecch. He's going to grab you by your
neck, take you very quickly to your
phone, and now you forgot everything
that we talked about. And right away, of
course, he's going to give you a few
text messages with some issues. This
guy, you owe him money. This didn't
work. That didn't work. Before you know
it, you're already in the in the in the
how do you call the the mar the no the
willpull of your problems and your what
did Rabbi Nava say?
Because a Malik grabs you on the outside
and he cools you down. That's his
quality.
He grabs you when you walking. Means
when you go out, when on your journey
here you're safe. Out there is the
journey. Once you go to the journey, he
starts cooling you down.
Takes the air out like a like a air
mattress. By the time you get home,
you're like this. I need to watch some
Instagram dead flex and in five hours I
go to sleep
instead of going to sleep and waking up
at 5 in the morning to wake up and say
pray shakar. So be careful for malik
because if you're not going to do any
actions he's waiting outside and he's
ruthless. Option number two, which is
the option you need to choose, is to
walk out of this door with your switch
in your mind already
what you are going to apply in your life
tomorrow
and better tonight. And don't waste your
time. We're going to finish in a few
minutes. We're going to go to the end of
the room and pray. I'm expecting to see
all of you praying.
You too, we'll put a mita
If you don't do that, you rush outside
because in 11:00 starts the fight on UFC
that you don't want to miss.
Ah, look how I got you all to laugh.
I've been to Vegas last week. I saw the
UFC.
So, you have there's excuses for
everything. You can stay here in prayer,
eat with me, or run outside because you
have some nonsense to do at 11:00.
You want to gain something out of your
time here, then you have to walk out
with something. And that something is
understanding that you are stuck in
mitime. There's nothing wrong with that.
I mean, there is, but don't don't take
it as an attack. Take it as oh my gosh,
I am how do I get out of this situation?
And you start developing your system.
How you getting out of this situation?
And I told you the lecture is recorded.
Go and watch it on YouTube. Rewind it
700 times. Write your notes cuz there's
only two ladies smart that writing notes
here. And I'm not too sure if she's
going to share her notes or if you
understand her handwriting. Somebody
once gave me notes from a lecture. The
whole the whole lecture. He told me I
wrote notes. I looked at the paper. I'm
like
that's English.
So
I normally don't advise to take notes.
listen, then watch the rerun and then
take notes. But I covered everything
that you need to know. Everything that
you need to know to go out of this room
and to apply a huge change in your life
because nobody will do it for you and
nothing will do it for you. And if you
don't do it, Hashem will bend your arm
and make you do it
in not a comfortable way. And then
you're going to start going through all
the challenges and the difficulties
and shalom can find the right person or
living in the same house with one person
that drives you nuts. He's not driving
you nuts. You are the problem.
And I'm talking maybe I looked at you.
It's both ways.
When I have an argument with my wife, I
don't blame her for anything. I look at
the mirror and I say I am the problem.
Where did I fail? That she had to react.
>> Listen, I also tell my wife, you honey,
you're right. Women are always right.
And then when you meet the men in the
bar,
she's not that right. But it's very it's
very classy. Women are always right.
Yeah. Honey,
you're always right when I'm not in the
room. So
In every argument there are two people
who are right. That's how it works. It
doesn't work that in an argument one is
right and the other one is wrong and
both are right. That's why there's an
argument. If one would be right and the
other won't, there wouldn't be an
argument.
But with all jokes aside, this is all
the same thing. This is all boils down
to the same thing. And the title of it
is anava. That's it. And that's what I
found. If you ask Rabbi, he tells you,
okay, he says, "All my life I've grew
amongst the sages, but the real sages,
not the"
And he says, "And I haven't found
anything better to the body but
silence." Means silence that don't talk.
He's right. I I agree with that. In
every situation that I have, I choose to
be quiet.
When you open your mouth, first you show
you show the world how stupid you are.
And then your mouth will get you in
trouble.
If you know how to guard your mouth,
your lips and your tongue, you guard
yourself from all your problems.
Try one month not to talk. I guarantee
to you life will start blooming.
When I became observant for like three
years, I would do physical fasts every
Monday and Thursday and all the time. I
would go sometimes a whole month without
talking.
The best thing you can do to yourself
and that's the best thing you can do
especially in a marriage.
You're right. Good night.
So I'm telling you not like says that I
I found good for I'm telling you what I
found the best for you to to to grow is
just
humble yourself
in every situation
adults
co-workers friends neighbors go everyone
I humble myself in every situation and
by the way it doesn't make the means
that you that you uh getting the short
end of the
And there are situations, by the way,
I'm saying that as a disclaimer in
parenthesis. There are situations that
you don't you need to be very firm. Not
in every situations you have to bow
down. In some of the situations, you
have to be the tough one with humility.
I don't lose my status because I I
humiliate myself. Not humiliate. I'm I
humble myself. You'll never lose from
being humble.
That is the key for all the success
you're looking for and for the amuna
that I'm telling you because we're now
focusing how to find your other half,
how to have a good marriage and how to
bring parnas into your life. Everybody's
struggling with parasa by the way.
Everybody's pretending to have parnasa
but everybody's struggling at the end of
the day. I was not long ago in some
community if you would look at the cars
there.
They brought me straight to my
all the cars are beautiful. And I sat
there in a room. I told my son, "Look at
all the the people in this room. The
jewelry in this room is about $50
million.
Every woman was like diamonds from top
to bottom. And the men watches that you
can buy seven cars with them.
Not saying it in a not nice way,
but everything was fake." Five minutes
later, every everybody comes to me and
whispers to me, "My house is in
foreclosure. My business is I don't
bankruptcy. I don't have money. It's all
loans, credit cards. And so why are you
driving this car? And you're dressed
like a millionaire
because everybody in the neighborhood is
dressed like that. And the joke is that
everybody's the same thing.
So
humility anava always will make you
successful in everything that you need
to do. That is the key. And when you are
really really humble, that's when you
gain the real amuna. How does it work?
That that doesn't matter right now.
Trust me. And I'm not inventing
anything.
It's my experience plus many many
teachings of books. When you humble
yourself, it will strengthen your amuna.
There are many little things that you
can do to strengthen your amuna. One of
them is saying birkaton every day. Not
on Friday. You're doing a favor to the
world. Every day you have to say
birkaton because you eat every day. Some
people how they look, they eat all day.
Every day you have to say birkaton
because you eat every day. And the
commandment is you ate, you you
satisfied, you full then say the
blessing.
So who are you lying to? People drive
half an hour to buy the the mason pizza
shalom should not sit for 10 minutes and
say biron
every day you have to say birkaton and
that will bring you a lot of by the way
that's what au did aino used to bring
people into his tent give them food to
bring them closer to hem and then he
would tell them say
and if the person would refuse and he
would give him a $20,000 bill
and if he didn't want to pay he would
call his friend the leazer
that's it
and then the person would say and why
would a rau did that because that what
brings you so there are many little
things that you can do if you're already
seeking for amuna
says smelling a scent of spices like we
do shabbat but do it all the time deep
breaths of real spices not some Gucci uh
H perfume chemicals you need real spices
but the real amuna when you want to have
such amuna belief that you are willing
to go through the water and you know the
water will open
it's when you humble yourself knowing
that and ovon
and you don't want to don't only want to
humble yourself only in front of Hashem
in front of other people
that's when you hit the jackpot when you
know how to be humble in front of
another person and especially the ones
who mock you or slander you or talk
against you or make fun of you or they
kind of ride on you or whatever they
doesn't matter
if we go back to the letter of the
always talk in low tone don't raise your
voice you raise your voice you you
already start losing already
read the read tonight the letter of
Nakmanades you'll be very happy and if
you apply it every day you'll be a very
successful individual
so I want to conclude I wanted it to be
a short lecture but end up being a long
one
I guess there's a lot more what to say
now is all up to you how you walk
through that door I'm going to walk
through that door
not the same way how I walked into the
door even though I you know that when I
teach I listen to myself.
Have you noticed that? I do. So I also
listen to what I say
because sometimes I learn something I
teach it. By the way, when I talk that's
Hashem talking. It's not I talk. I come
here and I put on autopilot and I say
quietly
and let Hashem talk. So you can learn
from that that Hashem has a good sense
of humor.
But I I I don't talk. I let Hashem talk.
So I go out of the door like how I'm
asking you to go out of the door. I'm
already like, "Okay, who do I need to
apologize today? Who do I owe money?
What did I didn't do today? What am I
doing tomorrow that will make today look
like a joke?
And when you do that every day,
you can only be on a path of success.
And when you have true amuna, you
understand that you don't deserve
everything that you want exactly in the
time you want it. Sometimes you have to
be patient.
In many of the cases, you have to be
patient.
Hashem taught me in the most horrible
ways patience because once I was the
complete opposite of patience. I was
impulsive. I want something, it's now.
And if I don't get it, the whole world
will suffer.
But Hashem took me on a ride and taught
me patience.
Two years I was in jail. Four cement
walls. Every minute is like 500 hours.
You learn patience. You learn a lot of
patience. When the day 24 hours is like
more like 5,000 hours and you talk to
walls, you start
working on the muscle of patience.
My late grandmother used to say, "All
good things come to those who wait."
When I was a kid, I thought it was some
joke. Later on, I figured out you're
right. You wait for something to come to
the right time, it will come the right
way. And what the question is what do
you do when you wait? You are now all
waiting to meet your wife, right? Or
your husband and not all of you. I know
a lot of you are married here and you
just want your husband to be normal. But
uh
or you want your wife to stop bothering
you but for the ones that's the same
thing by the way.
But when you wait for something, you
know, I lived in this dirty city for 15
years. I don't know how you live here. I
I don't know how I survived New York for
15 years. Dirty city. That's all I have
to say.
Whatever. So, one h thing that I picked
up from New York and that's a good
example from me of how you humble
yourself in every situation. Even in a
situation, humble yourself in front of a
city.
And like I said before, David says, I've
learned from all my teachers. So I've
learned also from teach from from New
York. And I learned patience. You know
why? Because I used to travel the
subways here. And I used to hate the
people who went to the platform at the
end and they go like this.
What are you looking for besides rats?
What do you think is going to happen if
you put your head like this?
You really think the train will come
faster?
Or if you see the light very far away,
that gives you some type of confidence
that the train is coming. You're not
just standing on the platform like a
fool with another 400 people. Why are
you looking into the tunnel,
sit on the bench,
read your newspaper or don't like this?
Well, 20 years ago, it wasn't like this.
So there was a newspaper
and it says on the board that the train
is coming at 4:32. Sit and relax and be
efficient and do good normal things and
the train will come when it's scheduled
to come.
You think you can bring the train faster
and if hypothetically if you would bring
it faster, don't you think that will
take the train much harder to stop? Let
the train come naturally at the time it
needs to come.
Now the question is what do you do with
your free time?
You have to utilize it the right way. If
Hashem gave you free time because if
you're single right now, you don't have
to take care of a spouse or deal with
the fighting all day long or take care
of kids or whatever it is. So use it.
Use that time. And it's not only by the
way when you don't have a wife or a
husband. Every time Hashem is not giving
you something, he's telling you in other
words, I want you to use that time for
something important. Go and learn. Go
educate yourself. Go help other people.
Work on yourself. Don't go like this.
You're wasting your time. Every day is
so precious. What are you going to do
with all these days that are lost
eventually?
Now anyways, the time is going the speed
of light.
spoke about it already in many of the
lectures last few months. You notice we
just did Abdalah yesterday. Before
you're going to blink, it's Thursday
again. Everybody feels that it's towards
the end. We're at the end of the road.
That's it. Now the time.
My understanding is very clear. Look at
a sand clock. In the beginning, when the
sand is full and the sand is going down,
you don't see much of a notice cuz it's
very wide. But when the sand is at the
end at the end of the sand clock, that's
when you see it going down because it's
very narrow. So we're now at the end at
the end at the end. So we see the time
going fast. You're not the only one who
feels that the week goes like that.
And the same ch that you need to do in
kachamita. You need to do it on Friday.
And on Friday when you look back, you're
like, where did the week go?
How can it be that I I still smell the
chunt
the the the the the the
pot the crockpot stinks yet I have to
now clean it cuz it's against shabis.
So since I'm telling you not to waste
time, I'm going to
shut up.
I want to wish you a lot of success when
you leave this door or when you turn the
thing down
because you need a lot of sayata.
You need a lot of help from above.
Nothing moves in this world without
Hashem helping. And if you don't have
say
which means help from above, help from
Hashem, nothing will happen. You know I
mentioned before the let me tell you a
quick story and then we end
maybe.
So once there is a custom uh mainly is
far do it in havdalah
that there's a certain pute that one
reads and some congregations they have
the custom to actually sing it and the
pute says that we asking hashem to on
shabbat to open all sorts of gates the
gates of wisdom the gates of health
gates of Torah gates of parasa
everything
so theto used to had a custom to sing
that and one Abdalah he sat with his
students and he asked all his students
what do you think is the most important
gate that needs to be opened. So the
first student says your livelihood no
money you can't do nothing.
So he says you're right it's a very
important gate but not the most
important. So the next student says
health without health you can't do
nothing. You're sick in bed you can't
even go and work you can't pray. You
can't do nothing. He said, "Yeah, you're
right. Very important gate, but not the
right one." And every student said a
different gate.
Fear of God, whatever. Health, all all
true.
At the end, after the Balto said to all
of them, you're you're not on the right
answer. Then his daughter said, I have a
I have an opinion. I have something to
say. And she said the gates of say the
gates of help of from shamine. And he
says you're right. That's the most
important gate because if you don't have
help from hem
nothing will happen. You can do whatever
you want. You need the help of the
master. And in order to have his
assistance then you need to be parallel
with what he wants you to do with no
questions.
And that's where you apply the nava in
front of Hashem that you don't ask
questions. You do you accept what Hashem
gives you with love. You accept what
Hashem brought to you with a lot of
appreciation.
As the midrash says, you either praise
or you cry. You decide. You're either
going to cry at all day long or books of
full of tears or wherever you want to
cry. Go ahead. cry.
You know that's very powerful. When a
broken heart cries
then you can break the heavens. You
choose to cry. Cry. I choose to praise.
I choose to praise Hashem. And you know
when you praise Hashem for the bad. Not
when you have everything good. When you
have everything good, that's not even a
question that you have to praise and
thank and appreciate. But you want to
praise Hashem when things are bad.
Instead of now praying to Hashem every
day, I want to meet my other half. You
have to reverse it by saying, "Thank
you, Hashem, that I am still single and
I can focus on my spiritual growth and
thank you for giving me another perfect
day in my life." Change what you're
asking for. Instead of complaining,
praise Hashem. Thank Hashem. Appreciate
for everything that he does to you. Can
you imagine how you break his heart when
you complain?
Know that not too long ago, I bought a
present to my son. He He didn't like it.
He like kind of like threw it. No. No. I
didn't I don't want this one.
I It broke my heart. I was like, "What?
I went out of my way to get you this
present."
And you're just I didn't want I didn't
that's not the one I wanted. You spoiled
brat.
Give me this back now. You're gonna get
nothing.
But I felt the pain how Hashem feels
when he gives you something and you
throw it.
Don't ever do stuff like that. All by
the way, it's all under the umbrella of
Anava.
We seem to be very bitter when we don't
get what we want. When I don't get what
I want and things don't work my way,
not coming to MIA today.
If you're laughing, you agree with me
or you're just laughing from my
nonsense. But the fact this is that
that's how the world works. You get
disappointed, you're like a little kid.
Take your yam off.
So don't be a little kid. Appreciate
everything that Hashem does for you. And
you know what? and you start applying a
lot of appreciation even for the stuff
that you're not happy about and the
bitter things in your life. Now, you
don't don't be fake. Please don't say
like, "Dang, I'm so I'm so happy." No,
no, no. It has to be genuine. I know you
like my show.
It has to be genuine. Thank Hashem BT. I
I know I hate this situation, but I know
it's good for me. Thank you, Hashem. And
not fake. Like that song, thank you
Hashem. Everybody say thank you Hashem,
but they're not thanking nothing. They
know how to play the song, but not to
thank Hashem Bit.
Okay, I really think I said one word too
much.
So again, I want to wish you when you
walk out from this door that you're
going to somehow sneak up behind a Malik
that he's waiting. I saw his car
outside. You saw that black Mercedes?
That's a Malik.
Avoid him somehow. go back from from the
back door.
But take with you good decisions that
you have power to fight with your next
desire and your next
interaction with your yet which will
come and tell you how miserable you are
and how sad you are and how you mis your
misfortune and look at her, she has a
better marriage and look at him, he has
a nicer wife and look at this and look
at that. It's all the nonsense in your
mind.
It's all the junk in your mind that is
trying to tell you how everybody else
life is much better and you miserable
and you this and you that
you do that don't don't expect anything
good
change your mind your your your outlook
completely completely you walk out of
this door you start thanking for Hashem
for everything you don't pray for every
little problem that you have you praise
Hashem in the Shabbaton I told people I
mean was the Shabbaton was for singles
and I kept telling people, "Stop whining
to Hashem. Hashem doesn't like whining."
And people didn't seem to relate with
that. What do you mean? Everybody says,
"You have to pray. Don't give up."
Yesterday was 550 prayers. Moshe didn't
give up. You're telling us to give up. I
said I didn't tell you to give up. I
told you to stop whining. There's a big
difference between praying and whining.
And you whine.
I have a kid like that. Whines all the
time. Shut up.
>> That's sometimes what the kid needs to
hear.
>> The what?
>> Yeah. I don't know what that means, but
it sounds fancy.
Later on explain to I didn't understand
the but doesn't matter. I I'm I'm going
back to screaming at the kid. There's
nothing wrong with putting the kid in
the spot. Shut up. Sometimes I I wish I
could do it to other mothers. I see some
mothers with some kids. I'm like, "Do
you want to hire me for 2 minutes? I'll
make your kid like this."
I walk home, my kids are like
sometimes the kid needs to hear, "Shut
up. Stop whining. I heard the first
time."
Don't you think that sometimes you're
whining to Hashem and he feels like
telling you, "Shut up."
So there's nothing wrong with praying,
but not complaining
and whining.
You want to pray to Hashem. And when
somebody argued with me what I said, I
said, "What don't you understand? I'm
telling you to pray. Do you pray?" No.
Do you pray? No. Do you pray? No. What
do you pray? You just say, "I need
money." That's not a prayer.
Pray from the book. Do you pray?
I don't think all of you pray. And if
you do, then it's with the phone or with
something else.
Cherish the hour a day that you have
with Hashem. It's private time with you
and Hashem.
People run away from that.
That's the prayer you want to do because
that's the that's the praises that
you're praising Hashem. Don't you think
Hashem knows you're single?
He has access to social security. He
knows exactly your marital status.
And he by know he has access to your
bank account. He knows he knows that's
money you don't have.
You ever heard the prayers of the great
moshenu prayed for his sister?
That's it.
I wish for you and I pray for you and I
bless you. That when you leave the door
tonight that you leave like a storm that
you take everything that I said here
tonight and you saying I'm applying now
everything I guarantee to you if you
want I will sign to you tonight that if
you do everything that I told you you
will invite me to your wedding this
year.
Ah,
>> I didn't say the dafa the Jewish year.
Maybe it's the Gorgian year. Doesn't
matter. It's the fact. It's the fact is
that if you actually follow what you
need to do in the right way, you will
see great success in your life. And you
know what? Even if you didn't get
married this year, then Hashem doesn't
want you married this year. He wants you
to take the time to grow spiritually and
to go and learn Torah or to help other
people or to finish your your degree or
whatever you need to do to focus on what
you need to focus on without the whining
and the complaining.
So I want to wish you great success that
you are will be able to apply everything
that I said to reach a true high level
of anava that you can see the greatness
of hashem in everything and with that
you'll gain true true happiness and true
peace in your heart you'll have the
tools how to deal with situations what I
told you now right now is not how to
solve problems is how to build yourself
a strong foundation
that later on in future classes you can
maybe start realizing what do I need to
do now you need to work on yourself if
you have schlite issues the the wife is
not the problem if you have pranasa
issue is not your luck or the market
when I have issues I look only at myself
that's it whatever is wrong in my life I
look only at myself I never blame any
other person for my misery for my
misfortune for my suffering I only look
at myself what did I do and where can I
get much better?
That's it. And therefore, every day you
grow and you grow another level and
another level and by that you reach to
true blessings in your life. And if
something needs to be lacking from your
life, that's the shem's decision that he
puts you on some type of spiritual diet.
Accept it. Don't be upset. Don't whine.
Don't complain. Thank Hashem. Make
yourself a habit that you thank Hashem
for the good for the bad things that
happened in your life and you'll see
that slowly slowly he will start giving
you more and more and more and more.
So to conclude and I want to wish you
again when you leave this room that
Hashem should bless you with true peace
in your heart and true happiness and I
wish you all now please I have a
actually a personal request I have a
very early flight tomorrow morning when
I'm done with I got to run. Don't wait
for me in the street to start asking me
a million questions.
And definitely not that two second
question that I I one it's too too
We're going to finish very soon. Then
we're going to pray a bit and then I
humbly ask you to let me go. I have to
wake up tomorrow. I probably not going
to go to sleep tonight, but I have to
catch a very early flight. And please
don't make me miss my flight. Last time
people ask me questions in the street
and I miss my flights. That's how it
works. And then I get an angry angry
wife. It's 4:00 in the morning. Where
are you?
So I do want to wish you great success
in everything that you do. Hashem should
bless you with everything that your
heart desires
in that Hashem should bless you in the
best way possible. And I wish for you
all to find your true zeug.
I wish you all to find your true zeug.
Your true other half. Don't get up.
We're not done. Wait, hold on. Wait.
We're not done.
[Applause]
>> I guess you didn't hear the we're not
done part.
>> Okay. I guess I guess you
>> sit down. We're not done. First of all,
just quickly, there's a lady Judy
W A Gh.
I know you want to give a lot of
donations to my organization, but you
forgot the credit card here.
>> No, Judy.
Okay, we'll keep the credit card aside.
Listen, before we finish, first of all,
for the men, we're going to pray now.
Don't start the I have a few
announcements.
In two weeks, there's going to be a very
special event for Roshul in Florida. You
might not be there in Miami, but it's
going to be broadcast live and you can
see it. and you want to listen, you want
to follow. It's going to follow after it
with a series of a lot of uh small
lectures similar to what we did in the
Luluva boot camp a few years ago and
it's going to be very powerful and I
highly recommend for you to uh follow.
Another thing is
on your way out, I have something that I
brought here from Israel that you should
all if you haven't gotten it already and
which
has to do with everything we talked
about.
I'm going to tell you in two minutes a
story
and I told you that story already a long
time ago that many many years ago I
started doing my own wine for myself and
the reason why I did the wine is for
kash reasons and I also had a bold idea
that when Mashiach is going to come if
they're not going to have good wine or
wine at all then I have 10 barrels
buried somewhere in Israel with wine
waiting for Mashiach to
[Music]
A year and a half ago after the war
started with n with October 7,
5 days after that, it was time for me to
prune my uh my vineyard which is about
50 mters from the border of Lebanon
started shooting at us, shooting like
real shooting, RPGs, everything.
Huge miracle came. a tan Israeli tank
came started bombing back. It was a
scene and a half
but the result was that I was expecting
about two or three tons of grapes and we
got close to 20 tons of grapes. So at
the time I went to my rabbi and I told
him I have a lot of extra wine. I want
to give it to your you have a lot of ord
I want let's give the wine. And at the
time he says, "No, no, no." He says,
"Bottle it. Put it in a bottle. Nice.
Label it and I will give a blessing to
it and you can sell it." Which and in
the beginning I didn't understand why
what what is he referring to. But
because of the war, I lived next to the
border. A year and four months because
of the war in the north, my entire
center in the north was shut down. I
mean, there was classes going on there.
All the place was filled with soldiers
and families that they were were pushed
out of their houses. But that's what's
brings 80% of the budget of my
organization that center
and it didn't bring nothing. And if I
wouldn't package the wine and sell it, I
would be financially or my organization
would be in a very big problem.
And only after I understood the of my
that said do that. But that's not what I
want to tell you. When I came to him,
then I told him, "How should we call the
wine?"
Then he told the Anava, there's no other
word name to call it. Okay.
When I asked him, okay, how much should
it be sold? So he told me,
the minan of how much is 131.
When we recorded him blessing the wine,
his blessing was that whoever drinks
from the wine will gain true anava.
Maybe that's why I have a lot of I drink
the wine all day long.
With all jokes aside, I have a very
limited amount of bottles both in
Israel. I have very li I have here very
limited amount that that are left just
that you would see it cuz I want the
people online to see it too because you
can get it online. You can get it here
but you can get it online too. You see
this is the wine you can see here.
Beautiful. Amazing. This is this is the
true real wine because it's the wine
that has no sulfites in it. But not the
ones that just write no sulfites. Most
of the r wines that write no sulfites
they're right. There's no sulfites. But
there's 100 other things that that are
preservatives. This is totally natural.
No preservatives, no sulfites, organic,
made by me.
But why am I telling you that? First,
did you know that when you purchase any
of our wines, you support my
organization? But specifically tonight,
what I wanted to say is when I went went
to my rabbi and I told him, what should
I tell people who are looking to find
parnas and to find their other half and
to have schlumbai? He told me the same
thing. And he doesn't talk much. He's
not a rabbi that has a conversation, by
the way. And if you don't know who it is
I'm talking about is from
he told me
and he said in a joke let your let your
your students drink from the wine
they'll get ana. So I'm not said telling
you that as a hoax. I'm telling you
that's what the blessing from the ravku
from is one of the top rabbis in the
world right now. If not one of the
whatever I'm not going to say too much.
So you have the opportunity have a very
limited amount or if you're online you
can order it online. We can ship it to
you only in America. It's that we can't
ship it anywhere else.
But just that you know, not only that
you gain the blessing from the RAV, you
also support and help our organization,
which is what we need. I'm two months on
the tour. People think that the, you
know, the is paying for the tour. Well,
just the airlines and the car rentals
and all that. Thousands and thousands of
dollars. So, you can partner with what I
do. I'm able to reach thousands and
thousands of people. You're able to
partner with that. I can guarantee to
you that's also good credit points for
you with Hashem. So I want to again
bless you and first of all thank you for
coming. I don't take anything for
granted. I know you could have sat in
front of Netflix tonight.
So I appreciate you coming. I appreciate
you online guys. I didn't give you one
much
yas tonight. You'll have to do it
another time. But thank you all for the
followers online. We're going to have a
minion for our vit right now and after
that it's already very very late. I
really ask you don't stall me because I
don't want to miss this flight tomorrow.
I have lectures people are waiting for
me in Florida.
>> Um I want I want to go I'm probably
going to come to Israel. I just wanted
to know I wanted to maybe spend Shabbat
with your family.
>> I'm only going to be in Israel in the
middle of September. I have to reach out
to my assistant and ask when I'm going
to be
>> going to be around the weekend the last
weekend of August. Thank you.
>> Thank you. Okay. Oh, sorry.
>> What's your name?
>> Social Security. No, no, no. I'm joking.
I'm joking.
foreign.
Amen.
Hello.
Amen.
>> Do you know anyone who knows?
>> I can ask. But
>> how do I get
>> Rabbi Alona Nava Gmail?
Remember that. Rabbi Alona Nava Gmail.
>> Do you know? Okay. Is there a number to
text number?
>> I don't remember it, but if you email,
my secretary will pick up. She'll give
you numbers, everything that you need.
>> Yeah, it won't be initial. I'll say if I
>> doesn't matter what you say, we take
care of everybody the same.
>> Okay.
>> Sometimes it takes time. We get a lot a
lot of messages, but uh we get to
everybody.
>> I'm leaving already tomorrow. First
thing in the morning normally. Yeah. But
I'm already leaving.
>> And you don't come back.
>> I hope I don't have to come back.
>> What about
>> online? Also, you can when you email my
secretary, ask to book a call. You might
have to wait a few months. It's very
very busy. He was
>> It's like I'm like a doctor, you know?
You wait 3 months to get an appointment,
>> but they have this.
>> There's no way to reach him.
>> No way to reach
>> that is you. You nobody can reach him.
There's no number. There's no nothing.
And it's not that he likes people more
or less. He's just he's not a regular
rabbi. When I go there, I don't know if
he's there or not. we go if he's there
but uh first of all he doesn't see women
you go to his wife and she sees everyone
>> so does she have a number
>> uh these are old school people you have
to come there
>> not very you have to come there this is
not like this is old old old school you
have to come sit in line be patient if
you're lucky the raanit is very
available very hard to get a hold of him
and a lot of time he's sick a lot of He
doesn't talk. So
>> can we all get a blessing from you?
>> I'm going to give a very general
blessing to everybody because you have a
group of many. I have to pray in a minan
because I have to say amazing amazing
amazing.
>> So if you don't mind where's your friend
who left. I wanted to give her a she
wasn't feeling well. She was in the
hospital this week and she couldn't
stay. She was
>> so record and I'm going to give her a
blessing.
[Music]
name. What's your name?
>> Gi.
>> Gi, I wish you and everything. You
should have strong health. You should
have from your kids, from your entire
family. You should have
should be in abundance. You should marry
off all your kids.