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their leadership no [Applause] shiner llit and the whole Hana of the the staff and the administration and the leadership and of course our dear friend Rudi who organized it all thank you very much we have here Ellie Marcus as our vocalist world-renowned Ellie Marcus he's sitting a little but the camera will catch up and Edon on the piano and we're waiting soon for RAB sh got stuck in a little traffic so everybody knows that is celebrated every year as the the day of liberation of the AL who was emancipated from Zar prisonment on and 1798 in a letter that he penned right after it's to two of his Clos friends and he writes that when he was sitting in his prison cell it was Tuesday just like this year and he was saying toim I doubt that there was a safer in the cell but probably was saying it by heart theim is divided for the days of the month it's also divided for the days of the week it's people who say to throughout each week so Tuesday you say so he writes to was saying because he was saying the for Tuesday and I was saying cap which is chapter 55 of Psalms and I said the says hasem has liberated my soul in peace from those who quarreled against me and the the multitudes gave me so much support they were together with me he says I finished the before I began the next p right after I went out in peace from Hashem who is the master of Peace in other words right after that PK they I guess came in and liberated him and emancipated him so didn't wait long and they made a beautiful nigan on the POS and the rest of the cap so you every year around the world this nigan is already sung for hundreds of years so I'm going to aski to lead us with those who know by heart will know it those who know the nigan by heart will know it and those who don't so uh sh made copies so you could take the the pages that were given out middle of the cap it's a beautiful beautiful Melody and when we sing it I want to suggest that all of us can have the kavana the mind the mindful concentration that Hashem should liberate every single person peacefully in whatever you need whatever your heart desires and needs it should be a everyone should be emancipated from all the blockages and all the anxiety and all the stress and all the obstructions that block our full growth and potential individually and collectively all of the Jewish people in the whole [Music] world pass it the people who don't pass it you [Music] might sh she me [Music] yes sh [Music] [Applause] [Music] k I King [Music] sh [Music] of [Music] of of [Music] me m [Music] m [Music] the name of [Music] M me love me more [Music] here I [Music] am [Music] [Applause] after [Music] after [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] and the and the [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] the [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] God [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] the [Music] [Applause] [Music] I [Applause] [Music] the [Music] I everybody take it away so I have the honor this evening to share the it's not a stage but the the table the faan with uh my dear beloved colleague by so many Rabbi sha tab who just came in so thank you so much for gracing us and being here with us tonight and uh let's get right into the F it's good to be here good we were we were just dancing and we're singing the words I believe in you I trust in you talking is talking about that we have that a Jew can rely on Hashem he trusts Hashem but uh I was thinking maybe a little bit different shot as well based on uh a story about uh a young man a teenager the son of uh Holocaust Survivors growing up in Brooklyn and his father was a grocer and one of his one of hisim was that when he delivered groceries one one of the houses on the on on his route was the mother of the he used to used to deliver groceries toab so one time he was delivering groceries and the re asked this young man his name was no he still is um do you have any questions for the Reb for my son for the RAB and this he was a teenager and he said uh sure uh what's the Reb's favorite prayer and he said later on he was thinking about why did that question even occur to him why did he want to know what's the Reb's favorite prayer he said because he was about to go to college and he was thinking I don't know how much I'm going to keep what I'm not going to keep but if I find out something's that E's favorite prayer it's probably pretty important and at least I'll make sure that that's that's a foundation so the Reb said okay next time you see I see the Reb I'll ask so the next time this young man came to the house to deliver groceries sure enough rehana brought it up and she said to uh the young man I asked the rabba what's his favorite prayer and the rabba said that his favorite prayer is made an what what maybe you expected uh you know something poetic something once a year something climactic made simple made anyway this young man no he said that he uh he he was at a faan later he came to one of the rebis faans and he came in in the middle he walked in the middle he says I don't know what the debba was talking about before before but I walked in and as soon as I walked in what did the start to speak about and he said like this what what did the Reb say that normally we say means we could rely on he's very reliable because I deposited My Soul by you my most precious asset my soul my life I went to sleep you could run away with it you could do anything you want with it but in the morning you gave it back so since you gave me back the you're very reliable we could rely on you that that's that's simple shot everyone knows but there's another which is if the Aisha woke you up this morning it means he knows he can count on you if he gave you another day to serve him this in this world it means there's another day that the has a job for you he has work for you and he knows that you're equal to the task and therefore the fact that that you gave me back my and you put me to work again for another day you say to you have so much am what does it mean you Hashem have so much amuna when we have amuna it means we have am and hasm when when we say hem has a means hem has a in us so could also mean Hashem you have so much faith in your people you have so let's not let's not say people that's an an an anonymous term let's let's let's make it specific Hashem you have so much faith in me you have so much faith in me and I've thought about that story a lot and I thought about what this young man said his purpose for asking the question was he was going into an environment that wasn't necessarily conducive to Yiddish Kai and he was looking for a foundation something solid to hold on to and whatever the Reb knew or how the Reb knew the point is the aish arranges everything he wanted a foundation that he could remain in his yish kite with the Foundation he was given was Hashem believes in you Hashem has faith in you and I think that that is very much in line with the whole message of Tanya that the biges of T before Tanya there were many that speak about Hashem the first of t for it's it's more about the the neish of the person it's not so much about about the second is more about the but the first certainly it's more about me it's a it's a it's a book about me and what's the message the ALB is giving us good news he's saying you're so good you're so good with all your hangups with all your struggles with all your problems with all with all your doubts and in your and your insecurities you're so good you're a which is the and then the AL is M Mish means even in the mous of the body meaning you could say in the abstract you were I'm all up there in heaven you were M but when you came down here you're unrecognizable you lost you lost your original glow no Mish even down here you retained it you retained your original essence and that's what peric Bas goes on and talks about that even those who come down as theal and the and he calls them metaphorically the toenails of the the if you imagine all of the Jewish Generations as one organism as one body even if you came down low you still have the same DNA as the brain cell meaning to say you retained your essence every single one of us we retained our pristine Essence so to me you want to really strip it down down to Basics to fundamentals to something a person could build his yish kite on the has so much faith in you the aish to trust you so much you're so good you're such a worthwhile investment Hashem took a risk he took your pristine and he he risked it all you know in this week's the balat has many in addition to Tanya but this week's from it speaks about why the the T uses the word Canan so he says Canan means it means uh business and he says the whole idea of audits of being in the world being in being in a physical plane it is a business and that is the ultimate businessman he bet the farm he made a big risk no risk no reward and he took the Nisha and he put it down in the body and he said I know you're going to do it you're going to live up to the task you're not going to fail you're going to succeed so th this this is this is the good news the good news is the aish that has so much faith in us and the AL in in a in in a manner of which means he explains it proves to us why Hashem has so much Faith you know it's it's one thing to tell believe me believe me the has faith in you but the AL comes he spells it out and he explains to you who you really are and why Hashem is right to think so highly of you it's good news Rob what do you say about this we like good news go ahead that's that's it that's all I prepared I'm [Music] done so people want to know if Hashem has so much faith in them why don't they have faith in themselves what happened who told them not to have faith in themselves does that come from within from without who taught people not to have auna in themselves you know my favorite one of my favorite letters think some people think that the more auna you have in AEM inverse proportion exactly commender it with with that the deeper the less have in yourself right yeah it's a low self-esteem a one of my favorite letters in the IG is to it's a the date of the letter is so wrote many many many letters there's a letter there to a and you know the letter so he wrote in desperation he says I can't go on I'm done I quit and it wasn't a joke I found out later he didn't just write a letter he sent in the keys to the building because he was really quitting it was not a joke so uh the debba writes back it's a short letter so theb writes back and says before they call out I've already responded I took care of your problem basically wrote to theb and said I can't do it the Reb has to take over send in the Cavalry so the Reb writes back to and he says I took care of it I did what you wanted and the solution we we got a solution for this problem and the re writes and you're reading it it's funny and has been sent to New Haven Connecticut maybe they never forgot who he's writing to is the one who's writing desperately saying I I quit here are the keys come save me send in my replacement and the Reb say I did it I took care of it I sent to Connecticut and then the Reb lets on that it's the tone of it and says but you know what his problem that I would write in third person you know what his problem is that he doesn't know that's his whole problem he doesn't know so therefore my advice to him is to know him he should meet the guy and when he does he'll immediately see everything will change his mood his he actually says his in you would think that from the will inem will come better self-esteem no from the self-esteem that'll help your your belief in Hashem we don't know ourselves I'll tell youa you want to tella yeah people like stories somebody said this is a story that happened there truth there's fact first everybody two weeks ago I went to a shabbaton it was a beautiful shabbaton Jews was a particular function shabas afternoon after I gave a sheer in the afternoon I was walking through the lobby and a young man comes over to me he introduced himself said I want to share with you a story I never told it to anybody I never thought I'll tell it to anybody I wanted to put it past me but you said something I don't know why but it triggered me and it AR it inspired me to tell you the story he grew up not far from here and he is what you would call a very very uh Ledic he was a very lebed child extremely Lively and animated to the point in his words that at the age of 14 I was already expelled from eight yeshivas I said why he told me everybody wanted me I said I like that attitude I'm going to take you into Mya I like that attitude it's called reframing it right YF had that skill the original YF I wasn't sold I was sent I wasn't expelled I was sent I say okay I mean that's a lot like eight Yas at the age of 14 I mean I've heard two three four he says yeah it was I just I was extremely you know wild and creative and I really did not just I didn't fit into any system and I said how did your father deal with it he said he was worse than the schools uh I would come home and you know he would penalize me me double he said it was a disaster at the age of 14 he said I know nothing I don't know what to do with you he put me on a plane and he sent me to Israel he said you'll figure it out in Israel he's a 14-year-old boy and he's in Israel what is he supposed to do now so he said he went to benra and he went into a the slon is benra of SL slum which is a very famous cidic Dynasty and group and he goes in midday 11 or 12 in the afternoon and there's a Jew who's 95 years old sitting in sh still davening he would Daven four hours every day he was a famous his name waser arich he was a partisan in the second world war he lost his family he escaped to the forest and he fought with the partisans against the Nazis one day they blew up a railway a rail Way Road that the SS would use and the partisans retreated into the forest as they would do after one of their successful campaigns against the Germans but the partisans knew that the Nazis will pursue them into the forest as they would always do so they decided to run to the other side of the forest where there was more hope that they can hide out atav aser couldn't move with them it was too fast and I guess I don't know if he was wounded he simp couldn't progress with them they said you have to you have to come with us and he says but I can't they said you have to if not you're going to die we're going to have to leave you he said listen I have to go in a more relaxed pace right they said you're going to be destroyed he said a Jew doesn't panic this is where I am this is what I'm capable of this is what I'm going to do they said we have to abandon you they went to the other side of the Forest sadly the SS anticipated that and they ambushed them from the second side of the forest and they killed all of them and the only one who survived was this Drew and he survived the war in the forest he moved T he married unfortunately he never had a child his wife was ill for 10 years and he took care of her and then she passed away and at this point he was 95 and he would D in 4 hours hours every day this this is telling me the story and he was it was a real daving meaning in the where you talk about sh he would go out and point to the heavens you talk about would point to squirrels and insects and and rodents you know daving was alive you know he contemplated the the the radiance of the Sun and he's still in SCH he's still with his talison filling late in the morning the only one in SCH and this 14-year-old comes in Soha looks at him and says why are you not in why are you here why are you not in school so he says to be honest with you it's not been working well for me I've been already thrown out of uh eight yeshivas and I just don't get along that nobody gets along with me I mean they all think that I'm a terrible uh I just don't fit in anywhere and nobody thinks I'm good and he tells me he says this 95y old partisan who had no children who was an old man whose wife already died really alone in the world he looked at me and he said I want to tell you something that the leich taught the leich was one of the great Masters he known as the leich and this is what he taught we say in ashr every day three times a day anybody remembers these verses huh you say them too often to remember them H okay Psalms chapter 145 it's also known as Ash in our vernacular what's the literal translation of these they will talk about the glory of hashem's kingship your majesty they will discuss so that all humans will become aware of hashem's strength and the glory and the beauty of his kingship because your kingship extends and pervades all of the worlds so the said and I think it already comes from me as well whose yard site was I mentioned them earlier he says as follow he says there's a deeper interpretation you know why we talk so much about hashem's Glory hashem's infinite Majesty hashem's sovereignty hashem's power why is that so much as a part of Judaism I mean most of daving that's what we're doing right halah praise hemah again and again and again a whole time everything and we go on it continues and continues and continues why you made the point you made the point God is great he created the world he's infinite he's omnicient he's omnipresent etc etc the answer is is you know why because there's a to tell every person his strength the real purpose is to notify that every human being every one of should become aware of his or her own majesty and strength because if Hashem is infinite it also means something else it means that he didn't make a akake when he created you it means that he knew what he was doing when he sent you into this world and if your soul is a if your soul is a piece of what does it really mean it means that you are a derivative of the consciousness of infinity it means that you are a reflection of all that greatness that we talk about because you are the light of Hashem in this world so when you're talking about Hashem being infinite who are you really talking about you're talking about Hashem but you're also talking about Hashem is one you're talking about that Oneness the way it's manifested through you so the whole point is that every person must become aware of his or her own Mal your own royalty aristocracy dignity Beauty Grace Holiness extraordinary profound Divine depth and Holiness and then then's will pervade all the worlds because every person will become aware real self-awareness is awareness how yourself is a channel for the Divine Infinity didn't use all of these English adjectives all these words but he said from so he said I'm saying Ash now so let me just tell you so just make sure that nobody lets you forget your own G your own power your own depth your own strength and this 14-year-old moves on he gets into another Yeshiva and six months later he was expelled or sent depends how you look at it right somebody else wanted him he got into one more he got into one more there was a the manal at some point said it's just it's just imp impossible with this boy expelled Theos he tells me he says Rabbi Jacobson at this point I already had a minion of yeshivas on my resume what a beautiful resume and I was only 15 years old right take special say desay to be so successful and I had nowhere to turn I couldn't turn my call my father because he was more harsh than everybody else completely didn't understand me I couldn't call my mother because she was too subservient to my father he told me and I had nobody to turn to I was alone in the world in Israel and I decided that I'm really unworthy I'm I'm just unworthy I am really damaged goods and life is just too painful and he said it was one bright morning I traveled toim and I went to number 11 11 has a tall building and I climbed up to the roof I went to the edge of the roof it was 11:00 in the morning it was a bright day in J the neighborhood there was full of action people moving bustling with creativity but I was pacing at the edge of the roof back and forth just feeling so disp respondent and so depressed and I decided I'm going to terminate my life and thus terminate my misery and Agony and I'm standing there at the edge looking down planning the jump and he says suddenly I have this flashback in my brain I see this image that happened a year earlier of me walking into this Shan babra and this 95-year-old partisan telling me every person has to know his G his COV his H his malos every person must become aware of their infinite majesty and he says I realized that he meant it because there was no agenda there you know he wasn't like he wasn't trying to create a following he was an old man who had nothing literally besides God and he had no reason to tell this to me but he meant it and I decided you know before I jump I first have to make sure I get to Know My Own Strength then I'll make a decision I turned around I went down he said I climbed down the ladder so I still left the the door going to the roof you know the Jerusalem roof and addicts I left that door open and I left he says here I am today I'm a father of three children I'm married to an extraordinary woman and I built an extremely successful business I'm really really financially successful and I'm a happy human being too and I wanted to share this with you tears were streaming down his cheeks as he shared this with me and I thought to myself aser when he said that he could have never imagined that impact that that statement would have on a child he could have never imagined that he literally saved a life but do any of us imagine that when we do it and in many ways you could say that the B came to the world the B and his students and the balat and his students they came to the world because very often people thought that in order to inculcate fear of Heaven in people's hearts and the way to do it is to tell people how horrible they are right and it's interesting till today when I speak about this there's usually somebody at the end who asks me a question and says are you teaching real Judaism or are you teaching fake Judaism pop psychology right to tell people oh you're so good but we know the truth we know the real truth the truth is we're evil I me let's face it right that's the truth let's face it we're filled with evil and and self-loathing and self- crushing is the way to Paradise because then maybe you have hope if you lift people up what are you doing you're turning monsters into demigods you're sending them to Purgatory if you tell them the truth about themselves maybe they'll look up to heaven for salvation and they'll become good people I was speaking to a high school last week a high school in man a wonderful beautiful High School uh beautiful kasic high school and I was sharing talking about this concept to 60 very intelligent young women 16 year olds 15y old 17 year olds and when I finished somebody raised their hand and said is this real judism could you prove that this is true cuz it doesn't sound true it doesn't sound true and another few girls said yeah I we agree it doesn't sound true can you give us your sources can you give us your sources and I said no problem we'll do that in a moment but I want you to think about the fact that you're arguing with me I'm trying to tell you you're so good and you're telling me no Rabbi why you got the wrong people you're talking to the wrong crowd I said isn't that fascinating so I can give you all the sources in the world but look how instinctively you feel that you have to protect this idea that you're really damaged that you're anxiety that your negativity your toxicity is like innate it's intrinsic it's who you really are and everything else is just like external pop psychology liberal Progressive superficial you know accolades to make broken people feel good so for sick people it's good but healthy people sick people so you're not you take them to the hospital so fine open up a hospital on all your clips clips just say for people who are H need to be hospitalized so this is just some little medicine to make you feel good about yourself but real healthy people right who could be real Jews we got to know the truth we got to know the truth we're damaged we're sick you know we that's that's the truth that's the EMS stop covering it up but the truth but what's the truth what's the truth the truth is that it's so tragic that so many of us feel like that and it's not that we choose it it's it's a it's a deep it's a deep-seated ingrained uh reality that would like you to address how that happened exactly but what I want to what I want to say to you is that I really think you know what does it mean to be a of hem what does it mean to be a of so I think today what it means is every person you encounter young or old female or male youth or elderly no matter people you know people you don't know every person you encounter every person you have a conversation with before before that encounter ends you should be able to say that I observe the of if you meet a teenager a girl a boy your own child somebody else's child an adult a teenager doesn't necessarily mean in years any person before that relationship is terminated means before you go away from that conversation you should be able to say you know what I accomplished you can be with a smile it can be with a gesture it can be with a hug it could be with a kiss it could be with a vort it can be with an embrace it can be with a genuine a genuine sense of empathy and dedication and love tell them who they are tell them their greatness you'll never ever know the impact we are stingy with words we are stingy with warmth we are stingy with love I'm not talking about you you're not David is not whoever knows R David and his son is also not but some of us are stingy like you know especially we ashkenazic cerebral Geniuses we're afraid to become too you know emotive right so we become stingy but says tells all tell us about his Infinity so that we can tell everybody we meet and you'll never know the impact and you know the first person you got to tell it to yourself that's the hardest I was once at a shabas table and I asked I asked my children which one which Mitzvah do you think is the hardest Mitzvah which is the 63 Mitzvah which is the hardest so one of my boys he was a very he was a little kid he was seven years old he said so I thought I understood I said why is so hard loving your fellow like yourself he said cuz it means that you have to love yourself I'm like OMG wow s years old this is going to be an incredible journey you understand the difficulty of the Mitzvah that's the difficulty of the Mitzvah so right it's part of the anxiety of Our Generation ation so this is what this young man told me this is what this young man told me and he said here I am today so in many ways I would say the b the whole really one of its most essential points is to teach people says it's the good news that every person should know that you're not a bad person who has also good things in him or her but that innately and intrinsically you are Hashem the B used to say G is out and out is G Shem is everything and everything is Hashem so you're the be you're the most perfect it can be it's not like you're not damaged goods completely you're the most perfected product that can be you are the infinite light in this world RAB and once you have that as a foundation and it's real it's authentic this is not fake this is the most this is the deepest truth about you all your anxiety all your mistakes all your sins all your stress even mental illness and even abuse that's real may be real and Trauma we have to put in that word and childhood wounds or adult wounds but you can't compare them to Childhood wounds and a lot of difficult stuff that are happening in my psyche and your psyche within me or without me they're real they're authentic they're not fake there's some real pain that people are experiencing as we speak including people sitting here in this room physically or virtually nonetheless none of it eclipses or can compromise a deeper truth and reality about yourself and that is you're damaged you're damaged one of the worst her heretical statements from a Jewish perspective is to say I'm damaged cuz I am damaged is really another way of saying God is damaged and God makes a lot of mistakes I'm proof of it I'm proof of it I just want to tell you you said R people think it's a it says in it says in on [Music] the says at the end of his life in is a god of faith so the says what means K is a god of a what does it mean so most will say he's trustworthy he follows through you know he pays back the loans not like some other people but the says K means God believed in his world and he created it he believed he had a m he had a m in his world to create it knowing everything that we're capable of but fundamentally he had and uh that's that's something that is so uh vital it's at the core of yish the B the balat their colleagues their students accentuated it but it's at the core of everything Hashem conceived you in love you are his Ambassador in this world so who am I what's the real answer who am I and the answer is I am a derivative of the consciousness of infinity in this world that's who I am and I want to bless myself and you and all of us that whoever you meet whoever you meet from tonight on every conversation you have WhatsApp text person to person for those of us who still have those conversations it's like you know it's a no y once in a while person to person like tonight person to person before before you uh before you leave you should be able to look in their eyes and say I tried at least to make them aware of their Majesty it may just be three words I love you or I'm here for you or just remember how awesome you are whatever it is or another thousand ways you could say it sometimes it's just with a Silent Gaze which which is deeper than everything but to be able to become an embodiment of this vision for others and for yourself and of course for your own loved ones and when we do that when we when we do that so when you believe in somebody you help them believe in themselves and this is what this child need he just needed to know that his and Mal were never ever ever compromised despite all setbacks failures willingly or unwillingly okay Ellie Marcus up again [Music] m [Music] see [Music] we came go [Applause] [Music] after [Music] after [Music] [Laughter] [Music] oh [Music] y see of yeah [Music] [Applause] [Music] MO [Music] he came [Music] my he [Music] came high high [Music] high [Music] [Applause] [Music] came back [Music] came [Music] [Applause] [Music] m many young walk up to singl minutes SOI so powerful so Beau so soed so much l k [Music] heard [Applause] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] great [Music] came [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] for [Music] Happ [Music] this [Music] talk about about what is a what is a Jew thirsting for what is a Jew yearning for so Rabbi why why is saying we're all holy we're all good we're Godly but hold on a second I I know my ti is you think the only thing I thirst for is eluz like the song and the song but that's the reality I know myself so why was trying to make me feel good about myself but I know I know what so RAB tab is basically saying there's a contradiction between and I'm asking I'm not saying there's a contradiction I'm asking I'm asking yeah I'm asking that's what Jews do when and they uh try to contradict you yeah they don't nobody ever contradicts right we just ask could it be that you don't know what you're talking about that's how right just don't TR in your marriage cuz you don't know what you're talking about it's not it's not a question but you hear what's happening in other words it's all very nice okay so people like to be encouraged but reality is I know myself it's like what right you're going to work me up and get all excited and then afterwards how long is it going to take before reality sits in right right so this was maybe you know this is what was the argument of many even in that generation and perhaps also in this generation it's like you know worse than than giving people you know worse than anything else is giving people false hope if you don't give them hope there's no let down if you give them false hope then they fall down much harder and much stronger tell people the truth and that is you know we have a lot of negativity in us we have a lot of evil but we can do good things and and and earn and earn reward but this fundamental idea that you are not guilty till proven innocent that you are essentially the most incredible manifestation of goodness in this world seems to contradict common sense it seems to contradict reality I come home to a self that is filled with filled with what name all the mid stress yeah what about him doubt okay what else despair he said despair okay depression insecurity fear trauma anxiety anything else huh Detachment okay that's a good one spaced out bad mid is jealousy narcissism selfishness yeah anger loneliness just in a bad mood just in a bad mood right empty empty very good empty huh there's no end to the list wow and you want me to believe that I'm Godly after all that when there's no end to the list there's no end to the list right okay so uh and Darkness Darkness okay and being alone being alone that's a big one being alone we call that terminal uniqueness ter very good There Lonely in a crowded room you know yeah always wanting to be a part of instead feeling apart from existential loneliness yeah and sometimes and sometimes a person just feels imped their marriage their marriage is is disintegrating their relationship with their children is non-existent their relationship with God is very negative they're not interested in it or angry they're they're filled with jealousy or frustration they have terrible relationship with their parents with their siblings yeah they feel timid they feel alone or whatever it is every they're not proud of themselves they don't like how they're spending their time and never mind if they were diagnosed with clinical depression or another mental illness so now what are you telling them that what you're all good they wake up in the morning and you're saying God has faith in me who is this me this me doesn't want to wake up this me can't face the world huh you cold coldness apathy yeah we forgot laziness that used to be an issue before anxiety you remember when people used to be lazy no nobody's lazy we're just anxious I never got an email I'm lazy right they didn't get they didn't get around to writing the email very good very good first chapter okay so so you want to rethink your thesis statement I was sitting in London two nights ago Monday uh I'm just coming back from London I landed this afternoon regards from uh the subjects of the queen I bring you regards from the Jews of Great Britain very well behaved I was trying to say jokes nobody was laughing so I said yeah you know we're under Biden you're under Queen Elizabeth I get it we're allowed to laugh we don't have to be gentlemen [Laughter] huh I hear okay and the sh G will probably be pretty good on both sides so it's not a bad idea you you'll be able to stop growing vegetables but your vegetables will probably last longer than the so what were we talking about oh so I'm sitting in London and we're foring it was Monday night Stamford Hill sitting I don't know 5 600 idic Jews wonderful Jews you know the works papenberg Sons couple fell in foro so uh so we were talking about you know how how really wanted a Jew to to experience it's not like you'll do and you go to G you do a Mitzvah and that is ganen that is the ultimate ganen because a Jew's deepest pleasure is intimacy with Hashem and there was a young man there and he he he he literally said these words he said you know either you're naive or you're just a great actor one of the two it's 3:00 in the morning Spill the Beans what you really believe about people so I decided to take him on I decided to embrace his invitation I meant and I said guys I stand corrected I'm going to do truv on everything I said for the last 15 years and I'm going to say the truth and the truth is you're a bunch of you are wicked people that's the truth and you know it you know it and those of you who don't know it are only more wicked and that is the Ultimate Reality it's it's really true you are filled filled with wickedness and you could look in the mirror and you'll see it everywhere and I went on and on for a few minutes I described what geham is going to look like for each and every one of them what Purgatory looks like what it feels like what it's going to be experienced like what it's going to what the experience is going to be like when I finished I said how inspired do you feel has anybody just been been turned on so somebody said okay I agree it does not Inspire anybody okay so that's that's good to know that it's really really ineffective simply ineffective he said but maybe it's ineffective but it's still true I said why do you think it's ineffective it's ineffective because it doesn't resonate in a it doesn't resonate but then the question is reconciliation between a beautiful a beautiful description of a Jew of a person and then the reality that everybody faces or to put it differently if there's said I have good news for everybody the question is if this sh used to say should help even before he helps right before the Salvation comes we should also have salvation the question is if the news is so good why is the news often so bad what happened okay so now it's your turn everybody take it away so let's hear huh huh was here before oh there's there's old uh from theill he said there was a a guy he's once sitting in a in a ketma in a in an inn and they had a piano player there and the piano player played a song and the guy was entranced fell in love with the song and he didn't get a chance to ask the piano player what's the name of the song so uh he figured if he liked it so much it must be a popular song so he went over to people and he would start humming it he would ask them what's this song called nobody knew the name of it so he figured okay maybe you have to be a musician to know so he started whenever he'd see a musician and he would hum it he' say you know this song no we don't know this song and he became obsessed with it so now he didn't wait just until he would meet a musician he he started going from concert to concert anywhere where musicians were playing and if there was no musician playing in town he would travel to another town and this grew on him it became his obsession it became his entire life just seeking out musicians and and singing this song and begging them to tell them what is this song and his entire life he was seeking out this this enchanting Melody and he never heard it again and he heard he sat through thousands and thousands and thousands of songs from all the musicians that he could find and he never heard the song again that's the mush what what's the nyell is that the heard a song it saw elus it saw it delighted in in godliness and then it came and into this world and it had a faint recollection it kind of remembered EP something I heard it once and so it goes around looking for where can I find that pleasure again where is it and and looks around the world it sees the Nish now is in a body now it sees the things that bodies relate to and it it looks around in the world there's plenty of Pleasures for the body and it tries this pleasure it says is this the pleasure is this the song is this it no that's not it and there's disappointment and there's shame of course there's shame every time and disillusionment but I have to hear that song again and that goes into TR oh there's another pleasure Let Me Maybe I'll try that maybe that'll be it maybe that's it maybe that's I can recapture that that experience that subconscious experience from from my pre-created existence and it so it throws itself into another pleasure no that's not it and it's disappointed and it's full of Shame and self-loathing and it gets desperate and and it starts lowering its standards because you know maybe I got to dig deeper maybe I didn't find the pleasure yet because I didn't dig deeply in maybe my standards are too high maybe I'm too picky and it's searching and searching and searching and searching and it doesn't find and it doesn't find what it's like looking for so it's a it's a tragic mush there's no happy Hollywood ending at the end of the mush it's a it's it's a story of desperation but I want to tell you what what why it's fits in with the good news it is good news because you have to know something every time you got caught up in the wrong stuff you were looking for the right thing you have to know you have to know the deep down you were only looking for I Want You Hashem I only want hem and I made a mistake I thought I would find it in this pleasure I thought I would find it in that pleasure I [Applause] thought you know over 10 years ago I came out I came out with a book and I'm not trying to sell the book cuz I haven't gotten royalties in years so you could buy the book and but anyways the book called God of our understanding in other words it's lishma what he's saying now is I'm not I'm not making he means it not making money from this over there there's a whole long story I'm not going to tell the whole long story now but there's a there's a long story about the origins of the 12ep programs how they came to be that really originally it it came from the the psychology of Carl Yung the short version of the story there was a a rich privileged New England wasp I don't know if people use the term wasp white Anglo-Saxon Protestant named Hazard and he was a chronic drunk and his parents sent him to psychiatric care they didn't know what to do with him so the two greatest psychiatrists of the day were either Sigman Freud or Carl Jung so thank God they sent him to Jung because Jung believed that spirituality was essential to mental health and Freud being Jewish could not afford to admit that so although interestingly Freud writes totem and taboo came out in Hebrew in modern Hebrew and he wrote a forward to Totem and taboo when it came out in Hebrew and he said you might ask why I had my Works translated into a language associated with Rabin scholarship he said because all of my teachings are based on Torah and one day science will prove it that's what Freud said very One Day science will prove it anyways Yung so this guy goes to Jung long story short Yung tells the guy your only hope is to have a vital spiritual experience he tells the drunk he tells the drunk your only hope is to have a vital spiritual experience I don't know how to do it for you but good luck and he goes back to New York and he ends up falling in with some guys who were into prayer and meditation and uh into into taking moral inventory and he has a vital spiritual experience and then he shares it with a guy who shares it with a guy who ends up being Bill Wilson who's the founder of AA and he shares it with a guy and then this thing takes off and this is in the 30s and within 25 years they have this wildly successful movement this this whole movement and it's it's 196 61 and somebody says it's been 25 years since we based our whole theory on Carl Jung did anyone tell Jung that his theory Works they said no we never did somebody write Yung so Bill Wilson wrote a letter to Yung and he said remember you you treated a patient back in the 30s named Roland Hazard and you told him he needed a spiritual experience well he shared it with someone who shared it with someone who shared it with me and that's what we've been doing we've been teaching we been teaching people that the solution to their addictions is they need they need God they need a higher power they need a spiritual experience so your whole theory was right so Yung writes back and uh this is amazing because it was actually one of the last letters that Yung wrote January of 61 he fell ill after he wrote that letter within a few months he was dead literally if they had wait waited another month it would not have gotten a response so he writes back and he says it's all true it's true what I said it's true my theory and he said and I almost didn't tell the guy because I was afraid that people would judge me because when you start speaking about spirituality everyone thinks that you're uh you're a quack so I didn't want to tell him it was a spiritual solution but I said you know I got to tell him the truth and I told him it's a spiritual solution you're seeking and then what Yung says galic what he writes he says what I ident ified in the patient that the patient's craving for alcohol was a lower level manifestation of man's thirst for Unity with God a lower level manifestation of man's thirst for Union with God and that's why if you give him what he's really looking for not what he thinks he's looking for he thinks he's looking for the solution that he found for self-medication but he's really looking for Union with God and if you can give that to him now he doesn't need the false solution and then Yung does something he writes in this letter A he writes a little footnote handwritten the letter is typewritten but then he writes a a handwritten footnote and then the footnote number one there's only one footnote in the letter and then the bottom of the page it's ausk he he writes it in English in the King James Bible English like the heart panteth by the water Brook so doth my soul yearn for thee Oh God all I was ever looking for was you so I want to tell you something galic when Yung was 80 when he turned 80 everybody knows is the Y of the balat it's also the YULA of the when Yung turned 80 years old they interviewed him and uh they asked him to reflect on his career being so Cutting Edge having introduced so many revolutionary ideas into the field of of Psychiatry and mental health and Carl Jung says the one who anticipated my entire philosophy lived in the 1700s and his name was Rabbi be of mezich you can look it up you go Google it after the fa Carl Young 80th birthday interview Rabbi bear of mesich so the idea that what are we really looking for or we're looking for God okay so where does that come from Carl Yung but where does Carl Yung get it from from the Magid from us sh and th this is this is the reconciliation you're telling me I'm good I'm Godly I I only want God but it's not true I know what I want other things and they're not God you're mistaken you only want God you made a mistake you made a mistake back in the the 70s they had a country western song looking for love in all the wrong places you were looking for Hashem in the wrong place but you were always looking for Hashem that's what you were looking for so so what's the solution to tell somebody no no no that's you that's the real you because you made a mistake and you tried to find you tried to quench your thirst for elus in this Ty that TI No that's the real you keep at it keep doing it that's all you are that's that's your identity or should we clarify yeah I messed up I made a mistake but I was only ever looking for the abist all along and that's the real me and that never changed I just wanted to hear the song again I just wanted to hear the song So comes comes this and and and we come along we say the good news and we say you're good you only wanted good even when you messed up and you made your biggest mistake of your life even in the moment of your moral bankruptcy you were looking for good okay so for that we need Clarity for that we need guidance for that we have a to we have a to and and we'll we'll get back on track but you were never corrupted you your thirst your thirst was only ever for Hashem we have to know that about ourselves and there's nothing productive by telling ourselves the LIE the patent falsehood that we should identify with those mistaken attempts to reconnect with Hashem to the contrary that's that's that's the false self that's the false self see this demands that we that we meet our true selves and the and the true self was only ever looking for Hashem even in the moment of your greatest mistake that's what I think that's how I reconcile it you probably have a deeper way to reconcile so the 15-year-old who's smoking weed now yeah self-medicating what is he looking for what is he looking for and the 19-year-old who's already experimenting with other stuff not weed anymore what is he looking for and the 35-year-old Jew who's uh on his phone for half the night and not watching my [Music] clips that addiction will forgive but you know other Clips or not Clips what are they all looking for and this gu you know I'm not going to get here very detailed but you know we live in a culture where many people are camouflaged on the outside there one life on the inside there's a completely different life everybody thinks they're the only one of course right but since I have the I don't know I don't want to call it privilege but since it happened to be an address where some of these people come it's like I want to say by the way you know your best friend Kusa you know you can meet him over there too yeah no I I'm amazing people I'm saying there's you know a nice amount of people so what are they all looking for and and haven't I mean they have been davening three times a day for 20 years and and so this God they're looking for was always there but somehow they're so you're saying it's really all spirituality when they were they grew up in spirituality but they completely rejected it I could maybe challenge that okay you say they grew up in spirituality you hear that often people say look if we're possible to find Hashem I would have found him already and how many times I daved how many times I searched how many times I cried and I said Till him so that 15year old or 16y old who's smoking weed who's in theiva or wasn't a Yesa till a week ago right so he learned 10 years gabas staving everything and you say that he's looking for God he doesn't say that no for sure he doesn't say he says I'm running as far as possible from the system comes Rabbi sh and says in the name of the [Laughter] maged yeah it needs a little clarification clarification is an English word h is a Hebrew word but just to throw into the challeng you know just AB Feer can never hurt the little pepper huh pepper the B we're good oh you want me to be quiet you hear me all year finally you can hear somebody [Laughter] else I'm just going to I'm going to I'm spicing the chalant I'm not making my own chalant just throwing in you know spish egg a bone of this couple couple of beans there a of the maged when I saw it the first time you know certain things you see it and you lose your breath at least for a moment you know the first time you come to the Grand Canyon huh when I came you transfixed right somebody once said when God created uh who said it Mark TW when God created the Grand Canyon he didn't create the adjectives with which to describe it so uh when I saw this V from the maged I was well they understood it or not I don't know but Mark Twain didn't know he didn't know true that's that's very good he says Mark TW NE didn't know yish so he come to the Grand Canyon stupendous appealing like huh gaval galic yeah they say that Shalom Alim was the yish the yiddishist writer so he met Mark Twain cuz he moved to America he's buried in the Bronx he died in 1915 his name wasn't Shalom his name was something else but his he's known as his his pen name was Shalom today nobody knows who he is they think it's a in a Friday night but uh 100 years ago a little less he was the everybody thought he's going to be the future of Judaism but it's a separate par so he met Mark Twain They say that Mark Twain uh shal said Mark Twain said to shalom shalom said to Mark Twain say about me they say about me that I'm the Jewish Mark Twain Mark Twain said and you know they say about me did they say I'm the sh you know that reminds me of that the he became a m you know a Jew can't just be regular he became a a priest became a priest a gal so he gave his first sermon and after his first sermon the man senior said um father Goldberg your sermon was excellent but next time don't begin with follow so how do we get into Shalom you started it you started it shal ah yeah so the moan Mo was he was a tal of the of the and the so from he's one of the first sources of the original teachings there's only because the remember didn't write down his teachings and the mag didn't write down their teachings because they the the point was it had to be alive when you write it down it's it's amazing but it's has to give a whole excuse why a book is even Jus allowed to why he was allowed to write the T he said essentially he was not supposed to write anything nobody was supposed to write anything because written word is essentially the lifeless word and everybody reads it from their own subjective experience right there's people who read T and if you're an anxious person what does it do for you you you read it through that filter you read it and it makes you more anxious you become more anxious that's right that's yeah that's and the same is true with every other saer you you it's filtered through your own subjective yeah blind spots and nervous system right if I'm OCD and I start learning right it'll fuel it when you're allowed to be by ding you know those guys you know what I mean when you allowed to say it's complicated stuff by the way you ever learned it well you D with the minion so you don't have to know but for the guys who come late and they always interrupting this right so you filter it if if if if you come from a place of internal Serenity then it's amazing it's like God tells you how deep is the intimacy at this moment that Interruption is like a no no you know what I mean like in middle of a if a starts checking his email checking his email middle of the know there was a buzz there was a buz right you don't take the guy home you don't take the guy home his mother could take him so uh so there's really moments Hashem says like we're in a you know I once got a we did hear the series there was a teenager he said that the that drives him most crazy is that if you miss you have to redo it cuz he always misses cuz you know he's daydreaming but he finishes right and and you have to redo it and he's like and if you don't redo it it's like you didn't D today yeah it drives him crazy it just drove him crazy yeah so there's a story about the B the you know in Broad the lived in Broad for a while they suspected that he knows nothing because he would sleep by day and was up at night was you know he was a very he was beyond hidden he was completely nobody knew so in Broad they heard rumors this he's teaching mysticism he doesn't know anything so they decided they're going to give him a a a test but they knew that he's a shepherd he hangs out with the peasants so they'll give him a simple test so what was the question the question was If You Forget by might of the night of you forget you have to repe this was an easier question up deep the answer is by might if you don't have to because was not at night they could only sanctify by Day Before Sunset so by night if you don't say you could you could move on you can go to Al you can go to sleep by day it's already this so they asked the what's the they wanted to see if he knows like just the basics you know bare minimum of huh and even if it's two days if okay this is my this is my does let me get away with anything held accountable huh yeah so uh so you know the answered besides everything else he was also a very smart person he said why asking me this question it's completely irrelevant I won't forget the first time you'll forget it the second time too so it's a completely irrelevant question so this teenager said this drives him mad like God has really nothing better to do you missed y you know that feeling when you have to redo right the only thing that can describe that feeling is the opposite feeling when Monday or Thursday you learn that there's a you have to say Mia when mhia is going to come the will be May the glimmer of the joy of a community right where all in this show it's not such a big Kish because there's always a yard site with a tick with a this not a war right whatever you know there a different level but imagine you're in a real the real thing you know and over there you know you kill the if there's no you have to say and in this case the is like the they always say always besides there always yard said said he heard from his father-in-law why why do we say y when do you have a better time to talk about the the struggles that you're supposed to talk about uh so they say so you're add you won't remember my sequence anybody here is not add huh the we the teenager he went crazy so I told him I gave him mus says you I don't know if it's a right but I thought it was not bad I saw the guy is a he's a passionate young man you know these questions come from passionate people because you know now redo it right there was a Mas we had in Yesa so he asked how do you have a to say you know my words should be appeasing to you and pleasing to you when a whole daving you weren't even thinking what you were saying so one of the boys said why do you think that by suddenly we're reflect on what we're saying you know till after I Shalom we're done you know there's a lot to cover you have to fly to Moscow to Melbourne there's a lot of shopping to do there's companies to open there's businesses to buy off you finish them now you come back to reality so I told this he was he was one of these passionate guys I said listen I'm going to give you an example imagine yeah a guy comes home in the evening his wife says instead of having dinner here I made reservations and what of the most beautiful beautiful restaurants in T-Neck New Jersey m is not known for beautiful restaurants they're knowing you know for other things he disagrees okay let's put it this way not for health food restaurants anyway they made they made she made a reservation extraordinary Restaurant Manhattan anyway he's wondering what's going on why they go it's an amazing dinner the wine and the appetizers and the main course and the dessert and they're just conversing and shmoozing and faing and it's it's wonderful he sees some anticipation in her but you know he doesn't get it he's a man he's a little clueless at least at least a little and uh dinner finishes and they're on the way home and he sees that something happened and you know men usually don't know what's going on right they just know that something happened they DAV they asked they asked they call their therapist their Rabbi their Mas takes a few days till they hear the truth the truth is she said I don't understand it was our anniversary and not once during the evening did you say happy anniversary whoops right so the worst thing you do at that time is no you don't understand right you don't understand yiva culture into the marriage you know how good that is right and Yeshiva you learn that the better you refute the Ora the more celebrated you are so when you go into a marriage right the more you could refute your spouse the more successful you'll be but things don't always work out that way so what does such a husband do he's a good husband but he forgot you know he was stressed we're not blaming him but he forgot he was just looking at the rip steak you know he was hungry he waited all day for dinner he was eating he forgots the anniversary the wife was all about the anniversary there was the wine and the CS were waiting and there was such a let down so the husband says you know what we're going to go out again tonight for the anniversary and he buys a gift and he writes a card and a bouquet of lies and roses red white orange yellow blue so I said is an anniversary the Sun and the Moon it says in cab experience a form of spiritual intimacy that's Hashem and the Jews Heaven and Earth says is our date we go out on a date three times a day cuz good marriages you date three times a day we went on a date might this is our nightly date it's our anniversary and you didn't say a word it's it's it's it's hurtful it's painful so Drew tells hem you know what we'll have another dinner we'll do a second day God says listen if it's with you I'm in I'm in in fact if you forget it again we'll go on the third date it's fine if you get four times I'm in I'm showing up if you're going to be there I'm showing up so I said where do you have such a romantic like the that if you forget y you have to read and God says I'm not going to move on the world is not going to continue this is this is a painful let down we have to learn how to look at things from the lenses of of uh of what of normaly I wanted to say the lenses of but it's really the lenses of normaly from from the lenses of truth of relationship of of of a relationship of reality from the lens from the from the lenses of reality so we're leading up to the answer but the magit says the maget says this was the the Grand Canyon that doesn't have adjectives galic it says like this this week the brings it I think in not on he brings it in Bas but he says I heard it from from from the mag from whose yard site was today yesterday test so he says the says in y came home to do his work it doesn't mean he came home to to do his work he came home because he surrendered to P's wife there was too it was too it was too intense he couldn't resist anymore it's an argument between RAV and shm Rashi also brings the argument what happened at the last moment he was about to acques to her demands the image of Yakov his father appeared in the window takes you into a world in which everything is transformed because you can't conceive this idea from just a regular uh you know a smart person it's you you right away he from certain ideas that this person was a conduit for Infinity so it went beyond human creativity it was divine creativity so the mag says that P's wife as the PK indicates was a very impressive person she was beautiful y was beautiful the only from the only males in the tanak that the T describes as handsome T doesn't speak like this about other men there's a reason for it but it says because if not you won't understand the story just like it says it about his mother so Y is is is handsome he's Charming he's charismatic he's beautiful on the inside and on the outside and right then right she's it says the next scene is how much she's she's obsessed with Y ysep was beautiful's wife says the mag possessed a tremendous power a tremendous appeal at this moment the gor says y surrendered he surrendered what did he see he saw Yakov so the mag say as follows see is is beauty Splendor aesthetical symmetry tier the embodiment of splendidness P's wife was beautiful just like ysf was amazingly a there was a deep there was something there was a very deep passion there and then ysf realized he says what am I looking for the magot says what am I looking for what are you really looking for P's wife no what are you really looking for and he realized he's looking for the experience of tieras the experience of Harmony of beauty of this type of creative symmetry in life this is what he's looking for so YF said to himself why going to pursue this in its lowest manifestation I could get it from Yakov Yakov is yov is this spiritual Divine Harmony in its source if that's what I'm looking for he suddenly saw the image of yob his father he sublimated that's what he says hel he sublimated the passion from pti's wife into the Divine attribute of tieras and there it's much deeper it's more exciting it's it's more creative it's more wholesome because it's the source of it it's not a poor copy that has devolved myriads and myriads of levels it's actually the pristine Source that's what uh that's what emancipated Yakov so what is the mag teaching you're looking at a phenomenon that is very base it's very promiscuous it's very immoral that was what happening and kazal say but the Temptation was very profound he ran away 15y old with the Smokey oh yeah yeah yeah yeah he was 17 ysf was 17 yeah so what's the mag say the mag is saying in that he said what are you really looking for what you're really looking for you're going to find in Yakov cuz Yakov is Taris so if you go back to the source then you're wasting your time you can really you can really have what you want which means paradoxically you're really looking for the T you're a real addict good I'm with you but let me give you let me give you that which will actually satisfy your addiction not aggravate it so it's not go away from it it's actually go deeper into it if you really really want to know what it is if you really want it so this is the Magid but now since you wrote a book on addiction and Recovery which you're not getting royalties from we established yeah hopefully tomorrow will change maybe the publisher will be listening and [Music] realize so maybe you what does that really mean it's the mag you see it's like wow okay he saw Yer that's what you want and that's where he went to oh he says he went outside he went to an uninhibited place he's like my addiction is not this limited narrow thing I'm an expansive person I'm looking for the truth right the boys are here so now we need I'm clarification clarification We're translating ham sweetness sweet clarification I don't know if you want to do a nigan in between it's up to you you 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pretty it's a pretty cool moment you ever saw a beer so the goats would come out the goats would lift up both of their for legs this happened regularly so one of the great sadim explained that the B Friday night he went out to the field it was alus there was the all the worlds were elevated so the goats were also elevated they also want to elevate themselves so they like lift up their legs in in prayer and and in a moment of transcendence because real Consciousness pervades everybody and everything because if you're in touch with the mag says he says how does a sadic change the world because if your energy if your Consciousness becomes a a mirror of the Divine Consciousness so then it pervades everything including the goats if my Consciousness is separate and broken then my Consciousness is broken but if my Consciousness becomes a conduit for the one the Oneness so then the goats are right in they're there because so the whole Bri comes from that one source of Consciousness so the goats are in so that's why when Jews Jews when The Souls of Jews get inspired you see that they jump you saw those yeah they jump higher higher why why why can't they why why they jumping I guess it's physiological and you don't like what I'm saying [Music] say so uh so what what's theat why could they say still so this physiological reason the real reason is because the Nish is going up the world is going up the body also goes up cuz it's all part of that Oneness so there's a spiritual uplifting which creates a physical so thank you everybody for uplifting us all we have a is going to continue with the big question that we still didn't deal with that we still didn't resolve but we have the honor is here of the one who runs M the whole and the programs and the and the and the and the and everything and I want to ask him to welcome [Music] with and thank you for everything you do for all of us and for the whole community and for the whole thank you the truth is I came to join to be inspired to sing with but just a share a short with the says in the a m from Kahana the gor says that a man that's above 20 starting next week a man that's above 20 you're not because you R to man fora if if it's above 20 arm you can't see so you don't have Pura the nextar right afterwards another mem from rahana this is relevant to this week's para the gar saysana in this week's para the PK says when the threw Y into the Boer the Boer the says there is no water however do were snakes in the bo a separate memor these many try to explain what's the connection of the two rahas the two memas one about Kan and one in regard to this week's para that a Boer the Boer that theat threw Y into didn't have water but it had snakes the truth is if you take a look into this week's paraa in the PK which speaks about throwing Y into the bo it's very interesting why did they throw Y and the Boer Ru said listen they want to kill y I have to bring back YF to the my father so he told the brothers instead of killing him let's throw him into the bo let's throw him into the bo the don't kill him his plan was to be able to bring back to his to bring back YF to his father so the question is he they threw him into a Bo a Bo that had snakes so what exactly was the plan when they threw him into the bo that had didn't have water had snakes what was the chance of his survival so what was the plan he was going to die anyways what did they gain by throwing him into the Boer the others and the truth is even more the gamar says in BR thear says in Yus that if somebody Witnesses a person that's thrown into such a Boyer he could doesn't have to see the person die he could be certain that the person died neb and be made in bezden and his wife could get remarried it's for sure that he died so what was the plan over here that they put him into the Boer and they thought he's going to survive so the over here this week's par explains that when they the is talking about it's deep down more than 20as the shtim didn't see down into the bo and they didn't see that his snakes over there that's what he says and with that he explains first of all when they threw him in they weren't planning on killing him they didn't know that there were snakes in there and that's the connection to what the gamar says right before that a Mana that's higher than 20 is is possible why because you can't see above 20 in the bo also more than 20 hour said they couldn't see into the Boer that's what he says a person many times is in a pit is in a Boer it could be a by is doesn't have doesn't have that's one thing a person doesn't have life he doesn't have SIM that's one thing but then sometimes a person is in a Boer that's to the next level these other things in the B everybody could refer to on their own what type what's crab these other things in the Boer so what do you do the balat was when he went out of jail balat as it's written clearly when he was in jail it was a Bo he was aimed by he was complicated to be able to do mitz and it was also the Russians what they up it was not simple at all but if a person could realize and not let it get to him that a person could survive and not only survive just like theat when they looked into the bar they didn't see the and as a matter of a fact if they would have seen the and survive they would know that he's not in other words the point is that even if a person's in a Bo that has a person could survive not be attached to it the re de Marat was also in jail and as a story that's told over I but Jacobson would say it over clearly with all the proam but I'm going to try to say it clearly to the point they came in once the guards into jail and they they wanted to get information from him so one of the guards pulled out a gun and they told him you see this gun this gun gets people to talk so the reab the Marat said for people that have one life and one world you're right the G gets them to talk but have even after person's also continues that doesn't talk to us in other words if a person could realize not to connect to the bo to a person could a person could not only survive a person could work his his two years ago I think it was two years ago Rabbi Jacobson made the K together was also different stories people we heard him speak and in the book this concept a person could Beil and a Boyer but he's still not he still uh could move along says a different teres says that they that he was but a person has could kill somebody else even if he's not supposed to get killed however a animal cannot kill a person so the when they threw him in that was their if he's a then can't do anything so a person has to know that even if he's in a if a person does the right thing that it can't do anything the is very fortunate to have Rabbi Jacobson give sh I was just this past shabas I was here shabas morning an unbelievable Shear before daving every Tuesday Morning shum for ladies we're starting now to be after khah every morning again which helps us in exactly this for people to maneuver even though we're in a world to be able to not get caught up not to to get caught in the wrong things we should the thank you beautiful thank you so much Shas what uh here I'm just going out what Robie Jacobson was talking about how he was mgab he saw his father saw the image of his father so I I'll I'll tell you another Pat that uh I heard this from the Masia WF Green Glass all of the m in Montreal it's a I don't know where he got it from it's a from P the that YF refused with thealis yeah is the Ravis that he saw YF saw the image of his father in front of him but not like we normally say that he saw the image of his father no no no he saw the image of his father what does that mean his father had a picture of him of YF of his son and when YF was was in his weakest moment he he saw the image of himself the way his father sees him and when he realized how his father sees him not how he saw himself not his false self-concept at that moment if you would have asked YF tell me about yourself he would I'm not very proud of myself not very sure of myself but the reality check was he said hold on a second what what does my father see me as and that that was it that spelled all doubt and then he got Clarity so so here here here's what I here's what I want everybody to know we're saying beautiful stuff over here about every y really only want and even when you were mistaken and you were looking in the wrong place and really it was a lower level manifestation of your thirst for Union With God all these things but uh how do you believe it how do you believe it sounds good it's very inspiring but how do you believe it so this this is what I want everyone to understand you don't believe it because it says it in a book we were saying a few minutes ago that the AL Jacobson mentioned that the B didn't write books the mag didn't write books and the AL ever wrote a book he had to write a whole ad explaining why it's okay to write a book and he writes about the deficiencies of that we were speaking about this a few minutes ago before the about the filter when you read a book you read it through your own subjective filter so remember a nervous person's going to read it and he's going to find more things to make him nervous and that's why the AL what he says why it's okay that he wrote a book because books are dangerous a a person how how many horrendous inhumane unspeakable acts have been committed in the name of the Bible right so you could clearly take a book and read anything you wanted you can turn it into whatever you that's the danger of a book so so at worst it can fuel all types of terrible inhumane Acts or maybe a more benign form of that just will be un inspiring you read it say it's nice it's shaa is nice stuff but you know it's not true or maybe it's true you knowless but it's not true about me if you knew me it's not true about me not true about a guy like me so I promise you that no one's going to believe this because they read it in a book and and the AL is and in the that a book cannot do the trick but this is what the AL says the AL says this is not a book this is a relationship and he establishes nagd I love you you guys know me we've had we've had loving conversations you know there's a saying people don't care what you know until they know that you care you can be very smart you can have all the the smart answers but if you don't show compassion if you don't show an interest in the in in the in the person forget it that's why by the way if anyone ever noticed when I used to write that column the advice column what's the first thing I would always do did anyone notice it's a formula and there's a but there's a reason for it the first thing always before you get into the issue validate valid you have to valid you have and even if the person you you think is very very very confused and their premise is all wrong you have to find something there to validate otherwise you're wasting your time if a person doesn't think you have their interests at heart if they don't think you care if they don't think you get them they cannot hear you so books don't change lives relationships change lives so the Alba says it's not a book it's a relationship and if you're not finding the relationship on the the words of the page he says there are masim in every locality and I am telling them they should step in and they should form that personal relationship with you and here's what I want to tell you when was able to be M because he saw he saw the way his father sees him that wasn't academic that wasn't in theory that wasn't because it says somewhere that is because he had a relationship with his father he knew how his father saw him he' experienced having his father lay eyes on him and see him as his precious beloved Son so what I want I what I want every father here to hear every father in this room I want you to hear this your child anything he will ever believe about Hashem will not be because he read it in a book in fact he may read it in the good holy books and not believe it until he feels it coming from you if your child knows that you see him or her as a as a m even in a body if they know that you see them as precious if you light up when they enter the room I give a parenting course and I was talking about unconditional Pride we all know about unconditional love 20 years ago people said ah not unconditional now everyone says unconditional love but they don't yet say unconditional Pride this is what I'm pushing for and give it a give it a year it'll be normalized and everyone will say it they'll pretend they always said it but unconditional Pride that means tell what's the difference between unconditional love and so there was a one guy in the in the webinar he was a he was a an is so he had problems he's like I don't you got to speak people's language so he says I don't understand unconditional unconditional love I okay even my kid is a bank robber I love him but Pride because I was saying pride is you light up when he enters the room so he said I don't understand what does that even mean what I describe that describe that experience so he was was a rough I think you have to explain the question in other words his his uh moral principles of Life are Guided by sh right his son spits at every one of them so you could say I love him but how do you say I'm proud of him what I'm proud that you Banks so now you're getting deeper so I'm just explaining his question I'm clarification he's a rabbi I'm telling you what he was thinking I'm also a rabbi so but what you you know what I told him and it explained everything I'm not a real R you're right see you're looking for the ham this guy just I told him if if you haven't seen your kids it's a good question if he don't wouldn't believe in you now their point is tolerance is wonderful for people who have no value system right right which is why in America it's the key word today because if you have no value system if God doesn't exist why shouldn't you tolerate Bin Laden you should also tolerate the only one who you don't tolerate is the guy who doesn't tolerate Bin Laden but everybody else you tolerate but if you have a value system so those who have been contaminated by right holy holy holy holy love love love love love love why not I'm proud of everybody cuz Pride doesn't mean anything it just means that I'm smart enough not to get cancelled by the woke culture so I'm proud of you I'm proud of you couldn't care less about you but you're [Music] saying he cares about means something y means something means something we're not negating it we're not negating it there's two things to explain the rabbi's question there's two things even with the what even that's the Paradigm the Paradigm is the with the of course there's a concept of no question you do the right thing the is happy with your with your MIM that's one level then there's a deeper level which has nothing to do with what you did or what you didn't do it has to do with what you are you're says about the to be proud of to boast of is proud of the because he made the before they've even done anything irrespective of what they've done and you can't tarnish it by anything that you do or don't do so of course there's something called pride of their actions and that does fluctuate because it depends on their actions but there's a deeper there's a deeper pride pride of who they are that the Aisha's child but the father feels that he is betraying that identity so what is he proud of you want to get into this should we talk about this you tell me tell me you said unconditional love and unconditional Pride unconditional Pride so just Define unconditional Pride that when he comes into the room you look at a person and what are you seeing elus okay you're proud of elus you're proud of elus and maybe also yes and and the abish that based on his struggles go he's actually trying very hard oh that's another that p z that's another thing now you're adding to it most of these kids for him to get out of bed today was an effort it's not like you you look forward to going to work it gives you an opportunity to leave home after Corona but for him to get out of bed may have been a striner struggle right so that's also something important but you're saying even before that I'm saying even before that just to see like you're saying like you're proud of your one-year-old child why you proud of him he didn't win the Nobel Prize he didn't graduate medical school he didn't even go to the mirr yet when people look at their baby they have Clarity when they look at the baby they're proud of the baby didn't accomplish anything so you clearly understand the idea of Pride that has nothing to do with what the person has done we're very tuned into it when they're babies you know why I have a theory why it's because when they just got to this world they just got their body so we still we still can see the Nish and then after a while we stop seeing the Nish and we start seeing the body and we start judging them and then everything becomes conditional conditional love conditional Pride but if you would see the Nish Nish doesn't change the value of the Nish doesn't change and so our reaction to the Nish shouldn't change and this is what I'm this is the bottom line was M because he saw how his father saw him when he knew that it doesn't just say in the Holy books that he's a nice it says it in a book no he had a relationship with a loving father who saw that in him and that that's how he knew it's true so I'm telling every father here in this room that the greatest spiritual tool and strength that you can give your child to overcome any test is to look at them with this love this Pride to cherish them to try as much as you can to see them as a Nish and if they're doing things that you don't like right now try to look through it try to look past it you know the said you can find in every word of T so they said what about bolock bollock was a Jew hater he says well that's an easy one it's they said hold on a second it's it's it's a base it's not is a not a vas and is a not a so only one letter out of the three is correct he says when it comes to you can't be so [Laughter] picky look through whatever it is that they're doing that's distracting you from the truth you have to know what's the reality and what's the distraction you have to be mature enough don't be triggered Ed don't be triggered by their their by don't buy into the hype see through it see the Nish if you're but I'm a simple Jew how how can I see a Nish I'm telling you if you're a parent you were given this power you were empowered you were divinely deputized you have the ability to see this in your child and when your child will have this sense of identity not because they read it in in in but that for each other we don't believe it because it says in the books but if you believe it because it's it's a relationship because another Jew has seen you this way now you could also believe it when you read it in the books looking at a Jew with a good eye it's Plus at life saving in today's day and age it's life saving so not only am I saying nobody needs your criticism and nobody needs your your your lack of Tolerance and your judgment what I'm saying is see something good see something redeemable and if you don't see it if you don't see it look deeper look deeper and look find the find the even if it's very deep and let that be the identity that that this Jew identifies with but they're not going to believe that that's true about themselves because they read it in a holy book and the Al knew it and he said it'll work if it's based on a relationship so if you believe that you have a relationship with me that said that anyone who learns T is having with the Al it's a relation it's not a book it's a relationship but if that doesn't work for you so in the end of the says so go to your local Masia and you have a relationship ship with him and he tells the local Masia if you don't give this to these people you're May that means you're starving them you know what that means it's not just you're withholding information you're withholding from this person the book that reveals to them the truth of who they are you are spiritually emotionally starving them because you're not letting them know L you're not letting him know his greatness that's your tli that's your tli everything the Al said about the Nish of a Jew was true before T but the AL put it in writing and even more than that he put it in the context of a relationship be that person at least for your own children to start with if you get good at it start doing it for the guy who sits next to you in SHO do it for a stranger on the street but but we need to know this we need to know this we don't believe it until somebody sees it in us and like the story you told about that about that b the fact how long was his interaction with that guy a few minutes and it saved his life because for once somebody looked at him and didn't see him with disdain they didn't they they weren't ashamed of him they they told him you're good you're good you're great you're godly and it saved his life it's this this is this this is not a small matter and of course when you're talking about people who are at risk then it's obvious that we're talking about life and death but I want to tell you something in today's day and age everyone's at risk we all need validation we all need to be told we're good we all need a loving and affirming Jewish context for having an identity we all need it every single one of us needs it and it's not enough that we read it in the books we need to know that there's another person who sees us this way PE people people are dying because they don't believe the truth about them M themselves not because they believe things that weren't true oh Rabbi Jacobson told everyone they were good he was really bluffing to make them feel good and that messed them up no they didn't get messed up because they believed in lies that were you're so good no they believed in the lies that you're irredeemable you're beyond repair there's nothing you can do to come back from this if you ever had any value you you you blew blew it already that's the lie that they're believing in and that's that's the lie that's that's that's costing lives and like we mentioned sometimes there people walking around and they don't look you don't know what's going on internally they they put on a good front we don't realize what somebody's going through what what what what are they looking for and then because they don't have that identity they don't have that relationship ship where they're told that they're so they're going and they're looking in all the wrong places and and it and it just exacerbates it's a vicious cycle so you're telling me Oh this guy's looking in he's doing the wrong things he's he's he's looking in the wrong places so let's humiliate him more so he oh I'm even worse than I thought so I'll lower my standard some more maybe even lower level Pleasures maybe that'll finally do it tell people the truth what d image is it going to do to tell people the truth and don't tell them it says in because I promise you nobody cares that it says in the Holy books until they hear it from another person and then when they hear it from another person then then they'll also believe it when they read the books and this is this is the answer we were talking about before people talking about well you know I've been religious my whole life what what you're going to tell me I was really looking looking for God if I could have found God I would have found him already I was ding three days uh three times a day my whole life I was learning TI my whole life maybe that's not what the Make It or Break It factor is maybe the make it maybe just a theory I'll put it out there maybe the make it or breaker Factor was did you have somebody like theha was for this kid did you have somebody that let you know who you are did it ever happen there's a m talks about yes yesu stopped the sun andamos he stopped the son so the med says that the son told him I you you stop what does it mean he's stopping him stopping him from what the son Praises Hashem with a song this is his this is his Shear that he sings and when you stop the son so you're stopping him from giving his praise to a KES so the son said to Yeshua you can't come in here and stop me from my job who are you you know who I am I'll tell you who I am the son said I am from day four of creation and you you're a human being you're from day six so I've senority you're younger than me even if you count your you go back to all them but that's day six I'm day four you're not the boss of me you don't tell me what to do so Yeshua says to the son he says that's a good point but I have to tell you something I'm not St Yeshua was from which shavit and and about B it says in this week's para that the sun and the moon was B down to [Laughter] him so you hear that you hear this medes and what and what do you think oh what saved Yeshua he came from the right shape like every family connections protexia that's no that's notot because Yeshua was a YF before the sun started talking back to him the only way he was able to stop the sun is because he was able to tell the son the story about YF and how did Yeshua even know the story about YF because he learned it in the to and where did he learn T from his from so comes out Yeshua didn't even know who he was he didn't know he was a sunstopper until he learned from his REO who he was that's a Reb that's a sadic and each one of us has to be that who will be the zes if not we we have to be that in each other's lives we have to tell each other at least tell your kids who they are the are beloved because they're called H's children but it's it's a greater love that they know who they are it's one thing to before the was always and even even before the it was always true but ashem it's a greater love that you know who you are that you know yourself that you've met your true self and you won't be confused about your identity so that's our job in this door is to let every to let every Jew know their true identity and stop lying to them and playing into the convenient lie that they want to hear they want the easy out of course I want to be told that I'm irredeemable but you're not you're not Beyond Redemption and even at your lowest moment you were always connected and you were always looking for the right thing and and I believe in you I believe in you at the moment when you least believe in yourself I still believe in you that's the message today there's no other message today so this is not just feel good pick me up or re Jacobson was everyone to feel this this this today this is life and death we have to tell Jews who they are stop lying to them and letting them lie to themselves you have to tell them the truth proud of you before you did anything they abish just proud of you no ah L right a classic s of tells the Jewish people in he says it a few times you were Rebels betrayers M viers you know real troublemakers Rabel rousers Rebels against God he says but grammatically have a problem should have saided you were Rebels against God it says which means you were Rebels with God ah good question yeah M he never says NE is so he says even when you're rebelling against God you know who you're with right you're with has it was you think they were detached from Hashem that's what that's all he says what what does he mean was a feel good V what a joke so now every sinner could do whatever he wants but some people when they hear what you're saying they feel like you give justification to frivolousness and immorality because was going to say I'm so proud of you my russan so proud of you my corrupted sick filthy child I'm proud of you right so they feel that your message yeah feeds into narcissism laziness Abu I want to say abduction addiction maybe we sing a song for our children before you before you uh answer the question sing was a beauti beautiful song it's a kabad n that was composed by the famous kov K family one of the great composers in kabad famous family it's on the prayer it's from and we say it we say it it's a beautiful and I want to ask our dear uh vocalist and singer world-renowned Ellie Marcus Ellie Marcus [Music] this The Eighth Day and he's the ninth [Music] day [Music] I [Music] Jo [Music] oh [Music] he it's all [Music] all and [Music] [Applause] [Music] you oh [Music] oh may you [Music] know [Music] oh are [Music] know sh thanks for the broadcast for the broadcast one one of the you say this sck of Concepts in t it's a it's a it's from brings it in the name of the IDE one NE is called NE he doesn't call it that later calls iTab the animal Soul why is it called an animal Soul so basically what he explains about the the animal soul if you want to say it in 2021 English it's the Instinct for self-preservation so my neab my animal Soul has one job to keep me alive and anything that's a threat anything I I identify as a threat I have to get rid of it that's the fight ORF flight the adrenaline rush now some sometimes wants to speak into the mic for the internet sometimes it's funny the mic works for the for the um live stream but not for the PA system so I still have to use the mic even though I don't and the lesson is the lesson is sometimes you don't hear it but the words are going where they need to go Oh I thought sometimes the people on the outside hear everything and the people right on the inside hear nothing but present company is of course excluded the nef shabam the animal soul is the the survival Instinct its job is to keep me alive and generally if everything's going well it does a pretty good job of it it reminds me to eat it reminds me to take care of myself but sometimes it gets thrown out of whack and the survival instincts they outgrow their functionality and it and so if it tells me to remember you got to eat every day you know the the balat who was the son of the mag and they used to call him the Malik why did they call him the Malik because he was a mu he was completely separate from from any physicality and he would forget to take care of himself he passed away at a young age and that's why when that when the alter have named a son after him he called him cuz he should be he should be like but not only a he should actually have a a physical life as well so the neab generally does a good job if it reminds me to eat every day that's that's that's functionality but sometimes it exceeds its functionality it tells me that even after a good meal and maybe I need to eat ice cream and then not just some ice cream I need to eat all the ice cream and when ice cream finished when when when the carton is empty then it's finished right so the ne jaamis is exceeding its functionality but but here's the thing the the the whole the that the AL is speaking about in terms of a and not as a changes the whole discussion I'm not evil I'm just trying to survive you understand neab isn't immoral it's amoral immoral means I know the difference between right and wrong and I'll I'm gonna do wrong because I have a I have a special Gish in doing something that's an evader that's not NIS just wants to do whatever he thinks will keep him alive whatever he thinks will keep him alive he's aoral and sometimes he makes bad choices what what do you want he's a beher doesn't have a moral compass so for that the has to introduce the the idea of morality The Godly Soul has the idea of morality morality is an abstraction it's it's very deep it's very hard to relate to the ne relates to the concrete I see the food I want it my body is reacting I'm salivating it's very physical so whatever that's real Kus you know that like es scafa like holding back these things are abstract these are these are these are not you know it's like a little kid when Mommy leaves the room he thinks mommy's never coming back because if she's not in the same room she doesn't exist anymore right because a little kid doesn't think abstractly yet you can't think of anything that's outside of the room so morality is like that morality is an abstraction morality is not physical it's it's an idea it's Ras so neas doesn't appreciate that kind of stuff but but it's not immoral it's just aoral and it's just trying to survive and here's what you have to know sometimes things happen and the the the little animal Soul learns methods for survival the little animal soul is is living in a little person when that's you I'm talking about you when you were a kid you're growing up in the family where you grew up and and you thought you had the only crazy family you know there's two kinds of people in the world normal people and people who you actually know if you actually know them you'll find out everyone's crazy that's why when when when make make a sh with the oh no no no not not oh that family from Australia they seem good because you don't know them you never met you don't know how messed up they are from Australia they seem good then then then you you marry them you realize they're crazy like everybody so the little NE is growing up in a house and it's learning survival skills so when the the dysfunction whatever the dysfunction was that happened in in my home my neab is learning how to survive so some of some some animal Souls learn how to survive by by being very good at hiding they know how to be unseen go under the radar when there's dysfunction they know how to hide some animal Souls learn how to survive by fighting you going to yell at me I'll yell at you some animal Souls learn how to survive being the peace broker you know the the the Diplomat it's okay everybody calm down it's The Negotiator some animal Souls learn how to survive by uh being the comedian you know discharge everything brush it off with a joke get everyone laughing ahh now there's peace right some animal Souls learn how to survive through distraction deep deep distraction just go off into my corner and sell self stimulate and just be numb from the world and just be in my little they they say a story there was uh they say about hes stro maybe it was him maybe it was someone else but there was a guy who was a nudnik and if you would come to his house he'd feed you he wouldn't let you eat because he wouldn't you'd make conversation so herel came to his house and uh he put out the soup and he's trying to eat the soup and the guy starts to make conversation what town are you from oh that town you know better he says yeah he's dead oh no Barrel's dead and as the guy is reeling from the shock herel eats the soup so then he you know he serves the the the salad and he says you know schm yeah he's dead oh no as he's reeling from the shock you know herel finishes the soup or the salad and go so through every course he's dead Mia is dead everyone's okay the end of the meal her eats good and then he says by the way everyone's fine but when I'm eating the world is dead so we learn that pleasure and self-stimulation and and sensorial stimulus that kind of stuff like as long when I'm eating when I'm self-stimulating so then the world is dead and then I don't know about the dysfunction around me and I'm numb to it and I'm I'm distracted I'm distracted and and so the ne jaab is a little animal Soul he's just trying to survive he doesn't know he's killing you he doesn't know how dysfunctional this is his job is to perpetuate self survival and he doesn't realize he's he's destroying you but he's not immoral we have to talk to the to the animal soul and we have to let him know you don't have to do that anymore to survive you're okay you're safe you're safe you're okay now if he's a little kid and he's not safe and he's in a dangerous situation then it's our job as a community to get the child safe but I'm talking about all of us who are sitting here we were once that child you were once that child and your animal Soul learned a lot of things that it thinks are coping mechanisms that it needs to survive and that's why you think that if you don't give into your tia you're going to die it feels like you're going to die why because when you learn learned to use that TI as a coping mechanism it was a survival mechanism it was the fight ORF flight it was the survival mechanism animal Soul trying to keep me alive doing its best with an animal brain to keep me alive so we are not bad people trying to become good we're broken people trying to become whole again and when we're whole again when we're healed we'll automatically do the right think maybe once upon a time maybe once upon a time in history there was such a thing as a real Russia as somebody who was emotionally healthy had good self-esteem and they were just for the heck of it became AI just for the heck of it like what was his problem what was messing with him no just do does such people exist today is is there anybody who chose to go away from the path of to and that decision came from a place of emotional well-being I didn't meet the person yet I didn't meet them yet is there anyone in this Dart now maybe once upon a time there were such people they were emotionally healthy or once upon a time there was the MS of an emotionally healthy Russia I don't think they exist today I think anyone who's making morally bad choices if they would be emotionally healed they would make better choices so what do they need they need to be told they're bad or they need to be emotionally strengthened and then they'll have the ability to do what they knew was right already I it could be that historically things were different but I think I think things are different today I think the a is [Music] I'm people have asked me before what are you doing with Generations Millennia of you're throwing it all out the window everything has its time and place there were such people in history who they didn't have emotional issues they were just doing they were doing bad today if you'll strengthen anyone if you'll make anyone feel more loved more validated you'll soothe their nervous system so they'll feel safe they will automatically make better moral choices I've never seen any different than that I don't know what what do you say something to this so this is I mean you're making a very serious statement yeah you're basically saying that we don't have yaras the concept of the Yahara as an evil inclination doesn't really exist we're not bad people trying to become good we are broken people trying to become whole could anybody raise their hand if you disagree about yourself you're emotionally healthy you love your mother you love your father you love your wife you love yourself but you just hate God and anybody you love life life is awesome and you really like yourself but really drives you crazy huh missing yeah so so let's define it this way yes let let's define it this way what's aara we say we all have aara I mean right nobody says I don't have aara I have AAR so what does this Yara look like anybody has a picture of the Yahara we would like to analyze him Yahara is always translated as the evil inclination yeah the evil inclinations the so people look at themselves and they say I have thisara I have bad inclinations but in t the balat chooses in most cases he uses very infrequently the common word is so RAB is explaining he was trying to introduce a new a deeper not a deeper conscious about self don't look at Yar as this bad monster no the poor guy is just trying to survive right he's a little puppy a little elephant H maybe a frog maybe a reptile maybe a fish he's a he fish maybe a tuna maybe a heading he's trying to survive maybe he's actually a lioness a hyena a shenze but the poor guy is trying to survive yeah so he's not a he's not bad he just has the consciousness of an animal and the consciousness of an animal has a very limited [Music] Consciousness but the truth is the Tanya was WR the Tanya was published in 1796 okay there was not an x-ray in the world yet there was certainly no CAT scan in the world yet nobody knew that there's a cell or an adom at least the way we Define an Adam I know the Greeks had the word Adam it's their word but the way we Define an Adam nobody knew about uh neurons or DNA molecules nobody even knew that there's a virus or a germ or bacteria or fungus the 1790s but the AL distinguish between an animal Consciousness and a transcendental a a UB a Divine Consciousness the last few decades Neuroscience explodes and what do we learn when now we have x-rays of the brain CAT scans of the brain images literally right neuro images images of the brain especially brains that have that have gone through serious upheavals and affected the person's behavior and executive functioning abil ities and what do we see we see that the brain is actually made up of different parts the stem of the brain which they call the earliest part of the brain they call The Reptilian Brain in other words it has the vantage point the consciousness of a reptile a reptile survives and a reptile responds to danger and that brain responds to Danger they call it that migdala then you have the lyic brain which they call the brain of the mammal the animal's brain where there's emotional emotions but it's animal emotions and then there's the prefrontal cortex here this is the human brain which can think longterm long-term Vision it can delay gratification delay benefit can think about right and wrong even more than just emotions like transcendental or moral thoughts so a person can operate from a different level of the brain like says there and so it's incredible that the T really focuses and tells us about that self-awareness so is your am migdala evil it's not evil it's a cute little reptile it's like an alligator crocodile just trying to keep you alive huh just trying to keep you alive the alligator stays alive and I could live in that space and I could really live in that space But then the what happens is the alligator of the fish they're just cute little animals they not so cute depends what type of fish but sometimes you say that this uh this wounded reptile or this wounded ml mhm really had to go to extremes and he becomes completely uh out of whack right so now your prefrontal can't even work you're completely uh consumed by an impaired uh identity with core beliefs that are that are compromised which they call today trauma so does the Tanya discuss trauma the whole Tanya is predicated on the premise of trauma what's trauma nobody knows but everybody has it that's right everybody how could nobody had loving parents so listen to me embodiment is the trauma for a to come down into Al and to be stuck in a physical body that's the first and the primary trauma everything on top of that is don't only to exacerbate it the whole situation of the Nish in a goof is traumatic for the Nish and by the way in pic Bas of T it says if you want to transcend and begin to heal the embodiment trauma you should meet a sad at whose state in embodiment has not affected the purity of his Nish and when you meet him you're meeting your true self and your trauma of embodiment begins to heal and that's the relationship with the sadic is really to reconnect with your own origin in it says the the origin of all the nishas and that's when the embodiment trauma can begin to heal which is another way of saying what I said before finding someone who believes in you finding a who looks at you and sees good sees who you really are so embodiment is the trauma you need any more trauma than that somebody can look at you and heal the trauma who will be the zes if not we who will be the zes if not we who are the zes you have to be it you have to be it no you and you and you and you look I start with me see me for who I am don't worry about yourself is difficult we are we established that so skip yourself look at me look at me see the real me so anyone who learns Pedic Bas of Tanya anyone who learns Pedic Bas of Tanya today becomes M to be this sadic that's described in Tanya in terms of being able to look at other Jews and see their essential goodness don't tell me don't tell me who is the sadic today who can look past all of our Mish and all of our and see the re you have to do this this is this is this is the call of the hour this is what we have to learn to see each other this way we have to see each other this way skip yourself start with me start with me that's why sometimes the best thing you can do for your own spirituality is to help somebody out help somebody else out with theirs we know that trick it's the oldest trick in the bu in in in the book is when when you're struggling with yourself when you feel worthless help somebody else and that's what he says in he says why did H say the whole because if you want to get out of yourself start loving other people that'll Force you out of yourself and then after you love other people then revisit your own self-image we have to do this we have to look at each other this way this is not just about being compassionate or about being nice this is about the survival of yish kite the Bal saved yish kite when it was on the precipice of God forbid absolute Extinction B's name was is and he came to call out is which is the name of every single Jew and to revive them from their alas from their faint and what was the B's message that you're good that a y is a there a there a that was the life-saving message and there was a on the there was a on the AL there was always a that ham talk about ham what was the K of the k was sh we all know it's true but what's with the ham why do you have to say it so clearly people are going to actually figure out what we're talking about and there was a just say it just say it so two three guys will say it so the only people will understand or the people are already get it and there was a whole in thez sh in the end it was decided that the AL should go around and explain it to us so that we could understand it why the only way that the AL was permitted to do it is if it was deemed life-saving it was the whole mush of the Ben melik I mean we probably any any you've been at you've heard the mush but we'll say it again that this is actually the the mush that the AL himself came up with to save the mag was tining that the writings of were flying in the streets and the Al he said there was a king he had a beloved Son who fell ill and then there was a wise man who said there's only one cure for your son it's to smash up a precious gem to mix it with water and you take that solution it's a medicine and the and the sun will drink it that will cure him he says so let's do it there's no question he says well here's the catch the only place where that gem exists is in your crown and your son's so sick even if we try to pour the the medicine down his throat it might just dribble onto the floor so you may smash your Gem and still not save your son and the father says it's a risk I'm willing to take because without my son what's my crown this is what the Al said to p and then he later he came to the mag the mag said that he was on trial and Sh and the AL saved him and then later on the same was against the AL why the ask this question why why would the K was was revived because the AL pushed it he pushed the envelope he said it more explicitly more clearly more in layman's terms more relatable but the upshot of it is it was to save the king's son's life and if it would have been determined that this is inspiring stuff and it's uplifting stuff and it makes us feel good but it's not life or death it would never have been permitted it was only permitted when it was determined that this is life or death and then it was permitted so it is life or death that we let Jews know who they are it's not a joke this is not inspiration this is not oh I want to just uh you know I want to feel more spiritual I want a spiritual high for that it would never have been Justified that the that that the gemstone should be crushed what does it mean crushing the gemstone it means that were not known for Generations except for and now all of a sudden anybody could go pick up a safer and learn these secrets that's what's called crushing the gem and turning into a medicine and it was only Justified because it was the only way to save the king's son's life so this is not a luxury this is a necessity this is vital if we don't say this and mean it and look at each other like this people will die people are dying it's not a joke I I promise you if this was just to make people feel good I I'm not that interested in making people feel good but it is my understanding that this is necessary to Keep Us Alive And if you don't tell a Jew that he's a mish and if you don't tell him that even when he's doing wrong he's just confused and it's really just his neab trying to stay alive and misund understanding what it really needs to be doing if you don't tell him the truth about himself the results are devastating we cannot afford not to speak about this it's not a luxury we cannot afford not to speak about this you care about them the person you're thinking of right now does he know does he know does he feel your love if they're a Jew they're the type of person that you would love it's not going to make a difference it will then prove me wrong then go do it and prove me wrong I think for some people but I think there are certain out there that they're beyond Redemption I think unfortunately C gr that we have you know why they're impenetrable because we keep telling them how important to is we don't tell them how important they are don't show them you love them give them chicken soup and a and put your arm around them and sing a song with them you want talk about sematic healing we talk about sematic heal I want talk about sematic soothing the animal we sit together we have a lot of sensorial stuff going on there's the physical the tactile the K athetic and we sing a song and this is very physical because we're healing we're healing over here okay you can't get this from a book you can't just read about it in a book it has to be a relationship it has to be human beings it has to be and the more smooshing the better actually you know that secret so if they want to Davin you would tell them to delete the words you wouldn't tell them to delete the words do you think those words are true no why are we soed also we think of ju that we think we they don't listen there's a tons a thousand more that they are ready to listen and sometimes we so focusing just got continue do what's your first name what's your first name good name there's an argument between you and Rabbi T the only way we can resolve it is you'll start loving love with all your heart and soul yeah after six months you loved Mish with your whole heart every day and then you say then we be able to prove it as long as you're not ready to go into the relationship we don't have skin in the game you got to have skin in the game you know the with the vision you know the but maybe they're not open because I'll tell you I was at a Mitzvah of a uh of a it was actually you remember we spoke about the Grand Canyon you remember the helicopter crash on the Grand Canyon a few families so it was one of the boys dascal dascal family I went to the B mitzvah for shabas in bar Park so I was sitting near a relative he was a son-in-law of the VIS of so he told me a story beautiful beautiful story in Kaa firsthand he knew the story in Kaa there was a r in a big sh and nearby the sh there was a Jew who who had a store open on shabas an Israeli it was a clothing store and it was a big successful store and the rabbi went to him and said you know it's right near the sh it's disrespectful people come to DAV and the store is open and people are walking in and out I'm not really I don't believe in shabas the store is going to be open so maybe you could close it till after daving you know 11:00 just close it no way the biggest day of business after a while the store was successful it was filled with people and he felt very bad so he came to the vision for advice I think it was I think and he said what should I do you hear imagine he's asking him a Jew in in the Holy Land right near the sh close your store for a few hours I'm not asking you for close it for a day a few hours so the VIS asks he says I want to ask you a question do you love this Jew Li he says how could you love him he didn't just say how could you love him you know we don't get along we don't get along you know my ego and his ego don't we don't have the same sense of humor he's like that was that's not what he said he's a he's desecrating shabas in public not in front of two people not in front of his wife in front of dozens maybe hundreds of Jews how could you love him and he does it willingly and he does it publicly it's one of the worst categories in you know what the ra writes about such a Jew very serious words in terms of their wine in terms of other things so the seted vision doesn't back off yeah he says these words the son oflaw told me FS huh I thought French how do you know that you hate him because he's desecrating the shabas publicly maybe he's desecrating shabas publicly because you hate him in other words he says maybe you're guilty for the fact that the store is open on shopas not him huh so he he he asks he asks him he says maybe that's I'm tell you maybe it's for words you're you're you're the one responsible you're screaming at him so he says I don't know but what what do you want me to do she says hey if my theory is right maybe I don't know but if my theory is right it's up to you start loving him so he said I don't like the guy I really don't like him he if you care about chabas so much my theory may be 50% right let's see start it's not going to get worse the show the store is open right so it's not like you're going to open it it's open experiment it's a perspective perspective means you have to learn more not just learn you probably learned Breathe It In Breathe It in yeah exactly going to breathe it in so uh so he says I don't like him he says start says he says next shabas go into his store give him a hug and tell him you love him but it has to be real it has to be real can't be fake he says but make it real he's a Drew make it real work you have a whole week till shabas figure it out work on yourself to his credit he went shabas morning he went into the store right right which without perspective what would he say the gangster is attacking me again right which now we know is the reptile in him talking or the mammal the mammal which is threatened right he was called a nudnik yeah and is threatened when somebody calls me a nudnik what do I do fight a flight I fight a flight I run from the store and I scream at the sermon about shabas nobody knows I'm screaming because I'm a reptile who felt threatened by the store so I'm letting out my anxiety through screaming at the right but now we're psychoanalyzing somebody who never came to us for therapy so we shouldn't huh huh yeah say or or or what happens here what happens or he says to himself maybe I could respond from my neiss in other words maybe I could look at the world from God's perspective meaning from my own inner broad expansive infinite secure confident Divine holy sacred glorious beautiful self and then I could say okay he's getting annoyed by me because I represent 4,000 years of Judaism and he's you know busy with his own anger and let me be the person who shows him who he is is and that's what he did he went shabas to and he went in said Nik he didn't call him the rabbi call him the he says relax I didn't come he says what are you here for he got he got I came to tell you that I love you I said you must be crazy right what was he really saying you can't love a guy like me tell me the truth I'm a m shabas in other words I'm irredeemable in other words let me continue to hold the store open on shabas cuz I'll never be a good Jew but he got it so he said no no no I love you so he said why again what is he really asking for tell me that you're just joking right there's no real why I'm a horrible Jew and then we we're good I continue with the store I go back to my comfort zone you go back I'm off the hook tell me you hate me and I'm off the hook yeah tell me the truth I'm not part of the people I'm an independent I'm an individualist I'm unorthodox what do they call it unorthodox and you believe it right don't tell me I'm Orthodox tell me I'm unorthodox then I can make a film don't make believe you know what I'm talking about in the back so uh so what happens so what happens so the Jew says why do you love me so he says cuz you're Jewish I'm Jewish we're brothers we have one soul I love you you're my brother and he gives him a hug what and the guy you know at that point it's it's a cute it's a cute experience and he gives him back a hug but the set Vis told them every shabas every shabas you go through this he says if not maybe you're the guilty one don't blame him blame yourself let's stet 6 months later the store was closed 6 months later the store was closed yeah now let's say wouldn't have accepted the advice 10 years later when the store is open he comes home every shabas to his wife and he says Rush he feels himself as the tadic and that guy the rush never would have he imagined that he's guilty for what's going on H he would have never realized the vision saved him he helped him become aware so you're saying that your child is such a disappointment he's destroying the family look what he's doing to you maybe you're actually the one who allowed it to happen or maybe at least didn't prevent it when you could have prevented it cuz you're not ready to go into that relationship but here's the thing what if the father is really the reason the father is not ready is because he's [Music] broken the father himself is incapable no father himself is is is is frozen father himself spaced out many years ago you can't be in a relationship I'm asking yeah the father himself is wounded huh right we're going to blame now the Father the father himself is is a child so now we're going to blame the father's father who was an aitz so there's no blame there so now we're going to blame his father right just go back to the snake H it's got to happen when's it supposed to happen who who's going to do it this is it this is this is the AA today of course there's trauma embodiment is the trauma and and 2,000 years of Gus is the trauma is the trauma so of course but we have to be the ones to stop it we can't perpetuate it so first you say that every addiction is really you're looking for God yeah Yung said and he said the maget said so the mag said yeah okay and says you're just looking for the song you just want the song the song for became YouTube you're really looking for another fine song became a certain substance you're really looking for God yeah you get it yeah but then you said that your animal soul is just trying to survive yeah so he's doing crazy things to survive he's not looking for God well it's not crazy there's a method to his Madness it works right but he's not looking for God he's looking to survive so which one is it you think with the so this is why you have to have a concept called I but neither of them is evil right I have one soul that even when it's doing stupid things is really only looking for God that's called my NE I have another soul that even when it's doing stupid things it's only trying to survive that's called the ne shabis and maybe with a little bit of love and a little bit of guidance I can start looking for the right things but neither of these Souls is evil and telling me that I'm evil is not helpful to me and I told you maybe once upon a time there was a msus of an emotionally healthy Russia I believe such people once upon a time people had egos they had really strong healthy people had a very strong sense of self and so if they did the wrong thing they were they were doing it from a a strong emotional place they were really doing evil today tell show me the person who's emotionally strong and healthy and and and is from such a place of emotional well-being choosing to be immoral I didn't see such a thing I only saw the opposite that when you see the person who's struggling with morality but you you strengthen them emotionally all of a sudden mamal this miracle happens and they're stronger morally my father Alam was a Russian he grew up in Russia in communist Russia he liked Russian poetry I don't know Russian I certainly don't know Russian poetry my father would sometimes walk around the house singing Russian poetry by a man named Pushkin Alexander Pushkin who was considered Russian's greatest poet or one of Russian's greatest poets my father knew pushkin's poems by heart and he yeah my father was an interesting person and he would sing pushkin's poems he loved pushkin's poems so we grew up with Pushkin it was like you know whenever we were looking to blame somebody and my mother said who ate the cake Pushkin Pushkin was the household name you know he was guilty and everything cuz you know Pushkin was Pushkin so Pushkin was one of the greatest literary Giants in Russian history and Russia produced literary Giants as the Russians know they won't let you forget they won't let you forget Russia you know was in in some way is a very sophisticated country despite all of its curses so uh the alterb revealed the B revealed in Ukraine revealed in Russia Belarus Lithuania Russia so Pushkin Alexander Pushkin died at the age of 36 if I'm not mistaken and you know how he died he died from a duel a duel you know what a d D is Aus we call it an argument a duel was a fight it was a fight this was very common you embarrass somebody and they had to save face and protect their dignity and they challenged you to ad door do and Pushkin was slain so here's the greatest literary giant who died yeah from a duel because somebody denigrated his honor do you know anybody forget about literary Giants do you know anybody garbage collectors who will die today from a duel a duel a man who was a celebrated Talent a celebrity a charismatic person a tday is worshiped for his talent but he died for his honor he was ready to take a dagger in his chest for what not even for money for covet you know anybody like that Mr neish for your ego today you look for somebody who has an ego forget Mr neish can you even live a day for your ego me I got no ego and the guy with the biggest ego is the guy with the biggest insecurities this means that the challenge then was there was a real y so you needed B you needed to take this yes and say you know what relax Pushkin relax the guy's are it's fine you go on right a poem tomorrow you'll make another million Ruble you're good you buy a second a third house in the Riviera you're good bushin you're fine thear would love to see you Thursday night by the ball right pushin relax today not only do people not die from a duel they don't even understand what it means you embarrass me you go to therapy you die you go to therapy for a year embarrass him back go to the kiddish Club shers drink it out whatever it is you'll figure it out yeah go eat a few pies of pizza some sushi macaroni with ketchup you know binge a little bit you need you whatever it is you'll figure it out Monday at the therapist 10 o00 you'll talk about it you'll pay him a few hundred dollars but Pushkin died so today our n our test is not yes the big ego we don't see it what we see is a a lot of anxiety and a lot of self-loathing test is exact opposite person is broken person says to themselves I'm unworthy I'm Unworthy of love I'm filth I'm really damaged I know how traumatized I am I come into a and I'm self-conscious for two hours self-conscious I'm sitting here even you mentioned B all I'm thinking about is how I'm experiencing and who's anybody knows what I'm talking about anybody has inner mental chatter you go into a wedding you're like free right who's the at a wedding when a Drew comes you're the right I don't I know why the camera is not focusing on me when I come why is he focusing on the and he got the wrong guy cuz he's paying that's it photographer would focus on you of course you're the guy you're the you're the man you're the main character you're the character at least in your mind there's nothing else going on this PO what is that it's called yeses it means I can't even afford for 10 seconds to stop thinking about myself you know why cuz I'm at the edge of a cliff you stop thinking about yourself you're dead you're dead so how much yeses is that that's you have to hold the pieces together you know you're holding a broken you know you're holding a broken vessel together you let go for a second you're shattered hold on like this I hold there's not amount there's not an amount of there's not even a ceneter of yeses there it's deep deep profound uh disintegration and Brokenness and you speak to the person for 10 minutes honestly and you see that deep down he's a disappointment and he has good reasons for it so what now what becomes a hasem a hasem means you need to build up the person you need to build up the person so didn't like the word Yahara so much not because we don't have aara but because he wanted to help us heal from the Yahara so he said instead of looking at yourself as evil just realize you're you're a wonderful wonderful person can you have awareness of the fact that there's two parts of your brain that are dominating your decision making they're dominating your Consciousness you're operating on a level of Consciousness that's literally reflective of a reptile's level of Consciousness or a mammals an animals level of consciousness and you're trying to survive so your wife made a comment your child made a comment and you're fighting for your life you're fighting for your life your wife said you forgot to bring home kala for shabas can't let her do it because you'll die if you don't answer her you'll die she all she was talking about was kala but what did you hear you didn't hear kala we could live without kala we have sour d bread you're worthless get out for Kal because you're an idiot unable you're irredeemable you're miserable you were born of schlamazel and and your mother is proof of it she's also schlam so it's not like it's a shil it's and and your grandmother me forget it and your father is also no winner which is why he runs the sh out of me this sh so you're not your wife is not talking about your wife is is talking to a four-year-old who experienced himself as somebody who's unworthy for eternity now she said you forgot the kala he didn't hear you forgot kala he heard you forget everything right so what is he supposed to do now say oh I'm sorry I forgot the kala let me go pick it up all right now now this guy comes to his mentor and he tells him what happened cuz he's a good guy so the guy says you have to make another Shear you need another she whatever he tells him to learn to do whatever so he learns it he's a good guy he makes a new Shear right which means he comes home late so his wife makes another comment so the poor guy after the bu year now loses it comes back the next day I finished the saer it got worse so what do I tell him so I could come he could come in I tell him you know I knew you were evil but so evil wow right that's going to help his marriage a lot or you could say don't you realize that you're actually a very good person you actually didn't need to learn you know exactly what the right thing is you're trying to change for 25 years you think you're happy being angry at your spouse every single Friday you're happy being angry at the shabas table every single week really when you start singing and you think about Baron of Carin right and the poor guy is so stressed that's like you know so what is it the guy doesn't have to learn more he actually knows everything he's a good person he didn't even have choices I don't think he had a choice he didn't even have a choice it's like par the mor says this you know this unbelievable the mor says how can hasem make par he takes away his choice you can't do that then you punish him you're going to punish a tiger and a beer and a lion I mean come on the rambam's question right you take away paris's Choice and then you punish him that's beautiful you know the says R gives an explanation the ran gives theid gives everybody this is a big question but the says that mha was actually just Hashem was actually describing to mha what living in Gus looks like that's all he was describing it's an incredible he was just describing to Mya let me describe to you why Jews should leave Egypt which is a good question it's a same question of why you should learn it's the same question of why should you leave Egypt why from an emotional point of view you make it work so he says look at par and you'll understand living in Egyptian Exile in other words living in parro's territory means that you actually don't have choices in life the H that's what he writes you don't that's what it means that's exactly what it means you're simply dominated by a certain way of thinking and you're paralyzed it's not even your fault that's the key it's not like you're being punished huh yeah you're you're in Chains you're punched in Chains she spoke to you about kala you didn't choose to react that way your poor reptile or mammal is trying to survive and that's their only way of reacting it's like can you have compassion for them can you actually look at what just happened can you be an objective bystander so to speak that's why self-awareness for the alterb for for for the alterb and his student self awareness was important because without self-awareness there's no Divine awareness you know why because you confuse the Divine with your reptile when there's self awareness there could be divine awareness when there's self awareness you could say oh wow I'm in Exile oh my God and there's no Redemption without awareness that you're an exile because if I don't aware I'm not aware that I'm in Galos where's the Redemption so when the the bov says Gus and G are all in Das it's all perception so this fellow suddenly could become aware I'm simply being triggered by instincts that need to survive that have been been abused at certain points in life and they're really good they're really innocent little puppies or monkeys that are just doing their job so instead of actually saying you're bad can you just say I'm broken I'm broken now here's the key in Tanya it says that Rah doesn't mean bad Rah means broken P of T which is amazing because it's it's it's so much more it's so much more uh at it's so much more uh teaching us of the core of it a broken wall a flimsy wall so what does RA mean what does evil really mean the beginning of evil is not a cannibal cannibalism the beginning of evil is it's not so evil it's just Brokenness my wall Falls it's not not attached I'm not connected what am I not connected to I'm not connected to my own truth I'm not connected to the truth of reality I'm not connected to the truth that I am part of a whole that I'm part of infinity that I'm a is separate I'm broken that's right and you'll notice that everything that people go to which is immoral unethical is basically because of Brokenness so if I'm telling you that you're broken and I'm believing it instead of helping you get closer what am I doing I am ensuring that you never get closer cuz you were the per I'm the last person you're coming to because I have a black hat I got a black coat I have a guy I'm the last guy you're coming to so I'm the one who will make it or break it what do I say I tell you I don't have to tell it to you I feel I don't tell you anything because I'm a nice guy but I feel this is uh this is a really really bad Jew this is a hopeless guy it's a sick per this is a sick Jew makes me dis he disgusts me this kid of mine makes my life miserable boy told me his father told him would have been much easier if you would have died our family would have been much better off right the father meant it and the father's a nice guy so you're telling me that's a nice guy I'm telling you he's a nice guy but you know which part of him said that to his son which part of him said it it's called The Reptile reptiles don't have emotions but you're a cadile you're trying to survive and this kid right is embarrassing you so what is this kid telling you he's telling you that if he lives you're dead because you tried 30 years to be a good member of society and this kid is telling everybody my [Laughter] father right that's not nice so this kid is telling me that I got to go destroy that my whole life is nothing so I need to survive so I talk to this kid from such a broken Place says you're not even guilty your animal took over I get it you're trying to survive and the moment you know that you're actually in a good place you know why CU now you could choose between galus and Gula now you can say I'm going to react for my child from the reptile inside of me or I'm going to react to my child from the innermost wholesome Infinity inside of me and then the question is not what this kid said or what my neighbor thinks the question is what Hashem wants me to do for for this girl for this boy and I'm in I'm in it's time for barbecue it's time for a hike time for foot whatever it is time for a nigan time for some Pilates whatever it is it's not it's not relevant the relevance is that you're you're you're an ambassador of God you're not a victim but this is not easy it's a paradigm shift all of life is a par is a paradigm all of life is a paradigm shift from the ne and is not a bad guy he's actually actually he also needs a mass he also needs a little love so this is the Paradox the more the more you get give love to the ne Bahamas the less you become a victim of the ne Bahamas right because you see him for what he is it's like a wounded puppy you don't have he's just trying to survive like a wounded mosquito depends which level of Consciousness you're in there's puppy mosquito reptile that you'll ask your wife you know which level before the chant after the chant before exercise after exercise before you made KES after you made KES there's levels says a lot of levels so that depends you know where you are you know level of anxiety green red you know super red uh 911 whatever it is but that's Thea but the more you can accept its deficiencies and understand where it's coming from the more you could say but you know what I really don't have to stay there I could live in a much more expansive space awareness becomes the key of G that's says is and G is but this is a daily this is daily work because we can fall back into that that mode where H so this was Al was all about pus meaning real it's not it's not feel good Judaism uh you're all good you're holy you're divine you know let's now just get high and uh God I love you you love me and and that's it until it wears off that's that could be very superficial because everybody soers up and when you sober up there's real stuff going on a lot of reactions a lot of triggers so that spoke so much about the because he wanted you understand what the triggers are he wanted you to understand because when you understand it you for the first time you can be emancipated and and you don't have to feel guilty that you didn't obliterate it because it's actually the best thing you can do under these circumstances in a way you have to thank the animal Soul because he's trying to do a good job surviving and you know what he's not developed yeah he doesn't have Aim so you teach him you'll educate him so the war the war that we speak about inim is not a war of obliteration it's a campaign for Education it's really you have to educate yourself that's what it is so when you look at a person we're not looking at bad people who are bad or trying to become good you're looking at a person who's broken and that's what ra is the ra is thear is I have an inclination here it is Yahara translation Yahara you here new translation what's Yahara I have a a a deep inclination to embrace the belief that I'm broken that's the I have a very deep inclination I have a very deep Instinct that tells me you're a loser you're you're broken you're lonely you can't trust the world and you're unworthy and now deal with it and now I need to survive cuz I don't want to kill myself so I want to survive so I do what I need to survive and part of that is I space out from all relationships or I'm aggressive or I'm narcissistic why are people narcissistic so Al came to teach us with neam not just theam he also taught us how deep the is because if it's not a struggle between regular good and evil that you really want evil it's a struggle between a healthy brain and a damaged brain so who wins I mean who do you want to win we know who you want to win it's like it's a no-brainer once you learn Tanya it's a no-brainer I mean you want to be a broken person or a whole person you want to see yourself from a place of wholeness so you realize how good you are it's just I don't realize how good I am and that's the issue I don't have evil my evil is that I think I have evil my evil is that I I I think I'm devastated I'm broken which is what causes me to engage in things that can sometimes be ra but it all originates in in in that sense of separateness and how did that sense of separateness come so you say existence that's one level that's even the most you know the best life in the world but certain L when there have been messages over and over and over again or experiences so now it becomes much more intense but here's the question people sent in a lot of questions here like 30 questions really but here's the question somebody wrote somebody wrote it all from everything you said it sounds like like awareness does the trick like realize who you are realize who you're not cut slack cut slack for your need to survive and realize what it is and then slowly you can grow and and help it and uh and in the meantime you can make choices that are much more productive and meaningful got it but we know today that so much of people's decisions cannot be undone by awareness because their traumas are stuck in their bodies and they're not even aware of it verbal therapy or fa doesn't do the trick because it's not a verbal