Losing A Child Is Worse Than Gog uMagog

The more you learn Tawa, the more the closer you get to Hashem. And by getting close to Hashem, I mean you not only get close to Hashem in regards to fearing him, you don't only get close to Hashem in regards to loving him, falling in love with him, and realizing how much kindness he gives you. It's never ending. Even eventually getting to the pointem that you see his kindness through your pain. The pain and anguish that each and every single one of us go through each in their own way. Some people financial pain, some people marriage pain, some people children pain, some people uh physical pain and so on. The inot says something that uh will give you an understanding of what it means to have pain from children. pain from children says one of the students of one of the six students that restarted the world of Torah with the one that was in a cave with his son for 13 years learning the secrets beyond beyond our comprehension. He said something when he says something we should pay attention. Now sometimes Shimon says things that are very easy to understand. Tells you do this is going to kill you. Shabbat's going to kill you. You steal you're a thief. You are going to can't go into ged easy. There's a law. Don't break it. Why you break it? You have problem problems. But sometime says things that are hard to understand unless you're in it yourself. You don't only understand what he says. You feel it. You feel it. When people tell me, "Oh, I had tough times in my life. You know, I grew up broken home. I grew up I uh got kicked out of school. I grew out to do all these different things people say. I said, but they have a hard time expressing themselves because they assume you're like most people. They didn't go through the same problems. Oh, my parents are married, stayed married, will be married, but other things. But one of the good things about pain suffering is that it gives you a different level of experience you can't learn from a book. So I always tell people and I've said it in several lectures especially in the way the prophet Jeremiah opens up in the third chapter in the book of Aha the um which is lamentations in English he says I know suffering I know suffering how does he know suffering Jeremiah saw the betam Mikdash get destroyed. Millions and millions and tens of millions of Jews getting murdered in cold blood. Family members, friends, so on, horrible. Says, I know suffering, seen it, experienced it. I tell people, I'm not Jeremiah or Hashem, but I know suffering. I know a little bit about suffering. But sometimes people give me stories and said oh this one I don't know it's a different type of suffering I don't know the suffering other suffering I know but the good thing about suffering is that you can always connect why because pain pain is something you can understand that's why the Torah gives us a lot of details about punishment but very few about reward it's because we don't really understand reward Because we don't really know the true definition of good until we learn Torah, till we have wisdom. But pain, you don't need to learn Torah. Pain, you know. Why? Close the door on your finger for a second. Just you see how see how pain you could see. Two seconds free. Maybe a dollar I'll charge you for the idea. Go close the door on your finger. Just see you just for a second. Only one second. Not two seconds. two seconds, $2. So, everybody understands pain. Everybody understands pain. Physical pain, emotional pain, this pain, that pain. But the pain that parents feel raising their kids, you could only understand if you are a parent. You cannot tell your parents' stories to your single friends. Quite frankly, you're almost wasting your time telling your parent stories to parents that already all their kids are already married and off on their way. If your kids are three, four, and five, and their kids are 30, 40, and 50, it's hard for them to relate to what happened 40 years ago. But everyone understands this type of pain. The pain of seeing your son going off to your daughter going off to even if you're not religious. Every parent has a fear of death of seeing their child going off to a place of never neverland. It's very scary. says, "How scary it is. How scary is it? 13 years in a cave, a life full of Torah, is here to tell us how scary it is to have a child go off to says toan teaches himan says to us a degenerate child meaning a child that goes off to in a person's home is an affliction meaning it's more painful and more severe than the war of go umog Magog. Anyone that wants to know the details of it, you look at Ezekiel chapter 38 and 39 of the description of this war and how Ezekiel describes how this war will destroy the world in a matter of 9 minutes when twothirds of the world will die. Anyone that has a heart still in this world hears somebody got killed in a car accident or some other crazy thing that happens in the world, their heart hurts. It flinches a little bit. If it's someone close to them, the heart breaks. The closer, the more the severe the break is, the longer lasting the pain. Imagine reading and believing and understanding and feeling the pain of something. It's not far away from what we are today. The world of go. Everyone's scared of the world go. Some people are so scared they deny it's going to happen. No, no. Hashem can change it. Hashem can change it. They they lead themselves to a false belief that this is something that's not happening as we speak. No. No. But Hashem can do anything. No one said he can't. No one said that he can't do anything. No one said that he can't change anything. But why? Why would he change it? The only reason he's going to change such a thing is if he has a reason. What reason does he have to change an inevitable disaster to just let's say everyone's going to go to Ganedin? Why is Did everybody do Chva? Did everybody all of a sudden fill up uh the the room here, one on top of the other? We have 5,000 people here just in Olga's house just to listen to some mousar so we could do chaat tomorrow morning. that will we pack to the max in the Madison Square Garden full of people yearning for a I want to do chuba I want to do chuba I want to do chba do we see it why is he going to change it oh he's not there's nothing changed oh so that means you're in a gun says oh those people that think that things are going to CHANGE JUST BECAUSE OH YEAH they're in the gun of the drunk people meaning they're drunk know what they're talking But go you don't need to have too much of an imagination to know how scary it is. But is telling you more scary than go if you have a child go off to the tears I see and hear about talk to people that have their children go off to D. Last night I talked to woman two kids went off to it's not one go it's two before that day just a FEW HOURS BEFORE I TALKED TO THIS woman before I came to the show I talked to another couple also the son of the he was f he was he was good he was the every little malik we thought he was mashia now he's he's maybe an angel but different side people go off to they don't stay normal They don't just become like a secular person that still believed just doesn't feel like doing. No, they go empty. It says this is scarier than go scarier. This is more painful than go. It's a repetition of seeing your heart being ripped every second you see this child. Now you also have to make a very difficult decision if you have other children. What's the decision? Can I keep this kid in the house? Well, I know that it's only a matter of time before he affects the other kids. It's only a matter of time before he affects the other kids. You have four or five kids, all little sadikim, all want to go to yeshiva. all want to be modest, all want to be good. But you have the one of the kids just turned to a little amalik, but everybody looks up to him. What are you going to do? They look up to him. They look up to him and they see him going to clubs. They look up to him. They see him going to uh pubs. They look up to him. They see him wearing clothes with holes in it. They look up to him and he has a girlfriend now and he wants to bring her to the house even though her name is Christina. What are you going to do? It's a difficult decision. Not so easy, not so pursu. Oh no, kick him out. Kick him out. What do you mean kick your son? At the same token, what you going to risk for for for to entertain one? It's very difficult decision. That's why says scare this is scarier than go scarier than go. Amen.