Me or We? The Individual vs. the Collective in Halacha & Kabbalah - By Rabbi YY Jacobson

so let's begin with a Gomorrah that is well-known and yet we can always revisit it and discover layers of depth like any piece of Gomorrah so source number one is a Gomorrah Emma second-tier Amma stuff sama phase I'm at base Yvonne is page 62 the Gomorrah which discusses on that page actually marriage and relationships and the values of marriage and the virtues of marriage and the disadvantage of a man without a wife how our wife keeps the man straight and blessed and so forth in that Gomorrah there's a story am rue they said she named uh sir L of tsukimi tell me the modulator ibaka Verma gathers at Auntie Paris a via Kira had 12,000 peers of talmidim from this with the geographical location from one city all the way to stretching to another city the coulomb a super peyrac a Scott kniffen itial a know how GU covered Zelizer all died during one period because they did not behave with respect to each other Roger Allam shaman the world was desolate Rashi says Toyota was about to be forgotten action Barbie Akiva 8 Sarabi st. Lucia Midori maybe Akiva there ever came to our teachers in the South America strong for Chanel ahem and he began all over again he taught them to Tyler who were these the mayor of aw who de Yossi rep Simeon and the Bellas are been Shambhala the hame hame and me do Tyra these five students of Rabbi Akiva have made a beauty of Shimon arabela's urban Shinhwa they established Tyler Tana we have learnt in a Bryce Kula Mesa may pass ahead at Sarah's all of the 12,000 peers of rebbi akiva students passed on in the period between pacer and Shavuos and of course we all know that the story in the Mara has been enshrined in Jewish law not only in Jewish sinara because it is the primary reason for the morning laws during the period of Spheeris aimer between pacer and Shavuos twenty four thousand twelve thousand cop twelve thousand peers so twelve and twelve is twenty-four it's been many years since the timetable up how do you come up with 25 okay twenty four thousand Hamid it's interesting I mean the top he calls it he could have said twenty four thousand Tom made them he says twelve thousand cabooses twelve thousand peers it's an interesting expression it sound like there were couples but obviously we're in couples they would hum with them of rebbi akiva so it's a very interesting expression will some get to it there's the very well-known question that many have brought up over the generations and that is how did this happen after all Ariba must be reflected on some level in his students even if students fall short from the stature of their ever but everybody knows that wherever a rapper is involved in some how its projected in the lives in the behavior in the harsh kapha in the perspective and developed on song of the students you have rappers that are immersed their main focus is in one aspect of yiddish Qaeda and it's reflected in some way in their talmidim and other rappers who have a different causes a different aspect a different unique that the Gemara has an expression myths for the Havas Arabic Vey the Mitzvah that they're involved in most and that's also expressed in the Talmud Ruby Akiva is the person every child knows who on the pasta can deduction for hostile Iraq America said Zack log Adelbert IRA behalf glorification is not a Mitzvah one it's not a pasta commercialization it's cloud goggle bateria meaning it's the fundamental cloud the collective idea that includes Tyra very similar to what Hillel would say or what Hillel said in an earlier generation in my sector Shaba staff Lama Dolloff that actually it's the whole Turner call at Ernakulam rebbi akiva says Zek lau god--all Batory how is it that that from all the rappers from all the turmoil from Obama Ryan it was the talmidim of rebbi akiva but loin agua covered Zabuza who failed and failed in such a powerful way as we can see from the results this great teaching of their every Akiva that's a well-known question a lot has been said about it today we're going to address it from a particular angle but we're going to now change subjects completely and Bayesian we'll get back to it soon there is a fascinating argument between a biack even as colleague WC ugly about a different topic completely second source brothers pairings ayan mission and Gitmo it has to do with the laws of ximena we all know when people are sitting together at a meal there's an obligation if you have three people closer shakalu kessler the mission that begins the seventh chapter of grossest high of in Lezama three you have eaten together have obligation not just to bench independently and move on but to create a Z moon meaning a joint collective experience of benching Z moon in its classic sense was one of them introducing the grace after meals saying it and the other to listening to his ximen it has developed over the generations as the poskim explain whether he says it and they just listen whether he says it or they say word for word whether he says till burkas at the end of a sauna Sarkar land that's what they listen to and there they repeat word after word quietly and then they do the rest more or less on their own there's different fashions of ximen how it developed as a result of the natural reality and that is that it's difficult for people to listen - one man been and be quiet the whole time especially when there's food in front of them in our generations Kate said Mazama and asks the Mishnah how do you do Zimmermann what is it what do you do soba Schleicher we have three Jews Omer he says Navarre like we say rabbi shai Navarre a writer and some pieces and he destroyed by some evil invention and the answer he shade then he says bearish shoes Murano Burano Navarre Nevarez let us bless Hashem Chicano Mischa Lloyd which leash of who if there's three plus hem in other words this floor then I may borrow cool then he says you bless not Navarre because there's three outside of him he says Boris will you bless because there's three outside of it baths are when you have ten or even average lay like a new now you get to add a shams name which is what we do when you have a minion benching you don't say in the Forex are calm initially Navarre if la que no sure counsel about sort of a who again if it's ten plus if I may borrow who he says borrow cool Ella came a kadhai sorry of acid ah sorry boy once you hit ten there's no difference if you have ten or you have ten reboot and myriads you may have 10,000 Jews you may have a hundred thousand Jews at a meal then no sock the text remains uniform if it's three till ten it's Navarre and if it's ten and up you mentioned our shams name which is what we do Navarre la que nous Chicano me shallow as will soon see this is the view of Rabbi Akiva reveaied Lully had a very different schita he says but may I maneuver across Emily que no the mayor who I Mubarak who if it's a hundreds you add lash M la que no from ten to a hundred detects changes but LF you have a thousand Jews eating together omen of Oracle are similar que no le ke sir all let's bless our my regard the god of israel but elavil who i Mubarak o beery boy if you have 10,000 Jews eating if we ever had a dinner with ten thousand Jews okay ah see my shots but is not no meal unless you have the back seats and you bring in the popcorn and the potato chips and the sandwiches the pastrami sandwiches but for us laymen we don't all get to have a meal bri-bri but so this is a unique concept okay erm one day at 10,000 Jews at a meal I'm in évora /m Allah Cana will a Carol or the chaotzu voice your Shiva prove him Allah Muslim shall new baby boy woohoo it's 10,000 plus him I may borrow who can you show me various can find in a forum they always respond to his version of greeting them baruch hashem elokenu okay you stole okay it's my researcher my crew from Allah Muslim shall come oh just like we do with three or ten Navarro Filipino shall come to me shall I and everyone responds Baraka Latino Chicano mashallah this is the view of Rabbis dad will there be a second the Yemeni basically sums up his view the fear I shall call Hema for him the bracha always changes based on the number of the community that is benching Shan Mr faucitt says until him be mchavez boricua like in my Shannon Mike are you strong the blessing is binoculars in communities in the plural the blessing changes based on the nature and the size of the kala Amara be Akiva my dear friend apiaceae Mahmud cinema basic gnosis let's look at darling in the show effort my Ruby invested more what in America was Hashanah when it comes to borrow no difference if the minion consists of 10 people the minion consists of a hundred people of a thousand people of ten thousand people or of one hundred thousand Jews there's the same text you don't say Borg who is a sham we have a hundred people Burwash emilich a new mark hamill occasional it's always boricuas Hashem embroider rebbi akiva compares benching to darvany every small I may be small corrects and by daven he says boricuas Hashem Pomodoro not Burgos assemble for such a man the verdict which is actually what we do by by darvany justice is not relevant to the sheer - noise Sileo the Vilna gone planes this vu this concept of who the advantage in saying Navarre is that you include yourself you include yourself in the in the process we bless that the advantage and saying bark who is to demonstrate that there is a larger a larger group of people benching it's like I'm telling you to bless in other words is even more than three or more than ten and that's where I really see a clearly says by dominating we say barraco as hashem hama vera in order to include himself blessed the God who is blessed so and includes himself so by benching we taka don't say bar who we keep it Nevarez to include yourself and by diving like a very secondly says we add Damas iris but we don't change the text when there are more than ten juice what is the principle the underlying principle the argument between a beast really see a GU Liana be a Kiva if you have ten thousand Jews do you change the text of been seen between ten and ten thousand a hundred thousand a million one day a billion or there's no difference once you hit ten once you hit your minion you put to go it's a like a no item number one next source a good mother gomorian baba Basra the customer Al Queda Tanya we learnt the price Hammoud are no my aunt she are you if somebody makes a letter of vow I am NOT going to benefit from the residents of this city you know sometimes Jews got into a fight with each other you ever heard of the concept a guy cannot in Muncie but a guy gets angry at a city and he says this city I'm never coming back I'm never visiting you I don't want to hear from you I don't want to deal with you I'm making the nether I will never have an awl from the residents of this city Colson estas Amish name are so foolish a Solanas momento anybody who's spent who's been living in that modern city for 12 months he is deemed a resident and if I made that vow I cannot benefit from him anymore Paco's become motor he's there for 11 months for 10 months he's not can I set a residence sorry a citizen citizen I stand correct he says I make an egg I'm not gonna have enough from the citizens may I'm sure a year if you did less than 12 months you're not a citizen me yes really she makes a vow not to benefit from the residents of the city from the people living there then koushin estar sham sham you're him Austin Luhan is from a no-pocalypse makan motel honest remember then the time is 30 days if you just visiting there for a few days for a week for 3 weeks you're not even called a resident of the city you're a guest you're a tourist once you're there 30 days you're not a citizen you're not a foolish citizen but you're a resident so depends if I make a net there I'm not going to have an off from I'm sure a year from the citizens it's 12 months from the residence it's 30 days asks there on rob a new Miss simian myself in the Dharam das paid all that he asks the following question what about somebody who comes after I make the Neda I make the net there I will not have enough from the citizens of this particular City okay so ever has been there for 12 months whoever has been living there for a year or more it's called a citizen of the city I'm now that I have enough from any one of them if somebody was there for 11 months no problem what about somebody who moves in a month after my ned there and he's there for 10 years he's there for a year he's there for 2 years does it include him or not Big Mike locals between their on and the Ritz for to Regina Duran says no difference the net there includes even a person who will move in later even though when I made the vow he was not from on Shane he was obviously not a citizen he wasn't even there so here you have a funny thing somebody who was living there at the time but not 12 months I could benefit from him somebody who moves in after the NED that Iran says if he becomes a citizen he lives there 12 once I'm 11 off from him and he proves that this is the view of the Ramba to retire used it it fosters just make sense I made a net here today from to your ear today 8:00 tomorrow I made another tuna for Mon cher you're not on here you live in Switzerland you can I move here 20 years you're gonna move to this city in 20 years how does this person suddenly become part of my network there it's for completely argues with Iran Iran says this is the view of the rhumba again what is the logic of this argument let's now go to the next source this is a typhus incited of canola mom you know there's a minute by some communities siter has meant as Gotham 48 948 he started off base forty-eight thousand so there's a mimicked by some hidden to learn the sector's who is during sphere assignment which also has the number of da from of sphere and receptor site during sphere which also has the same number of thousand says in Isaiah that it's also connected because Latoya inshallah by Allah the count of the seven weeks is similar to the count of the Shiva see me neither the Shiva seemed a zebra seven times seven to purify and be able to sanctify the relationship between husband and wife so there's a very interesting concept in sight just a reminder site ax which existed during the time of the Mesa McNish was a unique phenomenon in which suddenly God became the marriage therapist usually God does not get involved directly in marriage counseling or therapy there was one exception and that's the law of Satan the man is extremely mistrusting of his wife he feels there is betrayal he feels this Lord this disloyalty and there is there's good reason for it there is no way he trusts her on her words she says I'm innocent he says you're not innocent the reminder Celilo in a unique moment in order to establish peace in jewish families to create solemn bias says you know what i'm gonna mix indirectly give her my water to drink give her my water to drink in the water you have the shame I'm a fire is God's name she offers a carbon minimis baya the Kiama meet the rest if the water kills her there was betrayal if the water doesn't damage her to the country the water blesses her Hashem is saying you have a good of here so now the husband is gonna come home he's gonna argue with God he's gonna tell his wife oh Hashem is wrong he doesn't know who you are I know who you are this is the concept of Satan access de minimis exerciser knock off base and half of Gitmo what happens if the husband is a call you the husband is a client is a halakhah that every minute of a Cayenne every minute of a Cayenne is never eaten home in the sky and Kyle Tia it's burnt on them as vanish completely usually carbon ministers there's the claimant is the part of the flower or the matzo that goes onto the altar and the rest is she ryeom are eaten by the clay in him but a ministers call you miss burnt on him as bath completely if her husband is a client that its joint property so he brings the minister with her he's a Cohen so the minute has to be burnt she's not Herman doesn't have to be burnt so what's the halacha so the Gomorrah said the Mishna says and the Gemara explains that basically what happens is you burn the climate's on the MS baya and the rest can't be eaten because you're in a boiling situation you can't eat it because there's a partnership of the coil right you can just bring it on them as they are because it's the woman's minister so it's this roughen it's like a carbon that it's a kosher minister but there's nothing you can do with it you're not gonna sell it you're gonna give it up it's quite there's conduction so you have to bring it over there in the base huh - into place that they burned carbon is that weren't eaten for whatever reason they would Tommy etc even though it's a culture it's a Coleman so tasteless ask somebody the good question what's theis versus question Tyson is cited I flew him over in time Ashley Ashley Caleb our sins the man as a part in harmonica in Cana voluminous should fuss so it's a minute of partners how do we know I have a part in it because the mission clearly says if he's a Cayenne it can't be eaten by the other client him in other words he's considered or should to them for Ayurveda Commodus welcome the Gemara says amiss Esther's welcomed of hang Heaney F min Salish neighbor never makes if somebody was about to offer a mint offering and he passes away and he has two sons Craver they can offer it the aim permission should suffice it's not called a partnership it's not that the children own it they don't own it hayashi permission shoots was a McRaven if it would have been defined as a partnership that couldn't be offered mission deceived by nefesh because by the Ministry says nefesh of a hustla Kotani Pasiphae behavior meaning this by every carbon is our loss the partners can bring a carbon you and I could say you know what let's bring a carbon together Tasha and we want to give a contribution to the base--emitter you give 50% I get 50% you give 30 I give 70 and we bring a carbon together no problem partners can bring the carbon there's one exception a carbon minister a minister can only be offered by an individual why because by minister deposit isn't by ikura Venera fish he sake of argument a soul I'm individual soul not souls I solve in their 50 sacraments only one person could recommend sir asked faceless we have your problem Minnesota who brings it it's a partnership the kymaro says Kelley if it's a partnership doesn't work how does this happen then there's a major problem you can't bring the carbon as you say it's not a partnership it's hers if it's hers she's not a coin let the coin I mean it interesting question the Ashley Meier answers choice risk even the eco copper remission d da nefesh Curie number it's a partnership but since it's brought because of her her atonement it's called nefesh this is what ty service answers so so is it a suit for us or is it not a citrus first he tell me it's a suit verse then you tell me it's d da it's hers seems like a little bit of a paradox here let's learn another Gemara also cited a few diana morales dorayaki Akiva said everybody knows this HV ishizawa sheenavan a.m. when a man and a woman merit to have peace in the home the Sheena's among them Louisa who they don't have married a Shackleton there is a fire of destruction that consumed the marriage marriage is never easy if the stream is between them then if there's if this is if this Shalom the Sheena is there if not there's a fire and the fire is not always a positive one oh my Rover would be shoddy for me the ish fire of the woman is more intense than the fire of the man my timer hi mister of I'll admit stuff because ash ash and Easter of course have the letters of H they also have the letters of our son's name you'd and hey so easy Shizuku when there's peace between the man and the woman they bring together the yield of the ish and the hay of the Isha so you have youth and hay which is God's name and this creates a beautiful marriage when you get rid of the unit and the hay so what are you left with you left with a fire and you're left with a fire you left with two passionate people people who have temperaments people who have idiosyncrasies people who have egos and insecurities and fears and needs people who have very different personalities and when it's my fire and your fire we butt heads against each other it was once an att from the telephone in their company AT&T sales person who comes to a home and he rings the bell and the guy comes to the door says how can I help you says I'm from AT&T and you know we have a great great new product and I'm looking for the master of the home who is the master of this home I would like to speak to them the man says you know you knew exactly the right time to come but you'll have to wait up for 10 minutes because this exact question is being decided in the kitchen right now so you know when you have a Shin H so it's fire against fire personalities or complex relationships are complicated I don't have to tell you but rather says by the man the Europe separates the Allah from the Shin by the woman the hey comes after the Allah finish it because a woman's fire is much more in much more sensitive much more powerful than a man's fire men are often out for lunch they're clueless they're not even sure of their alive always a woman's sense of vibrancy is very intense so Rover makes this fascinating observation so what Roby akiva is telling us when there's a coup you have this enol you have the unit under hey ah Messiah this is the glue that keeps a marriage together it keeps the fires harnessed to create warmth in the home rather than havoc Hosmer Solomon destruction in the home they say about trips Limassol monoi Ibaka's at saudi russia shiva of cult are one of the great poskim of the last generation one of us commits them was escorting home him home in the neighborhood of sharia tested in Yerushalayim from coal tire back to his home so if some is Amin was about to walk up the steps to go into his home he started to straighten up his clothes he spake another businesses zero saliva hat and his capita so one of the time with him says Arab may I ask a question usually when people leave the house you know they stand in front of the mirror you make sure that tie is straight everything is even you look good you look groomed you go you're going to work when you're coming home now it's time now it's time to loosen up and I you don't have to dress up steps later Salman told him by mailing Stube in our home is borough Hashem solemn there's tremendous peace in the home so therefore Sheena shrew you been a head the shin is in my home I'm going home to see my wife for me it's Kabbalah Spanish Lena I'm also going in to welcome the face of the divine presence and that's why I have to make sure I'm groom what a lesson in life the other a few weeks ago Friday night I was diving by Rabbi radensky so he told over a story that in tells in the Shiva tells in Cleveland there was a woman a wife of a Kyle of younger monk who was learning in the towels and she called up the Russia Shiva a bottle gifted and she tells her if gifter she says you know my husband is not taking out the garbage anymore why he says it's covered that tire he's a coil younger man he sits and learns it's disrespectful for the toiler if he takes out the garbage so therefore he's not taking out the garbage anymore so she asked her of GiftA what am I supposed to do he says don't worry I'll take care of it she says what are you gonna do he says I'll take care of it the next morning rough gifter she's up at their apartment he rings the bell it's early in the morning the man the coil young naman opens the door he sees Russia Shiva he's shocked this is rebel what what do I owe this honor he says I'm here to take out the garbage this is what are you you're here to take out the garbage he says I heard that mid/side covered hot area you feel it's beneath you to take out the garbage so I came to help your wife to take out the garbage right so of course the situation was probably remedied so I assume so this is the statement of Rabbi Akiva each rechazó Kushina shreya been a you have the youth and you have there and now let's see one more Gomorrah your shiny brushes pay okay we all know on Shabbos one of the 49 laborers that are forbidden are cohesive and might you know letter write on Shabbos you know let a raise some shoppers what's the sheer that you're liable for penalty let's say to bring a carbon cantos if you did it by mistake you did forgotten Shabbos you forgot you're not wanna write on Shabbos what's the sheer missionary Shabbos pay Rica days stay iciest Seamus shimmering Seamus more two letters two letters that makes you liable on top see now let it right even one letter it's cut see shear a seminar Tara however two letters on Shabbos makes you liable even though it's a long word it's only the beginning of a word but two letters is the team of Kosovan Chavez not one letter comes via xiaomi and says how come I didn't because of us a shame Acharya if you're writing a Shems name you have to complete the name two letters is not enough you're writing the name of our shed actually ashlynn here it's different you have to complete the name what's the logic behind this year show me so all of these sources we were learning we're not as disjointed as they appear from first glance actually they all add up to really teach us one idea in the writings of the rubbish of argon Rubino Yosef rosin rosin who we ever discussed numerous times in our serum in many of his writings he is the one who addresses this idea that we're going to discuss and brings all of these sources to demonstrate the relevance and potency of this idea within Gaza generally throughout history there have been two perspectives about life about humanity about civilization one sees that sibour as the focus one sees the yahud as the focus one view which has been most emphasized in the philosophy of socialism by Carroll Marx and then developed into a political hellish reality as a result of the Bolshevik and then communist revolution in 1917 which gave the Soviet Union and its millions or hundreds of millions of residents the agony of communism sees the Seaboard as the core the collective is what matters the individual is simply a part of the collective the individual has no value outside of the collective then the vidual is not even entitled to ownership there's no you do is did seaboard there is the country there is humanity there's the group and you're just a little peg you're a little screw you're part of it of course but the main thing is the collective the game goes on and some philosophies believe you have to sacrifice and you could sacrifice on the altar of the Seaboard the benefit and sometimes the life of the individual another era philosophy and the other extreme is no way it's all about I I it's all about the individual capitalism democracy all highlights the value the rights of the individual they speak about our generation as the me the me generation everything is IR IR technology ever the iPhone you have the iPod you have the iPad everything this re and even when you have a game that's finally called we it has two eyes in the most extreme fashion this is the concept of anarchy you know contrast to socialism and communism Anarchy where there's absolutely no collective no simpler that defines how things work it's all about my individual self expression the way I believe is the right way for me the way I feel is is good for me two very different philosophies and really running a country creating any type of system whether in a government a community a land a city or so are you Shiva an institution is always navigating the tension between the yahud and the cloud between the seaboard and the pratt between the cloud and the individual and the tension is not it's not easy so we all understand that there are two different views and we always see there are some situations some types of people some organizations which some governments which focus more on the akkad and others that focus more on the SIB or others will sacrifice the collective for the individual others will sacrifice the individual for the for the collective you see this often in very many different types of you she was for example right etc but the question really that we want to address is a much deeper one and it's a question that was first raised by the Rambam in his philosophical work mode in a book the guides for the perplexed and the question is is there even a concept called Sybil and cloud in an authentic way not per se my Musel not as a borrowed phrase but is there really such a reality call the cloud called the Seaboard the marina Volcom for example the Rambler American of Olympus says the concept of cloud is a conceptual one not one rooted in reality because basically what this view says life is about individuals it's about prata it's about details you can have one person you can have two people and you can add another person another person so you'll have to end you'll have tiny life 111,000 you have a million but it's a million ones it's always about the one just like you have it with people you have it with horses you have one horse and then you have another horse and then you have a hundred horses and of course with more details with more ones yeah more power you have more mass you have more energy you have more resources you have more quantity but there's no qualitative essential differentiation between one tribe and many ProTeam it's just more and more and more and more profitable what we call cloud what we call a collective is only a conceptual idea in the abstract it's not rooted in reality this is what their album writes in my earner for him he says when we speak about reality it's always about one and another one and another one and another one that's one view there's another view and the other view is that perhaps there is a concept where there's a certain point where praten we're individuals so to speak melt away and congeal and assume a new identity which we call the identity of the cloud the identity of the collective the identity of the Sieber and then the details the individuals are simply a reflection or part of a collective identity which is really a oneness that is not about one and another one and another one but a one is that transcends any individual but this abstract there's a Cuates abstract reality of oneness is reflected in each individual which is part of that oneness and this but would believe and postulate that there's a concept called de sibour and called the cloud take a look now in the words of the rocket rover who sees that this was the argument between a BAC egg Lily and Rabbi Akiva so you'll take a look McDuffie Tyra you have the source of you shall me go down a few paragraphs Madhavi Tyra is a fascinating volume on exchange of hundreds of letters written in the early 1930s between the rocket rover gone and a Jew named Reb Mordecai Kalina an anonymous mobile nobody knew him I've gone on them and they had hundreds of letters exchanged that were printed in Mustafa Tyler I don't know I don't remember the number of letters but a huge amount of letters so the rocket reverse says this about the random log all me Sean Marshall Mitzi's var prathamesh negative strong words there Amba market he market log he dismissed his staff at those who believe that Matthias and prot them are two separate realities in other words there's something called the abstract collective reality outside of the praten know everything is just another prat another prat another Pratt for convenience we talk about a community but what is a community it's just individuals log amazonica Travis says initials a partial Z gather God Allah this is a very important concept McCleod has become at vara Mahaska bit similar protein it's a mellitus that pervades through many sugie's and shots a Mahaprabhu named halex Eber Macias Bethune a Atma basically if the zipper is simply a combination of many protein or there is a concept called community collective a oneness VII in Burma coitus Reebok IVA behalf de barajas DAF noona Morales gabay Okada sorry I'm Olivia minion came gather you are her goof surah believable now you have to figure out the rest what is record trouble saying this is not going to be I said Willian rebbi akiva maybe I said really says you have ten Jews it's a glory for the reminder shillelagh Navarro fella came you have a hundred Jews for assemble okay you have a thousand Jews now you have to say Navarro hashem elokenu allocate wrong you have ten thousand Jews believe I'm Hydra smeller there's a new energy there's so much more there's so much more power there's so much more cover that so much more glory now you don't just bless God now the glory of God that's revealed with so many more Jews is so much more fantastic Navarro's my similar Kendall okay you stole the cat's mice you're somehow proven now you got it right even if you're a seg Lily stops after ten thousand jokes but whatever reason maybe a little safe or perhaps there's other reasons Rebbe I said really holds its praten ten Wow a hundred Wow a thousand Wow we 10,000 awesome let's give out that survey seungu this Rabbi Akiva says the moment there's a minion the moment is 10 Jews something happens a minion is not just a how long that when you have 10 ones you could say bar who you could say Kaddish lover should be do same double sure finish Apophis my sorry the house I'll say what 10 Jews accomplished what a million accomplishes is a qualitative difference not a quantitative difference it's not just an addition from 9 to 10 you didn't just get one more which is of course significant because every person had something we all know that what happens now is use an oil there's an expression in the ballot Anya in Kosilek derma there's an oil I'll cool on our Vic this energy they call it today synergy the synergy is deeper than just the sum of the parts it's not just they have one another one another one other what when when there's 10 a new machine uses created and the midsi this is not something you could point to your finger it's just one more guy it's one and as we know the 10th guy could be moisture available the 10th guy could be Revere Kira and the 10th guy could be a simpleton but if you have 9 motion remain who's a bar aku you can't say and if you have that 10 first in the simpleton suddenly oops suddenly the ha logic status changes trivia Kiva says there's a transformation and once that transformation happens a thousandth ten-thousandth it's of course significant you have more people but as far as the uniqueness the transformation from practical I'll it happened at that point and the more details are additions in the world of throttle not in the world of cloud and therefore every a Kiva says the Nosa changes just like bite Fela yes those Rubio said Lily deny that there is a fundamental transformation perhaps he denies it perhaps he doesn't apply it to breakfast or Muzzin perhaps bite Fela he would agree not by bench ink perhaps I say this on my own it's Fela is all-in-all a spiritual experience versus a Muslim ultimately is a physical experience your blessing God for the food perhaps to be I said Lily says and Fela people are anyway yearning to transcend their individuality and return back to the source of oneness but if the Sun wasn't perhaps us and have that capacity that maybe because you see bites Phil he agrees or maybe he denies that concept I'm not sure about that there are couch over with no but I don't know and derogatory I don't think says it clearly if this is the case this is the argument between the Iran and the Reidsville I made a nether I'm not going to benefit from whom from answer you hear from the citizens of the city what is unsavory what are the citizens of the city is it all praten or is there a cloud I'm sure he means ok you all happen to be living in Muncie New York you all happen to be living in Los Angeles or in Chicago in Toronto hi in Jerusalem or Bnei Brak so there are borders but essentially it's propped him it's one guy in another guide another they happen to be neighbors they happen to be all bound up by the boundaries by the borders of one city and therefore the bylaws or whatever the constitution of that particular region applies to them obviously these are technical pragmatic utilitarian functions in order to keep a society together for the benefit of people but essentially what are we dealing with one man another men another man another men another woman another person another child another etc it's all parotid or maybe there is something called I'm sure your ear as a collective says the rock of trouble this is the argument with Iran and then it's ma and let's see his words let's see his words okay sulla Spanish moderate in Yama page 140 you see it's below the source of the Year ishani is it very hot here yeah okay so I'm not the only I thought maybe I'm sweating today more than usual I don't know why is there a way to turn off the heat anybody ah why did I have to be the genius to come up with idea no no you'll soon see today's show is gonna be about individuality thank you thank you softness panache modernity on our page 140 go to the middle of the line shallows to traverse toughness Panera toughness panache is basically the name of the books of the rocket Rover God listen to his words called aura shimmer watts from whom a hat see board anything that is connected to a community yes bazaar Isis there's a lot to talk about in Xela praten shall have sabor oil mahakaal Loyola hot rotten when he talked about zebra he talking about protein individuals not to a cloud is no cloud the cloud is just a pragmatic usage of humans to make things more convenient or maybe a concept called hack la la laaaa praten it's actually not about throat them it's about the clown every Pratt is simply a mirror a reflection a fragment of a collective entity called a cloud which is one entity it's a unified integrated entity essentially I'm by medically Renoir its verb in a Durham that played out that I'm a Dallas look well into the argument in the round in the Richmond diamond I really told you this argument when I make a vow not to benefit from this residence of a city anybody who's been living there for 12 years for 12 months is included in that vow anybody who's been living there for less than 12 months is not called a citizen and therefore they are excluded from that vow the question is what happens when somebody moves in after my vow they're rotten says that person becomes included in the vow that it first says no way what's the argument the argument is listen to his words he may have kalau massa protein do you say that from the cloud the pro Tamar created in Canaan ask you mean member shots neutral I have so there's no difference if the person wasn't present during the vow they may have brought him NASA cloud but if it's the pro team that making the cloud in other words aim - lalala Masha with rats the claw is simply just many protein as I Aussie rock oz rap ice I'm sure how you then it goes only on those who are by the nether what do we mean when I said I'm making a nether not to have enough from the citizens of a city is it just protein it's all the details one and one and one and one well that's what it is so somebody was not there he's not there he wasn't part of the matter he moves in five years later okay so if I make the net there now if I renew it he'll be there but he wasn't there then because the nether was on whom the nether was on the trot to him he's not one of them he joined the city later true I didn't mention names I just said I'd say her ear all the citizens of the city but that is basically Clallam that is made up of prop them may have brought them sacré a masala mashallah flat as we say in the Iginla dice now they were talking about how logic formulas of how to explain Toyota but as you understand in the world of the rocket rubber it's all interconnected it's the same concept aim but slalom I shall be flat there's nothing in the cloud outside of the Pratt it's just more Pratham and more brought them to the point that it's a whole city of course it's important that it's a whole city but it's really the Pratt but if you say that it's Ybor is a independent concept meaning may have cloud massive rotten it's not that the cloud are created from the problem it's the Pratt them are created from the cloud there's I'm at sea is called the cloud and that clown is comprised of prot M of course actually here are individuals so now when I make a nether from unshare ear who am i referring to who's in that nether that Sybil called and she hurry now five years later you move in and you become an SI a year that you become part of that cloud you become part of that cloud if you become part of the cloud you're automatically included in that nether this is the view of the RAM the view of the rich race mayhap wrote him NASA haha not me huh cloud NASA high-protein if this is the case says the rocket rubber now we understand why the Talmud US Army says that on Chavez you're not tired if you're writing our Shems name until you complete the name why take a look softness paella moderate in yana page 140 right below the year xiaomi z a noite government's tyra house for solemn rockettes impartial the a night masonic meaning when i write a word when i write a name what's the value of letters the value of letter is the value of a word is they represent the concept if i write on a piece of paper Shimon Goldberg in those two words Shimon Goldberg I don't have the body and the soul and the mind and the heart of Simon Goldberg but it represents Shimon Goldberg when you reach him and Goldberg and you know oh you ran away have a picture of the person you know if you know the person right so that the words are always representative of the image of the concept now usually most words even though a word is made up of a few letters but what is a word is a word a Clow or as a word just many throughout them or would you say take the word bar of blessed Bay's rays volkov of course if Bay's and race would be disconnected I wouldn't have the word borrow but what is really borrow it's a combination of a base and a race and evolved in the cuff and from the problem I have a cloud and therefore if I'm shoppers I just write base race on my five of course I'm tired even though I didn't write a whole word but so what two letters of the word is Kosovo's it's significant like the Mishna says their shame masuo you have shin mem from the name Shmuel or the other as the hazael explained and massage - a person in South America that and the crushin on the beams of the Mishkan right they were in piers and therefore they used to have they used to have they used to have a a letter for each carriage one letter and they were doing it with the other one to be able to know which one matches because they were they were in zoo game they were in piers so therefore two letters is the way it was not on the Mishka so you're safe says the record shovel but there's one exception what's the exception Hashem his name how shams name is representative of what of Hashem Hashem is etson postures very mem is how like it's indivisible its oneness that's what it's representative of it's a cloud that's not defined by trottin of course Hashem includes all of the protein Hanoi Tassajara yes MA muh said I inhabit malloy color its Lloyd I God constitutes the essence of every detail and nuance of life of every cell and every gene of every heartbeat of every blade of grass and every flake of snow a very droplet of Rhoyne of every speck of dust but he's not only a combination of trottin Spinoza Spinoza may have argued tank the user may have argued you dealing with some at some postures venomous colic the name represents Hashem so the Euro sound he says the record service says you write a few letters of the name you have nothing you didn't write anything you didn't write anything when you have the problem without the clown you don't have it because it's a name is halek it's not Masaryk a regular word is a combination of a few letters when I have the bays in the race I have something because what is it it's Bay's rage off but if I have only a few letters of our Simms name I don't have the whole name it hop - the Naaman I don't have anything of it why cause what is it it's an SMS heart and if I split it up and I only took part of it I don't have that I have a different creature and therefore there's no homeless - it there's no gather of shame it depends if it's factored you then hey the Rambam says that's a name huh Sam is called car but you have for example the name Shindou the dude right that's Shin da da doot you write two letters of Shindou that you do Xiaomi says you're not hired la Kim right so if you have a Laflamme it one of the names of scale it's a separate name you have vodka it's part of youth tablescape but it's not the name it's not the name etc you have the name I love hey good Hey okay right same concept I love hey is only part of a name it's not a full name because it's an eczema hood you have part of it you don't have it it's not made up of parts it's an indivisible transcendent reality that of course includes all the parts so therefore you don't have it we're in a regular a regular word even when you have two letters it's representative of part of the reality and part of the reality is essential if this is the case we've come back now to the story of Satan and we have now a fascinating association take a look the next piece also to mercifulness paella Kevon the EF Shiller suitable oi East visa Havas XM voluma solid rich so Neil Mr Duncan gather Nakula loyal hardcover Seamus wrap missus you get this okay since you look at other places was asked the question minhas Seiter is partners her and he how do I know because if he's a Colleen you say they can't eat it because he has a partnership in it if he has a partnership in it how can you even be it's my career if there's a fundamental problem we have a cloud that Monaco's cannot pre dumped in partnership you got a problem you got to figure out a different a different method here somehow that money has to be completely hers disassociated from him because there's a halakha that all mintus mean and doesn't say clearly in Toyota all the soap that could be with a partnership so there has to be a different mechanism says the record server don't compare this to a force what's partnership partnership is not a Clow partnership is to plot them that come together we're partners we both invest in a company we both buy a carbon together so what brings us together it's one pratt and another prouder joins but it's essentially an element of to us as a partnership and we may both be partners in every part of the property it's not just divisible fifty-fifty but essentially it's two individuals joining together to accomplish a task to purchase a building or whatever the partnership is focused on marriage is not that marriage is a different concept let's remember the words of Rabbi Akiva each louisa is what you'd and hey you then hey is what it seems name her shams name is a platter a clown it's an SMS huh what did you be Akiva show about marriage it's not to individuals you have a man and you have a woman and they create a partnership just like in the business I want to create a company I need an investor I bring you in I need a manager I bring you in you have your jobs I have my jobs we work together we get into a fight we got divorced is that what a marriage two people move into a house they split the duties and responsibilities hopefully they get along hopefully they're not on each other's throats it's just a partnership 24 hours a day seven days a week no ECE Shizuku she not really man it's the unit a her Sam's name is an XML file it's filthy masala it's not the cloud that's made from protein it's a transcendent reality of oneness that transcends the details if that's the case it's not a shoots versus not a partnership it's oneness let's go look at his words keeping the EF Shiller cited below each we should have as an XML I'm asked Alec the reality of sight that can't happen without a man and a woman together so it's an exome Attica that's one core it's one essential integrated transcendent unified reality that's indivisible what do I mean when two people buy a minute together or when two children inherit a man together can Dominica be offered by one individual of course so the fact that I brought you into the picture is an additional quality that was superimposed on the essential reality but I ask you now can i mimic reciter be introduced without a man in a woman there's no such a reality every other Minister is about an individual I bring him in you bring him in for whatever reason uh Ned they're on another so now if I bring somebody else in it's a new reality it's not nefesh anymore it's two souls but by a sight the whole concept of minhas Saito's watts could only happen from the east and the Isha in other words of the perspective the Minnesota there's the oneness called institution of marriage and that's what he says Loy hardcovers famous rock music is what does this mean her cover means hybrid joining things together there are two ways in which things controlled together like neighbors that's called our cover Seamus in the in the slang of the rocket rover its neighbors living together we're near each other but we're near each other we're joined together but we're not one and then there's our coven miss gay this means the chemistry changes you're not anymore you and you're not anymore you it's one it's an eye and the eye includes two entities we all know you're drinking a cup of coffee you take a cup of coffee a cup of tea here and there's a hot water right and you put in you put in sugar you put in Splenda I don't want to be insensitive to people who don't use sugar the sugar dissolves and the tea the sugar dissolves in the coffee so they're joined together they're mixed in and once it's dissolved you can't find a point of coffee without sugar and a point of sugar without coffee but there's still the concept of the coffee and the sugar and if you know what you're doing there's even ways of bringing it to a point where you can recognize the sugar but then there is will you create a chemical reaction in the food will you create a chemical reaction in your drinks a chemical reaction means it's not just you have one reality mixed into another reality but actually the reality is transformed the very chemistry of it a very chemical molecular structure of the item is transformed as a result of two things not only being mixed in superficially but the essence of each of them changes that's what marriages marriage is not only to people that join together even like tea and sugar to the point with their mamas their mamas joined together in life but there's a transformation at a deeper level we issue issues of who Sheena Sharia banane Rabbi Akiva Rabbi Akiva taught this it's the unit in the hidden decay the unit in the hay which is a net some effort bill tea miss colic so it's not a partnership so there's no problem of nephesh place versus problem of nephesh one so it is one soul or to put it in very practical terms the best recipe for peace in a home is not just that couples are like each other and love each other and appreciate each other of course that's crucial but equally crucial is respect for the institution of marriage the institution of marriage transcends uni as individuals there's something called issues that's where we're completely won it's not about me it's not about you the problem of so many marriages it's always about me versus you can there be a point where it's about respecting the inste sacred institution of marriage who is that about it's not me or you it's marriage it's an institution that is divine that is holy that is sacred that's what I have to respect that's where unity real unity happens so now let's see one more source Khadija kahega that father mandala fusee Haghighi the vermin olive right above kahega the vermin Aleph he has these words kangaroo aha goof surah believe keyboard this is the idea of the spirit of the body which is a surah belief symbol he's giving us a very interesting example you have the body and you have the soul rueake GU if the spirit of the body surah belief Hebrew meaning what is the soul without the body the soul without the body gives us some understanding of the cloud that's beyond protein and then the soul is enclosed in the body and suddenly the souls manifest it in your brain and in your heart in your arms and in your legs and in the multitudes of organs and limbs and sinews and tissue and bones that's all the plot to them of life but what happens when the soul is detached from the body that's an example of rueake goof surah believable you have the surah you have the transcendent reality of life that is spiritual we have no way of defining that soul but we do have a way of defining the soul when it's in the body it's expressed in so many different details but the soul is not just an arm and a leg and another limb and another body the soul is a Ruach that exists even outside of the body that's the view of rebbi akiva that's what happens with people take a look Haghighi the father Morales the Tanya to be small Amy to be small says clawless nemrut bosina approaches biome I ate at how seen I do your boyish a loyal and presented to Moshe Rabbeinu a general outline of the 613 mitzvot the details only were communicated a year later when the Michigan was built when the Michigan was built that's when by Akira the beginning of a you care about you crash I'm Alisha Hashem calls out to motion speak'st him from the oil Moya that starts telling him all the details of the car bonus throughout safety by here and many other mitzvahs this happens in the oil my age there be a fever I'm a claw isoproterenol be seen I Venetian oh by all my advantage - love iris my earth the general principles and all of the details were all given that scene I they were repeated at the Michigan and a third time communicated in Arvest Maya at the end of the 40 years when they were in the plains of my of on the eastern side of the Jordan River before my sharavino passes away says there are catch over this is the view of rebbi akiva in contrast to be small in many areas just like it's true with people it's also true with trader for ABI Akiva tyre is an SMS but what is Tyra is Tyra one detail and another people another detail you're learning RS I'm learning here today learning avinasi learning fresh image but today you're learning how a shop is tomorrow learning oka failure in two-mile and he'll just rebus and the next day you're learning he'll just get in or he'll Sasebo Michael itza or Elka's should spin what's the connection between Sita and Chavez and the laws of borrowing and lending and insurance and even in our Lofton we know he surah me my point allah alpena there's been other mama come there's been other mojave rate is how long it is that God that is Nikola this mister there's a van as a discussion mission put its different worlds different principles different Colin it's a lot so today you learn one proud tomorrow in another product and another proud that's greater forever Kiva it's an excellent it's one transcendent integrated reality there's no clothes and hair seen I and process and I'll Maya clothe us apprentice never be seen I because there's the Pratt is essentially a reflection of the clown there's no distinctiveness between them every Pratt is simply a reflection of the cloud you see this in another very interesting malaika's we're not gonna get into it now in detail but the impartial sister says my dad really chemists call had varam ah i'ma lay Moya Hashem spoke all of these words lamer lamer usually means to be repeated but everybody was there when it says by the brush I'm on my Shalimar moisture should repeat it but everybody was there at her Sina what's the lamer so the melter says lamer is Hashem said the Ten Commandments lamer to be repeated to be repeated back to him to give him feedback the Jews responded what did they say Rabbi Shmuel says al heyn heyn VI Lavrov for the positive commandments they said hain for the negative ones they said loud meaning when they heard kaaba de sevilla a metal respected father and mother three million Jews screamed out pain yes and when they heard LOI shirts off voice signals everyone screamed love we will not kill we will not steal ribby Akiva says no al hain hain via love hain on everything they said hain yes we will follow on softer Astaire my Shabbos Locati they said hey I'm like sick enough they also said hey not hain we're gonna steal hey means maybe some cement that but according to viekira Accord rebbi akiva hain means we will do what you said now I ask you a question do we have to argue about everything first of all might I have a harvest the Gemara says in humid Ave what happen to happen what's the different days second of all isn't this all semantics what's the difference if they said we won't do it or they said we will do what you said what's that you tell your child I don't want you to cross the street without holding after your mommy's hand what's the difference if your child says okay I will not cross the street without holding your hand or yes I understand what you're saying I will follow your instructions it's the same message there's a profound difference in a V smalls world there's a distinction there Zane hain and is love love it's a very different type of creature this Mitzvah is positive you say yes I understand that I will follow it this Mitzvah by nature is a negative Mitzvah laughs I'm going to disassociate myself from murder from stealing from adultery from bearing false witness from being a false witness against somebody oh hey hey Nia laughs laughs awkwardly rebbi akiva Paula Tourette's Emmett heart all of trader represents at Samantha's Loyola College miroku the whole trade any detail Mitzvah sessom it was my sister it's all hain it's all yes I will follow your words I will be I want to be connected to you I see the hain in every single detail even the knot is another way of saying yes is another affirmation of the relationship it's sheena shreya it's sheena shreya been a and so the clawless and the protests are one that's why we have in the youth gimel mid-ice we say every morning they be small I'm Irish like sherry meters we have cloud or prat we have Pratt or cloud we have cloud Pratt cloud the camera says aim back lalala Masha b-flat claw historically Pratt Pratt for ocular clown so here we have the vision of rebbi akiva we see it in Simon in Simone we see it in Radhika the waiter was given and we see the view of rebbi akiva when it comes to issue YCJA which has ramifications in the laws of Seiter and has ramifications in Hill House Shabbos now let's see how this applies directly in a very practical way in life we all know we're all have relationships with people this for revelation of that type of this form of relationship there are people you love there are people you like there are people you love but you have a problem liking there are people you like but you don't necessarily love right when you do like on an article or them today everything is like like Facebook like like like not love I like I like you I love you I don't know I guess there are people you don't love and you don't like but where it becomes complicated is how do we get to like the people that we love what do I mean by this there's people you naturally love you love your mother you love your father you love your siblings hopefully you love your spouse you love your children but it's sometimes hard to like your brother to like your parents to like your sister to like your husband to like your wife it sometimes becomes very complicated and in that scarf of Tyler we have a fascinating analysis of this distinction and it's introduced in two different words one is Ahava and one is covered either means law covered means respect sometimes we say oh I like you I love you I cherish you I respect you it's two different creatures there is love and is respect and I'll show you immediately what's the game a tree of Ava what's the numerical value of the word Ava 13 which is the same numerical value as the words echo 1 and this is the difference between love and respect love comes from being one I'm with my mother I'm one with my father in many ways I'm one with my brother I'm one with my sister we grew up in the same home we share the same genes we come from the same parents we exited the same room we ran away on that we ran around on the same kitchen floor and diapers we know things about our pasts that nobody else knows in a way you know your sibling the way your sibling knows you is even better than your spouse knows you because there's something about about your youth your childhood that your sibling feels your sibling knows there's an essential relationship you're an extension of your mother you were in her womb for nine months Brooke Herod ah hoo you're an extension of your father you're an embodiment of your father's seed of life of your mother's egg you don't even have a choice whether to be one with your parents I mean you may say you don't like your parents and you you have issues with your parents community America but you're still one with them so unless it's really a dysfunctional situation then you're completely detached from who you are there's love there's a ver a fraud where one this is cloud but there's something we call an English life but emotion Kurdish I think it's much more clear it's called covered respect respect doesn't come from being one you know what respect comes from the opposite respect means I respect something in you that I lack respect comes from appreciating your other miss that which makes you not like me that's the concept of coven alva comes from the fact that I realize that you and me are one and the more I realize that we're one the deeper the love and when we're really innately naturally organically one like in a case of family there is natural love respect as a different creature respect is I actually recognize the bow injuries between you and me and there's something in you that I don't have just like there's something in me that I don't have that you don't have and what I am respecting is the differences the other nests that which makes you distinctive individualistic there are those aspects which were completely one and there's all those aspects where praten I am an individual and you are a distinct individual and respect underscores the fact that I appreciate the other Ness and even though it's not me it's not a reflection of me it's not a continuum of me it's not part of me but that's precisely why I respect it what I respect I respect your contribution to the story of life your contribution to the world your contribution to my life as a result of you being you not of you being me what's the most important thing in a relationship is it Ahava or is it covered we're usually accustomed to say and believe all you need is love you don't need anything else now of course love is crucial and vital and wonderful and beautiful and romantic and maybe all you need is love but I want to say you also need respect and I'll tell you why as long as you're on your honeymoon and you don't see any differences between you love is perfect and usually in the beginning of a relationship when you're blind to all the distinct qualities that separate you from each other to the differences in you you just feel that dramatic romantic one is you fly with you love it's perfect but then at some point you often sober up and you suddenly notice while we're so different than I am you're so different and here is where so many relationships break because they don't graduate from a verdict of it now a ver is the glue average the cloud hours that power that makes two people one but cover it is the ability to recognize that is also a prat there's also something called the individual there is something called the cloud that is beyond the prat that's off there's a place where you and your mother are really one where you and your father I really want this the institution called family there's this solution called marriage this is the institution called cloudy stroll there's no you there's no me there was a poet the Knights of straw she wrote after the six-day Shanna's nastily or shall i am she went in for the first time T we shall enter the old city Shakti as Shmi I forgot my name I didn't feel like I have an individual name there was no ego left that's Alva that's the clown but what about the prat what happens when I suddenly feel myself and you feel yourself can the relationship still thrive now you need to learn respect for individuality borders boundaries you are not me I am NOT you and that's fine the great idea of voracious keep it selam aleykum assess or other other men have it together a bit selam aleykum means you may not be in my image but you're still in God's image I may not be in your image but you're still in but I'm still in God's image the source of all conflict in history is basically this if you're not in my image you must be bad if you're not in my image you deserve to be degraded the revolution of you this kite was you may not be in my image but you're in the day bonus floyd loves image and he's imageless so there's no one image that captures him it's like a jigsaw puzzle every piece of the puzzle is part of the picture no piece captures the full picture it's like the notes of a ballad every note is distinct and unique and it's part of the song but no note independently can capture the whole song together through the praten we create this song and then there is that one is that Clow in which all the plot and melt away into a larger oneness and then you disguise ultimately there's always that balance and negotiation between these two supreme values the yahud and it's Ybor is Judaism a socialist religion or a capitalist religion doesn't believe that there's no Yahoo there's only a simple or there's no simmer there's only a young kid he'll go put it in prickly others that we just learned yesterday what did Hillel say it may not nearly melee if I will not be for myself who will be here for me how about the blame I wish merely never Harlem the Mishna says in son head and a flame at Zion it's not arrogant you have to know there's something at stake in your individuality in your in your story and you have to recognize that I can't recognize it for you cuz I'm not you but then Hillel says or simila acts me Marnie but if I'm only for myself then Marnie don't I reduce myself to something even smaller than myself when I don't recognize the larger cloud that unites us so there's aa hava which represents the cloud discovered which pays tribute to the Pratt's the individual that is different than every other individual it's true with children I ask you a sensitive question you love your children do you respect your children all parents or most parents love their children not all parents respect their children I love you so much and therefore I want you to be just like me and I need you to live up to my expectations and I don't even see the difference between you and me you're just completely me let's face it for every year - sure mama she may look at her 50 year old baby and he's still in her womb he thinks he left but the truth is he's still in her but there's another concept covered covered means you are not me even if you're my child and I have to tune in to who you are not to who I want you to be I was given a mission by a Shem to polish your diamond so it could be glow according to its radiance according to its light I have a uncovered it's true with the Jewish people and maybe share may have shared the story I was once at a conference about anti-semitism somebody gets up and says rabbi what's the difference between Jews and anti-semites I say what do you mean says they both don't like Jews I said I'll explain to you the difference an anti-semite that I'm talking about a ball about - anti-semites no civilized anti-semite some quote Churchill is saying and entice Emily somebody who hates Jews more than necessary I don't know if Churchill said it or it's just quoted in his name but let's talk about somebody who hates Jews as much as necessary you come over to this anti-semite and say what's your opinion about the Jewish people I'll tell you the vermin of the earth what's your opinion of Israel they're responsible for every problem that faces humanity Syria Egypt Sudan Libya Pakistan Afghanistan Iraq global warming it's all Israel's fault so what do you think of the Jewish people fact theory a horrible horrible people but I don't understand your cardiologist is dr. Weiss he's a Jew he's different he's a close friend as an exceptional cardiologist but your accountant is mr. Cohen he's also a Joey he's one of my closest friends he's an honest man you'll never find such an honest man but Ahrens and your lawyer is Finkelstein he's also Jewish just where do you get such a genius of a lawyer he's been with me for 45 years but your dentist is also true name is Klein that's half my dentist what a man what a man look what he has done to my teeth and you cpa is also jewish of course what's your opinion of the Jewish people horrible people curse people but what about all these people they're different they're unique Jews they're special people this is an anti 7 now come to any Jew in the world say the beads what's your view of Klaus all what's your view of the Jewish people I me fiamma how you slow go yes what bothers you the shake in there hey looky I love the Jewish people I love them tell me tell me a little bit about you shocking your neighbor yank I got it I got him what about your brother-in-law how lowlife i'm luciene it's a despicable fellow what about the other neighbor who sits near you and show don't even get close and I wouldn't trust him with a dime I want to trust him what's your opinion of cloudy show you can't believe you the chicken just love God's people unbelievable I looked at this Jew I said that's the difference the anti-semite hates Claudius wrong but sometimes he likes rebus all Jews love Claudius wrong but we sometimes have a problem with the dead be sir all the Jewish people how can you not love the Jewish people I'm a sham my blessin sky in it but the individual Jew a schlemiel schlimazel I'm Lunik i had a cut error uh selfish addict it's sometimes easy to love Claudius no but Claudia Stahl is made up of rebus roles or Rebbetzin yourselves there's the clown and there's the Pratt's and the clown is the most powerful when you're in that state of idealistic transcendent oneness but there's also moments of emaii mealy mealy do I create space for you then I say no he's not like me he's too different than me so what this allows you to expand your horizons this is what perspectives not as a-- now come back to the gomorian yavanas the students of Rabbi Akiva rebbi akiva students might knock avoids Eva's air and we ask the question they were students of rebbi akiva and the answer is because they were students of Rabbi Akiva like Margo covets a bizarre this was not only a demonstration of a floor it was also a demonstration of a profound quality but yet it was still flawed because they were students of rebbi akiva they were students of the master who taught that is a clown Gothel battalion is a clown of Tyra and it's after Loretta commercial the one who taught that ten Jews become a transformative reality and therefore the text of Zima doesn't change the one who taught that issue Isha have the name youth and K which is an accent and her booty Masonic it's an indivisible reality the one who taught that Chloe is a practice never Ruby scene I that trade is one Edson that's indivisible and all the pro team of Taylor are reflections of one clown of one XML heyn heyn via la vain that rebbi akiva raised students and those students picked up on something very real and profoundly Akiva and yet in the glorious tradition of Judaism there was also something flawed and here we come to a Stickle of Seamus small vehicular logged by Murtagh fresh iron base we spoke about Seamus small in the sense that if you write two letters shinmin members Seamus small that said the mission assassin Shabbos so that's why he named it safe for shame miss Laura a name of small partner's name is absurd small Borenstein small search over there socket rubber rabbit from Poland son of the Avenue nazar who was the son-in-law of the cut scale so the avenue nazar was above rom Borenstein and this was a son of small Borenstein Asafa travel says the shame is small he asks this question how can the students of rebbi akiva betray their teacher so intensely veneer the he may indian he discovered zebras acquire a man who she meets at Sharia but her very mile of shame but respect comes from noticing in your colleague something that you don't have I may have something you don't have but there's something about you that I will never have it's because you're different than me not because you like me alkane no you're covered by shall they be fragile Guevara momento that's why I have to respect you because if something unique and this is what I respect it's your contribution it's not me it's not my style but I have to pay tribute to it I have to give respect for it your personality is different your veldt unshowered is different your soul is different your mind is different whether the kotsky rebel to say the Gemara says in in the sector some Hedren that cash aims ain't parts of Fayette Chavez Kathleen de a-sayin Chavez no two people have the same face ever even twins no two people have the same mindsets he says what's the key Shane what's the comparison it's two separate things we don't look alike we don't think alike he says cos Allah are telling us something profound did you ever see somebody getting upset at somebody else because they don't look like him did anybody ever come over to you and say you know when will you start looking like me why do you always have to be different can't your nose be as handsome as mine nobody does that on the contrary we don't want anybody to look like us see so why do you get upset when somebody doesn't think like you doesn't look like you he's not supposed to look like you he's not supposed to think like you so that's recovered comes from the cane zebras are shallow he talkin shallow yet the government available Fatiha everybody has something unique that's different and in that sense they're superior faheen a Fordham the average brave Orem Carlo Kimba Milo Macomb Oakland ain't shy as Lima shaver is a yacht recovered lazarey collateral what about in the limbs of the bottle every limb contributes something that another limb contributes but you don't say your arm gives respect to your leg and your leg pays respect to your stomach why should I let hearts it's all seeing as one we're not distinct we're one it's one body or the words of the record show it's not hardcovers famous it's her cover music is there's one reality called the organism of human life but I have an arm and have a nose respect the eyes we experience it as one entity so what's the respect VM Calif idak evade him Shane KS I believe I admonish yesh Lima commercial a Shia fiscal Lucas covered Zelizer Cherie Coulomb Keyshia when you have friends who experience themselves as one person with one heart this room to say they can't respect each other you know why because they experience themselves as one if I respect you because you have something unique that I want to receive from you they have to contribute to me I can respect you but what if I truly experience you as one with me so then the concept of cover it is not here veneer is there hiya tom comedy Rebecca ver I believe this was the students of rebbi akiva because they were students of every Aquila because there ever was the master of a half delay Erika Micah so the focus was your one with me I'm one with you it's hard for me to respect you in your other nests it's hard for me to recognize and pay tribute to the individuality to the distinctiveness and let's try to explain this perhaps a little more practically and that is Tommy the rebbi akiva believing about half glory Africa might when they saw somebody who had a different path in avoid recession somebody who had a different Mahalo some of you had a different way because they felt that they're completely one so was difficult for them to pay tribute and create space for the other nests on the contrary if I feel that my path is exactly the right path and it's my path and I'm honest how can I respect something that is so different but every person has differences and there's no to leave they hashem who serve God in the same way because every soul is different every mind is different every heart is different and I need you to be in my because I love you so much I can't detach from you I can just say you're a separate person you're not a separate person you're one with me it's too disappointing for me it's too frustrating for me to be able to recognize your other Ness Lane Agra covered Zabuza or the way the shame is fool puts it they couldn't even be the concept of respecting the individuality and distinctiveness of another person I treat you like I treat myself near one the expectations are the same the demands are the same the frustrations are the same I've Oba MS aina Cannes is not true shad a cold salad with Sadiq Ashley mother beef neots my every topic has his own chamber very Nadeau Miller other method it's not like one person the Afshin newts emits other cloud mccomber cam need some gum Kim it's a tap lat even though we're beloved as a cloud were also beloved as individuals we neither in collected vehicle been a coup das love of allah wahda and every person is evaluated according to them the hood of his heart which is different than everybody else's heart but i but i valdaire extra schemata me quite caduceus of the peters dividend madrid fashion vehicle I heard my father they have an a nazar the explanation him in the metrics of vehicle what's the medicine vehicle so right above the shame issue all we quoted the marriage partials by Apple Schmo should have a passion impress the Madras poses a contradiction how might even miss for its varla kulamish a micro the posture can you Shia says the rebind Urschel item takes out all over the legions of heaven and he calls them all one name who Lamba shamian everyone has one name because of F Redeemer into he'll only say every morning hallelujah kitto Zamora by now a hurry foolish fool a macabre schlotz why some mine mister like I have in Lihue LOM shame OEC car a they all have names different names Kate so describe Mushnik suvamay lu do they all have one name or do they all have individual names what's the answer are they plotting or are they one claw that's the great question we're dressing says the Madras shackle - Miroku mavica Schlick raised some kescott who carry the coulomb shame at heart Luca show Carol Coletta banished my who courier Semenko Gavriel the camel of coulomb seamus seeka ray sometimes Hashem wants to summon them as one sometimes he wants to highlight that there really wanders one transcendent cloud in which all of them I want they have one name they don't have this think names but sometimes coulomb shame I see courier my colleague of real and the matters continues anally LOM Island min INF LaMotta maybe this is only true above how do we know it's true below Shan mi reuk Arash and the same but solid this cloudy strong is an entity called Claudia stroll in which you are not you and I am that I what are we the you and the I melt away in a larger spiritual divine oneness in which there's a large symphony that creates a synergy of all of our praten into one larger transcendent cloud and that's a very powerful reality and when you feel that when you experience it there's no going back in many ways because the sweetness and the truth of it is very compelling because the truth is we all come from one source which is indivisible and the more you go back to that source the more you find the cloud but there's also something else he loves you as you which is not like me i am i you are you I've told you the voice of the cuts clever we Mitzvah du bist du and du bist du by let's finish finish finish this one do business do a bit finish for Lisbon in dooba dooba dooba dooba miss here come the bees do if i am i because you are you and you are you because i am i I am that I and you are not you but if I am I because I am I and you are you because you are you then I am i and you are you that's all you have to know about life not much more so but much molten this is what most therapists will try to communicate to you over 4 years of of analysis Hillel said it may not mealy mealy McCullum shame I see Carla and I just thought maybe this is how you understand the cookin what do we say boyish lima sham myth he saw O'Connor's harif English school a lathe he heals the brokenhearted Omaha Beach lots of ice on he bandages their wounds their agony my name is Paula could cover McCallum shame I seek RA he gives a number for every star every star has its name what's the connection what's the connection hurry famous male who accomplished lots Lisa means you can't just treat the community the yeshiva the people the city the organization as a cloud who are you you're just part of the clown because what often happens is that leaves people brokenhearted it leaves people wounded it leaves people feeling abandoned neglected D legitimized they don't have yet the security the confidence and the sophistication to understand the beauty of the cloud which transcends the Prats because you never gave them the track to be able to transcendent to transcend it you forced them into the cloud but you never gave them the gift of the Pratt's R therefore it's never voluntary they gave up themselves without ever having a self that's tough you understand what I'm saying Lulu mom shame I see car a yes there's cloudy snow but this retro so now we come to fight to the final point which the shame is small discusses in the continuation of this tickle during the first three months of the year is Nissen year and seven those who are familiar with the zodiac the youth Bayes Marcellus right every month has its Mazal its constellation which happens to be has to do with the fact that in the already in ancient times they analyzed that as the Sun orbits every month another group of stars that was see it in a particular formation so what's nice in April is muzzle flare how do you say it arias right ah arias and ear is showing the bull the Ox how do you say it terrace ah Paris right yes the ax and then you have seven is two Oh men twins what do they call it Gemini listen ear seven what's the difference between the sheep and the bull you all know the difference sheep follow the herd they believe in the cloud sheep are submissive they're docile we call a person he's a sheep the Ox the bull sure you should know god I bother staszek and I'll show you the bull is individualistic the bull is aggressive especially when you get on his when you get on his nerves because I'll say that declared the sheep ain't let me look I laugh but they have one voice they all have one voice the shirt is the individualistic one when the Jewish people were born and listen they were born a child experiences himself as part of his mother as part of her mother as part of the family the infant clings to the mother when you still a child who are you this is my party my mommy my miss that is who you are but then you mature and you become a teenager and suddenly the 11th commandment becomes whatever your mother says is wrong whatever your father says is automatically wrong Mark Twain once said when I was nine my dad was a genius when I was 19 he was a fool now I'm 29 I have a few kids of my own and suddenly my father has such brilliant wisdom it's funny how much the old man learnt in ten years in this sin you're the Sheep you're in the heard you're the cloud ear is the Jewish people grow they mature they grow into themselves where do we see this Manaka sama hey I'm at Bayes the last line ahem shut the hey spiral of colorful baffling works as a monopolist there's different counts the count of Schmidt and evil is done by besting on behalf of Klaus roll what about Spheeris homer a mime who used account says who's fired them lock em and parsha cemre should they sphere the whole effort the effort I'm gonna buy em enough to stuff some info I'm gonna buy a mitzvah lemony yummy or mitzvah lemony shove whoo we did a mitzvah to count the days there's a mitzvah the counter weeks hi I'm Shiva your man shame shove whoever boy man hi I'm shiny Yaman shame shall wear a Scottish name my man the days and the weeks and the commentators struggle what's the point I'm a my Papa said no he didn't do the weeks what's the point you're being a European as a conditional offer a baby yerucham says that today the days of Anatolia the weeks amid the Obama Spartan life Emma Mercury's our Shabbos Miyavi a thermos a new four chefs are bosses to me most the count of weeks depends on the carbon dimer the count of day stands independent of the hit of choice versus that all sphere assignment is Madeira Bond over there mmm is that all serious time has been our Toyota Rob a Miriam says depends the days of the weeks what's the difference I ask you a question you have to be a rocket scientist to know that nine days is a week and two days do I really have to say that do I have to say that 14 days is two weeks just say hey my boss say you're my information voice what's dismissed Willem mmm its elimination between this tube sukham Sheva Shabazz's tis true huh Michigan that's a by a source what's the logic behind it the answer is of course what's different between days and weeks one is Pratt and one is claw days are individual call yo yo yo yo V definitely etceteras Euler every day something else was created every day as a different energy hi I'm your mission I am Shanee what's the week the week is the summation of all the seven days congeal into one day which is represented by fabulous which is the cloud the summation the transcendence that brings all the weeks together the meaning of the ariza is that before Hawaii do you say 6ms Myron of to Elmo's accepted in all Jewish communities but sooner Amina and Cheryl are my six corresponds to the six days of the week and then you say Ms miss Shelley I'm a Shabbos and the McCollum's say that each mismo you fix up what you did that day Shabbos brings it all together it's the shovel what's the week in life how do you count your life how do you define your life as an individual or as part of the cloud I'm gonna buy ya Mitzvah lemon Mayo ami Mitzvah Lemon me shovel we of course there's a value to the week but there's also a mitzvah the count today but there's also a mitzvah to count the week there is love and there is respect and when you respect yourself you can respect others you respect others you can respect yourself and then this a ver does the oneness in which were all really one do you assure me says I'm assessed in the Dharam what's the logic of others who serve after the rhetoric America he says imagine imagine if by mistake you're cutting something with a knife and my mistake I assume you cut your finger one finger cuts another finger says what are you gonna do you're gonna take the knife and I'll cut the other finger he says you gotta be a fool you know why because it's one body who you punishing when you cut the finger that caught the other finger you're punishing the finger that was caught so your zombies as you go and you strike somebody you take revenge because you believe they hurt you he says ultimately you're becoming detached from yourself to one organic whole so tell me their every Akiva said what respect we respect who covered the covered well one you are me I am you salt ain't showing such aunt Tommy Arabia Keeble a no-go colored butts Veera is the time of year you go from flat to shy and when you become a show you could start goring so what happens in the month of the year Tommy T rabbi akiva Leno who covers a bazaar and this ultimately undermine their very identity entirely the punishments are not to punish I want to punish me I want to take revenge a punishment is a natural result as a result of disrespecting each other they detach themselves from ultimately their own source of life their own source of life because their source of life acknowledges the fact that is you and this I this lahul um Seamus Akari Ruka ration be shamed it's a low and bit sallow is but a low just like URI is URI makalah's Mahal and got real is Gavriel and therefore the midst of Sri Sai Amir is to count the days and the count of weeks because at the end of the day and at the end of the count we are all one we are all individuals and ultimately the clown needs the Pratt and the Pratt needs the clown in every Pratt you have the clown and in the cloud you have the Pratt and both of them are essential components in the mahalo of you described and in the ashcoff of yiddish kite we are we are both one and we are all individualistic I love Klaus Rob and I respect rebus Rock thank you have a wonderful week next week the shear is on assertion we-we-we the buyer 11 you know why you live that's how the Covey was shall I am very 11 he was over see once his wife had a issue with her foot the promises he went to the doctor they went to the doctor together so somebody said he did the doctor sons take him to the doctor he said my wife's my wife's means a my wife's leg hurts us when is it for sister today our leg is her very good so that you think you saying you can't say you should take a good friend because then such a fight so there's no that relationship is gone what still unites them is the men the ministry unites a carbon unites but what is chenille come on very you saying it may not Neely mealy but what is down baby is part of the claw so beautiful I wanted to ask you what you're saying with me I mean that that's the fallacy and training people's minds in critical thinking why should we why should we train people to arrive at the singing destination you know you have different method like I'm Carly Occam's razor you have to content yeah like [Music] well-trained Minds is somebody that somebody who wrote a book a few years ago I forgot his name but he basically argues but the whole Western world the way was trained to thwart is perverted he calls that he says we were trained to think based on Greek Greek philosophy he calls it the possibility of know everything to the possibility of no which means everything is categorized this idea and then you challenge it now and then from many many many knows maybe maybe you'll arrive at a yes but basically every faith is is categorized and has its parameters and every body operates from a certain structure and therefore it's the possibility of no and he says really is another way of thinking which is called the possibility of yes possibility of es is actually trying to be inclusive rather than exclusive and to see that perhaps more things to be incorporated if you can expand your horizons rather than having a fixed model and seeing if it's in okay a food exclude us when everyone has their fixed model so it's always the possibility of saying no this is saying yes if you have a certain a certain line this is how you see foods that's why this is your and yet we say a moving the de varela contrived because there's another model and there's space for that model and I think the more person could do that the more their own model is enhanced because it's not just driven by a very narrow the method is a whole often in some head cooling plate you know simeon right guy comes 71 so let him say you have to come wait to missing me out six seventy said he's guilty and once said he's innocent you killer seventy once propeller p4 carrot so the medicinal brings a deal candy rama Misun Hedren Shikoku and if you make up some dinner out of debate without hearing a second side it's legitimate like if the debate is a bunch of nobody said not one member this in heaven said wait what's approaches to further study his background let's see faint and let's fight about it which means in other words when you're arguing with me you are helping because if you don't argue with me I will never know if my position is coming from narrow mindedness or it's coming from expansiveness but you arguing with me you force me to go deeper and crystallize my view so that it can deal with your view so I don't have a second view I'm not sure that my viewers is accurate I think this applies very much to marry good so you say evenly where's the that's a good question or a husband and a wife a lot to bring together a commentator than after being viciously and they bring the flower carbon minister together they are really wrong rather than any other thing that cleans not a question you understand why we know it's two individually no question because he could bring it so it's fine so the question was deeply what's the big press big Shila nation says we know it can give something to wipe and it's hers all the way even though they're married and their ship is so why not commit so that her husband has rabbit we see to the Mishnah so that if he's a coin that's my question what's the big seller his give it away give it away he mocked it to her oh I forgot that's Gemini I forgot so to omen that's that's twins because what are twins twins is you have two people they look alike when I see you I see me but we're still different they're individualistic and that's when Tyra was given tario was given in the third month which is not one it's not two there's one with his only Juanes there's two Withers duality and there's three where there's the integration and duality so we're twins in many ways were one for also individuals and and by toilet says quiche I had believer hut right and yet if one drew was missing the Toyota couldn't have been given you needed every Pratt and even Martin tater there was motion must hit salats my Aramis it's a lot smoother um if it's a lot small the Worstell categories it says I'm a rat my burger said it this might make it quick he said you learned in your Shiro how many years and two days before you finish me you're married whatever you have a disagreement the roaches it's all gone it was just waiting for disgusting disagree only because you want is nothing now are there a high end yes so what's the point the point is this because there's no there's no argument he only disagrees because he wants there are higher monsters but if he's going to disagree just to get the person guilty it's an asura Amish are a fine mesh bottom a beautiful time yeah it's an interesting way of thinking things did you did you say that AHA becomes before covered in your marriage I didn't say that we face the truth is that Terrace Amish pathes based on this two weeks out of the month is arvo and two weeks out of the month is covered that's really what it is intimacy no they say so during the two weeks I've covered if I'm not interested in having an interested if I'm not if I'm not interested that's the point the other person is not an object right you learn about the other nosov the person you're like a friend and yes there's a separation you're not you're not in control of the person or vice versa and other person is not just there for your benefit to your enjoyment or vice versa you actually develop a liking as part of personalities which are always there and then there's two weeks out of the month where the terrorist says there's complete alva but I get back to my friendship now and one helps the other but covered nurtures of another nurtures cover but with a friendship you're always forgiving of the other person's false weaknesses you're always finding ways of because I think because of you've developed it to the other and you're not able to do that sometimes with your wife were you're not able to do it with your children what do you think what I think because you haven't yes so you're saying that covered always has to precede Arve okay it says by you talking difficult but yeah how about after the marriage right then hey Sarah mieka hits hookers rifki but the he Loyola is shot by a eval that I became after the marriage but some Sharif all her Sheena's commentaries and won't iris know that sometimes in civil as enemy civilus culture says you love and therefore you get married and there you'd suck got married and then he loved her so snapshot you don't get married because you love its brother the real Alva comes as a result of marriage number one and number two sometimes before marriage what's most important is the respect appreciation of the other person I think this is the message I'm confirming this is good good very good usually some of these things there's no one not a thermometer I don't measure it with regards from I have regrets from revenue and focus okay Shania Locka Locka both with respect that with love okay well with children is different in a spouse their boy that they're dead they're part of you you're right because children are born as part of you your spouse is not okay in arvid solve this two levels this called avec lui a bit over and I've a shame Italy of the diver advocate scientists and other at Smith's is external love I love you cuz I love me and you're helping me and then there's a barracks miss that I realized that we're one essence and that's a much deeper love so you're right then Ave itself there's a a more selfish form and a higher but what we're arguing is that there Alva was deeper about Cuba's Tom ending it just lacked the component of coverage yes yes of course you don't you can't respect the other person especially if he's different yeah yeah good the main thing is my civic oil not the speeches you hear what I'm telling you there now this is a sign I was like you'll even no carving ha chiefly come I am leaving [Applause] no carbonation [Music]