Metzora: How Much Is Too Much - STUMP THE RABBI (201)

we're back we're back on our Wednesday night stum to Rabbi we're after some you guys we ask some questions and will give us the answers tonight's sh is going to be for the for Tal the young little girl daughter of raim and ran is back in the hospital we're praying to to give her another miracle and release her completely healthy this time uh and to never go back to the hospital aside from one day to give birth to little and also imis sah Lana and all of am is and all the righteous noahides especially the ones that support us by watching our lectures supporting our campaigns and helping us in all the wonderful ways that they can uh just as to give you guys as a reminder if you haven't watched the uh videos uh that we released in the last 24 hours we released a couple of really important videos one of them is is uh the uh campaign uh campaign video the Pim uh campaign this is the first uh video that we've published about it uh just showing you guys a little bit of uh on theground work there's actually another video that will be published uh in the next several hours uh to show you some more uh just a little taste a little taste of uh some of the very hard work uh that's being done uh to feed literally thousands and thousands of people thousands of people in is which is a lot of work uh and uh a lot of organizing uh but ultimately it is uh extraordinarily uh rewarding uh to see all the happy faces all the wonderful people that uh you know simply didn't think that they're going to have a hug didn't think that they're going to uh have a uh uh such a wonderful gift from a before the holiday but made us the the The Messengers that uh were able to provide these wonderful families uh some food uh and different things they needed for the holiday uh and this year I believe uh we've reached more uh people than any other year literally thousands of people uh so we had um also the in one day uh that video hasn't come out yet but the event itself was already done we also had uh the uh Chief Rabbi of jerus of Jerusalem and also the former uh Amar uh join us he was uh baffled by the the event and all the amazing things that the organization is doing that video of the his uh of the speeches actually is actually online in Hebrew but we're going to work on a few other things with it uh uh soon uh uh but that event was uh well over 500 representing well over 500 families uh each got uh you know uh money to uh to help them with the uh holiday uh and uh also each study t for the Merit of all of those that are giving and have given uh to help us uh in this amazing uh campaign uh we have some more giving uh to do uh tomorrow we have a uh a couple of uh cities to go to uh to feed uh to feed uh several hundred more people so a lot to do a lot to do a lot of work and uh all of your uh giving is very very much appreciated please uh donate on uh BH p.org bh.org that's B is in beat H is in Hashem PES p.org uh you could donate generously over there uh and help us uh feed more uh people during this holiday uh which B is also going to be uh some of the things we'll discuss tonight in regards to how much is giving too much giving uh whether it's giving of yourself giving of your time giving of your money uh this is certainly a uh very important subject to discuss and we'll succeed in doing it uh the other video that we published which certainly uh was a big uh big win uh for team Hashem which is getting uh the recording of uh the number one Rabbi in uh in America and one of theor Feldman uh you know exposing the heresy of Manus fredman and in so many words uh saying everything that we've said over the last several years in just less words uh but to have a Gad uh speak out against someone is not an easy feat and needless to say this was a wonderful surprise for the holidays uh because uh people unfortunately don't realize that uh how how much heresy is coming out of this person's mouth Manis fredman's mouth and uh through uh all of what's been happening over the last few days unfortunately but fortunately we found even more heresy uh that he came out with uh and we'll expose that later on B but he's already said enough uh that uhen Feldman pretty much not only called him a ignoramus Amit a heretic and some other uh uh descriptions and uh adjectives uh that uh certainly uh uh one uh that's familiar with how the world of Torah Works knows that this is not a a uh the same thing as you personally insulting somebody else uh you know by making fun of them this is a uh direct attack at the ideology at the false teachings at the words of heresy that came out of the mouth and uh the uh the writings of Manus fredman this is what it's all about it's a uh uh and in the world of Torah for those of you that still after all these years are not used to hearing Torah Scholars speak this way that just simply means you have not learned much Torah because if you have learned any respons books which is the uh core foundation of the Torah which is a uh the they are called in Hebrew shoting the uh answers and questions that the sages have published throughout all of the generations this is exactly uh what they uh discuss uh when uh talking about specific points uh they me mention names they mention uh statements much much harsher than I've ever said but uh the politically correct world that we live in today uh is apparently uh you know is uh not accustomed to hearing uh uh you know rabis uh calling people Heretics uh and they think automatically it's automatically it's bad automatically it's and all types of catchphrases that they heard in uh you know in some video or some local lecture that they think applies everywhere like a one siiz fits all even if theor is saying it like literally a person should humble themselves even a little bit to realize that if if a a commoner is saying something and you disagree that's one thing but if a someone has dedicated literally nearly a century of their life learning Tora you have the audacity to disagree with them to actually say that what they're saying is wrong and even more so to call it a sin like just a little bit of humility in common sense automatically should remove that stupid thought from your head uh but needless to say the Tuma that uh Manis fredman feeds into people's minds certainly will cause them to make foolish decisions like that uh but needless to say this video is very important and uh we're looking forward to hearing more of the joined this war against the heresy uh that's out there today that's poisoning the minds of innocent Jews and Gentiles alike uh with a conniving smile and a uh sarcastic uh humor that seems Innocent but unfortunately is worse than a cobra's venom either way the video is out there andem people are shocked uh many people have already uh that have seen our in the past H you know and just assumed that we were wrong uh have already uh realized that um they are wrong and uh everything we've said already for years has been correct uh because it's in accordance to the Torah this is not an Applause to me this is simply the fact that we follow we have our raim who is a who is a giant that has written over 50 books who has gotten the respect of across the world uh who guides Us in every single step that we do so there was never even a second that we thought that we were in the wrong but unfortunately uh the world will call you crazy until they'll call you a genius uh and uh that's just the way the world works so with that being said we have uh a season of uh holidays uh where PES is upon us uh then of course we we uh during the second day of PES we start the uh you know a time will'll talk about when it's you know more uh you know more more relevant uh then of course we have LBA we have a lot going on but of course the uh Exodus yam all of these amazing things are uh what we're about to celebrate uh but at the same token we cannot forget our very very dear you know I know that everyone is uh very uh busy with preparing for the holiday cleaning the closets cleaning the fridge cleaning everything cleaning the walls but you cannot forget about cleaning the n and one of the most important things in cleaning the N is allowing yourself to receive a rebuke and know that if you heard it that means a sent it if you heard it that means a sent it and when a person does not accept rebuke upon thems and they simply look elsewhere they think that it's no they heard it but it's not relevant to them it's relevant to their friends it's relevant to their spouse it's relevant to their kids if you heard it that means it's relevant to you why because has an infinite amount of choices of Torah to bring to your table if he chose to bring this to you that means it's relevant to you whenever you may hear this whether it's today tomorrow 20 years from now whenever that time may be uh you know this is relevant to you and the same thing goes with all M all all all forms of M if you're hearing it it's certainly relevant to you now the topic is giving how much is too much giving because we've all heard the term uh you know give it all give it your all give it everything leave everything on the on the field all types of Expressions that you know in essence are trying to the uh uh give you the message that you should try your hardest give everything you can that's nice to say but how many of us can truly say that we really app light in our life especially when it comes to giving something we don't want to give you know sometimes you know you you get a gift especially when you're a young kid you get a gift your parents bought you something and you get a nice toy or something and then all of a sudden one of your brothers or sisters you know wants to play with it too and you're like oh but it's my toy yeah of everyone knows it's your toy you're the one that got the gift but just because it's your yours doesn't mean you shouldn't share yeah but it's mine no one is saying it's not yours but why are you so stingy with your stuff and this is something that a person already is born with uh and if you don't work on it you will end up being not only a person that's very stingy uh and uh very uh uh you know full of problems and your life and marriage and so on but you'll also be a miserable person because ultimately the greatest happiness is achieved through giving not receiving this is the reason why people that give tend to be happy whereas people that uh have a lot uh don't necessarily uh have happiness you know you have uh suicide uh in reports that came out of the US government uh several years ago report that uh uh over 71% of the people that commit suicide meaning people that kill themselves they get to such a point of depression and mental instability uh and misery that they literally kill themselves this you would think would be a problem for poor people but you would be wrong why because over 71% of the people that commit suicide are middle to upper class and so so many words it's a rich person's problem people that have more many times end up being more miserable and it's not because they have more but rather because they don't know what to do with it once they have it because they don't realize that having it is not necessarily going to give you the happiness but rather giving it could not necessarily guarantee would but could help you uh gain happiness either way why why is giving even a topic that's even relevant to continues the discussion of the spiritual disease of tarat uh it also talks about the uh the different punishments that Hashem gives to people that are immoral uh whether it's the uh being a zav or a Zava which is uh disgusting liquids coming out of the ble without a person's control uh and uh in essence it's a form of punishment that brings a high level of Tuma on the person where they cannot be next to anybody else they uh they have anything that they sit on including if they sit on uh you know a horse uh let's you have the the stable on top of the horse that stable cannot be used by anybody else anyone else that touches it will become t uh if they lay on a bed that bed is T literally a disaster a spiritual disaster that does not go away until the person does Chua and literally they know for a fact that hasm forgave them because otherwise they will continue having this disease and anyone that wants to know more about it it's talks extensively about it it's really literally a very disgusting disease uh but it's a punishment it's a very very serious punishment that uh is only challenged by the other punishment was it satat satat that is a punishment from Hashem for people that say people that speak gossip uh people that uh do all types of things that are detestable in the eyes of hem uh and literally they are now impure they have a physical and spiritual disease they're kicked out of the camp you can't touch them if you see them you have to scream out t t and embarrass them uh in so many words because that's part of their tun in so many words a disaster another disaster This Disaster This Disaster this is a uh you know a dead animal this is a uncurly uh slaughtered animal both of them you can't uh do anything good with so what does this have to do with giving we see that when these people do Chua and God forgives them and the disease starts you know goes away even if sometimes theat is on the house the walls of the house have tarat literally there such uh impurity that even the house could be affected green and and and and red stripes appear all over the walls uh of course this was also a uh one of the ways that Hashem uses an opportunity to uh to give uh uh sustenance to is but again the this was not a uh uh just because he wanted to give them something this also because they made sins the point being is is that uh when a person does Chua and stop speaking gossips stop speaking uhuh things that are against the tah stops being immoral and Hashem forgives them they start healing and as soon as the disease goes away and uh they see that they have become pure they go to the Coen the Coen confirms that they are pure and then they have to do a whole sacrificial service in order to complete their Chua they have to bring different animals and sacrifice them as part of their thank you to Hashem that he forgave them but also I'm sorry to Hashem that they're even in this position in the first place and it's very expensive meaning mean if you messed up by saying one time you said about the rabbi one time you said about someone that's a kosher person literally the amount of suffering that a person gets if you just read this you don't even have to read all the other punishments that happened to really really horrible Sinners literally if you just read the process of chuva for someone that said and they get satat what they have to go through how much suffering and Agony they have to go through in this world all of the discoloring in their skin their hair starts growing in strange places places that were bald start growing hair literally they become like a little monster they become like a little monster it's literally like hideous why he said that a kosher person is not a kosher person he said she said something against the Torah hasem punishes many times people say how come hasm doesn't make open Miracles like he did at the time of mosenu this is the reason because because he gave open Miracles he also judged right away because there was no question of whether there was a god you knew there was a god you heard and you saw his words so if you heard and you saw his words and you still went against the to punishment right on the spot right on the spot you say listen you know he was a good Rabbi he helped me do Chua but you know what I don't like the way uh he sent me that message that told me that I'm wrong so I'm not going to listen to him and I'm also going to tell my uh friends not to listen to him either you made a decision such as that you made a such as that don't be surprised if you start having strange hairs coming out of your forehead and colors that even the strongest D is not going to help why punished quickly punished quickly and literally when a person looks at what happened to the people that had satat or the people that were zav where they literally had to walk with it instead of underwear that to walk with a sack disgusting hideous why they went against hasem with something that people today do every day we have an entire industry built on it it's called the news it's called media it's called the Gom parties that I've been talking about for the last six months where young women and old women get together why they want to talk about people that's what we call Gom parties why everyone in that little get together that little having a coffee together chitchatting about what she did and what he did and what the neighbor did and who got divorced and who got married and who you like and who got fat and who got skinny and who got divorced and all those things you talk about that's called gome party why everyone there is going to gome why for that coffee shop for talking about people oh come on Rabbi you're being extreme read the details of this parasha and you're going to say Rabbi you're not extreme enough you're not extreme enough you're like uh you're being too soft you're not telling us the truth truth is much worse than what you say literally you see what happens to a person that hasat so now after this person got the picture did chuva she did chuva she realized that she made a mistake she says I'm sorry to all of the appropriate people to AOS forgives he's the god that's merciful so now tarad starts to go away and what happens she has to go to her husband and say honey you know that uh 20,000 25,000 we have on the side for a rainy day for a vacation for the new new car all that stuff remember that yeah yeah honey yeah sure what yeah I need it wow we go on vacation no not exactly what what do you need it for I need to bring the corot what do you mean you need for the corot no no no give them like $100 no no honey you can't do that I have to buy corot if not I'm going to stay impure forever and you're never going to be able to sleep in the same bed hold my hand even eat with the same spoon of knife that I ate from okay honey here's the bank account why that's the way it is but what happens what happens what happens if a person doesn't have money meaning he made a mistake she made a mistake went against the Torah punished them but when it came down to bringing the sacrifices after they did cha they don't have money for uh bringing three uh three uh lambs and all of these other things they don't have the money for that well first of all you should know there is a special service for poor people but it's not free it's not free even if you're poor you have to come up with some money but nonetheless we see that the Torah has a special discount available for people that are genuinely poor not genuinely cheap you know there's a difference there are people that are genuinely poor meaning they don't actually have any money and then there are people that are genuinely cheap what's what's the difference one doesn't have money the other one pretends like they don't have any money oh wow it cost $2,000 for nah that's too much is there is there is there like uh is there like a uh charity you could a fundraiser you could you can get for me Rabbi that people can uh donate for so I could buy fine is there like a fundraiser that you could uh get for me so I could uh get a new car is there a fundraiser or people that you know Rabbi that uh can get me a trip to Israel cuz I really need it for my N I need to go on vacation maybe you could raise some money for me so I can go on vacation now all of these things are funny to you probably but every one of these requests I've actually received in real life more than once why because people are genuinely cheap not poor today many people especially in Western Society I.E America for those who do not know how the map works are doing okay not everyone certainly there are poor people and that's actually a uh a gift from Hashem for the people that have money and which we'll discuss later on why there's poor people even though it's difficult for the poor people but nonetheless there are many poor people in Israel America all over but overall Jews are doing okay overall Jews especially the ones that are in Western society that are working sometimes even more than one job sometimes even a job that uh gets them uh to make uh you know six figures or more they're doing okay now the fact that people feel like they're struggling or that they are still stingy and they don't want to donate $22,000 they don't want to spend $2,000 on to fill in they don't want to buy a mza for $150 they want a discount or better yet they want you to get the money for them they want you to get the money for them they want to go to Israel but they don't want to spend the money they want to keep the money for a rainy day I'm not sure what kind of rainy day maybe the Maul maybe maybe they're waiting to buy a because uh of what's happening in a generation but nonetheless they don't want to spend the money why you know the money is uh is dear to them I worked hard for this Rabbi I worked hard for this I don't want to spend the money I don't want to spend it so what do you have it for what are you going to keep it for are you the type of person person that by the time you take out the $100 out of your pocket George Washington is sleeping he's already he never thought that he would ever see the light of day he puts glasses on because he first the first time he saw the sun unfortunately being cheap is a disease but sometimes being cheap with money is not the biggest problem a person has sometimes the biggest problem a person has is being stingy with work he's too cheap to give his wife a compliment she's too cheap to give her husband a compliment they're too cheap to give their kids their kids a compliment or even tell them I love you I have some people tell me listen Rabbi I really uh I have a hard time in my marriage because my wife wants me to tell her I love you but I never heard those words in my life I what do you mean you never heard didn't your parents tell you I love you he says not even once your parents never told you I love you even once I've had more than one person tell me they've literally never heard the parents ever say I love you why the parents didn't obviously they probably came from a house that was just like that they also never heard the word I love you but sometimes people are so cheap with words they don't know how to give a compliment they don't know how to give encouragement they don't know how to express themselves in appropriate L this is also a form of stinginess needless to say the Torah tells us that aad hates stinginess even more so gives us laws of how to treat the poor people and poor doesn't always mean poor as a result of lack of money poor could actually be somebody that's in need of anything even if he is actually rich as far as money is concerned he's rich in money but he doesn't have cash and he needs you to help him with some cash so he could do a few things because all of his money is in buildings is in all types of assets so he is considered poor according to the AL definition for you to help him for you to be obligated to help him other times a person is poor in different ways but the point is that there is a laws in regards to how to treat the poor the obvious common uh uh knowledge poor and other types of poor in one of the places you will see it inside the Torah as one of the 613 is in the book of Deuteronomy seph chapter 15 verse number seven has the foundational teachings of the Torah tells us here the foundational teachings of giving and eventually we'll get to the point of understanding what's too much giving because okay I give but if I could just give $10 is that enough $100 is enough $1,000 is enough million dollar is enough how much is enough an hour of my time enough two hours of my time enough five hours of my time enough how much is enough how much is too much Torah says if there shall be a destitute person among you any of your brethren and any of your cities in your land that Hashem your God gives you you shall not Harden your heart or close your hand against your destitute brother rather you shall open your hand to him you shall lend him his requirement whatever is lacking to him beware lest there be a lawless thought in your heart saying the seventh year approaches this is a person that thinks that he's going to lose as a result of giving and in so many words hasem gives him a warning and then after that gives him a promise that everything's going to be okay which again I'm going to read this a few times today so this is the original Source this is the original Source now we have to go to moru we need the ram to tell us not your own ruven we need the rambam to tell us that this is a Biblical Mitzvah the r number 232 the rambam says there's a negative Commandment that aadh prohibited us from from withholding the giving of Charity and relief to our poor brothers and the rambam clarifies that this Mitzvah applies when these conditions are met number one were made aware of their difficult situation and two that we are in a position to help because just because you just heard that somebody in your community or even if it's not your community somebody in is poor doesn't mean that you're automatically obligated to help them what if you yourself don't have food to eat so what if you don't do it then you go you you get a sin no if you don't have the ability to help you don't get a sin the question is how you define that you don't have the ability to help because if you are made aware that there are needy people but yet you're not in the position to help you don't have a problem but if you are in a position to help and you choose not to help now you have a problem now you have a problem and that is what the rambam is telling us here that the exalted God said in the Torah where we just looked in the book of Deuteronomy do not Harden your heart and do not close your hand to your poor brother this verse is the prohibition against acquiring stingy and miserly traits as to refrain from acting in a proper manner meaning withholding giving when giving is warranted this is one of the places here we see that to give is not only something you should do but if you want to be a kosher Jew you have to do it's an obligation to give takaka in fact it's a sin not to give so there's multiple places which we're going to elaborate in further but we need more clarity we know that if we're made aware that someone's having a difficult situation people don't have food to eat a widow doesn't have a job but she has kids that need to eat because you know even though their kids they still need to eat and you have in a position to give her a few hundred but you really want to use a few hundred to get yourself a uh a new a new phone even though you already have a phone guess what if you choose to buy that phone instead of giving her you may find yourself with a problem between you and who gave you the extra money not because he wanted you to get another phone now sometimes a person says listen I need to save money I need to save money because I'm trying to buy a house and the house today if you live in America you want to live in a Jewish community in New York Florida Jersey Baltimore Los Angeles you got to have a lot of money even if you're borrowing 90% of the money from the bank you still have to to have a few 00,000 down payment so person listen every penny counts right now why I'm trying to raise two three four $500,000 so I could buy a house for my family for my kids for this for that so I could only give $100 to help the poor people in is because the three four five 600,000 I have in a bank I needed to buy a house according to the ROM you have a problem according to you have a problem according to the you have a problem according to the SM you have a problem according to you have a problem why no one told you give everything you have but to give so little when you have so much why cuz you're saving who told you you even allowed to save who told you you're allowed to save why I'm being responsible no one's saying to be not responsible but a person needs to know the laws so that's why we have to go deeper we need to ask the rambam for more help rambam has more clarity on this Mitzvah of giving gifts to the poor chapter 7 first Al he tells us an additional mitvah it is a positive commandment to give to the poor among the Jewish people this by the way is also agreed upon by the seph as mitvah number 479 which we'll get into in a moment and is another one of the 63 mitv meaning not to give is a violation and is one of the 63 mitv to give is one of the 630 MIT so you're talking about two completely different MIT how much to give ra will tell us it's a positive commandment to give takaka to the poor among the Jewish people according to what is appropriate for the poor person what does that mean you have to give not in according to you but in according to the poor person again assuming you are aware and are in a position you can't just give whatever you want There are rules for giving if this is within the financial capacity of the donor sources seph chapter 15 verse number five which we just read which says you shall certainly open your hand to him also in the Book of Leviticus chap 25:35 you shall support him a stranger and a resident they shall live with you and also Leviticus 25:36 and your brothers shall live with you here the rambam tells us we have to give it's an obligation not a good deed just to be nice to you have to give in accordance to the poor person's standards not your standards and again poor person doesn't only mean a person that doesn't have money poor person could also be somebody that used to be rich which the ramb actually clarifies in another Al that if the person used to be rich and he lost all of his money it's Al number three in chapter S he was rich he lost all of his money you now have to feed him the same level of food that he ate when he was rich you can't give him oatmeal that you bought for uh 50 cents if he was used to eating steak kosher steak for $25 a day and you have the means to feed him that you have to feed him that you have to feed him $25 a day steak if he was used to the rambam says to ride around town with a horse and a servant that runs in front of him to give him honor if you have the means because you yourself are successful you have to help this formerly rich person according to his standard you have to get him a horse and a carriage and some people to run in front of him in today's world you have to get him a you know like a a Bentley with a driver why because he is poor but of a different standard than the guy that uh most people think about when they think poor they think about somebody homeless so then the rambam already takes us to a different world when we're thinking about giving now what's giving first you should know that clarified that a person is not obligated to give to the point where they have to borrow money in order to give you don't have to go borrow money you have to give based on what you have again what you really have not what you imagin to have cuz some people they have money but they imagine like they're poor two you're not obligated to give more than 20% of your money to the poor not obligated to give more than 20% of your money to give to the poor most people say 20% what 20% if I give the guy $100 it's already a lot and that's less than 1% yeah that's the problem number two anyone who sees a poor person asking and turns his eyes away from him and does not give himaka does not give him charity transgresses the torah's negative commandment as the Torah says in Deuteronomy chapter 15:7 do not Harden your heart or close your hand against your brother the poor person see here we see that to Simply reject somebody that came to your attention is not exactly the best choice not exactly the best choice if a person wants to go to heaven Al number five how much to give how much to give the rambam says when a poor person comes and asks for his needs to be met and The Giver does not have the financial capacity you should give him according to his financial capacity how much is that the most desirable way of performing a mitvah is to give one of one's Financial Resources 20% giving 10% is an ordinary measure giving less than 10% reflects stinginess P see here the rambam is telling us if you're giving M you're giving 10% of your money not in one shot you're giving let's say every year you give 10% of your money throughout the year I wouldn't recommend giving 10% or or the majority of your takaka in one shot you should give throughout the year if you're giving 10% most people don't give 10% but if they do you know they give themselves a few pats on the back that they give 10% according to the ramb that's normal giving 10% that just puts you in a category of normal if you're giving less than 10% you have a stamp certificate sent from 800 years ago waiting for you in the mail from the rambam saying you have a stinginess problem why you should be giving at least 10% but in reality the most desirable way of Performing the Mitzvah is giving 20% now many people think that 20% is the maximum you're allowed to give across the board this is not true to clarify 20% is the maximum you're allowed to give for the poor people the needy because you don't want to become poor but if you're giving for the sake of publicizing tah sponsoring T there's no limit to how much you give especially if the person is has much more money than what they need if the guy is making2 $300,000 a year and he only really needs 50 60 100,000 out of that to live he should certainly give more than 20% especially if he makes even more than that people that are making millions or have millions certainly should give a lot more than that but the point being is is that most people don't even give 10% so when you tell them 20% they think no come on that's crazy maybe only poor people give 20% because they don't have much to give and you're right many times the people that actually give 20% are usually poor and it's not because it's a smaller test it's also a big test in fact they have less but rather because usually when people are poor they have an easier time to connecting to Hashem through the uh difficulties that they have and many times they're much more charitable either way the Mitzvah of giving is not one that most people understand furthermore the rambam says in this exact was in the chapter 251 number 10 says as follows and this is what the r already said before the when a poor person that you don't know comes and he says I'm hungry provide me food feed me we don't investigate whether he's a thief a criminal or not we feed him right away without delay you don't ask him where'd you come from how come you don't have any food who's your mother what community are you from you don't ask those questions he's hungry he asks you to feed him right away no questions says the rabbi of R for 22 years was isamu isamu wases he's the one that coined the phrase gam this two for the good one time a poor person came up to him and said feed me and now Gamu was getting off of his donkey and said one minute get a few the guy was literally didn't eat three days couldn't even deal with the fact that he had to wait another minute he died on the spotu felt so bad that he prayed for himself to suffer for the rest of his life and he ended up suffering immensely he lost his arms and his legs his whole body was full of uh uh a uh uh all types of infection like job and he brought this on himself as a ton for what for saying to the poor man that asked for food one minute hold on one minute he wasn't saying no to him he's just saying one minute why because the says don't say one minute somebody says feed me right away you go get the food don't even say one minute but what if he's a criminal you don't ask those questions food you don't ask those questions on the other hand the rambam says if he comes unclothed and he says clothe me guy comes in without a shirt guy comes in without pants the guy comes in barely wearing any clothes not because he's uh immodest he doesn't have any clothes he's so poor he doesn't have any clothes or his uh pants have so many holes in them it looks like he's wearing shorts and he says give me clothes here the r say oh hold on a second him we investigate what do we investigate we investigate if he's a deceiver if he's a thief maybe this this is a criminal why doesn't he have any clothes if he has for food we don't ask any questions but if he comes with no clothes could be a crime could be a criminal we ask where'd you come from where do you live who what when but the ra says if you know him not to be a criminal you don't make him wait for a second immediately you go get him to clothes just like you would get somebody food point is we don't just give blindly to everyone but there are certain conditions you have to give right away there are certain condition you have to give right away now what if a person doesn't want to give I don't want to give he wants to keep everything to himself says the ramb in chapter 7 number 10 when a person does not want to give charity or he desires to give less than what is appropriate for him meaning he has an income of let's just say a 100,000 200,000 a year he doesn't want to give he doesn't want to give 20% to help he doesn't want to give 10% for is to learn T in fact he doesn't want to give 10% even to feed is he doesn't want to give it's okay you know what give nine give eight no no no go work what do you mean go work but you have money you're making 200,000 year you live in a half a million dollar house million dollar house give a few thousand no not giving there you go you know what yeah I'll give you $10 go away today there's nothing you can do about it at the time that the rabbis the sages had power where the rabbis were strong the days of the uh of the rambam the days where were respected the rambam says this is what the AL would be for a guy that doesn't want to give he doesn't want to give or he wants to give less than what is appropriate for him the court should compel him to give and give him makot for his rebellious conduct until he gives the amount that it was estimated that he should give and if he still doesn't want to give the court takes possession of his property and the appropriate expropriate the amount that is appropriate for him to give in so many words he doesn't give they start giving him after until he says yeah yeah I know to forgot I wanted to give I forgot I wanted to give you guys 20,000 I forgot that I like kiru I forgot Rabbi ruven is my favorite Rabbi I forgot I forgot that he's the one that helps people do TR I forgot here you go guys make payable to who okay no problem I forgot that I have to give I forgot that I was a Jew but if he's one of these stubborn people said no the 20,000 no way I'm not giving why I want to keep the money I want to build my portfolio I'm saving for retirement as if anybody assures you that you're going to live till next week even he's saving for 20 years from now 30 years from now the rabbis would get it out of him either by hitting him but if he's stubborn simply they would take over his property and take the money and then say okay thank you now you gave now this wasn't only 500 years ago a thousand years ago the time of the S and Shak there was one millionaire that uh came to the rabbi he said I want to give charity I have some uh a few million milon dollar I want to start a foundation and I want you guys to be on the uh board no problem we help you give to aod give to good things all right so they set it up everything is good in the beginning everything started good one day the guy got the guy got some stupid ideas and he starts writing checks to all types of forbidden causes he wants to help the local Zoo build a cage for the elephant for $500,000 instead of helping the ISA feed the people instead of helping am he wants to feed the elephant gives the check check bounces calls the bank what's going on says the check bounc didn't go through yeah why it's my money no no no this is a foundation the check went through we had to get the other the other signers Shak and AO on to sign when we brought it to them they said no sign they ripped the check no check nothing he came Furious to R Shak hey what are you doing I have a few million dollars I want to give to this Shak knew this guy and his attitude he saids listen go speak to the stier kki go stle him goov kki go speak speak to him he'll explain to you this guy thought he was strong went Toki to the STI goon hey what's going on I have money the Stifler goon raised his eyes from the seel sees this guy gets up starts screaming at him and starts waving his stick after him he got so scared literally he ran out never came back again never came back again that moment on the St up from that fund went only to the appropriate places why that's what the Torah says your money is not really your money is simply using you as a bank account and that's actually what says a thousand years ago he says why does a make Wicked people sometimes Rich sometimes Wicked people hasm gives them a lot of money why writes that needs to give money to all the righteous people to feed them to have things for them but sometimes the it's not the time to give it to them it's not the time or it's not necessarily money so what does he do he gives some Wicked person he gives him the money that guy says you know what I'm going to use this money I'm going to build a company and this company is going to manufacture all types of cement and I'm going to do this I'm going to do that why he's going to make cement he's going to make money and he thinks he's successful and he's chasing after money he's building building building building making more and more and more money but some of the stuff that he's building hasem is only allowing it because the sadik or the sadik need to use it he builds a bridge because the sadik needs to cross the bridge one day he builds a building because sadik needs an office in the building he builds a road because sad needs to use the road to go to work every day to go learn every day to go teach every day but also he gives the wicked some money so he could use him as a bank to store of the money until Hashem decides to take that money and give and disperse it to different righteous people that he wants to give it to in so many words Hashem one of the reasons why Hashem gives money to the wicked people is so he can use them as a bank in order for him to disperse sustenance to his righteous people in a natural way in a natural way not in a supernatural way another reason why he gives money to the Wicked people is also a form of punishment as everybody already knows which we've mentioned many times over the years as it says in the one before last verse of the where it says pays cash to his haters in order to destroy them meaning he pays them reward for whatever decent things they did in their life in this world because they lost their so he gives them whatever good they deserve in this world because this is the last time they'll have any good but nonetheless the other reason is because he's using them as a bank now the rambam says that if a person doesn't want to give the sages had the power to force him but this is not possible in most cases today needless to say a person has to be the Super the police of himself and not make Hashem do it for him make Hashem do it for him why because if a person ignores the tah they could put themselves in a very terrible situation and the rambam writes in chapter 8 number 10 where it talks about which is using money or or or using any type of way to redeem the captives to you know that are prisoners like we have now in Gaza these these terrorists still have our brothers and sisters as prisoners so Redeeming the captives the rambam writes receives priority over sustaining the poor and there's no greater mitvah than Redeeming the captives when it comes to this the captive is hungry thirsty unclothed and also life risk and if someone pays no attention to his Redemption he violates the Torah he violates the Torah negative commandment of do not Harden your heart and also do not stand when the blood of your neighbor is in danger and also he shall not oppress him with exhausting work in your presence and also and he has negated the observance of a positive command which is a uh you shall um certainly open up your hand to him and your brother shall live with you and love your neighbor as yourself and save those who are taken for death and many more decrees of this nature in so many words the rambam says that if you don't if you ignore the the possibility of helping a prisoner a Jewish prisoner get freed you're making no less than eight cents what does this have to do with giving if you notice you look at this Al more closely out of the eight sins that the Ramba mentioned five of them have to do witha meaning that if somebody doesn't give appropriately or doesn't give at all they're making no less than five crimes against AEM five sins five love him now we need more support so we go to the because the is going to clarify some things for us the mitvah number 478 writes as follows where commanded not to withhold acts of kindness and staka from our Jewish brothers and certainly not from our relatives if we are aware of their weak financial situation and we have the means to assist them and he brings the same verses to support it meaning again the same conditions as the rambam where if you're aware that someone that a Jewish brother whether it's your relative or not is irrelevant if it's your relative he comes before a stranger but if your relatives are all fine but there is another Jew that it came to your attention as a need and you have knowledge and the ability to help and you choose not to you have a very serious problem you're making no less than five cents no less than five cents and the says that this mitzvah is uh begins as soon as a person becomes aware of the financial difficulties of some a needy person meaning as soon as you found out that a person is in need without them asking you if they asked you obviously but even if you don't if they never asked you like some people said listen if he comes to me I'll help him no no no if you found out there someone in your community or even not in your community that is a need and you have the means to help them the obligation begins right at that time right at that time it begins for you to help them and every second you let go by it's not looking good furthermore the says do not allow the trait of stinginess and callousness gain control over you and hold you back from helping your brother in need Rather Make sure to imbue your heart with the trait of generosity and compassion and assist your brother in any way that you can as the Torah later adds words of reassurance saying don't think that through this matter of giving takaka you will experience the loss and depletion of your funds because in return for giving taka AEM will bless you and his Blessing even if it's for just one short moment of your life is better for you than many storehouses of gold and silver see here the clarifies further than what the rambam told us so far where he says listen this stinginess that's controlling your heart that makes you tooo cheap to buy yourself a normalin too cheap to get yourself a normal suit for Shabbat too cheap to give to support T to help poor people to fulfill your MIT too cheap it's not just bad it's horrible why because this type of trait is controlling your mind and your heart heart to the point where you start thinking that you're the one that's in charge of how much you have where if you givea that means you'll have less this is heresy why because a decides how much you have and needless to say says the that if you give to support your Jewish Brothers to support the Torah you think hasem will punish you by making you have less as a result Shalom to think such a thing in fact not only will you gain out of giving but you also have a blessing from Hashem for whatever you do have which is worth storehouses and storehouses of gold much more than you can ever have see here here the is telling us that the blessing that a has is really the biggest blessing you can possibly imagine because a person can make a few hundred thousand a year or a few hundred million a year but have no blessing in his money which means that the money that they're getting they're not actually going to enjoy it and that's actually one of the things that most people don't realize where the the book of Deuteronomy seph 15: 10 specifically says that you shall surely give him and let your heart not feel bad when you give him for in return for this matter Hashem your God will bless you in all your deeds and in your every undertaking and the comments in the where he says how foolish it is for a person to think that they will lose as a result of giving takaka why you're thinking that the less you givea the more you're going to be financially secure because you'll have more this is a mistake why because you'll be as a result of not giving number one you're missing out on the opportunity of fixing your crimes because one of the things that Saka does is that it makes up for sins you made sins you stole money you wasted seed you were with the Nida you were immoral you did all types of sins one of the ways that Hashem allows us to fix those sins is witha to support to use the Saka to support poor people to support Torah it's actually a tool for chuva now you're not going to have that and as a result of that those sins you're going to have no blessing first furthermore a person will end up finding himself spending the money that he has instead of spending it onaka he'll end up spending it on all types of expenses that were unexpected lawyers doctors fines problems medical expenses all types of horrible things no one ever wants to use money for and he wouldn't have had those problems and those expenses had he used the money fora as the says in page 10 whereas the money that goes towards unexpected Saka is lost for unexpected expenses is lost forever money you gave to the IRS money you gave to the doctor money you gave for a lawsuit money you gave for finds money you gave for for all types of problems that's gone you're never getting that money back but the money that you would have given fora Not only would it fix your sins increase your blessings but on top of it all promises to give you all the money back page 16 page 16 also the money you give for the right charity not just any charity don't donate to some Zoo don't feed the Heretics if you donate to the right cause says I give you all the money back who did me first and I will repay himem says so now had you given you would have wiped out sins you would have had more blessings and on top of it you would have gotten all the money back and more you didn't give you ended up losing the blessing you didn't lose the sins the sins stayed and in fact you made even more sins by not giving and on top of it all the money went anyway to all types of expenses that are never coming back again so here the is telling us that by not giving you're showing you're showing such lack of that literally you're bringing punishment on yourself and therefore mitvah number 479 is the obligation of giving Which says 478 was not to be stingy with the poor 479 was the obligation to give and he says we're commanded to perform acts of staka with whoever needs it with cheer and good-hearted attitude and the smack says that if you don't give the Saka that you give with a positive attitude if you're regretting that you gave if you're unhappy that you're helping somebody guess what you're not even getting the Mitzvah you lost the Mitzvah too because the Mitzvah is not just giving in fact the say that a person who gives charity with a sour or resentful expression loses his Merit for the Mitzvah regardless of the size of his donation this is what the r and the but I the other hand the seph says that the primary reward that you will receive for giving staka is for the display of a positive attitude towards the person that you gave it to towards the recipient of the staka the this staka that you're giving again sometimes is going to be money sometimes it's going to be encouragement sometimes it's going to be time sometimes it's going to going to be emotional support sometimes going to be an act of kindness and the says that you're we're commanded to support a poor person with regards to anything that he needs for his livelihood in any way that we can and the Torah says that you shall surely open in in double words in order to teach us that even if the person comes twice or more you still need to give him if you have the ability don't just say oh I gave you once already it's enough if you have the means give again now what's the best way of giving should I give directly indirectly the writes the ideal way of Performing the mitvah is to give charity to an administrator of aaka fund to an organization that I will distribute it to the recipients instead of giving it to the poor person to the to the needy directly give it to somebody give it to an organization that will give it on your behalf of course you have to make sure the organization is actually giving the money and not taking it for thems why is it better to give it that way says the because if you give it directly the recipient will become ashamed the recipient will become ashamed every time they see you oh yeah thank you thank you very much why what did I do oh you remember yeah you gave me money oh I gave you money five years ago yeah but every time he sees you five years he's still saying thank you and guess what you don't deserve that thank you it's already too much thank you it's already too much thank you thank you once okay you got it enough 5 years you're getting a thank you you're getting too much it's coming from shame better to give it through a St fund the ra actually writes that he's never even heard of a town a Jewish community that does not have its sta fund he says the ideal way of giving is that you don't know exactly who's getting and the recipient doesn't know exactly how them you know who gave it to them why because there's an organization in the middle now sometimes you have to help a wealthy person how a wealthy person has assets but he does not have liquid cash you have to give him charity what's the charity you have to lend the money and this loan without interest is considered sta also commands us to give charity to the poor means that we should want to do it because we want to fulfill all of the that gave us especially when we're able to be a vessel for to bring benefit to the members of his Covenant to other Jews and if we know that a poor person needs money but doesn't want to take charity because he's too proud or he's too embarrassed we have to employer rules for him what is it we give him money and we say it's a loan it's a loan loan I'm not giving you charity giving you a loan but says the we don't ask for the money back we don't ask for the money back we forgive him for it but to protect his honor we say no no it's alone it's alone but we never ask for it back but on the other hand if there is a person that's stingy to the point where he doesn't want to dress himself appropriately he doesn't want to live appropriately doesn't want to eat appropriately the says we pay him no attention whatsoever we don't give him charity why he's self- afflicting now we're not obligated to make anybody Rich meaning we have to help them with what they need but not extra money to make them rich like I have sometimes people contact me say listen uh I want to get a few more suits or I want to go on vacation can you donate some money to me I had a few times I have few people strange people said listen Rabbi I just went shopping and I depleted my uh my bank account but you know it was really nice clothes that I got and some nice shoes can you donate some money to me because that would be a Mitzvah obviously I don't but the point is people think that just because they don't have money in their bank account that puts them in a category of being a needy no if you're just wasting your money that's not being needy that's being that's being irresponsible now the sages said in the mid a promise from the no person ever becomes poor due to the abundance of of that he gives and in fact theab page 139 a says that will be redeemed only due to the Merit of that they give most of the details of are in and also it's 48 49 50 66 to 68 and B it's from 8 to 11 and also D 43 the uh is both for men and women but a person must always remember that if a person does not like to give takaka or the moment they hear that they have to give takaka they immediately shriek they they they they feel like it's they just uh somebody just hit them it's a very it's a problem according to the it's a sin now how much should a person give as we said when it comes to money the rambam writes 10% is normal really ideally you should give 20 I think that if everybody gave 10% we'd be able to build a 100 yes but needless to say a person should know that sometimes it's not just money sometimes it's skills sometimes it's time sometimes it's attention so each person has to evaluate what did a bless me with what did he give me because usually the people that want to give the most money don't have any money it's like Rabbi if I had a million dollars I'd give it all to you how much do you have I have $10.30 and I need six of it for the bus and $4 to eat I give you 30 cents though they would and in their mind they would give the million dollars if they had it in reality it would probably be different why because they could give the million dollars when they don't have it because they don't have the test but once a person has a million dollars once a person has more money usually they have a different yet yet grows with your bank account yet grows with your position in life yet even grows with the amount of you have says the bigger theik bigger the bigger is it's a different yet than a person that's obviously not but nonetheless it's a bigger either way a person has to evaluate what did Hashem give me what do I have if they have my money and that's their top thing that they have then certainly they have to make sure that they use that money to do as much good as you possibly can not just for the sake of themselves but also for the sake of the honor of hem T and is and not just for the things that give you honor and everybody says oh wow you're such a tadik you're so nice you're so no even for the things that nobody even recognizes that you even did it many times people want to give to causes not because they care about the cause but rather because they're going to get some respect or some honor or recognition because they gave oh look they put my name they put my name on the uh on the synagogue door they put my name on the light bulb the the rabbi mentioned my name in his lecture now yes it's okay to get your name mentioned here and there but if that's the reason why you're giving it's a problem it's a problem why you're supposed to be giving for the sake of giving for the sake of doing something good because it's good to do something good if you end up getting good out of it as a result also that's okay but if you're only giving as a result of getting recognition that is a mo in your giving that's a defect in your giving now some people don't have money they don't have money but they have contacts they're friends they have people that they know use that use that as a way as a vehicle to bring good to the Torah to the honor of hem meaning don't just have a big list of contacts on your phone just for the next uh time that you see them at the uh wedding or the next time you want to have a get together no use those contacts in order to spread Tora use those contacts in order to get people to donate to a righteous cause hey guys how are you how everything how's the kids how every listen it's an amazing cause this organization is doing great things they're helping poor people they're publicizing to they're helping people do Chua they're doing great great things I want everybody to donate $100 $500 $1,000 so we can help them do more which one of you are in and guess what many of the people will donate me without even checking simply because they'll trust you and you could literally get more reward for that than even if you would have given with your own money because shim teaches us in the M greater is the one that enables others to give than the one who gives himself meaning you get more reward for getting somebody else to give the th000 then had you yourself given the ,000 so you have a contacts use those contacts in order to do more good in the world not just to have more people to say with some people they have contacts but they only know how to use them for entertainment purposes when it comes to Tora like oh no I don't feel comfortable asking him to watch a I don't feel comfortable inviting him to a I don't feel comfortable asking them to uh to donate yeah but you don't have any problems asking them if they'll go on vacation with you for $155,000 you don't have any problem asking him for a loan for this new business that you're starting you don't have any problem calling him at 2 o00 in the morning because you just got into a fight with your spouse you need somebody to talk to that you don't have a problem with but to ask him to donate a few few dollars or to public to that you have a problem that's a problem you're not using the gift hasem gave you and it's full potential you're wasting your gift now some people don't have money they don't have context but they have a skill everybody has a skill you're a profession you are a nurse You're a doctor you're a lawyer you're an accountant you're a developer computer developer very valuable skill these days you are a graphics artist you are a person that uh delivers stuff whatever it is find a way to use that skill to help the world of Torah find a way there's a doctor in he's a dentist he is probably one of the biggest most righteous dentist on planet Earth how do I know because he has a normal operation takes care of people has employees charges normal prices unless you're an if you're an you're not allowed to pay even if has money even if wants to pay he says no no no you learn T that's what you do you're not allowed to pay here your money is not good here you know one he's not good why you learn Tor here is free and he takes care of he takes care of he uses his skill in order to help the world of Tor now sometimes a person doesn't have such a skill like that or a developer but they have time so they'll use that time you know what I have an hour a day two hours a day three hours a day I can use that time to go get out some of Rabbi ruven's books some of the USBs I'm on the internet already I'm on Facebook YouTube all these different social medias I'm going to share the lectures all over the place start groups start WhatsApp groups start telegram groups start I don't know whatever groups to spread more toora to raise more money to do more good so they use the skill they use the talent they use the time and guess what you can tell who wants to go to heaven and who doesn't simply by their way of giving the teach us a person does not know how much time he has in this world but if they knew how much a Mitzvah is worth they'd literally grab him and grab him as fast as possible without letting anything go in their way without letting anything in their way they literally grab as much as they possibly can so there are some people that they may have money or they may have contacts or they may have time or they may have skills or they have some type of resources but they don't realize the value of a Mitzvah so they don't use those resources they waste them and there are some people that they don't have much resources but whatever resource they have they maximize that resource to its full potential and you see these people literally fighting tooth and nail together mitv whatever they can at five minutes in between shifts I'm going to share some lectures I'm going to share some messages for people to watch lectures for people to donate for people to do something good people waste their time sharing jokes sharing uh memes sharing nonsense he's sharing Tor she's sharing T every five minutes they get a chance oh I got a break over here for two hours instead of just sitting on a couch staring at the ceiling let me go give out some books some USBS let me try to call some people arrange a lecture arrange let me do something now when a person realizes the value of a mitvah they take any opportunity that they can without allowing anything get in their way so the question is how much is too much how much is too much that all depends of how much knowledge we have of the value of our mitv the more knowledge a person has of the value of MIT and the obligation they have to a the more they're going to utilize every bit of their effort to push through especially when it's difficult especially when they don't want to because if they could overcome if they could overcome those times where it's difficult where they don't feel like it where it's expensive where it's you know all types of different issues of why it's tough to do it if they can overcome those times they could literally reprogram their to become addicted to where nothing will get in their way where literally they'll start becoming a radar for MIT where people ask you how come you're giving in your mind you're saying why wouldn't I in their mind they're like why are you doing it but you've programmed your mind already to the point of why are you asking such a question why wouldn't I give meaning the variance between the two is as if you're two different species you have programmed yourself to give to do good not because people are grateful the opposite people are not grateful and you're not even expecting them to be grateful but you're not giving because people are grateful you're giving for the sake of giving cuz it's good to do good because the more a person programs themselves to give for the sake of Heaven for the sake of serving aad for the sake of publicizing his glorious name in his Tor the more person is becoming Godly the more a person refrains from giving the more a person only gives on condition of getting something in return the more they become like a donkey that's material that is physical that is dust and Ashes at some point you see in order to get to to a point where you desire to give you have to overcome the times you have to overcome the obstacles so how much is too much it depends where you want your destination to be if you're living for this world then quite frankly everything is too much but if you're using the world to build yourself an eternal world of good to build yourself an eternal connection to a that's good to build yourself as a servant and a vessel that aadh will use in this world there is no limitation why because if he gave you the opportunity to do it and certainly he knows you can do it and if you can't you'll also find out out too but you'll still get a reward for trying that's the amazing reward system that Hashem has you don't have to succeed in publicizing Torah in giving a lot of money in in in anything in order for simp to reward you for it you just have to try your hardest and he he knows exactly just how much is your hardest because he's the one that gave you the ability to do it so if a person wants to be like the great sadim we read about like the great sadikot we read about like the rvi or his wife BVI the Great extraordinary or any of the righteous people that am has had toout history you can do it and it all starts with utilizing the gifts that Hashem already gave you to the best of your potential to the best of their potential but also most importantly making sure that your understanding of giving is the right one giving for the sake of hem is really receiving from Hashem with that being said I hope that everybody understands who and what they're giving and why and each person will apply accordingly to whatever it is that's important to them okay you guys could start asking some questions will help us to answer okay the uh Tik Tock there's too many comments I can't ask the questions again if you ask the question uh we'll go to YouTube now if an administrator is reading this I'm speaking the truth I want to donate my entire property to be income located in Mexico um thank you very much I don't know what I would do with a property in Mexico other than sell it but uh by all means if you'd like to donate you could contct contact us and we'll try to figure out what to do but uh certainly you don't need to donate everything you have like we discussed in this year today if if one doesn't have money to give can they give can you do good deeds instead yeah that's what we explained you could use your time your skills uh efforts plenty of ways to do good it's plenty of gifts that hasem gave a person aside for money for those of you that are asking specific about verses just look at the commentary by Rashi on every verse in the tah and you'll see exactly what the verse means who it's speaking about who is speaking commentary by the legendary Sage Rashi that lived in France 900 years years ago I'm ignoring a lot of questions that I already answered in the past such as what do I think about Muslims or Christians and all that other stuff because I've answered these questions before already in the last lecture you talked very strongly about keeping connected to the source and to a sadik rabbi besides listening to a lecture can we be assured how can we be assured that we're connected um so if a person um watched my lectures from the P series there are several that talked about having a rabbi and I've had this uh topic discussed in different ways several times over the years uh first off I would highly recommend a person uh watch every lecture that I've made about having a rabbi uh and and the topic in general because the more a person understands what having a rabbi is um the more they'll know how to be connected to the source how to be a a a good student how to be a good Jew how to be a good human uh because the ultimate uh and most critical thing of of a student is to know that they have a superior that they have to answer to that's in this world we're not just talking about God we're talking about the rabbi what does that mean that means that if a person is going to have a rabbi that means they're going to ask that Rabbi and they're going to learn that from that Rabbi they're GNA do whatever they can do in order to stay connected to that Rabbi and it's it's important for a person to do whatever they can now if they are local to their Rabbi of course pray with the rabbi uh go to the rabbi's lectures support the rabbi whatever they can do to stay connected uh to the rabbi if the rabbi needs a ride to uh to the store if the rabbi needs any help you know it's called shim to try to help their Rabbi in any way now if their uh their Rabbi is not local like for example my Rabbi is in Israel I'm in America for more than uh you know 10 12 13 years 14 years that we've been learning together B the overwhelming majority of the time uh where you know we we don't see each other we see each other on a screen uh but needless to say uh I'm in Communications with them almost every day in some form or another uh whether it's learning together or asking a question or guidance all types of things whatever way uh necessary I'm constantly connected to him I speak more more to him than than anybody else in the world um and he you know dedicates a lot of time to to learn with me over the years obviously there were times that were able to learn a lot more than uh were're able to do at other times for different uh reasons life changes and circumstances of life but the point being is is throughout all of the years I made sure to do the best that I can to stay connected to learn every lecture that he had if I uh missed it I you know make to watch it after uh to to take every lecture seriously to to write notes to make sure that I absorb as much uh information as I possibly can uh because it's a priority in my life secondly you know when it came when it comes down to uh to any types of issues even if I know the answer many times I will double check I will double check to make sure that what I believe is the answer is uh you know I double check that it's correct now it's a uh and this this is obviously I'm not going to ask things that I could quickly find out just by uh just by opening a you know a book uh that's you readily available to me like you know or or or or my application on the phone like what time does uh you know Shabbat start I'm not going to ask questions like that but you know alic questions ideological questions uh business questions family questions children questions things of that nature even if I believe that I know the answer many times I will double check to see if I'm thinking right by telling them this is the issue this is what I think am I right or am I wrong you know I don't test him you know I don't do what many people try to uh to do with rabbis which is you know they got an answer uh from some Source either from a different Rabbi or from a book but they ask the question without telling the rabbi that they know it already they want to test the rabbi to see if they get the same answer this is an unethical way of asking a question it's not allowed to do such thing it's considered a sin uh but the point being is is that I ask a question if I know the answer I tell him this is what I think the answer is and if I'm right he tells me I'm right if I'm wrong he tells me I'm wrong if uh I'm in the right direction wrong direction whatever it is so I constantly uh use him as guidance number three a submit what does that mean submit submissiveness is the ultimate uh necessity in order to grow in the world of tah and this is one of the most difficult things for people to do because people believe that they're much better than what they really are so they're not willing to submit uh they don't not willing to Simply say whatever the Rabbi says by default it's right by default it's right even if I don't understand it the fla is in me the missing link is in me this doesn't mean that you're not allowed to ask questions it just means that once the Rabbi says something and it says this is final then that's it it's final if he says you have to go you go you have to stay you stay you have to learn you learn you have to give you give whatever it is that you have to if he says something then this is what you have to do and the problem is with most people is that they're willing to submit to a certain point to a certain point they're willing to submit if you tell them to wear something uh give something do something except you know some red line that they have and that's the difference between being righteous and being pretty much wherever you are and that's the difference with a lot of people that they're not willing to submit this was also the secret to the success of mosenu the reason why he's called the humblest man that ever lived was because he submitted he he was submissive to a and and and not just because a is the greatest and and the almighty but well well before he even spoke to him well before he ever spoke to Hashem well before the all of the things that we read about in the Kash ever happened he already submitted he already worked on himself and perfected himself for many many years before all of this happened and the key for a person to know is that when you submit to what's called D the opinion of the T that means that you already admit that you don't know everything that there's going to be a deciding factor that is not going to agree with you many times but you're still going to do it because you're submissive because you're submitting to the Torah so that's another Factor that's very very critical uh the uh of course when people ask me can I you know can you be my Rabbi and I always tell people me being your Rabbi or not being your Rabbi is not really dependent on me it's more dependent on the person than it is on the rabi itself why because for you to make somebody a rabbi that means that you have to make them your d t you have to make sure that all of the you know the studying of Torah uh that you're going to get the the primary source of all of your tah is going to be that it's going to be that you're going to learn you're not going to learn from 10 different rabbis or three different rabbis or five different you're going to make that Rabbi you're number one number two number three that's your priority and unfortunately many times people like to shop around they like to listen to three four five different rabbis and not realize that many times when you listen to many different types of rabbis without making one priority number one over everything else not that you like somebody more than everybody else you make one Rabbi that's your priority where pretty much you're not even going to delve into anything else unless you've caught up on every single Torah teaching that that Rabbi has uh which is usually not possible if if it's a you know it's an active it's an active Rabbi and many times people delve into a lot of different rabbis and they end up knowing a little bit about many different topics but unfortunately they're not complete about anything and they end up having a lot of confusion or worse yet what I've seen happen uh over the years is that people learned tah they made some changes in their life but for whatever reason or another at some point or another they decide to stop where they listen I know enough I'm a kosher person I eat kosher I dress kosher uh I don't kill anybody and simply think that they could just be on neutral from now on neutral doesn't exist in Judaism the sages have taught us endless amount of times if you're not rising in the world of tah you're you're going down there is no such thing as neutral so if you're not learning from the rabbi you should know that you are slowly but surely getting further and further away from the rabbi and that's why several times we have had issues with different people that or my uh call themselves my T I already knew when this uh this uh these people were actually learning my or not I already knew I don't need to see you attend lectures or see your profile name on the Internet to know whether you are watching my lectures or not uh and they uh just so you know that the few things that you could know is number one if they're asking questions the more people ask you questions that are relevant to the lectures you gave the more you know if they're actually watching your lectures but if they're asking you random questions that's in itself a proof that usually they're not watching your lectures they're just using you for questions second thing is the more they accept what you're saying the more they are connected to you and the more they're watching your lectures and learning from you the more they become uh um they reject what you're saying the more disconnected they are and that's why several times that I've had over the years where people have told me that uh they uh stopped watching the lectures I always predicted time and time again it didn't happen so many times but unfortunately the handful or so of times that it's happened it's always been painful I've predicted it and I told the people that it's only a matter of time before not only uh I will no longer be this Rabbi that you think is so great and is amazing and transformed your life and so on but I will eventually you will make me your enemy without me doing anything anything different that uh than what I did to help you anything different than what I did to guide you anything different than what I did to teach you I will not change but in your mind I will ultimately I will become your enemy why because when the yet sees that you're connected to a source that is helping you do chuva that is helping you get closer to hem that is helping you serve hem that is helping you be become better the ultimate thing that the wants to do is to disconnect disconnect you from the source as the and and several other places says says I created the I created the Torah as the potion so what is the wants to do wants to disconnect you from the potion make you drop the bottle and break it so he's not going to tell you listen go and uh eat pig what he's going to tell you first disconnect from The Source stop listening to two three four five lectures a week because they're not new so only listen to the new ones and if there's only one or two new ones a week only listen to one or two even though you have seven days a week even though you could listen to at least three four five six seven day uh lectures a week no only listen to the whatever is new so that's mistake number one mistake number two even when the new ones come out like ah listen I'm busy I got this I got that you listen to them less and less often and before you know it you all of a sudden say you know what I watched it but it didn't really move me it didn't really uh I didn't feel like I was connected because it was uh it was too much uh punishment it was too much uh fluffy too much reward too much uh stories too much ala too much this oh it was uh it wasn't n live or it wasn't uh face to face it was only on the Internet or uh it was combin all types of mumo jumbo excuses that the yet is going to use exactly what he needs in order to convince you stop watching now he's not telling you stop watching because you're GNA become this rabbi's enemy no Shalom no this Rabbi change your life this Rabbi is like your father this Rabbi he's like M for you he's like uh he's he's the best don't ever say anything bad about this Rabbi never but he's going to get you disconnected and little by little you watch less and little by little you start disagreeing you ask a question the rabbi said a you're like let me ask another Rabbi let me look in uh this let me look at that and all of a sudden you find yourself that you are agreeing less and less with the rabbi and then one day the rabbi tells you by the way you're doing something wrong and you're like oh why is Rabbi telling me I'm doing something wrong how could he talk to me that way wait a minute did you forget that you used to beg the rabbi please Rabbi please give me musar help me become a sadik help me become a sadik please anything you can do to guide me did you forget that you used to beg the rabbi to help you and now all of a sudden when the rabbi finally told you to do something and you rejecting it you don't realize no unfortunately most people don't and what ends up happening is that the people end up breaking the most valuable relationship they have in their life more valuable than even a person has to their flesh and blood parents because just as the gar says that your parents gave you this world the same gar says the rabbi that you make your Rabbi that Rabbi gave you the next World and therefore if both or hostages you have to free the rabbi first if both lost their wallet you have to find the rabbis first so unfortunately what people don't realize about having a rabbi is the amount of commitment that it requires it's not just watching the lectures it's immersing yourself to do whatever is possible to support the rabbi learn from the rabbi connect to the rabbi whatever it is and again that doesn't mean that the rabbi is going to be available to you and only you you know how many people had uh made RAB vadya their Rabbi what do you think Rabbi made rabya made a meeting with every one of them every time they had a question no you want questions come to the Sho you're learning the Sho read the books yeah what if I have a private question send a letter or come stand online for three four five hours whenever the rabbi had time to see people and uh ask the question for a couple of minutes but people have this deluded idea that uh if you're my Rabbi then I have free access to you whenever I want and unfortunately they abuse the system they abuse the system they they uh they ask for all types of things without doing anything for it oh Rabbi listen can you uh a uh do a Shure for my uh for my family come to my house and do a sh for my family we're having a uh you know we're having a get together and it's uh one of my cousins is over from uh from this we're going to okay are you going to have 100 people 200 people there no no it's just you know it's just some of us 20 30 people uh okay well the rabbi comes Rabbi comes gives a shield to they put some you know some sandwiches they put some food all right the guy Rabbi came gave a lecture and the rabbi goes home and guess what they don't give him any money they don't give him any any help they just figure listen he's a rabbi so he wants to teach so we're going to use him to teach wrong wrong you have to support the RAB you have to give him money you have to give him money not because he asked the opposite because he didn't ask you give money that's the problem people don't realize this they don't do it two and two they figure that if you know the lawyer is worth $500 or $1,000 an hour the doctor is worth $1,000 an hour the uh developer is worth $1,000 an hour but the rabbi no the rabbi's free the rabbi's free and they disrespect the rabbi's times disrespect the rabbi's knowledge and unfortunately little by little they destroy their own lives so again the commitment to make a rabbi is a all-encompassing commitment where you in essence no this is a place to learn from this is a place to get guidance from this is my if a person is willing to do that and certainly whoever they choose to be their Rabbi can can be their Rabbi but so long as a person values their own opinion uh more than than the rabbis then unfortunately that you're never going to have a rabbi uh this this is a uh this is unfortunately the biggest problem uh that's uh in in in the world of Torah today that people do not realize what a rabbi actually is they don't value rabbis uh especially once they leave Yeshiva uh especially once they leave Isa now uh let me see next question Jesus will save you no Jesus couldn't save himself he was hung on some cross like like a fish gets uh how how could he couldn't save himself how is he going to save anybody tah says that believing in Jesus the New Testament is a form of idol worship why because the New Testament is a man-made false document that divides God into three that says that God became a human being uh so the the whole concept of a uh uh Jesus is a form of idolatry and the more a person learns actual Torah the more they'll realize that uh believing in Jesus and being uh righteous with Hashem is impossible is impossible because the Torah itself talks about how God is not a man that would change his mind uh you know has no body or the the likeness of the body uh you know and all types of he is one and all types of things that are uh the contradict the foundation of the New Testament uh so it's not it's not possible to be righteous with God the god of the Torah the god of am is and believe in the New Testament now as far as the uh uh needing somebody to save you you don't need anybody to save you your actions are going to determine whether you're righteous with God or not and God specifically has told us in the Torah multiple times that uh you do not need a middleman to serve him you uh you know you serve him by following the and the rabbis the sages they're not middlemen they're simply interpreting to you what God said because they dedicated their life to learning the Torah and therefore they understand the Torah much more than you do just like if you go and get a uh a uh you know an x-ray uh and you uh for for parts of your body although you have eyes although you have a brain If you look at the X-ray without the expertise of a radiologist you are not going to know what you're looking at you're going to look at a picture and you're going to think it's your head but in reality it could be your finger it could be your toe it could be some completely different body part could be a tooth uh because you're not a radiologist you have no concept of how to read uh you know the the uh you know the X-ray and the same thing with all types of other medicine unless you have the expertise in the field you cannot expect yourself to have uh similar understanding of what you're looking at and the same thing with the Torah people that come into the world of tah you know you know over a couple of years yet expect themselves to have a uh uh information that's Superior to Torah Scholars that have dedicated decades upon Decades of their life to the tah is simply stupid arrogant and uh and just simply crazy uh but unfortunately it happens so if a person understands that the toat specifically tells us that in order for us to serve God we have to follow the tah there is no other way uh that person will never even look at the New Testament uh but unfortunately most people that believe in a new testament are not uh knowledgeable about the Torah uh they they call the the the Torah the Old Testament as if it's old and not relevant anymore uh and generally speaking they they don't really know what it says they aside from a few pointers here and there that they heard somebody say uh but if you actually read the tah uh you you know with the commentary of the sages uh of the Jewish sages you'll see that literally within the first several Pages you will realize that Christianity is false several Pages after that you'll realize that it's not only false it is literally a intentional man-made lie uh in order to manipulate people and the more you learn toan the more you'll realize that there is no other truth other than a I have several lectures about the topic you could also go to my website.org there's a section about it as well of showing the different falsehoods about the New Testament and you could see how uh you could uh go in the righteous path but that means you also have to abandon the falsehood first what is the most important thing to keep in mind during p uh now many people spend all of their energy uh and their excitement preparing for PES they're cleaning they're preparing food they're uh you know learning the different details of the MIT and that's all good the problem is that if you arrive to P tired both mentally physically exhausted in a bad mood then you ruined the holiday it was better for you to prepare Less in order to be in a better mood then to do all of this preparation and you arrive at PES completely spent and and with a nasty attitude so the first thing that a person needs to know as far as the uh uh preparation for PES or to have in mind in PES is to have a good happy attitude good happy attitude is bad attitude nasty attitude horrible attitudez it's Kitz me you have to burn that so that's number one number two p is an opportunity for you to connect with hem which means you should utilize part of the time of course you're going to use it to do the of but also part of the time is going to be to learn T learn T don't just eat drink sleep also learn Tor another part of the time spend some time with the family spend a little bit of time with the family you know with your your brothers your sisters your parents your children depends what age you are whatever it is it's a time to spend with the family definitely do not work during the holiday don't work during the holiday unless you are in a uh you know you're you're a rabbi you're a Kazan you're you have some you're unless you are in the world of Tor uh no work on p uh it's make sure that uh not not during Y and certainly not during anyone that works to make money uh during could be assured that whatever money they make will not have a blessing in fact uh you're not allowed to work on uh even though you're allowed to drive you're allowed to cook on you're allowed to do but you're not allowed to work on unless not working will cause a loss and I always have to remind people that a loss doesn't mean a missed profit meaning if you work and make money and if you don't work you don't make money that's not considered a loss that just means it's a you just it's a loss of an opportunity but it's not a a financial loss a loss would mean that if you work you make money if you don't work you'll lose money because let's say you'll get fired or or or you'll lose a contract of some kind or something like that that's considered a loss that's considered a loss so unless there's going to be a loss you're not even allowed to consider working and even when it comes to a a loss not everything that people Define as a loss is always a loss uh sometimes a person needs to know that uh you know delaying uh a a deadline or perhaps working a little harder to uh to to make up for the uh less days of work is uh better to do than to work during the holiday why because if you work during the holiday you could be sure that whatever money you make during the holiday you're not going to have any blessing from it uh the other thing is also if you look at the says that anyone that works during the holiday Jews that work during the uh uh the when they don't have to work lose their meaning it's not not a big deal it's a very very big deal Jews that work during when they don't have to work they lose their share in the world to come it's a big big deal so a person needs to take all of this into consideration so we have attitude we have no work we have the proper use of time to learn to to spend with the family family uh those those are those few things uh and uh ultimately it's a uh it's just make sure that you don't forget to be very very grateful to a uh of course every day but especially during the holidays because it's the holidays that are the biggest reminders of the benefits of being a Jew more than anything else more than any other time during the year a person is reminded of the benefits of being a Jew it's usually during the holidays even though we should be reminded of the benefits every single day and of course needless to say on Shabbat the holidays are usually the greatest reminders of the benefits of being a Jew which means that when you are doing the you know and and you're you're talking about that we were slaves in Egypt you have to actually the the says you actually have to think at that moment that you actually were a slave you were a slave the Egyptians were whipping you beating you up killing children torturing people using them as as uh holders for light bulbs using them as uh you know all types of uh food for Animals using them for horrible things you were one of those people and you couldn't do anything about it and then a himself came destroyed Egypt in a series of plagues and not only freed you but made you the most extraordinary part of the world made you part of his people so you went from being a slave a lowly filthy smelly abused slave with no choice with no opinion with no nothing to being's servant to be free from being a slave of men and to have the privilege of being the servant of you have to think yesterday I was a slave yesterday they could have taken the kids and killed them they could have taken my arms and chopped them off they could have taken me and turned me into a light bulb holder that could have taken me and threw me to the alligators could have done all types of things but today they can't touch me why protects me took me out of Egypt and he destroyed them and he gave me the Torah and he gave me an instruction set to assure myself that he will continue protecting me person that really thinks about this they're bound to be happy the key is to think about this as often as possible especially during the holiday PES is a time where a person has to really think of all the amazing things that we say every day we say thank you for not making me a go why because if I was a I wouldn't have the Miracles that you made for me at Mount sa at Egypt at giv me the Torah give me the uh ability to uh to have family Purity learning learning you know learning having a all these amazing things I wouldn't have them I wouldn't have them if I wasn't Jewish so thank you hem for making me Jewish thank you for giving me a mitvah to be modest thank you for giving me a Mitzvah to have uh you know proper morality thank you why because that in itself distinguishes me from everything else in the world from everything else in the world and the more a person realiz izes it the more they're going to appreciate it the more they're going to Value uh and and celebrate the fact that they're Jewish during the holiday it's certainly a time for a person to take time and and and say thank you to thank thank you to now I know that everybody is going to arrive at the Holiday exhausted spent starving this and that don't make your whole holiday only about food don't make your whole holiday only about food many people make the whole holiday about food and then uh going to uh on vacation or going to some Park don't make your whole holiday just about going to a park and about food there's more to a Jewish holiday than food and going to a park there's more to it and uh and it's uh it's good for a person to utilize as much as they POS as much time as possible to learn T and and to connect to of course again you have to spend some time with family with kids spouse and so on but it's not just that it's not just that that there's there's more and uh and most critical positive attitude good attitude happy attitude no fighting no arguing being you know it's it's just simply a uh a better way to celebrate and certainly a better way to to live the uh YouTube is full of uh terrorists today I don't understand why uh why you guys come to the channel they don't get it if a Coen marries a convert is he still a Coen no if a Coen marries a convert he loses is hisun he is now called AAL kalal means that he's not considered aen anymore he's not allowed to practice the of the whether it's at the bet mikdash or giving kohanim uh his children would not be considered kohanim uh and and the reality is also is that uh he's usually not going to have a a uh um uh an orthodox Rabbi marry him you know unless he fools the rabbi no normal Orthodox Rabbi will marry a kohen with a convert uh and and generally speaking a person needs to know that if they're going against the Torah they they will get compensated accordingly for it you know meaning that if a person knows that they're not allowed to do something such as they are a Cohen or you know and they want to marry a convert and they know they're not allowed to marry a convert but they decide to marry the convert anyway they should know that that decision is going to be the worst decision of their life much worse than had they uh overcome the difficulty and the pain of leaving this person or not marrying this person why because life is not what people make it to be you know people think that oh you know the way I feel today the way my financials are today the way life is today that's the way it's going to be people are don't realize uh how could change everything in a second I can give you an example actually that's very relevant to the uh you know sheld that we gave today without giving a name there was a person that was uh in charge of a huge organization uh where they were ra he raised a lot of money literally tens and tens of millions of dollars uh and uh usually under the uh the the cause of feeding the poor he had a uh a place where uh people would come to eat for free every day but he uh raised a lot of money people you know uh like to help feed the poor so people donate a lot of money uh to him tens of millions of dollars hundreds of millions of dollars uh and um he actually came to uh uh gon Ben mhe and uh one time and uh you know he asked him what asked him a question about uh this building that uh or this whole facility that he wanted to uh build uh and uh uh issues of Purity and impurity all types of different details and the facility was you know something that's cost tens of millions of dollars and he say listen I have the money for it and I saved it over this time and uh but I'm thinking about when I'm going to make the move and to his surprise gon M told him uh the truth is that you were not allowed to save all this money you were not allowed to save all this money money you know people gave you uh money to feed the poor uh and uh you fed the poor but not with the complete amount of money why because you thought listen I'm going to feed the poor but I'm also going to save you know a few million here a few million there a few for why because you wanted to do something big you want to build a facility and do this and do that so you uh said I'm going to save all this money and uh you know even though that means I'm going to feed less people I'm going to eventually going to do something that's going to compensate for it so Ron said according to you violated the Tor with saving this money you violated the Tor by Saving this money because even though you meant to do well even though you mean well in reality is you aren't supposed to save the money you aren't supposed to save the money so this was not even a question that he came for but he was very surprised anyway he was looking to build this facility and he he had buildings and all types of things and he uh one day wakes up to terrible news where apparently he's become the center of attention for some uh some people that apparently decided to destroy him and literally within a matter of I think it was a matter of a few days or rather a few months uh he literally got the worst news of his life what all of his assets were taken away from him they were originally Frozen and then you know eventually there would be a whole series I think like 10 years of of court cases uh trying to explain himself trying to do this trying to do that long story short he saw in his life that uh gon was right that uh he wasn't supposed to save the money and because he instead of using the money that people donated in order for him to do a Mitzvah with it he uh delayed the Mitzvah because he wanted to do according to him a bigger Mitzvah uh he actually got punished for it and he ended up losing all the money uh so many times people saying listen I'm going to uh you know save this money until I'm able to make a bigger donation you're not allowed when you you're supposed to make a mitvah as soon as it comes to your door soon as it comes to your door you have a poor person in front of you now you have opportunity to help somebody uh uh now you have an opportunity to help the tah to help somebody poor whatever it is you have an opportunity now you have to do the mitvah now yeah but I only want to do it if I have a lot more who says you're going to live that far who says that's what hasm wants and that's what a lot of people don't realize is that it's a the timing uh of the tah is not necessarily always in agreement with uh with people uh so it's important for a person to know what D tah is what is the opinion of the Torah what is the uh uh what does the Torah tell us uh what to do you know whether it's right or left now when it comes to uh one second I see this when it comes to uh when it comes to mitv a person has to do whatever they can to fulfill the mitv that are in front of them right there and then and not try to uh pick and choose not try to uh uh you know uh think that they are running the world they should do what hasm says as soon as possible and uh they'll have the blessing where can I donate you could donate uh a few places you could donate uh if you're you're on uh YouTube so you could donate on the uh website bash.org you could donate on our phone app uh which is also called beem you could donate on the website BH torah.org you could donate on if you want to help the poor for pesak you could donate on bh.org uh if you're on Facebook you could donate on via Facebook you could also subscribe as a paid subscriber on uh YouTube uh you could also send a check you could send a wire there are plenty of ways to uh to donate doesn't giving staka the family come first uh only if they are uh needy meaning only if they don't have any other way but if they have money uh and they're not poor then no that's not it's not considered Staker depends uh is it allowed to save money uh yes you're allowed to save money as long as again you're uh also fulfilling your obligations of helping people that are needy as long as you're helping people that are in need but if your if if your savings are uh to the point where you're not uh fulfilling your responsibility of helping those that are in need um then uh then no it's not you're you're not following the Torah is a single woman obligated to go to the mik no a single woman is not allowed to go to the MC only married women go to the MC married Jewish women what do you do when you help somebody voluntarily and then this person reminds you not to forget to send them Thea it makes me feel like it's a charge is that right no not at all if somebody helped you uh then you should certainly be uh uh grateful and if the person tells you that reminds you to give thema uh then uh that's only because you put yourself in that position not because they necessarily did it because had you fulfilled uh your obligation of helping those that are in need the right way they would never be in a position to need to ask you you would already help them before they asked you if this person asks fora and I know that is a person who is an idolator should I send staka no you should not give takaka to a idol worshipper no food you can give them but to give them money no does AEM have have a sense of humor what does the Torah say about laughter uh well there's it depends depends what a person is laughing about the actually gives a story that one of the sages uh saw that there was a couple of people that uh told them these two people have uh a share in the world to come and they said what do they do he said they're uh they're comedians uh comedians comedians usually are not necessarily the most righteous no no they uh specifically used you know kosher jokes and they made the you know the poor and a destitute uh laugh in order to cheer them up and get them out of their depression so they were doing a righteous thing uh so laughter is certainly a good thing but again there's a there's a uh uh a right way to do it and a wrong way to do it uh just like there's a uh your there are certain things that uh you're allowed to do there's certain things you're forbidden to do there's certain things that are sometimes allowed and sometimes forbidden it depends what it is as far as does God have a sense of humor you know God doesn't have senses uh that can be comparable to us but if you're asking is there something funny in the Torah then yes there is something funny in the Torah one example would be the sarcasm of the Jewish people uh when we left Egypt and then they uh tell uh you look at the verses they tell uh they complain to mosenu and they say uh why' you bring us over here to die aren't there any Graves and cemeteries in Egypt uh so this is a joke this is sarcasm Jewish sarcasm that they're telling them you know if you're going to bring us to die why don't you just leave us in uh you know in Egypt oh maybe it's because there's no cemeteries in Egypt meaning they're obviously making a funny there there but but uh so this is certainly a funny thing uh but that's not necessarily because God has a sense of humor God doesn't have senses like humans uh but there certainly are certain things you can find that uh are funny sure are posted notes allowed on Shabbat uh just peeling and sticking to Market page not for writing on uh no if if it's a uh if it's posted notes usually are stronger uh sticker than uh then uh then it's permissible uh there are uh certain things that uh my I'll show you example there are things like this that uh are very very weak type of uh adhesive material they're very very weak like in so many words like even if you put it on the page it's it's not going to last very long um so this is something that uh if you know if you want to be lenient you can use something like this without an issue uh posted notes are usually much stronger so that I would not use um but also you could remember that you could always just fold the page you could always fold the page uh the corner of the page uh and uh you won't need posted notes or you could just put a uh napkin uh you know in on that page or a bookmark and you know so there's no real need to use the posted notes how does a person who receives help from Hashem give a portion that's uh so every person needs to give a according to their means uh you know generally speaking a person should give uh if they're they're making money and they have more than what they need they should give 10% of their income to uh uh to publicize T to help Torah Scholars to help more people do Chua uh but if they are poor and destitute to the point where uh they don't have any uh money to eat uh then obviously it's not possible for them to give so it it all depends as far as a person receiving help from Hashem everybody receives help from hem the millionaire the billionaire and the poor and destitute everybody receives help from hasem uh but as far as uh um how much to give it all depends it all depends on a person it all depends on a person all depends on the circumstance too sometimes a person uh will not have a uh standard income uh that they they don't get paid let's say every week or every two weeks but rather they barely make it you know uh for three four five months but then all of a sudden they get a uh you know a big amount of money uh from something in one shot so during that time when they get the bigger amount of money that's more than what they need uh they certainly should give during that time uh and not think oh but you know I shouldn't give because maybe I'll have another three four five or six months that I won't have money so I need to survive don't don't worry so much about tomorrow if you have food for today uh so you know give a person should give whenever they can how does a person worship AEM according to Judaism of man Noah who came from Christian background uh so I have lectures uh on the uh YouTube page uh for noahides uh that certainly help you noahides have uh seven laws uh in so many seven main laws like similar to The Ten Commandments that the Jews have but those seven laws break up into about 50 or 60 uh different uh um uh uh laws that are all based on common sense like honoring your parents uh you know things that have to do with morals and and and behavior not practices you know the uh uh Noyes are not obligated to uh pray to God any amount of time uh per day or to read from uh uh the Torah or to read from aidu no hides in so many words have to not be Idol worshippers not be immoral no homosexuality no idolatry no murder No Stealing uh to be you know decent people now as far as uh uh learning there is there are lectures uh on the on the uh site and we're actually coming out with a uh guide short guide that's going to show different lectures and different suggested reading for noahides uh very soon probably uh in maybe the next couple of weeks possibly sooner uh that uh will make it easier for people to find some of this stuff on our website and other places but either way the ultimate Way of serving hem uh is following the laws trying to publicize God's name in his Torah helping uh more people especially Jews become Torah observant uh and uh that's it so it's more than enough you know person obviously has to uh you know perfect their character uh you know uh in the process meaning if they have character flaws they have to uh fix them why do people say you have to be born Jewish to be Jewish are people allowed to convert or no of course you're allowed to convert to uh Judaism in fact there is a uh 36 places in the tah where God says how much he loves and protects uh those that convert to Judaism uh so certainly are allowed to uh convert to Judaism but the person needs to know what does it mean to be a Jew uh in order to convert it's not like Christianity or Islam where a person doesn't really realize what he's getting himself into until it's late because to convert to those religions is so simple all you pretty much got to do is either throw some filthy uh water on them or pretty much say a few words you don't even know what they mean and that's it you become a Christian or a uh or a Muslim and Judaism it doesn't work that way in Judaism it requires a person to make uh life changes uh and also uh gain a certain amount of knowledge uh in order for them to uh become a Jew it's a process that uh can take uh you know anywhere from you know a year to many years depending on the level of commitment uh it's not it's not a one to three process not a one to three process okay tadim thank you very much for learning with me mayem bless each and every single one of you that learned and uh is going to apply as much of this to their lives uh remember anyone that wants to fulfill theah of and also be a giver during this time of the year go to bh.org bh.org we have uh a couple of more uh videos uh released about this campaign in the next uh couple of days before the holiday uh and uh next week There's not going to be uh any lectures uh of course because we have the uh the holiday and preparation for the holiday but I wish all of you a uh to to everyone that's Jewish and all of the non-jews will be able to uh spend the time also getting closer to can't celebrate the holiday of PES but you could certainly celebrate a connection to Hashem to learn more about Hashem to do more of the will of hem andm to publicize aem's name in many many more places around the world thank you very much for learning with me God bless we'll talk soon k there's a lot of really cool stuff on our websites uh new features uh and uh a lot more uh projects that are on the way that will help get closer to to publicize name and know that he is the one and only God