Mission Statement - Part 2: Visions & Dreams - Rebbetzin Avigial Gersht

[Music] we started off with actually we continued speaking about a mission statement what's a mission statement Melissa in a write and it's basically a short few sentences that like it's the elevator pitch that's what it is you want the elevator pitches is like you're in an elevator with someone you have you know you have like a few seconds like how you gonna pitch them your job like opportu your job whatever is you need to raise money like an elevator pitch how you gonna do it that's kind of what a mission statement was I remember speaking that very clearly I was once in Manhattan and I was in an elevator it was one of those elevators that shoot up like 60 floors and I'm talking about so I got into the elevator and there were like five months there and they were dressed in a monk clothing and like they were just you just don't see that in Manhattan just don't see five months walking around like dress and they had this like peaceful look on their face and it's just my nature I have to speak to them but it was in an elevator and I had like a second like literally a second but it's for whatever reason I feel compelled to speak to people and so I said to them I was like hi how can you guys wear that clothing you know and then when we got out but with the answer is because that's what their masters were that is the answer which is why also like Orthodox people were black and white and this hat just cuz the rabbis work there's nothing says that um so boom got out my husband said of all things you advocate anything you're gonna ask a monk you guys like why you wearing I'm like I didn't have time to think about it you know like I couldn't had enough time to ask like existential why did the Buddha not answer for 40 days and he said under the tree you know to me I didn't have time to like you know think about that premeditate that so this is like the elevator pitch up like when you're now they were somewhat like what are you gonna say to them and we told the story of Alfred Nobel Wright who by mistake he they posted his obituary instead of his brother who passed away and they said he was the merchant of death right and who's known as a ruthless man because his and company produced and sold dynamite right these are ruthless men as she was looking at this he said is this the legacy that I'm leaving over and then he changed and who started the Nobel Peace Prize we gave the story of the candles when they went to this King's party do you remember do now you remember they went to a party and this King he write he was like the end of his career and he gave it won a candle in the middle of the in the middle of the the party the light went out the big chandelier in middle went out and he's told everyone to light their candle right so we're saying how the zohar says there's no two people on earth who can accomplish the same mission at the same time we each have our own unique mission and that's what we're getting at today what is my specific path last class we spoke about which was well does this mean like I'm committed for life right remember having it's not like isn't I committing they do was no but few at least if you don't even have the vision for sure won't happen right it is to have the vision okay we said Stephen Covey was saying how the there are two areas that we're working on we're working on the vision the dream we'll call it weird what do I want to do five to ten years from now and there's something called goals goals are short-term within the next two to three years right and so the dream is the cloud in the sky and the goals are the latter getting there and the image at Stephen Covey painted was you if the ladder is leaning let's say on a wall then every step you take is one step closer to the wrong destination so we're working on making sure our ladders are leaning on the right wall we're together so far yes okay so there's an interesting Gomorrah and Braavos that says a person who doesn't dream for seven days is called rah what does Ron mean right we translate rah as bad rise evil right why would the Gemara be saying a person who doesn't dream is called evil right not everyone dreams for seven days yeah not everyone dreams I personally don't have dreams by the way let continue moment here's a tip for life if you have bad dreams say I'll write it on the board yes what is it not a prayer it's three words it's this it really works hello Tove vim I remember learning you say that three times hello much means a dream toque means good Shalom is peaceful how long Toba Shalom how long to have a show them hello I'm Toby songs I just I now say I now say it every night I just say it every night before I go to bed bro hashem i don't have nightmares usually i know i think about that sometimes but we do have dreams it just me they don't remember I discovered this like 15 years ago after watching the movie the ring okay so after seeing the yeah what yeah exactly so I couldn't fall asleep and so I was like haha how do I get that girl and the well out of my head so I learned that okay so so any age is why if you don't dream for seven days could you be called rot yes sorry could I do [Music] like not necessarily in your seat but like like I dream that like seven days could happen Kourtney's like that's Lily right not Kelly not Lily okay and that is exactly what the Grasse says they grab the the Vilna Gaon who lived in the 1700s he said that exact thing he said what does that mean that if you don't dream for seven days are called raw he said that's not talking about dreaming while you're sleeping it's talking about dreaming while you're awake you can't blame something have dreams right and and why is it a good thing if you dream for seven days just clear dreams does it make you good saying it's talking about dreaming having dreams for yourself and why seven days by the way yes Lily we like pokes great I feel like a murderer could have the dream like that make me feel great so we're gonna get to what we're gonna do not discussing murder but we're gonna discuss why he's called evil you're saying the fact that he had a dream that's a great question it's a the fact that he had a dream but it was a bad dream that means he's good even though it's a bad dream is that your question so that's we're gonna discuss let me first answer this of why seven days by the way because six days a week there's an excuse for everything cuz we're busy and we're meant to be busy we're live Angela don't leave footprints right angels are perfect we are human beings were in this world this is why we have the Torah and not the angels but we're busy but every six days we have a seventh day called Shabbos and Shabbos is the day Shabbos come from the word shove to return right we're returning to ourselves we have time to think and introspect but what Lily is touching on is what does the word raw mean does that mean I don't have a vision for myself I'm bad no no people I speak to thirty year olds feel like I don't know I don't know what I want to be I finished college like I made my parents proud that that's the end of it so what does raw mean yeah no no don't I want to hear girls talk I hear my voice all the time that's what it means that's exactly the word that it means where'd you get that from true that's exactly it we blow the show for trua 92 dududududu today so nine broken sounds what Ron means disconnected so someone who doesn't dream for seven days doesn't mean that you're a bad person it just means I am so disconnected from myself I'm not in touch with myself so what does that mean in regards to murder right it's it's this I mean that it's right not necessarily he's saying he is connected Tim saw if that's really his goal but I don't think a murderer actually wants what he's doing unless someone's absolutely absolutely twisted but I don't think that I'm unless someone's deeper conversation you know someone's intrinsically evil which they're very few people who are intrinsically evil that's not what they want there's something big why they're doing that so so Rob means this connected the word for dream hi-c dream in Hebrew hello right hello is the same words as lamb which means bread right what brain does to our body is what dreams do to our soul to have a vision to have something bigger I'm going to I'm going to stand for it to have something bigger that I'm going to get out of this place right there's a friend how about I remember the details it was such it was an intense story my husband's friend he's from LA he came to visit last year his grandmother who survived Auschwitz he came to visit her and he stayed at our house one night and I wouldn't tell you a story if I didn't hear it with my own ears till one o'clock in the morning on our living room couch he came to visit his grandmother unfortunately she passed away five months later from then but she was she was in she was in sent to Auschwitz and she she had no clue what happened to her sisters she knew who have Interborough who happened to her parents to her family to nothing and one day she worked in the laundry room was a group of woman who worked in the laundry room and there was one man there also there she was walking and every on her way to the laundry room there was the men's camp on one side she able to pass the men's can on another side there was another woman's camp one day she's walking to the laundry room she passes by a group of woman on the other side and she starts talking to them she says my name is her name is Shana I forget her last name for him with Danny if he was nothing her name is Shana let's say strain of gold she said I'm a name she and Nicole they said oh she Nicole are you related to Miriam she's like that's my sister and she said what if he my sister's they're like yeah your sister's here so they can't because my sister's alive she said yeah your sister she said tell her I say I told him in the camp right here so life went on she was a young woman at this time and the Nazis you maximum me their names be erased they start taking advantage of this woman Shana and every night they would take her out and they would do what they did to her but kind of like feed her they would you know like payment for her for her duties they would give her like throw her an extra piece of bread and she took that bread and she gave it to the woman to give us to Miriam tell her tell her it's from me and that happened on a daily basis so she almost felt like martyr like I'm doing this for these soldiers at least I'm feeding my sister one day she's speaking to some other woman she said how's it how's Miriam he said Miriam who the Miriam Gold like she passed three months ago right like she passed eight months ago like she got she got off the train and a few days there she passed away and he's a woman which you obviously can't blame the whole time they were pretending she was still alive so they could get the bread one day she is walking to the laundry room and she sees she sees her her father on the other side of the camp and all she sees her father she had no she never was still alive and she starts running she says Pat dad right daddy and he starts running to her and he puts his hand in his pocket to give her some food it puts his hand in his pocket he I soldier come and shoots him in the head and forever she couldn't take it she starts with running to the fence she was just gonna like take her own life and this guy comes behind her and and he and he holds her he just he's a alive so as the story goes on she had a dream one night where there was this big luscious field was the luscious feeling in the field she had heard her grandmother's voice was no longer alive and her grandmother said shana you have to sing you have to say it's the only thing that's gonna keep you alive then that's weird she had the dream again a second night shana you have you have to sing it's the only thing that's gonna keep you alive and choosing in it and the next day the soldiers round them all up and they brought them to this big open field and they said dig and she said this looks very familiar and they said this looks like the place in my dream I said my grandmother said to sing so as they're digging she starts seeing children Zola buys we're the only song she could remember and she starts seeing these children ball arrived and the Nazis tell her say I'm I said the word we said like shut up and she sings even louder her grandma said the only thing that's gonna keep you alive and she sings even land that I shot up and she sings louder until when he takes his rifle and knocks her in the head and she falls into the pit she's woken up a few hours later by an American soldier saying are you alive the war was over and at the end of at the end of the war when the Germans realized that they were losing they just won't do whatever it was to mass killing as if it wasn't enough to and they had these women digging their own graves and they shot off the woman she woke up in a big pit of dead bodies she was the only one alive and they thought she was dead because she was knocked unconscious by the rifle fast forward 20 years later she this must been more actually fifty years they forty years later she moved to Jerusalem she was moved to Jerusalem and she was at Yad Vashem she's at Yad Vashem and to heard this was her history and she's showing her daughter this guy who was at her house Danny's mother he's showing she's like showing her the pictures and I remember this I remember this and she stops by a certain picture and there she said to her daughter said I was there when that picture was taken she said that was the laundry room I was there when that picture was taken and there was this one man who saved my life and she told her daughter this story I've almost gone to the fence while they were at Yad Vashem she said I refused to be in the picture because I knew the Nazis were taking these pictures to show the world all the look look what we're doing here look what look how efficient were being and ashes in the middle of this moving story in yeah Russian this woman and the man come like busting buying kind of like shut them to the side like excuse me and this man starts telling this woman that he's with I worked in that laundry room and there was a group of woman I was the only man there and there was this one woman who she kept all of us alive her name was Shana and I remember one time I saved her life but she kept all of us alive no matter no matter how down in the dumps we were always the guys we're gonna get out of here we're gonna get out of here and Danny's mother I could only tie the circus I heard it with my own ears the whole time I'm like nah no way Danny's mother's listening to this and she said excuse me so like who did you say was in the laundry room he was like this woman her name was Shana and the two of them look at each other and they're here in Jerusalem in the out of a Sun and the two of them meet like 40 years later both them have gotten married bless you had a family and they're with their children in the out of a show and she said to this man what do you mean that my mother kept you all alive and he said your mother anytime any of us were still that's it I can't do it anymore I can't do it anymore she always said we're gonna get out of here imagine yourself living in Israel imagine yourself being in America imagine yourself with a family imagine yourself with a husband and she would paint a picture for us and she was speaking to her mother afterwards and your mother said that's what kept me alive right that's what kept me alive so that's a very extreme story of a Holocaust but when we're saying someone who doesn't dream for seven days is robbed that just means they're disconnected Victor Frankel's man's search for meaning his whole book is about what kept people alive during the Holocaust those who had meaning those who attach meaning to their suffering those who have I have a bigger picture here right being able to be connected to what is my bigger purpose here so we're gonna say the sounds nice what is my picture what is my vision where do I want to go personally in my personal life and professionally but how do I do it