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many years ago that's a relative statement because it really depends how old you are and what many means but to me many years ago i was in a hotel the holiday was sukis or sukkot if you prefer and i went to this hotel which is now called the la rome i think or the in baal i always get confused i know they switched names it was once one and now it's the other and when i went to this hotel i walked in there i was in yeshiva at the time it was on the night of sukkot and when i walked in there is a whole bunch of massive big sukup big big big you know hut that's set up in the courtyard of this hotel when i walked in i see tons of people sitting there and eating i was not invited but uh you know i slipped my way in to see the see the crowds and see what's going on and i noticed that one of the tables in the back that there was a whole group of yeshiva guys guys studying yeshiva for the year studying in their gap year and when they were there they were uh they were sitting by some guy who seemed to be the host and he invited all these guys you know they don't have their families there they should come and they should eat with him and i notice a friend of mine david i see this guy devin i haven't seen david in relatively speaking many years i think it was probably something like i don't know five ten years or something like that and it's in a long time and i said i'm like well i was excited to see him so i was gonna walk over to say hello to him and when i got like close enough i realized oh the host is speaking he's saying a nice idea about the holiday i didn't want to interrupt so i kind of stood there and i just you know that awkward kind of making eye contact with this guy david now as as i see he didn't see me he didn't notice me he's kind of scanning the room but then i see he catches my eye we catch eyes and when we catch eyes he goes like this he looks at me and he goes makes this like face he goes like it looks like a face like he's not interested and that was very uncomfortable i'm like oh what do i do now now i'm in that awkward moment where like do i approach him do i just walk away so i kind of waited until the end of this fellow speaking and i walked over i just want to say like okay i walked over to i'm like okay i'm like hey i'm like hi how are you how you doing how how are you doing and he sees me he's like hey how you doing and i was like okay now hold a dog hold on a second because what i said a minute ago like i'm standing over there a minute ago you're giving me the look of death and like all of a sudden you're my friend like i understand like i was just like what's happening he goes what are you talking about i said what do you mean what do i talk about literally one minute ago i was standing over there you looked at me i looked at you and you gave me this face like you're not interested like i knew okay he became like super religious you don't want to talk to anyone i don't know what happened to you he's like no oh you saw me i'm like of course i saw you he goes well i didn't see you i'm like yes you did you looked at me he was not wearing my glasses i can't see more than two feet in front of me and then it hit me i was like oh my goodness here i am in a scenario and i think maybe all y'all can relate to me how many of us have been in the same areas where we see something happening and we think we know what's going on we know what's going on and therefore because of that we assess the situation and we come up with whatever we want to come up with and we move on because of that this was just a very simple case of a total misunderstanding he didn't see me i thought he did and that made it quite uncomfortable story number two this actually just happened the other week this to me was i shouldn't laugh but it was very funny for me not so funny for uh one of my students that i was learning with we were standing in a study hall in debate the midrash in the basement trilingual for all those who know these things and as we're sitting there we're actually standing he's standing in the very front of the room and i'm standing next to him sitting next to him i have my book that i'm studying from mike safer and he has his opening in front of him also we're learning jewish law and as we're learning jewish law and i was just kissing with him you know right okay i shouldn't in the middle i know i know i know but i was and i said to him i'm like hey let's call him ellie because i'm just i'm just saying i'm not saying it's his name let's say i go ellie why don't you uh you know everyone's like doing their thing give a nice whack on the side of this uh you know little podium there just to get people's attention make an announcement tell the people something he's like what are you talking about like people are studying they're learning they're not going to whack and think i'm like come on i'll give you 500 i'll give you 500 if you do it he's like 500 what i'm like a thousand i'll give you a thousand just smack the thing he's like i'm not what are you talking about i'm not smacking anything i'm like just smack it he's like you know what fine i'll smack it he lifts his hands up to smack it he had no intention of smacking it there's no way he was gonna do this but he was he was kippitzing back he's joking with me so he lifts his hands you're gonna smack it suddenly two guys sitting at a table over there were learning studying together and it got really heated and the guy said you don't know what you're talking about and he smacked the table as hard as he could when he smacked the table as hard as he could the entire study all stopped everybody looks up to see who did that to interrupt everybody's studying and there's ellie with his hand like this right by the podium so everyone's like come on man what are you doing he's like ah it wasn't me they're like yeah yeah it wasn't you sure it wasn't your hands up you're standing by a podium it wasn't you i think i'm telling you it wasn't me i couldn't help but i just went to the side and laughed because i saw the whole thing that was going on but to everyone else it's like that's terrible how could you disturb everyone what's going on okay so my friends it's not what it seems it's not what it seems if you haven't picked up yet and what we're talking about over here we're talking about right now is something called judging favorably or giving the benefit of the doubt now i think everybody everybody who's listening to this has had scenarios like this we've all had situations scenarios where again we think we know we know we know if we're lucky we don't say anything if that we we eat our foot the rest of our lives have the embarrassment we caused ourselves judging favorably this is incredibly incredibly important when it comes to all sorts of relationships listen right now we're we're as watching this you think we don't have the temple anymore we don't have the bait to make dash we don't have the base that make dust we have the bait from mcdonald's we don't we don't get our we don't get our house anymore why why not so one of the themes that's spoken about so much is known as of loosely translated baseless hatred although the actual little translation means free hatred we're willing to just give it out for free i hate you you don't have to pay anything i'm just gonna hate you we don't there's issues are going on and i believe that probably the glue in if not yeah like most relationships at all is having the ability to know how to give the benefit of the doubt judging favorably so many things are going on all the time take a step back chill maybe there's more to the picture maybe there's more that you're not saying maybe there's more okay this is a nice idea right all you all heard of it everybody's heard of judging favorably give the men for the doubt what do you think judaism has to say about it nice thing to do or obligation that's a very big statement there what do you mean obligation oh nice maybe there's always the wise one out there take you guys someone asking you right what do you think nice thing to do or obligation i know there's at least a few of you sitting together so fight it out god come on for the person who's sitting there by yourself this is going to be awkward moments of silence all right the answer is okay it depends or as my grandmother likes to say it's a mahloka it's a debate the answer is it can be both it can be none depends on the circumstance but let's start with the following it's actually mentioned in judaism a concept known as dhanikovsky is to judge somebody favorably the question is where do we find that where do we find that see in judaism you can't just say whatever you want like take that back you can you have the ability to but actually you got to be able to back yourself up where you coming from you want to say an idea you want to say concept very nice where is that coming from if it's coming from you so that's nice but if it's coming from judaism there's another story so where's their source is there a source that we know that we have to be understanding and we have to be judging favorably so i'll tell you what uh one of the most common answers i get one of the most common answers i get is from a book called perique elvis is a very quick recap of jewish history to understand what do i mean by this book it's a mishna what's a mishna what is all this kind of stuff so let's just uh let's take on a little journey the jewish people are standing on a mountain the mountain's called mount sinai for the arabic speakers jabal musa and now this mountain called har sinai mount sinai we got something called the torah now how many toads do we get we got one all encompassing the two major components one is known as the written torah and known as genesis x as leviticus numbers deuteronomy and most favored menu of harm and then we have something known as the oral tradition oh tradition and that oral tradition was passed down orally it was spoken out it wasn't meant to be written down but what happened over time is all the nations of the world loved us to death so we had to write it down so we went and we wrote it down and that's why now we have what's called the written oral torah one of the greatest bodies of work of the oral tradition is known as the mishnah there are 63 or 60 depends of the accountant individual mishnayot right books of mishnah and each one of them have a bunch of teachings one of them is called avos okay that was a little history lesson now we go what's going on the mishnah in perce which is found in chapter one mission six comes along and says the following statement yahushua that means joshua the parachute and nitai from a place called our bailey he came along they received the tradition there's a tradition that going on the beginning of that book starts with moshe keeper tommy sinai moses gavitor from sunday pass on to joshua joshua to the elders eldest of the prophets the prophet of great assembly and we have a student who have a student rab a student rabbit student rabbit student until today and the next one starts off with a guy named shimon right shimano after this antiquing then you'll show them back into your bile and that's where we are one sixth yoshua ben prakria omer the following line is now for those who don't speak any hebrew i just said make for yourself a mentor make for yourself a rabbi get someone that you could speak over ideas with number two canelo jacques there literally buy yourself a friend nobody likes you you go to a website buyfriend.com you put in a donation we'll see what we can do or you have to literally as robiniono and the great sages explains living in the 13th century in spain a place called garona he says what does that mean that means you have to be willing to spend money to actually develop this relationship and number three i want you to judge the heavy done escola which means you should judge every the person to the palm emeritus okay now that that's clear i shall explain what in the world does that sentence mean so for the hebrew speakers you may be familiar how do you say scale in hebrew in modern hebrew is something known as that what's not the only modern hebrew social biblical evil as well but sometimes that's more you know usually that's the word that comes up but there's something else which maybe you saw in a rosh hashanah card where you have like these people with the scales like this this is called in hebrew a cafe why is it called the kaf because a cafe literally means a palm there are two palms there so when it says that you should judge every other person to the pomeritus that means give them merit judge them favorably give them the benefit of the doubt so there you have it we have a source of where it says that a person should judge somebody favorably avos chapter 1 mr six there's only one problem quality problem so you ask where what what's the problem the answer is although it's true that mishnah's torah and torah is mishnah there's something quite unique about others something quite unique about this particular book what is it as my monday says great great siege lived from 11 35 to 1204 he accomplished a lot in half hour originally from uh from uh it was um cordova i think cordova spain also i think i get that right anyway so maimonides comes along and he explains that the book of percevos is loosely translated with ethics from psalmist ethics from our fathers and that is this is what we would call lefnim ashura sadin above and beyond the letter of law or perhaps they would call it midos qasidos levels of piety but not necessarily are you obligated to keep this stuff so we're back to square one for all the tumultuous out there we're back to our original question and that is is this a nice thing to do or an obligation so the answer still remains obligation we just have to find where we see that and that my friends for that i turn you to leviticus chapter 19 verse 15. that would be utest test buff in vaikura and the possible tells us right in the middle the five books says the following i'll tell you in english you shall not pervert justice hold on you should not make a perversion of justice you shall not favor the poor you shall not honor the great with righteousness shall you judge your fellow the words are but sadek tishbot with righteousness you judge your fellow interesting so we have the pasik itself telling us that actually the gemara in shavuous on page 30 goes into this discussion and it discusses this point of bitset with righteousness so you judge your fellow now when we say this line you should not commit a perversion of justice you shall not favor the poor you should not honor the great with righteousness shall you judge your fellow which we explain to me judging favorably where do we who are we talking to over there just listen to the words don't commit a perversion of justice who's who he's speaking to one might say oh it sounds like you're talking to judges you're in a court system you're with judges and that happens to be there are opinions that say that on the other hand others say we're actually talking to the entire jewish people that is a debate in the gemara and duffle ahmed in shavuous and the gemara there ends off by saying why can't we be that it actually comes out to be both it's not exclusive to one or the other it's both judges it's people we all have the idea that the obligation to judge favorably to give the benefit of the debt interesting so now just to keep us on track what have we been saying so far number one we got a couple stories explaining judging favorably understand that it looks so obvious he of course he smacked it and yeah can you believe the face he made at me he didn't even see you but we go and make up certain things judge favoritely come on but do i have to the answer says the torah but right in the middle of leviticus 19 15 victory tested false and that is that yeah you got to judge favorably got to give the benefit of that now listen we could make this a lot longer and go into the details who what where when how every single time the answer is no example is there an obligation to keep shabbos the answer is yes when though on chavez so there's no obligation to keep shabbos on tuesday so when does it apply and how there are exceptions but the general understanding is that we got to judge favorably give the benefit of that with the day-to-day circumstances that we usually find ourselves in and that's where things get a bit wild i want to share with you a gemara another gemara we spoke at the mishnah 63 individual books of mishnah the gemara was following the vishna and that is the explanation the elaboration of lucid dates and makes clear that which the mishnah was saying mishnah was written in shorthand gemara goes and breaks it out the gemara comes along and says the following although we have 63 books of the mishnah there aren't that many books of the gemara at least the babylonian talmud 63 books of mishta how many books can anyone guess how many books of the babylonian talmud if you get my hint over here 63 books of mishnah how many books of babylonian talmud that'd be correct 36. one of those 36 books is known as the book of shabbos the second book in the series of babylonian talmuds and it says the following if you take a look on page 127 b you'll find the following idea ahmad base 127b the gemara comes along and says a very powerful idea says the gemara if you judge somebody favorably so now we've got this idea okay it's an obligation but listen how far it goes and if you go and you judge somebody favorably god in turn is going to judge you favorably if you go and you give someone the benefit of the doubt then god in turn is going to give you the benefit of the doubt now try to digest what i just said i think at first glance at first hearing it sounds like a nice idea okay nice idea give i judge favorably god judges me sounds good however let's let's let's try to think about that for a second are there any problems with that statement any issues with saying if you judge somebody favorably god intern is going to judge you favorably also let's think about that the answer is very very simply let's use an example okay you uh you're walking down the street and uh as you pass by a mcdonald's which is in america which is not kosher yet let's give it some time but you pass by a mcdonald's and there's uh you see this hasidic guy this guy coming out with he's got the boing boings you know he's like oh yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah he's got his black and white got his hat on he walks out of mcdonald's like this going like this what happened there are many answers people like to say what's funny is that because i'm talking about this particular topic everyone's head goes to um maybe they weren't jewish maybe it really wasn't a hasidic man maybe there was easy top you have to that's a generation point but uh maybe it was uh maybe they were throwing up that's what happened maybe they drank water maybe they brought their own tuna bagel in and that's what they were eating maybe that's what happened yeah maybe this maybe that may be the other you know what else maybe maybe they just pounded a double big mac with bacon lettuce pickles tomatoes onions with the drink on the side don't get the ice because it's cold anyway it takes 25 percent of the drink maybe that's what just happened but we don't know therefore says the torah give the benefit of the doubt judge them favorably but that's based off a five letter word that we have that god just doesn't have starts with the d ends with a t has ub in the middle not do bit nice try though doubt you see god has no doubt we we don't know we don't know what happened we see something we kind of judge it we don't want to but we get stalker we say this that but god has no doubts god knows everything so how could the gomorrah say in shabbos page 127 be excellent that if you judge somebody favorably god in turn is going to judge you favorably if you give someone the benefit of the doubt god's going to give you the benefit of the doubt god has no doubts all you all hear what's going on all right so the truth is it's really a word game because we we spoke in english donna kavskos doesn't have to mean the benefit of the doubt but it could mean that we're judging favorably you see what happens is is god kind of mimics we say that there's a savior called never shaking it speaks out though the wording of hashem is like our shadow he acts with us how we behave we're going to see more about that in a moment but here's the point imagine for a moment you go ahead and you walk outside and you see someone and they are seemingly looks to be a religious jew out in the street eating on kosher and you say that's terrible it's bad enough they're eating on kosher they have to do it in public what's that called they're called favorable or unfavorable it's called unfavorable okay how about this one you say see the person is eating that kosher and you say hmm i don't know what they're going through maybe maybe they have diabetes and maybe they were hypocalcemic that means their sugar is low and if they don't get sugar now then that could be the end of them so they got to eat something quick what do we call that that's what we call judging favorably maybe there's something else going on even it's objectively wrong what they were doing but they were giving the benefit of the dad over there says god the following what type of person are you are you a nit picky person or i once taught a group of only women they preferred detail oriented are you a detail-oriented person i was looking at i can't believe they did that and can you believe that they did that and i never would have it's horrible or are we taking a step back and looking at a bigger picture over here and we're saying maybe what they're doing is that okay but who knows why they're doing that what's behind that what's the reasoning that they're involved in doing such a thing says god what type of person are you are you nitpicky all right i'll judge like you with that as well i can't believe you did that how could you do the wrong thing whatever is that you did we've done things that are wrong so we do something wrong god says i can't believe oh you did that at that time or with the person that takes a step back you know what yeah maybe he did the wrong thing but it's hard for him you know he has he it's a heart an evil inclination i mean i know more than anyone i created him so what does it mean that if you judge somebody favorably god in turn is going to judge you favorably what that means is is the type of way of which we present ourselves if we are the type that are going to be very very detailed and the same is going to say okay i'll do that also if we're the type is willing to go and judge favorably and take a look at a bigger picture hashem does it also and by the way that answers a question that we sort of brought up but we didn't and that's a grammatical issue you see now that we have the pussock we have the verse which is found in chapter 19 verse 15 viticus which tells us the idea of uh now we know that this idea of judging favorably we can go back to the mission now even if you want to call me love is a pie they're above and beyond the letter of law we still know that that's true and the mystery said three things make yourself a rabbi get a friend and have done is judge every the person to the palmeritis and the question is what kind of wording is that what do we judge every the person you should have said have you done this called adam what does that mean that we've done is called what are you saying judging the in hebrew we call it the heihaidea is it something more specific what do you judge with the person so listen with what we have so far i'll be able to answer this imagine for a moment i give you a 500 page book you open up the 500 book to page 347 you read the following line and jack took jill and threw her down the hill you slammed the book closed can you believe that jack what a not a nice guy what would you say about a person who says that you got to read the whole book you didn't you didn't read the whole book how would you go and judge what does it mean have you done this called them judge every the person it means don't just judge this particular instance or moment that you're seeing judge the entirety of the person understand a little bit more than what you're seeing right now maybe there's more information maybe there's more and if a person does that that's what the gomorrah says if you judge somebody fairly god in turns go to judge you favorite but if not that means to say that hey that's what's going to be with us also pretty pretty scary i want to share with you two quick stories one idea and we move on to part two where things get ridiculous listen to the following there's a story number one about a rabbi who was once walking down the street on yom kippur now for those who aren't familiar yom kippur is a day when we don't eat we have a fast right it's a fast day kind of like the day now tish above or in the future but for you now this uh this thing yom kippur we don't need so one day one day i believe it was i don't know if i said the name or not but i think if i did i'm gonna how about i mess it up i think it's worth levy yitzhak me bardichev he was always known to look for the positive in people and he was walking down the street in yom kippur and he saw one of his one a fellow a jew that was eating on yom kippur and he said my fellow jew sure you don't realize that today is yom kippur because no rabbi i know exactly what day it is he goes oh well then you must be sick are you sick you must be sick and of course you have to eat if you're sick he goes no rabbi i'm not sick i'm fine you want to bite he's like no no thank you he thinks a little bit he looks up to the heavens he says god look how righteous your people are even when they get caught doing a sin they won't let a false word leave their lips isn't that beautiful okay a little bit ridiculous but let's extend ourselves just a little bit maybe there's more going on maybe we could find that positive where are we looking what are we focusing on story number two stories told about a rabbis walking down the street with a bunch of his students and they come across a dead donkey and the rabbi is looking the students and the students say oh what a putrid smell what a disgusting smell that's coming from this donkey and the rabbi said yes but look how white its teeth are amazing my mother came to this class once i gave many years ago she was the only one that came but anyway afterwards she says to me great class what kind of ridiculous example did you give about a dead donkey in white teeth i said it may be ridiculous but it's coming to show a very important point what are you looking at what's big and obvious and open and right in front of you this huge carcass or you're taking a look to try to find that small beautiful white pristine thing which maybe is what we should be focusing on maybe there's more that's going on have you done this called the entirety of the person don't get caught up with the small little details what you're looking at right now but rather take a look at the bigger picture of what's happening that my friends is very powerful the more we do that the more camaraderie we start to develop you know any fights we'll be just rid of it's coming from us so we were looking at somebody everybody's got to take a step back and just chill and recognize the fact that hey maybe there's more have we done let's call it on the capsules but i'll tell you why it's worthwhile here comes part two this is amazing idea there's a mishna which is found in peya pay is one of the books of the mishnah we mentioned it's final pea one one many of you probably say it every day eluded these are the things that a person eats the fruits of in this world but the karen the principle is reserved for the world to come that means to say if we follow the mitzvos if we do or meant to be doing we're going to get rewarded where are we going to get rewarded ultimately the next world not over here in the next world we're going to get rewarded however there are a few things that we can do then not only are we going to be getting in the next world but we also get things in this world also that the mishnah calls frutas fruits the payros the karen the principal you're getting that in the world to come but there are things we get in this world called the fruits what does that mean that means besides the idea of like whatever it is uh you're gonna get rewarded for yourself over here health wealth prosperity etc and we also have the opposite it's the opposite there's certain things that with certain behaviors that we have that we're going to get the main reward or lack thereof whatever whatever we have it come into us in the next world but we also have things in this world though so lack of health lack of lack of lack of etc etc etc this is like if anyone's ever worked at a uh at a restaurant so you're going to get your paycheck at the end of two weeks at a month but you also get a little more you get some ice cream you know you get something that comes along with it listen carefully to what this means listen to how powerful this goes there is a phenomenal idea that i heard many years ago i actually saw inside a beautiful idea from a great rabbit by the name of the battle shame tov the belchemtov says a very very powerful idea which i think maybe even the number one thing the biggest impact that i've heard of that's had in my life something so impactful he says the following so we discussed that there's reward in the next world and there's also fruit in this world and that's also in the negative realm that if we do something wrong with his responsibilities accountability in the next world but there's also in this world also says the baal shem tov but there's one fascinating catch and that is before a person is judged in this world they are asked do you agree with the judgment now i don't know how many times you've had this before where god cometh downeth with the ministering of angels and says do you agree with the judgment i imagine that doesn't happen unless it's perm and you're drinking a little too much so what does it mean that god asks do you agree with the judgment so i'll tell you what it is let's imagine for a moment that we do something wrong we do something that we shouldn't have done so an example i don't know if anyone who's a parent but i'll give an example let's say i have my son and i go to him and i uh we're outside and i yell at him in public maybe something's wrong maybe something not wrong who knows what happens says about shem tov a day later a week later a month later i will be walking down the street and i will see someone yelling at their kid and then god waits for me to judge i have two options one is i say that's terrible it's bad enough yelling at your kids you gotta do it in public says god signed and sealed you just judged yourself now hold up one second i'll sign up for this the answer is what do you mean you mean to say that the person has just yelled at their child in public that wasn't okay right no not okay what should be accountability absolutely how could he get away with that one second didn't you do that like three weeks ago oh whoops what i meant is that's great that they're yelling at their kids that's fantastic it doesn't work like that it's got to be real it's got to be real so what happens is says about shameful that's what hashem does he puts us in a scenario we get to see ourselves and he waits for us to judge this is why this ain't no games understand that sometimes we go we're judging people not realizing wait a minute smee's me and we realize that we're the very ones that we're judging scary concept my friends how many times a day did we judge okay no we don't judge i don't judge you you don't judge me it's a bunch of bull hockey every one of us is judging everyone else all the time the question is whether you say something or not but it's up in here up in here we think things so what am i supposed to do and really what so i mean god needed me to be the judge he didn't know himself he had to put him to be through that circumstance of course hashem knew of course god knows because who doesn't know how we look at scenarios we don't we live our lives and we behave certain ways without even being aware of what we're doing therefore we need to see other people doing that in order to learn from it like the mishnah says in chapter four mishnah one then zoma omar ezu made me who's a wise person someone who learns from every person someone is able to go out and see a scenario and say wait a minute do i behave like that do i do that maybe i should work on myself maybe i should change that my friends is a very powerful idea the only question is where'd you get that from you can't just make things up right gotta back yourself uh where do we have a precedent like this that somebody goes and they judge someone and the way in which they judge is how they're going to be judged very quickly i'll tell you the story is about someone by the name of king david the story is the story is king david one day what happens very well-known story with king david and someone by the name of batsheva i'm not going into the depth of this it requires its own discussion to understand what happened over there king david is married to bachelor and uh i'm sorry bachelor's is american and king david wants to be with bachelor he sends a husband to the front lines of war gets him killed off and he marries her off how could you do that what's happening there was it okay was it not okay ligament says anyone who says that that that everyone just says that david sinned in inaudible you're making a mistake but then the gemara says david sinned so which one is it whole in-depth discussion which we'll probably never have together however maybe another time but let's just understand the following just the basics of what occurred he goes ahead and he he sends the husband to the front lines of war and he ends up marrying this woman comes along some of the name of nathan the prophet no navi and he says to him king david i have a story to tell he says pray tell he says once there was a very poor man he had nothing but one sheep and he raised his sheep he fed the sheep who took care of the sheep he did everything that she needed he took care of it and there was once a rich man and this rich man had loads of sheep and herd and flock and cattle and all that stuff and one day the rich man went over to the poor man and he said you know what i need that sheep and he took the poor man's sheep he slaughtered it and he took it for himself what do you say about that guy says king david that's terrible you take it from that poor man that man should be killed it says nathan the prophet as you speak so shall you be judged kingdom is a smart guy he picked up on it but i'll fill you in on it he says what he says yeah he was a poor man he had one wife you're the king you have loads of wives you go and you take his wife from him and he realizes it he ends up doing chuvas he repents as the whole story line of happens there was some ramifications to the points as he changes based on that but we find a precedent the way in which we judge is how we in turn are going to be judged be very careful when you judge because it could be that you're judging yourself okay so we found the precedent let's just find one more idea and then we're done i guess uh we'll recap it let me recap everything we did and we'll end up with this last point so we started off in the beginning in the beginning [Music] what happened with my friend david all of a sudden he looks at me with this dangerous disgust turns out he wasn't wearing his glasses ellie's about to smack the thing he doesn't someone else doesn't always tell me something looks at him judge favorably give him the benefit of that okay that's what i said yeah but where did we find this is some nice idea or is this action obligation so that my friends take a look at pepe elvis would you say over there one six says have you done this called the cops because you're in favor of the message is when does it apply kamara in shabbos b excellent comes along it says the way in which you judge if you judge something fairly god turns out to judge you favorably what does that mean what type of person are you nitpicky detail-oriented or which they can step back into the whole picture that's what it means says it's called them that person the entirety of brazil understanding exactly whole thing about what the person is going through that my friends is a game changer over there because there's so much more that's going on which is not even aware of wow dead donkey white teeth eating yom kippur what type of person are we then we get the part two we got to think about some of the flip is what comes with the shampoo says the way in which we judge is the way that we in turn are going to be judged god puts us in a scenario where we get to see ourselves and he waits for us to be either our defense or our prosecution that doesn't mean you could all of a sudden say you know what i defended if you know that it's wrong but it opens up your mind to have the ability and the opportunity to actually change in the future to not fall to making that mistake the way in which we judge is how we're going to be judged so maybe let's try to be a little bit careful where's the president i want to end off with this one last line the very opening line of parque elvis comes along and says the following statement be slow and deliberate in your judgment because you will always see something different the second time that you didn't see the first time as perhaps now many are still sitting on the floor and maybe sat up already if pascatsosi are watching this we don't want to go through another dish above hopefully this won't even air you won't even see this i mean it's a worthwhile idea anyway but hopefully you're not seeing this on tisha but if we are we don't want to go through another one of these and like i'll tell you because of the heater that goes on maybe it's worthwhile to take a step back maybe there's more maybe there's more than we're not seeing have you done this color them the cops go so let's try to judge every duck person in the entirety favorably and then we won't have to be sitting on the floor because we'll have the rebuilding of the base make this from here menu on me i sincerely hope that you enjoyed this presentation i would like to ask all of you please if you haven't done so already please make a very gracious donation to bjx it is a wonderful organization that inspires jews our brothers and sisters 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