Names In Halacha - Rabbi Zev Smith

eight five one eight six five one the roger writes in the chuba that he is reluctant to talk about things that he really doesn't understand things that are not clearly their khatev certainly the concept of names as we'll see as i learned this week is something that's not regular that we can understand but the mice people have shields about names there are numerous shylists so what i think we'll do is we'll try to be matsuya instead of mahria instead of pascaline one way the other will just present the issues and you'll hear this you know what to ask about and what's behind these very complicated questions the question about can a person make up his own name when do we change someone's name giving two names naming after two different people we are the shia love it's not the first one i heard this of naming someone who had just passed away and the name he's been given before the kefuram is that a problem and a host of other questions but i think really we have to try to clarify one thing what exactly is the impact the effect that a name has on a child is there some type of impact that a name has on a child is it just a is named just a label is like instead of using his date of birth or social security that's his name let me explain this a little better you know there are some communities that they named the streets and of the in their in their in the area after presidents former presidents wonderful thing you know if you live on truman street uh you it doesn't really affect your children but i think if your name after the president truman that probably does have an impact so we have to clarify aloha is it true that a name has an impact on a child is the child sort of a male and mockum of the person he's being named after does he have some type of heroism and as we'll see there are many nafkaminas to these questions so there's no doubt about it a name is much more than just an id a name is more than just a label on the schmuck how do you know that a name has an impact on a child the mirror quotes apostican to him a name does affect the child's future factory mara brings an incredible raya why was she called rus because she had an aniko that said she raised this bag that's only part of the story if you look in the medusa in rus so the whole story of rus it's all about names now of course there's a person has bakhira but i think we could compare this to another concept it's also like metaphysical and that's the concept of mazel a person is born in amazon that that has an effect on his future and the muscle of blood either he'll be a murderer or a shaykh or a male i think names are the same thing name is a certainty a certain disposition you change your muscle by doing the right thing and name also no one is destined to do something he doesn't want to do but there's no doubt about it that a name has an impact on a child but we see more than that there's a gemara and huma that pay gimmel in the days remained harvey huda came to a place and remains miniguise he used to look at the name and figure out the person but others didn't go for that and the story is told that ramayana asked the fella what's his name is his name was kedar he says oh you better watch out from this person he's no good kid hey and sure enough the person happened to turn out to be a very bad person and they agreed to him remember you're right look at the name you could see what the person is in parsley saw wants to take away from the world the merchant takes his life why is that why is misa described as mahakashmi a person is his neshama comes from it in the word nishama the ik is shame that's the middle two letters so erasing a person is erasing his shame so i would say the name is the essence a name is the neshama and then the shame is the essence of the neshama i give you a martial saber assault today you see this you could punch into a computer a word let's say medicine and you could access hundreds or thousands of pages of information how does it work medicine stands for so much ramayana was able to look at a name and figure out the person and this is the chaos that deacom have they look at the kvittle and they see the person i i know his name i know i i know him already but a name is much more than just identification you look at the person and that's you look at the name and that's the person do i have to say more than what some safer rights in evanes he writes it like matter of factly that lady's son gave one of the children a name kairach and who really the original karate was aloof but look what happened there because he was named and this is again so much more but i think we we could we could definitely understand what zina writes think before you give a name for hashem what's the difference what his name is wanted to know what yaakov was how do you know what a person is look at the name so now we're probably a little worried or confused so if a name has such a big impact of how does this how does the father give a name for his child so barak hashem we have plenty of guidance there's a medicine parishes i think is the aside of name giving her is showing him and this is not the rajva the reciting him in the times of the majors was the earliest daughter the first divers because they lived so long they could name after parents don't forget they lived 700 years 800 years they had literally tens of zetas but they couldn't name me after isaidah so what did they give a name after hayem the shema so they gave a name based on the surroundings what happened when he was born benjamin i had a name we know joseph had a name based on the mura um the names were given based on the surroundings oh no but we don't live so long and the child is born who doesn't have an altar zaida or azada in the senu so the eighth of forgiving a name is keep it of giving a name don't forget is keyboard of for the living parent that's happy that their that their parents getting a name and also acquired the canaay for the zay that's being named after so a child that gives a name to his child after an altazada is getting keep it up to a for his father and grandfather but the message goes further similar reciting him higher mustangs they gave name with hakai there's nothing less we we don't have a kaidos so i was thinking it's very mature what's the second best thing to rakha kaidesh you do the rats in hashem maybe that's the first best thing keep it up is rasa hashem you do the rats in hashem you can't go wrong there's a beautiful magician in dvaram dalit the cloud in all decisions is you do the right thing you do the rats on hashem you don't lose and i see this very clearly in this majors they were showing him so what do we do don't worry you're not groping in darkness you could do the right thing do keep it up name after grandparents great grandparents but there's a little more that we could understand about the name giving the real kaddish is quoted as saying the name that our father the lashes hashem currently over the image a little bit of of navora that the father of the child has when he gives a name and then he says that's where maya looked at the name and figured out what the person was i saw come out the same idea from the goyin the going says that it's put in the the aviah ben's mouth to give the right name the fish irish this mercy of the child so in other words if you do the right thing you'll have a destroyer almost on a vula katana but to me i think it was amazing the oymic of the riya kaddish because the rizal said that that the father has a special sayate ishmael and therefore a maya was boydek in a name he's madayaki in a name the reason he's saying a very fazach ramaya used to look at the name and see what was doing why didn't may do that you know the typical father in those days if they got married at 18 so the father could have been 19 years old so a 19 year old teenager gave her name and remay is all excited let me look at the name and see what the child is why is a mayor convinced that this teenager gave a name that he could figure out the terences no matter how old the the father was but this father was using and ramayana believed that this name that the avia ben gave even though he was a mere teenager had meaning and therefore he was boydek in the name and the emphasis i saw there's a beautiful twilight in the it's hilo i see swells and hey the gimbal a tv that a father should say before he chooses the name but the thrust of it is i want to do the right thing hashem but so any losses and all i want to do is listen in other words the father has to be abolition and then he's guaranteed messiah no i say in other words to put this very practically the there's a zeta that was nifta and he should really be named after that zayd but there's also a cousin joe that passed away and left the bigurusha and promise ten thousand dollars whoever gives a name after him okay so it might be more financially rewarding giving a name after cousin joe but the banister rodson is keeper of and that's the better choice and remember i should mention another rule another one of the guidelines in giving names a bitter that says it's wrong he said that a father gives a name for the child and doesn't consult with his wife with the mother of the baby and he put it very sharply and he said she goes to the heavenly later and delivery and he runs and gives him name and anybody with a little bit of adela kite would never do such a thing you give a name you consult with the mother of the child and i would and it's very it's implicit in that result because twice he says the shame that the other emo i give has to be a joint decision plus if i would add a push at a practical level the mother is the one that has to raise the child and spends the first few years come out 24 7 with the child if she if the child has a name that she doesn't like it's not emotionally healthy for the mother you look at a child you have to diaper child and you don't like the name it's not good the relationship is very unsafe so you give a name part of the being part of i guess is being a good husband and consulting with your wife what's noteworthy is that the shin of a quotes from his aid that is our that one was asked advised about giving a name he wouldn't respond he told the father you have this don't come to me i saw that arugusa boys and he says you asked about giving your name i shouldn't answer that question because you the father has ruled quite this why do you need me and some sad deacon would not give advice about her name why this this aretha now you might say faker part of my work is asking for nates and takamoto deacon i guess barak hashem do give advice when asked in fact the behind would give a name without asking the father he would choose the name so if you have a suffic ask for a goggle if he tells you i don't answer so nothing wrong with asking another goggle i just give you one illustration echoed me elf when the baby was born he wanted to give three names if the three people episode the ville nagoyan but some reason decided to give the name israel yeshua which is his name and after he gave the name he realized that it because israel and yeshua was two out of three but if you look in the middle israel and then beginning of yeshua you'd have is elio so unknowingly or with a little bit of she gave all three names so obviously there's a lot to this year's side so now that we have a little bit again but a little bit of an insight let's try to deal with the various questions so first of all we tell your story maison the courage might be searled and the father said israel and the person giving the name didn't hear well and he gave the name and he said it loudly so i hope it's possible that's not a shiloh whatsoever because it's not a hallows what the the rav or the whatever the receiver gives the name it's the father's decision so obviously the name was battorius you changed the name just say it over again or let's say they realized it later so you're making mishabera for the child but it's not a problem if they gave if the person pronounced the name wrongly what's more challenging if a father by mistake gave a wrong name i heard a story i hope it's a joke someone named the name and then he realized you know that's the wrong name so that you could say well if that's the rochakoides maybe that's the way it should be but more likely it's like another toys now this is so i mean it's an interesting shout out for the tragic shia laura definitely an interesting shiloh in the church gimmel that's rebustra who lived through the second world war someone gave a woman had a baby during the war she thought her husband was dead and she gave an amy after him and after the war he came back she had not yet remarried then she had a child his child so the urbanum said that's considered a name for toys and about you could change the name there's a ikea to remember in choosing name we do the right thing i'm just going to give you one vert again one of the many it's always appellate to me terah was a russia until the two of the end of his life and look at the sun he had uh avraham avinu so the answer is that we all read maybe we didn't put pick it up it says it is father then a little bit later two seconds did you notice that terah gave a chai a name after his father tara's father was nakhar and his son was he named after his father so because he had keep it up he was like to a son like a brahmavinu so i heard this from alton godzilla i heard some actually from two god islam that said that they see in their experience people that neglect giving a name after zeda parent isaidah and have other hajbanis don't end up seeing knach from that child because they're very severe developed and you have to do what's right but it's interesting how important a name of a parent should be in dallas was asked a question by someone his mother was nifta and he's supposed to give a name after but she had a gaisha name now it's not clear but it seemed that the the name should be given was only the gaiisha name but it was the mother's name so much says to give a guy name but then he points out something very interesting you look in the resign him they all had a lot of them had great issue names what was the name of the market mishna you have a look in the akdama to the rambam vidal is your name what was the rambam's father's name my man not my moon ma'am out of mem ma'am said obviously it's not an issa again it's maguna but so he says about that person should give yiddish names but in this case if it meant ki bareim and the mother was lifter and i guess the father wanted to give after his wife you could give the name even if it's a non-jewish name so that's that just brings out how important it is the concept of keep it up on deciding about a name now someone asked me is it anything wrong talking about the name before you give it and i was talking about the name of the boy before the bris can you write the name today it's sometimes easy in the hospital when you write the name into the birth certificate it saves a lot of time later so i didn't find it in earlier sources but it seems that it's basically the old cloud aina matsuya if you talk about something publicity only does no good i saw absolutely the valets of he says he thinks it's positive it's to avoid eyeing her i found also the truth and the safety courage page 348 and the a very practical husband you know it's hard enough as it is for a couple to decide what name to give but we start saying what name you're giving you're going to get 10 more opinions and it's going to be much more challenging so just keep it quiet and therefore decide without getting other people involved what not to give what to give but it seems that the main problem is the fact that it's a real credence type of idea don't talk about it it's a special site ishmael you know schweich still that's always better but whatever the reason is it seems the main problem is the piercing of it so if someone has no choice he has to write a name into a uh a form or an insurance or an again in a birth certificate it seems like that's not the main problem the main problem is the pearson that we give to the name before the time evanesche the gimmick about a different indian but he writes that he says the minute today is everybody writes the name in the birth certificate in the hospital already he doesn't seem to have been concerned about writing the name so obviously if need be a name could be written not to talk about it what i should mention and this and the orchestra being the gimbal is quoted as saying that would warn parents not to give a child a strange name that they'll be embarrassed with when they get older and as now the child is a baby has no choice but he gets old he has a funny name fact that the the christ said was that's the most important clause giving don't give a child the name that they will feel you know uncomfortable with now he gave some the show i'm not going to say because we have those names i know someone told me his grandmother left and savannah not to give a name after her her name was baptizer and she didn't want the children to have nay had that name so i'm not saying that's a bad name but whatever it is there are names that a child will find difficult to live with now of course as an adult we say what's wrong with it it's your baba it was a big tardicus i agree you have to put your mind into the mind of a five-year-old and if the child will be will be self-conscious about it it's something that said better change the name convert it from yiddish to english to lashinkaida she gave some examples modify it i heard someone from the name ella to the name elka or typically you had a name but a name that the child will not be comfortable with is a disservice even if it means neglecting a parent's name that was the history of the khazeen a very important question should have been again but we hear when someone is sick they change his name so it always always bother me how does that work you know imagine you you see your your child or grandchild and his name is ruben you know that but he's bringing yamaka shimon so what happened he's a roommate with his brother shimon and he took shimmers yamaka right so the fact he's wearing the name yamaku the name simon doesn't mean he's anybody different person so how does shini hashem work regarding but the emma says it has a very prominent source the gemara in roshana after zainab says hashem is one of the things that changes a bad gazardin it's like sadaka and shiny maison which rashi says chuva so shiny hashem changing a name is on the same level like chuva and sadok and sokka how does it work but what's even more astonishing the gemara's example is that sarai was unable to have a child when i was there was she didn't have the physical ability to conceive so what happened the virus had changed the name to sarah and sorry governor mama how does it work and this is gibaskin and you're there the end of shimla but hey there are more says when there's a haila that's very critical condition they change his name so the embassy is for us we have a little of shot if we understand a name is a mission a name is a sliches so obviously this person's name indicates that it's almost over so this is a simple later give him a new mission and the embassy is the banya yoda on that gemara he says at the veniphila he says if a person makes a net they're not going to reuvent house can't go into the house if roovene sells at the shimon go into the house why it's not reuven's house changing name is a whole different person that's what he wants to say so he says even more so the kitchen is unmoving but so the malachi cannot locate this uh movement because now his name is whatever the case is what's happened said and this is the truth that a name change has to be done by someone who's qualified i guess we could say it very literally a person has to have the oregon has to have the neshama to be able to change someone else's name in fact some godzilla held that we don't have the ability to change names today but if there is a need you have to go to a person that's fully qualified i should mention the brahmiza and eritreal i think it's very prevalent there are quote unquote mikhubalim that basically are macabre a lot of money for what they do but whether they look at ksubas or mezuzas or palms or or foreheads ruby could cool them are definitely not airlift and very misleading and very confusing stay away stay only with uh angelic who are following our amazon kabbalah the stipela was one was was infuriated by these type of people that misrepresent that as if a name they look at your name without a good this got that and it's something that's really out of hand with him but someone that's qualified will decide when yes and we're not and we know a small birmingham who was deathly ill and his name was changed to a false will and sobelski's name was changed to became israel but then again you have to know when i'll just tell you an interesting story when rabayashi was very sick they came to abraham his son was angry that they changed his name so he said he thinks that yahshua himself would not want to change the name why because when rahmaesha was sick decades earlier they came to rabbayashiv should they change his name said in shamayim rav moisha has so much kashivas that's you can't change your emotion the error name is not the same person keep a moisture as it is from his terrible so again you have to have the organ you have to have the heart to know when yes and when you have to be qualified when it when if there is a change of name and shin lament with writes typically that you don't change the name and you want to i understand why we understand why because the name is a person's essence you know what if you're changing the name taking it away you're taking away the person what the thing to do is add a name like rafael shmuel will burn down his name is the foil he had a name and typically the new name is put first like rafael shmuel never the person did not survive so then you don't keep the name just to tell you again another just an insight i have a friend of zion his bris was supposed to was on the day of the barons levi baron was lifted the night before his breast was that morning his father already planned on giving him my who told me the story my friend the name ephraim after his ada and but from ice it was he found out the terrible news and his son was the numbers before the food so he ran to the convince of the rabbi ramicho has shown his maybe she should give a name after byron baron they added the name rafael but he never didn't survive so thereby says yes but give the name rafal aaron okay the rabbi case in which he did gave them full aaron and my friend told me the story that years later he was in a terrible terrible accident he doesn't know why no one can figure out why he's still alive but he knows why vice degrees the name rafael saved him so do you see again that a person that has the eyes to see what you thought you have to see even though the name was not refilled byron's name is not no longer a foil iron but obviously this was the some did the name that gave him an extra slices but be that as it may a name is much more than a label and now you can understand something interesting the rambam base allah dalit he speaks about shiva and the rama we learned hopefully in the days of chuva and rama says something that we think is maybe poetic but it's not that a balchub is mistrached needs a change of name why a change of name is a change in sliches i should mention i should have been a gay but if someone was sick and they changed his name so obviously when he gets better he has to avoid yes he has to do a lot of chuva marshall on that gemara points out he says if they change a person's name it's not going to help it has to be a change of name and a change in his whole mahala he says and russia adds don't look at sorry because sorry had nothing wrong with her it was just a change of name but if someone's sick there's always something wrong so when it gets better he has to change the shiny mice also the name is just giving him a new lease on life but then he has to do something very special with his new matano one thing the paiskim do say and that is a person has a name of a russia shame bishoyam yirkov that name has to be changed tommy when she first was married she needed to supplement the prognosis we taught her a day school and the mom's children were terribly assimilated and she asked one day she wanted to have a awareness none of that jewish names yesterday what the jewish name was some didn't know one voice my name is asap yeah my mother wanted a biblical name a jewish name and she liked the name asap so i think that name should be changed not yaakov evasive and i just saw it and there's a beautiful say for crime success the story there that a woman was getting married and her name believe it or not was izevil how could you write exuber to her name is evil he says change the name on the spot and don't keep the name is evil at all because it's such a bad name you don't have to wait 30 days for us to become and it was makel to change it on the spot even lagabi exuber so obviously if names are important then bad names are detrimental and he changed the name on the spot it did not retain the original name i would imagine that asap is worse than his evil so that name definitely could be changed the actual procedure when there is a they change the name what's interesting the thrill that we give a child by the brisket can you kind of has a deeper meaning just like now you're gazunt and your name is whatever the name is you should go against levin with the same name you shouldn't have to have a change in mission you should be gesund to go to the same name i must share with you just to show you what a name is the majesticis says the cloud will soon use this that more names is usually a reboy in kyrgyzstan because her name is shrikha's two names would be two slichers i guess that's why maisha ben had seven names because he had a multi-slice but then the majesty is a double niphamoid typically he's called yakov but if you notice when jacob expressed his pain that it seemed to have lost his third child and that's why you look in the passage and i checked it up from that tossing until he found out that yosef was alive he's always referred to as israel not once he's referred to his yakov when he's told that joseph was still alive and that's again this is that a person has two names and one name is already dead and therefore the second name is like sort of the extension of his life this would explain what's obviously a very difficult childhood a child is born with a sickness and they can't make the mila so maybe give the name any album in a girl you just give the name at the first opportunity so if the boy has no mila give a name and tacos some have that minute if you know there's no meal in there in the foreseeable future you give the name but the minute i think the minig in most places is they don't give a name i just saw a sign nebuchad please daven for tinic ben planus is the third surgery so must be a few months old who has three surgeries what's the shot so the rest of ram that's what it is he says because a name is molly kadusha malay yiddishkait if the child's still an oral he's not ready to make all the kedush of a name so in the area he's not able to cobble that tremendous or godel so even though it's very difficult to have a baby without a name but it seemed that a child's not ready for a name before the mila another point i wanted to mention which is to me is very important i saw this it's based on but i saw he puts it all together he says unfortunately when a person has a sign and we know that i've signed him but someone has a sign up he never calls him by the last by the first name either by the last name or shem shell goodnight someone loves someone else they call them over and over a mother calls us every other word my uncle what's the shot so he says even it's even deeper david was unhappy that shall refer to him as ben yeshe not by his first name [Music] but you look what happened when janison who was david's best friend he responded to his father nishal david david has this busy and when when seoul heard that he was upset what's going on here the turret says when you like someone you call by the first name if you don't like someone you avoid the first name that's takasha and the possibility yellow in one passage there's five times the mention of the israel that's the average hashem for claudiusro so he said that's an expression of when you call somebody the first name i always say this in yeshiva i hear boys calling other bakama the last name it's inappropriate a name is a tremendous sense of ahava you have to that person if you know the person's first name call him with that if you don't know his first name find out but as we understand now a name has a connection to the last name is just an identity it's a label but the kedusha is the first name so this is basically part one and the second part a little more challenging and that is when someone has a name does he have a certain shyness of the person he's named after is there some type of reincarnation so to speak that the baby is like the taking over for the person that he's named after in other words avada giving a name after this isaidah is a form of keeper of but is it more than that is there some connection between the baby and his namesake who is being named after so as we'll see this has many halakhas that it's to but let me tell you what i thought was a good lead it's you do the i'm so slimy getting perigdalid says we don't give a name if the ishayohua navi because he was killed by his ainakul in a very brutal way and that's the concept of rayamazley a person that had a bad misa you don't give a name after him because i'm safe in heaven writes that we don't give a name akiva with an olive we have this balaki with a hay because akiva had a brutal mesa i know someone they just left a few years ago he was he was born in munkaj and his name is his first name is akiva so yesterday where'd you get the name from he goes to mikhail was his sandik moyal he did both and also gave the name and when it came time to give a name he said the courage might be slowly turned my father he said no name akiva that said no no no i keep him no no no i keep i don't know what's going on find the rebel so he's not getting anywhere he says we don't give a name after akiva because he had a mississippi so if i okay akiva did everything let's phenomena because name the lesbian mcgivern gins and egg that says okay let's make a copt and he gave a name akiva and that's why the muslims masked me of the name but anyhow akiva doesn't say there's a problem with akiva some that's why some spell it with the hey i haven't not seen akiva spelled with the head except for one bakan the shiva one showed me his philanthrop his to his name is the key with the hay but anyhow what is the shot because the namesake had had a misa mashuna was after the child obviously there is some chairs between the namesake and the child now the mice are some are not concerned about this i know the pain management used to pass in if a parent is nifty young you could give a name i'll keep it up after that parent because as he said naming after parents is keeper of and that brings young so some people will will give an add a name to their parent that was nifty young whatever the case is we see that devarum there's something here about a name that he's assuming somehow the person that is named after but i'll tell you something much more profound the question that i began with is it permissible to give a name after someone who was nifty recently and it was holding before the clue i know someone came to this chair who lifted the last perm and had the shiloh and they wanted to give an amy after him but it was before the so the chura shy in madura simon hey he says you can't give a name if the person is still by al muhammad before the quran because the name is an attacker's nephew and you can be matic enough should be still in this world even if he already passed away and hey in the end of that in semen tougher islam but he says now if the child is born when that person was still alive and it was nifty and they made the dossier that's not a problem even though they were living the world the same time but if they give a name after someone who is not yet buried hataka's nephesh that can work if the person is still physically at least the body in this world the min dalit simmons of zion quotes this and strongly objects to this and he basically says that's not true there's not a talker's nephesh he says like the true versailles give a name after a rama venus from as a son and he disputes the whole idea that this of course a nephesh and even the birds are not yet buried you give a name so you think it's these places but if you look at the end of the siddhis and there it's recorded that he was did not allow naming after someone before the fool i saw the the rabbi rasha klein and sheila dalla kuffman basically samuel gimmel also insists not to name you after someone before the fool to me a bigger kid is the cloister and yeah he says not to name me after someone who was alive when the baby was born even after even if even if it's really after the food so our shila seems to be this island but if there's nagaya you have to ask ashaira what's interesting just to give you a little bit of an insight about atakus nephesh this is a say this say this is printed in the safe aviary royal the someone came to the athens at the socrata he had a baby that was very sick he needed a yeshua so they don't know the amazing what's the baby's name moisha it's a good did you name me after moisture albania he said yes now you want to know why now you're wondering why he's sick how could this baby assume that's why he's sick he held not the game not the name after moisture now this is something that that was his right and that's my point only is that a name has a cyclist to the one he's been named after they got the stipend crying at the so you know the question is not yes or no but the question is we see that names have a very big shyface to the child that's being born i'll give you another insight about this attacker's hanefest tonight in our tanyana gimbal he writes the whole to my very poor memory of megazord his poor memory i don't remember in shas that someone has two names and it's a dua that rebranded marshall did not give two names to one child in fact i saw that i mentioned earlier he says giving two names doesn't seem to make sense because they're wonderful people but how do you combine two people into one child he says it's like take this is muscle it's like taking the sector shabbos and the sacred above and making it not to give names you have to to say this to marshall because it's two different the shamas but the point is as i heard bashem i didn't say this but i heard the shamrock who dr gave his children two names because he wanted them to have two shliriks it's better so it's basically looking at the the concept of a name and how to apply it for myself one thing i would would caution naming other two people didn't get along in their lifetime that's an issue i mean we see azewaite in yahoodaya simmons brings from not to bury people that did not get along the lifetime close one to the other i mean it's it's a wake-up call about the importance of meters it seems people get that fourth behind they don't change i don't see they don't grow up that's the wrong term but there's something there so to say this to give a child they have to say this make sure that you realize that zayds are also making and maybe they didn't get along so don't do that but i want to say a mitzvah fires and i just saw this for the first time in the gedulas jainism there's a story that says to tell over that beyonce had a difference of opinion of course the same shamayim and by the patera of a bianca of emdin he said and advanced that's what he said and the congregation heard this and then when it came to the kefura there was no place to bury a bank of emden except for a pl a plot near biennis and i've shits so the night the who the pascan based on the eighties of the traverkadisha that they heard him say baruch haba adventist and ibsets that vais the right they made solemn and he allowed them to buried one next to the other this is what i saw in that gurus johannesson quoting the diver but what's the point is you know some people think you know i fight and they don't fight i'm a god of also they don't know the bhagavad gita suffer look at this story and agav i i i had this aura and i found barcelona he said there's nothing wrong with naming a child david shaw because the alma the obama the ms and the ambadek site david and shell were even another interesting question that i wouldn't have thought giving even a pause to it is naming a girl after a man lamasso the zether was nifta and now a girl was born so can you give the name masha instead of moisha broco giving a girl a name after a as ada that of course was that has a boy's name or fakert giving a a name to a boy after a grandmother i guess uh instead of dina don so we would think what's the problem taking the one of has a number of conversions that he made from girls names to boys names so obviously he felt is no problem but it's interesting that there are those that object to that if there is some type of shaitis we'll call how do you take a girl than to make it into a boy but to me was marvel harayan killed alum and the gimbal seminar in hay he says to give two children the same name is wrong even though you want to give after a father so why not give two children the same name is wrong i listen to this we find times the gemara they had two children with the same name so listen to zeinfeld times of the gomorrah they gave a name after maura so if hayem was born and the murderer was high another baby was born and the moor is high in vita so what's wrong but today they were named after isaidah so once you gave after the zeta then the sum already is into that child how do you put into a different child it's almost like you have two others so he's taking this attack as an effort literally you can't give two names after one father but the lump this is from times in the gemara was different focus of main urum oh but what what interesting to me was that the titilian zion cinema test he uses this to say to give a name let's say from a girl and from a woman and give it to a baby boy or vice versa is a very poor mix you can take a boy and give a girl then and then it's just a wrong mix and matching some poison say please don't quote when you get home but you can't name a girl after a man because that's what i wrote in the kadusa of the name from a man you're making it to a girl's name some in fact say there might be problems in if you name a girl after a man in the ability for the girl to have a child it's a it's a summer of a boy so it's something again out of my range no doubt about it but i think we could say poi khasi developed basically is makel to give a name a girl after a boy or vice versa and again we are just being matsia and if it's negative but one thing i did see i found it really challenging to sit eliezer in failure he has a question let's say the zeida was nifta and then a boy a girl was born so he gave the name bracha fine a while later he had another baby this time a boy could he give the name baruch because when he gave him after the the the disadam so he says based on the different malkiel it's not a good idea because that zeda already has a atakas on ephesh a big question which really is a serious question is can i make it my own name you know i like this name there's a lot of talk today you know is not happy with certain names was so again we're not going to say but we might see what i found in svara why not if you could do my name or why can't i make up a name also and this is interesting i serve anastasia making up her own name and he says why not he's is interesting you're looking ganshas you're not going to find a baby named after maishra bainu almost all the names in gemara are issue names i mean whatever the names in those times made up names i'm all you find the yaakov plus you think about the plethora of yiddish names i have four barbers libra kale and cyril all yiddish names rav moisha said taka be showing him had got used your names now someone gives a make up a name with damastra but the point is i still quoted rabayashim that there's nothing wrong with making up an appropriate name it's our form of al-shamma maura as i'm nakamiya goldberg in the it's page 347 as a tuva and that seems to be his understanding but i must say it's not possible at all for character the major says two choices with giving names either or maura why doesn't it say make up a name more means because he was born agrees on purims he's born i saw on yom kippur give the name because it's out of a hat ito and the safe is oicha bris one of the primary songs of days don't name make up your own name the major declare blue okay something another which is out of my range vibe today as a result said we're all ghoulim so our summers have to connect to a previous one not a new one because that gives the summer no connection but anyhow what i want to tell you is if you're interested more there are two slums that put out one's shameless and one shame and they quote xavier he was asked this question what's wrong with making up a name i i we could use a yiddish name so why can't i use a lotion kaido's name that no one else had insists that a name that we have is a messiah and that you could follow but to make up a name even if it's lashing out a problem one name i'm not going to mention but you know someone said that what's wrong with the i gave the name because of when the child was born so crimean said if the child's born parish is part you're going to give the name pyram that was his response in this form you'll find the sampling someone asked him a certain name he said himself they made it up one name he said that name himself and a few times that's his loss in there so you know is very anal you should know but apparently he feels this is a deviation from almost iron we have names so we have to stay with their names so i'm going to say what i think is the ms all agree la ilam yivdik adam sheamus choose carefully give it a lot of attention because it has a big relation so those that have a cabola to give only names from from previous divers about that that's the right thing those that have a kabbalah to make up the name it has to be done with a tremendous sense of acharyas now just a few points about the names the name happens to be the first name woman's name in history you look in the kriyaka in gimelhaff so to me it was interesting how he didn't change the name entirely he kept the name but he modified it but it's also a tremendous lesson in shalom bayes because when did adam give the name to his wife instead of right after he was given a death sentence of isaiah imagine how the average person would react to the family is going to die because of his wife he would give a mishaber to a three or four but he says you're the aim kochai and he kept that name just modified it the name my name is abe zev the name is abe isn't tanakh and shay from zion cafes but it happened to be a tsar millionaire was a russian barca i'm not named after a sarmidian my name comes in parishes by where the shvatim will give the names of animals don't forget and the who the arya and basically that's a valid name barak hashem not all names are used there's no one named is a very interesting name but obviously that was based on this kabbalah tuvya my father's name rather was in tanakh in in in the gimbal a terrible russia but the name tuvi is not from that russia is maisha whose name has insighted a few days the my son's name is pinchos and rapam said to spell pink is with the yud because you're naming after pinchas maize the who was named born and parched spelled with the youth and that's the spelling which sherwolfson said mary this vessel so put in the heat so each one looks at it in their own way it's interesting it's spelled two shins and it's pronounced with one so that's the kingdom of eight says because the two shins is based on two two things about that is about leia had in mind uh the kim nassen is not very edel so therefore it became from alexander is a grayish emperor if you're looking at yumad of sambar test the cover that he had to shima natsadik and he saved a potential corbin so there's a kabbalah that he that he wanted they should put up a monument in base amigdas which is the course of a desire so they were kabul of course not to do that that to give a name for a year after his name and that's why he's always added a name i think a very prominent alexander was the value sergeant avoider and i guess the most important allah that i want to leave you with is what the heist says we spoke a lot about the importance of name but that's in choosing a name but it can't turn into mahleikas it's a passion of mitzvoth that people tremble from don't give a name yehuda or shmuel to a child very strange what's wrong with and considering his father's name was shmuel and his name was yehuda forever and he's going to be nifty one day and then a baby is going to be born to an ankle of his now really the ankle is supposed to give a name after the other side because they just had the the other name but now rehearsal was nifta they'll say how could you not give a name to the hosted and it's your turn but we have to give a name afterbird but we need the name and it's going to be you know what keep me out of the equation my name my father's name if it means don't name after us almond concludes yes because the end of the day as the tank writes a person has three names what what his parents gave him what people give him and the name that he makes for himself and his lotion is and the most important thing in hashem type is to avoid mahleikas so we have to give names with realizing we don't lose doing the right thing we should be there oh man shane because you should never like the soundcraft for the wonderful we should all yourself not just for yourself the main symmetry is the taking yourself to be able to make others there's hundreds of that don't have any money or they have such a hard year this year whoever is alive and still has money has to give double to thank the boy and she learned that you are alive that much more much more important this year to give bigger amounts of money as much to mourish the hundreds of families will give money to my tonight we're asking everybody to please write out a check a hundred dollars a hundred and eighty dollars or give a credit card and that's khus and ali kaho for me that this upcoming year should be a year of if they are the shameless name has a very big impact a big effect on the child we do pass in small gorham in fact says agree to her that she's a name is an ashama the shame is the essence of neshama it's the essence of the person and therefore a person to choose carefully a name that's given of course the best course is to do something the rats and hashem shameless you do the right thing sometimes it's giving after a parent sometimes it's being mavata not giving when someone else wants the name sometimes it's a hassett name but basically a person has to consult with of course the wife the mother of the child and his parents make sure the name has been giving is the right name there is definitely a little of a hakodesh how would you refer to it when someone is is give a name there's a site of the schmeyer that he gives the right name in fact some godelin would not advise a father what name to give use your own work those that do give advice that's part of the quest but there's definitely a shemaya that a via ben has when he gives the name terror to a child of ram because he named his son after his father naka which shows a lot about kibara and having there's an indian i can't say it's an issue to talk about not to talk about the name too much whatever is necessary of course is okay writing is less of a kapeda the main thing is in the name has a certain kadush to it keep it until is actually given a child that might be embarrassed with the name even though it's a good name but again if the child and his mind feels it's something that he can't you know deal with then the parent should either modify the name or add a different name shino hashem works because it's a shinri in tagless avada gets better should feel a tremendous shift to change himself but basically a sheen hashem works because the shinri and the tacos typically you don't change the name because that's it that's him you add to the name to give an increase in his tackles certainly in this regard like caller writes a letterless hashem you can't just change names curse has to be fully qualified to be able to change your name change the nashama change the whole essence and that needs another godless a a if a child is sick and you can't make the meal or the meaning is not to give the name i think in most circles look upon him and basically just use the name tinik or yalda whatever it may be and now for the child with that name it's very important to use a first name it shows an ahava to the person what might be interesting is the attackers and efforts that takes place when you give a name after a person that's why when a person had a bad mazel raya maslow would try to avoid the name giving a name before khlora is a is avoided by many because it's still not a time for atakazama giving two names to one person either as a milo kisar and either it's too slickhas or it's confusing did ask us why do we give why do two cousins have the same name after the zeta so that's not i guess the territories per family is supposed to give a name but two children of this after the same zeta of the same family that's something that's not done to give two names if the two people didn't get along but yeah is not advisable a boy naming after a woman or a girl naming after a man dominicus to do that even though some objected to that it seems more of an issue to give a girl a boy a man's name that's somewhat of a hierarchy try to stay with names that claustrol had there are those that feel we shouldn't be making up new names and again the main reason seems to be because it's too sacred to be creative you want to make a inching but to make a name into something of a you know something a creativity it's it's not the right place to use originality we did see the first name and animals in the torah orchards is a certain school i forgot to mention the name bensian is the school of farikasian alta either boys or girls version is also that a school uh pinchas has two spellings but if you name it after the pinkhaza in the tower as opposed to tanaka it's with the eud tuvya is the name is one of maui's name alexander was given as a curse a taive to alexander the great the goesha general that's why your name is always aided the murray gratifying alexandri but that's what the euro that makes it a little different and the ick is to avoid much like is when giving names even though it's kadai to get a name the right name but sometimes the right name is tim avata on the name because the icker the most important name is the name that a person makes for himself that's the type of miscemented