Parsha Perspectives for Today (Mishpatim 5784/2024) - Adding Hashem to Every Conversation

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page 46 in the art SC Stone we're coming off the high of last week what was the high of last week yro cabal satoro we're climbing down if not literally F figuratively from the mountain we hit that high Revelation the most seminal moment in all of history Hashem spoke directly to us he revealed himself in an unprecedented and unparalleled fashion it was an incredible high and now where do we go next we're coming off of that we're coming off of that that that we're coming off of that incredible moment of we're coming off of that amazing spiritual High we're coming back from our year in Israel and what's next civil law Tor law criminal law laws of slaves laws of the if you buy a non a Jewish slave six years he works for you and so on and so forth says rash whenever you see the word a these it is coming to negate or to contradict what came earlier the but we have a on the word the it's connecting it is adding on to what came before just as the earlier ones came from SI meaning last week's par would contained within it what Theos The Ten Commandments the decalog I just wanted to flex to use the word decalog to look smart I can't fool you anyway you know by now so just like the were divinely communicated come directly from hasem all these laws too when your Ox scores another Ox when your car bumps into someone else's car when someone owes you money when someone asks for a loan when someone's Indigent and poor and needs and needs a handout it's all from SII don't think that the Asos are distinguished different that was aab Friday morning at our ER of shabas are the are the Ten Commandments different than the other 603 or are they the same in fact we used to incorporate into our davening tells us that not only did we say shma every day among the sections we read from that come from the Torah we would read the shma every day and we'd also read the we would read The Ten Commandments however it was nullified the says rash explains people concluded I guess such as have to keep the Big 10 I just I have to not have to believe in God not worship idols don't steal don't murder and I'm good to go shotes Kisha I don't know uh what are people's Hang-Ups second day of Yanti whatever the what are the big Hang-Ups that people have so that I don't have to Kos that I don't have to keep that I don't have to keep soos is not it's the ra second day of save the email I know I got it but my point is that what appeared inro is from and what it continues today so why how is this a way to come off that high yro Revelation inspiration we're on a high and then we get into the minua and the details and all of a sudden we become law students going through the law books why are where did the Sanhedrin sit the high court Supreme Court of the Jewish people where did they sit they sat in they sat in the bik itself so we had separate branches so to say but they overlapped and why why did the sedran sit in the holiest place the B mikdash because from a Jewish perspective law is not secular it's not mundane Law And Justice and the pursuit of justice and the protection of Justice are religious experiences have to sit by a has to wear a hat wherea wear a Talis over their head why do we wear something on our head to signify the seriousness to feel the weight of hashem's presence so actually sits with the and helps them adjudicate and come to the conclusion of law for us Justice and the adjudication of justice and the development of legislation of Justice it's all a religious experience so the sanedrin didn't sit somewhere in elsewhere they sat in theik saned was because it's all a religious experience we're learning this now in Sitter Snippets I love when it overlaps we're up to the 11th we're longing for the return and the restoration of Justice every day when we dve and we sayem evidence of the Gus we're living in the Exile we're suffering from is how unjust this world is the he the international courts the double standard against Israel the targeting of the Jew the Injustice in the world against the Jew is itself an expression a manifestation of this harsh and dark Gus so we've begun in the yida with kab the 10 gather us together and what happens after we're together what do we long for return Justice bring back our Yim bring back some sense of righteousness of right and wrong of Good and Evil sense of justice a sense of a sense of Truth bring it back let people not be afraid let people not have to Wordsmith or be politically correct let them not just what was it the Emmys the Oscars what was the award the other night the Grammys I'm not trying to sound religious I really don't know the Grammys it's not enough to say music some people singing music were killed call them say their name we were Jews they were Israelis they were victims they were targeted could you imagine I don't want to I know it's the parure class I just have to get this off my chest could you you imagine you would describe 9/11 as a financial Club there were a group of people who love Finance when a plane hit them and killed them and finance money should bring something that brings us together let us study and open markets and experience Finance because neb there are victims who died who love and were working with money and you wouldn't say Americans were targeted on 911 I'm grateful that the Grammys mentioned the Nova Festival but before we have such a low opinion of ourselves and demand so little of ourselves say Jews say Israelis say who are the perpetrator and who was the victim fight for righteousness and Justice stand up to evil that also comes fromi that also comes from SII so let's jump in the first T mayor Dr he was here last night he spoke here at the will send out the the video of his beautiful beautiful insights so in his new say for he says the following I told him I said almost every day I quote there so keep publishing so I keep having things to say he's written 55 he's on his way the first laws that we encounter after the spiritual high of these are the interpersonal laws of of Justice Criminal Tor civil law this is the first thing we teach teach you're coming back from the incredible shabbaton you're coming off the amazing you're coming off of the incredible and you say now sit down I want to go through some laws if in the parking lot your car hits another car here's what you that's what you're teaching teach me about daving yum Kipper talk to me about my talk to me about being give me the MIT why are we starting out with the reason is says we had so many 613 to choose from and this is where we begin this is where we pick it up after our the answer is we're trying to build a society and how do you build a just and proper Society by having rules and Order and law now the truth is you don't have to be Jewish and you don't have to have the Torah you don't have to have access to to know that you need laws all civilized societies and countries have laws have laws so what makes us special so one would have could have erroneously concluded you know don't steal pay back somebody lend money take care of a poor person secular atheists agnostics could come up with these rules so maybe they're not from and therefore specifically when we came back from ouri these are the first laws were taught to know that even though they what we call mitzvos even though they are rational laws one could have arrived at them on their own that's not why we keep them we keep them because theem Hashem who created the world gave us the blueprint for creation he gave us the instruction manual for life and he said here's what ownership is here's how money Works here's how a society should run and should function even though it makes sense even though we like it even though it protects a civil society that's not why we keep it someone wakes you up in the middle of the night and says why don't you steal why don't you rob other people the answer is not well society would fall apart if I would Rob people would steal from me there'd be no ownership we couldn't function the answer is because Hashem said not to because Hashem taught about ownership and property and rights and he said not to he said a moral good person doesn't it's because of and that's why we don't do it because we understand it because what happens if we begin to observe the things that we understand that we appreciate that makes sense and we do it because they make sense what will happen you'll say but but shotas doesn't make much sense that doesn't do it for me wool and linen getting my things tested and checked that's not logical that doesn't make sense I'm G to skip that one I'll keep the society one I'll keep the rational ones so therefore a person needs to go and that's what we D in every day into H we say every morning it's not just that we have laws that those who don't have them can't begin to comprehend understand and they're not ready to to observe it's that even the even the things that we do that make sense that all societies do but we do it for a different reason we keep M might as well be a it happens to make sense nice enjoy that's not why we keep it we keep it as if it were a and that's and that's why the begins with this we turn to the who says the following the grandson of the the Z says something interesting says the what does that mean this has something to do with a gilgul what's gilgul what gilg reincarnation do we believe in reincarnation it's a big goes back all the all the G har the great medieval commentators line up and debate they don't necessarily fall out where you would anticipate they would there's a fascinating debate do we believe in reincarnation or do we have one shot we come one time are we reincarnated our soul comes back over and over again till we figure it out till we get it right till we repair what we need to in order to be able to return to Hashem and attach ourselves back to him or do you get one shot and the consequence the result of how we used our one chance here leaves us for eternity with whatever choices that we made it's a bigus it's a complicated topic complicated topic because if you do believe in reincarnation and you can be reincarnated as another gender another person another object another animal in in the resurrection who are you coming back as who are you married to who are you related with there's a lot of questions that come out of it however there's a big stream that say there's such a thing as reincarnation and in fact we have a tradition Z and others that talk about great figures and Personalities in the Torah who were reincarnations of the soul of earlier people mosha was Noah we have all kinds of reincarnations Pinas we have all kinds of reincarnations so The Zo here comments about reincarnation and you wonder what we're in a court here what we're in court is judges there's a dispute it's a financial issue what are we talking about reincarnation and listen know what says whenever you have a whenever you have a conflict or dispute each party of course thinks that they are correct if they thought that they were wrong then they wouldn't be in a din Torah they would just award the other person what they want what they're asking for each party of course thinks they're right so what happens when the B disagrees with you you know you were right I've been involved in several D Torah the litigant rarely walk out and say I thought I was right but you know what now that you've ruled against me I realize I was wrong that rarely happens usually they want to back out which is why they needed to sign the binding arbitration before they began so they can't back out a binding arbitration so they can't back out because they're so confident they're right and they're confident that D will see them as right that if they see them as wrong or even a even if there's a compromise even if they have to compromise whatsoever often people are very upset it doesn't make sense so it says that's where the Z was getting at a person's attitude should be that you know what maybe my understanding my interpretation my experience I'm right maybe based and ruled against me anyway you know why because in a previous gilgal trying to figure out Incarnation reincar Carnation Carnation Incarnation reincarnation I don't know which one but in a previous gilgal you know what I'm trying to say in a previous Gil go I was obligated in this money so now when they ruled against me even though I know I'm right I'm not gonna fight it I won't be bitter about it I won't not follow it because it must be that in the previous Gil go I really was obligated in this money it's a fascinating Insight you didn't anticipate you didn't see that coming on a mbam because I think that the message is powerful not just when things don't go our way to start calculating maybe in a previous gilgal I was obligated that's why this happened that's why it worked out this way but it means to say that in every conflict and every dispute however things turn out I put my faith in my inem I fight for my rights I represent myself I advocate I fight for my rights but when all said and done what whether it went my way or against me I I Surrender and I say Hashem you're in charge you're in control however it turned out is the way you meant it to be and even if I think I'm injured I'm harmed I've been wronged I don't owe that money but for whatever reason you've determined maybe I owe it for some other reason maybe it's a kapara maybe it's a Tik maybe it's a gilgal with the Z according to with the Z is telling us is a a method to how to maintain our tranquility and our Serenity and our happiness how many people walk around miserable and ficent and bitter the world has mistreated them is unjust and is ruled against them and they don't they're not understood they're misunderstood instead of realizing Hashem is righteous all that he does is righteous and even when something went wrong I can fight I can Advocate I can advance my interest but when it's over it's up to hem it's the way he decides it more quotes another interpretation on this opening P this V why do we have this V here we said rashes the V is connecting it to last week's Pasha just as last week's Pas we were on a spiritual high this is how we connected to Hashem you you should know that when you learn that's also tapping into the that's hm's will in this world last week's para was a sound and light show thunder and lightning was Unreal was unbelievable I hope you all had that experience last shabas that that's our tradition that the the whatever we're reading in the par we're not reading about something thousands of years ago whatever we're reading is what's happening that week so last week was we were back at the mountain last week was cabal we were back seeing the sounds we were back with the lightning we were back it was unbelievable I saw you all there it was unbelievable it was unbelievable and that led when you experience Revelation when you see the guiding hand of Hashem you can't be in denial you feel a sense of confidence you feel a sense of of of Happiness the Torah was given with a sense of awe the awesomeness and we learn from there that every time we sit down and every time we learn Torah we have to bring the same attitude you know you don't learn I have a tradition from my you don't sit in a recliner while you learn Torah you don't lean back every they wouldn't cross their legs while they're you don't you don't cross your legs crossing your legs is what you do when you're relaxing when you're smoing when you're letting go you don't sit you a certain way you dress a certain way I think would make sure he wearing his jacket for you dress a certain way there's an attitude a seriousness that we bring to the learning of Torah because every time we learn Torah you know where we're transporting ourselves we're back at our SI hasem is still talking to us he is proclaiming his great voice says it never ended we continue to pick up the signal of Hashem speaking to us as has been said by many when we DAV we're talking to Hashem and when we learn Torah we're listening to Hashem talk to us anyone who thinks we're not in a conversation with Hashem there is a daily conversation while we DAV we're telling him what we think what we have to say and when we learn his Torah we're listening to what he has to say he's speaking to us so if you have an audience with Hashem if he's speaking to you what are you GNA sit in a t-shirt and shorts you're gonna cross your legs you're gonna be doing 17 other things at the same time rest so when do we feel you open a you open a you open AER oh I'm back at our Revelation you open I'm learning about I'm getting close to hem I feel I'm in his presence I have to dress look speak I have to have a certain posture with hem but what happens you open the G thear says where's hashem's name even it's not even mentioned on the page two people come in they're both holding on to the Garment and each one says it belongs to me they're both fighting over those Lululemon pants they're $400 they're fighting over the Lululemon pants fighting over the Lululemon bag it's $40 and and each one says it's my these are my pants this is my bag this is my sweater this is my sweater each one says K it all belongs to me and that's you open the gar and you start learning that so who does it belong to who has the right who has to bring the evidence who has to bring the proof someone lent money borrowed money the car had another car the shore the ox had another Shore so does hashem's name even appear there's no hasem on the page so says the it's quoting from the a person asked to before they sit and learn I'm about to learn Tor criminal civil law I'm about to learn dry boring minutia detail I'm about to learn topics that feel entirely removed from spirituality from hasem it's my job to connect them I have to bring Hashem onto every page of gor so you should read two people are holding on to the little lemon pants this one says it all belongs to me this one says it all belongs to me we should read into the mishna doesn't say hm's name but we have to read it in what does Hashem say what's hashem's Vision Vision how does Hashem Define ownership how does Hashem Define define evidence and proof we have to add Hashem to the page add Hashem to the conversation and that's what it means there an article in a in a journal of Jewish Education I think that's where it originally is that tells a story that how could it be that kids sit in the classroom in the sheer with the Reb and they're learning gamar and they learn schala so they're learning all about the laws and then they go play on the playground someone steals the ball from the other kid someone's dishonest about the were they out of bounds did they foul did they travel what's happening how could there be this disconnect how could it be a disconnect between what we're learning it can't remain academic it can't just be scholarship it can't just be interesting and fascinating and remain in the classroom what the V means according to the according to with the m means the experience of has to be brought down into the has to be brought down someone lost an object when do you announce it when do you not announce it is it a Simon is it theirs do you have to return it can you keep it is Finders Keepers losers weepers what do we believe what does Hashem say what does hasem want you to do what does hasem want you to do you have to walk out of every experience every Kusa and tragically sadly I would suggest that this is missing in too many of our educational experiences where we have conversations of spirituality and then there's the learning gar which is dry and and distanced and removed from hem we have to bring hem into that conversation every sh every re gives every K that everyone has and say how does Hashem want me to see this thing differently what does Hashem want me to do we cook had a tradition learned from mosha Weger and he does he has notebooks filled that every time you learn you turn what you learn into a Hashem the a sometimes I'm an ax I bump into people I run over people I damage them let me take responsibility and ownership for how I damage has let me see myself Aus what are the things that I found what what have I held on to and what did I Let Go to turn every learning experience into a and that's how you can connect the connect by Evol by bringing AEM into the conversation into the conversation if we want to ensure that our children don't graduate 12 years of Jewish Education and not know if there's Hashem what he wants from them is he in a relationship with them is he coming with them wherever they're going next in their journey of life then he's got to be in the curriculum he has to be in the conversation he has be jumping off the page he has to be on the playground and he has to be when there's something missing from the locker and he has to be when someone finds a lost object that it's part of that is all connecting back to it's all part of that religious experience gim so we begin with the EV I the EV I is the Jewish slave who works Jewish slave who stole damaged can't pay back sells himself into slavery in order to earn the money to be able to pay back however many years to earn the money he needs in order to compensate that's how long he has to work and what happens Torah tells us if he works for six years the seventh year he goes free he arrives by himself he Lees by himself if he's married comes in as a unit his wife goes out with him says the which is not yet out but they've started sending out newsletter I guess before it's being printed so I'm able to share beautiful says that what do you mean his wife goes out with him did she ever come in who was hired just so you understand EV can still complicated do we don't we believe in slavery how do we understand slavery don't moral people reject slavery there there are answers explanations and approach not for now Evan canani is complicated evid is relatively straightforward the evid is a person who stole can't afford and is hired in a rehabilitative setting where he lives with the master and learns from him and grows from it till he can compensate payback comes out of rehab and goes back to life and is treated incredibly well in fact is treated even greater than the ad than the master the master has one pillow he gives it to his slave instead of sleeping with it himself it's a Rehabilitation experience and environment but only the person who's told even if he's married is the one who works in order to earn in order to pay off and compensate what he stole so why does the Torah use the language his wife goes out with him she never came in she was never sold into slavery she was never hired she never was subjugated she never had to work it's another example by the way we've read the par a million times we read the word v she goes out did he ever stop to ask when did she come in that she has to go out what's going on Bel you know what the answer is while her husband is in that rehab working for that Master how is she eating who's paying her rent where's her health insurance coming from that same Master as an extension of him and he's being provided for by that Master it means she too is being supported by this same employer even if she's not obligated and even if she's not working even if she wasn't sold into that slavery so she too is going out from something and what is she going out from feeling indebted to that Master because for that period of life where her husband was in this riab she was provided for and therefore indebted to this master and when a person can leave that sense of being indebted the they're going out from something they're going out from something says for example what would happen What Happens the master wakes her up at 300 am and says her to his slave's wife and need her drive me to the airport my ride canceled I got to make this flight be here in 10 minutes I need you to drive me to the airport does she have an ability to say hang up the phone no she's indebted she's taking care of the family while her husband's in reab she's not technically obligated she's not enslaved but she would have to go a regular person would get that call if they're maybe they do it but they feel no debt no obligation but a person who is reliant on another is indebted to them and you see from here it says that's why righteous rash were always very careful from whom they took a contribution because when someone is providing supporting contributing taking care you are by definition and automatically indebted and you need a if you want to not be indebted you need the Torah to get you out of there and they were therefore careful not to take a contribution a gift people generally want to give the they went to but a person has to be careful to whom we are indebted because that debt will remain even if we aren't technically obligated and that's what you learn from this wordo the wife goes out from that sense of feeling indebted Turn the Page 418 what happens you know what I like this rehab I like this environment I like this setting says you know I like this master I'm learning a lot I'm being taught a lot I'm growing a lot I got the pillow got the good pillow I got the mattress cover it's unbelievable I'm not going anywhere so what happens his master brings him to the court and brings him to the door the doorpost and put a hole in his ear and he shall serve him forever serves him forever says why the ear pierce his nose pierce his eyebrow pierce his lip pierce his belly button human beings have found countless places to get piercings why the ear because that ear that stood at her SII and heard don't Rob don't steal and stole so now gets pierced and how did it how does he have the money to compensate he sells himself into slavery sell yourself into slavery weren't you listening at our hasem said you're only my slaves don't sell yourself to anyone else because it was why only here there's several questions everybody asks on this rash on this you've heard it before we've discussed it before we'll come at it from a different angle first of all why now when did the person steal and sell thems into slavery at the very beginning so why at the end of six years when he says I want to stay why now do you pierce his ear should have pierced his ear when he first stolen at to sell himself into slavery for both reasons he didn't listen and he stole and he sold himself into slavery instead of being being exclusively a slave to Hashem so why do you wait six years why is it only when he wants to stay that's one famous question the other famous question is and why not when you speak lashara let's go pierce your tongue let's go pierce your ear if you're M shabas let's pierce your ear if you lend with ribus let's pierce your ear we're picking on shot this today if you wear wool and linen let's pierce your ear why is it only this AA you were supposed to go free you chose to stay you stole when you shouldn't have stole so we pierce your ear there are many AAS in the Torah so why don't we say every a you're over every mistake you make every sin you do you should get pierced so why not immediately are two questions fact that he stole his KN grounds not reason to pierce the ear he heard and you know what happened when he heard God said don't steal you know what he said to himself of course not I would never steal I would never steal I'm a moral honest person I would never ever steal but what happened but what happened what happened someone left their Lululemon pants picking a Lululemon today also someone left over a pencil and you needed a pencil and you didn't really have permission but use the pen people bend the truth all the time and steal in ways right the lawyer rounded up the hour billing their client not entirely accurate had lunch with a friend they said how's business he said good it became a business expense that's also stealing that's also stealing the flower person the person who did the flowers at the wedding said don't forget to bring cash he said why said because it'll be less a price because they don't have to pay tax and you said perfect a briefcase of brown paper bag of cash that's also stealing that's also Lov but the person who indulges that impulse who gives in in that moment why they give in because they were overwhelmed by that momentary lapse of judgment and Sanity and honesty and integrity and truth and they indulge that urge for that moment because they could save epis consider that lunch a business expense they saved whatever they saved and the same is true with every it's true we at our and we heard it loud and clear and when we heard it we were committed fully to observe it but then what happens but it looks really good it tastes really good but the juicy lashar it's such an incredible social commodity I want to share it we're overcome and overwhelmed by that impulse by that Instinct by the we have in that moment but now this Slave at six years later Al and now we say to him remember you heard I don't steal and you promised yourself you would never steal you're not one of those people that can never happened and then it happened you filled out the taxes you weren't completely honest and you know what we understood because you're human Hashem created you created all of us with an animal impulse an animal Instinct created all of us with this battle this tension of the Yara it was okay and you've been in this rehab and now you've learned and now you remember and now you've grown how you can regulate yourself control yourself be more disciplined and Sovereign over we're goingon to have a good dinner tonight be Sovereign over yourself you've learned you've learned so tell me you want to go nah I want to stay you want to stay when you say no I love this master better than the other Master who's the other Master you only have one master how can you say you love this master you love money you love power you love Fame you love friends you love influence there's only one master and that's Hashem and it's okay to have momentary lapses of judgment with that but when we institutionalize it when we can leave and we choose to stay when we adopt that Master that that's that's not forgivable that's when you get the ear pierced that which you went and stole when you did that it wasn't a momentary lapse of judgment you didn't indulge in impulse you didn't have a you didn't hear it didn't penetrate you didn't really believe it didn't transform it's not part of your core identity of what you believe why do we wait the six years because to is human every is going to make mistakes it's built into the system hasem created us he gets it he understands it and he created systems chuva among the things that were created Bas Twilight before the creation of the world tell us listed is chuva hasem says I got it you're gonna make mistakes here's the way out no problem it's okay created a whole system of forgiveness but when you don't take advantage of the system to forgive to repair to improve and you institutionalize the mistake when you make the mistake part of your identity that's now unforgivable now you've transformed your identity you're not in evid to me you're in evid you love your adone you love this environment you don't really believe loov you've really you've really stayed with it you've really stayed with it and that's the problem in order to be able to fight we have to know where we're princes and we're princesses we're royalty the children of Hashem and we have the resilience and the resolve and the tenacity and the self-control we have the ability to be our best selves we have that ability we have to believe it the moment we stop believing it you know there's a difference between the person who says I don't believe in lanara lashar is wrong I'm against lashara I'm learning about lashara I'm working on lashara I bet you spoke lashara yeah I'm human I'm working on it I made a mistake I'm trying to improve versus the person who wholesale rejects lanara there's no such thing as when I was a kid there was a person in sh said to me said Ephraim I don't repeat Lara so listen carefully the first time if you just if you just believe it for me lashara doesn't apply I just reject lashara I just reject SAS or Kisha or M of chabas or or honesty in business or whatever area I just reject the entire entity not I believe in it not I'm working on it not I'm trying to grow in it but I'm human but I reject it that's the mistake of the aivy so the Evy doesn't need the ear pierced doesn't need that Mark that symbol doesn't need to experience that piercing when they first make the mistake because we all make mistakes it's when the mistake becomes our lifestyle when the mistake becomes our identity when the mistake becomes institutionalized into who we are that's when it becomes that's when it becomes a problem test Turn the page again we are flying page 420 we have murder and manslaughter Now Incredible list of laws murder and manslaughter fight that uh that comes up between people what happens is a fight between two people somebody's somebody strikes another person and you have to pay the five D recently learned you have to pay the five things what are the five things Andes you have to pay five things that you the person that you damaged so you punched somebody you hit somebody whether it was on purpose or by accident then you owe them five things and one of the five things you owe is ver what is ver to heal you have to pay their medical bills you have to pay they were off work you have to pay their workers comp you have to pay their medical bills you have to pay for the shame and embarrassment they experience you have to pay for the the pain that they endured you have to pay for the damage in their value and worth you have to pay for five things learned from here from here we learn that a doctor is entitled to heal why would I have thought a doctor can't heal why would I have thought a doctor can't heal we're not going to get into this at length we've discussed it previously in the past the disagree some say rash one opinion is maybe you think the doctor can heal why what does the doctor do need to do in order to be able to heal I have a daughter who graduated nursing school I have another daughter who is in high school who wants to be a surgeon and I have a friend in the community who's a surgeon this past Sunday she's in a high school program she was able to scrub in and observe the surgery I don't know how many people want to be able to do that I don't know how many teenagers would be so excited to text their parents I touched a gallbladder ma not inside the person she wasn't allowed to once it was removed wherever it was she could check that off her bucket list not on my bucket list not on my bucket list so she stood in and observed the surgery and what did she watch what's the first thing the surgeon does once the person hopefully is asleep you take a knife and you cut them open are you entitled to cut somebody open can you walk up to someone at the par sh how are you that's called stabbing that's called so the doctor is violating Kavala the doctor is stabbing the patient in order to heal them who who says you're allowed to stab someone in order to heal them who says you could crack and break open their ribs in order to be able to access their heart to do the surgery who says who says that's why the Torah had to give a license to a doctor to violate it's not if it's Laos if it's the purpose of healing raan others say no you know what the problem is I might have thought you know what else the doctor is violating not just a physical prohibition ofala you can't injure or harm somebody else once gave about boxing is a very illustrious history of Jews and boxing prominent Jewish Jewish boxers is that M are Jews a lot of box so if you're a good boxer it's a problem because you're if you're a bad boxer it's also a problem because the that if you allow someone to punch you in the face it's also a problem so we gave oh unboxing happened to be pop sugar was here that shabas he gave the rebuttal in in real time but it's a fascinating topic there Believe It or Not There are chuvas back in the early 20th century when Jews were Boxers there were response are written about Kavala and boxing another area comes up is cosmetic surgery who says you're allowed to go under the knife because you don't like your nose your cheekbones your jawline you don't like your I don't even know what else people have done if I do I'm not going to say it now here who says you're allowed to go under the knife first of all you're putting yourself in a risky dangerous situation going under anesthesia every procedure including elective can go wrong but it's also you're gonna make yourself bleed you're gonna give the doctor the right who says you're allowed we've given a share on that too it's a big question and it is allowed based on a that mental health has the mental pain the pain of mental anguish is as real as physical pain and of a person cha to a young lady who felt that she was not successful in because of a certain uh part of her appearance that she wanted to improve pasin that it's Noto if the mental anguish which is as legitimate as physical pain just like to relieve physical pain you could be so to to relieve mental pain how you define what's mental pain somebody else in your family's mental pain so you're going to go under the how do you define pain when isal permissible when is it not all beyond the scope of our par however the doctor's given license the is another reason you know why maybe the doctor will say maybe the super from people in the community will attack the doctor and Sh and say how dare you heal that person why what did they do wrong normally we Elevate we honor the doctor we admire them for healing what does the doctor do wrong when they heal Hashem decided the person should be sick who are you to go against what Hashem wants Hashem decided the best thing for that person is to experience that illness who are you to combat and compete with hem and reverse what Hashem decided so Torah has to say no Hashem wants the doctor to heal why does Hashem make him sick if he wants to heal for another time but Hashem wants the doctor to heal so the doctor is not a violation ofal if in the context of healing the doctor is stabbing it's not called stabbing it's called surgery it's called healing it's called healing and it's not against hem it's complicated tell us the best of doctors are going to geham we also shared a sheer on that you can find all this online six or seven interpretations why is the best doctor going to geham why it's also for another time but I want to share with you the Reb of Lublin a lot of doctors here the Reb ofin listen to this never saw this before never heard this before this is beautiful a doctor with no bedside manner a doctor who says you have no hope you're unlikely to recover nothing anyone could do for you your chances are slim that he was not given permission that doesn't have license for now to be clear the doctor should not mislead we're not suggesting that the Torah says doctors have to lie mislead and hold out hope when there is little a doctor could be honest according to the Natural Way of things we've exhausted all of the therapies a doctor can be honest and transparent and should be ethically morally according to the Torah as well but whether the doctor is positive or negative the doctor has to bring hope and am and into what they do a doctor has given a license but on the doctor's license he's only given license Laos to interact with the patient in a way that will bring healing not bring sadness not bring sadness we um there's a great doctor scholar was a of my Dr Jerome grman he's written many New York Times bestselling books he's a Harvard Professor I used to be illustrious to say that now I realize you can't say that from the AR KES he's a professor somewhere where no one should ever send their children or send any money he's a professor he's a doctor in their hospital and he's written many New Times bestselling books about how doctors think and he's a wonderful Gem of of a person as well he tells a story in one of his books about one of his patients who he went and he describes how he was honest to her how they exhausted all the therapies they've tried everything and there was nothing more to try he said I have no more medicine that I can give and she corrected him and she said you have one more medicine you're giving it to me now which is your love and your support and your companionship which is the type of doctor he is and uh and she described that that too is medicine that that too is healing and that's exactly this ra this rein the doctor is giving a license only Laos the bedside manner has to be such that even if you've run out of Therapies in medicine but your presence your love your support your honesty your encouragement your companionship is La rapos you're only trying to heal because we know the opposite is true the research shows that when the person becomes H hopeless when the patient becomes hopeless and helpless they begin to spiral downward faster that the attitude and mentality of the patient the bedside manner the environment of the doctor of the hospital of the system the advocacy of having somebody there with you it all has an impact so beautiful I never saw this before but only you're going to be some miserable doctor you're gonna have no bedside manner you're not going to give the patient the time that they deserve you're going to bring your negativity to their bedside you're not entitled you don't have license for that your license doesn't allow you to do that your attitude your energy of a doctor the energy of the doctor has to be only Laos only to heal and nothing else nothing short of that we are up against the clock page 430 moved over sensitivity to the helpless and the abandoned every Widow and orphan you should not grieve and Rashi tells that's true for everybody you're not we're not entitled to be mean and callous unkind to everyone except all the Widow and orphan they're the exception they have to be nice to them everybody else you could be mean and a jerk to the Torah is telling us in the present tense you know why you have to be nice to everybody but you have to be particularly nice to those who are vulnerable and those who are fragile Rashi uses the language those who are running on fumes those who have so little energy those who are so emotionally spiritually mentally physically exhausted and says that from here you see how kind and sensitive you have to be supportive of those who are there's the normal everyday things of life I have this ache I have this pain just growing older I have this frustration I have this disappointment those are the ordinary regular parts of life but then you have the people who are the AL what's an Al the writes Alman is Al Mana missing a portion al man is Al missing a portion so it doesn't just mean the Widow who's missing everyone else comes to a shabas meal with their spouse everyone up shows up at the sh program the sh dinner with a spouse everybody else has knows who they're going to sit with what the vacation's going to be who they're going to go home and speak to lanara that they're not supposed to share with about everything that happened that night the Alman is Alman they're missing something they're missing something which rebba was it an incredible rebba who went to his and went to the wedding and 3 in the morning says to the Gabi we have to go to his house gab thinks what in the world why takes him to his house the rabbi goes in for a few minutes comes out brings him the Gaba can't help it which rebba was it Vision Reb couldn't help it he says Reb it's 3 in the morning we had to go to his you went to the you went to the wedding already you have to go to his house now and the Reb said to him listen to this lesson the Reb said to him he said this lost his wife said do you know everyone goes home when they make a Sim and they go talk to their spouse what do you think of the band what do you think of the caterer who did you see do you see who showed up can you believe you saw the place guards who said they're coming we paid for them and they never showed up wasn't the dancing amazing the photographer how I look in the Gown had this work out had this Lookout he came home from this wedding and he has no one to talk to he has no one to share this with so I went in order to have that conversation what' you think what' you see wasn't this amazing when they sang that song the place lit up it was on fire you see the sensitivity for an Al the AL someone who's missing a portion who's missing a portion that connection and that's what the Torah is cautioning us and walk and and telling us that a person has to bring that attitude that sensitivity so when you're kind and nice to somebody who generally is well and is just going through the everyday life that's nice when you find the vulnerable The Fragile the people who are they're running on fumes they're barely holding on single moms single dads divorc widows widowers orphans people struggling to put food on their table or how about this every single person in Israel right now who doesn't have the serenity the Peace of Mind who don't have their family intact and at home maybe someone's off fighting on the front line a spouse a child a sibling who just work is different life is different school is different Safety and Security are different there nobody who's not touched and I think part of our responsibility of diaspora jury is to treat our brothers and sisters and AR Israel not with pity and sympathy with honor and affection but is the Alman they're missing something and again not necess the place of time but I'll tell you the people I saw Post online their Yeshiva week their vacations where they went how amazing it was just with callousness to who's watching and who sees and what they're going through we just have to do everything we do everything we do to be callous and unkind and cruel to be to be toned deaf to to how we appear what we say What We complain about how we're speaking when we check in do we love it's a it's a word of caution to all of us right now and how we're seeing that entire country of our brothers and sisters over there and what they're going through we should be very careful careful with okay one time for one more let's go to the end of the par skipping nasma How could a Jew skip nasma every single week I prepare and I think I'm going to run out of things to say it's going to be humiliating and embarrassing the hour won't be up I'll make up some excuse why it had to be less than an hour today every week I promise you every week that's what goes through my mind and then every week we go through half of the list of the things that I wanted to share okay I'm a work in progress ask my parents I'm a work in progress I'm trying I'm trying let's go to the end of the we're skipping I had a I had I had such good stuff but you'll have to come back next year we'll be in learning it together chapter 24 here the Torah is telling us the story of right we went through all these detailed Mina laws and now the para ends with again the story of and is a chronological is it in order out of order all a big complicated discussion but here we have Moshe going up on the mountain the people saying nasma putting Nas before nishma the prophecy at the mountain and then we have the Torah telling us that what happens MOS the 70 elders of the Jewish people ascended they saw Hashem under his feet was the likeness of a Safir brick work and it was like the essence of the heaven and Purity and the Great Men of the children of of Israel hasem did not straight stretch out his hand these great men who are these Great Men saw these great men they took in they perceived they saw they experienced Elohim God and what did they do let's eat they ate and they drank let's FR let's ask let's eat let's eat par concludes with this wondrous event involving hashm entering into this Covenant and following this bris this ceremony moshe's command to take and they have an amazing Vision wow felt the presence of the Divine tapped into their and what do they do they eat and they drink that's how you feel should be the opposite one of my daughters knows I love to tell this story when she was in high school was and is and will always be amazing but you know when your kids in high school there's not there you're unsure but one year after we have ail here if you've never experienced our AR we were walking home from SCH after and she said to me she said ABA that was so unbelievable I feel like I don't even need to eat I could fast another day I just wanted it to keep going I wanted to keep singing I keep wanting to go was unbelievable that's the moment she said she knows I say I knew everything was going to be just fine it always was it always is it always will be but the me so so the feeling that you should have you make contact with the Divine you should say food who needs food I never need to eat again I have spiritual OIC I never need to eat again what I need it for instead what do they do they see oh I'm hungry all of a sudden I got an appetite it's the opposite of the way it should be says the the text teaches they uncovered their heads they became presumptuous and they fed their eyes on Theus disagrees he tees the that it's only metaphorical look at he says they Envision and they ate and drank means just like food nourishes the body they drank in the image of hem doesn't mean they ate and drank it means drink it in take in that Nila eat up that niila eat up this moment we even use that in the vernacular eat up this moment drink in this image not that they ate and they drank literally says it's a metaphor means that allegorically unlike the medish which is critical that was a mistake they should have held on to that spiritual eye don't go and unlike thean understands the p face value and he sees a religious value to what happened here they ate and Dr strength says the ran because they experienced kabalas and when you experience kabalas you have to capture it you have to manifest it you have to express it you have to experience it by rejoicing the a student of the bem says and this is the approach you'll understand that sometimes a person has to bribe the body so it won't disturb the spirit sometimes you have to bribe and distract the Goof so that the Nish can fly for the to thrive so they ate and drank to satisfy and satiate the body so that they wouldn't get you know what we call it today they wouldn't get hangry you know what hangry is you know those people maybe you're one of those people you ever somebody's really agitated and they're on edge and they're difficult and you realize are you are you hungry do you need to eat something hry so says the the bem in that moment they want wanted to hold on to that spiritual high so they bribed the body eat something drink something don't get hry because we want to stay where we are but there's one more insight I'll end with I'll share with you today and it comes both from from alter they both say the same idea mosha Aon and the elders had a moment of tremendous Revelation and they ate and drank not metaphorically allegorically not an error and not as a concession to an appeti or to a getting angry you know why they ate and drank in that moment for a very deep reason a very profound reason a very lofty reason a very high Reason notes that the word they saw or gazed atem appears elsewhere in warns your prophets Envision for you vanity and foolishness they Envision for you Oracles of vanity and deception the same word is used they envisioned why that same word here and there they envisioned a very different Vision sometimes a person feels inspired and spiritually awakened and aroused and uplifted something significant has happened and how can you tell if it's a moment it's real it's authentic it's genuine how can you tell if what experienced was really a this was a really holy High moment or maybe it was shortlived maybe it was fleeting Maybe maybe it was a feel-good moment but it wasn't going to last maybe it was the answer is you know how you know was it genuine and authentic or was it counterfeit and fleeting you know how you know when it's over are you changed are you different if you go back to being the person that you were they experien the presence of Hashem and ate and drank to see if the eating and drinking would be different would it be a different eating and drinking would they feel hasem in the BR in the food in the exper experience it's easy to be on a high after after a Tish after after but does it carry over into the mid into the kavana daving into learning into being a better person if it doesn't come with a change then it wasn't real and it wasn't lasting and it wasn't something which is true and I close with this because I think this is also something that should be on our minds right now we're still in a this there's something big there's something real that's happening in the world and many of us you see in N all the spiritual awakening the spiritual arousal I posted a video when I was in Israel last week I was in a mall and there was a worker at a restaurant and he was covered in tattoos and piercings like an Evy many times over no yamaka and sits is out flying my wife's the first one noticed I little went over basically what's I love your tius I don't care that you're not wearing a yamuk I love that you're wearing TI what's the story then I put it on video I said this is so great have to tell the world he said he's always wanted to wear tias TI is a Mitzvah speaks to him but he felt ridiculous he doesn't wear kipa so what is a guy who doesn't wear Kea is gonna wear tias he said is a TI is a Mitzvah K didn't speak to him he didn't feel he wanted to wasn't on the level too so he didn't wear the tias because he didn't wear kipa October 7th he lost several friends in the Nova festival and he decided to himself I no longer care what other people people think I want to do the Mitzvah I want to connect to hasem I want to wear these strings this reminder I'm putting on cus and he hasn't missed a day since October 7th so he's wearing the titas because he doesn't care and then he turns in the camera and he says don't care what other people think also when it comes to mitzvas don't worry how you look what they'll think but you do this but you don't do that you have a Mitzvah you're inspired to do it jump on it and do it something transformed you impacted you a tragedy you went through a loss you experienced jump on it and do it the biggest thing is he gave me a hug and the people were were with and he said that he got funny looks from people the manager of his restaurant told him tuck in your tius you look ridiculous and he was so appreciative that a fellow Jew with the yamak tius came over and just said I love you your brother I love that you're wearing tius and he said well that's what we need more of theas Isel without judgment see what people are wearing don't see what's missing see what they have don't see what you don't have in common see what you have in common that's how we're going to get to G but he is not the exception there's a spiritual awakening happening all over Israel there's no secular Israeli right now and for us too there should be an Awakening A Spiritual arousal should be a transformation a change the question of whether this period of time that hopefully ends today should come should end today with a sweeping Victory everyone should be home hopefully it ends today we look will look back at it to know whether this was real and genuine and authentic or counterfeit and fleeting will it leave a permanent change will we change will we sit to eat and drink in a different way than we did before or are we the same us are eating and our drinking our bras and our benching our mid and our are we the same we should be changed we should be able to experience the G please stay forward to hel