Parshas Biha’alosecha What's with Merori? A Thought and a Perspective, Rabbi Yossi Paltiel 5782

foreign [Music] I would say most candidly that tonight's class that's based on a minor that I learned this past Shabbos more than anything else I'll tell you what my topic is straight up my topic is what did marotti do wrong to be considered second class who was worried about huh you learn pasius it says their heads do not get lifted just INF it's not fair right what a better job so he's giving them extra I guess it causes entitled to extracus but why is miryadi not entitled to the Cs Rush it's an issue of Numero Uno but in this week's past you have another thing one of the most under observed stories in the entire homage I spoke about this last weekend last year at length because it's something that always intrigued me and I I don't remember what I said but I could see from my notes I worked very hard on the class there's a whole ceremony that initiates just like there's a whole ceremony which initiates beneath all right the ceremony was initial has been added is twice in the homish the instructions are in pastures and the execution of it is impossible the whole series of what's called to make them into Korean name a holes the whole series in our past you have a section it starts almost the fifth person in the parish all of yesterday for the French verbs okay plus I guess all of today's hitas is about Levy the Hashem and to appoint them as the the assistance to the kaihanim so what this is what does it say that there were three things that needed to be done with them right the motion should have been selected them what does it actually say does anybody remember stood up all the ladies about six and a half thousand men I didn't lifted up every single coin I remember as a child I remember when everybody in the fifth grade I remember my teacher describing I don't have to lift up six thousand cutting them I mean you know maybe they jumped with him but you know what I mean slipped up six thousand guy in him after the other in a day and the idea didn't have to lean their hands under Levine they were listening than the Levine I don't know if every single Jew needed to lean on every single lady but I don't have to lift up each lady see here again it actually does the same thing that by Cohasset says this goes on cause he lifts him a four Hashem from the Jewish people because they're going to serve the avoided what is again hashem's name that Adam lifts him up to Hashem lift them up but that is not entitled to be the impassious nothing last week's parish is head lifted and in our Parish when Aaron lifts up costs it's serving Hashem when Adam lifts up gershem it's preserving Hashem and when Adam lifts up and ready it's for lifting him up it's not fair INF it's not Theory it's second not fair what what did marotti do you know there's no record that we're not having done anything wrong Hashem chose that's it Hashem Charles Gods now gospel is a pretty cool guy you know why because was a pretty cool guy because it may shut up and it was his grandson I don't like it was his grandson these were this was mamish the intimate family of May the cost was closest that's right because also from the family of course and he felt like he wasn't being given the same treatment as the others that he was entitled yeah Shem chose to be superior to be Supreme and gershem is superior and supreme Supreme gam as secondary to cause how does this work now of course the beginning of the answer to this question is something that I say often that I believe is very very important to be said it's very very important to be said and the truth of the matter is you can make the case that this is the story of conscious [Music] we live in America this is a this is just a short parenthetical thought I've said this many times before my pasture classes we live in America America Believes In fairness at least that's what they say it has to be fair if it's not fair it's not good so if there's a disadvantaged person you have to make it fair by however you even the score you make it fair let's be fair now what is the correct word what is the correct English word what is the correct word from a more philosophical angle for things being equal for things being fair the correct word is parody parody means everything is the same like everything is on par the word on parse the word parody everything is the same nobody has an advantage over somebody else [Music] now the simple fact is the statement is parody's a lie it's not true there's no parody there's no Paradise in this world if you want to speak about it politically right who believed in parody the Communist living parody who believed in this parody equal us the capitalists right the people who want to be rich there's rich and there's poor now what is the fact of life that in a civilization where people lived in parody the rich were poorer than in a civilization but they did not impact with the poorer richer it's ironic but I grew up during the Cold War they used to show the difference between a supermarket in the west a Supermarket East a street sign an apartment everything was depressing dreary drab heavy small and in the west everything is so free and so especially in America so the fact is that it it feels good to say it and what should be the same it's just not really it's not it's not the way the world it's just not true I've told this to you before that I heard from somebody once that the devil wrote in a letter he was asked whether in theory communism socialism is a good political system you have to remember the problem we have with Communism is not their financial beliefs the problem with Communism is for whatever reason and for there's really no good reason why the Communists decided to kill God along with killing the the Bourgeois along with killing the uh the elite the royal class they decided to kill God there was absolutely no need to do that if the Communists had just left God out of the equation let go and be religious let you know how to be religious and just gone after the financial systems you know we wouldn't we would have been poor but okay we've been poor before um but somebody once asked that episode I heard I didn't see the letter about what he believed about socialism and communism that have been said it's fundamentally wrong because for any civilization to survive there needs to be competition there needs to be competition what's the root of competition a very ugly word what's the root of competition jealousy you have I want right but it says when you go on slices who lives a town over has a bigger building and more people and you're jealous and that jealousy translates into you working harder it's an ugly me though is you know it's it's part of the age you know it's very close to Cass very close to anger but it motivates so that this is what I heard that they never wrote without the competition a lot of competition societies fail things were never meant to be equal I mentioned this through the class I gave the other night that at the moment of the big bang There was an equal amount of matter and antimatter and if that had remained the constant the universe would have been destroyed before it was created in order for it to be a world that cannot be balanced they had to be a preponderance of matter and a very very small amount of antimatter I don't I think physicists do not understand how this process unfolded but if all of the antimatter which was radiated from The Big Bang would have been remained they would have canceled each other but no Universe finished balance is unsustainable it's it's it's very very what I'm saying is very politically incorrect because the social belief is everything has to be equal you make it failure to make it equal and it's some I mean I don't really follow politics and some people say I should um but but it's it's getting worse over time this whole idea that we have to figure out a way of making making it fair and equal and of course when you make things Fair what you do is you dumb everything down right if this dumbest person gets 100 on a test everybody's good but that's not how civilizations work there needs to be kids who get hundreds and kids will get 66s I want to know a doctors who said to me you know there's a doctor that you're going to visit we've got a 66 on his exams he passed by the Earth chitty chin chin and he's taking care of you um the competition is very important it's necessary I did everything in in life and they have everything in Toyota this is played out for example a human being is not made up of 248 heads you have one head and two eyes and two nostrils and two ears and a mouth and a tongue and a heart and two lungs and a liver and kidneys and spleen and the rest you have different parts right on your toe why should you told me your toe let your toe be the head and the head be the toe what's the answer it's not fair the ambition did not make a fair World they just made a functional world what makes it fear is of the famous expression nobody is going to hold it against you for not being Abram mavino but that certainly can hold it against you for not being social no one's going to hold against yasi patil for not being some other because it but what I am able to do I must do and if I don't do it's going to be held against me that's where the fairness is the fairness is not in sameness the fairness is each person's judge himself but there is not balance and this plays itself out in the story of God scream why should only Adam be king God why would have been going little too anybody who wants whatever in Dublin means should have been who tells them no K and God only one kind of and the same is true here first of all the idea that Hashem separates client name is already not fair second of all after he separates Cody separates the VM and the VM take the place who had worshiped the golden calf and they lost their rights as the priests the VM take their prices right they're not fair and then when he splits up the living the families one family is Costner the greatest of the great the second half Israel so we like them also and then this Marathi who cares about it we had the hardest job they had to carry the lumber that to carry the heaviest part of the basement but they're not not saying and they're not they're just and that's how it is in other words on some level the question is an answer is the same now if you're a member of Marathi and you feel cheated you know the tenances Hashem gave you a different different job Hashem gave you different courses the best you need to be is the best you you don't be somebody else and that's good enough and when a person wants to be what somebody else is destined to be then they end up not being that other person end up not being themselves it's a disaster but it still hurts right it still hurts right in America it hurts one of the best examples is I I had a man I knew a man many many years ago who was in a wheelchair and his whole sheeta in life was I'm not an invalid I'm I couldn't walk I'm not a I'm just I'm normal different and he had his whole philosophy he would meet him you got his philosophy if you ever asked him a question he got the philosophy again um he had a whole shita there's nothing wrong with me I'm just like anybody else but I'm normal different way until it's not that way why not a person is about boom can't serve in the basement an adult it's not fair it's not it isn't fair but the the you saw that of it is the foundation of the thing is that the English they did not make things for Hashem made everything have a different purpose having said that okay now I just gave you sort of a basic introduction let's talk about this let's talk about tahas let's talk about get a shame and let's talk about Marathi and let's flush out why is it that gesham does not have his head lifted why is it that when shaving I'm sorry his head lifted in patches not say last week and in this week's passion when Adam is lifting up the living One By One The Hashem s Hashem he just lifts them up and maybe we can flush out actually a Miler another what we'll do is we'll have this conversation and we'll see if we can spin it so that Marathi will end up having a mile that God do not have and the way I'm presenting this to you is I'm going to be showing you what the sinner says what does hasida say about what does in a moment that I learned this Shabbos in the oil the rabbit said that say and gershem is that the relationship between Hashem and the Jewish people has three levels one level of the relationship between Hashem the Jewish people is called the embrace what happens when you hold a person Embrace a person when you put your hands around a person and you hold them and he puts his hands around you and he holds you so one of the observations is made that the hands go behind the back you're facing each other and when you embrace you put your hands behind his back meaning that the Embrace does not only involve the part of the person which is the face of the person but about also the god the back the lower level the Shem the back of the person as well so there's a relationship between one person another person which is called a hug an embrace that is a deeper relationship with a person which is called a kiss and I'll be tell you when you kiss a person it's a it's a it's a deep thing here's a person on the lips you'll get my peck on the tree here's a person on the lips it's a very deep connection and if you don't want to do it then you shouldn't okay but when you kiss the person's lips it's a meaningful it's a deeper thing says the deepest of all it's called which means the joining of nishamas joining of spirits hugging is a physical act kissing is a physical act is spirit in the spirit is sort of the idea that you feel what's going on another person's heart when you feel so connected to another person that you know what they're thinking you know what they're feeling just call this doctor adjoining of spirits so I'll never write in Tanya and it's brought of course from earlier I'm assuming that in our relationship with the abused it as a hog where Hashem hugs us we takes us around completely and we take him around completely then there is a kiss and then there is a joining of spirits when you hug another person you're very close to that person when you hug another person you're close not just to the things that are more important to that person you're close to the things and that person that are not so important which is represented by the fact that when you're hugging them you're also hugging their back but you're two separate people you're just connected you're just physically close with your two separate people and the nimshall for a hug is mitzvahs when we do a middle Hashem we do a Mitzvah Hashem is hugging us the connection those friends for the English tellers were separate from him he's him we're us and we're close and I guess you could say when you hug a person you you sense that closeness or whatever once spoken to see her that when you put on the film you make them tight you're the pinch so you feel like you're physically tying the midst onto your body you feel this it it physically affects you but you remain separate from the Mitzvah it's like an embrace what's a kiss a kiss is learning Taylor because the kisses are very it's a much deeper connection obviously and when a person learns title what they're doing and learning title is they're putting into their brain God's wisdom one of the best ways to become close to another person is to be interested in what interests him if you have a good friend then your good friend has a hobby you want to know what that hobby is and you want to understand it so you take your time you take your energy to listen to what they're doing to read what they're doing to see what they're doing to understand what they're doing and then you're joining your mind with their mind you're actually giving your brain to that person to allow his ideas to enter into your brain you should understand what he understands and how he understands it and why he understands it the proximity the closeness between a person and a person when I give you my brain to fill your ideas with my brain into my brain or vice versa you give my your brain to fill it with my ideas it's it's a kiss it's a much deeper Bond than two people who are hugging your child so a kiss is compared to miss it is and the kisses compared to title the third relationship because the joining of spirits where you are nashama sort of feels the dashama the other person which is a very very spiritual how can you feel another person it's a very spiritual thing I'm just going to tell you a story I tell the story so many times I'm about to make a terrible terrible confession I believe the story is true I hope the story is true but I've told it so many times it's a modern nikomizer but I've seen contradictions to the story the story was that had three daughters she's very very famous her second daughter was divided she was even more famous she was a samacharik's mother she passed away at the age of 26. she gave up her life that should live she made a business saw that he was going to pass away because he was praying too much to see this so she called in a business and she made them pass because she should die instead of her father and she did and she left over a little boy and the the promise to raise it like his own son even though he was a grandson her name was Davido there her husband's name was his daughter had passed away four years earlier five years earlier so there's a story why did the altarebus selected for his daughter was not a normal woman she was she was a good dealer had she been imaginable she was third daughter her name was apparently she was what we would call a normal person but the older two daughters were were Saints they were Godly women you want to say something right he remarried he had more children have brothers and sisters but anyway so this is the story that goes around that without the devil was accosted by his name after about three levels but one Friday night was sitting by his says the most the most Eerie thing this is on a ship traveling from Turkey from Istanbul to on the Mediterranean Sea he was on Shabbos Friday night and the ship capsized and he was drowning and the mental doctor is telling to see them sitting at the table what's happening in real time happening right this minute chip just capsized and he's drowning and abnayak was told was called to the best and he was given two choices one choice is that he should suffer now that he should die slowly and then he should go straight to grenadin the other choice is that he should not subject immediately and then I'll be judged and go to your hand said I need to ask my Rebel the medal of duck is telling the story as it's happening it doesn't exactly work this way you know when you when you're in this side of the fence you do what we want says I never did anything without asking my debit I want to ask my debit now so the best Jamal said if that's a fact if you never did anything with us we'll let you ask him now and they determined that he had never done anything so they gave him permission to ask the mental of ethical should I suffer should I drown slowly and suffer and then die in again or should I die immediately and then be judgment and a man was sitting by his table in in the invitives in Europe and he's repeating this to never see them and he says and I told him he should suffer he should not die immediately he should drown slowly and if he spread it is right so the mental abduction tells the sedim what just happened across this you know this is a story that it can keep you up for many many Friday nights you know it's a very eerie story and they're see them sitting at the table suddenly hear his voice and he cries out I remember they heard it they knew his voice he was a Hassan I they heard his voice so the outer level was sitting there now today I want his children for my children it's a connection the story and it's in a safer so a video of the understory all the sit and heard him say I remember so what was it it was a big time I'm sure he was but that wasn't why he was a big ideation I'm sure he was that wasn't why the outer never wanted him for a son-in-law because he saw his catchers the bond between one cell another that's the type to stop because now in terms of Yiddish Guy this is what's called previous it means regardless often it is there's a whole philosophy how to explain it but you don't have time to do so there's a hug and there's a kiss and there's adjoining of spirits okay cause represents the kiss and in a much higher level represents the Journey of spirits geshin represents the hug in other words Garrison represent yiddishkite gosh represents the depths of Yiddish kite and Garrison represents What's called the actionability the Practical side of the sky in this moment that I learned Shabbos the rebel makes an interesting argument that ever says we're now in Gauss said we can keep it says I propose that they should be in a c as obligation said we shouldn't lift up kahasa's head because kahasa's business may be a higher business but it's a much less practical business and that's what the rep explains why the gazal says you should only lift up Garrison because gation represents Judaism on an actionable level that we could relate but we're calling in this little conversation here the idea of a hug cost represents a kiss represents adjoining of spirits is a very high levels which are not for every person so the Mind May suggests maybe we should only lift up an egg yeah we say no we lift a banana respect for the Taylor so where's mirari if gation is the hog and God says the kiss and the joining the spirit who is Marathi so that my modern successful and there brings it is in the word is bitterness morati represents later the Broken Heart murari is not Judaism the Jew it's a person it's the brokenheartedness there's of course 101 different models and one of them is my mother bring the example if you want to be a Jew you have to forget you know all of your material concerns just to focus on Hashem or to use an expression which you know from the mishnayas before a person has to be a bitterness when you davenance an angel Judaism but before you dive into the bitterness but only represents us what I represents before I actually connect Hashem there's a business of Brokenness the bitterness doesn't get lifted up you know why not because you just deserve to be lifted up because his engine is not to be lifted up his engine has to be broken not so yesterday she raised up the head of course you raise up the head of Gershen the whole Indian of Marathi is he doesn't raise his head the whole Indian of Marathi is the Brokenness the foundation the late the brokenheartedness they tell the story of the feet it's really it's worth to have this whole she adjust me to remember to tell you this mice I I believe I know the person with whom the mindset happened but I don't remember her name exactly she was a gurari from home but I forgot who her married name was she was a rabbit says she was was very measured and this woman would come in and sit and then I would talk to her and she came in often I don't know a couple times a year maybe they gave her a lot of attention so I don't know how it came out but the feeling could ever said to his secretary on one occasion when he tried to interrupt the Deb is sitting with this woman that ever told him these words but it's been alive she's a broken-hearted woman I'm a broken-hearted person both of our souls come from the same place in God made I have kinship with her why am I spending my I relate to her she relates I'm leaving cause of life nism I'm not going to tell you all the details now because they don't have time to do something for him I'll tell you what it was to become Chief Rabbi a Paris there was a proposal to make a more from Community the the Orthodox Community Practice is very modern and there was a proposal to make a much more traditional community and they offered that Paris to the river and the freedom writes begging them begging them it's a printed letter to take the job and he says please think it over carefully and decide between yourselves and if you'll decide in the affirmative you'll bring a little knockers to my broken heart it's written so painfully so you read it and ask yourself how could they have not done it feel like you bring a little joy to my broke Minds didn't have a good day in his life I'm assuming that the rabbit didn't take it because the idea fell through there not that it ever turned it down the whole Endeavor the whole effort that making a kharidi community in Paris just didn't happen but imagine feeding rights please think about it and I when you'll choose in the affirmative that you'll take the position you'll give me a little knockers I'm a Broken Man the brokenheartedness the broken heartedness is not the Yiddish kite it's Aid now of course we live in America and because we live in America we talk a lot about self-esteem but you know why we talk a lot about self and Steve in America because we have a problem with self-esteem there is a a sense of I gave a in the morning to the boys we talked about it we have the biggest necess in the history of mankind Our Generation you I but much more you you're younger than I am face tests that no generation of Jews ever faced how does the abiston expect us to deal with these tests how we supposed to possibly survive these initiators how so I saw the mimer and I needed I learned to put the boys in the morning we defeated says that the generations of the nishamas before mashiach have very very very low goofy very low bodies very very coarse bodies and therefore they have very very sensitive Souls right they are very high in the sharpness I believe believe me you don't even have to justify disagreeing because it's only a shuttle it's not a I believe that the source of our low self-esteem is this sensitivity the nishamas of our generation are unbelievably sensitive and because of that sensitivity everything hurts us and that hurt expressed itself in feeling inadequate in a Brokenness and that Brokenness counterbalances like Brokenness gives us an ability to offset the tests that the Abisha gave us if we had powerfulness we'd be we'd all be Elizabeth sinners in the world this is what Mary represents does not get lifted up that's not his English is the brokenheartedness which is the foundation before you practice before you practice learning before you practice doing Mitzvahs which are gifts that the abrish they gave us there's you and then every year there was a there is a sense of brokenheartedness which makes us a cailly type of relationship with the Amish um the famous story with which everybody knows a man came to the Baptist the very very first year that everybody shopping to see us he had a very big problem maybe he had no children or somebody was very ill he went into the lab at a shop and then told him in one way or another that he couldn't help him couldn't help the guy would not eat this and he was so upset he started to cry became hysterical the devil's brother that I saw was there there was older brother and he sees this he's so upset so he goes over to his brother he says why is this Jew so upset so he says because he came in and he asked me for something and I wasn't able to help him so he's very broken and he told him the man is completely shattered send them back in send them back and see Cole came back into the rabbit and whatever he wanted he gave him whatever he gave me God so then what's this I don't understand you so the rabbit said in order for him to get that baraki to be a Kaylee we ought to have that killed you need to be amazing he had to appreciate what he's asking of the Amish they needed to be you know you want something from God and you ask him for it you have to there's a Brokenness that comes as a pain there's a heaviness there's a sadness there's a a feeling of I I I'm helpless I need hashem's help that's the Kaylee for the brother that's mirari the sub-tribe of Levy which is called marori is not lifted up the image's name is not mentioned because they're not learning tell it off they're not hugging the Amish they're not kissing David they're not Jordan they represent the very Foundation that at the base and the Heart of a Jew there's a Brokenness and there's a Yiddish expression there's a Yiddish expression it's very difficult to translate into English but that there are three irony there are three things which are counter-intuitive isolated we are criminated you translate this in English you kill it but it basically it means there is nothing more straight than a ladder that's crooked and there's nothing more crooked than when you say something which sounds cute that's cynical and there's nothing more whole than a broken heart that's an old expression this I can dance it says right everybody knows the first half of the Apostle Nobody Knows the second episode what's next Hashem says I have nothing to do with the world I'm no place under the world and when somebody is broken and somebody's crushed that's where I am the Amish that's what miroti is there is subsection of their heads are not lifted when the Arena's name because they don't represent the relationship with the amistan they represent what the Jew is That's the basis for the relationship so what I want to propose what I want to spin in other words what's my shield for tonight when you read about it also you have it again now and you can have it makes the whole Revolution and over there shows what happens when you become too holy and too smart and too sophisticated you can end up under the ground keep shooting yeah it's not fair but already does not entirely have his head lifted picks him up he's not a picture of the image he stumbles like picking him up so the pastors yeah he wasn't involved in holy things the reason marotti is not identified as doing holy work the reason mirror is not identified as being raised up and having a deeper a better hug a deeper kiss a more meaningful connection of spirits is because he represents to use the cliche the father away from God I am the closer I am the Brokenness that's the theme that's the Indian of what I want to say is that in hasidus it says always from one point of view you say God will be Suave service right the person does the musical he was told to do it gets more High than a person does it on his own it's Human Nature if you choose to put on film you do it God tells you to do it you're not interested and that's why it's harder and that's why being a Jew is that he says but there's another side to that coin the other side of that coin is those things in Judaism are considered the highest call myself you're going to work you're playing a game you're going to Six Flags and you do it in the way of the ale you do it in the way of the shame you're just doing just having fun what you're entitled to do but there is a sense that our Jew is different than an Andrew and the way you entertain yourself reflects that there's an argument to be made that everybody says in here's my mother that that's higher than the relationship with the abuse they're based on the Commandments of the hog which is the Mitzvahs and the kiss which is the Toyota Etc that's what Marathi is mirari is the idea that the relationship between and Hashem are not only because of the Toyota admitters that the abuse they gave us it's because of who we are and that part of the relationship is it's a brokenheartedness and brokenheartedness is broken it's not fun but that's where our MS is our aim is in a broken heart of this is if a Jew says you're just pain and he expresses that pain with a sigh it's considered the highest level doesn't say why he cracks us he may have corrected he didn't win the lottery he may have classed because his ball team lost the game I connectedness Julia when a Jew demonstrates pain and inadequacy there is something incredibly genuine about it and the abrishes says that's where I am you wonder what the apest it is and the Brokenhearted that's Marathi so what I want to underscore is I started the class by saying stuck in that fair Marathi is not treated with the same reverence as cause and girl Shane and I I said it very cleanly parody is is a fantasy it's just not real it's a socialist idea it's a fantasy it's wishing a parody is a terrible thing there needs to be competition I'm going to say people need to be tough people need to be jealous of them need to compete with each other let's say let's be nice civilizations can't live that way but it's also true that the one on the lowest madrega the underprivileged right the mother says be careful of the children of poor people that's where the tailor of the next generation will come not from the sons of the Russian foreign say it says what is the most sincere uh feeling that people get in relationship with Hashem oh that's a if you're talking in general to my Human Relationships that's a very hard question to answer the most sincere wow maybe compassion to feel bad I I would say that you feel compassion more sincerely than you would feel even love now of course no feeling is more sincere than hatred that that you really mean it yeah or anger yeah but in terms I would argue probably the most sincere human emotion certainly for a Jew is compassion but in our relationship with Hashem it's submission it's not understanding it's not feeling it's accepting foreign