Parshas Korach with Rabbi Simcha Bunim Berger

Evening parallel in that bay that discusses Gammorra says let's use the Pik number one. Those were three groups as soon explain plus another 250 people that were there. says in the second column that these four bal that's a second those are four different groups Meaning their motivation which they what they wanted and why they showed up and what happened to them different were fighting because with their with their aus They couldn't care less about the kahuna. something we've spoken about in the past in safer tollim calls his or his people adas aim talks about the kahal the people the adas the ado of aim doesn't aim couldn't care less about the kohuna they didn't like moherenu they were negenu From the first day was who said that Mosa's first day out when he killed a mitz to save >> they were miser and because of that would have been killed if not for the making a miracle and mish not to run away When is being told by the to go back the people who want your says they have no influence calls they weren't dead but they were like they had no influence. Who was their beef with? Who were they upset at? Who are they out to get? Aaron couldn't care less. That's what they were all about. So they're called one cat. They're one group. >> The 250 people which says they wanted to have kahuna. They were looking for kahuna. the opposite of it's a it's a where each person or the group has their own as we just saw in the zerosim was against and was against the kohuna. He was encompassing both of them against and also against the appointment of as the He was jealous of both. There's a hand out over here. He was jealous both of my love says a fascinating thing. He was not interested in the kohuna per se. He didn't want anybody over his head. He just didn't want to have a boss. How do I know that? Like it's from the that his wife said that was the one boss. >> That's what he listened to. >> What's he referring to? It's a Gimar that I have open over here. Gumar. The garra says palis. His name is like an there was something amazing that happened to him. Ben Ruven Ben Shro Haven. He saw and he understood ravishto or his wife saved him. How so? What's your problem? If he says over here if wins then if wanted the kahuna should have said to his wife what do you want from it I want to be a kayen why says the maral is the Gimmorra teaching us the message of Aes and as the Gmorra says he agrees to her but I already swore I was going to come which means says from the Gimra that the Tina that's wife had on him teaches us what O's reason was he didn't want to be subservant a second fiddle to anyone he didn't he saw This a as the maral says over here this is a separate cat it's a separate group there are those who wanted the kohuna those are 250 there are those who didn't want and didn't want him and wanted to takeenu down that was kra was both he was at the he also didn't want and he also didn't want and he wanted the kohun he He wanted it all for himself. Just didn't want to have a boss over his head. And therefore, when his wife said, "But if Kyak wins, you're going to have a boss. Main is going to have a boss." So, sorry, you have to have somebody you're not you cannot be independent. So, he said, "I don't know what to do." Continues the She said, "I know that they're all holy." She said, "I will save you." I will save you. She gave him to drink wine or beer. She got him shiker. She put him to sleep. She put him into bed. Then she stood. She sat on the gate, the doorway of their house and took off her head cover. Rashi says when they came to get her, imagine they had they were verbs because they wanted to kill. Whoever went to get saw her like that, they walked away. including them. They would saw a woman with with uncovered. They walked away. They went ahead and they and they were and they were swallowed up by the ground and he was saved. On the other hand, the wife of look what he did is truma. When there's truma, give it to the ken gets first. Mer you get. She went and t it to him visu can be the leader and you not. She started talking about aloh. Maral says something fascinating. Take a look at the moral a little bit higher on the page. Same column. If you want to know who says according to the underlying difference between and it was all in the wives it was the women the wife of versus the wife of writesim The builds a house and the mistakes of her hand will destroy it. It's underlined for you Rabbi say the tremendous amount of kadusha that had from Ben Ley Kai embodied tremendous kadush like we said in the sh as I'll say he was from the He shouldn't have been involved. his wife who is who represented physicality and loneliness. Head became void of his through his wife. A woman if she's not careful cannot just pull herself down but rab that's what happened with that's what happened with Marish she sinned she brought mis upon herself she defiled herself with the and then she defiled her husband as had the same story says the Gmorra says when you have a conversation with your wife and she wants to talk to you about millias what the house should look like how we should furnish it It's her domain. She's the boss. She's that takes a person away. She was saying that the says not like that. Now change the gear in the morals I saw that don't know how to be the o the next g the word is do you know what happened there? How she told her husbandra? No. You know what she did? She did because that's not her place. She was able to save her husband with the thing that the women have the advantage over when it comes like the Gmorra says how to fear a household. husbands, their wives, you know, want to they want to let's let's let's um get a couch. Let's get a table and this. He has an opinion. It's not your opinion. It's her opinion. What she says, you say yes, honey. That's what you do. She likes it 100%. It's her domain. If you look at a guy's apartment, see what it looks like or when his wife goes away for a few days, how the house looks like a right cuz you know, you know how a guy thinks why should I wash the plate away? I'm going to take it out going to make it dirty tomorrow. It's right. Why should I fold the clothes? I'm anyway going to take it out. It's a self self-defeating thing. A woman takes such pride in the fact and rightfully so that the whole house, look how neat it is. Look, everything is put away and etc. That's her honor and her glory. Millie debasa, she's the queen. She organizes everything. Also is how Asus saved her husband. She didn't come with a she didn't come over with. She just said something very simple. Anyway, he's going to be the boss, not you. Let me help you. How did she do it? She gave him to drink. She put him to bed. That says that was herma. I don't have to go ahead and start. Go argue with them. Go tell them that they're wrong. Tell them. That was that was her approach. That's what the Gamorra says in the balance between the couple when it's and you want to ask go ask your don't ask the rabbitson when you're talking about that's her domain says the heer she has the the of helping of assisting she's the person like it says in the over there that was the of she didn't give him an that was the pelle she was acting the way a woman was meant to act she was acting as a proper balance of her husband and that's how she saved him in milaya heresis in mil complemented the mil that's how he was saved that's one of the lessons says of this of the of this piece while as inb and he's the boss and this and that with the talis and and as soon as they started getting involved in in that was the downfall of that's what the moral says >> wasn't her place >> exactly and she pushed him to a place which didn't belong he was Allah are saying good she was that's exactly right it wasn't her place that's not where the balance is you don't listen to what she has to Besser in this story as who has saved her husband and the wants you to know that he's up there with Ben and as well why his was saved his house was saved because of his wife because she understood the balance between ish is she understood where her where her husband husband has to listen to a wife 100%. Beware in her in her he has to listen not in his in his where it doesn't belong. Now you have a Kyra. That's where Kaira comes from. When you put yourself in a place where you don't belong as Kyra was the downfall says Kazal of Ky as Benella got her husband out of the downfall took her took him away from because she knew her place and used it well and he listened and she was right. That's the story of these two women. is and the difference between palace of all the lessons and there's so many in the parish when there's between a husband and a wife where there's a proper balance where each person knows that they have a separate role to play that complements each other and each one is humble in their role giving giving each other the other one the and the to lead in their each one the bal and the isha have a kayak of leadership in certain ways the husband has to listen to his wife in certain things she has to listen to him each one has a they don't go ahead and they don't compete with their they understand that the what one has I don't have and have to be what the other one has. I don't have so there's no competition when they understand that each one complements each other the right way. That says the moral is one of the messages of this week's para as kai brought her husband down brought herself and her family straight to gehenn like we said in the zerosimir she opened up the doorway to gehennam together with him she opened up her bias became gehenn her house went to gehenn she and everything that they had because she herself She pushed herself in a place where she doesn't belong and he followed her and he was as smart as he was he was influenced by his wife and their whole their whole house went to gehennis goes it goes down in history of listening to his wife where she's supposed to be listened to and that and that saved her and him and their whole family. So that each one of us in our own should be able to know when you have to listen and when you're not supposed to listen. When you're in your and when you're not in your is Shalom.